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Speaker 1: What's up, everybody, and welcome to Bachelor Happy Hour. I'm

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Speaker 1: your girl, Rachel, and joining me again in the studio

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Speaker 1: is none other than Crystal Nielsen as my co host.

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Speaker 1: What's up, girl, what's up? Thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: having me. I am loving it doing these podcasts with you.

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Speaker 1: And what was it that you said earlier? Yes, gosh,

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Speaker 1: I was just saying sometime, I love it so much.

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Speaker 1: And guys, you know here on Bachelor a Happy Hour,

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Speaker 1: we do not disappoint. We always bring the best guest

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Speaker 1: and today does not disappoint. We have joining us today.

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Speaker 1: She's a Bachelor Nation favorite. She's definitely one of my favors.

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Speaker 1: I haven't seen her since Costa Rica my bachelorette party,

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Speaker 1: and I don't know, maybe two of us dated the

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Speaker 1: same guy. I don't know. Is that kind of weird?

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Speaker 1: Definitely not the Bachelor Nation. Okay, So with that weird,

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Speaker 1: weird welcome, let's welcome in Bibi Yanna Rachel. That introduction, well,

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Speaker 1: I mean, we had to do the best for the best.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for being here. Bibianas so happy

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Speaker 1: to have you on the show. And we just want

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Speaker 1: to get right into it because we know you are

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Speaker 1: a busy woman, and we'll get into all of that.

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Speaker 1: But what I love so much, and I'm so so

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Speaker 1: happy to have Crystal here today because you and Crystal

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Speaker 1: didn't have the best start, and I think that there's

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Speaker 1: a theme in that, right, Like it's not always about

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Speaker 1: the first impression. Sometimes you just have to let things

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Speaker 1: go run their course and let things happen. And I

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Speaker 1: think you and Crystal are a testament of that. And

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Speaker 1: so I don't know if I should say you guys

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Speaker 1: are former enemies for enemies. I don't know what, but

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Speaker 1: it doesn't matter because that's a thing of the past

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Speaker 1: because that's not the case now. So Crystal, I'll let

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Speaker 1: you take it away and talk to your now friends.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's so funny because I was looking at

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Speaker 1: a photo of us, that infamous photo when you might

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Speaker 1: drop me Are you living? You know, like that moment

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Speaker 1: and priving for this interview, and I was just thinking

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Speaker 1: how far we have come. And I want to take

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Speaker 1: a second to commend you on the growth that you've

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Speaker 1: done so well on Instagram and that all the viewers

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Speaker 1: have seen with your experience on the Bachelor, and it's

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Speaker 1: just how has being on the show, And would you

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Speaker 1: say that has been played a pivotal role in your

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Speaker 1: transformation and your journey and what have you learned about

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Speaker 1: yourself throughout this process? Oh? Man, a lot, and yes,

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Speaker 1: absolutely to answer your question, I do think that it

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Speaker 1: played a massive role. You know, I think one of

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Speaker 1: you're just filled with all the hype of everything that's

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Speaker 1: when it really hits you, like, what's what am I

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Speaker 1: going to take this? The pressure of having followers of

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Speaker 1: people recognizing you, it almost forces you to just rethink

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Speaker 1: So I don't know if that made any sense. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know that there was a lot of social media attention,

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Speaker 1: particularly around our field, and there was people that had

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Speaker 1: that an opportunity or what did you gain from that experience,

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Speaker 1: particularly that that infamous feud of us that I am

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Speaker 1: feisty as hell. You know what happens, Crystal, I mean,

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Speaker 1: so are You're being tested. My patience was just like

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Speaker 1: when am I going to talk to Ari and then

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Speaker 1: when your kind of push comes to shove, you're just

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Speaker 1: what it really showed me was, Okay, when I am

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Speaker 1: just kind of saw you guys on Bachelor in Paradise

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Speaker 1: I wasn't ever mad at you, and even though you

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Speaker 1: It's just a situation. Yeah it was. But even so

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Speaker 1: goal is is to you know, continue my book club.

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00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,919
Speaker 1: I just started reading again because throughout the summer with

432
00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:05,959
Speaker 1: like feeling so depressed and stuff, I couldn't even pick

433
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 1: up a book. I was just like I can't even read,

434
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:11,919
Speaker 1: So reading again, sharing UM, sharing my books, creating you know,

435
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:16,520
Speaker 1: like keeping that going, UM giving away, starting a book club.

