WEBVTT - Men Just Don't Understand 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:04.400 This is How Men Think with brooks Like and Gavin 0:00:04.480 --> 0:00:08.600 de Grab and I heard radio podcast. Welcome to another 0:00:08.640 --> 0:00:10.440 episode of How Men Think. My name is brooks Like. 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:13.440 I'll be your host today and we have a gracious 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:16.840 co host righting alongside with me today. His name is 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:20.119 Mr Bob Guiney. He came you first, probably got to 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.960 know him on ABC. Is hugely popular hit The Bachelor, 0:00:23.360 --> 0:00:25.880 but now he's a bi monthly panelist on the Today Show. 0:00:26.000 --> 0:00:28.400 And Bob, I'm reading your bio here, brother, you have 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:32.000 the longest bio I've ever read. Welcome you show, Bob, 0:00:32.400 --> 0:00:34.199 Thank you. Yeah. You know, it's one of those things 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:36.239 when you're when your manager writes it and you just 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:39.159 you're like, well, I don't want to risk not mentioning something, 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:42.280 so dude. He also took a dog two weeks ago. 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:46.520 Everything's in there. You've done everything. I mean, you covered 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:48.919 the super Bowl daytime Emmy's. I mean, you've been on 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:52.080 OPRAH specials for E v H one, you name it. 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:56.080 You gotta teach me the ways here, my man. But 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:57.880 you've already got figured out way more than I do. 0:00:58.000 --> 0:01:01.000 Trust me. No, um, buddy, you coming to the show, 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:03.720 and this is going to be kind of baptism by fire. 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:07.440 And I know you're you're jumping right into this, but 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:11.000 today's show, I'm excited about this one because we also 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:15.080 have with us producer Amy and producer Danielle. Ladies. Welcome 0:01:15.120 --> 0:01:17.679 to the show. We need to set you to straight. 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:23.080 That's okay, So Bob, buckle in here, Bob, because this 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:26.119 show is we're going to talk about all the things 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:31.640 that women do that men just don't understand. And with Amy, sugarman, 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:36.119 the list is endless, and it's a game. It's almost 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:38.199 like a little game. We're gonna read you the list, 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:40.920 you guys, see if you can explain it, and then 0:01:40.959 --> 0:01:44.440 we'll correct you. Okay, okay, So, so Bob and I 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:49.600 are basically just sacrificial lambs here is that's what you're saying. So, Bob, Bob, 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:53.040 you're a champ brother for coming on this episode of 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:56.880 our conversation. Prior to this, Amy is fired up. She 0:01:56.960 --> 0:01:59.480 just got off a business meeting zoom call that she 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:02.680 hates just didn't go so well. So I'm trying to 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:06.320 calm myself down, trying to calm myself down. Okay, So Amy, 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:07.760 how do we want to do this? Do you want 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:09.880 to read the question or do I want Danielle will 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:12.919 read the list. So Danielle will read the list. Then 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:15.440 you two will give your thoughts and then we will 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:19.440 correct you. Okay, so we have thoughts or things that 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:23.880 women do um that men misunderstand. These are from listeners 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:26.079 emailed into us, and Danielle is going to read them, 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:28.120 and Bob and I are going to take our best 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:32.600 grope in the dark at these topics. What are you 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:39.400 guys ready? I'm ready. Here's the very first one. And 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:44.440 Amy this is her favorite? Okay, why do women overthink 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:50.919 and read into text messages? Definitely Amy Sugarman's favorite. Oh 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:54.240 my god, you could send you could literally send okay 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:55.760 to Amy and she's like, what does this mean? How 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:57.600 does he what is he thinking here? What's he feeling? 