WEBVTT - How “Broken D**ks” Healed Her Trauma With Her Father - Seriously! 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:16.639 Hey, guys, welcome back to I Do Part two. It 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:19.680 is your celebrity mentor Cheryl Burke, and today I have 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:23.200 a wild story to unpack with my guests. Somehow, I 0:00:23.239 --> 0:00:25.680 don't know how, but she went from acting to working 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:30.440 with men who have a rectile dysfunction two writing a memoir, 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:34.920 A lot to unpack, to say the least, her memoir 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:37.200 You Don't Know Dick, is out June thirtieth. 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:39.600 Please welcome Christina Den to the pod. 0:00:40.200 --> 0:00:44.200 Okay, so we obviously have a lot to talk about. 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:46.960 I mean talk about like a hook, right when it 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:49.400 comes to your book, it's a hook in itself. 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:52.760 So you were an actress first. 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:57.600 Right, and now you have written a book and you've 0:00:57.600 --> 0:01:00.840 gotten into screenwriting as well. But you basically started working 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:03.040 with men who had a rectile dysfunction. 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:05.880 How did that happen? And how did you just fall 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:06.759 into place? There? 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:11.040 Not naturally not a natural segue, right, It's like, how 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:14.080 would you go from this to this? So, as many 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:16.760 people probably know actors, you know, we have to have 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:19.440 a lot of day jobs, right to get by between gigs. 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:22.800 And my friends were opening a wellness center in la 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:25.280 and asked me if I would help them be the 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:27.840 office manager, and I said absolutely, and we were doing 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:31.399 ivy nutrition, cryotherapy, you know, all the things that La 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:34.119 wellness centers offer. But the problem is is that there's 0:01:34.160 --> 0:01:36.920 so many of them here. They're so competitive. It's like 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:40.039 there's one in every strip mall, and so they're like, 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:42.520 how are we going to make money and survive? So 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:44.840 the owner, the mail owner of this couple, here's this 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:47.840 Joe Rogan podcast talking about this service for reptil a 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:51.760 dysfunction and it's non invasive and so you know, you 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:54.160 don't necessarily have to be a licensed medical professional to 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:58.160 do it, and it was his solution to saving the clinic. 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:00.640 And so he approached me as I'm like holding towels 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:02.320 for the cryod therapy machine day, and I was like, 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:05.200 I'm sorry, Like my comedian brain was like did you 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:07.960 just say that? Like we're going to be dick fixers? 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:09.880 Like I don't know how to process this right, Like 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:12.400 it was so at the time so hilarious to me 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:17.880 to either the idea that this existed. And so next 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:20.120 thing I know, it's like I'm on a plane to Tucson, 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:23.160 Arizona to get certified. And the only reason I said yes, 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:26.040 is because fascination. I needed more money. They were going 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:28.200 to pay me more, and you know, I was like 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:30.520 I can handle something like this. I'm mature enough, right, 0:02:31.240 --> 0:02:33.080 And so you know, little did I know there's an 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:36.480 entire industry out there that is, you know, doctors are 0:02:36.520 --> 0:02:40.240 paying their mortgages for solutions for retail dysfunction. And so 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:44.800 this was innovative, groundbreaking way to go without having to 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:47.240 do pills and injections and all these other things guys 0:02:47.240 --> 0:02:48.280 have been doing for years. 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:52.600 Right, what did that entail? Like this sort of certification 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:56.040 of Yes, it was like this day. 0:02:55.960 --> 0:03:00.440 Long seminar Intoucson where we're staring at cross actions of 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:03.560 male anatomy blown up on this projector. And of course 0:03:03.639 --> 0:03:05.800 I'm like giggling and I'm looking around. I'm like, oh, 0:03:05.840 --> 0:03:08.040 they take it very seriously. I'm the only like immature 0:03:08.080 --> 0:03:11.920 person here that's not a medical professional, right, And I 0:03:12.120 --> 0:03:14.440 you know, I studied theology in college, so it wasn't 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:17.160 completely foreign to me, but it was still just like 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:19.840 this is wild. And then we had to practice on 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:23.960 two different volunteers. So we had to use this device 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:26.040 that looks like a gun. It's like a space ship, 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:29.639 like a futuristic looking gun and put it onto the 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:32.480 men's you know part, and it was like all around, 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:36.560 all around, underneath, everywhere. So this wasn't just you know, 0:03:36.720 --> 0:03:39.840 the member, it was it was so foreign to me, 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:42.120 Like I just kept feeling like I was watching myself 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:46.480 have this out of body experience. And so after that 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:50.360 we were technically certified and came back to LA and 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:52.320 two weeks later I had my first client. 