Speaker 1: Huggy, huggy, higa ulga huga uga uga ooga like a boat.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it does sound like a boat.
Speaker 2: Uga More better, more better, more, a little more better.
Speaker 1: Welcome to More Better, a podcast where we stop pretending
Speaker 1: to have it all together and embrace a journey up.
Speaker 3: Becoming a little more better every day, or at least
Speaker 3: trying to. That's Deephanie Beatrice.
Speaker 1: That's mostly for Marrow hey Brand, Welcome back, Welcome back,
Speaker 1: friends who are listening.
Speaker 3: How's it going?
Speaker 1: It's going, man, it is going. Every day is going?
Speaker 1: Have you done anything lately that's a little more better?
Speaker 3: You know? Here's the thing? Is this more better? Is
Speaker 3: it more worse? I don't know. I finished Love Island.
Speaker 3: It was fantastic. All that's good. Those of you more
Speaker 3: better if you have you know, it's more better for
Speaker 3: me and my brain because I need something sometimes cause
Speaker 3: you love it. It's your escape, it's your it's your guilty pleasure. Honestly,
Speaker 3: it was kind of fantastic this season. Not only were
Speaker 3: there like multiple moments where I cannot believe this has
Speaker 3: just become a Love Island podcast. Sorry everyone, but there
Speaker 3: were like a bunch of moments where I was like, ugh,
Speaker 3: toxic masculinity, Like I was not into these guys playing
Speaker 3: these dumb games.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah. And then at the end, what was really nice
Speaker 3: was like it was all people of color. It was like, hmm,
Speaker 3: it was just really nice to see this, Like America
Speaker 3: voted for you know who they liked the best. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and that made me really really happy.
Speaker 1: For those listening, they need to know that not only
Speaker 1: is Stephanie obsessed with Love Island, so are our two
Speaker 1: producers on this show. And so every week I am
Speaker 1: like odd man out and I'm I'm on. I'm a
Speaker 1: big part of me is like should I just fucking
Speaker 1: watch it so I can be part of the conversation.
Speaker 3: You should watch Love Island. But then also like I've
Speaker 3: got time for that. I don't. I don't know, I
Speaker 3: don't know. I don't know if I can do it.
Speaker 3: I don't know if I can I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but maybe I will because it feels
Speaker 1: like every single person on the planet is watching Love Island,
Speaker 1: and I feel.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's over, well, so you're gonna have to
Speaker 3: wait till next season? Okay, can I just do I
Speaker 3: have to watch the other seasons? Could I just like
Speaker 3: pick up on the next music so you can start. Honestly,
Speaker 3: the best season to start with is UK the first
Speaker 3: season because first of all, their accents are amazing. There's
Speaker 3: this guy name hot. I'm not well, she talks like that.
Speaker 3: It's so amazing. I think the accent is called scout.
Speaker 3: So many episodes and it's there's like backdap bustles are something.
Speaker 3: They're so nice. Now I'm doing like a bad Irish accent.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Wait episodes. I think there's like a lot
Speaker 3: of episodes. Yeah, because the thing is it goes It
Speaker 3: goes on for six weeks and there there Monday through
Speaker 3: Friday there's a new episode. Oh Sunday. Actually, it's like
Speaker 3: a soap opera. It's a soap opera, Melissa, it's a
Speaker 3: soap opera. It absolutely is a soap opera. That is
Speaker 3: a big They're very hot. It's a lot of horniness.
Speaker 3: The first season. They're still giving them alcohol. People get wasted.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, it's so funny.
Speaker 1: The thing is is like I know my husband would
Speaker 1: like get really into it, like if I see you.
Speaker 3: Would get so into it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: David has a little bit of a love for reality TV,
Speaker 1: like he will get sucked.
Speaker 3: In last season, there was a guy that we called
Speaker 3: We pretended that he was David, and we called it
Speaker 3: because his name was Dobby Day. So Brad and I
Speaker 3: would be like David Dane Melissa like it mean, her
Speaker 3: her name was something else. I can't remember what her
Speaker 3: name was. She was crazy. Oh my god, I can sue.
Speaker 3: Her name was, I can sue. And there's this great
Speaker 3: where like she she like sneaks behind his back and
Speaker 3: like kisses somebody else. He's like Yura Lia. He's Italian. Also,
Speaker 3: he like screams on her across the villa. Oh my god.
Speaker 3: Sometimes Brad and I saw her be like liar. Sorry,
Speaker 3: this was really devolved into I got you more better.
Speaker 3: It just went on. Listen. Love Island makes my life
Speaker 3: more better. I will never give it up. I will
Speaker 3: never give it up. America has spoken. I respect it.
Speaker 3: What about you? What have you been been up too
Speaker 3: lately that may or may not be more better? You?
Speaker 3: Never work related, not child related. I want to hear
Speaker 3: some absolute bullshit fluff. Yeah, give it to me.
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know if it's fluff, but and it
Speaker 1: kind of goes with our what we're talking about today. Okay,
Speaker 1: I am little by little purging my house.
