1
00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:07,840
Speaker 1: Hi, guys, Welcome to season four of my podcast, Cheekis

2
00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:12,040
Speaker 1: In Chill. Thanks to you, guys, those that listen and

3
00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:14,560
Speaker 1: come back every week twice a week to listen to

4
00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:17,000
Speaker 1: my podcast, I am so grateful.

5
00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:19,560
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for listening.

6
00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:23,040
Speaker 1: If you've been here since season one, if you came

7
00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:25,400
Speaker 1: on a little later, if this is your first time

8
00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:29,319
Speaker 1: listening to my podcast, welcome. We receive you with lots

9
00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,320
Speaker 1: of love and open arms. I'm excited to have you.

10
00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:35,120
Speaker 1: I'm excited to have all of you. If it wasn't

11
00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:37,159
Speaker 1: for you guys listening in, I would not have a

12
00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:38,880
Speaker 1: podcast and I would not be on season four.

13
00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:41,760
Speaker 2: So we got to celebrate that. I have missed you, guys.

14
00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:44,479
Speaker 1: I hope that you missed me, and I wanted to

15
00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:48,440
Speaker 1: start this season talking about what I have in store

16
00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:51,160
Speaker 1: for twenty twenty five and just be completely, one hundred

17
00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:53,480
Speaker 1: percent honest with you guys, the way I always am.

18
00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:57,600
Speaker 1: That's what Cheeky's and Chill is all about, and I

19
00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:00,480
Speaker 1: don't intend to change that even if it is new year.

20
00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:03,920
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna let you guys know what's on my mind,

21
00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:07,040
Speaker 1: in my heart, and what I'm looking forward to.

22
00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:10,520
Speaker 2: So here we go. It's the first episode.

23
00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:14,520
Speaker 1: For those of you that don't know, you know, there's

24
00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:18,479
Speaker 1: Cheeky's and then there's Jane. Janay is my birth name.

25
00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:20,920
Speaker 1: I think I've shared it plenty of times here on

26
00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:23,360
Speaker 1: the podcast, but if I haven't, you know, Jenney means

27
00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:28,280
Speaker 1: precious gift from God. And I feel like I've been

28
00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:33,000
Speaker 1: in a way not neglecting Jeney because I always do

29
00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:36,760
Speaker 1: my best to like stay centered and stay true to myself.

30
00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:38,920
Speaker 2: And I'm both Jenay and Cheeky's. I mean, I can't

31
00:01:38,959 --> 00:01:39,319
Speaker 2: change that.

32
00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:43,920
Speaker 1: But I've been called cheeky since I was very young,

33
00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:46,360
Speaker 1: since I was little, and for a long time, that's

34
00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:48,120
Speaker 1: what I thought my name was. Until I started going

35
00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:49,440
Speaker 1: to school and I was like, oh my god, my

36
00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,400
Speaker 1: name is Jenney and not really Jena. It was actually Jane.

37
00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:55,280
Speaker 1: But that's a whole other story and we'll get into that.

38
00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:58,080
Speaker 1: I've talked about it here on the podcast. But anyways,

39
00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:01,640
Speaker 1: my point is that for the past I don't know,

40
00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:05,720
Speaker 1: I want to say for sure ten years, I have

41
00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:10,760
Speaker 1: been very, very focused heavily on Cheeky's and growing my

42
00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:16,920
Speaker 1: career as a singer and solidifying myself as a recording artist.

43
00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,919
Speaker 1: And I feel like I've done a pretty good job,

44
00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:23,120
Speaker 1: thank God, and thank God for the people that listen

45
00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:24,040
Speaker 1: to my music.

46
00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:25,360
Speaker 2: And stream it.

47
00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:30,160
Speaker 1: It may not be crazy ass streams like other artists,

48
00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:32,880
Speaker 1: but I'm so grateful because the people that follow me

49
00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:36,600
Speaker 1: on the music platforms are the ones that are definitely

50
00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:40,000
Speaker 1: listening in So that means a lot to me, and

51
00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,960
Speaker 1: I'm very grateful. But I feel like in a way,

52
00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:46,840
Speaker 1: I haven't catered as much as i'd like to Jinee

53
00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:50,480
Speaker 1: to like who I am at the core of myself.

