WEBVTT - Ep 202: The Breakup Guide

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<v Speaker 1>Guess what decision we're about to make A horrible decisions. Hi, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to another episode of horrible decisions. Apparently I faked

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<v Speaker 1>my accents, so I wanted to you know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I got a tweet that said they

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<v Speaker 1>think I faked my ex and bitch, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what that means. Look, yeah, you see, I just switched

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<v Speaker 1>it up. This is me plus as So anyway, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to another episode. It's your girl. May to be

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<v Speaker 1>a kad bitch, a k A Pitt, the one that

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<v Speaker 1>has known Mandy for amost fifteen years. She is absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>that cut fuck. You know. But I really have sounded

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<v Speaker 1>and talked like I've been me since since I've been me,

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<v Speaker 1>since I came out the goddamn well. I think sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you when you're like having fun, maybe you like it

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<v Speaker 1>comes at me too, But I don't know. It's weird,

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<v Speaker 1>like when I don't like that you also just said

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<v Speaker 1>that something comes out. No, no, I'm saying you get

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<v Speaker 1>more hyped. Hear my voice gets louder. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>you get more hood the more like you get. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>let you get lit. First off, I will for one,

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<v Speaker 1>say that I don't. I don't like the adjectives of

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<v Speaker 1>hood and ghetto being used in reference to how I speak.

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<v Speaker 1>I will say there right, just say am bu jetto

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<v Speaker 1>or something? But wait, I'm so to me, I am

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<v Speaker 1>bu jetto. You see I got heels on today. I

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<v Speaker 1>also figured y'all, since y'all photos of y'all who watch

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<v Speaker 1>on the YouTube, we'll be coming in here, bitch sweats

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<v Speaker 1>and graphic teas. And I'm like, this is a sex

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<v Speaker 1>pas Can we give sweat and graphic seas? What a bit?

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<v Speaker 1>Which we? We? You know? I said we? You are

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<v Speaker 1>the one that looks more gay, and I just will not.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not like this fucking mike my hand, yeah, not

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<v Speaker 1>touched because guess what audio picks up. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you know you've only been potting for four years.

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<v Speaker 1>We can hear that. The listener can hear you brambling

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<v Speaker 1>with a god damn. I mean like it's like a

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<v Speaker 1>hard bitch, because really, if we want to talk about it,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do an animal press shoes? You got

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<v Speaker 1>going trying to me? I am spicy spicy show had

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<v Speaker 1>me come in here and just be a normal person

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<v Speaker 1>like I've been doing for four years. Normally I'm at

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<v Speaker 1>the last few episodes. Nothing about you, nothing about you

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<v Speaker 1>as normal anyway, I can't stand man. You ready, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>just say, y'all, welcome to another show. For those of

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<v Speaker 1>you who have not listened to this show before, because

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<v Speaker 1>you got a problem. They you have a problem, you, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I was always supposed to be about sex, not therapy.

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<v Speaker 1>We had that episode a long time ago, and maybe

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<v Speaker 1>she should come back anyway. Anyway, I guess we'll start.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's do a catchup. It's just us. Uh no, Mustard,

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<v Speaker 1>what see that? I know? I was like, that was God. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't God. He was like, she'd be tripping. Let

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<v Speaker 1>me get her. You're done. You're don't know. I'm trying

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<v Speaker 1>to cross my legs and the problem is no, the

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<v Speaker 1>problem is a bitch been working out and the way

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<v Speaker 1>my thighs are burning right now, I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>how I'm doing this. I dim sure don't go right

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<v Speaker 1>No did tonight, But this right here hurts because I've

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<v Speaker 1>been using like the elastic man's I mean that was shade.

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<v Speaker 1>He did you? No, no no, not, everyone knows you get

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<v Speaker 1>over the feeling. They could tell these sides. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>be working out, dick, but I am back in the gym.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like people saying, like visually like, oh, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't work out because you look like, yeah, that's what

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<v Speaker 1>people assume when they don't see you as thin. Period.

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<v Speaker 1>I hear you. I just like, I'm a I know

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<v Speaker 1>that lets me be like I'm healthy, I'm healthy and

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<v Speaker 1>I run circles around you. Well, no, I just have

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<v Speaker 1>to have that conversation with a Twitter person because they

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<v Speaker 1>were like, yeah, well they considered me trying to get

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<v Speaker 1>to a healthy way. I said, nig ain't nothing wrong

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<v Speaker 1>with my blood pressure or cholesterol or anything else, and

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<v Speaker 1>so yeah, like you're just seen as unhealthy if you're

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<v Speaker 1>not thin. So I don't that's why. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>made the joke. But yeah, I'm in the gym now.

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<v Speaker 1>But I could very well be in the gym and

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<v Speaker 1>still have this body and just tone up and people

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<v Speaker 1>still gonna view me as unhealthy. It's weird because, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, healthy way is an interesting one and

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I feel like it doesn't prescribe to

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<v Speaker 1>someone that's your size. Like I watch a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>like my six hundred pound life, and there's like I

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<v Speaker 1>understand that you don't get it because you've always been small.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no no, no, I'm telling when people say healthy weight

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<v Speaker 1>for a side always pounds and people still fat shaming me. Bro,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't read the YouTube comments and mind you. My

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<v Speaker 1>other show is also very visual where I sit in

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<v Speaker 1>a chair like this, I'm getting fat shamed after losing

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<v Speaker 1>eighty pounds because I'm still not thin. I'm probably never

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<v Speaker 1>going to be. Then. I'm also five ft one, so

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<v Speaker 1>my weight if I gained five pounds, it may look

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<v Speaker 1>like I gained twelve because I'm five ft one. So no,

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<v Speaker 1>I get what you're saying, but not people are calling

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<v Speaker 1>me unhealthy and big bitch. I'm between I go between

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<v Speaker 1>one five and one six and that I'm saying like

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like when people that know knew you from

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<v Speaker 1>back in the day, or they'll see a picture I

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<v Speaker 1>catch up with someone like damn, Mandy got skinniest fun

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm mad, right the people that know me as

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<v Speaker 1>two hundred and thirty pound Mandy. Yes, and so yeah

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<v Speaker 1>the fact like again, I'm just like Damn, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>win for losing because when I was at my smallest,

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<v Speaker 1>which was like one fifty. I got down to one fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>People were telling me I look sick. What made you

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<v Speaker 1>want to start um? Just because my partner now, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be taking sea moss pills. I felt like, baby,

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't healthy. That's why I called the COVID so bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be like just being healthy. I got Elderberry ship

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<v Speaker 1>in my house. I ain't never heard of none of

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<v Speaker 1>that ship. He got me taking a little o regular

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<v Speaker 1>oil drops onto my tongue. Yeah, a bitch is like

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<v Speaker 1>just amping her immune system, especially being that I did.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that. I was like, bitch, I'm gonna survive

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<v Speaker 1>when the world ends. So I think COVID, well, even

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<v Speaker 1>though people are ain't symtematic like it does is lower

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<v Speaker 1>your I read about that. I don't know if it's real,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, so, I mean the part of working out

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<v Speaker 1>in the gym. Uh me and my nigga been going

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<v Speaker 1>hiking and I can't some days I can't keep up

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<v Speaker 1>with him in bed, and I'd be embarrassed because he

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<v Speaker 1>got me by seventeen years bitch, And I'm like, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>you know I'm not going to the gym for the

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<v Speaker 1>YouTube prime at your assho it's for day. It's for day,

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<v Speaker 1>Like most of this ship I do and like you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, do it for dick, babe. If

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<v Speaker 1>you do it for nothing else, I don't blame you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And so legs shaking, bitch, I'm gonna just sit like

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<v Speaker 1>a nig baby can get this? They on her feet,

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<v Speaker 1>just put the I don't know y'all gonna get this

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<v Speaker 1>crotch because the way you wanna put you you wanna

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<v Speaker 1>you want to pause and put sweats on? No what?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, I'm a fucking foot stul that's baby. Come on.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyway, Um, Mandy's feet are very very like close

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<v Speaker 1>to my face and this is free interesting. Don't do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go anyway. What's the catch up? What you've been

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<v Speaker 1>up to? Him? So I'm gonna get comfortable. Our show

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<v Speaker 1>comes out on Monday. I can't talk about it yet,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm super excited. I have something announcing on Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know the date, but um, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I finally got to tell Mandy, and I was so

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<v Speaker 1>excited about telling you. I guess this is like pretty stupid.

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<v Speaker 1>I got the announcement, but Toody announced me. But I

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<v Speaker 1>just and It's funny because I've been wanting to tell

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<v Speaker 1>Mandy for so long, but you know when he wants

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<v Speaker 1>something to be perfect. Oh, I just thought because we

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<v Speaker 1>ain't been good, no, I wanted to support. I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>you to like see it with your own eyes. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, she's gonna be so excited just like see

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<v Speaker 1>this and every time, you know, other little ship will

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<v Speaker 1>go wrong and be like day, I won't want to

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<v Speaker 1>tell Mandy because we've been having funk ups, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and I guess you guys will figure it off. Yeah, like, damn,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought we was doing good. Another argument, God damn. Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually meant like, oh, no, I was talking about us. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, but this is actually I'm okay. It's well,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't you know what's funny? Like who was it? Was? It?

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<v Speaker 1>Kila talked to someone and they were like, how are

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<v Speaker 1>you Mandy? But you know, like it's interesting because the

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<v Speaker 1>more I don't know, we do this podcast and like

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<v Speaker 1>even though like we still argue and those things happen.

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<v Speaker 1>I always laugh when people say we're gonna break up

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<v Speaker 1>because I'd be like, nigga, you know what we've been through.

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<v Speaker 1>You think this little tension you heard like one week

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<v Speaker 1>that that was gonna do. Niggas don't know. Niggas don't

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<v Speaker 1>know at all, But anyway, let's stay on a good track. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm working really hard and um bitch paint and doing Ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been on the ladder and ship my nails. Everything

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<v Speaker 1>looks fucking crazy and I can't wait till it's finally done.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm super excited. And yeah, um also, y'all know, I

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<v Speaker 1>have a show coming with Fuse and um my filming

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<v Speaker 1>got pushed to COVID, But that doesn't necessarily mean that

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't come out at the same time, which is

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<v Speaker 1>kind of scary because that basically means you just gotta

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<v Speaker 1>hurried up all you about to be on that Tyler

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<v Speaker 1>parent schedule that's gonna not got a whole season in

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<v Speaker 1>two weeks. Actually, yes, that nigga said we're gonna do

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<v Speaker 1>February fourteen to eight. That was like, okay, because it's

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to be eight episode plus the outtake plus to

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<v Speaker 1>read yep, two weeks. So I don't know if it's

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<v Speaker 1>coffee or cocaine I'll do, but I am going to

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<v Speaker 1>make sure I get this ship done anyway, That's right,

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<v Speaker 1>it's stressful, but I think sometimes being busy is like

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<v Speaker 1>a little fun because you forget, like you know the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of your life is falling apart and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes it's fine. I think that that's why I really

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<v Speaker 1>like being busy. Like to me, when I am not busy,

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<v Speaker 1>then I think about too much ship, and then my

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<v Speaker 1>mind just be going. I have my anxiety is already bad,

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<v Speaker 1>but apparently it's to leave her thing to overthink. Y'all know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't well, they say it, I don't mind is

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<v Speaker 1>the devil's workshop, and baby, that ship is true as

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<v Speaker 1>it is being especially when you're going through it. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, please, well right now, give me a reo excute. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I know you're you have an announcement for what you've

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<v Speaker 1>been working on with your project, but I've shared with

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<v Speaker 1>y'all too, like a bitch is like about to drop

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<v Speaker 1>her own products. So I literally like I had to

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<v Speaker 1>have a woo saw moment on my on my conference

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<v Speaker 1>call this morning and at it because even talking about

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<v Speaker 1>the numbers, the money we have to raise, the money

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<v Speaker 1>that's going out, I'm just like, to be real, this

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<v Speaker 1>is all a lot of money to me, Like we're

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<v Speaker 1>doing like possibly fifty. You hate when people act like

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<v Speaker 1>the money that they're talking about with you isn't that

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<v Speaker 1>big of a deal, Like, well, well the I is

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be like it's like, well it's like like eight thousand,

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<v Speaker 1>Well well yeah, and right now it's fifty. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just like, you have to understand, I don't come from

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<v Speaker 1>a family. And I'm telling this to my partner. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't come from a family of entrepreneurship. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>come from a family with money like you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>grew up. I talked food stamp, section eight um, all

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<v Speaker 1>of that. And so in terms of what a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of money is, this last year, I've seen the most

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<v Speaker 1>money that anyone in my family essentially has ever seen,

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<v Speaker 1>like and so it is like, I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>As an entrepreneur, seeing these numbers is just like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is this is what I'm dealing with. This is

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<v Speaker 1>what I have going out. This is like even my

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<v Speaker 1>credit card bill, I had to ask my accounting like,

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<v Speaker 1>is this right? There's my delta? Miles said, I spent

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<v Speaker 1>forty thousand on my car last year. Who's who's spending

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<v Speaker 1>forty thousand? I remember when I didn't even see half

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<v Speaker 1>of that as a salary in a year. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta look at if you only get them one

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<v Speaker 1>to per sent it back. Whatever the funk that ship is,

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<v Speaker 1>you know crazy. The entrepreneurial ship is interesting because, like

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<v Speaker 1>I've said to you all the time, like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>care if I gotta go back to the nine five, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I would never like. The reason being is like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't I feel like Twitter and like niggas have really

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<v Speaker 1>made me think like this is the only way to go,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't ever want to feel like if I

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<v Speaker 1>don't make it as an entrepreneur, I won't make it

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<v Speaker 1>like it's something bitch I'm not. I'll go back to

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<v Speaker 1>sucking dick and my my price is gonna be real high.

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<v Speaker 1>After nine five wasn't bad. But you know what though,

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<v Speaker 1>we had two different nine of five. So if you

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<v Speaker 1>guys have never listened to us before or you've forgotten,

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<v Speaker 1>you need a reminder. Mandy was an accountant, so she

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<v Speaker 1>was like it was a tax accountant who sometimes had

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<v Speaker 1>to be in the office during season. That would be

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<v Speaker 1>nine fifteen deadline, ten fifteen deadline. Because I did taxes

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<v Speaker 1>for hedge funds and private equity funds and in investment banks,

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<v Speaker 1>and so my work weeks I cried at work. I

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<v Speaker 1>literally cried at work. I would work seventy eight hour weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>I would let her know we need to record some

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<v Speaker 1>more episodes because I literally be able to leave the

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<v Speaker 1>office when my When my first quarter review came around,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't get good stars because I was leaving telling

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<v Speaker 1>them I had a doctor's appointment. Every time we had

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<v Speaker 1>to do the studio, we did brilliant idiots, well while

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<v Speaker 1>I'll beyond this week And during break during the London

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<v Speaker 1>bro oh no, I ended up switching in in Adida's out.

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<v Speaker 1>But literally I would cry at work. And again it

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<v Speaker 1>was salary. They thought they was doing something because if

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<v Speaker 1>I stayed past seven they ordered me dinner. Whoopie do

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<v Speaker 1>they gave me a car when I left the office

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<v Speaker 1>at two am and still had to be back at

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<v Speaker 1>nine am the next morning. That was And honestly I

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<v Speaker 1>was doing and I was a public account and shout

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<v Speaker 1>out to my public accountants at the Big four's, I

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<v Speaker 1>was miserable and on a sleep that I will never

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<v Speaker 1>do it again. I'm sorry, No, I'm gonna stick and

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<v Speaker 1>lay on my back and give it to you, baby,

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<v Speaker 1>and you don't even have to give it up because bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>I might just be able to lay on my back.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like a plastic dick on the only fans you

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<v Speaker 1>and listen, entrepreneur, it's not so feel me. You guys

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<v Speaker 1>may know. I used to work in tech. More specifically,

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<v Speaker 1>we could say tech sales, tech engineering, because I was

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<v Speaker 1>at the first start of the show, I was working

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<v Speaker 1>in telecommunications, um, selling like tracking devices for GPS, anything

0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:34.239
<v Speaker 1>with a SIM card, I'd sell it. If a billboard

0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:36.360
<v Speaker 1>that you're looking at was digital, if the cab had

0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:38.439
<v Speaker 1>shipped going on, like and you wonder how it has WiFi,

0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:40.520
<v Speaker 1>there's a chip in there, like that's a cell phone,

0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:42.640
<v Speaker 1>and I was selling that ship. And really why my

0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:46.080
<v Speaker 1>job was not hard but easy about hard but easy

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<v Speaker 1>is because when I needed time, I would just go

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<v Speaker 1>on an appointment. Yeah, I had a luxury, so that

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<v Speaker 1>was fun. And then, um, towards the latter part, when

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<v Speaker 1>I got a new role, which is really what was

0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:57.920
<v Speaker 1>making me feel like, oh my god, this is terrible.

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<v Speaker 1>I made like another I made way more bread, but

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<v Speaker 1>it was I was miserable. I was installing Ethernet street cuts,

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<v Speaker 1>figuring out how much it was, Like I never I think.

