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Speaker 1: So you know who Rupert Murdoch is. It's the media tycoon.

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Speaker 1: He's engaged to a woman named Melena. He's ninety two,

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Speaker 1: she's sixty seven. Ins appropriate, I would say, I mean

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Speaker 1: twenty five years something with him. She's a retired molecular

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Speaker 1: biologist from Russia. However, this guy's been married five times

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Speaker 1: and now he's engaged the sixth time. Well, I guess

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Speaker 1: engaged six times. That engagement lasted only two weeks, ended abruptly.

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Speaker 2: So what is that?

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Speaker 1: Is this the seventh or the sixth? It doesn't matter.

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Speaker 1: He's been married five times? Is my point? How many times?

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Speaker 1: How many times do we get married before it starts

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Speaker 1: to lose its sort of meaning a little bit. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know, people get married young, or people get married

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Speaker 1: in the heat of the moment, or people get married

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Speaker 1: to someone who they didn't they didn't know as well

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Speaker 1: as they thought they did, and they get divorced. Understandable,

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it happens again. Sometimes okay, So then and what

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Speaker 1: after that, like, let's say one or two to you know,

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Speaker 1: of these lifelong commitments that we're making. I'm not judging anybody,

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Speaker 1: I mean, do whatever you want. But if I'm the

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Speaker 1: fifth person to marry you. Then, do I are we

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Speaker 1: taking Do I look at this and go, you're taking

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Speaker 1: this as seriously as you did four times ago, it

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Speaker 1: means as much as it did four times ago. Or

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Speaker 1: do we say at some point, you know what, we

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Speaker 1: can just be together. We don't have to get married

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Speaker 1: because the spiritual aspect of this has kind of been

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Speaker 1: done a few times, right, Yeah, I mean I.

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Speaker 3: Think three is a fair amount. That's like kind of

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Speaker 3: my thing in life, like I would probably.

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Speaker 1: You're hoping to get married three times.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm a little behind the ball. I should have

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Speaker 3: had one already, what I know, But yeah, I think,

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Speaker 3: like you know, three husbands is probably like a good average,

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Speaker 3: you know, like you've I experienced this chapter another chapter see.

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Speaker 2: Your starter marriage.

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Speaker 3: You know, you know you're married for love, then you

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Speaker 3: married for money, and then you married just for.

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Speaker 2: Like stability, So we can die agree my butt?

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Speaker 4: When I know someone's yeah, I don't know, I feel

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Speaker 4: like I'm just like a one and done lady, like

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Speaker 4: getting married what last year?

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Speaker 3: This year?

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Speaker 2: I don't even know what your word. I feel like I.

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Speaker 1: Believe it was last year. I believe your wedding was

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Speaker 1: last year.

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Speaker 2: Everything happened so fast. For sometimes I forget it all.

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Speaker 5: Every life thing I can't keep trash literally like a

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Speaker 5: short little Dina has.

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Speaker 4: In nine months, I didn't know the houses.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I killed in a marriage all in

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Speaker 1: good twenty four months, a whole relationship thirty six months.

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Speaker 2: Thirty six months.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but honestly, I'm a one and done lady, like

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Speaker 4: iway was tell almost a Friday, I tell Hobby all

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Speaker 4: the time. I'm like, listen, I I know, I'm like

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Speaker 4: losing it. I'm like Hobby, if we ever get divorced

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Speaker 4: or separate, like I'm I'm not doing this again because

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Speaker 4: I don't. I don't really wanted the whole production, like

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Speaker 4: I'll be with someone. But I also and Jason knows

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Speaker 4: just like do the fread way of just living in

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Speaker 1: There's a lot to what my theory. There's a lot

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Speaker 1: to it. And people will call up here and see

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Speaker 1: all Fred and I romantic? All Fred, you No, I

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Speaker 1: am romance. I actually am very romantic. But I think

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Speaker 1: that the very least two bedrooms, two bathrooms, two closets

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Speaker 1: person I'm married too. That isn't true, but I do.

