WEBVTT - 2025: A Year of Growth and Big Changes

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, guys, Welcome to season four of my podcast, Cheekis

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<v Speaker 1>In Chill. Thanks to you, guys, those that listen and

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<v Speaker 1>come back every week twice a week to listen to

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<v Speaker 1>my podcast, I am so grateful.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've been here since season one, if you came

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<v Speaker 1>on a little later, if this is your first time

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<v Speaker 1>listening to my podcast, welcome. We receive you with lots

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<v Speaker 1>of love and open arms. I'm excited to have you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm excited to have all of you. If it wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>for you guys listening in, I would not have a

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<v Speaker 1>podcast and I would not be on season four.

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<v Speaker 2>So we got to celebrate that. I have missed you, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that you missed me, and I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>start this season talking about what I have in store

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<v Speaker 1>for twenty twenty five and just be completely, one hundred

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<v Speaker 1>percent honest with you guys, the way I always am.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what Cheeky's and Chill is all about, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't intend to change that even if it is new year.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm gonna let you guys know what's on my mind,

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<v Speaker 1>in my heart, and what I'm looking forward to.

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<v Speaker 2>So here we go. It's the first episode.

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<v Speaker 1>For those of you that don't know, you know, there's

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<v Speaker 1>Cheeky's and then there's Jane. Janay is my birth name.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I've shared it plenty of times here on

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast, but if I haven't, you know, Jenney means

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<v Speaker 1>precious gift from God. And I feel like I've been

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<v Speaker 1>in a way not neglecting Jeney because I always do

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<v Speaker 1>my best to like stay centered and stay true to myself.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm both Jenay and Cheeky's. I mean, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>change that.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've been called cheeky since I was very young,

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<v Speaker 1>since I was little, and for a long time, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I thought my name was. Until I started going

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<v Speaker 1>to school and I was like, oh my god, my

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<v Speaker 1>name is Jenney and not really Jena. It was actually Jane.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's a whole other story and we'll get into that.

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<v Speaker 1>I've talked about it here on the podcast. But anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>my point is that for the past I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to say for sure ten years, I have

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<v Speaker 1>been very, very focused heavily on Cheeky's and growing my

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<v Speaker 1>career as a singer and solidifying myself as a recording artist.

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<v Speaker 1>And I feel like I've done a pretty good job,

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<v Speaker 1>thank God, and thank God for the people that listen

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<v Speaker 1>to my music.

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<v Speaker 2>And stream it.

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<v Speaker 1>It may not be crazy ass streams like other artists,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm so grateful because the people that follow me

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<v Speaker 1>on the music platforms are the ones that are definitely

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<v Speaker 1>listening in So that means a lot to me, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very grateful. But I feel like in a way,

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't catered as much as i'd like to Jinee

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<v Speaker 1>to like who I am at the core of myself.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounds weird at the core of myself, but yes,

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<v Speaker 1>at my core and anyways, So I just feel like

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<v Speaker 1>this year it's more about Jinae and to be completely

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<v Speaker 1>honest with you guys, I don't necessarily know what that

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<v Speaker 1>looks like fully, And on my New Year's post I

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<v Speaker 1>put that I was very honest. I you know, there's

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<v Speaker 1>no other way I know how to be. But I said, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm starting the new year on the right foot, But

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty five, I'm not necessarily ready for you, but

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<v Speaker 1>I will be. And that's how I feel. This year

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<v Speaker 1>already started off with so many things emotionally heavy. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like the energy has been dense everywhere I speak

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<v Speaker 1>to people and they're all feeling the same way. So

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<v Speaker 1>I am kind of like at a crossroads. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily know exactly what my year looks like. I have plans,

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<v Speaker 1>plans as far as becoming a mother, and I hope

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<v Speaker 1>that comes to fruition, and I'm just praying about that.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's kind of like the only thing that I'm like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I really want to focus on this this year, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think maybe until that happens, I'll have more clarity

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<v Speaker 1>as far as my career goes.

