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Please make 16 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 1: sure to follow me on Instagram at the Professional home Girl, 17 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 1: at the PhD Podcast, and last but not least, at 18 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:26,319 Speaker 1: eban A Beauty. Um. Please keep in mind that all 19 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:27,960 Speaker 1: of my guests are not in this So let's begin 20 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: this week's episode. So, how are you feeling. I'm super 21 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:34,399 Speaker 1: excited to have me on the show. Thank you so much. 22 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:36,319 Speaker 1: I'm really excited to be here. I'm a little nervous, 23 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 1: but I know everybody's nervous. Why you're nervous, I don't know, 24 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:41,399 Speaker 1: because it's like no one's ever asked me to actually 25 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 1: like talk about, like, you know, the stuff that I 26 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: talked about. But I'm so glad to like actually do it. 27 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: So I'm so happy that you're a part of this 28 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 1: week's episode. So this week's episode, I'm interviewing a stripper 29 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: and I have a list of questions, but I want 30 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 1: to share the story. So I went to Miami a 31 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago just to like get way and 32 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 1: like to relax and stuff. And when I found your page, 33 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: you talked about colorism. What we're gonna talk about later, 34 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:08,919 Speaker 1: but you talked about colorism within the shrip club industry. 35 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 1: And I know because you're a Brownie, so I know 36 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,720 Speaker 1: that colorism is something that we have to constantly deal with, 37 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 1: but I never thought about it being in the shrip club. 38 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: So me and my boyfriend went to the strip club 39 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: in Miami, and literally when I read your article about colorism, 40 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 1: I didn't see no brownies in the shrip club. Yeah, 41 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:29,799 Speaker 1: And I was like, I was turned off, and I 42 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: was like, we gotta go. Yeah, it's sadly, especially in 43 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:37,120 Speaker 1: like bigger cities like that, I think that you tend 44 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 1: to see it more because especially in urban clubs, they 45 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: feel they need to keep like this image that they have, 46 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:45,920 Speaker 1: so especially the places like say like G five or 47 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:48,520 Speaker 1: something like that, that's a club that it's kind of 48 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: somewhat new compared to you know, like a King of 49 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:53,360 Speaker 1: Diamonds or something like that, so they want to upkeep 50 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:56,600 Speaker 1: this image of having these desirable girls. So then they'll 51 00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 1: only really kind of like higher They'll have a couple 52 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:01,799 Speaker 1: of browns can girls, a couple of dark skinned girls 53 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 1: just to be like, oh well, we don't discriminate. But 54 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:07,679 Speaker 1: then it's like the main girls that you see will 55 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:11,359 Speaker 1: be light skinned girls. Girl, but we're gonna talk about 56 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 1: But I was just like if we thought about too, 57 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 1: And I was just like, I don't see nobody that 58 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:17,400 Speaker 1: looks like me in here, so I can't support this, 59 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: Like I got exactly. But my first question is, so 60 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: how long have you been a stripper? I have been 61 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 1: a stripper about a year and three months. Now. And 62 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 1: how old were you when you first started? I was 63 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: eighteen years old. So how do you feel about from 64 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:37,360 Speaker 1: when you first started to where you at now? Oh? God, 65 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: I have learned so much. And you know, the crazy 66 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: thing is is the first time I ever auditioned at 67 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 1: a strip club, I came into a situation where I 68 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 1: faced colorism and I didn't even like know it, like 69 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, because I was like so like, 70 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 1: you know, I knew nothing. I had never even been 71 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,480 Speaker 1: to a strip club before every audition at one. That's 72 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 1: a crazy wo So like I knew nothing about this 73 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: life and just pared to how I started and where 74 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 1: I'm at now, I've learned so much, not only about stripping, 75 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 1: but it taught me so much about myself as well, 76 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:11,280 Speaker 1: create boundaries and whatnot, and um, you know, just like 77 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 1: it's like I always say, like this strip club very 78 00:04:13,640 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: much helped me find myself at a young age. And 79 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: it's crazy that I say that to people. Yeah exactly. 80 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, So what were something the events that 81 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:26,320 Speaker 1: led you to the decision that dancing was the answer 82 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: to your solution at that time? Oh god, So basically 83 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:33,280 Speaker 1: I had Um, I was in college, I moved out 84 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: of my mom's house. I was working at Chick fil 85 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 1: A at the time. I love I love them too, 86 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 1: but they don't pay enough. So so you know, my 87 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: little five hundred dollar checks, they would like it would 88 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:47,839 Speaker 1: not be enough for me to try to be in 89 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 1: school and pay my rent and just try to survive. 90 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:54,719 Speaker 1: So basically I had a friend um. She had moved 91 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 1: to um where I met, from Dallas, Texas, and she 92 00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 1: was working at the club out there, but she was 93 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:02,640 Speaker 1: a waitress. So when she came out here, she was like, Um, 94 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna like try to look for waitress jobs, but 95 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: see out here, like there's not a lot of waitress jobs, 96 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: like mainly all the clubs they're just strippers. And so 97 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:13,600 Speaker 1: finally she was like, well, I'm just gonna have to 98 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 1: dance to make some money. And she was like, you 99 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:17,400 Speaker 1: want to do it with me? And I was like 100 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: I already needed some money. I was like twenty dollars 101 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:21,679 Speaker 1: short from my rent. I did not have no money, 102 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 1: so I was like, I don't have a choice, Like 103 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: it's either shake, ask or get evicted. So so yeah, 104 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 1: that's basically how I started dancing. I started dancing. Quit 105 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 1: my job with Chick fil a and the sister was 106 00:05:33,640 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 1: asking your folks for help, not an option, because I know, 107 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 1: like when I when my back was like literally in 108 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:40,800 Speaker 1: the wall, I didn't have a lot of options. That 109 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: family was not one of them. So that's why I'm asking. Yeah, 110 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:46,599 Speaker 1: So for me, it's like I come from a single 111 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: parent home, like you know what I mean, my mom 112 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:50,719 Speaker 1: she has her own bills, like you know, she she's 113 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 1: living paycheck to paycheck. And even I talked about that, 114 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: even with my blog about just like financial literacy and 115 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:57,720 Speaker 1: stuff like that, no one had ever taught me anything 116 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:00,120 Speaker 1: about money. So not only was I not making a 117 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 1: lot of money, but then it's like I never knew 118 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:04,000 Speaker 1: how to say, like you know what I mean because 119 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: I saw that growing up. So the only person, the 120 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:08,560 Speaker 1: only person I really ever had like to fall back on, 121 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:10,479 Speaker 1: was my grandma a little bit. But you know, my 122 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:12,960 Speaker 1: grandma's seventy two years old, Like you know what I mean? 123 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:16,880 Speaker 1: She said, yeah, exactly. So it's like I really didn't 124 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 1: have anyone, any plan to fall back on, so I 125 00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:22,480 Speaker 1: had no choice but to start stripping. So how was 126 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: your first night, Because, like I if, I can pretty 127 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 1: assume that she was a little nervous, right, yes. So 128 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: the crazy thing is is that when I okay, So 129 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:33,039 Speaker 1: when I started dancing, I started dancing at generalman clubs, 130 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:36,479 Speaker 1: so that's a very different vibe from um of course, 131 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 1: urban clubs. And I remember the club that I danced at, 132 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:42,839 Speaker 1: they didn't do like lap dances. They only did like 133 00:06:42,960 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 1: V I P dances, v I P rooms champagne rooms. 