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Speaker 2: Her that title makes way more sense when you say.

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine treating like one of my parents like that.

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Speaker 1: That's insane, the lack of respect. I wonder your parents

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Speaker 1: storytime Separate It. So at some point Anne met my

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, she's not starting drama. She loves it. She

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Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly. And I hate this for Blake because Blake

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Speaker 1: What's the tea? I love hearing little goss, you know.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, no, yeah, almost all of them were from

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Speaker 1: sometimes bridezillas can have good effects too. But that's the

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Speaker 1: That's great. I also realized I forgot oh he was

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Speaker 3: What has happened? I thought this was like wrapped up.

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Speaker 1: Now she's missing. I don't know a whole lot. All

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Speaker 1: Just tap her profile. I know this isn't about me,

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Speaker 1: been missing for two years. We don't know where she is.

435
00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:09,879
Speaker 1: Her son has been sent to live with his grandparents,

436
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,719
Speaker 1: her daughter is gone. Looking back on her character and

437
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 1: how she was as a person, I can see her

438
00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 1: having a mental break because life probably didn't turn out

439
00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:21,119
Speaker 1: the way she wanted it to, and a lot of

440
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:24,679
Speaker 1: people struggle with that at a certain age. I really

441
00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:26,919
Speaker 1: just hope, even though it would make her a monster

442
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:30,640
Speaker 1: for abandoning her kids, that she just decided to leave

443
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:34,719
Speaker 1: with that local dude and rebrand somewhere else, push the

444
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 1: restart button on life. You know that would be better

445
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 1: than the darker potentials better. Oh but that's all I know.

446
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 1: I think I'll be hesitating the next time I consider

447
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:47,200
Speaker 1: making a Reddit post about life. Thanks y'all. I'm glad

448
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 1: that I know this, and I think I'll keep digging

449
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,480
Speaker 1: to find out what happened to her. If I ever

450
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:56,119
Speaker 1: find out, I might make a post about it maybe later.

451
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:58,159
Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story.

452
00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:00,400
Speaker 2: I don't even know what it's say.

453
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:05,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was a crazy turn events. It was insane,

454
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,920
Speaker 1: but yeah, that is the end of this story. Hopefully

455
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:11,399
Speaker 1: we find out one day what happened Annie or Anne

456
00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 1: and I hope Lake Blake and his kids are doing well.

457
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 1: This was a wild ride.

458
00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:21,239
Speaker 5: My ex fiance cheated on me with his coworker, so

459
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:24,760
Speaker 5: I got my sweet revenge. Before I laughed, Me and

460
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 5: my ex had been together for over seven years. This

461
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 5: is a rather long one, so sit back. I thought

462
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 5: we were happy. We were engaged and had moved into

463
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,359
Speaker 5: a bigger house together in preparation to start a family.

464
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 5: And by the way, this comes from user cat Lover

465
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Speaker 5: ninety one point five twelve on the r slash Okay

466
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:43,320
Speaker 5: story time.

467
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 1: So Bredda.

468
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 5: He's a civil servant and used to always joke to

469
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:49,320
Speaker 5: me about how everyone slept with everyone and there was

470
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:53,159
Speaker 5: a secret inner circle of these people. Yeah, I know,

471
00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:55,719
Speaker 5: I should have seen the red flag, but I just

472
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 5: laughed and listened to the drama stories he told me

473
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:01,440
Speaker 5: about all these relationships kicking off. Yeah, I think that's

474
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:04,120
Speaker 5: fair to just laugh at that. Fast forward a few

475
00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 5: months into living in our home, and he started to

476
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 5: do more night shifts than is actually required for his job.

477
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 5: He was getting a lot of overtime and so was

478
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 5: working a lot more, all to save for our wedding,

479
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 5: So he said he decided he wanted to start going

480
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 5: to the gym to get more fit as well. It

481
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 5: started off as a little tickle in the back of

482
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 5: my mind. I seemed to be getting left at home

483
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:26,840
Speaker 5: a lot more often if he was going out with

484
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,119
Speaker 5: mates for a drink. I used to get invited all

485
00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:31,640
Speaker 5: the time, but I just chalked it up to he's

486
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:32,640
Speaker 5: out with the lads.

487
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:33,600
Speaker 1: He's out with the lads.

488
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 5: It's the lads, not Saturday.

489
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 1: He's for the lads.

490
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:38,880
Speaker 5: One night, he was going to one of his work

491
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:40,879
Speaker 5: mates for the night with a few others for a

492
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:44,399
Speaker 5: birthday party, just the lads and poker. I invited the

493
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 5: girls around and we enjoyed plenty of wine and horror movies.

494
00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 5: He stopped texting me at about seven pm, and I

495
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,399
Speaker 5: didn't hear a thing from him until the morning. I

496
00:25:54,480 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 5: was a little annoyed. He told me he'd fallen asleep

497
00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 5: at the table while playing poker, and one of his

498
00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 5: mates had actually recorded his snoring, which I found hilarious.

499
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 5: I said he'd have to show me the video, and

500
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 5: he never showed. I did ask several times and I'd

501
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 5: get Oh, his mate lost his phone and he didn't

502
00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 5: manage to send him the video before he lost it.

503
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 5: Bearing in mind this was the kind of things his

504
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:19,000
Speaker 5: mates would be putting on Facebook the second they finished recording,

505
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:22,360
Speaker 5: the tickle became harder to ignore. Then came the email

506
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:24,919
Speaker 5: he'd use my phone to log into his emails, as

507
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 5: he'd left his phone at work and had forgotten to

508
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 5: log out. So I decided to have a little look

509
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:32,200
Speaker 5: back in his email history because that tickle was starting

510
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 5: to drive me a teensy bit nuts. And then I

511
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:40,280
Speaker 5: found a hotel booking for two adults in a city

512
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:44,360
Speaker 5: over an hour away on the same day as this

513
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 5: birthday party. He had told me that he was sleeping

514
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 5: at his mate's house when we went, so I was

515
00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 5: straight on to him about it. He told me he'd

516
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 5: booked it for his mate and his partner as his

517
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 5: mate wanted to do a surprise trip for his wife

518
00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:00,840
Speaker 5: and didn't want her to find out about it. Okay,

519
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,919
Speaker 5: I didn't really believe him, and I tried to let

520
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 5: it go, but I just couldn't. Why didn't he tell

521
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 5: me this before, why only now that I've found the

522
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 5: email booking. It drove me a bit crazy thinking about it,

523
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 5: and I started to get depressed at the thought of

524
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:19,199
Speaker 5: that he was cheating. About two months after this, he

525
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:22,439
Speaker 5: started talking about one of his workmates. He referred to

526
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 5: her as his work little sister. She's ten years younger

527
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:30,160
Speaker 5: than him, and he would constantly say I should meet

528
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 5: her as we would get along, and how he felt

529
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 5: protective of her.

530
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 1: I don't trust this.

531
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:37,920
Speaker 5: At this point, I was getting sick of him talking

532
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 5: about her, so I just made a comment like, you

533
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 5: sound like you're in love with her, at which he

534
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:45,400
Speaker 5: scoffed and again said no, no, no, no, no, no.

535
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 1: She's like a sister.

536
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 5: He even said once she reminded him of his own sister.

537
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 5: But even with all of this, I was now convinced

538
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 5: something was going on. So one night, when he fell asleep,

539
00:27:58,160 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 5: I went through his phone.

540
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:01,479
Speaker 1: No I like it. The thing is like, when you

541
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 1: get to that point, you just break up. If you're

542
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:05,120
Speaker 1: at that point of lost trust like that, you can't

543
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:06,680
Speaker 1: even talk to him to break.

544
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 5: Up, might as well and the trust has already gone. However,

545
00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 5: lo and behold lots of messages between him and her.

546
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:15,719
Speaker 5: He couldn't wait to be officially with her, and she

547
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:17,160
Speaker 5: was his princess.

548
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,440
Speaker 1: If this wasn't cheating, I would want to be called princess.

549
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 5: But this is his cover story, is that she's like

550
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 5: my little sister. That makes it so much worse.

551
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 1: So weird and bad. It was just a side note.

552
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: I would like to be called princess. This is just

553
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:32,239
Speaker 1: like a total side note.

554
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 5: Really quickly call me princess. And everything about this is wrong,

555
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 5: but I do like being called princess. That's just for me,

556
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 5: total sidebarning. But you're already the queen. You're already the

557
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:44,680
Speaker 5: queen of worms.

558
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 1: That's true. I think if I asked people to call

559
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 1: me queen, like if I asked, you know, the future

560
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 1: partner to call me queen, I think that would be

561
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:52,520
Speaker 1: a little bit self absorbed.

562
00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 5: Oh and there were a load of other messages to

563
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:58,080
Speaker 5: other women as well, all explicit. Well, my world literally

564
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 5: came falling down in that moment. Nearly eight years of

565
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 5: my life wasted. I confronted him and he admitted it all,

566
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 5: but he loved me, and he promised me he would

567
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 5: never do it again, and he wanted to spend his

568
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 5: life with me. It was just a stupid itch he

569
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 5: wanted to scratch before fully settling down. Now I was

570
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 5: having none of it.

571
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: I was done.

572
00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:19,760
Speaker 5: Now where we were living was hours away from our hometown,

573
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 5: and I was in a complete state, and to be honest,

574
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 5: I just wanted to be with my family. A lot

575
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 5: then happened without telling him my plan. I contacted my

576
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 5: work and told them I was moving and needed to

577
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 5: have a new contract, starting home based work. I love

578
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,239
Speaker 5: my job, and I told them everything that was going on.

579
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 5: I had my family help me find a new place

580
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 5: back in my hometown, and I planned my escape. This

581
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 5: took about a month to sort. During this time, I

582
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 5: was stuck in the same house as this ding dong,

583
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 5: keeping my plan from him. He would beg me for

584
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 5: forgiveness one minute and then threaten me the next.

585
00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 1: You know how.