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:53.960 Oh my goodness. 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:56.280 Okay, so what do you think, I guess is the 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:58.600 most shocking thing that you can think of that women 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:01.480 would find surprising about men and their penises? 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:05.080 You know, I think listen, I was. I was one 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:07.240 of these women that went into this again thinking this 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.200 was a joke. It was like, of course, old dudes 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:11.440 just want to like keep their penises hard forever, like 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:14.120 this is I was in the school of thought of 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:16.640 like ewgross, like of course they're pervs, right, like this 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:20.880 is where meat for sure. The fact that I was 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:22.839 then like a few months in after I kind of 0:04:22.880 --> 0:04:26.039 got over the silliness of it, I started fosnessing something 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:28.440 that I didn't even know men were capable of, which 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:32.960 was deep, deep levels of shame. Oh, like so much 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:35.159 shame when it comes to this part of their body 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:38.120 not working. And that could be because it's how they 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:41.400 define their manhood, right, it's this of what makes them 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:44.680 a man. And if they're not able to perform, well 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:45.560 then what are they? 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:46.000 Right? 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:50.479 And so, my gosh, this was this most insane kind 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:54.039 of almost like spiritual classroom into the male vulnerability like 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:57.240 crisis of I have all these feelings, I have nowhere 0:04:57.279 --> 0:05:00.599 for them to go because society doesn't let me express 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:04.840 them safe, safely and welcomely. Right, I was so my 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:08.039 brain was so scrambled and transformed after that. So I think, 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:11.880 like women, I can't imagine I'm much different than most 0:05:11.920 --> 0:05:13.880 women where when you have I had a front row 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:17.120 seat to male shame and I didn't have that possible, 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:20.279 I think. So there's so much in my book that 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:23.039 I'm trying to sort of cover about this, to to 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:27.839 sort of open the conversation, to to shed light on 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:32.880 this very normal yet super you know, taboo topic that 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:33.920 of sexual dysfunction. 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:39.960 Right, yeah, so yeah, for real, for real, Well, why 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:43.200 do you think men in general connect their manhood to 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.520 their penises, because we don't do that with our vaginas. 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:49.679 No, we don't we definitely don't. I think, oh my gosh, 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:52.320 I feel like it's like so much of it is. 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:57.279 It could be a combination of physiological drive, societal expectations. 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:58.839 They think women have on them. 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:01.239 They think, yeah, that they're cold. 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.840 This is what makes you a man, right, right, Like 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:08.679 the better more money, right, Like it's like they define 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.680 they have these like checkboxes of what make them a man, 0:06:11.839 --> 0:06:14.280 and this is such a huge part of that. And 0:06:14.320 --> 0:06:17.279 when it's broken, it's like it it doesn't matter how 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:20.279 much money you have, right, I saw listen, I saw 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:23.200 men from the ages of eighteen to eighty. I saw 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:29.440 eighteen motorcycle accident. Right, there's all these things we don't realize, like, oh, 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:30.840 it can break, Like I. 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:32.400 Didn't know, Oh it can break. 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:35.160 I didn't know it could break. It can break for 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:39.159 physical injury, sex accidents. There's so many things that cause 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:42.400 like scar tissue build up and then it goes crooked. 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:46.040 Like there's so many different things that deform and make 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:47.360 the thing not function properly. 