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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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Speaker 2: to talk.

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Speaker 1: What would have we talked Back? Where we encourage you

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Speaker 1: to hustle hard, laugh, ladder, and always keep it cute.

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Speaker 1: So grab your coffee, cocktail and crown because it's about

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Speaker 1: to go down. What's up, y'all, it's your girl a

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Speaker 1: j holiday. What's up?

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Speaker 2: Tam bam, yew hey girl, Hey y'all. I missed y'all.

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Speaker 2: I'm missed you.

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Speaker 1: Yelling bitch, I missed you too.

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Speaker 2: Well, Damn, you're brobing me. My ex boyfriend when I

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Speaker 2: was happy, he used to be like, stop being so happy.

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Speaker 2: How was your weekend? Girl?

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Speaker 1: We recovering from the fucking uh fig snowstorm we had

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Speaker 1: last week. I ain't do shit. I literally was in

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Speaker 1: the house from Tuesday morning.

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Speaker 2: Now I leave.

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Speaker 1: I didn't leave the house at some point on Tuesday,

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Speaker 1: but I was in the house. No, I did not.

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Speaker 1: I was in the house from Monday to Sunday. Damn

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Speaker 1: the whole week, hermit the whole week. So it did

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Speaker 1: snow real bad on Tuesday, but I was sitting in

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Speaker 1: the fucking house waiting on FedEx bitch ass. Shout at

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Speaker 1: the FedEx bitch ass for several days, waiting on breaks

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Speaker 1: from my car in my new laptop.

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Speaker 2: Damn. So when she says the snowstorm we probably had

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Speaker 2: like an inch, No, it.

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Speaker 1: Was heavy though, BJ actually flipped to his car. He

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Speaker 1: yeh yes girl. Tuesday night, on the way on, I

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Speaker 1: called him. I was like, we need a paper towel

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Speaker 1: because we about to be in the house for a

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Speaker 1: couple of days or whatever. We weren't on on paper towels.

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Speaker 1: So some kept telling me, like, call that nigga because

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Speaker 1: he taken too long, So I called him. He answered

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Speaker 1: the phone maybe about ten fifteen minutes later. He called

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Speaker 1: me back and he's running like out of breath. Somebody

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Speaker 1: just ran me off the road. I'm running to the

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Speaker 1: Chick fil a. I'm like, what, you know what like

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Speaker 1: an emergency happens, like you cannot get yourself together quick

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Speaker 1: enough because I'm in the house. I don't took a shower,

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Speaker 1: I'll got a clothes on. It's ten o'clock. Why I

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Speaker 1: care about this?

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Speaker 2: Where am I? I've talked to you several times and

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Speaker 2: nowhere have you seen I'm gonna tell you why, because

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Speaker 2: a near death experience.

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Speaker 1: Because this nigga act like nothing happened, Like I didn't

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Speaker 1: understand the severity of it until I saw the car

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Speaker 1: because of how he was acting after the facts. Now

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Speaker 1: that in the moment of right you while' on the phone,

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Speaker 1: I'm like grabbing my pistol. I'm like, did somebody did

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Speaker 1: somebody run him off the road?

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Speaker 2: Right like?

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Speaker 1: So now I'm got the car loaded up, but I

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Speaker 1: gotta get outside. It's real snow because the car is

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Speaker 1: covered with ice snow. So luckily I done lived in

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Speaker 1: the areas like this, so in my trunk because I

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Speaker 1: ain't really a girl, I got like the scraper, a

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Speaker 1: little brush thing like for snow. So I gotta let

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Speaker 1: the car warm up. All is just my life is

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Speaker 1: in slow motion, bitch, trying to get that. And then

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Speaker 1: now I got to drive through roads that really has snow.

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Speaker 1: There's no car so like the snow is thick on

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Speaker 1: the highway, sliding like so now I'm it takes me

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Speaker 1: twenty minutes to get five miles on the highway. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so he found he wouldn't answer the phone on the phone,

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Speaker 1: going to voicemail bitch. I'm like, y're you panikin What

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Speaker 1: the fuck is happening?

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 1: So he finally calls you back and he's calm. He's like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm with the police. I'm at the home depot now though,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, I'm having a drive real slow.

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Speaker 1: So now he's calm, more calm, So I get there.

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Speaker 1: He outside with the police, get the little ticket right up. Whatever.

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Speaker 1: So somebody pulled in front of him and he had

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Speaker 1: to slap like, why are you even abruptly pulling in

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Speaker 1: front of people on icy highway?

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Speaker 2: Icy? In there to face These motherfuckers don't know nothing

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Speaker 2: about snow and ice. They don't know how to drive.

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Speaker 1: Ever, it's nothing to play with. Okay, black ice, for

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Speaker 1: sure ain't nothing to play with because the inner state

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Speaker 1: seems like it doesn't get as much snow on it,

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Speaker 1: but there's always black ice.

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Speaker 2: Right because they riding over it and the water freezes

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Speaker 2: on the ground and it just looks dark.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So the person like came in front of him

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Speaker 1: and then he had to slam on brakes, which then

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Speaker 1: caused him to like the car flipped two times down

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Speaker 1: into the embankment on the on the side of the highway,

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Speaker 1: tree came through the fucking windshield. All at this nigga,

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Speaker 1: don't have a scratch on him?

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Speaker 2: God covering him flip two times? I'm girl, why he

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Speaker 2: was exaggerating this?

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Speaker 1: He in here acting like it didn't happen. Like I'm

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Speaker 1: hearing him on the phone telling people, act like you

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Speaker 1: almost died, my nigga, did you get your back?

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Speaker 2: Don't hurt? Why? That's why?

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Speaker 1: Then we have sex after that accident.

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Speaker 2: Ain't nothing gonna get that man some here and nothing will.

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Speaker 1: You?

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Speaker 2: Ain't flip over all, Valentine, do.

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Speaker 1: You want to have sex that night? I think we

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Speaker 1: had sex that night. I'm sorry, baby, I'm trying to

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Speaker 1: do bad. I just don't listen. I got more shit

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Speaker 1: on my mind. That's why this episode of the day

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Speaker 1: is gonna be great anyway. But but yeah, when he

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Speaker 1: finally got to the car a couple of days later, the.

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Speaker 2: Fucking ruth in, yes, Lord, have mercy, and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: get my ladder.

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Speaker 1: I had a ladder in the back of Like, did

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Speaker 1: you get my ladder out that damn truck?

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Speaker 2: He should have been like, did you suck my dick? Okay,

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Speaker 2: your ladder?

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Speaker 1: Get my fucking ladders is not cheating. Get my ladder,

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Speaker 1: okay anywhere?

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Speaker 2: Yo?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that do got into a car accident.

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Speaker 2: Well I'm glad he's okay, me too, cover him, amen, we're.

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Speaker 1: Like, man, that Jones was in there. Man, I'm good though,

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Speaker 1: Like what are you well? Your back don't hurt nothing right?

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Speaker 1: Stuff like that be like low wake up morning calls.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know if he'd be taking heed for real.

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm just glad he okay, because that could have

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Speaker 2: been much worse, you know.

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Speaker 1: Hell yeah, Like in my mind, like somebody ran him

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Speaker 1: off the highway, bitch, and now I got to go

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Speaker 1: get in the shootout looking for a car somewhere.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, in my mind, but you ready locked and loaded

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Speaker 2: in mind like oh.

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Speaker 1: I'm not trying to kill him, and like he's running

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Speaker 1: down the interstate to get off the highway to get

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Speaker 1: to Chick fil at home depot. Like that ship is

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Speaker 1: wild to me?

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Speaker 2: All right, listen, Yo, that was eventful. My story. I

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Speaker 2: went to that concert and went to the Baby concept.

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Speaker 2: Baby had the first birthday bash in Atlanta, I hear,

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Speaker 2: I mean in Charlotte.

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Speaker 1: Oh the baby okay, yeah, not little By Nice And it.

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Speaker 2: Was a lot of artists, big Extra Plug two see

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Speaker 2: fifty cents, Sexy Red, all the people and other names

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Speaker 2: amongst other names that I'm too old to know who

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Speaker 2: they are, and I don't know. It wasn't for me.

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Speaker 2: You didn't enjoy it, Hm, it was okay. I think

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Speaker 2: the thing for me was because it's a lot of

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Speaker 2: great artists. But it's just like the intermissions between artists

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Speaker 2: was just too long, so it was a lot of

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Speaker 2: empty space. I'll say that, a lot of empty space.

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Speaker 1: Niggas probably was late, yeah, niggass late yeah.

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Speaker 2: Probably back in that back smoking and drinking. It's like,

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Speaker 2: oh shit, I'm supposed to be one Like, I don't

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Speaker 2: know what was going on, but I mean it was

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Speaker 2: the first one. Maybe the second one will be better.

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Speaker 2: I did that and then I went to a little mixer.

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Speaker 2: I popped out with red hair. Niggas feeling the red hair.

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Speaker 1: I puk Your hair was fabulous, bitch, okay, thank you,

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Speaker 1: thank you.

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Speaker 2: And I see somebody in the gym yesterday. They was like,

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Speaker 2: I thought your hair was red. I was like, bitch,

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Speaker 2: that is not gym hair. That is exactly I'm tied hair.

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Speaker 2: You need to know the difference this pony ponytail I

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Speaker 2: got on. This is my gym hair, and that's my

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Speaker 2: going out here cat wag.

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Speaker 1: I got on.

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Speaker 2: But baby, that ponytail almost fell off in the gym.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to find something else to do with

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Speaker 2: my hair. In that gym. I went to pull my

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Speaker 2: hoodie over to like go leave, and I felt that

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Speaker 2: motherfucker slide and I was like, oh my god, I

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Speaker 2: ain't even put my jacket all the way on. I

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Speaker 2: just walked out with it's sitting on top of my

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Speaker 2: head because I was scared my ponytail was gonna hit

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Speaker 2: the floor and embarrass me.

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Speaker 1: Shit, bitch, I went to spind yesterday for the first

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Speaker 1: time in a year. When I tell you, I was

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Speaker 1: sweating so bad my eyelashes came off in that.

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Speaker 2: Bitch, that's a good burn. I'm ready to go back.

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Speaker 2: But that's just shits so expensive. And the class pass,

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, do you pay? So you pay for a

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Speaker 2: monthly class pass? Did you? I did? I did the.

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Speaker 1: Trial right now, right, but I think I'm gonna go

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Speaker 1: ahead and pay for it because I don't know if

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Speaker 1: y'all know. But with class pass, you could go to gyms, yoga, studios,

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Speaker 1: hair salons, naro salons. It just like depending on how

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Speaker 1: many credits you got to use for each of the things, right,

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Speaker 1: but can get a lot done for sixty dollars a month.

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Speaker 1: That's like the smallest plan.

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Speaker 2: I think it goes on how many how many times

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Speaker 2: you know, like how many classes.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. So like if you want to

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Speaker 1: go to so I went to Old two Fitness, it

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Speaker 1: only allowed me to go one time because it's a trial.

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Speaker 1: But if you got the actual membership, like the class only,

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Speaker 1: I mean the if you want to go to the gym,

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Speaker 1: it's only one credit. So like if you gots how

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Speaker 1: meredits you go, you don't get that many credits a week.

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Speaker 1: It's twenty eight a month for the smallest plan.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh that's not bad. Yeah, well I'm gonna check

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Speaker 2: on that because yeah, an actual membership t SPIND is high.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so then you like last night I went to

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Speaker 1: the works SIND class. So the one I chose because

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Speaker 1: of the time of days, probably like a busy one.

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Speaker 1: It was six point six credits though, but they had

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Speaker 1: like two credits.

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Speaker 2: It's not one credit per yeah.

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Speaker 1: No, not the regular gym is like one credit, one

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Speaker 1: to two credits. But like the classes is like we.

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Speaker 2: See that spin class. When I like really got into it,

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Speaker 2: I was doing like four or five times a week,

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Speaker 2: I would run out of my past. Yeah yeah, but

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Speaker 2: let me tell you. I had a dream last night

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Speaker 2: and I remember it and I want to share it,

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Speaker 2: and you tell me what it means. And y'all DM

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Speaker 2: me what it means. If you know, I had a

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Speaker 2: dream that I could open my legs and pearls were

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Speaker 2: falling out, like real pearls.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you did say your cuci looked like Oyster,

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Speaker 2: No, b And first of all, all couchies look like

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Speaker 2: Like it was like almost like a like a ZiT

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Speaker 1: You busted in, a pearl came out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, pearls would come out.

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Speaker 1: I mean, that doesn't sound like a bad thing to me.

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Speaker 1: It is little oyster, no mermaid.

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Speaker 2: Like, and dozens of pearls was just shooting out of

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Speaker 1: What else like happened that? That was it.

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Speaker 2: That's the only part I remember. Was like it would

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Speaker 2: it was actual pearls. Bitch, it's pearls. They were. And

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Speaker 2: I remember me, I can't remember who this was with me,

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Speaker 2: but we were picking up the pearls. We were picking

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Speaker 2: and it was just coming out of my leg. Hm,

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Speaker 1: I don't know that. I mean, that doesn't sound like

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Speaker 2: It wasn't a bad dream. It just was weird, very

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Speaker 1: But yeah, so I look it up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna have to y'all google in and tell

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Speaker 2: what's that?

