Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with brooks Like and Gavin
Speaker 1: de Grab and I heard radio podcast. Welcome to another
Speaker 1: episode of How Men Think. My name is brooks Like.
Speaker 1: I'll be your host today and we have a gracious
Speaker 1: co host righting alongside with me today. His name is
Speaker 1: Mr Bob Guiney. He came you first, probably got to
Speaker 1: know him on ABC. Is hugely popular hit The Bachelor,
Speaker 1: but now he's a bi monthly panelist on the Today Show.
Speaker 1: And Bob, I'm reading your bio here, brother, you have
Speaker 1: the longest bio I've ever read. Welcome you show, Bob,
Speaker 1: Thank you. Yeah. You know, it's one of those things
Speaker 1: when you're when your manager writes it and you just
Speaker 1: you're like, well, I don't want to risk not mentioning something,
Speaker 1: so dude. He also took a dog two weeks ago.
Speaker 1: Everything's in there. You've done everything. I mean, you covered
Speaker 1: the super Bowl daytime Emmy's. I mean, you've been on
Speaker 1: OPRAH specials for E v H one, you name it.
Speaker 1: You gotta teach me the ways here, my man. But
Speaker 1: you've already got figured out way more than I do.
Speaker 1: Trust me. No, um, buddy, you coming to the show,
Speaker 1: and this is going to be kind of baptism by fire.
Speaker 1: And I know you're you're jumping right into this, but
Speaker 1: today's show, I'm excited about this one because we also
Speaker 1: have with us producer Amy and producer Danielle. Ladies. Welcome
Speaker 1: to the show. We need to set you to straight.
Speaker 1: That's okay, So Bob, buckle in here, Bob, because this
Speaker 1: show is we're going to talk about all the things
Speaker 1: that women do that men just don't understand. And with Amy, sugarman,
Speaker 1: the list is endless, and it's a game. It's almost
Speaker 1: like a little game. We're gonna read you the list,
Speaker 1: you guys, see if you can explain it, and then
Speaker 1: we'll correct you. Okay, okay, So, so Bob and I
Speaker 1: are basically just sacrificial lambs here is that's what you're saying. So, Bob, Bob,
Speaker 1: you're a champ brother for coming on this episode of
Speaker 1: our conversation. Prior to this, Amy is fired up. She
Speaker 1: just got off a business meeting zoom call that she
Speaker 1: hates just didn't go so well. So I'm trying to
Speaker 1: calm myself down, trying to calm myself down. Okay, So Amy,
Speaker 1: how do we want to do this? Do you want
Speaker 1: to read the question or do I want Danielle will
Speaker 1: read the list. So Danielle will read the list. Then
Speaker 1: you two will give your thoughts and then we will
Speaker 1: correct you. Okay, so we have thoughts or things that
Speaker 1: women do um that men misunderstand. These are from listeners
Speaker 1: emailed into us, and Danielle is going to read them,
Speaker 1: and Bob and I are going to take our best
Speaker 1: grope in the dark at these topics. What are you
Speaker 1: guys ready? I'm ready. Here's the very first one. And
Speaker 1: Amy this is her favorite? Okay, why do women overthink
Speaker 1: and read into text messages? Definitely Amy Sugarman's favorite. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, you could send you could literally send okay
Speaker 1: to Amy and she's like, what does this mean? How
Speaker 1: does he what is he thinking here? What's he feeling?
Speaker 1: Why would you respond like that? Like part of my
Speaker 1: favorite thing. I've missed. I miss seeing you in real life, Amy,
Speaker 1: because I miss witnessing you in a text conversation. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I like. I like when women will read the text
Speaker 1: message back to you and they'll say, you know, can
Speaker 1: you believe she said this? Then she was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, whatever, and it's like, uh, I don't think
Speaker 1: the tone was in that email. I think it may
Speaker 1: have said, oh MG, you know, whatever you want to do,
Speaker 1: we can do. And Uh yeah, I've seen a million times.
Speaker 1: It's it's always gonna go from zero to a thousand.
Speaker 1: I think it's because of the love of the passion
Speaker 1: of the person reading that text. So you talk about
Speaker 1: Amy sugar She's a passionate person, right, she reads the
Speaker 1: texts that it's like, I don't care whatever you want
Speaker 1: to do it. She's like, I don't care whatever you want.
Speaker 1: So it just takes on a different you know, there's
Speaker 1: little stops and pauses in there. Could that? Could that
Speaker 1: be what it is? Bob, I think you're a kinder
Speaker 1: human than I am, because I'm going to answer this
Speaker 1: question and say that based on my experience I have
Speaker 1: of witnessing said person. Uh Sugarman digests a text message,
Speaker 1: the mood that she's currently in plays directly into how
Speaker 1: she interprets the text message. Yes, am I correct there.
Speaker 1: So I think what you both are saying has some
Speaker 1: truth to it. But here's what I'll say for men
Speaker 1: and women, in my opinion, trying to communicate on text,
Speaker 1: Men in general just want to hurry up and be
Speaker 1: done writing the text, so therefore we completely do not
Speaker 1: understand what is happening because in our minds, you should
Speaker 1: be wanting to spend a lot of time going back
Speaker 1: and forth giving us all the explanation, the emotion and
Speaker 1: the detail, and you just want to get back to
Speaker 1: whatever you're watching on TV. But we're not really prepared
Speaker 1: for that. So to us, we're thinking, why is he mad? A,
Speaker 1: why is it? Why doesn't he like me anymore? What's wrong? What?
Speaker 1: On Instagram? We have to read it twenty times to
Speaker 1: try to decipher because y'all can't give us the information,
Speaker 1: so we're like detectives decoding the text. The other problem
Speaker 1: is they asked their friends to help decode it too,
Speaker 1: so what they think, like what the meaning behind the
Speaker 1: text message was, They'll ask a friend and then that
Speaker 1: friend will have a different meaning, which means everyone just
Speaker 1: overthinks yeah yeah, And that is a dark, dark hole
Speaker 1: to go down, because you can really get lost in desperation.
Speaker 1: It's the friend jumps on your bandwagon and also thinks
Speaker 1: something's wrong, because then you're just like, I am so screwed. Okay,
Speaker 1: so I just I just particip I just did a
Speaker 1: live experiment I just text Amy, Amy, how are you
Speaker 1: doing that? Is that one is okay because you used
Speaker 1: a nice comma and a question mark and some punctuation.
Speaker 1: Here's the one that throws us. I will tell you,
Speaker 1: guys what the one that throws us. So let's say
Speaker 1: I send a text to you guys, and I'm like, hey, Bob,
Speaker 1: and you right back, what's up? So I immediately hear
Speaker 1: that is this what's up? Like? What do you want?
Speaker 1: Why are you texting me? What if it's got proper
Speaker 1: punctuation and a question mark and a smiley face, smiley face, Oh,
Speaker 1: the smiley face would help. The question mark would just
Speaker 1: throw me because I hear it as what's up? Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I'm not even asking you how you are or
Speaker 1: how your day is. It just goes straight to what's up?
Speaker 1: And it's like, all right, you clearly don't want to
Speaker 1: talk to me. But all she said was all you
Speaker 1: said was hi, Bob. That was all you said. That's
Speaker 1: all you led with. So that's not taking a vested
Speaker 1: interest in Bob. Look at this, gentleman, this is this
Speaker 1: is a wonderful, beautiful and you're saying the high is
Speaker 1: to sort of check if you're available for communicating before
Speaker 1: I flood you with information. It's like, why don't you
Speaker 1: just say, hey, Bob, I'd love to chat. Do you
Speaker 1: have a free minute? Then we can understand that. I'll
Speaker 1: be like I think now the advice is please stop
Speaker 1: texting back what's up unless you're going to add like
Speaker 1: a couple of nice emojis or like hey, how were you?
