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Speaker 4: Stick around.

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Speaker 5: My mother is cheating with the doctor that delivered my sister.

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Speaker 5: Just recently, I was on my mom's tablet on Instagram

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Speaker 5: when a notification popped up and said trip to Washington. Now,

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Speaker 5: about a year ago, my mom took a girl's trip

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Speaker 5: to Washington. My friend texted me back as soon as

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Speaker 5: the notification came up, so I tapped on the photos

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Speaker 5: and went to swipe out when I saw a dude.

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Speaker 2: Dude.

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Speaker 6: I don't know a dude. Dude, you say the dude.

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Speaker 5: So as soon as I went back to the photos,

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Speaker 5: I saw a photo of my mom and the dude

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Speaker 5: in bed.

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Speaker 6: With each other at the hotel.

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Speaker 2: Disgusting.

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Speaker 6: It's and I'm Angie.

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Speaker 2: I'm Dakota.

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Speaker 4: I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice.

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Speaker 5: Goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We just

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Speaker 5: know what we would do in this situation. So let

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Speaker 5: us know what you would do in the comments. So oh,

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Speaker 5: he says.

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Speaker 6: I looked more and also saw a video of the

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Speaker 6: guy and my mom kissing, and the guy kissing all

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Speaker 6: my mom's neck and shoulder.

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Speaker 3: Why why are we watching this? Get stop it stop.

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Speaker 6: That's when it hit me. This wasn't some random guy.

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Speaker 5: This was the doctor that delivered my little sister in

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Speaker 5: twenty nineteen.

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Speaker 2: That was when that hit you.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't until I saw him kissing my mom's neck

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Speaker 3: that I realized, isn't that my sister's birthing doctor.

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Speaker 5: So now I've been real distant from my mom. Every

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Speaker 5: time I'm around her, I just feel disgusted. And then

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Speaker 5: a week after finding out, I couldn't hold back. I

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Speaker 5: went through her phone and found messages with her and

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Speaker 5: the guy since twenty nineteen. Oh my god, since the

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Speaker 5: baby was born. I wonder how old the sister is.

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Speaker 5: They were talking about things I.

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Speaker 5: Needless to say, I don't like being around my mom. Now,

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Speaker 5: so tell me what did I do about this situation?

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Speaker 5: And there are some comments, but Dakota, what does she

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Speaker 5: do about the situation?

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Speaker 3: Is it unclear? If mom is married right now? Mom

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Speaker 3: is cheating with this.

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Speaker 6: Doctor by ope, his reaction, That's what I'm assuming.

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Speaker 2: If she's cheating, that's not good, and it makes sense

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Speaker 3: But if it's just like, ooh, this is the doctor

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Speaker 3: that delivered my sister, Yeah, I don't think that that's

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Speaker 5: I agree, but it is also just kind of weird,

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Speaker 5: Like if it wasn't a cheating situation, it is kind

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Speaker 5: of weird that, like the sister was born in twenty nineteen,

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Speaker 5: and that's also when they started talking.

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Speaker 6: So, I mean, you know what delivery doctors see up

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Speaker 3: I mean, hey, it's kinda they bonded over a traumatic experience.

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Speaker 6: I guess, dramatic in different ways.

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Speaker 5: I just U I'm honestly surprised that a delivery doctor

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Speaker 2: Yes, they're all gay.

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Speaker 5: Well I mean that Citic woman, That's what I'm saying,

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Speaker 5: you know what I mean, I don't know maybe that's

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Speaker 3: I think there is some sort of isn't there like

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Speaker 3: a I guess some ethic thing where it's like when

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I think so.

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Speaker 5: And we do have an update here. It's been about

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Speaker 5: thirteen hours since this post went up. But okay, first,

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Speaker 5: thank you guys for the suggestion on gathering up evidence

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Speaker 5: and showing it to my dad.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Arah cheating.

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Speaker 4: Yep, but who's the father?

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Speaker 5: Shorry to say, But that went out the window when

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Speaker 5: I found out the bottom half of the tablet was

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Speaker 5: to just tell him straight up. When I told him

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Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, so this has been happening. They've already

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if that ended up working out

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Speaker 5: He then said he was starting to get suspicions again

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Speaker 5: when her and the doctor started working at the same hospital,

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Speaker 5: I asked my dad when he found out, and he

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Speaker 5: But here's the thing, my mom went on that girl's

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Speaker 6: When I told my dad.

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Speaker 5: That, he looked shocked and then asked if I was serious,

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Speaker 5: to which I replied yes. Usually my dad is strong

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Speaker 5: down and cried for about thirty minutes, and I just

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 5: Even though I I couldn't show the evidence, he told

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Speaker 5: me he one hundred percent believes me. But to bear

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Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, she's just like opening up a portal

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Speaker 5: of all of her parents' problems that she just had

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Speaker 6: That's rough.

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Speaker 2: You shouldn't have to be dealing with this.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, he said, he's close. He just needs another

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Speaker 6: few months. He thanked me so much for telling him,

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Speaker 6: even though it hurts so much to hear he loved that.

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Speaker 6: I told him.

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Speaker 5: Anyway, my mom's at work right now. I took my

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Speaker 6: He appreciates it. I'll update you guys with more information

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Speaker 5: Thanks for reading, and we sure do have a second

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Speaker 5: update with important information.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's definitely more important information there to be digest.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I am so sorry, Opie. My goodness.

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean, at least you did. I feel like

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Speaker 3: I would always rather be told what's actually going on,

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Speaker 2: And I'd be more mad about that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd be like, duh, of course I'm gonna be

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Speaker 6: A hot doctor.

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Speaker 5: Update number two, Hello, guys, not sure why, but I'm

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Speaker 5: getting a lot of troll comments. Let me tell you this,

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Speaker 5: this is my life, so do not try to say

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Speaker 5: that it's ai. Secondly, those of you saying I'm a

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Speaker 5: like this and if they have, it was probably them cheating. Anyways,

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Speaker 5: I showed my dad the post and he was kind

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Speaker 5: of worried that they would find our identity. But after

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Speaker 5: After he saw the comments, he actually started to question

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Speaker 5: my little sister being his. So we decided to take

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Speaker 5: a DNA test behind my mom's back. He did it

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Speaker 5: just a few hours ago and they said they will

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Speaker 5: send the results in about a week.

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Speaker 6: I'll update when that happens, and.

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Speaker 2: Weis sure, do you have another? Oh?