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<v Speaker 2>But here on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna continue to do what we have been doing,

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<v Speaker 1>and it is a podcast about health and beauty and

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<v Speaker 1>spirituality and feeling your best and becoming the best version

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<v Speaker 1>of yourself. So as I'm doing that myself, tapping into

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<v Speaker 1>this new soft Girl era, should I say, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to share that with you guys, And on the podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to have professionals and experts on certain topics,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe becoming a mother or nutrition, you know, mental health.

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<v Speaker 1>There are so many things like I have questions about

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<v Speaker 1>and I really really want to tap in to that

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<v Speaker 1>space on the podcast this year or this season. Should

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<v Speaker 1>I say, I'm going to continue to share my personal

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<v Speaker 1>life with you guys as I have been doing. Something

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<v Speaker 1>always happens in my life, and I'm gonna continue to

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<v Speaker 1>be honest and open with you guys, because one thing

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<v Speaker 1>I do have clear and has not changed is the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that I am meant to change the world one

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<v Speaker 1>heart at a time, and my podcast is definitely an

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<v Speaker 1>essential part of that. So again, thank you guys for

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<v Speaker 1>listening in and being here and being open to listening

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<v Speaker 1>to my thoughts, to my experiences, to my aspirations to

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<v Speaker 1>this new era that I don't even know what it

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<v Speaker 1>looks like, Guys, I really don't. And I had mentorship

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<v Speaker 1>the other day and I told my mentor that and

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<v Speaker 1>he said it is okay to say I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, yeah, you're right, because I've always

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<v Speaker 1>been the type of woman that's like, I have a plan.

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<v Speaker 1>I know what my year is going to look like.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I'm going to go on tour. I know

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm gonna, you know, bring out two albums. And

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<v Speaker 1>I always have a plan and I love schedules and

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<v Speaker 1>I love to do lists, and right now, for the

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<v Speaker 1>first time I think in a long time, if not

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<v Speaker 1>in my life. I am just taking it day by

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<v Speaker 1>day and if I feel like resting, I'm gonna rest.

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<v Speaker 1>And if I feel like getting shit done, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do that. Like I don't know, something is definitely shifting.

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<v Speaker 1>And I said this on one of my episodes with Roddy,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's like a spiritual, like amazing woman. If you

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<v Speaker 1>guys did not listen to that episode in season three,

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<v Speaker 1>please go listen to it. But I felt a shift.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt it. I felt it coming. I felt it

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<v Speaker 1>like the end of last year. And I'm like, something

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<v Speaker 1>is changing. I don't know what it looks like. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just embracing that right now and I'm okay with that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm going to share it with you guys as

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<v Speaker 1>I go. And that's just the truth. We're gonna figure

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<v Speaker 1>this out together. What I keep hearing during my time

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<v Speaker 1>of like meditation is going back to basics, going back

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<v Speaker 1>to that why I started everything that I do, the music,

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<v Speaker 1>the book, like everything that I that I that I do,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't want to forget the why.

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<v Speaker 2>I just I don't know. Like I feel like.

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<v Speaker 1>Spirituality, like a different version of myself is getting ready

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<v Speaker 1>to like be born and it's kind of crazy because

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<v Speaker 1>I want to give life to another human being, so

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like in order to do that, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to make sure that I am prepared in every way

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<v Speaker 1>and that I am my best self. So I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I'm feeling. And of course I still want

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<v Speaker 1>to do music. Absolutely, there's still events that we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to be doing, but I'm not going to go as

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<v Speaker 1>hard or as heavy, and I'm not I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to feel pressured in any way now more than ever.

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<v Speaker 1>If I want to say no to something, I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to say no and be okay with it, like that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>And the first thing I did this year in regards

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<v Speaker 1>to that is saying no to some like Grammy events.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I did go to the Grammys. Guys, we were

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<v Speaker 1>nominated for an American Grammy. You know, I'm so excited.

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<v Speaker 1>We didn't, but I was happy to be there. But

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<v Speaker 1>before that, there were events that were very good for

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<v Speaker 1>me to be at, you know, networking and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>being in that space, especially because it's like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the American side of things, and of course making

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<v Speaker 1>connections is important. But I wanted to spend time with

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<v Speaker 1>my nieces and nephews and my husband and I did that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I maybe my management wasn't too happy about it,

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<v Speaker 1>but they respected it. But before I'd be like, well, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to be there. Okay, fine, I'll do it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to do that this year. I

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<v Speaker 1>really want to put like my family first, my husband,

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<v Speaker 1>like I want, I want to spend more.