436
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:20,960
Speaker 1: But then also I want to I know that I

437
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:24,160
Speaker 1: don't want to leave Miami. My family's here, and so

438
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 1: I really want to just build a community here. And

439
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 1: I one of my she's a new friend, but probably

440
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:33,800
Speaker 1: one of my greatest friends already. She has this foundation

441
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 1: called AWAM Angels Watching Over Me, which she started when

442
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 1: she when her father passed away, just kind of like

443
00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:44,320
Speaker 1: a support group UM to like an open space where

444
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:47,280
Speaker 1: she brought therapists along to just you know, have people

445
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 1: have someone to talk to and open up with that's

446
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:52,240
Speaker 1: lost loved one going through a breakup or at any

447
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:56,359
Speaker 1: difficult situation, and then that then inspired her to start

448
00:25:56,440 --> 00:26:02,480
Speaker 1: this um Girls club where she's mentoring these girls at

449
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,159
Speaker 1: a specific middle school. Her dream is to kind of

450
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: just branches program throughout, but they've given her a room

451
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 1: where every Friday, we're going in at lunchtime. These girls

452
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 1: are grabbing your lunch and going into this lunch this

453
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 1: room hanging out and we either have speakers talking about

454
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,639
Speaker 1: anything from like puberty, or even bringing people that are

455
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 1: artists to kind of just inspire them creatively, a book club.

456
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,359
Speaker 1: We're teaching them yoga every every other Wednesday, they have

457
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 1: yoga atish school. So it's just like, think about the

458
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:42,359
Speaker 1: time when you were I don't know, like in middle school.

459
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 1: You're going through all these changes, and then just imagine

460
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:49,440
Speaker 1: what these girls are going through now with social media

461
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: and the cyber bullying and the bullying in school. So

462
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 1: we've really just provided this beautiful open space for these

463
00:26:56,760 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 1: girls to like get along with each other. Her and

464
00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 1: and really just realized that everybody's kind of going through

465
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:08,479
Speaker 1: the same transition and also just really find the support

466
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: system for them where they can. These girls have I

467
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 1: mean some of these stories about these girls there, they've

468
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 1: lost their parents, they come from violent homes. Um will

469
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:22,160
Speaker 1: have snacks because sometimes they won't even have food at home,

470
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 1: so they can go into the room and get food

471
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:29,680
Speaker 1: and supplies. So really connecting with my friend Sarah Um

472
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:34,920
Speaker 1: has been really inspiring for me because she's just type

473
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 1: of girl that like, we can do anything, and I

474
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:40,639
Speaker 1: needed to be around that energy. The same with Um.

475
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,199
Speaker 1: With this my other friend Brittany. I hung out with

476
00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 1: her Yesterday's. She's that powerful soul and she's also doing

477
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:51,880
Speaker 1: so much in the community where everything's about giving back

478
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 1: and I love that and I think that I'm really

479
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 1: grateful that I'm now finding that space here because this

480
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:01,199
Speaker 1: is this is my home, and this is where I

481
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:07,720
Speaker 1: really want to to be. Yeah, to lay the roots down.

482
00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: I think it's so great seeing you grow and evolve

483
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:15,360
Speaker 1: so much and especially contribute into your community is really fantastic.

484
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,879
Speaker 1: I just like, granted, no, no, no, and I'm glad

485
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: you did because if you could see me right now,

486
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 1: and we have people in the room who looked at me,

487
00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 1: like what is wrong with you? I'm literally I'm like

488
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 1: deep in thought in what you're saying, because you know

489
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: how you talk about how like we're supposed to be

490
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 1: You're our guest on the podcast today and we're supposed

491
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 1: to be interviewing you. But I am really resonating to

492
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: what you're saying, because you know, you said people feel

493
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: anxiety in different ways and they don't even realize that

494
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 1: they're feeling it. So I'm a person who's always on

495
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 1: the go, go, go, go go, And because I'm always

496
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 1: on the go, I never have to take time to

497
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 1: realize if I'm okay and and if I'm going through something.

498
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: And so I'm in Miami, but I feel completely opposite,

499
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 1: like I can't stand Miami and I don't feel connected

500
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 1: to the city in any kind of way. And when

501
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 1: I'm there, I'm struggling extremely because I don't like it

502
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 1: and I don't feel the city and I don't vibe

503
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 1: with it. And I actually, like truly had a breakdown

504
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: talking to Brian and I was just like, oh, I

505
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 1: cannot stand it here, Like I don't feel connected to

506
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 1: the city at all. And so it's funny that you

507
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 1: mentioned yoga because I was like, you know what, I

508
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 1: just need to go to yoga and I need to

509
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 1: get centered. I went and I just it was exactly

510
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: what I needed. And I just realized how I was

511
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 1: struggling myself because I thought I was okay, but it's

512
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 1: just because I just was moving so much and I

513
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 1: didn't have the time to really focus on myself. And

514
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:43,160
Speaker 1: so I found that connection. But I'm saying all this

515
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 1: to say, I'm listening to what you're saying, and I'm like, man,

516
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:48,200
Speaker 1: like that's what I needed to hear. You know, sometimes

517
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 1: you're just in the right place and you need to hear.