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Speaker 6: Okay, my goodness.

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Speaker 2: I think that it is his baby?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, put up a poll if we can't baby or

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Speaker 5: no baby, I think that legitimate or illegitimate.

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Speaker 2: I would indeed claim that it is his baby.

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna guess it's his. If the conversation started when

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Speaker 3: Born, yeah, I think it would be wild if that

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Speaker 2: Right, and then I will just like, yes, that a

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Speaker 6: Life, right.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 5: I feel like if they were like a married couple

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for some reason, when the doctor delivered the baby,

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Speaker 3: this is your baby though, yes, this is clearly your baby.

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Speaker 2: Here, take this away from me. Goodbye, my child. What

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Speaker 6: I know my son?

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Speaker 5: And uh, there is another update, so let's find out. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: the results came back a few days early. But nonetheless,

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Speaker 5: the DNA results came back positive. That's a weight off

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Speaker 5: my dad's chest. So dad's baby, not doctors. Anyways, my

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Speaker 5: my mom had no prenup, this is gonna be kind

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Speaker 5: of hard. My dad got a lawyer, a nice one too,

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Speaker 5: and the divorce papers should be handed to my dad

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Speaker 5: on Tuesday to avoid my mom seeing the papers.

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Speaker 2: Now, I think you gotta get a mean divorce lawyer.

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Speaker 2: You can't get a nice one. You get a mean one.

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Speaker 5: He's gotta like roast you every hour, top of every

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Speaker 5: hour them like, give me more money.

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Speaker 2: Roast your wife that cheated on you with the doctor.

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Speaker 5: Well yeah, hopefully it's nice to Opie's dad and mean

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Speaker 5: to the wife.

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Speaker 2: Yes, my dad.

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Speaker 5: Said he's going to give it to her for their anniversary,

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Speaker 5: which is on June twelve. So we's just luck and

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Speaker 5: there is a updates. But serving divorce papers on your

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Speaker 5: anniversary is crazy.

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Speaker 2: As you say it overwrites it.

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Speaker 3: It's like, no, this is no longer our anniversary, it's

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I guess. I mean that's kind of nice.

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Speaker 5: You have a you know, one anniversary for everything, one

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Speaker 5: anniversary for your ex marriage and then one for your

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Speaker 5: or same one for your divorce.

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Speaker 3: Happy divorce aniversary, ob happy fiction day.

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Speaker 5: We do have a fourth update now, divorce papers served. Yes, sir,

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Speaker 5: I'll start crying and stuff. But me nor my dad

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Speaker 5: cared because the affair is still going well, not anymore,

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Speaker 5: my goodness. But nonetheless, my dad is letting her.

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Speaker 6: Keep the house.

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Speaker 5: Oh wow, he just got a raise and decided to

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Speaker 6: I guess he's still got love for her.

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Speaker 5: He also decided not to move into an apartment but

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Speaker 2: He's in drama therapy.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if he's in trauma therapy, but he's

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Speaker 6: But yeah, what a crazy wackadoo story.

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Speaker 5: I really I wonder if Ope had problems with her

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Speaker 6: If my mom cheated, which she definitely would not do.

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Speaker 5: Okay, but if my mom or dad cheated for that matter,

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Speaker 6: Riley, do it again. Give the people what they want

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Speaker 3: Quite interesting juxtaposition of you being like, yeah, I know

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Speaker 2: Just like, just bounce on that.

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Speaker 3: Crazy anyway, We've got another story. Sorry for you, coming

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Speaker 3: right up. I know my husband is cheating on me,

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Speaker 6: You gotta find the evidence.

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Speaker 3: Trigger warning for an emotionally abusive relationship and extreme gas

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Speaker 3: when I claim I'm positive, it's because he has admitted

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Speaker 3: by saying, you can just leave your husband.

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Speaker 2: He already admitted he cheated on You can just leave him.

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Speaker 2: You've got the proof. What are you talking about?

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Speaker 6: Proof is in the pudding.

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Speaker 3: People, My yeah, and he cheated in that pudding. Cheat pudding.

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Speaker 3: My husband and I, both in our early to mid thirties,

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Speaker 3: It has been very rough ten years. By the way,

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Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, I'm Angie, I'm Keon, and we hate to

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Speaker 3: Goofully, leave your husband, but we don't know all the

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Speaker 3: answers leave your husband.

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Speaker 2: We just know what we would do, leave your husband.

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Speaker 2: So if you would do something else in the comments,

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Speaker 3: When we first met, we were both out of very

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Speaker 3: My husband's ex was a heavy drinker who made horrible

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Speaker 3: We clicked instantly. Drama bond like, oh, we both have

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Speaker 3: He became increasingly irritated with me and would randomly snap

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Speaker 3: Once I resigned, the bills fell solely on him. I

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Speaker 3: When I brought this up, my husband looked mortified and

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Speaker 2: We moved to another state.

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Speaker 3: That's not the adjective I expected there, right. He resented

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Speaker 3: After a couple of years, we moved back to his

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Speaker 4: This is so much. This is way too much to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if he's already admitted to you that he cheated,

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Speaker 4: The fact that your app has the like it takes

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Speaker 2: I was heartbroken. You should have been on a war path. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: That's terrible.

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Speaker 2: That was your husband messing around with your phone.

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Speaker 5: You have change your past code, dude, And if he

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: quickly closed out as unwarranted. During my mental health spiral,

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Speaker 3: They even stated he might be working with his family

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Speaker 2: But after some time I had to force.

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Speaker 2: He would turn it off after leaving.

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Speaker 3: he would be parked near the wooded area behind his job.

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Speaker 3: He started leaving hours early and returning home hours late,

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Speaker 3: if I called him at work. Honestly, just like straight

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Speaker 3: up all this other bs. If you have a partner

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Speaker 3: who just yells at you, yeah, leave them.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I feel like I honestly don't care if he cheated

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Speaker 5: to be so terrible in general. I mean, if you

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Speaker 5: was high risk, then like that is one hundred percent

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Speaker 2: Like if he yeah, very well could be if.

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Speaker 5: He was stressed out during your pregnancy. First of all,

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Speaker 5: don't care if he.

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Speaker 2: Cheated or not.

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Speaker 3: I don't even need the confirmation that he's cheating, which

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if he's yelling at you for just calling him,

450
00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:20,600
Speaker 2: it's over. Yeah, it's over.

