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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make A horrible decisions. Hi, guys,

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Speaker 1: welcome to another episode of horrible decisions. Apparently I faked

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Speaker 1: my accents, so I wanted to you know, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I got a tweet that said they

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Speaker 1: think I faked my ex and bitch, I don't know

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Speaker 1: what that means. Look, yeah, you see, I just switched

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Speaker 1: it up. This is me plus as So anyway, y'all,

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Speaker 1: welcome to another episode. It's your girl. May to be

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Speaker 1: a kad bitch, a k A Pitt, the one that

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Speaker 1: has known Mandy for amost fifteen years. She is absolutely

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Speaker 1: that cut fuck. You know. But I really have sounded

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Speaker 1: and talked like I've been me since since I've been me,

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Speaker 1: since I came out the goddamn well. I think sometimes

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Speaker 1: you when you're like having fun, maybe you like it

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Speaker 1: comes at me too, But I don't know. It's weird,

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Speaker 1: like when I don't like that you also just said

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Speaker 1: that something comes out. No, no, I'm saying you get

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Speaker 1: more hyped. Hear my voice gets louder. I don't think

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Speaker 1: you get more hood the more like you get. Don't

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Speaker 1: let you get lit. First off, I will for one,

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Speaker 1: say that I don't. I don't like the adjectives of

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Speaker 1: hood and ghetto being used in reference to how I speak.

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Speaker 1: I will say there right, just say am bu jetto

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Speaker 1: or something? But wait, I'm so to me, I am

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Speaker 1: bu jetto. You see I got heels on today. I

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Speaker 1: also figured y'all, since y'all photos of y'all who watch

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Speaker 1: on the YouTube, we'll be coming in here, bitch sweats

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Speaker 1: and graphic teas. And I'm like, this is a sex

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Speaker 1: pas Can we give sweat and graphic seas? What a bit?

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Speaker 1: Which we? We? You know? I said we? You are

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Speaker 1: the one that looks more gay, and I just will not.

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Speaker 1: I'm not like this fucking mike my hand, yeah, not

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Speaker 1: touched because guess what audio picks up. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if you know you've only been potting for four years.

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Speaker 1: We can hear that. The listener can hear you brambling

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Speaker 1: with a god damn. I mean like it's like a

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Speaker 1: hard bitch, because really, if we want to talk about it,

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Speaker 1: you want to do an animal press shoes? You got

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Speaker 1: going trying to me? I am spicy spicy show had

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Speaker 1: me come in here and just be a normal person

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Speaker 1: like I've been doing for four years. Normally I'm at

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Speaker 1: the last few episodes. Nothing about you, nothing about you

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Speaker 1: as normal anyway, I can't stand man. You ready, I'll

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Speaker 1: just say, y'all, welcome to another show. For those of

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Speaker 1: you who have not listened to this show before, because

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Speaker 1: you got a problem. They you have a problem, you, guys.

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Speaker 1: I was always supposed to be about sex, not therapy.

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Speaker 1: We had that episode a long time ago, and maybe

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Speaker 1: she should come back anyway. Anyway, I guess we'll start.

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Speaker 1: Let's do a catchup. It's just us. Uh no, Mustard,

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Speaker 1: what see that? I know? I was like, that was God. No,

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Speaker 1: it wasn't God. He was like, she'd be tripping. Let

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Speaker 1: me get her. You're done. You're don't know. I'm trying

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Speaker 1: to cross my legs and the problem is no, the

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Speaker 1: problem is a bitch been working out and the way

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Speaker 1: my thighs are burning right now, I don't even know

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Speaker 1: how I'm doing this. I dim sure don't go right

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Speaker 1: No did tonight, But this right here hurts because I've

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Speaker 1: been using like the elastic man's I mean that was shade.

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Speaker 1: He did you? No, no no, not, everyone knows you get

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Speaker 1: over the feeling. They could tell these sides. I don't

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Speaker 1: be working out, dick, but I am back in the gym.

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Speaker 1: I don't like people saying, like visually like, oh, you

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Speaker 1: don't work out because you look like, yeah, that's what

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Speaker 1: people assume when they don't see you as thin. Period.

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Speaker 1: I hear you. I just like, I'm a I know

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Speaker 1: that lets me be like I'm healthy, I'm healthy and

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Speaker 1: I run circles around you. Well, no, I just have

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Speaker 1: to have that conversation with a Twitter person because they

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Speaker 1: were like, yeah, well they considered me trying to get

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Speaker 1: to a healthy way. I said, nig ain't nothing wrong

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Speaker 1: with my blood pressure or cholesterol or anything else, and

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Speaker 1: so yeah, like you're just seen as unhealthy if you're

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Speaker 1: not thin. So I don't that's why. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: made the joke. But yeah, I'm in the gym now.

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Speaker 1: But I could very well be in the gym and

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Speaker 1: still have this body and just tone up and people

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Speaker 1: I don't know, healthy way is an interesting one and

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Speaker 1: like my six hundred pound life, and there's like I

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Speaker 1: understand that you don't get it because you've always been small.

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Speaker 1: No, no no, no, I'm telling when people say healthy weight

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Speaker 1: for a side always pounds and people still fat shaming me. Bro,

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Speaker 1: I get what you're saying, but not people are calling

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Speaker 1: me unhealthy and big bitch. I'm between I go between

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Speaker 1: I feel like when people that know knew you from

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Speaker 1: back in the day, or they'll see a picture I

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Speaker 1: and I'm mad, right the people that know me as

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Speaker 1: two hundred and thirty pound Mandy. Yes, and so yeah

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Speaker 1: the fact like again, I'm just like Damn, I can't

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Speaker 1: which was like one fifty. I got down to one fifty.

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Speaker 1: People were telling me I look sick. What made you

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Speaker 1: want to start um? Just because my partner now, girl,

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Speaker 1: I'll be taking sea moss pills. I felt like, baby,

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Speaker 1: I wasn't healthy. That's why I called the COVID so bitch,

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Speaker 1: I'd be like just being healthy. I got Elderberry ship

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Speaker 1: oil drops onto my tongue. Yeah, a bitch is like

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Speaker 1: just amping her immune system, especially being that I did.

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Speaker 1: got me by seventeen years bitch, And I'm like, all right,

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Speaker 1: YouTube prime at your assho it's for day. It's for day,

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Speaker 1: Like most of this ship I do and like you

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Speaker 1: And so legs shaking, bitch, I'm gonna just sit like

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Speaker 1: just put the I don't know y'all gonna get this

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Speaker 1: you want to pause and put sweats on? No what?

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Speaker 1: Oh no, I'm a fucking foot stul that's baby. Come on.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, Um, Mandy's feet are very very like close

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Speaker 1: to my face and this is free interesting. Don't do that.

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Speaker 1: Let's go anyway. What's the catch up? What you've been

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Speaker 1: up to? Him? So I'm gonna get comfortable. Our show

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Speaker 1: comes out on Monday. I can't talk about it yet,

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Speaker 1: but I'm super excited. I have something announcing on Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: I don't even know the date, but um, you know,

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Speaker 1: I finally got to tell Mandy, and I was so

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Speaker 1: I got the announcement, but Toody announced me. But I

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Speaker 1: just and It's funny because I've been wanting to tell

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Speaker 1: something to be perfect. Oh, I just thought because we

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Speaker 1: ain't been good, no, I wanted to support. I wanted

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Speaker 1: and I guess you guys will figure it off. Yeah, like, damn,

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Speaker 1: I thought we was doing good. Another argument, God damn. Oh.

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Speaker 1: I actually meant like, oh, no, I was talking about us. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I mean, but this is actually I'm okay. It's well,

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Speaker 1: I don't you know what's funny? Like who was it? Was? It?

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Speaker 1: Kila talked to someone and they were like, how are

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Speaker 1: I always laugh when people say we're gonna break up

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Speaker 1: because I'd be like, nigga, you know what we've been through.

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Speaker 1: know at all, But anyway, let's stay on a good track. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm working really hard and um bitch paint and doing Ship.

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Speaker 1: I've been on the ladder and ship my nails. Everything

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Speaker 1: it's stressful, but I think sometimes being busy is like

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's fine. I think that that's why I really

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Speaker 1: like being busy. Like to me, when I am not busy,

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Speaker 1: then I think about too much ship, and then my

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Speaker 1: mind just be going. I have my anxiety is already bad,

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Speaker 1: but apparently it's to leave her thing to overthink. Y'all know,

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Speaker 1: I don't well, they say it, I don't mind is

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Speaker 1: the devil's workshop, and baby, that ship is true as

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Speaker 1: it is being especially when you're going through it. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, please, well right now, give me a reo excute. Well,

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Speaker 1: I know you're you have an announcement for what you've

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Speaker 1: been working on with your project, but I've shared with

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Speaker 1: y'all too, like a bitch is like about to drop

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Speaker 1: her own products. So I literally like I had to

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Speaker 1: that's going out, I'm just like, to be real, this

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Speaker 1: is all a lot of money to me, Like we're

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Speaker 1: doing like possibly fifty. You hate when people act like

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Speaker 1: the money that they're talking about with you isn't that

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Speaker 1: gonna be like it's like, well it's like like eight thousand,

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Speaker 1: Well well yeah, and right now it's fifty. And I'm

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Speaker 1: just like, you have to understand, I don't come from

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Speaker 1: seven classes a semester like I was doing. So like

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Speaker 1: Good for you, sister, I hate you. Stop are you

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Speaker 1: we are going to educate you. Um. I know we

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Speaker 1: talked a lot about sex, but we do like to

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Speaker 1: be educational over here at the horrible decisions. Uh network um,

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Speaker 1: shout out black effect um. But basically this is a network.

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Speaker 1: Who else is on this whole? Just hilarious? So she

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Speaker 1: Man two sister? Anyway? Our Black s excellence for this

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Speaker 1: week is James Baldwin. A lot of you guys may

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Speaker 1: know because he is one of the very few that

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Speaker 1: we get to learn during Black History Pictures of James

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Speaker 1: and My House. Yeah. So. James Baldwin is a writer

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Speaker 1: in social critic who is perhaps best known for his

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Speaker 1: nineteen fifty five collection of essays, Notes of a Native

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Speaker 1: Son and his groundbreaking nineteen fifty six novel Giovanni's Room, which, bitch,

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Speaker 1: what about Marvin's Room? That's you? Maybe that's where got

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Speaker 1: it from? Maybe alright, Drake, I see you, which depicts

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Speaker 1: themes of almost no, never mind, this is not what

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Speaker 1: Drake meant with Marvin's Room. We don't know that because

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Speaker 1: giovan needs room. Did you know what they say about sexuality?

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Speaker 1: And bisexuality. The novels stood out among literary critics because

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Speaker 1: it features all white characters, unlike the civil rights activists

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Speaker 1: other novels, which centered the experience of black people. I'm

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Speaker 1: mad that he had to involve white people, but okay,

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Speaker 1: Baldwin's been a majority of his literary and activist career

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Speaker 1: educating others about black and queer identity, as he did

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Speaker 1: during his famous lecture titled Race, Racism and the Gay

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Speaker 1: Community at a meeting of the New York Chapter of

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Speaker 1: Black and White Men Together known as Men of All

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Speaker 1: Colors Together. So he was all lives matter, tyger. He

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Speaker 1: couldn't just keep it blake. I'm gonna be honest with you,

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Speaker 1: James Baldwin is pretty black and people black. Why he

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Speaker 1: had involved white people? I don't know if they I'm

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Speaker 1: asking you, you you why he had involved white and

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Speaker 1: he from back in the day. Maybe he had to

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Speaker 1: at the time, like right, but I mean, he, James,

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Speaker 1: you better had been forcing. Why the crackers had to

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Speaker 1: be involved? I don't I just want to know. But

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Speaker 1: what I know is James is great. He's revolutionary, he's

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Speaker 1: a black as um. He's got some amazing like like

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Speaker 1: you ever looked up James Baldwin like interview clips, like

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Speaker 1: just the way he be reading motherfucker's in interviews, but

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Speaker 1: um no, he's dope as funk. I really liked this segment. Um.