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Speaker 1: What's going on? This week? Last week, couple of days ago?

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Speaker 1: Ship we just ain't talk about yet. Uh we are

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Speaker 1: we going to start with this weirdo DJ academics. You know,

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Speaker 1: did y'all see the ship with DJ Academics. His response

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: So the first video, which surfaced on x formerly Twitter,

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Speaker 1: know all these streamers, the fifteen year old streamer. During

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Speaker 1: the little boy his name is nor GXD. He said,

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Speaker 1: Fortnite live stream and the thirty second video, Academics made

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Speaker 1: a series of sexually explicit comments. At one point, he asked, yo,

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Speaker 1: if Max said he wants to try fucking a dude,

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Speaker 1: will you let him fuck you? This is not just

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Speaker 1: a dude, this is a child dude. Awesome, right, and

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Speaker 1: even this conversation wouldn't even be appropriate to be having

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Speaker 2: About they're supposed to be playing video games, Like what

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Speaker 1: It'd be like this. People be showing up at children's houses.

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Speaker 1: You know. That's a one video where a grown man

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Speaker 2: And so he went off the childs He actually pulled

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Speaker 2: up today to the house to me hit the mama. Yes,

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Speaker 2: people are nuts, and that's why you just got to

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Speaker 2: they're talking to people like offering you know, gay sex

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Speaker 1: And his response to it, he was like, first he

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Speaker 1: I don't need nobody, and da da da. The child

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Speaker 1: putting out their commentary about it, calling you a fucking weirdo.

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Speaker 1: The kid in the moment called your ass a fucking

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what was like?

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Speaker 1: I just I won DJ Academics off the internet at

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Speaker 1: those people. He sits in his fucking house in the

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Speaker 2: Or anything good. That's what I was about to say.

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Speaker 2: I don't hear a lot of good things. When I

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Speaker 2: just like next.

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Speaker 1: Strippers over there, Like what y'all talking about?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's real gross.

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Speaker 1: So and wait till this little boy's parents, you know,

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Speaker 1: decide to want to sue academic because they can make

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Speaker 1: he might be because he's on the internet. Too. This

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Speaker 1: I feel like the parents to take take academics for

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Speaker 1: all the fuck he has.

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Speaker 2: Right, And I don't think he realizes how serious this is, Like,

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Speaker 2: that's serious what you were saying to that child?

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Speaker 1: He said he misspoke basically and miss not so much

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Speaker 2: He doesn't get it, child, And we're in like subconsciously,

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Speaker 2: where is that come from? For you? Is there? Do

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Speaker 2: you want to fuck kids? Like?

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Speaker 1: Well, he was already in the headlines about, you know,

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Speaker 2: So this is hard for you know what. I just

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Speaker 1: And they need to be ostracized. So I don't I

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Speaker 1: That's the video that kind of went viral. Who called

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Speaker 2: More.

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Speaker 1: Men need to step in when niggas is being weird,

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Speaker 1: Those like y'all just be letting men do nasty.

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Speaker 2: That's a wrong man. That was always the excuse I

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Speaker 2: you hang with him? Why are you talking to him?

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Speaker 2: That's grown as men? I can't.

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Speaker 1: And your friends are aspect of you, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying? Like you, you build relationships based on you first, right,

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: So is that an aspect of you? Is DJ Academics

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Speaker 2: Right? Yeap?

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Speaker 1: Where to ask niggas anyway?

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Speaker 2: So what about this shit I keep saying about my

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Speaker 1: I don't know where that shit came from, but it

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Speaker 2: There's truth to it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a divorce, right, and people amongst the circles

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Speaker 2: I don't believe it, not my baroque.

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Speaker 1: Did you watch the movie that Michelle Obama and Barack's

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Speaker 1: I did remember the little girl in a movie like

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Speaker 2: So what are you suggesting?

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Speaker 1: But why would she be why would Jenner? That is

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Speaker 1: like the wire?

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Speaker 2: Friend? Why not girlfriends? Why not the Wire? I would

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Speaker 1: I ain't never seen thating like it's the weirdest thing.

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Speaker 1: And it's like Obama has been around here by himself

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Speaker 2: Obama would break my heart.

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Speaker 1: I don't think there's ever been a presidential divorce before.

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Speaker 1: The president's be cheating and ship like that. But it

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Speaker 1: I will get what president that you.

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Speaker 2: Was, period as.

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Speaker 1: I can't hear her saying that ship now. But the

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Speaker 1: other narrative is that she just ain't no on no

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Speaker 1: fake ship. She on fucking Trump. So I'm not showing

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Speaker 2: Too though, right, maybe she's just over all the political

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Speaker 1: I tried to try to help Kamala. That shit ain't work.

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Speaker 1: I'm out of there.

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Speaker 2: I'm out of there like I'm going on vacation. I'm

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Speaker 1: So they said she just went on a lot of

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Speaker 2: So that's what she's been out nice wines and eaten

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Speaker 2: steaking shrip.

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00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:05,920
Speaker 1: They're probably fucking on the butler. Okay, she might got

439
00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:06,880
Speaker 1: a boyfriend over there.

440
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 2: No, she's faithful to Barack.

441
00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 1: Wink wink. I don't know, but I listen, these are humans, right,

442
00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 1: These are just people. I didn't think Jennevaniston was a

443
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:29,400
Speaker 1: sidebitch type person, but who hey. And then the other

444
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 1: part is the world is a stage. This is a

445
00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:34,840
Speaker 1: fucking Truman show, like it's a movie. These people are

446
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:38,200
Speaker 1: all playing characters paid.

447
00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 2: I don't know what people are doing behind closed doors,

448
00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:44,160
Speaker 2: but I just pray to God that that's not true,

449
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:48,199
Speaker 2: because they just are like uh my idea of the

450
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,880
Speaker 2: perfect marriage. I mean not there's no such thing as perfect, right,

451
00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:54,400
Speaker 2: but close to perfect as it gets.

452
00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:57,119
Speaker 1: I just think they have a good partnership, you know

453
00:22:57,119 --> 00:23:00,080
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Like they're both great orators, like they

454
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 1: gonna move you with words. I'm saying, exceptionally smart people.

455
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 1: And we know that men. I'm not gonna say men

456
00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:11,320
Speaker 1: are smart. Men are smart, right, but smart men have smart,

457
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:14,440
Speaker 1: smarter people around them also. And I think Michelle Obama

458
00:23:14,600 --> 00:23:18,640
Speaker 1: is exceptional, yeah, absolutely right, So because she can move

459
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:19,640
Speaker 1: a room just like him.

460
00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:21,880
Speaker 2: So that's why I don't want them to I don't

461
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:25,879
Speaker 2: want it to be any especially No, no, you know,

462
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 2: I don't have nothing against Jennifer Aniston, but if it was,

463
00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 2: if Baraque was moving around, I would not want it

464
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:37,359
Speaker 2: to be with a white lady. I didn't say that.

465
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:39,720
Speaker 1: I did because I'm always say the things people don't

466
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 1: want to say a fucking white lady. Okay, because let

467
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,639
Speaker 1: me tell y'all, I had this argument a lot with

468
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:48,000
Speaker 1: one of my friends. I'm like, if Michelle Obama was

469
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:52,080
Speaker 1: a white woman, Obama would not be the first black president.

470
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:56,080
Speaker 1: He'd probably be the first Melatto, the first biracial. His

471
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 1: wife is what constitute his wife and children know that

472
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:03,639
Speaker 1: black family that we see. If it was a white woman,

473
00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 1: it would be different. If it wouldn't biracial children, people

474
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:08,479
Speaker 1: wouldn't see him as the first black president. I just

475
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 1: don't think. So he'd be the first because his mother

476
00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:14,720
Speaker 1: is a Jewish woman, right, so she would be the

477
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:18,520
Speaker 1: first melatto old president, the first mixed president. So she

478
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 1: gate like Michelle Obama is what sold us on Barack. Yeah, okay,

479
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 1: so yes, it would be very disheartening, nigga because what.

480
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 2: How you cheat on hell?

481
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 1: But it's on cold for these niggas. Okay, So.

482
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:44,879
Speaker 2: On Instagram, there's a video circulating. Rapper Big Dank of

483
00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 2: Dev's House recently posted a video documenting her struggles in

484
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:52,199
Speaker 2: trying to obtain a lift. And this young lady was

485
00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:55,919
Speaker 2: very upset because the lift driver arrived and he saw

486
00:24:56,520 --> 00:25:00,159
Speaker 2: her stature in size and said that she could not

487
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 2: fit in his car basically, and that he was not

488
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 2: giving her the lift. And she recorded it and she

489
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:13,640
Speaker 2: was very upset about it. And I'm kind of on

490
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 2: the driver side because he don't oh, he don't have

491
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:21,400
Speaker 2: he has the right to refuse any service. And I mean,

492
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:23,879
Speaker 2: she do look pretty thick, but I feel like she

493
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:27,159
Speaker 2: probably could could have fit in his car, you know,

494
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 2: But I do think about rescue. She's like, who moved

495
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 2: my seat?

496
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 1: You know? But rec she's actually smaller than old girl.

497
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:39,200
Speaker 1: That girl, Yeah, she's a big She doesn't look that tall,

498
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,160
Speaker 1: so she looks like she's probably like five four five

499
00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 1: three or something like that. And she has a lot

500
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 1: of weight on her. They say four hundred pounds. I

501
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,120
Speaker 1: feel like she's probably like six hundred pounds.

502
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 2: If y'all no, not that but not that big. But

503
00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 2: she was a big, big girl her face. Car Now

504
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 2: he's down till you talking about y'all big bitches. Y'all

505
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 2: big bitches be having a pretty he is faith God damn.

506
00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 2: Like they be beautiful in the face.

507
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 1: I said, as a fouies be pissed because I know

508
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,679
Speaker 1: this nigga like big pretty bitches, and I obvious seeing a

509
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 1: big pretty bitch, like I know my nigga fucking her.

510
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 1: I hate that bitch. I don't even know this person,

511
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 1: he don't know her, but I'm just like hating on

512
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 1: this bitch in my mind, like.

513
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 2: Because I know my mother.

514
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,160
Speaker 1: Will you if yeah, when niggat they make up that bitch,

515
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:22,720
Speaker 1: it'd be.

516
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:25,640
Speaker 2: Like gorgeous eats every time.

517
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:28,199
Speaker 1: So she's a big pretty girl, young girl though she

518
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:30,680
Speaker 1: doesn't look like she's she can't be thirty.

519
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 2: But she cannot be. And then she you know, she

520
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:37,120
Speaker 2: was like I celebrate bbw's and I ride for bbw's

521
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:41,199
Speaker 2: and y'all who are talking about me aren't bbw's because

522
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:45,360
Speaker 2: we're beautiful and nice women, right, And I get that

523
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 2: and I respect that, but I think it's important to

524
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 2: encourage good health, you know, and like.

525
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 1: Because nobody wants to be that big.

526
00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 2: No, you want to live a long time. You want

527
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,439
Speaker 2: to be her a long time. You want to be

528
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 2: able to maneuver and do all the things. Yeah, and

529
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:08,399
Speaker 2: you can't be happy that size, baby girl, you know,

530
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 2: like doing things to better your health. I mean, that's

531
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 2: like someone telling you that they don't want you to

532
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:17,639
Speaker 2: ride in their car because of your size. Should be

533
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 2: like a wake up call, especially unless it's like something

534
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 2: with health that you cannot change your weight. But I don't.

535
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,440
Speaker 2: There might be diseases like that, but I don't personally

536
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 2: know what anything.

537
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:31,119
Speaker 1: Well, they developed because of the weight, you know what

538
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying, so they might be even harder and bigger.

539
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:35,359
Speaker 1: You get. The part that killed me is when she

540
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 1: was like, my friend got a car, got a Mercedes

541
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 1: just like this, a newer one, and I ride in

542
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 1: her car just fine, Like your friend loves you. So

543
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:44,120
Speaker 1: of course your friend is gonna tell you. Gonna tell you, girl,

544
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 1: you ain't riding in my car because you're big. But

545
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure she'd be driving like this, motherfucker bout

546
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:48,240
Speaker 1: the bus My.

547
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 2: Tire Well, I don't know if the tires of a bus.

548
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 1: From a girl, Yes, you cannot like how much like

549
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:56,439
Speaker 1: we gotta look at Okay, maybe I want to know

550
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: what type of car this was. I'm gonna do some

551
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 1: research what type of car it was? What is the

552
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,199
Speaker 1: load carried? Like the carry load, like what is the

553
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 1: spec on that? Because he might and if you have

554
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:09,080
Speaker 1: smaller low profile tires, like if you fuck on to

555
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:11,439
Speaker 1: hit a bump, that shit is going to mess up

556
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 1: as undercarriage for real.

557
00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:16,880
Speaker 2: But another thing is with her being she has youth

558
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 2: on her side. You can lose some of that weight. Girlfriend,

559
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:21,120
Speaker 2: you can don't miss.

560
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 1: The ozimpic wave. Okay, Yeah, like this oziempic is for

561
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 1: people like that.

562
00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 2: Right, and it is you know, the skinnier ones who

563
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 2: are just abusing it for vani but which is okay too.