451
00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:24,240
Speaker 3: He came home one day with a mark on his neck,

452
00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:27,000
Speaker 3: but swore that it was from me, even though we

453
00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:30,239
Speaker 3: hadn't been intimate in months. I'll admit I let him

454
00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:32,560
Speaker 3: get away with so much, but after a while I

455
00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:34,320
Speaker 3: couldn't keep ignoring everything.

456
00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:37,560
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, he's like baby. It was the curling iron.

457
00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 5: I just burned myself with a curling iron.

458
00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:40,399
Speaker 2: He's bald.

459
00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 6: Yeah.

460
00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:43,640
Speaker 3: I would wake up in the middle of the night

461
00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:46,040
Speaker 3: to him being gone, and the cameras from the living room,

462
00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:48,280
Speaker 3: front door, and outside would be disabled.

463
00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:50,080
Speaker 2: There is a giant.

464
00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:55,439
Speaker 3: Looney Tune style like cartoon sign that just says he's cheating.

465
00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:57,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he's carrying it around with him.

466
00:20:58,000 --> 00:20:58,359
Speaker 6: Yeah.

467
00:20:58,400 --> 00:20:59,640
Speaker 2: I would wait for him to come back.

468
00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:03,040
Speaker 3: Sometimes I'm accidentally falling back asleep, other times pretending to

469
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:05,160
Speaker 3: be asleep to see what he would do. He'd usually

470
00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:07,160
Speaker 3: go straight to the bathroom and run the sink water

471
00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:10,639
Speaker 3: splashing himself before climbing back into bed. I confront him

472
00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:12,439
Speaker 3: about it in the morning, but he denied doing it

473
00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:14,960
Speaker 3: and show me the camera footage not picking him up leaving.

474
00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:18,280
Speaker 3: That's what you just confront him when he gets back

475
00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,159
Speaker 3: in bed, which you probably don't want to do that

476
00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:21,800
Speaker 3: because he sounds scary.

477
00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:23,919
Speaker 2: You should leave him and take the kids.

478
00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:26,920
Speaker 3: After a while, it became increasingly hard to stay awake

479
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:30,160
Speaker 3: at night, which worried me since I naturally suffer from insomnia.

480
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:33,080
Speaker 3: My mental health was so bad I couldn't be sure

481
00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:35,679
Speaker 3: what was real or fake. One night, I woke up

482
00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:38,560
Speaker 3: abruptly after hearing him leave. I sat up for two

483
00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:40,800
Speaker 3: hours and laid back down when I heard him come back.

484
00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:43,480
Speaker 3: Immediately after he entered our room, I was hit with

485
00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:47,040
Speaker 3: the strongest latex and lubricant smello.

486
00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:49,479
Speaker 6: Yeah, the smell was strong.

487
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:52,679
Speaker 2: Strong smell. I shot up in bed sniffing around.

488
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:57,240
Speaker 3: He had dropped an open Wiener wrapper on the floor

489
00:21:57,440 --> 00:21:59,879
Speaker 3: right next to our bed on his way to the bathroom.

490
00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,080
Speaker 3: I didn't even wait for him to come out. I

491
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,400
Speaker 3: immediately called him out on it, and he came out

492
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:06,159
Speaker 3: like a deer in headlights, surprised.

493
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:09,200
Speaker 2: I was awake. He swore he hadn't been anywhere.

494
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:13,159
Speaker 3: I threw the wrapper at him and immediately started packing

495
00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:13,680
Speaker 3: my things.

496
00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:15,000
Speaker 4: Was it a used one?

497
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:16,520
Speaker 2: I think it was the rappers.

498
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:18,440
Speaker 4: Oh oh, okay.

499
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 6: A weeder wrapper wrapper.

500
00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 2: That's okay, rapper squared Okay.

501
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:22,800
Speaker 4: Yeah.

502
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,800
Speaker 3: He ripped my bags out of my hands, screaming at

503
00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:27,840
Speaker 3: me that I was crazy. He's swearing that I was

504
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:32,119
Speaker 3: making up everything in my head. We didn't use rappers

505
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 3: because I have a latex allergy. You know, they maked

506
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 3: those without latex.

507
00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:40,520
Speaker 6: Well exactly, But I think the point is is that.

508
00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:43,360
Speaker 3: Well I know, yeah, no fair. I was just saying, like,

509
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:45,920
Speaker 3: like nar ways to be safe with a latex.

510
00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:48,600
Speaker 4: He just was trying to make balloon animals. That's all

511
00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:50,880
Speaker 4: he want. He was just trying to hardest making balloon animals.

512
00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:53,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, he was just practicing his clownsmanship.

513
00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 5: He wanted to do that challengdar. You like, fill it

514
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,440
Speaker 5: with water and put it on someone's head.

515
00:22:57,800 --> 00:22:59,879
Speaker 2: We should do that. That was That's really funny.

516
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 3: We hadn't been able to use them in over a year,

517
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:05,800
Speaker 3: so it did not come from us. He swore he

518
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:07,919
Speaker 3: didn't know where it came from. But by now I

519
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:10,479
Speaker 3: was so tired of turning the other cheek. I screamed

520
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 3: that I hated him, I wanted a divorce and could

521
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,199
Speaker 3: no longer trust him. He swore that it was all

522
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 3: happening in my head and I needed to get help now.

523
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 3: One thing I will say about me is as a mother,

524
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 3: I take mental health very seriously. If someone tells me

525
00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:25,359
Speaker 3: that my mental instability is at risk of causing home

526
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 3: to my kids, I'm going to listen every time. So

527
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 3: I checked myself into a psychiatric hospital, got put on

528
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,359
Speaker 3: psych meds and antidepressants.

529
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 6: That is so crazy. His guy's lighting worked to the

530
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:36,959
Speaker 6: fullest extent.

531
00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:38,120
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. Op.

532
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I hope that your story can be a lesson

533
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:44,760
Speaker 3: to everyone that you can just leave. You don't have

534
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,680
Speaker 3: to let the guy be in charge of anything. Although

535
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,119
Speaker 3: this was a very challenging time, you know, you'd already

536
00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 3: gone through a lot. There's the pandemic, the isolation. You said,

537
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 3: it was hard to tell what was real.

538
00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, trust yourself, people, you know easier something done.

539
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 5: But if you are ending up in a psychiatric word

540
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:07,440
Speaker 5: because of a relationship or after being in a hard relationship,

541
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:09,680
Speaker 5: that's the sign that it is not good.