518
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 1: And I'm sorry, I'm not trying to make this about me,

519
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:54,360
Speaker 1: but it just like resonated with me so much what

520
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: you were saying because of what I'm going through personally

521
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,680
Speaker 1: and struggling with and so to hear you say what

522
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: you connected with to find your purpose in the city

523
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 1: of Miami, I'm like, my gosh, that's what I need

524
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,239
Speaker 1: right now. So we're talking when we get off this,

525
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 1: when we get off the podcast, because I really like

526
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,480
Speaker 1: I need to find a purpose I have. I feel

527
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 1: I don't feel connected to anything outside of Brian in Miami.

528
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:25,480
Speaker 1: Miami is not I mean, Rachel, Miami is not an

529
00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 1: easy city to make home, to feel at home and

530
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: to get integrated, and it's not welcoming. It's not I mean,

531
00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:37,239
Speaker 1: I'm not dodging my city. I absolutely love it. But

532
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 1: a part of the reason why I feel so connected,

533
00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:41,640
Speaker 1: aside from the fact that I grew up here, is

534
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 1: because of my family. And if it wasn't for my

535
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:48,720
Speaker 1: sister having kids and my older sister buying a house

536
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 1: here and my parents, like seeing my parents now getting older,

537
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 1: what would hold me back? Really, you know, aside from

538
00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 1: the ocean, which I can go on in the warm,

539
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 1: I do the water, but it is I do think

540
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 1: that as somebody coming in, it is a real, really

541
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,320
Speaker 1: difficult city. And honestly, Rachel, you're always on the goal,

542
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 1: so I can only imagine, like nothing, like I don't

543
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 1: really know, Like I don't even tell you when I'm

544
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 1: in the city, no, exactly, because I know that you

545
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 1: leave the next day. It's so true. So when you're

546
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: always on the goal, it's really hard to have this

547
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: be be home. I know, and I and I and

548
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 1: I'm also saying this again, I didn't mean to turn

549
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 1: this into my own therapy session. But I think that

550
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:37,040
Speaker 1: that's what's so crazy about Bachelor Happy Hour, and also

551
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 1: just to encourage you to continue to share your message

552
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: because you never know with what you're saying and who

553
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: it may resonate with. I think people hear us talking

554
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 1: and they think, oh my goodness, they have it all together.

555
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 1: You know, they're on TV, or they have their significant other,

556
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 1: or they've gone through something and they're finding their purpose.

557
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 1: But really we're all struggling with our own things. And

558
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 1: so I to those who are listening, you know, to me,

559
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 1: talking to Crystal right now, are talking to me and

560
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 1: even you baby On it, it's like we have to

561
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 1: continue to share what we're going through because you just

562
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 1: never know who needs to hear it in that moment.

563
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 1: I agree, baby On. I want to ask, do you

564
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:22,840
Speaker 1: have any daily tools to maintain your wellness, things that

565
00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 1: you've experienced and learned that you'd want to share. Yes,

566
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 1: I've definitely. I am find your time, find your trying,

567
00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 1: your me time. So I'm a morning person. I have

568
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 1: to be at work. Ironically, en about to be at

569
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 1: work at seven o'clock in the morning, which to me

570
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:42,480
Speaker 1: doesn't affect me because aside from not being able to

571
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 1: work out at seven anymore. It didn't affect me because

572
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 1: I like to wake up early. But waking up in

573
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 1: the morning and not touching my phone, don't go on Instagram,

574
00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 1: don't look at text message, leave your do not disturb on,

575
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 1: get it up in the morning, have my you know,

576
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 1: like go through my routine where I drink my water,

577
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 1: have my probiotic, you know, grind my coffee, beans through

578
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 1: my coffee, that whole hour to myself before I get dressed. Really,

579
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 1: when I don't have that, it sets and shifts the

580
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:18,320
Speaker 1: tone of my day entirely. So if I have that

581
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 1: time in the morning, I kill it. No, you do that?

582
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,680
Speaker 1: So you start a person tell me that in a month,

583
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, I panic when I wake up

584
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 1: in the morning. I wake up in a panic, like

585
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 1: what did I miss? Who emailed me? Who texts me?

586
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 1: I think about this, think about this, and I coach

587
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: my clients through developing powerful morning rituals that like empower

588
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 1: and nurture their goals and themselves, because if you wake

589
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 1: up and you're on your phone, you're just reacting to

590
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 1: what everyone needs from you. And if you don't take

591
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 1: a second and a be an hour, be it two hours,

592
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 1: be it five minutes, right bibs to give to yourself.

