1 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: What up, y'all? Hello, Hello, I hope you're having a 2 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: beautiful day. Welcome to Cheeky's and Chill. I have a 3 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 1: question for you. Have you gotten an opportunity or a 4 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:24,680 Speaker 1: new job, or a promotion, or gotten accepted to an 5 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: elite university and felt like you weren't capable enough or 6 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:31,000 Speaker 1: talented enough to be there. Have you ever doubted yourself 7 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:35,040 Speaker 1: in those situations? I know I have, and I'm sure 8 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: you have too. There's a chance you may have even 9 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: experienced something called imposter syndrome. And that's what we're going 10 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 1: to talk about on today's episode, because I think it's 11 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: something a lot of people can relate to. According to WebMD, 12 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:49,639 Speaker 1: imposter syndrome is when you feel like you're not as 13 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: talented or capable as others think you are, and you 14 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 1: become scared that others will find out. So we're going 15 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: to talk about it, and I'm going to give you 16 00:00:57,160 --> 00:01:03,600 Speaker 1: some examples, guys, because I definitely have dealt with imposter syndrome, 17 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 1: especially in the earlier years of my career, maybe even 18 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 1: when I started business, because being an entrepreneur was like 19 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:14,479 Speaker 1: my first love. I started a lot of businesses for 20 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 1: my mom and with my mom, and I would always think, 21 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 1: why I just have high school education. It's all. I 22 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: have a high school diploma. I didn't go to college. 23 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: I didn't go to college to get like a business 24 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:29,120 Speaker 1: degree or whatnot. And I felt like, shit, can I 25 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 1: do this? And I didn't want to let my mom down. 26 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 1: I didn't want to let myself down. I had to 27 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:38,360 Speaker 1: tell myself over and over, especially with my mom when 28 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: we started the perfume and everything, and I went to 29 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: China and like the whole thing. It was so nerve wracking. 30 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:45,760 Speaker 1: But I knew that I would do it more, not 31 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: even for obviously myself, but more to just prove to her, 32 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 1: to make her proud. And that's also not a good thing. 33 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: I learned that later on in my life. But I 34 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: really did think, I'm like, I don't know if I 35 00:01:57,680 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: can do this, that people are going to be like, Okay, 36 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 1: well what experience do you have to go and start 37 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: this business and the skincare line for your mom and 38 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 1: this makeup line. And I just knew I love the 39 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: beauty industry since I was young. But thank god, I 40 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: learned as I went and I would always buy those books. 41 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 1: I'd go to Barnes and Noble and read the dummy books, 42 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,800 Speaker 1: the you know, business for dummies for instance. I'm like, well, 43 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 1: I didn't go to college. I'm learning this as I go, 44 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: and my mom would always tell me figure it out. 45 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 1: I figured out everything, how to deposit a check, how 46 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: to just everything, and that's where I think it started. Now, 47 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: let's talk and fast forward to my career. When I 48 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 1: started my career in twenty fourteen, Oh my gosh, not 49 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: only did the world hate me, or it felt like 50 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:47,639 Speaker 1: the world hated me half of twenty twelve and all 51 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: of twenty thirteen. After my mom passed away, I just 52 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 1: knew I had to do something. I was like, I 53 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:54,640 Speaker 1: want to sing. I know, I've wanted to sing for 54 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: a long time, something that I've wanted to do, and 55 00:02:57,240 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 1: I don't like to live again with the like what if. 56 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 1: So I was like, I have to do this and 57 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:06,919 Speaker 1: I need to work. But imagine the world is against you. 58 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 1: You're against yourself in some ways because you're upset at 59 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 1: the world that it's like, oh my god, everything is 60 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: going wrong and people are talking shit, and like I 61 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 1: want to clear my name, and like I was like, 62 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:18,800 Speaker 1: I'm going to do everything I have to do to 63 