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Speaker 1: is Rowberry letta thank you nephew. Subject. Is it a

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Speaker 1: current picture or not? Dear Stephen Shirley, My fiance and

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Speaker 1: I have been together for four years. Our wedding is

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Speaker 1: this summer, but I'm thinking of calling it all off

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Speaker 1: because something fishy is going on between him and his

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Speaker 1: and I've never checked my fiance's phone, email drawers, or

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Speaker 1: because it's silly to check up on him. I trust him,

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Speaker 1: but I don't trust his ex girlfriend because I overheard

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Speaker 1: her bad mouthing me to him on the phone a

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Speaker 1: few years ago. He was defending me and telling her

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Speaker 1: never mentioned that I heard their conversation. She called him

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Speaker 1: her to stop calling him. Since then, she's made it

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Speaker 1: her mission to break us up. She posted on Instagram

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Speaker 1: an Instagram reel of her recent birthday party, and there

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Speaker 1: were ten to twelve pictures in the reel mixed in there.

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Speaker 1: I saw a picture of her in my fiance's kitchen,

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Speaker 1: and I saw a picture of her in my fiance's

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Speaker 1: He said the pictures were very old and she did

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Speaker 1: it to make me mad. I don't believe him because

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Speaker 1: he did not own a champagne flute before he met me.

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Speaker 1: I examined every picture to see if it was a

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Speaker 1: recent picture or not. Her birthday was on January twelfth,

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Speaker 1: and I was in Detroit visiting my mother that weekend.

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Speaker 1: I told him the only way for me to know

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Speaker 1: the truth is for us to call her, but he

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Speaker 1: refused to call her. A few minutes later, she deleted

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Speaker 1: current picture or not. Am I crazy? If we still

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Speaker 1: get married? Or should I let his ex girlfriend have

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Speaker 1: him back. All right? You confused me because in the

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Speaker 1: beginning of this letter you said you were thinking about

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Speaker 1: boyfriend but not his ex. Then skip to the end

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Speaker 1: of the letter and you say you don't believe your boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: and you're asking us, are you crazy if you still

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Speaker 1: want to marry this guy or should you let his

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Speaker 1: ex girlfriend have him? Okay, so which one is it.

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Speaker 1: I was with you at first because he spoke up

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Speaker 1: just don't think he did enough at that point. I

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Speaker 1: know he can't stop his ex from calling him and

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Speaker 1: all that, but he doesn't have to take her calls

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Speaker 1: and talk to her. He shouldn't be interacting with her

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Speaker 1: at all. I mean, he's getting ready to marry you,

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Speaker 1: so you shouldn't have to tell her to stop calling him,

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Speaker 1: because he should have handled that. Now she's posting pictures

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Speaker 1: I think you should be mad. You should. You said

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Speaker 1: if they're very old. As your boyfriend said, I think

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Speaker 1: it's all very crazy. It's a little suspicious too. I

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Speaker 1: She threw a rock hid her hand, so she looks

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Speaker 1: kind of suspect and guilty. You're his fiancee. You do

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Speaker 1: you need to make you trust him again, you could

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Speaker 1: postpone or call off the wedding. I think it's better

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Speaker 1: If that's what you think you're getting into. Steve, Lord,

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Speaker 1: I am mercy. I said, let me get in here

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Speaker 1: Is the subject? Where are you going with this? The

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Speaker 1: lady is all over the place in this letter, and

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Speaker 1: handling the facts the correct way. This system needs a

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Speaker 1: fat check. The fiance and y'all been together for years.

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Speaker 1: Your weddiness, this summer, and you thinking about calling it

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Speaker 1: off the wed and cause something fishy. What I'm not

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Speaker 1: she said. Then she said, I trust him, but I

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Speaker 1: don't trust his ex girlfriend. This is a double edged

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Speaker 1: it's gonna have something to do with him. That distrust

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Speaker 1: And so I'm trying to figure out where you're at.

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Speaker 1: And then your example, because you heard him, heard her

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Speaker 1: him and never mentioned that I heard that conversation. Okay, cool,

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Speaker 1: good dude, you aren't listening. Watch your mouth. That's the

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Speaker 1: man you got. Now you say, so I trust him,

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Speaker 1: and I never mentioned I heard to come. She's like,

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Speaker 1: I said, that's the man you got. Then she called

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Speaker 1: him again recently and I got out of character and

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Speaker 1: told her to stop calling him. Then you said, this

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Speaker 1: is in your letter. You said, she made it her

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Speaker 1: mission to break us up. Wow. So she posted an

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Speaker 1: ten Toil pictures on the reel. You the one don't

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Speaker 1: normally go through nobody's phone social media and all this year,

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Speaker 1: But now you're following him because you don't trust her.

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Speaker 1: You trust him, but you don't trust her because it

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Speaker 1: involves him. Hold on, Steve, you don't trust them, right,

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Speaker 1: hold on, We'll have part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up Steve at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter subject is it a current picture or not?

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter with the subject is it a

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Speaker 1: current picture or not? Y'all heard Shirley's response, and I'll reiterate.

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Speaker 1: You've been dating for years. You got to wear this

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Speaker 1: something thing about calling it off because something fishy going

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Speaker 1: you listening, he defended his fiance. She called him again recently,

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Speaker 1: her mission to break us up. Now here's a deal.

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Speaker 1: She posted on her Instagram reel ten to twelve pictures

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Speaker 1: is it a current picture or not? Question mark? This

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Speaker 1: you not say she put ten twelve pictures in there

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Speaker 1: and thinking you know that she mixed in these pictures.

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Speaker 1: I don't believe him because he did not own a

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Speaker 1: champagne flute before he met me. Girl, you're basing this

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Speaker 1: fused to call her. But he refused to call her.

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Speaker 1: Now we call her her for what. Ain't no dude,

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Speaker 1: Finn to do that. He just ain't. And I don't

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Speaker 1: Or should I just let his ex girlfriend have him back? Wow?

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Speaker 1: That you so easily You just give up like this,

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Speaker 1: this it, this it, lady. You have no verifiable proof

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Speaker 1: The girl deleted it. The man told you what and

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Speaker 1: listening to Sheridan, that's what she and she doesn't get

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Speaker 1: what she needs. She can postpone. You gonna last, Shirley whatever,

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Speaker 1: break up your man. I did not tell her to

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Speaker 1: leave over a question that you still have. And I

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Speaker 1: don't normally recommend this to people, but do not listen

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Speaker 1: to Shirley right. This is evil evil. She better love me.

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Speaker 1: Don't know anything about the champagne flute. You can't tell

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Speaker 1: it the picture. She never knew that in the latter.

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Speaker 1: This is emotional. Stop listening to Shirleys. Your life better

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Speaker 1: it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're

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Speaker 1: listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show