1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,680 Speaker 1: Hello, Steve, Shirley, Tommy, and Carla. I am a twenty 2 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:06,400 Speaker 1: three year old college student living with my uncle in 3 00:00:06,519 --> 00:00:10,040 Speaker 1: South Carolina. He's providing for my room and board while 4 00:00:10,119 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: I attend school, and I really appreciate him. I love 5 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:17,960 Speaker 1: my uncle dearly, but he is simply crazy and neat help. 6 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 1: When I say crazy, I don't mean that literally. It's 7 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: just that his thinking and mindset is a little warped 8 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 1: and he needs some assistance in getting in touch with reality. 9 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: Or maybe I just need your help Steve and cracking 10 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: his code so that I can better understand where I fit. 11 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: My uncle is forty four years old, very professional executive 12 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: and grandfather of two. Is a very knowledgeable He's very 13 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: knowledgeable when it comes to his job. When it comes 14 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: to his thinking and personal life, it is a mess. 15 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: For instance, he wants to date my girlfriends and other 16 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:51,000 Speaker 1: women who are either my age or old enough to 17 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 1: be his daughter. It hurts me because I overhear them 18 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: say things like with his money, girl, he'd be a 19 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 1: good sugar daddy, or how they would sleep with him 20 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 1: just so that he could take care of their needs 21 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:05,200 Speaker 1: like hair, nails, clothes, etcetera. Kids and provide other monetary support. 22 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: My cousin, his son, and I are also the same age, 23 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:10,040 Speaker 1: and he tries to put you up on the female 24 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 1: friends of my cousin's girlfriends as well. It has really 25 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: become embarrassing for the both of us. So I don't 26 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: know if my uncle is asking to be used because 27 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: when he meets a woman or see someone he is 28 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 1: interested in. Uh. He always asked me how old do 29 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: you think she is? For fear that she's over thirty. 30 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: He doesn't necessarily want any more kids, but always claims 31 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:31,680 Speaker 1: he wants to settle down at my age. Not many 32 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 1: of us are looking to be a grandma, especially being 33 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: a stepmother to someone our own age. If you meet 34 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:41,039 Speaker 1: someone your age that loves you for you, why does 35 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: it matter how old they are. He never seems to 36 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:46,400 Speaker 1: be interested in women around his age or women with substance. 37 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: He only seems to be attracted to needy young women 38 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: or who cheats. He looks to them for love, but 39 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: they only keep using and hurting him because he believes 40 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: he is still a player at forty four. He believes 41 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: that it is okay to cheat and relationships and uses 42 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: the excuse a well, that's just the way I am, 43 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:07,600 Speaker 1: and uh it has always been that way. He has 44 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 1: been hurt so many times and has hurt others too. 45 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: I am frustrated trying to convince him to grow up 46 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 1: and uh, he um not taking me seriously. So Stephen Shirley, 47 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: please please can you help me out here. It hurts 48 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: me to see him getting hurt, and it aggravates me 49 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 1: to live with him, expecting to come home and chill 50 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: with an uncle because I miss being home with my dad, 51 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 1: but instead he wants to hang out with me and 52 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 1: my friend. Please help me to understand. Many thanks to 53 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:39,239 Speaker 1: you guys. I love your show and love you all boy. 54 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: You know we don't have a lot of time. But 55 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: you know, afforty four year old man, still trying to 56 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 1: be a player. He's a grandfather. Turn in your player card. 57 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 1: You are supposed to be an example to these young people, okay, 58 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: to your niece and your son. You really really are. 59 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 1: And uh, you know some people simply refuse to grow up. 60 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: They don't want to act their age. So I know, Steve, 61 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 1: you can crack the code. We run out of time. 62 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: We'll be back already, we'll be back. But right now, Steve, 63 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:14,679 Speaker 1: let's get to your response to your part to response 64 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: to today's Strawberry letter. I can't read this whole letter 65 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: clases too long. Let's some the letter up. In this paragraph, 66 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: she wrote, my uncle is forty four years old, a 67 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:30,360 Speaker 1: very professional executive and grandfather of two. He is a 68 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:33,640 Speaker 1: very knowledgeable. He's very knowledgeable when it comes to his job, 69 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: but when it comes to his thinking and personal life, 70 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: it is a mess. That's what this letter is about. 71 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 1: This letter is about a farty for your old man 72 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:50,440 Speaker 1: that only wants to date women his niece's age and 73 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 1: wants to hang out with the niece and their friends 74 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 1: when they come by. Let me help you understand something, 75 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: young girl that wrote this ladder in want the cold 76 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: crack of the crack of cold. You have heard this before, 77 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: and now you live with him. Ain't no fool like 78 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 1: an old fool. Let's start there. You're living with an 79 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 1: old fool. Now, this man got it together professionally, he 80 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 1: is mature. He knows how to do his job. He 81 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: gives our good advice. But here here's his problem. He 82 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 1: has never mentally matured, mentally socially matured. See that a 83 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: lot of men that could do their job, but when 84 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 1: it comes to their home like they've never mentally socially matured. 85 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: So what your uncle can't do is he don't know 86 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:48,480 Speaker 1: how to have an equal adult relationship with another equal. 