54
00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,000
Speaker 1: That sounds weird at the core of myself, but yes,

55
00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:55,840
Speaker 1: at my core and anyways, So I just feel like

56
00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:59,639
Speaker 1: this year it's more about Jinae and to be completely

57
00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:02,720
Speaker 1: honest with you guys, I don't necessarily know what that

58
00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:06,600
Speaker 1: looks like fully, And on my New Year's post I

59
00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:10,600
Speaker 1: put that I was very honest. I you know, there's

60
00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,320
Speaker 1: no other way I know how to be. But I said, hey,

61
00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:15,680
Speaker 1: I'm starting the new year on the right foot, But

62
00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:18,640
Speaker 1: twenty twenty five, I'm not necessarily ready for you, but

63
00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:22,000
Speaker 1: I will be. And that's how I feel. This year

64
00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:27,480
Speaker 1: already started off with so many things emotionally heavy. I

65
00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:31,000
Speaker 1: feel like the energy has been dense everywhere I speak

66
00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:32,920
Speaker 1: to people and they're all feeling the same way. So

67
00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:35,720
Speaker 1: I am kind of like at a crossroads. I don't

68
00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:40,480
Speaker 1: necessarily know exactly what my year looks like. I have plans,

69
00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,119
Speaker 1: plans as far as becoming a mother, and I hope

70
00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:47,200
Speaker 1: that comes to fruition, and I'm just praying about that.

71
00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:49,920
Speaker 1: So that's kind of like the only thing that I'm like, Okay,

72
00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,840
Speaker 1: I really want to focus on this this year, and

73
00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:57,360
Speaker 1: I think maybe until that happens, I'll have more clarity

74
00:03:57,640 --> 00:03:58,880
Speaker 1: as far as my career goes.

75
00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:01,200
Speaker 2: But here on the podcast.

76
00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:03,600
Speaker 1: We're gonna continue to do what we have been doing,

77
00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:09,040
Speaker 1: and it is a podcast about health and beauty and

78
00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:13,400
Speaker 1: spirituality and feeling your best and becoming the best version

79
00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:18,559
Speaker 1: of yourself. So as I'm doing that myself, tapping into

80
00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:22,400
Speaker 1: this new soft Girl era, should I say, I want

81
00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:25,240
Speaker 1: to share that with you guys, And on the podcast,

82
00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:31,000
Speaker 1: I want to have professionals and experts on certain topics,

83
00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:36,200
Speaker 1: maybe becoming a mother or nutrition, you know, mental health.

84
00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:39,799
Speaker 1: There are so many things like I have questions about

85
00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:42,400
Speaker 1: and I really really want to tap in to that

86
00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:45,760
Speaker 1: space on the podcast this year or this season. Should

87
00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:48,560
Speaker 1: I say, I'm going to continue to share my personal

88
00:04:48,600 --> 00:04:52,040
Speaker 1: life with you guys as I have been doing. Something

89
00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:57,320
Speaker 1: always happens in my life, and I'm gonna continue to

90
00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:00,720
Speaker 1: be honest and open with you guys, because one thing

91
00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:03,960
Speaker 1: I do have clear and has not changed is the

92
00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:07,599
Speaker 1: fact that I am meant to change the world one

93
00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:11,359
Speaker 1: heart at a time, and my podcast is definitely an

94
00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:14,039
Speaker 1: essential part of that. So again, thank you guys for

95
00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:17,240
Speaker 1: listening in and being here and being open to listening

96
00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:24,200
Speaker 1: to my thoughts, to my experiences, to my aspirations to

97
00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:27,200
Speaker 1: this new era that I don't even know what it

98
00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:29,880
Speaker 1: looks like, Guys, I really don't. And I had mentorship

99
00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:32,320
Speaker 1: the other day and I told my mentor that and

100
00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:36,720
Speaker 1: he said it is okay to say I don't know.

101
00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:40,080
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, you're right, because I've always

102
00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:42,599
Speaker 1: been the type of woman that's like, I have a plan.

103
00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:44,760
Speaker 1: I know what my year is going to look like.