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<v Speaker 2>Time with my friends. I just I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I even get really like emotional thinking about it because

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<v Speaker 1>I've been working so damn hard for the past, for

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<v Speaker 1>my whole life in reality, but especially since my mom

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<v Speaker 1>passed away twelve years ago and for sure for the

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<v Speaker 1>last ten years that I'm like, I just want to

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<v Speaker 1>go back to me, to my soul, to what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>meant to do here and make a difference and do

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<v Speaker 1>more philanthropy work. And I really, really I'm craving that

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<v Speaker 1>and taking a step back from music, not stepping away

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<v Speaker 1>because some people were kind of like from one of

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<v Speaker 1>the last episodes in season three, I kind of talked

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<v Speaker 1>about it, you know, the New Year's one, and people

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<v Speaker 1>were like, oh my god, Jesus is going to retire

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<v Speaker 1>from music, and I'm like, no, that's not what I said.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm taking just a step back, which means I'm able

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<v Speaker 1>to look in I want to fall in love again

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<v Speaker 1>with the process of making art, and I also feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I want to write different type of music and

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<v Speaker 1>I want the sound to be different without thinking of

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<v Speaker 1>awards and recognition. Although all that feels amazing, don't get

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<v Speaker 1>me wrong, But now I'm like, I want to sing

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<v Speaker 1>about something different. I'm in a happy place, thank God,

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<v Speaker 1>and I hope it stays that way for the rest

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<v Speaker 1>of my life. But I want to talk about love

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<v Speaker 1>and about how can I inspire people and all the

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<v Speaker 1>things that I talk about on the podcast and all

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<v Speaker 1>that I am like on social media, like how can

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<v Speaker 1>I bring that into my music? So in order to

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<v Speaker 1>do that, I need to step back, take a little break.

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<v Speaker 1>There's nothing wrong with taking breaks. I feel like breaks

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<v Speaker 1>are definitely necessary because when you're in like sometimes it

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<v Speaker 1>kind of fogs your vision. And I feel like it

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<v Speaker 1>did for a little bit because especially last year, we

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<v Speaker 1>went hard and I told myself I wanted to go

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<v Speaker 1>hard in twenty twenty four, careful what you asked for,

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<v Speaker 1>because I was like, oh my gosh, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>very successful and I don't regret anything, but I was mentally, physically, emotionally,

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<v Speaker 1>spiritually exhausted, and I'm like, if I don't take a

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<v Speaker 1>little break, I'm going to burn out and I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to resent my career and I don't want to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still going to be present. I still want to

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<v Speaker 1>be on social media and share my life and share

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<v Speaker 1>things with you guys. But I don't know if I

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<v Speaker 1>want to necessarily tour as hard as I did the

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<v Speaker 1>past ten years, you know. So that's just that, and

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<v Speaker 1>again we're going to figure it out together, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm taking it literally day by day, month by month,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. Right now, I feel like I'm on a

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<v Speaker 1>soul break, on a soul break to kind of become

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<v Speaker 1>my best soul child. I was talking to my mentor,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and we talked about what this year because

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<v Speaker 1>last year was fulfillment. I always have like a word

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<v Speaker 1>for every year. So last year was fulfillment. This year

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<v Speaker 1>it's rejoice, Rejoice, reset, recalibrate. It's kind of like that

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<v Speaker 1>kind of vibe, and with that comes Yes, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to take a break from alcohol. I've been wanting to

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<v Speaker 1>do this for a very very very long time, and

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<v Speaker 1>I take long breaks. I do forty days. I did

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<v Speaker 1>ninety days last year, and I know that as I'm

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<v Speaker 1>tapping into this healthier version of myself, not only mentally

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<v Speaker 1>and spiritually and emotionally, but physically, and I want to

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<v Speaker 1>prepare my body to have a child. I know what

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<v Speaker 1>alcohol does. Since I know this, this.

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<v Speaker 2>Is how I know.

