Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.
Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is to make a first decision. If you're
Speaker 1: feeling stuck ruminating on lots of interconnected choices, this one
Speaker 1: step can help you escape from spinning your wheels. We've
Speaker 1: all been in the position where we have lots of
Speaker 1: decisions to make, but we can't seem to get anywhere
Speaker 1: because the options all depend on each other. I know
Speaker 1: so many college seniors feel this way heading into spring.
Speaker 1: They need to make decisions about what jobs or advanced
Speaker 1: degrees to pursue, where to live, how to navigate romantic relationships,
Speaker 1: But much like navigating a maze, each decision is influenced
Speaker 1: by the outcomes of all the others. A lot of
Speaker 1: expectant parents feel overwhelmed by interconnected choices too. Do we
Speaker 1: move to shorten our commute so we have more time
Speaker 1: with the baby, but housing is more expensive closer to
Speaker 1: our job, so then we'd wind up in a smaller place.
Speaker 1: And then what do we do if we decide to
Speaker 1: have a second baby and need more room. This can
Speaker 1: happen on much more mundane skills too, We've all had
Speaker 1: dining companions who get absorb navigating the menu to make
Speaker 1: sure that they love their choices of appetizer, entree, and
Speaker 1: wine and that they all fit together. Sadly, analysis paralysis
Speaker 1: can ensue. So how do you get unstuck? Well, to
Speaker 1: be sure, you can outline what choices you need to
Speaker 1: make and gather information on factors influencing your decisions about
Speaker 1: each you can set aside time to journal or to
Speaker 1: talk with a sympathetic friend. If you're making the decision
Speaker 1: with someone else, you can set aside plenty of time
Speaker 1: for mutual reflection. But then eventually it's time to make
Speaker 1: the first decision, and indeed, i'd suggest simply committing to
Speaker 1: do that. Make a first decision, take one chunk of
Speaker 1: your decision tree that you feel strongly about, go with that,
Speaker 1: and then let the other pieces fall into place. There
Speaker 1: are never perfect choices, but deliberating too long can cut
Speaker 1: off choices and sometimes means decisions are made for us.
Speaker 1: And while choosing by not choosing can be a choice,
Speaker 1: you want to make sure you're making that choice on purpose.
Speaker 1: So maybe our college senior prioritizes going to the top
Speaker 1: law school she gets into she decides she'll figure out
Speaker 1: her housing situation and whether to attempt a long distance
Speaker 1: relationship after that. Maybe a family navigating a dual job
Speaker 1: search decides that once one partner gets a great job offer,
Speaker 1: they'll put their house on the market, and the other
Speaker 1: partner will start looking for jobs only in the area
Speaker 1: where the first partner got their offer. Your dinner companion
Speaker 1: could decide that he knows he'll enjoy the salmon, and
Speaker 1: he builds the rest of his menu around that. Oftentimes,
Speaker 1: once we've made that first decision, other decisions seem a
Speaker 1: lot easier, and this saves time and energy. I'm certainly
Speaker 1: trying to remind myself of this upside. Long time listeners
Speaker 1: may remember the whole saga of my housing situation as
Speaker 1: I try to figure out the best option for my
Speaker 1: growing family. We welcomed our fifth child in late December,
Speaker 1: and while the little guy is small now, he won't
Speaker 1: be small forever, and so we've been weighing our options.
Speaker 1: We've considered moving to a new house, finishing the basement
Speaker 1: or the attic in our current house to add bedrooms,
Speaker 1: or just squeezing kids into existing bedrooms and kicking the
Speaker 1: question down the road, We went to several open houses
Speaker 1: and spent some time imagining different scenarios. Each option seemed
Speaker 1: to bring with it a host of new questions related
Speaker 1: to cost, timing, and logistics. If we renovate, can we
Speaker 1: live with the hassle of a renovation plus the newborn?
Speaker 1: If we buy a bigger house, it would require some
Speaker 1: fixing too, and so we'd probably keep living in our
Speaker 1: current one for a while. But how long would we
Speaker 1: be willing to be at two house family? When would
Speaker 1: we need to put our existing house on the market.
Speaker 1: Should we meet with builders about doing a new construction project? Eventually, though,
Speaker 1: we just made a first decision, we decided to have
Speaker 1: plans drawn up for renovating our current house. With plans
Speaker 1: in hand, we can decide whether or not that's the
Speaker 1: way to go. In the meantime, the kids are sharing rooms.
Speaker 1: With the first decision made, there's a reasonable amount of peace,
Speaker 1: well as much peace as there can be in a
Speaker 1: household with five children, including a newborn. Have you experienced
Speaker 1: analysis paralysis when faced with lots of interconnected decisions? How
Speaker 1: did you get unstuck? You can let me know at
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Speaker 1: This is Laura. Thanks for listening and here's to making
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