Speaker 3: I love it. I am like picking a closet.
Speaker 1: What I would love is to be able to clear
Speaker 1: my schedule and do like three days straight of just
Speaker 1: like absolutely shing purge.
Speaker 3: She was ever going to doganizing, but like that's unrealistic.
Speaker 1: Yes, So I am just making sure I have like
Speaker 1: an hour to two hours when I can and picking
Speaker 1: a closet, picking a drawer, picking just like a smaller
Speaker 1: area and just going through it and throwing out shit
Speaker 1: and throwing out and just like putting I have donation
Speaker 1: piles put together. And then yeah, god, why does that
Speaker 1: make me like horny? Not like it makes me horny,
Speaker 1: It makes me horny every time I do it. I'm
Speaker 1: just like, I feel so fucking good right now. We
Speaker 1: haven't done it in a long time, so things have
Speaker 1: accumulated in a way that it just got away from us,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. You put shit in a
Speaker 1: basket and you're like, I'll deal with that later, or
Speaker 1: you shove dude's there a shit in the back of
Speaker 1: a closet and you're like, I'll figure it out later.
Speaker 3: And this is why people when they die. Yeah, houses
Speaker 3: like accumulated like.
Speaker 1: Fifty years of stuff and it has just gotten and
Speaker 1: I mean it's not Listen, I'm making it sound like
Speaker 1: our house looks like a fucking hoarder's house. It doesn't,
Speaker 1: but it is at a level to me that is unsustainable,
Speaker 1: and it causes me so much stress because I've been
Speaker 1: wanting to like address it for like a year, and
Speaker 1: so I'm finally doing it good.
Speaker 2: More better.
Speaker 3: Okay. So that is topic adjacent because on today's episode,
Speaker 3: we're talking about h y gg Melissa, how would you
Speaker 3: pronounce that if you read it off the page? Oh?
Speaker 1: If I read it off the page without knowing the
Speaker 1: actual pronunciation. Yeah, yeah, huggy, huggy huggy like higa or higu. No, guys,
Speaker 1: it's huga houga uga huga. I think it's I think
Speaker 1: it's like huga huga hugua like a like a boat.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it does sound like a boat.
Speaker 2: Huga.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're horning for huga, Garney for huga. Okay, what
Speaker 3: is he?
Speaker 2: So?
Speaker 3: Yoga is it? It's a defining characteristic of Danish culture,
Speaker 3: a quality of coziness and comfort that engenders a feeling
Speaker 3: of contentment or well being. You know, huga when you
Speaker 3: feel it so like coziness, cozy, I'm gonna be cozy,
Speaker 3: you know. Like yeah, some of it is like some
Speaker 3: some of it's like about togetherness, relaxation, indulgence, presence. There
Speaker 3: was like a big movement about huga, like and I
Speaker 3: think it was like twenty sixteen, seventeen. Okay, this is
Speaker 3: from the New Yorkers. To quote, it is candles, nubby woolens,
Speaker 3: sharing slippers, woven textiles, pastries, sheepskin, rugs, latches with milk, foam, hearts,
Speaker 3: warm fireplace. Yuga can be used as a noun, adjective, verb,
Speaker 3: or compound noun like hyuga, busker oh, otherwise known as
Speaker 3: that schlobby pair of pants you'd never wear in public
Speaker 3: but secretly treasure. Uga can be found in a bakery
Speaker 3: and in the dry heat of asana in winter, Oh,
Speaker 3: surrounded by your naked neighbors. I don't know about that one.
Speaker 3: It's wholesome and nourishing, like porridge. Oh, that reminds me
Speaker 3: of that line. But that Andre said on Brooklyn where
Speaker 3: he's like love is like oatmeal. It sustains you. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's the feeling of it. That's the feeling of it.
Speaker 3: It's like cozy, the warm, cuddly.
Speaker 1: So it's like it's a feeling, it's an aesthetic, it's
Speaker 1: it's it's a vibe, as the kids would say, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a vibe.
Speaker 3: It's a vibe aka huge. You're in your cozy era uga.
Speaker 3: That's what that means.
Speaker 1: Huga, Huga, huga.
Speaker 3: I think it's very you know, the idea of hugo
Speaker 3: is really interesting because I mean not to get too
Speaker 3: about it, but it's very Eurocentric, right, like it is Danish, right,
Speaker 3: and it's just like an idealized sort of sense of
Speaker 3: like Eurocentric comfort and coziness. But I think, like, I
Speaker 3: think the idea can exist they obviously they've got a
Speaker 3: name for it, but the idea can exist cross culturally.
Speaker 3: I think it's more about like what we said, like
Speaker 3: the vibe of it of sorry, my dog's barking in
Speaker 3: the background. It's not huga. That is not cua. It's
Speaker 3: not you get with the yuga. Like the vibe of
Speaker 3: it is like comfy, cozy, like like I'm into that.