Speaker 1: What's going on? I'll call you in a minute like that.
Speaker 1: So you know, I always thought that maybe women didn't
Speaker 1: like guys who used emojis, you know, like maybe it's
Speaker 1: more of a h. I think you must like it.
Speaker 1: Definitely like it. We definitely to an extent. Let's not
Speaker 1: go crazy, but definitely a little and and the perfect Um,
Speaker 1: what are the ones that look like you, you know
Speaker 1: the bit mo g or yea that's good or I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's JIF or gift. But if you
Speaker 1: send me a good one of those, Oh yeah, I
Speaker 1: gotta get better at that. Amy. What what if I
Speaker 1: text you back with w h A t z z
Speaker 1: z z z is like what zab better? Better? All right?
Speaker 1: I think we're ready for number two? Are you guys ready? Okay?
Speaker 1: Why do women say I'm fine when they're clearly not fine.
Speaker 1: I have no idea. That has no idea. I've been
Speaker 1: through a tremendous amount of marriage counseling over my adult
Speaker 1: life for that exact question, and the answer that I
Speaker 1: that one I don't think even women can answer. I
Speaker 1: think they say I'm fine in a way to elicit
Speaker 1: more conversations. So if they were really fine, they go,
Speaker 1: everything is totally fine, but instead of like, I'm fine,
Speaker 1: that means I'm not fine. It's your fault and it's
Speaker 1: time to try and figure out the labyrinth of reasons
Speaker 1: why you pissed me off. And yeah, we're too scared
Speaker 1: to immediately tell you what's going on, so again we're
Speaker 1: dipping our toe in the water with the I'm fine.
Speaker 1: I'm fine. Is like when someone says I wish you
Speaker 1: the best, because here's what I wish you the best means,
Speaker 1: please f off. Here's here's what happens. Here's what happens
Speaker 1: to a guy when when a woman says I'm fine,
Speaker 1: the guy goes, oh, dear, I don't want to be
Speaker 1: anywhere near this. What did I do this? Like? Uh,
Speaker 1: slowly start backing out of this room? Okay, Yeah, and
Speaker 1: I'm speaking up, I'm fine, run for the hills, yes, exactly.
Speaker 1: So why do you guys say it? Why? Why not
Speaker 1: just say I'm actually really upset right now? I would
Speaker 1: say fear. We are afraid to tell you how we
Speaker 1: are actually feeling. Why why? Yeah, afraid of what this
Speaker 1: is for me? And I would love for people to
Speaker 1: tell me what they think for everyone listening, but for
Speaker 1: me it would be fear and rocking the boat, Like
Speaker 1: I get real nervous if I was like telling you
Speaker 1: I'm really upset, I'm mad. Like here's an example. I'll
Speaker 1: give you an example. Like sometimes I want to say
Speaker 1: to a boyfriend, why have you not called me? But
Speaker 1: I don't say it because God forbid. The answer is
Speaker 1: like I got a car accident, my leg is broken,
Speaker 1: and then I've come in hot like a real b
Speaker 1: I T C H. So it's almost like what I
Speaker 1: do is sort of again, get my toe in the
Speaker 1: water to try to figure out what's happening. Is there
Speaker 1: a valid reason before I go off the rails? But
Speaker 1: if he got in a car accident and broke his leg,
Speaker 1: he's arms and fingers. I think for me, I think
Speaker 1: for me, it's like I don't want to be the
Speaker 1: one that has a problem, you know what I mean, Like,
Speaker 1: I want to be like calm, cool, collected. I don't
Speaker 1: want to be the one that has a I don't
Speaker 1: know as an issue, right, So you'd rather not come
Speaker 1: off like See. So my wife has actually said this
Speaker 1: to me before. She's like, listen, I don't want to
Speaker 1: come off like I'm nagging about things that you should
Speaker 1: know better about anyway a hundred person. So if she's
Speaker 1: reminding me, then somehow my idiocy has become her problem,
Speaker 1: when in fact I should just pick up on the
Speaker 1: fact that I'm a jackass and get over it. I can.
Speaker 1: It's all making sense now, Guys, I've so much money
Speaker 1: on therapy over the years. Way better we do. We
Speaker 1: do expect a lot of mind reading. We really would
Speaker 1: appreciate it if y'all could learn to read our minds.
Speaker 1: And it's very frustrating that you cannot do that. That's
Speaker 1: a tough one. That is a tough one. That is
Speaker 1: just like and it's frustrating. It's frustrating from a man's
Speaker 1: one of you. Um some I will say this sometimes
Speaker 1: that has happened to me in my experience with life
Speaker 1: and I've been like, oh, you're actually very valid there.
Speaker 1: I should have known better. I really should have known better.
Speaker 1: And other times it's happened the exact opposite, where I'm like,
Speaker 1: how the hell am I supposed to know? Like, like
Speaker 1: both I've experienced both. I'm like, oh, that's like I'm
Speaker 1: supposed to know that, Like I have no idea about that.
Speaker 1: How am I supposed to know? Yeah, you could be
Speaker 1: a pretty self aware guy and still and I mean
Speaker 1: that in a night in a good way, and still
Speaker 1: not know what it is that the women in your
Speaker 1: life need a lot of times, because that is a
Speaker 1: It's like, ah, the target is kind of always moving,
Speaker 1: so you're just trying to like, I'm trying to like predict,
Speaker 1: you know, what I should say to make sure I'm
Speaker 1: not kissing everyone off. And I'm not that smart, so
Speaker 1: it doesn't always work out to my advantage. It's very
Speaker 1: well said some moving target, Bob, You're right, all right.
Speaker 1: Next one, why do women take so damn long to
Speaker 1: get ready? Oh? My wife will tell you I take
Speaker 1: longer than her, which is completely untrue. But I think
Speaker 1: I think it's because they want to evaluate what you
Speaker 1: look like and then make sure that they look better,
Speaker 1: so like, you know, and that's easy to do and
Speaker 1: some you know my circumstance, that's pretty easy to do
Speaker 1: for my wife. But you know, if I, for example,
Speaker 1: if we're going to dinner with some friends and I
Speaker 1: come out in jeans and a sweater and she comes
Speaker 1: out in a ballgown, obviously signals across there's up to stay.
Speaker 1: So she'd rather just kind of wait, make sure that
Speaker 1: you dialed in fashion wise, and then also make sure
Speaker 1: that you know we're at least fifteen minutes late, so
Speaker 1: that I apologize for it, because I I need to
Speaker 1: be the first one there in the last leave I
Speaker 1: have fomo. So I'm gonna just piggyback exactly what Bob
Speaker 1: just said. I want to answer this question with a question.
Speaker 1: Why is it that we have to leave fifteen minutes
Speaker 1: late every single time? So if you tell a woman
Speaker 1: we're leaving at seven, that automatically means you're leaving at
Speaker 1: seven fift that's the earliest. Why is that if you
Speaker 1: say six thirty, it means Why can we not leave
Speaker 1: at a specific time even when we communicate at seven pm?
Speaker 1: Why does it automatically turn into seven? We let Amy
Speaker 1: inser that because she's the late one, I I leave
Speaker 1: on time. I believe that Danielle, I do I tend
Speaker 1: to run fifteen minutes later. Why at all times I'm
Speaker 1: like not great with planning. And here's the thing, I'm
Speaker 1: getting ready. And I can't speak for all women, but
Speaker 1: my hair is like a serious situation. It takes like
Speaker 1: a really long time to blow dry. And I also think,
Speaker 1: and again, I would love for people to comment the
Speaker 1: getting ready process for me is sometimes as fun as
Speaker 1: whatever I'm doing. It's like, I take this hour, I
Speaker 1: go town my hair. I loved a lollygag. I might
Speaker 1: watching an episode of The Walking Dead while I'm filing
Speaker 1: my nails, Like I literally make it a whole thing.