0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:09.439
<v Speaker 1>I would always tell you was like to close the

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<v Speaker 1>street down for like six hours, like who would think?

0:14:11.960 --> 0:14:14.520
<v Speaker 1>But ship like that disaster recovery software a w S,

0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:17.800
<v Speaker 1>which is Amazon Web Services. Anyway, Basically I was doing

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<v Speaker 1>tech stuff and I always felt really excited about being

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<v Speaker 1>a woman in that field, and that already made me

0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:26.960
<v Speaker 1>feel good like I was doing something different and now

0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:29.240
<v Speaker 1>in this new place in life doing entrepreneurial ship, like

0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:31.720
<v Speaker 1>our podcast was one thing, but your new ship with

0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:34.200
<v Speaker 1>your box is something different. Me doing this, this is

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<v Speaker 1>actual investing. See our podcast, it was a little bit

0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:40.400
<v Speaker 1>smaller investments. It was like studio equipment closed our first tour,

0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:42.600
<v Speaker 1>though we did put bread in there, you know, like

0:14:42.640 --> 0:14:44.400
<v Speaker 1>we we funded all those venues you all went to.

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<v Speaker 1>But um that was reflex um everyone that showed up

0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:51.920
<v Speaker 1>to all the sold ol shows. But anyway, um nah,

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<v Speaker 1>this time it's like you said, fifty racks winded out already,

0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:57.880
<v Speaker 1>likes you gotta really and when you want to make

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<v Speaker 1>something good. And the thing with I'm doing now, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we've been to a lot of them in summer, shitty

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<v Speaker 1>summer not And I was like I wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>the best, and it's black own. It has to be

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<v Speaker 1>the best. The new place that y'all will figure about

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<v Speaker 1>tomorrow or if you're listening tomorrow, it's in Soho. And

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<v Speaker 1>I remember talking to my partner and they were like, nah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Brooklyn's gonna be cheaper and or this is

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be cheaper. And I was like, I want fucking Soho.

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<v Speaker 1>And I wanted to be the only black one, and

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<v Speaker 1>I want when I get my fucking article about the ship,

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<v Speaker 1>I want niggas to know. And when we fucking moved

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<v Speaker 1>into that building, I said, actual, don't you know a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of black people are gonna come here, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want that to be an issue because its gonna

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of niggas And like they were laughing and

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<v Speaker 1>they were like, yo, like no, like this is so Ho.

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<v Speaker 1>We got designer show. Yeah, but niggas. I did, though.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to get into our same as because we

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<v Speaker 1>got a lot to talk about and I'm excited about

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<v Speaker 1>this episode or whatever. Um do you wanna rock out

0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:47.720
<v Speaker 1>with our Vanilla Ships? So for those of you guys

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<v Speaker 1>listening for the first time, our Vanilla Ships segment is

0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:56.800
<v Speaker 1>like sex Ship in the news. Yeah, so I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to say, by the way, I only picked the subject

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<v Speaker 1>for this week's episode, Breakup Guide, because I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>everybody goes through a break up at some point, and

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<v Speaker 1>this is really fun. And if you may get depressed,

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<v Speaker 1>even though we're gonna tell you how to break up

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<v Speaker 1>with someone, how to get over a breakup and all

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<v Speaker 1>of that, this week we need a little fun. And

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<v Speaker 1>what more fun in an article that's listed with the

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<v Speaker 1>headline your cock is mine? Now. This is from Vice.

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<v Speaker 1>A hacker locked into an Internet connected chastity cage and

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<v Speaker 1>demanded ransom. Now, a few things I want to say

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<v Speaker 1>really quick. If you don't know what a chastity cage is.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a chastity belt, which we've learned about in historical times.

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<v Speaker 1>Normally there for women, right, you'd have to wear them

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<v Speaker 1>and unlock it when you like lost your virginity or

0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:39.560
<v Speaker 1>were able to lose your virginity, but they're supposed to

0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:42.240
<v Speaker 1>ubstain you from sex. A chastity cage is part of

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<v Speaker 1>the humiliated humiliation fetish right in d S m Um

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<v Speaker 1>and yeah, so I guess they have one that's bluetooth.

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<v Speaker 1>But here's what I love. So normally when I've heard

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<v Speaker 1>about like hackers demanding ransom and some sex shit, it's

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<v Speaker 1>an email that's like, I'm in your webcam, I saw

0:16:57.200 --> 0:17:00.000
<v Speaker 1>you jerk off. Send me this money. I'm gonna write. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>this one was literally physical. A hacker took control of

0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:06.280
<v Speaker 1>people's Internet connected chastity cage and said your cock is

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<v Speaker 1>mine out. According to one of the victims. For a

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<v Speaker 1>screenshot from the conversation, uh so does the article say

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<v Speaker 1>how many people were victims? Because many niggas out here

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<v Speaker 1>got dicks in WiFi chastity case at the moment they hacked. So.

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<v Speaker 1>In October last year, security researchers found that the manufacturer

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<v Speaker 1>of an Internet of Things chastity cage, a sex story

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<v Speaker 1>that puts users um that users put around their penis

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<v Speaker 1>to prevent erections, is used in b D s M

0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:36.120
<v Speaker 1>and can be unlocked remotely, had left an API exposed,

0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:41.000
<v Speaker 1>giving giving malicious hackers a chance to take control. That's

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<v Speaker 1>exactly what happened, according to a security researcher who abstained

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<v Speaker 1>the strange train shots. A victim who asked to be

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<v Speaker 1>identified only as Robert, said that he received a message

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<v Speaker 1>from a hacker. Hacker I'm sorry, I got my teaser.

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<v Speaker 1>It don't matter. I'm sitting here talking through goddamn and visilized.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna need you to get your words again. I

0:18:03.680 --> 0:18:06.119
<v Speaker 1>did get montegoed in, but it's definitely not affecting my speech.

0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:09.399
<v Speaker 1>I wanted an excuse. Okay, I'm just like really concentrating

0:18:09.440 --> 0:18:11.000
<v Speaker 1>too hard. I feel like everybody's looking at me. We

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<v Speaker 1>got two lights, Like there's not We're not the only

0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:15.760
<v Speaker 1>people in here. I just really don't like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like reading out but I read books not to people

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<v Speaker 1>like I can like improve on my own, but I

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<v Speaker 1>just can't, like this is a script. I don't god, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>The hacker demanded a payment of point oh to bitcoin

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<v Speaker 1>around seven fifty bucks. In this moment to unlock the device,

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<v Speaker 1>he realized his cage was definitely locked and he could

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<v Speaker 1>not gain access. Fortunately, I didn't have this locked locked

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<v Speaker 1>on myself when it happened, and so the owner of

0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:46.920
<v Speaker 1>the cage basically had no control anymore. And he's like,

0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:50.280
<v Speaker 1>I couldn't open it, I couldn't do anything. Um, but yeah, basically,

0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:53.520
<v Speaker 1>these hackers show you that anything connected to the Internet,

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<v Speaker 1>like you're fucked. Well, hey, guys, Um, if you are

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<v Speaker 1>indeed a hacker who listens to horrible decisions, I need

0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:02.879
<v Speaker 1>you to spend your time on Sally May bitch like

0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:06.439
<v Speaker 1>they just be hacking the wrong ship. Bitch. It started

0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:08.280
<v Speaker 1>at forty thod. I don't know how that ship up,

0:19:09.320 --> 0:19:12.720
<v Speaker 1>but your s girl, they ain't ever gonna get it,

0:19:12.720 --> 0:19:15.000
<v Speaker 1>ain't it ain't never gonna fall off in seven years. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it's that not with Sally Maybeitch everything else, but goddamn

0:19:18.280 --> 0:19:22.680
<v Speaker 1>student loans. So yeah, like, yeah, you know, so I

0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:24.520
<v Speaker 1>need you want to hack the right ship. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>reading things which I think is really mean, people who like,

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about student loans being wiped out with the

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<v Speaker 1>new Oh damn, it's this week. Damn if the world

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<v Speaker 1>let's knock on fucking would my nigga let me talk

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<v Speaker 1>to my accounting because your student loans only gets wiped

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<v Speaker 1>out if you make below a certain amount of money too,

0:19:44.760 --> 0:19:46.920
<v Speaker 1>we need to make they were I saw like people

0:19:46.920 --> 0:19:50.200
<v Speaker 1>tweeting like, oh why would they wipe out um student

0:19:50.240 --> 0:19:52.200
<v Speaker 1>loan debt when I had to pay mine? It's like, dude,

0:19:52.280 --> 0:19:54.960
<v Speaker 1>like times changed, like civil rights, Arab nigga, you think

0:19:55.000 --> 0:19:57.920
<v Speaker 1>people like hey, y'all letting them niggas out of jail smokedweed.

0:19:57.960 --> 0:20:00.800
<v Speaker 1>I was like, Yo, don't you want to see things change?

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<v Speaker 1>It's fucking done. Like I could see being a little salty,

0:20:04.960 --> 0:20:06.760
<v Speaker 1>but to the point where you're like, don't do it.

0:20:06.840 --> 0:20:10.160
<v Speaker 1>Don't I paid mine off. It's not fair student education

0:20:10.400 --> 0:20:13.120
<v Speaker 1>in America. It's it's so wild that it's a business

0:20:13.119 --> 0:20:15.480
<v Speaker 1>and not a privilege. And like when you just think

0:20:15.560 --> 0:20:18.680
<v Speaker 1>of other people in the world that are smarter than Americans,

0:20:18.800 --> 0:20:21.320
<v Speaker 1>and we wonder, like, oh my god, there's so much

0:20:21.320 --> 0:20:23.680
<v Speaker 1>more articulate, like Americans are just um No, it's because

0:20:23.720 --> 0:20:25.919
<v Speaker 1>maybe they didn't have to fucking pay their way like us.

0:20:26.040 --> 0:20:29.679
<v Speaker 1>Like ship, it was crazy. I had it free, but

0:20:29.760 --> 0:20:31.760
<v Speaker 1>I took out financial aid because I was living in

0:20:31.800 --> 0:20:33.840
<v Speaker 1>New York City, like and I couldn't work and take

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<v Speaker 1>seven classes a semester like I was doing. So like

0:20:37.119 --> 0:20:39.359
<v Speaker 1>how how awesome am I going to pay my bills?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I was sucking a little dick too, But

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<v Speaker 1>like Sally, good for you, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Good for you, sister, I hate you. Stop are you

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<v Speaker 1>doing with the chastities? Yeah? So black sexcellence. I love

0:20:53.640 --> 0:20:56.960
<v Speaker 1>the nelance time. So this is our segment, guys, but

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<v Speaker 1>we are going to educate you. Um. I know we

0:20:59.760 --> 0:21:01.720
<v Speaker 1>talked a lot about sex, but we do like to

0:21:01.720 --> 0:21:05.840
<v Speaker 1>be educational over here at the horrible decisions. Uh network um,

0:21:08.480 --> 0:21:12.359
<v Speaker 1>shout out black effect um. But basically this is a network.

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<v Speaker 1>Who else is on this whole? Just hilarious? So she

0:21:15.440 --> 0:21:19.440
<v Speaker 1>was working with a merry Man? Wasn't she with Mary

0:21:19.480 --> 0:21:24.320
<v Speaker 1>Man two sister? Anyway? Our Black s excellence for this

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<v Speaker 1>week is James Baldwin. A lot of you guys may

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<v Speaker 1>know because he is one of the very few that

0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:33.440
<v Speaker 1>we get to learn during Black History Pictures of James

0:21:33.440 --> 0:21:36.359
<v Speaker 1>and My House. Yeah. So. James Baldwin is a writer

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<v Speaker 1>in social critic who is perhaps best known for his

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen fifty five collection of essays, Notes of a Native

0:21:43.440 --> 0:21:48.600
<v Speaker 1>Son and his groundbreaking nineteen fifty six novel Giovanni's Room, which, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>what about Marvin's Room? That's you? Maybe that's where got

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<v Speaker 1>it from? Maybe alright, Drake, I see you, which depicts

0:21:54.520 --> 0:21:57.000
<v Speaker 1>themes of almost no, never mind, this is not what

0:21:57.119 --> 0:21:59.359
<v Speaker 1>Drake meant with Marvin's Room. We don't know that because

0:21:59.520 --> 0:22:02.440
<v Speaker 1>giovan needs room. Did you know what they say about sexuality?

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<v Speaker 1>And bisexuality. The novels stood out among literary critics because

0:22:07.200 --> 0:22:11.120
<v Speaker 1>it features all white characters, unlike the civil rights activists

0:22:11.160 --> 0:22:14.240
<v Speaker 1>other novels, which centered the experience of black people. I'm

0:22:14.280 --> 0:22:16.520
<v Speaker 1>mad that he had to involve white people, but okay,

0:22:16.720 --> 0:22:19.639
<v Speaker 1>Baldwin's been a majority of his literary and activist career

0:22:19.760 --> 0:22:22.680
<v Speaker 1>educating others about black and queer identity, as he did

0:22:22.760 --> 0:22:25.640
<v Speaker 1>during his famous lecture titled Race, Racism and the Gay

0:22:25.680 --> 0:22:28.440
<v Speaker 1>Community at a meeting of the New York Chapter of

0:22:28.520 --> 0:22:31.560
<v Speaker 1>Black and White Men Together known as Men of All

0:22:31.600 --> 0:22:35.240
<v Speaker 1>Colors Together. So he was all lives matter, tyger. He

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't just keep it blake. I'm gonna be honest with you,

0:22:37.720 --> 0:22:39.639
<v Speaker 1>James Baldwin is pretty black and people black. Why he

0:22:39.640 --> 0:22:42.600
<v Speaker 1>had involved white people? I don't know if they I'm

0:22:42.640 --> 0:22:45.000
<v Speaker 1>asking you, you you why he had involved white and

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<v Speaker 1>he from back in the day. Maybe he had to

0:22:46.920 --> 0:22:51.639
<v Speaker 1>at the time, like right, but I mean, he, James,

0:22:51.640 --> 0:22:55.119
<v Speaker 1>you better had been forcing. Why the crackers had to

0:22:55.119 --> 0:22:58.879
<v Speaker 1>be involved? I don't I just want to know. But

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<v Speaker 1>what I know is James is great. He's revolutionary, he's

0:23:01.560 --> 0:23:04.399
<v Speaker 1>a black as um. He's got some amazing like like

0:23:04.400 --> 0:23:06.760
<v Speaker 1>you ever looked up James Baldwin like interview clips, like

0:23:06.800 --> 0:23:09.000
<v Speaker 1>just the way he be reading motherfucker's in interviews, but

0:23:09.440 --> 0:23:13.360
<v Speaker 1>um no, he's dope as funk. I really liked this segment. Um.

0:23:13.400 --> 0:23:15.280
<v Speaker 1>I really cannot wait until the days where we can

0:23:15.320 --> 0:23:17.920
<v Speaker 1>start incorporating you know, a Heather Hunter into this people

0:23:17.920 --> 0:23:20.200
<v Speaker 1>like of that. You know, you know what I'm talking about.

0:23:20.760 --> 0:23:25.119
<v Speaker 1>The points start that's gonna be your job. So you

0:23:25.160 --> 0:23:28.800
<v Speaker 1>guys are gonna get black sexcellence modern era from Wheezy,

0:23:28.880 --> 0:23:31.000
<v Speaker 1>and I'm going to continue giving y'all. I'm gonna make

0:23:31.000 --> 0:23:33.680
<v Speaker 1>myself one once I'm on a dick stuck is free

0:23:33.760 --> 0:23:41.000
<v Speaker 1>or something. You know what I'm saying is okay? Anyway, Well,

0:23:41.680 --> 0:23:44.320
<v Speaker 1>our whole facts for this week are just what they

0:23:44.440 --> 0:23:47.360
<v Speaker 1>what they sound like facts from hose Better Us um

0:23:47.400 --> 0:23:50.560
<v Speaker 1>this one. So we normally do something like sex whole facts,

0:23:50.560 --> 0:23:53.440
<v Speaker 1>but I really wanted to talk about breakup facts because

0:23:54.200 --> 0:23:57.960
<v Speaker 1>that episode is about you know, So this one I

0:23:57.960 --> 0:24:01.320
<v Speaker 1>thought was fucking hilarious because Monday's are my favorite is

0:24:01.320 --> 0:24:04.280
<v Speaker 1>on one of our shirts, and most breakups are announced

0:24:04.320 --> 0:24:08.720
<v Speaker 1>on Mondays and Somebody's weak. They happened right before spring

0:24:08.760 --> 0:24:12.919
<v Speaker 1>break because nigga's ship and very few breakups. The cur

0:24:13.040 --> 0:24:16.160
<v Speaker 1>on Christmas, Well that's isn't that lovely? Now? Zoe Kravitz,

0:24:16.200 --> 0:24:19.119
<v Speaker 1>the queen that she is literally my fucking hair and

0:24:19.119 --> 0:24:23.040
<v Speaker 1>broke up with her nigga on his birthday, had her homegirl,

0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:26.560
<v Speaker 1>her sisters had sent divorce. But it had to write

0:24:26.600 --> 0:24:28.919
<v Speaker 1>like that was an ice it like you did that strategically,

0:24:29.800 --> 0:24:32.240
<v Speaker 1>which shout out to the queen. Um if you wanted

0:24:32.240 --> 0:24:35.080
<v Speaker 1>to see Zoe Kravitz his husband's dick, it's on love

0:24:35.160 --> 0:24:38.440
<v Speaker 1>and love, but it's it's pink, ain't it. No, he's mixed.

