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He currently lives in Los Angeles with 27 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:25,680 Speaker 1: his wife and son and a baby on the way. 28 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 1: Because we read the books. If you read the book, 29 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:31,639 Speaker 1: you know about that his daughter attends his daughter's oldest 30 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: daughter attends uh A Tract Scholarship. I believe at the 31 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 1: University of Connecticut. He can find. You can find him 32 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: starring on Foxes TV show Speak for Yourself, co hosted 33 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:44,479 Speaker 1: by Marcellus Wiley, That's Who's on the Phone and Jason 34 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: Whitlock on Fox Sports. Please work with the money making 35 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: Conversation for the second time Return of Parents. Marcellus Wiley, 36 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 1: my man, that's love right there. Well, well, I'll tell 37 00:01:59,320 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: you some man um. First of all, this you know 38 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 1: your sociology degree. My mind was the sociology. We always 39 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: got that let's let's let's talk a little bit about that, 40 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: because I feel that because you've got a degree in sociology, 41 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: which is a plays a part in your book, that 42 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 1: that that really allowed you to tap into what you 43 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: see in everyday life and also how you how you 44 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:24,880 Speaker 1: the person on the day. How is it important to 45 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: getting that degree in sociology has been to you for you? Yeah, 46 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: it's it's been critical because it's it's a degree that 47 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: gives you a universal understanding of people and the patterns 48 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 1: of life and what really shapes us and influences us 49 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: as as individuals. Um you really learn something that I 50 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:50,959 Speaker 1: think comes back from biblical times where there are more 51 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:56,359 Speaker 1: similarities than differences and everyone so I'm able to find 52 00:02:56,400 --> 00:03:00,960 Speaker 1: those commonalities and try to bring like mind together even 53 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:06,520 Speaker 1: though we may have different experiences. So the sociology background 54 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:11,800 Speaker 1: really points out those elements in our everyday existence, whether 55 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:15,359 Speaker 1: it's going to the the grocery store and why are 56 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 1: certain items in the front and certain items in the back, 57 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: And when you open the magazine, why do they have 58 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:24,520 Speaker 1: certain articles here and certain articles there? Every single facet 59 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 1: of life. Someone that has studied that behavior to try 60 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: and have the most impact the maximum impact. And I'm 61 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: able to know some of those things. Yeah, and that's 62 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:36,480 Speaker 1: really amazing. Now, your book, that's why you calling me. 63 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 1: You know, I know we gotta love for each other, 64 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 1: but you call about this book. We gotta sell some books. 65 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 1: That's why most tell Never Shut Up. The Life, Opinions 66 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: and Unexpected Adventures of an NFL Outlet. My man, why 67 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: did you write this book? I wrote this book to 68 00:03:56,560 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 1: inspire everyone, no matter what a verse they face, no 69 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: matter what age group, what circumstances you come from. Uh 70 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 1: and simple. I'm a guy from Compton who whose mother 71 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: and father wanted a better life for me, and they 72 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 1: scraped together their pennies and took us from Compton to 73 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:22,159 Speaker 1: South Central. And that may now say it seemed like 74 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:25,839 Speaker 1: a huge leap to people, but you know, in our reality, 75 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: it's crazy. My grandmother started this mindset. She moved from 76 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:34,479 Speaker 1: Watts in the sixties to Compton with the same mindset. 77 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:38,480 Speaker 1: She wanted a better life for her family. And my 78 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:41,600 Speaker 1: my story is just the fork in the roll kid 79 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:46,599 Speaker 1: who decided to use his talents to plant and plan 80 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: away out of the neighborhood to give himself and his 81 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: family a chance to live a better life in better 82 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: experiences and circumstances. So I became very responsible for my talents. 83 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,040 Speaker 1: I didn't raced them, I didn't take them for granted. 84 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: I try to maximize them and allow them to give 85 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: me an opportunity to make it, to to realize my dreams. 