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Speaker 1: I really cannot wait until the days where we can

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Speaker 1: start incorporating you know, a Heather Hunter into this people

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Speaker 1: The points start that's gonna be your job. So you

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Speaker 1: and I'm going to continue giving y'all. I'm gonna make

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Speaker 1: or something. You know what I'm saying is okay? Anyway, Well,

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Speaker 1: our whole facts for this week are just what they

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Speaker 1: what they sound like facts from hose Better Us um

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Speaker 1: this one. So we normally do something like sex whole facts,

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Speaker 1: but I really wanted to talk about breakup facts because

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Speaker 1: that episode is about you know, So this one I

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Speaker 1: thought was fucking hilarious because Monday's are my favorite is

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Speaker 1: on one of our shirts, and most breakups are announced

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Speaker 1: on Mondays and Somebody's weak. They happened right before spring

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Speaker 1: break because nigga's ship and very few breakups. The cur

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Speaker 1: on Christmas, Well that's isn't that lovely? Now? Zoe Kravitz,

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Speaker 1: the queen that she is literally my fucking hair and

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Speaker 1: broke up with her nigga on his birthday, had her homegirl,

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Speaker 1: her sisters had sent divorce. But it had to write

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Speaker 1: like that was an ice it like you did that strategically,

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Speaker 1: which shout out to the queen. Um if you wanted

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Speaker 1: to see Zoe Kravitz his husband's dick, it's on love

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Speaker 1: and love, but it's it's pink, ain't it. No, he's mixed.

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Speaker 1: I think you think he's mixed. His dick is beautiful,

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Speaker 1: beautiful love by Gaston Noah. It's on Netflix, the one

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Speaker 1: where you can watch a threesome and they had the

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Speaker 1: actual actors do their own porn scenes. Oh his dick

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Speaker 1: is nice. Yeah, damn So she left a beautiful nigga dick.

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Speaker 1: God did that mean he fucked up? He did? Because

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Speaker 1: I know you ain't ship, but damn ain't nobody else.

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Speaker 1: Don't get dead, dude, same, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Like I definitely like up. So another study has found

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Speaker 1: that people who have recently fallen in love have some

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Speaker 1: of the same symptoms of O c D, for example,

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Speaker 1: frequently washing their hands repeatedly checking to see if the

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Speaker 1: door is closed. I looked a little more into this,

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Speaker 1: and they say that like when you're in love or

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Speaker 1: like it's a new feeling, like everything is so exciting

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Speaker 1: that you're you feel like you're losing other areas. Have

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Speaker 1: you done anything like that because I know you've got

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Speaker 1: a new boyfriend. No, really, I mean I'm way more catering,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm a whole cater to you as Beyonce as

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Speaker 1: bitch like before Mandy is me when I start hearing

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Speaker 1: like he's slurping on his drink. Baby, you want another drink,

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Speaker 1: I'll make you another drink. I cannot want to talk

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Speaker 1: about this. I'm brilliant idiots because I would love for

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Speaker 1: them to title it the Revolution of Man. No, seriously, like,

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Speaker 1: I mean, even girl, I woke up a maide a

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Speaker 1: nicer breakfast one day, bitch, I pull do you and

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Speaker 1: made avocado TOAs he ain't and then I put a

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Speaker 1: little egg on there, but you know, diggause, I was like,

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Speaker 1: are you okay with a running yolk because a lot

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Speaker 1: of black people like niggas like a Friday. Well, I

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Speaker 1: like my ship running, so I had to ask him.

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Speaker 1: And then and then, y'all, I sprinkled some ship that

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Speaker 1: came down from the heavens. If y'all ain't had the

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Speaker 1: everything Bagel season, I put that on my bit home

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Speaker 1: came out with everything bagel season. I'm just saying, like,

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Speaker 1: that's my avocado ship. It's my ship. There's one thing

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Speaker 1: you gotta put in avocado toasted cheat go. You want

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Speaker 1: to be me so bad, but you wasn't even cooking

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Speaker 1: for niggers. I was cooking for myself though, But now

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Speaker 1: I gotta make two pieces of toast I do. I

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Speaker 1: chopped red onions in it. I put lowies. That's the

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Speaker 1: real ship, opposed to like regular salt. And then when

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Speaker 1: you're mixing the avocados, I put a little coconut and

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Speaker 1: minos from Trader Joe's because just give it a little pizzazz.

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Speaker 1: I squired a little lemon on that motherfucker. I do

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Speaker 1: garlic powder, onion powder. Then I do some creole season

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Speaker 1: because I'm extra, but no, man, I do none of

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Speaker 1: those seasonings, just everything bagel Okay, yeah, you're doing a

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Speaker 1: lot in the morning, bitch. I'm sorry, but I barely

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Speaker 1: want to make a smoothie in the morning. I'm like, okay,

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Speaker 1: well on top, I do put the everything with Vehicel seasoning,

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Speaker 1: and then I chop up a little to me and

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Speaker 1: he was like, oh, that's what that was. He liked it,

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Speaker 1: he said, like my little toast. No, I don't think

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Speaker 1: I really get O c D. And it's crazy because

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Speaker 1: he's one of my first partners that literally like he's

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Speaker 1: O c D. Was washing his hands. But then I

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Speaker 1: don't know if that's a COVID thing because I met

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Speaker 1: him during COVID, so I don't know if that's an

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Speaker 1: O c D new relationship. You could have been dirty,

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Speaker 1: he could have been, but now he watched his hands

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Speaker 1: because the COVID the other one I love. And maybe

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Speaker 1: as many can attest to this, I'm not sure couples

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Speaker 1: who have similar drinking habits are most likely to say together.

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Speaker 1: Researchers found that among couples and one person was a

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Speaker 1: heavy drinker and the other was not, forty five to

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Speaker 1: fifty of them were divorced by their tenth anniversary. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: give me an alcoholic. I do love getting love. I

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Speaker 1: of to drink like and that's our thing. Like when

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Speaker 1: he comes, I'm like, you want darker white today, Like

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Speaker 1: he's more of a dark liquor drinker. I'm a white

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Speaker 1: liquor drinker. But we we matched with drinks. And sorry, guys,

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Speaker 1: were in Harlem. If you hear um those sirens because

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm just saying, because when we was

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Speaker 1: recording remotely, when I was in the Bronx, ya was

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Speaker 1: hearing him sirens and no, there was way more sirens.

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Speaker 1: Drink covid, like of kids. It's the heid of COVID.

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Speaker 1: Now people is dying again the same way in l A.

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Speaker 1: L A Is New York. You know, one and every

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Speaker 1: four people and all I have COVID. Oh, by the way, guys,

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Speaker 1: for y'all listening, my mom is doing a little better.

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Speaker 1: My mom currently hads COVID. W Are youn't tell me

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Speaker 1: that the symptoms Like I literally just insta carted. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I instatcrted all the immunity boosters because my mom, being

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Speaker 1: my mom, what she used to do when we were

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Speaker 1: sitting growing up. I said, Mom or no, she's like

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Speaker 1: I'm drinking gatorade, bitch. If you don't gatorade is not

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Speaker 1: gonna help you with fucking COVID. I do be drinking gatoradeymore.

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Speaker 1: I was like, moms, this is not just a cold

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Speaker 1: because I told you we never really got medicine. My

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Speaker 1: mother just used to give us some motherfucking gatorade. Like

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Speaker 1: you'll be fine. I wondered why this mic is short.

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Speaker 1: It's because you were here. No offense, You're just sorry, alright. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: those guys, do you have one more? No? No, no,

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Speaker 1: that's the horrid derve, which is our second y'all. Y'all,

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Speaker 1: I mean we are serving you with tip, bro, So

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Speaker 1: this is the sex tip. Maybe I just wanted you

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Speaker 1: to know if you're not watching on YouTube, has hoisted

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Speaker 1: to y'all. But let me tell you why she's so shocked.

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Speaker 1: Mandy shock, something new happened because when you have been

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Speaker 1: holding through the trenches of your life, you really feel

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Speaker 1: like ain't nothing else, when every hole has been used

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Speaker 1: interview never hole even mins, bitch. I'll swell not with

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Speaker 1: a dick, but some nut don't went up knows before anyway,

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Speaker 1: Speaking of nuts, this is an amazing that I would

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Speaker 1: love for the fellas to introduce with consent into the

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Speaker 1: bedroom with their partners. Now, my nigga just know I'm

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Speaker 1: a nasty ass hope. So I was just excited when

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Speaker 1: it started happening. We never discussed it beforehand, which was crazy.

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Speaker 1: But if if you if you don't know, if your

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Speaker 1: partner is a nasty bitch, don't do this without consent,

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Speaker 1: because it threw me off a little bit. So the

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Speaker 1: hordeur for this week is called finger painting, and basically

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Speaker 1: what happened is my man who does come multiple times?

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Speaker 1: Hold on one moment. I want you guys to guess

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Speaker 1: what this is about, because I when she said this,

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Speaker 1: had an image in my head finger painting. Benson, tell

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Speaker 1: me what you think this is about? Finger painting? What

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Speaker 1: do you think? What do you think in a sexual realm?

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Speaker 1: Just sir, look ay, none of them guests. Let me

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Speaker 1: tell the niggas what it is. Bro what with what? No? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but it wasn't that way, okayn't that way as much? Same?

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Speaker 1: I thought the same as well. So this is what

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Speaker 1: happened right. So, for whatever reason, I don't know where

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Speaker 1: he came up with it, but he wasn't. I wasn't

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Speaker 1: swallowing this evening because he was coming from back shots

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Speaker 1: and normally we do missionary so you know, just just

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Speaker 1: come right now and puss it. Anyway, he was coming

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Speaker 1: on my back. This is the instructions. So as he

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Speaker 1: was coming on my back, first off, step one being

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Speaker 1: doggy style. I mean, I guess this could happen in

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Speaker 1: any other position as well, but this is how we

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00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 1: did it. So he was in doggy style or whatever.

631
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 1: Right as he was ready to ejaculate, he pulled it

632
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 1: out and came all over my back and I'm feeling

633
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: it and I'm like, oh baby, you're coming a lot tonight. Oh.

634
00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 1: So he came all over my back. Right, he took

635
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:46,600
Speaker 1: these two fingers, his own white up the nut. I

636
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 1: was feeling him just I thought he was just rubbing

637
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,480
Speaker 1: it into my back. No, the nigga decided to make

638
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 1: me simba. And from the back he starts wiping his

639
00:31:56,480 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 1: nuts on my forehead and then down my cheek and

640
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 1: then down my face and then he puts it on.

641
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 1: This has to be some African charge. I don't know.

642
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:08,680
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know. In Brazil they'd be doing ship well.

