Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make A horrible decisions. Hi, guys,
Speaker 1: welcome to another episode of horrible decisions. Apparently I faked
Speaker 1: my accents, so I wanted to you know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I got a tweet that said they
Speaker 1: think I faked my ex and bitch, I don't know
Speaker 1: what that means. Look, yeah, you see, I just switched
Speaker 1: it up. This is me plus as So anyway, y'all,
Speaker 1: welcome to another episode. It's your girl. May to be
Speaker 1: a kad bitch, a k A Pitt, the one that
Speaker 1: has known Mandy for amost fifteen years. She is absolutely
Speaker 1: that cut fuck. You know. But I really have sounded
Speaker 1: and talked like I've been me since since I've been me,
Speaker 1: since I came out the goddamn well. I think sometimes
Speaker 1: you when you're like having fun, maybe you like it
Speaker 1: comes at me too, But I don't know. It's weird,
Speaker 1: like when I don't like that you also just said
Speaker 1: that something comes out. No, no, I'm saying you get
Speaker 1: more hyped. Hear my voice gets louder. I don't think
Speaker 1: you get more hood the more like you get. Don't
Speaker 1: let you get lit. First off, I will for one,
Speaker 1: say that I don't. I don't like the adjectives of
Speaker 1: hood and ghetto being used in reference to how I speak.
Speaker 1: I will say there right, just say am bu jetto
Speaker 1: or something? But wait, I'm so to me, I am
Speaker 1: bu jetto. You see I got heels on today. I
Speaker 1: also figured y'all, since y'all photos of y'all who watch
Speaker 1: on the YouTube, we'll be coming in here, bitch sweats
Speaker 1: and graphic teas. And I'm like, this is a sex
Speaker 1: pas Can we give sweat and graphic seas? What a bit?
Speaker 1: Which we? We? You know? I said we? You are
Speaker 1: the one that looks more gay, and I just will not.
Speaker 1: I'm not like this fucking mike my hand, yeah, not
Speaker 1: touched because guess what audio picks up. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you know you've only been potting for four years.
Speaker 1: We can hear that. The listener can hear you brambling
Speaker 1: with a god damn. I mean like it's like a
Speaker 1: hard bitch, because really, if we want to talk about it,
Speaker 1: you want to do an animal press shoes? You got
Speaker 1: going trying to me? I am spicy spicy show had
Speaker 1: me come in here and just be a normal person
Speaker 1: like I've been doing for four years. Normally I'm at
Speaker 1: the last few episodes. Nothing about you, nothing about you
Speaker 1: as normal anyway, I can't stand man. You ready, I'll
Speaker 1: just say, y'all, welcome to another show. For those of
Speaker 1: you who have not listened to this show before, because
Speaker 1: you got a problem. They you have a problem, you, guys.
Speaker 1: I was always supposed to be about sex, not therapy.
Speaker 1: We had that episode a long time ago, and maybe
Speaker 1: she should come back anyway. Anyway, I guess we'll start.
Speaker 1: Let's do a catchup. It's just us. Uh no, Mustard,
Speaker 1: what see that? I know? I was like, that was God. No,
Speaker 1: it wasn't God. He was like, she'd be tripping. Let
Speaker 1: me get her. You're done. You're don't know. I'm trying
Speaker 1: to cross my legs and the problem is no, the
Speaker 1: problem is a bitch been working out and the way
Speaker 1: my thighs are burning right now, I don't even know
Speaker 1: how I'm doing this. I dim sure don't go right
Speaker 1: No did tonight, But this right here hurts because I've
Speaker 1: been using like the elastic man's I mean that was shade.
Speaker 1: He did you? No, no no, not, everyone knows you get
Speaker 1: over the feeling. They could tell these sides. I don't
Speaker 1: be working out, dick, but I am back in the gym.
Speaker 1: I don't like people saying, like visually like, oh, you
Speaker 1: don't work out because you look like, yeah, that's what
Speaker 1: people assume when they don't see you as thin. Period.
Speaker 1: I hear you. I just like, I'm a I know
Speaker 1: that lets me be like I'm healthy, I'm healthy and
Speaker 1: I run circles around you. Well, no, I just have
Speaker 1: to have that conversation with a Twitter person because they
Speaker 1: were like, yeah, well they considered me trying to get
Speaker 1: to a healthy way. I said, nig ain't nothing wrong
Speaker 1: with my blood pressure or cholesterol or anything else, and
Speaker 1: so yeah, like you're just seen as unhealthy if you're
Speaker 1: not thin. So I don't that's why. I mean, I
Speaker 1: made the joke. But yeah, I'm in the gym now.
Speaker 1: But I could very well be in the gym and
Speaker 1: still have this body and just tone up and people
Speaker 1: still gonna view me as unhealthy. It's weird because, like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, healthy way is an interesting one and
Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like it doesn't prescribe to
Speaker 1: someone that's your size. Like I watch a lot of
Speaker 1: like my six hundred pound life, and there's like I
Speaker 1: understand that you don't get it because you've always been small.
Speaker 1: No, no no, no, I'm telling when people say healthy weight
Speaker 1: for a side always pounds and people still fat shaming me. Bro,
Speaker 1: you don't read the YouTube comments and mind you. My
Speaker 1: other show is also very visual where I sit in
Speaker 1: a chair like this, I'm getting fat shamed after losing
Speaker 1: eighty pounds because I'm still not thin. I'm probably never
Speaker 1: going to be. Then. I'm also five ft one, so
Speaker 1: my weight if I gained five pounds, it may look
Speaker 1: like I gained twelve because I'm five ft one. So no,
Speaker 1: I get what you're saying, but not people are calling
Speaker 1: me unhealthy and big bitch. I'm between I go between
Speaker 1: one five and one six and that I'm saying like
Speaker 1: I feel like when people that know knew you from
Speaker 1: back in the day, or they'll see a picture I
Speaker 1: catch up with someone like damn, Mandy got skinniest fun
Speaker 1: and I'm mad, right the people that know me as
Speaker 1: two hundred and thirty pound Mandy. Yes, and so yeah
Speaker 1: the fact like again, I'm just like Damn, I can't
Speaker 1: win for losing because when I was at my smallest,
Speaker 1: which was like one fifty. I got down to one fifty.
Speaker 1: People were telling me I look sick. What made you
Speaker 1: want to start um? Just because my partner now, girl,
Speaker 1: I'll be taking sea moss pills. I felt like, baby,
Speaker 1: I wasn't healthy. That's why I called the COVID so bitch,
Speaker 1: I'd be like just being healthy. I got Elderberry ship
Speaker 1: in my house. I ain't never heard of none of
Speaker 1: that ship. He got me taking a little o regular
Speaker 1: oil drops onto my tongue. Yeah, a bitch is like
Speaker 1: just amping her immune system, especially being that I did.
Speaker 1: I thought that. I was like, bitch, I'm gonna survive
Speaker 1: when the world ends. So I think COVID, well, even
Speaker 1: though people are ain't symtematic like it does is lower
Speaker 1: your I read about that. I don't know if it's real,
Speaker 1: but yeah, so, I mean the part of working out
Speaker 1: in the gym. Uh me and my nigga been going
Speaker 1: hiking and I can't some days I can't keep up
Speaker 1: with him in bed, and I'd be embarrassed because he
Speaker 1: got me by seventeen years bitch, And I'm like, all right,
Speaker 1: you know I'm not going to the gym for the
Speaker 1: YouTube prime at your assho it's for day. It's for day,
Speaker 1: Like most of this ship I do and like you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, do it for dick, babe. If
Speaker 1: you do it for nothing else, I don't blame you know.
Speaker 1: And so legs shaking, bitch, I'm gonna just sit like
Speaker 1: a nig baby can get this? They on her feet,
Speaker 1: just put the I don't know y'all gonna get this
Speaker 1: crotch because the way you wanna put you you wanna
Speaker 1: you want to pause and put sweats on? No what?
Speaker 1: Oh no, I'm a fucking foot stul that's baby. Come on.
Speaker 1: So anyway, Um, Mandy's feet are very very like close
Speaker 1: to my face and this is free interesting. Don't do that.
Speaker 1: Let's go anyway. What's the catch up? What you've been
Speaker 1: up to? Him? So I'm gonna get comfortable. Our show
Speaker 1: comes out on Monday. I can't talk about it yet,
Speaker 1: but I'm super excited. I have something announcing on Tuesday.
Speaker 1: I don't even know the date, but um, you know,
Speaker 1: I finally got to tell Mandy, and I was so
Speaker 1: excited about telling you. I guess this is like pretty stupid.
Speaker 1: I got the announcement, but Toody announced me. But I
Speaker 1: just and It's funny because I've been wanting to tell
Speaker 1: Mandy for so long, but you know when he wants
Speaker 1: something to be perfect. Oh, I just thought because we
Speaker 1: ain't been good, no, I wanted to support. I wanted
Speaker 1: you to like see it with your own eyes. I
Speaker 1: was like, she's gonna be so excited just like see
Speaker 1: this and every time, you know, other little ship will
Speaker 1: go wrong and be like day, I won't want to
Speaker 1: tell Mandy because we've been having funk ups, you know,
Speaker 1: and I guess you guys will figure it off. Yeah, like, damn,
Speaker 1: I thought we was doing good. Another argument, God damn. Oh.
Speaker 1: I actually meant like, oh, no, I was talking about us. Oh,
Speaker 1: I mean, but this is actually I'm okay. It's well,
Speaker 1: I don't you know what's funny? Like who was it? Was? It?
Speaker 1: Kila talked to someone and they were like, how are
Speaker 1: you Mandy? But you know, like it's interesting because the
Speaker 1: more I don't know, we do this podcast and like
Speaker 1: even though like we still argue and those things happen.
Speaker 1: I always laugh when people say we're gonna break up
Speaker 1: because I'd be like, nigga, you know what we've been through.
Speaker 1: You think this little tension you heard like one week
Speaker 1: that that was gonna do. Niggas don't know. Niggas don't
Speaker 1: know at all, But anyway, let's stay on a good track. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm working really hard and um bitch paint and doing Ship.
Speaker 1: I've been on the ladder and ship my nails. Everything
Speaker 1: looks fucking crazy and I can't wait till it's finally done.