586
00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:54,480
Speaker 5: He was gonna throw me out, switch off all the

587
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 5: electrics so I couldn't work, and even threw straighteners at me.

588
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:00,720
Speaker 1: Leave him. Uh, well, she's got the plan. The plan

589
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 1: is inactive. Yeah, I know this man. He goes from

590
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 1: lying to being straight up like crazy.

591
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 5: All of which I still have voice recordings of just

592
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 5: in case. So you've got the evidence. That's good.

593
00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 1: You've got it lined up. That's nice.

594
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 5: I would have to call my sister on video call

595
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 5: at night just to fall asleep. I was getting that stressed.

596
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 5: Then I became angry, and he then tried to gaslight me.

597
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 5: Girl's been trying it the whole time. It was my fault.

598
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 5: He'd strayed.

599
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 1: Apparently.

600
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 5: I did everything for him. I worked full time, cleaned, cooked,

601
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 5: and shopped everything. But because my work wasn't as stressful

602
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:33,600
Speaker 5: as his, I wasn't doing enough well at that I

603
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 5: just thought f him. On the day my planned to leave,

604
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 5: I got a lucky break, and it turns out he

605
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 5: was staying at his mates after work that day, so

606
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 5: he wouldn't be back until the next day. He left,

607
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 5: and his last words to me, where I love you

608
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:49,320
Speaker 5: and mine were goodbye, nay bye. I had a van

609
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:51,480
Speaker 5: and people around the corner out of sight, waiting for

610
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 5: him to leave. The minute he did, the packing started.

611
00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 5: Within a couple of hours. Everything I was taking was

612
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 5: loaded into the van and ready to go. But before

613
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 5: I posted my keys, I had one last thing to do.

614
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 5: I had purchased several packs of itching powder a week before,

615
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 5: and now it was time to use it. What the

616
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 5: heck is itching powder?

617
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like it's always happening in

618
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 1: like those little movies from when you were a kid.

619
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:18,480
Speaker 5: Itching powder.

620
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're always putting itching powder and said, like when

621
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:23,160
Speaker 1: they're out a camp or something and like there's the

622
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 1: bully kid.

623
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 5: Just a powder made out of itchy stuff.

624
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they put the itching powder in the bed

625
00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 1: and they're like, oh, I'm so itchy, and that's how

626
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 1: they get revenge on the bully. I guess every.

627
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 5: Time I've ever seen that, I've just assumed that that

628
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 5: was like a fake thing that wasn't real.

629
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: And no, I guess it is real.

630
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 5: Wow. I mean Opie's got it. Yeah, freaking God. So anyway,

631
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 5: let's keep going. Now is the time to use it,

632
00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 5: and use it I did. I rubbed it into every

633
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 5: item of clothing he had, inside all of his underwear

634
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 5: and inside all of his socks, shirts, and trousers. I

635
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 5: rubbed it into the bedding. I rubbed it into the

636
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 5: half roll of toilet paper. I decided to leave behind

637
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 5: anything he would be touching. I hovered it in the

638
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:05,400
Speaker 5: stuffed and then I left. That is maybe dialogue orderline criminal.

639
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:07,640
Speaker 5: Maybe I don't know. Hey, but you know, if you

640
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:10,560
Speaker 5: have an itch to watch us, you can scratch it

641
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 5: every weekday at three pm when we go live on YouTube.

642
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 5: All you have to do is tap our profile and

643
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 5: you're in the stream.

644
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: And that itch is gone.

645
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 5: Well, anyway, we do have a little bit left here,

646
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 5: but let's discuss I think clearly we were all on

647
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 5: Op's side. Yeah, I think now that chemical warfare has

648
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 5: entered the chat, the only thing I'm thinking of is like,

649
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 5: is there any legal recourse for doing this as someone.

650
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 1: That's kind of what I'm wondering, because before it was

651
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:37,600
Speaker 1: like you had all the proof that he was a

652
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 1: terrible person. Perhaps now he has a little bit of

653
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 1: proof against you, which is what I'm worried about, because

654
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Speaker 1: I feel like all lawyers always say, like, don't you know,

655
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Speaker 1: do certain things otherwise he'll be able to hold it

656
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Speaker 1: over you and stuff. So I'm a little bit worried

657
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 1: about that. But pettiness wise very effective.

658
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Speaker 5: Oh and this is because he said now I get it, oh,

659
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 5: because I have an itch. Because he's like, it was

660
00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 5: just a stupid itch I had to scratch. She's like, oh,

661
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 5: you want to talk about it itch.

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Speaker 1: Oh, that's actually I forgot about that. That's actually really

663
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 1: beautiful revenge. Yeah, that's poetic. I love that. That's really ah,

664
00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:11,000
Speaker 1: you know what, I like it.

665
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 5: A little bit a right here, let's finish it off here.

666
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 1: And she says it he wanted to scratch nitch.

667
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 5: Well, I left him with pol I need to scratch beautiful.

668
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 5: My final fu to him was after I had moved away,

669
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Speaker 5: I ended up sleeping with one of his work mates,

670
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Speaker 5: who actually hated my ex. My ex doesn't know, but

671
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 5: it was just an added bit of revenge for me.

672
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 5: To this day, he makes sure he gives my ex

673
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Speaker 5: a wink from me whenever they happen to pass each

674
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Speaker 5: other at work.

675
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

676
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 5: Wow, Now I'm happily in a new relationship. And I

677
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 5: heard recently he's now engaged to his work little sister.

678
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Speaker 1: Gross.

679
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 5: Oh, I wish her the best because once a cheat,

680
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 5: always a cheat. And there you have it. And look,

681
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:53,280
Speaker 5: she said, I wish you the best because he's your problem. Now, sister,

682
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 5: how are you going to get married to somebody that

683
00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:55,479
Speaker 5: you're like?

684
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 1: She's like my little sister.

685
00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 5: She reminds me of my little sister.

686
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Speaker 1: Growdy.

687
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, put that guy in the.

688
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 1: Orc cloud for sure, hurrific.

689
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:05,880
Speaker 5: This guy's disgusting. I want him actually now in a

690
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:10,320
Speaker 5: black hole. Black hole spaghetti and no longer exists. Marrying

691
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 5: your own little sister, you freaking gross idiot.

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Speaker 2: My brother uninvited me from his wedding, so I canceled

693
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Speaker 2: his venue reservation.

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Speaker 1: Petty if he If you can't be at his wedding,

695
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 1: there won't be a wedding.

696
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 5: I can't go, No one can.

697
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Speaker 2: So I thirty seven Mel have a younger brother, Tom

698
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Speaker 2: twenty six Mel, who's getting married in three months. A

699
00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:38,080
Speaker 2: year ago, he and his fiance were planning their wedding.

700
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 2: They were struggling to find an affordable venue. So I

701
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Speaker 2: own a vacation property with the large yard that used

702
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:49,000
Speaker 2: to be for a couple of small weddings before. So

703
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Speaker 2: I offered it to him as a wedding venue rent free. WHOA,

704
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,879
Speaker 2: that's nice, dude. You were saving half yeah, of the money.

705
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: You're pringing a lot of money on a venue.

706
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,360
Speaker 2: My only the condition was I wanted to be a

707
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Speaker 2: part of the wedding party, which he agreed to. Everything

708
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 2: seems fine. By the way, this comes from Aromatic coal

709
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Speaker 2: eighty one seventy on the best of Reddit or updates subreddit.

710
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:16,520
Speaker 2: Last week, Tom and I got into a small argument.

711
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 2: Really wasn't a big deal, But a couple of days

712
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,280
Speaker 2: later he texted me and said he and his fiance

713
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Speaker 2: decided to downsize their wedding party and I was no

714
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Speaker 2: longer going to be a groomsman.

715
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Speaker 1: Well, oh, he's about to downsize your wedding.

716
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, your venue. I was shocked because I thought this

717
00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:40,439
Speaker 2: was set in a stone a year ago. I called

718
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 2: him to ask what's going on, and he said it

719
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 2: wasn't personal, just that they wanted to keep things small

720
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:51,359
Speaker 2: and intimate and didn't feel like they needed me in

721
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Speaker 2: the wedding party. I was pretty hurt. I didn't say

722
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 2: anything at the time. Then it occurred to me, if

723
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Speaker 2: I'm not important enough to be at his wedding party,

724
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Speaker 2: why should I host the wedding at my place? So

725
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 2: I called him again and I told him that since

726
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Speaker 2: I was going to be a part of the wedding,

727
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 2: they need to find another venue.

728
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Speaker 1: I think it's petty, but I think honestly that's kind

729
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 1: of deserved. It was the deal, that was the deal.

730
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 1: They made the deal. If you're going to back out

731
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Speaker 1: of the deal. That's on you.

732
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Speaker 2: That's true, it was the deal. Tom and his fiance

733
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 2: are furious. They say they can't afford another venue at

734
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Speaker 2: this point, that I'm ruining their big day. My parents

735
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 2: are also upset and say I should just let it

736
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Speaker 2: go and still host the wedding. I feel like I

737
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 2: was doing them a huge favor.

738
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Speaker 1: Yeah you are. You were giving them a venue for

739
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:43,600
Speaker 1: free that would be most so expensive.

740
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, since the most expensive for the wedding. Yeah, oh

741
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:49,279
Speaker 2: my gosh. And they essentially uninvited me from being a

742
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 2: part of the most important day of their lives. I

743
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 2: don't think I'm in the wrong retract my offer, but

744
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:57,480
Speaker 2: now everyone is making me feel guilty. So am I

745
00:36:57,560 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 2: the a ho for canceling the venue? We do have

746
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:03,959
Speaker 2: an edits edits. This is basically an update to answer

747
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Speaker 2: a fewer questions I see repeatedly. Number one, why did

748
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 2: I need to offer to loan out my vacation house

749
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 2: to be in the wedding? Repeating one of my comments.

750
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 2: My brother and I have had a little bit of

751
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 2: a rocky relationship most of his life. I think it

752
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:21,760
Speaker 2: just says his life in our life. Our age difference

753
00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 2: has always been an awkward amount, and I think he's

754
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:27,439
Speaker 2: jealous of my success in life too.