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<v Speaker 1>That there has to be a change, because I know

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<v Speaker 1>how toxic, how poisonous alcohol is for our bodies. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to start doing things that are going to increase

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<v Speaker 1>my life, not decrease my life, because guys, whether I

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<v Speaker 1>want to admit it or not, and I'm better with

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<v Speaker 1>this now. I'm going to be forty this year, and

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<v Speaker 1>I want to live long and I'm going to have

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully a child, you know, so I'm having a child

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<v Speaker 1>later in my life, which there is a study they

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<v Speaker 1>just sent me this. Guys, anyone that has a child

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<v Speaker 1>after forty just saying has a I don't know what percentage,

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<v Speaker 1>but a larger percentage of like living till one hundred.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't necessarily know if I want to live to

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<v Speaker 2>one hundred, but I'm just.

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<v Speaker 1>Saying, you know, it made me feel a little bit better,

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<v Speaker 1>But I definitely want to have stopped thinking about out

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<v Speaker 1>what makes me happy right now in the moment, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, you know, that instant gratification like alcohol, because

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<v Speaker 1>alcohol gives you that dopamine and that serotonin and it's like, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>My god, I feel really good right now.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like, yeah, you know, I want to stop

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<v Speaker 1>doing that because that's a disservice to myself, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and start thinking about, Okay, I know that this will

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<v Speaker 1>make me happy now, but how is it going to

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<v Speaker 1>affect me tomorrow and in my future. That's really really

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<v Speaker 1>loving yourself. And I'm a person that I'm like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>all about self care and self love, but that's a

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<v Speaker 1>huge part of my life that has had a bit

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<v Speaker 1>of a hold on me.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>I enjoyed that gay, I enjoy social drinking and all

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<v Speaker 1>that stuff, but it's not good for me. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>my personal opinion. That's my personal choice, and I really

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<v Speaker 1>really want to get a hold of that.

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<v Speaker 2>This year.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm already starting by drinking less the month of February.

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<v Speaker 1>I gave up red meat, I gave up coffee, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, making it easy on you know, the alcohol,

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<v Speaker 1>like really practicing my willpower. But I need to like

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<v Speaker 1>I want to cut it off completely. It's again a

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<v Speaker 1>lot easier said than done. I love saying that, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's true. But that is one of my goals this year.

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<v Speaker 2>Guys.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, like, for instance, the gym. Sometimes there's days

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't want to go.

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<v Speaker 1>It's tough, like my trainer kicks my ass. But then

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<v Speaker 1>I start thinking, now, how am I going to feel

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<v Speaker 1>after because there's so I wake up really early to meditate,

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<v Speaker 1>to like pray the whole thing, to prep my day

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<v Speaker 1>before I go work out. So sometimes I'm like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my gosh, I'm so tired. I want to text him

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<v Speaker 1>and tell him, you know what, I don't feel good today.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I'm like, I say a little prayer. I'm like, God,

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<v Speaker 1>give me the strength to get out of this bed,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I'm like, you know what, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>feel so good afterwards. I want to do more of that,

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<v Speaker 1>because yes, a lot of things that are good for

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<v Speaker 1>us guys don't necessarily feel great in the moment, but

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<v Speaker 1>afterwards you feel freaking accomplished. And I love that feeling

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<v Speaker 1>of accomplishment, and I want to get addicted to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Feeling that after feeling not the right now, feeling okay,

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<v Speaker 1>right now, I feel good right now, I'm gonna do this.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna drink and I'm gonna feel good right now,

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<v Speaker 1>But then I feel like shit the next day because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. Honestly, my body's not taking alcohol the way

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<v Speaker 1>it used to, like it gives me a headache, like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, okay, I think my body's even like

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<v Speaker 1>rejecting it. So I really need to tap into that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I need you guys to help me. So we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna probably speak to an expert about alcohol so that

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<v Speaker 1>we can all learn together the effects of alcohol, because

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<v Speaker 1>it's poison, guys, it really is. And also if we're

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<v Speaker 1>not careful, it can make us do really bad things

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<v Speaker 1>and make bad choices. We'll talk about that in an episode,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's just me personally.

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<v Speaker 2>That's my choice.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not telling everyone to do that, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's important for us to be informed, and that's what

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do. I want to have those hard

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<v Speaker 1>conversations and face those hard conversations that perhaps in the

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<v Speaker 1>past I've been you know, putting on the back burner

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<v Speaker 1>or ignoring because I don't necessarily want to know because

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of know. But if I know more than

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully you know, I'll be able to just really cut

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<v Speaker 1>back or cut everything.