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:49.359 Yeah, it's a muscle, right, Like, I guess it's the 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:50.359 same thing, and they call it. 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:53.920 I guess they call it an organ, but it feels 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:57.440 down more like it. Yeah, there's muscles that are around 0:06:57.520 --> 0:07:00.359 the area that help. But it's yeah, so I was 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:02.919 just the insight. I was like, man, they I have 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:04.440 this line in the book where I'm like, man, do 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:06.719 men go to more extreme links to save their dicks 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:08.560 than we do to save our faces? Like you know 0:07:08.560 --> 0:07:11.440 what I mean? Because I'm like, maybe, like maybe it's. 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:13.040 There skincare for their. 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:19.160 Yeah, there's like so there's botox. Now there's like all 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:22.320 kinds of testicles like I've heard. We didn't do that, 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:25.080 but I heard all these things. We actually also offered 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:30.400 pea shots, which is PRP and we know what Vieyes, right, 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:34.000 So spinning your blood, getting the platelets, all the beautiful 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:37.120 plasma that helps heal, and you stick it in. 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:39.200 There, it means your penis age backwards. 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:42.240 It's like let's reverse. Yeah, let's keep it, keep it 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:46.960 nice and does it work caculation? It does. Now, granted 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:49.520 I'm not again, I'm not a medical professional. If you 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.960 are somebody who has you know, diabetes, high cholesterol, things 0:07:52.960 --> 0:07:55.920 that are already compromising calculation, it's going to be a 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:59.200 more difficult road. But yes, it was. It wasn't like 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:02.400 a permanent thing, but it was something that you. It's 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:04.440 like a preventative thing. It can help, like. 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.520 For us, like for PRP when we do PUP. 0:08:06.680 --> 0:08:08.040 That's why you do it. You want to do it 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:10.320 the not the younger younger, but like you know, you 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.640 want to do it as a preventative thing, not. 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:14.600 Just not going to work. 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:17.800 Delay the night, right, yeah, not take it away, but 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:18.800 delay the indevitable. 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:31.040 So when these men walk into the room and they 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:34.840 see you're beautiful, you know obviously. And I remember my 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:37.400 stepdad saying this to me recently. I think he got 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:38.920 he had to. 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:41.439 Get checked right, it was like a physical or whatever, 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:42.079 and he was like. 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:44.960 This woman was just so beautiful, this nurse and like 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:47.680 she had to like feel my balls basically, and like 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:51.240 how do they do at first? Do they become defensive 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:53.199 or are they just right away vulnerable? 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:56.040 All of it? Honestly, I saw it all. I definitely 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:59.400 there were men that blatantly looked at me and said, no, 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:03.040 you're not treating me, like before their pants are off, 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:03.920 obviously they were. 0:09:03.800 --> 0:09:04.960 Like I get it, I get it. 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:07.520 And but owners are like, look like this is La. 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:11.240 She's our old like she's our technician. And so after 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:13.320 they kind of got over themselves you know, I definitely 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:14.960 got the peacock and you're like, oh, what is your 0:09:14.960 --> 0:09:15.600 boyfriend think of? 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:15.720 There? 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:17.840 Was your husband like just trying. 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:19.240 To Are they trying to hit on you when you're 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:19.840 trying to do this? 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:23.120 On this I honestly had only one guy out of 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:25.720 I think almost four hundred guys. I treated one guy 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:28.240 be weird with me and like kind of pervert, No, 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:30.160 tell me what a good job I was doing. And 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.480 I was like he was not welcome back. But honestly, 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:35.560 they're they're in such a vulnerable position, right, and they're 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:38.640 coming in like, Hi, my manhoods that compromise and it 0:09:38.679 --> 0:09:41.160 can you help me? They don't have it in them 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:44.280 to like then also hit on Like there's no way 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:46.680 that was happening, right, Thank God for me. 