86 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: And the reason I wrote the book is just simply 87 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:18,120 Speaker 1: I'm a kid who figured this out, made sure he 88 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:21,719 Speaker 1: understood his identity, what his role was in the family, 89 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,159 Speaker 1: and took full advantage of it. And I want to 90 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:29,599 Speaker 1: empower everyone in their circumstances, no matter how dire that 91 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 1: those circumstances may look, that you can become anything you want. 92 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 1: And I know it sounds cliche, but trust me, man, 93 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:40,600 Speaker 1: I am a walking, living existence of that same cliche. 94 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 1: And I want to inspire others. Well you do that 95 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 1: for me, because it's really funny. When I read the book, 96 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:49,240 Speaker 1: Well you have me at the opening. You know, here's 97 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: the funds day. They sent me a link to get 98 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:54,160 Speaker 1: the book for free, right, and so I couldn't figure 99 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:55,960 Speaker 1: it out. And I read the opening where you were 100 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,920 Speaker 1: sitting in your house waiting to be called, and then 101 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:01,839 Speaker 1: then I clicked the little parts to read sample and 102 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 1: it just took me to that part that hold on, 103 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 1: hold On, hold hold on, and I bought the book. 104 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:10,040 Speaker 1: I went on and bought the book because first of all, 105 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: you're my boy. Secondly, you had me in the beginning, 106 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 1: so I had to read this book now, and so 107 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:18,120 Speaker 1: so the things that this is the thing about it. 108 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: It was very similar because I come from the hood. 109 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 1: I grew up in Hereford, and just like you, your 110 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,360 Speaker 1: parents they moved me to Northeast and somebody said that 111 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: wasn't much of an upgrade, but they thought they wanted 112 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:31,159 Speaker 1: to give me a better opportunity to succeed. But things 113 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:33,200 Speaker 1: that the things that I stood out for me was 114 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:35,960 Speaker 1: that you said, athletes took your athletics took you out. 115 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:38,239 Speaker 1: But you're a very smart guy. Let's not unders sail 116 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 1: your intellect, your intelligence, your your ability to get grades 117 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:46,599 Speaker 1: under the circumstances. And that's what I think that on 118 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: our last call that we talked about, is that so 119 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 1: many times standing in the hood, growing up in the hood, 120 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: people only see one type of person, and we know 121 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: there are so many diamonds in the hood that can 122 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:03,919 Speaker 1: sometimes be you know, the be damaged because of the 123 00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 1: fact they're not giving the proper opportunity to succeed. Sports 124 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: gave you your opportunity and you got out and uh, 125 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: and then you own this radio show talking about your 126 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 1: life ten years in NFL. You know, beautiful daughter who's 127 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 1: attending a tract scholarship at the University of Connecticut, a 128 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:25,559 Speaker 1: wife who's a nurse anesthesiastic and it's thesis. Right. Yeah, 129 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 1: I know, man, I was working with him, and I 130 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: was working with him, man, But but you know, you 131 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: don't even know that if you read the book. Don't 132 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 1: see what I'm saying. You don't know that. If you 133 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: read the book. You gotta read the book. But it's 134 00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:41,040 Speaker 1: the funny part. But in the beginning, in the early 135 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: parts of the book, because I'm not gonna tell everybody 136 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: the book, but there's certain things that you have to 137 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 1: know about this young man and in his journey. And 138 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 1: it was like when I was his sister. There used 139 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 1: to there, used to come walk through school. They get 140 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 1: beat up every day from the fact they got beat 141 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: up for four straight weeks, okay. And in my when 142 00:07:57,360 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: I was growing up in the hood, it was just guy. 143 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 1: This guy would pas me down on the corner like 144 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: I like he like I was like he was the 145 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: police every day our dread walking. I mean, see, at 146 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 1: least Marcellis just tell his sister to go another way. 147 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: She wouldn't go another way. We're gonna walk down the street. See, 148 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:21,240 Speaker 1: I tried to go on the way. He found me. 149 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:24,640 Speaker 1: He found me every time. So I found that so 150 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: relatable to to that. That's how the hood is. The 151 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:31,000 Speaker 1: hood is is that either stand up and deal with 152 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: it or runaway and become a victim of it. And 153 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: that's and you never became a victim of it. And 154 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,080 Speaker 1: that's why I really appreciate at the beginning of the book, 155 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: and tell me about that said a lot there, brother, 156 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 1: let me go back to the beginning point. Uh yeah, 157 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 1: my talents. When I say talents, I mean to plural 158 00:08:52,040 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 1: one and two. My talents were academics and my talents 159 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: were athletics. So I was a very good football player, 160 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 1: amn good, super fast as a kid, and I was 161 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 1: super smart, um smart because I not so much. I 162 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 1: was born a genius, but I was a kid in 163 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:12,640 Speaker 1: the front of the class, raised in his hand asking 164 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 1: why I was a curious kid. So I coupled my 165 00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:20,320 Speaker 1: two talents, which was my academics and athletics, and I 166 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 1: decided to play the game of life in a short 167 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:26,679 Speaker 1: and in a long game. My short game was gonna 168 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:29,720 Speaker 1: play football. That was gonna be my means to an end. 169 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: A lot of people in the hood look at sports 170 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 1: and entertainment as the end game, and I'm like, no, 171 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 1: it's a means to an end. Um. So I used 172 00:09:39,840 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 1: football to get us immediately out of the hood, to 173 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:46,480 Speaker 1: give me scholarship opportunities, to get me the millions of 174 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:50,840 Speaker 1: dollars initially to help my family and start generational wealth. 175 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 1: Excuse me. That was that was football, But the long 176 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: game was Columbia. The long game was my Ivy League education. 177 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 1: A long game was opening up doors, having people respect 178 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:08,760 Speaker 1: my intelligence, to presume my intelligence before they even meet me, 179 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 1: based off a degree, based off of schooling. And that's 180 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 1: the game I'm playing now, to the tune of I 181 00:10:16,040 --> 00:10:18,959 Speaker 1: played football in the NFL for ten years and now 182 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:22,679 Speaker 1: I'm in my twelfth year of broadcasting. So for all 183 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 1: the kids in the hood and everywhere out there thinking 184 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:29,600 Speaker 1: that sports is the end all of everything, it's not. 185 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:33,679 Speaker 1: It's the beginning ahead start to whatever else you want 186 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:35,640 Speaker 1: to do. Be hell, let's all my seller's we're gonna 187 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:37,240 Speaker 1: go to a quick break and we're gonna come right 188 00:10:37,280 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: back because I want to talk about that dude. D 189 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:44,200 Speaker 1: a T dude. He's on the phone, and I'm happy 190 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:45,679 Speaker 1: to have him one show. It's the second time I've 191 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:49,120 Speaker 1: had him on the show. A fan from you know, 192 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 1: you look at people, you meet them from a far 193 00:10:51,520 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 1: and you become a fans. And this show has allowed 194 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:57,760 Speaker 1: me to actually speak to people that I've I've admired 195 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 1: and because I admired him for his attic talents, which 196 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:03,600 Speaker 1: I didn't possess, but I equally admired him for his 197 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:07,319 Speaker 1: academic talents, which I like to believe I do possess. 