134 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: So I remember the first time I had to go 135 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:52,000 Speaker 1: and sell a chimp, like no, it was in a 136 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: champagne It was a V I P dance. It was 137 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:56,279 Speaker 1: like two songs for sixty dollars or something like that. 138 00:06:57,160 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 1: And I remember I was just like so kid to 139 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: like just like go in there and like be with 140 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 1: this guy. But mind you that, like all the managers 141 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:07,360 Speaker 1: and stuffy knew was my first time dancing, so you know, 142 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:09,520 Speaker 1: they were like really watching out for me, and that's 143 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 1: what I really liked to buy to that club as well. 144 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 1: But I just remember just being nervous to just be 145 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 1: I was never nervous to get on stage. H That's 146 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 1: the craziest part. Most people are nervous to dance, but 147 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 1: I was just never nervous to dance for some reason, 148 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 1: to be naked in front of people, but the whole 149 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: of being alone in the v I P Room, that's yeah, 150 00:07:25,600 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: because you don't know what they would be back to 151 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: doing exactly. How was that transition from the gentlemen's club 152 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 1: to urban strip club. So basically what happened was that, 153 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:38,840 Speaker 1: you know, I got myself into some trouble in school, 154 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: got arrested, so I had to you know, move back 155 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: to my hometown. It's a long story, but yeah, so 156 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 1: I got kicked out of my apartment, so I had 157 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 1: to come back to my hometown. But where I live 158 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 1: at UM, urban clubs are there's a couple of more 159 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: urban clubs, and it's actually really harder for um not 160 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: only black women, but round skinned women too to get 161 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: hired at these white clubs. So I really knew that 162 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 1: I really didn't have a choice but to um work 163 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: at the work at the black clubs. And I was 164 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:11,280 Speaker 1: I remember, I would be so afraid because I'm a 165 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:16,080 Speaker 1: very petite woman. Yes, yes, so of course, you know 166 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,280 Speaker 1: all the images that we see of black clubs or 167 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:21,560 Speaker 1: big butts and just like you know, just like a 168 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 1: lot going on, a lot of money being thrown, just 169 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 1: a lot of while stuff going on. But I actually 170 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 1: ended up finding a very good club to work and 171 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 1: I actually love working there at a black club. Um, 172 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 1: so yeah, the transition was very different because I feel 173 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:36,720 Speaker 1: like with black men you have to hustle them way more. 174 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 1: I say, yeah, black men will only give you five dollars. 175 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 1: If you let them give you five dollars. White men, 176 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:44,720 Speaker 1: they'll they'll be generous, but no, you have That's why 177 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 1: I always say I learned my hustle in the black 178 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:51,840 Speaker 1: strip clubs. So yeah, one of the misconception, misconceptions you 179 00:08:51,840 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: want to clear up about being a stripper, God, there 180 00:08:54,880 --> 00:08:58,560 Speaker 1: are so many. Yeah, I think that people think like 181 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 1: just because I'm a t for that, like I don't 182 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:04,679 Speaker 1: like have other things going for myself for like you know, 183 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:07,080 Speaker 1: like I'm just getting money and I'm not doing anything 184 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:08,920 Speaker 1: with it, Like I'm the I will tell people all 185 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 1: the time on the type of person I'm gonna get 186 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 1: money by any means necessary. It doesn't matter if it's stripping, 187 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: it doesn't matter if I gotta sell cookies, it doesn't 188 00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:18,640 Speaker 1: matter if I gotta give me another part time job, 189 00:09:19,040 --> 00:09:21,080 Speaker 1: like just to make sure my funds are straight. Like 190 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:22,839 Speaker 1: I know so many stors. I know a strippers is 191 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:25,680 Speaker 1: getting her PhD right now? Okay, So, like you know, 192 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: I hate when people think that like strippers just don't 193 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 1: have anything going for themselves. They're just like, that's a 194 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 1: lot of girls that strip that put themselves to school. 195 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:35,199 Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, And I think that's what a lot of 196 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 1: people don't see. And it's just like I hate that 197 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 1: people think like it's just like, oh, they just have 198 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:44,199 Speaker 1: daddy issues or dadada. Like that's like the main thing 199 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: that I hate to see people say. Right. Um, So, 200 00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 1: like I said earlier about colorism, m one of my 201 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: favorite quotes from your blog is everyone loves the futures 202 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:55,840 Speaker 1: of a black woman as long as those futures are 203 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:58,560 Speaker 1: actually on a black woman. And I always say it 204 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: is right. So with i'd be a said, like you 205 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 1: said earlier, I know that you're that you're very petite. 206 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:07,440 Speaker 1: So how has your size play a factor? And you're 207 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:10,840 Speaker 1: getting and getting higher in clubs? Oh god, I know 208 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 1: there's clubs that will literally turn me away because I'm 209 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 1: a petite woman. But then yeah, and then I'll walk 210 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:20,680 Speaker 1: out on the floor and see light skin, petite woman 211 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:25,080 Speaker 1: my size like literally clubs. But then again, it's like, 212 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 1: you know, I always say, like, because girls ask me 213 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 1: a lot in the clubs, like how do you feel 214 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 1: about working in you're a smaller girl. Like every guy 215 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 1: has his own his own taste, Like you know what 216 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:36,600 Speaker 1: I mean, every guy like something different. So you know 217 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 1: there are days that like I may get turned away 218 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 1: from every customer that I walk up to and I 219 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: may only leave with like a hundred dollars at the 220 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:44,920 Speaker 1: end of the night. There are days I'll be coming 221 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 1: there and I danced with every single customer in there, 222 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 1: and I walk away with five or six hundred dollars 223 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:51,960 Speaker 1: in a night. Like you never really know, so, right, 224 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 1: what's emotion she ever walked out in like on a 225 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: good night, on a good night, God, I could probably 226 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 1: like that's what I have blown through a lot, like 227 00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:03,719 Speaker 1: Earli on my every days, I blew through a lot 228 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:06,480 Speaker 1: of money. Okay. So I remember when I first started 229 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: working at the black clubs, Like it was just booming, 230 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 1: Like I was walking out with eight hundred plus that 231 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 1: I was working. Yeah, so if you were working five 232 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 1: days a week, let's say, And that's the thing, Like 233 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:23,079 Speaker 1: when I had no concept that that you were supposed 234 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 1: to be consistent with stripping, I was you know, I'm 235 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:27,679 Speaker 1: going to work in one night and I'm making what 236 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 1: I'm making a paycheck in two weeks, like you know 237 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:31,760 Speaker 1: what I mean. So I'm thinking like, oh, I don't 238 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: even need to go to work the next night. And 239 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:36,040 Speaker 1: then when you start to slip up, your consistency is 240 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:37,920 