0:24:38.880 --> 0:24:41.600
<v Speaker 1>I think you think he's mixed. His dick is beautiful,

0:24:42.320 --> 0:24:45.639
<v Speaker 1>beautiful love by Gaston Noah. It's on Netflix, the one

0:24:45.640 --> 0:24:47.280
<v Speaker 1>where you can watch a threesome and they had the

0:24:47.320 --> 0:24:50.320
<v Speaker 1>actual actors do their own porn scenes. Oh his dick

0:24:50.400 --> 0:24:53.160
<v Speaker 1>is nice. Yeah, damn So she left a beautiful nigga dick.

0:24:54.119 --> 0:24:57.879
<v Speaker 1>God did that mean he fucked up? He did? Because

0:24:57.920 --> 0:25:02.439
<v Speaker 1>dick be making as say it? Do give me like,

0:25:02.480 --> 0:25:04.200
<v Speaker 1>I know you ain't ship, but damn ain't nobody else.

0:25:04.200 --> 0:25:06.400
<v Speaker 1>Don't get dead, dude, same, you know what I mean?

0:25:06.440 --> 0:25:10.800
<v Speaker 1>Like I definitely like up. So another study has found

0:25:10.800 --> 0:25:14.440
<v Speaker 1>that people who have recently fallen in love have some

0:25:14.520 --> 0:25:17.440
<v Speaker 1>of the same symptoms of O c D, for example,

0:25:17.880 --> 0:25:21.239
<v Speaker 1>frequently washing their hands repeatedly checking to see if the

0:25:21.240 --> 0:25:23.399
<v Speaker 1>door is closed. I looked a little more into this,

0:25:23.440 --> 0:25:25.240
<v Speaker 1>and they say that like when you're in love or

0:25:25.359 --> 0:25:28.080
<v Speaker 1>like it's a new feeling, like everything is so exciting

0:25:28.119 --> 0:25:30.439
<v Speaker 1>that you're you feel like you're losing other areas. Have

0:25:30.520 --> 0:25:31.840
<v Speaker 1>you done anything like that because I know you've got

0:25:31.880 --> 0:25:37.920
<v Speaker 1>a new boyfriend. No, really, I mean I'm way more catering,

0:25:38.040 --> 0:25:40.440
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm a whole cater to you as Beyonce as

0:25:40.520 --> 0:25:46.000
<v Speaker 1>bitch like before Mandy is me when I start hearing

0:25:46.640 --> 0:25:48.840
<v Speaker 1>like he's slurping on his drink. Baby, you want another drink,

0:25:49.160 --> 0:25:50.919
<v Speaker 1>I'll make you another drink. I cannot want to talk

0:25:50.920 --> 0:25:52.639
<v Speaker 1>about this. I'm brilliant idiots because I would love for

0:25:52.680 --> 0:25:55.679
<v Speaker 1>them to title it the Revolution of Man. No, seriously, like,

0:25:55.800 --> 0:25:58.399
<v Speaker 1>I mean, even girl, I woke up a maide a

0:25:58.440 --> 0:26:00.480
<v Speaker 1>nicer breakfast one day, bitch, I pull do you and

0:26:00.520 --> 0:26:03.560
<v Speaker 1>made avocado TOAs he ain't and then I put a

0:26:03.560 --> 0:26:05.879
<v Speaker 1>little egg on there, but you know, diggause, I was like,

0:26:06.080 --> 0:26:07.960
<v Speaker 1>are you okay with a running yolk because a lot

0:26:07.960 --> 0:26:10.840
<v Speaker 1>of black people like niggas like a Friday. Well, I

0:26:10.920 --> 0:26:12.920
<v Speaker 1>like my ship running, so I had to ask him.

0:26:13.640 --> 0:26:17.240
<v Speaker 1>And then and then, y'all, I sprinkled some ship that

0:26:17.320 --> 0:26:20.040
<v Speaker 1>came down from the heavens. If y'all ain't had the

0:26:20.119 --> 0:26:25.480
<v Speaker 1>everything Bagel season, I put that on my bit home

0:26:26.640 --> 0:26:29.480
<v Speaker 1>came out with everything bagel season. I'm just saying, like,

0:26:29.880 --> 0:26:32.280
<v Speaker 1>that's my avocado ship. It's my ship. There's one thing

0:26:32.320 --> 0:26:38.080
<v Speaker 1>you gotta put in avocado toasted cheat go. You want

0:26:38.080 --> 0:26:40.399
<v Speaker 1>to be me so bad, but you wasn't even cooking

0:26:40.400 --> 0:26:43.600
<v Speaker 1>for niggers. I was cooking for myself though, But now

0:26:43.640 --> 0:26:45.600
<v Speaker 1>I gotta make two pieces of toast I do. I

0:26:45.680 --> 0:26:47.960
<v Speaker 1>chopped red onions in it. I put lowies. That's the

0:26:48.000 --> 0:26:50.840
<v Speaker 1>real ship, opposed to like regular salt. And then when

0:26:50.840 --> 0:26:52.960
<v Speaker 1>you're mixing the avocados, I put a little coconut and

0:26:53.040 --> 0:26:55.639
<v Speaker 1>minos from Trader Joe's because just give it a little pizzazz.

0:26:56.040 --> 0:26:57.879
<v Speaker 1>I squired a little lemon on that motherfucker. I do

0:26:57.960 --> 0:27:01.119
<v Speaker 1>garlic powder, onion powder. Then I do some creole season

0:27:01.119 --> 0:27:02.840
<v Speaker 1>because I'm extra, but no, man, I do none of

0:27:02.880 --> 0:27:07.000
<v Speaker 1>those seasonings, just everything bagel Okay, yeah, you're doing a

0:27:07.040 --> 0:27:10.840
<v Speaker 1>lot in the morning, bitch. I'm sorry, but I barely

0:27:10.880 --> 0:27:12.720
<v Speaker 1>want to make a smoothie in the morning. I'm like, okay,

0:27:12.760 --> 0:27:15.159
<v Speaker 1>well on top, I do put the everything with Vehicel seasoning,

0:27:15.160 --> 0:27:18.479
<v Speaker 1>and then I chop up a little to me and

0:27:18.480 --> 0:27:20.439
<v Speaker 1>he was like, oh, that's what that was. He liked it,

0:27:20.720 --> 0:27:24.080
<v Speaker 1>he said, like my little toast. No, I don't think

0:27:24.119 --> 0:27:26.280
<v Speaker 1>I really get O c D. And it's crazy because

0:27:26.720 --> 0:27:29.800
<v Speaker 1>he's one of my first partners that literally like he's

0:27:29.840 --> 0:27:31.359
<v Speaker 1>O c D. Was washing his hands. But then I

0:27:31.400 --> 0:27:32.679
<v Speaker 1>don't know if that's a COVID thing because I met

0:27:32.760 --> 0:27:34.720
<v Speaker 1>him during COVID, so I don't know if that's an

0:27:34.720 --> 0:27:36.639
<v Speaker 1>O c D new relationship. You could have been dirty,

0:27:36.840 --> 0:27:38.520
<v Speaker 1>he could have been, but now he watched his hands

0:27:38.520 --> 0:27:41.119
<v Speaker 1>because the COVID the other one I love. And maybe

0:27:41.840 --> 0:27:44.680
<v Speaker 1>as many can attest to this, I'm not sure couples

0:27:44.680 --> 0:27:47.760
<v Speaker 1>who have similar drinking habits are most likely to say together.

0:27:47.840 --> 0:27:50.119
<v Speaker 1>Researchers found that among couples and one person was a

0:27:50.119 --> 0:27:52.679
<v Speaker 1>heavy drinker and the other was not, forty five to

0:27:52.760 --> 0:27:57.080
<v Speaker 1>fifty of them were divorced by their tenth anniversary. Oh yeah,

0:27:57.080 --> 0:27:59.760
<v Speaker 1>give me an alcoholic. I do love getting love. I

0:28:00.000 --> 0:28:02.400
<v Speaker 1>of to drink like and that's our thing. Like when

0:28:02.480 --> 0:28:05.120
<v Speaker 1>he comes, I'm like, you want darker white today, Like

0:28:05.280 --> 0:28:06.920
<v Speaker 1>he's more of a dark liquor drinker. I'm a white

0:28:06.960 --> 0:28:10.200
<v Speaker 1>liquor drinker. But we we matched with drinks. And sorry, guys,

0:28:10.240 --> 0:28:13.400
<v Speaker 1>were in Harlem. If you hear um those sirens because

0:28:13.440 --> 0:28:17.280
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm just saying, because when we was

0:28:17.359 --> 0:28:19.800
<v Speaker 1>recording remotely, when I was in the Bronx, ya was

0:28:19.800 --> 0:28:22.560
<v Speaker 1>hearing him sirens and no, there was way more sirens.

0:28:22.600 --> 0:28:26.160
<v Speaker 1>Drink covid, like of kids. It's the heid of COVID.

0:28:26.160 --> 0:28:29.800
<v Speaker 1>Now people is dying again the same way in l A.

0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:32.560
<v Speaker 1>L A Is New York. You know, one and every

0:28:32.560 --> 0:28:35.879
<v Speaker 1>four people and all I have COVID. Oh, by the way, guys,

0:28:36.160 --> 0:28:38.440
<v Speaker 1>for y'all listening, my mom is doing a little better.

0:28:38.480 --> 0:28:40.400
<v Speaker 1>My mom currently hads COVID. W Are youn't tell me

0:28:40.440 --> 0:28:45.120
<v Speaker 1>that the symptoms Like I literally just insta carted. Yes,

0:28:45.240 --> 0:28:48.280
<v Speaker 1>I instatcrted all the immunity boosters because my mom, being

0:28:48.280 --> 0:28:49.560
<v Speaker 1>my mom, what she used to do when we were

0:28:49.600 --> 0:28:53.239
<v Speaker 1>sitting growing up. I said, Mom or no, she's like

0:28:53.560 --> 0:28:57.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm drinking gatorade, bitch. If you don't gatorade is not

0:28:57.480 --> 0:29:00.680
<v Speaker 1>gonna help you with fucking COVID. I do be drinking gatoradeymore.

0:29:01.120 --> 0:29:03.040
<v Speaker 1>I was like, moms, this is not just a cold

0:29:03.040 --> 0:29:05.000
<v Speaker 1>because I told you we never really got medicine. My

0:29:05.040 --> 0:29:07.080
<v Speaker 1>mother just used to give us some motherfucking gatorade. Like

0:29:07.080 --> 0:29:09.200
<v Speaker 1>you'll be fine. I wondered why this mic is short.

0:29:09.400 --> 0:29:14.040
<v Speaker 1>It's because you were here. No offense, You're just sorry, alright. Anyway,

0:29:14.080 --> 0:29:17.760
<v Speaker 1>those guys, do you have one more? No? No, no,

0:29:17.960 --> 0:29:21.800
<v Speaker 1>that's the horrid derve, which is our second y'all. Y'all,

0:29:21.880 --> 0:29:24.640
<v Speaker 1>I mean we are serving you with tip, bro, So

0:29:24.760 --> 0:29:26.760
<v Speaker 1>this is the sex tip. Maybe I just wanted you

0:29:26.760 --> 0:29:29.040
<v Speaker 1>to know if you're not watching on YouTube, has hoisted

0:29:29.080 --> 0:29:34.080
<v Speaker 1>herself because y'all, her position g v y'all something new

0:29:34.120 --> 0:29:36.960
<v Speaker 1>to happen, and so I want to give this tip

0:29:37.040 --> 0:29:39.400
<v Speaker 1>to y'all. But let me tell you why she's so shocked.

0:29:39.960 --> 0:29:42.239
<v Speaker 1>Mandy shock, something new happened because when you have been

0:29:42.320 --> 0:29:46.200
<v Speaker 1>holding through the trenches of your life, you really feel

0:29:46.240 --> 0:29:49.240
<v Speaker 1>like ain't nothing else, when every hole has been used

0:29:49.240 --> 0:29:53.520
<v Speaker 1>interview never hole even mins, bitch. I'll swell not with

0:29:53.640 --> 0:29:56.480
<v Speaker 1>a dick, but some nut don't went up knows before anyway,

0:29:56.800 --> 0:30:00.680
<v Speaker 1>Speaking of nuts, this is an amazing that I would

0:30:00.720 --> 0:30:04.200
<v Speaker 1>love for the fellas to introduce with consent into the

0:30:04.240 --> 0:30:06.800
<v Speaker 1>bedroom with their partners. Now, my nigga just know I'm

0:30:06.800 --> 0:30:09.040
<v Speaker 1>a nasty ass hope. So I was just excited when

0:30:09.040 --> 0:30:12.640
<v Speaker 1>it started happening. We never discussed it beforehand, which was crazy.

0:30:12.680 --> 0:30:15.280
<v Speaker 1>But if if you if you don't know, if your

0:30:15.320 --> 0:30:17.800
<v Speaker 1>partner is a nasty bitch, don't do this without consent,

0:30:17.840 --> 0:30:20.760
<v Speaker 1>because it threw me off a little bit. So the

0:30:20.800 --> 0:30:24.920
<v Speaker 1>hordeur for this week is called finger painting, and basically

0:30:24.960 --> 0:30:28.520
<v Speaker 1>what happened is my man who does come multiple times?

0:30:29.200 --> 0:30:31.080
<v Speaker 1>Hold on one moment. I want you guys to guess

0:30:31.120 --> 0:30:33.880
<v Speaker 1>what this is about, because I when she said this,

0:30:33.960 --> 0:30:36.360
<v Speaker 1>had an image in my head finger painting. Benson, tell

0:30:36.360 --> 0:30:41.640
<v Speaker 1>me what you think this is about? Finger painting? What

0:30:41.680 --> 0:30:44.040
<v Speaker 1>do you think? What do you think in a sexual realm?

0:30:44.040 --> 0:30:48.280
<v Speaker 1>Just sir, look ay, none of them guests. Let me

0:30:48.320 --> 0:30:53.000
<v Speaker 1>tell the niggas what it is. Bro what with what? No? Yeah,

0:30:53.040 --> 0:30:56.160
<v Speaker 1>but it wasn't that way, okayn't that way as much? Same?

0:30:56.280 --> 0:30:58.040
<v Speaker 1>I thought the same as well. So this is what

0:30:58.160 --> 0:31:02.680
<v Speaker 1>happened right. So, for whatever reason, I don't know where

0:31:02.680 --> 0:31:06.520
<v Speaker 1>he came up with it, but he wasn't. I wasn't

0:31:06.560 --> 0:31:09.600
<v Speaker 1>swallowing this evening because he was coming from back shots

0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:12.600
<v Speaker 1>and normally we do missionary so you know, just just

0:31:12.800 --> 0:31:15.800
<v Speaker 1>come right now and puss it. Anyway, he was coming

0:31:15.920 --> 0:31:19.240
<v Speaker 1>on my back. This is the instructions. So as he

0:31:19.360 --> 0:31:23.280
<v Speaker 1>was coming on my back, first off, step one being

0:31:23.320 --> 0:31:25.360
<v Speaker 1>doggy style. I mean, I guess this could happen in

0:31:25.360 --> 0:31:27.040
<v Speaker 1>any other position as well, but this is how we

0:31:27.120 --> 0:31:29.440
<v Speaker 1>did it. So he was in doggy style or whatever.

0:31:29.560 --> 0:31:33.640
<v Speaker 1>Right as he was ready to ejaculate, he pulled it

0:31:33.640 --> 0:31:35.520
<v Speaker 1>out and came all over my back and I'm feeling

0:31:35.520 --> 0:31:38.000
<v Speaker 1>it and I'm like, oh baby, you're coming a lot tonight. Oh.

0:31:38.320 --> 0:31:41.520
<v Speaker 1>So he came all over my back. Right, he took

0:31:41.560 --> 0:31:46.600
<v Speaker 1>these two fingers, his own white up the nut. I

0:31:46.640 --> 0:31:48.600
<v Speaker 1>was feeling him just I thought he was just rubbing

0:31:48.640 --> 0:31:51.480
<v Speaker 1>it into my back. No, the nigga decided to make

0:31:51.480 --> 0:31:56.280
<v Speaker 1>me simba. And from the back he starts wiping his

0:31:56.480 --> 0:32:00.440
<v Speaker 1>nuts on my forehead and then down my cheek and

0:32:00.480 --> 0:32:03.280
<v Speaker 1>then down my face and then he puts it on.

0:32:03.360 --> 0:32:05.680
<v Speaker 1>This has to be some African charge. I don't know.

0:32:05.800 --> 0:32:08.680
<v Speaker 1>Maybe I don't know. In Brazil they'd be doing ship well.