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: clear my name. So that's when we wrote the book, 64 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,119 Speaker 1: beredon Forgiveness. If you haven't read it, go read. It's 65 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: my whole life story kind of. But anyways, then I 66 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:28,119 Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I need to work. I need to work. 67 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 1: I need to be example for my siblings. But I 68 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 1: had never really sang maybe three times in my whole 69 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: life in front of like a crowd. And not only that, 70 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:39,160 Speaker 1: but I knew, like in the back of my mind, 71 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 1: I knew that I was going to be compared to 72 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:45,400 Speaker 1: my mom and that I don't know, and so many 73 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: opportunities opened up for me, I think in the beginning, 74 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: because of course I was I am Jenny Rivera's daughter, 75 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 1: and you know, people wanted to see what I could do. 76 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:56,600 Speaker 1: But there was a lot of criticism. I can look 77 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 1: back and say, Okay, I wasn't ready, but I know 78 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: I had something. I knew I knew about music, and 79 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 1: I knew that I wanted to create it and I 80 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 1: had it in me. I just feel like a lot 81 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:09,360 Speaker 1: of the negative comments really just suppressed me. But even 82 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 1: before that happened, this is where imposter syndrome comes in, 83 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: where you think, oh, I'm not going to be as 84 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:18,159 Speaker 1: good as that person, or damn what if they find 85 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 1: out like I really don't know anything. Like you start 86 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: thinking all of these things and it stops you in 87 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 1: your tracks and it paralyzes your growth. And I had 88 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 1: all of that. You can move past it, because obviously 89 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:30,480 Speaker 1: I did. I was like, if this, I'm going to 90 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 1: do it. I'm going to try it. I guess you 91 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 1: could say I faked it till I made it. I 92 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: don't really like that quote too much because I'm like, oh, 93 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 1: I don't like, you know, I'm not about that fig shit. 94 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 1: But when I really think about it, I guess I 95 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:44,240 Speaker 1: had to. I guess I did because I was like, well, 96 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:46,240 Speaker 1: I know what I'm doing. And not only that, it 97 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: doesn't help when people talk so much crap, and you know, 98 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: like you read these things and then you start thinking 99 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:55,919 Speaker 1: them and you start criticizing yourself, and it really does. 100 00:04:56,640 --> 00:05:00,080 Speaker 1: It suppresses you. It suppresses you, and if you so 101 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: allow that to happen more and more, you won't be 102 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: able to reach your potential, your full potential. I think 103 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,080 Speaker 1: we can all definitely relate in one way or another, 104 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: but I think it does have to do with building 105 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: confidence and confidence in your craft, confidence in your artistry, 106 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: whatever it may be. And in your career, knowledge is power. 107 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: And I think the more I fed myself with knowledge, 108 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:31,359 Speaker 1: with performing more, with doing more in that space, I 109 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 1: gain more confidence. Until like two years ago, guys where 110 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: I was like f this Perril Milo, I keep saying 111 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:39,239 Speaker 1: that in all of my interviews, like I lost fear. 112 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:41,200 Speaker 1: I lost fear. I really lost the fear of I 113 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:43,839 Speaker 1: don't care what people say. I know who I am. 114 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 1: I like myself. I stop wanting for everyone to like me. 115 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:50,719 Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, it's fine. I love that people 116 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 1: like me, and it's okay if people don't like me, 117 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:56,039 Speaker 1: it's part of it. And I think I just started 118 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 1: wanting to grow in my craft and take my classes 119 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:02,839 Speaker 1: and wanting to get better that I gain this confidence 120 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 1: that I'm like, no matter what, I know that I'm 121 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:07,360 Speaker 1: meant to do this. I know that I'm meant to 122 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:11,039 Speaker 1: be here, so f the haters, I'm gonna do my 123 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:12,960 Speaker 1: thing and I'm going to get better at it. And 124 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: that's where I think it's like, not even like confidence. 