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:50.320 But yeah, so why do you do you think that 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:53.640 like a lot of these men, you know, there's this whole, 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:55.920 like you said earlier, with the size of their penis 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:56.560 and all of that. 0:09:56.600 --> 0:09:59.640 Why is that? So? Why does that define a man 0:10:00.280 --> 0:10:02.760 and a man's hood? I guess so much. 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:05.800 Because like I honestly don't think every woman cares about 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:07.280 the size, Like I really don't know. 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:09.600 No, And you know, it's something that's interesting that I've 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:11.600 been like, you know, I resource this a while back. 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:14.360 But like women, we all have different sizes too. Inside 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:17.599 you you are different shapes, different sizes, different. 0:10:17.320 --> 0:10:19.760 As Absolutely you can only fit in so much, if 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:20.360 you know what I mean. 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:23.600 Yeah, there's not like a universal vagina that men are 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:25.960 all trying to like live up too, you know. So 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:29.840 there's not a universal dick side color anything, right, And 0:10:29.920 --> 0:10:32.760 I I did not have a clue how much variety 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:34.679 there was until of course I was witnessing it. But 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:37.400 it was just yeah, it makes me really sad that 0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:41.360 there's still that same thing out there in society that's 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:43.280 like all bigger, but you know, and it's like, man, 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:45.840 can we just like drop that already? Like it's actually 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:46.760 I wanted other women. 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:48.760 I don't think the bigger the better, no doubt that. 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:52.280 No, I think sometimes too big is not great at all. 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:55.240 Well, now you want this to be an enjoyable experience. 0:10:55.720 --> 0:11:00.360 Racing for impact the whole time? Yes, yeah, like not 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:03.760 doing like a prayer, like God, it's not meant for me, 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:06.480 like this is not We're not made for each other. Sorry, 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:07.240 this is not gonna work. 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:10.920 Yeah, no, God, Yeah, that's just so what do you 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:12.960 like when you win. They pulled their pants down and 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:16.080 they show you their penis, like is it there? 0:11:16.240 --> 0:11:18.319 You see right away there's a sense of shame. 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:22.200 So so here let me show you. Like, okay, so 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:25.080 picture a treatment table right, like a doctor's office with 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:27.080 the medical like the gross paper. 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:29.199 Yes, yes, of course it's horrible. 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:32.240 And I let them undress obviously without me in the room. Right, 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:34.920 I was like, get ready, put this little medical drape over. 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:37.960 You have some like dignity for yourself. So they're staring 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:39.760 up at the sky at these horrible you know, the 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:42.000 fluorescent lighting of a medical office. I try to lower 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:45.360 the lights. I try to make it all spot lighting horrible. Yeah, 0:11:45.400 --> 0:11:47.480 I try to like make it. I put like Serenes 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:50.160 Bob music on and like had like diffusers, it's nice. 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:52.640 I was trying to make them feel safe and comfortable 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:55.040 because I knew this is horrible. And so then it's like, 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:56.760 you know, the big reveal of Okay, now I have 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:58.280 to pull down the drape. And so if they're just 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:02.560 like literally like steering up the sky like like most 0:12:02.559 --> 0:12:08.719 of them were just immediately like embarrassed, quiet, internal, uh defensive, 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:11.360 you know, because now it's like and also I'm seeing 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:17.360 it placid. I'm not seeing what the potential is right right, 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:19.920 you know, And and so there, and of course there 0:12:19.920 --> 0:12:21.840 were guys some of them did get hard right away, 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:26.160 which was that I was like, that happened, and I 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:28.199 was like, hey, we did it, you know. 0:12:28.200 --> 0:12:31.440 No, You're like, hey, go get go sort yourself out. Coming. 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:35.480 Yeah, you get a refund. Yeah. But they were numb also, 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:37.760 like you know how like I get like I've had 0:12:37.800 --> 0:12:40.280 like yes on my face for injections, right, so you 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:43.120 mean like actually numb. They we would put numbing cream 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:45.000 on they, like, we would have them apply it an 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:47.640 hour before the treatment. Nowadays they might be a little different, 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:50.600 but that would help desensitize the impact of this machine 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:57.840 because it was very aggressive. Yeah, sounds like a jackhammer, okay, 0:12:58.080 --> 0:12:58.920 doing construction. 