Speaker 1: I'm super excited. And yeah, um also, y'all know, I
Speaker 1: have a show coming with Fuse and um my filming
Speaker 1: got pushed to COVID, But that doesn't necessarily mean that
Speaker 1: it doesn't come out at the same time, which is
Speaker 1: kind of scary because that basically means you just gotta
Speaker 1: hurried up all you about to be on that Tyler
Speaker 1: parent schedule that's gonna not got a whole season in
Speaker 1: two weeks. Actually, yes, that nigga said we're gonna do
Speaker 1: February fourteen to eight. That was like, okay, because it's
Speaker 1: supposed to be eight episode plus the outtake plus to
Speaker 1: read yep, two weeks. So I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: coffee or cocaine I'll do, but I am going to
Speaker 1: make sure I get this ship done anyway, That's right,
Speaker 1: it's stressful, but I think sometimes being busy is like
Speaker 1: a little fun because you forget, like you know the
Speaker 1: rest of your life is falling apart and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's fine. I think that that's why I really
Speaker 1: like being busy. Like to me, when I am not busy,
Speaker 1: then I think about too much ship, and then my
Speaker 1: mind just be going. I have my anxiety is already bad,
Speaker 1: but apparently it's to leave her thing to overthink. Y'all know,
Speaker 1: I don't well, they say it, I don't mind is
Speaker 1: the devil's workshop, and baby, that ship is true as
Speaker 1: it is being especially when you're going through it. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, please, well right now, give me a reo excute. Well,
Speaker 1: I know you're you have an announcement for what you've
Speaker 1: been working on with your project, but I've shared with
Speaker 1: y'all too, like a bitch is like about to drop
Speaker 1: her own products. So I literally like I had to
Speaker 1: have a woo saw moment on my on my conference
Speaker 1: call this morning and at it because even talking about
Speaker 1: the numbers, the money we have to raise, the money
Speaker 1: that's going out, I'm just like, to be real, this
Speaker 1: is all a lot of money to me, Like we're
Speaker 1: doing like possibly fifty. You hate when people act like
Speaker 1: the money that they're talking about with you isn't that
Speaker 1: big of a deal, Like, well, well the I is
Speaker 1: gonna be like it's like, well it's like like eight thousand,
Speaker 1: Well well yeah, and right now it's fifty. And I'm
Speaker 1: just like, you have to understand, I don't come from
Speaker 1: a family. And I'm telling this to my partner. I said,
Speaker 1: I don't come from a family of entrepreneurship. I don't
Speaker 1: come from a family with money like you know, I
Speaker 1: grew up. I talked food stamp, section eight um, all
Speaker 1: of that. And so in terms of what a lot
Speaker 1: of money is, this last year, I've seen the most
Speaker 1: money that anyone in my family essentially has ever seen,
Speaker 1: like and so it is like, I don't know what
Speaker 1: As an entrepreneur, seeing these numbers is just like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is this is what I'm dealing with. This is
Speaker 1: what I have going out. This is like even my
Speaker 1: credit card bill, I had to ask my accounting like,
Speaker 1: is this right? There's my delta? Miles said, I spent
Speaker 1: forty thousand on my car last year. Who's who's spending
Speaker 1: forty thousand? I remember when I didn't even see half
Speaker 1: of that as a salary in a year. That's why
Speaker 1: you gotta look at if you only get them one
Speaker 1: to per sent it back. Whatever the funk that ship is,
Speaker 1: you know crazy. The entrepreneurial ship is interesting because, like
Speaker 1: I've said to you all the time, like I don't
Speaker 1: care if I gotta go back to the nine five, right,
Speaker 1: I would never like. The reason being is like I
Speaker 1: don't I feel like Twitter and like niggas have really
Speaker 1: made me think like this is the only way to go,
Speaker 1: and I don't ever want to feel like if I
Speaker 1: don't make it as an entrepreneur, I won't make it
Speaker 1: like it's something bitch I'm not. I'll go back to
Speaker 1: sucking dick and my my price is gonna be real high.
Speaker 1: After nine five wasn't bad. But you know what though,
Speaker 1: we had two different nine of five. So if you
Speaker 1: guys have never listened to us before or you've forgotten,
Speaker 1: you need a reminder. Mandy was an accountant, so she
Speaker 1: was like it was a tax accountant who sometimes had
Speaker 1: to be in the office during season. That would be
Speaker 1: nine fifteen deadline, ten fifteen deadline. Because I did taxes
Speaker 1: for hedge funds and private equity funds and in investment banks,
Speaker 1: and so my work weeks I cried at work. I
Speaker 1: literally cried at work. I would work seventy eight hour weeks.
Speaker 1: I would let her know we need to record some
Speaker 1: more episodes because I literally be able to leave the
Speaker 1: office when my When my first quarter review came around,
Speaker 1: I didn't get good stars because I was leaving telling
Speaker 1: them I had a doctor's appointment. Every time we had
Speaker 1: to do the studio, we did brilliant idiots, well while
Speaker 1: I'll beyond this week And during break during the London
Speaker 1: bro oh no, I ended up switching in in Adida's out.
Speaker 1: But literally I would cry at work. And again it
Speaker 1: was salary. They thought they was doing something because if
Speaker 1: I stayed past seven they ordered me dinner. Whoopie do
Speaker 1: they gave me a car when I left the office
Speaker 1: at two am and still had to be back at
Speaker 1: nine am the next morning. That was And honestly I
Speaker 1: was doing and I was a public account and shout
Speaker 1: out to my public accountants at the Big four's, I
Speaker 1: was miserable and on a sleep that I will never
Speaker 1: do it again. I'm sorry, No, I'm gonna stick and
Speaker 1: lay on my back and give it to you, baby,
Speaker 1: and you don't even have to give it up because bitch,
Speaker 1: I might just be able to lay on my back.
Speaker 1: It's like a plastic dick on the only fans you
Speaker 1: and listen, entrepreneur, it's not so feel me. You guys
Speaker 1: may know. I used to work in tech. More specifically,
Speaker 1: we could say tech sales, tech engineering, because I was
Speaker 1: at the first start of the show, I was working
Speaker 1: in telecommunications, um, selling like tracking devices for GPS, anything
Speaker 1: with a SIM card, I'd sell it. If a billboard
Speaker 1: that you're looking at was digital, if the cab had
Speaker 1: shipped going on, like and you wonder how it has WiFi,
Speaker 1: there's a chip in there, like that's a cell phone,
Speaker 1: and I was selling that ship. And really why my
Speaker 1: job was not hard but easy about hard but easy
Speaker 1: is because when I needed time, I would just go
Speaker 1: on an appointment. Yeah, I had a luxury, so that
Speaker 1: was fun. And then, um, towards the latter part, when
Speaker 1: I got a new role, which is really what was
Speaker 1: making me feel like, oh my god, this is terrible.
Speaker 1: I made like another I made way more bread, but
Speaker 1: it was I was miserable. I was installing Ethernet street cuts,
Speaker 1: figuring out how much it was, Like I never I think.
Speaker 1: I would always tell you was like to close the
Speaker 1: street down for like six hours, like who would think?
Speaker 1: But ship like that disaster recovery software a w S,
Speaker 1: which is Amazon Web Services. Anyway, Basically I was doing
Speaker 1: tech stuff and I always felt really excited about being
Speaker 1: a woman in that field, and that already made me
Speaker 1: feel good like I was doing something different and now
Speaker 1: in this new place in life doing entrepreneurial ship, like
Speaker 1: our podcast was one thing, but your new ship with
Speaker 1: your box is something different. Me doing this, this is
Speaker 1: actual investing. See our podcast, it was a little bit
Speaker 1: smaller investments. It was like studio equipment closed our first tour,
Speaker 1: though we did put bread in there, you know, like
Speaker 1: we we funded all those venues you all went to.
Speaker 1: But um that was reflex um everyone that showed up
Speaker 1: to all the sold ol shows. But anyway, um nah,
Speaker 1: this time it's like you said, fifty racks winded out already,
Speaker 1: likes you gotta really and when you want to make
Speaker 1: something good. And the thing with I'm doing now, you know,
Speaker 1: we've been to a lot of them in summer, shitty
Speaker 1: summer not And I was like I wanted to be
Speaker 1: the best, and it's black own. It has to be
Speaker 1: the best. The new place that y'all will figure about
Speaker 1: tomorrow or if you're listening tomorrow, it's in Soho. And
Speaker 1: I remember talking to my partner and they were like, nah,
Speaker 1: you know, Brooklyn's gonna be cheaper and or this is
Speaker 1: gonna be cheaper. And I was like, I want fucking Soho.
Speaker 1: And I wanted to be the only black one, and
Speaker 1: I want when I get my fucking article about the ship,
Speaker 1: I want niggas to know. And when we fucking moved
Speaker 1: into that building, I said, actual, don't you know a
Speaker 1: lot of black people are gonna come here, and I
Speaker 1: don't want that to be an issue because its gonna
Speaker 1: a lot of niggas And like they were laughing and
Speaker 1: they were like, yo, like no, like this is so Ho.
Speaker 1: We got designer show. Yeah, but niggas. I did, though.
Speaker 1: I want to get into our same as because we
Speaker 1: got a lot to talk about and I'm excited about
Speaker 1: this episode or whatever. Um do you wanna rock out
Speaker 1: with our Vanilla Ships? So for those of you guys
Speaker 1: listening for the first time, our Vanilla Ships segment is
Speaker 1: like sex Ship in the news. Yeah, so I wanted
Speaker 1: to say, by the way, I only picked the subject
Speaker 1: for this week's episode, Breakup Guide, because I feel like
Speaker 1: everybody goes through a break up at some point, and
Speaker 1: this is really fun. And if you may get depressed,
Speaker 1: even though we're gonna tell you how to break up
Speaker 1: with someone, how to get over a breakup and all
Speaker 1: of that, this week we need a little fun. And
Speaker 1: what more fun in an article that's listed with the
Speaker 1: headline your cock is mine? Now. This is from Vice.
Speaker 1: A hacker locked into an Internet connected chastity cage and
Speaker 1: demanded ransom. Now, a few things I want to say
Speaker 1: really quick. If you don't know what a chastity cage is.
Speaker 1: There's a chastity belt, which we've learned about in historical times.
Speaker 1: Normally there for women, right, you'd have to wear them
Speaker 1: and unlock it when you like lost your virginity or
Speaker 1: were able to lose your virginity, but they're supposed to
Speaker 1: ubstain you from sex. A chastity cage is part of
Speaker 1: the humiliated humiliation fetish right in d S m Um
Speaker 1: and yeah, so I guess they have one that's bluetooth.
Speaker 1: But here's what I love. So normally when I've heard
Speaker 1: about like hackers demanding ransom and some sex shit, it's
Speaker 1: an email that's like, I'm in your webcam, I saw
Speaker 1: you jerk off. Send me this money. I'm gonna write. Well,
Speaker 1: this one was literally physical. A hacker took control of
Speaker 1: people's Internet connected chastity cage and said your cock is
Speaker 1: mine out. According to one of the victims. For a
Speaker 1: screenshot from the conversation, uh so does the article say
Speaker 1: how many people were victims? Because many niggas out here
Speaker 1: got dicks in WiFi chastity case at the moment they hacked. So.