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Speaker 1: But maybe, you know, come on, let's face it, there

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Speaker 1: You I don't know you maybe you like to leave

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, it's always really like he's very much

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Speaker 1: Passive aggressive way of being like I'm not doing.

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Speaker 6: It, yes, because I don't. I'm not like a yeller.

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Speaker 6: I'm not a fighter. I'm not a screamer. Like we

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Speaker 6: don't get into like screaming matches. It's more like petty

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Speaker 2: Who wins usually but me, he wins, I lose. I

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Speaker 6: Like cats all up and you know, so he gets

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Speaker 1: See what if he had like his Oh, I guess

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Speaker 2: Yeah, m hmm.

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Speaker 1: Someone texted eight five, five, five, nine, one one oh

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Speaker 1: three five? How many times do you get married until

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Speaker 1: you realize you are the problem? I mean, think about that,

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Speaker 1: you're getting married five six times, there's I mean, depending

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Speaker 1: maybe you don't get it, which is okay, you don't

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Speaker 1: keep doing it? I guess that's my thing is like

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Speaker 1: I thought marriage was supposed to be. And again, who

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Speaker 1: I'm a spiritual guy. I'm not like overly religious. But

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Speaker 1: because it's human and it may not work. And I

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Speaker 1: say that humans aren't even supposed to be monogamous. So fine, whatever,

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Speaker 1: So it doesn't work once, and then you go back

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Speaker 1: So maybe that's the problem. I don't know, But anyway,

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Speaker 1: well or I'm not made for this or something. It's

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Speaker 1: got to be something, right if you keep getting divorced

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Speaker 1: that happens in one and how it remains romantic, you know,

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Speaker 1: like if I'm marrying this dude, I'm like, you've done

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Speaker 1: this four or five other times, Like, how do I

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Speaker 1: know I'm not going to be just the next divorce?

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Speaker 1: Like you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And he's rich, so I mean she's going to

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Speaker 1: get paid. But she's sixty seven. I mean she probably

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Speaker 1: I don't know who she cares about that man. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he said, you know, she's not getting all of it.

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Speaker 1: You know, there's a prena. It's not like she cashed in.

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Speaker 1: I mean, she cashed in. I'm sure she's gonna get paid.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure her life is going to be fine. But

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Speaker 5: Needs to, you know, stick it out for a couple

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Speaker 1: Right, I mean, well, that is true. Another text, We

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Speaker 1: shouldn't judge someone that's been married numerous times because we

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Speaker 1: don't know what happened behind closed stores. Okay, five times though,

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Speaker 1: like five times again? Like sometimes you look, we've all

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Speaker 1: but married twelve years. I'm not investing in another twelve

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Speaker 2: Said, we'll just be we'll just be together.

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Speaker 1: You think you'll ever do it? No, I'll never do it.

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Speaker 1: I don't think. You don't think Mike the Mechanic will

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Speaker 1: ever propose to you. It's been twelve years. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, and what is his What would he

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Speaker 1: say if I asked him why he hasn't proposed to you?

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Speaker 6: I don't think he see he doesn't value marriage, like

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Speaker 6: I don't think it's important to him.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. But you may as well be yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I mean we might as well.

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Speaker 6: I mean relationships are hard, like there are days I

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Speaker 6: don't even want to look at him, like, you know,

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Speaker 6: and I could see like if I was a different

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Speaker 2: You know. It really just depends how much you want

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Speaker 1: People would say that the marriage part is what keeps

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Speaker 1: people together, But in this case, you know, you guys

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Speaker 1: make it through all that stuff without being married, right,

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Speaker 1: so it still works like a marriage.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I'm committed, like I don't want to

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Speaker 6: where I'm like, oh my god, like I don't even

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Speaker 1: I just don't think people look at it the same

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Speaker 1: way that like our grandparents did and stuff like that. Like,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna tell me my grandparents are married. I think

