WEBVTT - Episode 2: “She Built Her Own Prison” 0:00:15.422 --> 0:00:29.702 Pushkin last time on Where's Dear? 0:00:30.662 --> 0:00:33.822 I could hear her phone and ringing upstairs that she 0:00:34.102 --> 0:00:35.982 was not anywhere in the house. 0:00:36.382 --> 0:00:38.742 Julie and I have spent hours and hours and hours 0:00:38.862 --> 0:00:41.222 going over every scenario that it could possibly be, and 0:00:41.542 --> 0:00:43.022 we came down to the same thing. 0:00:43.342 --> 0:00:46.142 She did not leave of her own a court. You know, obviously, 0:00:46.262 --> 0:00:50.262 when you're the last person, this always become the suspect. 0:00:54.862 --> 0:00:58.902 Two days after Dea disappeared, Keith Harper, the man who 0:00:58.942 --> 0:01:03.102 says he was DIA's fiance, drives to New Mexico, and 0:01:03.142 --> 0:01:07.102 within a week police in San Juan County obtain a 0:01:07.182 --> 0:01:11.022 warrant and search a lot dodge fenced in storage building 0:01:11.222 --> 0:01:17.782 belonging to Harper. The cops also search Harper's motor home 0:01:18.382 --> 0:01:20.662 on the grounds that it's linked to a missing person 0:01:21.142 --> 0:01:25.422 or possible homicide. They remove a section of the driver's 0:01:25.462 --> 0:01:30.862 seat and sees it as evidence. Several weeks later, Harper 0:01:30.942 --> 0:01:34.182 sues the police to get his RV back. He wins, 0:01:34.582 --> 0:01:36.902 and nothing else comes of it as far as I know. 0:01:38.502 --> 0:01:43.062 Harper eventually returns to the ranch where he and Diana Fedder, 0:01:43.222 --> 0:01:46.982 DEA's close friend from Idlewild, have a showdown with DEA's 0:01:46.982 --> 0:01:51.862 two kids, Clinton and Krossara. I talked to Clinton about 0:01:51.862 --> 0:01:55.142 what went down that day. He's this very tall guy 0:01:55.262 --> 0:01:58.542 with dark cropped hair, green eyes, and a bit of 0:01:58.542 --> 0:02:02.462 a nervous energy about him, although perhaps that's to be 0:02:02.502 --> 0:02:04.542 expected under the circumstances. 0:02:04.982 --> 0:02:08.622 I feel that I have to speak for my mother 0:02:09.142 --> 0:02:12.502 because I don't think anybody else really can. 0:02:15.942 --> 0:02:19.742 Around a month after DEA's disappearance, Clinton says that he 0:02:19.822 --> 0:02:22.982 and his sister drove up to Beneatha Vista Ranch with 0:02:23.062 --> 0:02:26.942 their attorney to take DEA's truck. They didn't want Harper 0:02:27.062 --> 0:02:30.582 having it. But that's when Diana stops them in their tracks. 0:02:31.062 --> 0:02:33.862 She hands them a piece of paper, a legal document 0:02:34.302 --> 0:02:36.022 that has Deer's signature on it. 0:02:36.822 --> 0:02:38.462 She handed us the power of attorney. 0:02:38.462 --> 0:02:41.862 And the power of attorney is shockingly broad if you 0:02:41.982 --> 0:02:45.502 read it. I mean it gives them total control over it, 0:02:45.542 --> 0:02:48.502 whether or not to sell or buy anything. I think 0:02:48.502 --> 0:02:51.662 it even says even while she's alive. 0:02:52.702 --> 0:02:57.022 In other words, DEA's children can't take the truck, and 0:02:57.062 --> 0:02:59.022 they also have to turn over their set of house 0:02:59.102 --> 0:03:02.982 keys to Diana and Harper, the keys to DEA's kingdom. 0:03:03.702 --> 0:03:06.422 DEA's children had only met Harper and Diana a few 0:03:06.422 --> 0:03:10.382 weeks before this encounter. Clinton told me he also had 0:03:10.462 --> 0:03:14.142 no idea that Harper was engaged to their mother. How 0:03:14.142 --> 0:03:14.862 did that feel? 0:03:16.742 --> 0:03:19.222 How did that feel? Yeah? 0:03:19.982 --> 0:03:24.502 Strange, I mean just weird that people I didn't know 0:03:24.582 --> 0:03:27.382 were in our family home that we spent millions of 0:03:27.382 --> 0:03:30.582 dollars building and exerted a lot of effort on designing. 