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Speaker 1: All right, buckle up, hold on tight. We got it

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Speaker 1: for you. Here it is subjects, and she got the ring.

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Speaker 1: She's changed everything. Here's Stephen Shirley, my girl. And I

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Speaker 1: dated for six years, and I proposed to her a

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Speaker 1: year ago on her birthday. Since I gave her the ring,

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Speaker 1: her behavior has really changed, and she's been acting like

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Speaker 1: we're already married. Like married couples. We don't have sex

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Speaker 1: nearly as often we used as we used to, and

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Speaker 1: now she comes to bed in unflattering pajamas or one

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Speaker 1: of my big T shirts. Before we got engaged, she

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Speaker 1: used to cook dinner for me or make sure we

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Speaker 1: Now whenever we go out, she complains about everything from

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Speaker 1: the traffic to the service at the restaurant. I have

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Speaker 1: had many discussions with her about the changes that I've

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Speaker 1: seen in her. She said that we'll be together the

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Speaker 1: rest of our lives, so I need to be sure

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Speaker 1: I can deal with it. We are only having sex

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Speaker 1: once or twice a week, which is a big change

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Speaker 1: for us. It's like she was on her best behavior

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Speaker 1: just to get the ring. I am a handsome, athletic

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Speaker 1: man and I'm sure, I won't have any problem starting over.

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Speaker 1: I shouldn't be thinking this way while I'm engaged. This

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Speaker 1: is the love of my life and I fulfill her

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Speaker 1: needs in every way, but she's not fulfilling mine. I

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Speaker 1: need to make a decision about our future before we

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Speaker 1: continue making wedding plans. Is it too late to call

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Speaker 1: it off? Please give me your honest advice. Wow, well,

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Speaker 1: it's never too late for anything. You should know that.

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Speaker 1: You should also know that whatever you're getting or not

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Speaker 1: getting right now. Uh, you know, it's gonna be the

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Speaker 1: same when you get married. Okay, Yeah, it's gonna be

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Speaker 1: the same as what you're getting now or what you're

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Speaker 1: not getting now when you're married. I'm really surprised that

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Speaker 1: she's changed so drastically so soon, though, I mean, which

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Speaker 1: means that's who she really is. Okay, she just got

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Speaker 1: a ring a year ago. I'm also surprised that in

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Speaker 1: the six years that you guys dated, you didn't see

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Speaker 1: in any of this before. Uh. This is a classic

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Speaker 1: case of now that I've gotten the man and the ring,

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Speaker 1: you know you can let yourself go. But that's not

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Speaker 1: the case. Okay, we can't do that. Once we get

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Speaker 1: a man in our lives. We got to step it

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Speaker 1: up even more. I mean, please, don't do this, Um,

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Speaker 1: the same thing you did to get him. That's what

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Speaker 1: you have to do to keep him. I'm sure you've

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Speaker 1: heard that before. UM you said you've talked to her

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Speaker 1: and you guys have had many discussions in Her response

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Speaker 1: your lives. So you need to be sure that you

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Speaker 1: can deal with this, which says she's not planning unchanging.

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Speaker 1: This is what it is. Uh, she kept it together

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Speaker 1: for six seven years. Now, this is what it is. Okay. Uh,

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Speaker 1: not a good sign. Not a good sign. Uh, you

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Speaker 1: pool with this one getting married taking ours with her

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Speaker 1: because she doesn't sound like she wants to change, she

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Speaker 1: has any desire to change, or she's going to change. Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: well is it Let's just start at the bottom of

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Speaker 1: this letter. Is it too late to call it off?

