WEBVTT - Take your day from bad to fine

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that sometimes having a good day may not

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<v Speaker 1>be possible, But when that is the case, you can

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<v Speaker 1>still aim to take your day at least from bad

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<v Speaker 1>too fine. This can keep a bad day from spiraling

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<v Speaker 1>out of control. Longtime listeners know that I ask my

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<v Speaker 1>guests here on Before Breakfast about how they take their

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<v Speaker 1>days from great to awesome. The hope is that we

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<v Speaker 1>can follow their advice and make our days more awesome too.

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<v Speaker 1>But there are days when awesome is just not in

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<v Speaker 1>the cards. The best you can hope for is to

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<v Speaker 1>salvage a bad day and at least make it okay.

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<v Speaker 1>On these bad days, it is helpful to have strategies

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<v Speaker 1>for maintaining our resilience. We need tools we can use

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<v Speaker 1>to maintain our general sense that tomorrow is another day.

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<v Speaker 1>So figure out what those tools are. What is something

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<v Speaker 1>you have done recently to take a day from bad

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<v Speaker 1>to fine. When I am having a bad day, my

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<v Speaker 1>first strategy is to try a reset. This usually looks

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<v Speaker 1>like going for a walk outside or perhaps a run

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<v Speaker 1>outside if the weather is okay, or on the treadmill.

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<v Speaker 1>If it isn't, I often finish in a much better mood.

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<v Speaker 1>Another good response is to revisit what you intended to

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<v Speaker 1>accomplish that day and adjust. If your plans have totally

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<v Speaker 1>fallen apart at ten a m it is fine to

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<v Speaker 1>rethink your goals, decide on what is most important and

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<v Speaker 1>what you can realistically do. Anything you can't do can

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<v Speaker 1>be rescheduled for a future day. When your new goals

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<v Speaker 1>feel attainable, you may feel better about the rest of

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<v Speaker 1>the day. Since it doesn't feel like a battle to

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<v Speaker 1>do the impossible. You can end the day with some success.

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<v Speaker 1>You did the two things you had to do and

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<v Speaker 1>one bonus thing. When reality exceeds expectations, you feel on

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<v Speaker 1>top of the world. Reality didn't change, but your expectations did,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is fine. Some people like to treat themselves

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<v Speaker 1>on rough days. This could mean taking yourself out for lunch,

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<v Speaker 1>or perhaps cutting your work out a little bit short

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<v Speaker 1>to free up time to sit in silence in the

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<v Speaker 1>steamroom at your gym. Or maybe it's ordering groceries instead

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<v Speaker 1>of battling through a crowded grocery store. Bonus points if

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<v Speaker 1>you not only get the experience of treating yourself, but

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<v Speaker 1>also decide to do so earlier in the day. That way,

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<v Speaker 1>you can look forward to it. Emotional support can quickly

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<v Speaker 1>take a day from bad to fine. Call a friend

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<v Speaker 1>who can give you a quick pep talk, have a

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<v Speaker 1>little laugh for a good cry, and talk through how

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<v Speaker 1>you can handle whatever is troubling you. Sometimes even a

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<v Speaker 1>five minute call can make a big difference. Make sure

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<v Speaker 1>you do this for your friends when they are having

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<v Speaker 1>bad days as well. In any case, I think it

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<v Speaker 1>helps to have a mental list of these strategies that

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<v Speaker 1>you can use, rather than starting to collect points of

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<v Speaker 1>evidence that this day is irredeemable, which then creates its

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<v Speaker 1>own narrative. You can reach for one of your coping

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<v Speaker 1>mechanisms a day when you go for a beautiful walk,

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<v Speaker 1>call a friend and read a funny book. Just can't

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<v Speaker 1>be that bad. It is fine, and sometimes that is enough.

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<v Speaker 1>If you have strategies for taking your day from bad

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<v Speaker 1>to fine, I would love to hear them. You can

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<v Speaker 1>reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. In

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<v Speaker 1>the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's

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<v Speaker 1>to making the most of our time. Thanks for listening

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<v Speaker 1>to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback,

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<v Speaker 1>you can reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com.

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