104
00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:46,359
Speaker 1: I know I'm going to go on tour. I know

105
00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:49,120
Speaker 1: that I'm gonna, you know, bring out two albums. And

106
00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:51,320
Speaker 1: I always have a plan and I love schedules and

107
00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:54,200
Speaker 1: I love to do lists, and right now, for the

108
00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:56,120
Speaker 1: first time I think in a long time, if not

109
00:05:56,200 --> 00:05:58,800
Speaker 1: in my life. I am just taking it day by

110
00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:02,080
Speaker 1: day and if I feel like resting, I'm gonna rest.

111
00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,080
Speaker 1: And if I feel like getting shit done, I'm gonna

112
00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:07,880
Speaker 1: do that. Like I don't know, something is definitely shifting.

113
00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:11,279
Speaker 1: And I said this on one of my episodes with Roddy,

114
00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:15,200
Speaker 1: and she's like a spiritual, like amazing woman. If you

115
00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:17,680
Speaker 1: guys did not listen to that episode in season three,

116
00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:21,200
Speaker 1: please go listen to it. But I felt a shift.

117
00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:23,320
Speaker 1: I felt it. I felt it coming. I felt it

118
00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:25,840
Speaker 1: like the end of last year. And I'm like, something

119
00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:27,640
Speaker 1: is changing. I don't know what it looks like. And

120
00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:30,440
Speaker 1: I'm just embracing that right now and I'm okay with that,

121
00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:32,680
Speaker 1: and I'm going to share it with you guys as

122
00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:35,279
Speaker 1: I go. And that's just the truth. We're gonna figure

123
00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:44,720
Speaker 1: this out together. What I keep hearing during my time

124
00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:49,760
Speaker 1: of like meditation is going back to basics, going back

125
00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:55,839
Speaker 1: to that why I started everything that I do, the music,

126
00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,719
Speaker 1: the book, like everything that I that I that I do,

127
00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:01,760
Speaker 1: Like I don't want to forget the why.

128
00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,560
Speaker 2: I just I don't know. Like I feel like.

129
00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:11,640
Speaker 1: Spirituality, like a different version of myself is getting ready

130
00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:15,440
Speaker 1: to like be born and it's kind of crazy because

131
00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,960
Speaker 1: I want to give life to another human being, so

132
00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:20,920
Speaker 1: I feel like in order to do that, I want

133
00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:23,160
Speaker 1: to make sure that I am prepared in every way

134
00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:27,200
Speaker 1: and that I am my best self. So I don't know,

135
00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:29,000
Speaker 1: that's what I'm feeling. And of course I still want

136
00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:31,960
Speaker 1: to do music. Absolutely, there's still events that we're going

137
00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:33,920
Speaker 1: to be doing, but I'm not going to go as

138
00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:36,640
Speaker 1: hard or as heavy, and I'm not I don't want

139
00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:40,200
Speaker 1: to feel pressured in any way now more than ever.

140
00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:43,120
Speaker 1: If I want to say no to something, I'm going

141
00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:46,560
Speaker 1: to say no and be okay with it, like that's it.

142
00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:51,360
Speaker 1: And the first thing I did this year in regards

143
00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:54,120
Speaker 1: to that is saying no to some like Grammy events.

144
00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:56,080
Speaker 1: Because I did go to the Grammys. Guys, we were

145
00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:59,560
Speaker 1: nominated for an American Grammy. You know, I'm so excited.

146
00:07:59,560 --> 00:08:03,880
Speaker 1: We didn't, but I was happy to be there. But

147
00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:07,040
Speaker 1: before that, there were events that were very good for

148
00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:09,360
Speaker 1: me to be at, you know, networking and you know,

149
00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:12,680
Speaker 1: being in that space, especially because it's like you know,

150
00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:15,920
Speaker 1: it's the American side of things, and of course making

151
00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:19,400
Speaker 1: connections is important. But I wanted to spend time with

152
00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:21,640
Speaker 1: my nieces and nephews and my husband and I did that,

153
00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:26,440
Speaker 1: and I maybe my management wasn't too happy about it,

154
00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,560
Speaker 1: but they respected it. But before I'd be like, well, no,

155
00:08:29,640 --> 00:08:31,320
Speaker 1: I have to be there. Okay, fine, I'll do it.