Speaker 1: like when you start to mess up with your money, 241 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: like so then you have to be consistent with it exactly. Um, 242 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:44,880 Speaker 1: so you're brownie like myself. So what are some challenges 243 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:47,480 Speaker 1: that dark skinned women faced in this industry? Because i 244 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:51,080 Speaker 1: know you mentioned our dark skinned quota and I'm like, what, Yeah, 245 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:53,800 Speaker 1: there are clubs that literally will tell you they will 246 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 1: not hire any more dark skinned women. Um, their situations 247 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:00,520 Speaker 1: where even like in music video was like you know 248 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:03,480 Speaker 1: with popular people of egos a little baby or people 249 00:12:03,520 --> 00:12:04,959 Speaker 1: like that. You know that I have a lot of 250 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 1: strippers in their videos or even you saw the Tory 251 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:11,320 Speaker 1: Lane situation where girl where he was lying about yes, 252 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 1: where people will like trying to pick light skinned women 253 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 1: to be in this scene and dark skinned women to 254 00:12:15,800 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 1: be in this scene and stuff like that. Like that's 255 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:21,400 Speaker 1: like the main thing that like and people don't even 256 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 1: realize it because people are going with what's popular. People 257 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 1: are going with what pop culture is putting out there 258 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: that you should want. So it's like, unless we tell 259 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 1: people that this is an issue, is like they're not 260 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 1: even really focusing on it, which is crazy. M M. 261 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: And then last and not least, I know you mentioned 262 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 1: a light scanned privilege because you wrote a blog and 263 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 1: then I guess you was like looking on Twitter or something. 264 00:12:42,320 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 1: A lot of light scanned girls are saying that they 265 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:48,240 Speaker 1: don't people problems. It depends on a day. Like elaborate 266 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 1: on that too. Yeah, So I always tell people my 267 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:52,920 Speaker 1: mom is Puerto Rican and black. She's a lighter skinned woman, 268 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:55,560 Speaker 1: and I happened to be a darker woman, you know. 269 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 1: And we're actually having a conversation the other day and 270 00:12:58,960 --> 00:13:02,440 Speaker 1: in my grandmother she's a darker woman as well, and 271 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: when me and my mom were talking to her about 272 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:07,000 Speaker 1: just colorism and stuff like that, and she's telling me 273 00:13:07,080 --> 00:13:09,840 Speaker 1: the situation about when she um was the first black 274 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:12,120 Speaker 1: cheerleader on her team, but she was a light skinned woman, 275 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:14,640 Speaker 1: of course, and I was just telling her, like, yes, 276 00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:17,360 Speaker 1: you are a black woman, but sometimes people see you 277 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:19,720 Speaker 1: as being less black, so they'll choose you over a 278 00:13:19,800 --> 00:13:21,880 Speaker 1: darker skin you know, a woman with dreads or something 279 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:24,120 Speaker 1: like that. And she was like, well, I just don't 280 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:26,040 Speaker 1: see how it's ever helped me. And I've never like 281 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 1: you know, been able to use my my light skin. 282 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: And you know, I was telling her, like, we always 283 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:34,360 Speaker 1: tell white women not to silence the issues of black women. 284 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:36,720 Speaker 1: Don't be like, oh, just because you've never faced it 285 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:38,800 Speaker 1: that it doesn't occur. But we need to hold our 286 00:13:38,840 --> 00:13:41,960 Speaker 1: own black women in our own black community community to 287 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:44,079 Speaker 1: those same standards. You know, we can't be quick to 288 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:46,120 Speaker 1: call out other people would not even want to call 289 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:50,559 Speaker 1: the issues within our own community. So yeah, you know, 290 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:54,080 Speaker 1: it's not funny because I did an episode on the 291 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 1: title was you're pretty for a dark skinned girl, because 292 00:13:56,280 --> 00:13:59,360 Speaker 1: I'm from the South Side, always get that, And my 293 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 1: guest was dark skin and she was a Brownie, and 294 00:14:01,440 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 1: she was just saying, like, you know, that's not a 295 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 1: compliment like that, and that it is within our own 296 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:09,880 Speaker 1: community because it's not. I mean, other people do it 297 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 1: to us as well, but it comes from us. Uh. Like. 298 00:14:13,679 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: Another things that I like about your block and things 299 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 1: that you talk about is the lifestyle because a lot 300 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:20,800 Speaker 1: of people do think that it's all glistened glamour exactly. 301 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:25,840 Speaker 1: So let's talk So let's talk about club owners. Well, 302 00:14:25,840 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: you know, before we do club owners. Another question I 303 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 1: want to ask you about the whole Listen glamor thing, 304 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:31,680 Speaker 1: because I know you said something to the effects of 305 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:33,600 Speaker 1: like how everybody want to like be a part of 306 00:14:33,600 --> 00:14:36,520 Speaker 1: the stripper culturally when where the hills. They want to 307 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:38,280 Speaker 1: do all these movies and stuff, but like they don't 308 00:14:38,280 --> 00:14:41,160 Speaker 1: want to fully support strippers. Yeah, what do you mean 309 00:14:41,160 --> 00:14:44,080 Speaker 1: by that? I mean it's just as simple as like 310 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:47,000 Speaker 1: you see girls that are walking around talking about like, 311 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 1: oh hot girls sumhere, I'm a I'm a hoe and 312 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 1: like you know, they talked about sugar daddies and like 313 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:56,320 Speaker 1: you know, singing city girls lyrics and stuff like that. 314 00:14:56,640 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 1: But it's like then again, when I'm saying like, oh 315 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:00,600 Speaker 1: I got to I got this man to find me 316 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 1: out somewhere, you know, last week or something like that, 317 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: Oh she's a hope because she's a stripper, Like you 318 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 1: know what I mean. So you can't really have that 319 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:08,920 Speaker 1: double standard when you're sitting here saying these song lyrics, 320 00:15:09,040 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: but then you're calling the people that are actually living 321 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 1: these lives. You're looking down women like you know, what 322 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 1: I mean, and that's what's continuing to cause this hor 323 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:20,400 Speaker 1: phobia in the world. Right. Well, Um, I interview at 324 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:23,920 Speaker 1: escort and she said, ho arkery, yeah, exactly exactly, that's 325 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 1: a bite to you. It's like the prost to look 326 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:30,120 Speaker 1: crazy at the N scores, the N scorts look down 327 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: on the strippers exactly what exactly And yeah, and that's 328 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:36,520 Speaker 1: why people don't even realize even within our own community, 329 00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:39,120 Speaker 1: there's so much slut shaming. Like I was watching UM 330 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:44,440 Speaker 1: special in the movie Hustlers and they were talking about, Yeah, 331 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:46,680 Speaker 1: the girls didn't want to actually have sex with the men, 332 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 1: so they would go online and find, you know, women 333 00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:50,760 Speaker 1: on back at the time Backpage was so up of 334 00:15:50,800 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: course Backpage and Craigslist and would have sex with these men. 335 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:55,560 Speaker 1: But it's like, I don't like how people want to 336 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:57,440 Speaker 1: look down in the next type of sex work, you 337 00:15:57,440 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like that is not going to 338 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: help us for there ourselves in any type of way, 339 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 1: to continue to sludgehing others just because you won't do something. 340 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: That's how another girl survives, and that's how she makes 341 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:09,120 Speaker 1: sure that she eats and that her bills are paid. 342 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 1: So right, how do you feel about the movie Hustlers 343 00:16:11,960 --> 00:16:14,160 Speaker 1: or like a Playoffs Club or any movie that depicts 344 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:19,200 Speaker 1: the stripper industry. See, it's like, it's very tricky, especially 345 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 1: right now. Of course, a lot I feel like there's 346 00:16:21,360 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 1: a lot of mixed emotions among the sex work community 347 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:26,920 Speaker 1: about the movie, about the movie Hustlers and specific just 348 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 1: because of certain things, because of one lack of representation. 