Speaker 1: In October last year, security researchers found that the manufacturer
Speaker 1: of an Internet of Things chastity cage, a sex story
Speaker 1: that puts users um that users put around their penis
Speaker 1: to prevent erections, is used in b D s M
Speaker 1: and can be unlocked remotely, had left an API exposed,
Speaker 1: giving giving malicious hackers a chance to take control. That's
Speaker 1: exactly what happened, according to a security researcher who abstained
Speaker 1: the strange train shots. A victim who asked to be
Speaker 1: identified only as Robert, said that he received a message
Speaker 1: from a hacker. Hacker I'm sorry, I got my teaser.
Speaker 1: It don't matter. I'm sitting here talking through goddamn and visilized.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna need you to get your words again. I
Speaker 1: did get montegoed in, but it's definitely not affecting my speech.
Speaker 1: I wanted an excuse. Okay, I'm just like really concentrating
Speaker 1: too hard. I feel like everybody's looking at me. We
Speaker 1: got two lights, Like there's not We're not the only
Speaker 1: people in here. I just really don't like I don't
Speaker 1: like reading out but I read books not to people
Speaker 1: like I can like improve on my own, but I
Speaker 1: just can't, like this is a script. I don't god, Okay.
Speaker 1: The hacker demanded a payment of point oh to bitcoin
Speaker 1: around seven fifty bucks. In this moment to unlock the device,
Speaker 1: he realized his cage was definitely locked and he could
Speaker 1: not gain access. Fortunately, I didn't have this locked locked
Speaker 1: on myself when it happened, and so the owner of
Speaker 1: the cage basically had no control anymore. And he's like,
Speaker 1: I couldn't open it, I couldn't do anything. Um, but yeah, basically,
Speaker 1: these hackers show you that anything connected to the Internet,
Speaker 1: like you're fucked. Well, hey, guys, Um, if you are
Speaker 1: indeed a hacker who listens to horrible decisions, I need
Speaker 1: you to spend your time on Sally May bitch like
Speaker 1: they just be hacking the wrong ship. Bitch. It started
Speaker 1: at forty thod. I don't know how that ship up,
Speaker 1: but your s girl, they ain't ever gonna get it,
Speaker 1: ain't it ain't never gonna fall off in seven years. No,
Speaker 1: it's that not with Sally Maybeitch everything else, but goddamn
Speaker 1: student loans. So yeah, like, yeah, you know, so I
Speaker 1: need you want to hack the right ship. I've been
Speaker 1: reading things which I think is really mean, people who like,
Speaker 1: we're talking about student loans being wiped out with the
Speaker 1: new Oh damn, it's this week. Damn if the world
Speaker 1: let's knock on fucking would my nigga let me talk
Speaker 1: to my accounting because your student loans only gets wiped
Speaker 1: out if you make below a certain amount of money too,
Speaker 1: we need to make they were I saw like people
Speaker 1: tweeting like, oh why would they wipe out um student
Speaker 1: loan debt when I had to pay mine? It's like, dude,
Speaker 1: like times changed, like civil rights, Arab nigga, you think
Speaker 1: people like hey, y'all letting them niggas out of jail smokedweed.
Speaker 1: I was like, Yo, don't you want to see things change?
Speaker 1: It's fucking done. Like I could see being a little salty,
Speaker 1: but to the point where you're like, don't do it.
Speaker 1: Don't I paid mine off. It's not fair student education
Speaker 1: in America. It's it's so wild that it's a business
Speaker 1: and not a privilege. And like when you just think
Speaker 1: of other people in the world that are smarter than Americans,
Speaker 1: and we wonder, like, oh my god, there's so much
Speaker 1: more articulate, like Americans are just um No, it's because
Speaker 1: maybe they didn't have to fucking pay their way like us.
Speaker 1: Like ship, it was crazy. I had it free, but
Speaker 1: I took out financial aid because I was living in
Speaker 1: New York City, like and I couldn't work and take
Speaker 1: seven classes a semester like I was doing. So like
Speaker 1: how how awesome am I going to pay my bills?
Speaker 1: I mean I was sucking a little dick too, But
Speaker 1: like Sally, good for you, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Good for you, sister, I hate you. Stop are you
Speaker 1: doing with the chastities? Yeah? So black sexcellence. I love
Speaker 1: the nelance time. So this is our segment, guys, but
Speaker 1: we are going to educate you. Um. I know we
Speaker 1: talked a lot about sex, but we do like to
Speaker 1: be educational over here at the horrible decisions. Uh network um,
Speaker 1: shout out black effect um. But basically this is a network.
Speaker 1: Who else is on this whole? Just hilarious? So she
Speaker 1: was working with a merry Man? Wasn't she with Mary
Speaker 1: Man two sister? Anyway? Our Black s excellence for this
Speaker 1: week is James Baldwin. A lot of you guys may
Speaker 1: know because he is one of the very few that
Speaker 1: we get to learn during Black History Pictures of James
Speaker 1: and My House. Yeah. So. James Baldwin is a writer
Speaker 1: in social critic who is perhaps best known for his
Speaker 1: nineteen fifty five collection of essays, Notes of a Native
Speaker 1: Son and his groundbreaking nineteen fifty six novel Giovanni's Room, which, bitch,
Speaker 1: what about Marvin's Room? That's you? Maybe that's where got
Speaker 1: it from? Maybe alright, Drake, I see you, which depicts
Speaker 1: themes of almost no, never mind, this is not what
Speaker 1: Drake meant with Marvin's Room. We don't know that because
Speaker 1: giovan needs room. Did you know what they say about sexuality?
Speaker 1: And bisexuality. The novels stood out among literary critics because
Speaker 1: it features all white characters, unlike the civil rights activists
Speaker 1: other novels, which centered the experience of black people. I'm
Speaker 1: mad that he had to involve white people, but okay,
Speaker 1: Baldwin's been a majority of his literary and activist career
Speaker 1: educating others about black and queer identity, as he did
Speaker 1: during his famous lecture titled Race, Racism and the Gay
Speaker 1: Community at a meeting of the New York Chapter of
Speaker 1: Black and White Men Together known as Men of All
Speaker 1: Colors Together. So he was all lives matter, tyger. He
Speaker 1: couldn't just keep it blake. I'm gonna be honest with you,
Speaker 1: James Baldwin is pretty black and people black. Why he
Speaker 1: had involved white people? I don't know if they I'm
Speaker 1: asking you, you you why he had involved white and
Speaker 1: he from back in the day. Maybe he had to
Speaker 1: at the time, like right, but I mean, he, James,
Speaker 1: you better had been forcing. Why the crackers had to
Speaker 1: be involved? I don't I just want to know. But
Speaker 1: what I know is James is great. He's revolutionary, he's
Speaker 1: a black as um. He's got some amazing like like
Speaker 1: you ever looked up James Baldwin like interview clips, like
Speaker 1: just the way he be reading motherfucker's in interviews, but
Speaker 1: um no, he's dope as funk. I really liked this segment. Um.
Speaker 1: I really cannot wait until the days where we can
Speaker 1: start incorporating you know, a Heather Hunter into this people
Speaker 1: like of that. You know, you know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: The points start that's gonna be your job. So you
Speaker 1: guys are gonna get black sexcellence modern era from Wheezy,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to continue giving y'all. I'm gonna make
Speaker 1: myself one once I'm on a dick stuck is free
Speaker 1: or something. You know what I'm saying is okay? Anyway, Well,
Speaker 1: our whole facts for this week are just what they
Speaker 1: what they sound like facts from hose Better Us um
Speaker 1: this one. So we normally do something like sex whole facts,
Speaker 1: but I really wanted to talk about breakup facts because
Speaker 1: that episode is about you know, So this one I
Speaker 1: thought was fucking hilarious because Monday's are my favorite is
Speaker 1: on one of our shirts, and most breakups are announced
Speaker 1: on Mondays and Somebody's weak. They happened right before spring
Speaker 1: break because nigga's ship and very few breakups. The cur
Speaker 1: on Christmas, Well that's isn't that lovely? Now? Zoe Kravitz,
Speaker 1: the queen that she is literally my fucking hair and
Speaker 1: broke up with her nigga on his birthday, had her homegirl,
Speaker 1: her sisters had sent divorce. But it had to write
Speaker 1: like that was an ice it like you did that strategically,
Speaker 1: which shout out to the queen. Um if you wanted
Speaker 1: to see Zoe Kravitz his husband's dick, it's on love
Speaker 1: and love, but it's it's pink, ain't it. No, he's mixed.
Speaker 1: I think you think he's mixed. His dick is beautiful,
Speaker 1: beautiful love by Gaston Noah. It's on Netflix, the one
Speaker 1: where you can watch a threesome and they had the
Speaker 1: actual actors do their own porn scenes. Oh his dick
Speaker 1: is nice. Yeah, damn So she left a beautiful nigga dick.
Speaker 1: God did that mean he fucked up? He did? Because
Speaker 1: dick be making as say it? Do give me like,
Speaker 1: I know you ain't ship, but damn ain't nobody else.
Speaker 1: Don't get dead, dude, same, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like I definitely like up. So another study has found
Speaker 1: that people who have recently fallen in love have some
Speaker 1: of the same symptoms of O c D, for example,
Speaker 1: frequently washing their hands repeatedly checking to see if the
Speaker 1: door is closed. I looked a little more into this,
Speaker 1: and they say that like when you're in love or
Speaker 1: like it's a new feeling, like everything is so exciting
Speaker 1: that you're you feel like you're losing other areas. Have
Speaker 1: you done anything like that because I know you've got
Speaker 1: a new boyfriend. No, really, I mean I'm way more catering,
Speaker 1: Like I'm a whole cater to you as Beyonce as
Speaker 1: bitch like before Mandy is me when I start hearing
Speaker 1: like he's slurping on his drink. Baby, you want another drink,
Speaker 1: I'll make you another drink. I cannot want to talk
Speaker 1: about this. I'm brilliant idiots because I would love for
Speaker 1: them to title it the Revolution of Man. No, seriously, like,
Speaker 1: I mean, even girl, I woke up a maide a
Speaker 1: nicer breakfast one day, bitch, I pull do you and
Speaker 1: made avocado TOAs he ain't and then I put a
Speaker 1: little egg on there, but you know, diggause, I was like,
Speaker 1: are you okay with a running yolk because a lot
Speaker 1: of black people like niggas like a Friday. Well, I
Speaker 1: like my ship running, so I had to ask him.
Speaker 1: And then and then, y'all, I sprinkled some ship that
Speaker 1: came down from the heavens. If y'all ain't had the
Speaker 1: everything Bagel season, I put that on my bit home
Speaker 1: came out with everything bagel season. I'm just saying, like,
Speaker 1: that's my avocado ship. It's my ship. There's one thing
Speaker 1: you gotta put in avocado toasted cheat go. You want
Speaker 1: to be me so bad, but you wasn't even cooking
Speaker 1: for niggers. I was cooking for myself though, But now
Speaker 1: I gotta make two pieces of toast I do. I
Speaker 1: chopped red onions in it. I put lowies. That's the
Speaker 1: real ship, opposed to like regular salt. And then when
Speaker 1: you're mixing the avocados, I put a little coconut and
Speaker 1: minos from Trader Joe's because just give it a little pizzazz.