564
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 2: But girl, you can get down and you can get

565
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 2: to a healthy weight and not just for pretty purpose

566
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 2: but or the male gaze, just for health, you know,

567
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 2: So that I always encourage that, even if you're happy fat,

568
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 2: because remember how money used to be. Like skinny bitches

569
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 2: are the devil and they evil. And now look at

570
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 2: her because she is trying to get skinny her whole life. Yeah,

571
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 2: you understand that health is well, you know, so that's

572
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:00,120
Speaker 2: my stakes on it.

573
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, girl do better, gotta do better.

574
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 2: Man.

575
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 1: She just maybe she needs a better support system around her.

576
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 1: But I do think like it don't take much. Listen

577
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 1: we arguing, bitch, you call me fat, like you win.

578
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 1: So if the the the uber or left drip would

579
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: have done that to me, bitch immediately tomorrow. I just like,

580
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: that's just how my psyche said.

581
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 2: You always said that, And I was like, if we

582
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 2: ever get in the real argument, I'm gonna call her fat.

583
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: But here's the I'm gonna call you fat too.

584
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 2: I'm gonna say it's like that was.

585
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 1: Because I would never call somebody fat. I would never

586
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 1: because I know how that makes me feel like. I

587
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,600
Speaker 1: would never That would never be the thing for me

588
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: to win the argument.

589
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:51,800
Speaker 2: But the crazy part is just because you know how

590
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 2: to make you feel like some of the things that

591
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 2: you might say might hurt worse than that. You know

592
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 2: what you try to I don't know, I can't think.

593
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 1: Of anyway, y'all. Well we'll talk about today.

594
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 2: Oh go ahead, mine, is you old like from a

595
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 2: young bitch, you old ass whole or something like that.

596
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, but we be lit and we be looking good

597
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 1: at these old ass ages like bitch, you wish.

598
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 2: I had a girl in my DMS, like talking calling

599
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 2: me an old bitch about her nigga and I didn't

600
00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 2: even know who her nigga? What what is your baby?

601
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 2: I got all of them because I get back of

602
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 2: them all, baby girl? Which what are you talking about? Sweetheart?

603
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 2: You know this?

604
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 1: Okay, this is another thing holding. This is off of

605
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: uh uh sentence. But y'all have been seeing these uh

606
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 1: these lists that's going that's going around, like what's the

607
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 1: onnky and uncle? I mean, what's a auntie? And what's Hawaiian?

608
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:49,600
Speaker 1: Like the age groups? Yeah, so this list I don't

609
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 1: agree with it. It says age requirements for each group

610
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 1: Low Sist eighteen to twenty two, Big Sis twenty three

611
00:30:55,840 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 1: to twenty seven, Auntie twenty eight to thirty nine, Cougar

612
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 1: forty to fifty who the fuck? And then old school

613
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 1: slash grams is fifty one plus. Like the problem is

614
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 1: that y'all bitches be having kids to damn early right.

615
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 2: Okay, here's a child made that list, a child who

616
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 2: has not lived because Auntie started thirty y'all twenty eight.

617
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 1: Now, yes, I was somebody's auntie at that age. But

618
00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 1: ain't you bitches auntie? I am not an auntie at

619
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 1: forty like.

620
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 2: Gail and Oprah was like, don't call me auntie. I'm

621
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:38,160
Speaker 2: not your fucking family member.

622
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: And it's some nuanced right, some nuance, Like God, look

623
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 1: at I feel like, if you have children in you

624
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 1: your twenties, you actually forty? What having children age you

625
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 1: rather bitches like it or not? Like I got a

626
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 1: couple of my friends got rheumatward arthritis and they had

627
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:57,719
Speaker 1: it since they was thirty, like they might be cooger age.

628
00:31:57,840 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 1: But I'm forty. I'm very youth, Okay, I'd be having

629
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 1: energy to do a lot of things except suck dick.

630
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 1: And I mean like, sorry, Bro, sorry Bro, I like

631
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 1: I gotta be going through menopause, Like how dare y'all?

632
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 2: I don't.

633
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 1: I don't agree with this. I don't agree with this,

634
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,840
Speaker 1: not one bit. And then also for the for the Wayians,

635
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 1: the Wayians is eighteen to twenty three. I just love

636
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:24,440
Speaker 1: that term.

637
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 2: Whyan and the young nigga right.

638
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, young Niggas is eighteen to twenty three. Low Bro

639
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:33,600
Speaker 1: is twenty four to twenty eight, Big Bros twenty nine

640
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,520
Speaker 1: to thirty eight. Unk is thirty nine to forty nine.

641
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 2: So why unks start later than an untie?

642
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 1: Exactly exactly you see kind of you see like cougar

643
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 1: forty to fifty, but unk is thirty nine to forty nine.

644
00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 2: Because y'all get to stay younger than us. Apparently this

645
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 2: is just like that Pink Tac shit.

646
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 1: Hating on us. Man, they be hating on us. So, no,

647
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 1: I don't agree with that shit because I am not

648
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 1: an auntie and I'm not a cougar either. No, I'll

649
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 1: be an auntie, but I'm definitely not a cougar because

650
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 1: I want money from men like cougars be taking care

651
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 1: of niggas.

652
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 2: No, you saw that video or that girl, y'all. I

653
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 2: don't know if y'all saw that, but it was she

654
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 2: looking at her thirty. She had on an auntie wig

655
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 2: though I ain't gonna hold you. I don't have a

656
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 2: little Auntie hairpiece, and she had her Chase Bank envelope,

657
00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:28,120
Speaker 2: and it looked like they would sit at a restaurant

658
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 2: and the little Wyian sit his message It was supposed

659
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 2: to be to his homeboy, but he accidentally sitting in her.

660
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 2: He's like, I got anitia Baker, the blow a bag

661
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 2: on me, cash out on me. She's holding that chase,

662
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 2: not Anita Baker, not the Rapture. Oh my god, I

663
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 2: would have died if I if he sent me that message.

664
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 2: But I know that. I like, if I don't get

665
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 2: married and I don't find my partner, I'm gonna be

666
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 2: one of them bitches. Ad fifty five, I ain't gonna

667
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 2: hold you. I'm gonna be taking care of my Wyian

668
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 2: as well.

669
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 1: Shit, I'm gonna tell you here that's the older men

670
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 1: do ship. They buy the happiness, they buy what they want.

671
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:09,320
Speaker 2: I'm gonna show this.

672
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:11,319
Speaker 1: Look.

673
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 2: They're gonna be like forgot Patty Labella here about it,

674
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 2: because you know Patty a fly ass granny. She looks

675
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 2: good all the time. That's gonna be like Patty she

676
00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 2: does like her and Gladys name, like eat one of

677
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 2: these Tanny pies with the pearls, with the pearls. Baby,

678
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:37,360
Speaker 2: so on our right up for sins. We got a

679
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:40,360
Speaker 2: d I but we I know and everybody I know

680
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 2: y'all want to hear about it, but we're not gonna

681
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:44,399
Speaker 2: discuss it this week. I feel like we're gonna say

682
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,800
Speaker 2: that for like a full episode and let a little

683
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 2: bit more shit happen before we deep dive into it

684
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 2: and talk about what it is and how we feel

685
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 2: about it and what you can do to not care

686
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 2: or care more.

687
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you for adding that part, because I

688
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 1: definitely was about to say, like, stop stop caring about

689
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 1: stuff that really don't affect you for real. Yeah, so

690
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:06,359
Speaker 1: we'll get into it.

691
00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:09,360
Speaker 2: So okay. I came up with this topic this week, y'all.

692
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 2: And I don't know if y'all watch Harlem Harlem's Back

693
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,840
Speaker 2: on It's on Prime. It's a show with Meghan Good

694
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:20,359
Speaker 2: in a beautiful cast of others. I don't know all

695
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 2: of their names, but they're dope. It kind of reminds

696
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 2: me of Sex and the City I Ain't gonna hold you.

697
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 2: It's four friends, Black friends, and Harlem and their relationships

698
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:35,760
Speaker 2: with men in with each other and the character Quinn.

699
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 2: She says, we need to decenter the deck and like

700
00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:46,439
Speaker 2: her character has been like very hopeless romantic, always very

701
00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 2: fully consumed with finding a partner. You know, she was

702
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:53,359
Speaker 2: gold driven, but men were very at the center of

703
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 2: her existence a lot. And I thought that resonated with

704
00:35:57,560 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 2: me so much because I think I'm already in a

705
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 2: space of desentering Dick, you know, desentering men essentially, not

706
00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 2: just Dick, but men from my life. Ever since I

707
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:12,439
Speaker 2: broke my foot, I ain't been thinking about no Dick, ain't.

708
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 2: Nobody's trying to fuck with a broken foot. And since

709
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 2: then I just been kind of like desentering men. And

710
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 2: the character Camille has fully centered men in a way

711
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 2: her the character Ian which I can understand, Y'all's that

712
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 2: Nigga ty Lepley, Miracle, Watt's husband baby daddy relationship.

713
00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:36,080
Speaker 1: Is fine, fine, fine as hell. The her boyfriend on there, yes,

714
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 1: oh damn yeah.

715
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I can understand it. But she has completely

716
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:46,319
Speaker 2: focused her energy on She has all these seen great

717
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:48,839
Speaker 2: things going on. She just got you know, she left

718
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 2: Columbia and she's writing a book, but instead she's focused

719
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:56,799
Speaker 2: on her ex. So I wanted to get into how

720
00:36:56,840 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 2: the decenter men from your life, even if it's momentarily.

721
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 2: You know, even in a relationship, your man does not

722
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:08,880
Speaker 2: have to be the center of your life. I mean,

723
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:13,000
Speaker 2: he can be important part, but you should be centraized

724
00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 2: at some point. And sometimes I want to get into

725
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 2: how we can do that and things to do to

726
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 2: the center right now, so we'll be right back. We're

727
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 2: going to talk about.

728
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 1: It, all right, So y'all we're back. And I don't know,

729
00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 1: maybe should pose a question like how many times have

730
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:40,240
Speaker 1: you put your own dreams, needs, desires like on hold

731
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:44,279
Speaker 1: centering men? I think we kind of all do it

732
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 1: younger in age, and it kind of the older you get,

733
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 1: the more you date, and it could even be after

734
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 1: a marriage and after having children, that's usually when women

735
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: then start centering themselves, I think, but maybe it needs

736
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 1: to be done earlier and sooner in life. And I

737
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: think even starting in high school, starting with dating as

738
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:10,760
Speaker 1: young girls. Right, she's taught to dissenter men.

739
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:15,319
Speaker 2: Right, because I think oftentimes you know women who like

740
00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 2: they're married, they have kids, and especially with children, we

741
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 2: got it also, I mean I guess that when we

742
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 2: had Patrica on, it was desentering children, you know, No, it.

743
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 1: Was decentering all of them. It's putting yourself, yes, because

744
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: she has a husband also, Yeah, I thought about that

745
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 1: that episode. Yeah, Like definitely she would be like the

746
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 1: epitome of Yeah. So I don't think it's just decentering

747
00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:43,720
Speaker 1: men though, it's even just decentering like romantic relationships, yeah,

748
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: because you can get the dick, right, you can still

749
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:50,360
Speaker 1: have sex, but not making men the focal point.

750
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:53,400
Speaker 2: Right, not making them such a priority.

751
00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 1: Right that you just you know, disregarding your own needs

752
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 1: and wants and design.

753
00:38:57,640 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 2: And it's so easy to fall into that space, especially

754
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:03,560
Speaker 2: I feel like for me as a cancer woman, like

755
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:08,959
Speaker 2: I just turn into like this ball a goo when

756
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 2: i'm when somebody, yeah, man, I turn into a mush,

757
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 2: and that mush forms into something that exists in this

758
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 2: space with this person, Like all I I focus a

759
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 2: lot on their primary needs over my own. I focus

760
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 2: a lot on their own their happiness over my own.

761
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:32,799
Speaker 2: And then I look up and I have resentment exactly. Yeah,

762
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,800
Speaker 2: I then I find myself resenting motherfucker because well I

763
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:38,879
Speaker 2: always give you the big piece of meat, motherfucker. You know.

764
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:41,960
Speaker 1: Like, I think that's the first thing you gotta do

765
00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 1: is actually act yourself, like when you're in the midst

766
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 1: of doing something, Hey, is this for me or is

767
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 1: this for somebody else? Right, I think that's the first

768
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:52,920
Speaker 1: way to recognize whether or not you're you know, centering

769
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 1: somebody else some situation over yourself. Because I feel like

770
00:39:56,880 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 1: our lives this like we all got our own personal

771
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:04,600
Speaker 1: little solar systems. So ask yourself, does do the planets

772
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 1: revolve around the sun? Or do this? Does the sun

773
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 1: revolve around the planets? The sun in my fucking world?

774
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: So everybody else got to get in where they fit in.

775
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 1: And I wasn't always this way. And I can also recognize,

776
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:23,120
Speaker 1: like how in relationships I wasn't I was putting other

777
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 1: people like the partner before me, You know what I'm

778
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 1: saying because in your mind, like I think in most

779
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:31,440
Speaker 1: women's mind, like we're taught.

780
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:35,319
Speaker 2: That's how I feel like I was raised, especially.