0:32:09.000 --> 0:32:12.760
<v Speaker 1>He came three times this night, and each time he

0:32:12.800 --> 0:32:15.640
<v Speaker 1>would take his nut and then he started getting I

0:32:15.720 --> 0:32:17.160
<v Speaker 1>was like, Nick, you can't do this when my hair

0:32:17.240 --> 0:32:19.080
<v Speaker 1>is done. He did start then wiping it on my

0:32:19.120 --> 0:32:21.520
<v Speaker 1>neck and into my hair. My hair was hard as fuck.

0:32:21.920 --> 0:32:24.680
<v Speaker 1>After we got done, something about Mandy, I said, God,

0:32:24.960 --> 0:32:28.840
<v Speaker 1>damn it, I said, I didn't shower prior to him

0:32:28.840 --> 0:32:31.840
<v Speaker 1>coming over. I said, great, I have not like the bet.

0:32:32.040 --> 0:32:34.400
<v Speaker 1>Like I started feeling like my neck was stiff because

0:32:34.440 --> 0:32:36.280
<v Speaker 1>it was driving nut. At this point, it wouldn't been

0:32:36.320 --> 0:32:38.440
<v Speaker 1>working for a minute. And I'm like, and as we know,

0:32:38.960 --> 0:32:41.200
<v Speaker 1>Mandy did say she went to brunch with Commodore. I

0:32:41.240 --> 0:32:43.040
<v Speaker 1>did pearl necklace. I know what it feels like when

0:32:43.120 --> 0:32:46.720
<v Speaker 1>nut drives up on you, but I will say it

0:32:46.880 --> 0:32:49.480
<v Speaker 1>was almost like a different I felt a spirit chal

0:32:49.520 --> 0:32:51.800
<v Speaker 1>connection when he was wiping his nut on my face

0:32:51.840 --> 0:32:53.560
<v Speaker 1>in the way that he was doing it, and I

0:32:53.640 --> 0:32:56.840
<v Speaker 1>was like, it was like, it was almost like, damn

0:32:56.880 --> 0:32:58.880
<v Speaker 1>you a nasty nigger. I love you, Like that's what

0:32:58.960 --> 0:33:01.800
<v Speaker 1>was in my mind, Like you was such a nasty

0:33:02.080 --> 0:33:05.400
<v Speaker 1>fucking I was like God damn, you're amazing because I

0:33:05.440 --> 0:33:09.080
<v Speaker 1>like nasty, like daffydig. It's like and I was like,

0:33:09.400 --> 0:33:12.960
<v Speaker 1>no man has ever finger painted they're nuts on my face.

0:33:13.040 --> 0:33:16.360
<v Speaker 1>And it was so sensually done too, so it wasn't

0:33:16.400 --> 0:33:18.920
<v Speaker 1>like aggressive where I felt just like a brushstroke. It

0:33:19.040 --> 0:33:22.880
<v Speaker 1>was like a what's he do? Does he paint? No?

0:33:23.160 --> 0:33:27.320
<v Speaker 1>This nig ain't no pack that nigga canvas. You mean

0:33:27.440 --> 0:33:30.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm his canvas. So that is the hor dur for

0:33:30.160 --> 0:33:32.560
<v Speaker 1>this week. If you want to try finger painting, it

0:33:32.680 --> 0:33:35.160
<v Speaker 1>is taking your nut from one part of the body

0:33:35.240 --> 0:33:38.280
<v Speaker 1>after you ejaculate on her and bringing it up. It's

0:33:38.320 --> 0:33:40.800
<v Speaker 1>not the things you may do with your child. So

0:33:42.400 --> 0:33:47.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying it was amazing. So fingerpainting, y'all do that. Ship. Well,

0:33:47.880 --> 0:33:50.400
<v Speaker 1>if the finger painting doesn't go well, you guys might

0:33:50.440 --> 0:33:53.640
<v Speaker 1>have to break up. And here we are at the

0:33:53.680 --> 0:33:57.719
<v Speaker 1>breakup now, Yeah, we've all been through one. I wanted

0:33:57.760 --> 0:34:00.240
<v Speaker 1>to do this episode particularly because people ask a lot

0:34:00.280 --> 0:34:04.240
<v Speaker 1>of breakup advice and we had an episode with Amelia Ortiz.

0:34:04.640 --> 0:34:10.000
<v Speaker 1>Shout out to Amelia. She is a Bruja who is

0:34:10.040 --> 0:34:13.760
<v Speaker 1>amazing at connecting people with their emotions themselves and really

0:34:13.760 --> 0:34:17.280
<v Speaker 1>helping you guide yourself spiritually. I think hers was episode

0:34:17.280 --> 0:34:19.640
<v Speaker 1>eighty eight at the time, so many people listen to it,

0:34:19.640 --> 0:34:21.120
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I wonder if that many people

0:34:21.360 --> 0:34:23.839
<v Speaker 1>love Amelia or if that many people need breakup help,

0:34:24.360 --> 0:34:26.400
<v Speaker 1>and um, she talked about cutting chords and ship like that,

0:34:26.440 --> 0:34:28.759
<v Speaker 1>but what she didn't talk about was how to do it.

0:34:29.400 --> 0:34:31.600
<v Speaker 1>So we gotta talk about how to do it, how

0:34:31.600 --> 0:34:33.440
<v Speaker 1>to break up with someone if you want to, and

0:34:33.440 --> 0:34:38.520
<v Speaker 1>then if you're broken, were done. Okay, Well some people

0:34:38.560 --> 0:34:40.680
<v Speaker 1>don't take it that way, and that person is me.

0:34:41.080 --> 0:34:43.279
<v Speaker 1>This isn't working for because I'm a Christy Teagan. You

0:34:43.680 --> 0:34:45.759
<v Speaker 1>with me, I'm gona be like, no, are you? It's

0:34:45.800 --> 0:34:48.480
<v Speaker 1>not like do do you want to hear someone say

0:34:48.600 --> 0:34:52.000
<v Speaker 1>it's not it's not you, it's me. That's I thought

0:34:52.120 --> 0:34:53.640
<v Speaker 1>that's what they'd be doing in the movies. That's how

0:34:53.640 --> 0:34:57.160
<v Speaker 1>they break up, right, Yeah, But like, nah, I've I've

0:34:57.200 --> 0:34:59.360
<v Speaker 1>talked with some pretty like intellectual niggas. They haven't like

0:34:59.360 --> 0:35:00.799
<v Speaker 1>given me no bush it like that, or I break

0:35:00.840 --> 0:35:03.319
<v Speaker 1>up with them because they're lying, cheating. But here's number one,

0:35:03.400 --> 0:35:06.560
<v Speaker 1>let's do the break up guy defining for yourself what

0:35:06.760 --> 0:35:10.600
<v Speaker 1>isn't working? First? Acknowledge the complicated feelings you have around

0:35:10.640 --> 0:35:13.720
<v Speaker 1>the situation, even if the realization struck you like lightning.

0:35:13.960 --> 0:35:16.600
<v Speaker 1>This doesn't need to come with clarity. Say things about

0:35:17.200 --> 0:35:21.480
<v Speaker 1>growing apart, specific things about UM, maybe the inability to

0:35:21.520 --> 0:35:23.960
<v Speaker 1>provide care for your partner if they have mental health issues.

0:35:24.000 --> 0:35:25.440
<v Speaker 1>Like you know you you're you're acting this way. I

0:35:25.440 --> 0:35:28.160
<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm drowning with you. UM difference in opinions

0:35:28.200 --> 0:35:31.760
<v Speaker 1>of its finance, politic values, and not having your emotional

0:35:31.800 --> 0:35:34.160
<v Speaker 1>needs and interest met. I sent this text years ago

0:35:34.239 --> 0:35:35.480
<v Speaker 1>and I wanted to read it because I was like,

0:35:35.520 --> 0:35:37.799
<v Speaker 1>I did an okay job, and I screenshot at it

0:35:37.800 --> 0:35:39.799
<v Speaker 1>because I actually always had it in my favorite because

0:35:39.800 --> 0:35:41.359
<v Speaker 1>I felt like I broke up with this nigga really

0:35:41.360 --> 0:35:43.920
<v Speaker 1>well through what text? You did an awful job. Actually,

0:35:44.960 --> 0:35:47.080
<v Speaker 1>you broke up with a motherfucker over text, and you

0:35:47.080 --> 0:35:49.080
<v Speaker 1>think that was a great job. Okay, let me explain

0:35:49.080 --> 0:35:50.360
<v Speaker 1>why I had to text so now I realized I

0:35:50.360 --> 0:35:52.360
<v Speaker 1>and shipped for this. I cursed him out, hung up,

0:35:52.360 --> 0:35:55.279
<v Speaker 1>and then texted him this is awful, but let's read

0:35:55.280 --> 0:35:57.799
<v Speaker 1>the text. I realized I'm spiraling, and I think the

0:35:57.840 --> 0:36:00.680
<v Speaker 1>reason I'm spiraling is because every is so ceation I

0:36:00.719 --> 0:36:02.880
<v Speaker 1>have with you is a negative one as far as

0:36:02.920 --> 0:36:07.360
<v Speaker 1>it comes to complicated conversations. When we're good, we're amazing.

0:36:07.760 --> 0:36:09.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm so enamored with you in those moments, and I

0:36:09.719 --> 0:36:13.080
<v Speaker 1>see exactly why we're together because we work when there's

0:36:13.080 --> 0:36:17.640
<v Speaker 1>no stress. However, when you get stressed out, it's literally

0:36:17.680 --> 0:36:21.160
<v Speaker 1>something that drives me crazy to the point that I

0:36:21.200 --> 0:36:25.000
<v Speaker 1>feel uncomfortable with my own life. You get stressed, and

0:36:25.040 --> 0:36:27.840
<v Speaker 1>it's such a burden on me that I think I

0:36:27.920 --> 0:36:29.960
<v Speaker 1>end up worse than you should have been an email,

0:36:30.000 --> 0:36:33.839
<v Speaker 1>it's already way too long. Men do not read them

0:36:33.920 --> 0:36:40.719
<v Speaker 1>long as scrolling out roll back a lot. He was ah,

0:36:40.960 --> 0:36:42.919
<v Speaker 1>so I said, I feel like I need to list

0:36:42.920 --> 0:36:44.880
<v Speaker 1>out the issues I have, and I will do so.

0:36:44.960 --> 0:36:49.680
<v Speaker 1>You do not do bullet points starting with one when

0:36:49.680 --> 0:36:51.960
<v Speaker 1>you get piste off. I should not be your point

0:36:51.960 --> 0:36:56.000
<v Speaker 1>of contact. That's it too. I have let you know

0:36:56.080 --> 0:36:58.520
<v Speaker 1>about reason one, and you have refused to find a

0:36:58.600 --> 0:37:01.480
<v Speaker 1>therapist or someone else to talk to because it really

0:37:01.560 --> 0:37:04.359
<v Speaker 1>cannot be me. Well, then that means maybe you weren't

0:37:04.360 --> 0:37:06.600
<v Speaker 1>a good partner for him, because when he gets upset,

0:37:06.680 --> 0:37:09.440
<v Speaker 1>why why can't he vent to you? He was a

0:37:09.560 --> 0:37:12.600
<v Speaker 1>very mean person when he was in Okay, you know,

0:37:12.719 --> 0:37:14.840
<v Speaker 1>And so I think that when and I think a

0:37:14.840 --> 0:37:16.319
<v Speaker 1>lot of people dated that person when they're in a

0:37:16.320 --> 0:37:19.120
<v Speaker 1>bad mood. Everybody gotta fucking be in a bad mood.

0:37:19.480 --> 0:37:22.359
<v Speaker 1>I don't, I'm talking people know, it's hard, and I mean,

0:37:22.360 --> 0:37:24.520
<v Speaker 1>he was a nice dude, but like he couldn't he

0:37:24.560 --> 0:37:28.440
<v Speaker 1>couldn't manage his stress at all. I can I just

0:37:28.560 --> 0:37:32.480
<v Speaker 1>point out to this for those of y'all in relationships, Um,

0:37:32.520 --> 0:37:34.840
<v Speaker 1>I love that you brought this up, because this was

0:37:34.880 --> 0:37:37.560
<v Speaker 1>a conversation that me and my boyfriend just had. We

0:37:37.640 --> 0:37:39.839
<v Speaker 1>both just had a really, really really bad day on

0:37:39.840 --> 0:37:41.319
<v Speaker 1>one of the days that we were playing to see

0:37:41.320 --> 0:37:43.880
<v Speaker 1>each other, Like, I was piste off with my fucking

0:37:43.880 --> 0:37:48.120
<v Speaker 1>shipping debacle with the boxes, and he had just bought

0:37:48.120 --> 0:37:51.000
<v Speaker 1>a camera and it wasn't working and he had to

0:37:51.040 --> 0:37:53.319
<v Speaker 1>go return it, like, and he was just upset going

0:37:53.360 --> 0:37:58.200
<v Speaker 1>back and forth with that, and so we we didn't

0:37:58.200 --> 0:38:00.880
<v Speaker 1>see each other, of course, and I said, I said, honestly,

0:38:00.920 --> 0:38:03.160
<v Speaker 1>this is what I prefer because he's come over sometimes

0:38:03.600 --> 0:38:05.920
<v Speaker 1>and he's either in a bad mood, and I always

0:38:05.920 --> 0:38:07.839
<v Speaker 1>know when he's in a bad mood, and he he

0:38:07.960 --> 0:38:10.080
<v Speaker 1>loves that I know when he's in a bad mood.

0:38:10.480 --> 0:38:12.520
<v Speaker 1>But I'm like, I don't know who who your past

0:38:12.560 --> 0:38:14.719
<v Speaker 1>partners were that still didn't respect when you were in

0:38:14.719 --> 0:38:16.480
<v Speaker 1>a bad mood. But I get it. And so he

0:38:16.520 --> 0:38:18.560
<v Speaker 1>said that he really loves that about me. But I said, honestly,

0:38:18.600 --> 0:38:21.839
<v Speaker 1>moving forward, if you're in a bad mood, I would

0:38:21.960 --> 0:38:24.799
<v Speaker 1>much rather you say let's reschedule, because a part of

0:38:24.840 --> 0:38:26.560
<v Speaker 1>that energy is not something I want to be around,

0:38:26.560 --> 0:38:28.880
<v Speaker 1>because we really enjoy each other's company, and when you

0:38:28.920 --> 0:38:30.920
<v Speaker 1>come over and you're you're in a bad mood, I

0:38:30.920 --> 0:38:33.719
<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm now walking on eggshells. But now I'm

0:38:33.760 --> 0:38:35.759
<v Speaker 1>just not enjoying our time together. And I would rather

0:38:36.120 --> 0:38:38.920
<v Speaker 1>have more times where we enjoy each other than times

0:38:38.920 --> 0:38:42.799
<v Speaker 1>where it's just like, all right, this energy is, but

0:38:42.880 --> 0:38:45.240
<v Speaker 1>you gotta you gotta be able to recognize those moments

0:38:45.280 --> 0:38:47.200
<v Speaker 1>and like be like, it's okay to tell someone you

0:38:47.200 --> 0:38:50.719
<v Speaker 1>can't see them. I think I had someone tell me

0:38:50.719 --> 0:38:52.920
<v Speaker 1>that I was hot, normalize that he was like, yo,

0:38:53.320 --> 0:38:55.640
<v Speaker 1>I can't, like I can't, I can't. But a lot

0:38:55.680 --> 0:38:58.520
<v Speaker 1>of us take it personally or think that he's automatically

0:38:58.520 --> 0:39:01.680
<v Speaker 1>out sucking another bit a maturation like and it's just like, yeah,

0:39:01.760 --> 0:39:05.400
<v Speaker 1>you don't need this. One is interested practice your oh no,

0:39:05.480 --> 0:39:09.600
<v Speaker 1>mine skipped, practice your mindset, writing down why the breakup

0:39:09.640 --> 0:39:11.759
<v Speaker 1>is necessary for you. And this is really good if

0:39:11.760 --> 0:39:14.000
<v Speaker 1>you're dating someone who's toxic, because it's hard because it

0:39:14.000 --> 0:39:17.160
<v Speaker 1>feels good when like you know, even that, like I

0:39:17.200 --> 0:39:18.600
<v Speaker 1>was dating somebody and this, like I said, it was

0:39:18.600 --> 0:39:20.840
<v Speaker 1>a minute ago that I really fucked what he was cool,

0:39:20.920 --> 0:39:23.760
<v Speaker 1>but like he was mean and I've seen that streak

0:39:23.760 --> 0:39:26.120
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I gotta remember, like nigga, ain't

0:39:26.120 --> 0:39:30.239
<v Speaker 1>becu um. Three run the words past your friends. This

0:39:30.280 --> 0:39:33.240
<v Speaker 1>is a controversial one because I don't like that. I

0:39:33.280 --> 0:39:36.960
<v Speaker 1>think your friends will either skew you one way. I

0:39:37.000 --> 0:39:39.000
<v Speaker 1>think the only thing that you can do if you're

0:39:39.000 --> 0:39:40.839
<v Speaker 1>going to talk to a friend about it is be like, yo,

0:39:40.920 --> 0:39:43.520
<v Speaker 1>I made the decision already. Tell me if you like

0:39:43.600 --> 0:39:45.920
<v Speaker 1>this approach. Don't ask a friend if they think you

0:39:45.920 --> 0:39:48.239
<v Speaker 1>should break up or do this. Don't because I will

0:39:48.280 --> 0:39:51.600
<v Speaker 1>say the problem with that is we overshare his girlfriends

0:39:52.080 --> 0:39:54.719
<v Speaker 1>and so a lot of times, if you're at the

0:39:54.760 --> 0:39:59.239
<v Speaker 1>breaking point with your partner, you've probably already overshared all

0:39:59.280 --> 0:40:03.440
<v Speaker 1>of the bad qualities and awful moments in your relationship

0:40:03.480 --> 0:40:05.600
<v Speaker 1>with this partner with your friends, to where, of course

0:40:05.640 --> 0:40:08.520
<v Speaker 1>your friends are gonna be like, girl, just lead that already,

0:40:08.520 --> 0:40:10.880
<v Speaker 1>Like he's called you all this stress, You've called me crying.