Speaker 1: I squired a little lemon on that motherfucker. I do
Speaker 1: garlic powder, onion powder. Then I do some creole season
Speaker 1: because I'm extra, but no, man, I do none of
Speaker 1: those seasonings, just everything bagel Okay, yeah, you're doing a
Speaker 1: lot in the morning, bitch. I'm sorry, but I barely
Speaker 1: want to make a smoothie in the morning. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: well on top, I do put the everything with Vehicel seasoning,
Speaker 1: and then I chop up a little to me and
Speaker 1: he was like, oh, that's what that was. He liked it,
Speaker 1: he said, like my little toast. No, I don't think
Speaker 1: I really get O c D. And it's crazy because
Speaker 1: he's one of my first partners that literally like he's
Speaker 1: O c D. Was washing his hands. But then I
Speaker 1: don't know if that's a COVID thing because I met
Speaker 1: him during COVID, so I don't know if that's an
Speaker 1: O c D new relationship. You could have been dirty,
Speaker 1: he could have been, but now he watched his hands
Speaker 1: because the COVID the other one I love. And maybe
Speaker 1: as many can attest to this, I'm not sure couples
Speaker 1: who have similar drinking habits are most likely to say together.
Speaker 1: Researchers found that among couples and one person was a
Speaker 1: heavy drinker and the other was not, forty five to
Speaker 1: fifty of them were divorced by their tenth anniversary. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: give me an alcoholic. I do love getting love. I
Speaker 1: of to drink like and that's our thing. Like when
Speaker 1: he comes, I'm like, you want darker white today, Like
Speaker 1: he's more of a dark liquor drinker. I'm a white
Speaker 1: liquor drinker. But we we matched with drinks. And sorry, guys,
Speaker 1: were in Harlem. If you hear um those sirens because
Speaker 1: you know what I'm just saying, because when we was
Speaker 1: recording remotely, when I was in the Bronx, ya was
Speaker 1: hearing him sirens and no, there was way more sirens.
Speaker 1: Drink covid, like of kids. It's the heid of COVID.
Speaker 1: Now people is dying again the same way in l A.
Speaker 1: L A Is New York. You know, one and every
Speaker 1: four people and all I have COVID. Oh, by the way, guys,
Speaker 1: for y'all listening, my mom is doing a little better.
Speaker 1: My mom currently hads COVID. W Are youn't tell me
Speaker 1: that the symptoms Like I literally just insta carted. Yes,
Speaker 1: I instatcrted all the immunity boosters because my mom, being
Speaker 1: my mom, what she used to do when we were
Speaker 1: sitting growing up. I said, Mom or no, she's like
Speaker 1: I'm drinking gatorade, bitch. If you don't gatorade is not
Speaker 1: gonna help you with fucking COVID. I do be drinking gatoradeymore.
Speaker 1: I was like, moms, this is not just a cold
Speaker 1: because I told you we never really got medicine. My
Speaker 1: mother just used to give us some motherfucking gatorade. Like
Speaker 1: you'll be fine. I wondered why this mic is short.
Speaker 1: It's because you were here. No offense, You're just sorry, alright. Anyway,
Speaker 1: those guys, do you have one more? No? No, no,
Speaker 1: that's the horrid derve, which is our second y'all. Y'all,
Speaker 1: I mean we are serving you with tip, bro, So
Speaker 1: this is the sex tip. Maybe I just wanted you
Speaker 1: to know if you're not watching on YouTube, has hoisted
Speaker 1: herself because y'all, her position g v y'all something new
Speaker 1: to happen, and so I want to give this tip
Speaker 1: to y'all. But let me tell you why she's so shocked.
Speaker 1: Mandy shock, something new happened because when you have been
Speaker 1: holding through the trenches of your life, you really feel
Speaker 1: like ain't nothing else, when every hole has been used
Speaker 1: interview never hole even mins, bitch. I'll swell not with
Speaker 1: a dick, but some nut don't went up knows before anyway,
Speaker 1: Speaking of nuts, this is an amazing that I would
Speaker 1: love for the fellas to introduce with consent into the
Speaker 1: bedroom with their partners. Now, my nigga just know I'm
Speaker 1: a nasty ass hope. So I was just excited when
Speaker 1: it started happening. We never discussed it beforehand, which was crazy.
Speaker 1: But if if you if you don't know, if your
Speaker 1: partner is a nasty bitch, don't do this without consent,
Speaker 1: because it threw me off a little bit. So the
Speaker 1: hordeur for this week is called finger painting, and basically
Speaker 1: what happened is my man who does come multiple times?
Speaker 1: Hold on one moment. I want you guys to guess
Speaker 1: what this is about, because I when she said this,
Speaker 1: had an image in my head finger painting. Benson, tell
Speaker 1: me what you think this is about? Finger painting? What
Speaker 1: do you think? What do you think in a sexual realm?
Speaker 1: Just sir, look ay, none of them guests. Let me
Speaker 1: tell the niggas what it is. Bro what with what? No? Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't that way, okayn't that way as much? Same?
Speaker 1: I thought the same as well. So this is what
Speaker 1: happened right. So, for whatever reason, I don't know where
Speaker 1: he came up with it, but he wasn't. I wasn't
Speaker 1: swallowing this evening because he was coming from back shots
Speaker 1: and normally we do missionary so you know, just just
Speaker 1: come right now and puss it. Anyway, he was coming
Speaker 1: on my back. This is the instructions. So as he
Speaker 1: was coming on my back, first off, step one being
Speaker 1: doggy style. I mean, I guess this could happen in
Speaker 1: any other position as well, but this is how we
Speaker 1: did it. So he was in doggy style or whatever.
Speaker 1: Right as he was ready to ejaculate, he pulled it
Speaker 1: out and came all over my back and I'm feeling
Speaker 1: it and I'm like, oh baby, you're coming a lot tonight. Oh.
Speaker 1: So he came all over my back. Right, he took
Speaker 1: these two fingers, his own white up the nut. I
Speaker 1: was feeling him just I thought he was just rubbing
Speaker 1: it into my back. No, the nigga decided to make
Speaker 1: me simba. And from the back he starts wiping his
Speaker 1: nuts on my forehead and then down my cheek and
Speaker 1: then down my face and then he puts it on.
Speaker 1: This has to be some African charge. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know. In Brazil they'd be doing ship well.
Speaker 1: He came three times this night, and each time he
Speaker 1: would take his nut and then he started getting I
Speaker 1: was like, Nick, you can't do this when my hair
Speaker 1: is done. He did start then wiping it on my
Speaker 1: neck and into my hair. My hair was hard as fuck.
Speaker 1: After we got done, something about Mandy, I said, God,
Speaker 1: damn it, I said, I didn't shower prior to him
Speaker 1: coming over. I said, great, I have not like the bet.
Speaker 1: Like I started feeling like my neck was stiff because
Speaker 1: it was driving nut. At this point, it wouldn't been
Speaker 1: working for a minute. And I'm like, and as we know,
Speaker 1: Mandy did say she went to brunch with Commodore. I
Speaker 1: did pearl necklace. I know what it feels like when
Speaker 1: nut drives up on you, but I will say it
Speaker 1: was almost like a different I felt a spirit chal
Speaker 1: connection when he was wiping his nut on my face
Speaker 1: in the way that he was doing it, and I
Speaker 1: was like, it was like, it was almost like, damn
Speaker 1: you a nasty nigger. I love you, Like that's what
Speaker 1: was in my mind, Like you was such a nasty
Speaker 1: fucking I was like God damn, you're amazing because I
Speaker 1: like nasty, like daffydig. It's like and I was like,
Speaker 1: no man has ever finger painted they're nuts on my face.
Speaker 1: And it was so sensually done too, so it wasn't
Speaker 1: like aggressive where I felt just like a brushstroke. It
Speaker 1: was like a what's he do? Does he paint? No?
Speaker 1: This nig ain't no pack that nigga canvas. You mean
Speaker 1: I'm his canvas. So that is the hor dur for
Speaker 1: this week. If you want to try finger painting, it
Speaker 1: is taking your nut from one part of the body
Speaker 1: after you ejaculate on her and bringing it up. It's
Speaker 1: not the things you may do with your child. So
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it was amazing. So fingerpainting, y'all do that. Ship. Well,
Speaker 1: if the finger painting doesn't go well, you guys might
Speaker 1: have to break up. And here we are at the
Speaker 1: breakup now, Yeah, we've all been through one. I wanted
Speaker 1: to do this episode particularly because people ask a lot
Speaker 1: of breakup advice and we had an episode with Amelia Ortiz.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Amelia. She is a Bruja who is
Speaker 1: amazing at connecting people with their emotions themselves and really
Speaker 1: helping you guide yourself spiritually. I think hers was episode
Speaker 1: eighty eight at the time, so many people listen to it,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I wonder if that many people
Speaker 1: love Amelia or if that many people need breakup help,
Speaker 1: and um, she talked about cutting chords and ship like that,
Speaker 1: but what she didn't talk about was how to do it.
Speaker 1: So we gotta talk about how to do it, how
Speaker 1: to break up with someone if you want to, and
Speaker 1: then if you're broken, were done. Okay, Well some people
Speaker 1: don't take it that way, and that person is me.
Speaker 1: This isn't working for because I'm a Christy Teagan. You
Speaker 1: with me, I'm gona be like, no, are you? It's
Speaker 1: not like do do you want to hear someone say
Speaker 1: it's not it's not you, it's me. That's I thought
Speaker 1: that's what they'd be doing in the movies. That's how
Speaker 1: they break up, right, Yeah, But like, nah, I've I've
Speaker 1: talked with some pretty like intellectual niggas. They haven't like
Speaker 1: given me no bush it like that, or I break
Speaker 1: up with them because they're lying, cheating. But here's number one,
Speaker 1: let's do the break up guy defining for yourself what
Speaker 1: isn't working? First? Acknowledge the complicated feelings you have around
Speaker 1: the situation, even if the realization struck you like lightning.
Speaker 1: This doesn't need to come with clarity. Say things about
Speaker 1: growing apart, specific things about UM, maybe the inability to
Speaker 1: provide care for your partner if they have mental health issues.