156
00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:33,920
Speaker 1: And I don't want to do that this year. I

157
00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:37,960
Speaker 1: really want to put like my family first, my husband,

158
00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:40,360
Speaker 1: like I want, I want to spend more.

159
00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:42,199
Speaker 2: Time with my friends. I just I don't know.

160
00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:45,640
Speaker 1: I even get really like emotional thinking about it because

161
00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:48,840
Speaker 1: I've been working so damn hard for the past, for

162
00:08:48,920 --> 00:08:51,320
Speaker 1: my whole life in reality, but especially since my mom

163
00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:55,200
Speaker 1: passed away twelve years ago and for sure for the

164
00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:58,199
Speaker 1: last ten years that I'm like, I just want to

165
00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:01,559
Speaker 1: go back to me, to my soul, to what I'm

166
00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:03,800
Speaker 1: meant to do here and make a difference and do

167
00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:07,839
Speaker 1: more philanthropy work. And I really, really I'm craving that

168
00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:11,640
Speaker 1: and taking a step back from music, not stepping away

169
00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:15,280
Speaker 1: because some people were kind of like from one of

170
00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:17,480
Speaker 1: the last episodes in season three, I kind of talked

171
00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:20,560
Speaker 1: about it, you know, the New Year's one, and people

172
00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:22,160
Speaker 1: were like, oh my god, Jesus is going to retire

173
00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:24,120
Speaker 1: from music, and I'm like, no, that's not what I said.

174
00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:26,839
Speaker 1: I'm taking just a step back, which means I'm able

175
00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:29,559
Speaker 1: to look in I want to fall in love again

176
00:09:29,640 --> 00:09:33,559
Speaker 1: with the process of making art, and I also feel

177
00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:35,920
Speaker 1: like I want to write different type of music and

178
00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:39,360
Speaker 1: I want the sound to be different without thinking of

179
00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:45,000
Speaker 1: awards and recognition. Although all that feels amazing, don't get

180
00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:47,800
Speaker 1: me wrong, But now I'm like, I want to sing

181
00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,440
Speaker 1: about something different. I'm in a happy place, thank God,

182
00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:52,560
Speaker 1: and I hope it stays that way for the rest

183
00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:56,079
Speaker 1: of my life. But I want to talk about love

184
00:09:56,280 --> 00:09:59,760
Speaker 1: and about how can I inspire people and all the

185
00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:01,520
Speaker 1: things that I talk about on the podcast and all

186
00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:03,400
Speaker 1: that I am like on social media, like how can

187
00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:05,679
Speaker 1: I bring that into my music? So in order to

188
00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:08,400
Speaker 1: do that, I need to step back, take a little break.

189
00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:10,640
Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with taking breaks. I feel like breaks

190
00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:16,160
Speaker 1: are definitely necessary because when you're in like sometimes it

191
00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:20,720
Speaker 1: kind of fogs your vision. And I feel like it

192
00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:23,760
Speaker 1: did for a little bit because especially last year, we

193
00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:26,520
Speaker 1: went hard and I told myself I wanted to go

194
00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:29,040
Speaker 1: hard in twenty twenty four, careful what you asked for,

195
00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:31,559
Speaker 1: because I was like, oh my gosh, and it was

196
00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:37,479
Speaker 1: very successful and I don't regret anything, but I was mentally, physically, emotionally,

197
00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:40,800
Speaker 1: spiritually exhausted, and I'm like, if I don't take a

198
00:10:40,800 --> 00:10:43,720
Speaker 1: little break, I'm going to burn out and I'm going

199
00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:46,559
Speaker 1: to resent my career and I don't want to do that.

200
00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:48,880
Speaker 1: I'm still going to be present. I still want to

201
00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:51,800
Speaker 1: be on social media and share my life and share

202
00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:53,960
Speaker 1: things with you guys. But I don't know if I

203
00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:56,520
Speaker 1: want to necessarily tour as hard as I did the

204
00:10:56,559 --> 00:10:59,720
Speaker 1: past ten years, you know. So that's just that, and

205
00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:02,160
Speaker 1: again we're going to figure it out together, you know.