198 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:10,800 Speaker 1: So we were able to share that stage. But he's 199 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: on my show. If you he for many years, it 200 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:16,520 Speaker 1: was you could see him on ESPN. Uh, I should 201 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 1: laugh at him. He has a sense of humor. And 202 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:22,040 Speaker 1: I watched his career grow on ESPN. And right now 203 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:25,240 Speaker 1: you can find him on Fox Sports TV show called 204 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 1: Speak for Yourself. It's co hosted about him. It's myr 205 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:30,760 Speaker 1: sell Us Wildly and the and the. I wanted to 206 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: say Jason Woodlocke, who a lot of people love him 207 00:11:33,520 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 1: and a lot of people hate him, but he's a 208 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:38,079 Speaker 1: guy within an opinion on Fox Sports. Please welcome back 209 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:41,319 Speaker 1: to money making Conversation. The author of the show That's 210 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:43,280 Speaker 1: Hot Off. The book That's Hot Off the presses just 211 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 1: got released October twenty three. Uh never shut up by 212 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: Marcellous Wildly my sellers. Now, you was in college Wait wait, 213 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: Columbia University or about six four with two sixty and 214 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:03,679 Speaker 1: you are, I got there. I was that was that 215 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 1: was going that was going to college. Now, but you 216 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:13,560 Speaker 1: were typing eighty two words a minute. Yeah, man, I 217 00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 1: was a national and everybody in the boot win. Huh huh. 218 00:12:21,480 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: So you gotta read the book. I'm telling you. Read 219 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:25,599 Speaker 1: the book, man, You read the book. See see the 220 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: interesting thing. The only thing you thing about that was 221 00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: that you know, here's the funny thing about Marcella's Marcella 222 00:12:32,520 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 1: the first year on the radio is the real deal. Okay. 223 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:38,200 Speaker 1: He he was able to walk that line of being 224 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:41,240 Speaker 1: who he is, but also let you understand when you're 225 00:12:41,320 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 1: when he's aarticular enough to let you know that he 226 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:47,800 Speaker 1: is not who you think he is to hear me clear, okay, 227 00:12:48,200 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: And that's very important because you know, it's a very 228 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:53,960 Speaker 1: intelligent guy. He has the degree, the matches that, and 229 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 1: then Joan let that hood flavor, but he doesn't lose 230 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 1: that hood flavor. So we got to Columbia. You know, 231 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:01,199 Speaker 1: they were out of you playing. He was doing this, 232 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 1: a n w A here doing this thing. He was, 233 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 1: he was, he was a one of b DJ in 234 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 1: the dorms all those all when they weren't feeling him, 235 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:17,119 Speaker 1: they weren't feeling him in the dorms, they complain, they complained, 236 00:13:18,280 --> 00:13:21,679 Speaker 1: and so you know they see that stereotype coming. Man, 237 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:27,640 Speaker 1: it's crazy because from Columbia's perspective, the stereotypical Columbia student 238 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 1: was stereotyping me from Compton, and then everybody from Compton 239 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:34,280 Speaker 1: was stereotyping me for going to Columbia. And it was 240 00:13:34,320 --> 00:13:37,480 Speaker 1: just like I'm called up in the crosshairs, just like 241 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:41,320 Speaker 1: warfare of stereotypes, and I'm like, look, man, first of 242 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:45,920 Speaker 1: all my people, black people, whatever you want to say, Hey, 243 00:13:46,040 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 1: stop trying to lock us into only one one, one 244 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:52,960 Speaker 1: facet of being black, only one level of blackness. Like 245 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:57,760 Speaker 1: our expressions are are in multitude, Like we can be 246 00:13:57,920 --> 00:14:02,160 Speaker 1: anything and express and still be a black person. Like 247 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:05,559 Speaker 1: I hated that, Like if you you were too articulate 248 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:08,560 Speaker 1: at the time, that was not black enough. There was 249 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:11,000 Speaker 1: a time where you were too intelligent. Oh man, you're 250 00:14:11,000 --> 00:14:12,840 Speaker 1: trying to sound like the white people. And I'm like, 251 00:14:13,160 --> 00:14:16,280 Speaker 1: hey man, y'all, y'all need to calm that down. And 252 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 1: then when I get to Columbia, they looking at me like, um, 253 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:24,960 Speaker 1: that T shirt you wearing in those baggies khakis and 254 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:29,000 Speaker 1: and the Cortez's and that look like that's a little 255 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:32,000 Speaker 1: too urban hood gangster for us. And I'm like, look, 256 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:34,200 Speaker 1: y'all need to call that down because I'm in the 257 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 1: same class with you. I got better grades than you, 258 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:39,960 Speaker 1: and I'm killing it on the football field. Y'all need 259 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:42,760 Speaker 1: to relax on how y'are judging cats. So I was 260 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:45,280 Speaker 1: able to like kind of pull them both both sides 261 00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:48,640 Speaker 1: and make him understand, stop trying to judge this man. 262 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 1: Read it. But it's but the skill level, it's typing 263 