Speaker 1: Like you know you you're you're acting this way. I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm drowning with you. UM difference in opinions
Speaker 1: of its finance, politic values, and not having your emotional
Speaker 1: needs and interest met. I sent this text years ago
Speaker 1: and I wanted to read it because I was like,
Speaker 1: I did an okay job, and I screenshot at it
Speaker 1: because I actually always had it in my favorite because
Speaker 1: I felt like I broke up with this nigga really
Speaker 1: well through what text? You did an awful job. Actually,
Speaker 1: you broke up with a motherfucker over text, and you
Speaker 1: think that was a great job. Okay, let me explain
Speaker 1: why I had to text so now I realized I
Speaker 1: and shipped for this. I cursed him out, hung up,
Speaker 1: and then texted him this is awful, but let's read
Speaker 1: the text. I realized I'm spiraling, and I think the
Speaker 1: reason I'm spiraling is because every is so ceation I
Speaker 1: have with you is a negative one as far as
Speaker 1: it comes to complicated conversations. When we're good, we're amazing.
Speaker 1: I'm so enamored with you in those moments, and I
Speaker 1: see exactly why we're together because we work when there's
Speaker 1: no stress. However, when you get stressed out, it's literally
Speaker 1: something that drives me crazy to the point that I
Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable with my own life. You get stressed, and
Speaker 1: it's such a burden on me that I think I
Speaker 1: end up worse than you should have been an email,
Speaker 1: it's already way too long. Men do not read them
Speaker 1: long as scrolling out roll back a lot. He was ah,
Speaker 1: so I said, I feel like I need to list
Speaker 1: out the issues I have, and I will do so.
Speaker 1: You do not do bullet points starting with one when
Speaker 1: you get piste off. I should not be your point
Speaker 1: of contact. That's it too. I have let you know
Speaker 1: about reason one, and you have refused to find a
Speaker 1: therapist or someone else to talk to because it really
Speaker 1: cannot be me. Well, then that means maybe you weren't
Speaker 1: a good partner for him, because when he gets upset,
Speaker 1: why why can't he vent to you? He was a
Speaker 1: very mean person when he was in Okay, you know,
Speaker 1: And so I think that when and I think a
Speaker 1: lot of people dated that person when they're in a
Speaker 1: bad mood. Everybody gotta fucking be in a bad mood.
Speaker 1: I don't, I'm talking people know, it's hard, and I mean,
Speaker 1: he was a nice dude, but like he couldn't he
Speaker 1: couldn't manage his stress at all. I can I just
Speaker 1: point out to this for those of y'all in relationships, Um,
Speaker 1: I love that you brought this up, because this was
Speaker 1: a conversation that me and my boyfriend just had. We
Speaker 1: both just had a really, really really bad day on
Speaker 1: one of the days that we were playing to see
Speaker 1: each other, Like, I was piste off with my fucking
Speaker 1: shipping debacle with the boxes, and he had just bought
Speaker 1: a camera and it wasn't working and he had to
Speaker 1: go return it, like, and he was just upset going
Speaker 1: back and forth with that, and so we we didn't
Speaker 1: see each other, of course, and I said, I said, honestly,
Speaker 1: this is what I prefer because he's come over sometimes
Speaker 1: and he's either in a bad mood, and I always
Speaker 1: know when he's in a bad mood, and he he
Speaker 1: loves that I know when he's in a bad mood.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, I don't know who who your past
Speaker 1: partners were that still didn't respect when you were in
Speaker 1: a bad mood. But I get it. And so he
Speaker 1: said that he really loves that about me. But I said, honestly,
Speaker 1: moving forward, if you're in a bad mood, I would
Speaker 1: much rather you say let's reschedule, because a part of
Speaker 1: that energy is not something I want to be around,
Speaker 1: because we really enjoy each other's company, and when you
Speaker 1: come over and you're you're in a bad mood, I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm now walking on eggshells. But now I'm
Speaker 1: just not enjoying our time together. And I would rather
Speaker 1: have more times where we enjoy each other than times
Speaker 1: where it's just like, all right, this energy is, but
Speaker 1: you gotta you gotta be able to recognize those moments
Speaker 1: and like be like, it's okay to tell someone you
Speaker 1: can't see them. I think I had someone tell me
Speaker 1: that I was hot, normalize that he was like, yo,
Speaker 1: I can't, like I can't, I can't. But a lot
Speaker 1: of us take it personally or think that he's automatically
Speaker 1: out sucking another bit a maturation like and it's just like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't need this. One is interested practice your oh no,
Speaker 1: mine skipped, practice your mindset, writing down why the breakup
Speaker 1: is necessary for you. And this is really good if
Speaker 1: you're dating someone who's toxic, because it's hard because it
Speaker 1: feels good when like you know, even that, like I
Speaker 1: was dating somebody and this, like I said, it was
Speaker 1: a minute ago that I really fucked what he was cool,
Speaker 1: but like he was mean and I've seen that streak
Speaker 1: and I was like, I gotta remember, like nigga, ain't
Speaker 1: becu um. Three run the words past your friends. This
Speaker 1: is a controversial one because I don't like that. I
Speaker 1: think your friends will either skew you one way. I
Speaker 1: think the only thing that you can do if you're
Speaker 1: going to talk to a friend about it is be like, yo,
Speaker 1: I made the decision already. Tell me if you like
Speaker 1: this approach. Don't ask a friend if they think you
Speaker 1: should break up or do this. Don't because I will
Speaker 1: say the problem with that is we overshare his girlfriends
Speaker 1: and so a lot of times, if you're at the
Speaker 1: breaking point with your partner, you've probably already overshared all
Speaker 1: of the bad qualities and awful moments in your relationship
Speaker 1: with this partner with your friends, to where, of course
Speaker 1: your friends are gonna be like, girl, just lead that already,
Speaker 1: Like he's called you all this stress, You've called me crying.
Speaker 1: I'm sick of hearing about it. Leave them, And so
Speaker 1: I think that two before reaching that point, as women,
Speaker 1: we should probably stop sharing all of the negative things
Speaker 1: about our relationship. And it's crazy because I still still
Speaker 1: land I had one yet in nine months, so or
Speaker 1: a baby. Well, the other one is acknowledging their emotions
Speaker 1: and their pain, and I love this one. Make sure
Speaker 1: that they're done sharing their side before you leave. While
Speaker 1: it may be uncomfortable, you need to be prepared for
Speaker 1: periods of silence, even crying, but regardless of emotions, stay
Speaker 1: clear about your reasons and listen to theirs. How to
Speaker 1: respond to those questions is remember I don't know is
Speaker 1: a valid statement. You can say things like I don't
Speaker 1: know if you really don't know, not everything deserves an
Speaker 1: explanation because you may not know what's going on with
Speaker 1: a certain thing, so it can be okay. Don't spiral
Speaker 1: and try to make something up if it's really just
Speaker 1: I don't know. Um, you can repeat their answer if
Speaker 1: they try to say this the same thing, and it's
Speaker 1: okay to say I'm sorry. And the other one is
Speaker 1: don't reach out right away. Losing a genuine connection is
Speaker 1: a bit like losing an eye in your world will
Speaker 1: feel like it fell off, and you may experience some regrets.
Speaker 1: It's normal. When you were together the world widened a bit,
Speaker 1: but now the vision shifts, so it's gonna feel like
Speaker 1: you're getting half of what you used to see. Which
Speaker 1: is a great explanation because I think even when you
Speaker 1: break up with someone that you don't even funk with anymore,
Speaker 1: like you're mad at them, or they cheated or they
Speaker 1: did something mean like not mean, um, deceitful, you still
Speaker 1: feel like something's missing. You're like, well, I'm used to
Speaker 1: this routine or whatever, So like, yeah, I think that
Speaker 1: that was a really good one because you definitely need
Speaker 1: the space before you jump back in there and can
Speaker 1: check on someone and do all that ship um. And
Speaker 1: it says this, I like, because there's always this thing
Speaker 1: of do you delete everything? What do you do our
Speaker 1: chai reminders of them relationship, removing certain social media accounts
Speaker 1: like on photos, archiving them, um, if there are gifts
Speaker 1: and photos, putting them in a box on a drive,
Speaker 1: maybe taking them away from the phone immediately, like but
Speaker 1: just you know, putting them in a certain place. Um,
Speaker 1: this one's interesting. Can you be friends? An hour later?
Speaker 1: It says that most couples, what do you think for
Speaker 1: a year long relationship? It depends. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I've said you shouldn't funk friends. So to me, it's
Speaker 1: hard that if you can't be in a relationship, I
Speaker 1: don't know how realistically, Uh, it makes sense to be
Speaker 1: friends with them, especially immediately after a break. I had
Speaker 1: a sneeze, but it's COVID and like, I didn't know
Speaker 1: want people. Oh yeah, don't sneeze on me, bitch. We
Speaker 1: would have fought right here on camera on the YouTube.
Speaker 1: Get it. So I don't worse though, Um oh, she
Speaker 1: could be came on with a fucking bit. You don't anyway, No,
Speaker 1: I just I do. I don't feel like you should
Speaker 1: remain friends, um with someone. The problem is too when
Speaker 1: it comes to relationships. A lot of people gauge the
Speaker 1: time in the relationships, so at the time they feel
Speaker 1: wasted at the time they felt spent with that person.
Speaker 1: So a lot of people if they've been in a
Speaker 1: relationship for a long time with someone, they feel obligated
Speaker 1: to hold onto a friendship. It's okay for someone to
Speaker 1: have been in your life for a season and to
Speaker 1: completely let them go. That is okay. I don't feel
Speaker 1: like I feel like a lot of people hold onto
Speaker 1: this friendship with this person because they've been with them
Speaker 1: for so long. That's not necessary. I don't want to
Speaker 1: be your friend. But I will say there's probably one
Speaker 1: or two people, definitely one, but there may be another
Speaker 1: one where I was like m m, or are they
Speaker 1: really someone that I shouldn't have been with? Or did
Speaker 1: I just not know how to be with them in
Speaker 1: that moment? Like and I can acknowledge that, like any
Speaker 1: saying that they weren't from me, it's just like I
Speaker 1: didn't know how to be their girlfriend and never you know,
Speaker 1: like it takes a lot of growth, and I mean
Speaker 1: truth rely dating older men, Like that's really been where
Speaker 1: my life has been. Like so that's been hard now
Speaker 1: and I'm not gonna lie again. Just with growing and
Speaker 1: learning yourself more. Yeah, Like if I would have met
Speaker 1: my boyfriend now five years ago, I know I was
Speaker 1: a completely different person and I may not why your home.
Speaker 1: I'm yeah that part, but I may not have known
Speaker 1: how to be a good partner to him, like which
Speaker 1: I wasn't cooking for niggas and I wasn't expecting Like
Speaker 1: there's that episode where my my mom was on yeah,
Speaker 1: and you were like, you cooking for him? I mean
Speaker 1: my nigga. Pretty much, I feel like it was my boyfriend.
Speaker 1: It was like a love the first sight type of thing.
Speaker 1: So even like our relationship started the first day we met.
Speaker 1: But that's the unfair thing to say, because you can't
Speaker 1: judge the magnitude of someone else's relationship and how they're
Speaker 1: progressing it, right, Like people show their love differently, so
Speaker 1: when you're getting to know someone, like their gestures are different.