593
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 1: It's not going to happen throughout the day. You gotta

594
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 1: start the first few moments of the day because the

595
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:07,480
Speaker 1: more things that happen, the more opportunity things that you're

596
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 1: just gonna pull you from us. You have to carve

597
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 1: out that time. And I deal a lot with moms

598
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 1: who usually wake up to a crying baby, and at

599
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:17,359
Speaker 1: that point, once the baby's up, their day's rolling and

600
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:20,320
Speaker 1: it doesn't belong to them anymore. And it's just critical

601
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 1: of having the discipline and the structure right, having a plan,

602
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 1: having a written down, knowing exactly what to do, having

603
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 1: the job to go to right bibbs where you know

604
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 1: it's it's structured, it's written down, and you just follow

605
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:34,879
Speaker 1: through and you don't hit snooze on that button on

606
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:38,359
Speaker 1: that a large block. I will say, I'm not I'm

607
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 1: not that perfect at it right now. I've had, you know,

608
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 1: like it depends on my week. But I think there's

609
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: a guy called Jim Quick. He has a podcasting and

610
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 1: he's amazing, but one of the I've heard him and

611
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 1: when somebody else's podcast where he's just like, when you're

612
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 1: creating little habits, you have to have triggers, so like

613
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 1: kind of set yourself up up to succeed in that habit.

614
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 1: Don't make it difficult for you so automatically when you

615
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 1: wake up in the morning. Okay, I'm not going to

616
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 1: hit snooze, roll out of bed. Like my thing is,

617
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 1: roll out of bed even if I'm half asleep, and

618
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 1: make my bed immediately so I can't jump back into bed.

619
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 1: Oh that's good. Oh yeah, I got two little doggies

620
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 1: that are just more snuggly. I mean, I don't have

621
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 1: any pets. I live alone. I know it's really hard,

622
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: but I started with baby steps where I started with that.

623
00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 1: It's like, Okay, if I'm getting into the habit of

624
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 1: if I want to get into the habit of getting

625
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 1: up right when my alarm goes off, what can I do?

626
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 1: And like, seriously, in the morning, I'm still half asleep,

627
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 1: and I'm like, just roll out of bed and make

628
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:42,440
Speaker 1: your bed immediately, Leaven if you have half asleep and

629
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:46,480
Speaker 1: then whatever. I might not like do everything on my

630
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 1: for my daily routine, but as the month goes on,

631
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:55,800
Speaker 1: you'll see that You'll you'll realize how much how great

632
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:58,920
Speaker 1: it is to have that structure to yourself in the morning.

633
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 1: And I've read four were some of the most successful

634
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 1: people in the worlds are so committed to their morning

635
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:11,319
Speaker 1: routine it doesn't matter where they are, Like it is

636
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 1: this morning routine every day through the weekend, and I

637
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:20,359
Speaker 1: mean it's they're killing it. Like I want to talk

638
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 1: to me. I believe in threes. Okay, It's always been

639
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 1: like my thing, and I'm not lying. This is the

640
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:30,359
Speaker 1: third time in a month that someone has said these

641
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 1: exact same things that you and Crystal are saying to me.

642
00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 1: One I was sitting next to a guy on a

643
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:37,880
Speaker 1: plane and I hate to talk to people on the plane, okay,

644
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:41,600
Speaker 1: and I ended up talking to him from LA to Miami.

645
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:44,399
Speaker 1: His name is Michael shout out to Michael Rosenbaum, and

646
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 1: he was telling me how he started doing this. And

647
00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 1: then I went to Katie Martin's Well Rested event and

648
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 1: she was talking about the exact same thing about the

649
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 1: morning routine. And now you and Crystal are telling me

650
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:58,440
Speaker 1: the exact same thing. I hope this is speaking to

651
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 1: somebody else who was listening to because if I don't

652
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: do it at this point. I'm a fool. I have

653
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 1: no excuse. I'm starting small. Yeah, you start really small,

654
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:09,880
Speaker 1: and it's like a big thing. When you are looking

655
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 1: to feel passion, purpose motivated, you got to have clarity

656
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 1: as to what you're working towards. I should have written

657
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 1: that down. I feel like I'm in a tone. Wait

658
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 1: he's actually coming to Miami and wait with destiny? Can

659
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 1: I just tell you? The tickets are so expensive? I'm like,

660
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:38,800
Speaker 1: you eight thousand dollars. I have an extra I was

661
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 1: invited and I have an extra ticket. Baby, maybe here

662
00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:46,879
Speaker 1: are you here? I'm supposed to be. I'm so down

663
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 1: to walk through the fire. And my friend told me,

664
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 1: she's like, why was years ago? It was so crazy?

665
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,440
Speaker 1: She's like it actually, like it's it's crazy because it

666
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: kind of you know, people steer away from me because

667
00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 1: it seems kind of coltish and who woo. But for her,

668
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:02,360
Speaker 1: who's totally against it, she did it back then. It

669
00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 1: was only five hundred dollars and for the executive or

670
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:08,839
Speaker 1: whatever it is, like the fanciest one, you can get

671
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 1: it with only five hundred dollars. Nolls like, well, let

672
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 1: me see. She talks so much about it, and I

673
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 1: go on. It's like too so it's like over one

674
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: thousand dollars Like okay, well, the way my bank account works,

675
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:22,360
Speaker 1: this is not going to happen. Yeah, Okay, we'll talk

676
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 1: because I really do well, we'll talk about it. I'll

677
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 1: tell you, I'll tell you what I have going on

678
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 1: with that, Okay, Bibby. Selfishly, this has been extremely therapeutic

679
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 1: for me. So I want to thank you and Crystal

680
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:35,960
Speaker 1: for coming on the podcast, But I do want to

681
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 1: ask you. You just seem to be so in tune

682
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:41,120
Speaker 1: with yourself and your purpose and where you want to

683
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 1: move forward. Do you think that we'll ever see you

684
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 1: again on Paradise or maybe whatever else this franchise may

685
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:52,840
Speaker 1: come up with because they don't stop. I really So.