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:02.880 Like how many sessions do they go through? I'm sure 0:13:02.920 --> 0:13:03.520 it's personal. 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.680 That's like the protocol calls for six over six weeks, 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:08.440 So either they would do three weeks and then we'd 0:13:08.520 --> 0:13:10.200 like give them two months off to kind of have 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:12.800 everything start working in the body, and then three more 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:14.080 sessions later they'd come back. 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:17.760 So it was does it work? Yeah, every time? 0:13:18.120 --> 0:13:22.000 Most of the guys, I saw saw improvement. Absolutely. Now, 0:13:22.080 --> 0:13:24.160 it's not making it bigger. Let's be clear about that, 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:26.560 because a lot of how I'm gonna come and there 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:28.479 were guys coming to me like I don't have interactile 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:30.439 dysfunction problem, but I just want to see if it 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:33.679 can get bigger. Oh come on, Well it's like think 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:35.800 about like when you do a bicep, curl your muscle 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:38.560 like e gorges with more blood. That's all that's happening 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:41.080 with something. Right. It's not gonna make it bigger, but 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:43.800 it will make it feel and look fuller. So there 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:45.760 was that bit of confidence. 0:13:45.280 --> 0:13:46.359 That was interesting. 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:48.840 Yeah okay or blood flow right. 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:52.320 So yeah, so basically this is the equivalent of us 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:53.400 going to get botox. 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:56.240 It's a lot in the same way. Yeah, like we're 0:13:56.240 --> 0:13:58.800 trying to do laser we're trying to like anything plump 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:00.920 and you make this they want. 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:02.880 Like we go like what every few months? Like same 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:04.439 things for them, right, Yeah. 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:06.400 So what they would say back then, I was when 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:08.480 I was trained, it was like eighteen It would last 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:11.000 like eighteen months before they'd have to feel like, oh 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:12.400 maybe I need to do it again. But I would 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:16.360 send them with homework us homework penis pump. 0:14:16.559 --> 0:14:17.600 Oh does that work? 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.920 Yes? So we like what part of protocol was is 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:22.840 that they had to use this during their treatment for me. 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:24.680 With me for six weeks they used it twice a 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:25.920 day for ten minutes each. 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:26.920 It's a day. 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:29.840 And now I'm like all of my friends everyone in 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:31.400 my life. I'm like, if you're over forty, you need 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:33.000 a penis pump and you should be using it twice 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:34.960 a week. It's like cardio for your dick. That's how 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:36.640 you have to think of it, because yeah, I guess, 0:14:36.680 --> 0:14:39.760 so that's flow and kind of clearing the debris, right, 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:41.920 because the blood vessels and the penis are so much 0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:44.680 smaller than anywhere else, and they're farther away from the heart, 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:48.560 so they claw with clack first, and it's like a 0:14:48.600 --> 0:14:52.080 warning sign for guys. If that starts happening. Usually with 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:54.800 three to five years, you're looking at heart problems. So 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:57.840 it's like I would say, like it's your check engine light, right, It's. 0:14:57.680 --> 0:15:01.320 Like, yeah, you get gotta get it circulation. 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:03.240 Through penis boot Camp. I called this penis boot camp 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:05.240 because I used to be a personal trainer. I don't know. 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:07.280 I was like, look, we're going to clean up our lifestyle. 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:09.160 We're gonna start eating healthy, we're gonna start working now, 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:10.880 we're going to use this pump like and we're gonna 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:12.760 get our penis back. You know. 0:15:12.760 --> 0:15:26.680 Oh my, it was fascinating. Let's transition a little bit. 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:29.400 What did you learn about yourself working there? 