Speaker 1: Those are all of my what's it called? I was
Speaker 1: going to say trigger words, but that's not correct. That's
Speaker 1: not the no.
Speaker 3: No, it's your like descriptive words.
Speaker 1: You're like, it's but but it hits all my al
Speaker 1: my points, you know what I mean, Like everything you
Speaker 1: were reading that paragraph. I was just like, yes, all
Speaker 1: of that, I want it all, Get it to me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I am Yeah, I think I am a bit. I
Speaker 1: live a bit huga ish because I love a robe.
Speaker 1: I love slippers, love a robe, love a throw blanket.
Speaker 1: I have multiple throw blankets in my living room. I
Speaker 1: have I own like three robes for different times of years.
Speaker 3: Of the year. Oh my god. Yes, yes, I.
Speaker 1: Also own two different slippers, a summer pair and a
Speaker 1: winter pair.
Speaker 3: Yes. And I have a travel pa Oh my god,
Speaker 3: Oh my god, a dedicated travel pair.
Speaker 1: A dedicated travel pair I bought. I found that like
Speaker 1: on my last.
Speaker 3: One I stole from a hotel, but not like a
Speaker 3: dedicated travel I'm gonna send you a picture of it.
Speaker 3: I found them in Target. Okay, they're just they're really
Speaker 3: like cozy.
Speaker 1: They feel like those like really fuzzy socks that you
Speaker 1: get that are like those socks, but they're but they're
Speaker 1: shaped like a slipper, but they're flimsy, so they're flat.
Speaker 3: So you can like, oh, they're packable, They're so good,
Speaker 3: that's really cute. This is something that I'm embraced seeing
Speaker 3: more in my in my life now. And maybe that's because,
Speaker 3: let's be real, like, as adults, most of the time,
Speaker 3: we have a little bit more of expendable income. We
Speaker 3: can say like, I am gonna buy myself an extra robe,
Speaker 3: I am gonna buy myself that candle. I am gonna
Speaker 3: like take take care of myself and make me myself
Speaker 3: a little cozier. But also I think I just have
Speaker 3: less I don't know if that's pandemic or age or
Speaker 3: like wisdom, but I just have less time to be uncomfortable,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean totally Like I'm not trying
Speaker 3: to be uncomfortable in any way, shape or form, one
Speaker 3: hundred percent agree. I want comfort. I want comfort.
Speaker 1: I have always wanted comfort. But I will and I
Speaker 1: will say, like, you know, there was when we were
Speaker 1: younger in living in New York and like not really
Speaker 1: making a lot of money. We lived in this tiny apartment,
Speaker 1: tiny one bedroom in Midtown and uh, but it was
Speaker 1: but we loved that apartment and whenever we talk about
Speaker 1: it and like it wasn't listen. Our furniture was not cute,
Speaker 1: like the esthetic was what it was, but it was cozy.
Speaker 1: And that is what we talk about when we when
Speaker 1: we think about that apartment, we're like, oh, it was
Speaker 1: so small and like we didn't love like the location
Speaker 1: per se, but we were so comfortable in that apartment.
Speaker 1: It was so cozy. We just had a cozy vibe
Speaker 1: in there. And then I think the thing that I've
Speaker 1: tried to get better at as I get older is
Speaker 1: maintaining that coziness but like trying to be a little
Speaker 1: bit better about aesthetics and like design and like you know,
Speaker 1: trying to make my house pretty always. Yeah, my not
Speaker 1: necessarily a strength of mine. I mean we have very
Speaker 1: like David and I have very similar taste and like
Speaker 1: be like what we like, but like, yeah, putting it
Speaker 1: together and like putting more effort into it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's interesting because your house is very like I
Speaker 3: feel like, esthetically it's like all doing one thing. So
Speaker 3: it's interesting here you say like, oh, I don't feel
Speaker 3: like I'm putting things together in a way that makes
Speaker 3: it feel like Okay, well that's nice to hear.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think we've gotten a little bit
Speaker 1: more help along the way, like people with a better
Speaker 1: ie being like like the blue wallpaper that I love
Speaker 1: in the little front room way, Yeah, that was a
Speaker 1: suggestion of somebody like who had a better eye than
Speaker 1: I did.
Speaker 3: They were like, you.
Speaker 1: Should wallpaper this, and I was like, oh yeah, wallpaper this. Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's been like people along the way going like you know,
Speaker 1: you know you like you need to put this there,
Speaker 1: like yeah, yeah, I feel like we've had some My
Speaker 1: sister is so good at it.
Speaker 3: I mean speaking of you're so good at it, I
Speaker 3: do love it. I'm not gonna lie you are really
Speaker 3: if I'm good at it, my sister's great at it.
Speaker 3: I mean, your house is beautiful.
Speaker 1: The choices you made for your kitchen are think gorgeous gorgeous,
Speaker 1: and I feel like I wouldn't necessarily think of them, and.
Speaker 3: I feel like they're very How the fuck do you
Speaker 3: say this word? Who uga huga? I can only remember
Speaker 3: it if I sayug.