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Speaker 1: seventy years, sixty nine, seventy years. Are you going to

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Speaker 1: with this person or whatever. You just didn't because that's

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Speaker 1: what marriage meant then. And again, I'm not a prude,

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Speaker 1: I'm not a you know, I'm not over here like

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Speaker 1: standing on my morality stoop or whatever. But I guess

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Speaker 1: I would argue that it means something different to people now,

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Speaker 1: and I'm not sure exactly what that is, but it

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Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily mean, well, we made this promise for life,

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Speaker 1: so we're just gonna we're just gonna figure it out.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, there's less judgment. I think on divorce now, you know,

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Speaker 5: or breaking up. And I think if people go through

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Speaker 5: like people have married for a long time say that,

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Speaker 5: they go through like hard years, not just you know days,

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Speaker 5: like there's like that was our bad year, that was whatever,

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Speaker 5: and if you stick through that, you stick through that.

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Speaker 5: But I think people think once they hit that first

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Speaker 5: like hard patch, it's easy to get out, you know,

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Speaker 5: and you're not going to be as judged and your

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Speaker 5: family won't you know, stop talking to you because you

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Speaker 5: have a divorce, right for sure, or or like just

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Speaker 5: like tolerating more. I think unfortunately our grandparents to tolerate

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Speaker 5: a lot more than we ever know it today.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm not anything like the dishes weren't done

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Speaker 2: or whatever.

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Speaker 4: I'm talking like infidelity, right, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 4: Like it's a lot of crazy abuse, honey.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're probably right about them. Some more text.

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Speaker 1: Honestly believe the first marriage is more about the hype

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Speaker 1: of having a wedding. I hear that all the time.

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Speaker 1: I hear that from people people who've been married well,

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Speaker 1: and if they have kids, they'll say one of these

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Speaker 1: two things, if not both, they'll say it was the

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Speaker 1: best party of my life in reflecting on that marriage, Man,

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Speaker 1: that was a great night the rest of it, or

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Speaker 1: I'm so glad I got my kids. That's what I'll

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Speaker 1: hear from those scenarios people were and so the people

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Speaker 1: who are like, what a great party it was? That

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Speaker 1: says to me like, Okay, you knew that maybe this

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Speaker 1: wasn't great, but like we were too far down the

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Speaker 1: road right for me?

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Speaker 5: My new thing is like the next like long term

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Speaker 5: I'm getting into. I want every year, I want to

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Speaker 5: sit down and I want to do a year on

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Speaker 5: review and be like, what would you change?

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Speaker 1: What wouldn't you change? And do you still want to

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Speaker 1: do that.

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Speaker 5: That's the only way I'll feel comfortable committing to someone

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Speaker 5: long term. I need to be able to be like, okay,

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Speaker 5: we need to fix the or one of us doesn't

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Speaker 5: want to be in this anymore. So every year I'm

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Speaker 5: doing a year on review.

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Speaker 1: There was a whole theory a trend about this years ago,

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Speaker 1: about seven year like leases on marriage. Basically, yeah, every

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Speaker 1: seven years you sit down and reassess, like and if

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Speaker 1: you want to walk away, no hard feelings because we

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Speaker 1: agree to it ahead of time. That being said as

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Speaker 1: the seven year mark approaches. Don't you start to feel

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Speaker 1: insecure about your relationship because the point was sickness and health,

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Speaker 1: good and bad. You know, you know, mean and not mean,

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Speaker 1: and we know wherever else.

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Speaker 5: But that's why I want to do it every year,

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Speaker 5: so it's not like something crazy. You just talk about it.

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Speaker 2: Right now? Are you still into this right?

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Speaker 1: Would you like to renew your subscription? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I know?

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Speaker 1: But what if you are like me and you forget

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Speaker 1: that you even had a subscription? I had Disney Plus,

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Speaker 1: I do, I didn't know I had Disney Plus someone.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna start watching it now. Come over here, lady.

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Speaker 1: We're married. We should be doing things that