Speaker 1: I like have a piece of chocolate. I might like
Speaker 1: make a snack. Like it's just a hold to do
Speaker 1: for me. That's that. Let's not mess with that. And
Speaker 1: I'm kind of ready when I'm ready. And if I
Speaker 1: if you're pressuring me, I'm gonna get like a stomach ache.
Speaker 1: Just give me second. And the opposite of Bob arrived
Speaker 1: late and get out of their way before. If I
Speaker 1: haven't had the bar closed on me, I clearly have
Speaker 1: messed up tonight. That's my mindset. Like literally, they'll be like, sir,
Speaker 1: you have to leave, we cannot give you another beaver
Speaker 1: and tell me, oh, you does need help clean it up?
Speaker 1: Then I want to help. I want to be friend
Speaker 1: to the bartender. So I'm like hauling gear out. But
Speaker 1: you know, my sister brother in law, which is right.
Speaker 1: My brother in law has been with my sister almost
Speaker 1: thirty years. Tomorrow is their anniversary, by the way, and
Speaker 1: they literally my brother in law's got it down to it,
Speaker 1: so he knows that my sister is kind of like
Speaker 1: sugar man, so he literally his mindset will be like
Speaker 1: they'll say, okay, arrive at seven, and he knows it's
Speaker 1: a half an hour drive, so he'll say, hey, by
Speaker 1: the way, the invitation says to be there at six thirty,
Speaker 1: so he lies, he lies, yeah, and then they'll arrive
Speaker 1: at seven ish and there's still you know, in in
Speaker 1: the real world or in her mind, rather than still
Speaker 1: forty five minutes late. But in reality they're like fifteen
Speaker 1: minutes later on time all the time. Our famous quote.
Speaker 1: So we obviously, you know, back when people used to
Speaker 1: be able to be near people, we would have lots
Speaker 1: of events and literally, like my famous quote is like,
Speaker 1: why are all these people on time? Like we're not ready?
Speaker 1: So minutes is okay. One of the first things I
Speaker 1: learned when I moved to l A was that seven
Speaker 1: o'clock meant seven thirty to eighty. Like I a friend
Speaker 1: had some a friend had something at like seven o'clock.
Speaker 1: So I'm like six fifty five. I'm there. Like, if
Speaker 1: you're not in my world, if you're not five minutes
Speaker 1: early or ten minutes late. If you were if you
Speaker 1: were five minutes late, you missed the team plane, missed
Speaker 1: the team bus, like if you were fighting the slate,
Speaker 1: you were penalized for that. And so then I get
Speaker 1: to l A and I show up at seven o'clock.
Speaker 1: Nobody's there. I'm the first one there. They're like, what
Speaker 1: are you doing here? I'm like you said seven. You're like,
Speaker 1: well it's six five. I like, yeah, seven page. I'm
Speaker 1: the first one there and first one out, Like LA
Speaker 1: is so bad. The funniest thing about that, okay, So
Speaker 1: you know how like there's award shows or whatever back
Speaker 1: again when we used to be able to be near people.
Speaker 1: So like let's say it's the American Music Awards. The
Speaker 1: invitation actually says doors closed at seven o'clock. You will
Speaker 1: not be let in after seven o'clock. And then people
Speaker 1: call me in a panic and I'm like, it's lies.
Speaker 1: It's just giant lies. Like they let you in after
Speaker 1: seven o'clock. They're like, oh my god, all right. Next one,
Speaker 1: why do women like Gray's Anatomy? Probably is there hunky
Speaker 1: guys on it? I don't know. We have the same
Speaker 1: way in the same time. I think I think I
Speaker 1: said mcsteamie and you said mc jeamie. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Was Bob on that show too? I was. I helped
Speaker 1: carrying some stuff for one of the banquets, so you know,
Speaker 1: I was the first guy there was, like carrying in
Speaker 1: the cocktails. Okay, um, I've never watched two minutes of
Speaker 1: Gray's amount Anatomy, although I think, isn't it the longest
Speaker 1: running TV show or something like that. It's a very
Speaker 1: long running medical drama. I think Law and Order s
Speaker 1: v U has been on like way longer. So I
Speaker 1: have no idea why why. I can't answer because I
Speaker 1: don't even know the show Women Love Doctor if it
Speaker 1: was called, you know, Plumber's Anatomy. No one'll be glass,
Speaker 1: no one will care not no no offense the Plumber.
Speaker 1: I'm sure there's some pretty hand there's probably a mcsteam
Speaker 1: me and make dreaming of the Plumber world as well.
Speaker 1: But these guys are doctors. They're in Seattle. They're making
Speaker 1: you know, all this dough. They happen to be pretty
Speaker 1: easy on the eyes, you know, that's why. That's why
Speaker 1: they're saving lives. They're saving Yeah, is it rains? You know? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Is it because they like like the caretaker? Is there
Speaker 1: a lot of like caretaker kind of like um that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff in it. I think we get invested
Speaker 1: in the storyline, Danielle. You you can comment, but I
Speaker 1: think we get invested in the storyline, like we fully
Speaker 1: know these people and they're real. That's my experience with
Speaker 1: a lot of shows, like I truly begin to care
Speaker 1: about these people, like I know them. I have that
Speaker 1: with Grey's Anatomy. Emily and Paris is a new show
Speaker 1: where yeah, I love it. I watched the whole thing, right,
Speaker 1: I completely care about these people. And I would say
Speaker 1: Grace Anatomy, he's very clever about really making us invested,
Speaker 1: not only in like each episode where they're saving the life,
Speaker 1: but like who they're gonna be with, and we also
Speaker 1: are like, I don't like that person with this person.
Speaker 1: So we really get to fully judge in the same
Speaker 1: way we judge The Bachelor, where we're like, oh, that
Speaker 1: guy's no good, get rid of it, you know. So
Speaker 1: for me, it's not Gray's Anatomy, it's This is Us.
Speaker 1: But like literally every time I watch that show, I'm
Speaker 1: a puddle. I'm a puddled mess. Like I'm crying, I
Speaker 1: have tissues. I like it's not coming out of my nose.
Speaker 1: And my husband is always like, why are you watching
Speaker 1: a show that is making you cry? I do not
Speaker 1: understand that, And like it literally makes me feel like
Speaker 1: let me be in my emotions right now. Like I'm
Speaker 1: crying because totally invested in these people and they all
Speaker 1: have like storyline, so like you try or not try it,
Speaker 1: but like I like, for example, like um, Justin Hartley's
Speaker 1: character on This is Us, like I have a friend
Speaker 1: that's just like him, so I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: it's like my friend or I don't know. You just
Speaker 1: get super invested and you do yourself the favorite Brooks.
Speaker 1: Watch the two minute trailer for the new season of
Speaker 1: Grey's Anatomy and the crossover episode was Station nineteen. I
Speaker 1: have watched it three times because I'm so obsessed in
Speaker 1: trying to learn more, crying from the trailer because they're
Speaker 1: all it's so good. So here here's a question. I
Speaker 1: have a question, um, for you two women, UM, I
Speaker 1: think for I don't know. I shouldn't speak for all men,
Speaker 1: but I think for me. Let me just speak for me. Um.
Speaker 1: It's hard for me to emotionally feel something in a
Speaker 1: fictional TV series or fictional movie. If it's a documentary
Speaker 1: and it's a true story, absolutely I can feel something,
Speaker 1: and I like my heart can get invested in it.
Speaker 1: But if I know it's fiction, it's hard for me
Speaker 1: to to emotionally feel something. Why is very interesting point, Bob,
Speaker 1: how do you feel about that? And my question also
Speaker 1: is when you watch sports, if your team wins or
Speaker 1: your guy gets hurt, do you get emotionally like affected?