Speaker 2: Better.
Speaker 3: So here's here's my like pro tips for for doing
Speaker 3: this and like bringing these things into your life. Yeah,
Speaker 3: is pinterest. I know Pinterests had a big moment the
Speaker 3: early two thousands, and we're all pinteresting everything and like
Speaker 3: you can quickly get overwhelmed with pinterress.
Speaker 1: Yes, I get over bounded and over stimulated by pinterest.
Speaker 3: I I feel like I give myself, Like I'll do
Speaker 3: like a little bit on my phone, you know, I'll
Speaker 3: just go like what do I like in in bathrooms?
Speaker 3: Like what do I like? And I'll go through pictures
Speaker 3: and like bookmark stuff like make a board just for
Speaker 3: a bathroom or just for a kitchen and like and
Speaker 3: then I'll go back and look at the pictures and
Speaker 3: go like, what is the thing that's tying all these
Speaker 3: things together? Is it the tile in the background? Is
Speaker 3: it the lighting? Is it? Oh? There's look, there's gold
Speaker 3: accents everywhere. Oh look they've got like you know, oh
Speaker 3: their sea foam green. Like for me, it was painted
Speaker 3: cabinets in the kitchen, and I knew I wanted painted cabinets.
Speaker 3: I didn't want just white. I knew I wanted paint.
Speaker 3: And originally, actually I really wanted pink, and I pushed
Speaker 3: hard for pink, but Brad did not want pink. He
Speaker 3: fought me really hard on it. So what shade? It
Speaker 3: was like this soft blush The color that we ended
Speaker 3: up painting are better. Oh, that's a beautiful color. So
Speaker 3: like I got what I wanted. Yeah, yeah, but beautiful.
Speaker 4: And whatever you guys look like that's the thing, right,
Speaker 4: Like I think so much of creating, you know, Huga
Speaker 4: is mostly about home.
Speaker 3: So creating a space that feels cozy to you is
Speaker 3: going to look different for everyone. Yeah, it's gonna aesthetically
Speaker 3: look different for everyone. And Huga specifically is very like
Speaker 3: I said, like eurocentric, so like blonde woods and you know,
Speaker 3: sweater that are very like Danish, like look like nordicky whatever.
Speaker 3: That's not always going to be the aesthetic that I
Speaker 3: go to because I grew up with other influences, like
Speaker 3: I grew up with Latino influences, you know, and like,
Speaker 3: but what it means to me, like and what and
Speaker 3: the translation of coziness to me is like every for example,
Speaker 3: like every piece of art that we have hanging on
Speaker 3: our walls is framed, Like everything is framed and has
Speaker 3: like an ornate frame or like a stylistic frame, or
Speaker 3: there's like a bunch of different frames that are all
Speaker 3: very very different, but they've all got like like there's
Speaker 3: a lot of gold frames in my house. Like probably
Speaker 3: because there's time back to like a lot of like
Speaker 3: religious art that my mom had framed and like gold frames.
Speaker 3: But to me it's it looks cozy and like together
Speaker 3: and it all is of a piece, you know, or
Speaker 3: like there's I have leftover feelings about Ikea, like moving
Speaker 3: to New York for the first time and outfitting my
Speaker 3: whole apartment in Ikea, and that is Danish or like
Speaker 3: not Danish where Swedish. But I tell you what is
Speaker 3: very yuga and very cheap. Those fake sheepskin rugs are
Speaker 3: like twenty bucks. Listen, They're everywhere in my house. They're everywhere. Yeah,
Speaker 3: the back of a couch, the back of a chair,
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: The throw pillow covers from my sauces are yes, so
Speaker 1: cozy and practical.
Speaker 3: They wash so well when you have little kids, they
Speaker 3: wash great. They wash so good, you know.
Speaker 1: I also like this idea of huga as contributing to
Speaker 1: happiness and like happy vibes and peaceful vibes. Yeah, it
Speaker 1: made me think of one of my first apartments that
Speaker 1: I ever lived in was in Queen's and I was
Speaker 1: really young, and I had lived in that apartment with
Speaker 1: an ex and it was sort of just like whatever
Speaker 1: slapped together you know. I did buy my first like
Speaker 1: nice couch, like a leather couch. That was like my
Speaker 1: first big purchase from an acting paycheck.
Speaker 3: That I was very proud of.
Speaker 1: But everything else was like leftover some of his shit
Speaker 1: and then like leftover shit from my college days. I
Speaker 1: at an attempt to like make my bedroom look cool.
Speaker 3: I painted one wall like a burgend red.
Speaker 2: The one wall.
Speaker 3: Remember, oh my god, one red wall. Didn't have a
Speaker 3: one red wall exactly. Don't do it, you guys.
Speaker 1: One of the most romantic things that David and that
Speaker 1: David did for me when we first started dating was
Speaker 1: he hated that fucking red wall.
Speaker 3: First of all, he was like, the red wall is all.
Speaker 1: I came home to like a makeover of my bedroom.