542
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:12,199
Speaker 3: You know, there's really never an excuse to just like

543
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 3: yell at your partner. My doctor later admitted that it

544
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 3: was the wrong medication, as it resulted in me hearing voices,

545
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 3: Oh my god. But in my doctor's defense, she was

546
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,880
Speaker 3: going off the information provided to her by my husband

547
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 3: and his family. It was not accurate information. After that,

548
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:31,159
Speaker 3: my husband started spending more time at home. He stopped

549
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 3: sneaking out at night, and initially cut contact with whoever

550
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,760
Speaker 3: he was seeing. He came clean and admitted to cheating,

551
00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:39,480
Speaker 3: although he refused to tell me who it was. His

552
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:42,679
Speaker 3: justification was that he somehow believed I was cheating on

553
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 3: him with my ex and had supposedly received proof from someone,

554
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,119
Speaker 3: but wouldn't tell me who. When I asked how he

555
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:52,479
Speaker 3: could believe I would risk my family for a man

556
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:55,199
Speaker 3: who had destroyed me, his excuse was that because I

557
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,880
Speaker 3: never wanted to be near my ex, it made him

558
00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:00,879
Speaker 3: feel like I was hiding things. This guy definitely was

559
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 3: cheating on you with his AX.

560
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:04,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, exactly.

561
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 6: He's just you know, blaming everything on you.

562
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:07,920
Speaker 2: He said.

563
00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:10,320
Speaker 3: The reason his family wanted the DNA test was because

564
00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 3: he told him he thought my ex was the father

565
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 3: of our child, and that resulted in them calling CPS,

566
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 3: hoping I would get scared and leave him, But he

567
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:19,919
Speaker 3: didn't want me to think he was behind it, so

568
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 3: he cut his family off and later blamed me for it.

569
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,600
Speaker 4: This guy's pathetic. Yeah sucks.

570
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:28,400
Speaker 2: I'm really sorry that you ended up marrying the worst guy.

571
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 5: After paying it, after being in a bad relationship previously.

572
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 5: I honestly, I don't even believe that he was in

573
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,200
Speaker 5: a bad relationship before, which is what was mentioned before.

574
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 6: They both were in bad relationships.

575
00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:42,080
Speaker 5: I feel like he was probably in a bad relationship,

576
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:43,119
Speaker 5: but it was all his fault.

577
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, he was making it bad.

578
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 3: Yeah as bad, It is all bad. We decided to

579
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 3: do couples therapy. Spoiler, it's been two years and we

580
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,679
Speaker 3: still haven't gone what. I stopped bringing it up as

581
00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 3: I realized it was never going to happen. But he

582
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:02,159
Speaker 3: was home every day being my loving husband again. He

583
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:04,200
Speaker 3: would stay on the phone with me his entire work day,

584
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 3: which honestly just upset me because it proved he'd been

585
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:09,719
Speaker 3: lying for years. I was going to individual therapy weekly,

586
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,879
Speaker 3: so I felt we were finally moving past it. Fast

587
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 3: forward to now we have new phones and new numbers.

588
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,439
Speaker 3: Why I know that you've been through a lot. You

589
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,400
Speaker 3: need to leave this man immediately.

590
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:24,119
Speaker 4: Why put yourself through it more? I get it, but

591
00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 4: it's like, what's holding you to this relationship with this man? Now?

592
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 2: You need to lean on your family this man, this

593
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 2: man has.

594
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:33,400
Speaker 3: Put you under some sort of spell, and you need

595
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 3: to get out of this relationship.

596
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:36,119
Speaker 4: Is he hot?

597
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:39,959
Speaker 3: No, it's definitely not that you need to take your

598
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,439
Speaker 3: kids with you to your family's house and divorce this

599
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 3: guy and cite everything that has happened as the reason

600
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 3: why this is not a situation that should be fixed.

601
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 2: To be fixed by leaving, that's the only way it

602
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 2: can be fixed.

603
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,360
Speaker 3: I haven't had a single issue with my accounts being

604
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 3: hacked since, and my mental health was the best it's

605
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 3: been in year. My psychiatrist ended our sessions and removed

606
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 3: me from all psych medications with a detailed note and

607
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:08,400
Speaker 3: why I don't need the medication in case someone tries

608
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 3: to use it against me. I'm still in individual therapy

609
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:14,120
Speaker 3: and I'm no longer having trouble staying awake. Our ten

610
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,919
Speaker 3: year anniversary is coming up, and we have never had

611
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 3: a good anniversary. I learned a few years ago that

612
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 3: the reason he chose this date was it was the

613
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 3: day before his anniversary with his ex.

614
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 2: So he's always bitter on our special day.

615
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 6: Why did he choose the date? Why didn't?

616
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 5: Is there not like a factual like anniversary that you

617
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,199
Speaker 5: could decide to go with. I know some people like

618
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 5: if they have a kind of you know, uncertain but

619
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:42,159
Speaker 5: getting to their relationship, they will choose one. But I

620
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:44,120
Speaker 5: feel like if we're choosing one, that's not a good

621
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 5: one to choose.

622
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 4: It's also like a terrible excuse to be like, ah,

623
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 4: it's our special day, but you know, you know how

624
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 4: I feel about this day.

625
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:53,399
Speaker 2: I feel like you.

626
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 6: Should be over that, so you should be done for.

627
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 4: Ten years too. Ten years.

628
00:27:57,640 --> 00:27:59,360
Speaker 6: I forgot that's how long they were together.

629
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:01,920
Speaker 4: Ten years. And he's like, mm, you know, I'm gonna

630
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 4: feel a little down today, like I'm just not happy.

631
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 2: I lame the worst, one of the worst.

632
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 3: Increasingly, over the last few months, he started acting distant again, responses,

633
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:19,160
Speaker 3: staying in the bathroom for hours, intentionally misunderstanding me, and

634
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:21,720
Speaker 3: as of the last three weeks, constantly getting me mixed

635
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 3: up with things he did with other people. I asked

636
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 3: him if I needed to be worried, and he rolled

637
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,440
Speaker 3: his eyes at me. I told him I was afraid

638
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 3: he might be cheating again, and he blew up at me,

639
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 3: saying he's never cheated on me before, and he's tired

640
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 3: of me accusing him.

641
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,359
Speaker 6: He literally admitted to it. Yeah, literally admitted to it.

642
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 4: That's crazy.

643
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 5: And then like while she was in the psych word

644
00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 5: or something, or while she's on the wrong medication.