0:40:11.200 --> 0:40:14.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm sick of hearing about it. Leave them, And so

0:40:14.080 --> 0:40:17.440
<v Speaker 1>I think that two before reaching that point, as women,

0:40:17.440 --> 0:40:20.000
<v Speaker 1>we should probably stop sharing all of the negative things

0:40:20.040 --> 0:40:23.319
<v Speaker 1>about our relationship. And it's crazy because I still still

0:40:23.360 --> 0:40:26.920
<v Speaker 1>land I had one yet in nine months, so or

0:40:26.960 --> 0:40:32.480
<v Speaker 1>a baby. Well, the other one is acknowledging their emotions

0:40:32.560 --> 0:40:35.200
<v Speaker 1>and their pain, and I love this one. Make sure

0:40:35.320 --> 0:40:38.520
<v Speaker 1>that they're done sharing their side before you leave. While

0:40:38.520 --> 0:40:42.120
<v Speaker 1>it may be uncomfortable, you need to be prepared for

0:40:42.160 --> 0:40:44.879
<v Speaker 1>periods of silence, even crying, but regardless of emotions, stay

0:40:44.920 --> 0:40:47.759
<v Speaker 1>clear about your reasons and listen to theirs. How to

0:40:47.800 --> 0:40:51.239
<v Speaker 1>respond to those questions is remember I don't know is

0:40:51.480 --> 0:40:54.239
<v Speaker 1>a valid statement. You can say things like I don't

0:40:54.239 --> 0:40:56.560
<v Speaker 1>know if you really don't know, not everything deserves an

0:40:56.560 --> 0:40:59.200
<v Speaker 1>explanation because you may not know what's going on with

0:40:59.239 --> 0:41:01.920
<v Speaker 1>a certain thing, so it can be okay. Don't spiral

0:41:01.960 --> 0:41:04.040
<v Speaker 1>and try to make something up if it's really just

0:41:04.080 --> 0:41:06.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Um, you can repeat their answer if

0:41:06.400 --> 0:41:08.480
<v Speaker 1>they try to say this the same thing, and it's

0:41:08.480 --> 0:41:10.640
<v Speaker 1>okay to say I'm sorry. And the other one is

0:41:11.160 --> 0:41:14.600
<v Speaker 1>don't reach out right away. Losing a genuine connection is

0:41:14.600 --> 0:41:16.839
<v Speaker 1>a bit like losing an eye in your world will

0:41:16.920 --> 0:41:20.320
<v Speaker 1>feel like it fell off, and you may experience some regrets.

0:41:20.360 --> 0:41:24.040
<v Speaker 1>It's normal. When you were together the world widened a bit,

0:41:24.120 --> 0:41:26.880
<v Speaker 1>but now the vision shifts, so it's gonna feel like

0:41:26.920 --> 0:41:29.239
<v Speaker 1>you're getting half of what you used to see. Which

0:41:29.280 --> 0:41:31.920
<v Speaker 1>is a great explanation because I think even when you

0:41:31.960 --> 0:41:34.320
<v Speaker 1>break up with someone that you don't even funk with anymore,

0:41:34.360 --> 0:41:36.000
<v Speaker 1>like you're mad at them, or they cheated or they

0:41:36.040 --> 0:41:39.479
<v Speaker 1>did something mean like not mean, um, deceitful, you still

0:41:39.520 --> 0:41:41.440
<v Speaker 1>feel like something's missing. You're like, well, I'm used to

0:41:41.480 --> 0:41:44.359
<v Speaker 1>this routine or whatever, So like, yeah, I think that

0:41:44.360 --> 0:41:46.560
<v Speaker 1>that was a really good one because you definitely need

0:41:46.640 --> 0:41:50.319
<v Speaker 1>the space before you jump back in there and can

0:41:50.400 --> 0:41:52.960
<v Speaker 1>check on someone and do all that ship um. And

0:41:53.000 --> 0:41:55.919
<v Speaker 1>it says this, I like, because there's always this thing

0:41:56.000 --> 0:41:59.520
<v Speaker 1>of do you delete everything? What do you do our

0:41:59.640 --> 0:42:05.319
<v Speaker 1>chai reminders of them relationship, removing certain social media accounts

0:42:05.320 --> 0:42:09.400
<v Speaker 1>like on photos, archiving them, um, if there are gifts

0:42:09.400 --> 0:42:11.520
<v Speaker 1>and photos, putting them in a box on a drive,

0:42:11.600 --> 0:42:14.440
<v Speaker 1>maybe taking them away from the phone immediately, like but

0:42:14.600 --> 0:42:18.280
<v Speaker 1>just you know, putting them in a certain place. Um,

0:42:18.320 --> 0:42:20.439
<v Speaker 1>this one's interesting. Can you be friends? An hour later?

0:42:21.440 --> 0:42:25.319
<v Speaker 1>It says that most couples, what do you think for

0:42:25.360 --> 0:42:29.160
<v Speaker 1>a year long relationship? It depends. I'm not gonna lie.

0:42:29.239 --> 0:42:33.719
<v Speaker 1>I've said you shouldn't funk friends. So to me, it's

0:42:33.760 --> 0:42:36.400
<v Speaker 1>hard that if you can't be in a relationship, I

0:42:36.480 --> 0:42:39.600
<v Speaker 1>don't know how realistically, Uh, it makes sense to be

0:42:39.640 --> 0:42:42.839
<v Speaker 1>friends with them, especially immediately after a break. I had

0:42:42.920 --> 0:42:44.880
<v Speaker 1>a sneeze, but it's COVID and like, I didn't know

0:42:44.880 --> 0:42:47.120
<v Speaker 1>want people. Oh yeah, don't sneeze on me, bitch. We

0:42:47.160 --> 0:42:49.280
<v Speaker 1>would have fought right here on camera on the YouTube.

0:42:49.680 --> 0:42:55.000
<v Speaker 1>Get it. So I don't worse though, Um oh, she

0:42:55.040 --> 0:42:58.160
<v Speaker 1>could be came on with a fucking bit. You don't anyway, No,

0:42:58.320 --> 0:43:01.040
<v Speaker 1>I just I do. I don't feel like you should

0:43:01.160 --> 0:43:06.120
<v Speaker 1>remain friends, um with someone. The problem is too when

0:43:06.200 --> 0:43:09.880
<v Speaker 1>it comes to relationships. A lot of people gauge the

0:43:10.120 --> 0:43:12.879
<v Speaker 1>time in the relationships, so at the time they feel

0:43:12.920 --> 0:43:15.040
<v Speaker 1>wasted at the time they felt spent with that person.

0:43:15.400 --> 0:43:17.120
<v Speaker 1>So a lot of people if they've been in a

0:43:17.160 --> 0:43:20.360
<v Speaker 1>relationship for a long time with someone, they feel obligated

0:43:20.400 --> 0:43:23.560
<v Speaker 1>to hold onto a friendship. It's okay for someone to

0:43:23.640 --> 0:43:25.640
<v Speaker 1>have been in your life for a season and to

0:43:25.719 --> 0:43:29.680
<v Speaker 1>completely let them go. That is okay. I don't feel

0:43:29.680 --> 0:43:31.680
<v Speaker 1>like I feel like a lot of people hold onto

0:43:31.760 --> 0:43:35.680
<v Speaker 1>this friendship with this person because they've been with them

0:43:35.719 --> 0:43:37.840
<v Speaker 1>for so long. That's not necessary. I don't want to

0:43:37.840 --> 0:43:41.239
<v Speaker 1>be your friend. But I will say there's probably one

0:43:41.320 --> 0:43:45.200
<v Speaker 1>or two people, definitely one, but there may be another

0:43:45.200 --> 0:43:48.399
<v Speaker 1>one where I was like m m, or are they

0:43:48.560 --> 0:43:51.080
<v Speaker 1>really someone that I shouldn't have been with? Or did

0:43:51.120 --> 0:43:53.040
<v Speaker 1>I just not know how to be with them in

0:43:53.120 --> 0:43:58.919
<v Speaker 1>that moment? Like and I can acknowledge that, like any

0:43:58.960 --> 0:44:00.759
<v Speaker 1>saying that they weren't from me, it's just like I

0:44:00.800 --> 0:44:03.799
<v Speaker 1>didn't know how to be their girlfriend and never you know,

0:44:03.840 --> 0:44:05.160
<v Speaker 1>like it takes a lot of growth, and I mean

0:44:05.239 --> 0:44:08.359
<v Speaker 1>truth rely dating older men, Like that's really been where

0:44:08.360 --> 0:44:09.960
<v Speaker 1>my life has been. Like so that's been hard now

0:44:10.000 --> 0:44:13.960
<v Speaker 1>and I'm not gonna lie again. Just with growing and

0:44:14.040 --> 0:44:17.120
<v Speaker 1>learning yourself more. Yeah, Like if I would have met

0:44:17.160 --> 0:44:20.640
<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend now five years ago, I know I was

0:44:20.680 --> 0:44:24.040
<v Speaker 1>a completely different person and I may not why your home.

0:44:24.120 --> 0:44:26.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm yeah that part, but I may not have known

0:44:26.680 --> 0:44:28.799
<v Speaker 1>how to be a good partner to him, like which

0:44:28.840 --> 0:44:31.520
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't cooking for niggas and I wasn't expecting Like

0:44:31.760 --> 0:44:35.359
<v Speaker 1>there's that episode where my my mom was on yeah,

0:44:35.440 --> 0:44:38.080
<v Speaker 1>and you were like, you cooking for him? I mean

0:44:38.360 --> 0:44:40.880
<v Speaker 1>my nigga. Pretty much, I feel like it was my boyfriend.

0:44:40.880 --> 0:44:42.359
<v Speaker 1>It was like a love the first sight type of thing.

0:44:42.560 --> 0:44:45.080
<v Speaker 1>So even like our relationship started the first day we met.

0:44:45.360 --> 0:44:47.600
<v Speaker 1>But that's the unfair thing to say, because you can't

0:44:47.760 --> 0:44:51.399
<v Speaker 1>judge the magnitude of someone else's relationship and how they're

0:44:51.400 --> 0:44:55.040
<v Speaker 1>progressing it, right, Like people show their love differently, so

0:44:55.080 --> 0:44:57.720
<v Speaker 1>when you're getting to know someone, like their gestures are different.

0:44:57.840 --> 0:45:01.160
<v Speaker 1>Women can do chivalrous things too, right, So whether you're

0:45:01.239 --> 0:45:03.200
<v Speaker 1>dressing up for someone and putting that effort in that

0:45:03.239 --> 0:45:05.200
<v Speaker 1>you're into, or trying to surprise them with something, or

0:45:05.200 --> 0:45:08.440
<v Speaker 1>having those moments like I'd still really stand by I

0:45:08.440 --> 0:45:12.160
<v Speaker 1>think those things are part of dating. But you're like,

0:45:12.200 --> 0:45:15.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm not cooking for nigga. We got a title and

0:45:15.239 --> 0:45:17.160
<v Speaker 1>he got that side because I said, just so you know,

0:45:17.440 --> 0:45:19.480
<v Speaker 1>all my friends know you as my boyfriend, and he

0:45:19.520 --> 0:45:23.400
<v Speaker 1>didn't argue, so that meant we were together, okay, because

0:45:23.400 --> 0:45:26.360
<v Speaker 1>now I will tell you I beat that and he

0:45:26.480 --> 0:45:29.640
<v Speaker 1>just said, okay, so that's when we were together. I'm

0:45:29.680 --> 0:45:36.040
<v Speaker 1>glad you have your ma. Now if you have been

0:45:36.040 --> 0:45:39.320
<v Speaker 1>broken up with, here are the five stages of grief

0:45:39.360 --> 0:45:42.120
<v Speaker 1>from a breakup. Nigga. This ship is so real that

0:45:42.160 --> 0:45:43.759
<v Speaker 1>it's not even funny. This ain't speaking to me. I

0:45:43.800 --> 0:45:47.239
<v Speaker 1>don't know about what this feel like. Denial, okay that

0:45:47.400 --> 0:45:50.600
<v Speaker 1>that is the number one. Hey tripping this. I don't

0:45:50.600 --> 0:45:53.360
<v Speaker 1>even need to read this ship. Hey tripping that, nigga,

0:45:53.400 --> 0:45:55.920
<v Speaker 1>hes gonna be calling me talk. We know. This is

0:45:55.960 --> 0:46:00.920
<v Speaker 1>probably why a lot of people's like call it a

0:46:01.000 --> 0:46:04.920
<v Speaker 1>break because not bro, you got broken up with, but

0:46:05.000 --> 0:46:07.680
<v Speaker 1>you went denial and now y'all back together. But this

0:46:07.680 --> 0:46:11.920
<v Speaker 1>one's really funny because I've watched myself do this literally,

0:46:12.000 --> 0:46:15.879
<v Speaker 1>like with my last breakup. I remember it. I was like,

0:46:16.760 --> 0:46:19.560
<v Speaker 1>so the second one is anger. I was like, okay,

0:46:19.640 --> 0:46:22.279
<v Speaker 1>so they make really gonna call me it as we Okay,

0:46:22.480 --> 0:46:25.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm about the funk around and I went out just

0:46:25.360 --> 0:46:27.480
<v Speaker 1>like I said, if you want that pussy, ain't hurting

0:46:27.520 --> 0:46:36.520
<v Speaker 1>nobody but yourself. You ain't hurting him, I hate him

0:46:36.560 --> 0:46:39.560
<v Speaker 1>all right. Then the bargaining, this one is a good one.

0:46:39.920 --> 0:46:45.239
<v Speaker 1>Bargaining what during this breakup you may feel vulnerable and helpless,

0:46:45.320 --> 0:46:47.920
<v Speaker 1>and in these moments it's not uncommon to look for

0:46:48.000 --> 0:46:50.680
<v Speaker 1>ways to regain control or want to feel like you

0:46:50.680 --> 0:46:55.279
<v Speaker 1>can affect the outcome again. So basically they say you

0:46:55.320 --> 0:46:59.120
<v Speaker 1>may start bargaining with God or a higher power in

0:46:59.160 --> 0:47:02.680
<v Speaker 1>return from heal relief, bargaining with that person trying to

0:47:02.680 --> 0:47:06.839
<v Speaker 1>get them back, um or anything like basically saying if

0:47:06.840 --> 0:47:09.080
<v Speaker 1>I only had more time, they would have stayed. If

0:47:09.080 --> 0:47:11.080
<v Speaker 1>I only did this, that's your bargaining. It's like you

0:47:11.239 --> 0:47:13.200
<v Speaker 1>like going over and over again on what you could

0:47:13.200 --> 0:47:15.719
<v Speaker 1>have done. Um, then I only gave him a threesome,

0:47:15.800 --> 0:47:21.680
<v Speaker 1>he wouldn't have left me. Depression that's the fourth stage,

0:47:21.719 --> 0:47:24.680
<v Speaker 1>basically saying it's a quiet stage of grief. Um, you

0:47:24.719 --> 0:47:26.640
<v Speaker 1>may run from the emotions by trying to stay busy

0:47:26.640 --> 0:47:28.680
<v Speaker 1>and do all this other ship but falling into depression.