Speaker 1: I'll answer the sports parts. I'm a Detroit Lions fan,
Speaker 1: so I've never experienced a winning part, but I'm assuming
Speaker 1: I woul like I jump for joy, but that that
Speaker 1: that never happened for me. But I do get into
Speaker 1: show that I get into man like like I do like,
Speaker 1: but but I'm more of like um for example, like
Speaker 1: right now, I'm really into Cobra Ka man I am.
Speaker 1: I haven't watched it. Oh it's so good, and I like,
Speaker 1: I'm like binge watching it, like I mean, it's you know,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm literally you know, I'm wax on, wax off.
Speaker 1: Are you like Ralph Macchio or is it the new
Speaker 1: people that are? You know, I'm back with back with
Speaker 1: Billy Zapp command get back. I think he's doing you know.
Speaker 1: I like Ralph Moccio too, but no, you know, and
Speaker 1: I did love Emily Emilian Paris. I love that show.
Speaker 1: I do get into it, but I don't get like
Speaker 1: super emotionally involved unless it's like one of those binge
Speaker 1: series that you can just for example, Yellowstone. Have you
Speaker 1: guys seen that? Oh yeah, yeah, yeah too, And I
Speaker 1: think it's or oh yeah, he's so good. And that's
Speaker 1: how That's how I feel about Walking Dead. I'm catching
Speaker 1: up on the last four episodes or something, and literally
Speaker 1: Darryl means so much to me that I don't know
Speaker 1: how to like deal with it. And one of the
Speaker 1: comforting things for me is that I know he's getting
Speaker 1: a spin off, so I truly don't have to worry
Speaker 1: he's gonna die like as much because if he's getting
Speaker 1: a spinoff in a couple of years, like, they're not
Speaker 1: going to kill him. Like I care about him so much,
Speaker 1: that's awesome. What do you tell the end of this episode?
Speaker 1: Tell them what's happening next. We know what's happening, but
Speaker 1: you guys don't know. So go, okay. Why do women
Speaker 1: offer their homes even when they don't have space? Now, Danielle,
Speaker 1: give your story on this so Bob and Brooks can understand.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Eastern is gonna die because he doesn't
Speaker 1: know this story yet. So Eastern feels free to chime in.
Speaker 1: So um maybe Like a month or two ago, there
Speaker 1: was these massive fires by Eastern's home and his wife
Speaker 1: had posted something on Instagram and um saying like we
Speaker 1: might get evacuated, And so I I hit her back
Speaker 1: and I was like, if you get evacuated, come to
Speaker 1: my house, like we like, come over, like I will
Speaker 1: take you guys in. And I told my husband was like, um,
Speaker 1: Eastern and his wife might get evacuated. Like I told
Speaker 1: him to come over if they need anything at all.
Speaker 1: And John's like, and where are they gonna go? Like,
Speaker 1: we have a one bedroom apartment. We do not have space.
Speaker 1: And I was like, it's besides the point. I just
Speaker 1: like I want to help him out, Like if if
Speaker 1: they got to sit on our couch, they got sit
Speaker 1: on our couch, it's better than their house that is
Speaker 1: by all these fires. And he's like, Danielle, we don't
Speaker 1: have space. I don't know why you said that. So
Speaker 1: I love that I can touch on that. So this
Speaker 1: is what this is my thought when I hear that one. Danielle,
Speaker 1: God bless your heart. You have a beautiful heart that
Speaker 1: you would I believe you would always welcome anybody in
Speaker 1: trouble into your home. That's amazing. Guys your husband are
Speaker 1: more practical and literal. And he then looks at numbers
Speaker 1: and logistics like, well, where are they going to sleep?
Speaker 1: We don't have space, it's a one bedroom apartment. What's
Speaker 1: the other option? But you just lead with heart, And
Speaker 1: then I think guys like when there's something arises, I
Speaker 1: think they go to the at least I do go
Speaker 1: to the very logical, pragmatic answer. Yeah, that's definitely a
Speaker 1: right brain left brain type of conversation, right, I agree
Speaker 1: with you. I mean, Danielle, that's that's very nice, and
Speaker 1: I think that's very sweet. And I think that I
Speaker 1: am clearly the woman in my relationship because I would
Speaker 1: basically be like, yes, of course, come on in, and
Speaker 1: my wife would be like, what in the hell are
Speaker 1: you talking about? We don't have space for these people.
Speaker 1: So I just realized that I am actually I should
Speaker 1: probably be on the other side of the panel here.
Speaker 1: I feel, okay, that brings up a very interesting thing
Speaker 1: that's going through my mind while you're all talking about that.
Speaker 1: So I think women, and again, I hate to generalize,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna do it anyway, have we struggled with
Speaker 1: like what we should do versus what we want to
Speaker 1: do or what would be perceived as the nice thing
Speaker 1: to do. Like here's my big dilemma right now, I'll
Speaker 1: give this to you guys, and you can all star.
Speaker 1: So a couple of months ago, four friends said let's
Speaker 1: go to Carmel for the weekend, like everyone can get tested,
Speaker 1: it'll be safe, you know, blah blah blah. And I've
Speaker 1: been very locked down, like because I basically my parents
Speaker 1: lived right near me, so I'm very COVID careful because
Speaker 1: I need to protect everybody. So two months ago, I
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, let's make the reservation and then I
Speaker 1: can always like bug out if I get to notice
Speaker 1: about it. Well, now it's like a week away. So
Speaker 1: here's where I'm at. I do want to go, Like
Speaker 1: I want to see these four friends that are four
Speaker 1: my closest friends, and my super worried about them. No,
Speaker 1: I know they've all been tested multiple times. They'll they'll
Speaker 1: get tested again, but we you know, that doesn't necessarily guarantee,
Speaker 1: and they've got kids and the whole thing. So I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: oh that makes me stressed. Then I'm also like now
Speaker 1: I'm so comfortable in my own home that I'm like
Speaker 1: afraid to leave it. I have this like, oh, I'm
Speaker 1: scared to go stay in a hotel, like you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, I'll bring my lights on. I was nuts
Speaker 1: with that stuff before, but I digressed. So it's like
Speaker 1: I want to go, but I don't want to go.
Speaker 1: Like here's where I'm at. If somebody else canceled and
Speaker 1: it got canceled, I would be happy, but at the
Speaker 1: same time, like I want to be brave and I
Speaker 1: want to go, We'll still totally be distanced. I will
Speaker 1: wear a mask and be distanced without I don't have
Speaker 1: any drama with that. It's like stay fifteen feet away
Speaker 1: because that's fine. But it's like I'm so nervous. Should
Speaker 1: I go? Should I not get? Like I'm so conflicted.
Speaker 1: I do not know what to do. Then of course
Speaker 1: my family was like They're going to we have a
Speaker 1: Tahoe house, and I'm like, oh my god, so now
Speaker 1: I have to either go or have to be alone
Speaker 1: or I have to go to time, Like oh, I
Speaker 1: literally don't know what to do? What is the question?
Speaker 1: What do I? What do I do? Like what I
Speaker 1: have a question about half I just heard during that
Speaker 1: conversation amazing so Amy lane all of that out but
Speaker 1: didn't give us any direction with like what are we
Speaker 1: supposed to help? You do not know what to do?
Speaker 1: I have to decide by tomorrow because we can't cancel
Speaker 1: pass tomorrow. I think what I'm gonna do is my
Speaker 1: poor friends too, because I'm like so freaky, Like when
Speaker 1: friends come over for like outside distancing, like literally they said,
Speaker 1: I wish you guys could see I should take pictures
Speaker 1: my outdoor safe area is like twenty ft apart. So
Speaker 1: you're like, what what alright? I think going on to
Speaker 1: the next question, right, Yeah, I'll leave Amy solve that
Speaker 1: one on her own one us I got lost. I
Speaker 1: think you should go. Okay, next question, why do women
Speaker 1: need a different purse for every occasion? Yeah? That is
Speaker 1: a tough one. I I kind of know an answer.