781
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:36,400
Speaker 1: If you were raising the church, and I wasn't even

782
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:38,480
Speaker 1: raised in the church. But y'all would think it's crazy

783
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:43,839
Speaker 1: how male boys are called sons, Like why do they use

784
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 1: that word for a man the sun? They are not

785
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:52,800
Speaker 1: the center but this patriarchy, right, because they could have

786
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 1: came up with another word. But this world, right is

787
00:40:56,440 --> 00:41:00,960
Speaker 1: ran by patriarchy. Why they are calling men son m

788
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,879
Speaker 1: the son of God? Right? So I think people women

789
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:06,960
Speaker 1: who grew up in the church, they probably have an

790
00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 1: even harder time desentering men because they don't know how

791
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 1: deep this programming gos, especially in the Bible, like they

792
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:16,879
Speaker 1: they the way in the Bible, Like they just make

793
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 1: women like the worst thing in the Bible. Like there's

794
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 1: no real good stories about women in the Bible when

795
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:23,960
Speaker 1: you think about.

796
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 2: It, you know, I can't speak to that because I

797
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:29,440
Speaker 2: have not read it in its entirety. I mean I

798
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 2: think of Ruth, I mean, she had a good story, right,

799
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 2: what was the story? Well, she was a woman after

800
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 2: God's heart, she was a good woman, a gard fearing woman.

801
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:44,960
Speaker 2: And oh yeah, and then she got bo ass she

802
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:49,160
Speaker 2: got the best man ever. So I guess it really

803
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 2: wasn't even by her being a good woman to find

804
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 2: it to be a good wife. And how was he

805
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 2: to as he was the best man ever? Mmm, like

806
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:02,120
Speaker 2: that's the type of man we should have all strife

807
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 2: for a boas. But we'll be getting poe ass, no

808
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 2: good ass, Like yeah, we just getting all the masses.

809
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 1: But I feel like, yeah, like people who were raised

810
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 1: like in a church, they probably have a little bit

811
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 1: more a tough time because I mean they just tell

812
00:42:23,680 --> 00:42:25,959
Speaker 1: you to find a husband, right, But it does say

813
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 1: he who finds a wife finds a good thing. Right.

814
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,280
Speaker 1: We should not be centering men, like the Bible says

815
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 1: men can't be alone. It don't say women can't be alone,

816
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,279
Speaker 1: because I think that a lot of the women, like

817
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:39,400
Speaker 1: I said, who have been married and then they had

818
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:42,719
Speaker 1: children or they just always they found solace in themselves,

819
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 1: right and being okay with that, they don't center men anymore. Right,

820
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 1: But you got to go through all these things first.

821
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 1: So what if, right you were in your eighteen and

822
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:02,319
Speaker 1: you're dating and no one's telling you, oh, you gotta

823
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:04,920
Speaker 1: find a husband, like that's like the goal in life

824
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 1: to find these relationships. You don't have to do that

825
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 1: right now, be about yourself first.

826
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:12,799
Speaker 2: And you know, I have this list for medium dot

827
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 2: com and that is actually the number one thing on there.

828
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:19,279
Speaker 2: It says, decide your teen and twenties belong to you

829
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 2: and you alone. And I guess it's a lot of

830
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:24,879
Speaker 2: our listeners are older than that, so it's too late

831
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:26,239
Speaker 2: for that, baby, if you are ready thing.

832
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 1: So I think we do actually got a lot of

833
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 1: a young listener.

834
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: We do have young listeners, but we also have a

835
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:33,440
Speaker 2: lot of older ones. So that number one ain't for you, baby.

836
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 2: Number one is for our young girls, like decide that

837
00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 2: these years are for you and it ain't about that.

838
00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 1: That's why i'd be like, it's for about firing niggas

839
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 1: when they don't act right. That is what your twenties

840
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 1: is for. It is not for constant compromise. Get the

841
00:43:49,160 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 1: fuck up out of there when shit start looking stupid.

842
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 1: Because I think both of us probably probably stayed in

843
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 1: situations in our twenties that you know, stayed too long,

844
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:01,200
Speaker 1: you wasted I don't. I feel like I want to

845
00:44:01,239 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 1: stop saying we waste time because I think women count

846
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 1: time different than men, so we always feel like we

847
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 1: wasteed some time somewhere. But you you learned, we learned

848
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:11,839
Speaker 1: from that person, from that relationship.

849
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 2: I feel, bitch, I beg it different because I don't

850
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 2: waste it some mother fucking time, all right, So I said,

851
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 2: don't actively look for a man just yet. And this

852
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 2: is for my young sisters. Do you know who you are?

853
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 2: Most women don't even know who they are or what

854
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:31,600
Speaker 2: they want because they're still growing, you know. And it

855
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:35,880
Speaker 2: says the prefrontal cortex of the brain develops between eighteen

856
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:39,080
Speaker 2: and thirty that's the brain area of the brain responsible

857
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 2: for planning complex cognitive behavior, decision making, and moderating social behavior.

858
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 2: So let your prefrontal cortex fully developed before you you

859
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 2: center anyone outside of yourself unless you have two in

860
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:58,479
Speaker 2: your mom you know, then you gotta move a little differently. Yeah,

861
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 2: but you don't have to. That's what I'm saying. You

862
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:04,280
Speaker 2: don't have to if you don't have to, so focus

863
00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:09,799
Speaker 2: on you. So number two says, follow your dreams and

864
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:14,479
Speaker 2: celebrate your wins. I don't think we celebrate ourselves enough.

865
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 2: M That was for you, aj.

866
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:21,520
Speaker 1: I feel like I celebrate myself, but I just don't

867
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 1: need somebody else doing it with me. I don't feel

868
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 1: like I don't celebrate me, but people do it in

869
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 1: different ways, you know, but maybe include others.

870
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 2: Sorry, I had something in my throat, include others, bitch

871
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 2: celebrating you.

872
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:41,839
Speaker 1: I guess I'm not like a big you know, some

873
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 1: people need that group stuff. I don't really like. Like,

874
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:48,800
Speaker 1: right now, I'm planning a baby shower be my homegirl,

875
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:50,440
Speaker 1: but me and her are so much alike in this way.

876
00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: She's like, girl, I don't know why the fuck I'm

877
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:53,960
Speaker 1: doing this. Like I always said, I don't need a

878
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 1: baby shower all that. Now it becomes like this whole

879
00:45:56,160 --> 00:46:00,480
Speaker 1: big thing, right, But I mean it's it's gonna be nice. Yeah,

880
00:46:01,080 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 1: you don't like it at the end, right, you're not

881
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:04,400
Speaker 1: You did.

882
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 2: Everything, but it's okay for other people to celebrate your

883
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 2: wins sometimes, you know, sometimes in life I can understand

884
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:14,319
Speaker 2: if you're introverted and you don't like the attention. Yeah,

885
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:20,440
Speaker 2: the attention in the fuzz. But sometimes I don't know

886
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 2: this bitch a thousand years a birthday party or so

887
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:25,279
Speaker 2: god damn.

888
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 1: You know you got one birthday the day you was born.

889
00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:40,879
Speaker 2: We'll celebrating another year, one time with people, all right,

890
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 2: So this one stick it to the mailgates. Now, this

891
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 2: one is interesting, and this is one that I really

892
00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:48,040
Speaker 2: wanted to talk about. It says, learn how to be

893
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:51,920
Speaker 2: comfortable with being ugly, and that's in quotes, and it

894
00:46:51,960 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 2: says pretty. Privilege is a social concept that stipulates that

895
00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 2: more attractive people have more friends, money, and success than

896
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:02,200
Speaker 2: they're less attractive on the park excuse me, And it

897
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,120
Speaker 2: says this is even more true for women. Since the

898
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 2: beginning of time, we're taught to cater to the malgaze

899
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:11,800
Speaker 2: and crave mal validation. I can hear some people going, no,

900
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:15,520
Speaker 2: not I. Even if you have achieved a super self aware,

901
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 2: conscious state where you defy social pressure you did, at

902
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:22,080
Speaker 2: some point want to cater to the mailgaze. We are

903
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:25,920
Speaker 2: all socialized to do so from a young age. The

904
00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 2: toxic results of catering to the mail gaze are evident

905
00:47:28,719 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 2: in many ways. Then say drive for the perfect body.

906
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 2: That's obsession with social media, cloud and the billion dollar

907
00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:39,919
Speaker 2: makeup industry, and it says body dysmorphia and mortality rates

908
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:43,400
Speaker 2: of BBL procedures on the rise. One in three thousand

909
00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:47,320
Speaker 2: women die from the Brazilian Buffalot butt lift surgery, making

910
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 2: it the deadliest cosmetic procedure. I think we're on a

911
00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 2: decline of bbls now though.

912
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:55,359
Speaker 1: Because women are decentering men.

913
00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 2: Yeah.

914
00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 1: And then but the thing with the BBL shit is

915
00:47:58,560 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 1: that men never said they like that. So the women,

916
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 1: you know, will claim that they were doing it for themselves.

917
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:06,399
Speaker 1: But I really believe because y'all, as soon as y'all

918
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:08,279
Speaker 1: get that ass, you put it on the internet, and

919
00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:10,880
Speaker 1: you can't take no front pictures no more. Everything is

920
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:13,440
Speaker 1: from the back. So really, who are you trying to

921
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 1: attract when you do it in that way? Like I

922
00:48:17,760 --> 00:48:20,360
Speaker 1: get dressed and look good for me, I'm gonna tell you,

923
00:48:20,400 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: I look like a ninja five days a week, and

924
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:24,840
Speaker 1: if I decide to get cute on the weekends or

925
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 1: something like that, it is for me. It's not really

926
00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 1: for anybody else, Like I want to feel good and

927
00:48:31,560 --> 00:48:32,799
Speaker 1: look good for me.

928
00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:35,799
Speaker 2: So it says go it gets the status quote do

929
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 2: things that make you ugly not know and is in

930
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:41,400
Speaker 2: a quote, and it says, according to the male gaze,

931
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 2: wear short, natural hair, don't wear makeup or any other

932
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 2: beauty enhancements. Don't dress to turn hiss, just dress simple.

933
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:54,080
Speaker 2: This form of defiance against societal expectations is huge, and

934
00:48:54,120 --> 00:48:56,319
Speaker 2: it says you don't have to do it indefinitely. Do

935
00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:58,560
Speaker 2: it for a week or a month, however long it

936
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 2: takes for you to feel completely confident doing it. Take

937
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 2: back the power and stick your fingers on the eyes

938
00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:07,319
Speaker 2: of the ominous malgaze. And while you're doing this, it

939
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 2: would be helpful to stay on social media, as it

940
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 2: is a big perpetrator of the malgaze.

941
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:16,880
Speaker 1: I just I just don't agree with that. I just

942
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 1: don't agree with that.

943
00:49:17,880 --> 00:49:26,280
Speaker 2: Because well, I you know, I did. It's weird.

944
00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 1: I get it, But then it's like you're intentionally trying

945
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 1: not to look attractive to me. That type of thing

946
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 1: comes out of trauma. That's a trauma response, you know

947
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Just think about like people who have

948
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:42,359
Speaker 1: said like they were molested and abused so they would

949
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 1: make them this is why they started eating more right,

950
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:47,719
Speaker 1: so they can become less attractive to people. So to me,

951
00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:51,279
Speaker 1: that's like a trauma response to a bigger problem, you

952
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:53,359
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, I don't want to make

953
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 1: I don't want to ever. I feel like in relationships

954
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 1: people have done that to me because I've always had

955
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 1: the big personality and I've always been me, And I

956
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 1: feel like I've gotten into relationships with people with men

957
00:50:05,080 --> 00:50:07,239
Speaker 1: who feel like they needed to dim my light. They

958
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 1: needed to dim my son right because I saw it

959
00:50:10,200 --> 00:50:12,399
Speaker 1: shine so bright. So they are attracted to the sun

960
00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:15,400
Speaker 1: and when they get the sun, now you're trying to

961
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 1: make it to where like you're the only person that

962
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:19,480
Speaker 1: can see it, so you want to put some fucking

963
00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:21,719
Speaker 1: shade on me and try to make me feel in

964
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 1: different about myself because I feel good about myself. You

965
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:27,520
Speaker 1: gotta be careful with that type of.

966
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 2: Sho But but here's the thing, I don't think it's

967
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 2: saying like do it for other people. I think that

968
00:50:34,120 --> 00:50:41,360
Speaker 2: this is encouraging you to do it for yourself. Like,

969
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:45,360
Speaker 2: if you're spending so much time trying to be attractive

970
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 2: for others, just be like, don't focus on everyone else

971
00:50:51,239 --> 00:50:53,640
Speaker 2: and how you look to everyone else and how your

972
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:57,640
Speaker 2: appearance makes everyone else feel, you know, decenter that shit,

973
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 2: you know, just to go out ugly not ugly, not

974
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:06,279
Speaker 2: because they call it, but it's in quotations, so it's

975
00:51:06,280 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 2: like saying, like, what's ugly to you?

976
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:08,839
Speaker 1: Then?

977
00:51:09,280 --> 00:51:12,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, like without all the enhancements, without all the makeup,

978
00:51:12,280 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 2: without all the weaves and wigs and tight fitting clothes

979
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:19,400
Speaker 2: and your ass cheeks hanging out the back of them skirts,

980
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:22,880
Speaker 2: you know, like because I mean that's definitely for the

981
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 2: male gaze, you know, things like that. So stuff like that.