755
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:28,600
Speaker 1: Is op older.

756
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:31,439
Speaker 2: He's like thirty seven and the brother's twenty six.

757
00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 1: Ok, ten years which does Yeah, that can be kind

758
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: of hard to like have a relationship with your sibling

759
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:38,160
Speaker 1: when they're not much younger.

760
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 2: I hope my brothers don't think of me like that.

761
00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:43,879
Speaker 2: I'm like thirteen years older than them eleven. Yeah, yeah,

762
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 2: I hope they don't think he's doun Okay, but I've

763
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:50,759
Speaker 2: climbed in the corporate ladder pretty quickly in finance, and

764
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 2: I think a lot of girls he's dated have had

765
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:58,120
Speaker 2: crushes on me, being his older brother and more successful one,

766
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 2: and that bothers him. He picks up, he picks small

767
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:05,560
Speaker 2: things to get mad at me because it was jealousy,

768
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 2: and I felt like if I made it a condition

769
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:10,880
Speaker 2: of lending out my place, he would let me be

770
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Speaker 2: in his wedding.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think it's just like a little

772
00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:16,680
Speaker 1: bit weird that you that they're not at the point

773
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 1: already to just have him be in the wedding, you know,

774
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 1: like and like without having to bribe him to be

775
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: in the wedding.

776
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:26,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds OPI wants to mend the relationship. Yeah,

777
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 2: the relationship is very transactional. Yes, I'm successful. The brother

778
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 2: is just that he's successful.

779
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:34,840
Speaker 1: It's all in terms of money and now he's still

780
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 1: But I feel like in trying to mend the relationship

781
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 1: on op side, he's trying to mend it through money.

782
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:43,760
Speaker 2: He is yeah, yeah, he's saying with the with the venue,

783
00:38:43,840 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 2: like hey, this is something, let me be in your

784
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:47,760
Speaker 2: wedding party.

785
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Speaker 1: Which I don't think that's gonna be. Like it's not

786
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:53,040
Speaker 1: working like I I Yeah, So I guess I have

787
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: two separate things. I think OPI is justified petty, but

788
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 1: also I think it's just not the best, the best

789
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: way to try and improved the relationship if you wanted

790
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 1: to do that.

791
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 2: I can't have a relationship built off of make me.

792
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:10,840
Speaker 1: Yes objects, giving people things, but basically bribing him to,

793
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, be in his wedding party.

794
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:17,760
Speaker 2: So number two, what did you get into an argument about.

795
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,400
Speaker 2: He got upset at me because he thinks I don't

796
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:24,279
Speaker 2: do enough with our parents, but I travel for my job,

797
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 2: so it's harder for me to be there in person. Okay,

798
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 2: I do have a friend that's in finance, and they

799
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:33,319
Speaker 2: travel so much it's kind of crazy. I also help

800
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 2: him them financially, which he never considers as helping out.

801
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 2: So the brother seems like the brother values quality time

802
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:45,879
Speaker 2: while the op values giving, and I guess he doesn't

803
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:48,359
Speaker 2: see this's the same thing. Uh, they haven't saved as

804
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 2: much as they probably should and are getting closer to retirement,

805
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:53,839
Speaker 2: so I helped them out with some bills so they

806
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:57,200
Speaker 2: can put more in their four to one K accounts instead.

807
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:01,400
Speaker 2: But I guess that isn't enough. He always find something

808
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:05,719
Speaker 2: to say I'm doing wrong. Number three are you still

809
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 2: invited to the wedding? Technically he only said I'm not

810
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 2: going to be in the wedding party, but it feels

811
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 2: like such a slap in the face at this point,

812
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 2: and it definitely feels like he doesn't want me there.

813
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 2: All try to talk to him to see what the

814
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 2: real issue is, because downsizing seems like byes to me.

815
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 2: We have one, we have a few more comments here,

816
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 2: and then an update, so relevant comments come under number

817
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 2: one downvoted you're the a hole. It's very inappropriate for

818
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 2: you to manipulate someone into being in their wedding. It's

819
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:46,759
Speaker 2: immature to withdraw your offer of the venue because they

820
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:50,960
Speaker 2: can't afford much and didn't get your way. For their sakes,

821
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:54,240
Speaker 2: I hope they can find a new venue so they

822
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:57,520
Speaker 2: don't have to deal with you and your behavior, and

823
00:40:57,600 --> 00:41:02,799
Speaker 2: they can exercise the hair justified, justifiable right to not

824
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:06,719
Speaker 2: invite you. Opie doesn't play well with others, Opie, I

825
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:10,400
Speaker 2: don't really feel like I'm manipulating anyone. I figured my

826
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 2: brother would want me there sincere where family. It feels

827
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 2: like he isn't telling me what the real reason is

828
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 2: he doesn't want me there, and if he doesn't want

829
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 2: to treat me like family, I guess I feel like

830
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:31,360
Speaker 2: I can't I can return the favor. Okay, that's a

831
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 2: really good point.

832
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 1: I don't know.

833
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 2: I don't know if I agree with that. It was

834
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 2: a deal. A deal is a deal should already been

835
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 2: in the wedding uh. Commenter number two, Petty, it just

836
00:41:42,719 --> 00:41:45,319
Speaker 2: like you should be. It was an agreement between the

837
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 2: two of you. Then you rent free, but you are

838
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 2: a part of the wedding party. Your brother decided to

839
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 2: punish you in the wrong way. As long as he

840
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,800
Speaker 2: took back his part of your contract, you are no

841
00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:00,879
Speaker 2: longer forced to honor your part, but it's too late

842
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 2: for them to find something. You should tell them that

843
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:05,880
Speaker 2: as long as your brother can't honor his part of

844
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 2: your deal, you're okay for them to do the venue

845
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 2: at the same place, but or x them out. Okay,

846
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:16,759
Speaker 2: payable right now, because well the confidence is broken. That's

847
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 2: a good point. Maybe it'll force your brother to tell

848
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 2: you the real reason why he doesn't want you in

849
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:24,959
Speaker 2: his wedding anymore. So they're saving money already from going

850
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:29,359
Speaker 2: to the venue, then they're downsizing it. That makes no

851
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:33,120
Speaker 2: sense at all. Really, don't thinking about it because already

852
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 2: realistically they're already saving half of the money from the venue.

853
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 2: They'd be able to pour more money into more food

854
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 2: and stuff. It come in or three. I'm curious why

855
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:45,600
Speaker 2: didn't your brother ask you to be in the wedding

856
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 2: to begin with. You say you made it a condition

857
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,960
Speaker 2: for him to use your property and he agreed. Why

858
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:55,160
Speaker 2: would it be a condition if he didn't ask you

859
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 2: even before the property was offered. Why you to not

860
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:03,239
Speaker 2: really get along or that close was his argument? What

861
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 2: was this argument about? Now you say it it wasn't

862
00:43:05,719 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 2: a big deal, but maybe you don't think it was.

863
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 2: But he does. What happened for him to make up

864
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 2: that excuse, which you know is is the deal, tells

865
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:18,279
Speaker 2: me he didn't want you and the wedding party to

866
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 2: begin with. In regard, I don't blame you. I think

867
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:25,320
Speaker 2: you need to elaborate regarding your relationship with your brother.

868
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 2: So we're getting into the update right now. Update September sixth.

869
00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:32,880
Speaker 2: That just happened.

870
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 1: That literally, what is it?

871
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:36,040
Speaker 2: It's the sixth and eighth.

872
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it was ten days ago. This year

873
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:39,720
Speaker 1: is gone.

874
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 2: It's been a good year.

875
00:43:41,520 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been a good I think it's my best

876
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:44,080
Speaker 1: year yet.

877
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 2: Wow, I would say so too. I was having a

878
00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 2: hard time believing my brother when he told me they

879
00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 2: were downsizing the wedding party just to make it more intimate.

880
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:56,840
Speaker 2: But that's all he kept saying when I would ask

881
00:43:56,920 --> 00:43:58,280
Speaker 2: him for the real reason.

882
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 1: That's annoying. He's trying to commute it, kay, and his

883
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 1: brother's not even giving him the respect and decency to say,

884
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: and I don't feel close to could he could just say, like,

885
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 1: I don't feel as close to.

886
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:09,439
Speaker 2: You and I you know, yeah, that's a good point.

887
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 2: But the downsizing excuse to me doesn't make any sense.

888
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,879
Speaker 2: Because he is already saying so much money on the venue. Yeah,

889
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 2: why is he downsizing?

890
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:21,680
Speaker 1: Exactly? What's the You know, you're not downsizing for costs?

891
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:24,920
Speaker 2: And remember the little argument they had beforehand. Then the

892
00:44:24,920 --> 00:44:27,000
Speaker 2: next day the brother asked him, hey, you're not in

893
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:29,719
Speaker 2: the wedding party. Were downsizing? Just a little tiff, but

894
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:31,600
Speaker 2: he didn't explain what it was, and it was probably

895
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:32,880
Speaker 2: a bigger argument to the brother.

896
00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 1: Probably he probably took that more to heart.

897
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 2: I wish we could have him here right now, we

898
00:44:37,200 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 2: could ask him.

899
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:39,640
Speaker 1: I think it is really important to know what that

900
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:41,879
Speaker 1: argument was about, because it might, you know, it might,

901
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:44,439
Speaker 1: it could like with.

902
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 2: A difference of ages immaturity, it was probably bigger to

903
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:49,920
Speaker 2: the brother than it is to Ope. I agree. I

904
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 2: agree in all honesty, my brother and I aren't close,

905
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 2: which I am sure is obvious from my last post.

906
00:44:57,480 --> 00:45:00,520
Speaker 2: After my emotions settled down a bit, I told my

907
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 2: brother I wanted to talk to him. He wasn't responding

908
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,719
Speaker 2: to me, so I said I wanted to talk to

909
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 2: him about potentially letting them still use my vacation house.