125 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:17,599 Speaker 1: From the outside looking in, I look like a pretty 126 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: confident person, especially when I I had no other choice. 127 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:22,480 Speaker 1: I was like, I gotta fucking do this. But then 128 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:28,040 Speaker 1: when I really started healing and feeding the internal side 129 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: of my confidence and really like learning more and more 130 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:34,560 Speaker 1: about what I was doing, I felt more confident and 131 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: I walked more confident into rooms, and not only with 132 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:40,320 Speaker 1: my career, like as far as singing, but also in business. 133 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:44,480 Speaker 1: You know, it's like knowing what you're talking about, like 134 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 1: really just diving into it. It just gives you a 135 00:06:47,720 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: different type of confidence. So even if people are talking shit, 136 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: it doesn't even phase you because you're like, I know 137 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: what I'm talking about, I know what I'm doing, like 138 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:59,320 Speaker 1: it just it changes everything. So definitely, I do think 139 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: that the imposter syndrome starts with feeling insecure. It's our insecurities. 140 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 1: We all have them, especially because we're always so worried 141 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 1: about what are people going to think? What are they 142 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 1: going to say? And I think once we start just 143 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 1: healing that and like not really giving an f it 144 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 1: changes everything for you. And that's from personal experience and 145 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 1: if I can be honest the way I'm always honest 146 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: with you guys, I have said no to opportunities because 147 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 1: I felt like I wasn't good enough or I felt 148 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,120 Speaker 1: like I didn't have it in me. I think the 149 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: first time that I was invited to host a red carpet, 150 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 1: like actually like not only like walk the red carpet, 151 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 1: but I was going to host and interview other people. 152 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 1: Like I was like, oh, like this is like I 153 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: think in twenty fifteen, and I said no, and they 154 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 1: were going to pay me for my time and they 155 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 1: were going to give me a budget. It was like 156 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 1: a very good opportunity. But I was like, oh my gosh, 157 00:07:56,720 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: my Spanish isn't as good as I want it to be. 158 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 1: And I just was like, I really talked myself out 159 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 1: of it. And I don't necessarily regret that decision because 160 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 1: it gave me some time to really say, Okay, now 161 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:10,680 Speaker 1: I really want to do it, and I was able 162 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 1: to host like a whole freaking show. I was able 163 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 1: to host PJS with two other people because I was like, 164 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: I gotta do this. I have to prove to myself 165 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:20,720 Speaker 1: that I can do this. But I did and I 166 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 1: let that opportunity go. And it was like also a 167 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: financial dent because I said no, And it was because 168 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 1: of fear. I was like, no, people are going to 169 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:32,880 Speaker 1: talk crap and this and that, and I learned that 170 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:35,439 Speaker 1: you don't have to say yes to every opportunity. It's 171 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 1: not necessary and it's okay to say no. I think 172 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:41,199 Speaker 1: that's you know again, We've talked about it here on 173 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:44,520 Speaker 1: the podcast, like the power of that small little word no. 174 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: But in that situation, I'm like, shit, Like I would 175 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 1: have I think, advanced a little faster in my career 176 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:54,560 Speaker 1: if I would have just given myself that opportunity and 177 00:08:55,320 --> 00:09:01,080 Speaker 1: not let my insecurities stop me. You know, the way 178 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:03,320 Speaker 1: I got over it was just by doing it. I 179 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:07,720 Speaker 1: kind of like merete, which means I challenged myself. I said, 180 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 1: you know what, next time that opportunity comes, I'm going 181 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 1: to take it. So I put it out there, I 182 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:13,400 Speaker 1: put it in the universe. I was like, I'm going 183 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,079 Speaker 1: to do it, even if I'm scared. I'm going to 184 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:19,200 Speaker 1: face fear in the face and I'm going to do it. 185 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 1: I'm not going to back down. And all I have 186 