Speaker 1: He Oh my god, that's so romantic, right he It
Speaker 1: was such a move.
Speaker 3: He painted my whole bedroom.
Speaker 1: This beautiful like sagey green that kind of almost similar
Speaker 1: to your kitchen color.
Speaker 2: Go.
Speaker 1: He bought a new bed, he rearranged all the furniture,
Speaker 1: he moved my bed and so the room looked bigger,
Speaker 1: and he got me a new bedspread for my bed
Speaker 1: that like matched the wall. It was all like I
Speaker 1: came home and I cried so hard. I was so surprised,
Speaker 1: and it looked so beautiful. But it also was the
Speaker 1: first time in my kind of adulthood that I had
Speaker 1: a space that felt so peaceful. I ended up spending
Speaker 1: more time in that bedroom than I did in the
Speaker 1: living room for the rest of the time that I
Speaker 1: lived there, because it became this little sanctuary. It was
Speaker 1: so cozy, and I realized, I think I didn't realize
Speaker 1: it at the time until later, that it was contributing to, like, right,
Speaker 1: like my inner peace and my mental health, kind of
Speaker 1: having this.
Speaker 3: Space that felt really good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And and so then that that you start to
Speaker 1: think about that more and more as you get older,
Speaker 1: and like you buy your first house or like then
Speaker 1: you have kids, and it's like your home does really
Speaker 1: And that's like why I'm purging it right now, because
Speaker 1: I'm like, we have too much shit, Like we need
Speaker 1: to make space, Like we need to not feel overwhelmed
Speaker 1: when we open closet doors and drawers.
Speaker 3: And like breathe to breathe. I want to feel more peace.
Speaker 3: I want to feel.
Speaker 1: More coziness in my house. Yes, because it really affects
Speaker 1: me so much. Sometimes we don't notice, but it's in
Speaker 1: these it's these little stressors. Right, you open that drawer
Speaker 1: and you're like, fuck everything, I can't find the thing,
Speaker 1: or this is so disorganized and I don't have time
Speaker 1: to address it right now.
Speaker 3: Like all of those things.
Speaker 1: It's like fung shue and like all like I think
Speaker 1: these are all like similar ideas of like how do
Speaker 1: we get better at making sure our space is working
Speaker 1: in tandem with our mental health and the self care
Speaker 1: and all the things that we're trying to like do
Speaker 1: for ourselves and our family. Like the house has to
Speaker 1: contribute to that, right, Yeah, Like that is like the yeah,
Speaker 1: at the core of this like idea, and I really
Speaker 1: like that.
Speaker 3: Yeah. They say, like your space really can reflect how
Speaker 3: you're feeling, how you're holding yourself inside. And like I
Speaker 3: know when when I've been like at my most depressed
Speaker 3: or my most down, certainly my space reflects that. Yeah,
Speaker 3: shit is everywhere. Like I remember when I was dating
Speaker 3: Brad not letting him into my apartment at one point
Speaker 3: because it was so disgusting. He was like, no, it's fine,
Speaker 3: Like I'm not gonna to judge you. And I was like,
Speaker 3: you don't understand. There's like pizza boxes in here that
Speaker 3: I've been in here for a month on the floor,
Speaker 3: there's like crap everywhere. I haven't done laundry in two months,
Speaker 3: Like you cannot come in right, and like it does.
Speaker 3: It's hard to it can be really hard to like
Speaker 3: climb out of that. But I guess, like what I'm
Speaker 3: trying to say is I mean, obviously there's other stuff
Speaker 3: at play there, right, Like there's like mental health stuff
Speaker 3: and like addiction stuff and you know where you're at mentally.
Speaker 1: And I just have a hard time letting go of
Speaker 1: things like some yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, close one for me.
Speaker 3: It is a hard one, but like yeah, or what
Speaker 3: if I need this? Like what if I need this?
Speaker 3: What if I need it?
Speaker 1: That I worked on throughout the power cords the other
Speaker 1: day and I was like.
Speaker 3: Oh, you don't need those.
Speaker 1: I don't, but save them all because he's like, I
Speaker 1: don't know they need it. Like as I was throwing
Speaker 1: them out, he was questioning them like what if that
Speaker 1: goes to a toy that we.
Speaker 3: Don't really And I was like, I don't remember the
Speaker 3: toy also should go to the good Will. Sorry a
Speaker 3: toy doesn't work like it be the toy. But there's
Speaker 3: also like stuff like embracing the idea of making your
Speaker 3: space your own. Can be as simple as it doesn't
Speaker 3: have to be expensive. It can be as simple as like,
Speaker 3: like that thing that I said that I do when
Speaker 3: I go in my closet, I force myself to hang
Speaker 3: up a couple of things that are on the floor. Yeah,
Speaker 3: just like a couple of them, like put them away,
Speaker 3: and then before I know it, the weeks passed by
Speaker 3: and like there's more shit hanging than there is on
Speaker 3: the floor. It can be as simple as like rearranging
Speaker 3: or taking I love one of my favorite things to
Speaker 3: do is take furniture from rooms to other rooms. Like
Speaker 3: I'm constantly moving things around. It's just so fun because
Speaker 3: I'm like this table could maybe work better in my
Speaker 3: living room. This table could maybe work better next to
Speaker 3: the window, next to the chair. You know, Like I'm
Speaker 3: constantly doing that shit because like I shop what I
Speaker 3: think they call it like shopping your own house, Like
Speaker 3: you just go and look around and be like does
Speaker 3: this work here? Like maybe there's another spot this could work.