910
00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 1: Okay, so now he's kind of doubling back.

911
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 2: It's a it's a bait. It feels like a bait.

912
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 2: I want to talk to you, but I'll give you

913
00:45:18,080 --> 00:45:20,520
Speaker 2: the house. It feels like a bait.

914
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 1: And also just the bit earlier where he was like, oh, yeah,

915
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 1: my brother thinks I'm like super successful, and he's like

916
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:29,439
Speaker 1: does because I'm always with these cool women and blah

917
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: blah blah. I'm a little bit and I don't know

918
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:34,120
Speaker 1: if I trust him as much anymore.

919
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, and another point to the brother, will help out

920
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:41,760
Speaker 2: the parents because I seem like older. Yeah, with more time,

921
00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:46,279
Speaker 2: and uh OPI will you will pay them, like help

922
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 2: them out, supporting them financially.

923
00:45:47,800 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 1: Oh we learned that.

924
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, we learned that.

925
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 3: M M.

926
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I don't know about this.

927
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 2: That's a good cat show. He's still using the money

928
00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:57,719
Speaker 2: mm hmm. Not totally the truth, but it seemed like

929
00:45:57,719 --> 00:45:59,400
Speaker 2: a good way to get him to talk.

930
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 1: This is your faults, literally your faults. You're bribing him.

931
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 1: You're bribing him. This is why your relationship is crumbling.

932
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:12,360
Speaker 1: This is why you're not he's a part of his

933
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:16,319
Speaker 1: grooms man. Did you just keep bribing him? Oh?

934
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 2: Man, I bet Whenever the brother was young, he'd always

935
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 2: he's like, hey.

936
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:24,319
Speaker 1: Can you do Can you do my chores? He's a

937
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:25,920
Speaker 1: star Wars is a dollar.

938
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 2: Oh man. He finally responded, but said I couldn't come

939
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 2: over and he would only meet me somewhere public, which

940
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,920
Speaker 2: seemed weird. We ended up meeting at a bar late

941
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 2: last night that I like near my place, and I

942
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:44,280
Speaker 2: straight up just asked him why he was really kicking

943
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:46,720
Speaker 2: me out of his wedding, and I would only consider

944
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:49,360
Speaker 2: letting them use my vacation house if he told me

945
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:53,800
Speaker 2: the truth. He was getting pretty fidgety and looking away

946
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 2: from me, and finally he told me the truth. Apparently

947
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 2: isance heard that I may do a bit of Coca

948
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 2: Cola here and there for fun, and she told me

949
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:13,240
Speaker 2: that she didn't want a Coca Cola head in her wedding.

950
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 2: He said he actually kind of agreed with her and

951
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 2: was disappointed in what I was doing. How else he

952
00:47:22,440 --> 00:47:24,360
Speaker 2: supposed to be a finance role? How is he supposed

953
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:25,040
Speaker 2: to fit in.

954
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:31,280
Speaker 1: Everything I learned about? He is kind of crazy. Just

955
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:36,360
Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, so like I bribe my brother to

956
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:38,359
Speaker 1: let him be one of my to make me one

957
00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 1: of my his grims men, And I'm like, I do

958
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 1: a lot of you know, coca Cola and uh great,

959
00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:52,280
Speaker 1: not great. He's not looking super good for him.

960
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:54,840
Speaker 2: I told him, if I'm too much of a Coca

961
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:59,320
Speaker 2: Cola head uh to be there, then they really shouldn't

962
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 2: want to use a Coca Cola's house for their wedding.

963
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 2: And I left because he might have Coca Cola.

964
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 1: Everywhere, you know what. I'm kind of wondering if that

965
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 1: that argument was about this about co cola. Yeah, you know,

966
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:19,279
Speaker 1: like was it op using substances and the brother being like, hey,

967
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 1: you know, you should cut back. I think maybe everyone

968
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: talks here a little bit.

969
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:25,319
Speaker 2: Everyone we got a little bit more.

970
00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, okay, so hard.

971
00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 2: I don't really see how it impacts them what I

972
00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 2: do in my free time, but I really don't care

973
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 2: to be there now if that's what they think of me.

974
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:39,360
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, I haven't said a word to

975
00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 2: him since, but I'm guessing I won't be hearing from

976
00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:47,839
Speaker 2: them again soon. Little at it that that does impact them.

977
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 1: I do think that Coca Cola has its own kind

978
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:57,440
Speaker 1: of like it's it's very different than how people view

979
00:48:57,560 --> 00:49:00,800
Speaker 1: other substances, you know, like I I feel like people,

980
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:04,920
Speaker 1: I mean, because it's become so well like widely used.

981
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 1: It's much more common, and like people are like, oh, yeah, that,

982
00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:10,680
Speaker 1: like they just do that, you know, they just smoke tweed.

983
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 1: But with coca cola, it's like, oh, and so I

984
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:19,360
Speaker 1: can kind of see where they're coming from in the

985
00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:24,839
Speaker 1: sense of like societally, you know, societally people don't look

986
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:27,759
Speaker 1: at that favorably. So they are like, ah, we don't,

987
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 1: we don't.

988
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:31,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, because if it's the you know, the brother's big day,

989
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 2: coca cola is is going to be there. Yeah, Oh,

990
00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:36,759
Speaker 2: just let me have a little bit of coca cola.

991
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:38,319
Speaker 2: It's not that big of adea is this?

992
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:43,000
Speaker 1: I guess it really depends on oh, PE's usage of it.

993
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: I guess, like, is he the type of person to

994
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 1: bring it around people? Is that what they're worried about?

995
00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:51,400
Speaker 1: If it's just his own recreational use and he's not

996
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:53,080
Speaker 1: spreading around and that's his own.

997
00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:56,720
Speaker 2: Thing, yeah, comments, Oh, you must be a plug addict.

998
00:49:56,960 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 2: I do coca cola maybe a handful of time, so

999
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:04,799
Speaker 2: reclarationally with some people that I party with. Obviously, this

1000
00:50:04,920 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 2: gossip traveled through the grapevine where circles overlapped and got

1001
00:50:10,239 --> 00:50:14,720
Speaker 2: to them somehow. I wasn't discovered because I'm an addict

1002
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:19,880
Speaker 2: like some hat. Some have said, it's more common than

1003
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 2: you think. You'd be surprised who does it. That's what

1004
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:25,520
Speaker 2: some people in the comments. That's necessarily the I don't know,

1005
00:50:26,680 --> 00:50:29,400
Speaker 2: statistically one of us has been doing it this whole time.

1006
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 2: Number two, you must have a pug problem for them

1007
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:36,919
Speaker 2: to react that way about it. My brother's fiance comes

1008
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:40,319
Speaker 2: from a very religious and conservative family. They right down

1009
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:44,040
Speaker 2: the road for me. They think anyone that does hard

1010
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 2: pug must be a degenerate that is going to h

1011
00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:52,360
Speaker 2: double hockey sticks. That's the funny part about her calling

1012
00:50:52,400 --> 00:50:56,200
Speaker 2: me a Coca cola head smack is whack. She clearly

1013
00:50:56,239 --> 00:50:59,720
Speaker 2: doesn't understand Coca Cola is different. But I'm not going

1014
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:02,359
Speaker 2: to go on a mission to educate her. That would

1015
00:51:02,360 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 2: be a waste of effort on my part. I don't know.

1016
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:05,719
Speaker 2: You should probably take both of them to her and

1017
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:06,239
Speaker 2: show her that.

1018
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 1: Take this one testimony, do a little test you just don't.

1019
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 2: Worry Coca Cola s mack. You can be successful in

1020
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 2: live and recreationally use bugs. These two aren't mutually exclusive. Honestly,

1021
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 2: pretty much, anyone I know that does Coca Cola has

1022
00:51:25,800 --> 00:51:28,920
Speaker 2: plenty of money and a great job, or they marry

1023
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:30,719
Speaker 2: someone rich sla should inherited money.

1024
00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:33,319
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it is. I think it is very much

1025
00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:36,960
Speaker 1: a thing that like very rich crowds will do like

1026
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:38,640
Speaker 1: it just goes around and stuff.

1027
00:51:40,280 --> 00:51:43,799
Speaker 2: Wolf of wall Streak was right. Does that mean I

1028
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:46,600
Speaker 2: have to start doing Coca Cola in order to do

1029
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 2: that more financially?

1030
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: That's works if you do it. You didn't know, No,

1031
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:57,759
Speaker 1: it's don't do kids bottle comments.

1032
00:51:57,880 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 2: Well, after scrolling through a decent amount of I've come

1033
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:04,759
Speaker 2: to the conclusion that I'm obviously a terrible douchebag with

1034
00:52:04,840 --> 00:52:09,360
Speaker 2: an enormous pug problem that only thinks about himself and

1035
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:13,760
Speaker 2: is extremely conceited. Some parts of that may be true,

1036
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 2: but I do care about my family and trying to

1037
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:21,200
Speaker 2: help my parents in the way I know how. For

1038
00:52:21,360 --> 00:52:24,480
Speaker 2: those of you that are familiar with fight clip, we

1039
00:52:24,520 --> 00:52:25,279
Speaker 2: don't talk about that.

1040
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:26,880
Speaker 1: You're just waiting for me to read it.

1041
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:31,920
Speaker 2: I'm single serving friend kind of person. I don't really

1042
00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:34,479
Speaker 2: get close with many people, and I have a hard

1043
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:36,600
Speaker 2: time staying in one place. That's why I have a

1044
00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:38,960
Speaker 2: job where I need to travel all the time. I

1045
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:42,399
Speaker 2: like the variety and the challenge of it settling down,

1046
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:47,600
Speaker 2: having kids and all that makes me super uncomfortable. Obviously

1047
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:51,560
Speaker 2: i'd be terrible fathers, so there's no way I'll have kids.

1048
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:55,919
Speaker 2: Snip snip. My brother is a settled down kind of guy,

1049
00:52:56,400 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 2: and thinking about it, that's probably why he doesn't like me.