Speaker 1: I've been told a bunch over the years that you know,
Speaker 1: the person needs to match the shoes, which need to
Speaker 1: match the evening and the event. So if it's a
Speaker 1: you know, if I mean, honest to god, I've seen
Speaker 1: closets in my own home. I mean, I'm trying not
Speaker 1: to implicate my wife on this one, but they have
Speaker 1: so many purses in them that you're literally just like,
Speaker 1: I mean, I've never even seen this person out of
Speaker 1: the box or out of the bag, and it's you know,
Speaker 1: why is this even here? But you can't part with it.
Speaker 1: It's got to be here. So yeah, I feel like
Speaker 1: it's you know, there's a mood, there's a mood factor,
Speaker 1: there's a fashion factor, and a function factor, and all
Speaker 1: three of those things have to line up to a
Speaker 1: certain degree in order for the be the perfect handbag
Speaker 1: choice of the evening. That's my thought. You nailed that
Speaker 1: really much. Yeah, I would say you pretty much nailed that.
Speaker 1: Well done, Bob, because as I'm as I'm listening to that,
Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, especially that three what were the three
Speaker 1: function fashion? I don't remember that. I don't know even
Speaker 1: know what I said. I don't know, I don't know
Speaker 1: you rustan. My My answer to that was color, Mike.
Speaker 1: My answer to that was was gonna be. I have
Speaker 1: no idea. Like the best way I can explain it
Speaker 1: is a purse is like a clothing item. So what
Speaker 1: you wear to the beach, you're not going to wear
Speaker 1: to the wedding a wedding, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So it's like it's literally just an extension of an outfit.
Speaker 1: So if you're wearing something casuable, well, And now I
Speaker 1: will admit I was never going to be the Fannie
Speaker 1: Pack person, but now because like I need my hands,
Speaker 1: so I have embraced Fannie packs because I need my
Speaker 1: phone and I don't want to put anything on the ground,
Speaker 1: and I need my wipes, and I need my this
Speaker 1: and my that. I I am cool Fannie Pack right
Speaker 1: now too. Like I went for six years no Fannie
Speaker 1: pack and now full on and I don't even need
Speaker 1: to call it a belt bag. I will embrace and
Speaker 1: call it a Fannie pack if you were the bag
Speaker 1: part on the front. Yeah, But but what I've been
Speaker 1: doing lately is like kind of doing it like a
Speaker 1: cross body bag, like a cross body. So the genesis
Speaker 1: of this show was the other day, Amy, about a
Speaker 1: week ago, you asked me if I was going to
Speaker 1: do some social posting thing or something. I was like, Amy,
Speaker 1: if you get me that deal, I'll buy you a purse.
Speaker 1: And then when I said purse, I'm like, that sounds
Speaker 1: like something my grandma would use. Do they call it
Speaker 1: a purse. I know they call it a clutch, but
Speaker 1: as a purse to clutch or is like whatever or
Speaker 1: a bag, I'll just buy you something you like. And
Speaker 1: then you went, oh my god, this is perfect stuff
Speaker 1: that guys don't know about women. And I'm like, great,
Speaker 1: let's do it. So I didn't know. I didn't know
Speaker 1: if I offended you by saying I'll buy you a purse,
Speaker 1: because I don't even know what a purse is. I
Speaker 1: would rather just have the cold, hard cash, but to
Speaker 1: or bad or clutch. But yes, So that is what
Speaker 1: happened that made us want to do this whole episode
Speaker 1: because we feel like it's the old we don't speak
Speaker 1: the same language, Danielle, what is next? Hey, why do
Speaker 1: women talk on the phone for hours? Took us in anatomy?
Speaker 1: Is not on that day? This is another one, I
Speaker 1: think where guys, I mean, that's the advent of texting
Speaker 1: was the greatest thing in the world to me, Like,
Speaker 1: I would rather text than ever talk on the phone.
Speaker 1: And it's terrible, I know, but I don't really need
Speaker 1: to have all the fluff. I just of like, hey,
Speaker 1: meet for dinner at seven, see you at you know,
Speaker 1: Charlie's Crab or whatever. Doesn't need to be a conversation
Speaker 1: about why we're going to dinner, because that's why we're
Speaker 1: gonna be at dinner, is they have a conversation. I mean,
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna wear it because I don't care what
Speaker 1: you wear, so you don't care what I wear. So
Speaker 1: we'll just show up and what's show up? So I
Speaker 1: think they women are just that much more. I mean,
Speaker 1: my my wife literally, I've been hearing her on the
Speaker 1: phone for like the lad ever since we got on
Speaker 1: the horn and she'd been on to like an hour
Speaker 1: ahead of us with a twenty four month old run
Speaker 1: around the house. Yeah so old. Really, So it's like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take a stab at this one, um to
Speaker 1: feel on and feel and be understood. Interesting even even
Speaker 1: though it's gossip, even though it's not like deep and
Speaker 1: yet accurate, Like there's some sort of thing about being
Speaker 1: connected to somebody that at some point there's gonna be
Speaker 1: like real topics come up into discussion, even though a
Speaker 1: lot of it is just gossip and fluff, Like at
Speaker 1: some point the realness of why you called is going
Speaker 1: to come up in it. Um. But also just to
Speaker 1: feel safe enough to be heard that there might need
Speaker 1: to be some stuff before it. I feel that again,
Speaker 1: you're nailing it, like they're that's pretty accurate. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think that sounds. You know. What's interesting is my wife
Speaker 1: says to me all the time, She's like, I don't
Speaker 1: need you to fix everything. Sometimes I just want you
Speaker 1: to listen because you know, so's just say this happened today,
Speaker 1: and I'll go, oh, well, you know you could have
Speaker 1: done this. And I mean, I don't know why I'm
Speaker 1: saying it, because I clearly it already happened. I'm not
Speaker 1: fixing anything. She doesn't need that, right, she just needs
Speaker 1: someone to listen to her and kind of commiserate and
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, that really sucks. Instead, I'm like, well
Speaker 1: that's ridiculous. You know. I don't think men realize how
Speaker 1: far it would go for them if they literally just
Speaker 1: made a phone call to say, hey, I just wanted
Speaker 1: to see how you're dealing. I'm about to run into
Speaker 1: me eating. But it's like that would be like Christmas.
Speaker 1: The other thing I will say. So, I had a
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I lost the boyfriend. I'm still friends with
Speaker 1: the boyfriend. It's a whole tragic story we can talk
Speaker 1: about later. But still talking to him, Yeah, that can
Speaker 1: be a therapy session. So I called him and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, he hasn't called me back, and then
Speaker 1: starting to go off the rails. But here's how he
Speaker 1: saved himself. He's obviously like golfing or doing something. So
Speaker 1: I called. He doesn't answer, So I sent a text
Speaker 1: like hey, he wrote back right away and said I'll
Speaker 1: call you at three. So it was like number one
Speaker 1: he wrote me right back, and number two he's like
Speaker 1: giving me a time. So then I'm like and he's
Speaker 1: one of those guys who will call when he says
Speaker 1: he's gonna call. So it was like, I don't even
Speaker 1: need to talk to you now, like I'm good like
Speaker 1: And then I forgot you were doing this, so I
Speaker 1: sent him a text. I was like, oh, I forgot,
Speaker 1: I can't talk because now he feels so good feeling Amy,
Speaker 1: I text, I text you today during this podcast? Is that? Amy?