643
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:12,760
Speaker 1: He came three times this night, and each time he

644
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 1: would take his nut and then he started getting I

645
00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 1: was like, Nick, you can't do this when my hair

646
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 1: is done. He did start then wiping it on my

647
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 1: neck and into my hair. My hair was hard as fuck.

648
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: After we got done, something about Mandy, I said, God,

649
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: damn it, I said, I didn't shower prior to him

650
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 1: coming over. I said, great, I have not like the bet.

651
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 1: Like I started feeling like my neck was stiff because

652
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 1: it was driving nut. At this point, it wouldn't been

653
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 1: working for a minute. And I'm like, and as we know,

654
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 1: Mandy did say she went to brunch with Commodore. I

655
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 1: did pearl necklace. I know what it feels like when

656
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:46,720
Speaker 1: nut drives up on you, but I will say it

657
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 1: was almost like a different I felt a spirit chal

658
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: connection when he was wiping his nut on my face

659
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 1: in the way that he was doing it, and I

660
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 1: was like, it was like, it was almost like, damn

661
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:58,880
Speaker 1: you a nasty nigger. I love you, Like that's what

662
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:01,800
Speaker 1: was in my mind, Like you was such a nasty

663
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 1: fucking I was like God damn, you're amazing because I

664
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 1: like nasty, like daffydig. It's like and I was like,

665
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:12,960
Speaker 1: no man has ever finger painted they're nuts on my face.

666
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 1: And it was so sensually done too, so it wasn't

667
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 1: like aggressive where I felt just like a brushstroke. It

668
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 1: was like a what's he do? Does he paint? No?

669
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 1: This nig ain't no pack that nigga canvas. You mean

670
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 1: I'm his canvas. So that is the hor dur for

671
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 1: this week. If you want to try finger painting, it

672
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:35,160
Speaker 1: is taking your nut from one part of the body

673
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: after you ejaculate on her and bringing it up. It's

674
00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 1: not the things you may do with your child. So

675
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it was amazing. So fingerpainting, y'all do that. Ship. Well,

676
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 1: if the finger painting doesn't go well, you guys might

677
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 1: have to break up. And here we are at the

678
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:57,719
Speaker 1: breakup now, Yeah, we've all been through one. I wanted

679
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:00,240
Speaker 1: to do this episode particularly because people ask a lot

680
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 1: of breakup advice and we had an episode with Amelia Ortiz.

681
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 1: Shout out to Amelia. She is a Bruja who is

682
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:13,760
Speaker 1: amazing at connecting people with their emotions themselves and really

683
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:17,280
Speaker 1: helping you guide yourself spiritually. I think hers was episode

684
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: eighty eight at the time, so many people listen to it,

685
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: and I was like, I wonder if that many people

686
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,839
Speaker 1: love Amelia or if that many people need breakup help,

687
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 1: and um, she talked about cutting chords and ship like that,

688
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 1: but what she didn't talk about was how to do it.

689
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 1: So we gotta talk about how to do it, how

690
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 1: to break up with someone if you want to, and

691
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: then if you're broken, were done. Okay, Well some people

692
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 1: don't take it that way, and that person is me.

693
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 1: This isn't working for because I'm a Christy Teagan. You

694
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 1: with me, I'm gona be like, no, are you? It's

695
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 1: not like do do you want to hear someone say

696
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 1: it's not it's not you, it's me. That's I thought

697
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 1: that's what they'd be doing in the movies. That's how

698
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 1: they break up, right, Yeah, But like, nah, I've I've

699
00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,360
Speaker 1: talked with some pretty like intellectual niggas. They haven't like

700
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:00,799
Speaker 1: given me no bush it like that, or I break

701
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 1: up with them because they're lying, cheating. But here's number one,

702
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 1: let's do the break up guy defining for yourself what

703
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 1: isn't working? First? Acknowledge the complicated feelings you have around

704
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:13,720
Speaker 1: the situation, even if the realization struck you like lightning.

705
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: This doesn't need to come with clarity. Say things about

706
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 1: growing apart, specific things about UM, maybe the inability to

707
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 1: provide care for your partner if they have mental health issues.

708
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 1: Like you know you you're you're acting this way. I

709
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: feel like I'm drowning with you. UM difference in opinions

710
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:31,760
Speaker 1: of its finance, politic values, and not having your emotional

711
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 1: needs and interest met. I sent this text years ago

712
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 1: and I wanted to read it because I was like,

713
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,799
Speaker 1: I did an okay job, and I screenshot at it

714
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 1: because I actually always had it in my favorite because

715
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:41,359
Speaker 1: I felt like I broke up with this nigga really

716
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 1: well through what text? You did an awful job. Actually,

717
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 1: you broke up with a motherfucker over text, and you

718
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: think that was a great job. Okay, let me explain

719
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:50,360
Speaker 1: why I had to text so now I realized I

720
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 1: and shipped for this. I cursed him out, hung up,

721
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,279
Speaker 1: and then texted him this is awful, but let's read

722
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 1: the text. I realized I'm spiraling, and I think the

723
00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 1: reason I'm spiraling is because every is so ceation I

724
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:02,880
Speaker 1: have with you is a negative one as far as

725
00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:07,360
Speaker 1: it comes to complicated conversations. When we're good, we're amazing.

726
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 1: I'm so enamored with you in those moments, and I

727
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:13,080
Speaker 1: see exactly why we're together because we work when there's

728
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 1: no stress. However, when you get stressed out, it's literally

729
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 1: something that drives me crazy to the point that I

730
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable with my own life. You get stressed, and

731
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:27,840
Speaker 1: it's such a burden on me that I think I

732
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 1: end up worse than you should have been an email,

733
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:33,839
Speaker 1: it's already way too long. Men do not read them

734
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 1: long as scrolling out roll back a lot. He was ah,

735
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:42,919
Speaker 1: so I said, I feel like I need to list

736
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 1: out the issues I have, and I will do so.

737
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 1: You do not do bullet points starting with one when

738
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 1: you get piste off. I should not be your point

739
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 1: of contact. That's it too. I have let you know

740
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 1: about reason one, and you have refused to find a

741
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 1: therapist or someone else to talk to because it really

742
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:04,359
Speaker 1: cannot be me. Well, then that means maybe you weren't

743
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 1: a good partner for him, because when he gets upset,

744
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:09,440
Speaker 1: why why can't he vent to you? He was a

745
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 1: very mean person when he was in Okay, you know,

746
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:14,840
Speaker 1: And so I think that when and I think a

747
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:16,319
Speaker 1: lot of people dated that person when they're in a

748
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 1: bad mood. Everybody gotta fucking be in a bad mood.

749
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:22,359
Speaker 1: I don't, I'm talking people know, it's hard, and I mean,

750
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:24,520
Speaker 1: he was a nice dude, but like he couldn't he

751
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 1: couldn't manage his stress at all. I can I just

752
00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: point out to this for those of y'all in relationships, Um,

753
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:34,840
Speaker 1: I love that you brought this up, because this was

754
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 1: a conversation that me and my boyfriend just had. We

755
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:39,839
Speaker 1: both just had a really, really really bad day on

756
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 1: one of the days that we were playing to see

757
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 1: each other, Like, I was piste off with my fucking

758
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: shipping debacle with the boxes, and he had just bought

759
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 1: a camera and it wasn't working and he had to

760
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:53,319
Speaker 1: go return it, like, and he was just upset going

761
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 1: back and forth with that, and so we we didn't

762
00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:00,880
Speaker 1: see each other, of course, and I said, I said, honestly,

763
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 1: this is what I prefer because he's come over sometimes

764
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:05,920
Speaker 1: and he's either in a bad mood, and I always

765
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:07,839
Speaker 1: know when he's in a bad mood, and he he

766
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 1: loves that I know when he's in a bad mood.

767
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 1: But I'm like, I don't know who who your past

768
00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 1: partners were that still didn't respect when you were in

769
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: a bad mood. But I get it. And so he

770
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: said that he really loves that about me. But I said, honestly,

771
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:21,839
Speaker 1: moving forward, if you're in a bad mood, I would

772
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 1: much rather you say let's reschedule, because a part of

773
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 1: that energy is not something I want to be around,

774
00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 1: because we really enjoy each other's company, and when you

775
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 1: come over and you're you're in a bad mood, I

776
00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 1: feel like I'm now walking on eggshells. But now I'm

777
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:35,759
Speaker 1: just not enjoying our time together. And I would rather

778
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,920
Speaker 1: have more times where we enjoy each other than times

779
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 1: where it's just like, all right, this energy is, but

780
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:45,240
Speaker 1: you gotta you gotta be able to recognize those moments

781
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 1: and like be like, it's okay to tell someone you

782
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 1: can't see them. I think I had someone tell me

783
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 1: that I was hot, normalize that he was like, yo,

784
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 1: I can't, like I can't, I can't. But a lot

785
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: of us take it personally or think that he's automatically

786
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 1: out sucking another bit a maturation like and it's just like, yeah,

787
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 1: you don't need this. One is interested practice your oh no,

788
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 1: mine skipped, practice your mindset, writing down why the breakup

789
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 1: is necessary for you. And this is really good if

790
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,000
Speaker 1: you're dating someone who's toxic, because it's hard because it

791
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 1: feels good when like you know, even that, like I

792
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 1: was dating somebody and this, like I said, it was

793
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:20,840
Speaker 1: a minute ago that I really fucked what he was cool,

794
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:23,760
Speaker 1: but like he was mean and I've seen that streak

795
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 1: and I was like, I gotta remember, like nigga, ain't

796
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 1: becu um. Three run the words past your friends. This

797
00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:33,240
Speaker 1: is a controversial one because I don't like that. I

798
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: think your friends will either skew you one way. I

799
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:39,000
Speaker 1: think the only thing that you can do if you're

800
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:40,839
Speaker 1: going to talk to a friend about it is be like, yo,

801
00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 1: I made the decision already. Tell me if you like

802
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:45,920
Speaker 1: this approach. Don't ask a friend if they think you

803
00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 1: should break up or do this. Don't because I will

804
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:51,600
Speaker 1: say the problem with that is we overshare his girlfriends

805
00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:54,719
Speaker 1: and so a lot of times, if you're at the

806
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 1: breaking point with your partner, you've probably already overshared all

807
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:03,440
Speaker 1: of the bad qualities and awful moments in your relationship

808
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 1: with this partner with your friends, to where, of course

809
00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 1: your friends are gonna be like, girl, just lead that already,

810
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:10,880
Speaker 1: Like he's called you all this stress, You've called me crying.

811
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:14,000
Speaker 1: I'm sick of hearing about it. Leave them, And so

812
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 1: I think that two before reaching that point, as women,

813
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 1: we should probably stop sharing all of the negative things

814
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 1: about our relationship. And it's crazy because I still still

815
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 1: land I had one yet in nine months, so or

816
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 1: a baby. Well, the other one is acknowledging their emotions

817
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 1: and their pain, and I love this one. Make sure

818
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 1: that they're done sharing their side before you leave. While

819
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 1: it may be uncomfortable, you need to be prepared for

820
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:44,879
Speaker 1: periods of silence, even crying, but regardless of emotions, stay

821
00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 1: clear about your reasons and listen to theirs. How to

822
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 1: respond to those questions is remember I don't know is

823
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 1: a valid statement. You can say things like I don't

824
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:56,560
Speaker 1: know if you really don't know, not everything deserves an

825
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 1: explanation because you may not know what's going on with

826
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 1: a certain thing, so it can be okay. Don't spiral

827
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 1: and try to make something up if it's really just

828
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:06,400
Speaker 1: I don't know. Um, you can repeat their answer if

829
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 1: they try to say this the same thing, and it's

830
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 1: okay to say I'm sorry. And the other one is

831
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 1: don't reach out right away. Losing a genuine connection is

832
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:16,839
Speaker 1: a bit like losing an eye in your world will

833
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:20,320
Speaker 1: feel like it fell off, and you may experience some regrets.