1050
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 2: I wanted to be the Grunisland for him because I

1051
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:04,359
Speaker 2: wanted to be a part of something in his life.

1052
00:53:04,800 --> 00:53:08,400
Speaker 2: But in a capacity I can handle. One last note,

1053
00:53:08,440 --> 00:53:11,200
Speaker 2: I've got awesome parents that love me for who I am,

1054
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 2: and they know I love them if I'm not around

1055
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:17,000
Speaker 2: a ton. They work super hard to raise us and

1056
00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:21,799
Speaker 2: give us everything we needed, and they came from a

1057
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 2: poorer background. I help them. I help them how I

1058
00:53:26,239 --> 00:53:30,080
Speaker 2: know I can not. Everyone shows their care in the

1059
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:33,359
Speaker 2: same way you do. So chill and don't think I'm

1060
00:53:33,400 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 2: such an ass because of my caring is mostly financial.

1061
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 2: Peace out friends, Okay, so Ope responds to one comment,

1062
00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:45,839
Speaker 2: I'll read this. I'm getting older. I'm seeing just how

1063
00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:50,320
Speaker 2: many people actually do coca cola and it's usually occasional.

1064
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:54,920
Speaker 2: Has completely changed my perspective. Also, smack and coca cola

1065
00:53:54,960 --> 00:54:00,160
Speaker 2: are very, very different. Rip Whitney that Domar's reason, and

1066
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:04,399
Speaker 2: do they think you're going to be strung out during

1067
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:09,480
Speaker 2: the wedding. They want the Coca Cola heads rental property,

1068
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 2: but not the Coca Cola head it make it make sense?

1069
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:16,360
Speaker 2: Not the ahle o p. I use how you're describing.

1070
00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 2: You're one correct. I don't touch smack. Just recreational Coca

1071
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:25,600
Speaker 2: Cola and I am very functional in my life. He's

1072
00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 2: defending himself.

1073
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:30,400
Speaker 1: I I I don't know much about Coca cola. What

1074
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 1: is the what's recreational? That is he just saying I

1075
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:34,480
Speaker 1: do it like.

1076
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:37,480
Speaker 2: Remember whom with to Paris when all those people were

1077
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:39,960
Speaker 2: dancing around and they were like, yeah, that's recreational.

1078
00:54:40,080 --> 00:54:43,279
Speaker 1: Okay. So is he basically saying I'm not addicted. I'm

1079
00:54:43,320 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 1: just using it a little bit. That's my experience.

1080
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:47,759
Speaker 2: Okay, that's what he means by that.

1081
00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:48,320
Speaker 1: Gotcha?

1082
00:54:48,920 --> 00:54:52,000
Speaker 2: Uh, probably not healthy, but I see it like out, Oh,

1083
00:54:52,080 --> 00:54:55,000
Speaker 2: I'm not abusing it, I'm just doing it. So I'm

1084
00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:55,720
Speaker 2: doing okay.

1085
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:57,280
Speaker 1: Those ones are a little bit different.

1086
00:54:57,680 --> 00:55:00,360
Speaker 2: My brother didn't say who they heard it from, but

1087
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:03,000
Speaker 2: I could guess a handful of people that would be

1088
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,920
Speaker 2: in a party group I hang out with that news

1089
00:55:06,160 --> 00:55:09,600
Speaker 2: like that could travel from if they didn't hear it

1090
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:13,120
Speaker 2: through the grapevine, they'll never they never would have known I,

1091
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:17,760
Speaker 2: so I obviously wouldn't have got gone to their wedding

1092
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:21,560
Speaker 2: strung out. A pretty large number of people don't get that.

1093
00:55:21,680 --> 00:55:24,320
Speaker 2: You're absolutely right there you go, that's a story.

1094
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 1: He really didn't make me like him by the end,

1095
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 1: I will say, I think I think still probably I'm

1096
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 1: on the page of everyone sucks here, just because you

1097
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:36,080
Speaker 1: can't kick someone out of a wedding that they're giving

1098
00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:39,960
Speaker 1: you like a free place for. But also the way

1099
00:55:40,000 --> 00:55:42,640
Speaker 1: that Opie was telling this story just did not make

1100
00:55:42,719 --> 00:55:43,279
Speaker 1: him look good.

1101
00:55:43,520 --> 00:55:47,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, he definitely does seem I was getting an arcissistic vibes.

1102
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:51,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was just like, oh, I'm so much richer

1103
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:56,640
Speaker 1: than my family. He's jealous of me. And then like

1104
00:55:56,719 --> 00:56:00,400
Speaker 1: every time he was talking about he was like addiction,

1105
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:03,799
Speaker 1: I'm not let me tell you more about this, And

1106
00:56:03,840 --> 00:56:07,040
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, dude, all right, dude, I didn't

1107
00:56:07,040 --> 00:56:11,279
Speaker 1: personally invite my sister to my engagement party. Now I

1108
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:13,280
Speaker 1: think she's boycotting my wedding.

1109
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:17,080
Speaker 2: No wedding, no wedding. If I can't go, they can't marry.

1110
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:20,720
Speaker 1: She has a whole picket fence around the wedding.

1111
00:56:20,840 --> 00:56:24,399
Speaker 5: She's like, no one's going in, yeah, is sir?

1112
00:56:24,680 --> 00:56:28,560
Speaker 1: I twenty four female. Am an Indian, specifically Bengali. I

1113
00:56:28,600 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 1: have always lived in a joint family. We were a

1114
00:56:31,160 --> 00:56:35,880
Speaker 1: total of ten members, including my paternal grandparents, mom, dad,

1115
00:56:36,040 --> 00:56:40,160
Speaker 1: my brother, my paternal granduncle, is wife, aunt and their

1116
00:56:40,239 --> 00:56:43,160
Speaker 1: two children, my older sister, and another brother who's a

1117
00:56:43,239 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 1: year older to me. We have a big house, so

1118
00:56:46,400 --> 00:56:49,080
Speaker 1: we never had issues of privacy or anything. We were

1119
00:56:49,120 --> 00:56:51,880
Speaker 1: really close growing up. I was specifically close to my

1120
00:56:51,960 --> 00:56:56,319
Speaker 1: older sister. We called her Priya thirty three female. I

1121
00:56:56,360 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 1: looked up to her since I was really young. I

1122
00:56:58,200 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 1: think that's what happens when you have a sister. And

1123
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:03,000
Speaker 1: by the way, this comes from one oh one with

1124
00:57:03,080 --> 00:57:05,440
Speaker 1: our on the R slash shokey story time subrid it.

1125
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:09,719
Speaker 1: The problem started between us when I became a teenager.

1126
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 1: My parents were more open minded and enrolled me into

1127
00:57:13,239 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 1: a variety of extracurricular classes. I was not super academic,

1128
00:57:17,320 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 1: so I did much more to become an all rounder student.

1129
00:57:20,520 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 1: Indian parents my uncle and aunt, on the other hand,

1130
00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:28,000
Speaker 1: were very strict and both their children were flourishing academically nice.

1131
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:31,200
Speaker 1: When I became a teen, I became quite popular in school.

1132
00:57:31,360 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 1: Not because I got really good at classical and semi

1133
00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:41,240
Speaker 1: classical dancing, because yeah, yeah, like she was doing it,

1134
00:57:41,280 --> 00:57:43,960
Speaker 1: but she wasn't popular for those reasons. My parents were

1135
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:46,320
Speaker 1: not super interested in all this, so I would often

1136
00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:51,200
Speaker 1: share those wins with Priya. That's when things started to spiral.

1137
00:57:51,640 --> 00:57:54,240
Speaker 1: She would often discourage me and tell me to focus

1138
00:57:54,280 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 1: on studying. Slowly, these pep talks became straight hate. When

1139
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:01,720
Speaker 1: I became a high schooler, I decided that I wanted

1140
00:58:01,760 --> 00:58:04,680
Speaker 1: to study fashion. I was always creative and used to

1141
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:07,440
Speaker 1: sketch designs whenever I would have any free time and

1142
00:58:07,480 --> 00:58:10,360
Speaker 1: show them to Priya. I was unaware of this, but

1143
00:58:10,440 --> 00:58:12,800
Speaker 1: she started to copy them and one day threw a

1144
00:58:12,840 --> 00:58:16,400
Speaker 1: fit in front of the family, showing those designs, claiming

1145
00:58:16,440 --> 00:58:18,560
Speaker 1: that she had talent and she wanted to switch to

1146
00:58:18,600 --> 00:58:21,680
Speaker 1: studying fashion. She is nine years older than me, and

1147
00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 1: she was studying chemistry at a renowned college at this point.

1148
00:58:25,600 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 1: WHOA Okay, wait, so o peas becoming kind of a

1149
00:58:29,440 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 1: fashion person. She's getting into it and showing these designs,

1150
00:58:33,120 --> 00:58:39,520
Speaker 1: and Priya's like stealing them, stealing them and trying to

1151
00:58:39,560 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 1: start her own fashion career. What is she gonna do

1152
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:44,680
Speaker 1: when she actually goes to school for that.

1153
00:58:45,200 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 2: She can't, when she can't draw oh PE's inspirations anymore,

1154
00:58:51,120 --> 00:58:52,000
Speaker 2: just come up with her own.

1155
00:58:52,440 --> 00:58:54,040
Speaker 1: That's pretty silly.

1156
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:56,360
Speaker 2: I think the cousin has just looked up to or

1157
00:58:56,440 --> 00:58:59,480
Speaker 2: Priya has just looked up to Op so much. Anything

1158
00:58:59,480 --> 00:59:02,040
Speaker 2: you do, I could do because yeah, it sounds like

1159
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:07,520
Speaker 2: Pries's parents are super strict. Yeah, since uh opis a

1160
00:59:07,560 --> 00:59:09,800
Speaker 2: port of Priest's family, whatever she does, she feels the

1161
00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:13,479
Speaker 2: right that she can also do oh OPI has gone

1162
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 2: down this route. That means I have the Yeah, I

1163
00:59:16,400 --> 00:59:17,880
Speaker 2: can do that. I can also do that, and there.