645
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 2: Right, oh op, he continues.

646
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 3: I reminded him that he admitted it, and he scares

647
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 3: that he never admitted to it and that it's in

648
00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 3: my head again.

649
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, you need to leave this guy.

650
00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 4: This guy's crazy.

651
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 3: He's got you questioning literally, like what's real and like

652
00:28:56,840 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 3: if you, like you had no mental health issues to

653
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 3: the point where like you were delusional about what was

654
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 3: really happening. He was trying to convince you that him

655
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 3: cheating on you was a delusion in your own head,

656
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 3: which is not true.

657
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 4: Would we call this guy psychotic? I don't know what's

658
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 4: the term for this kind of person, because that.

659
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's psychotic. This is psychotic. To be able to

660
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 3: do this is psychotic. I didn't sleep at all last night,

661
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 3: so while the kids were at school today, I decided

662
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 3: to take a nap for a couple hours. After waking up,

663
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 3: I saw an alert on my phone that someone had

664
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 3: accessed my bank app at exactly twelve fifty eight. I

665
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 3: knew for a fact it wasn't me because my alarm

666
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 3: didn't wake me up until one thirty, and I haven't

667
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 3: downloaded the bank app on my new phone yet. I

668
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 3: was panicking to my husband about it because it means

669
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 3: someone's still accessing my private information somehow, and he annoyingly

670
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 3: said it was probably me and I had just mixed

671
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 3: up the time. I told him it couldn't have been

672
00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 3: me because I was asleep, which he promptly replied, how

673
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Speaker 3: could you have been asleep when I was on my

674
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 3: lunch break at that time and we talked my whole break.

675
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Speaker 2: I pulled out my phone, showing him the time logs.

676
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Speaker 3: We stopped talking at ten forty four, when he told

677
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Speaker 3: me he was going to call the electric company and

678
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 3: call me right back, but I told him not to.

679
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 2: Worry about it because I needed a nap. Desperately.

680
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:11,920
Speaker 3: I tried to pry more from information about this supposed

681
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Speaker 3: phone call, because he often mixes up our conversations with

682
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Speaker 3: things He swears I tell him, but I genuinely have

683
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 3: no idea what he's talking about.

684
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Speaker 2: Bab.

685
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Speaker 3: He's trying to gaslight you into just being like, Oh,

686
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Speaker 3: I'm unwell and.

687
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 2: I don't know what's going on. I have to listen

688
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Speaker 2: to him. Leave him.

689
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 3: This guy is like unbelievably abusive, and you need to

690
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 3: leave him. If you are still with him, you need

691
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 3: to be gone yesterday. Call your family, Call your friends.

692
00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 3: Your friends were telling you they were concerned about this guy.

693
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 3: Anyone in your support system who could help you right now,

694
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 3: you need to talk to them and just fully go.

695
00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 3: No contact with your husband, serve him divorce papers, let

696
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 3: lawyers handle it is over.

697
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 2: It needs to be over.

698
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Speaker 4: It's the fact that you're questioning your sanity on a

699
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 4: daily basis pretty much. Come on, what's the underlying denominator here?

700
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 4: It's always him. You're like this and then like wait,

701
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 4: did I do this? He's like, yeah, no, you did

702
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,960
Speaker 4: do it, and it's oh boy. I feel like once

703
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 4: you get out of this relationship, it's gonna be the

704
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 4: biggest weight off your shoulders.

705
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Speaker 2: Yeah, truly done here.

706
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Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to this juicy story. But a

707
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Speaker 1: quick three minute of break of ads from our sponsors.

708
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Speaker 2: My gut lately has been screaming at me to pay attention.

709
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 3: I checked his phone tonight for the first time in

710
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Speaker 3: over a year and found nothing, literally nothing. No call

711
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 3: to the electric company, no calls from his boss, nothing.

712
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:39,720
Speaker 2: Just our phone calls. So he's got a second phone.

713
00:31:39,960 --> 00:31:42,040
Speaker 3: I also found out he has a work phone, but

714
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 3: he doesn't bring it home, so I have no way

715
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 3: of checking it. I know he's cheating again. I'm not stupid.

716
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 3: I'm just tired, too tired to fight, too tired to care.

717
00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 3: I tried to give him an easy out, but he

718
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 3: won't take it. We have a little bit more story left,

719
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Speaker 3: but it's just it's time to leave. You summon the courage,

720
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 3: lean on your friends, lean on your family, make sure

721
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 3: you know the kids are okay, and leave your husband.

722
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 2: He's abusive.

723
00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 3: I'm so afraid that if I start digging again, I'll

724
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 3: send myself back down a spiral that I genuinely can't afford.

725
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 2: I'd rather just not care.

726
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:17,200
Speaker 3: I have no family, I have no friends, and I

727
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 3: live in a state that I have zero ties to

728
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 3: and aren't afforded any resources. What happened to the friends

729
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 3: in the beginning of the story. Anybody find local shelters, anything,

730
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Speaker 3: there has to be some way, anything is better than this.

731
00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 2: I'm stretched so thin.

732
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 3: I'm basically saran wrap, just clinging to myself to keep

733
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 3: myself together. My therapist says, I'm handling it all pretty well,

734
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Speaker 3: but I don't think I am.

735
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Speaker 2: I stay up every night and just cry all the time.

736
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Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story. Man.

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Speaker 3: I know that's really hard to hear. But it's not

738
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 3: gonna get better until you leave this guy. Yeah, it

739
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:50,480
Speaker 3: is not gonna get better.

740
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Speaker 2: Until you leave this guy. I don't know how your

741
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 2: therapist is not telling you the same thing.

742
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Speaker 4: Therapist has got to be in cahoots with the husband.

743
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:58,920
Speaker 4: But again, even if it's because this is one of

744
00:32:58,960 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 4: our own, but.

745
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Speaker 2: Yeah, change your bank information as well.

746
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 3: There's is a comment some seeing Yeah, can't call the bank,

747
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 3: cancel everything, change all the bank info one hundred percent.

748
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Speaker 4: I'll go ahead and message you, op and make sure

749
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 4: you know everything's okay, especially with everything. I hope everyone

750
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 4: in our community can message you and hopefully just give

751
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Speaker 4: you the push that you need to get out of

752
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 4: this relationship, because this is and years of your sanity

753
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 4: just being played with, toyed with. It's not worth it.