Speaker 1: How you doing? Goes a long way? Bob, You hit
Speaker 1: the nail on the head with that one. That's all
Speaker 1: all we want is just somebody to listen to us. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it makes sense. Yeah, an amazing One of the most
Speaker 1: amazing qualities in a person is somebody that can just listen,
Speaker 1: be present, be listen, be empathetic and compassionate, and not
Speaker 1: try to fix everything and not solicit opinion, just be
Speaker 1: there to receive. I think that's a I have. I
Speaker 1: have one friend who is phenomenal at that. He's maybe
Speaker 1: the best I've ever seen. He's been a he's a
Speaker 1: brother to me. He's a huge part of my life,
Speaker 1: and he is a phenomenal listener and does never never
Speaker 1: offers a biased opinion or injects and whatever. He'll just
Speaker 1: like listen and receive um and then offer any guidance
Speaker 1: he can if I'm seeking it, you know. But fantastic, friends,
Speaker 1: It's a beautiful skill in a person. That Okay, next one,
Speaker 1: Why do women love so many pillows? H I think, Yeah,
Speaker 1: my wife takes all the pillows and I literally there
Speaker 1: really nothing. But I don't know the reason why behind that,
Speaker 1: but I do know that it is a desire for
Speaker 1: women to take every pillow in the bed. Does it
Speaker 1: bother you when you have like twelve pillows on your bed?
Speaker 1: I I actually love it. I think it looks great.
Speaker 1: I so would rather having on there. But then when
Speaker 1: you go to take them off every night, it's like
Speaker 1: pillow pillow, pillow, pillow pillow. Do you guys want me
Speaker 1: to show you something stack at eight feet high over
Speaker 1: here and then got to put them back on in
Speaker 1: the morning. It's true. I mean, the big thrill pillow
Speaker 1: I've tried. I don't know. It's just an it's an
Speaker 1: asthetic thing. It's just an asthetic thing. Decore, Yeah, decore.
Speaker 1: Could you guys see my couch? Could you guys see
Speaker 1: my couch? Yeah? It hasn't a lot of pila all right,
Speaker 1: Why do women only wear the same outfit once? That's
Speaker 1: more awards showish I feel, I mean, I I gotta say,
Speaker 1: like I've seen, I've seen. You know, my wife I
Speaker 1: can use as my example who She's got a couple
Speaker 1: serious go to items and we go to the Kentucky
Speaker 1: Derby every year and well, you know now that you
Speaker 1: just said. Now I'm saying that it's true. Every year
Speaker 1: at the Derby, she's got a nude you dressed for
Speaker 1: each of them. That is true. Uma, thirty times I
Speaker 1: was I was gonna I was gonna answer, I have
Speaker 1: no idea, But now here's my answer. Um, this is
Speaker 1: a guess, but this is my answer. The they are
Speaker 1: afraid of being judged as being not relevant and in
Speaker 1: the way of not having the newest, updated fashion, and
Speaker 1: I feel like they might be judged for that. I
Speaker 1: would say there's some sort of truth there. But for me,
Speaker 1: it's like you can wear the same dress but not
Speaker 1: with the same crowd of people. So like, if I'm
Speaker 1: doing something with my college friends, I could wear that
Speaker 1: same dress for a work thing. Okay, here's here's the
Speaker 1: here's my perspective on it. Um, one of my one
Speaker 1: of my life goals is to never live life in
Speaker 1: excess um, not to have eight cars, not to have
Speaker 1: wat watches, and so like, one of my life goals
Speaker 1: is to stay humble and just provide for myself what
Speaker 1: I need, but then use my resources to better the
Speaker 1: lives of other people around me, and not just live
Speaker 1: my life in excess. And so I'm like Bob, I
Speaker 1: can wear the same suit thirty times and feel good
Speaker 1: about it because I'm gonna buy one or two or
Speaker 1: three nice things that I really enjoy and our timeless
Speaker 1: and I will continue to wear them versus having to
Speaker 1: have a new one all the time. That would just
Speaker 1: exhaust me and not be congruent with how I want
Speaker 1: to live my life. Yeah, I think I have too
Speaker 1: much crap. We'll just play to the next one. Why
Speaker 1: do women need while it's the size of books because
Speaker 1: they stuffed in there. You bring everything, You'll bring everything
Speaker 1: you don't need, just in case you might once a
Speaker 1: year needed. It would be like a guy bringing like
Speaker 1: fourteen different tools. It's like, I don't know, I might
Speaker 1: have to screw something in, I might need a I
Speaker 1: need a ratchet, I might need a So I mean, like, who, like,
Speaker 1: I have no idea you should see, Like, my my
Speaker 1: wallet is a little clip that's got like four cards
Speaker 1: in it and ten bucks, right, and if it's not
Speaker 1: in there, whatever, if I can't pay for it with
Speaker 1: a visa or an American Express, alright, whatever, I don't
Speaker 1: need it, Like, yeah, yeah, I always. I said it
Speaker 1: to my wife the other day. I'm like, your wallet
Speaker 1: is absolutely huge, and I don't know if you know this,
Speaker 1: but since we've get gotten married, you've never used it.
Speaker 1: I mean she literally has referred to me as her
Speaker 1: wallet before. She'll be like, oh, yeah, no, I got
Speaker 1: my wallet right here, and if you can both take
Speaker 1: it's funny. But I'm just like, why is your wallet
Speaker 1: so big? It clear? And why does he have a
Speaker 1: zipper on it? Does zipper clearly doesn't function because I've
Speaker 1: never seen pickup tap for damn thinging. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: figure it out. I always like to prepare for any scenario.
Speaker 1: So I have my insurance card, I had all of
Speaker 1: my credit cards, I had my trip, I have like
Speaker 1: a nort Shum gift card. I have like a Froyo
Speaker 1: gift card, like all the random gift cards that I have.
Speaker 1: I have um like literally anything that could possibly be
Speaker 1: needed if I have to get somebody out of jail.
Speaker 1: I better on my checkbook exactly exactly. And now let
Speaker 1: me tell you about now, because I already was like
Speaker 1: pretty prepared. Let me tell you what's in my cock wipes?
Speaker 1: Two kinds lights, alt plus like wet ones because those
Speaker 1: are better for the hands, lifesavers just in case I
Speaker 1: need something to suck on, extra cash, emergency cash, a
Speaker 1: towel just in case of a spill, little plastic gloves
Speaker 1: in case I just have to pump the gas. And
Speaker 1: a toilet. I got a part board of potty. And
Speaker 1: here's the thing. I thought I was insane with my
Speaker 1: porta potty. It's like a kid's potty, but a bag
Speaker 1: attaches to it so that if I have to go
Speaker 1: in it. Kristen Bell, God bless her on? Was it Ellen? Ellen?
Speaker 1: She had to Ellen was playing a game with our
Speaker 1: Ellen de Generes of like go get the last thing
Speaker 1: you bought on Amazon, And sure as bleep does she
Speaker 1: come back with this go in the car potty contraption.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I am not alone. I have
Speaker 1: never felt so seen ever. I was like, yep, I
Speaker 1: have totties. You have too in your car. Do you
Speaker 1: want me to get one? Do you want me to
Speaker 1: get one? So here's my why why do you Why
Speaker 1: do you have them? Is it because you hate public
Speaker 1: restrooms or because, like you have you just sometimes get
Speaker 1: a real rush case diary your time it's up. Oh no,
Speaker 1: you really would. Well, okay, one of them you could
Speaker 1: go poop in if you had to. But it's because
Speaker 1: I really don't want to use a public restroom right now.
Speaker 1: So yeah, and I haven't had to. It just in
Speaker 1: the slide into the and that was doable. But it
Speaker 1: was small, it looked a little looked a little stressful.
Speaker 1: So then my friend Lisa, he's like, get this one.
Speaker 1: She said, even after COVID, she's just gonna continue to
Speaker 1: use it. It's that great. She just sits it on
Speaker 1: her car. So in the back, you put this bag.
Speaker 1: You can go number one, you can go number two.
Speaker 1: You just tie it up to disrobe and that something
Speaker 1: called a private sea blanket. But you just use a towel.
Speaker 1: So you just take your whatever pants down or whatever.