349 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:33,680 Speaker 1: I feel like I haven't yet talked about it yet. Yeah, 350 00:16:33,720 --> 00:16:35,400 Speaker 1: I've been waiting to see if I really want to 351 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 1: go see the movie. I think I'm gonna go see it. 352 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:38,960 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go see it because I want to see 353 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:41,600 Speaker 1: what everybody is talking about. Yeah, but I was doing 354 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 1: some research about the producers of the movie and one 355 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 1: thing that personally I didn't like was that out of 356 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 1: the eleven producers, six of them were white women, three 357 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:57,000 Speaker 1: were white men, and then Jayla was a producer, and 358 00:16:57,040 --> 00:17:00,080 Speaker 1: then um, there was someone named Benny Medina and he 359 00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:05,280 Speaker 1: was actually accused of attempted sexual assault, and um, I 360 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 1: forget the last person, but um, yeah, I was very 361 00:17:08,080 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: just disappointed with the lack of diversity behind the scenes 362 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:13,639 Speaker 1: because I feel like oftentimes in Hollywood, they want to 363 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:16,280 Speaker 1: produce like of course they have like Lizzo and um, 364 00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:19,920 Speaker 1: Kiki Palmer and constant constant Woo. So they want to 365 00:17:19,960 --> 00:17:22,359 Speaker 1: push diversity on the screen, but it's like, where's the 366 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:25,920 Speaker 1: diversity behind you know, that's the one that's making the 367 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:30,359 Speaker 1: voices exactly the strips, you know what I mean. And 368 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:32,960 Speaker 1: people are very complicated about Jack the Stripper as well, 369 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:36,159 Speaker 1: um consulting for the movie. And I feel like that Jack, 370 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:41,440 Speaker 1: she did attempt to just try to try to show 371 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 1: us in the best like that she could and really 372 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:46,800 Speaker 1: try to tell that Jack the Stripper she is a 373 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:52,080 Speaker 1: um she is She's aid, Yeah, she's a dancer. She's well, 374 00:17:52,119 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 1: she is a white woman. She's a dancer. Um, she 375 00:17:54,880 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 1: is a comedian. She makes are you should really check 376 00:17:57,040 --> 00:17:59,840 Speaker 1: her out on Instagram. Um. And you know, she was 377 00:17:59,880 --> 00:18:02,600 Speaker 1: a consultant for the movie Hustlers, and I think people 378 00:18:02,760 --> 00:18:06,679 Speaker 1: I have seen people bashing her on Twitter and saying 379 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:09,240 Speaker 1: like she's um just trying to be like the white 380 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:11,920 Speaker 1: face of the stripper community. And I don't necessarily think 381 00:18:11,960 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 1: that's what she's trying to do, because let's be real, 382 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:14,880 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, if any of us 383 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:17,239 Speaker 1: could console on a movie, we would like you know, 384 00:18:18,200 --> 00:18:20,080 Speaker 1: and it's like, you know, I feel like she tried 385 00:18:20,119 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 1: to just highlight us in the best life that she could. 386 00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:25,520 Speaker 1: But at the same time, like you know, one stripper 387 00:18:25,560 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 1: story can't represent every stripper story. That I don't mean 388 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:30,680 Speaker 1: that as far as race, but I just mean it 389 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:33,680 Speaker 1: as far as like, you know, just one white woman 390 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:36,080 Speaker 1: and that's the stripper will go through A different thing 391 00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:38,240 Speaker 1: is that another white woman is an escort? Will Like. 392 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:41,119 Speaker 1: That's just you know the realities of it. So yeah, 393 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:43,719 Speaker 1: but yeah, there's a lot of just conflicting things going on. 394 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:45,000 Speaker 1: So I think I really want to go see it 395 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:47,200 Speaker 1: and just try to think for myself and just trying 396 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:49,679 Speaker 1: to see what I personally feel about the movie. So 397 00:18:49,760 --> 00:18:51,440 Speaker 1: let's see it this week because I'm going to say 398 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 1: I can text you like what do you think? Definitely? 399 00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:59,600 Speaker 1: Will Um. So let's talk about club owners. What are 400 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:02,320 Speaker 1: something is that you noticed that we're unethical a givest 401 00:19:02,480 --> 00:19:06,359 Speaker 1: strippers that's being done by club owners. Where can I 402 00:19:06,400 --> 00:19:09,600 Speaker 1: even begin with? Are there any club owners as women? 403 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:13,439 Speaker 1: I know of two club owners as women. There's a 404 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,920 Speaker 1: club and Um Honolulu called Ballerina's. It's owned by a woman. 405 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:19,920 Speaker 1: And then there's a new club opening up in d C. 406 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:23,919 Speaker 1: It's owned by a black woman. The one in UM 407 00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 1: in Hawaii, I think she I forget what her racist, 408 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:29,320 Speaker 1: but she has a woman of color. But yeah, those 409 00:19:29,359 --> 00:19:32,040 Speaker 1: are the only two clubs that I actually know that 410 00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:34,000 Speaker 1: are owned by women. I will say the first club 411 00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 1: that I ever worked at, the Gentlemen's Club, our manager 412 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:39,120 Speaker 1: was a woman. So that's what I feel like, really 413 00:19:39,119 --> 00:19:41,760 Speaker 1: maybe start to feel comfortable as a dancer because she 414 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:43,720 Speaker 1: really looked out for us. I will say that women 415 00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:47,840 Speaker 1: in the strip club especially it depends, but a lot 416 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:50,240 Speaker 1: of times with management, house moms and things like that, 417 00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:52,479 Speaker 1: they will try to look out for you because they 418 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 1: have dance before, they have in bartenders, they've done something 419 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:57,920 Speaker 1: inside the strip club as a worker, So I feel 420 00:19:57,960 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 1: like that creates an environment for them to want to 421 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:03,959 Speaker 1: look out for us a little bit more so. One 422 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:06,080 Speaker 1: of the things that you know about the club owners 423 00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:10,640 Speaker 1: that you felt were a little unethical club owners, they 424 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:14,440 Speaker 1: will they will try to take your money. They will 425 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:17,159 Speaker 1: I will say that they will high. They will have 426 00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:22,000 Speaker 1: these extremely outrageous high house fees that are just like 427 00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 1: high for no reason, like you know, especially during like UM, 428 00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:29,879 Speaker 1: during tournaments or anything big. This going on in the 429 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:33,120 Speaker 1: city a big event, and ofttimes that's why I don't 430 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 1: like to travel to work for big events like the 431 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:37,120 Speaker 1: Super Bowl and stuff like that, because by the time 432 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:39,600 Speaker 1: that you pay for your flight in your hotel and 433 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 1: then you get to the club and want to try 434 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:44,119 Speaker 1: to work, they try to like charge you these like 435 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:50,040 Speaker 1: outrageous house fees girl like depending on what it is, 436 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 1: like it could be upwards of five hundred or more dollars. 437 00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:56,960 Speaker 1: I know there was a club, Yeah there was one day. Yes, 438 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:58,920 Speaker 1: for one night, there was a club in New York. 439 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:01,399 Speaker 1: I remember that Goes is working at one night or 440 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:03,680 Speaker 1: a Migos is supposed to appear there one night and 441 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:06,320 Speaker 1: they have their house be starting at eight hundred dollars 442 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:13,000 Speaker 1: literally yes, please exactly. Um what else they will They 443 00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:15,840 Speaker 1: will try to find you a lot. Oftentimes club owners 444 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:18,080 Speaker 1: will make up fines for just any little things like 445 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:19,879 Speaker 1: you don't have your clothes, or you don't have our 446 00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 1: uniforms and a um in a zip blog bag. That's 447 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,840 Speaker 1: a thirty dollar fine. You don't have like you know, 448 00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:27,359 Speaker 1: like you don't your your hygiene is bad, that's a 449 00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:29,360 Speaker 1: hundred dollar fine or something like that. They will try 450 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:31,560 Speaker 1: to find any little thing to try to find you 451 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 1: for it to make them more money, and then pretty 452 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:35,320 Speaker 1: much you're not making no money because you're give me 453 00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:38,520 Speaker 1: all your money back to them, exactly, you know, So 454 00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 1: it's like, but the thing is, it's like, with these 455 