834
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: It's normal. When you were together the world widened a bit,

835
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 1: but now the vision shifts, so it's gonna feel like

836
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:29,239
Speaker 1: you're getting half of what you used to see. Which

837
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:31,920
Speaker 1: is a great explanation because I think even when you

838
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:34,320
Speaker 1: break up with someone that you don't even funk with anymore,

839
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 1: like you're mad at them, or they cheated or they

840
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:39,479
Speaker 1: did something mean like not mean, um, deceitful, you still

841
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 1: feel like something's missing. You're like, well, I'm used to

842
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:44,359
Speaker 1: this routine or whatever, So like, yeah, I think that

843
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 1: that was a really good one because you definitely need

844
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:50,319
Speaker 1: the space before you jump back in there and can

845
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: check on someone and do all that ship um. And

846
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:55,919
Speaker 1: it says this, I like, because there's always this thing

847
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 1: of do you delete everything? What do you do our

848
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:05,319
Speaker 1: chai reminders of them relationship, removing certain social media accounts

849
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 1: like on photos, archiving them, um, if there are gifts

850
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 1: and photos, putting them in a box on a drive,

851
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 1: maybe taking them away from the phone immediately, like but

852
00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:18,280
Speaker 1: just you know, putting them in a certain place. Um,

853
00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:20,439
Speaker 1: this one's interesting. Can you be friends? An hour later?

854
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:25,319
Speaker 1: It says that most couples, what do you think for

855
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 1: a year long relationship? It depends. I'm not gonna lie.

856
00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 1: I've said you shouldn't funk friends. So to me, it's

857
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,400
Speaker 1: hard that if you can't be in a relationship, I

858
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 1: don't know how realistically, Uh, it makes sense to be

859
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:42,839
Speaker 1: friends with them, especially immediately after a break. I had

860
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:44,880
Speaker 1: a sneeze, but it's COVID and like, I didn't know

861
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:47,120
Speaker 1: want people. Oh yeah, don't sneeze on me, bitch. We

862
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,280
Speaker 1: would have fought right here on camera on the YouTube.

863
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 1: Get it. So I don't worse though, Um oh, she

864
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: could be came on with a fucking bit. You don't anyway, No,

865
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 1: I just I do. I don't feel like you should

866
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 1: remain friends, um with someone. The problem is too when

867
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 1: it comes to relationships. A lot of people gauge the

868
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:12,879
Speaker 1: time in the relationships, so at the time they feel

869
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 1: wasted at the time they felt spent with that person.

870
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 1: So a lot of people if they've been in a

871
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:20,360
Speaker 1: relationship for a long time with someone, they feel obligated

872
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 1: to hold onto a friendship. It's okay for someone to

873
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 1: have been in your life for a season and to

874
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: completely let them go. That is okay. I don't feel

875
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 1: like I feel like a lot of people hold onto

876
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:35,680
Speaker 1: this friendship with this person because they've been with them

877
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:37,840
Speaker 1: for so long. That's not necessary. I don't want to

878
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 1: be your friend. But I will say there's probably one

879
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:45,200
Speaker 1: or two people, definitely one, but there may be another

880
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:48,399
Speaker 1: one where I was like m m, or are they

881
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 1: really someone that I shouldn't have been with? Or did

882
00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 1: I just not know how to be with them in

883
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:58,919
Speaker 1: that moment? Like and I can acknowledge that, like any

884
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 1: saying that they weren't from me, it's just like I

885
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:03,799
Speaker 1: didn't know how to be their girlfriend and never you know,

886
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 1: like it takes a lot of growth, and I mean

887
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:08,359
Speaker 1: truth rely dating older men, Like that's really been where

888
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:09,960
Speaker 1: my life has been. Like so that's been hard now

889
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 1: and I'm not gonna lie again. Just with growing and

890
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 1: learning yourself more. Yeah, Like if I would have met

891
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 1: my boyfriend now five years ago, I know I was

892
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:24,040
Speaker 1: a completely different person and I may not why your home.

893
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 1: I'm yeah that part, but I may not have known

894
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:28,799
Speaker 1: how to be a good partner to him, like which

895
00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 1: I wasn't cooking for niggas and I wasn't expecting Like

896
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:35,359
Speaker 1: there's that episode where my my mom was on yeah,

897
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 1: and you were like, you cooking for him? I mean

898
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 1: my nigga. Pretty much, I feel like it was my boyfriend.

899
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:42,359
Speaker 1: It was like a love the first sight type of thing.

900
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 1: So even like our relationship started the first day we met.

901
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 1: But that's the unfair thing to say, because you can't

902
00:44:47,760 --> 00:44:51,399
Speaker 1: judge the magnitude of someone else's relationship and how they're

903
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 1: progressing it, right, Like people show their love differently, so

904
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:57,720
Speaker 1: when you're getting to know someone, like their gestures are different.

905
00:44:57,840 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 1: Women can do chivalrous things too, right, So whether you're

906
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 1: dressing up for someone and putting that effort in that

907
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:05,200
Speaker 1: you're into, or trying to surprise them with something, or

908
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 1: having those moments like I'd still really stand by I

909
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 1: think those things are part of dating. But you're like,

910
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 1: I'm not cooking for nigga. We got a title and

911
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:17,160
Speaker 1: he got that side because I said, just so you know,

912
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 1: all my friends know you as my boyfriend, and he

913
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 1: didn't argue, so that meant we were together, okay, because

914
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 1: now I will tell you I beat that and he

915
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 1: just said, okay, so that's when we were together. I'm

916
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 1: glad you have your ma. Now if you have been

917
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:39,320
Speaker 1: broken up with, here are the five stages of grief

918
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 1: from a breakup. Nigga. This ship is so real that

919
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 1: it's not even funny. This ain't speaking to me. I

920
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 1: don't know about what this feel like. Denial, okay that

921
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 1: that is the number one. Hey tripping this. I don't

922
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:53,360
Speaker 1: even need to read this ship. Hey tripping that, nigga,

923
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 1: hes gonna be calling me talk. We know. This is

924
00:45:55,960 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 1: probably why a lot of people's like call it a

925
00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 1: break because not bro, you got broken up with, but

926
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 1: you went denial and now y'all back together. But this

927
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 1: one's really funny because I've watched myself do this literally,

928
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:15,879
Speaker 1: like with my last breakup. I remember it. I was like,

929
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 1: so the second one is anger. I was like, okay,

930
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 1: so they make really gonna call me it as we Okay,

931
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:25,319
Speaker 1: I'm about the funk around and I went out just

932
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 1: like I said, if you want that pussy, ain't hurting

933
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:36,520
Speaker 1: nobody but yourself. You ain't hurting him, I hate him

934
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: all right. Then the bargaining, this one is a good one.

935
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:45,239
Speaker 1: Bargaining what during this breakup you may feel vulnerable and helpless,

936
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 1: and in these moments it's not uncommon to look for

937
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 1: ways to regain control or want to feel like you

938
00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:55,279
Speaker 1: can affect the outcome again. So basically they say you

939
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 1: may start bargaining with God or a higher power in

940
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 1: return from heal relief, bargaining with that person trying to

941
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:06,839
Speaker 1: get them back, um or anything like basically saying if

942
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 1: I only had more time, they would have stayed. If

943
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 1: I only did this, that's your bargaining. It's like you

944
00:47:11,239 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 1: like going over and over again on what you could

945
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 1: have done. Um, then I only gave him a threesome,

946
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 1: he wouldn't have left me. Depression that's the fourth stage,

947
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 1: basically saying it's a quiet stage of grief. Um, you

948
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 1: may run from the emotions by trying to stay busy

949
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 1: and do all this other ship but falling into depression.

950
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 1: And the fifth stage is your acceptance stage. Not necessarily

951
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:34,359
Speaker 1: that means you're like happy, but means that like you

952
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 1: understand what's going on, Like ultimately, this is what had

953
00:47:38,520 --> 00:47:40,839
Speaker 1: to happen, this was a healthy choice for me, or

954
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:42,720
Speaker 1: this is what that person wanted and have to respect

955
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 1: what they wanted. Um, but no, I like those so

956
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 1: how to get over it? Now? I did pull something

957
00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 1: up from Oprah Meg, but I feel like Mandy and

958
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:52,080
Speaker 1: I could put our ship in there because I don't

959
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,400
Speaker 1: know if Oprah can really be the Hoprah that no,

960
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:58,840
Speaker 1: because she's still got no. I mean Hopra as in

961
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:04,359
Speaker 1: us allowing yourself time. Now, this one is a good

962
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:05,919
Speaker 1: one because you know your friends will be like, bitch,

963
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 1: you gotta didn't you gotta like you gotta take your

964
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 1: time if you don't know, because I haven't been through

965
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:12,279
Speaker 1: a breakup? But have you never helped friends through a

966
00:48:12,280 --> 00:48:17,360
Speaker 1: break up? But I've never done that. That's not what

967
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:19,960
Speaker 1: I feel like, Mandy, you would be a fucking bitch

968
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 1: through a break up. Like if I like called you

969
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:26,719
Speaker 1: like for crying, you'd be like girl, No, remember you

970
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:28,719
Speaker 1: know how to help friends? Well, I gotta nigg if

971
00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:30,400
Speaker 1: you want to get flown out? You did say that

972
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 1: to me? Did he did you out? But that's how

973
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: I helped? That wasn't right. I got a whole bunch

974
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 1: of nice looking niggas. You want an NBA player or wrapper.

975
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 1: Do you know what? I called Alex crying one time

976
00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:42,439
Speaker 1: over nigga and he literally listened to me for maybe

977
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:46,200
Speaker 1: five minutes and he goes, Nigga, shut up. Can you

978
00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:48,479
Speaker 1: like go through your DM and he told just find

979
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:51,440
Speaker 1: the first blue check. You can't, You're gonna be fine.

980
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:54,279
Speaker 1: I was like, that's how I helped my friends, my girl,

981
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:56,200
Speaker 1: will you what's happen nigga? You want I help you

982
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 1: find him? I mean, I'm a real friend. But see

983
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:01,240
Speaker 1: that's the toxic ship. You can't be toxic. You can't

984
00:49:01,239 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 1: just get under someone to get over them immediately when

985
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 1: you really need time to get over, because then you

986
00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 1: just get word. Yeah. But then if you don't really

987
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:09,359
Speaker 1: break up and maybe he comes back, now, you don't

988
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:11,759
Speaker 1: miss out your chance and the nigger you probably would have.

989
00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:14,800
Speaker 1: You know what I meant, he stopped giving the hole hope.

990
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 1: So this one can consider deleting your ex's number for now.

991
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:24,600
Speaker 1: I love that one. Nod deleted. No, there's WhatsApp, there's snapchat,

992
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 1: they got my email because they booked my flight. There's

993
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 1: too many other ways. It doesn't do nothing, no, no no,

994
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:31,359
Speaker 1: no deleting it. So you won't text, like deleting their

995
00:49:31,400 --> 00:49:34,400
Speaker 1: Instagram because there's just too much. There's too much access.