982
00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:31,719
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell y'all how I have been. I don't

983
00:51:31,760 --> 00:51:33,279
Speaker 2: know if I can count this, but I'm going to

984
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:38,760
Speaker 2: for the sake of the conversation. I have not shaved

985
00:51:38,760 --> 00:51:44,000
Speaker 2: my legs or my vagina since I broke my foot.

986
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:47,560
Speaker 1: I think you're only doing that so you don't have sex, bitch.

987
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,759
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. We're not really dissentering, dick. We

988
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 1: just were sent dissentering, like, no.

989
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 2: It's not. If I wanted to fuck with this, I would.

990
00:51:56,400 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 2: It's not that. It's that I just and just being

991
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:06,919
Speaker 2: all oh natural, like it is what it is right now,

992
00:52:06,960 --> 00:52:11,600
Speaker 2: and I just don't care to as long as it's

993
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 2: I'm clean. I'm clean. It's just not it's unkept.

994
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:18,160
Speaker 1: Well, the winter is the best time to do that, right, Yeah,

995
00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:22,279
Speaker 1: you get that extra sweaty stench in summer, so it

996
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:27,600
Speaker 1: is okay to do that shit winter, I think. But

997
00:52:27,680 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 1: I think in the way in the summertime, like we

998
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:30,560
Speaker 1: ain't just shaving it for sex.

999
00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:32,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, it just holds onto the scent.

1000
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:35,280
Speaker 1: But yeah, like we're just trying to stay groomed.

1001
00:52:35,360 --> 00:52:38,799
Speaker 2: But my legs have never been hairer in my entire life,

1002
00:52:38,880 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 2: I think. And I'm just okay with it. I'm just

1003
00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 2: so fine. I'll be in the bed, rob I could

1004
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:45,640
Speaker 2: start a firing this bed with how much hair on

1005
00:52:45,680 --> 00:52:47,959
Speaker 2: my legs right there, and I just do not care.

1006
00:52:48,400 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 2: I do not care nobody's seeing it, and I'm okay

1007
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:53,400
Speaker 2: with it. You know.

1008
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:56,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I shave less in the winter, but it's nearly not.

1009
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:57,799
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just because I just do.

1010
00:52:58,239 --> 00:53:02,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, but since I broke my foot in September. It

1011
00:53:02,719 --> 00:53:08,399
Speaker 2: is January. You know, that's long. That's a long time.

1012
00:53:08,960 --> 00:53:12,400
Speaker 2: You know what I do not give food is what

1013
00:53:12,440 --> 00:53:16,880
Speaker 2: it is now. My armpits. I can't not for whatever reason.

1014
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 2: I just have. I can't just let that grow, but.

1015
00:53:19,640 --> 00:53:21,759
Speaker 1: Because somebody might fuck her and see it. Like you're

1016
00:53:21,760 --> 00:53:23,319
Speaker 1: in the gym with a T top on you.

1017
00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:25,399
Speaker 2: I don't be in the gym with tank tops when

1018
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 2: I like, when I there is, that is a place

1019
00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 2: where I definitely try to decenter the malegates. I when

1020
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 2: I go in the gym, I have on big T shirts, long,

1021
00:53:37,640 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 2: I have on big hoodies. I definitely just try to

1022
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:44,239
Speaker 2: cover myself and be very invisible in that space. Please

1023
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 2: don't bother me, Please don't look at me, and don't

1024
00:53:46,640 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 2: say shit to me. Right so I don't take my

1025
00:53:50,920 --> 00:53:53,399
Speaker 2: I don't have like, you know, the girls coming in there.

1026
00:53:53,520 --> 00:53:57,480
Speaker 2: I saw a girl in the gym yesterday with dangly earrings,

1027
00:53:57,640 --> 00:54:02,560
Speaker 2: a necklace and glasses with like you know, living the

1028
00:54:02,600 --> 00:54:04,879
Speaker 2: workout and she's just prancing on the.

1029
00:54:06,120 --> 00:54:06,919
Speaker 1: Looking for a man.

1030
00:54:07,120 --> 00:54:09,239
Speaker 2: And I ain't even mad. Girl. If that's your goal

1031
00:54:09,280 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 2: for twenty twenty five is to catch catch, but girl,

1032
00:54:13,680 --> 00:54:16,000
Speaker 2: you it's not working out with them danglar ereians.

1033
00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:23,080
Speaker 1: Fully clothed like outfits like I do like matching because

1034
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:25,239
Speaker 1: I feel like I feel more motivated to work out

1035
00:54:25,320 --> 00:54:28,200
Speaker 1: when I look good. So I don't ever wear like

1036
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:30,279
Speaker 1: the big T shirts and stuff like that, or like

1037
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:31,960
Speaker 1: if I do do a sweatshirt, it's just so I

1038
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 1: can sweat more. Like It's really like I probably got

1039
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 1: like one of them sweat bag shits on underneath that

1040
00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 1: shit too. But I like to feel good. I like,

1041
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 1: I like to look good, and it's not really about

1042
00:54:41,280 --> 00:54:43,480
Speaker 1: who is looking at me, Like I'm looking in the

1043
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:46,759
Speaker 1: mirror in there trying to see how good I look

1044
00:54:47,160 --> 00:54:47,400
Speaker 1: to me.

1045
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:51,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I understand that, and I understand that perspective, but

1046
00:54:51,120 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 2: I'm just more concerned about what's going on under these

1047
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:56,880
Speaker 2: clothes while I'm in the gym, like because I know

1048
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:59,920
Speaker 2: I'm sweating. Yesterday I got on that I was on

1049
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:03,480
Speaker 2: the Stare climber for forty five minutes and that's the

1050
00:55:03,560 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 2: longest I've been on since I broke my foot, and

1051
00:55:05,719 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 2: I was so proud of that, and nothing about it

1052
00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:10,719
Speaker 2: was cute, nothing like I had on. I don't even

1053
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:13,840
Speaker 2: think nothing I had on matched. It was just my

1054
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:16,160
Speaker 2: period on. So I had big draws, like it was

1055
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:18,319
Speaker 2: a lot going on, and it was not cute, but

1056
00:55:18,960 --> 00:55:22,040
Speaker 2: I was so excited for what I had just done,

1057
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 2: you know, for the first time, because I could not

1058
00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:26,560
Speaker 2: do that when I when I first went back to

1059
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:29,240
Speaker 2: the gym, I barely could stay on there fifteen minutes

1060
00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:33,759
Speaker 2: without my foot starting to hurt, without being winded. And

1061
00:55:33,800 --> 00:55:35,560
Speaker 2: now I'm back up to forty five. Bitch, you couldn't

1062
00:55:35,560 --> 00:55:37,759
Speaker 2: tell me nothing. Now let me tell you this what

1063
00:55:37,880 --> 00:55:40,800
Speaker 2: helped me get to forty five minutes. Have y'all waxed

1064
00:55:40,880 --> 00:55:44,720
Speaker 2: or riches started on Netflix? Have y'all been watching Girl?

1065
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:46,360
Speaker 2: That is entertainment?

1066
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:49,799
Speaker 1: I ain't seen it, of course, I've seen it preview.

1067
00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:52,000
Speaker 2: For it, but well it's good. I mean it's like

1068
00:55:52,040 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 2: trash TV. Obviously it's reality trash TV, but it was good.

1069
00:55:56,719 --> 00:55:58,840
Speaker 2: So I was watching that and it helped me. I

1070
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:00,600
Speaker 2: lost track of time and I looked I was at

1071
00:56:00,600 --> 00:56:03,080
Speaker 2: forty minutes. I was like, oh, let me do five more.

1072
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:11,359
Speaker 2: But so that was decentering the mel Gays. The next

1073
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:17,560
Speaker 2: one says, layoff romantic music, books and movies, but those things.

1074
00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:20,040
Speaker 1: Are all feel good things. But do they make you

1075
00:56:20,080 --> 00:56:21,640
Speaker 1: feel like you want to be in love, that maybe

1076
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:23,680
Speaker 1: it is doing something to you subconsciously.

1077
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:29,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do. Every time I listen to romantic music,

1078
00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:32,720
Speaker 2: I might go look at somebody.

1079
00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:38,000
Speaker 1: Instagram page, So instead go listen to Kaya. You can't

1080
00:56:38,040 --> 00:56:40,680
Speaker 1: trust no nigga, no no.

1081
00:56:40,680 --> 00:56:48,120
Speaker 2: That's the completely opposite that might write you talking all right,

1082
00:56:48,160 --> 00:56:51,080
Speaker 2: so it says. One of the biggest reasons women center

1083
00:56:51,160 --> 00:56:55,920
Speaker 2: their lives around men is the influence of media. Cultivation theory,

1084
00:56:55,960 --> 00:57:00,480
Speaker 2: proposed by George Gerbner in nineteen sixty nine, is the

1085
00:57:00,560 --> 00:57:04,680
Speaker 2: idea that the long term consumption of media affects people's ideas,

1086
00:57:05,120 --> 00:57:08,879
Speaker 2: which is true. Mass methods of media dissemination are used

1087
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:12,680
Speaker 2: by communities to spread ideas, movies, and form most people's

1088
00:57:12,760 --> 00:57:16,720
Speaker 2: view of romance. Romantic comedies are the primary offenders when

1089
00:57:16,720 --> 00:57:21,360
Speaker 2: it comes to most people's unrealistic ideals and expectations of relationships.

1090
00:57:21,680 --> 00:57:26,080
Speaker 2: Disney is another primary offender, socializing us with unrealistic and

1091
00:57:26,120 --> 00:57:30,800
Speaker 2: downright toxic views of relationships from childhood. If you're on

1092
00:57:30,880 --> 00:57:34,400
Speaker 2: the TIC, if you're on TikTok, you've probably heard Salem

1093
00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 2: a lazy song mad at Disney, and if you haven't,

1094
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:41,520
Speaker 2: go listen to it. The song speaks of the whimsical

1095
00:57:41,880 --> 00:57:45,200
Speaker 2: way women are taught to view relationships. A prince will

1096
00:57:45,200 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 2: come and whiskey away on his horse. The only thing

1097
00:57:48,080 --> 00:57:51,200
Speaker 2: is in reality, it's far from fantasy. Men in the

1098
00:57:51,200 --> 00:57:53,480
Speaker 2: books and movies are nothing like men in real life.

1099
00:57:53,680 --> 00:57:56,840
Speaker 2: Men in the media are portrayed as saviors. Perhaps this

1100
00:57:56,920 --> 00:57:59,600
Speaker 2: is why many women are so comfortable sendering their lives

1101
00:57:59,640 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 2: around me in and host that one day they will

1102
00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:04,000
Speaker 2: be living out their fairy tale dreams.

1103
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, they sold us, They sold us some bullshit. I

1104
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:14,760
Speaker 1: think that. Uh you know that post breakup glow up?

1105
00:58:15,760 --> 00:58:16,160
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

1106
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:20,200
Speaker 1: If you're wondering, like how to decenter men, just if

1107
00:58:20,240 --> 00:58:23,840
Speaker 1: you ever had that post break up glow up, that

1108
00:58:24,800 --> 00:58:28,840
Speaker 1: glow up only happened. It happened because you decentered men.

1109
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:32,480
Speaker 1: Was like, fuck these niggas. I'm gonna get on my ship.

1110
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:35,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get the killer body, I'm gonna get more money,

1111
00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:38,640
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get a better position at work. Like you

1112
00:58:38,680 --> 00:58:41,320
Speaker 1: wanted to prove something, but it's still kind of centered

1113
00:58:41,360 --> 00:58:43,720
Speaker 1: a little bit, right, You wanted to prove something.

1114
00:58:43,880 --> 00:58:48,600
Speaker 2: To use them as your motivation, exactly better to yourself.

1115
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:50,880
Speaker 1: Right, but it's also I think another dangerous part is

1116
00:58:50,960 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 1: using decentered men to get a better man. That's dangerous too, Yeah,

1117
00:58:56,840 --> 00:58:59,560
Speaker 1: because you still center in a relationship, because it's still.

1118
00:58:59,440 --> 00:59:02,960
Speaker 2: Not a nigga. You know, I'm gonna one up that motherfucker.

1119
00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:05,000
Speaker 2: When I pull back up, I'm gonna have a better nigga.

1120
00:59:05,080 --> 00:59:07,640
Speaker 2: It's still about a nigga, not about you.

1121
00:59:07,680 --> 00:59:10,720
Speaker 1: So yeah, decentering men is really about you, and I

1122
00:59:10,720 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 1: think you can we probably can learn more and more

1123
00:59:13,240 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 1: and more about that from older women because they already

1124
00:59:16,400 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 1: did all the things, but we want to try to

1125
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:20,720
Speaker 1: get there before all the bullshit.

1126
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, but oftentimes I find that the older women who

1127
00:59:25,040 --> 00:59:27,640
Speaker 2: have decentered men is out of.

1128
00:59:29,160 --> 00:59:29,800
Speaker 1: It's trauma.

1129
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's out of they're being tainted in there. What's

1130
00:59:35,760 --> 00:59:40,360
Speaker 2: the word that people use for women who they're scorned. Yeah,

1131
00:59:40,400 --> 00:59:43,000
Speaker 2: I don't I don't want That's.

1132
00:59:42,880 --> 00:59:45,320
Speaker 1: What I'm saying. Like, the goal is to decenter men

1133
00:59:45,400 --> 00:59:48,280
Speaker 1: before ye get to that resentment.