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<v Speaker 2>For twenty twenty five.

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<v Speaker 1>At the end of twenty twenty five, i'd like to

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<v Speaker 1>say I will be a mommy. I have shared a

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<v Speaker 1>lot here on the podcast how I've gone back and forth,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, with the thought of becoming a mom. For

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<v Speaker 1>a long time. I didn't want to be a mother.

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<v Speaker 1>When I met at Media my husband, one of our

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<v Speaker 1>very first conversations was, Hey, I don't ever want to

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<v Speaker 1>get married again. I don't want to have kids. Are

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<v Speaker 1>you cool with that? He was like, hell, yeah, that's great.

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<v Speaker 2>Neither do I. And here we are.

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<v Speaker 1>We're married and planning a baby, and I feel good

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<v Speaker 1>about it. I haven't told a lot of people this,

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<v Speaker 1>so they're going to find out, you know, with this episode.

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<v Speaker 1>But I am excited. And the more and more I

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<v Speaker 1>think about it, the more excited I get. And I

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<v Speaker 1>know that I'm going to be a great mother, God willing,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think this everything happened the way it was

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to happen. I can honestly say I'm excited to

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<v Speaker 1>turn forty and to be able to look back on

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<v Speaker 1>my life and say, Wow, I've accomplished so much. I've

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<v Speaker 1>done so much, I've traveled, I've lived, you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>now I'm ready to live my life for a little person.

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<v Speaker 1>And this will be like the biggest project, accomplishment, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>you want to call it, of my life. And I've

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<v Speaker 1>never felt more ready. And of course I'm scared, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm stepping into the unknown, but I also kind

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<v Speaker 1>of know because I've raised my siblings. But at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of twenty twenty five, I hope that I can

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<v Speaker 1>tell you, guys, oh my gosh, not only am I pregnant,

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<v Speaker 1>but I have a baby. Because if we start soon, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>then by the end of the year, I'll have a

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<v Speaker 1>little baby. So that is the biggest thing I want

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<v Speaker 1>to accomplish this year, to be honest, that's the only

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<v Speaker 1>thing I can really think about right now. And the

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<v Speaker 1>crazy thing is that I've been working on a children's

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<v Speaker 1>book and if you guys haven't seen on my social media,

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<v Speaker 1>I put it and you know, it's all kind of

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<v Speaker 1>coming together and I did not plan it this way.

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<v Speaker 1>It's called The Girl who Sings to Bees, So it's

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<v Speaker 1>all kind of just coming together. So I'm just I'm

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<v Speaker 1>happy and I am hopeful and optimistic for twenty twenty five.

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<v Speaker 1>It did not start in the best of ways. I

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<v Speaker 1>had a very heavy heart all of January a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of February. But now, you know what, I'm feeling

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<v Speaker 1>better and I and I think it's all how we

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<v Speaker 1>choose to see things and look at things and do

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<v Speaker 1>our part in the world. And that's what I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to do. I'm going to do my part what I

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<v Speaker 1>can do, and that'll be my way of making this

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<v Speaker 1>world's a better place, you know. So twenty twenty five,

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<v Speaker 1>now I'm ready. In the beginning of the year, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't say I was, but still the beginning of the year.

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<v Speaker 1>But still I'm ready. I'm more ready than I was

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<v Speaker 1>for sure January first. And I hope you guys are too,

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<v Speaker 1>and I hope that you guys are excited for this

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<v Speaker 1>new season of Cheeky's and Chill. I think we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to learn a lot together and we're going to have

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<v Speaker 1>some tough conversations, but with tough conversations comes growth and maturity,

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<v Speaker 1>and more than anything helps us and preps us for

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<v Speaker 1>becoming our best selves and anything that is worthwhile. Guys

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<v Speaker 1>will be uncomfortable, but when we're uncomfortable, that's when we grow.

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<v Speaker 1>So I am ready to grow and I hope you

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<v Speaker 1>guys are too.

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<v Speaker 2>So that is it. That is all I have to

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