754
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:31,400
Speaker 4: You deserve to live a good life, not this is

755
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 4: not a good life. Oh man waking up on a

756
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 4: daily basis to this.

757
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 2: And it's like we'll get better, but then he just

758
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 2: gets worse.

759
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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, and you're taking like bread crumbly to you.

760
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 2: He got you on psychiatric meds you didn't need. You

761
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 2: were hearing voices. This guy's not a partner.

762
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Speaker 4: Just get away from this this guy. Yeah, that's all

763
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Speaker 4: I can say.

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Speaker 2: We can just read the next story. That's all we

765
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:52,719
Speaker 2: can do.

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Speaker 7: My ex refuse to block the woman he secretly slept

767
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Speaker 7: with after getting me pregnant, directly from the subreddit guys, I,

768
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Speaker 7: forty one female, am seven weeks pregnant with the baby

769
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Speaker 7: of my ex boyfriend, forty two male. We broke up

770
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Speaker 7: because he was continuing to communicate and sleep with a

771
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:19,799
Speaker 7: sixty year old woman he'd been in a situationship with for.

772
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Speaker 6: The previous eight years.

773
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Speaker 7: Which I didn't know about until I sought out more

774
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Speaker 7: information on the question page.

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Speaker 3: Well, sounds like a good reason to break up with somebody.

776
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:37,799
Speaker 3: In my opinion, that's definitely a perfectly reasonable situation to

777
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Speaker 3: break up with someone over.

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Speaker 4: That's the opening.

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Speaker 7: By the way, this comes from fair Supermarket forty five,

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Speaker 7: twenty nine, And if you want usubmit your own stories,

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Speaker 7: go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit where this

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Speaker 7: is from. And I'm Carly, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Dakota, I'm key On and Wow.

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Speaker 7: And we're here to give good advice. Goofily, But we

785
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Speaker 7: don't have all the answers. We only know so what

786
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 7: we would do. So letus know what you would do

787
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:06,680
Speaker 7: in the comments. And Opie says, my stipulation for us

788
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 7: to communicate is that he tells this woman he is

789
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:13,839
Speaker 7: done with her and not to contact him anymore. He

790
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 7: wants to talk about a romantic future with me. I

791
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 7: want to talk about peacefully co parenting. I have one child,

792
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:25,080
Speaker 7: he has none, and he always wanted one. I've always

793
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:27,800
Speaker 7: wanted a second. He doesn't want to have a child

794
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 7: where he is not in a relationship with the child's

795
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:34,400
Speaker 7: mother in the same home. I was deceived into the

796
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 7: relationship to begin with. I had known about his eight

797
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 7: year situationship with this much older woman who honestly is

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00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 7: physically unattractive, works in finance and is in an elite

799
00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 7: white upper class community with horseback riding and country clubs.

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Speaker 7: Divorced with grown children.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's getting that money. He's getting that old rich

802
00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 3: white lady money.

803
00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:02,520
Speaker 7: The roast of who is honestly physically Unattractivisi.

804
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, why she's a physically unappealing, financially attractive, rich white lady.

805
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 7: He just wants to go horseback riding at the country club.

806
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 7: I never would have wanted anything to do with him

807
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 7: for this story. Let's call her Fifi. His timeline. He

808
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:25,400
Speaker 7: met Fifi eight plus years ago. About a year and

809
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 7: a half in he got into a serious relationship with

810
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:32,240
Speaker 7: a different woman for two years. We'll call her Nelly.

811
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:37,040
Speaker 7: While with Nellie, he continued to sleep with Fifi. He

812
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 7: never took Fifi on dates. He made her park her

813
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:44,360
Speaker 7: car around the corner from his house. He had some weird,

814
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 7: spicy related stuff with Fifi while maintaining his relationship with Nellie,

815
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 7: insisting he was not physically attracted to Nelly, all the

816
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 7: while sleeping with Fifi on the side.

817
00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 3: Toss all of this into a river. Toss it all

818
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:05,000
Speaker 3: in the river yourself.

819
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 4: With the river, cowbot comun and cues.

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Speaker 5: Ew died take out genters in its ownhole new world, Like, is.

821
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Speaker 3: There a service in Bali where I can have all

822
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:20,720
Speaker 3: my memories of the last thirty seconds erased?

823
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 6: Nope.

824
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:24,520
Speaker 7: He said he wanted to end his relationship with Nelly

825
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,959
Speaker 7: but didn't know how, so he was trying to get

826
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 7: caught cheating. Fiefe sent dirty photos and videos of him

827
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 7: cheating to Nelly. I'm assuming he denied it or said

828
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:41,400
Speaker 7: the videos were old. Either way, Eventually, Nellie showed up

829
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:44,280
Speaker 7: at Fifi's home while he was there in the morning.

830
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 7: Fast forward to May of twenty twenty four. This man

831
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:50,919
Speaker 7: and I start talking and it was not a really

832
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 7: great relationship. Spicy, sleepily. We were compatible, and it could

833
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 7: have been a very good relationship if he had been

834
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 7: emotionally available. I felt him being emotionally unavailable. So I

835
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:07,240
Speaker 7: went on the tee page and found Feefe. She blocked

836
00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 7: me on Facebook. I googled her phone number and called her.

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Speaker 2: Wait, what is the tea app?

838
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 7: I don't know for sure, that's the tea app. The

839
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 7: tea app is like a place where you can like

840
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 7: report about men and stuff like this is yeah, I'm

841
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 7: assuming yeah, And we spoke for one and a half hours.

842
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 7: Fefe said they were together physically in April twenty twenty four,

843
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:32,839
Speaker 7: the last time. She never admitted to sleeping with him

844
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 7: while he and I were together, but I know she did.

845
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 7: She shared spicy related text messages between the two of them.

846
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:43,800
Speaker 7: He was telling her he was not seeing anyone over

847
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:46,920
Speaker 7: and over when he was seeing me. He told her

848
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:51,839
Speaker 7: repeatedly he missed her reaching out to her. When confronted,

849
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 7: he said he didn't do anything wrong. He swore he

850
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 7: didn't cheat and didn't feel bad for the text. Just

851
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:02,240
Speaker 7: the way he spoke about this woman made me sick,

852
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:06,760
Speaker 7: no respect for her at all. I dumped him even

853
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 7: without the cheating. He was cheap, lazy, deceitful, dishonest, judgmental, discriminatory,

854
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:19,120
Speaker 7: closet guard, uncultured, selfish, greedy, and lacking a backbone and

855
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Speaker 7: a proper chin.