0:03:31.142 --> 0:03:33.262 And I had gone up there ever since I was 0:03:33.262 --> 0:03:36.382 a little kid, and my mother always said, you know, 0:03:36.462 --> 0:03:39.822 she was building it for Grassara and I. And now suddenly, 0:03:40.422 --> 0:03:42.942 you know, other people who I suspect had murdered her 0:03:43.662 --> 0:03:44.462 are moving in. 0:03:45.302 --> 0:03:48.742 Clinton is suspicious of Harper and Diana right off the bat, 0:03:49.022 --> 0:03:51.422 even though he has no evidence that proves they had 0:03:51.502 --> 0:03:56.382 anything to do with DEA's disappearance. This confrontation sets up 0:03:56.422 --> 0:04:00.502 something that will continue to snowball for years, a power 0:04:00.542 --> 0:04:04.342 struggle that will become so big it will consume Clinton 0:04:04.422 --> 0:04:09.422 and Harper's lives. Clinton versus Harper battling it out over 0:04:09.542 --> 0:04:17.342 DEA's estate. The more I've learned about DEA's life, the 0:04:17.342 --> 0:04:20.702 more I've wondered, how did someone who had a family 0:04:21.022 --> 0:04:25.222 and friends and a supposed fiancee end up with all 0:04:25.262 --> 0:04:28.862 these people fighting over her estate. How did this glamorous 0:04:28.902 --> 0:04:32.662 blonde go from living in her mountain paradise in a 0:04:32.702 --> 0:04:38.382 town called Idlewild to completely disappearing. It's been hard to 0:04:38.502 --> 0:04:41.822 understand Dea. I've had to craft a picture of her 0:04:42.342 --> 0:04:45.382 through the people she left behind, even if I'm not 0:04:45.462 --> 0:04:47.862 quite sure I can totally believe what they're telling me. 0:04:48.622 --> 0:04:50.102 It can be a bit of a mind fuck, to 0:04:50.182 --> 0:04:53.542 be honest, it feels like I'm looking at Dea through 0:04:53.542 --> 0:04:58.262 a prism or a warped pair of glasses that distort everything. 0:05:01.062 --> 0:05:04.182 But in this episode, I'm going to tell you about 0:05:04.262 --> 0:05:07.062 how Dea ended up on a huge ranch in the 0:05:07.102 --> 0:05:11.022 mountains at odds with her family living with a man 0:05:11.262 --> 0:05:17.462 who says they were secretly engaged. I'm Lucy Sheriff, and 0:05:17.502 --> 0:05:22.822 this is Where's Dea? Episode two? She built her own prison. 0:05:33.422 --> 0:05:36.462 It took me a while to track Peggy ken Schlow down, 0:05:36.782 --> 0:05:41.262 DEA's younger sister, but I did and eventually met her 0:05:41.382 --> 0:05:46.062 at her studio apartment in the San Diego suburbs. Right away, 0:05:46.342 --> 0:05:49.262 Peggy seemed like the key to unlocking who Dea used 0:05:49.302 --> 0:05:52.622 to be before she got caught up with the idlewild crowd. 0:05:58.142 --> 0:06:00.982 She called me piggy Puff, and I called her I 0:06:01.022 --> 0:06:03.662 think my mom told me I couldn't say Lydia, so 0:06:03.742 --> 0:06:06.022 I called her Gia, and that's how she got Dia. 0:06:06.982 --> 0:06:09.542 Peggy told me that she and Dea grew up with 0:06:09.582 --> 0:06:12.302 their older brother Jim, in a nice house with an 0:06:12.342 --> 0:06:15.142 avocado orchard on a patch of land in La Mesa, 0:06:15.862 --> 0:06:20.142 a small inland community east of San Diego. Even though 0:06:20.182 --> 0:06:23.142 Dea was the middle child, she was the one given 0:06:23.182 --> 0:06:23.942 special treatment. 0:06:24.542 --> 0:06:27.302 I remember my dad bought us all pentos, the cars, 0:06:28.022 --> 0:06:30.742 and my brother and I got these like stripped down pinhos, 0:06:30.782 --> 0:06:34.542 but Dia got a two toned Pinto that had like 0:06:35.062 --> 0:06:38.662 fur like carpet in it. And she even had a radio, 0:06:38.982 --> 0:06:41.022 and so she kind of got, you know, she got 0:06:41.022 --> 0:06:42.142 the perks for being. 0:06:41.982 --> 0:06:42.582 A middle child. 0:06:42.822 --> 0:06:45.102 And she always said, I'm the middle child. I'm gonna 0:06:45.142 --> 0:06:47.502 meat in the sandwich, that's situitious. 