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Speaker 1: Hell no, Hell no, it ain't too late, and just

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Speaker 1: just based on this letter without any other information, which

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Speaker 1: right here, if all this is true, and you have

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Speaker 1: So let's just talk about this for a second. First

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Speaker 1: of all, her behavior has changed, and you know why

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Speaker 1: I think you changed because she did what she had

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Speaker 1: to do to get the ring. Mm hmm. Now she

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Speaker 1: got the ring. She thought she issued what Shirley told

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Speaker 1: you was the ultimate warning. We're gonna be together the

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Speaker 1: if you could deal with it or not. Well, if

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Speaker 1: fit to make to start dealing with it. She's not

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Speaker 1: we got a problem, then, partner, we got a real

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Speaker 1: problem here. Y'all having sex twice a week? Y'all young,

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Speaker 1: that's bothering you. I'm cool with that. Twice a week? Nice, good,

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Speaker 1: You're not getting no more. She said, We're gonna be

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Speaker 1: how I'm will be. Shirley also made another excellent point

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Speaker 1: Let me help you understand what Shirley meant by that.

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Speaker 1: If it ain't good now, it ain't gonna get good.

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Speaker 1: If it ain't good now, it ain't gonna get good

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Speaker 1: on that one. Okay, Yeah, I ain't gonna get good.

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Speaker 1: Don't get better. If it ain't good, No, it ain't

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Speaker 1: gonna get good. Keep saying said like said, ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: get good. Hey, listen, hold that thought, Steve, we have

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Speaker 1: more and I ain't gonna get good. We have more.

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Speaker 1: From Steve's perspect of his part two of his responses, well,

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Speaker 1: the recap is simple. Dating this woman six seven years. Uh.

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Speaker 1: She finally he gave a ring on her birthday. And

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Speaker 1: after that everything has changed. She talked different, she complained

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Speaker 1: now and for y'all, that's a big change. And she

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Speaker 1: telling you that you know, y'all gonna be together the

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Speaker 1: rest of your life. So if you if you can't

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Speaker 1: deal with it. You need to figure that out. You

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Speaker 1: ask us, is it too late to cancel w and plans?

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Speaker 1: They don't know, he don't know, my dumb mass mhm,

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Speaker 1: excuse me? No, you so you got a woman that

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Speaker 1: of your life. So deal with it now, bro, you

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Speaker 1: say she ain't fulfilling your needs? Like I said, if

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Speaker 1: it ain't good now, it ain't gonna get good. Now.

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Speaker 1: Are they together? Is their relationship like that? Because a

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Speaker 1: lot of times I've noticed a lot of people emulate

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Speaker 1: the big one. There's the way she's treating you now.

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Speaker 1: Could be paid back for you making her way six

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Speaker 1: damn years on this ring. See, they do that sometimes too,

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Speaker 1: so you couldn't look at it like that. Now these

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Speaker 1: help you with something. They're gonna get worse whatever she's

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Speaker 1: coming to bed in. Now, get ready. You're fin to

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Speaker 1: get that house coat, uh, with them lip balls all

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Speaker 1: over it. You're fend to get them house shoes that

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Speaker 1: used to be fluffy, Now they're matted down with chicken

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Speaker 1: and fishing in my house. Yeah, and then yeah, and

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Speaker 1: then let me tell you this head, then that. Then

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Speaker 1: big nasty. Hey man, I don't not a proponent of divorce,

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Speaker 1: but I ain't a proponent of going and staying in hell.

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Speaker 1: The plaque that sits on my death says, if you're

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Speaker 1: going through hell, keep going, m go through. So if

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Speaker 1: Old school? I'm telling yeah. But the winter I talk

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Speaker 1: was through found your bound I said, brother, if you

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Speaker 1: Oh you just keep on using me. You used me?

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Speaker 1: Huh man, that was great. That was great, said juniors,

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Speaker 1: looking like I don't remember Joda. Jodason never spoke this

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Speaker 1: was us. He did that. That would have never got

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Speaker 1: So you know, I don't know what to tell you.

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Speaker 1: bron Yeah, that's as you can, because it surely said it.

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Speaker 1: you damn it times I've heard that, But from now?

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Speaker 1: What did the boxes say from earlier? Derek? I've never

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