0:02:57.600 --> 0:03:00.560 Why would you respond like that? Like part of my 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:03.520 favorite thing. I've missed. I miss seeing you in real life, Amy, 0:03:03.560 --> 0:03:08.600 because I miss witnessing you in a text conversation. Yeah. 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:10.760 I like. I like when women will read the text 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.040 message back to you and they'll say, you know, can 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:15.239 you believe she said this? Then she was like, oh 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:19.119 my god, whatever, and it's like, uh, I don't think 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:21.720 the tone was in that email. I think it may 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:24.640 have said, oh MG, you know, whatever you want to do, 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:28.280 we can do. And Uh yeah, I've seen a million times. 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:31.280 It's it's always gonna go from zero to a thousand. 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:35.160 I think it's because of the love of the passion 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:38.200 of the person reading that text. So you talk about 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:41.120 Amy sugar She's a passionate person, right, she reads the 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:43.120 texts that it's like, I don't care whatever you want 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:45.240 to do it. She's like, I don't care whatever you want. 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:48.480 So it just takes on a different you know, there's 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:50.720 little stops and pauses in there. Could that? Could that 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:53.920 be what it is? Bob, I think you're a kinder 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:57.520 human than I am, because I'm going to answer this 0:03:57.600 --> 0:04:02.920 question and say that based on my experience I have 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:09.400 of witnessing said person. Uh Sugarman digests a text message, 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:14.080 the mood that she's currently in plays directly into how 0:04:14.120 --> 0:04:19.159 she interprets the text message. Yes, am I correct there. 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:22.159 So I think what you both are saying has some 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:25.400 truth to it. But here's what I'll say for men 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:29.960 and women, in my opinion, trying to communicate on text, 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:33.200 Men in general just want to hurry up and be 0:04:33.360 --> 0:04:37.479 done writing the text, so therefore we completely do not 0:04:37.680 --> 0:04:42.240 understand what is happening because in our minds, you should 0:04:42.279 --> 0:04:45.760 be wanting to spend a lot of time going back 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:49.240 and forth giving us all the explanation, the emotion and 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:51.400 the detail, and you just want to get back to 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:55.760 whatever you're watching on TV. But we're not really prepared 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:59.840 for that. So to us, we're thinking, why is he mad? A, 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:05.200 why is it? Why doesn't he like me anymore? What's wrong? What? 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:10.320 On Instagram? We have to read it twenty times to 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:15.520 try to decipher because y'all can't give us the information, 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:21.360 so we're like detectives decoding the text. The other problem 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:23.840 is they asked their friends to help decode it too, 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:26.919 so what they think, like what the meaning behind the 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:29.159 text message was, They'll ask a friend and then that 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:31.840 friend will have a different meaning, which means everyone just 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:35.599 overthinks yeah yeah, And that is a dark, dark hole 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:42.799 to go down, because you can really get lost in desperation. 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:47.800 It's the friend jumps on your bandwagon and also thinks 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:54.320 something's wrong, because then you're just like, I am so screwed. Okay, 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.279 so I just I just particip I just did a 0:05:56.320 --> 0:05:59.440 live experiment I just text Amy, Amy, how are you 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:04.840 doing that? Is that one is okay because you used 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:08.240 a nice comma and a question mark and some punctuation. 