1134
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 2: Stage I don't want. Yeah, I don't want us. And

1135
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:53,200
Speaker 2: that means me, you, AJ and all of y'all listening

1136
00:59:53,720 --> 00:59:56,720
Speaker 2: to get to a place of resentment for men before

1137
00:59:56,760 --> 01:00:00,520
Speaker 2: you dissenter them. Because you don't want to my mom

1138
01:00:00,640 --> 01:00:03,560
Speaker 2: be saying. I hope she won't be mad at me

1139
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:07,760
Speaker 2: for saying it. She's like, girl, a man comes second

1140
01:00:07,920 --> 01:00:09,960
Speaker 2: to a good book and a glass of warm milk

1141
01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:14,120
Speaker 2: at this point in my life, So she rather read

1142
01:00:14,160 --> 01:00:17,040
Speaker 2: and have a glass of warm milk before being bothered

1143
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:21,240
Speaker 2: with a man. And I don't ever want to feel

1144
01:00:21,280 --> 01:00:23,560
Speaker 2: like that. I love these niggas. I want to always

1145
01:00:23,600 --> 01:00:25,920
Speaker 2: love them. I don't want to like I love books.

1146
01:00:25,960 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 2: I'm already halfway there, you know, Because I love them.

1147
01:00:31,480 --> 01:00:33,920
Speaker 2: I always want to love them. And I always want

1148
01:00:33,920 --> 01:00:37,520
Speaker 2: to value men in my life and I still want one,

1149
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:42,280
Speaker 2: but I just don't want I want to make sure

1150
01:00:42,280 --> 01:00:44,560
Speaker 2: that I desenter them in a way that's healthy for me,

1151
01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:47,560
Speaker 2: and when I get in a relationship, be able to

1152
01:00:47,640 --> 01:00:50,480
Speaker 2: continue to do that, you know, to have that balance.

1153
01:00:51,320 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 1: That's where I am now. Yeah, So and this is

1154
01:00:53,920 --> 01:00:56,840
Speaker 1: I think this is I may not call it desentering,

1155
01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:58,320
Speaker 1: but you know how i'd be like, I want to

1156
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:01,800
Speaker 1: feel single in a relationship. I never want to lose

1157
01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:04,720
Speaker 1: my identity. I want to be with somebody who really

1158
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:08,240
Speaker 1: assess me for who I am, and even my current partner,

1159
01:01:08,440 --> 01:01:10,600
Speaker 1: because y'all notice is an old partner. It's a new

1160
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:11,960
Speaker 1: relationship with old partner.

1161
01:01:12,040 --> 01:01:12,240
Speaker 2: Right.

1162
01:01:13,200 --> 01:01:18,120
Speaker 1: He had to get here because I've always been me right,

1163
01:01:18,160 --> 01:01:19,880
Speaker 1: and even now he can admit to some of the

1164
01:01:19,960 --> 01:01:23,000
Speaker 1: things like he did in the past, like hating on me.

1165
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:26,160
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like niggas really be in

1166
01:01:26,200 --> 01:01:29,200
Speaker 1: competition with you in a relationship when they don't have

1167
01:01:29,240 --> 01:01:32,080
Speaker 1: the emotional intelligence yet to be and even in a

1168
01:01:32,160 --> 01:01:34,919
Speaker 1: relationship with a real fucking woman. You know what I'm saying,

1169
01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:36,160
Speaker 1: Because I've been grown for.

1170
01:01:36,080 --> 01:01:39,160
Speaker 2: A long time, but you're still growing. You're not the

1171
01:01:39,200 --> 01:01:40,880
Speaker 2: same person. You've grown too.

1172
01:01:41,080 --> 01:01:42,760
Speaker 1: No, that's what I be trying to tell him, Like

1173
01:01:42,960 --> 01:01:45,920
Speaker 1: I'm not the same person, you know, because I feel

1174
01:01:45,960 --> 01:01:49,400
Speaker 1: like I'm not really centering. But in a relationship, I

1175
01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:53,560
Speaker 1: compromised a lot, and you know you had that resentment

1176
01:01:53,880 --> 01:01:55,720
Speaker 1: because you did all this compromising. Like I feel like

1177
01:01:55,760 --> 01:01:58,160
Speaker 1: the times I've moved, it was either moving from a

1178
01:01:58,240 --> 01:02:02,600
Speaker 1: nigga to get away from a I'm moving to one. Yeah, right,

1179
01:02:02,800 --> 01:02:05,360
Speaker 1: So now I'm trying to make sure that the decisions

1180
01:02:05,360 --> 01:02:08,200
Speaker 1: that I make in life are solely for me. Now,

1181
01:02:08,200 --> 01:02:11,840
Speaker 1: if you benefit from him from these good decisions, kudos

1182
01:02:11,840 --> 01:02:16,120
Speaker 1: to you. But I'm not considering anybody else anymore, and

1183
01:02:16,160 --> 01:02:17,240
Speaker 1: he has to be okay with that.

1184
01:02:17,720 --> 01:02:22,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, now, I'm okay with considering others in my decisions,

1185
01:02:23,080 --> 01:02:25,480
Speaker 2: but I just don't want to consider them more than

1186
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:29,320
Speaker 2: myself anymore, you know, Like, I don't want to make

1187
01:02:29,360 --> 01:02:32,480
Speaker 2: my choice based on the betterment of this other person,

1188
01:02:33,040 --> 01:02:36,760
Speaker 2: and because I love him so much, and that has

1189
01:02:36,840 --> 01:02:39,880
Speaker 2: been the status quo since the beginning of time for me,

1190
01:02:39,960 --> 01:02:43,320
Speaker 2: and I thought that was the way of a good woman,

1191
01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:44,840
Speaker 2: you know, that is the way of a good woman.

1192
01:02:44,920 --> 01:02:46,600
Speaker 2: This is how I prove that I'm a little I'm

1193
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:50,320
Speaker 2: a down ass bitch y'all. And all it left me

1194
01:02:50,520 --> 01:02:51,640
Speaker 2: was down, you know.

1195
01:02:51,800 --> 01:02:56,120
Speaker 1: So an example of somebody who centers men too much

1196
01:02:56,200 --> 01:02:58,240
Speaker 1: are the ones who the women who say I got

1197
01:02:58,240 --> 01:03:02,480
Speaker 1: no female friends. I just got to like, ma'am, you

1198
01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:05,400
Speaker 1: don't get an award for that. You're actually a weirdo.

1199
01:03:05,840 --> 01:03:07,479
Speaker 1: And I don't want to be your friend anyway, because

1200
01:03:07,480 --> 01:03:10,200
Speaker 1: you probably think everybody be hating on you or really

1201
01:03:10,800 --> 01:03:14,040
Speaker 1: not even a good person like I'm because men are

1202
01:03:14,160 --> 01:03:16,680
Speaker 1: not good people sometimes a lot of times.

1203
01:03:16,880 --> 01:03:19,840
Speaker 2: Anytime a woman always if I see like a woman

1204
01:03:19,960 --> 01:03:25,840
Speaker 2: always posting about people jealous of them girl.

1205
01:03:25,880 --> 01:03:28,760
Speaker 1: Good, nobody could like this is a general like, Okay,

1206
01:03:28,960 --> 01:03:29,520
Speaker 1: you're whack.

1207
01:03:30,080 --> 01:03:33,960
Speaker 2: Actually it's okay, Like sometimes people are jealous and it's true.

1208
01:03:34,360 --> 01:03:38,280
Speaker 2: But if you are always speaking on people being jealous

1209
01:03:38,320 --> 01:03:42,880
Speaker 2: of you, there's something for you to unpack there, because

1210
01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:46,120
Speaker 2: everybody ain't fucking jealous of you, and that's a mental

1211
01:03:46,240 --> 01:03:48,720
Speaker 2: that's some mental shit going on, and maybe that comes

1212
01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:52,440
Speaker 2: that might respond from childhood because some mamas be teaching

1213
01:03:52,480 --> 01:03:56,000
Speaker 2: girls they're jealous of you. They just jealous of you.

1214
01:03:56,360 --> 01:03:58,480
Speaker 2: They just jealous of you. And now you grow up

1215
01:03:58,520 --> 01:04:00,960
Speaker 2: believing that every bitch out here is you and they not.

1216
01:04:01,480 --> 01:04:03,840
Speaker 1: We talked about that last week with that episode on

1217
01:04:04,320 --> 01:04:05,520
Speaker 1: Love and Hip Hop Miami.

1218
01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:07,720
Speaker 2: But uh.

1219
01:04:09,160 --> 01:04:13,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, an old girl like girl, everybody is not hating

1220
01:04:13,840 --> 01:04:16,440
Speaker 1: on you, I promise. If you got a sucky ass

1221
01:04:16,480 --> 01:04:18,880
Speaker 1: attitude and a lot of people be saying, bitch, you

1222
01:04:19,000 --> 01:04:21,320
Speaker 1: got a nasty ass attitude, and it's like a general

1223
01:04:21,400 --> 01:04:23,680
Speaker 1: consensus that it's probably true.

1224
01:04:23,760 --> 01:04:26,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, you gotta do some self awareness and understand that

1225
01:04:26,280 --> 01:04:29,320
Speaker 2: maybe you're not as great as you think you are.

1226
01:04:29,440 --> 01:04:32,520
Speaker 1: Yes, everybody else cannot always be the problem.

1227
01:04:32,480 --> 01:04:35,480
Speaker 2: Right, because if everybody say you were smoking crack for

1228
01:04:35,520 --> 01:04:38,440
Speaker 2: twenty years, Whitney Houston, you're smoking crack. You know what

1229
01:04:38,440 --> 01:04:41,440
Speaker 2: I'm saying, You were smoking Whinney Houston. I love her, but.

1230
01:04:41,960 --> 01:04:43,800
Speaker 1: Don't talk about WINNYE. Houston on this show.

1231
01:04:44,040 --> 01:04:46,440
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm sorry because I love Whitney Houston. She's the

1232
01:04:46,520 --> 01:04:52,320
Speaker 2: voice of all time. But if everybody say they.

1233
01:04:52,760 --> 01:04:55,400
Speaker 1: Start smoking crack, like how people feel about Beyonce, is

1234
01:04:55,400 --> 01:04:58,320
Speaker 1: how I feel about Whitney Houston, like.

1235
01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:00,919
Speaker 2: To your age. I know my sister would be cuss

1236
01:05:01,000 --> 01:05:02,960
Speaker 2: me out if she heard that. Right now. I apologize

1237
01:05:02,960 --> 01:05:04,600
Speaker 2: to all the Whitni lovers because I love her too,

1238
01:05:04,680 --> 01:05:08,480
Speaker 2: But that was just an example of everybody ain't gonna

1239
01:05:08,480 --> 01:05:10,160
Speaker 2: say the same shit about you for twenty years and

1240
01:05:10,200 --> 01:05:17,240
Speaker 2: they no truth to it. You know, we don't have

1241
01:05:17,280 --> 01:05:21,080
Speaker 2: anything else to offer this list. Let's see. There was

1242
01:05:21,240 --> 01:05:23,800
Speaker 2: one more, and I think we kind of touched on

1243
01:05:23,880 --> 01:05:28,680
Speaker 2: this one that it says, realize that men are just human. Yeah,

1244
01:05:28,840 --> 01:05:32,240
Speaker 2: and like you know, removing from this pedestal.

1245
01:05:32,360 --> 01:05:36,200
Speaker 1: And we're God's right, We the son, not da ain't

1246
01:05:36,200 --> 01:05:38,760
Speaker 1: the son. They could be the s o N, but

1247
01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:41,560
Speaker 1: we are the s u N Like we literally give

1248
01:05:41,640 --> 01:05:45,720
Speaker 1: life right. So at what point do you feel like

1249
01:05:45,800 --> 01:05:48,400
Speaker 1: You're not important. And I'm not telling people to have

1250
01:05:48,440 --> 01:05:52,840
Speaker 1: a God complex. But look what happens when we start

1251
01:05:52,880 --> 01:05:56,560
Speaker 1: decentering men. You have these red pel niggas you got

1252
01:05:56,640 --> 01:05:59,360
Speaker 1: in cells that come out of what works this I

1253
01:05:59,360 --> 01:06:02,320
Speaker 1: think I sent you this guy Instagram page is called

1254
01:06:02,360 --> 01:06:05,439
Speaker 1: fit Fit Flex or something like that. Black guy, Nice

1255
01:06:05,480 --> 01:06:08,160
Speaker 1: Bill African Nigerian Nigga. But he was he'd be interviewing

1256
01:06:08,200 --> 01:06:10,840
Speaker 1: like men they want to know how they can beef

1257
01:06:10,920 --> 01:06:14,400
Speaker 1: up their parents to get women. And so he is

1258
01:06:14,480 --> 01:06:17,560
Speaker 1: experiencing with a lot of women experience with these men,

1259
01:06:17,680 --> 01:06:20,880
Speaker 1: just having these conversations and seeing how childish these men are.