0:06:48.022 --> 0:06:52.942 The family had chickens and dogs, and Dia loved her animals. 0:06:53.422 --> 0:06:57.862 Peggy remembers one intense moment in particular that happened after 0:06:57.942 --> 0:06:58.942 DIA's dog died. 0:06:59.462 --> 0:07:02.102 She had a dog one time named Coco that got 0:07:02.182 --> 0:07:04.142 kipped by a truck and she went up there and 0:07:04.342 --> 0:07:07.342 scraped up its blood and stuff and second and baggy, 0:07:07.422 --> 0:07:09.822 and we'll never forget it was a weird that she 0:07:10.102 --> 0:07:11.022 loved her annals. 0:07:12.302 --> 0:07:17.382 Along the way, something changed. Dea became interested in makeup 0:07:17.462 --> 0:07:20.942 and fashion and fancy things. In getting out of Le 0:07:21.102 --> 0:07:24.102 Masa and leaving that version of Dea behind. 0:07:24.782 --> 0:07:29.742 She was funny, she was hilarious. But didn't she get 0:07:29.822 --> 0:07:35.262 this money thing where it was everything everything to her 0:07:35.542 --> 0:07:38.782 and it just created a monster. 0:07:39.742 --> 0:07:44.382 Peggy is honest about her older sister, unflinchingly honest, to 0:07:44.422 --> 0:07:47.222 the point where I felt almost uncomfortable talking this way 0:07:47.342 --> 0:07:49.702 about a woman who's not here to speak for herself. 0:07:50.342 --> 0:07:53.062 You know, she enjoyed money, she wanted more. 0:07:54.342 --> 0:07:58.222 Enter clem Abrams, a much older real estate developer who 0:07:58.262 --> 0:08:01.102 was from the wealthy enclave of La Joya, San Diego. 0:08:02.062 --> 0:08:04.982 Dea found him in a listing of Who's Who, basically 0:08:04.982 --> 0:08:07.622 this old school way of dating where young single ladies 0:08:07.622 --> 0:08:09.582 could find local eligible backs. 0:08:10.782 --> 0:08:13.622 We snagged him. D and I did this together back 0:08:13.662 --> 0:08:15.702 in Jim's old bedroom. I'll never forget doing this. 0:08:16.342 --> 0:08:17.102 It's called Who's Who. 0:08:17.142 --> 0:08:19.342 I'm San Diego and I called and I would like 0:08:19.422 --> 0:08:21.422 flirt with him, and then I'd give the phone to her. 0:08:21.662 --> 0:08:23.902 She would flirt with him and it was hilarious. 0:08:24.142 --> 0:08:28.262 And then they met. Clem was old money. Dea had 0:08:28.302 --> 0:08:29.062 struck gold. 0:08:29.822 --> 0:08:33.382 Everybody loved Clem. Clem was really down to earth. Comb 0:08:33.462 --> 0:08:37.662 used to drive around an old El Camino. No last, no, no, 0:08:38.182 --> 0:08:39.022 you didn't have here. 0:08:39.142 --> 0:08:42.582 They have to be. In nineteen eighty four, Deer got 0:08:42.622 --> 0:08:45.942 pregnant with Clinton, and so Clem and Dea, who was 0:08:45.982 --> 0:08:48.742 four months pregnant, tied the knot in front of a 0:08:48.862 --> 0:08:53.262 hundred guests with a reception at SeaWorld, although not before 0:08:53.302 --> 0:08:58.422 signing a prenup on Clem's insistence. Deer became this socialite 0:08:58.462 --> 0:09:01.422 in San Diego, and her siblings saw her less and 0:09:01.542 --> 0:09:05.102 less until one day Peggy and her brother Jim told 0:09:05.142 --> 0:09:08.622 me she just cut them out, the only ties she 0:09:08.662 --> 0:09:10.942 had left to that life in La Mesa. 0:09:11.582 --> 0:09:16.102 I think what she felt put off by us. We 0:09:16.382 --> 0:09:19.822 liked simple things. She wanted grand things. 0:09:19.742 --> 0:09:22.262 And she had her own family by that point, Clem, 0:09:22.422 --> 0:09:26.982 the husband, and their two children, Clinton and Chrissara. Clinton 0:09:27.022 --> 0:09:29.022 says he was incredibly close to his mum. 0:09:29.742 --> 0:09:32.062 Oh I was a child we were best friends. We 0:09:32.142 --> 0:09:35.622 would go shopping all the time. She loved the shop, 0:09:35.862 --> 0:09:38.142 and she'd take me with her and I'd help her 0:09:38.142 --> 0:09:41.182 pick out clothes and such, and she thought I had 0:09:41.182 --> 0:09:45.182 a good fashion sense for a male. 0:09:46.422 --> 0:09:50.142 When Clinton was around thirteen, Dea lef La Joya. I 0:09:50.222 --> 0:09:54.902 moved to Idlewild to her Benita Vista ranch without Clem, 0:09:55.422 --> 0:10:00.142 though he still supported her financially, and over time cracks 0:10:00.182 --> 0:10:03.422 began to show in Clinton and DEA's relationship. 