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.280 Here's the one that throws us. I will tell you, 0:06:11.279 --> 0:06:14.200 guys what the one that throws us. So let's say 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:18.840 I send a text to you guys, and I'm like, hey, Bob, 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:23.080 and you right back, what's up? So I immediately hear 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:26.440 that is this what's up? Like? What do you want? 0:06:26.960 --> 0:06:29.960 Why are you texting me? What if it's got proper 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:34.640 punctuation and a question mark and a smiley face, smiley face, Oh, 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:37.360 the smiley face would help. The question mark would just 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:42.000 throw me because I hear it as what's up? Yeah, 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:44.520 And I'm not even asking you how you are or 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:47.320 how your day is. It just goes straight to what's up? 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:50.359 And it's like, all right, you clearly don't want to 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:53.560 talk to me. But all she said was all you 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.360 said was hi, Bob. That was all you said. That's 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:59.040 all you led with. So that's not taking a vested 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:01.720 interest in Bob. Look at this, gentleman, this is this 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:09.000 is a wonderful, beautiful and you're saying the high is 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:13.640 to sort of check if you're available for communicating before 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:17.160 I flood you with information. It's like, why don't you 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:19.320 just say, hey, Bob, I'd love to chat. Do you 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:23.440 have a free minute? Then we can understand that. I'll 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:27.680 be like I think now the advice is please stop 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:31.000 texting back what's up unless you're going to add like 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:34.200 a couple of nice emojis or like hey, how were you? 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:37.200 What's going on? I'll call you in a minute like that. 0:07:38.240 --> 0:07:40.480 So you know, I always thought that maybe women didn't 0:07:40.560 --> 0:07:43.680 like guys who used emojis, you know, like maybe it's 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:47.000 more of a h. I think you must like it. 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:52.280 Definitely like it. We definitely to an extent. Let's not 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:57.120 go crazy, but definitely a little and and the perfect Um, 0:07:57.280 --> 0:07:59.280 what are the ones that look like you, you know 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:03.800 the bit mo g or yea that's good or I 0:08:03.800 --> 0:08:05.920 don't know if it's JIF or gift. But if you 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:09.680 send me a good one of those, Oh yeah, I 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:12.920 gotta get better at that. Amy. What what if I 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:17.120 text you back with w h A t z z 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:24.840 z z z is like what zab better? Better? All right? 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:28.000 I think we're ready for number two? Are you guys ready? Okay? 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:31.880 Why do women say I'm fine when they're clearly not fine. 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:36.160 I have no idea. That has no idea. I've been 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:38.560 through a tremendous amount of marriage counseling over my adult 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:40.960 life for that exact question, and the answer that I 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:43.920 that one I don't think even women can answer. I 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:47.160 think they say I'm fine in a way to elicit 0:08:47.240 --> 0:08:50.199 more conversations. So if they were really fine, they go, 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:53.680 everything is totally fine, but instead of like, I'm fine, 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:57.480 that means I'm not fine. It's your fault and it's 0:08:57.520 --> 0:09:00.000 time to try and figure out the labyrinth of reasons 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:08.160 why you pissed me off. And yeah, we're too scared 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:11.600 to immediately tell you what's going on, so again we're 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:15.600 dipping our toe in the water with the I'm fine. 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:20.920 I'm fine. Is like when someone says I wish you 0:09:21.000 --> 0:09:23.760 the best, because here's what I wish you the best means, 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:28.280 please f off. Here's here's what happens. Here's what happens 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:31.800 to a guy when when a woman says I'm fine, 0:09:32.120 --> 0:09:34.880 the guy goes, oh, dear, I don't want to be 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:39.400 anywhere near this. What did I do this? Like? Uh, 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:44.320 slowly start backing out of this room? Okay, Yeah, and 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:49.400 I'm speaking up, I'm fine, run for the hills, yes, exactly. 