686
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,839
Speaker 1: I have this friend who's suit. She's hilarious, but she's

687
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 1: just like, you gotta talk to God, you gotta talk

688
00:38:58,120 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 1: to the universe. You gotta put it out there what

689
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 1: you want. She's like, stay it out loud, talk to

690
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:03,720
Speaker 1: the moon. And she's like, if you want a Mann,

691
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:07,720
Speaker 1: she's like, write down exactly who he is, like every

692
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 1: little detail, and she's like, can leave it out there

693
00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:11,399
Speaker 1: and play the game with the universe and I don't

694
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 1: think that my guy the way that I'm describing him,

695
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 1: I'll meet on the back for a franchise. So for me,

696
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:22,840
Speaker 1: well maybe maybe it just sounds like you need to

697
00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:25,760
Speaker 1: be the bachelorette then, so you can pick them, Okay,

698
00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:30,040
Speaker 1: so you can be in control and in that driver's seat. Okay,

699
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 1: didn't you just say we should put it out for

700
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:37,000
Speaker 1: we should speak to God and put it in the universe. Well,

701
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: I'm a talking and hopefully he's a listening or she Okay,

702
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:46,360
Speaker 1: maybe before you go, I love you too, before you

703
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 1: we let you go. Um, it's holiday time and it's

704
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 1: a very special time, and I feel like we're right

705
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:55,279
Speaker 1: on point with what we've been talking about. And I,

706
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:57,719
Speaker 1: for one can just say I am so thankful to

707
00:39:57,719 --> 00:39:59,920
Speaker 1: be co hosting with Crystal right now, to have you

708
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 1: on the podcast. This is what I needed, and hopefully

709
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 1: it's what you guys needed, and just for everyone who's

710
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: out there listening, maybe it's something that you needed to

711
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 1: So in the spirit of being thankful and grateful, we're

712
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:14,360
Speaker 1: gonna play a little game about finding gratitude in less

713
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 1: than an ideal bachelor's scenario. So Crystal, I'll let you

714
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: take it away and start with it. Okay. So I'm

715
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 1: going to read a statement, Viv and I want you

716
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: to answer where the silver lining is or where you

717
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 1: can find the gratitude in this? Okay, Okay, First, you

718
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:38,279
Speaker 1: are sent home on the first night. Oh, you're sent

719
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 1: home on the first night. You missed a lot. You

720
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 1: missed a lot of drama. You were saved from a

721
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:49,080
Speaker 1: lot of heartbreaking drama and tears. That's good, that's so true.

722
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:52,959
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, what's meant to be is meant to be? Yeah,

723
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:55,319
Speaker 1: and it wasn't meant to be? Yeah, look something better.

724
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,319
Speaker 1: If you go, if you go home, if you go

725
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 1: home on night one, you probably can go back to

726
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:08,399
Speaker 1: your job because they probably will take your's right. Hey, Yes,

727
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:10,880
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't realize people quit their jobs

728
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 1: to come on the show, so sometimes that doesn't pay off. Okay,

729
00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:19,280
Speaker 1: you're put in the hot seat at a tel all um, hmm.

730
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:21,319
Speaker 1: I think that's a good thing. You get to you

731
00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:25,480
Speaker 1: get to speak, you get to speak up and explain

732
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 1: yourself or whatever it is that happened. Right, Is that

733
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 1: a bad thing? I feel like a hot seat is

734
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 1: never a bad thing unless you're blake Blake. You get

735
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 1: an opportunity to speak your truth, all right. Next one

736
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:47,399
Speaker 1: you're told the gym isn't available at the hotel, that's

737
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:51,720
Speaker 1: I can't find the gratitude, and that you can't agree

738
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 1: the SA is the SNA open. Hey it's saffern outdoor run.