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:43,280 Speaker 1: high house fees, are you making sure that your girls 456 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:44,960 Speaker 1: are earning that money? Like you know what I mean, 457 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:48,400 Speaker 1: you can't just safe Exactly, you can't just be sitting 458 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:50,120 Speaker 1: You're trying to get their money and you're not even 459 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:52,359 Speaker 1: providing a good work environment for them. You're not even 460 00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:54,399 Speaker 1: making your money comes into this club. So you know, 461 00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:57,320 Speaker 1: it's bullshit. Honestly, it's bullshit, and a lot of girls 462 00:21:57,359 --> 00:21:59,479 Speaker 1: are just sick and tired of it, like you know, 463 00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 1: like I'm tired of it because it's just ridiculous. And 464 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:04,119 Speaker 1: the thing is, there's a lot of these club owners 465 00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,000 Speaker 1: there are men, so it's like they don't give a 466 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:07,800 Speaker 1: funk because they're not you know, they're not getting their 467 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:09,560 Speaker 1: boots touched on, like you know, they're not getting their 468 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 1: pussies rubbed on, so they don't. Like I don't know 469 00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:17,080 Speaker 1: that you said, is it's mandatory to house moms? What 470 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:19,000 Speaker 1: is the house mom? For those who doesn't know what 471 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:22,040 Speaker 1: a house mom do with her responsibilities. So a houseman 472 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:24,639 Speaker 1: basically is well, it doesn't not every club will have 473 00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,600 Speaker 1: a house mom, but usually you will have a house 474 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:28,879 Speaker 1: mom in the club. A house mom is just someone 475 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:31,080 Speaker 1: that you know, you come in. She just has all 476 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:35,160 Speaker 1: your supplies, like say, if you want some perfume, you know, um, 477 00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:38,080 Speaker 1: whatever you need in the dressing room and stuff like that. 478 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:40,719 Speaker 1: She just makes sure that the dressing room is just running, 479 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:42,800 Speaker 1: you know how it is. She walks along the floor, 480 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,879 Speaker 1: make sure like no one's doing anything that they're not 481 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: supposed to, things of that sort. She collects her she's 482 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,480 Speaker 1: the one that's collecting your tip out most or your 483 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,480 Speaker 1: your tip out, your house fee stuff, and she's the 484 00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:55,680 Speaker 1: one that's usually doing that. So that's about the job 485 00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:58,480 Speaker 1: of a house mom basically. And I know you also 486 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:01,920 Speaker 1: put DJs and dooring, yes, so the DJ of course, 487 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:04,439 Speaker 1: that's kind of self explainatory depending on the club that 488 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:06,199 Speaker 1: you work at, like you have to pay it on 489 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 1: place music not to play certain music, but say if um, 490 00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:11,720 Speaker 1: you want to get on stage at a certain time 491 00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 1: when somebody with a lot of money just walked in 492 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:14,879 Speaker 1: the door, so you want to get on stage or 493 00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:17,320 Speaker 1: trying to get their attention. You gotta tip the DJ 494 00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:19,439 Speaker 1: and then he's gonna try to get you on stage 495 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:22,160 Speaker 1: or something like that. Say, if you tip a waitress 496 00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:24,000 Speaker 1: or a doormant and somebody just walked in with a 497 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:26,359 Speaker 1: lot of money, they'll probably point that person in the 498 00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,800 Speaker 1: direction of you. It's not even guaranteed that person may 499 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,240 Speaker 1: even like you, but it's like you're tipping the DJ. 500 00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:33,520 Speaker 1: You're tipping all these people just to make sure that 501 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:35,000 Speaker 1: they're going to put you in the space of some 502 00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:40,000 Speaker 1: money based Wow. Um, let's talk about mental health. How 503 00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: does being in being this lifestyle affect your mental health? 504 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:45,680 Speaker 1: I see it all the time with so many girls 505 00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,720 Speaker 1: that we just like suffer from burnout, Like you know 506 00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:50,080 Speaker 1: what I mean. Like I always say, there's like this 507 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:52,760 Speaker 1: idea in the super community that you always have to 508 00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:54,720 Speaker 1: be hustling, you always have to be working. But it's 509 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:56,880 Speaker 1: like you can't just hustle something off if you're going 510 00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:59,560 Speaker 1: through something, take some time off, Like I'm taking a 511 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:01,520 Speaker 1: week off right now because I've just been you know, 512 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,960 Speaker 1: going through a lot. Like it's no problem with it, 513 00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:07,399 Speaker 1: but it's like sometimes I feel like because I'm trust me, 514 00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:10,120 Speaker 1: like you were especially it can be in any club. 515 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:12,880 Speaker 1: But I felt like when I started to get into 516 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:15,679 Speaker 1: buy clubs, like when I started to come into contact 517 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 1: with more hardcore drugs, just seeing them and just like yeah, 518 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:22,280 Speaker 1: like I I've literally had someone in the club hand 519 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:24,400 Speaker 1: me crack in cocaine and tell me to sell it 520 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,080 Speaker 1: so he could give me customers. I'm not even joking 521 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 1: literal crack, Okay, I ain't a lot. When I was 522 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,720 Speaker 1: in Miami and some girl was talking to me and 523 00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:34,679 Speaker 1: we were just talking, and I was like, Yo, she 524 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:39,639 Speaker 1: is rolling Like I knew she couldn't even like I 525 00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:42,560 Speaker 1: was like, what, girl, Like she couldn't even complete her cynicis? 526 00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:45,960 Speaker 1: It is so common, Like ecstasy is a really a 527 00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:49,439 Speaker 1: really big thing, like you know, um, acid is a 528 00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:52,920 Speaker 1: really big thing that's never been yes, like that, I 529 00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,359 Speaker 1: just's never been my you know. But I think the 530 00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:58,160 Speaker 1: easiest thing for people to try to like just mask 531 00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:00,600 Speaker 1: them into health with, of course it is alcohol, Like 532 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:02,280 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I even tell people all 533 00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:04,879 Speaker 1: the time, I've been dealing with alcohol abuse since I 534 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,399 Speaker 1: was about seventeen years old, which is very young. But 535 00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 1: I went to college when I was seventeen. I would 536 00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:12,040 Speaker 1: just barely turn seventeen when I went to college, and 537 00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:13,959 Speaker 1: you know, I went through a lot of depression when 538 00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:17,160 Speaker 1: I was in college, and just drinking and turning up 539 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,320 Speaker 1: was the way that I dealt with my emotions because 540 00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:22,119 Speaker 1: I never really knew how to deal with and so 541 00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:24,560 Speaker 1: I never have nobody really talk to you about the exactly. 542 00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 1: So then when I was in the strip club, I mean, 543 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:30,359 Speaker 1: I'm under age obviously, but in most of these clubs 544 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:33,640 Speaker 1: alcohol isn't especially depending on where you're working at. When 545 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:35,760 Speaker 1: I was up in New York, New York City, who 546 00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:37,959 Speaker 1: do you think is about to check somebody's you know, 547 00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,360 Speaker 1: ID They don't have time. You have all these people 548 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:41,760 Speaker 1: in the club. The bartender got to get to the 549 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:43,840 Speaker 1: next person. So it's really easy for you to be 550 00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,120 Speaker 1: under age in the club and just go drab, grab drink, 551 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:48,000 Speaker 1: and get drunk all night long. Let you know what 552 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:49,879 Speaker 1: I mean. So that's how I see a lot of 553 00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:51,960 Speaker 1: girls just start to max their pain with a lot 554 00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:54,960 Speaker 1: of these drugs and alcohol, right, and one of that 555 00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 1: insecurities because I can only imagine since you are I mean, 556 00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:01,800 Speaker 1: I think you're very beautiful, I think my sepert Yeah, 557 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,480 Speaker 1: I can't imagine you like being around these other women 558 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:08,520 Speaker 1: would these big as titties and breasts up ass and stuff, 559 00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,119 Speaker 1: and like, you know, I can't imagine how to make 560 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:14,000 Speaker 1: you feel. Yeah, you feel like you have to compete, 561 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:16,000 Speaker 1: you know. And this happened to me like a couple 562 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,119 Speaker 1: of months ago, earlier this year, Like I was just 563 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:22,040 Speaker 1: in such a terrible space, like mentally and it was 564 00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,160 Speaker 1: coming from the club, like just a lot of insecurities. 