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:52.080 So why do you guys say it? Why? Why not 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:55.800 just say I'm actually really upset right now? I would 0:09:55.800 --> 0:10:00.400 say fear. We are afraid to tell you how we 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:08.920 are actually feeling. Why why? Yeah, afraid of what this 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:10.880 is for me? And I would love for people to 0:10:10.920 --> 0:10:13.719 tell me what they think for everyone listening, but for 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:18.000 me it would be fear and rocking the boat, Like 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:21.120 I get real nervous if I was like telling you 0:10:22.280 --> 0:10:24.880 I'm really upset, I'm mad. Like here's an example. I'll 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:27.520 give you an example. Like sometimes I want to say 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:31.080 to a boyfriend, why have you not called me? But 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:34.320 I don't say it because God forbid. The answer is 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:37.240 like I got a car accident, my leg is broken, 0:10:37.280 --> 0:10:39.120 and then I've come in hot like a real b 0:10:39.280 --> 0:10:42.120 I T C H. So it's almost like what I 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:44.160 do is sort of again, get my toe in the 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:46.520 water to try to figure out what's happening. Is there 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:49.720 a valid reason before I go off the rails? But 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:53.160 if he got in a car accident and broke his leg, 0:10:53.520 --> 0:11:01.880 he's arms and fingers. I think for me, I think 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:03.400 for me, it's like I don't want to be the 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:05.600 one that has a problem, you know what I mean, Like, 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:07.719 I want to be like calm, cool, collected. I don't 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:09.560 want to be the one that has a I don't 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:13.720 know as an issue, right, So you'd rather not come 0:11:13.760 --> 0:11:16.120 off like See. So my wife has actually said this 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:18.200 to me before. She's like, listen, I don't want to 0:11:18.200 --> 0:11:20.480 come off like I'm nagging about things that you should 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:26.720 know better about anyway a hundred person. So if she's 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:30.240 reminding me, then somehow my idiocy has become her problem, 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:32.520 when in fact I should just pick up on the 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:35.320 fact that I'm a jackass and get over it. I can. 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:39.280 It's all making sense now, Guys, I've so much money 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:43.360 on therapy over the years. Way better we do. We 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:47.760 do expect a lot of mind reading. We really would 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:50.360 appreciate it if y'all could learn to read our minds. 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:53.760 And it's very frustrating that you cannot do that. That's 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:57.360 a tough one. That is a tough one. That is 0:11:57.440 --> 0:11:59.880 just like and it's frustrating. It's frustrating from a man's 0:12:00.000 --> 0:12:03.440 one of you. Um some I will say this sometimes 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:05.439 that has happened to me in my experience with life 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:08.480 and I've been like, oh, you're actually very valid there. 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.040 I should have known better. I really should have known better. 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:14.679 And other times it's happened the exact opposite, where I'm like, 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:18.200 how the hell am I supposed to know? Like, like 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:22.000 both I've experienced both. I'm like, oh, that's like I'm 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:25.520 supposed to know that, Like I have no idea about that. 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:27.600 How am I supposed to know? Yeah, you could be 0:12:27.640 --> 0:12:30.400 a pretty self aware guy and still and I mean 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:32.480 that in a night in a good way, and still 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:35.439 not know what it is that the women in your 0:12:35.480 --> 0:12:39.120 life need a lot of times, because that is a 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:42.480 It's like, ah, the target is kind of always moving, 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:46.079 so you're just trying to like, I'm trying to like predict, 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:48.600 you know, what I should say to make sure I'm 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:52.080 not kissing everyone off. And I'm not that smart, so 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:56.240 it doesn't always work out to my advantage. It's very 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:59.000 well said some moving target, Bob, You're right, all right. 