996
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 1: It's it's trying, You're trying. It's a step. And then

997
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 1: I have to go through all those apps. By the

998
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 1: time I get to the fifth one, I'm gonna texting

999
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:44,040
Speaker 1: nigga like, so you really wasn't gonna hit me? Oh,

1000
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: I'm blocked the nigga cutting out and blocked them back.

1001
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:48,080
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. It's like, it's so help

1002
00:49:48,960 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 1: unblocked the old may once we toxic. This ain't working.

1003
00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 1: Unblocked him after I got mad at him. I can't

1004
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:55,160
Speaker 1: ever when I got mad at it before. We had

1005
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:57,399
Speaker 1: a flight together the next day and I blocked him

1006
00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:00,440
Speaker 1: and he emailed me like are you serious? And I

1007
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:04,759
Speaker 1: was like, I'm still gonna go, but you what was

1008
00:50:05,000 --> 00:50:06,799
Speaker 1: you know? I betty like that y'all weirdly blocked me

1009
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:09,960
Speaker 1: before and I said, oh, well, bitch, per our last conversation,

1010
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:12,279
Speaker 1: and I emailed her what I had to say, How

1011
00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:15,359
Speaker 1: did not see see the email bit you're gonna read

1012
00:50:15,360 --> 00:50:19,320
Speaker 1: this ship so that blocks to Oh yeah, that blocking

1013
00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:23,120
Speaker 1: up another ain't gonna stop nothing, because you're crazy. If

1014
00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:27,359
Speaker 1: these niggs crazy I'm a nigga. Protect your heart with

1015
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:32,120
Speaker 1: a social media purge. Now, not only should you delete them, niggi,

1016
00:50:32,239 --> 00:50:34,839
Speaker 1: you may need to delete you all shop not happen

1017
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 1: to put them down tome go through let me go

1018
00:50:37,520 --> 00:50:43,640
Speaker 1: right now. Settings screen time said a fucking app limit,

1019
00:50:43,960 --> 00:50:46,839
Speaker 1: and get your motherfucking ass off that goddamn app. Now,

1020
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:50,200
Speaker 1: whether you're scrolling through old photos of happier times, you

1021
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:53,399
Speaker 1: need to stop trying to decode if they're happy, um

1022
00:50:53,680 --> 00:50:57,640
Speaker 1: through their stories doing all this ship literally, just fucking

1023
00:50:57,640 --> 00:51:00,239
Speaker 1: give yourself a break. The other one. Don't con hact

1024
00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:04,400
Speaker 1: your X unless absolutely necessary. It doesn't say what would

1025
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:07,960
Speaker 1: be the reason, what would that raison? Sorry, I had

1026
00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:09,960
Speaker 1: to do the cardy thing. But um, I think if

1027
00:51:09,960 --> 00:51:12,359
Speaker 1: you're dying, that's pretty good, or if someone dies that's

1028
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:14,120
Speaker 1: pretty good. Other than that, don't hit that neck up.

1029
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Even if someone's dying, you're the last person

1030
00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 1: I want to hear from. Then if I'm dealing with

1031
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:23,520
Speaker 1: a death, you're my ex. Yes, like to me, like

1032
00:51:23,680 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 1: it's the same way, Like me and my friend were

1033
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:27,759
Speaker 1: just talking about this, like, don't make me a charity case,

1034
00:51:27,800 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 1: don't reach out to me, And we haven't spoken in months.

1035
00:51:30,160 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 1: Don't hit me up just because you know I'm dealing

1036
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:34,480
Speaker 1: with something tragic, because right now, the last thing I

1037
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:36,920
Speaker 1: need is someone who brought pain to me to come

1038
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:39,360
Speaker 1: back into my mind about that where I'm dealing with.

1039
00:51:39,640 --> 00:51:42,320
Speaker 1: If something tragic happened, like any of my ex boyfriends

1040
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 1: I found out someone died in their life, I am

1041
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:46,879
Speaker 1: one right, but I'm telling you as someone who would

1042
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:49,759
Speaker 1: be on the receiving end if if I'm going through

1043
00:51:49,760 --> 00:51:52,759
Speaker 1: a tragedy right now or I'm going through something. And again,

1044
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 1: I was just having this conversation because you really think

1045
00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:58,799
Speaker 1: that someone shouldn't be wishing you absolutely like I told you.

1046
00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 1: And and this is something that I've been dealing with,

1047
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:02,440
Speaker 1: like I said, not only has my anxiety been up,

1048
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:06,080
Speaker 1: one of my really close friends sorry, is battling breast cancer.

1049
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 1: She's young, where you know, and one of her exes

1050
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:13,239
Speaker 1: was like, no, let me know when you're going for

1051
00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 1: your surgery, and she was like, my nigga, like we

1052
00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:18,799
Speaker 1: haven't spoken in months. You lied to me the last

1053
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:20,920
Speaker 1: couple of times we talked. Don't hit me up acting

1054
00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 1: like this is a weak thing or an us thing,

1055
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:25,800
Speaker 1: or that you're here from me when realistically, you haven't

1056
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:29,279
Speaker 1: been here for me in all of these months from

1057
00:52:29,280 --> 00:52:32,640
Speaker 1: a mutual friend. The mutual friend ran her mouth and

1058
00:52:32,719 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 1: so she was upset because it's just like, don't come

1059
00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:37,000
Speaker 1: in me now on some how are you I want

1060
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:39,480
Speaker 1: to go through this with you? First off, it's also COVID.

1061
00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:41,440
Speaker 1: You wasn't rocking with me and checking on me when

1062
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 1: I had COVID and she also had COVID. So it's

1063
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 1: just like this has been a pandemic of a year

1064
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:49,120
Speaker 1: where if you haven't checked on my well being over

1065
00:52:49,160 --> 00:52:50,759
Speaker 1: this last I don't know. I feel like, don't come

1066
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:52,759
Speaker 1: at me because you hear something. Maybe if he like

1067
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:54,520
Speaker 1: I said a nice I don't know. I just don't

1068
00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:56,439
Speaker 1: matter how nice you say. I'm not a nice text.

1069
00:52:56,480 --> 00:52:59,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying because I will never forget, like if someone

1070
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 1: if I lost somebody and you never I will if

1071
00:53:01,719 --> 00:53:03,360
Speaker 1: I saw you in street, I'll never remember that you

1072
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:05,880
Speaker 1: never wished me well. You know my motherfucking so and

1073
00:53:05,920 --> 00:53:09,920
Speaker 1: so died. I don't want to believe you never said anything.

1074
00:53:11,719 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 1: I don't want someone who's genuine. I remember every single

1075
00:53:14,640 --> 00:53:18,000
Speaker 1: person in my life I believe didn't fucking do anything

1076
00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:19,840
Speaker 1: for me. Where my aunt died. No, when I was

1077
00:53:19,880 --> 00:53:24,000
Speaker 1: going through I believe is I believe in a sincerity

1078
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:28,000
Speaker 1: and someone being genuine and to me, if I'm experiencing

1079
00:53:28,000 --> 00:53:30,799
Speaker 1: grief or I'm going through something, I'm not gonna lie.

1080
00:53:31,160 --> 00:53:34,600
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear from someone that we ended bad,

1081
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:37,080
Speaker 1: or we broke up, or you sucked me over the

1082
00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:39,359
Speaker 1: last time we were dealing with whatever. I don't care

1083
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 1: for you to insert yourself back into my life what

1084
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:45,799
Speaker 1: I'm going through, something that I'm I'm drained with mentally, emotionally.

1085
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:48,800
Speaker 1: The last thing I want is for someone that maybe

1086
00:53:48,840 --> 00:53:51,600
Speaker 1: maybe we're maybe we're saying different things. I'm gonna tell

1087
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 1: you what you're saying, gonna start yourself into my life

1088
00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 1: because if we haven't talked, I don't want you to

1089
00:53:55,200 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 1: wish me well or say you're sorry. Don't anyone canna

1090
00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:02,640
Speaker 1: argue with this, because you know, I just went through

1091
00:54:02,680 --> 00:54:05,239
Speaker 1: a death and I will never forget the niggas that

1092
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 1: knew my aunt died, that said nothing to me and

1093
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:10,400
Speaker 1: then just hit me up randomly like oh funny post

1094
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:14,879
Speaker 1: fuck you see. And so we just and and as

1095
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 1: you like. Ain't cool when you know, but as human beings,

1096
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:20,080
Speaker 1: you have to understand that we all have our way

1097
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:23,120
Speaker 1: in thinking and how we respond and receive things. And

1098
00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:25,480
Speaker 1: to me, if that's how I would receive it, that's

1099
00:54:25,520 --> 00:54:27,279
Speaker 1: something I'm not gonna do. Well. The niggas know me

1100
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:29,800
Speaker 1: and they know that I, like at least would have

1101
00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:32,920
Speaker 1: expected as is as high as my emotions always are

1102
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 1: and as much time as I've spent with someone like

1103
00:54:35,640 --> 00:54:38,399
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving ship like that, and you could say nothing, You're

1104
00:54:38,400 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 1: a piece of ship. You could literally die a matter

1105
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 1: of fact. Yeah, I don't view it that way. I

1106
00:54:43,560 --> 00:54:47,160
Speaker 1: I do, but I think everybody pretty much knows how

1107
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:50,880
Speaker 1: their person is, and I think you know when you've

1108
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:52,960
Speaker 1: got a super emotional person around, like niggas need to

1109
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:55,080
Speaker 1: check on me. Yeah, but it's the same way. Don't

1110
00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:57,319
Speaker 1: see me a Thanksgiving Day text if we ain't talking one,

1111
00:54:57,440 --> 00:55:00,319
Speaker 1: don't that's not a death. Don't say Mary Christmas, don't

1112
00:55:00,360 --> 00:55:03,279
Speaker 1: say Happy Birthday. Don't come and send me so see

1113
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:06,719
Speaker 1: those are I want to funk again? Text? No? So

1114
00:55:06,760 --> 00:55:08,600
Speaker 1: maybe now you're about to use this depth to get

1115
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:11,400
Speaker 1: back into this pussy. I don't trust niggas. It's the

1116
00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:13,520
Speaker 1: same thing, especially because in those times you are the

1117
00:55:13,560 --> 00:55:16,640
Speaker 1: most vulnerable and may want someone I don't trust it. Bro,

1118
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:18,799
Speaker 1: if you ain't genuine, if you ain't been working with me,

1119
00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:20,520
Speaker 1: don't sunk with me when you know I'm at a

1120
00:55:20,560 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 1: low ground. That's just how I see it. I guess

1121
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:25,440
Speaker 1: that don't agree to disagree on it. So the last

1122
00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:28,360
Speaker 1: few things to get over a breakup schedule plans with friends.

1123
00:55:28,440 --> 00:55:31,719
Speaker 1: I love this one. We all need that, like it's

1124
00:55:31,920 --> 00:55:35,239
Speaker 1: very necessary. No much more to that, um the breakup playlist.

1125
00:55:35,360 --> 00:55:39,520
Speaker 1: I love this one because don't don't turn on Mary? No, no, no,

1126
00:55:39,719 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 1: A good like fun one? What's a fun break up?

1127
00:55:42,719 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 1: Do you know what my breakup is? Like fucking pastor

1128
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 1: Troy bitch? But like just that made me be like,

1129
00:55:50,239 --> 00:55:54,800
Speaker 1: oh I'm a boss bit fuck everybody in this world.