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Speaker 4: Damn, that last one is crazy.

857
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Speaker 3: I hate to say this, but at some point, when

858
00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:27,319
Speaker 3: you dunk on an X at that level, you also

859
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 3: dunk on yourself because you.

860
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Speaker 2: Were dating them.

861
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:30,839
Speaker 7: I mean, she got other pretty quickly.

862
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Speaker 2: I'm glad you did. I'm just letting you know. Optically,

863
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Speaker 2: you go, yeah, that was also.

864
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Speaker 4: You dated them and he has no chin.

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Speaker 2: But I'm glad you're out the fair glad. I'm glad

866
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 2: that you're out.

867
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Speaker 3: It's just a warning, you know, don't accidentally self dunk

868
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Speaker 3: on yourself.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes you gotta go through the bad to get to

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Speaker 4: the good.

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00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:52,759
Speaker 2: I know, agreed. I'm just saying maybe, just you.

872
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:54,760
Speaker 4: Know, it's called a learning experience.

873
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Speaker 6: Whatever.

874
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Speaker 7: I saw him one last time in the beginning of September.

875
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Speaker 7: Now I'm pregnant. Oh, we have a little bit more

876
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Speaker 7: what you think.

877
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Speaker 2: And always use protection kids.

878
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Speaker 3: Then you don't have to have a baby with the

879
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:15,360
Speaker 3: apparently the ugliest grossest dude on the planet.

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Speaker 7: Someone goes is the sixty year old preggers too. My god,

881
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 7: they can raise their kids together.

882
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:22,840
Speaker 2: The sixty year old is not pregnant.

883
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Speaker 7: We don't know that.

884
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 4: I know that.

885
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Speaker 2: I know that. You never know, sixty year old. You

886
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Speaker 2: never know not pregnant, never know. Nope, never No.

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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam Oghs. We're gonnet. Back to these delectable stories.

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Speaker 7: Before I knew for sure I was pregnant, I asked

891
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:46,239
Speaker 7: him to dinner, my treat. My only stipulation was that

892
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:50,520
Speaker 7: he messaged this woman, requesting her to never contact him

893
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:51,839
Speaker 7: again and block her.

894
00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 2: Bro you're paying for his dinner after he cheated on you.

895
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:58,239
Speaker 7: Because also, here's the other part of this, It's like

896
00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 7: she probably was. I'm the only one reaching out every time.

897
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 7: He's just gonna reach it. Don't contact me, he's gonna

898
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:05,439
Speaker 7: contact her.

899
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:09,000
Speaker 2: You paid for his dinner. She cheated on you.

900
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 7: He called me crazy, He said I was obsessed with

901
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:16,239
Speaker 7: her and childish. He said he would not do that.

902
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 7: He says he's not in contact with her. Now. Am

903
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:22,240
Speaker 7: I the a hole for requesting that this man tells

904
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:25,799
Speaker 7: this woman to not contact him again and block her

905
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 7: in order to give me peace of mind? Is this

906
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 7: really such an irrational, ridiculous request. That's the end of

907
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 7: that story. No, can we just dump this man instead?

908
00:41:36,400 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 4: Though you should be bff jillies with the sixty year

909
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 4: old and go horseback riding with her, or not leave.

910
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 3: This man if you can't afford to raise the child,

911
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 3: give it up for adoption.

912
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:47,840
Speaker 2: If you can.

913
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:51,280
Speaker 3: None of that is okay. Neither of those two stories

914
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 3: were okay in any way. You both need to leave

915
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 3: the terrible, pathetic men that are in your life. I'm

916
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 3: sorry that you are pregnant with this man's child, but

917
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:00,879
Speaker 3: he's not good.

918
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:02,839
Speaker 2: It's not like, am I the a hole?

919
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 3: For Yeah, you're gonna be the a hole to yourself

920
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 3: if you stay with his guy.

921
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:07,320
Speaker 2: That's what I think.

922
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 7: And you're one of us. So I hope that you're

923
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:13,319
Speaker 7: watching maybe and you can take this advice and just

924
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 7: leave this man run away.

925
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 4: So we have comments from a video My best friend

926
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:22,880
Speaker 4: stole my business And this was posted on September nineteenth,

927
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 4: twenty twenty five. And here's a little tiald ar. Opie

928
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:28,799
Speaker 4: planned a camping trip for her eighteenth birthday with three

929
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:32,239
Speaker 4: close friends, but they all bailed last minute, claiming they

930
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:34,920
Speaker 4: had to catch one of their cats who got outside.

931
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 4: I remember this story one. For two whole days, the

932
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:42,799
Speaker 4: friends kept making excuses about why they couldn't leave this

933
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:47,640
Speaker 4: outdoor cat, who again regularly goes outside anyway to come celebrate.

934
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 4: When Opie's boyfriend called them out for ditching her for

935
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:54,359
Speaker 4: her birthday over a cat that wasn't even missing, it

936
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,719
Speaker 4: turned into a huge fight where the friends ganged up

937
00:42:56,760 --> 00:43:01,080
Speaker 4: with nasty personal attacks. Later, the three friends sent Opia

938
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 4: photo of themselves flipping her off and blocked her everywhere

939
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:06,799
Speaker 4: making clear that the cat was just an excuse to

940
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 4: ditch her birthday. If you're curious to know the full story,

941
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:12,920
Speaker 4: you can go watch the full video. Wow, yeah, I

942
00:43:13,040 --> 00:43:13,960
Speaker 4: do remember that.

943
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 7: Do you think that might have been either just you

944
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:20,120
Speaker 7: and me for you and me and so Fea.

945
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:21,759
Speaker 4: I know Sophia was there because we were all like

946
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,919
Speaker 4: what but we have some comments. We have a common

947
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:27,360
Speaker 4: hear from Lady Justice. Susan. I wouldn't leave if my

948
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 4: strictly indoor cat got outside. No way, no how am

949
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:32,920
Speaker 4: I going anywhere until I can get him back in.

950
00:43:33,400 --> 00:43:35,839
Speaker 4: He's never been outside before, and I would lose all

951
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:38,359
Speaker 4: my crap if he did. Anyone who doesn't understand that

952
00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:41,640
Speaker 4: would be cut out of my life immediately. Here's the thing, Susan,

953
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:42,839
Speaker 4: it was an outdoor cat.