206
00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:04,800
Speaker 1: I'm taking it literally day by day, month by month,

207
00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:06,840
Speaker 1: you know. Right now, I feel like I'm on a

208
00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:11,120
Speaker 1: soul break, on a soul break to kind of become

209
00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:16,400
Speaker 1: my best soul child. I was talking to my mentor,

210
00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:18,560
Speaker 1: you know, and we talked about what this year because

211
00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:20,800
Speaker 1: last year was fulfillment. I always have like a word

212
00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:24,040
Speaker 1: for every year. So last year was fulfillment. This year

213
00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:31,520
Speaker 1: it's rejoice, Rejoice, reset, recalibrate. It's kind of like that

214
00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,760
Speaker 1: kind of vibe, and with that comes Yes, I want

215
00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:37,440
Speaker 1: to take a break from alcohol. I've been wanting to

216
00:11:37,440 --> 00:11:40,440
Speaker 1: do this for a very very very long time, and

217
00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:43,160
Speaker 1: I take long breaks. I do forty days. I did

218
00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:48,040
Speaker 1: ninety days last year, and I know that as I'm

219
00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:53,120
Speaker 1: tapping into this healthier version of myself, not only mentally

220
00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:57,959
Speaker 1: and spiritually and emotionally, but physically, and I want to

221
00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:01,679
Speaker 1: prepare my body to have a child. I know what

222
00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:05,760
Speaker 1: alcohol does. Since I know this, this.

223
00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:06,280
Speaker 2: Is how I know.

224
00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:10,360
Speaker 1: That there has to be a change, because I know

225
00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:17,280
Speaker 1: how toxic, how poisonous alcohol is for our bodies. I

226
00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:19,840
Speaker 1: want to start doing things that are going to increase

227
00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:24,400
Speaker 1: my life, not decrease my life, because guys, whether I

228
00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:26,080
Speaker 1: want to admit it or not, and I'm better with

229
00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:28,840
Speaker 1: this now. I'm going to be forty this year, and

230
00:12:29,640 --> 00:12:31,880
Speaker 1: I want to live long and I'm going to have

231
00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:35,480
Speaker 1: hopefully a child, you know, so I'm having a child

232
00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:38,280
Speaker 1: later in my life, which there is a study they

233
00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:41,120
Speaker 1: just sent me this. Guys, anyone that has a child

234
00:12:41,280 --> 00:12:46,719
Speaker 1: after forty just saying has a I don't know what percentage,

235
00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:50,319
Speaker 1: but a larger percentage of like living till one hundred.

236
00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:51,840
Speaker 2: I don't necessarily know if I want to live to

237
00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:52,560
Speaker 2: one hundred, but I'm just.

238
00:12:52,559 --> 00:12:54,640
Speaker 1: Saying, you know, it made me feel a little bit better,

239
00:12:55,520 --> 00:13:00,199
Speaker 1: But I definitely want to have stopped thinking about out

240
00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:02,720
Speaker 1: what makes me happy right now in the moment, and

241
00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:06,160
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, that instant gratification like alcohol, because

242
00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:09,080
Speaker 1: alcohol gives you that dopamine and that serotonin and it's like, oh.

243
00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:10,240
Speaker 2: My god, I feel really good right now.

244
00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,480
Speaker 1: And it's like, yeah, you know, I want to stop

245
00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:15,920
Speaker 1: doing that because that's a disservice to myself, you know,

246
00:13:16,040 --> 00:13:19,560
Speaker 1: and start thinking about, Okay, I know that this will

247
00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,160
Speaker 1: make me happy now, but how is it going to

248
00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:25,840
Speaker 1: affect me tomorrow and in my future. That's really really

249
00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:28,760
Speaker 1: loving yourself. And I'm a person that I'm like, I'm

250
00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:31,520
Speaker 1: all about self care and self love, but that's a

251
00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:34,240
Speaker 1: huge part of my life that has had a bit

252
00:13:34,280 --> 00:13:35,000
Speaker 1: of a hold on me.

253
00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:37,719
Speaker 2: And I'm not gonna lie.