1130
00:55:54,880 --> 00:56:01,400
Speaker 1: Breakup list, See it don't help. Well, see that's what

1131
00:56:01,880 --> 00:56:04,319
Speaker 1: I can't listen, but I do have, like say, don't

1132
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 1: do no. I mean, I'm the only Mary you could do?

1133
00:56:07,480 --> 00:56:13,040
Speaker 1: Is the song That's not enough cry just fine, fine, fine, fine,

1134
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:19,359
Speaker 1: fine fine. I can't never hit that. No, we're not

1135
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:23,080
Speaker 1: dancer ring in here? I hate that song We're not

1136
00:56:23,200 --> 00:56:27,440
Speaker 1: dancing in the breakup playlist, Like I actually call it

1137
00:56:27,480 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 1: my bad mood playlist okay, just do city girls, but

1138
00:56:30,760 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 1: get money playlist. Honestly, I mean, I ain't going through

1139
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:35,440
Speaker 1: ship right now, but I'll be putting that shirt on

1140
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:37,720
Speaker 1: when I can annoy it. I'd be like, damn, it's raining.

1141
00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: We put this on, like we all need a good one. Well,

1142
00:56:40,520 --> 00:56:44,960
Speaker 1: I have a song that, um, you guys can play

1143
00:56:45,480 --> 00:56:49,760
Speaker 1: any time that you guys are just like like you know,

1144
00:56:49,760 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 1: oh they do have a good do not do not

1145
00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:54,840
Speaker 1: get a breakup haircut? I love it. Well, I'm just

1146
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:57,000
Speaker 1: gonna play you guys the beat of the beginning of

1147
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:59,880
Speaker 1: this song because um, you really don't need to hear

1148
00:56:59,880 --> 00:57:06,120
Speaker 1: an can help. This is a breakup song and see

1149
00:57:06,120 --> 00:57:08,759
Speaker 1: your list bit because get a lie to you then

1150
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:13,080
Speaker 1: screw you get mad? If it's homeboys, do you that's it,

1151
00:57:13,239 --> 00:57:16,480
Speaker 1: that's it. Damn I'm about to flock the niggas now

1152
00:57:16,840 --> 00:57:19,040
Speaker 1: you know me from Florida Beach. Play Kaya and she'll

1153
00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:23,440
Speaker 1: help you get through. It's not kay, stupid hole. How

1154
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:26,640
Speaker 1: you figure he won't suck your best friend and your sisters.

1155
00:57:26,680 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 1: I mean he will and as we know next week,

1156
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:33,840
Speaker 1: just say it. Okay, okay, okay, So it says, um

1157
00:57:34,080 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 1: resist the urge to obsess over what went wrong, which

1158
00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:39,200
Speaker 1: is very difficult because when something goes wrong, I mean,

1159
00:57:39,240 --> 00:57:41,920
Speaker 1: obviously we always feel like it's a failure. And you know,

1160
00:57:42,120 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 1: but I like the last one, lose yourself in a

1161
00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 1: good book. I was going through breakup and that's how

1162
00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:49,080
Speaker 1: I started watching Fiance. And if you're losing yourself in

1163
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:52,240
Speaker 1: a good book, don't read such a Soldier's Name, because

1164
00:57:52,320 --> 00:57:54,240
Speaker 1: there's just love stories in there where you're gonna be like,

1165
00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:58,280
Speaker 1: you know, I love murders are good. Murders are good. Breakup,

1166
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:01,919
Speaker 1: but murders, Oh yeah, I don't know. I wouldn't suggest murder.

1167
00:58:01,960 --> 00:58:03,919
Speaker 1: You need something worse than what you're going through. Yeah,

1168
00:58:03,960 --> 00:58:05,640
Speaker 1: but now you might want to kill the nigga. Now

1169
00:58:05,640 --> 00:58:08,919
Speaker 1: you on Lifetime, now you're on the first forty eight. True,

1170
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:11,200
Speaker 1: that's a good point. Yeah, don't don't read a good

1171
00:58:11,200 --> 00:58:12,840
Speaker 1: show show was to get into for a breakup. I

1172
00:58:12,880 --> 00:58:15,240
Speaker 1: think we should say are so like I said, I

1173
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 1: was going through a breakup when I started watching ninety Fiance,

1174
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:21,680
Speaker 1: and I remember being like, yo, like this is the

1175
00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:24,200
Speaker 1: best thing for me. Game of Thrones I watched over

1176
00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 1: a breakup, um Master and None it's funny too. I

1177
00:58:27,440 --> 00:58:30,720
Speaker 1: will also just say um, and I think I at

1178
00:58:30,760 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 1: this point Bravo should cut me a check. But Real

1179
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:35,200
Speaker 1: Housewives of Atlanta, you get to see how awful everyone

1180
00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:37,640
Speaker 1: else's relationships are, and then it just won't make you

1181
00:58:37,640 --> 00:58:39,040
Speaker 1: want to be in one because it's just like, oh,

1182
00:58:41,720 --> 00:58:44,920
Speaker 1: dealing with some He was like, they usually for it

1183
00:58:45,040 --> 00:58:46,760
Speaker 1: might not be a sissen, you know what I mean?

1184
00:58:47,280 --> 00:58:49,840
Speaker 1: Or are you watching the new one is seated? This

1185
00:58:49,840 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 1: this uh, this new husband left for three days and

1186
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 1: they ain't even hit her up and said, I was

1187
00:58:55,360 --> 00:58:59,520
Speaker 1: just gone. Nigga was in Tampa and they said, you

1188
00:58:59,520 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 1: don't need an a while. That's what married married. I

1189
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:05,080
Speaker 1: was like, oh no, let me tell you about how

1190
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:07,600
Speaker 1: the new ninety day fiance. They got this white woman

1191
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:12,680
Speaker 1: on their handy. She's a hula hooper who owns a esthetician,

1192
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:14,720
Speaker 1: like like a beauty salon. Like do you know when

1193
00:59:14,760 --> 00:59:18,160
Speaker 1: people look LOOPI She's like, I just live with my

1194
00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:24,280
Speaker 1: cat and so she but you just said that, bitch,

1195
00:59:24,320 --> 00:59:26,560
Speaker 1: I live I live with body. You feel me? She

1196
00:59:27,240 --> 00:59:29,560
Speaker 1: LUPI and this says, I live with my cat. That

1197
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:31,680
Speaker 1: was never the way she'd be talking. But I got

1198
00:59:31,760 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 1: a cat, and she said, this is what loupie saund like,

1199
00:59:33,920 --> 00:59:36,440
Speaker 1: I live with my cat. Okay, well I'll know I'll

1200
00:59:36,480 --> 00:59:38,080
Speaker 1: be showing bodie every now and I think about it.

1201
00:59:38,120 --> 00:59:40,240
Speaker 1: You do like me young niggas, but anyway, she's white.

1202
00:59:40,800 --> 00:59:42,920
Speaker 1: Then she says, I am in love with my twenty

1203
00:59:42,960 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 1: seven year old boyfriend from Believes. But she got the

1204
00:59:45,360 --> 00:59:49,480
Speaker 1: strong accent, like maybe do the accent. No do it.

1205
00:59:49,600 --> 00:59:51,600
Speaker 1: I don't even I've only seen two episodes because it's

1206
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:53,880
Speaker 1: just a new season. Learned accent. I have it. But

1207
00:59:53,920 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 1: what I do know is he was like. She was like,

1208
00:59:57,040 --> 00:59:59,720
Speaker 1: why didn't you answer my phone? I called you fourteen times?

1209
01:00:00,160 --> 01:00:02,920
Speaker 1: He's like, you have that fucking work like ship. And

1210
01:00:02,960 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 1: then she was like, it seems like you don't want

1211
01:00:04,640 --> 01:00:05,680
Speaker 1: to come here. He's like, you think I want to

1212
01:00:05,680 --> 01:00:07,560
Speaker 1: go to that stage with somebody who like this, and

1213
01:00:07,600 --> 01:00:09,560
Speaker 1: he's like doing some crazy times. She's like, so I'm

1214
01:00:09,600 --> 01:00:14,520
Speaker 1: crazy and he's like, well, yes, bitch. Actually she calls

1215
01:00:14,600 --> 01:00:16,400
Speaker 1: and this is actually the bitch might be me. She

1216
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:19,840
Speaker 1: calls the terror Reado over and she's like the Nigain

1217
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:21,600
Speaker 1: answered the phone in like a day and a half.

1218
01:00:21,640 --> 01:00:27,160
Speaker 1: She's like, I need to know if he's cheating, yo.

1219
01:00:28,400 --> 01:00:30,360
Speaker 1: I mean she didn't even have to flip the Card's

1220
01:00:30,440 --> 01:00:34,680
Speaker 1: like he's hiding something. Really, Oh my god, he is.

1221
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:36,800
Speaker 1: You know, she'd be calling his mama asking where she had.

1222
01:00:36,840 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 1: She sends the family money every week real quick. We

1223
01:00:39,040 --> 01:00:42,920
Speaker 1: talked about breakups fellas break up with a bitches. She

1224
01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:48,520
Speaker 1: doing all this, I'm sorry, and can you deserve more?

1225
01:00:49,320 --> 01:00:53,480
Speaker 1: So she pays all their bills and please let me

1226
01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:55,120
Speaker 1: she pay you for dick at this point, I mean,

1227
01:00:55,160 --> 01:00:58,040
Speaker 1: it's an arrangement. They ain't got like they're broke up

1228
01:00:58,040 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 1: there exactly. That's my family, not because why she couldn't

1229
01:01:00,880 --> 01:01:03,080
Speaker 1: get an American Families bro She had to buy somebody

1230
01:01:03,120 --> 01:01:05,960
Speaker 1: that she felt she could paying for the mama's bills bills.

1231
01:01:06,080 --> 01:01:07,560
Speaker 1: So you think you even to put up with that ship,

1232
01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:11,200
Speaker 1: I've alway put up with it. But listen to this team.

1233
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:13,600
Speaker 1: Look at me's saying it like I run the show.

1234
01:01:13,720 --> 01:01:16,000
Speaker 1: So the bitch was like yo, during COVID, he lost

1235
01:01:16,040 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 1: his job at the resort. I met him att so

1236
01:01:18,320 --> 01:01:21,160
Speaker 1: I got him an job at another resort by paying

1237
01:01:21,560 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 1: the resort who wouldn't hire him, Like, just hir him back.

1238
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:27,160
Speaker 1: I'll get you money, gird. It's just so good anyway,

1239
01:01:27,560 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 1: let's get to the home mail mail please baby. Okay,

1240
01:01:33,360 --> 01:01:36,320
Speaker 1: so the whole mail for this week, what does it

1241
01:01:36,400 --> 01:01:38,440
Speaker 1: have to do with I'm getting to it. I'm clicking

1242
01:01:38,440 --> 01:01:40,640
Speaker 1: on it, so I'm just using filler words. Here we go.