739
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's great. That's more time for me

740
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 1: to catch up on housewives. That's okay, you're in a

741
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 1: paradise love triangle finally, Okay, you can't find it. Chris

742
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 1: Harrison for Advice. Oh my gosh, huh, what's the good

743
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:23,840
Speaker 1: thing about that you get to talk to a parent

744
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:31,440
Speaker 1: in paradise? Your phone is taken away and you are

745
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 1: cut off from the outside world while filming. Oh I'm

746
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 1: so for it. I wish I could just have someone

747
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:40,399
Speaker 1: take my phone. Now. My friend is helping me out

748
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 1: with like managing my emails at the ones that come

749
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:46,439
Speaker 1: through social media, and I was like, please just take

750
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 1: the wheel. I'll pay you a home monthly fee. I

751
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:52,240
Speaker 1: just can't deal with the five hundred emails that ignored

752
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:55,520
Speaker 1: in my life. And it's helped. But really, anytime that

753
00:42:55,560 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 1: I can, anytime that my phone is connected, I'm like,

754
00:42:58,160 --> 00:42:59,920
Speaker 1: I'm for it. I put my phone on do not

755
00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 1: disturb when I'm at home. Oh girl, me and you

756
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 1: all day girl, all day long goals because I got

757
00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 1: someone doing my emails too, all right? Last one, baby,

758
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 1: A troll makes Amana comment on Instagram. I hate these

759
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 1: um but we've changed, You've grown. Yeah, I mean it

760
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 1: always kind of makes me sad. How does it not

761
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 1: affect you? But I guess it just shines a light

762
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:30,840
Speaker 1: on how much growth you're doing by not responding. H

763
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,280
Speaker 1: I want to say that that was actually my defining

764
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 1: moment with my Bachelor experience. Coming off The Bachelor, I

765
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 1: was going through all though there's probably a week two

766
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 1: of it airing, so it's right around our mic job episode.

767
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:49,359
Speaker 1: Wow is coming full circle. But I was going through

768
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 1: those comments and I was reading them and suddenly, I mean,

769
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:55,400
Speaker 1: I'm just reading the death comments, snake snake snake emojis,

770
00:43:56,000 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 1: and I'm just feeling the worst I've ever experienced, like

771
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:04,279
Speaker 1: hated by America. And then ultimately I just had this

772
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,840
Speaker 1: moment where I go, wait a second, I'm a coach,

773
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 1: like I was trained that feedback is how I grow,

774
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 1: and then I always take the feedback and I go,

775
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 1: you know what I'm going to go through and I'm

776
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 1: going to read these and I'm going to take the

777
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 1: emotion out and I'm going to read every single one,

778
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 1: every spawn back wa with love, especially with the messages.

779
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 1: I responded back with love and said thank you so

780
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 1: much for the feedback. I'm always here to grow and learn.

781
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:31,839
Speaker 1: And that was just and I just it was. It

782
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 1: was a shift for me and I just never looked back.

783
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 1: And then I realized I couldn't be hiding. I had

784
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 1: to live openly and with my heart, and just as

785
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:42,439
Speaker 1: you've done this past year, Babyana, I spent that those

786
00:44:42,520 --> 00:44:45,800
Speaker 1: next few months gearing up for Paradise, focusing on myself,

787
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 1: having my morning routine, learning to love and accept myself

788
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:52,319
Speaker 1: and forgive myself for mistakes that I'd made and to

789
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 1: become better because of them. And going into Paradise, I

790
00:44:55,880 --> 00:45:00,480
Speaker 1: didn't even want to date anybody. And here I I'm married,

791
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 1: and you were. You were at my wedding. It's crazy.

792
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 1: So it's crazy that opportunities and challenges that face us

793
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:11,280
Speaker 1: in life are opportunities for us to grow and become

794
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 1: more evolved souls, you know, on this journey. And I'm

795
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 1: so grateful for all the growth that you've you know,

796
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 1: shared while coming out of this podcast and letting us

797
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 1: all in into really intimate parts of your life that

798
00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,480
Speaker 1: you're navigating through. So we just really commend doing so

799
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:31,400
Speaker 1: grateful for you. You guys, if you haven't already hired

800
00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 1: Coach Crystal to get your life together, you need to

801
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:40,920
Speaker 1: after listening to this podcast, Coach Mibby my gosh, okay, baby,

802
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 1: before we let you go, and you've been absolutely fantastic

803
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,399
Speaker 1: and this podcast in itself has been so healing, which

804
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 1: was the goal of this entire episode. But before we

805
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:51,400
Speaker 1: let you go, there's a little thing we want to

806
00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:54,719
Speaker 1: do with you, and I'm Crystal already is connected to it,

807
00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 1: so she's gonna lead you into this. So I had

808
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 1: a dream last night that I was interviewed. Do you

809
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 1: know Gabriel Bernstein? You must, yes, Okay, I had an interview.

810
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 1: I had a dream I was interviewing Gabriel Bernstein on

811
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 1: a podcast and I walk in to do this with

812
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: Rachel today and they hand me a deck of cards

813
00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:14,480
Speaker 1: and they go, we're doing a start interview for Bibiana

814
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:16,800
Speaker 1: and Bibby. I kid you not, it's from the universe.

