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Speaker 2: It is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for you.

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Speaker 1: Subject My best friend's wife is too much.

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Speaker 3: Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I am a twenty seven year old man and I

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Speaker 1: have a best friend and we've been super tight for years.

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Speaker 1: We've been through all the good and bad girlfriends together,

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Speaker 1: and now that he's married, I want to tell him

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Speaker 1: so bad that his wife is too much.

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Speaker 3: She's too much of everything.

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Speaker 1: She's tall, thick, wears big hair, big lashes, and her

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Speaker 1: nails and tall nails are very long. She's what we

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Speaker 1: used to call soulful and would only fool around with them,

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Speaker 1: but would never make them our number one girl. Okay,

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Speaker 1: this woman put on put that thing on him and

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Speaker 1: he's gone.

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Speaker 3: He talks about her NonStop and doesn't like to be away.

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Speaker 3: From her for long.

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Speaker 1: He invited me over last Sunday for steaks on the grill,

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Speaker 1: and when I got there, he was still at the store,

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Speaker 1: so I sat.

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Speaker 3: And talked to his wife.

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Speaker 1: We had a friendly conversation at first, and then she

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Speaker 1: started tearing up and went into a story about how

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Speaker 1: my best friend isn't pleasing her and she needs a

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Speaker 1: real man to take care of her needs. I was

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Speaker 1: thrown for a loop, but tried to comfort her. She

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Speaker 1: got closer to me and whispered that she heard I'm blessed.

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Speaker 1: Then she looked at my mid section and winked. I

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Speaker 1: pushed her away, and she sprung right back on me

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Speaker 1: and grabbed my mid section and got an ice handful.

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Speaker 3: God because I had on jogging pants.

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Speaker 1: She asked if she could see it, and when I

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Speaker 1: said no, she tried to take it out of my

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Speaker 1: pants herself. I struggle with her for a minute, and

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Speaker 1: then we heard my best friend pull up. I ran

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Speaker 1: into the bathroom because during the struggle I became aroused.

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Speaker 1: The rest of the day at his house was stressful.

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Speaker 1: I know if I tell my best friend any of this,

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Speaker 1: it could end our friendship. Should I tell her how

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Speaker 1: foul she is, or avoid them both.

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Speaker 3: WHOA. I was not expecting any of this. This letter

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Speaker 3: took a turn, didn't it.

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Speaker 1: You're right, she's too much, She's way too much, and

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Speaker 1: this is a dangerous position you're in because any wrong

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Speaker 1: moves on your part could totally end your friendship, and

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Speaker 1: that's what you don't want.

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Speaker 3: So I say this to you, Say nothing.

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Speaker 1: To him about his ridiculous wife, and just stay away

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Speaker 1: from them. If they invite you over again, and I'm

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Speaker 1: sure they will make excuses, don't go, ever, don't ever

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Speaker 1: go back over there. His wife is too crazy. She's

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Speaker 1: out of control. She sounds like the kind of person

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Speaker 1: who will lie on you, and you know, say that

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Speaker 1: you came on to her when it was her trifle

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Speaker 1: and ratchet behind all the time. So again, stay away

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Speaker 1: from them as a couple for sure, and never ever

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Speaker 1: be alone with her again. She has no morals to

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Speaker 1: do that to you, like it was nothing, and she's

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Speaker 1: willing to risk it all for some well you get

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Speaker 1: the picture. If she's that loose with you, she's bound

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Speaker 1: to try it with someone else who she heard you know,

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Speaker 1: is blessed, and hopefully she'll get caught, you know. And

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Speaker 1: then she'll lose her husband, which is a good man

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Speaker 1: according to you. So again, just stay away, stay quiet.

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Speaker 1: Your friend won't believe you anyway if you tell him.

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Speaker 1: He's so strong, she'll get what's coming to her eventually,

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Speaker 1: and it probably, I'm sure won't be a moment a

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Speaker 1: moment to some Steve.

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Speaker 2: Well, we got a problem here Homeian say you're going

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Speaker 2: through this but and this ain't good. Now, this is

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Speaker 2: gonna end up badly for everybody in this letter, including you.