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:02.680 Next one, why do women take so damn long to 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:06.440 get ready? Oh? My wife will tell you I take 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:10.480 longer than her, which is completely untrue. But I think 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:13.280 I think it's because they want to evaluate what you 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:15.720 look like and then make sure that they look better, 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:17.680 so like, you know, and that's easy to do and 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:19.480 some you know my circumstance, that's pretty easy to do 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:21.840 for my wife. But you know, if I, for example, 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:24.320 if we're going to dinner with some friends and I 0:13:24.440 --> 0:13:27.120 come out in jeans and a sweater and she comes 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:31.360 out in a ballgown, obviously signals across there's up to stay. 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:34.120 So she'd rather just kind of wait, make sure that 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:37.480 you dialed in fashion wise, and then also make sure 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:40.199 that you know we're at least fifteen minutes late, so 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:42.120 that I apologize for it, because I I need to 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:43.680 be the first one there in the last leave I 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:49.080 have fomo. So I'm gonna just piggyback exactly what Bob 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:51.480 just said. I want to answer this question with a question. 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:57.120 Why is it that we have to leave fifteen minutes 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:00.839 late every single time? So if you tell a woman 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:05.240 we're leaving at seven, that automatically means you're leaving at 0:14:05.240 --> 0:14:09.640 seven fift that's the earliest. Why is that if you 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:15.240 say six thirty, it means Why can we not leave 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:20.160 at a specific time even when we communicate at seven pm? 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:23.960 Why does it automatically turn into seven? We let Amy 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:26.440 inser that because she's the late one, I I leave 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:31.880 on time. I believe that Danielle, I do I tend 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:37.000 to run fifteen minutes later. Why at all times I'm 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:39.320 like not great with planning. And here's the thing, I'm 0:14:39.440 --> 0:14:42.560 getting ready. And I can't speak for all women, but 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:47.440 my hair is like a serious situation. It takes like 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:50.800 a really long time to blow dry. And I also think, 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:53.920 and again, I would love for people to comment the 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:57.360 getting ready process for me is sometimes as fun as 0:14:57.360 --> 0:15:00.480 whatever I'm doing. It's like, I take this hour, I 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:02.600 go town my hair. I loved a lollygag. I might 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:05.160 watching an episode of The Walking Dead while I'm filing 0:15:05.160 --> 0:15:09.600 my nails, Like I literally make it a whole thing. 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:12.600 I like have a piece of chocolate. I might like 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:15.840 make a snack. Like it's just a hold to do 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:19.600 for me. That's that. Let's not mess with that. And 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:21.760 I'm kind of ready when I'm ready. And if I 0:15:21.760 --> 0:15:24.680 if you're pressuring me, I'm gonna get like a stomach ache. 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:32.240 Just give me second. And the opposite of Bob arrived 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:36.920 late and get out of their way before. If I 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:38.880 haven't had the bar closed on me, I clearly have 0:15:38.920 --> 0:15:42.280 messed up tonight. That's my mindset. Like literally, they'll be like, sir, 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:44.520 you have to leave, we cannot give you another beaver 0:15:44.600 --> 0:15:46.400 and tell me, oh, you does need help clean it up? 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:47.760 Then I want to help. I want to be friend 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:50.200 to the bartender. So I'm like hauling gear out. But 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:52.320 you know, my sister brother in law, which is right. 