0:10:04.702 --> 0:10:08.342 It just wasn't a day to day interaction really, and 0:10:08.422 --> 0:10:12.182 so it was, you know, more sporadic. I talked to 0:10:12.182 --> 0:10:14.142 her every couple of weeks or see here, you know, 0:10:14.222 --> 0:10:17.702 every month or two months or so, that kind of thing. 0:10:18.622 --> 0:10:21.622 According to her friends, Dea felt the kids didn't make 0:10:21.662 --> 0:10:24.742 an effort to see her, although Clinton says that wasn't 0:10:24.782 --> 0:10:29.782 the case. Regardless, Clinton and DEA's relationship did come under 0:10:29.782 --> 0:10:32.742 strain when Clem's health began deteriorating. 0:10:33.542 --> 0:10:38.382 I didn't feel like she shared the same degree of concern. 0:10:39.502 --> 0:10:42.862 At the time, I thought everybody was being callous because 0:10:42.862 --> 0:10:45.102 I was so sensitive to him dying. 0:10:47.302 --> 0:10:51.582 Clinton also started to take over Clem's businesses, including the 0:10:51.702 --> 0:10:55.542 upkeep of Deer's properties in Idlewild, and he and Dea 0:10:55.702 --> 0:10:59.462 disagreed over how to manage them. Clinton is a real 0:10:59.542 --> 0:11:03.582 estate guy. He loves land, he loves property. He prides 0:11:03.622 --> 0:11:07.302 himself on having good business sense, and he was pushing 0:11:07.342 --> 0:11:09.542 Dear to get rid of one of her proper tees. 0:11:10.702 --> 0:11:13.822 It wasn't really a point of contention, but the interest 0:11:13.862 --> 0:11:17.782 rate on it was just horrific, and nobody living there. 0:11:17.822 --> 0:11:19.542 It was a large monthly nut to cover. 0:11:20.662 --> 0:11:23.462 I asked Clinton's sister Krisara, to do an interview too 0:11:23.862 --> 0:11:26.782 several times, but I didn't hear back from her or 0:11:26.822 --> 0:11:29.542 her lawyer, so I can't tell you much more about 0:11:29.542 --> 0:11:35.022 their relationship. Still, Clinton says that disagreements were never that serious, 0:11:35.342 --> 0:11:37.742 and it was his mother who started pulling away, not 0:11:37.902 --> 0:11:40.822 him or his sister, and he doesn't know why. 0:11:41.462 --> 0:11:43.982 From the outside looking in, she had the perfect life. 0:11:44.222 --> 0:11:47.782 I mean, the best husband. I mean, my dad was 0:11:47.862 --> 0:11:51.302 just so gentle and giving, gave her everything she ever wanted. 0:11:51.902 --> 0:11:55.862 You know, she had multiple properties, horses, all the jewelry 0:11:55.862 --> 0:11:56.862 that she could ever want. 0:11:57.262 --> 0:12:00.502 You know, she went antiquing, she traveled the world. 0:12:02.542 --> 0:12:06.662 I don't know, I can't explain it, but she did 0:12:06.902 --> 0:12:10.942 have a tendency to kind of create her own misery 0:12:11.062 --> 0:12:14.142 in a certain certain way. 0:12:14.902 --> 0:12:18.582 But if DEA's life was that perfect, why did she 0:12:18.662 --> 0:12:22.462 leave everything behind and moved to this remote mountain ranch. 0:12:23.462 --> 0:12:26.702 Maybe her life looked perfect on the outside, but she 0:12:26.862 --> 0:12:33.542 must have had her reasons for leaving Lahoya. Dea seemingly 0:12:33.622 --> 0:12:36.862 had everything that she'd wanted as a child. She lived 0:12:36.862 --> 0:12:40.222 in the glamorous seaside town, so beautiful that it's known 0:12:40.302 --> 0:12:43.702 as San Diego's Jewel by the Sea, but she turned 0:12:43.702 --> 0:12:47.062 her back on it for the craggy San Jacinto Mountains. 