Speaker 1: Women can do chivalrous things too, right, So whether you're
Speaker 1: dressing up for someone and putting that effort in that
Speaker 1: you're into, or trying to surprise them with something, or
Speaker 1: having those moments like I'd still really stand by I
Speaker 1: think those things are part of dating. But you're like,
Speaker 1: I'm not cooking for nigga. We got a title and
Speaker 1: he got that side because I said, just so you know,
Speaker 1: all my friends know you as my boyfriend, and he
Speaker 1: didn't argue, so that meant we were together, okay, because
Speaker 1: now I will tell you I beat that and he
Speaker 1: just said, okay, so that's when we were together. I'm
Speaker 1: glad you have your ma. Now if you have been
Speaker 1: broken up with, here are the five stages of grief
Speaker 1: from a breakup. Nigga. This ship is so real that
Speaker 1: it's not even funny. This ain't speaking to me. I
Speaker 1: don't know about what this feel like. Denial, okay that
Speaker 1: that is the number one. Hey tripping this. I don't
Speaker 1: even need to read this ship. Hey tripping that, nigga,
Speaker 1: hes gonna be calling me talk. We know. This is
Speaker 1: probably why a lot of people's like call it a
Speaker 1: break because not bro, you got broken up with, but
Speaker 1: you went denial and now y'all back together. But this
Speaker 1: one's really funny because I've watched myself do this literally,
Speaker 1: like with my last breakup. I remember it. I was like,
Speaker 1: so the second one is anger. I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: so they make really gonna call me it as we Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm about the funk around and I went out just
Speaker 1: like I said, if you want that pussy, ain't hurting
Speaker 1: nobody but yourself. You ain't hurting him, I hate him
Speaker 1: all right. Then the bargaining, this one is a good one.
Speaker 1: Bargaining what during this breakup you may feel vulnerable and helpless,
Speaker 1: and in these moments it's not uncommon to look for
Speaker 1: ways to regain control or want to feel like you
Speaker 1: can affect the outcome again. So basically they say you
Speaker 1: may start bargaining with God or a higher power in
Speaker 1: return from heal relief, bargaining with that person trying to
Speaker 1: get them back, um or anything like basically saying if
Speaker 1: I only had more time, they would have stayed. If
Speaker 1: I only did this, that's your bargaining. It's like you
Speaker 1: like going over and over again on what you could
Speaker 1: have done. Um, then I only gave him a threesome,
Speaker 1: he wouldn't have left me. Depression that's the fourth stage,
Speaker 1: basically saying it's a quiet stage of grief. Um, you
Speaker 1: may run from the emotions by trying to stay busy
Speaker 1: and do all this other ship but falling into depression.
Speaker 1: And the fifth stage is your acceptance stage. Not necessarily
Speaker 1: that means you're like happy, but means that like you
Speaker 1: understand what's going on, Like ultimately, this is what had
Speaker 1: to happen, this was a healthy choice for me, or
Speaker 1: this is what that person wanted and have to respect
Speaker 1: what they wanted. Um, but no, I like those so
Speaker 1: how to get over it? Now? I did pull something
Speaker 1: up from Oprah Meg, but I feel like Mandy and
Speaker 1: I could put our ship in there because I don't
Speaker 1: know if Oprah can really be the Hoprah that no,
Speaker 1: because she's still got no. I mean Hopra as in
Speaker 1: us allowing yourself time. Now, this one is a good
Speaker 1: one because you know your friends will be like, bitch,
Speaker 1: you gotta didn't you gotta like you gotta take your
Speaker 1: time if you don't know, because I haven't been through
Speaker 1: a breakup? But have you never helped friends through a
Speaker 1: break up? But I've never done that. That's not what
Speaker 1: I feel like, Mandy, you would be a fucking bitch
Speaker 1: through a break up. Like if I like called you
Speaker 1: like for crying, you'd be like girl, No, remember you
Speaker 1: know how to help friends? Well, I gotta nigg if
Speaker 1: you want to get flown out? You did say that
Speaker 1: to me? Did he did you out? But that's how
Speaker 1: I helped? That wasn't right. I got a whole bunch
Speaker 1: of nice looking niggas. You want an NBA player or wrapper.
Speaker 1: Do you know what? I called Alex crying one time
Speaker 1: over nigga and he literally listened to me for maybe
Speaker 1: five minutes and he goes, Nigga, shut up. Can you
Speaker 1: like go through your DM and he told just find
Speaker 1: the first blue check. You can't, You're gonna be fine.
Speaker 1: I was like, that's how I helped my friends, my girl,
Speaker 1: will you what's happen nigga? You want I help you
Speaker 1: find him? I mean, I'm a real friend. But see
Speaker 1: that's the toxic ship. You can't be toxic. You can't
Speaker 1: just get under someone to get over them immediately when
Speaker 1: you really need time to get over, because then you
Speaker 1: just get word. Yeah. But then if you don't really
Speaker 1: break up and maybe he comes back, now, you don't
Speaker 1: miss out your chance and the nigger you probably would have.
Speaker 1: You know what I meant, he stopped giving the hole hope.
Speaker 1: So this one can consider deleting your ex's number for now.
Speaker 1: I love that one. Nod deleted. No, there's WhatsApp, there's snapchat,
Speaker 1: they got my email because they booked my flight. There's
Speaker 1: too many other ways. It doesn't do nothing, no, no no,
Speaker 1: no deleting it. So you won't text, like deleting their
Speaker 1: Instagram because there's just too much. There's too much access.
Speaker 1: It's it's trying, You're trying. It's a step. And then
Speaker 1: I have to go through all those apps. By the
Speaker 1: time I get to the fifth one, I'm gonna texting
Speaker 1: nigga like, so you really wasn't gonna hit me? Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm blocked the nigga cutting out and blocked them back.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. It's like, it's so help
Speaker 1: unblocked the old may once we toxic. This ain't working.
Speaker 1: Unblocked him after I got mad at him. I can't
Speaker 1: ever when I got mad at it before. We had
Speaker 1: a flight together the next day and I blocked him
Speaker 1: and he emailed me like are you serious? And I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm still gonna go, but you what was
Speaker 1: you know? I betty like that y'all weirdly blocked me
Speaker 1: before and I said, oh, well, bitch, per our last conversation,
Speaker 1: and I emailed her what I had to say, How
Speaker 1: did not see see the email bit you're gonna read
Speaker 1: this ship so that blocks to Oh yeah, that blocking
Speaker 1: up another ain't gonna stop nothing, because you're crazy. If
Speaker 1: these niggs crazy I'm a nigga. Protect your heart with
Speaker 1: a social media purge. Now, not only should you delete them, niggi,
Speaker 1: you may need to delete you all shop not happen
Speaker 1: to put them down tome go through let me go
Speaker 1: right now. Settings screen time said a fucking app limit,
Speaker 1: and get your motherfucking ass off that goddamn app. Now,
Speaker 1: whether you're scrolling through old photos of happier times, you
Speaker 1: need to stop trying to decode if they're happy, um
Speaker 1: through their stories doing all this ship literally, just fucking
Speaker 1: give yourself a break. The other one. Don't con hact
Speaker 1: your X unless absolutely necessary. It doesn't say what would
Speaker 1: be the reason, what would that raison? Sorry, I had
Speaker 1: to do the cardy thing. But um, I think if
Speaker 1: you're dying, that's pretty good, or if someone dies that's
Speaker 1: pretty good. Other than that, don't hit that neck up.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Even if someone's dying, you're the last person
Speaker 1: I want to hear from. Then if I'm dealing with
Speaker 1: a death, you're my ex. Yes, like to me, like
Speaker 1: it's the same way, Like me and my friend were
Speaker 1: just talking about this, like, don't make me a charity case,
Speaker 1: don't reach out to me, And we haven't spoken in months.
Speaker 1: Don't hit me up just because you know I'm dealing
Speaker 1: with something tragic, because right now, the last thing I
Speaker 1: need is someone who brought pain to me to come
Speaker 1: back into my mind about that where I'm dealing with.
Speaker 1: If something tragic happened, like any of my ex boyfriends
Speaker 1: I found out someone died in their life, I am
Speaker 1: one right, but I'm telling you as someone who would
Speaker 1: be on the receiving end if if I'm going through
Speaker 1: a tragedy right now or I'm going through something. And again,
Speaker 1: I was just having this conversation because you really think
Speaker 1: that someone shouldn't be wishing you absolutely like I told you.
Speaker 1: And and this is something that I've been dealing with,
Speaker 1: like I said, not only has my anxiety been up,
Speaker 1: one of my really close friends sorry, is battling breast cancer.
Speaker 1: She's young, where you know, and one of her exes
Speaker 1: was like, no, let me know when you're going for
Speaker 1: your surgery, and she was like, my nigga, like we
Speaker 1: haven't spoken in months. You lied to me the last
Speaker 1: couple of times we talked. Don't hit me up acting
Speaker 1: like this is a weak thing or an us thing,
Speaker 1: or that you're here from me when realistically, you haven't
Speaker 1: been here for me in all of these months from
Speaker 1: a mutual friend. The mutual friend ran her mouth and
Speaker 1: so she was upset because it's just like, don't come
Speaker 1: in me now on some how are you I want
Speaker 1: to go through this with you? First off, it's also COVID.
Speaker 1: You wasn't rocking with me and checking on me when
Speaker 1: I had COVID and she also had COVID. So it's
Speaker 1: just like this has been a pandemic of a year
Speaker 1: where if you haven't checked on my well being over
Speaker 1: this last I don't know. I feel like, don't come
Speaker 1: at me because you hear something. Maybe if he like
Speaker 1: I said a nice I don't know. I just don't
Speaker 1: matter how nice you say. I'm not a nice text.
Speaker 1: I'm saying because I will never forget, like if someone
Speaker 1: if I lost somebody and you never I will if
Speaker 1: I saw you in street, I'll never remember that you
Speaker 1: never wished me well. You know my motherfucking so and
Speaker 1: so died. I don't want to believe you never said anything.
Speaker 1: I don't want someone who's genuine. I remember every single
Speaker 1: person in my life I believe didn't fucking do anything
Speaker 1: for me. Where my aunt died. No, when I was
Speaker 1: going through I believe is I believe in a sincerity
Speaker 1: and someone being genuine and to me, if I'm experiencing
Speaker 1: grief or I'm going through something, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear from someone that we ended bad,
Speaker 1: or we broke up, or you sucked me over the
Speaker 1: last time we were dealing with whatever. I don't care
Speaker 1: for you to insert yourself back into my life what
Speaker 1: I'm going through, something that I'm I'm drained with mentally, emotionally.