254
00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:40,880
Speaker 1: I enjoyed that gay, I enjoy social drinking and all

255
00:13:40,920 --> 00:13:43,760
Speaker 1: that stuff, but it's not good for me. And that's

256
00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:48,839
Speaker 1: my personal opinion. That's my personal choice, and I really

257
00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:50,400
Speaker 1: really want to get a hold of that.

258
00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:51,080
Speaker 2: This year.

259
00:13:51,679 --> 00:13:56,160
Speaker 1: I'm already starting by drinking less the month of February.

260
00:13:56,200 --> 00:13:59,200
Speaker 1: I gave up red meat, I gave up coffee, and

261
00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:02,559
Speaker 1: you know, making it easy on you know, the alcohol,

262
00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:06,040
Speaker 1: like really practicing my willpower. But I need to like

263
00:14:06,120 --> 00:14:09,520
Speaker 1: I want to cut it off completely. It's again a

264
00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:11,720
Speaker 1: lot easier said than done. I love saying that, but

265
00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:14,600
Speaker 1: it's true. But that is one of my goals this year.

266
00:14:14,640 --> 00:14:14,920
Speaker 2: Guys.

267
00:14:16,120 --> 00:14:18,880
Speaker 1: You know, like, for instance, the gym. Sometimes there's days

268
00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:21,000
Speaker 1: where I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't want to go.

269
00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:24,600
Speaker 1: It's tough, like my trainer kicks my ass. But then

270
00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:26,720
Speaker 1: I start thinking, now, how am I going to feel

271
00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:29,560
Speaker 1: after because there's so I wake up really early to meditate,

272
00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:31,520
Speaker 1: to like pray the whole thing, to prep my day

273
00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:33,640
Speaker 1: before I go work out. So sometimes I'm like, oh

274
00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:36,160
Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm so tired. I want to text him

275
00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:37,760
Speaker 1: and tell him, you know what, I don't feel good today.

276
00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:40,160
Speaker 1: But then I'm like, I say a little prayer. I'm like, God,

277
00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:41,960
Speaker 1: give me the strength to get out of this bed,

278
00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:43,240
Speaker 1: and then I'm like, you know what, I'm going to

279
00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:45,680
Speaker 1: feel so good afterwards. I want to do more of that,

280
00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:48,360
Speaker 1: because yes, a lot of things that are good for

281
00:14:48,480 --> 00:14:51,760
Speaker 1: us guys don't necessarily feel great in the moment, but

282
00:14:51,840 --> 00:14:55,440
Speaker 1: afterwards you feel freaking accomplished. And I love that feeling

283
00:14:55,480 --> 00:14:58,120
Speaker 1: of accomplishment, and I want to get addicted to that.

284
00:14:58,120 --> 00:15:01,920
Speaker 1: Feeling that after feeling not the right now, feeling okay,

285
00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:03,680
Speaker 1: right now, I feel good right now, I'm gonna do this.

286
00:15:03,720 --> 00:15:05,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna drink and I'm gonna feel good right now,

287
00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:07,680
Speaker 1: But then I feel like shit the next day because

288
00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:10,600
Speaker 1: I don't. Honestly, my body's not taking alcohol the way

289
00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:12,200
Speaker 1: it used to, like it gives me a headache, like

290
00:15:12,200 --> 00:15:14,440
Speaker 1: I'm just like, okay, I think my body's even like

291
00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:17,040
Speaker 1: rejecting it. So I really need to tap into that,

292
00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:19,440
Speaker 1: and I need you guys to help me. So we're

293
00:15:19,440 --> 00:15:22,600
Speaker 1: gonna probably speak to an expert about alcohol so that

294
00:15:22,640 --> 00:15:26,360
Speaker 1: we can all learn together the effects of alcohol, because

295
00:15:26,800 --> 00:15:30,240
Speaker 1: it's poison, guys, it really is. And also if we're

296
00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:32,200
Speaker 1: not careful, it can make us do really bad things

297
00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:35,239
Speaker 1: and make bad choices. We'll talk about that in an episode,

298
00:15:35,400 --> 00:15:36,720
Speaker 1: but that's just me personally.

299
00:15:36,720 --> 00:15:37,360
Speaker 2: That's my choice.