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 1: to do is make sure I read my lines and 187 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:27,440 Speaker 1: I practice and I put my right foot forward and 188 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:30,480 Speaker 1: know that even if I stumble a little bit, it's okay. 189 00:09:30,600 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: Everyone has done it. And it's kind of like yes, 190 00:09:33,080 --> 00:09:37,079 Speaker 1: giving myself a pep talk and really just allowing myself 191 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 1: to open that door, to not only open it, but 192 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:43,200 Speaker 1: to walk through it. And I have found myself a 193 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: lot since then where I'm like, Okay, if this opportunity 194 00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 1: feels right to me, then I'm going to have peace 195 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:50,320 Speaker 1: with it. If I don't have peace with it, then 196 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:51,560 Speaker 1: it's to no. But if I have peace with it 197 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:53,439 Speaker 1: and I'm going to say no just because out of fear, 198 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:58,199 Speaker 1: then I'm doing myself a disservice. So it does take 199 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:01,280 Speaker 1: some pep talk. It does take things therapy. Therapy has 200 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 1: helped me a lot. My life. Coaching has helped me 201 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:06,680 Speaker 1: so much. I started my life coaching in like twenty nineteen, 202 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:10,320 Speaker 1: and I don't do it as much as I used to, 203 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 1: but when I feel like I need a little tune up, 204 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:15,080 Speaker 1: I definitely do it. I think it's it's for sure 205 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 1: a part of my life for the rest of my life. 206 00:10:16,679 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 1: My life coaching, it goes hand in hand with therapy. 207 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:21,760 Speaker 1: But I do have to say I'm gonna do it 208 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 1: with fear. It's okay, Like we're not going to be 209 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 1: perfect right off the bat or the first time we 210 00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: try it, and that is okay. Like I suffer from 211 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 1: wanting to be a perfectionist and I'm like, if I'm 212 00:10:33,240 --> 00:10:34,800 Speaker 1: gonna do it, I want to do it right. Yes, 213 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 1: but I also have to give myself grace to say, okay, 214 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 1: is my first time doing something. I'm gonna make some mistakes, 215 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:42,559 Speaker 1: and it's okay to ask questions. For a long time, 216 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not asking questions. I'm not gonna 217 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:45,839 Speaker 1: ask questions because it's gonna make me look dumb, like 218 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm talking about. Like now I 219 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:50,520 Speaker 1: don't care. It could be anywhere, and I'll ask a 220 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:52,240 Speaker 1: question like, oh, I'm so sorry, I don't understand that. 221 00:10:52,280 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: Can you repeat that? Like, It's okay to ask questions 222 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:57,960 Speaker 1: and to just be vulnerable enough to say I don't 223 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 1: know everything. That's part of learning is asking questions and 224 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 1: wanting to grow in whatever it is that you're working towards. 225 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 1: Like you have to ask questions. I think when you 226 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:09,559 Speaker 1: get to the point in your life where you're like, 227 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 1: I know it all, I'm great, I this and that, like, 228 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: then you stop yourself from growing from like knowing more 229 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:19,840 Speaker 1: because you feel like, oh, yellow setolo, I know it all. No, 230 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 1: we don't. There's always room to grow, there's always room 231 00:11:23,160 --> 00:11:27,960 Speaker 1: to improve, and being humble enough to accept that it 232 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:31,439 Speaker 1: really just opens up your horizons. So that's what I did. 233 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: I was like, next time this opportunity comes around, I'm 234 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:35,040 Speaker 1: not saying no, I'm going to freaking do it because 235 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: I know this is what I want to do and 236 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna let fear stop me. And that's what 237 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 1: we did, you know, hey, And I feel like, honestly, 238 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 1: I feel like this gets better. It definitely gets better 239 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 1: with age. I think it's knowing who you are, where 240 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:57,920 Speaker 1: you're going, what your intentions are in life, what change 241 00:11:57,920 --> 00:11:59,480 Speaker 1: you want to make in life, how you want to 242 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:03,200 Speaker 1: help others, Like it just all comes together and it's 243 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:07,439 Speaker 1: part of maturing, a part of spiritually like maturing as well, 244 00:12:07,960 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 1: that like that imposter syndrome goes away, like it just 245 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 1: you don't care, Like you just become so like confident 246 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:19,560 Speaker 1: in who you are that even if you make a 247 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: mistake in what you do, you're fine because you love 248 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 1: who you are. And this is one thing that my 249 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:29,840 Speaker 1: life coach told me, what I do is not who 250 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: I am, you know, It's like it's not Sometimes people 251 00:12:32,920 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 1: are like they have this like fake confidence, which probably 252 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:37,520 Speaker 1: is what I had in the beginning of my career 253 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 1: where it's like you kind of like fluff yourself up, 254 00:12:41,640 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 1: but in reality, when you're in your room by yourself, 255 00:12:44,160 --> 00:12:45,679 Speaker 1: you're like shit, like did I do a good job? 256 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:47,880 Speaker 1: You start questioning yourself and you need people's approval and 257 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 1: all this stuff. And like with age, I feel like 258 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: personally and I did the work, I don't care like 259 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:56,120 Speaker 1: I do it out of love. Everything that I'm doing, 260 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 1: I do it. I have love. I do it because 261 00:12:57,440 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 1: I want to change people's lives. And I'm not perfect, 262 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:03,600 Speaker 1: and I'm okay with making mistakes because I know that 263 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:05,480 Speaker 1: my intentions are in the right place. I know that 264 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:07,640 Speaker 1: my heart is in the right place, and that just 265 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,400 Speaker 1: changed everything for me, Like knowing my purpose, knowing like 266 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 1: what I want to leave in this world has really 267 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:17,439 Speaker 1: really just changed the game for me. But it comes 268 00:13:17,800 --> 00:13:23,240 Speaker 1: with spiritual mental, physical maturity like experiences and also being 269 00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 1: honest with yourself. I think being vulnerable with yourself with 270 00:13:27,040 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 1: others gives you a lot of power, a lot of strength, 271 00:13:29,559 --> 00:13:31,720 Speaker 1: a lot of confidence. You have to be able to 272 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: like remove like an onion, those layers of the fake funk, 273 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:39,320 Speaker 1: you know what I mean of fluffed up confidence. It's 274 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:42,200 Speaker 1: like really getting to the core of things that will 275 00:13:42,240 --> 00:13:52,000 Speaker 1: really help strengthen your insecurities to overcome them. And to 276 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:53,800 Speaker 1: wrap up, guys, because I know this has been a 277 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:57,160 Speaker 1: little lengthy, but hopefully some of this stuff, if not 278 00:13:57,240 --> 00:14:01,120 Speaker 1: all of it, has sunken and I've planted seed in 279 00:14:01,160 --> 00:14:03,200 Speaker 1: your heart and in your mind. I want to say 280 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:05,720 Speaker 1: it took me a long time to be able to 281 00:14:05,760 --> 00:14:09,000 Speaker 1: say that I am proud of myself, that I'm proud 282 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:12,640 Speaker 1: of what I'm doing, that I like myself very much, 283 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 1: that I love myself no matter what. It took a while, 284 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:18,840 Speaker 1: and it took a lot of work, but I don't 285 00:14:18,840 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 1: regret anything that has happened in my life. And that 286 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 1: might sound a little crazy because a lot of really 287 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:25,040 Speaker 1: bad things have happened, but I feel like it all 288 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:29,040 Speaker 1: has brought me to this point. And I usually don't 289 00:14:29,160 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: like to talk about the haters, you know, but it 290 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:35,640 Speaker 1: is very much part of our life, and it's the truth, 291 00:14:35,720 --> 00:14:39,120 Speaker 1: and it's what's happening, especially with social media, and like 292 00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 1: people just feel so confident to just talk crap. But 293 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:47,680 Speaker 1: I've had to face a lot of people, a lot 294 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 1: of people that I know for sure have said that 295 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:54,520 Speaker 1: I wasn't going to make it that I did not 296 00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 1: have the talent, even to the young cheekies as well. 297 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:01,239 Speaker 1: I want to talk to her too. An ex boyfriend 298 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 1: that said, you're not gonna make it without me, I 299 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 1: was like, okay, and I'm not gonna lie. I kind 300 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: of thought when he said that, I was like, shit, 301 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 1: what if I don't? And all I want to say 302 00:15:13,720 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 1: is thank you, even little cheeky's, even the ex boyfriend 303 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:21,560 Speaker 1: and the people that have tat crap in the industry 304 00:15:21,600 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: that now I smile and just say hi to them. 305 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 1: It's happened so much. Guys, now they're nice to me. 306 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 1: Now they believe in me, and I'm grateful. I'm grateful, 307 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 1: and I'm not the type of person to say I 308 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:36,200 