565 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:29,280 Speaker 1: I felt like, well if I probably wasn't insecure and 566 00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: I always say like shuld me help me build my 567 00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,800 Speaker 1: confidence a lot, but I was just going through a phase. 568 00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:35,600 Speaker 1: I was just like I'm not making as much money 569 00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:37,439 Speaker 1: because I don't have a fatter but so let me 570 00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 1: try to Like I was taking vitamins and stuff, saying 571 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:42,280 Speaker 1: if I could gain weight, Like I was looking at 572 00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,479 Speaker 1: trying to get butt implants. You know, butt shots are 573 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:46,639 Speaker 1: a big thing. A lot of these celebrities they have 574 00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:48,600 Speaker 1: butt shots. Okay they don't want to, but they do 575 00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:51,960 Speaker 1: have butt shots. They have work done, you know. So 576 00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:53,639 Speaker 1: like it was just and not with something that was 577 00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:57,159 Speaker 1: contributing to just like mental illness and mental health for 578 00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:59,680 Speaker 1: me was just like I would just felt like I 579 00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:01,359 Speaker 1: will It's like now I'm being like, I don't even 580 00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:02,920 Speaker 1: want to go to the club because now it's like 581 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:04,960 Speaker 1: I have to compete with all these girls that have 582 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,280 Speaker 1: these better bodies than me, and it's it literally just 583 00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:09,840 Speaker 1: made me just destroy myself in the mirror. So I 584 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:11,960 Speaker 1: just had to take a step back. I deleted all 585 00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:14,399 Speaker 1: my social media for a couple of months, Like you know, 586 00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,560 Speaker 1: I just like really just I took a break from 587 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:18,760 Speaker 1: the club. I just really had to get my head 588 00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:22,400 Speaker 1: together and just be like, you were beautiful, You're strong, 589 00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:25,400 Speaker 1: and no matter what I always tell girls, if one 590 00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:28,080 Speaker 1: person rejects you, a hundred people are gonna love you. Okay, 591 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,800 Speaker 1: just always remember that, like it doesn't it doesn't matter 592 00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,399 Speaker 1: because everyone likes something different, like you know, so you 593 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:35,800 Speaker 1: just really can't It's it's easy to let it get 594 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 1: to your head, but you really just have to stay 595 00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:40,000 Speaker 1: strong and not let it get to you, which is 596 00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:44,720 Speaker 1: is crazy, but yeah, right now, it's true. One thing 597 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:46,640 Speaker 1: that I saw on the Instagram post and you didn't 598 00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,360 Speaker 1: speak much about it. Um you mentioned that's something traumatic 599 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,399 Speaker 1: happened to you and it was a low point in 600 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:55,000 Speaker 1: your life. What was that? If you do you mind 601 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,400 Speaker 1: speaking on it? Oh? No, I can't um. Basically, I 602 00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:00,639 Speaker 1: was sexually assaulted by someone that was really close to 603 00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:04,199 Speaker 1: me and it was him and his friend, you know, 604 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:07,879 Speaker 1: and it just like made me that I feel like 605 00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 1: that is definitely a situation where it can make or 606 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:13,919 Speaker 1: break someone, like you know what I meant. And I 607 00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:15,879 Speaker 1: always told I had a very close friend that I 608 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:17,879 Speaker 1: worked with on my escort with her at dance with 609 00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:19,520 Speaker 1: her and stuff like that, and I told her I 610 00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:21,840 Speaker 1: just never wanted that situation that happened to me because 611 00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 1: I knew I feel like I wouldn't be able to 612 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,720 Speaker 1: handle it, and then it ended up happening to me, 613 00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:27,760 Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, And that was just 614 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:30,320 Speaker 1: a situation. It just made like at the time, I 615 00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:33,320 Speaker 1: was drinking five out of seven days a week, like 616 00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:34,800 Speaker 1: you know, I was in the strip club of heavy, 617 00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:37,439 Speaker 1: so I was drinking. I was getting not even just drinking, 618 00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:41,080 Speaker 1: I was getting drunk, okay everything like five out of 619 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:43,000 Speaker 1: seven days a week, maybe six days out of the 620 00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 1: week sometime, like you know what I mean. And so 621 00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:47,440 Speaker 1: it's just like when I hit that point and I 622 00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,000 Speaker 1: just I just hit a low point in life with that, 623 00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:52,680 Speaker 1: and it's just like, for some reason, it just made 624 00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:55,600 Speaker 1: me think like I'm I have to get myself together, 625 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,680 Speaker 1: Like I'm not going to let someone sit here and 626 00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:00,080 Speaker 1: steal my joy. Like I'm not gonna let him and 627 00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,200 Speaker 1: sit here and steal my joy. I'm not gonna let 628 00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,240 Speaker 1: alcohol sit here and steal my joy. I'm not gonna 629 00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:05,800 Speaker 1: let drugs sit here and steal my joy. I'm not 630 00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 1: gonna let insecurity seal it. Like I just decided at 631 00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,880 Speaker 1: that point, like I'm low, but the only place that 632 00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:14,000 Speaker 1: I can go was up if I just take my 633 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,200 Speaker 1: always say that. Yeah, and you know, I got myself help. 634 00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:19,920 Speaker 1: I went to counseling, you know, and I always tell 635 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:25,880 Speaker 1: people don't be afraid to go exactly, like even like 636 00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:27,800 Speaker 1: on the Sopranos, Like I'll be watching that and I'll 637 00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,400 Speaker 1: be like, like that's the that's the blueprint for everybody. 638 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,720 Speaker 1: Everyone needs someone to talk to sometimes. So yeah, girl, 639 00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:35,880 Speaker 1: before I had my interview with you earlier today, I 640 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:39,800 Speaker 1: had meaning with my therapy cool black lady. Oh man, 641 00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:42,080 Speaker 1: she got me together, Like I was just sitting there 642 00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,920 Speaker 1: just like damn, Like, and I think about things that 643 00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:50,080 Speaker 1: you never really thought about in certain girls seriously, Um, 644 00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,280 Speaker 1: so I know that before I didn't include this in 645 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:57,080 Speaker 1: an interview because I wanted to mainly focus on the 646 00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 1: stripping aspect. But I know that you said earlier that 647 00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,960 Speaker 1: you were escort and you did webcam. M hmm, what 648 00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 1: did you do? It is because I feel and all 649 00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:07,680 Speaker 1: the ways that because I feel like you're just so young. 650 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: I know, people are like so surprised when I say that. Basically, 651 00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:15,520 Speaker 1: like kiming was something I just kind of got into 652 00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:18,760 Speaker 1: just to get like a little extra extra money. It 653 00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,640 Speaker 1: was never anything that I was like, you know, like professional. 654 00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:25,400 Speaker 1: And I think when like I say escorting, people don't 655 00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:28,760 Speaker 1: understand what the word escorting means. Sometimes escorting doesn't necessarily 656 00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:31,720 Speaker 1: mean like you have to um have sex with someone, 657 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:36,320 Speaker 1: you know, Escorting means you were being compensated for giving 658 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:39,000 Speaker 1: time to someone, so you actually go into the strip club. 659 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,080 Speaker 1: I can meet a man tonight and he says, oh, 660 00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:42,959 Speaker 1: you want to go out to lunch tomorrow. That's an 661 00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:44,680 Speaker 1: escort date to me, Like you know what I mean. 662 00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:46,640 Speaker 1: So that could be like any time that if I 663 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:49,080 Speaker 1: choose to have sex with him for money, then that's 664 00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:50,920 Speaker 1: what's a part of that time. If I choose that 665 00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:53,200 Speaker 1: I just want to go out to dinner with this person, 666 00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 1: then that's a part of that escort date, like you 667 00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,120 Speaker 1: know what I mean. So escorting for me, it's like 668 00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:00,800 Speaker 1: something that's been happening, you know, just throughout my super career. 