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Speaker 1: for today's Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: and more. Mostly though we do sex and dating rights mostly, Yeah, mostly,

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Speaker 1: It's a Strawberry letter. Subject one crazy night has ruined

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Speaker 1: my entire life. Dear Stephen Shirley. I got accepted into

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Speaker 1: medical school and my sister wanted to celebrate by throwing

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Speaker 1: me a small party. I drove three hours to her

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Speaker 1: house for a quick overnight trip. My boyfriend had to

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Speaker 1: work so he couldn't go. We had food and drinks

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Speaker 1: out by the pool, and my ex boyfriend from twenty

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Speaker 1: years ago showed up. We've stayed in touch over the years,

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Speaker 1: and I was good to see him. I did three

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Speaker 1: tequila shots and I had champagne too, but I wasn't drunk.

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Speaker 1: I went to bed around two am, and they were

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Speaker 1: still playing cards and drinking. I woke up around four

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Speaker 1: o'clock am to use a bathroom and my ex boyfriend

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Speaker 1: was in the bed next to me in his boxers

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Speaker 1: and T shirt. I nudged him to wake up, and

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Speaker 1: I had no recollection of him getting in my bed.

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Speaker 1: I went onto the bathroom and I noticed that I

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Speaker 1: had two big hickeys on my neck and one on

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Speaker 1: my chest. I panicked and went straight back him to

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Speaker 1: wake up my ex boyfriend. There's no way I could

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Speaker 1: go home to my boyfriend like this. I was yelling

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Speaker 1: so loudly that I woke up my sister too. My

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Speaker 1: ex boyfriend said that we had a makeout session and

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Speaker 1: I let him explore my body like the old times,

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Speaker 1: but we didn't have sex. I couldn't remember any of it.

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Speaker 1: My sister told him to get out, and she apologized

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Speaker 1: for not checking on me before she went to bed.

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Speaker 1: I called my boyfriend to tell him what happened. Before

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Speaker 1: I got home. He told me to come on home

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Speaker 1: so we could talk. When he saw my neck and chest,

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Speaker 1: he said there was nothing to talk about, and he

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Speaker 1: broke up with me. He said he was truly hurt,

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Speaker 1: and after two years of dating, he was ready to

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Speaker 1: pop the question. I'm thirty one years old and I

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Speaker 1: love this man so deeply and I want to be

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Speaker 1: his wife. I can't blame him for not believing me.

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Speaker 1: I need to know how I can get my man back.

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Speaker 1: Hickey who still does hicckies? Yeah, I mean that is

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Speaker 1: so old school. And that's what makes this one so hard.

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Speaker 1: Because you have hicckies everywhere, You have him on your neck,

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Speaker 1: you have him on your chest, and you already called

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Speaker 1: your man and told him what happened. You would think

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Speaker 1: after two years there would be a little more trust

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Speaker 1: between you two. And I gotta ask you, has he

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Speaker 1: ever caught you in a lie before? Has your ex

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Speaker 1: ever been a problem in your relationship? Did you already

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Speaker 1: have trust issues? And you know going on between you guys.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if the answer is yes, then it would

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Speaker 1: be easier to understand why he didn't believe you or

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Speaker 1: even give you a chance before he broke up with you.

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Speaker 1: I just think the problem is that this is such

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Speaker 1: an un believable story. I mean, your man is thinking

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Speaker 1: you got with this guy, or it was planned, or

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Speaker 1: how sloppy drunk were you that you didn't know a

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Speaker 1: man was sucking on your neck making hicckies. If I

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Speaker 1: recall it takes some work to make hicckies. If I

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Speaker 1: recall it's been a while and you didn't feel any

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Speaker 1: of that, this just sounds the story sounds crazy. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you were that wasted. Your story has holds in it,

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Speaker 1: I mean from his perspective. So would you believe it

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Speaker 1: if he told you the same thing? Would you believe

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Speaker 1: hicckies from I mean, it's just an impossible story to believe.

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Speaker 1: what about your sister? No, it just doesn't sound like

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Speaker 1: your man is going for anything. You have to say

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Speaker 1: right now. At this point, all you could do is

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Speaker 1: keep telling him the truth, and keep telling them the truth.

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Speaker 1: Why did you pick up the phone and call him

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Speaker 1: tell you. I don't know. It sounds like you guys

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Speaker 1: are just broken up. Steve, let me open this letter

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Speaker 1: by saying, because of stupidity, this is a wrap on

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Speaker 1: so many levels. Thold lady, lord him mercy right here.

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Speaker 1: Let me just show you a couple of stupid thing.

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Speaker 1: You got accepted into medical school and your sisters were

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Speaker 1: throwing you a party. You drove three hours to a

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Speaker 1: so he couldn't go. Y'all had food and drinks out

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Speaker 1: showed up. Now that right there. If you're thirty one

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Speaker 1: and your boyfriend of twenty years ago y'all was eleven

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Speaker 1: the mad, why what are we talking about here? I'm

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Speaker 1: he gave me the rest of his letter. I'm tripping.