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:33.000 Okay, So the biggest transformation that happened for me was 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:36.560 finding safety with men like I had. I was given 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:39.120 this blueprint for men by my father that was he 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:42.720 was an alcoholic, he was verbally abusive, he was absent, right, 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:45.560 So I got this in. You know, men were to 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:47.360 me that that's what they were. They weren't around, they 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:50.440 weren't to be trusted, and I would go seeking those relationships, 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:53.400 right and anytime I found a safe man, I was like, hmm, 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:56.080 you're boring. I don't trust any of this, right, so 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:59.640 totally run away to the next thing. And and so 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:03.640 what and is I didn't realize that men again were 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:06.200 capable of this level of emotion, capable of the shame, 0:16:06.240 --> 0:16:10.160 and it helped me disarm myself towards them and see 0:16:10.160 --> 0:16:12.600 them as human and say, wait a second, they're just 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:15.400 like us. They just can't show it. Why is no 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:18.720 one talking about this and so being able to be 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:21.760 let into their personal stories of grief. Maybe they had 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:24.280 lost their wife two years ago, how to get back 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:26.760 out there. They feel guilty, like they're cheating on her. Still, 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:29.720 maybe their wife thinks they're cheating on them because their 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:32.080 penis doesn't work right. Like, there's so many stories I 0:16:32.160 --> 0:16:34.640 kept collecting. Oh yeah, and I started seeing this pattern, 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:37.360 and I was like, whoa. They are dealing with so 0:16:37.600 --> 0:16:39.640 much and they're just looking for permission to be able 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:41.400 to talk about it. And I'm like, well, I have 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:43.000 your broken dick in my hand. I think this is 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:45.280 a good space, right. Like it was like I was 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:48.840 their therapist and it was helping me learn and trust 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:52.720 them right And ultimately, most importantly, my father died right 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.360 before I started the job, so I got certain he 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:57.800 passed away, and then I came back and had my 0:16:57.800 --> 0:16:59.640 first client, and you know, he had cancer. We knew 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.280 it was, but losing somebody that you have such a 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:05.000 complicated relationship can kind of mess with you, right because 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:08.200 you feel the sense of almost relief, and I didn't 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:09.280 know when to deal with that. I was like, oh 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:11.119 my gosh, Okay, he can never hurt me again. I 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:13.239 can never say anything again. But now it's never going 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:15.439 to get better. So what does it mean? And so 0:17:16.040 --> 0:17:19.240 this job actually almost like saved me from just spouse 0:17:19.480 --> 0:17:21.720 about that because I had such I had. I was 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:25.280 like focusing on helping other people, helping men, and they 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:27.359 were teaching me so much about my dad that I 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:30.639 did not understand. Wow, it was like I was seeing 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:34.080 him in their behavior, and I was like, oh, maybe 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:35.919 he had all this pain that he didn't know how 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:38.560 to deal with. Maybe he was trying to hide in 0:17:38.600 --> 0:17:42.280 his ways of and it just it absolutely transformed, and 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:43.879 I was able to make peace with him after he 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:45.080 died and forgive him. 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:46.200 Oh that's beautiful. 0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:48.439 Maybe I need to do this job because I have 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:52.400 almost an identical story like yours, you know, like, yeah, 0:17:52.400 --> 0:17:54.880 I hear you, I feel you, and. 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:55.680 That's really beautiful. 0:17:55.960 --> 0:18:00.240 That is probably yeah, because I can relate to put 0:18:00.240 --> 0:18:00.680 it that way. 0:18:00.960 --> 0:18:02.000 Are you married or single? 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:03.320 I am? Now? I am? 0:18:03.359 --> 0:18:04.159 Now you're married? 0:18:05.280 --> 0:18:05.520 Yeah? 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:06.920 Congratulations recently? 0:18:07.480 --> 0:18:07.680 Yes? 0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:09.040 Was it one of your clients? 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:09.520 Just kidding? 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:10.000 Yeah? 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:10.280 Right? 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:14.000 No, god right, no, couldn't be farther from that, but no, 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:17.480 it's but man, listen, it transformed my relationships with men 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:19.280 like I got out of a relationship I was in 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:21.760 at the time, in the job, and it was, yeah, 0:18:22.000 --> 0:18:24.160 like it, I could never I can't. Well now from 0:18:24.200 --> 0:18:25.960 now on, I can't really look at men the same. 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:28.480 I see. I have such a soft spot in my 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:31.920