300
00:15:37,360 --> 00:15:39,120
Speaker 1: I'm not telling everyone to do that, but I think

301
00:15:39,120 --> 00:15:41,920
Speaker 1: it's important for us to be informed, and that's what

302
00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:43,440
Speaker 1: I want to do. I want to have those hard

303
00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:46,480
Speaker 1: conversations and face those hard conversations that perhaps in the

304
00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:49,240
Speaker 1: past I've been you know, putting on the back burner

305
00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:53,320
Speaker 1: or ignoring because I don't necessarily want to know because

306
00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:55,800
Speaker 1: I kind of know. But if I know more than

307
00:15:55,840 --> 00:15:59,480
Speaker 1: hopefully you know, I'll be able to just really cut

308
00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:01,160
Speaker 1: back or cut everything.

309
00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:07,840
Speaker 2: For twenty twenty five.

310
00:16:07,840 --> 00:16:09,800
Speaker 1: At the end of twenty twenty five, i'd like to

311
00:16:09,800 --> 00:16:13,160
Speaker 1: say I will be a mommy. I have shared a

312
00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:17,600
Speaker 1: lot here on the podcast how I've gone back and forth,

313
00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:19,960
Speaker 1: you know, with the thought of becoming a mom. For

314
00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:22,120
Speaker 1: a long time. I didn't want to be a mother.

315
00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:25,160
Speaker 1: When I met at Media my husband, one of our

316
00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:29,560
Speaker 1: very first conversations was, Hey, I don't ever want to

317
00:16:29,600 --> 00:16:33,320
Speaker 1: get married again. I don't want to have kids. Are

318
00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:35,320
Speaker 1: you cool with that? He was like, hell, yeah, that's great.

319
00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:37,440
Speaker 2: Neither do I. And here we are.

320
00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:41,600
Speaker 1: We're married and planning a baby, and I feel good

321
00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:43,960
Speaker 1: about it. I haven't told a lot of people this,

322
00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:47,760
Speaker 1: so they're going to find out, you know, with this episode.

323
00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:51,960
Speaker 1: But I am excited. And the more and more I

324
00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:54,600
Speaker 1: think about it, the more excited I get. And I

325
00:16:54,680 --> 00:16:57,360
Speaker 1: know that I'm going to be a great mother, God willing,

326
00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:01,080
Speaker 1: and I think this everything happened the way it was

327
00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:04,399
Speaker 1: supposed to happen. I can honestly say I'm excited to

328
00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:06,320
Speaker 1: turn forty and to be able to look back on

329
00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:08,600
Speaker 1: my life and say, Wow, I've accomplished so much. I've

330
00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:12,560
Speaker 1: done so much, I've traveled, I've lived, you know, and

331
00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:15,600
Speaker 1: now I'm ready to live my life for a little person.

332
00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:21,480
Speaker 1: And this will be like the biggest project, accomplishment, whatever

333
00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:23,920
Speaker 1: you want to call it, of my life. And I've

334
00:17:23,960 --> 00:17:28,880
Speaker 1: never felt more ready. And of course I'm scared, of course,

335
00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:32,560
Speaker 1: because I'm stepping into the unknown, but I also kind

336
00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:35,000
Speaker 1: of know because I've raised my siblings. But at the

337
00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:37,040
Speaker 1: end of twenty twenty five, I hope that I can

338
00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:41,040
Speaker 1: tell you, guys, oh my gosh, not only am I pregnant,

339
00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:43,960
Speaker 1: but I have a baby. Because if we start soon, guys,

340
00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:46,159
Speaker 1: then by the end of the year, I'll have a

341
00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:49,639
Speaker 1: little baby. So that is the biggest thing I want

342
00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:51,800
Speaker 1: to accomplish this year, to be honest, that's the only

343
00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:54,000
Speaker 1: thing I can really think about right now. And the

344
00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:56,840
Speaker 1: crazy thing is that I've been working on a children's

345
00:17:56,840 --> 00:17:59,200
Speaker 1: book and if you guys haven't seen on my social media,

346
00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:02,560
Speaker 1: I put it and you know, it's all kind of

347
00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:05,120
Speaker 1: coming together and I did not plan it this way.