1243
01:01:41,960 --> 01:01:44,840
Speaker 1: I still don't have it. Okay, Mandy and Weezy. I

1244
01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:46,800
Speaker 1: just want to say that I love everything about the

1245
01:01:46,800 --> 01:01:49,000
Speaker 1: both of you, especially you easy or so gorgeous, thinking

1246
01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:53,360
Speaker 1: this would be the one you pick. I love your

1247
01:01:53,400 --> 01:01:56,720
Speaker 1: sweats and mandy skills are kind of that is not

1248
01:01:56,880 --> 01:01:59,800
Speaker 1: what they said. She say anything about me. I hope

1249
01:01:59,840 --> 01:02:01,560
Speaker 1: to be the hose that you are one day. Well,

1250
01:02:02,400 --> 01:02:06,000
Speaker 1: I'm a reformed honestly. Wow, I'm writing because I'm going

1251
01:02:06,000 --> 01:02:07,800
Speaker 1: through a bit of a dry spell. I'll recently stopped

1252
01:02:07,800 --> 01:02:09,480
Speaker 1: working with my friends with benefits because he was a

1253
01:02:09,520 --> 01:02:12,360
Speaker 1: toxic person. And after I let go of that toxic dick,

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01:02:12,600 --> 01:02:14,280
Speaker 1: I made a promise that I'd only fund guys I

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Speaker 1: actually like and who respect me. I like that, But

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Speaker 1: that promise I made to myself comes with meeting a

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Speaker 1: lot of guys that don't have the time, patients, or

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Speaker 1: capacity to give that to me. I've tried dating apps

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Speaker 1: and I haven't met a guy who's willing to take

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Speaker 1: me out or potentially suck down the line. I've tried

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Speaker 1: hitting guys up, but you can slow down. We're not

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Speaker 1: in a rush, We're not. No, I'm really hungry. Sorry.

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Speaker 1: I've tried dating apps, and I just haven't met a

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Speaker 1: guy who's willing to take me out or that I

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Speaker 1: could potentially fuck down the line. I've even tried hitting

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Speaker 1: up guys first, but that doesn't work out. I get

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Speaker 1: left on red, et cetera. At this point, I'm so

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Speaker 1: horny all caps that I've been considering fucking dudes that

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Speaker 1: I've been avoiding for months, and I don't want to

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Speaker 1: settle for something that I didn't want before. But I

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Speaker 1: feel like I should respect their persistence and give them

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Speaker 1: a try. Am I settling? How do I get the

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Speaker 1: guys I want? What should I do? Well, ma'am, let

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01:03:04,760 --> 01:03:06,920
Speaker 1: me tell you something. How do you get the guys

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01:03:06,920 --> 01:03:11,160
Speaker 1: you want? Let's go with exhibit A. Mandy a good job,

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01:03:11,520 --> 01:03:18,600
Speaker 1: graduated college, fun, pretty girl. It took four years, thirty

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Speaker 1: years altogether. Because if you thought we had the answer, bitch,

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Speaker 1: I was out here toxic dick for as long as

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Speaker 1: I can remember. I got a nigger right now, who

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Speaker 1: I don't even know. I feel like this is a

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01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:37,480
Speaker 1: very hard question to answer. No, this is she's actually

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01:03:37,640 --> 01:03:40,360
Speaker 1: asking a question in a space where I was. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think the pandemic sped it up, like I wanted

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Speaker 1: to get out of dealing with the toxic men that

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Speaker 1: I was dealing with. But again, as someone who does

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01:03:48,680 --> 01:03:52,160
Speaker 1: just like to have sex, I would much rather deal

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01:03:52,200 --> 01:03:55,080
Speaker 1: with toxic dick that I know it's gonna make me come,

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01:03:55,520 --> 01:03:58,880
Speaker 1: then risk getting new dick that is probably gonna be subpar.

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Speaker 1: So I think if it the main thing what I

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Speaker 1: found interesting, She's like, they won't take me out, they

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Speaker 1: want to do this, they don't want to take me

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Speaker 1: on dates. You mentioned one word, which was respect. I

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01:04:08,680 --> 01:04:10,760
Speaker 1: don't think that you need a man to court you

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Speaker 1: to respect respect you, And I think you're confusing those

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Speaker 1: two things. This is very Steve Harvey of you, and

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01:04:16,240 --> 01:04:18,920
Speaker 1: you should just be Lorie. What you need to do

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01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:22,040
Speaker 1: is just understand that the two are not the same.

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Speaker 1: Someone not wanting to be with you does not mean

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Speaker 1: they don't respect you. I think also somebody who just

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Speaker 1: wants to keep the relationship at a sexual you know,

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Speaker 1: in a sexual capacity, just because they don't date you,

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01:04:37,120 --> 01:04:39,280
Speaker 1: because that's where it can blur the lines. If you

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01:04:39,320 --> 01:04:41,919
Speaker 1: are right now just looking for someone to fuck um

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01:04:42,040 --> 01:04:44,680
Speaker 1: or those were the relationships you had. Just because they

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01:04:44,680 --> 01:04:47,520
Speaker 1: didn't take you on dates or didn't, you know, take

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01:04:47,560 --> 01:04:49,640
Speaker 1: you out to dinner doesn't mean they didn't respect you.

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01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:52,959
Speaker 1: So I think that you're drawing the line to where

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01:04:53,000 --> 01:04:55,160
Speaker 1: it making it seem as though if someone courts you

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01:04:55,200 --> 01:04:57,080
Speaker 1: and takes you out that means they respect you. That

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01:04:57,160 --> 01:04:59,000
Speaker 1: also doesn't mean they respect you just because they take

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Speaker 1: you on dates, though it doesn't. And I think that

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01:05:02,280 --> 01:05:05,760
Speaker 1: we have thought that someone respecting us for the longest

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01:05:05,800 --> 01:05:08,000
Speaker 1: time meant that they would do all of these things

1314
01:05:08,040 --> 01:05:10,640
Speaker 1: for us, when really these lines are a lot smaller,

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01:05:10,760 --> 01:05:14,240
Speaker 1: like through female liberation and sexual liberation, Like you got

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01:05:14,240 --> 01:05:16,760
Speaker 1: to understand that you being able to even say you

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01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:19,560
Speaker 1: want just sex is respect, you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: Like you knowing that you ain't about to play yourself

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01:05:21,600 --> 01:05:22,920
Speaker 1: on some ship like that. So I think if you

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01:05:22,960 --> 01:05:26,400
Speaker 1: could suck these niggas and act like one actually is

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01:05:26,440 --> 01:05:29,680
Speaker 1: that Steve Harvey, But I act like what I mean,

1322
01:05:29,840 --> 01:05:32,240
Speaker 1: like be able to just move where you're not gonna

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01:05:32,280 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 1: feel bad about yoursel and I think the problem is

1324
01:05:34,960 --> 01:05:37,080
Speaker 1: you feel bad about yourself. And we talked about this

1325
01:05:37,120 --> 01:05:42,400
Speaker 1: on Patreon when you want something but you're settling for

1326
01:05:42,480 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 1: something else with partners, which is what I had to realize.

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01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:47,400
Speaker 1: Like I knew I wanted a boyfriend. I shared on

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01:05:47,440 --> 01:05:50,000
Speaker 1: this for you know damn near from the end of

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01:05:50,040 --> 01:05:55,120
Speaker 1: twenty nineteen, well halfcause I got one. But I talked

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01:05:55,120 --> 01:05:58,120
Speaker 1: about wanting a boyfriend, but yet I was still settling

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01:05:58,200 --> 01:06:00,919
Speaker 1: in these toxic relationships with men that I knew weren't

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01:06:00,920 --> 01:06:03,120
Speaker 1: going to give me essentially what I wanted. And it

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01:06:03,160 --> 01:06:05,880
Speaker 1: wasn't that they were disrespecting me. It was just that

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01:06:06,400 --> 01:06:11,160
Speaker 1: I wasn't really putting my foot down and really ask

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01:06:11,480 --> 01:06:13,360
Speaker 1: getting what I wanted out of these partners. If I

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01:06:13,400 --> 01:06:16,160
Speaker 1: wanted a relationship, I probably shouldn't be fucking with niggas

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01:06:16,200 --> 01:06:19,240
Speaker 1: that was only offering me sex. And I also didn't

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01:06:19,240 --> 01:06:21,800
Speaker 1: want to be with them then. But that's the thing too,

1339
01:06:21,920 --> 01:06:23,280
Speaker 1: is like you'd be thinking, like, all right, this ain't

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01:06:23,320 --> 01:06:24,920
Speaker 1: the nigga for me, so let me just get some dick.

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01:06:25,000 --> 01:06:26,360
Speaker 1: But I mean, he ain't gonna be that one like

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01:06:26,600 --> 01:06:29,320
Speaker 1: you could do right, and you got to compartmentalize dixus.

1343
01:06:29,720 --> 01:06:32,080
Speaker 1: You got to know that this is a dick and

1344
01:06:32,120 --> 01:06:36,760
Speaker 1: these might be like potential nice job, fun, smart, very

1345
01:06:36,840 --> 01:06:38,880
Speaker 1: kind and text me good morning some pictures like that

1346
01:06:38,960 --> 01:06:40,440
Speaker 1: something to just don't. I don't know what your vibe is,

1347
01:06:40,480 --> 01:06:43,480
Speaker 1: but yeah, compartmentalizing niggas put them in litt pockets to

1348
01:06:43,520 --> 01:06:45,840
Speaker 1: where you know you can pull them out of anyway.

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01:06:46,360 --> 01:06:52,360
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, this was fun their breakup. I want to

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01:06:52,400 --> 01:06:56,000
Speaker 1: start a website hose that host for heartbreak or whatever,

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01:06:56,080 --> 01:06:58,280
Speaker 1: like heartbroken Hose, and I really feel like it'd be

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01:06:58,280 --> 01:07:02,480
Speaker 1: a fun like you know, like break like a no,

1353
01:07:02,680 --> 01:07:05,200
Speaker 1: like a breakup reddit, but really like you can help

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01:07:05,240 --> 01:07:07,080
Speaker 1: me other like hos in there and funk each other

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01:07:07,120 --> 01:07:11,240
Speaker 1: while you're going through this pain. Okay, haven't gonna keep

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01:07:11,280 --> 01:07:15,040
Speaker 1: that in the beta stage. Um. Anyways, guys, I do

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01:07:15,160 --> 01:07:18,120
Speaker 1: want to thank you guys for listening to horrible decisions.

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Speaker 1: If you guys have called all the way up, oh

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Speaker 1: Join the mailing list. I'll let you know when more

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Speaker 1: things are added. Um also check out periods this after this,

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Speaker 1: Check it out. It goes with the official box Owner brand.

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Speaker 1: Uh We're doing a lot over here again. I'm super excited.

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Speaker 1: This week, you guys are gonna get an announcement from

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Speaker 1: uh Wheezy in something that she's been working on. But

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Speaker 1: also tomorrow. If it's tomorrow, if you're listening to us

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01:07:57,680 --> 01:07:59,560
Speaker 1: on the day we dropped, which is Monday, on Tuesdays,

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01:07:59,760 --> 01:08:02,760
Speaker 1: you listen to us again. I have a podcast called

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01:08:02,800 --> 01:08:05,440
Speaker 1: See the Thing Is with two other co hosts shout Out,

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Speaker 1: Olivia Dope and Bridget Kelly. And we also has another

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Speaker 1: podcast for Fox Facts. I was about to facts. We

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01:08:11,240 --> 01:08:15,320
Speaker 1: call them mother Factors, but we got Booners mother Factors.