0:47:28.680 --> 0:47:32.080
<v Speaker 1>And the fifth stage is your acceptance stage. Not necessarily

0:47:32.160 --> 0:47:34.359
<v Speaker 1>that means you're like happy, but means that like you

0:47:34.440 --> 0:47:38.480
<v Speaker 1>understand what's going on, Like ultimately, this is what had

0:47:38.520 --> 0:47:40.839
<v Speaker 1>to happen, this was a healthy choice for me, or

0:47:40.880 --> 0:47:42.720
<v Speaker 1>this is what that person wanted and have to respect

0:47:42.760 --> 0:47:45.680
<v Speaker 1>what they wanted. Um, but no, I like those so

0:47:46.000 --> 0:47:48.160
<v Speaker 1>how to get over it? Now? I did pull something

0:47:48.200 --> 0:47:49.920
<v Speaker 1>up from Oprah Meg, but I feel like Mandy and

0:47:49.920 --> 0:47:52.080
<v Speaker 1>I could put our ship in there because I don't

0:47:52.120 --> 0:47:54.400
<v Speaker 1>know if Oprah can really be the Hoprah that no,

0:47:54.480 --> 0:47:58.840
<v Speaker 1>because she's still got no. I mean Hopra as in

0:47:59.160 --> 0:48:04.359
<v Speaker 1>us allowing yourself time. Now, this one is a good

0:48:04.400 --> 0:48:05.919
<v Speaker 1>one because you know your friends will be like, bitch,

0:48:05.920 --> 0:48:08.480
<v Speaker 1>you gotta didn't you gotta like you gotta take your

0:48:08.480 --> 0:48:10.319
<v Speaker 1>time if you don't know, because I haven't been through

0:48:10.320 --> 0:48:12.279
<v Speaker 1>a breakup? But have you never helped friends through a

0:48:12.280 --> 0:48:17.360
<v Speaker 1>break up? But I've never done that. That's not what

0:48:18.080 --> 0:48:19.960
<v Speaker 1>I feel like, Mandy, you would be a fucking bitch

0:48:19.960 --> 0:48:22.560
<v Speaker 1>through a break up. Like if I like called you

0:48:22.640 --> 0:48:26.719
<v Speaker 1>like for crying, you'd be like girl, No, remember you

0:48:26.800 --> 0:48:28.719
<v Speaker 1>know how to help friends? Well, I gotta nigg if

0:48:28.760 --> 0:48:30.400
<v Speaker 1>you want to get flown out? You did say that

0:48:30.440 --> 0:48:34.200
<v Speaker 1>to me? Did he did you out? But that's how

0:48:34.200 --> 0:48:36.120
<v Speaker 1>I helped? That wasn't right. I got a whole bunch

0:48:36.120 --> 0:48:38.200
<v Speaker 1>of nice looking niggas. You want an NBA player or wrapper.

0:48:38.280 --> 0:48:40.040
<v Speaker 1>Do you know what? I called Alex crying one time

0:48:40.040 --> 0:48:42.439
<v Speaker 1>over nigga and he literally listened to me for maybe

0:48:42.480 --> 0:48:46.200
<v Speaker 1>five minutes and he goes, Nigga, shut up. Can you

0:48:46.280 --> 0:48:48.479
<v Speaker 1>like go through your DM and he told just find

0:48:48.520 --> 0:48:51.440
<v Speaker 1>the first blue check. You can't, You're gonna be fine.

0:48:51.640 --> 0:48:54.279
<v Speaker 1>I was like, that's how I helped my friends, my girl,

0:48:54.280 --> 0:48:56.200
<v Speaker 1>will you what's happen nigga? You want I help you

0:48:56.239 --> 0:48:58.680
<v Speaker 1>find him? I mean, I'm a real friend. But see

0:48:58.680 --> 0:49:01.240
<v Speaker 1>that's the toxic ship. You can't be toxic. You can't

0:49:01.239 --> 0:49:03.680
<v Speaker 1>just get under someone to get over them immediately when

0:49:03.719 --> 0:49:05.080
<v Speaker 1>you really need time to get over, because then you

0:49:05.160 --> 0:49:07.200
<v Speaker 1>just get word. Yeah. But then if you don't really

0:49:07.200 --> 0:49:09.359
<v Speaker 1>break up and maybe he comes back, now, you don't

0:49:09.360 --> 0:49:11.759
<v Speaker 1>miss out your chance and the nigger you probably would have.

0:49:12.719 --> 0:49:14.800
<v Speaker 1>You know what I meant, he stopped giving the hole hope.

0:49:15.280 --> 0:49:19.279
<v Speaker 1>So this one can consider deleting your ex's number for now.

0:49:19.360 --> 0:49:24.600
<v Speaker 1>I love that one. Nod deleted. No, there's WhatsApp, there's snapchat,

0:49:24.760 --> 0:49:27.200
<v Speaker 1>they got my email because they booked my flight. There's

0:49:27.239 --> 0:49:28.880
<v Speaker 1>too many other ways. It doesn't do nothing, no, no no,

0:49:28.880 --> 0:49:31.359
<v Speaker 1>no deleting it. So you won't text, like deleting their

0:49:31.400 --> 0:49:34.400
<v Speaker 1>Instagram because there's just too much. There's too much access.

0:49:34.840 --> 0:49:37.960
<v Speaker 1>It's it's trying, You're trying. It's a step. And then

0:49:38.000 --> 0:49:39.480
<v Speaker 1>I have to go through all those apps. By the

0:49:39.520 --> 0:49:41.160
<v Speaker 1>time I get to the fifth one, I'm gonna texting

0:49:41.200 --> 0:49:44.040
<v Speaker 1>nigga like, so you really wasn't gonna hit me? Oh,

0:49:44.400 --> 0:49:46.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm blocked the nigga cutting out and blocked them back.

0:49:46.080 --> 0:49:48.080
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean. It's like, it's so help

0:49:48.960 --> 0:49:51.560
<v Speaker 1>unblocked the old may once we toxic. This ain't working.

0:49:51.800 --> 0:49:53.799
<v Speaker 1>Unblocked him after I got mad at him. I can't

0:49:53.800 --> 0:49:55.160
<v Speaker 1>ever when I got mad at it before. We had

0:49:55.160 --> 0:49:57.399
<v Speaker 1>a flight together the next day and I blocked him

0:49:57.400 --> 0:50:00.440
<v Speaker 1>and he emailed me like are you serious? And I

0:50:00.560 --> 0:50:04.759
<v Speaker 1>was like, I'm still gonna go, but you what was

0:50:05.000 --> 0:50:06.799
<v Speaker 1>you know? I betty like that y'all weirdly blocked me

0:50:06.840 --> 0:50:09.960
<v Speaker 1>before and I said, oh, well, bitch, per our last conversation,

0:50:10.360 --> 0:50:12.279
<v Speaker 1>and I emailed her what I had to say, How

0:50:12.320 --> 0:50:15.359
<v Speaker 1>did not see see the email bit you're gonna read

0:50:15.360 --> 0:50:19.320
<v Speaker 1>this ship so that blocks to Oh yeah, that blocking

0:50:19.360 --> 0:50:23.120
<v Speaker 1>up another ain't gonna stop nothing, because you're crazy. If

0:50:23.120 --> 0:50:27.359
<v Speaker 1>these niggs crazy I'm a nigga. Protect your heart with

0:50:27.400 --> 0:50:32.120
<v Speaker 1>a social media purge. Now, not only should you delete them, niggi,

0:50:32.239 --> 0:50:34.839
<v Speaker 1>you may need to delete you all shop not happen

0:50:34.880 --> 0:50:37.440
<v Speaker 1>to put them down tome go through let me go

0:50:37.520 --> 0:50:43.640
<v Speaker 1>right now. Settings screen time said a fucking app limit,

0:50:43.960 --> 0:50:46.839
<v Speaker 1>and get your motherfucking ass off that goddamn app. Now,

0:50:47.080 --> 0:50:50.200
<v Speaker 1>whether you're scrolling through old photos of happier times, you

0:50:50.239 --> 0:50:53.399
<v Speaker 1>need to stop trying to decode if they're happy, um

0:50:53.680 --> 0:50:57.640
<v Speaker 1>through their stories doing all this ship literally, just fucking

0:50:57.640 --> 0:51:00.239
<v Speaker 1>give yourself a break. The other one. Don't con hact

0:51:00.280 --> 0:51:04.400
<v Speaker 1>your X unless absolutely necessary. It doesn't say what would

0:51:04.400 --> 0:51:07.960
<v Speaker 1>be the reason, what would that raison? Sorry, I had

0:51:08.000 --> 0:51:09.960
<v Speaker 1>to do the cardy thing. But um, I think if

0:51:09.960 --> 0:51:12.359
<v Speaker 1>you're dying, that's pretty good, or if someone dies that's

0:51:12.400 --> 0:51:14.120
<v Speaker 1>pretty good. Other than that, don't hit that neck up.

0:51:14.680 --> 0:51:18.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. Even if someone's dying, you're the last person

0:51:18.120 --> 0:51:19.799
<v Speaker 1>I want to hear from. Then if I'm dealing with

0:51:19.840 --> 0:51:23.520
<v Speaker 1>a death, you're my ex. Yes, like to me, like

0:51:23.680 --> 0:51:25.960
<v Speaker 1>it's the same way, Like me and my friend were

0:51:25.960 --> 0:51:27.759
<v Speaker 1>just talking about this, like, don't make me a charity case,

0:51:27.800 --> 0:51:29.920
<v Speaker 1>don't reach out to me, And we haven't spoken in months.

0:51:30.160 --> 0:51:31.960
<v Speaker 1>Don't hit me up just because you know I'm dealing

0:51:31.960 --> 0:51:34.480
<v Speaker 1>with something tragic, because right now, the last thing I

0:51:34.520 --> 0:51:36.920
<v Speaker 1>need is someone who brought pain to me to come

0:51:36.960 --> 0:51:39.360
<v Speaker 1>back into my mind about that where I'm dealing with.

0:51:39.640 --> 0:51:42.320
<v Speaker 1>If something tragic happened, like any of my ex boyfriends

0:51:42.320 --> 0:51:43.960
<v Speaker 1>I found out someone died in their life, I am

0:51:44.080 --> 0:51:46.879
<v Speaker 1>one right, but I'm telling you as someone who would

0:51:46.920 --> 0:51:49.759
<v Speaker 1>be on the receiving end if if I'm going through

0:51:49.760 --> 0:51:52.759
<v Speaker 1>a tragedy right now or I'm going through something. And again,

0:51:52.800 --> 0:51:55.080
<v Speaker 1>I was just having this conversation because you really think

0:51:55.120 --> 0:51:58.799
<v Speaker 1>that someone shouldn't be wishing you absolutely like I told you.

0:51:58.880 --> 0:52:00.680
<v Speaker 1>And and this is something that I've been dealing with,

0:52:00.719 --> 0:52:02.440
<v Speaker 1>like I said, not only has my anxiety been up,

0:52:02.600 --> 0:52:06.080
<v Speaker 1>one of my really close friends sorry, is battling breast cancer.

0:52:06.560 --> 0:52:10.200
<v Speaker 1>She's young, where you know, and one of her exes

0:52:10.680 --> 0:52:13.239
<v Speaker 1>was like, no, let me know when you're going for

0:52:13.320 --> 0:52:16.160
<v Speaker 1>your surgery, and she was like, my nigga, like we

0:52:16.200 --> 0:52:18.799
<v Speaker 1>haven't spoken in months. You lied to me the last

0:52:18.800 --> 0:52:20.920
<v Speaker 1>couple of times we talked. Don't hit me up acting

0:52:20.920 --> 0:52:22.440
<v Speaker 1>like this is a weak thing or an us thing,

0:52:22.719 --> 0:52:25.800
<v Speaker 1>or that you're here from me when realistically, you haven't

0:52:25.840 --> 0:52:29.279
<v Speaker 1>been here for me in all of these months from

0:52:29.280 --> 0:52:32.640
<v Speaker 1>a mutual friend. The mutual friend ran her mouth and

0:52:32.719 --> 0:52:34.520
<v Speaker 1>so she was upset because it's just like, don't come

0:52:34.560 --> 0:52:37.000
<v Speaker 1>in me now on some how are you I want

0:52:37.000 --> 0:52:39.480
<v Speaker 1>to go through this with you? First off, it's also COVID.

0:52:39.680 --> 0:52:41.440
<v Speaker 1>You wasn't rocking with me and checking on me when

0:52:41.480 --> 0:52:43.520
<v Speaker 1>I had COVID and she also had COVID. So it's

0:52:43.560 --> 0:52:45.680
<v Speaker 1>just like this has been a pandemic of a year

0:52:45.920 --> 0:52:49.120
<v Speaker 1>where if you haven't checked on my well being over

0:52:49.160 --> 0:52:50.759
<v Speaker 1>this last I don't know. I feel like, don't come

0:52:50.800 --> 0:52:52.759
<v Speaker 1>at me because you hear something. Maybe if he like

0:52:52.960 --> 0:52:54.520
<v Speaker 1>I said a nice I don't know. I just don't

0:52:54.520 --> 0:52:56.439
<v Speaker 1>matter how nice you say. I'm not a nice text.

0:52:56.480 --> 0:52:59.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying because I will never forget, like if someone

0:52:59.239 --> 0:53:01.680
<v Speaker 1>if I lost somebody and you never I will if

0:53:01.719 --> 0:53:03.360
<v Speaker 1>I saw you in street, I'll never remember that you

0:53:03.400 --> 0:53:05.880
<v Speaker 1>never wished me well. You know my motherfucking so and

0:53:05.920 --> 0:53:09.920
<v Speaker 1>so died. I don't want to believe you never said anything.

0:53:11.719 --> 0:53:14.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't want someone who's genuine. I remember every single

0:53:14.640 --> 0:53:18.000
<v Speaker 1>person in my life I believe didn't fucking do anything

0:53:18.040 --> 0:53:19.840
<v Speaker 1>for me. Where my aunt died. No, when I was

0:53:19.880 --> 0:53:24.000
<v Speaker 1>going through I believe is I believe in a sincerity

0:53:24.080 --> 0:53:28.000
<v Speaker 1>and someone being genuine and to me, if I'm experiencing

0:53:28.000 --> 0:53:30.799
<v Speaker 1>grief or I'm going through something, I'm not gonna lie.

0:53:31.160 --> 0:53:34.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to hear from someone that we ended bad,

0:53:34.760 --> 0:53:37.080
<v Speaker 1>or we broke up, or you sucked me over the

0:53:37.160 --> 0:53:39.359
<v Speaker 1>last time we were dealing with whatever. I don't care

0:53:39.360 --> 0:53:41.400
<v Speaker 1>for you to insert yourself back into my life what

0:53:41.560 --> 0:53:45.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm going through, something that I'm I'm drained with mentally, emotionally.

0:53:46.160 --> 0:53:48.800
<v Speaker 1>The last thing I want is for someone that maybe

0:53:48.840 --> 0:53:51.600
<v Speaker 1>maybe we're maybe we're saying different things. I'm gonna tell

0:53:51.600 --> 0:53:53.279
<v Speaker 1>you what you're saying, gonna start yourself into my life

0:53:53.320 --> 0:53:55.200
<v Speaker 1>because if we haven't talked, I don't want you to

0:53:55.200 --> 0:54:01.000
<v Speaker 1>wish me well or say you're sorry. Don't anyone canna

0:54:01.040 --> 0:54:02.640
<v Speaker 1>argue with this, because you know, I just went through

0:54:02.680 --> 0:54:05.239
<v Speaker 1>a death and I will never forget the niggas that

0:54:05.320 --> 0:54:07.799
<v Speaker 1>knew my aunt died, that said nothing to me and

0:54:07.840 --> 0:54:10.400
<v Speaker 1>then just hit me up randomly like oh funny post

0:54:10.640 --> 0:54:14.879
<v Speaker 1>fuck you see. And so we just and and as

0:54:14.480 --> 0:54:17.520
<v Speaker 1>you like. Ain't cool when you know, but as human beings,

0:54:17.520 --> 0:54:20.080
<v Speaker 1>you have to understand that we all have our way

0:54:20.160 --> 0:54:23.120
<v Speaker 1>in thinking and how we respond and receive things. And

0:54:23.160 --> 0:54:25.480
<v Speaker 1>to me, if that's how I would receive it, that's

0:54:25.520 --> 0:54:27.279
<v Speaker 1>something I'm not gonna do. Well. The niggas know me

0:54:27.320 --> 0:54:29.800
<v Speaker 1>and they know that I, like at least would have

0:54:29.840 --> 0:54:32.920
<v Speaker 1>expected as is as high as my emotions always are

0:54:33.400 --> 0:54:35.560
<v Speaker 1>and as much time as I've spent with someone like

0:54:35.640 --> 0:54:38.399
<v Speaker 1>Thanksgiving ship like that, and you could say nothing, You're

0:54:38.400 --> 0:54:42.000
<v Speaker 1>a piece of ship. You could literally die a matter

0:54:42.040 --> 0:54:43.560
<v Speaker 1>of fact. Yeah, I don't view it that way. I

0:54:43.560 --> 0:54:47.160
<v Speaker 1>I do, but I think everybody pretty much knows how

0:54:47.200 --> 0:54:50.880
<v Speaker 1>their person is, and I think you know when you've

0:54:50.920 --> 0:54:52.960
<v Speaker 1>got a super emotional person around, like niggas need to

0:54:53.040 --> 0:54:55.080
<v Speaker 1>check on me. Yeah, but it's the same way. Don't

0:54:55.080 --> 0:54:57.319
<v Speaker 1>see me a Thanksgiving Day text if we ain't talking one,

0:54:57.440 --> 0:55:00.319
<v Speaker 1>don't that's not a death. Don't say Mary Christmas, don't

0:55:00.360 --> 0:55:03.279
<v Speaker 1>say Happy Birthday. Don't come and send me so see

0:55:03.320 --> 0:55:06.719
<v Speaker 1>those are I want to funk again? Text? No? So

0:55:06.760 --> 0:55:08.600
<v Speaker 1>maybe now you're about to use this depth to get

0:55:08.600 --> 0:55:11.400
<v Speaker 1>back into this pussy. I don't trust niggas. It's the

0:55:11.440 --> 0:55:13.520
<v Speaker 1>same thing, especially because in those times you are the

0:55:13.560 --> 0:55:16.640
<v Speaker 1>most vulnerable and may want someone I don't trust it. Bro,

0:55:16.719 --> 0:55:18.799
<v Speaker 1>if you ain't genuine, if you ain't been working with me,

0:55:19.000 --> 0:55:20.520
<v Speaker 1>don't sunk with me when you know I'm at a

0:55:20.560 --> 0:55:22.520
<v Speaker 1>low ground. That's just how I see it. I guess

0:55:22.520 --> 0:55:25.440
<v Speaker 1>that don't agree to disagree on it. So the last

0:55:25.480 --> 0:55:28.360
<v Speaker 1>few things to get over a breakup schedule plans with friends.