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:54.160 My brother in law has been with my sister almost 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:56.920 thirty years. Tomorrow is their anniversary, by the way, and 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:00.200 they literally my brother in law's got it down to it, 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:01.840 so he knows that my sister is kind of like 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:04.760 sugar man, so he literally his mindset will be like 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:07.320 they'll say, okay, arrive at seven, and he knows it's 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:09.760 a half an hour drive, so he'll say, hey, by 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:12.280 the way, the invitation says to be there at six thirty, 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:18.600 so he lies, he lies, yeah, and then they'll arrive 0:16:18.680 --> 0:16:23.120 at seven ish and there's still you know, in in 0:16:23.320 --> 0:16:25.240 the real world or in her mind, rather than still 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:28.160 forty five minutes late. But in reality they're like fifteen 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:31.600 minutes later on time all the time. Our famous quote. 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:35.160 So we obviously, you know, back when people used to 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:37.440 be able to be near people, we would have lots 0:16:37.520 --> 0:16:40.560 of events and literally, like my famous quote is like, 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:45.120 why are all these people on time? Like we're not ready? 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:51.480 So minutes is okay. One of the first things I 0:16:51.560 --> 0:16:54.240 learned when I moved to l A was that seven 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:59.000 o'clock meant seven thirty to eighty. Like I a friend 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:01.160 had some a friend had something at like seven o'clock. 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:03.880 So I'm like six fifty five. I'm there. Like, if 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:05.960 you're not in my world, if you're not five minutes 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:08.840 early or ten minutes late. If you were if you 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:12.200 were five minutes late, you missed the team plane, missed 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:14.360 the team bus, like if you were fighting the slate, 0:17:14.880 --> 0:17:17.400 you were penalized for that. And so then I get 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:19.120 to l A and I show up at seven o'clock. 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:21.919 Nobody's there. I'm the first one there. They're like, what 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:25.159 are you doing here? I'm like you said seven. You're like, 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:29.800 well it's six five. I like, yeah, seven page. I'm 0:17:29.800 --> 0:17:31.920 the first one there and first one out, Like LA 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:35.760 is so bad. The funniest thing about that, okay, So 0:17:35.800 --> 0:17:39.040 you know how like there's award shows or whatever back 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:41.119 again when we used to be able to be near people. 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:44.280 So like let's say it's the American Music Awards. The 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:50.320 invitation actually says doors closed at seven o'clock. You will 0:17:50.400 --> 0:17:53.119 not be let in after seven o'clock. And then people 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:55.119 call me in a panic and I'm like, it's lies. 0:17:55.400 --> 0:18:00.400 It's just giant lies. Like they let you in after 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:07.440 seven o'clock. They're like, oh my god, all right. Next one, 0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:13.600 why do women like Gray's Anatomy? Probably is there hunky 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:15.960 guys on it? I don't know. We have the same 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:18.240 way in the same time. I think I think I 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:24.480 said mcsteamie and you said mc jeamie. I don't know. 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:28.000 Was Bob on that show too? I was. I helped 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:31.080 carrying some stuff for one of the banquets, so you know, 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:32.879 I was the first guy there was, like carrying in 0:18:32.880 --> 0:18:38.480 the cocktails. Okay, um, I've never watched two minutes of 0:18:38.520 --> 0:18:42.119 Gray's amount Anatomy, although I think, isn't it the longest 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:45.960 running TV show or something like that. It's a very 0:18:46.000 --> 0:18:49.119 long running medical drama. I think Law and Order s 0:18:49.200 --> 0:18:54.320 v U has been on like way longer. So I 0:18:54.400 --> 0:18:57.480 have no idea why why. I can't answer because I 0:18:57.480 --> 0:19:00.320 don't even know the show Women Love Doctor if it 0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:03.480 was called, you know, Plumber's Anatomy. No one'll be glass, 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:05.840 no one will care not no no offense the Plumber. 0:19:06.960 --> 0:19:09.359 I'm sure there's some pretty hand there's probably a mcsteam 0:19:09.359 --> 0:19:11.320 me and make dreaming of the Plumber world as well. 