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Speaker 1: It is time for ask the CLO Chief Love Officer,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey in the building with your love questions.

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Speaker 2: For your love questions.

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Speaker 1: Ronda in Denver writes, my parents have been married for

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Speaker 1: twenty seven years and my father moved out of the

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Speaker 1: house before Christmas and my mom had a big argument

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Speaker 1: and he wants to call it quits. They've argued all

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Speaker 1: of my life, so I can't imagine why he wants

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Speaker 1: to leave now. My mother is expecting a miracle, but

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Speaker 1: he is dead set against going back. How do I

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Speaker 1: break it to her nicely that her marriage is over?

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Speaker 3: He done moved out? Well what do you? What do you?

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Speaker 3: Why are you breaking it to her nicely? Listen to

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Speaker 3: what you said?

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Speaker 4: Your mother is praying for a miracle, Well listen to me.

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Speaker 3: Once you start praying for.

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Speaker 4: A miracle, you already know that's the situation you in.

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Speaker 4: Disimalten you it wants you looking for a miracle. So

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Speaker 4: your mama, No, you ain't gonna break this to her.

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Speaker 4: He tone moved out for Christmas.

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Speaker 3: He was skipped, missile told jingle bells, egg knocked fruitcake.

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Speaker 3: Damn that fruitcake. I don't want your package. I don't

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Speaker 3: want nothing.

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Speaker 4: Don't nobody like fruitcake, don't I don't. I don't know

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Speaker 4: nobody like frue cal? What is in green things that's

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Speaker 4: in it?

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Speaker 3: Ain't never? What is that green stuff to be in?

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Speaker 4: Who has it in him? This fruitcake in his can?

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Speaker 4: Put this back in his can? And Chris setting it

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Speaker 4: out on the table. I ain't never seen nobody cutting

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Speaker 4: fruitcake anyway. He didn't want none of that. Nothing so done.

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Speaker 4: He don't want your gift. He moved out foulk Christmas.

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Speaker 4: When a man moved out for Christmas, he moved into

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Speaker 4: a place. He ain't got no tree, he ain't got

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Speaker 4: no lights up. All he wanted to do was have peace.

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Speaker 4: You ain't got to break nothing to your mama. She

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Speaker 4: no here, your mama Jesus back before him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that. That's probably all right.

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Speaker 3: That's probably statement.

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Anonymous in Philly, Anonymous rites, I'm in

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Speaker 1: a long distance relationship with my girl.

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Speaker 2: Uh and my girl.

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Speaker 1: Visits me often besides because she flies free. She popped

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Speaker 1: up on me this past weekend and I wasn't home.

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Speaker 1: She didn't call me or say a word, but she

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Speaker 1: was sitting in my bed when I got home.

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Speaker 2: The next morning around seven a m.

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Speaker 1: I told her I passed out drunk at my friend's house,

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Speaker 1: but I had on short simphlip flops and it was

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Speaker 1: snowing here. She's not trying to hear my excuses. How

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Speaker 1: do I get out of this one?

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Speaker 2: Interesting?

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Speaker 4: Hey, dog, let me ask you a question. When you

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Speaker 4: came in a house is seven a m. With them

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Speaker 4: shots and them flip flops?

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Speaker 3: Where what's you coming from?

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Speaker 4: All I can say is now, when you said you

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Speaker 4: passed out at a friend's house, do you live in

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Speaker 4: an apartment? Get you downstairs? Upstairs?

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Speaker 3: Where was you at with these shots and these flip flops? Over?

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Speaker 3: Because that sounded like walking?

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Speaker 2: Need this one?

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Speaker 3: Well, hear what you do?

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Speaker 2: I want to hear it.

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Speaker 4: When you get in a situation like this, dog, listen

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Speaker 4: to me, the best defense is a good offense.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: The bigger question has to be why is you in

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Speaker 4: here in my bed at seven am?

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Speaker 3: Yes, this thing and you got to make that the issue.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Like give us some example. He wrote to you.