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Speaker 1: We stayed in touch over the years. It was good

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Speaker 1: to see him again. You ain't seen him since she

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Speaker 1: was eleven. What he could not have looked the same.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, Steve, Yeah, all right, we'll get to part

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Speaker 1: two of your response, coming up in twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour my strawberry letter for today's subject, one

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Speaker 1: crazy night has ruined my entire life. We'll be back

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening to show, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's crazy strawberry letters. One crazy

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Speaker 1: night has ruined my entire life. Yeah, it did, because

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Speaker 1: you're stupid. You went to the part of your sister

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Speaker 1: threw you for going to graduate school, y'all by the

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Speaker 1: pool drinking. I'm gonna show you the stupid stuff. Your

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Speaker 1: boyfriend couldn't go. Y'all was having food and drinks by

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Speaker 1: the pool. You asked boyfriend from twenty years ago show

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Speaker 1: to go, y'all thirty one, so you let me. You

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Speaker 1: old boyfriend shows up? How was he to you tonight?

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Speaker 1: Then here we go. We stayed in touch over the years,

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Speaker 1: and it was good to see him. Now listen to this.

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Speaker 1: I did three tequila shots and I had champagne too,

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Speaker 1: but I wasn't drunk. You're a medical student, you ain't

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Speaker 1: an alcoholic? Right, three shots in champagne? Your ass was drunk.

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Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, you were so drunk you

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Speaker 1: ain't know you was drunk. That's it right there. So

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Speaker 1: then but I wasn't drunk, And then you went to

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Speaker 1: they still playing cars and drink him. You didn't notice.

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Speaker 1: and his boxes and a T shirt. Who you want?

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Speaker 1: You want to go back to the park where you

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Speaker 1: said I wasn't drunk, because you said you woke up

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Speaker 1: to use the bathroom. I nudged him to wake him up,

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Speaker 1: to the park where you said you wasn't drunk? That part, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Then you went to the bathroom and noticed you had

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Speaker 1: two big hikies on your neck and one on my chest.

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Speaker 1: Now that there's some leven year old stuff, right there's

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Speaker 1: some levin your whole mess right here. I panicked, went

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Speaker 1: straight back in to wake up my ex boyfriend. There

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Speaker 1: like this. I was yelling so loudly. I woke up

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Speaker 1: my sister. My ex boyfriend said that we had a

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Speaker 1: makeout session and I let him explore my body like

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Speaker 1: old times, Like old times, we've been giving to each

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Speaker 1: other hikies. Then what we did, we were damned there

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Speaker 1: nine And then you said, but we didn't have sex.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't remember any of it. You couldn't remember any

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Speaker 1: of it. But y'all ain't have sex. You remember him

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Speaker 1: getting in the bed either. You remember them hickies. You

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Speaker 1: remember that you're getting your chest sucking. You don't remember

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Speaker 1: none of this. My sister told him to get out,

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Speaker 1: and she apologized for not checking on me. Right for

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Speaker 1: a part. This is why I thank you. Still a drunk,

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Speaker 1: I called my boyfriend. You steal on trunk. You're stupid

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Speaker 1: as it steal. I called my boyfriend. You called him

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Speaker 1: to tell him what happened before I got home. He

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Speaker 1: told me come on home so we can talk. You

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Speaker 1: drove home with hickies on your chest and your neck.

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Speaker 1: You didn't. You don't. You don't know how to do this.

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Speaker 1: Go my own woman, not listen to me. Two things,

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Speaker 1: get yourself some makeup, turtleneck, and a avoid him for

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Speaker 1: a week a matter of fact, started a fight and

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Speaker 1: blame it on him. Oh you could do what I

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Speaker 1: did one time? What take your car and just wrap

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Speaker 1: it round a pole over a hickie. It was molding

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Speaker 1: a hickey shell. I had explained why I wasn't there,

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Speaker 1: so I just went on it, wrapped it. You can

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Speaker 1: always get a new car. But when I ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: be get all this ALIMENTI back, So let's just go on. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So he told me to come on home so we

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Speaker 1: said it wasn't none to talk about. Can you blame him?

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Speaker 1: He broke up with me. He said he was truly hurt.

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Speaker 1: After two years of dating. He was ready to pop

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Speaker 1: the question. That's what happens. I'm thirty one years old

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Speaker 1: and I love this man so deeply. I want to

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Speaker 1: be his wife. Well you should act like you wanted

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Speaker 1: to be his wife. You was real excited to see

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Speaker 1: that you've been in contact with. I don't know what

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Speaker 1: was Levin, but obviously you had some enriching conversation you

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Speaker 1: was glad to see. Naw, you know, I can't blame

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Speaker 1: him for not believing me. I need to know how

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Speaker 1: to give my man. I don't know how you can

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Speaker 1: get him in back. I think he's gone. Yeah, I know,

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Speaker 1: I know I'm gonna I don't give a damn what

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Speaker 1: a wife one day, but you just ain't gonna be

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Speaker 1: Letter at Steve Harvey. Your ass don't need no most

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter podcast on demanding. A matter of fact, you

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Speaker 1: don't even know to go to medical school because you

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Speaker 1: don't need them shots. See coming up at forty six

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