Speaker 1: You put the towel over you. You just go and
Speaker 1: it go. And there's even a thing so if you
Speaker 1: have to go number one, there's uh some sort of
Speaker 1: absorption absorption thing in the bag so that you don't
Speaker 1: get like splashback and like it just absorbs it and
Speaker 1: then you're just solid. It press me so much comfort.
Speaker 1: I actually had to go somewhere the other day and
Speaker 1: I didn't put it in the car and I went
Speaker 1: back in the house because I also feel like, if
Speaker 1: it's there, I don't even have to go. It's like
Speaker 1: a ceebo effect or something. What's that called. I guess
Speaker 1: that's what it's called. But if it's no, it's called yeah.
Speaker 1: But if it's not there, you're like, oh, I have
Speaker 1: to go, Like I'll cut it to what it is.
Speaker 1: Because it was there, I didn't even have to go.
Speaker 1: If I didn't have it, I probably would have had diarrhea. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I've never heard of this. Oh, like I did not
Speaker 1: think I'm alone, But maybe we can do an Instagram poll. Danielle,
Speaker 1: do you have a porta potty? No? I don't, but
Speaker 1: what I do have are like ums, not disposable like
Speaker 1: travel uten tools just because I'm not really using like
Speaker 1: the fork or like things like at a restaurant, so
Speaker 1: I just have them with me um to eat. Yeah,
Speaker 1: why are you laughing? I swear to God I have it.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do that. Bob. What do you have in
Speaker 1: your car at all times? Well, you know, I got
Speaker 1: a kid who's under two years old, so I've always
Speaker 1: got diapers, wipes, a changing pad um. Trying to think
Speaker 1: what I'll have It this interesting though, I mean for
Speaker 1: a guy, you know, I mean I think about it
Speaker 1: from the standpoint of, hey, you know, like an impty
Speaker 1: gatorad bottle and I'm I'm fine on the side of
Speaker 1: the road. Rat rat in her water bottle. Yeah, she's
Speaker 1: very skilled. I do not know how she did. Kristen
Speaker 1: bell got was like a funnel. Kristen Bells was like
Speaker 1: a funnel. I respect Kristen bell more than ever. Why
Speaker 1: do women say they're not hungry, but we'll still eat
Speaker 1: off your plate, ah and eat their entire plate? Yes,
Speaker 1: So it used to be that my wife, I have
Speaker 1: a comment wife. I mean, it even happened today stopping
Speaker 1: from like Mediterranean food like a ye o, you know,
Speaker 1: and I was like, hey, I'm stopping to get this
Speaker 1: food at this place, simply fresh type of thing, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, do you do you want anything?
Speaker 1: And She's like, no, I'm good. I just date. I said, okay, now,
Speaker 1: we've been together for a long time. So I literally
Speaker 1: went in and I ordered two year old dinners and
Speaker 1: I came out and my wife's like, why did you
Speaker 1: order that? I said, I wasn't hungry, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I just you know, I have it here. I maybe
Speaker 1: I'll eat it for lunch tomorrow or something. I sit down.
Speaker 1: She eats the entire thing last at that. She's like,
Speaker 1: why would you even get that? And I'm like, because
Speaker 1: I knew you would be picking on mine and I
Speaker 1: didn't want that, so I figured I'd rather spend the
Speaker 1: six hours to give you your own damn thing. So
Speaker 1: you leave my my little tray alone, you know, because
Speaker 1: my husband does that. Oh, and I'm so appreciative. I'm like,
Speaker 1: a good move. It's literally put in my phone. I
Speaker 1: learned everyone her favorite orders at all these different places,
Speaker 1: and I put it on my phone. So if I
Speaker 1: happened to go, like, if I go to Subway right now,
Speaker 1: I can whack off her order quickly, you know, just
Speaker 1: blast through it. And uh yeah became my go to.
Speaker 1: It is so true, um, because also what you said, Bob,
Speaker 1: guys are so defensive of their portions because we're like,
Speaker 1: I want to eat till I'm full. I want to
Speaker 1: eat this whole plate. This is gonna make me so happy.
Speaker 1: This whole thing is just it's like Guardian, It's like
Speaker 1: this is mine, and then when they start rating it,
Speaker 1: it's like, dear God, what are you doing? So true
Speaker 1: and I would rather spend the six bucks, ten bucks whatever.
Speaker 1: It is just like that just to protect just It's
Speaker 1: like it's like insurance for a flight, you know, buy
Speaker 1: that by I probably don't need it, but I'll buy
Speaker 1: it just the case. Okay, ok um, can I read one?
Speaker 1: I text a friend this question. Yes, I said, what
Speaker 1: is one thing that that, um, you think men don't
Speaker 1: understand about women? And the text back was actually pretty
Speaker 1: long that was even hard to understand. Um, yes it
Speaker 1: was a woman. Yeah, so okay, this is this is
Speaker 1: like my best guess would be that guys don't understand
Speaker 1: just the depths of which a single thought comes from
Speaker 1: in a woman. By the time she has come to
Speaker 1: a conclusion and finally said something, that thought has gone
Speaker 1: in eighteen circles, tabs were open at all times, and
Speaker 1: five fake scenarios have been made. Meanwhile, Meanwhile, guys are
Speaker 1: straightforward what they think, they say, what they feel, they do.
Speaker 1: But then again, maybe I am mis misunderstanding it all.
Speaker 1: So so why is it that I'm trying to decipher
Speaker 1: and code that there's no uncoding needed. Every woman listening
Speaker 1: fully understands and fully is it? Unpack it for us?
Speaker 1: Unpacked that for Bob and I it was so clear,
Speaker 1: what do you mean, unpack it? She nailed it? But why, why?
Speaker 1: Why does every thought have to go in eighteen circles,
Speaker 1: have twenty seven tabs open and five fake scenarios made,
Speaker 1: because that's how we do. That's how we do. The
Speaker 1: five fake scenarios is so good because we do that
Speaker 1: in our minds, like literally have created like a full
Speaker 1: picture of what has happened for the next year in
Speaker 1: our mind. By the way, this person is wonderful, very
Speaker 1: very kind, so wonderful and it's really interesting. Are you
Speaker 1: ready to hear what's happening next week? Um? Oh god?
Speaker 1: Can we have Bob back for it? Yes? So, Bob,
Speaker 1: can you see back next week? And here is what's
Speaker 1: going to happen. So this week's episode is called men
Speaker 1: just don't Understand? Well. Next week is called Is this
Speaker 1: one called men just don't Understand? Yeah, so next week
Speaker 1: is women just don't Understand. So we are going to
Speaker 1: open the floodgates. We want women to instagram us, email us,
Speaker 1: what you know, whatever they want to however, they want
Speaker 1: to get the message to us of all the things
Speaker 1: like this that they do not understand about men. And
Speaker 1: then we're gonna bring you guys back to explain it,
Speaker 1: like we want. Danielle and I will not chime in
Speaker 1: because we don't know either. So we're gonna let you
Speaker 1: guys and maybe we'll get one more guy two help
Speaker 1: us understand. I'm looking forward to this. You're gonna have
Speaker 1: to from our listeners. We're probably going to get a
Speaker 1: ton of questions, but you're probably gonna need a lot
Speaker 1: of questions instead of just seven. Like it took it
Speaker 1: took us an hour to cover seven questions, like we're
Speaker 1: gonna need eighty five questions to get through minutes. Because
Speaker 1: it's this is why we do it. That's why we
Speaker 1: do this. Um, So what's our email? Man at I
Speaker 1: Heart radio dot com. You can send us your questions. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll put it on Instagram, so you guys can just
Speaker 1: send us your responses there too. Okay, can can we
Speaker 1: lead into that with one question from you guys? What's
Speaker 1: one thing you don't understand about? I'm gonna have questions,
Speaker 1: just one, just one right now, just one. Well I
Speaker 1: addressed the one with the what's up? That one really
Speaker 1: stresses me out. Okay, can I touch on that? Can
Speaker 1: I touch it? And everyone? Gavin remember one Gavin said,
Speaker 1: what's up? It means like, how are you doing? Are
Speaker 1: we great dinner? How's your truck running? Like did you
Speaker 1: see the game the other night? What's up means everything?