0:55:28.440 --> 0:55:31.719
<v Speaker 1>I love this one. We all need that, like it's

0:55:31.920 --> 0:55:35.239
<v Speaker 1>very necessary. No much more to that, um the breakup playlist.

0:55:35.360 --> 0:55:39.520
<v Speaker 1>I love this one because don't don't turn on Mary? No, no, no,

0:55:39.719 --> 0:55:41.680
<v Speaker 1>A good like fun one? What's a fun break up?

0:55:42.719 --> 0:55:46.560
<v Speaker 1>Do you know what my breakup is? Like fucking pastor

0:55:46.600 --> 0:55:50.120
<v Speaker 1>Troy bitch? But like just that made me be like,

0:55:50.239 --> 0:55:54.800
<v Speaker 1>oh I'm a boss bit fuck everybody in this world.

0:55:54.880 --> 0:56:01.400
<v Speaker 1>Breakup list, See it don't help. Well, see that's what

0:56:01.880 --> 0:56:04.319
<v Speaker 1>I can't listen, but I do have, like say, don't

0:56:04.360 --> 0:56:07.200
<v Speaker 1>do no. I mean, I'm the only Mary you could do?

0:56:07.480 --> 0:56:13.040
<v Speaker 1>Is the song That's not enough cry just fine, fine, fine, fine,

0:56:13.200 --> 0:56:19.359
<v Speaker 1>fine fine. I can't never hit that. No, we're not

0:56:19.440 --> 0:56:23.080
<v Speaker 1>dancer ring in here? I hate that song We're not

0:56:23.200 --> 0:56:27.440
<v Speaker 1>dancing in the breakup playlist, Like I actually call it

0:56:27.480 --> 0:56:30.279
<v Speaker 1>my bad mood playlist okay, just do city girls, but

0:56:30.760 --> 0:56:34.120
<v Speaker 1>get money playlist. Honestly, I mean, I ain't going through

0:56:34.120 --> 0:56:35.440
<v Speaker 1>ship right now, but I'll be putting that shirt on

0:56:35.480 --> 0:56:37.720
<v Speaker 1>when I can annoy it. I'd be like, damn, it's raining.

0:56:38.120 --> 0:56:40.480
<v Speaker 1>We put this on, like we all need a good one. Well,

0:56:40.520 --> 0:56:44.960
<v Speaker 1>I have a song that, um, you guys can play

0:56:45.480 --> 0:56:49.760
<v Speaker 1>any time that you guys are just like like you know,

0:56:49.760 --> 0:56:51.480
<v Speaker 1>oh they do have a good do not do not

0:56:51.520 --> 0:56:54.840
<v Speaker 1>get a breakup haircut? I love it. Well, I'm just

0:56:54.880 --> 0:56:57.000
<v Speaker 1>gonna play you guys the beat of the beginning of

0:56:57.000 --> 0:56:59.880
<v Speaker 1>this song because um, you really don't need to hear

0:56:59.880 --> 0:57:06.120
<v Speaker 1>an can help. This is a breakup song and see

0:57:06.120 --> 0:57:08.759
<v Speaker 1>your list bit because get a lie to you then

0:57:08.880 --> 0:57:13.080
<v Speaker 1>screw you get mad? If it's homeboys, do you that's it,

0:57:13.239 --> 0:57:16.480
<v Speaker 1>that's it. Damn I'm about to flock the niggas now

0:57:16.840 --> 0:57:19.040
<v Speaker 1>you know me from Florida Beach. Play Kaya and she'll

0:57:19.160 --> 0:57:23.440
<v Speaker 1>help you get through. It's not kay, stupid hole. How

0:57:23.560 --> 0:57:26.640
<v Speaker 1>you figure he won't suck your best friend and your sisters.

0:57:26.680 --> 0:57:28.760
<v Speaker 1>I mean he will and as we know next week,

0:57:29.640 --> 0:57:33.840
<v Speaker 1>just say it. Okay, okay, okay, So it says, um

0:57:34.080 --> 0:57:36.880
<v Speaker 1>resist the urge to obsess over what went wrong, which

0:57:36.960 --> 0:57:39.200
<v Speaker 1>is very difficult because when something goes wrong, I mean,

0:57:39.240 --> 0:57:41.920
<v Speaker 1>obviously we always feel like it's a failure. And you know,

0:57:42.120 --> 0:57:44.120
<v Speaker 1>but I like the last one, lose yourself in a

0:57:44.120 --> 0:57:46.080
<v Speaker 1>good book. I was going through breakup and that's how

0:57:46.080 --> 0:57:49.080
<v Speaker 1>I started watching Fiance. And if you're losing yourself in

0:57:49.080 --> 0:57:52.240
<v Speaker 1>a good book, don't read such a Soldier's Name, because

0:57:52.320 --> 0:57:54.240
<v Speaker 1>there's just love stories in there where you're gonna be like,

0:57:54.640 --> 0:57:58.280
<v Speaker 1>you know, I love murders are good. Murders are good. Breakup,

0:57:58.280 --> 0:58:01.919
<v Speaker 1>but murders, Oh yeah, I don't know. I wouldn't suggest murder.

0:58:01.960 --> 0:58:03.919
<v Speaker 1>You need something worse than what you're going through. Yeah,

0:58:03.960 --> 0:58:05.640
<v Speaker 1>but now you might want to kill the nigga. Now

0:58:05.640 --> 0:58:08.919
<v Speaker 1>you on Lifetime, now you're on the first forty eight. True,

0:58:08.920 --> 0:58:11.200
<v Speaker 1>that's a good point. Yeah, don't don't read a good

0:58:11.200 --> 0:58:12.840
<v Speaker 1>show show was to get into for a breakup. I

0:58:12.880 --> 0:58:15.240
<v Speaker 1>think we should say are so like I said, I

0:58:15.280 --> 0:58:17.760
<v Speaker 1>was going through a breakup when I started watching ninety Fiance,

0:58:18.440 --> 0:58:21.680
<v Speaker 1>and I remember being like, yo, like this is the

0:58:21.720 --> 0:58:24.200
<v Speaker 1>best thing for me. Game of Thrones I watched over

0:58:24.240 --> 0:58:27.400
<v Speaker 1>a breakup, um Master and None it's funny too. I

0:58:27.440 --> 0:58:30.720
<v Speaker 1>will also just say um, and I think I at

0:58:30.760 --> 0:58:32.880
<v Speaker 1>this point Bravo should cut me a check. But Real

0:58:32.920 --> 0:58:35.200
<v Speaker 1>Housewives of Atlanta, you get to see how awful everyone

0:58:35.200 --> 0:58:37.640
<v Speaker 1>else's relationships are, and then it just won't make you

0:58:37.640 --> 0:58:39.040
<v Speaker 1>want to be in one because it's just like, oh,

0:58:41.720 --> 0:58:44.920
<v Speaker 1>dealing with some He was like, they usually for it

0:58:45.040 --> 0:58:46.760
<v Speaker 1>might not be a sissen, you know what I mean?

0:58:47.280 --> 0:58:49.840
<v Speaker 1>Or are you watching the new one is seated? This

0:58:49.840 --> 0:58:53.240
<v Speaker 1>this uh, this new husband left for three days and

0:58:53.240 --> 0:58:55.280
<v Speaker 1>they ain't even hit her up and said, I was

0:58:55.360 --> 0:58:59.520
<v Speaker 1>just gone. Nigga was in Tampa and they said, you

0:58:59.520 --> 0:59:02.760
<v Speaker 1>don't need an a while. That's what married married. I

0:59:02.840 --> 0:59:05.080
<v Speaker 1>was like, oh no, let me tell you about how

0:59:05.120 --> 0:59:07.600
<v Speaker 1>the new ninety day fiance. They got this white woman

0:59:07.640 --> 0:59:12.680
<v Speaker 1>on their handy. She's a hula hooper who owns a esthetician,

0:59:12.800 --> 0:59:14.720
<v Speaker 1>like like a beauty salon. Like do you know when

0:59:14.760 --> 0:59:18.160
<v Speaker 1>people look LOOPI She's like, I just live with my

0:59:18.240 --> 0:59:24.280
<v Speaker 1>cat and so she but you just said that, bitch,

0:59:24.320 --> 0:59:26.560
<v Speaker 1>I live I live with body. You feel me? She

0:59:27.240 --> 0:59:29.560
<v Speaker 1>LUPI and this says, I live with my cat. That

0:59:29.640 --> 0:59:31.680
<v Speaker 1>was never the way she'd be talking. But I got

0:59:31.760 --> 0:59:33.880
<v Speaker 1>a cat, and she said, this is what loupie saund like,

0:59:33.920 --> 0:59:36.440
<v Speaker 1>I live with my cat. Okay, well I'll know I'll

0:59:36.480 --> 0:59:38.080
<v Speaker 1>be showing bodie every now and I think about it.

0:59:38.120 --> 0:59:40.240
<v Speaker 1>You do like me young niggas, but anyway, she's white.

0:59:40.800 --> 0:59:42.920
<v Speaker 1>Then she says, I am in love with my twenty

0:59:42.960 --> 0:59:45.280
<v Speaker 1>seven year old boyfriend from Believes. But she got the

0:59:45.360 --> 0:59:49.480
<v Speaker 1>strong accent, like maybe do the accent. No do it.

0:59:49.600 --> 0:59:51.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't even I've only seen two episodes because it's

0:59:51.640 --> 0:59:53.880
<v Speaker 1>just a new season. Learned accent. I have it. But

0:59:53.920 --> 0:59:57.000
<v Speaker 1>what I do know is he was like. She was like,

0:59:57.040 --> 0:59:59.720
<v Speaker 1>why didn't you answer my phone? I called you fourteen times?

1:00:00.160 --> 1:00:02.920
<v Speaker 1>He's like, you have that fucking work like ship. And

1:00:02.960 --> 1:00:04.640
<v Speaker 1>then she was like, it seems like you don't want

1:00:04.640 --> 1:00:05.680
<v Speaker 1>to come here. He's like, you think I want to

1:00:05.680 --> 1:00:07.560
<v Speaker 1>go to that stage with somebody who like this, and

1:00:07.600 --> 1:00:09.560
<v Speaker 1>he's like doing some crazy times. She's like, so I'm

1:00:09.600 --> 1:00:14.520
<v Speaker 1>crazy and he's like, well, yes, bitch. Actually she calls

1:00:14.600 --> 1:00:16.400
<v Speaker 1>and this is actually the bitch might be me. She

1:00:16.480 --> 1:00:19.840
<v Speaker 1>calls the terror Reado over and she's like the Nigain

1:00:19.920 --> 1:00:21.600
<v Speaker 1>answered the phone in like a day and a half.

1:00:21.640 --> 1:00:27.160
<v Speaker 1>She's like, I need to know if he's cheating, yo.

1:00:28.400 --> 1:00:30.360
<v Speaker 1>I mean she didn't even have to flip the Card's

1:00:30.440 --> 1:00:34.680
<v Speaker 1>like he's hiding something. Really, Oh my god, he is.

1:00:34.800 --> 1:00:36.800
<v Speaker 1>You know, she'd be calling his mama asking where she had.

1:00:36.840 --> 1:00:38.960
<v Speaker 1>She sends the family money every week real quick. We

1:00:39.040 --> 1:00:42.920
<v Speaker 1>talked about breakups fellas break up with a bitches. She

1:00:43.040 --> 1:00:48.520
<v Speaker 1>doing all this, I'm sorry, and can you deserve more?

1:00:49.320 --> 1:00:53.480
<v Speaker 1>So she pays all their bills and please let me

1:00:53.560 --> 1:00:55.120
<v Speaker 1>she pay you for dick at this point, I mean,

1:00:55.160 --> 1:00:58.040
<v Speaker 1>it's an arrangement. They ain't got like they're broke up

1:00:58.040 --> 1:01:00.880
<v Speaker 1>there exactly. That's my family, not because why she couldn't

1:01:00.880 --> 1:01:03.080
<v Speaker 1>get an American Families bro She had to buy somebody

1:01:03.120 --> 1:01:05.960
<v Speaker 1>that she felt she could paying for the mama's bills bills.

1:01:06.080 --> 1:01:07.560
<v Speaker 1>So you think you even to put up with that ship,

1:01:09.160 --> 1:01:11.200
<v Speaker 1>I've alway put up with it. But listen to this team.

1:01:11.720 --> 1:01:13.600
<v Speaker 1>Look at me's saying it like I run the show.

1:01:13.720 --> 1:01:16.000
<v Speaker 1>So the bitch was like yo, during COVID, he lost

1:01:16.040 --> 1:01:18.280
<v Speaker 1>his job at the resort. I met him att so

1:01:18.320 --> 1:01:21.160
<v Speaker 1>I got him an job at another resort by paying

1:01:21.560 --> 1:01:23.600
<v Speaker 1>the resort who wouldn't hire him, Like, just hir him back.

1:01:23.600 --> 1:01:27.160
<v Speaker 1>I'll get you money, gird. It's just so good anyway,

1:01:27.560 --> 1:01:32.880
<v Speaker 1>let's get to the home mail mail please baby. Okay,

1:01:33.360 --> 1:01:36.320
<v Speaker 1>so the whole mail for this week, what does it

1:01:36.400 --> 1:01:38.440
<v Speaker 1>have to do with I'm getting to it. I'm clicking

1:01:38.440 --> 1:01:40.640
<v Speaker 1>on it, so I'm just using filler words. Here we go.

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<v Speaker 1>I still don't have it. Okay, Mandy and Weezy. I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to say that I love everything about the

1:01:46.800 --> 1:01:49.000
<v Speaker 1>both of you, especially you easy or so gorgeous, thinking

1:01:49.240 --> 1:01:53.360
<v Speaker 1>this would be the one you pick. I love your

1:01:53.400 --> 1:01:56.720
<v Speaker 1>sweats and mandy skills are kind of that is not

1:01:56.880 --> 1:01:59.800
<v Speaker 1>what they said. She say anything about me. I hope

1:01:59.840 --> 1:02:01.560
<v Speaker 1>to be the hose that you are one day. Well,

1:02:02.400 --> 1:02:06.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm a reformed honestly. Wow, I'm writing because I'm going

1:02:06.000 --> 1:02:07.800
<v Speaker 1>through a bit of a dry spell. I'll recently stopped

1:02:07.800 --> 1:02:09.480
<v Speaker 1>working with my friends with benefits because he was a

1:02:09.520 --> 1:02:12.360
<v Speaker 1>toxic person. And after I let go of that toxic dick,

1:02:12.600 --> 1:02:14.280
<v Speaker 1>I made a promise that I'd only fund guys I

1:02:14.320 --> 1:02:17.840
<v Speaker 1>actually like and who respect me. I like that, But

1:02:17.920 --> 1:02:19.840
<v Speaker 1>that promise I made to myself comes with meeting a

1:02:19.880 --> 1:02:21.400
<v Speaker 1>lot of guys that don't have the time, patients, or

1:02:21.440 --> 1:02:23.520
<v Speaker 1>capacity to give that to me. I've tried dating apps

1:02:23.520 --> 1:02:24.840
<v Speaker 1>and I haven't met a guy who's willing to take

1:02:24.840 --> 1:02:27.280
<v Speaker 1>me out or potentially suck down the line. I've tried

1:02:27.320 --> 1:02:30.280
<v Speaker 1>hitting guys up, but you can slow down. We're not

1:02:30.360 --> 1:02:34.160
<v Speaker 1>in a rush, We're not. No, I'm really hungry. Sorry.