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Speaker 2: So here's let me just walk you through what happened

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Speaker 2: to you though, So you understand, you said, y'all real tight.

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Speaker 2: You and your boy y'all been through a lot. You

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Speaker 2: had some good and bad girlfriends together. And now he's married,

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Speaker 2: and now you want to tell him about his wife.

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Speaker 2: You can't. She's tall, thick, where big hair, got big lashes,

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Speaker 2: long nails, and toenails are very long. I don't know

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Speaker 2: what when it started being a fat out. I've been

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Speaker 2: out the game for a long time, so I don't

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Speaker 2: know when they started doing the long toenails. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Maybe she just into open toe shoes or you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm not really in the claw type. Feet long, toenails.

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Speaker 2: What do like on painted but not long? She's what

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Speaker 2: we used to call soulful. And you fool around with him,

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Speaker 2: but y'all will make him your number one. Well, now

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Speaker 2: here's the problem. This woman put that thing on him

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Speaker 2: and he gone, well, let's see, we can stop writing

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Speaker 2: this letter. See your partner whip. Ain't nothing we can

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Speaker 2: do about that. We can't help you. And because your

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Speaker 2: description of her, it doesn't got it. He talks about

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Speaker 2: her NonStop and don't like to be away from her

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Speaker 2: for long. So he asked you to come over for

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Speaker 2: steaks on the grill. You got there, he wasn't home

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Speaker 2: well so much for he don't like to be alone.

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Speaker 2: See a lot of men say stuff about their marriage

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Speaker 2: that ain't really true. If he don't like being alone,

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Speaker 2: why is his ass at the stove. He could have

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Speaker 2: went to the store together. Yeah, but he needed a break,

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Speaker 2: all his long hair, big hair, nails, all this here,

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Speaker 2: He lied, he went to the store. He probably sitting

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Speaker 2: in the parking lot at the stove right now, just

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Speaker 2: breathing heavy, just trying to catch a breath because he's

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Speaker 2: been at the house with this hell for all this time.

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Speaker 2: He wants you to think he got something real because

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Speaker 2: he'd have made a mistake. So y'all sitting there and

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Speaker 2: he wasn't at home. Y'all having a friendly conversation. Now

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Speaker 2: big girls start tearing up, Start talking about how your

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Speaker 2: best friend ain't pleasing and she need a real man

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Speaker 2: to take care of her knees.

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Speaker 3: All right, Hold that thought, Steve, Hold that thought. Well

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Speaker 3: that part two.

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Speaker 1: Steve's response at twenty three minutes after the hour, Strawberry

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Speaker 1: leave the subject for today, my best friend's wife.

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Speaker 3: Is too much. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 3: You're listening Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject my best friend's wife is too much?

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Speaker 2: All right, we're talking about this young couple and twenty seven.

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Speaker 2: They been homies for a long time, went through it,

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Speaker 2: used to run girls together and everything, and then they

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Speaker 2: used to have this type of girl soul for big tall, thick,

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Speaker 2: big hair, big lashes, long nails. But this one got

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Speaker 2: long toenails. This is probably the whole difference maker right here.

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Speaker 2: And so now he didnet marry this girl. He talk

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Speaker 2: about her constantly and don't like being away from it. Well,

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Speaker 2: he do like being away from it, because when you

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Speaker 2: got over there Sunday, he was at the stove gone.

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Speaker 2: He was down at the store, just sitting in the

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Speaker 2: parking lot, just getting a break. Y'all started having a

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Speaker 2: friendly conversation. She started tearing up and told you how

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Speaker 2: her friend ain't pleasing her. She need a real man.

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Speaker 2: Now here what a letter turned. I was thrown for

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Speaker 2: a loop, but I tried to comfort her. You can't

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Speaker 2: pack them types of people on the back. You can't

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Speaker 2: do that. Once you touch her back, that signals to

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Speaker 2: her and them toes time to make a move at us.