Speaker 1: The last thing I want is for someone that maybe
Speaker 1: maybe we're maybe we're saying different things. I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you what you're saying, gonna start yourself into my life
Speaker 1: because if we haven't talked, I don't want you to
Speaker 1: wish me well or say you're sorry. Don't anyone canna
Speaker 1: argue with this, because you know, I just went through
Speaker 1: a death and I will never forget the niggas that
Speaker 1: knew my aunt died, that said nothing to me and
Speaker 1: then just hit me up randomly like oh funny post
Speaker 1: fuck you see. And so we just and and as
Speaker 1: you like. Ain't cool when you know, but as human beings,
Speaker 1: you have to understand that we all have our way
Speaker 1: in thinking and how we respond and receive things. And
Speaker 1: to me, if that's how I would receive it, that's
Speaker 1: something I'm not gonna do. Well. The niggas know me
Speaker 1: and they know that I, like at least would have
Speaker 1: expected as is as high as my emotions always are
Speaker 1: and as much time as I've spent with someone like
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving ship like that, and you could say nothing, You're
Speaker 1: a piece of ship. You could literally die a matter
Speaker 1: of fact. Yeah, I don't view it that way. I
Speaker 1: I do, but I think everybody pretty much knows how
Speaker 1: their person is, and I think you know when you've
Speaker 1: got a super emotional person around, like niggas need to
Speaker 1: check on me. Yeah, but it's the same way. Don't
Speaker 1: see me a Thanksgiving Day text if we ain't talking one,
Speaker 1: don't that's not a death. Don't say Mary Christmas, don't
Speaker 1: say Happy Birthday. Don't come and send me so see
Speaker 1: those are I want to funk again? Text? No? So
Speaker 1: maybe now you're about to use this depth to get
Speaker 1: back into this pussy. I don't trust niggas. It's the
Speaker 1: same thing, especially because in those times you are the
Speaker 1: most vulnerable and may want someone I don't trust it. Bro,
Speaker 1: if you ain't genuine, if you ain't been working with me,
Speaker 1: don't sunk with me when you know I'm at a
Speaker 1: low ground. That's just how I see it. I guess
Speaker 1: that don't agree to disagree on it. So the last
Speaker 1: few things to get over a breakup schedule plans with friends.
Speaker 1: I love this one. We all need that, like it's
Speaker 1: very necessary. No much more to that, um the breakup playlist.
Speaker 1: I love this one because don't don't turn on Mary? No, no, no,
Speaker 1: A good like fun one? What's a fun break up?
Speaker 1: Do you know what my breakup is? Like fucking pastor
Speaker 1: Troy bitch? But like just that made me be like,
Speaker 1: oh I'm a boss bit fuck everybody in this world.
Speaker 1: Breakup list, See it don't help. Well, see that's what
Speaker 1: I can't listen, but I do have, like say, don't
Speaker 1: do no. I mean, I'm the only Mary you could do?
Speaker 1: Is the song That's not enough cry just fine, fine, fine, fine,
Speaker 1: fine fine. I can't never hit that. No, we're not
Speaker 1: dancer ring in here? I hate that song We're not
Speaker 1: dancing in the breakup playlist, Like I actually call it
Speaker 1: my bad mood playlist okay, just do city girls, but
Speaker 1: get money playlist. Honestly, I mean, I ain't going through
Speaker 1: ship right now, but I'll be putting that shirt on
Speaker 1: when I can annoy it. I'd be like, damn, it's raining.
Speaker 1: We put this on, like we all need a good one. Well,
Speaker 1: I have a song that, um, you guys can play
Speaker 1: any time that you guys are just like like you know,
Speaker 1: oh they do have a good do not do not
Speaker 1: get a breakup haircut? I love it. Well, I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna play you guys the beat of the beginning of
Speaker 1: this song because um, you really don't need to hear
Speaker 1: an can help. This is a breakup song and see
Speaker 1: your list bit because get a lie to you then
Speaker 1: screw you get mad? If it's homeboys, do you that's it,
Speaker 1: that's it. Damn I'm about to flock the niggas now
Speaker 1: you know me from Florida Beach. Play Kaya and she'll
Speaker 1: help you get through. It's not kay, stupid hole. How
Speaker 1: you figure he won't suck your best friend and your sisters.
Speaker 1: I mean he will and as we know next week,
Speaker 1: just say it. Okay, okay, okay, So it says, um
Speaker 1: resist the urge to obsess over what went wrong, which
Speaker 1: is very difficult because when something goes wrong, I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously we always feel like it's a failure. And you know,
Speaker 1: but I like the last one, lose yourself in a
Speaker 1: good book. I was going through breakup and that's how
Speaker 1: I started watching Fiance. And if you're losing yourself in
Speaker 1: a good book, don't read such a Soldier's Name, because
Speaker 1: there's just love stories in there where you're gonna be like,
Speaker 1: you know, I love murders are good. Murders are good. Breakup,
Speaker 1: but murders, Oh yeah, I don't know. I wouldn't suggest murder.
Speaker 1: You need something worse than what you're going through. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but now you might want to kill the nigga. Now
Speaker 1: you on Lifetime, now you're on the first forty eight. True,
Speaker 1: that's a good point. Yeah, don't don't read a good
Speaker 1: show show was to get into for a breakup. I
Speaker 1: think we should say are so like I said, I
Speaker 1: was going through a breakup when I started watching ninety Fiance,
Speaker 1: and I remember being like, yo, like this is the
Speaker 1: best thing for me. Game of Thrones I watched over
Speaker 1: a breakup, um Master and None it's funny too. I
Speaker 1: will also just say um, and I think I at
Speaker 1: this point Bravo should cut me a check. But Real
Speaker 1: Housewives of Atlanta, you get to see how awful everyone
Speaker 1: else's relationships are, and then it just won't make you
Speaker 1: want to be in one because it's just like, oh,
Speaker 1: dealing with some He was like, they usually for it
Speaker 1: might not be a sissen, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Or are you watching the new one is seated? This
Speaker 1: this uh, this new husband left for three days and
Speaker 1: they ain't even hit her up and said, I was
Speaker 1: just gone. Nigga was in Tampa and they said, you
Speaker 1: don't need an a while. That's what married married. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh no, let me tell you about how
Speaker 1: the new ninety day fiance. They got this white woman
Speaker 1: on their handy. She's a hula hooper who owns a esthetician,
Speaker 1: like like a beauty salon. Like do you know when
Speaker 1: people look LOOPI She's like, I just live with my
Speaker 1: cat and so she but you just said that, bitch,
Speaker 1: I live I live with body. You feel me? She
Speaker 1: LUPI and this says, I live with my cat. That
Speaker 1: was never the way she'd be talking. But I got
Speaker 1: a cat, and she said, this is what loupie saund like,
Speaker 1: I live with my cat. Okay, well I'll know I'll
Speaker 1: be showing bodie every now and I think about it.
Speaker 1: You do like me young niggas, but anyway, she's white.
Speaker 1: Then she says, I am in love with my twenty
Speaker 1: seven year old boyfriend from Believes. But she got the
Speaker 1: strong accent, like maybe do the accent. No do it.
Speaker 1: I don't even I've only seen two episodes because it's
Speaker 1: just a new season. Learned accent. I have it. But
Speaker 1: what I do know is he was like. She was like,
Speaker 1: why didn't you answer my phone? I called you fourteen times?
Speaker 1: He's like, you have that fucking work like ship. And
Speaker 1: then she was like, it seems like you don't want
Speaker 1: to come here. He's like, you think I want to
Speaker 1: go to that stage with somebody who like this, and
Speaker 1: he's like doing some crazy times. She's like, so I'm
Speaker 1: crazy and he's like, well, yes, bitch. Actually she calls
Speaker 1: and this is actually the bitch might be me. She
Speaker 1: calls the terror Reado over and she's like the Nigain
Speaker 1: answered the phone in like a day and a half.
Speaker 1: She's like, I need to know if he's cheating, yo.
Speaker 1: I mean she didn't even have to flip the Card's
Speaker 1: like he's hiding something. Really, Oh my god, he is.
Speaker 1: You know, she'd be calling his mama asking where she had.
Speaker 1: She sends the family money every week real quick. We
Speaker 1: talked about breakups fellas break up with a bitches. She
Speaker 1: doing all this, I'm sorry, and can you deserve more?
Speaker 1: So she pays all their bills and please let me
Speaker 1: she pay you for dick at this point, I mean,
Speaker 1: it's an arrangement. They ain't got like they're broke up
Speaker 1: there exactly. That's my family, not because why she couldn't
Speaker 1: get an American Families bro She had to buy somebody
Speaker 1: that she felt she could paying for the mama's bills bills.
Speaker 1: So you think you even to put up with that ship,
Speaker 1: I've alway put up with it. But listen to this team.
Speaker 1: Look at me's saying it like I run the show.
Speaker 1: So the bitch was like yo, during COVID, he lost
Speaker 1: his job at the resort. I met him att so
Speaker 1: I got him an job at another resort by paying
Speaker 1: the resort who wouldn't hire him, Like, just hir him back.
Speaker 1: I'll get you money, gird. It's just so good anyway,
Speaker 1: let's get to the home mail mail please baby. Okay,
Speaker 1: so the whole mail for this week, what does it
Speaker 1: have to do with I'm getting to it. I'm clicking
Speaker 1: on it, so I'm just using filler words. Here we go.
Speaker 1: I still don't have it. Okay, Mandy and Weezy. I
Speaker 1: just want to say that I love everything about the
Speaker 1: both of you, especially you easy or so gorgeous, thinking
Speaker 1: this would be the one you pick. I love your
Speaker 1: sweats and mandy skills are kind of that is not
Speaker 1: what they said. She say anything about me. I hope
Speaker 1: to be the hose that you are one day. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm a reformed honestly. Wow, I'm writing because I'm going
Speaker 1: through a bit of a dry spell. I'll recently stopped
Speaker 1: working with my friends with benefits because he was a
Speaker 1: toxic person. And after I let go of that toxic dick,
Speaker 1: I made a promise that I'd only fund guys I
Speaker 1: actually like and who respect me. I like that, But
Speaker 1: that promise I made to myself comes with meeting a
Speaker 1: lot of guys that don't have the time, patients, or
Speaker 1: capacity to give that to me. I've tried dating apps
Speaker 1: and I haven't met a guy who's willing to take
Speaker 1: me out or potentially suck down the line. I've tried
Speaker 1: hitting guys up, but you can slow down. We're not
Speaker 1: in a rush, We're not. No, I'm really hungry. Sorry.