815
00:46:16,840 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 1: Has your back deck okay of her oracle cards and

816
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 1: I go, wait what this was literally written in the

817
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 1: stars for me to pull a card for you. And

818
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 1: the card I'm pulling is happiness is my birthright? Yes? Amen?

819
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 1: And the card I'm pulling for Rachel is my outer

820
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 1: experiences are a reflection of my internal condition. And lastly,

821
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:53,239
Speaker 1: the card I'm pulling for Copper is my dog is

822
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 1: here the universe has in my back. Oh see, you

823
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: were talking about the universe and putting things out there.

824
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 1: You had no idea what we had waiting for you. Well,

825
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 1: this has been a full circle podcast. This has been

826
00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:10,920
Speaker 1: a very healing moment. I'm so thankful to have you

827
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,759
Speaker 1: both on the podcast today and I really hope that

828
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:16,319
Speaker 1: it has been just as beneficial to someone who's out

829
00:47:16,360 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 1: there listening as it has been for all of us

830
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:21,279
Speaker 1: on the podcast today. Bibby, thank you so much for

831
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:24,759
Speaker 1: coming on the podcast. It has been absolutely amazing. Thank you,

832
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:27,799
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you so much for having me. Oh.

833
00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 1: I don't know about you, guys, but that felt good.

834
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:33,200
Speaker 1: I needed to hear that love talking to Bibiana. But

835
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 1: now I want to get into some emails from you guys,

836
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 1: because every episode we ask you guys to write us,

837
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 1: let us know what you're thinking, good and the bad,

838
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:44,319
Speaker 1: asking us for advice, whatever it may be. So our

839
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 1: first email is from Diana. Diana emailed in and asked

840
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 1: when you are done filming the show, do you get

841
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:52,399
Speaker 1: to see your significant other often or is it all

842
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 1: FaceTime and phone calls. Well, Diana, you don't get to

843
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:58,280
Speaker 1: see them as often as you want, to write, because

844
00:47:58,400 --> 00:48:01,440
Speaker 1: you're engaged. If if you're blessed from the show, if

845
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 1: you're lucky, and you want to see your significant other

846
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:06,560
Speaker 1: every day. So for me, I can only speak from

847
00:48:06,560 --> 00:48:10,640
Speaker 1: my experience. Brian and I facetimed all day every day.

848
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 1: We talked on the phone, we text we did whatever

849
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 1: we could to keep it spicy. And you're just so

850
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 1: excited coming off the show, you know, knowing that you're

851
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 1: engaged and you have the secret and only you know,

852
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 1: and the rest of the world is wondering. It's all very,

853
00:48:23,200 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 1: very exciting. But we also do get to see each other.

854
00:48:26,280 --> 00:48:30,240
Speaker 1: The franchise is very lovely in providing us these happy

855
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 1: couple weekends. I don't know if you've heard of them

856
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 1: or not, but we do get to see our significant

857
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:37,320
Speaker 1: others and spend days at a time, and those happy

858
00:48:37,320 --> 00:48:39,439
Speaker 1: couple weekends are so great, not just because you get

859
00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:42,480
Speaker 1: to see your significant other, but you are in a

860
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:45,080
Speaker 1: house just the two of you, so you learn very

861
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:48,359
Speaker 1: quickly if you're compatible or not. I mean, it's four

862
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 1: to five days, someone's bringing you food, and it's just

863
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:54,279
Speaker 1: the time for you to truly get to know each other,

864
00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 1: to ask questions, and to not have the involvement of family, friends,

865
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:01,319
Speaker 1: or just the outside opinion of the world. So yes,

866
00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 1: they really do do a lot for us to make

867
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,799
Speaker 1: sure we nurture and cultivate the relationship that we got

868
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:10,319
Speaker 1: on the show. Jody from Instagram as Crystal, I can't

869
00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 1: stand the taste of ACB, but believe in its benefits

870
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:17,319
Speaker 1: to the body. Do you have any suggestions for masking

871
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 1: the taste, well, Jody, Yes, girl. Make it with some

872
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:25,600
Speaker 1: sparkling water like the Perry ball I got right now,

873
00:49:25,800 --> 00:49:29,000
Speaker 1: and squeeze some fresh lemon in there, because lemon not

874
00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:32,200
Speaker 1: only is good at detoxifying the liver and boosting your

875
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:34,799
Speaker 1: metabolism and helping clear your skin, but it's also going

876
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 1: to be a really strong citrus taste that really cuts

877
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:41,600
Speaker 1: back on you know, that strong fermented flavor of apple

878
00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: cider vinegar. That's why she asked you and not me.