1:02:34.680 --> 1:02:36.960
<v Speaker 1>I've tried dating apps, and I just haven't met a

1:02:36.960 --> 1:02:39.440
<v Speaker 1>guy who's willing to take me out or that I

1:02:39.480 --> 1:02:44.760
<v Speaker 1>could potentially fuck down the line. I've even tried hitting

1:02:44.800 --> 1:02:47.120
<v Speaker 1>up guys first, but that doesn't work out. I get

1:02:47.160 --> 1:02:50.160
<v Speaker 1>left on red, et cetera. At this point, I'm so

1:02:50.280 --> 1:02:53.320
<v Speaker 1>horny all caps that I've been considering fucking dudes that

1:02:53.360 --> 1:02:55.000
<v Speaker 1>I've been avoiding for months, and I don't want to

1:02:55.000 --> 1:02:57.760
<v Speaker 1>settle for something that I didn't want before. But I

1:02:57.800 --> 1:03:00.480
<v Speaker 1>feel like I should respect their persistence and give them

1:03:00.480 --> 1:03:02.800
<v Speaker 1>a try. Am I settling? How do I get the

1:03:02.800 --> 1:03:04.760
<v Speaker 1>guys I want? What should I do? Well, ma'am, let

1:03:04.760 --> 1:03:06.920
<v Speaker 1>me tell you something. How do you get the guys

1:03:06.920 --> 1:03:11.160
<v Speaker 1>you want? Let's go with exhibit A. Mandy a good job,

1:03:11.520 --> 1:03:18.600
<v Speaker 1>graduated college, fun, pretty girl. It took four years, thirty

1:03:18.680 --> 1:03:23.840
<v Speaker 1>years altogether. Because if you thought we had the answer, bitch,

1:03:25.080 --> 1:03:27.280
<v Speaker 1>I was out here toxic dick for as long as

1:03:27.320 --> 1:03:30.200
<v Speaker 1>I can remember. I got a nigger right now, who

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know. I feel like this is a

1:03:34.320 --> 1:03:37.480
<v Speaker 1>very hard question to answer. No, this is she's actually

1:03:37.640 --> 1:03:40.360
<v Speaker 1>asking a question in a space where I was. I mean,

1:03:40.640 --> 1:03:43.440
<v Speaker 1>I think the pandemic sped it up, like I wanted

1:03:43.480 --> 1:03:45.440
<v Speaker 1>to get out of dealing with the toxic men that

1:03:45.480 --> 1:03:48.600
<v Speaker 1>I was dealing with. But again, as someone who does

1:03:48.680 --> 1:03:52.160
<v Speaker 1>just like to have sex, I would much rather deal

1:03:52.200 --> 1:03:55.080
<v Speaker 1>with toxic dick that I know it's gonna make me come,

1:03:55.520 --> 1:03:58.880
<v Speaker 1>then risk getting new dick that is probably gonna be subpar.

1:03:59.160 --> 1:04:01.480
<v Speaker 1>So I think if it the main thing what I

1:04:01.480 --> 1:04:03.560
<v Speaker 1>found interesting, She's like, they won't take me out, they

1:04:03.560 --> 1:04:04.720
<v Speaker 1>want to do this, they don't want to take me

1:04:04.760 --> 1:04:08.640
<v Speaker 1>on dates. You mentioned one word, which was respect. I

1:04:08.680 --> 1:04:10.760
<v Speaker 1>don't think that you need a man to court you

1:04:10.840 --> 1:04:14.240
<v Speaker 1>to respect respect you, And I think you're confusing those

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<v Speaker 1>two things. This is very Steve Harvey of you, and

1:04:16.240 --> 1:04:18.920
<v Speaker 1>you should just be Lorie. What you need to do

1:04:19.560 --> 1:04:22.040
<v Speaker 1>is just understand that the two are not the same.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone not wanting to be with you does not mean

1:04:25.720 --> 1:04:29.280
<v Speaker 1>they don't respect you. I think also somebody who just

1:04:29.360 --> 1:04:32.400
<v Speaker 1>wants to keep the relationship at a sexual you know,

1:04:32.680 --> 1:04:36.560
<v Speaker 1>in a sexual capacity, just because they don't date you,

1:04:37.120 --> 1:04:39.280
<v Speaker 1>because that's where it can blur the lines. If you

1:04:39.320 --> 1:04:41.919
<v Speaker 1>are right now just looking for someone to fuck um

1:04:42.040 --> 1:04:44.680
<v Speaker 1>or those were the relationships you had. Just because they

1:04:44.680 --> 1:04:47.520
<v Speaker 1>didn't take you on dates or didn't, you know, take

1:04:47.560 --> 1:04:49.640
<v Speaker 1>you out to dinner doesn't mean they didn't respect you.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think that you're drawing the line to where

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<v Speaker 1>it making it seem as though if someone courts you

1:04:55.200 --> 1:04:57.080
<v Speaker 1>and takes you out that means they respect you. That

1:04:57.160 --> 1:04:59.000
<v Speaker 1>also doesn't mean they respect you just because they take

1:04:59.040 --> 1:05:01.800
<v Speaker 1>you on dates, though it doesn't. And I think that

1:05:02.280 --> 1:05:05.760
<v Speaker 1>we have thought that someone respecting us for the longest

1:05:05.800 --> 1:05:08.000
<v Speaker 1>time meant that they would do all of these things

1:05:08.040 --> 1:05:10.640
<v Speaker 1>for us, when really these lines are a lot smaller,

1:05:10.760 --> 1:05:14.240
<v Speaker 1>like through female liberation and sexual liberation, Like you got

1:05:14.240 --> 1:05:16.760
<v Speaker 1>to understand that you being able to even say you

1:05:16.800 --> 1:05:19.560
<v Speaker 1>want just sex is respect, you know what I'm saying,

1:05:19.600 --> 1:05:21.600
<v Speaker 1>Like you knowing that you ain't about to play yourself

1:05:21.600 --> 1:05:22.920
<v Speaker 1>on some ship like that. So I think if you

1:05:22.960 --> 1:05:26.400
<v Speaker 1>could suck these niggas and act like one actually is

1:05:26.440 --> 1:05:29.680
<v Speaker 1>that Steve Harvey, But I act like what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>like be able to just move where you're not gonna

1:05:32.280 --> 1:05:34.520
<v Speaker 1>feel bad about yoursel and I think the problem is

1:05:34.960 --> 1:05:37.080
<v Speaker 1>you feel bad about yourself. And we talked about this

1:05:37.120 --> 1:05:42.400
<v Speaker 1>on Patreon when you want something but you're settling for

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<v Speaker 1>something else with partners, which is what I had to realize.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I knew I wanted a boyfriend. I shared on

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<v Speaker 1>this for you know damn near from the end of

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<v Speaker 1>twenty nineteen, well halfcause I got one. But I talked

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<v Speaker 1>about wanting a boyfriend, but yet I was still settling

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<v Speaker 1>in these toxic relationships with men that I knew weren't

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<v Speaker 1>going to give me essentially what I wanted. And it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't that they were disrespecting me. It was just that

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't really putting my foot down and really ask

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<v Speaker 1>getting what I wanted out of these partners. If I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted a relationship, I probably shouldn't be fucking with niggas

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<v Speaker 1>that was only offering me sex. And I also didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to be with them then. But that's the thing too,

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<v Speaker 1>is like you'd be thinking, like, all right, this ain't

1:06:23.320 --> 1:06:24.920
<v Speaker 1>the nigga for me, so let me just get some dick.

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, he ain't gonna be that one like

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<v Speaker 1>you could do right, and you got to compartmentalize dixus.

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<v Speaker 1>You got to know that this is a dick and

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<v Speaker 1>these might be like potential nice job, fun, smart, very

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<v Speaker 1>kind and text me good morning some pictures like that

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<v Speaker 1>something to just don't. I don't know what your vibe is,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, compartmentalizing niggas put them in litt pockets to

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<v Speaker 1>where you know you can pull them out of anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh yeah, this was fun their breakup. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>start a website hose that host for heartbreak or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>like heartbroken Hose, and I really feel like it'd be

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<v Speaker 1>a fun like you know, like break like a no,

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<v Speaker 1>like a breakup reddit, but really like you can help

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<v Speaker 1>me other like hos in there and funk each other

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<v Speaker 1>while you're going through this pain. Okay, haven't gonna keep

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<v Speaker 1>roach gonna fall into your chest at the studio. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>that's disrespectful. You think there's roaches in here? Bitches A

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<v Speaker 1>This has been yet another episode of horrible decisions by

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<v Speaker 1>so secret signs that your neighbor might be a swinger.

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<v Speaker 1>This comes from the New York Post um So, while

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<v Speaker 1>the Suns Online cannot verify any of these claims, here

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<v Speaker 1>are some of the tail tale signs that you could

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<v Speaker 1>be living next door to a swinger. According to Cooper

1:10:01.479 --> 1:10:05.040
<v Speaker 1>Beckett posts of the Life on the Swing Set podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>many swingers actually wear black rings. So you may know

1:10:10.080 --> 1:10:12.720
<v Speaker 1>that your neighbor is a swinger if they're wearing a

1:10:12.840 --> 1:10:16.759
<v Speaker 1>black ring. Um. You here's what he said. He said,

1:10:17.040 --> 1:10:19.800
<v Speaker 1>where your black ring on your right hand? If you

1:10:19.800 --> 1:10:23.160
<v Speaker 1>are out and open to meet other swingers, if someone

1:10:23.240 --> 1:10:25.519
<v Speaker 1>wearing a black ring on their right hand approaches you,

1:10:25.840 --> 1:10:28.360
<v Speaker 1>start a conversation with them. I see you're wearing a

1:10:28.400 --> 1:10:30.840
<v Speaker 1>black ring on your right hand. Maybe we are in

1:10:30.840 --> 1:10:34.559
<v Speaker 1>the same club. Um, that's what No, don't be telling.

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<v Speaker 1>They also cite white landscaping, rocks and pink or purple

1:10:39.400 --> 1:10:45.759
<v Speaker 1>decorations in the front garden as a signal of swinger activity. Um. Bizarrely,

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<v Speaker 1>the website identifies pineapples as another swinger signal, in the

1:10:50.720 --> 1:10:53.120
<v Speaker 1>form of a door knocker. And I don't know if

1:10:53.160 --> 1:10:56.880
<v Speaker 1>y'all can see it, but a pineapple door knocker also

1:10:57.000 --> 1:11:01.519
<v Speaker 1>signifies that your neighbor may be a swinger. Um, let

1:11:01.520 --> 1:11:06.120
<v Speaker 1>me see if there's any more signs. There's also another

1:11:06.560 --> 1:11:10.479
<v Speaker 1>a sign, um, oh, here we go. Uh. There's also

1:11:10.520 --> 1:11:14.439
<v Speaker 1>a suggestion that pink flamingos on the lawn is also

1:11:14.479 --> 1:11:22.800
<v Speaker 1>a tailtale sign. Ready, why you got flamingos? And YoY

1:11:22.840 --> 1:11:25.240
<v Speaker 1>already gotta be white people. Ship, I'm from Florida. They

1:11:25.240 --> 1:11:30.320
<v Speaker 1>put flamingos in their yard. Nigger. Someone said it's all

1:11:30.400 --> 1:11:36.519
<v Speaker 1>Florida's swingers, all of Florida's all right, Um, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>let me say something about that. First of all, listen,

1:11:38.520 --> 1:11:41.200
<v Speaker 1>it's a large intendency of swingers down there. Um, there's

1:11:41.240 --> 1:11:43.719
<v Speaker 1>a big resort called top Secret Resources to just open.

1:11:44.040 --> 1:11:47.400
<v Speaker 1>I mean, like, well, wow, if you want to come

1:11:47.439 --> 1:11:49.360
<v Speaker 1>on here and be our goddamn third host, you need

1:11:49.360 --> 1:11:52.040
<v Speaker 1>to send an application. But I don't know you think

1:11:52.080 --> 1:11:53.839
<v Speaker 1>you are coming in and telling us about the resort

1:11:53.840 --> 1:11:59.000
<v Speaker 1>and stad go ahead. And MARII also, I think maybe

1:11:59.040 --> 1:12:02.120
<v Speaker 1>the only one with the ability to just un mute

1:12:02.120 --> 1:12:05.040
<v Speaker 1>his mic whenever he's still where's the top secret thing?

1:12:07.960 --> 1:12:11.200
<v Speaker 1>Where it's a top secret resort in Florida. Um, a

1:12:11.200 --> 1:12:19.840
<v Speaker 1>friend of mine, I think that maybe Orlando, Florida. I

1:12:19.880 --> 1:12:21.840
<v Speaker 1>gotta check, but I know it's in I know it's

1:12:21.840 --> 1:12:25.240
<v Speaker 1>in Florida. It's not Miami because it's a little bit

1:12:25.280 --> 1:12:28.240
<v Speaker 1>northern than Miami, but a lot of those places and

1:12:28.400 --> 1:12:31.880
<v Speaker 1>a whole bunch of cities between Orlando in Miami. Well,

1:12:31.920 --> 1:12:36.479
<v Speaker 1>he's not lying. It is where in Orlando adult only

1:12:36.640 --> 1:12:43.680
<v Speaker 1>luxuries are on Johnny on Parkway Haney, Okay, way, my friend, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I know somebody who was doing some of the marketing

1:12:46.200 --> 1:12:48.120
<v Speaker 1>for that company because they just launched and we're just

1:12:48.160 --> 1:12:50.760
<v Speaker 1>trying to bring some people out there. Is it? Have

1:12:50.960 --> 1:12:53.479
<v Speaker 1>you and have you had any friends that have gone there?

1:12:53.960 --> 1:12:58.200
<v Speaker 1>They got a podcast, y'all. It's new. What is new

1:12:58.320 --> 1:13:01.120
<v Speaker 1>right now? It's new right now, Like they're just now

1:13:01.160 --> 1:13:03.360
<v Speaker 1>doing a brand and for that So, Um, the only

1:13:03.360 --> 1:13:05.680
<v Speaker 1>person that I know down near that's doing that is

1:13:05.720 --> 1:13:07.400
<v Speaker 1>the is the girl that's doing the market in my

1:13:07.439 --> 1:13:11.599
<v Speaker 1>own girl break. I'll ask about that. But as far

1:13:11.600 --> 1:13:13.559
<v Speaker 1>as Wish was saying about the pineapples, all right, I

1:13:13.560 --> 1:13:15.559
<v Speaker 1>don't know nothing about the flamingos or nothing like that,

1:13:15.600 --> 1:13:23.720
<v Speaker 1>but yes, the pineapples is definitely a thing in our community. Yes, pineapple, Yes,

1:13:23.800 --> 1:13:25.519
<v Speaker 1>that's our symbol all right. Now, as far as the

1:13:25.560 --> 1:13:28.519
<v Speaker 1>Black Ring, that's a company called Partners. I d those

1:13:28.600 --> 1:13:33.080
<v Speaker 1>nigs was just trying to market their ship. Yeah, yeah,

1:13:33.200 --> 1:13:36.680
<v Speaker 1>that company. Because we might need to have you on

1:13:36.680 --> 1:13:40.400
<v Speaker 1>the episode since you know so much what I do,

1:13:40.640 --> 1:13:41.880
<v Speaker 1>and now this is what I do, what I have

1:13:41.880 --> 1:13:45.400
<v Speaker 1>on what do you do? Now? I have lifestyle events,

1:13:45.439 --> 1:13:47.080
<v Speaker 1>as a matter of fact, I do. We have a

1:13:47.080 --> 1:13:49.320
<v Speaker 1>little podcast we're doing on our own. You know. I

1:13:49.400 --> 1:13:53.880
<v Speaker 1>have lifestyle podcast, lifestyle events in n y C. In Jersey.

1:13:54.280 --> 1:13:56.280
<v Speaker 1>Oh wait, you're up here, so we can have you

1:13:56.360 --> 1:13:59.760
<v Speaker 1>like on a real episode. Yeah, definitely would love that.

1:14:00.160 --> 1:14:02.519
<v Speaker 1>So next Friday, put your out. Yeah, we're gonna we're

1:14:02.520 --> 1:14:04.599
<v Speaker 1>gonna maybe talk about next Friday. We're not gonna ask

1:14:04.600 --> 1:14:06.000
<v Speaker 1>you to pull your dick out, I promise. I don't

1:14:06.040 --> 1:14:09.120
<v Speaker 1>know what he's talking about. Definitely would like to talk

1:14:09.120 --> 1:14:12.760
<v Speaker 1>about how you slang that dick um tammy you over

1:14:12.840 --> 1:14:15.240
<v Speaker 1>there yelling at us, So go ahead and I mute yourself. Girl,

1:14:15.320 --> 1:14:17.800
<v Speaker 1>tell us what you know about to swing your lifestyle. Baby,

1:14:18.000 --> 1:14:20.120
<v Speaker 1>I ain't know nothing about swinglat style. I just realized

1:14:20.160 --> 1:14:21.800
<v Speaker 1>that my mama used to put him in the yard

1:14:21.840 --> 1:14:26.320
<v Speaker 1>when I was growing up in Chicago. So you mean no,

1:14:26.360 --> 1:14:28.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm just asking, so you need to try to say

1:14:28.160 --> 1:14:30.679
<v Speaker 1>admit that by playing my day, we're sliding that dick somebody.

1:14:30.680 --> 1:14:34.519
<v Speaker 1>Oh mrs much team, I just want to know if

1:14:34.560 --> 1:14:37.200
<v Speaker 1>you single, cause I will move to New York. Alright,

1:14:37.200 --> 1:14:40.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm just right oho, alright. We gotta mute Tammy, y'all

1:14:40.200 --> 1:14:42.719
<v Speaker 1>because sometimes she get it a little out of about

1:14:42.720 --> 1:14:44.519
<v Speaker 1>to look up on right like their voice. Oh my,

1:14:44.600 --> 1:14:46.680
<v Speaker 1>and he had a beard, yall. Hell lord, but my,

1:14:46.800 --> 1:14:49.000
<v Speaker 1>how tall you is? Since you can mute yourself, tell

1:14:49.040 --> 1:14:53.720
<v Speaker 1>us real quick. Ruin the Fantasy