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Speaker 2: Just throwing this whole thing. And you tried to comfort hers,

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Speaker 2: so you patted her on the back. She got closer

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Speaker 2: and then whispered that she heard I'm blessed now where

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Speaker 2: she here this at? She heard that from your best friend.

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Speaker 2: That's probably why. Then she looked at your mid section

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Speaker 2: and wink. You pushed her away. Now you know why

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Speaker 2: you had to push her away because she was comforted

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Speaker 2: her patting her on the back. That's what happened. And

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Speaker 2: then she grabbed your mid section and she got a

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Speaker 2: hand for it because you had on jogging pants. She

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Speaker 2: asked me if she could see it. I said no.

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Speaker 2: She tried to take it out my pants herself. Y'all

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Speaker 2: y'all too close though, Yeah, y'all way too close. Your

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Speaker 2: friend's house, way too close. See when you're friend ain't home,

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Speaker 2: you're supposed to stay outside by the grill, supposed to

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Speaker 2: be on the porch somewhere. You're supposed to be turning

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Speaker 2: the meat or moving the ice round in the cooler.

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Speaker 2: You all in there, patting her on the back, comforting her.

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Speaker 2: You can't comfort a woman that's got long ass toenails.

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Speaker 2: I'm telling them. Listen, it's the whole thing. See a

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Speaker 2: woman with real long toenails and hang out over the chute,

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Speaker 2: pull her along on the sidewalk when she walking along. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you gotta be heard. So I've struggled with her for

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Speaker 2: a minute now. She big, tall, thick, big hair, big.

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Speaker 2: It's hard. You're struggling. Then you heard your friend pull up.

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Speaker 2: You ran to the bathroom because doing the struggle, you

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Speaker 2: got a little arouse. That's cost you twenty seven. It

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Speaker 2: don't take much. She touched me. Even if you don't

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Speaker 2: want them, if they touch you, your ass is lit.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the rest of the deal, you twenty seven. It

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Speaker 2: don't take much thoughts. Touching is one thoughts. Get you there.

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Speaker 2: She touched. The rest of the day at his house

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Speaker 2: was stressful. I know if I tell my best friend

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Speaker 2: any of this, it could in our friendship. Should I

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Speaker 2: tell how far she is? Or avoid them both? All right,

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Speaker 2: here's the deal. You have to avoid them. You have to.

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Speaker 2: You cannot tell it. He is going to find out,

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Speaker 2: and she gonna go somewhere else. You turned her down,

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Speaker 2: but she gonna make a move somewhere else. So that's

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Speaker 2: really it. You're in a precarious position. Don't go over

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Speaker 2: there no more. Ain't no more grilling at his house?

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Speaker 3: Stopped all that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you all them days over right there. And you know,

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Speaker 2: some friendships is for a season. And you and a friend.

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Speaker 2: You know, I got some friends that I was friends

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Speaker 2: with in the twenties, but we ain't make the cut.

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Speaker 2: You can't say nothing about his wife. He ain't gonna

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Speaker 2: take it right because he sprung. And just let it

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Speaker 2: go and just be that. Don't ever tell him about

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Speaker 2: the incident, even when their relationship is over. Just let

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Speaker 2: it go. That's all I got for you, man. You're

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Speaker 2: Every man in here has been in this situation where

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Speaker 2: one of their friends girls got a little crazy. I

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Speaker 2: been very fortunate in my life and that none of

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Speaker 2: it happens often often, and y'all young, stay away from her.

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Speaker 2: Run And now let's just be a lesson from you.

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Speaker 2: Stop fooling with them soul for girls. Because one of

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Speaker 2: y'all gonna get too close and they let you. You're

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Speaker 2: gonna get whipped just like he is. Next thing, you know,

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Speaker 2: you beating married one. So what is the moral of

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Speaker 2: this story? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: What do we learn today?

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Speaker 2: Stay away from long ass toenails? Learn something every day.

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Speaker 2: Every day you have got to stay away from long

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Speaker 2: ass today.

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Speaker 3: I know his best friend is cut all right, Well,

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Speaker 3: thank you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's all I got for y'all. Really can't go

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