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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you

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Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, and more.

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Speaker 1: Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com

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Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your

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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now already. How you look

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Speaker 1: at here a booklet of how loud tie. I'll be

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Speaker 1: all right, thank you, nephew. Subject my frumpy friend. My

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Speaker 1: frumpy friend needs a makeover. That was close, all right?

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Speaker 1: Just Steven Shirley, I'm twenty nine year old woman and

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Speaker 1: I need your advice on how to help a friend.

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Speaker 1: She's been in quarantine alone. So all I've been hearing

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Speaker 1: is how lonely she is. Well, here's why. She looks

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Speaker 1: a hot mess all of the time, and being inside

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Speaker 1: for three months has made it worse. I know everybody

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Speaker 1: has been looking crazy since we are stuck inside, but

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Speaker 1: since she's put on a few pounds and she looks

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Speaker 1: like she hasn't combed her hair since March. She has

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Speaker 1: an old sin that is tattered and she hasn't even

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Speaker 1: bothered to take it out. I told her that shopping

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Speaker 1: online was a great way for me to feel normal

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Speaker 1: while I was in the house. But she said the

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Speaker 1: current styles don't interest her. Her style is different, and

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Speaker 1: she wears her crocs with almost everything. It's like she's

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Speaker 1: turned into one of those women that wear oversized T

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Speaker 1: shirts and no bra, short shorts, socks and crocs. Shirley,

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Speaker 1: Let's be clear, Shirley me, Shirley, let's be clear, she

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Speaker 1: should never leave the house without a bra. Well, she

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Speaker 1: not talking to me on that section. Why cause I

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Speaker 1: leave a house all the time without a bra? What

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Speaker 1: she called me out? Okay, Shirley, let's be clear she

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Speaker 1: should never leave the house without a bra if if

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Speaker 1: it's not a good look. All she's been talking about

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Speaker 1: lately is wanting a man and she's not being able

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Speaker 1: to meet a good one. She's got a lot of

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Speaker 1: friends that are male and they have told her to shower, shave,

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Speaker 1: and comb her hair too. Believe me, she's not depressed,

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Speaker 1: and she's always down for social gatherings. Now that we're

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Speaker 1: able to go out and do more, but we don't

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Speaker 1: enjoy being around her because she looks so unkept and raggedy.

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Speaker 1: She's getting worse and worse, and some of my friends

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Speaker 1: are ready to cut her off completely. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if it is a phase or what. Should I be

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Speaker 1: honest and tell her about herself? I say, absolutely, yes,

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Speaker 1: you should be honest and tell her about herself. Of course,

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Speaker 1: don't do it in a hostile way. But you have

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Speaker 1: some tough love, I say, you know, kind of you know,

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Speaker 1: the love part. You are her friend, right, Well, that's

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Speaker 1: what a friend would do. I mean, a friend would

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Speaker 1: Don't let friends neglect their hygiene and come out with

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Speaker 1: They don't do that. She's in dire need I think

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Speaker 1: right now of an intervention based on what you've said

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Speaker 1: in a letter. And also, let me say this, even

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Speaker 1: if she is hanging out with you guys, that doesn't

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Speaker 1: mean that she's not depressed, okay, or has some sort

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Speaker 1: you know, that could be bothering her, and it's showing

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Speaker 1: she's not combing her hair, she's not showering. That's not

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Speaker 1: a sign that you know, everything is okay. She's not

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Speaker 1: taking care of herself, she's not shaving. She wants a man.

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Speaker 1: No man is going to put up with that. Your

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm no doctor or a psychologist or anything,

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Speaker 1: but I think it's more to this story. I definitely

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Speaker 1: think some depression or something has taken over. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she needs little help. She needs some friends right now,

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Speaker 1: and hopefully she'll be willing to hear what you guys

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Speaker 1: have to say. She hasn't been so far, but you

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Speaker 1: get through to her some kind of way. Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: I don't know how to start this letter. How much

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Speaker 1: time do I have, dave about? How How long I

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Speaker 1: got about two minutes? What I got to say can't

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Speaker 1: All I'm gonna do is prepare y'all for what I'm

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Speaker 1: about to say. Okay, all right, surely I love your response.

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Speaker 1: You try to really help people. Some people can't be helped,

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Speaker 1: and she therefore, once I determined from my level of schooling,

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Speaker 1: to help us. Oh, this person is about to give

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Speaker 1: us five minutes of complete levity because I have no

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Speaker 1: advice for this woman except these damn jokes. God has

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Speaker 1: given me a gift that has taken me around the world.