1164
00:59:17,920 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 1: Can be the better. Yeah, it feels tough.

1165
00:59:20,880 --> 00:59:21,479
Speaker 2: It feels tough.

1166
00:59:22,360 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 1: My uncle and aunt were shocked, obviously and decided to

1167
00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:29,240
Speaker 1: ignore her. Her tantrums were quite common in our households.

1168
00:59:29,440 --> 00:59:32,200
Speaker 1: What happened that secks because they were so close, you know,

1169
00:59:32,920 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 1: and also she's like ten years older. Why is she

1170
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:39,880
Speaker 1: reacting so immaturely? During my high school years, I'm I

1171
00:59:39,960 --> 00:59:43,760
Speaker 1: remember being completely isolated because of my toxic BF and Priya.

1172
00:59:44,320 --> 00:59:47,760
Speaker 1: It was always about her problems, her life, her boyfriend.

1173
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:50,720
Speaker 1: And yeah, this is also when Priya decided to take

1174
00:59:50,760 --> 00:59:53,520
Speaker 1: a crucial decision and get married to a guy she

1175
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:57,080
Speaker 1: met on Facebook and has been talking to for two months.

1176
00:59:57,360 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 1: Oh my oh man. She also carefully worked her wedding

1177
01:00:01,640 --> 01:00:03,280
Speaker 1: dates around to be on the exact time of my

1178
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:07,520
Speaker 1: final exams. I got my exam scheduled earlier and informed

1179
01:00:07,520 --> 01:00:11,360
Speaker 1: her beforehand, but she decided to ignore it. An Indian

1180
01:00:11,400 --> 01:00:14,840
Speaker 1: wedding is a whole shebang and takes news. She was

1181
01:00:14,880 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 1: a bridezilla, y'all. Anyway, after this was over, I got

1182
01:00:18,760 --> 01:00:21,480
Speaker 1: into a good fashion school, shifted to a different state,

1183
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:25,080
Speaker 1: and slowly cut back on communicating with her. We would

1184
01:00:25,080 --> 01:00:27,520
Speaker 1: text here and there, but that was all. We would

1185
01:00:27,560 --> 01:00:29,720
Speaker 1: meet up on holidays when I went back home, but

1186
01:00:29,800 --> 01:00:33,840
Speaker 1: it was brief and didn't have much drama. After COVID,

1187
01:00:33,920 --> 01:00:37,520
Speaker 1: I continued working online and shifted back home and started

1188
01:00:37,600 --> 01:00:41,240
Speaker 1: dating my now boyfriend in twenty twenty one. Later, we

1189
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:44,160
Speaker 1: found out our parents are friends and it became so

1190
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:47,480
Speaker 1: much fun. We would go out to eat together, I

1191
01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:49,960
Speaker 1: would go shopping with his mom, and he's super chill

1192
01:00:50,000 --> 01:00:54,080
Speaker 1: with my family. Earlier this year, we decided to get

1193
01:00:54,120 --> 01:00:58,520
Speaker 1: engaged way. Okay, so the wedding with Pria already happened

1194
01:00:58,520 --> 01:01:00,680
Speaker 1: in OPI wasn't able to go. I guess so that

1195
01:01:00,840 --> 01:01:02,680
Speaker 1: was just like she just had to kind of get

1196
01:01:02,680 --> 01:01:02,960
Speaker 1: over that.

1197
01:01:03,120 --> 01:01:03,280
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1198
01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:06,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, but in India we can't do that without family.

1199
01:01:06,680 --> 01:01:09,960
Speaker 1: So we sat down with our immediate family and decided

1200
01:01:10,000 --> 01:01:12,640
Speaker 1: to have a party this December, to have a formal

1201
01:01:12,720 --> 01:01:18,640
Speaker 1: re exchange and a formal introduction to each other's extended family.

1202
01:01:18,880 --> 01:01:19,200
Speaker 2: Okay.

1203
01:01:20,240 --> 01:01:22,920
Speaker 1: I decided to call Priya and let her know this

1204
01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:25,040
Speaker 1: was before the date was set. She told me this

1205
01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:28,760
Speaker 1: exact line. Oh my god, you have gotten so desperate.

1206
01:01:28,840 --> 01:01:31,640
Speaker 1: Why can't you wait like I did? Making a career

1207
01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:34,160
Speaker 1: working from home is not going to make you big bucks?

1208
01:01:34,520 --> 01:01:37,600
Speaker 1: You gen zers are so lazy. Do you really want

1209
01:01:37,600 --> 01:01:41,200
Speaker 1: to settle at this young age. I tried defending myself,

1210
01:01:41,240 --> 01:01:44,320
Speaker 1: but it obviously didn't work. I don't know why I

1211
01:01:44,360 --> 01:01:46,840
Speaker 1: even tried. Wait, but she'd got with that guy she

1212
01:01:46,920 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 1: knew for two months, exactly, so hypocritical.

1213
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:49,880
Speaker 2: Exactly.

1214
01:01:50,320 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 1: Simultaneously, my parents were informing all the close relatives and

1215
01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:57,000
Speaker 1: working a date around almost everyone's schedule and set a date.

1216
01:01:57,720 --> 01:02:01,400
Speaker 1: During this process, my brother called too, but she didn't

1217
01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:04,520
Speaker 1: seem interested. We have now sent her an invite, but

1218
01:02:04,560 --> 01:02:08,240
Speaker 1: she hasn't responded to that either. She hasn't congratulated me

1219
01:02:08,400 --> 01:02:10,960
Speaker 1: or anything. I know I shouldn't be bothered, but I

1220
01:02:10,960 --> 01:02:13,600
Speaker 1: am thinking maybe it's because I didn't personally call her

1221
01:02:13,720 --> 01:02:16,400
Speaker 1: or something. It's a thing in India, but I don't

1222
01:02:16,480 --> 01:02:19,360
Speaker 1: want to call her first after what happened the last time.

1223
01:02:19,840 --> 01:02:27,040
Speaker 1: So am I the a hole? Okay? So basically what

1224
01:02:27,200 --> 01:02:31,760
Speaker 1: happened is they had that fight. Ope kind of or

1225
01:02:31,880 --> 01:02:34,280
Speaker 1: sent out invites but didn't call her up and say, hey,

1226
01:02:34,280 --> 01:02:38,480
Speaker 1: you're invited. Yeah, and now she's pissy about it. M hmm,

1227
01:02:38,680 --> 01:02:42,000
Speaker 1: that's so stupid. I don't think op's the a hole here.

1228
01:02:42,080 --> 01:02:44,400
Speaker 1: I think Priya is being kind of a nightmare.

1229
01:02:44,840 --> 01:02:45,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1230
01:02:45,320 --> 01:02:48,240
Speaker 1: And do you really want her there anyway?

1231
01:02:48,560 --> 01:02:52,800
Speaker 2: Yeah? Has always been a nightmare judgmental Yeah, does I

1232
01:02:52,840 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 2: have your best interest in money? Either?

1233
01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:54,560
Speaker 3: No?

1234
01:02:54,800 --> 01:02:56,080
Speaker 1: I mean she's still signed.

1235
01:02:56,280 --> 01:02:58,000
Speaker 2: You don't need those vibes in your life.

1236
01:02:58,200 --> 01:03:03,040
Speaker 1: Literally, get her out more context, The call I referred

1237
01:03:03,040 --> 01:03:06,000
Speaker 1: to here happened earlier in July because we had this

1238
01:03:06,080 --> 01:03:09,240
Speaker 1: discussion about the engagement party. End of June, she has

1239
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:11,880
Speaker 1: gone zero contact with me. Since then. I had my

1240
01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:14,919
Speaker 1: birthday on July as well, no wishes from her or call.

1241
01:03:15,600 --> 01:03:18,200
Speaker 1: I had an amazing birthday, though I already told my

1242
01:03:18,240 --> 01:03:21,280
Speaker 1: parents what she said. My parents are calm people, they

1243
01:03:21,280 --> 01:03:24,400
Speaker 1: said to ignore her. It was my aunt Priya's mom

1244
01:03:24,440 --> 01:03:26,480
Speaker 1: who had to sit down talk with me and started

1245
01:03:26,520 --> 01:03:29,280
Speaker 1: telling me about her my sister's hardships all of a sudden,

1246
01:03:29,720 --> 01:03:32,240
Speaker 1: about her growing up with strict parents and no friends

1247
01:03:32,240 --> 01:03:34,680
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. I guess she told her about

1248
01:03:34,680 --> 01:03:36,840
Speaker 1: our chat on the phone. I don't know. I've been

1249
01:03:36,880 --> 01:03:40,560
Speaker 1: feeling guilty ever since then. The people pleaser in me

1250
01:03:40,640 --> 01:03:43,440
Speaker 1: is struggling the thing like you, but you haven't done

1251
01:03:43,440 --> 01:03:46,200
Speaker 1: anything wrong. If she wants to come to the wedding

1252
01:03:46,280 --> 01:03:49,680
Speaker 1: she was invited, Yeah, Like she's the one not reaching

1253
01:03:49,720 --> 01:03:52,720
Speaker 1: out to you. It seems like, oh, he has already tried.

1254
01:03:53,200 --> 01:03:55,720
Speaker 1: When you have really really strict parents and you're trying

1255
01:03:55,720 --> 01:03:59,120
Speaker 1: to live up to their expectations, sometimes you turn up

1256
01:03:59,160 --> 01:04:02,960
Speaker 1: turned out to be the best person. Relevant comments, though

1257
01:04:03,400 --> 01:04:06,919
Speaker 1: Ms Mellow four twenty says absolutely not the a hole.

1258
01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:08,880
Speaker 1: Your sister is jealous of you. I would go no

1259
01:04:09,040 --> 01:04:12,400
Speaker 1: slash low contact with her. She doesn't want to celebrate you.