0:12:48.222 --> 0:12:52.102 Clinton says she literally locked herself away from the world. 0:12:52.742 --> 0:12:55.502 I would call her paranoid because I always told her that. 0:12:55.582 --> 0:12:58.342 I said, you know, you came out here and we 0:12:58.422 --> 0:13:01.582 built this beautiful mansion, and it's all of all of 0:13:01.582 --> 0:13:05.582 these valuables, because she would have doors that locked from 0:13:05.662 --> 0:13:07.382 the inside, so you had to have a key to 0:13:07.422 --> 0:13:10.822 get out of the house. And so I would always 0:13:10.902 --> 0:13:14.142 kind of say, you know, you have all these guns, 0:13:14.182 --> 0:13:18.582 and it's kind of like you built yourself a little 0:13:18.622 --> 0:13:23.342 bit of your own prison, like you're guarding, you know, 0:13:23.382 --> 0:13:25.462 all these treasures up here in the mountains. 0:13:26.582 --> 0:13:30.582 When I pieced together everyone's different versions of events. I 0:13:30.582 --> 0:13:34.902 can see a pattern of estrangement, Dia distancing herself from 0:13:34.942 --> 0:13:38.222 those closest to her and where her family was moving 0:13:38.262 --> 0:13:43.702 out of the picture. These other characters, her Idol, Wild Crew, Diana, 0:13:44.222 --> 0:13:49.222 and eventually Harper started moving in. That's after the break. 0:14:24.422 --> 0:14:27.982 In October of twenty sixteen, when Dea was sixty two 0:14:28.062 --> 0:14:31.822 years old, something happened that I think shows just how 0:14:31.902 --> 0:14:37.222 isolated she felt. Dea needed major back surgery because she 0:14:37.262 --> 0:14:40.022 suffered from lower back pain after falling off a horse 0:14:40.222 --> 0:14:44.342 years ago. On the day of the procedure, Chrissara went 0:14:44.382 --> 0:14:49.102 with her mother to Script's Memorial Hospital in La Joia. 0:14:52.822 --> 0:14:57.222 Not only was the surgery intense, Dia struggled during her recovery. 0:14:58.142 --> 0:15:02.742 The doctor's notes described Dea as crying, continuously lying on 0:15:02.782 --> 0:15:06.222 her side and sobbing, and saying her pain was an 0:15:06.262 --> 0:15:10.742 eighteen out of ten. The doctor recomoned seeing a psychologist 0:15:10.902 --> 0:15:14.822 for depression. I've looked through the thousand plus pages of 0:15:14.862 --> 0:15:18.462 Deer's medical records from that surgery and reading them was 0:15:18.502 --> 0:15:23.302 pretty heartbreaking, the doctor wrote in his notes. Quote discuss 0:15:23.422 --> 0:15:27.782 discharge plans and having adequate emotional support for her she says, 0:15:27.982 --> 0:15:32.862 everybody in her family is too busy. I really feel 0:15:32.942 --> 0:15:36.422 for Dear here, this woman who is in her sixties 0:15:36.662 --> 0:15:40.582 with a family, feels that she is completely utterly alone 0:15:40.622 --> 0:15:44.502 in the world. And it's also this precious moment where 0:15:44.502 --> 0:15:47.542 I feel I can almost hear Dea in her own words. 0:15:49.062 --> 0:15:52.022 Then there was this other thing that Deer says happened. 0:15:52.742 --> 0:15:56.342 Oh wait, I should make that clear. Harper says that 0:15:56.382 --> 0:16:02.542 Dear says happened. I know, it's confusing. Sometime after Dear 0:16:02.622 --> 0:16:05.622 got out of surgery, Harper says, Dear told him this 0:16:05.742 --> 0:16:09.502 story about Clinton coming to visit her in the hospital. 