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Speaker 1: Why would I not use that gift on this letter.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to think fully of how to dismantle this

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Speaker 1: letter in a comedic fashion that will have y'all talking

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Speaker 1: That is what you do. I am asking God to

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Speaker 1: allow the gift that he has given me to shine

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Speaker 1: damn but won A man her friends says she look

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Speaker 1: a hot mess all the time, all the time, and

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Speaker 1: quarantine has not been kind to her. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: hold it right there. We'll have part two, or actually

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Speaker 1: the body of your response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. The subject of today's letter is

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Speaker 1: my frumpy friend needs a makeover. We'll get into it

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve. Come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. My frumpy friend that needs

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Speaker 1: a makeover is the subject. This woman is twenty nine

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Speaker 1: and she needs some advice because on how to help

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Speaker 1: a friend. The woman been in quarantine alone, all by herself,

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Speaker 1: so she ain't had nobody to say, you know how

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Speaker 1: you doing today? You know you look pretty? That she

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Speaker 1: ain't had that. She's been in quarantine by herself. So

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Speaker 1: and here's why she needs help. The ladies say she

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Speaker 1: for three moss has made it worse. Let's stop right here.

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Speaker 1: You have a friend that's a hot mess all the

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Speaker 1: damn time. You mean before the quarantine, I think during

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Speaker 1: since No, No, listen to me. Listen to what she says. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I need your advice. Had she's been in quarantine alans,

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Speaker 1: so I've been hearing all about how how alone she is.

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Speaker 1: Here's why she looks a hot mess all the time,

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Speaker 1: and being inside for three months has made it worse. Ye,

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Speaker 1: So before quarantine, she was already toe up from the

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Speaker 1: flow up. Naw, she in quarantine, she'd have lost her

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Speaker 1: damn mind. I know. Then the lady said, I know

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Speaker 1: have put on a few pounds. Now, what is a

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna tell you that right now, she'dn't put

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Speaker 1: on some weight. And if you already a hot mess,

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Speaker 1: more stuff to turn into a mess. Yeah, so we

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Speaker 1: got that problem right there. She didn't put on some pounds.

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Speaker 1: A lot of people didn't put on pounds during the quarantine.

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Speaker 1: But you can't put the pounds on and look a

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Speaker 1: hot mess. Now you got to still beautify the mess. Okay, now,

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Speaker 1: since we stuck inside. But she has an all soul

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Speaker 1: end that is tattered and she ain't even bother to

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Speaker 1: growth has been pushing the headline back. So in the

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Speaker 1: just sweating. It out. She can't slick it back no more,

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Speaker 1: ain't nonna licking it, ain't gonna laying it down valley,

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Speaker 1: and don't help freezed up in the front. Then all

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Speaker 1: of No damn, this was she got. She ain't combed

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Speaker 1: that because I ain't either, So let's just gonna pass

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Speaker 1: great way for me to feel normals when I'm in

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Speaker 1: the house. But she said that the Karen styles don't

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Speaker 1: When the last time shell it call it, you ain't

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Speaker 1: been interested in the new styles. I can't recall. Why

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Speaker 1: a hot mess. You're just wasting money. Ain't nobody even

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Speaker 1: damn hell. If you got that throw in the front

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Speaker 1: know you got on the latest dose shape? Don't nobody

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Speaker 1: give a damn. Okay, I guess I'm wig shaming. Now.

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Speaker 1: I can't say nothing by the week. Damn problem, Now

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Speaker 1: I got to say I can't say nothing by the hell. Well,

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Speaker 1: let's keep moving in. So then her style is different

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Speaker 1: than she wears crocs with almost everything. What did she say?

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Speaker 1: She wears oversized T shirts, no brawl, short socks and

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Speaker 1: crocs everywhere. Oh so she just outside looking like a

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Speaker 1: white man cutting the grass. She got on the old

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Speaker 1: some short socks and some crocs. You're just an old

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Speaker 1: white man cutting grass. All right, lady, I got one minute,

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Speaker 1: so here I go. So here's what you're gonna have

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Speaker 1: you ain't making it. Humh These are just little subtle

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Speaker 1: you ain't making it. Huh yeah, you know you ain't

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Speaker 1: I see. Quarantine ain't for everybody so far, that's my favorite.

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Speaker 1: I love it. You know, how about this one right here? Baby?

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Speaker 1: What's going on? Is you hoarding exactly because you know

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Speaker 1: horders all them look crazy. You're gonna good right? Here

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Speaker 1: is your water cut off? That, yeah, she ain't showing here,

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Speaker 1: going another. You don't smell nothing, all right, and the

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Speaker 1: latter they say she's not depressed. This your next statement,

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