1260
01:06:21,200 --> 01:06:23,800
Speaker 1: Some of them are borderline serial killers as far as

1261
01:06:23,840 --> 01:06:28,000
Speaker 1: I'm concerned. Right when we desenter men, they get so

1262
01:06:28,600 --> 01:06:31,520
Speaker 1: antsy they don't know how to take it. They mad

1263
01:06:31,560 --> 01:06:33,320
Speaker 1: at us when we were like, okay, I don't even man,

1264
01:06:33,320 --> 01:06:35,080
Speaker 1: I'm happy being alone. If y'all say, I'm a die

1265
01:06:35,080 --> 01:06:38,439
Speaker 1: by myself, okay, So what They're still mad at women

1266
01:06:38,480 --> 01:06:42,320
Speaker 1: who choose to be alone because they still feel like

1267
01:06:42,320 --> 01:06:45,560
Speaker 1: like they feel so entitled to women, like I should

1268
01:06:45,600 --> 01:06:46,680
Speaker 1: still have access to you.

1269
01:06:47,720 --> 01:06:50,400
Speaker 2: But you know what is because they were raised similar,

1270
01:06:50,720 --> 01:06:52,800
Speaker 2: they were raised like us. They will listening to the

1271
01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:55,560
Speaker 2: fairy tales. They think they're the knight in shining armor.

1272
01:06:55,680 --> 01:06:57,800
Speaker 1: But the moms also treat them like that too.

1273
01:06:57,920 --> 01:07:01,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, because their mom say, fucking fairy tale. So

1274
01:07:01,760 --> 01:07:03,560
Speaker 2: now her son got to be, you know, the night

1275
01:07:03,680 --> 01:07:06,080
Speaker 2: shine or that's what they would want him to be,

1276
01:07:06,480 --> 01:07:09,840
Speaker 2: and then her eyes he is. But to the rest

1277
01:07:09,880 --> 01:07:12,760
Speaker 2: of us, your son ship, mama, So.

1278
01:07:12,680 --> 01:07:16,440
Speaker 1: Stop texting that man first. Stop texting these niggas first.

1279
01:07:16,920 --> 01:07:18,120
Speaker 1: I'm not telling you.

1280
01:07:17,920 --> 01:07:20,920
Speaker 2: To like I ain't interest. Sometimes you got to go

1281
01:07:21,360 --> 01:07:22,440
Speaker 2: after you.

1282
01:07:22,400 --> 01:07:27,200
Speaker 1: Know, if you are always doing that, try your best

1283
01:07:27,440 --> 01:07:27,600
Speaker 1: like this.

1284
01:07:27,680 --> 01:07:29,840
Speaker 2: Doesn't you mean like just always be the first one

1285
01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:30,360
Speaker 2: to reach out?

1286
01:07:30,400 --> 01:07:30,720
Speaker 1: Okay?

1287
01:07:31,040 --> 01:07:34,600
Speaker 2: No, yes, I mean like maybe if y'all meet, you

1288
01:07:34,640 --> 01:07:37,640
Speaker 2: can be the first one to say something. If you

1289
01:07:37,720 --> 01:07:44,760
Speaker 2: really gotta be reciprocal, definitely don't be don't always be available, Yeah,

1290
01:07:44,920 --> 01:07:47,520
Speaker 2: acting like you're just sitting by the phone waiting on.

1291
01:07:49,360 --> 01:07:52,760
Speaker 1: On the first ring and ship like that. Stop texting

1292
01:07:52,840 --> 01:07:55,560
Speaker 1: men and calling men and asking them to take you

1293
01:07:55,600 --> 01:07:58,280
Speaker 1: on a date. Don't do that, ship, because don't be

1294
01:07:58,400 --> 01:08:01,960
Speaker 1: surprised when he expects your ass to pay. Also, right,

1295
01:08:02,200 --> 01:08:05,160
Speaker 1: you know, these are the things that women probably can

1296
01:08:05,240 --> 01:08:07,840
Speaker 1: start doing it's off top of my damn brain. Just

1297
01:08:07,880 --> 01:08:11,080
Speaker 1: stop doing these things to try to start decentering men

1298
01:08:11,200 --> 01:08:14,120
Speaker 1: a little bit in your life and desentering that want

1299
01:08:14,240 --> 01:08:17,840
Speaker 1: for relationships. Because when you're not expecting things, that's when

1300
01:08:17,840 --> 01:08:21,680
Speaker 1: it happens. That's that's the moment it happens for you

1301
01:08:21,760 --> 01:08:25,200
Speaker 1: when you stop expecting it, when you stop fixating on it,

1302
01:08:25,280 --> 01:08:28,120
Speaker 1: even journaling. Right, So write down all the things you want,

1303
01:08:28,160 --> 01:08:30,840
Speaker 1: write down the exact man you want. Ball that shit

1304
01:08:30,960 --> 01:08:33,400
Speaker 1: up and throw it in the trash, forget about it,

1305
01:08:33,840 --> 01:08:37,680
Speaker 1: burn it and watch it happen. Right, set it and

1306
01:08:37,720 --> 01:08:41,360
Speaker 1: forget it. Is that's how you really decenter men, and

1307
01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:43,639
Speaker 1: then just focus on you. Focus on being the best

1308
01:08:43,720 --> 01:08:48,439
Speaker 1: you possible, focus on looking the best for you, focus

1309
01:08:48,479 --> 01:08:50,680
Speaker 1: on your mental health, Go get a therapist, whatever you

1310
01:08:50,760 --> 01:08:53,479
Speaker 1: gotta do, you know, to get back to you.

1311
01:08:53,720 --> 01:08:57,800
Speaker 2: Spiritual spirituality, whatever that looks like. This church for you

1312
01:08:57,800 --> 01:09:01,559
Speaker 2: can start going to church starting or whatever whatever it

1313
01:09:01,600 --> 01:09:04,559
Speaker 2: is for you. Gotta be no, that's not you know,

1314
01:09:04,560 --> 01:09:06,880
Speaker 2: you got to speak to what works for you. You can't,

1315
01:09:07,000 --> 01:09:09,760
Speaker 2: you know, make sure this is what because I mean

1316
01:09:10,040 --> 01:09:12,479
Speaker 2: churchin for everybody, but church are for some, so you know,

1317
01:09:12,560 --> 01:09:15,800
Speaker 2: for those who it is for you know, you know,

1318
01:09:16,680 --> 01:09:17,320
Speaker 2: is very.

1319
01:09:17,360 --> 01:09:20,960
Speaker 1: The church in which the way they have it today

1320
01:09:21,120 --> 01:09:25,120
Speaker 1: is very patriarchal. Right, so we're talking about decentering men.

1321
01:09:25,640 --> 01:09:28,400
Speaker 1: I think everything in small doses. I'll say that, then

1322
01:09:28,920 --> 01:09:29,479
Speaker 1: just do it.

1323
01:09:29,600 --> 01:09:32,160
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, just I mean when I say that,

1324
01:09:32,240 --> 01:09:37,280
Speaker 2: I mean, like, you know, try to you know, include

1325
01:09:37,280 --> 01:09:41,320
Speaker 2: God more or whoever you worship, whoever you worship, or

1326
01:09:41,360 --> 01:09:46,240
Speaker 2: if you don't worship, find something, find some some spiritual guide,

1327
01:09:46,720 --> 01:09:49,000
Speaker 2: you know, and use that in your life, you know,

1328
01:09:49,280 --> 01:09:56,640
Speaker 2: versus being outside smoking, drinking, hookah, smoking hookah, fucking and

1329
01:09:56,720 --> 01:10:01,160
Speaker 2: all the things that ain't healthy, you know. So that's

1330
01:10:01,320 --> 01:10:03,680
Speaker 2: you know, I want to get more into my scripture

1331
01:10:04,240 --> 01:10:06,160
Speaker 2: and read more. And then I also want to like

1332
01:10:06,960 --> 01:10:11,200
Speaker 2: research other religions. You know. I was looking at uh

1333
01:10:11,800 --> 01:10:15,200
Speaker 2: mantu peach you how you say, And I was looking

1334
01:10:15,240 --> 01:10:20,040
Speaker 2: at how all these walls and all these hieroglyphics had

1335
01:10:20,080 --> 01:10:24,240
Speaker 2: this guy who was holding two animals, an animal in

1336
01:10:24,280 --> 01:10:26,439
Speaker 2: each hand, and it was all over the world they

1337
01:10:26,479 --> 01:10:31,680
Speaker 2: depicted this same uh deity, I guess, And I want

1338
01:10:31,720 --> 01:10:34,479
Speaker 2: to research who that is because how all of y'all,

1339
01:10:35,040 --> 01:10:39,519
Speaker 2: like y'all didn't have facetimed y'all didn't have you know,

1340
01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:45,960
Speaker 2: the everywhere. Yeah, but the same figure appears all over

1341
01:10:46,000 --> 01:10:46,280
Speaker 2: the world.

1342
01:10:46,439 --> 01:10:49,280
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. He probably was appearing physically, right

1343
01:10:49,400 --> 01:10:52,320
Speaker 1: like right now, we're believing. So there's that's why there's

1344
01:10:52,320 --> 01:10:54,360
Speaker 1: a difference between the knowing, which is what you're trying

1345
01:10:54,400 --> 01:10:56,599
Speaker 1: to do get to the bottom and doing the research, right,

1346
01:10:56,880 --> 01:10:59,760
Speaker 1: and then there's there's belief. That's why I'd be like,

1347
01:11:00,080 --> 01:11:02,600
Speaker 1: really have a belief system is either I know or

1348
01:11:02,640 --> 01:11:05,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, right, because believing.

1349
01:11:05,280 --> 01:11:06,040
Speaker 2: Is just faith.

1350
01:11:06,439 --> 01:11:09,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's all it is. Right, You didn't actually see

1351
01:11:09,280 --> 01:11:13,280
Speaker 1: the thing, so that that image being painted around the world,

1352
01:11:13,479 --> 01:11:19,000
Speaker 1: They probably physically saw this thing so different parts of

1353
01:11:19,000 --> 01:11:22,040
Speaker 1: the world. So that so we're waiting on this image

1354
01:11:22,040 --> 01:11:24,920
Speaker 1: to come back right that nobody has really ever seen

1355
01:11:25,040 --> 01:11:27,920
Speaker 1: in a very long time, to create a new image

1356
01:11:27,920 --> 01:11:31,599
Speaker 1: of it. People have literally created an image, because that's

1357
01:11:31,640 --> 01:11:35,559
Speaker 1: just how humans compute things like the imagery. You got

1358
01:11:35,560 --> 01:11:39,840
Speaker 1: to have got to see it to bring right. Well, no,

1359
01:11:40,000 --> 01:11:43,360
Speaker 1: because we don't be seeing it and be believing.

1360
01:11:43,000 --> 01:11:46,840
Speaker 2: It right, Well, faith, you know, it's faith because we

1361
01:11:46,840 --> 01:11:50,920
Speaker 2: believe somebody saw it, you know. So but then that's

1362
01:11:50,960 --> 01:11:53,080
Speaker 2: where that's where I want to invest some time into

1363
01:11:53,120 --> 01:11:56,920
Speaker 2: like just deep diving into religions and cultures and things

1364
01:11:56,960 --> 01:12:00,360
Speaker 2: like that and getting more understanding because how up did

1365
01:12:00,360 --> 01:12:02,280
Speaker 2: they build that ship? I want to know how they

1366
01:12:02,320 --> 01:12:05,719
Speaker 2: build that? How did they build that where they're giants

1367
01:12:05,800 --> 01:12:09,320
Speaker 2: moving around like things like that. That's what I'm interested in.

1368
01:12:09,360 --> 01:12:11,599
Speaker 2: So my leg's gonna be Harriet, I'm gonna be well.

1369
01:12:11,720 --> 01:12:14,760
Speaker 1: Sign up for Guya TV. G A, I A. That's

1370
01:12:14,800 --> 01:12:16,880
Speaker 1: a good place to start. Guya TV has a lot

1371
01:12:16,880 --> 01:12:23,640
Speaker 1: of documentaries. You know, Bill Carson, Billy Carson, h like

1372
01:12:24,200 --> 01:12:26,639
Speaker 1: you know, he talks about this is this is what

1373
01:12:26,680 --> 01:12:29,800
Speaker 1: the esoteric knowledge is is learning the things that not

1374
01:12:29,880 --> 01:12:33,880
Speaker 1: a lot of people know. Basically because people a lot

1375
01:12:33,880 --> 01:12:36,840
Speaker 1: of people it's just one way. It's real skewed. It's

1376
01:12:36,920 --> 01:12:40,240
Speaker 1: just religion is Christianity and that's it. But there are

1377
01:12:40,280 --> 01:12:43,440
Speaker 1: a lot of things that are way older than Christianity.

1378
01:12:43,520 --> 01:12:46,200
Speaker 1: So that's why I just I feel like it's just

1379
01:12:46,240 --> 01:12:50,000
Speaker 1: all about the Bible is a book about you. Basic

1380
01:12:50,160 --> 01:12:54,479
Speaker 1: instructions before leaving Earth is what the word Bible breaks

1381
01:12:54,520 --> 01:12:57,439
Speaker 1: down to. That's what some people say. So it's just

1382
01:12:57,479 --> 01:12:58,280
Speaker 1: a book about you.