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:54,800 Speaker 1: door that that was That was the game changing for 264 00:14:54,920 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 1: him though. That was a game changing with the typing though, 265 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:01,360 Speaker 1: because that allowed them a you use you, they they 266 00:15:01,440 --> 00:15:03,400 Speaker 1: use you in a positive manner because you know, it's 267 00:15:03,280 --> 00:15:05,960 Speaker 1: the thing about respect is I always tell people, is 268 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 1: that you get paid on what people value or you 269 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: get treat it on what people value and when you 270 00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 1: when you show them that you had the skill that 271 00:15:13,400 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 1: they actually needed, then your value and the and their 272 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:19,880 Speaker 1: approach to you totally change. Talk to the talk to 273 00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:22,440 Speaker 1: the listeners and how that what I'm talking about as 274 00:15:22,480 --> 00:15:25,080 Speaker 1: far as you from a personal experience. And this is 275 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 1: a this is a statement from the book Never Shut 276 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 1: Up by Marcella's Wilet. Yeah, man, I was so being 277 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 1: a national champion in typing. I had a skill that 278 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 1: was invaluable. I mean it was something that I never 279 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:44,920 Speaker 1: thought with materialized to. Really, they're laughing so hard in 280 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:50,560 Speaker 1: this booth man. They I ain't messing with them. Paid 281 00:15:50,920 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 1: that I was winning up in that dorm room. But 282 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: long story short, man, you know you see me coming. 283 00:15:57,080 --> 00:15:59,840 Speaker 1: I'm big black, I'm playing in w what. I'm comfident 284 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 1: l A. But no one saw that I could type 285 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 1: like that. These kids over there looking at their their keyboards, 286 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:10,960 Speaker 1: typing one word a minute, taking forever to write their papers. 287 00:16:11,280 --> 00:16:14,600 Speaker 1: They found out that I was a national champion in typing. 288 00:16:15,080 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 1: All of a sudden, they're giving me five dollars to 289 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:20,600 Speaker 1: type their papers, ten dollars to type their papers. Next thing, 290 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:24,200 Speaker 1: you know, I'm in there basically writing paper for everyone 291 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:27,680 Speaker 1: else based off their notes, just because I could type 292 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 1: so fast. And it really bridged the gap between those 293 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 1: kids who would have never ever felt comfortable coming up 294 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 1: to a guy like me based on stereotype, based on perception, 295 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:42,640 Speaker 1: And it just closed that gap, man, And it was 296 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:46,680 Speaker 1: It did wonders in terms of my mindset and understanding 297 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:49,880 Speaker 1: that once again we have more in common than we 298 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 1: do indifference. You know, the interesting thing about this book 299 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:56,760 Speaker 1: is he talks about the role that his parents played, 300 00:16:56,800 --> 00:17:01,160 Speaker 1: you know, his mom and his dad Steady Eddie as 301 00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:05,560 Speaker 1: he calls him in the book, and and and and 302 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:08,320 Speaker 1: how that reflected on what you try to be as 303 00:17:08,320 --> 00:17:11,359 Speaker 1: a man, you know, in the various relationships, you know, 304 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:14,320 Speaker 1: the imagery you try to try to put out there 305 00:17:14,560 --> 00:17:17,919 Speaker 1: that you discussed the book and until you finally found 306 00:17:17,960 --> 00:17:21,399 Speaker 1: yourself and in the end you could only trust yourself 307 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:23,440 Speaker 1: and be the man that you believe that you are. 308 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:27,320 Speaker 1: Can you talked about fans about what I'm trying to 309 00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:30,560 Speaker 1: say from the standpoint from the book, from a realistic 310 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 1: sampoint of you know, the life that you were squeezed into, 311 00:17:34,400 --> 00:17:36,520 Speaker 1: and from the from the hood didn't going to climb. 312 00:17:36,560 --> 00:17:39,359 Speaker 1: You have been being this high draft pick and and 313 00:17:39,520 --> 00:17:42,240 Speaker 1: you're able to take your your parents out of the 314 00:17:42,320 --> 00:17:45,040 Speaker 1: hood and to Lada Heights, which I know because I 315 00:17:45,080 --> 00:17:47,560 Speaker 1: lived in l a And fifteen years so I know 316 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:54,840 Speaker 1: exactly where you took him. Talk about that change game, man. Uh. First, 317 00:17:55,480 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 1: I owe everything that my parents were, just them being there, 318 00:18:00,440 --> 00:18:04,160 Speaker 1: being a nuclear family, my mother and father in the home. 319 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:09,840 Speaker 1: As we know how the family motto is being undermined 320 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 1: and the road, and especially in the black community, to 321 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:17,200 Speaker 1: a point where, uh, it's more likely you grow up 322 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:20,320 Speaker 1: in a single family home than you do in a nuclear, 323 00:18:20,440 --> 00:18:25,240 