Speaker 3: Like I moved a big I had this big sideboard
Speaker 3: that was my first purchase. That was my first like
Speaker 3: Brad's always like, what's a sideboard. I'm like, don't worry
Speaker 3: about it. If you don't know what it is, you
Speaker 3: don't need to worry about it. Don't worry about it.
Speaker 3: Beautiful sideboard that has like a chevron pattern. And yeah,
Speaker 3: it didn't work in the it didn't work. It was
Speaker 3: like it didn't And then like I put it downstairs
Speaker 3: and I ended up putting like I put all my
Speaker 3: like awards on it. Yeah, like I like even like
Speaker 3: dumb stop like even like little things that like, you know,
Speaker 3: no one knows what they're what they are, like I
Speaker 3: got them in high school or whatever, you know, like,
Speaker 3: but it's like that's my little like area for and
Speaker 3: now it's like, oh, that's where that fits, you know.
Speaker 3: Like yeah, it's so so much about having a space
Speaker 3: that's your own, even if you have roommates, even if
Speaker 3: it's just like half of a even if it's like
Speaker 3: a bunk. You know, like your boys are very good
Speaker 3: at making their shared room their own space like their bunks.
Speaker 1: Yes, and now, actually we took the bunks apart because
Speaker 1: they wanted to, I know, they went through, Yeah, they
Speaker 1: wanted to have their beds on the floor and they
Speaker 1: were strangely. I mean, Enzo was kind of leading the
Speaker 1: charge and Axel was going along a little bit, but
Speaker 1: they were in agreement for the most part. But it's
Speaker 1: kind of nice because what it did was it gave
Speaker 1: them each a side of the room instead.
Speaker 3: Of being on top of each other. And yes, they're
Speaker 3: like hanging things on the wall.
Speaker 1: Axel has things hanging on the drawings he did or
Speaker 1: whatever that he specifically told me to put on the
Speaker 1: ceiling so he could look at them when he's like
Speaker 1: going to bed and yeah, and it's really it's like
Speaker 1: self expression. But it's also I think endeared them to
Speaker 1: their room more and now like yeah, and it's even
Speaker 1: you know, and so was for a while, you know,
Speaker 1: trying to be like I want my own room. But
Speaker 1: now I've noticed since since they did that, he's campaigning
Speaker 1: to move them into the bigger bedroom which is our
Speaker 1: guest room, eh, which we had planned to do anyway,
Speaker 1: like a little bit down the line.
Speaker 3: Oh I love. I love letting him campaign though, make
Speaker 3: him like do like a PowerPoint present. Yeah, yeah, like
Speaker 3: now he's doing paying for it.
Speaker 1: But when he talks about he goes and Axels bed
Speaker 1: can be here, and like he's talking about both of
Speaker 1: them moving to the to the to the bigger room.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, side note, make him like campaign like
Speaker 3: actually like put up posters and then you guys can
Speaker 3: have like a vote, like oh he gave us when
Speaker 3: the present he did, he took us both through a
Speaker 3: whole presentation of like where everything would go.
Speaker 1: And yeah, he was like, hear me out, like here, Michael,
Speaker 1: here's what we do, and here's where my bed goes,
Speaker 1: here's where actual bed goes, and you know this can
Speaker 1: be our homework desk, and like you did a whole thing.
Speaker 3: So yeah, like.
Speaker 1: Taking ownership of his spade now and like including his
Speaker 1: real brother, which I like. But but yeah, so we're
Speaker 1: probably gonna try to make that happen for him.
Speaker 3: But that's really cute.
Speaker 1: Yeah more, Okay, wait, okay, So I want to ask
Speaker 1: you this because like I think our styles are so
Speaker 1: different aesthetically.
Speaker 3: Yes, so this is a little for.
Speaker 1: Those of wait, let me give I feel like I
Speaker 1: should give context for listeners. So here is how our
Speaker 1: styles of our houses are very different. Is Stephanie is
Speaker 1: so stylish and her house is just to me so beautiful,
Speaker 1: and there's like this very like calming, peaceful, like energy
Speaker 1: when you walk into it and there's beautiful things everywhere,
Speaker 1: and everything's like place really beautiful in the finishes, or
Speaker 1: I love your bedroom. Your bedroom is like an oasis.
Speaker 1: It's just gorgeous. Everything is beautiful. My house is like
Speaker 1: if my house is like if your grandparents maybe had
Speaker 1: really good taste. And there's a lot of things that
Speaker 1: don't go together, but also do. I had someone describe
Speaker 1: our house as like what did they say, globally eclectic, and.