Speaker 1: I've tried dating apps, and I just haven't met a
Speaker 1: guy who's willing to take me out or that I
Speaker 1: could potentially fuck down the line. I've even tried hitting
Speaker 1: up guys first, but that doesn't work out. I get
Speaker 1: left on red, et cetera. At this point, I'm so
Speaker 1: horny all caps that I've been considering fucking dudes that
Speaker 1: I've been avoiding for months, and I don't want to
Speaker 1: settle for something that I didn't want before. But I
Speaker 1: feel like I should respect their persistence and give them
Speaker 1: a try. Am I settling? How do I get the
Speaker 1: guys I want? What should I do? Well, ma'am, let
Speaker 1: me tell you something. How do you get the guys
Speaker 1: you want? Let's go with exhibit A. Mandy a good job,
Speaker 1: graduated college, fun, pretty girl. It took four years, thirty
Speaker 1: years altogether. Because if you thought we had the answer, bitch,
Speaker 1: I was out here toxic dick for as long as
Speaker 1: I can remember. I got a nigger right now, who
Speaker 1: I don't even know. I feel like this is a
Speaker 1: very hard question to answer. No, this is she's actually
Speaker 1: asking a question in a space where I was. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think the pandemic sped it up, like I wanted
Speaker 1: to get out of dealing with the toxic men that
Speaker 1: I was dealing with. But again, as someone who does
Speaker 1: just like to have sex, I would much rather deal
Speaker 1: with toxic dick that I know it's gonna make me come,
Speaker 1: then risk getting new dick that is probably gonna be subpar.
Speaker 1: So I think if it the main thing what I
Speaker 1: found interesting, She's like, they won't take me out, they
Speaker 1: want to do this, they don't want to take me
Speaker 1: on dates. You mentioned one word, which was respect. I
Speaker 1: don't think that you need a man to court you
Speaker 1: to respect respect you, And I think you're confusing those
Speaker 1: two things. This is very Steve Harvey of you, and
Speaker 1: you should just be Lorie. What you need to do
Speaker 1: is just understand that the two are not the same.
Speaker 1: Someone not wanting to be with you does not mean
Speaker 1: they don't respect you. I think also somebody who just
Speaker 1: wants to keep the relationship at a sexual you know,
Speaker 1: in a sexual capacity, just because they don't date you,
Speaker 1: because that's where it can blur the lines. If you
Speaker 1: are right now just looking for someone to fuck um
Speaker 1: or those were the relationships you had. Just because they
Speaker 1: didn't take you on dates or didn't, you know, take
Speaker 1: you out to dinner doesn't mean they didn't respect you.
Speaker 1: So I think that you're drawing the line to where
Speaker 1: it making it seem as though if someone courts you
Speaker 1: and takes you out that means they respect you. That
Speaker 1: also doesn't mean they respect you just because they take
Speaker 1: you on dates, though it doesn't. And I think that
Speaker 1: we have thought that someone respecting us for the longest
Speaker 1: time meant that they would do all of these things
Speaker 1: for us, when really these lines are a lot smaller,
Speaker 1: like through female liberation and sexual liberation, Like you got
Speaker 1: to understand that you being able to even say you
Speaker 1: want just sex is respect, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like you knowing that you ain't about to play yourself
Speaker 1: on some ship like that. So I think if you
Speaker 1: could suck these niggas and act like one actually is
Speaker 1: that Steve Harvey, But I act like what I mean,
Speaker 1: like be able to just move where you're not gonna
Speaker 1: feel bad about yoursel and I think the problem is
Speaker 1: you feel bad about yourself. And we talked about this
Speaker 1: on Patreon when you want something but you're settling for
Speaker 1: something else with partners, which is what I had to realize.
Speaker 1: Like I knew I wanted a boyfriend. I shared on
Speaker 1: this for you know damn near from the end of
Speaker 1: twenty nineteen, well halfcause I got one. But I talked
Speaker 1: about wanting a boyfriend, but yet I was still settling
Speaker 1: in these toxic relationships with men that I knew weren't
Speaker 1: going to give me essentially what I wanted. And it
Speaker 1: wasn't that they were disrespecting me. It was just that
Speaker 1: I wasn't really putting my foot down and really ask
Speaker 1: getting what I wanted out of these partners. If I
Speaker 1: wanted a relationship, I probably shouldn't be fucking with niggas
Speaker 1: that was only offering me sex. And I also didn't
Speaker 1: want to be with them then. But that's the thing too,
Speaker 1: is like you'd be thinking, like, all right, this ain't
Speaker 1: the nigga for me, so let me just get some dick.
Speaker 1: But I mean, he ain't gonna be that one like
Speaker 1: you could do right, and you got to compartmentalize dixus.
Speaker 1: You got to know that this is a dick and
Speaker 1: these might be like potential nice job, fun, smart, very
Speaker 1: kind and text me good morning some pictures like that
Speaker 1: something to just don't. I don't know what your vibe is,
Speaker 1: but yeah, compartmentalizing niggas put them in litt pockets to
Speaker 1: where you know you can pull them out of anyway.
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, this was fun their breakup. I want to
Speaker 1: start a website hose that host for heartbreak or whatever,
Speaker 1: like heartbroken Hose, and I really feel like it'd be
Speaker 1: a fun like you know, like break like a no,
Speaker 1: like a breakup reddit, but really like you can help
Speaker 1: me other like hos in there and funk each other
Speaker 1: while you're going through this pain. Okay, haven't gonna keep
Speaker 1: that in the beta stage. Um. Anyways, guys, I do
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Speaker 1: This has been yet another episode of horrible decisions by
Speaker 1: so secret signs that your neighbor might be a swinger.
Speaker 1: This comes from the New York Post um So, while
Speaker 1: the Suns Online cannot verify any of these claims, here
Speaker 1: are some of the tail tale signs that you could
Speaker 1: be living next door to a swinger. According to Cooper
Speaker 1: Beckett posts of the Life on the Swing Set podcast,
Speaker 1: many swingers actually wear black rings. So you may know
Speaker 1: that your neighbor is a swinger if they're wearing a
Speaker 1: black ring. Um. You here's what he said. He said,
Speaker 1: where your black ring on your right hand? If you
Speaker 1: are out and open to meet other swingers, if someone
Speaker 1: wearing a black ring on their right hand approaches you,
Speaker 1: start a conversation with them. I see you're wearing a
Speaker 1: black ring on your right hand. Maybe we are in
Speaker 1: the same club. Um, that's what No, don't be telling.
Speaker 1: They also cite white landscaping, rocks and pink or purple
Speaker 1: decorations in the front garden as a signal of swinger activity. Um. Bizarrely,
Speaker 1: the website identifies pineapples as another swinger signal, in the
Speaker 1: form of a door knocker. And I don't know if
Speaker 1: y'all can see it, but a pineapple door knocker also
Speaker 1: signifies that your neighbor may be a swinger. Um, let
Speaker 1: me see if there's any more signs. There's also another
Speaker 1: a sign, um, oh, here we go. Uh. There's also
Speaker 1: a suggestion that pink flamingos on the lawn is also
Speaker 1: a tailtale sign. Ready, why you got flamingos? And YoY
Speaker 1: already gotta be white people. Ship, I'm from Florida. They
Speaker 1: put flamingos in their yard. Nigger. Someone said it's all
Speaker 1: Florida's swingers, all of Florida's all right, Um, all right,
Speaker 1: let me say something about that. First of all, listen,
Speaker 1: it's a large intendency of swingers down there. Um, there's
Speaker 1: a big resort called top Secret Resources to just open.
Speaker 1: I mean, like, well, wow, if you want to come
Speaker 1: on here and be our goddamn third host, you need
Speaker 1: to send an application. But I don't know you think
Speaker 1: you are coming in and telling us about the resort
Speaker 1: and stad go ahead. And MARII also, I think maybe
Speaker 1: the only one with the ability to just un mute
Speaker 1: his mic whenever he's still where's the top secret thing?
Speaker 1: Where it's a top secret resort in Florida. Um, a
Speaker 1: friend of mine, I think that maybe Orlando, Florida. I
Speaker 1: gotta check, but I know it's in I know it's
Speaker 1: in Florida. It's not Miami because it's a little bit
Speaker 1: northern than Miami, but a lot of those places and
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of cities between Orlando in Miami. Well,
Speaker 1: he's not lying. It is where in Orlando adult only
Speaker 1: luxuries are on Johnny on Parkway Haney, Okay, way, my friend, Um,
Speaker 1: I know somebody who was doing some of the marketing
Speaker 1: for that company because they just launched and we're just
Speaker 1: trying to bring some people out there. Is it? Have
Speaker 1: you and have you had any friends that have gone there?
Speaker 1: They got a podcast, y'all. It's new. What is new
Speaker 1: right now? It's new right now, Like they're just now
Speaker 1: doing a brand and for that So, Um, the only
Speaker 1: person that I know down near that's doing that is
Speaker 1: the is the girl that's doing the market in my
Speaker 1: own girl break. I'll ask about that. But as far
Speaker 1: as Wish was saying about the pineapples, all right, I
Speaker 1: don't know nothing about the flamingos or nothing like that,
Speaker 1: but yes, the pineapples is definitely a thing in our community. Yes, pineapple, Yes,
Speaker 1: that's our symbol all right. Now, as far as the
Speaker 1: Black Ring, that's a company called Partners. I d those
Speaker 1: nigs was just trying to market their ship. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that company. Because we might need to have you on
Speaker 1: the episode since you know so much what I do,
Speaker 1: and now this is what I do, what I have
Speaker 1: on what do you do? Now? I have lifestyle events,
Speaker 1: as a matter of fact, I do. We have a
Speaker 1: little podcast we're doing on our own. You know. I
Speaker 1: have lifestyle podcast, lifestyle events in n y C. In Jersey.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, you're up here, so we can have you
Speaker 1: like on a real episode. Yeah, definitely would love that.
Speaker 1: So next Friday, put your out. Yeah, we're gonna we're
Speaker 1: gonna maybe talk about next Friday. We're not gonna ask
Speaker 1: you to pull your dick out, I promise. I don't
Speaker 1: know what he's talking about. Definitely would like to talk
Speaker 1: about how you slang that dick um tammy you over
Speaker 1: there yelling at us, So go ahead and I mute yourself. Girl,
Speaker 1: tell us what you know about to swing your lifestyle. Baby,
Speaker 1: I ain't know nothing about swinglat style. I just realized
Speaker 1: that my mama used to put him in the yard
Speaker 1: when I was growing up in Chicago. So you mean no,
Speaker 1: I'm just asking, so you need to try to say
Speaker 1: admit that by playing my day, we're sliding that dick somebody.
Speaker 1: Oh mrs much team, I just want to know if
Speaker 1: you single, cause I will move to New York. Alright,
Speaker 1: I'm just right oho, alright. We gotta mute Tammy, y'all
Speaker 1: because sometimes she get it a little out of about
Speaker 1: to look up on right like their voice. Oh my,
Speaker 1: and he had a beard, yall. Hell lord, but my,
Speaker 1: how tall you is? Since you can mute yourself, tell
Speaker 1: us real quick. Ruin the Fantasy