879
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 1: I would have said, hold your nose, take a leg

880
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 1: a shot, all right. The next question comes from Mary

881
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 1: on Twitter. Mary says, Rachel, you and Brian both have

882
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,160
Speaker 1: a lot going on and seemingly haven't been in the

883
00:49:56,200 --> 00:49:58,319
Speaker 1: same place for a while. How do you too find

884
00:49:58,360 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 1: time to enjoy being newlyweds and what do you do

885
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:06,879
Speaker 1: to keep the fire hot? Mary, definitely the million dollar question. Unfortunately,

886
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:10,080
Speaker 1: Brian and I do spend a lot, not a lot

887
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:12,839
Speaker 1: of time apart, but I mean enough enough to where

888
00:50:12,960 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 1: you know, we don't get to spend every day together,

889
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:17,040
Speaker 1: which is what I want to spend with Brian, and

890
00:50:17,080 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 1: I know that that's vice versa. So the reason that

891
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:22,279
Speaker 1: that's the case is because we're both very supportive of

892
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 1: what we have going on, and we're trying to build

893
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: these careers so that we can come together and you know,

894
00:50:27,280 --> 00:50:31,360
Speaker 1: we'll eventually settle down and grow our family and you know,

895
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 1: accomplish all the things that we want for each other

896
00:50:34,080 --> 00:50:36,960
Speaker 1: and for our future. But we definitely have to be

897
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 1: spicy and creative and how we keep you know, the

898
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:44,480
Speaker 1: fire hot as you put it in your tweet. So

899
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:47,360
Speaker 1: for Brian and I we definitely talk a lot throughout

900
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:51,279
Speaker 1: the day, and majority of that is FaceTime. I told

901
00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 1: Brian every single thing that I'm doing, and he does

902
00:50:53,560 --> 00:50:56,120
Speaker 1: the same for me. When I walk Copper in the morning,

903
00:50:56,120 --> 00:51:00,160
Speaker 1: I take Brian on those walks with me and he

904
00:51:00,200 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 1: does the same thing for me. We ask each other advice,

905
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 1: We encourage each other. You know, at night, maybe things

906
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:09,520
Speaker 1: get a little too hot for this podcast that I

907
00:51:09,560 --> 00:51:11,759
Speaker 1: can't talk about, but we're married, so you know we

908
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:13,799
Speaker 1: could do those things and talk about him and mom

909
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:16,319
Speaker 1: and dad can't get mad anymore. But it really is

910
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:20,880
Speaker 1: just about keeping an open line of communication and just

911
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 1: being very understanding of what the other one has going

912
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:27,240
Speaker 1: on and coming to an understanding and always being vocal

913
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 1: about that and being supportive for one another. It's not easy.

914
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:33,359
Speaker 1: It definitely takes work, but it's the place that we're

915
00:51:33,400 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 1: in right now. So thanks for asking. And we've got

916
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:40,319
Speaker 1: another one from Twitter. Amy from Twitter, ask do Rose

917
00:51:40,400 --> 00:51:43,520
Speaker 1: ceremonies really go all night? I noticed on an episode

918
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:46,319
Speaker 1: that when the contestants left the sun was up. How

919
00:51:46,440 --> 00:51:50,640
Speaker 1: is that possible? Well, Amy, It's definitely possible. And more

920
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 1: so for the first night. So yes, it's no secret

921
00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 1: that the first night is the longest night, and obviously

922
00:51:57,080 --> 00:51:59,680
Speaker 1: because you have the most contestants, and it's also the

923
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:02,799
Speaker 1: night that you make the most eliminations. And so I know,

924
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: for me personally, it was important for me to talk

925
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:08,160
Speaker 1: to every single person on that first night. So that

926
00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:11,799
Speaker 1: meant that it went into the next morning and the

927
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:15,719
Speaker 1: sun was up and it was bright and out there,

928
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:19,320
Speaker 1: you know, and you saw that in the interviews when

929
00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 1: those guys were going home and they were doing their

930
00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 1: elimination interviews. So yes, but I will say at the

931
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 1: same time, you are so excited, especially that first night,

932
00:52:28,800 --> 00:52:31,480
Speaker 1: because it's all new, You've never experienced this before. You're

933
00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 1: so excited to meet whoever the lead is. You're also

934
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 1: excited at making you know, these new friends and connections

935
00:52:36,960 --> 00:52:41,680
Speaker 1: within the mansion. And so it goes by really really fast.

936
00:52:42,160 --> 00:52:44,960
Speaker 1: And after that first night, there's no night that is

937
00:52:45,000 --> 00:52:46,919
Speaker 1: as long as that one. I will tell you that

938
00:52:47,440 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 1: sometimes they do go into the morning, but most of

939
00:52:49,200 --> 00:52:51,279
Speaker 1: the times they don't. They get shorter after that. So

940
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:54,800
Speaker 1: what you probably saw that episode was the first night episode.

941
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Speaker 1: It's also one of the best nights tune in next

942
00:52:57,680 --> 00:52:59,799
Speaker 1: week for all the right reasons. In the meantime, you

943
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:02,680
Speaker 1: can get all your latest Bachelor Nation news on Bachelor

944
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 1: nation dot com right now, and as always, thank you

945
00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:06,840
Speaker 1: guys so much for listening.