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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Stephan.

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Speaker 1: I never told you proprection.

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Speaker 2: I heard you, and we are here with another happy

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Speaker 2: hour just as a precaution. As you typically know, we're

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Speaker 2: not being sponsored by anything. If we were to mention

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Speaker 2: a specific company or a product, we're not necessarily being

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Speaker 2: sponsored by them. Who knows things can change in the future.

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Speaker 2: But you know, just to heads up a b we

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Speaker 2: are in a happy hour segment. So yes, oftentimes we

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Speaker 2: do partake in adult beverages, and if you happen to

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Speaker 2: be partaking with us, then we would say do it responsibly,

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Speaker 2: take care of yourself and make sure you follow what.

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Speaker 1: You need to follow.

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Speaker 2: So do what you need to meaning be careful with

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Speaker 2: a very serious face. Right right, that's the nanny and me. Annie,

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Speaker 2: are you partaking of things?

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Speaker 1: I am? You kind of made like a mold wine situation.

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Speaker 1: I'm so cold, you can hear it.

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Speaker 1: It's not but I see a lot of water before this, though.

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Speaker 1: I think the water chilled me.

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Speaker 2: I was cold today too. I haven't used my heat

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Speaker 2: like it in a minute, and all of a sudden,

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Speaker 2: I'm like I need it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've got like, my get up is very funny.

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Speaker 1: It's very comical. I kind of wish you could see

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Speaker 1: it listeners, but I am. I've got a whole thing going.

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Speaker 2: Like I'm looking at you and I see is do

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And then I've got like very warm, fuzzy pants.

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Speaker 1: And then there's like fancy warm shoes. I call them

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Speaker 2: Hey, that's fancy, and you'd be fancy if you want

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Speaker 2: to be, that's right. I am being very, very very unproductive.

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Speaker 2: So because I'm unproductive, I'm like, I shouldn't be drinking

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Speaker 2: So I am sticking with my diet drink and don't

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Speaker 2: Leave me alone anyway. But yes, it's caffeinated, so that's

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Speaker 2: what I need in my life. Today I had actually

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Speaker 2: which is not typical for me. I only drink one

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Speaker 2: think you can already tell by this episode where we're going,

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Speaker 2: and it's all out of whack. But essentially, what I

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Speaker 2: and today's February first, twenty twenty four, everybody, just in

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Speaker 2: one extra day. However, for some odd reason, January just

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Speaker 1: She took some I feel like this is like what

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Speaker 1: It was Christmas.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I had to, like I had to hang

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