669 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:04,239 Speaker 1: Some people they do escorting this full time whatever that 670 00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:07,160 Speaker 1: may entail within their you know, within their escorting business. 671 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,760 Speaker 1: So yeah, right, okay, it's I'm like, girl, you know 672 00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:15,320 Speaker 1: you're not playing no game for real, but listen, I 673 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:18,280 Speaker 1: can'tnot to hustle. Um, So how are you dealing? How 674 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,040 Speaker 1: are you doing that with your health? I feel like 675 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,960 Speaker 1: I'm just so much better now. I just look at 676 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:27,320 Speaker 1: life and just certain different ways. Like I always say, 677 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:30,520 Speaker 1: like I just have to find something every single day 678 00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:33,040 Speaker 1: that's just gonna make me want to get through the day. 679 00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:34,360 Speaker 1: Like you know what I mean, I have to find 680 00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:37,040 Speaker 1: the positive and everything. I always go by this scenario 681 00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:38,880 Speaker 1: of the ning, like there's good in the bad and 682 00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:40,800 Speaker 1: bad and the good. You just always got to find 683 00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:42,880 Speaker 1: good and bad. That's how I just personally just live 684 00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,360 Speaker 1: my life and it's what keeps me together. Everyone has 685 00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:47,560 Speaker 1: their different things that they can do to keep themselves 686 00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:51,680 Speaker 1: up beat, but that's just what I do. Another thing 687 00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:55,760 Speaker 1: that you mentioned it was about financial freedom. I mean girls, 688 00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,720 Speaker 1: their shrip runs into so much money, they don't really 689 00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:02,960 Speaker 1: say that was me. So why do you emphasize the 690 00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:07,240 Speaker 1: importance of it, because stripping is like, it's just one 691 00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,680 Speaker 1: job that you can get caught in a cycle very easily. 692 00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:13,080 Speaker 1: And I see it with so many women in the 693 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:15,680 Speaker 1: strip club that are older, and they always tell me, 694 00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:18,440 Speaker 1: save your money, have have a plan. Don't come in 695 00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:20,760 Speaker 1: here without a plan, like I have a stripper moms. 696 00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,000 Speaker 1: She moved to Miami, but yeah, she always told me. 697 00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:25,200 Speaker 1: Whenever she would see me, she would say, where's your planet? 698 00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:27,640 Speaker 1: Because don't get stuck in here like these other girls do. 699 00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:29,080 Speaker 1: You make a lot of money one night and then 700 00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:30,960 Speaker 1: you go and bloat on all these handbags and you 701 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:33,320 Speaker 1: come back from you're broke. So people get stuck in 702 00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:36,000 Speaker 1: that cycle. You see so many dancers get stuck in 703 00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:38,280 Speaker 1: that cycle. And that's even um. I was reading up 704 00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:40,000 Speaker 1: on Hustlers and a and one of the girls that 705 00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:42,040 Speaker 1: the movie is based off of, she said she really 706 00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:44,080 Speaker 1: got stuck in that cycle, which is why she kept 707 00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:46,720 Speaker 1: going back and scamming these men. And it's really the 708 00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:49,200 Speaker 1: reality for so many people in the sex or community. 709 00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:51,880 Speaker 1: They just get stuck in the cycle of Okay, I 710 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:53,760 Speaker 1: got a lot of money and I spent it all, 711 00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:55,320 Speaker 1: so let me go get more money. And I got 712 00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,120 Speaker 1: the money again, spent it all, let me go back 713 00:32:57,120 --> 00:32:58,960 Speaker 1: and get it again. So what does that You become 714 00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,680 Speaker 1: addicted to it? You do? Like I do? Feel like 715 00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:04,360 Speaker 1: money is an addiction, like you know, I've seen it. 716 00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:07,840 Speaker 1: Like people can be addicted to different things. People can 717 00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:11,600 Speaker 1: be addicted to drugs, alcohol, gambling, People can be addicted 718 00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:13,600 Speaker 1: to love, like you know what I mean. So people 719 00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:16,680 Speaker 1: can be addicted to making money and making fast money. 720 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:19,560 Speaker 1: It's no different. I always say, stripping money to me 721 00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:21,440 Speaker 1: is just like making dope money, like you know what 722 00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:24,120 Speaker 1: I mean. Like I feel like dope boys are addicted 723 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:29,280 Speaker 1: to making money too. So yeah, right. Another thing that 724 00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:33,920 Speaker 1: you mentioned was black men in this industry, and I 725 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:39,840 Speaker 1: couldn't you mentioned how black men are. I love the control, 726 00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,120 Speaker 1: how black women are being portray and love the hyper 727 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:47,400 Speaker 1: sexualized black women. What did you mean by that? Oh God, 728 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,720 Speaker 1: where can I even get in to this with? Yes? 729 00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:53,320 Speaker 1: And I heard a lot of feelings when I call 730 00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:55,520 Speaker 1: black men out on this because I happen to do 731 00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:58,640 Speaker 1: it a lot. So I just remember growing up watching 732 00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:02,680 Speaker 1: the ET and you know, yes, all you would see 733 00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:05,480 Speaker 1: on TV. Of course, the the Nelly Tip Drill video. 734 00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:08,840 Speaker 1: I remember that growing up. Um you see just women 735 00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:15,000 Speaker 1: being portrayed by men as um as they're showing their asses, 736 00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:16,880 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. They're showing stripper you know, 737 00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:19,000 Speaker 1: of course strip club Coach in early two thousand's or 738 00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:22,920 Speaker 1: something that was very big, especially merging with rap music. 739 00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:26,440 Speaker 1: So these men are portraying women as, oh they're strippers. 740 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,759 Speaker 1: They have their asks out there, this, that and the third. 741 00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:30,719 Speaker 1: But then it's like it's not showing, oh, well, how 742 00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:33,279 Speaker 1: does this woman benefit from this? It's only showing how 743 00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:35,600 Speaker 1: the man benefits from it, you know what I mean. 744 00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:37,920 Speaker 1: So it's like now we're coming to an into an 745 00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:40,600 Speaker 1: era of rap where we have people like the City Girls, 746 00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:43,680 Speaker 1: megana Stout and people like that, and these women are 747 00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:47,239 Speaker 1: telling telling men, well, this is how I benefit from 748 00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:49,439 Speaker 1: Not that we haven't had women that have done this before, 749 00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:52,000 Speaker 1: such a like treating or someone like that, they have 750 00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,839 Speaker 1: done that, but I feel like now because it's coming 751 00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:57,799 Speaker 1: down to a younger generation. Of course, social media, it 752 00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:00,560 Speaker 1: just makes you so like you can act is anything 753 00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:03,440 Speaker 1: through the internet these days, like you know, so It's like, 754 00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:05,759 Speaker 1: now women are telling men, well, this is how I'm 755 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:07,880 Speaker 1: benefiting from it, you know what I mean, Like you know, 756 00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:09,560 Speaker 1: I don't really need you. I just want you for 757 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:11,080 Speaker 1: your dick, like you know what I mean. So that 758 00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:13,319 Speaker 1: and now men are offended by it. But for so 759 00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:15,839 Speaker 1: long y'all were telling us, well, I'm only I only 760 00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,400 Speaker 1: want you for some pussy. So what's the what's the 761 00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:23,480 Speaker 1: double Yeah, what's the double standard there? Like you know right? 