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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I almost famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: HII everybody, It's Trista and I'm jumping in here for

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Speaker 2: an almost famous podcast. I'm so excited because I love

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Speaker 2: our guest today. She's a fan favorite, of course, and

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Speaker 2: she's one of my favorites too, Daisy Kent soon to

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Speaker 2: be soon to be Daisy? What what were you? Will

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Speaker 2: you change your last name?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? What will it be here?

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Speaker 2: How are you beautiful? It's so good to see you.

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Speaker 3: I am so good. It's so good to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: I've missed you.

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Speaker 2: I know I miss you too. So if you guys

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Speaker 2: don't know this, I'm sure you do because you are

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Speaker 2: almost famous fans. And all of our almost famous fans

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Speaker 2: know all about our like spinoff podcast, and Daisy has

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Speaker 2: one of those. It's called Dirty Rush. How are you

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Speaker 2: are you loving the podcast? Are you loving doing it?

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Speaker 3: I am loving it. It's so much fun and it's

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Speaker 3: crazy hearing all of the stories. We just recorded one

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Speaker 3: where it was like completely anonymous, so we didn't even

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Speaker 3: talk to the people that are going to be on it.

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Speaker 3: So I'm excited to hear that because they wanted to

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Speaker 3: keep it like very anonymous. So it's interesting because everyone

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Speaker 3: on it is usually anonymous, and so they're saying all

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Speaker 3: this like very like all these things that in a

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Speaker 3: sorority you're like not supposed to talk about. So it's

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Speaker 3: been really cool.

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Speaker 2: Oh you see, I want to listen. Yes, I know

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Speaker 2: I've talked about We've talked about me being on it.

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Speaker 2: I did talk to Jen Fessler I don't know last

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Speaker 2: week and love her so much. Fun. You and Gia

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Speaker 2: and Jen are such a good trio. It makes me jealous,

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Speaker 2: Like I'm like, why didn't you guys ask me to

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Speaker 2: do it? I want to do it.

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Speaker 3: We'll have to have you on.

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Speaker 2: Well, you know, and Blakesley will be graduating high school

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Speaker 2: next year.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, is she going to be in a sorority?

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't know, that's what I mean. So if

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Speaker 2: you're if you're still doing the podcast, which you will be,

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Speaker 2: I will definitely be having lots of feels and feelings

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Speaker 2: and thoughts about the sorority rush process.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, yeah, I will.

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Speaker 2: I will. Okay. So Ben and Ashley recently read some

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Speaker 2: of their journals from their time in the mansion, and

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Speaker 2: this episode will be you and I reading from our journals.

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Speaker 2: Which is so funny. I don't. I know, I have

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Speaker 2: multiple journals, but I only I only looked for one

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Speaker 2: of them. It was this one. It is it was

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Speaker 2: actually what we gave guests at our wedding. So it's

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Speaker 2: a little picture of Brian and I and it says

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Speaker 2: dream on it.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: It's it's pink, of course, and it was like I

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Speaker 2: was like, oh, I love a journal. So we gave

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Speaker 2: everybody journals. Everyone else probably threw them away, but I

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Speaker 2: of course kept mine.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that. That's so cute. What a great idea.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know who doesn't love a journal? So

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Speaker 2: have one or multiple? What was your journal experience like

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Speaker 3: I just have my one, and it's like, comeful, amazing.

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Speaker 2: I mean that's what you want from a journal, right,

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Speaker 2: like they're actually this one. Well I do have more,

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Speaker 2: but there is another. I have another one of these.

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Speaker 2: I had a bunch left over that I kept stuff

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Speaker 2: I'm like it's all blank, you know, so filling up

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Speaker 2: your entire entire journal is very well done, girl, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I was like, because I feel like when you're on

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Speaker 3: like the friend or like the girls that you make

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Speaker 2: And honestly, it's therapeutic for me. Like that's why I

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Speaker 3: To read your book.

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Speaker 2: Oh thanks. It's about gratitude and and one of the

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Speaker 3: But you know, I feel like it makes you like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I totally agree. I agree. Okay, do you want

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Speaker 2: I can go first, Okay, go for it. So Daisy

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Speaker 3: I thought it'd be fun to read the first journal

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Speaker 3: always wondering, like what's it like like when you first

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Speaker 3: and like what I was thinking. Okay, So this was

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Speaker 3: It's also crazy because I've never met this person before

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Speaker 3: it's day two tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: And wow.

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Speaker 3: Also, picking out outfits is really hard without all your friends.

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Speaker 3: I'm figuring out good night. I guess I'll let you

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Speaker 2: That's so cute. Oh my god, it's so true because

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Speaker 2: I feel like you. I mean, even if you've watched

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Speaker 2: basically they're like, Okay, here's the phone, Okay, say goodbye. Okay,

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Speaker 3: Honestly, it's like I just think about I had such

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Speaker 2: What would you say to her now that that younger Daisy,

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Speaker 3: Chance, I would tell her to feel everything. I think

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Speaker 2: Totally feel everything, because you can only get better by

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Speaker 3: So anyway, that's so special. Well you can have you

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