348
00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:09,040
Speaker 1: It's called The Girl who Sings to Bees, So it's

349
00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:11,120
Speaker 1: all kind of just coming together. So I'm just I'm

350
00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:15,000
Speaker 1: happy and I am hopeful and optimistic for twenty twenty five.

351
00:18:15,119 --> 00:18:18,320
Speaker 1: It did not start in the best of ways. I

352
00:18:18,359 --> 00:18:21,760
Speaker 1: had a very heavy heart all of January a little

353
00:18:21,800 --> 00:18:25,240
Speaker 1: bit of February. But now, you know what, I'm feeling

354
00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:27,639
Speaker 1: better and I and I think it's all how we

355
00:18:27,720 --> 00:18:30,480
Speaker 1: choose to see things and look at things and do

356
00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:32,439
Speaker 1: our part in the world. And that's what I'm going

357
00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:34,199
Speaker 1: to do. I'm going to do my part what I

358
00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:39,439
Speaker 1: can do, and that'll be my way of making this

359
00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:42,640
Speaker 1: world's a better place, you know. So twenty twenty five,

360
00:18:42,800 --> 00:18:45,320
Speaker 1: now I'm ready. In the beginning of the year, I

361
00:18:45,359 --> 00:18:47,800
Speaker 1: can't say I was, but still the beginning of the year.

362
00:18:47,800 --> 00:18:50,320
Speaker 1: But still I'm ready. I'm more ready than I was

363
00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:53,160
Speaker 1: for sure January first. And I hope you guys are too,

364
00:18:53,600 --> 00:18:55,600
Speaker 1: and I hope that you guys are excited for this

365
00:18:55,800 --> 00:18:58,160
Speaker 1: new season of Cheeky's and Chill. I think we're going

366
00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:00,359
Speaker 1: to learn a lot together and we're going to have

367
00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:06,760
Speaker 1: some tough conversations, but with tough conversations comes growth and maturity,

368
00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:09,840
Speaker 1: and more than anything helps us and preps us for

369
00:19:09,920 --> 00:19:14,000
Speaker 1: becoming our best selves and anything that is worthwhile. Guys

370
00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:18,840
Speaker 1: will be uncomfortable, but when we're uncomfortable, that's when we grow.

371
00:19:19,119 --> 00:19:20,840
Speaker 1: So I am ready to grow and I hope you

372
00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:21,400
Speaker 1: guys are too.

373
00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:24,240
Speaker 2: So that is it. That is all I have to

374
00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:25,280
Speaker 2: share for this episode.

375
00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:28,480
Speaker 1: And please tell your friends and share it and let

376
00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:30,679
Speaker 1: them know that like cheeks and Chill podcast is the

377
00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:34,879
Speaker 1: best podcast ever. And yeah, I'll catch you on the

378
00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:37,960
Speaker 1: next episode of Cheekys and Chill and don't forget dear

379
00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:39,000
Speaker 1: Cheeky's on Wednesdays.

380
00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:39,960
Speaker 2: Kay. I love you.

381
00:19:39,920 --> 00:19:43,320
Speaker 1: Guys, and I'm excited. I'm excited for this new season,

382
00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:49,200
Speaker 1: this new era that's coming for all of us. Do

383
00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:53,800
Speaker 1: you need advice on love, relationships, health emails? I'm so

384
00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:56,080
Speaker 1: excited to share with you that my Cheekies and Chill

385
00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:59,640
Speaker 1: podcast will have an extra episode drop each week. I'll

386
00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:02,359
Speaker 1: be and sharing all your questions. Just leave me a

387
00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:08,080
Speaker 1: voice message. All you have to do is go to

388
00:20:08,119 --> 00:20:11,399
Speaker 1: speak pipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and Chill Podcasts and

389
00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:12,400
Speaker 1: record your questions.

390
00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:13,720
Speaker 2: I can't wait to hear from you.

391
00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:22,200
Speaker 1: This is a production of iHeartRadio and the Micuda podcast Network.

392
00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:25,560
Speaker 1: Follow us on Instagram at Michael Dura Podcasts. And follow

393
00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:28,320
Speaker 1: me Cheeky's That's c h i q u i s.

394
00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:33,240
Speaker 1: For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

395
00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:35,600
Speaker 1: or wherever you listen to your favorite podcast