87 00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: He don't know how to have this relationship. So to 88 00:04:51,360 --> 00:04:55,599 Speaker 1: feed his male ego and his lack of wisdom and 89 00:04:55,680 --> 00:05:00,520 Speaker 1: understanding socially, he gets these young girls. Why does an 90 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:04,520 Speaker 1: older man wan't a young girl? Why? Because well, he 91 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: gets to take his male ego and be dominating. Get 92 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,920 Speaker 1: to show your things you ain't seen before. Teach your 93 00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:15,040 Speaker 1: things you don't know nothing, talk about stuff you ain't 94 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 1: hearing for. Have you always gonna wow? I never thought 95 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 1: of that. I never knew that. But your uncle, it's 96 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 1: taking it a step further. He want to hang out 97 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: with your friends. Now you're upset because you hear the 98 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 1: girls talking about him. You you hear stuff like they say, 99 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:34,920 Speaker 1: you know, with his money, girl, he'd be a good 100 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: sugar daddy. Let's focus on the term sugar dad. What's 101 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 1: a man is forty? I'm gonna teach you something now, 102 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 1: fellas in case you don't know, once you are forty, 103 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: you are in sugar daddy Raine. Hello, Hello, see, let 104 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: me help you understand. It's just some things me and 105 00:05:57,560 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 1: can't do at a certain ames, Like if you're over 106 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: thirty and your corn row in your hair, you have 107 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 1: to stop if you're over thirty, so you can horn 108 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 1: row your hand your twenties, but once you're thirty, you 109 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: have to stop corn rolling your hair. I don't care 110 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: how convenient it is, how cool it is you look. 111 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: You know you can't cut your initials in your head 112 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 1: once you over twenty five. Thank you, everybody to know 113 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: your name by now. Once you are farty, you are 114 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 1: a sugar daddy. You're in sugar daddy tearritory. See, fellas, 115 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:33,479 Speaker 1: listen to me. You've always had to pay for things 116 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:36,480 Speaker 1: your whole life. Let's admit this. When you have a 117 00:06:36,480 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 1: relationship with the woman, you have to pay to be 118 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 1: in that relationship. You have to buy some dinners. You 119 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:42,599 Speaker 1: got to wind it down to eventually get where you want, 120 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 1: You're gonna have to pay for it. But see when 121 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 1: you farty, foe and you're trying to get somebody twenty one, 122 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:55,719 Speaker 1: twenty four, twenty years your junior, your sugar daddy, and 123 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: at that point, listen to me. The girl in college, 124 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: every college do that I know need something of course. Now, 125 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 1: if you're in the picture, guess who they're gonna get 126 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: it from you. You can call yourself dating them if 127 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 1: you won't to, but you're actually daddy in them. You're 128 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: not dating. It starts with a D and the second 129 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: letter is like a. But you're not there, your daddy. 130 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: You keep saying the eating, but you're daddy them and 131 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:29,000 Speaker 1: they know you to Sugar Daddy because they already know 132 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: we ain't going nowhere. As soon as I get this car, 133 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: I'm gonna drop this old food. That's why your uncle 134 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 1: keep getting hurt. But your uncle keep going back in 135 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: for more. Because he keeps going back time and time again. 136 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 1: They can't hurt him enough because guess what, he ain't 137 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: out of money yet. What's gonna happen to him is 138 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:56,440 Speaker 1: Sugar Daddy gonna run up in the candy Girl. You 139 00:07:56,600 --> 00:08:00,040 Speaker 1: see Sugar Daddy gonna run in the candy girl. And 140 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:02,239 Speaker 1: and the girl is gonna be the girl that's gonna 141 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:05,559 Speaker 1: have it all like sugar Daddy won't. And candy Girl 142 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 1: is gonna start draining Sugar Daddy until he broke. He 143 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: gonna came down to the cash. She's gonna mention trip 144 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 1: he gonna take his job vacation at the same time 145 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 1: it's spring break, just to make a damn fool out 146 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 1: of here. He gonna he gonna wind up buying a 147 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:26,880 Speaker 1: me out a drop top. His fat behind came bally 148 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 1: squeeze down in the car. Now he riding in the 149 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: car next to the girl, letting her dry, got his 150 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:34,280 Speaker 1: knees all up under his throat, he queezing and about 151 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 1: to choke the death, trying to ride in this drop 152 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: top me out of to be sex. She's gonna take 153 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 1: him on trips, wind him down, She's gonna drain him dry. Then, 154 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: sugar Daddy, your stupid uncle, it's gonna realize I've been 155 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:49,920 Speaker 1: played all the way to the hill top. When really 156 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: he needs to get a woman his own age, a 157 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: grown woman that he can have a life with. But 158 00:08:54,880 --> 00:08:58,120 Speaker 1: the problem is, see, you can't boss no grown woman round. 159 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:01,840 Speaker 1: See you're gonna have to compromise with her. See what 160 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 1: a young girl. You ain't got to compromise, You just 161 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:08,319 Speaker 1: pay the play. See, I would be in the sugar 162 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 1: daddy range. Instead I had to support this family. But 163 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: I'm still kind of sugar daddy, you though, Sugar Daddy, 164 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:21,439 Speaker 1: I'm sugar daddy. Oh see, you want to be sugar daddy. Old, 165 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:23,640 Speaker 1: you put a little bit more on that. What you 166 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 1: don't want to be is sugar daddy. What starts once 167 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 1: you lick or sugar daddy down until they get close 168 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: to the stick, you don't recognize it as a sugar 169 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: daddy anymore. Just when you lick a sugar daddy, sugar 170 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:38,320 Speaker 1: daddy's come on a stick. Once you lick it down 171 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:41,080 Speaker 1: to it get close to the stick, it's just a sucker. 172 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: The code cracking the day more. Oh, Steve, you cold 173 00:09:51,240 --> 00:09:54,560 Speaker 1: crack and you hear me outn't said it all? All right? Steve? 174 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 1: You know we gotta get out of here. 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