Speaker 3: I couldn't tell if it was a compliment or an insult.
Speaker 3: It's on the line a compliment.
Speaker 1: It's the eclectic part that is like a little bit
Speaker 1: of a backhanded compliment.
Speaker 3: But I understand that there's a lot as one of
Speaker 3: my descriptors as well, there is a lot of different
Speaker 3: shit in our house that somehow works together. But yeah,
Speaker 3: I love I love y'all's house. I think it's like
Speaker 3: it's warm, Yeah, it's very warm. It feels like you're
Speaker 3: at home, Like Okay, So when you think about your
Speaker 3: ideal cozy home setting, what is like the smell that
Speaker 3: comes to mind.
Speaker 1: Like like a fire, like a like a fire, not
Speaker 1: a fire, like a house burning fire, like a fire place,
Speaker 1: like it's so dark, okay, like a fire place, a
Speaker 1: fire a fireplace safely.
Speaker 3: Okay. So mine is like a specific candle that has
Speaker 3: this like very warm like it's like a rich jasmini
Speaker 3: rose smell. And I burn it all the time in
Speaker 3: my trailers now like whenever I work, I buy a
Speaker 3: travel one.
Speaker 1: God, you're gonna have to send me this candle because
Speaker 1: those are literally my two favorite flower smells is rose
Speaker 1: and Jazzma.
Speaker 3: It's so nice. It's the Voluspa rose auto candle. They
Speaker 3: ain't cheap, you guys, but they burn long. And I
Speaker 3: have the travel one. I just love it and it's
Speaker 3: just like nice. Okay, what do you hear? What's what's
Speaker 3: your ideal? Like what you hear in the background, like
Speaker 3: in your cozy home. Oh God, I mean again, it's
Speaker 3: ocean sounds.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I was I was going in
Speaker 1: my mind. I was going between ocean sounds or fireplace
Speaker 1: like the crackling of a fireplace ocean sounds.
Speaker 3: And that's like, you guys, that's basically free. You could
Speaker 3: just turn your phone onto ocean sounds like an habit going.
Speaker 1: My sister, I have my kids sound machine to ocean
Speaker 1: sounds because Okay, my sister constantly finds like a YouTube
Speaker 1: channel of like she'll have like crackling fireplace or like
Speaker 1: she had one the other day that was like Parisian
Speaker 1: cafe sounds and it was just like a video image
Speaker 1: of there's tons of videos online that you can find
Speaker 1: of stuff like this.
Speaker 3: It's like calming sounds or like, but she had one
Speaker 3: that was like jazzy wood sounds or something. She's always
Speaker 3: got like cozy sounds happening. Yeah, okay, what is your
Speaker 3: ideal cozy taste? Oh? I know this is an interesting one?
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: I mean cozy taste automatically brings my brain to like
Speaker 1: autumn and like being a basic bitch and being like
Speaker 1: cinnamon apple spike cookies. Okay, yeah, cinnamon lattes.
Speaker 3: You know what? Minus what minus minus having a pot
Speaker 3: on the stove or like a like a what do
Speaker 3: you call them, like slow cooker? Oh, full of nacho cheese.
Speaker 3: Just having like a party where people can go like
Speaker 3: serve their own like nacho cheese. They'll be the cheese
Speaker 3: and rotel tomatoes, true Texas girl right here, rotel tomatoes
Speaker 3: and Tina chili pepper. Yes, yeah, me, that's that. That's
Speaker 3: that good. I mean you went to my wedding. We
Speaker 3: had that at my wedding. Yeah you did, ye, yeah
Speaker 3: you did? Uh yeah, I would say yeah.
Speaker 1: Also like yeah, my brain goes to like pasta and
Speaker 1: like or like chili.
Speaker 3: Soups, something like cozy took tasty for Yeah.
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 3: Okay, So like I want to lastly go back to
Speaker 3: the color scheme in my house is like a lot
Speaker 3: of whites, a lot of grays, a lot of like
Speaker 3: open space. There is blonde wood in my house, but
Speaker 3: there's also elements of like our Latinidad everywhere, Like there's
Speaker 3: a framed gold picture of Selena on the wall. There's
Speaker 3: like you know, I will say my my bedroom is
Speaker 3: probably my favorite room in the house, and all it
Speaker 3: has in it is the bed side tables and a
Speaker 3: chair and a lamp. That's it.
Speaker 1: I literally want to try to figure out how to
Speaker 1: like make a bigger closet in my house so that
Speaker 1: I can get rid of some of the furniture in
Speaker 1: my bedroom.
Speaker 3: Because I wanted a guest bedroom. Girl just take over
Speaker 3: that whole guest room. Yeah, a whole extra bedroom bed, Yeah,
Speaker 3: a whole extra bedroom in there. You know how much
Speaker 3: people come and stay with us. It's impossible because you
Speaker 3: guys have a very cozy house. Molsa isn't selling it.