1383
01:12:59,240 --> 01:13:02,280
Speaker 2: I think it's just a bunch of allegory and fable

1384
01:13:02,479 --> 01:13:05,640
Speaker 2: prior crabs to help us be better human beings. You know,

1385
01:13:06,200 --> 01:13:08,840
Speaker 2: as long as you are, you know, actively trying to

1386
01:13:08,880 --> 01:13:12,040
Speaker 2: be good at all times and like be good to

1387
01:13:12,120 --> 01:13:14,880
Speaker 2: others and good to yourself. I don't think it matter

1388
01:13:15,080 --> 01:13:18,600
Speaker 2: which exactly the thing you you subscribe to.

1389
01:13:18,840 --> 01:13:21,320
Speaker 1: You know, I just be liking to know all the things,

1390
01:13:21,360 --> 01:13:23,280
Speaker 1: so I'm never just fixed on the one thing.

1391
01:13:23,640 --> 01:13:25,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's and that's the space. I want to

1392
01:13:25,720 --> 01:13:29,000
Speaker 2: learn so much more about just the world that I

1393
01:13:29,080 --> 01:13:31,479
Speaker 2: don't know and the things that I don't understand and

1394
01:13:31,560 --> 01:13:33,840
Speaker 2: things that because I want to now, I like, I

1395
01:13:33,880 --> 01:13:36,080
Speaker 2: want a nigga to take me look a nigga. I

1396
01:13:36,120 --> 01:13:38,000
Speaker 2: want a nigga to take me to match a peach

1397
01:13:38,040 --> 01:13:42,640
Speaker 2: you de center taking me the center D Center. I'm

1398
01:13:42,680 --> 01:13:45,160
Speaker 2: working on it, y'all, on my work in progress. But

1399
01:13:46,400 --> 01:13:47,360
Speaker 2: do you have a last last?

1400
01:13:48,720 --> 01:13:50,439
Speaker 1: I think we pretty much gave it right for the

1401
01:13:50,479 --> 01:13:59,719
Speaker 1: most part. Uh, focus on yourself, do some meditation, figure

1402
01:13:59,720 --> 01:14:03,840
Speaker 1: out you know, like I said, if anything is, when

1403
01:14:03,880 --> 01:14:06,360
Speaker 1: something's not good for you, you don't have energy for it.

1404
01:14:06,560 --> 01:14:08,240
Speaker 1: When it's good, you got a lot of energy. So

1405
01:14:08,280 --> 01:14:12,080
Speaker 1: if you're in any situations in a relationship and you

1406
01:14:12,160 --> 01:14:14,560
Speaker 1: just don't have energy and it's just like sucking me

1407
01:14:14,600 --> 01:14:16,800
Speaker 1: a life force. It's probably time for you to de

1408
01:14:16,920 --> 01:14:20,240
Speaker 1: center that thing. Mm hmm, I mean right and focus next.

1409
01:14:21,680 --> 01:14:23,160
Speaker 2: I know it's some of y'all who listen to me

1410
01:14:23,240 --> 01:14:26,559
Speaker 2: right now, hungover right now because you drink too much.

1411
01:14:27,920 --> 01:14:29,800
Speaker 2: You know who I'm talking to. You heard me. I'm

1412
01:14:29,800 --> 01:14:32,519
Speaker 2: talking to you, girl, you drink too much? Cut back.

1413
01:14:33,800 --> 01:14:35,000
Speaker 2: I know it's a beach like girl.

1414
01:14:35,040 --> 01:14:39,880
Speaker 1: Hang up on that shit, not even a liquor weed,

1415
01:14:40,200 --> 01:14:41,760
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Because I feel like when

1416
01:14:41,800 --> 01:14:44,240
Speaker 1: you hide, like you really don't get the things done

1417
01:14:44,360 --> 01:14:46,920
Speaker 1: that you want to get done, Like you're literally sitting

1418
01:14:47,320 --> 01:14:50,640
Speaker 1: smoking and thinking about the things that you never execute

1419
01:14:50,640 --> 01:14:54,240
Speaker 1: because that shit makes you fucking lazy. Sometimes some people

1420
01:14:54,280 --> 01:14:56,400
Speaker 1: can be active on weed. I'm not one of them people.

1421
01:14:56,439 --> 01:14:57,960
Speaker 1: So that's just not going to ever be one of

1422
01:14:57,960 --> 01:15:01,160
Speaker 1: my damn vices, which I be struggling to get up

1423
01:15:01,200 --> 01:15:04,960
Speaker 1: and go regular, you know what I'm saying. So I

1424
01:15:05,000 --> 01:15:08,479
Speaker 1: can't add no extra substance to this, to this body

1425
01:15:08,520 --> 01:15:10,439
Speaker 1: to have me any more sluggish than I can be

1426
01:15:10,520 --> 01:15:11,360
Speaker 1: on something already.

1427
01:15:11,560 --> 01:15:14,960
Speaker 2: Right, Okay, So before we go, I just want to

1428
01:15:14,960 --> 01:15:19,280
Speaker 2: say that our producer just sent me a link, both

1429
01:15:19,280 --> 01:15:22,240
Speaker 2: of us a link saying that this goes back to

1430
01:15:22,280 --> 01:15:23,920
Speaker 2: her sins real quick. But I just feel like we

1431
01:15:23,920 --> 01:15:28,480
Speaker 2: should add it before we go. The Detroit rapper, the

1432
01:15:28,520 --> 01:15:34,599
Speaker 2: girl big dank m with the pretty face, she's suing

1433
01:15:34,680 --> 01:15:39,599
Speaker 2: Lyft right now. She's decided to sue Lift because I.

1434
01:15:39,520 --> 01:15:41,840
Speaker 1: Don't think she has a lawsuit. And any attorney who

1435
01:15:41,880 --> 01:15:44,400
Speaker 1: picked that up, he just about to take money from her, yeah,

1436
01:15:44,479 --> 01:15:47,520
Speaker 1: to represent her. Because these are these these are independent

1437
01:15:47,560 --> 01:15:50,840
Speaker 1: contractors who work for Lift, and and uh, these are

1438
01:15:50,880 --> 01:15:53,960
Speaker 1: their personal vehicles. Even the ones who have a car

1439
01:15:54,080 --> 01:15:56,439
Speaker 1: from the companies, they're still making the car payment. Those

1440
01:15:56,439 --> 01:15:59,679
Speaker 1: are their cars. And you can decline if I don't

1441
01:15:59,720 --> 01:16:01,639
Speaker 1: like how person looked like I look like he might

1442
01:16:01,640 --> 01:16:03,800
Speaker 1: be a serial kill and he's gonna kill me. I

1443
01:16:03,840 --> 01:16:06,160
Speaker 1: can decline that ride when I pull up, I.

1444
01:16:06,160 --> 01:16:11,160
Speaker 2: Can, right, But can you discriminate based upon.

1445
01:16:12,560 --> 01:16:17,840
Speaker 1: That wasn't discrimination? That was really it was really a risk.

1446
01:16:18,960 --> 01:16:21,840
Speaker 1: That wasn't I don't think it was discrimination because she's big.

1447
01:16:22,560 --> 01:16:27,920
Speaker 1: It was really about can this person ride in my car?

1448
01:16:28,000 --> 01:16:31,360
Speaker 1: For real? That wasn't discrimination. It was really about logistics.

1449
01:16:31,800 --> 01:16:34,519
Speaker 2: Well, we're gonna see, y'all, We're gonna revisit this and

1450
01:16:34,560 --> 01:16:37,000
Speaker 2: see if she win this case. Now they have a

1451
01:16:37,080 --> 01:16:40,920
Speaker 2: video of her walking through this hallway, and you might

1452
01:16:40,960 --> 01:16:42,880
Speaker 2: be right. She might be closer to six hundred pounds.

1453
01:16:42,960 --> 01:16:43,280
Speaker 2: She is.

1454
01:16:43,920 --> 01:16:45,719
Speaker 1: One of my sisters used to be like four hundred

1455
01:16:45,720 --> 01:16:48,400
Speaker 1: pounds and she was narrow, not nearly the size of

1456
01:16:48,439 --> 01:16:53,759
Speaker 1: that girl. So I have a visual like, yeah, she

1457
01:16:53,760 --> 01:16:56,679
Speaker 1: she needs to get gastric something something. She's not gonna

1458
01:16:56,680 --> 01:17:00,800
Speaker 1: live a long time. And people do. People do discriminate

1459
01:17:00,840 --> 01:17:03,840
Speaker 1: on bigger people. Jobs might discriminate on you. You know

1460
01:17:03,840 --> 01:17:05,360
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. You probably get like a call center

1461
01:17:05,400 --> 01:17:07,479
Speaker 1: job where you're sitting down all day long, that type

1462
01:17:07,520 --> 01:17:11,640
Speaker 1: of thing. But people do discriminate on bigger people. But

1463
01:17:11,760 --> 01:17:14,599
Speaker 1: I don't think this situation with the lyft driver was

1464
01:17:16,000 --> 01:17:18,840
Speaker 1: a situation where she was being discriminated on. It was

1465
01:17:18,920 --> 01:17:24,240
Speaker 1: really about logistics. He was concerned about busting attire. Yeah,

1466
01:17:24,280 --> 01:17:26,680
Speaker 1: and she does need a bigger vehicle. When we look

1467
01:17:26,720 --> 01:17:28,559
Speaker 1: at six hundred pound life, what they come pick them

1468
01:17:28,560 --> 01:17:31,280
Speaker 1: people up in. They be coming to get having forklifts

1469
01:17:31,280 --> 01:17:34,040
Speaker 1: and all type of shit. Yeah, if somebody dies in

1470
01:17:34,080 --> 01:17:36,000
Speaker 1: a home or if somebody needs to get moved and

1471
01:17:36,040 --> 01:17:40,679
Speaker 1: they can't move themselves. She is borderline right now. Yes,

1472
01:17:40,880 --> 01:17:41,680
Speaker 1: bad situation.

1473
01:17:42,400 --> 01:17:45,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think she really needs to instead of

1474
01:17:45,040 --> 01:17:48,599
Speaker 2: focusing on this, focusing on how she can get healthy.

1475
01:17:48,960 --> 01:17:52,240
Speaker 2: She is a very very big girl. In your body.

1476
01:17:52,320 --> 01:17:56,519
Speaker 2: Your heart, legs can't take that, can't handle all of that.

1477
01:17:56,840 --> 01:17:59,120
Speaker 2: But does need to hear No, Dad, I just got

1478
01:17:59,160 --> 01:18:01,160
Speaker 2: that in there. I just want to add that, y'all

1479
01:18:01,360 --> 01:18:03,080
Speaker 2: before we get up out here. We've been talking an

1480
01:18:03,080 --> 01:18:06,080
Speaker 2: hour and twenty minutes. Me and AJ could literally get

1481
01:18:06,080 --> 01:18:08,800
Speaker 2: on here and do a marathon conversation and it never

1482
01:18:08,840 --> 01:18:10,080
Speaker 2: get dub This is why we.

1483
01:18:10,000 --> 01:18:11,840
Speaker 1: Don't talk of the phone that much. No more, bitch,

1484
01:18:11,880 --> 01:18:14,240
Speaker 1: because we'd be having to save content for one It's

1485
01:18:14,320 --> 01:18:16,080
Speaker 1: like it just get to be too much talking. Like

1486
01:18:16,320 --> 01:18:18,160
Speaker 1: by the time me and Tamy done talk thirty minutes,

1487
01:18:18,160 --> 01:18:19,479
Speaker 1: were like, bitch, you could have just recorded.

1488
01:18:19,760 --> 01:18:22,080
Speaker 2: Yes, it could have been an episode at this point and.

1489
01:18:22,200 --> 01:18:24,800
Speaker 1: Maybe guys, we'll start doing if we want to call

1490
01:18:24,840 --> 01:18:27,479
Speaker 1: each other on the phone, we need to be on here.

1491
01:18:27,640 --> 01:18:28,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what we're gonna do.

1492
01:18:28,800 --> 01:18:29,879
Speaker 1: That's the bonus episode.

1493
01:18:30,080 --> 01:18:32,519
Speaker 2: That's gonna be our bonus episodes because we got a

1494
01:18:32,520 --> 01:18:34,120
Speaker 2: lot to say, but I don't be.

1495
01:18:34,240 --> 01:18:37,200
Speaker 1: I feel like I be monitored, not monitored, censored, you

1496
01:18:37,240 --> 01:18:39,080
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, you gotta you do have

1497
01:18:39,120 --> 01:18:40,960
Speaker 1: to censor yourself a little bit when you speak it

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Speaker 1: to the public.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean something mose.

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Speaker 1: I might not say on here Patreon.

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Speaker 2: I ain't even saying some of that shit on there

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Speaker 2: so much.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't.

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Speaker 2: My thoughts belong to me. And that's it, you know.

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Speaker 2: And that way? All right, girl, close us oute of

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Speaker 2: this motherfucker.

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Speaker 1: All Right, y'all, let's if you enjoyed this episode, y'all

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Speaker 2: love y'all. So we have decentered men this week, but

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Speaker 2: for Valentine's Day, we're gonna recent it a ass because

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Speaker 2: it's valatized and we're gonna do something funny for y'all.

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Speaker 2: So y'all, just, you know, continue to listen, and we

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Speaker 2: appreciate y'all for tuning in weekly. We love y'all as

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Speaker 2: to speak.

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Speaker 1: Now and never hold them dicks like let them digs go. Girl,

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Speaker 1: put yourself first.

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Speaker 2: Think.

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