0:16:10.102 --> 0:16:13.342 And she talked about how she was thirsty, and she 0:16:13.462 --> 0:16:20.022 asked if he could get her something to drink. And 0:16:20.102 --> 0:16:22.342 she said, you know, I was coming out of them, 0:16:23.382 --> 0:16:27.102 of the drugs that they had given me, And she said, 0:16:27.182 --> 0:16:30.062 you know, I was a little disoriented for a while, 0:16:30.182 --> 0:16:32.582 but she said, you know, after I took the drink 0:16:32.662 --> 0:16:36.062 and he gave me, I flipped into a very deep 0:16:36.182 --> 0:16:39.382 coma and I was in that koma for nearly two 0:16:39.462 --> 0:16:41.902 and a half days so far. He came out and 0:16:42.062 --> 0:16:45.342 nearly died. They thought that they were going to lose 0:16:45.382 --> 0:16:49.182 me and she said, I honestly believe that he administered 0:16:49.262 --> 0:16:54.662 me some form drug that was intended to take my life. 0:16:57.262 --> 0:17:00.422 Wow. And did she tell anybody else about that? 0:17:01.422 --> 0:17:02.982 Oh? She told the doctor. 0:17:04.622 --> 0:17:07.422 There was nothing in the medical records about this accusation, 0:17:08.262 --> 0:17:12.302 but there was this note in her chart. Found her 0:17:12.462 --> 0:17:17.142 unresponsive to name and stimuli, unable to wake up, called 0:17:17.422 --> 0:17:21.182 nine one one, and sent to ED for further evaluation. 0:17:22.542 --> 0:17:25.182 I had no luck tracking down dear's doctor to find 0:17:25.182 --> 0:17:28.182 out more. I did ask Diana about the story, though. 0:17:29.422 --> 0:17:31.982 Was she concerned that Clinton may have tried to poison 0:17:32.022 --> 0:17:33.302 her while she was in hospital? 0:17:34.182 --> 0:17:38.742 She was adamant that he did well, that he slipped 0:17:38.742 --> 0:17:41.942 her something while she was there. 0:17:43.182 --> 0:17:47.702 Of course I asked Clinton about this too, What is 0:17:47.702 --> 0:17:51.142 your response to these accusations that you tried to poison 0:17:51.502 --> 0:17:53.422 your mother when she was in hospital? 0:17:53.862 --> 0:17:56.542 Just totally silly and not even worthy of. 0:17:56.502 --> 0:18:01.302 A sad Clinton also disagreed with what Dea had told 0:18:01.302 --> 0:18:04.382 her doctor, that everyone in her family was too busy 0:18:04.422 --> 0:18:04.702 for her. 0:18:05.382 --> 0:18:10.222 I think, unfortunately, she could be mellow, dramane. I don't 0:18:10.262 --> 0:18:13.142 doubt that the doctor made the assessment that she was 0:18:14.382 --> 0:18:18.262 depressed or sad, because I do feel that she had 0:18:18.302 --> 0:18:20.182 some sort of mood disorder. 0:18:20.422 --> 0:18:20.942 But no. 0:18:21.262 --> 0:18:23.342 Both my sister and I am my father visit her 0:18:23.542 --> 0:18:26.742 in the hospital multiple times, and we were always more 0:18:26.782 --> 0:18:28.022 than willing to take care of her. 0:18:28.062 --> 0:18:30.702 She seldom reached out. 0:18:30.902 --> 0:18:33.542 I mean, she never asked me for help, or I 0:18:33.542 --> 0:18:35.542 would have been happy to help her. 0:18:36.182 --> 0:18:40.102 Regardless of what actually happened, the surgery seemed to be 0:18:40.222 --> 0:18:45.342 a significant turning point in Dea and Clinton's relationship. Whether 0:18:45.382 --> 0:18:48.142 she was growing apart from her kids or not, she 0:18:48.262 --> 0:18:55.622 felt like she was. Dea was in a long period 0:18:55.662 --> 0:18:59.302 of recovery from surgery for about two months after being discharged. 0:19:00.142 --> 0:19:03.742 During that time, according to court records, she created her 0:19:03.822 --> 0:19:08.342 own trust, separate from her husband's. In it, she put 0:19:08.382 --> 0:19:13.142 all of her anti Peak's guns, jewelry, and property, including 0:19:13.302 --> 0:19:19.062 the Bonita Vista ranch. Deer was the sole trustee, she 0:19:19.142 --> 0:19:24.382 was in charge, she had control. In the trust agreement, 0:19:24.862 --> 0:19:29.422 she had her attorney include this line trust her leaves 0:19:29.542 --> 0:19:34.702 nothing but her love and affection to her son, Clinton Abrams. 