Speaker 3: But like you walk into the first of all, you
Speaker 3: walk into their like little entryway and there's this long
Speaker 3: table in a mirror and there's all their stuff, like
Speaker 3: you just it's like a family lives in that house.
Speaker 1: That table drives me fucking crazy. I need to figure
Speaker 1: a better way. I feel like there's a better way.
Speaker 3: And it's like here you are. You're inside now, and
Speaker 3: everyone takes out their shoes and then when you when
Speaker 3: you get in, there's like this big gorgeous brown couch
Speaker 3: that is like it just feels lived in and then
Speaker 3: you can just throw yourselves on it and there's no
Speaker 3: there's no like, oh can I sit on the couch?
Speaker 3: It's just like no, you just throw yourselves on the furniture.
Speaker 3: It's like everyone just knows that they can just sit
Speaker 3: anywhere they want. Like there's like a fluidness between your
Speaker 3: kitchen and your dining room. Everyone's just like enjoying themselves.
Speaker 3: There's lots of spaces to talk. You guys built that
Speaker 3: cool area outside, so it's like you can go in
Speaker 3: and out and like everything's just like it's just like
Speaker 3: there's such a good flow in your house, and like
Speaker 3: it just feels like it's like family. When you come here,
Speaker 3: your family, like the olive garden. It's like very like
Speaker 3: I do I do. The house is like they're olive garden. Sorry, listen,
Speaker 3: I don't mind it. I don't mind it. I love
Speaker 3: the olive Garden. I go there every Christmas. It brings
Speaker 3: me hyuga, brings your yoga more better. Okay, so what
Speaker 3: did you take away from today? Do you did you
Speaker 3: feel like you like learned anything about yourself and your
Speaker 3: hyuga tendencies.
Speaker 1: Gosh that I'm like super huga, right, you can use
Speaker 1: it anyway you use it.
Speaker 3: I think I'm very hugua.
Speaker 1: I think I always have been, but I think I've
Speaker 1: honed it over the years. I think I've gotten better
Speaker 1: at it, or I like to think so. And I
Speaker 1: think it was good today to kind of talk about
Speaker 1: and realize the connection between making like living hugolestly and
Speaker 1: now it can like contribute to your happiness, like overall
Speaker 1: happiness or peace of mind or yeah, you're inner peace.
Speaker 1: And I think that that's like an important thing to
Speaker 1: notice so that you can I can be more intentional
Speaker 1: about it, like I am being right now by purging
Speaker 1: my closets.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, what did you learn today? I think I've
Speaker 3: I'm like, I kind of had this idea that like
Speaker 3: Huga in my head. I was like, oh, well, it's this,
Speaker 3: but like, as talking about it, it is what I
Speaker 3: said in the beginning, which is like it's kind of
Speaker 3: a vibe, right, And my version of it is there's
Speaker 3: elements of it that are the danishy elements of it,
Speaker 3: but there's elements of it that are just like not
Speaker 3: at all. Like my version of it is pink and
Speaker 3: florals and gold gilded and like, but I still love
Speaker 3: a cozy blanket and I love having like a rug
Speaker 3: on the floor be like cozy. It just happens to
Speaker 3: have like a big floor print on it, you know. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So I guess like my version of it, like there's
Speaker 3: there's different iterations of it, so like totally don't be
Speaker 3: afraid of like making things your own kind of yeah,
Speaker 3: And I also feel like I feel like I feel
Speaker 3: like there's so much more that I could talk about,
Speaker 3: like especially like cheap ways to do this, like there's
Speaker 3: so many cheap ways to do this. I kind of
Speaker 3: touched on a little bit, but like, I mean, I
Speaker 3: was poor for so long that I feel like I
Speaker 3: really learned how to do it on a budget. And
Speaker 3: I still tend to do that, like I did it
Speaker 3: for my trailer. On this job, I didn't even talk
Speaker 3: about my trailer. I should take pictures. We could put
Speaker 3: them on the Instagram. Yeah, girlfriend went to home goods
Speaker 3: and had a budget and did it up. Baby Like
Speaker 3: that is such a good idea because I'm really cute
Speaker 3: in there. I'm proud of it being a trailer for
Speaker 3: five or six months. Oh my god. Should we do
Speaker 3: an episode on Small Space decorating you guys and should
Speaker 3: we show our trailers? Then that's a good Okay, we'll
Speaker 3: discuss with ices. Okay, okay, great, I feel more better
Speaker 3: to you. I do feel more better. This was a
Speaker 3: lovely time. I like talking about this too. This was
Speaker 3: a fun one. That's fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm kind of inspired to like, huga up my house,
Speaker 1: mourning for.
Speaker 3: You for you, Huga. Okay, thanks guys for listening. Sorry
Speaker 3: that we said horny and huga so many times together.
Speaker 3: That was probably weird for you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it was like a steamboat to just to
Speaker 1: remember the pronunciation so many times. Thanks for coming, Bye bye,
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