Speaker 1: told you so, but I just want to say thank 309 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:39,640 Speaker 1: you because it helped me work harder. I made myself 310 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 1: work harder when I was thinking those negative things and 311 00:15:42,520 --> 00:15:45,640 Speaker 1: letting those toxic voices sink into my heart and into 312 00:15:45,680 --> 00:15:48,320 Speaker 1: my soul and into my mind. I didn't let that 313 00:15:48,360 --> 00:15:51,760 Speaker 1: stop me, and I kept going and here we are now, 314 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 1: and I can honestly say that I am so proud 315 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:56,160 Speaker 1: of what we've been able to accomplish. And I wouldn't 316 00:15:56,160 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 1: be able to do without my team. I can't say 317 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: that everything that I've acomplish it is because of me. Yes, 318 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 1: I have my talents, I do my job, I work hard, 319 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:06,760 Speaker 1: but I do have an amazing team that has helped 320 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:09,080 Speaker 1: me and supported me, and I'm grateful. I just want 321 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:11,240 Speaker 1: to say thank you because instead of us being mad 322 00:16:11,240 --> 00:16:13,280 Speaker 1: and talking shit to those people that have talked shit 323 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:15,480 Speaker 1: about us or to us, or have said negative things 324 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:18,320 Speaker 1: and sent us negative energy, instead of being upset and 325 00:16:18,320 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 1: fighting back, I just smile. Mostly that I know of, 326 00:16:22,200 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 1: mostly all men that have said, oh, yeah, she's not 327 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:27,440 Speaker 1: gonna make it, she's this, she's that, And now I'm like, oh, 328 00:16:27,640 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: now you play my music on the radio. Thank you. 329 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 1: Now you not need something for me, because it's not 330 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:37,160 Speaker 1: like that now. It's like we're helping each other, you know. 331 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:41,320 Speaker 1: And it feels good to change people's mind and change 332 00:16:41,320 --> 00:16:44,800 Speaker 1: people's heart towards me, because it's happened a lot, and 333 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:47,320 Speaker 1: it's all because I didn't give up. It's all because 334 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:51,520 Speaker 1: I didn't let that imposter syndrome stop me and paralyze 335 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:54,160 Speaker 1: me from my growth and from what I was meant 336 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:58,840 Speaker 1: to accomplish. So thank you. I'm grateful. I'm happy. I 337 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 1: get asked this question a lot, like what would you 338 00:17:01,880 --> 00:17:06,800 Speaker 1: tell fifteen year old Cheeky's or little Cheeky's, And you 339 00:17:06,840 --> 00:17:09,880 Speaker 1: know what, it's crazy because I can think of moments 340 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 1: in my life, like when I was eight years old, 341 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:16,440 Speaker 1: ten years old that little Cheeky's. I would tell her, 342 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:19,199 Speaker 1: don't be afraid to speak up because I feel like 343 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:23,520 Speaker 1: I was suppressed because of things that were happening in 344 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:26,480 Speaker 1: my life, you know, and I didn't speak up enough. 345 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 1: I didn't talk. I was so afraid to speak. I 346 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:31,400 Speaker 1: was so afraid to say anything. And I would tell her, 347 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 1: definitely Cheeky's from like fourteen sixteen, those around there. I'd 348 00:17:38,560 --> 00:17:43,000 Speaker 1: probably tell myself. I'd tell little Cheeky's, be more honest, 349 00:17:43,359 --> 00:17:46,959 Speaker 1: be more honest. Stop trying to seek people's approval and 350 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 1: doing things to make other people happy, to make other 351 00:17:51,119 --> 00:17:53,960 Speaker 1: people proud of you. And I think that went all 352 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:58,320 Speaker 1: the way to like almost through almost all my twenties. Guys, 353 00:17:59,119 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 1: that feeling of people pleasing, of needing that approval and 354 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:07,479 Speaker 1: not wanting to disappoint people. I wasn't being true to myself. 355 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:10,800 Speaker 1: I wasn't being honest with myself, and not because I 356 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:13,000 Speaker 1: was spreading lies. It wasn't even that. It's more of 357 00:18:13,080 --> 00:18:18,879 Speaker 1: like just speak your truth, be okay, be unapologetically yourself. 358 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:21,119 Speaker 1: And I feel like I lost so much time and 359 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:25,280 Speaker 1: energy and I cried so much because I always wanted 360 00:18:25,720 --> 00:18:27,439 Speaker 1: to do this people pleasing thing and it was just 361 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:31,159 Speaker 1: a vicious cycle and it just took me down roads 362 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 1: that I had no business going down, Like I could 363 00:18:33,359 --> 00:18:35,720 Speaker 1: have avoided myself a lot of problems if I stood 364 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:38,199 Speaker 1: more in my power, and that didn't come until like 365 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:42,720 Speaker 1: my thirties. So I forgive the little cheekies. It's part 366 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:47,080 Speaker 1: of growing. It's part of maturing and learning and stepping 367 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:49,120 Speaker 1: into your own I know it's all part of it. 368 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:51,200 