0:19:37.022 --> 0:19:40.502 In the event of Deer's death, Chris Sarah would become 0:19:40.582 --> 0:19:45.942 trustee of the entire estate and inherit everything and that 0:19:46.022 --> 0:19:49.742 might have been the end of it, except Dea wasn't 0:19:49.782 --> 0:19:55.462 finished making changes to her trust more after the break, 0:20:15.542 --> 0:20:18.662 although Dia and Clam were still legally married, they lived 0:20:18.702 --> 0:20:22.782 their separate lives, and, according to Julie Stanford, Dea had 0:20:22.822 --> 0:20:24.142 an active love life. 0:20:24.782 --> 0:20:26.822 She liked cowboys that type. 0:20:27.502 --> 0:20:31.422 Uh, they're mostly pretty boys, you know, and they were useless. 0:20:32.382 --> 0:20:35.902 Julie is the third slice to the Dear Diana Julie Pie, 0:20:36.702 --> 0:20:39.942 this tight knit trio who'd been such good friends before 0:20:39.982 --> 0:20:44.102 Dia disappeared. Julie and Dea had known each other for years. 0:20:44.662 --> 0:20:46.782 Basically, when I needed rescuing, she helped me. When she 0:20:46.822 --> 0:20:49.982 didn't rescue me, that helped her, you know, that kind 0:20:49.982 --> 0:20:51.542 of thing, that kind of good friendship. 0:20:52.262 --> 0:20:55.502 Dea confided her love troubles to Julie. She didn't have 0:20:55.582 --> 0:20:57.582 a lot of luck when it came to finding the 0:20:57.702 --> 0:20:58.182 right guy. 0:20:58.782 --> 0:21:02.502 She would dig guys that were online. And I told her, 0:21:02.622 --> 0:21:05.622 I said, Dia, you did these guys. I said, don't 0:21:05.702 --> 0:21:06.542 bring them here. 0:21:08.022 --> 0:21:08.222 You know. 0:21:08.302 --> 0:21:10.662 It's like, don't show these people you met online what 0:21:10.782 --> 0:21:11.142 you have. 0:21:12.302 --> 0:21:16.302 But that's exactly what Dea did. According to Harper, they 0:21:16.342 --> 0:21:19.342 met some time in the spring of twenty sixteen on 0:21:19.422 --> 0:21:26.102 a dating site called farmers only. Harper told me about 0:21:26.142 --> 0:21:28.782 the first time they met face to face. He had 0:21:28.862 --> 0:21:32.902 flown from Colorado to California after months of talking to 0:21:32.942 --> 0:21:33.742 Dea online. 0:21:34.062 --> 0:21:37.902 She picked me up at the airport. She had Ruby 0:21:38.222 --> 0:21:41.502 in the back, her dog, and I looked at her 0:21:41.502 --> 0:21:44.542 and she had hey in her and I said, boy, 0:21:44.622 --> 0:21:47.622 you are kentry girl, aren't you? And she said, why 0:21:47.662 --> 0:21:49.862 do you ask that? And I you got hey in 0:21:49.902 --> 0:21:53.422 your hair and she laughed and said really, he said, 0:21:53.422 --> 0:21:55.982 I fed the animals before I come, but I thought 0:21:56.062 --> 0:21:56.942 I'd brushed my hair. 0:21:58.102 --> 0:22:03.502 Harper says they spent four blissful days together horseback riding, hiking, 0:22:04.262 --> 0:22:08.102 and then the adventure was over. Harper flew back home 0:22:08.182 --> 0:22:12.102 to Colorado, but they kept in touch, and then he 0:22:12.182 --> 0:22:16.342 decided to come back for another visit, and then another 0:22:17.142 --> 0:22:21.062 until the end of twenty sixteen, a couple of months 0:22:21.102 --> 0:22:24.622 after Deer's surgery. He says he just moved in for good. 0:22:28.062 --> 0:22:31.542 You know, the ranch was pretty overgrow when I first 0:22:31.542 --> 0:22:34.422 came in. You could hardly leave the cabin. But we 0:22:34.542 --> 0:22:38.622 started behinding the place up because you know, her camp 0:22:38.742 --> 0:22:42.862 was to use it as they airbnb, and it just 0:22:42.942 --> 0:22:44.662 needed to work before it done. 0:22:45.662 --> 0:22:48.942 Julie disputes the timeline when Harper moved in, saying it 0:22:48.982 --> 0:22:53.582 was more like twenty eighteen. Regardless, when Julie finally met Harper, 0:22:53.982 --> 0:22:58.942 she approved. Harper owns land and businesses in Arizona, New Mexico, 0:22:59.142 --> 0:23:02.542 and Colorado. He's a soul of the earth kind of guy. 0:23:03.262 --> 0:23:06.382 I like the pretty boys Deer usually went for. He 0:23:06.422 --> 0:23:07.582 gets his hands dirty. 