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Speaker 1: And of course I do want to give a huge

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01:08:16,680 --> 01:08:21,799
Speaker 1: shout out to our hore hive. By a braid, Calm down, yo,

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01:08:22,040 --> 01:08:24,439
Speaker 1: one minute was that I gotta see my face? It

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01:08:24,479 --> 01:08:28,760
Speaker 1: was a roach. Oh the disrespect You just think of

1381
01:08:28,840 --> 01:08:31,320
Speaker 1: roach gonna fall into your chest at the studio. Oh

1382
01:08:31,400 --> 01:08:34,519
Speaker 1: that's disrespectful. You think there's roaches in here? Bitches A

1383
01:08:34,600 --> 01:08:37,920
Speaker 1: brave anyway, Shout out to the war Hive. Shout out

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01:08:37,960 --> 01:08:39,519
Speaker 1: to the war Hive. M p v A studios that

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01:08:39,600 --> 01:08:44,480
Speaker 1: don't got roaches. Uh, shout out to god bit you say, anyway,

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Speaker 1: shout out to the war Hive. If you guys are

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01:08:46,200 --> 01:08:48,519
Speaker 1: all caught up and really were like, damn, this is

1388
01:08:48,560 --> 01:08:50,760
Speaker 1: the podcast about sex. I didn't know they could have

1389
01:08:50,800 --> 01:08:53,479
Speaker 1: two hundred episodes. Guess what, we have another hundred over

1390
01:08:53,520 --> 01:08:58,760
Speaker 1: on Patreon. So going over to Patreon, doctor three hundred times. Ship,

1391
01:08:59,120 --> 01:09:00,920
Speaker 1: we've really been home and for a long time. You

1392
01:09:00,960 --> 01:09:03,280
Speaker 1: say my episode five were gonna be like, all right, man,

1393
01:09:03,320 --> 01:09:07,840
Speaker 1: We're just we're just gonna suck a dick for the finality. Anyways,

1394
01:09:07,880 --> 01:09:12,240
Speaker 1: going over to patreon dot com back slash Horrible Decisions, UM,

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Speaker 1: and join us for a little his five dollars a month.

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Speaker 1: You get three bonus episodes every month, plus bonus content

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Speaker 1: Wheezy wines, I do Mandy Memoirs sometimes and we just

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry it's actually called that it wanted on that bitch,

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01:09:27,520 --> 01:09:30,000
Speaker 1: but check it out again. And I want to thank

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Speaker 1: all the hor Hive longstanding members UM and everyone who's new,

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01:09:35,360 --> 01:09:38,479
Speaker 1: even the whites. Thank you guys. For tuning in. Um.

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Speaker 1: This has been yet another episode of horrible decisions by

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Speaker 1: so secret signs that your neighbor might be a swinger.

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01:09:47,280 --> 01:09:51,880
Speaker 1: This comes from the New York Post um So, while

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01:09:51,920 --> 01:09:54,760
Speaker 1: the Suns Online cannot verify any of these claims, here

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01:09:54,800 --> 01:09:57,360
Speaker 1: are some of the tail tale signs that you could

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01:09:57,360 --> 01:10:01,360
Speaker 1: be living next door to a swinger. According to Cooper

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Speaker 1: Beckett posts of the Life on the Swing Set podcast,

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Speaker 1: many swingers actually wear black rings. So you may know

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01:10:10,080 --> 01:10:12,720
Speaker 1: that your neighbor is a swinger if they're wearing a

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Speaker 1: black ring. Um. You here's what he said. He said,

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01:10:17,040 --> 01:10:19,800
Speaker 1: where your black ring on your right hand? If you

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01:10:19,800 --> 01:10:23,160
Speaker 1: are out and open to meet other swingers, if someone

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01:10:23,240 --> 01:10:25,519
Speaker 1: wearing a black ring on their right hand approaches you,

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01:10:25,840 --> 01:10:28,360
Speaker 1: start a conversation with them. I see you're wearing a

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01:10:28,400 --> 01:10:30,840
Speaker 1: black ring on your right hand. Maybe we are in

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01:10:30,840 --> 01:10:34,559
Speaker 1: the same club. Um, that's what No, don't be telling.

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Speaker 1: They also cite white landscaping, rocks and pink or purple

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Speaker 1: decorations in the front garden as a signal of swinger activity. Um. Bizarrely,

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01:10:45,840 --> 01:10:50,640
Speaker 1: the website identifies pineapples as another swinger signal, in the

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Speaker 1: form of a door knocker. And I don't know if

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01:10:53,160 --> 01:10:56,880
Speaker 1: y'all can see it, but a pineapple door knocker also

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01:10:57,000 --> 01:11:01,519
Speaker 1: signifies that your neighbor may be a swinger. Um, let

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01:11:01,520 --> 01:11:06,120
Speaker 1: me see if there's any more signs. There's also another

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01:11:06,560 --> 01:11:10,479
Speaker 1: a sign, um, oh, here we go. Uh. There's also

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Speaker 1: a suggestion that pink flamingos on the lawn is also

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Speaker 1: a tailtale sign. Ready, why you got flamingos? And YoY

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01:11:22,840 --> 01:11:25,240
Speaker 1: already gotta be white people. Ship, I'm from Florida. They

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01:11:25,240 --> 01:11:30,320
Speaker 1: put flamingos in their yard. Nigger. Someone said it's all

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Speaker 1: Florida's swingers, all of Florida's all right, Um, all right,

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Speaker 1: let me say something about that. First of all, listen,

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Speaker 1: it's a large intendency of swingers down there. Um, there's

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Speaker 1: a big resort called top Secret Resources to just open.

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Speaker 1: I mean, like, well, wow, if you want to come

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01:11:47,439 --> 01:11:49,360
Speaker 1: on here and be our goddamn third host, you need

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01:11:49,360 --> 01:11:52,040
Speaker 1: to send an application. But I don't know you think

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01:11:52,080 --> 01:11:53,839
Speaker 1: you are coming in and telling us about the resort

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01:11:53,840 --> 01:11:59,000
Speaker 1: and stad go ahead. And MARII also, I think maybe

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01:11:59,040 --> 01:12:02,120
Speaker 1: the only one with the ability to just un mute

1440
01:12:02,120 --> 01:12:05,040
Speaker 1: his mic whenever he's still where's the top secret thing?

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01:12:07,960 --> 01:12:11,200
Speaker 1: Where it's a top secret resort in Florida. Um, a

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01:12:11,200 --> 01:12:19,840
Speaker 1: friend of mine, I think that maybe Orlando, Florida. I

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01:12:19,880 --> 01:12:21,840
Speaker 1: gotta check, but I know it's in I know it's

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01:12:21,840 --> 01:12:25,240
Speaker 1: in Florida. It's not Miami because it's a little bit

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01:12:25,280 --> 01:12:28,240
Speaker 1: northern than Miami, but a lot of those places and

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01:12:28,400 --> 01:12:31,880
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of cities between Orlando in Miami. Well,

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01:12:31,920 --> 01:12:36,479
Speaker 1: he's not lying. It is where in Orlando adult only

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01:12:36,640 --> 01:12:43,680
Speaker 1: luxuries are on Johnny on Parkway Haney, Okay, way, my friend, Um,

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Speaker 1: I know somebody who was doing some of the marketing

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01:12:46,200 --> 01:12:48,120
Speaker 1: for that company because they just launched and we're just

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Speaker 1: trying to bring some people out there. Is it? Have

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01:12:50,960 --> 01:12:53,479
Speaker 1: you and have you had any friends that have gone there?

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01:12:53,960 --> 01:12:58,200
Speaker 1: They got a podcast, y'all. It's new. What is new

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01:12:58,320 --> 01:13:01,120
Speaker 1: right now? It's new right now, Like they're just now

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01:13:01,160 --> 01:13:03,360
Speaker 1: doing a brand and for that So, Um, the only

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01:13:03,360 --> 01:13:05,680
Speaker 1: person that I know down near that's doing that is

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01:13:05,720 --> 01:13:07,400
Speaker 1: the is the girl that's doing the market in my

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Speaker 1: own girl break. I'll ask about that. But as far

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Speaker 1: as Wish was saying about the pineapples, all right, I

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01:13:13,560 --> 01:13:15,559
Speaker 1: don't know nothing about the flamingos or nothing like that,

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01:13:15,600 --> 01:13:23,720
Speaker 1: but yes, the pineapples is definitely a thing in our community. Yes, pineapple, Yes,

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01:13:23,800 --> 01:13:25,519
Speaker 1: that's our symbol all right. Now, as far as the

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Speaker 1: Black Ring, that's a company called Partners. I d those

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01:13:28,600 --> 01:13:33,080
Speaker 1: nigs was just trying to market their ship. Yeah, yeah,

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01:13:33,200 --> 01:13:36,680
Speaker 1: that company. Because we might need to have you on

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01:13:36,680 --> 01:13:40,400
Speaker 1: the episode since you know so much what I do,

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01:13:40,640 --> 01:13:41,880
Speaker 1: and now this is what I do, what I have

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01:13:41,880 --> 01:13:45,400
Speaker 1: on what do you do? Now? I have lifestyle events,

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01:13:45,439 --> 01:13:47,080
Speaker 1: as a matter of fact, I do. We have a

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Speaker 1: little podcast we're doing on our own. You know. I

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01:13:49,400 --> 01:13:53,880
Speaker 1: have lifestyle podcast, lifestyle events in n y C. In Jersey.

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Speaker 1: Oh wait, you're up here, so we can have you

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01:13:56,360 --> 01:13:59,760
Speaker 1: like on a real episode. Yeah, definitely would love that.

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Speaker 1: So next Friday, put your out. Yeah, we're gonna we're

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01:14:02,520 --> 01:14:04,599
Speaker 1: gonna maybe talk about next Friday. We're not gonna ask

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01:14:04,600 --> 01:14:06,000
Speaker 1: you to pull your dick out, I promise. I don't

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01:14:06,040 --> 01:14:09,120
Speaker 1: know what he's talking about. Definitely would like to talk

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01:14:09,120 --> 01:14:12,760
Speaker 1: about how you slang that dick um tammy you over

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01:14:12,840 --> 01:14:15,240
Speaker 1: there yelling at us, So go ahead and I mute yourself. Girl,

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01:14:15,320 --> 01:14:17,800
Speaker 1: tell us what you know about to swing your lifestyle. Baby,

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01:14:18,000 --> 01:14:20,120
Speaker 1: I ain't know nothing about swinglat style. I just realized

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01:14:20,160 --> 01:14:21,800
Speaker 1: that my mama used to put him in the yard

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01:14:21,840 --> 01:14:26,320
Speaker 1: when I was growing up in Chicago. So you mean no,

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01:14:26,360 --> 01:14:28,160
Speaker 1: I'm just asking, so you need to try to say

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01:14:28,160 --> 01:14:30,679
Speaker 1: admit that by playing my day, we're sliding that dick somebody.

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Speaker 1: Oh mrs much team, I just want to know if

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Speaker 1: you single, cause I will move to New York. Alright,

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01:14:37,200 --> 01:14:40,200
Speaker 1: I'm just right oho, alright. We gotta mute Tammy, y'all

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01:14:40,200 --> 01:14:42,719
Speaker 1: because sometimes she get it a little out of about

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01:14:42,720 --> 01:14:44,519
Speaker 1: to look up on right like their voice. Oh my,

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01:14:44,600 --> 01:14:46,680
Speaker 1: and he had a beard, yall. Hell lord, but my,

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01:14:46,800 --> 01:14:49,000
Speaker 1: how tall you is? Since you can mute yourself, tell

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Speaker 1: us real quick. Ruin the Fantasy