Speaker 1: That's just that's just through amy. It's like, oh it paralyzed.
Speaker 1: Here it paralyzed. There's just like, oh god, I don't
Speaker 1: know what to do with this. Well, I mean I
Speaker 1: can give you the big question of and this may
Speaker 1: not be you two, but a law out of men.
Speaker 1: So do you guys know about the three types of attachment? Oh?
Speaker 1: My god? Okay, So you guys need to do some
Speaker 1: homework this week. So there's three types of attachment. There's
Speaker 1: secure attachment, there's anxious attachment, and there's avoidant attachment. And many,
Speaker 1: many men have avoidant attachment. And I'd like to know why,
Speaker 1: Like what scares you so much? Anxious. So if you
Speaker 1: google the three types of attachment, they'll be that's some
Speaker 1: homework for you guys. There's secure, which if you are
Speaker 1: secure attachment, then you've got it together. There is anxious,
Speaker 1: and then there's avoiding. And I would like to dig
Speaker 1: into avoiding. Like a lot of men really do not
Speaker 1: mind being alone. They really enjoy being alone. And by
Speaker 1: being alone, it doesn't just mean reading in the other room.
Speaker 1: It means like they don't need to talk to anybody,
Speaker 1: They don't need anyone in their house for like days
Speaker 1: on end. Okay, Danielle, what was your question Amy? We'll
Speaker 1: get into that next week. Danielle, what was your question? Um?
Speaker 1: Why do men have to sleep in negative a hundred
Speaker 1: degree weather? Like my husband has to have the A
Speaker 1: C on and I am literally an ice cube. That's
Speaker 1: my question. If the room, if the room is not
Speaker 1: below sixty six degrees and even like sixty five sixty four,
Speaker 1: and I sleep naked. If the room is not below that,
Speaker 1: I am just a furnace and can't sleep. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: sleep naked and it has to be below that otherwise
Speaker 1: I'm just overheating all night long. Yeah, I do not
Speaker 1: understand naked sleeping. We should tap. I cannot sleep with
Speaker 1: a stitch of clothing on. I cannot do it. No,
Speaker 1: I don't really. I don't like that. I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't mean guys doing it, but I can't. That's a no.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. It's just hard. No, that's a hard past Um.
Speaker 1: That's why, Danielle, it's it's just too hot. No, it's okay,
Speaker 1: it's just for me. It's too hot, like undercovers is
Speaker 1: too hot. Um. Yeah, I don't know. Maybe maybe it's
Speaker 1: body hair. I have a lot of body hair, and
Speaker 1: so I already have like a semi blanket on me.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't know, Bob, what's your hands to
Speaker 1: I'm pretty much hairless. I'm like like one of those
Speaker 1: those horrible cats in the Awesome Powers of movies. But
Speaker 1: I but I just because I don't have that additional
Speaker 1: uh warmth, you know, covering a blanket thing. I like
Speaker 1: it cold too, though, I I really do. I like
Speaker 1: it to be about sixty six sixty series. I sleep
Speaker 1: best that way, and I don't need a lot of
Speaker 1: blankets either. I do need some pillows to help. So
Speaker 1: tell my wife if you're watching honey, can I help
Speaker 1: my pillows back? I mean, I think this was a
Speaker 1: very good episode. I don't know because we were all
Speaker 1: on it, but it felt good to me. I loved it.
Speaker 1: I loved it. I think I've learned some things. I
Speaker 1: think we could do a follow up at this one
Speaker 1: at some point, because I think there's so many other
Speaker 1: things that. Um, Like, remember when we were doing the
Speaker 1: the d M one Amy and and like Paige was
Speaker 1: reading my d m s and I had no idea
Speaker 1: what was going on in my DS? Like, wait, what
Speaker 1: do you think was like something like, well, tell all
Speaker 1: lots of love or something. What was it that you
Speaker 1: thought something meant? Yeah? I thought it meant lots of love.
Speaker 1: This person, like this is like when I was nine,
Speaker 1: eighteen or something. Somebody's like just like sending me messes
Speaker 1: l O L l O L. I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: she's getting so attached to me. I gotta I gotta
Speaker 1: back off of this. I gotta really back off of
Speaker 1: this because I'm not interested in this girl, but she
Speaker 1: was just yeah. Um. But then when we did that
Speaker 1: d M one, because I was trying to help people
Speaker 1: out of my d MS, I get a lot of fitness,
Speaker 1: a lot of health, a lot of whatever questions I
Speaker 1: try and help people, and then Page read them and
Speaker 1: she's like, oh my god, do you not see what's
Speaker 1: going on? I'm like no, And I even ran her
Speaker 1: the DM and the she's like well, And then she
Speaker 1: looked at and she's like, well, did you not see
Speaker 1: the four hard emojis in there? I was like I
Speaker 1: just never even No, not really. I think men are
Speaker 1: oblivious in many ways. I think men are very very
Speaker 1: acute and interpretive in many ways. But I also think
Speaker 1: we have a large kind of ourselves that are oblivious.
Speaker 1: That's a good one. We should discuss that too. I
Speaker 1: was also Brooks one day, when I can see you again,
Speaker 1: I would love to do an Instagram video with like
Speaker 1: seeing if you can decipher emojis? Why do you think
Speaker 1: they mean? Because just for my own enjoyment, it would
Speaker 1: be a lot of fun. Let's do it. Let's how
Speaker 1: can we do it? Can we just do it virtually?
Speaker 1: Emoji challenge? Yeah? Do that? Wait? Virtually? Are you talking
Speaker 1: about what the emoji means as far as the keyboard
Speaker 1: or what the emoji from the person, the meaning of
Speaker 1: them giving you the emoji? Page told me the other
Speaker 1: day that the hands up because I give like high
Speaker 1: fives or like double high fives everybody, and she's like,
Speaker 1: you know that actually means praise. Yeah, it's like I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I did not know that I'm giving double high fives
Speaker 1: For five years. I've been giving double high fives. How's
Speaker 1: your emoji game? Strong and moderately strong? No, I don't think.
Speaker 1: I don't think I have much of a emoji game,
Speaker 1: because I can tell you honestly that I would have
Speaker 1: used I would have thought this was dull high right,
Speaker 1: I'm a man, my man, we're on the level. And
Speaker 1: I do know that I thought this was like clapping.
Speaker 1: And someone told me that whatever emogi I said was
Speaker 1: was like praying. So I was like, okay, so I
Speaker 1: have a couple of them. I messed up. No, I
Speaker 1: know that's the praying one, but I three of them
Speaker 1: in arell. I guess it meant that. I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've got some work to do, alright, Well, I feel
Speaker 1: like we got to close out the episode. Okay, honestly,
Speaker 1: that was awesome. Um Uh, all our listeners email your
Speaker 1: questions to men at i heeart radio dot com. I'd
Speaker 1: love to do another one of this what men don't
Speaker 1: understand about women. Next week, we're gonna do what women
Speaker 1: don't understand about men, and we're gonna clear all of
Speaker 1: these up for you. In very short, quick, abrupt sentences
Speaker 1: make it very easy to digest. Bob, you're the man brother.
Speaker 1: I hope you'll come back with us. Um, thank you,
Speaker 1: You're so fun. Danielle Amy, I love you, guys. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much to our whole team. Till next week, everybody,
Speaker 1: take care of one another, love one another, and we'll
Speaker 1: see you back here for another fun episode of How
Speaker 1: Men Think