762 00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:25,319 Speaker 1: And I know you saw you caught up a video 763 00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:27,640 Speaker 1: with Snoop Dogg and he was talking about how women 764 00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:30,080 Speaker 1: don't need to be having me asked yes, but stripped 765 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,239 Speaker 1: a Snoop dog was the main one that was home 766 00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:37,719 Speaker 1: to drop it like it was hot, So righting the 767 00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:41,640 Speaker 1: cattle black exactly. Um. What are some life lessons you 768 00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:45,760 Speaker 1: learned from stripping? Um? Of course, to save your money. 769 00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:49,080 Speaker 1: I feel like to set boundaries with people, like, no 770 00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:51,799 Speaker 1: matter what what area of your life that it is, 771 00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,279 Speaker 1: no matter if it's stripping your personal life whatever. If 772 00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:56,799 Speaker 1: you don't want someone to do something, that someone makes 773 00:35:56,840 --> 00:36:00,120 Speaker 1: you uncomfortable by doing something, say it, you know what 774 00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:02,440 Speaker 1: I mean, don't be afraid to say, don't let anyone 775 00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:04,760 Speaker 1: in this world to give advantage of you because people 776 00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:07,000 Speaker 1: will try you. Okay, you can be as nice as 777 00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:09,360 Speaker 1: you want, but people will always try. You said, definitely 778 00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:13,960 Speaker 1: to set boundaries with everyone. You know, I've definitely learned 779 00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:17,279 Speaker 1: to just be confident in yourself. Um, I've learned to, 780 00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:20,280 Speaker 1: you know, just try to help. I feel like I've 781 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,880 Speaker 1: always want to help other women out now because I 782 00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:27,480 Speaker 1: feel like men you will look at men in a 783 00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:30,240 Speaker 1: completely different life as a stripper, as a sex worker, 784 00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:34,160 Speaker 1: just in general, because men will really just try to 785 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:36,440 Speaker 1: finesh you. They will try to take advantage of you. 786 00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:38,919 Speaker 1: And even though these tricks come in the strip club, 787 00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:40,879 Speaker 1: they see you as they some of them really still 788 00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:43,160 Speaker 1: see you as being nothing but a stripper. They see 789 00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:45,040 Speaker 1: you as being less than a regular woman, like you 790 00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:48,640 Speaker 1: know what I mean, So not exactly. And so that's 791 00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:51,279 Speaker 1: why I feel like a lot of strippers really try 792 00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:53,759 Speaker 1: to come together and just bond together because we do 793 00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:56,120 Speaker 1: have this special bond because so much of the world 794 00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:58,759 Speaker 1: teach us as being less than or you know, being 795 00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,200 Speaker 1: less than just the average woman. We always feel they 796 00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,200 Speaker 1: need to just try to just be together and just 797 00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,399 Speaker 1: uplift each other and things like that. So it's really 798 00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:07,960 Speaker 1: taught me self love for every woman in this world, 799 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:09,759 Speaker 1: even the women that look down at me and tell 800 00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:12,759 Speaker 1: me that I don't deserve men because I shake my 801 00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:14,600 Speaker 1: masks for money. I don't care, you know. I mean, 802 00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:16,879 Speaker 1: I'm never gonna hate on the next woman's hustle. You know, 803 00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:19,120 Speaker 1: whatever you want to say about me, that's cool, you 804 00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:20,920 Speaker 1: know what I mean. I really don't gotta funk with you, 805 00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:23,080 Speaker 1: but you know, I'm not going to deny your rights 806 00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:26,040 Speaker 1: as a woman. So a lot of people, look, a 807 00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:29,160 Speaker 1: lot of people judge people because of what they fear exactly. 808 00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:32,640 Speaker 1: I feel like I don't want to say that like 809 00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,440 Speaker 1: oh they these women just want to be me or 810 00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,320 Speaker 1: something like that, because not every woman wants to be 811 00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,440 Speaker 1: a stripper, and stripping really isn't it for everyone and 812 00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:42,560 Speaker 1: stuff like that. But I do feel like it comes 813 00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:46,080 Speaker 1: from like like just indy or something like that. I 814 00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,279 Speaker 1: have seen a lot of that, like roast just hate 815 00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:51,040 Speaker 1: because they think like, oh, like, you know, she makes 816 00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:52,719 Speaker 1: a lot of money or something like that. Girl, they're 817 00:37:52,840 --> 00:37:54,080 Speaker 1: nice that you will go in the strip club and 818 00:37:54,080 --> 00:37:56,360 Speaker 1: walk out with thirty dollars. Okay, if you just be 819 00:37:56,520 --> 00:38:00,279 Speaker 1: like that, so you know, yeah, it's crazy though the 820 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:05,760 Speaker 1: last night least. What's next after stripping? After stripping? Um, 821 00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:09,839 Speaker 1: how and how long do you see yourself doing this? Well, 822 00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:12,759 Speaker 1: I don't know, Like I always say it to tends 823 00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:15,799 Speaker 1: like you know, I said until I was twenty one, 824 00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:19,439 Speaker 1: but that's gonna be very close. Yeah, I'll be before 825 00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:22,520 Speaker 1: I even know it. Um, I would say, I don't 826 00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:25,080 Speaker 1: really want to strip past the time that I'm thirty. 827 00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,359 Speaker 1: I feel like I will be able to save enough 828 00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:30,320 Speaker 1: money by that time, you know, to just be what 829 00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:33,080 Speaker 1: I you know, what I want to do. I actually, Um, 830 00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:35,439 Speaker 1: when I was in school, I was majoring an entrepreneurship. 831 00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:37,360 Speaker 1: I've always wanted to be a business owner. I always 832 00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:42,640 Speaker 1: masters and management show. Yeah, I always know. I didn't 833 00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:44,239 Speaker 1: want to work for no body like you know, I 834 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:48,880 Speaker 1: hate it where I didn't still down And a lot 835 00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:50,400 Speaker 1: of the things that a lot of people don't know 836 00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:52,520 Speaker 1: about me is I'm really interested in makeup. I've been 837 00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:54,920 Speaker 1: doing makeup since I was about like thirteen or fourteen, 838 00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:57,440 Speaker 1: So that's really what I want to go into. But 839 00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:00,200 Speaker 1: I don't feel that I have to like lose myself 840 00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:02,680 Speaker 1: or lose like my advocacy that I want to do 841 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:05,600 Speaker 1: as a stripper just to like go into a different world, 842 00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:08,920 Speaker 1: like you know, it's raising awareness for sex, the sex 843 00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:11,360 Speaker 1: or community and stuff like that. That's something that I 844 00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:13,759 Speaker 1: will always be passionate about. It's it's something that I'm 845 00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,600 Speaker 1: always gonna do because if nobody else is gonna say, 846 00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:17,880 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it, like you know what I mean, 847 00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:20,439 Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna shake the table. It's nothing else. 848 00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:23,000 Speaker 1: So I never want to lose that part of me 849 00:39:23,040 --> 00:39:24,719 Speaker 1: just because I want to go and do something else. 850 00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:26,200 Speaker 1: So yeah, right, I mean it's a part of you 851 00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:27,759 Speaker 1: is I don't think you would ever lose it. I 852 00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:29,719 Speaker 1: think the main reason why I asked because you are 853 00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:33,279 Speaker 1: so young, and I know all of my guests are anonymous, 854 00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:35,239 Speaker 1: but if anybody want to read her blog, please make 855 00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,680 Speaker 1: sure to email me at hello at the Professional Homegirl 856 00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:41,319 Speaker 1: dot com. But your blog is really good, like right, 857 00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:44,400 Speaker 1: So it's just like stripping is a part of you, 858 00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:47,520 Speaker 1: is what you do, but it's not who you are. Yeah, exactly, 859 00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:50,040 Speaker 1: you know so, I but I think this was a 860 00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:53,480 Speaker 1: great interview. Thank you. I will be checking up on 861 00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:55,600 Speaker 1: you and then you have to go see Hustless this week, 862 00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:59,400 Speaker 1: Yes I will, And if you have any commis, questions 863 00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:01,399 Speaker 1: or concerned to anything for my guests, Like I said, 864 00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:04,239 Speaker 1: please email me at hello at the professional homegoard dot 865 00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:10,080 Speaker 1: com and until next time, guys. Later, M