0:23:08.062 --> 0:23:10.022 Harper he had a do thing, do you care things 0:23:10.062 --> 0:23:13.262 work around the match, and that was something she needed 0:23:13.382 --> 0:23:15.102 and someone to kind of lean on. 0:23:16.622 --> 0:23:20.302 She was lonely, and that still that's void. 0:23:24.902 --> 0:23:28.382 Harper and Deer had something else in common too. They 0:23:28.422 --> 0:23:32.822 both loved money. There was one occasion when Julie and 0:23:32.862 --> 0:23:37.582 Deer were showing Harper around Julie's place back then. Julie 0:23:37.622 --> 0:23:40.782 lived in a trailer on a beautiful property that used 0:23:40.782 --> 0:23:41.782 to be a cattle runch. 0:23:42.662 --> 0:23:44.502 We were so on Harper the place, and we took 0:23:44.542 --> 0:23:47.662 them down the road and looked, and he just saw 0:23:47.742 --> 0:23:50.462 dollar signs. He said, well, this splace ought to be developed, 0:23:50.982 --> 0:23:54.622 you know. So you know, he had the thing about money, money, 0:23:54.662 --> 0:23:55.582 money all the time. 0:23:58.062 --> 0:24:00.942 There's this stretch of time where I don't really know 0:24:01.022 --> 0:24:01.622 what's going on. 0:24:01.702 --> 0:24:02.502 Up there at the ranch. 0:24:03.502 --> 0:24:06.622 Harper says that after he moved in, they just lived 0:24:06.622 --> 0:24:10.502 their lives, traveling around the American Worth managing the ranch. 0:24:12.382 --> 0:24:20.022 But then something happened that caused a domino effect of events. 0:24:20.702 --> 0:24:22.622 DEA's husband, Clem died. 0:24:23.582 --> 0:24:28.382 She died on December well, two thousand eight, keen, and 0:24:28.462 --> 0:24:33.342 she said to me, you know, it's Independence Day. It's 0:24:33.382 --> 0:24:36.262 the first day that I actually feel free. 0:24:36.942 --> 0:24:42.142 On that very same day, on DEA's Independence Day, she 0:24:42.222 --> 0:24:45.542 went back to that trust she created after her surgery, 0:24:45.982 --> 0:24:49.462 and she revisited the part that left her entire estate 0:24:49.622 --> 0:24:56.702 to her daughter. I've seen this document. I've seen how 0:24:56.782 --> 0:25:01.062 over the name Chrissara Abrams. Dea scribbled four or five 0:25:01.182 --> 0:25:06.462 lines in black ink. She wrote, denied, dated it twelve twelve, 0:25:06.542 --> 0:25:09.622 twenty eighteen, and added her initials. 0:25:09.222 --> 0:25:09.782 D A. 0:25:11.262 --> 0:25:15.062 Few pages later next to that line, which said quote 0:25:15.422 --> 0:25:17.942 trust her leaves nothing but her love and affection to 0:25:17.982 --> 0:25:22.742 her son Clinton Abrams. Dia added in her own handwriting 0:25:23.582 --> 0:25:28.062 and daughter Krissara Abrams. So at this point in time, 0:25:28.502 --> 0:25:32.062 if Dea were to suddenly drop dead, her children would 0:25:32.102 --> 0:25:39.982 get nothing. All these changes to DEA's trust reflect in 0:25:40.062 --> 0:25:45.822 real time changes she wanted, unlike Will's Trust impact your 0:25:45.822 --> 0:25:49.662 life immediately because they dictate how your assets are managed. 0:25:52.422 --> 0:25:56.502 In that same crazy month, December of twenty eighteen, as 0:25:56.542 --> 0:26:00.102 if enough hadn't happened already, Harper says he proposed to 0:26:00.142 --> 0:26:03.742 dea up on a hill overlooking the ranch, on a 0:26:03.822 --> 0:26:04.542 rock formation. 0:26:05.302 --> 0:26:08.502 It was up to the butterfly rock. It's up by 0:26:08.502 --> 0:26:12.982 the waterfl we would get married. The idea was that 0:26:12.982 --> 0:26:16.742 it would be in Jackson, Oul, Wyoming, being. 0:26:17.702 --> 0:26:21.022 There's a little church there. That's where we have identified it. 0:26:22.142 --> 0:26:25.542 He says he gave her a gold engagement ring, but 0:26:25.662 --> 0:26:29.902 Dian never told anyone they were engaged, at least nobody 0:26:29.942 --> 0:26:34.022 I've spoken with, and Harper claims as a reason for that, 0:26:34.542 --> 0:26:37.582