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Speaker 4: Like right now, this is days later. So what you

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Speaker 4: got to do is this right here? And you know what,

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Speaker 4: I've been thinking about this.

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Speaker 3: And you know what.

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Speaker 4: For a person to constantly disrespect my wishes and just

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Speaker 4: pop in on me without telling me. I just that

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Speaker 4: ain't what I'm really looking for, because it just makes

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Speaker 4: me think that there's some trust is trust issues that

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Speaker 4: you're having and the fact that I can't come and

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Speaker 4: go freely without having to feel like I constantly be

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Speaker 4: in checked. That's really not the type of relationship I

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Speaker 4: would look at. So I want to just step back

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Speaker 4: from this.

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Speaker 3: For a little bit. Come on, bar let you decide

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Speaker 3: do it.

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Speaker 4: You know how you want to move forward in our

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Speaker 4: relationship in terms of trust, because I trust you. You

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Speaker 4: come into my place and I trust you. But this

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Speaker 4: type of thing right here just breeks of distrust for

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Speaker 4: me and I've done nothing, nothing to deserve this type

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Speaker 4: come off trump.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, didn't she write the right person?

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Speaker 3: You better see here? If she come on, clo make

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Speaker 3: me proud.

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Speaker 4: No, that's I'm sorry, Automatic, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 3: That you got got to get this off.

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Speaker 1: That's why I came and how she get you a key.

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Speaker 4: And that's because I trust you, But you're using it

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Speaker 4: to surprise me. And now all of a sudden, it's

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Speaker 4: a lack of trust and the person that I showed

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Speaker 4: the ultimate display of trust there by giving you a key.

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Speaker 4: Now you popping up without saying, that's unbelievable to me.

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Speaker 3: I can't. I just can't see myself you disgusted? How

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Speaker 3: do you walk out the room and you broke up

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Speaker 3: with her?

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Speaker 4: Didn't you walk crying?

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Speaker 3: Don't you my eyes?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, emotions. You got hands on your face.

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Speaker 3: That's to walk out?

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Speaker 1: All right?

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, anonymous, you wrote to the right person. Take

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Speaker 2: that and run with it, all right.

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Kinetra in Charlotte, Kineti writes that I'm

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Speaker 1: thirty years old and I've been in an open relationship

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Speaker 1: for most of my adult life. My boyfriend and I

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Speaker 1: do not live together, so it's fine if I have

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Speaker 1: company or if he has friends over gets awkward, though,

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Speaker 1: if I have company and he wants to stick around

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Speaker 1: and watch us being intimate. I never do that to him.

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Speaker 1: So why is he being like this all of a sudden?

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Speaker 1: Is this jealousy?

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Speaker 2: Or what what.

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Speaker 3: Do you have? Y'all?

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Speaker 4: Ain't got nothing, he don't won't you? You in an

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Speaker 4: open relationship? You just didn't know it was? Why open?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Oh, there's openings.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, you had an open relationship. He will to

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Speaker 4: stick around and watch y'all. Ain't got nothing. Why is

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Speaker 4: he like this all of a sudden? Why is he

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Speaker 4: like what?

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Speaker 3: What do you have?

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Speaker 4: You have no barriers in your relationship. You have no rules, y'all,

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Speaker 4: just two people that see each other and can go

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Speaker 4: see who.

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Speaker 3: You want to see. What do you have?

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Speaker 2: Why?

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Speaker 4: Why is he like this? You like open relationships? Well

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Speaker 4: that's open it all the way. Let's get this thing open.

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Speaker 3: Whin open?

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Speaker 2: Why open open up?

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Speaker 3: This is Steve Harbin Martin show Man.

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Speaker 2: I don't like fake shouters at shirt.

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Speaker 4: I don't like people that's running laps around the church.

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Speaker 4: Then stop and say, excuse me, the spirit don't feel

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Speaker 4: a damn thing.

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Speaker 3: Hold. If you in the spirit running to that wall,

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Speaker 3: get everything God got f That's not how that works.

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Speaker 2: Hudge The Rock Morner

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Speaker 3: Steve Morning Show coming up right up there,