Speaker 1: two parent family home. So I was at a huge advantage, uh, 324 00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:29,480 Speaker 1: compared to my peers. Beyond that, I learned so many 325 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:32,679 Speaker 1: lessons from my parents just because of that stability, that 326 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:37,199 Speaker 1: security it gives you as a kid. I noticed it 327 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:41,520 Speaker 1: now with my own family, Uh, just because my kids 328 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:44,880 Speaker 1: just have a different level of confidence because their their 329 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:49,000 Speaker 1: foundation hasn't been shaken to the point where a divorce 330 00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:53,680 Speaker 1: or single parent home obviously stresses of family. So my 331 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 1: dad was all principal, I mean, no emotion, I mean 332 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:00,919 Speaker 1: all principle. My dad is writer, he don't care. If 333 00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:03,919 Speaker 1: it's you, you don't care. If it's his mama, his daddy. 334 00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:06,879 Speaker 1: If you're right, you're right. If you're wrong, you're wrong. 335 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:09,800 Speaker 1: And that did wonders in terms of helping me navigate 336 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:17,160 Speaker 1: my moral compass. My mother all emotion, all energy, charisma. Uh, 337 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 1: she could win the room over in five seconds. And 338 00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:24,080 Speaker 1: I learned from her kind of like a combo effect. 339 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:26,439 Speaker 1: My dad was the coloring book when you buy it, 340 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:30,960 Speaker 1: no crayons, just outline, just like, oh, there's a lot 341 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:33,840 Speaker 1: of good pages in here. My mom was the Crayola 342 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:40,080 Speaker 1: crayons with the sharp the sharpener in the front. Like 343 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 1: my mom had every single layer of emotion, of energy, uh, 344 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:50,000 Speaker 1: of pozzas. And that combo between my dad being the 345 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:54,720 Speaker 1: outline my mom coloring it in is what I materialized into. Man. 346 00:19:54,760 --> 00:19:57,040 Speaker 1: So I had a great balance in that growing up. Well, 347 00:19:57,080 --> 00:20:00,359 Speaker 1: I want to mention that, first of all, the arny 348 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:04,760 Speaker 1: in the in the in the articulation and the characterization 349 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:06,760 Speaker 1: he has for both his parents in the book is 350 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:10,239 Speaker 1: rather amazing. Now, the book title never Shut Up, I 351 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:14,040 Speaker 1: have to assume that that title came from You're not 352 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:18,439 Speaker 1: You're not shutting up with the Dallas Cowboys is is. 353 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:20,199 Speaker 1: That's where that title came from. It was just your 354 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:23,360 Speaker 1: whole lifestyle because you didn't shut up when your teammate 355 00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:30,639 Speaker 1: told you to shut up. Yeah, that was one. It 356 00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 1: certainly has shown this ugly head and at times this 357 00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 1: beautiful head in my life. But the core of never 358 00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:40,359 Speaker 1: shut Up is for everyone. Um. This world tried to 359 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:42,639 Speaker 1: tell me, the world tried to tell me at a 360 00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 1: young age, who I had to be, who I could be, 361 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:50,080 Speaker 1: and who I couldn't be. Uh. The stereotypes, the statistics, 362 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: everything was telling me what I was going to be. 363 00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:58,119 Speaker 1: But my essence was saying something different. My responsibility to 364 00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:01,680 Speaker 1: my family and to myself was saying something different. So 365 00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:04,480 Speaker 1: never shut Up comes from the fact that you tell 366 00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:07,240 Speaker 1: the world who you want to be. Don't let the 367 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:11,200 Speaker 1: world tell you. Don't let the world dictate certumstances to you, 368 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:14,119 Speaker 1: dictate terms and they will. The world would tell you 369 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:16,440 Speaker 1: you're gonna be a gang banger, bro. The world would 370 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:18,840 Speaker 1: tell you all you are as a football player. The 371 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:20,800 Speaker 1: world would tell you all you're gonna be is just 372 00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:23,400 Speaker 1: this rapper or or you know what the world's gonna 373 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 1: tell you. Your daddy wasn't here for you. You're not 374 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:29,000 Speaker 1: gonna be anything in this world like this world would 375 00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:33,240 Speaker 1: tell you so much. Never shut up telling the world 376 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:36,000 Speaker 1: what you're gonna be, and don't stop till you go 377 00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:39,959 Speaker 1: get it. It's just that simple, Marzellis. Thank you for 378 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:43,320 Speaker 1: calling the show man. 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