1260
01:04:12,600 --> 01:04:15,480
Speaker 1: Or any of your achievements, So why continue to waste

1261
01:04:15,480 --> 01:04:16,560
Speaker 1: your time and energy?

1262
01:04:16,680 --> 01:04:17,080
Speaker 2: There we go.

1263
01:04:17,480 --> 01:04:21,280
Speaker 1: Just because she's blood doesn't mean she's true. Family. Family

1264
01:04:21,360 --> 01:04:23,760
Speaker 1: is supposed to love and support you. I didn't read

1265
01:04:23,800 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 1: any of that coming from her. Lots of love and

1266
01:04:25,760 --> 01:04:28,920
Speaker 1: lif to you. Please keep us posted and op responded.

1267
01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:33,640
Speaker 1: She has gone zero contact with me after that faithful call. Also,

1268
01:04:33,760 --> 01:04:36,720
Speaker 1: I decided to add those details. And you're so right.

1269
01:04:36,960 --> 01:04:39,240
Speaker 1: I don't need to feel guilty just because she's blood.

1270
01:04:39,720 --> 01:04:42,880
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I hope you're having a lovely day,

1271
01:04:43,360 --> 01:04:45,960
Speaker 1: lots of and that is the end of that story.

1272
01:04:47,080 --> 01:04:50,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, good, Yeah, good end. No, I think it's go

1273
01:04:50,480 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 2: no contact.

1274
01:04:51,200 --> 01:04:53,480
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think going no contact is the best or

1275
01:04:53,560 --> 01:04:58,000
Speaker 1: at least low contact until she reaches out and you know,

1276
01:04:58,120 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 1: realizes that she's being awful. But you know, she's had

1277
01:05:01,920 --> 01:05:06,280
Speaker 1: so many chances. She purposely made it so you couldn't

1278
01:05:06,280 --> 01:05:11,400
Speaker 1: come to her wedding. She stole your fashion ideas, she's

1279
01:05:11,600 --> 01:05:14,840
Speaker 1: you know, been rude at your wedding, and there's just

1280
01:05:14,880 --> 01:05:15,720
Speaker 1: no point.

1281
01:05:16,320 --> 01:05:20,360
Speaker 5: My aunt is having an affair with her best friend's husband,

1282
01:05:20,560 --> 01:05:24,400
Speaker 5: but my family refuses to intervene. I don't want to

1283
01:05:24,400 --> 01:05:28,400
Speaker 5: stop this lady guys, it's time to intervene. Do she

1284
01:05:28,560 --> 01:05:31,840
Speaker 5: be cheating? So this may be long, and I'm sorry

1285
01:05:31,880 --> 01:05:35,240
Speaker 5: if so. I just have been sitting on this for

1286
01:05:35,320 --> 01:05:37,920
Speaker 5: so long and I need advice. I'm going to break

1287
01:05:37,960 --> 01:05:41,520
Speaker 5: down the four people important to this story below for ease.

1288
01:05:41,920 --> 01:05:45,520
Speaker 5: My aunt the cheater, let's call her April, my uncle,

1289
01:05:45,600 --> 01:05:49,560
Speaker 5: the victim who will call Kurt, my aunt's bff. Another

1290
01:05:49,720 --> 01:05:53,720
Speaker 5: victim that will call Sasha, and the bff's husband is

1291
01:05:53,760 --> 01:05:56,920
Speaker 5: also a cheater, will call Mark. So we've got April

1292
01:05:57,080 --> 01:06:03,000
Speaker 5: the cheating aunt, Kurt the victim, Uncle, the bff, Sasha,

1293
01:06:03,040 --> 01:06:06,360
Speaker 5: and her husband Mark. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 5: user Cinnamon Girl nine eight on the r slash Okay storytime,

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Speaker 5: So about it? So small backstory. April and Sasha have

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Speaker 5: been BFFs since childhood and now are in their forties.

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Speaker 5: They literally have girl Scout photos together when they were kids.

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Speaker 1: That's cute.

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Speaker 5: Sasha and Mark met in their early twenties, and I've

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Speaker 5: known both my entire life and their family. In my eyes,

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Speaker 5: they've done more for me than my own family has.

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Speaker 5: Both Mark and Sasha are good people. They also have

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Speaker 5: a fourteenish year old son who I won't mention anymore

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01:06:39,800 --> 01:06:42,200
Speaker 5: as he's a kid. Mark and Sasha hooked my aunt

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Speaker 5: up with her husband, Kurt, as Kurt and Mark are

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01:06:44,920 --> 01:06:47,840
Speaker 5: close friends. Not sure how close or how long. My

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Speaker 5: aunt and Kurt have been together since their late twenties

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Speaker 5: and married for eight years. So Sasha and Mark got

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01:06:53,960 --> 01:06:56,280
Speaker 5: married only a year or two ago, as Mark didn't

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Speaker 5: really want to be legally married, but Sasha definitely did.

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Speaker 5: A couple of years ago, my older brother and I

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Speaker 5: were at his apartment just bull crapping, and I brought

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01:07:05,080 --> 01:07:07,160
Speaker 5: up that I had a feeling that Mark was cheating

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Speaker 5: on Sasha because on Sasha's Facebook profile, she would post

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Speaker 5: almost daily about the gifts or flowers or cards that

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Speaker 5: Mark would bring home to her. It was literally a

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Speaker 5: dozen roses a day, or a gift or some cute

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01:07:19,880 --> 01:07:22,520
Speaker 5: note that he wrote for I told my brother it

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01:07:22,560 --> 01:07:26,840
Speaker 5: felt like Mark was compensating for possibly cheating on Sasha.

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Speaker 5: So there's just you can never.

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Speaker 1: Do anything right. Even if you do everything right. You

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Speaker 1: bring her a dozen roses a day, Now you're a cheater.

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Speaker 5: My brother goes quiet, and I can tell he's wanting

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Speaker 5: to say something, so I push him and he finally

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01:07:39,960 --> 01:07:42,920
Speaker 5: admits that our aunt April told him that she's been

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Speaker 5: having an affair with Sasha's husband Mark. Ooh, I'm appalled

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Speaker 5: so much that I don't believe him. All four of

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01:07:51,160 --> 01:07:54,520
Speaker 5: these people have been best friends forever for over a

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Speaker 5: decade now, and they get together all the time as couples.

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Speaker 5: I never imagined it was my aunt who he was

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01:08:01,240 --> 01:08:04,360
Speaker 5: cheating on Sasha with. I confronted my aunt about this

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Speaker 5: as soon as I could. She breaks down to me

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01:08:06,520 --> 01:08:09,320
Speaker 5: and tells me it's true. They're having an emotional and

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01:08:09,360 --> 01:08:12,400
Speaker 5: a smectual relationship with each other and they have been

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01:08:12,520 --> 01:08:17,080
Speaker 5: for years. Her aunt and her best friend, Sasha's husband

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Speaker 5: Mark have been bumping uglies.

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Speaker 1: Ew ew you on multiple level.

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Speaker 5: But she says that her and Mark are madly in love,

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Speaker 5: but they don't want to break the family up. Both

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Speaker 5: Kurt and Sasha have no clue, and I don't believe

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Speaker 5: they suspect anything.

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Speaker 1: No, you have to tell them. You gotta tell them

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Speaker 1: if you know this, just say, hey, dip and pumping,

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01:08:42,520 --> 01:08:44,120
Speaker 1: nip and pumping, you should go.

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01:08:44,360 --> 01:08:46,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, this song is bumping.

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01:08:46,240 --> 01:08:47,439
Speaker 1: You know what else is bumping?

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Speaker 5: This?

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01:08:48,640 --> 01:08:49,200
Speaker 1: Next story?

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01:08:50,320 --> 01:08:52,320
Speaker 5: I told my aunt that she needs to cut it

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Speaker 5: off before she loses everything. She said that she and

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Speaker 5: Mark would stop, and I stupidly believed her. I found

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01:08:59,160 --> 01:09:02,120
Speaker 5: out that they ever stopped because they're in love. A

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01:09:02,200 --> 01:09:05,400
Speaker 5: year or so goes by and April wants to divorce Kurt.

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01:09:05,600 --> 01:09:09,400
Speaker 5: April moves into Sasha and Mark's house and stays in

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Speaker 5: their renovated basement for free, and Sasha gets my aunt

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01:09:13,520 --> 01:09:16,320
Speaker 5: a new job at her own work. So Sasha and

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Speaker 5: April worked together until this day. My god, the level

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Speaker 5: of betrayal. Oh my god, someone needed to stop this.

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Speaker 5: My aunt continued to sleep with this man in their home, oh,

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Speaker 5: in their bed.

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Speaker 1: No, she was home, whgether while she was even home?

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry? Were they just really quiet?

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Speaker 5: They were just dead silent. They did the joke from

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Speaker 5: Family Guy, which is British.

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Speaker 1: People were just.

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Speaker 5: Going almost almost all and there we go.

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Speaker 1: That's terribly I hate this.

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Speaker 5: At this point, my aunt had surgery and was physically

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Speaker 5: going through a lot. She wasn't working with Sasha yet

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Speaker 5: at this point. She also lives very close to my

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Speaker 5: apartment at their house, but far from our family. So

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Speaker 5: I would be at Sasha and Mark's house all the time,

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Speaker 5: helping my aunt and hanging out with them all. This

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Speaker 5: is when I find out they're still sleeping together and

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Speaker 5: never stopped. I personally heard them talk on the phone.

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Speaker 5: He works as a junk truck driver or something like that,

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01:10:18,920 --> 01:10:20,800
Speaker 5: so he can just talk all day on the phone

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Speaker 5: with his headphones, and they'd say they love each other,

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01:10:23,439 --> 01:10:26,599
Speaker 5: they wish they could be together. They legit said they

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01:10:26,640 --> 01:10:29,040
Speaker 5: wish they were the couple that got together, and Kurt

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01:10:29,080 --> 01:10:32,160
Speaker 5: and Sasha should have gotten together instead, and everything would

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Speaker 5: have been just perfect.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so guys, guys, I'm gonna give you a little

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Speaker 1: dip if you think that divorce, divorce your people, divorce

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01:10:40,320 --> 01:10:42,320
Speaker 1: your people, leave them, and then you can go be

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01:10:42,439 --> 01:10:44,640
Speaker 1: together till the cows come home and you can have

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Speaker 1: your silent, spicy sleep and no one's gonna stop you. Guys, suck.