Speaker 1: But when I look back and I think of all 369 00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:54,240 Speaker 1: those seasons in my life and those ages, I think, 370 00:18:54,280 --> 00:18:57,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, how can I prevent my child from 371 00:18:57,920 --> 00:18:59,720 Speaker 1: going through that? Like I want to be able to 372 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 1: and still that not only like how I do it 373 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:04,560 Speaker 1: with you guys. You know, I speak to you guys 374 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:05,560 Speaker 1: like I want to be able to do this with 375 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:07,399 Speaker 1: my own child, Like I want to like raise the 376 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:10,000 Speaker 1: super child guys, because I've been through so much that 377 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, how can I help my child of course, 378 00:19:12,520 --> 00:19:14,600 Speaker 1: they're going to go through their own things, and I 379 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:16,880 Speaker 1: just want to be able to help them navigate through it. 380 00:19:17,119 --> 00:19:19,440 Speaker 1: But it's also doing all of this. This is part 381 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:21,800 Speaker 1: of my calling, guys, is doing these types of things 382 00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 1: and speaking to you guys and being honest with my 383 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:27,400 Speaker 1: experiences and the mistakes that I've made. And that's why 384 00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:30,399 Speaker 1: I feel that it's important to have these conversations. And 385 00:19:30,440 --> 00:19:32,159 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for my podcast and for all of 386 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 1: my listeners that you guys take the time to like 387 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:37,879 Speaker 1: press play and listen to me, because I promise you that, 388 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 1: in my heart of hearts, I just want to leave 389 00:19:42,760 --> 00:19:45,600 Speaker 1: people places better than they were when I got there. 390 00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:48,800 Speaker 1: I want to be able to plant seeds in your 391 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:51,200 Speaker 1: guys's hearts and in your mind so that you guys 392 00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 1: can flourish into your best selves. And if I can 393 00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:55,719 Speaker 1: prevent you guys from making those mistakes, that's what I'm 394 00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:57,160 Speaker 1: going to do. And I don't know where I just went, 395 00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:58,679 Speaker 1: but I was just speaking for my heart right now. 396 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: I was like looking outside my window and like looking 397 00:20:01,040 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 1: at the trees, and I just felt so inspired to 398 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:04,600 Speaker 1: say this because I was thinking of like the little 399 00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:09,120 Speaker 1: cheekis and everything So anyways, that's the episode. All these 400 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:11,640 Speaker 1: things that I talked about. But that's what I love 401 00:20:11,680 --> 00:20:13,720 Speaker 1: about my podcast. And if it wasn't for you guys 402 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:16,520 Speaker 1: listening every week and coming back and sharing the podcast, 403 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:18,960 Speaker 1: I wouldn't have a podcast. So I know that this 404 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 1: wouldn't be possible without you, guys. So just know the 405 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:23,880 Speaker 1: way I inspire you, guys, you inspire me to keep 406 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:28,320 Speaker 1: on going. So I appreciate it. I'm grateful, and yeah, 407 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:31,160 Speaker 1: let's go out there and you know, spread the love, 408 00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:35,119 Speaker 1: radiate love, and radiate knowledge, because that's what it's all about, guys. 409 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:36,760 Speaker 1: That's the only way we're gonna be able to get 410 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:40,400 Speaker 1: through this life is by having these conversations, these sometimes 411 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:42,920 Speaker 1: uncomfortable things that we think, Oh my god, I would 412 00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:44,399 Speaker 1: never want to share this, I never want people to 413 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 1: know this. Yeah, but like when you bring things to light, guys, 414 00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:52,040 Speaker 1: like it helps you grow, You get feedback, like it's 415 00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:54,399 Speaker 1: just it's beautiful. And again that comes with age. That 416 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:57,640 Speaker 1: comes with time. So be patient with yourself, trust the process, 417 00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:02,000 Speaker 1: be patient, be compassionate, love yourself through those hard times. 418 00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:05,160 Speaker 1: With that being said, that is the you know, that's 419 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:08,720 Speaker 1: how we're gonna conclude this amazing episode. I hope that 420 00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:12,080 Speaker 1: you guys enjoyed it. I am so. I can't thank 421 00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,560 Speaker 1: you guys enough for being here, and I will have 422 00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:17,280 Speaker 1: another amazing episode for you next week. Okay, so come 423 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:20,399 Speaker 1: back next week. I will be waiting. I love you, 424 00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:25,240 Speaker 1: and yeah, have a great week, have a great day. Okay, Gus, 425 00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:32,360 Speaker 1: all right, you got this? 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