954
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:45,840
Speaker 7: It was an outdoor cat. I do think there was

955
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 7: a reason that they had to get the cat inside

956
00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 7: for something, because they were living storm. I think I

957
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 7: don't remember there being something else where. It was like

958
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 7: the cat did need to come inside. And I was

959
00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:59,239
Speaker 7: very much on the side of opia being like yeah

960
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 7: get there, of the friends of being like yeah, get

961
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 7: the cat inside, but they were not trying. We allot

962
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 7: any way to get this cat inside, Like they weren't

963
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 7: shaking treats around. There was a lack of effort.

964
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:13,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I remember that it took There were three of them.

965
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 4: There were three people, and they knew where the cat was,

966
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 4: They knew their cat was. It was surrounded, it was

967
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 4: on the next it was like the next side, and

968
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 4: took them two days to get this cat. If I

969
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:23,880
Speaker 4: really need the urgency to get.

970
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 7: My cat, like under the porch or something too, like

971
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 7: they could have just crawled under and grabbed the cat.

972
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,399
Speaker 7: There was definitely like they could have gotten this cat.

973
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:32,360
Speaker 7: It was an excuse.

974
00:44:32,680 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that was really dumb. Another comment here

975
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 4: from Cables eighty four fifteen. I'd never leave an indoor

976
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:41,720
Speaker 4: slash outdoor cat outside when I'm going to be away

977
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 4: for three days, completely separate from the friend's behavior afterwards.

978
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:48,280
Speaker 4: I'd be pissed if my friend was not being understanding

979
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 4: of that. The cat is clearly very important to Rihanna

980
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 4: the save for your life comment, And I'd cut friends

981
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:56,319
Speaker 4: off if they were adding stress because I was more

982
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 4: worried about my cat than their party. And cats can

983
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:02,360
Speaker 4: be very hard to get they are so fast and

984
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 4: ba can climb and even if you grab them, they

985
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:07,839
Speaker 4: start scratching you because of its instincts to let them go.

986
00:45:08,280 --> 00:45:12,240
Speaker 4: I have scars andrew ands shirts as the souvenirs. And again,

987
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:13,320
Speaker 4: you have a cat.

988
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:16,000
Speaker 7: You know this, You've had that, Yeah, anytime that I

989
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:17,879
Speaker 7: have to grab I had to grab my cat one

990
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:21,360
Speaker 7: time hiding under We knew where he was hiding, and

991
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:23,399
Speaker 7: the fire alarm went off and we had to get

992
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 7: out of the apartment really fast, and I grabbed a

993
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:29,680
Speaker 7: towel and I shimmied under where he was, and my

994
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:33,040
Speaker 7: other roommate like covered in case he ran out the

995
00:45:33,080 --> 00:45:36,799
Speaker 7: other side, also with a towel, and we wrapped that

996
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 7: around him and threw him in his carrier and went

997
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 7: on like I totally understand though that that was like

998
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:46,560
Speaker 7: best case scenario, and I have struggled to get him

999
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 7: out of places before. All that aside, though, they basically

1000
00:45:50,440 --> 00:45:52,840
Speaker 7: admitted that it was an excuse to not go to

1001
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 7: this birthday. Like, yes, I do remember being like, ohpe

1002
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:58,120
Speaker 7: come on, like their cat is stuck outside. They give

1003
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:02,680
Speaker 7: him a break, but after five hours actually mean to Opie.

1004
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:05,719
Speaker 4: At the end, it was like okay, one hour, get it. Yeah,

1005
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 4: a couple hours we get it. But it's been like

1006
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 4: six hours to get one cat and there's three of you, right.

1007
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 7: And like what Jenna saying, the mom of the girl

1008
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 7: who was trying to catch the cat was home. Yeah,

1009
00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:18,840
Speaker 7: so like the cat wasn't gonna be left alone. She

1010
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:21,360
Speaker 7: lived with her family. There was many other things she

1011
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:21,879
Speaker 7: could have done.

1012
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 4: I remember all of us were like, we're siding with

1013
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 4: the people who want to get the cat. That makes

1014
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 4: so much sense, and were like, switch, what are you doing? Yeah?

1015
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 2: And wait?

1016
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 4: One final comment here by Zappora eighty five. I have

1017
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 4: a strictly indoor cat, but to be frank, he's a

1018
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 4: from a farah, so he likes to escape. On occasion

1019
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:41,480
Speaker 4: when he has escaped before, we look for him for

1020
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:44,840
Speaker 4: fifteen minutes and then leave him outside. He always comes

1021
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 4: back in the morning mewing like he's made a huge

1022
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 4: mistake and he needs a warm bet. I would never

1023
00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 4: abandon someone's birthday because my silly boy got outside. And

1024
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 4: the fact that her cat is an indoor outdoor cat

1025
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:59,240
Speaker 4: is insane.

1026
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 7: Right, They always I even I had an indoor cat

1027
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 7: get out and we were panicking because there's woods near

1028
00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 7: the back of my house. Then and he came back.

1029
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 7: He got hungry. They know where they're going. He wanted

1030
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:12,839
Speaker 7: to explore a little bit. He came right back. He'd

1031
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 7: me out at the door.

1032
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:14,239
Speaker 2: We let him in.

1033
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:17,440
Speaker 4: If it was a brand new cat, makes sense.

1034
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:21,839
Speaker 7: That had never been outside. You like, he was strictly indoors.

1035
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 7: You did not know where he was. He wasn't like

1036
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:26,920
Speaker 7: somewhere that you guys had eyes on him and you

1037
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 7: were genuinely like he could be gone.

1038
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:31,239
Speaker 4: But the thing is, the cat was literally in like

1039
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:32,719
Speaker 4: the neighbor's yard.

1040
00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:34,000
Speaker 7: I think it was in their yard. I think it

1041
00:47:34,040 --> 00:47:35,080
Speaker 7: was just under something.

1042
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 4: It is either under something it was. It wasn't far,

1043
00:47:37,560 --> 00:47:38,879
Speaker 4: it was right there, and they.

1044
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:41,279
Speaker 7: Weren't trying treats like I remember it, just being like

1045
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 7: come on.

1046
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 4: They were just like hanging out like the cats outside.

1047
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 7: He just didn't want to go to the birthday ye later.

1048
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:49,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, that is the end of the comments, and this

1049
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 4: is the end of the episode.

1050
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 7: So if you love us, make sure you subscribe and

1051
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:57,000
Speaker 7: see it tomorrow.