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Speaker 1: It's so funny because you can do it. You know what,

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Speaker 1: This is not the sixteen hundreds. They won't stone you

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Speaker 1: for divorce.

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Speaker 5: I think there was a lot of stigma about divorce

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Speaker 5: a little earlier than the sixteen hundreds. But I get

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Speaker 5: what you're saying.

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Speaker 1: No, it's specifically the sixteen hundreds. I had to pick

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Speaker 1: a time.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Well, yeah, that's a good one. That's a good

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Speaker 5: time to pick. This all made me want to vomit.

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Speaker 5: I don't know why I didn't say anything. Maybe the

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Speaker 5: immaturity as I was in my early twenties when I

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Speaker 5: found out. So it's scary to be the one to

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01:11:18,800 --> 01:11:21,320
Speaker 5: have to put this out in me open yeah, be.

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01:11:21,280 --> 01:11:24,080
Speaker 1: Like, hey, guys, don't shoot the messenger for real.

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Speaker 5: What has kept me quiet since is the pit of

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01:11:26,920 --> 01:11:30,400
Speaker 5: guilt I constantly feel from this. I ended up cutting

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Speaker 5: April completely out of my life a while back, and

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Speaker 5: Sasha has been asking me why I won't speak with them,

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01:11:36,840 --> 01:11:40,280
Speaker 5: herself and Mark, because we were so close. But I

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01:11:40,280 --> 01:11:42,760
Speaker 5: feel so much immense guilt when I see her or

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01:11:42,840 --> 01:11:44,920
Speaker 5: think about her and her son. I just want to

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01:11:44,960 --> 01:11:47,120
Speaker 5: scream at my aunt and Mark for doing this. To

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01:11:47,160 --> 01:11:50,080
Speaker 5: make this all better, my aunt and Mark apparently decided

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Speaker 5: to cease their relationship, and April decided a couple months

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01:11:53,800 --> 01:11:58,080
Speaker 5: after leaving her husband that she's stupid and realized that

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01:11:58,160 --> 01:12:01,639
Speaker 5: Mark never loved her, only wanted her body and simply

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Speaker 5: won't leave his family for her. She moved back in

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01:12:05,960 --> 01:12:09,519
Speaker 5: with her husband, Kurt. So not only did she cheat

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Speaker 5: on her husband, April and Kurt, Sasha, and Mark. April

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Speaker 5: cheats on Kurt with Mark and then comes to the

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01:12:16,200 --> 01:12:18,519
Speaker 5: conclusion Mark just wants me for my body.

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Speaker 1: I thought you guys loved each other.

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01:12:20,200 --> 01:12:22,120
Speaker 5: Do I'll get back with Kurt, even though you guys

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01:12:22,160 --> 01:12:24,120
Speaker 5: are talking all day on the phone about how you

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01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:25,840
Speaker 5: love each other. I mean, wish we were the ones

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01:12:25,840 --> 01:12:27,519
Speaker 5: who got married to each other. I'd be part.

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Speaker 2: Fact.

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Speaker 1: I literally hate these people. You're the worst black hole sun. Honestly, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't want them to exist oo you like, I

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01:12:36,479 --> 01:12:38,000
Speaker 1: don't even want them to learn a lesson. I don't

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01:12:38,000 --> 01:12:38,680
Speaker 1: want That's what the.

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01:12:38,680 --> 01:12:40,840
Speaker 5: Black hole's for, exactly. We send people to the black

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01:12:40,880 --> 01:12:43,639
Speaker 5: hole when it's like, just get out of our realm.

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01:12:43,800 --> 01:12:44,880
Speaker 1: I don't want to think about you.

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01:12:44,880 --> 01:12:47,280
Speaker 5: You are no longer on our plane of existence, you

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Speaker 5: know what?

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01:12:47,520 --> 01:12:50,439
Speaker 1: No, no, no. It's also I specifically want another doctor

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01:12:50,479 --> 01:12:53,759
Speaker 1: who referenced the angels. But it's like when the crack

1437
01:12:54,360 --> 01:12:56,639
Speaker 1: sucks all the angels in, so they start forgetting things.

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01:12:56,800 --> 01:12:58,880
Speaker 1: That's what I want to happen. I want them to

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01:12:58,880 --> 01:13:01,200
Speaker 1: be sucked into the boy, into the angel, so you

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01:13:01,200 --> 01:13:03,639
Speaker 1: forget about them. I want to forget about these people.

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01:13:03,960 --> 01:13:06,599
Speaker 1: I have no proof that I can give Kurt and Sasha.

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01:13:06,640 --> 01:13:08,840
Speaker 1: But at this point, should I break their family up

1443
01:13:08,880 --> 01:13:10,360
Speaker 1: if it's not going on anymore?

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01:13:10,560 --> 01:13:11,479
Speaker 2: Oh that's a good one.

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01:13:11,560 --> 01:13:14,280
Speaker 5: I'm honestly not sure if the affair is still going on,

1446
01:13:14,400 --> 01:13:17,160
Speaker 5: but last I heard a year ago, it's not. And

1447
01:13:17,200 --> 01:13:19,920
Speaker 5: by the way, I don't care what time it is.

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01:13:20,479 --> 01:13:23,559
Speaker 5: You can join us live on YouTube every weekday at

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01:13:23,600 --> 01:13:26,880
Speaker 5: three pm PST. All you gotta do is tap the

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01:13:26,920 --> 01:13:30,439
Speaker 5: profile and then you'll be with us. Anyway, thoughts, like,

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01:13:30,479 --> 01:13:33,879
Speaker 5: I think it is a good thought. Does Op ruffle

1452
01:13:33,920 --> 01:13:36,720
Speaker 5: all of these feathers after everything has sort of been

1453
01:13:36,800 --> 01:13:40,000
Speaker 5: reset now there's no longer an affair? She was like, Eh,

1454
01:13:40,080 --> 01:13:42,679
Speaker 5: he doesn't even really won't me? He just won't smop baldy,

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01:13:42,800 --> 01:13:43,800
Speaker 5: he doesn't even love me.

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01:13:43,880 --> 01:13:46,439
Speaker 1: I'm going back with Kut well that she's cheated. She's

1457
01:13:46,439 --> 01:13:48,480
Speaker 1: still cheated. I think you have to tell.

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01:13:48,640 --> 01:13:51,519
Speaker 5: Let's see what they did. What would you guys do?

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01:13:51,920 --> 01:13:54,000
Speaker 5: I miss Sasha so much, but I don't want to

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01:13:54,000 --> 01:13:56,840
Speaker 5: break her heart and rip her life apart. See that's

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01:13:56,880 --> 01:13:58,960
Speaker 5: what I'm talking about. If you guys think I should,

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01:13:59,080 --> 01:14:01,559
Speaker 5: how do I break this to Sasha and Kurt? How

1463
01:14:01,560 --> 01:14:03,920
Speaker 5: do I help with the pain I know I'm going

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01:14:04,000 --> 01:14:05,400
Speaker 5: to afflict onto them.

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01:14:05,520 --> 01:14:08,720
Speaker 1: The thing is that you're not inflicting that pain they did,

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01:14:08,840 --> 01:14:10,080
Speaker 1: like the cheaters did that.

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01:14:10,200 --> 01:14:13,479
Speaker 5: You're just the delivery person. I never wanted to be

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01:14:13,680 --> 01:14:17,719
Speaker 5: in this role of being the bearer of such gut

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01:14:17,720 --> 01:14:20,960
Speaker 5: wrenching news. And I know I'm selfish for saying this,

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01:14:21,040 --> 01:14:23,879
Speaker 5: but it's truly how I feel. I'm so freaking betrayed

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01:14:23,920 --> 01:14:26,840
Speaker 5: by my aunt as well my brother and myself. Should

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01:14:26,960 --> 01:14:30,000
Speaker 5: have never been put into this position, and I shouldn't

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01:14:30,000 --> 01:14:32,160
Speaker 5: be forced to wear her guilt for her. I'm twenty

1474
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:34,479
Speaker 5: six years old and I've never cheated on a single person.

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01:14:34,520 --> 01:14:37,719
Speaker 5: It's literally not that hard. Ps My family knows about

1476
01:14:37,760 --> 01:14:40,200
Speaker 5: my aunt and Mark. They say it's not our business

1477
01:14:40,240 --> 01:14:42,679
Speaker 5: and to leave it alone. Frankly, they don't care because

1478
01:14:42,720 --> 01:14:46,040
Speaker 5: it's not affecting them, but it affects me deeply. I

1479
01:14:46,120 --> 01:14:48,720
Speaker 5: hardly speak with my family, and I am now extremely

1480
01:14:48,800 --> 01:14:51,080
Speaker 5: low contact or no contact with them.

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01:14:51,120 --> 01:14:53,760
Speaker 1: Please help, guys. I hate that mindset of like it's

1482
01:14:53,800 --> 01:14:54,679
Speaker 1: not our problem.

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01:14:54,880 --> 01:14:56,720
Speaker 5: I hate that there's no resolution to that.

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01:14:57,040 --> 01:15:00,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think op. My advice is tell them they

1485
01:15:00,400 --> 01:15:02,840
Speaker 1: deserve to know. These are people that you love. You

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01:15:02,880 --> 01:15:06,320
Speaker 1: are not ruining their life. Their lives have already been ruined,

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01:15:06,320 --> 01:15:08,519
Speaker 1: but they don't know. That's the thing, like it's already

1488
01:15:08,560 --> 01:15:11,679
Speaker 1: the mistakes have already happened. The rot is already there,

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01:15:11,880 --> 01:15:13,080
Speaker 1: You just need to dig it out