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:15.120 But these guys are doctors. They're in Seattle. They're making 0:19:15.200 --> 0:19:17.159 you know, all this dough. They happen to be pretty 0:19:17.200 --> 0:19:19.880 easy on the eyes, you know, that's why. That's why 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:25.880 they're saving lives. They're saving Yeah, is it rains? You know? Yeah? 0:19:25.960 --> 0:19:28.280 Is it because they like like the caretaker? Is there 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:30.879 a lot of like caretaker kind of like um that 0:19:30.960 --> 0:19:33.160 kind of stuff in it. I think we get invested 0:19:33.200 --> 0:19:36.119 in the storyline, Danielle. You you can comment, but I 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:39.080 think we get invested in the storyline, like we fully 0:19:39.119 --> 0:19:42.639 know these people and they're real. That's my experience with 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:45.720 a lot of shows, like I truly begin to care 0:19:45.720 --> 0:19:49.000 about these people, like I know them. I have that 0:19:49.040 --> 0:19:51.880 with Grey's Anatomy. Emily and Paris is a new show 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:57.920 where yeah, I love it. I watched the whole thing, right, 0:19:57.960 --> 0:20:00.000 I completely care about these people. And I would say 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:04.359 Grace Anatomy, he's very clever about really making us invested, 0:20:04.880 --> 0:20:07.560 not only in like each episode where they're saving the life, 0:20:07.600 --> 0:20:10.240 but like who they're gonna be with, and we also 0:20:10.240 --> 0:20:12.399 are like, I don't like that person with this person. 0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:15.200 So we really get to fully judge in the same 0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:18.160 way we judge The Bachelor, where we're like, oh, that 0:20:18.200 --> 0:20:22.200 guy's no good, get rid of it, you know. So 0:20:22.320 --> 0:20:25.040 for me, it's not Gray's Anatomy, it's This is Us. 0:20:25.640 --> 0:20:28.640 But like literally every time I watch that show, I'm 0:20:28.640 --> 0:20:31.520 a puddle. I'm a puddled mess. Like I'm crying, I 0:20:31.560 --> 0:20:33.880 have tissues. I like it's not coming out of my nose. 0:20:34.160 --> 0:20:36.439 And my husband is always like, why are you watching 0:20:36.480 --> 0:20:38.879 a show that is making you cry? I do not 0:20:39.040 --> 0:20:41.959 understand that, And like it literally makes me feel like 0:20:42.200 --> 0:20:45.800 let me be in my emotions right now. Like I'm 0:20:45.840 --> 0:20:48.400 crying because totally invested in these people and they all 0:20:48.440 --> 0:20:51.399 have like storyline, so like you try or not try it, 0:20:51.440 --> 0:20:55.800 but like I like, for example, like um, Justin Hartley's 0:20:55.840 --> 0:20:57.760 character on This is Us, like I have a friend 0:20:57.760 --> 0:20:59.840 that's just like him, so I'm like, oh my god, 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:02.280 it's like my friend or I don't know. You just 0:21:02.320 --> 0:21:06.360 get super invested and you do yourself the favorite Brooks. 0:21:06.600 --> 0:21:10.399 Watch the two minute trailer for the new season of 0:21:10.440 --> 0:21:14.280 Grey's Anatomy and the crossover episode was Station nineteen. I 0:21:14.400 --> 0:21:17.000 have watched it three times because I'm so obsessed in 0:21:17.000 --> 0:21:20.359 trying to learn more, crying from the trailer because they're 0:21:20.400 --> 0:21:24.119 all it's so good. So here here's a question. I 0:21:24.160 --> 0:21:28.560 have a question, um, for you two women, UM, I 0:21:28.600 --> 0:21:31.040 think for I don't know. I shouldn't speak for all men, 0:21:31.119 --> 0:21:35.240 but I think for me. Let me just speak for me. Um. 0:21:35.280 --> 0:21:39.359 It's hard for me to emotionally feel something in a 0:21:39.520 --> 0:21:44.400 fictional TV series or fictional movie. If it's a documentary 0:21:44.400 --> 0:21:47.480 and it's a true story, absolutely I can feel something, 0:21:47.560 --> 0:21:49.679 and I like my heart can get invested in it. 0:21:49.680 --> 0:21:52.080 But if I know it's fiction, it's hard for me 0:21:52.119 --> 0:21:57.400 to to emotionally feel something. Why is very interesting point, Bob, 0:21:57.440 --> 0:21:59.520 how do you feel about that? And my question also 0:21:59.640 --> 0:22:03.199 is when you watch sports, if your team wins or 0:22:03.280 --> 0:22:07.840 your guy gets hurt, do you get emotionally like affected? 0:22:08.920 --> 0:22:11.440 I'll answer the sports parts. I'm a Detroit Lions fan, 0:22:11.520 --> 0:22:14.960 so I've never experienced a winning part, but I'm assuming 0:22:14.960 --> 0:22:20.040 I woul like I jump for joy, but that that 0:22:20.320 --> 0:22:23.920 that never happened for me. But I do get into 0:22:23.960 --> 0:22:27.800 show that I get into man like like I do like, 0:22:28.080 --> 0:22:30.879 but but I'm more of like um for example, like 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:35.080 right now, I'm really into Cobra Ka man I am. 0:22:35.520 --> 0:22:38.719 I haven't watched it. Oh it's so good, and I like, 0:22:38.840 --> 0:22:41.320 I'm like binge watching it, like I mean, it's you know, 0:22:41.520 --> 0:22:45.240 I'm I'm literally you know, I'm wax on, wax off. 0:22:45.440 --> 0:22:47.880 Are you like Ralph Macchio or is it the new 0:22:47.960 --> 0:22:51.200 people that are? You know, I'm back with back with 0:22:51.240 --> 0:22:54.199 Billy Zapp command get back. I think he's doing you know. 0:22:54.480 --> 0:22:56.840 I like Ralph Moccio too, but no, you know, and 0:22:56.920 --> 0:22:59.560