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Speaker 1: All right, This is from Tanisha and Steve HARVEYFM. Tanisha says,

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Speaker 1: my daughter is three years old and her father was Basically,

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Speaker 1: he's not been around since I was pregnant, leaving me

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Speaker 1: to handle everything on my own from the very beginning.

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Speaker 1: He will occasionally make video calls, but it feels like

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Speaker 1: it's more about posting screenshots on social media to look

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Speaker 1: like a good dad than actually connecting with her. He

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Speaker 1: doesn't help financially, doesn't check in on her needs, and

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Speaker 1: barely pays attention to her during those calls. Anyway. It

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Speaker 1: hurts to watch him get credit for being present when

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Speaker 1: I'm the one doing all the real work, and I

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Speaker 1: worry about what this means for her as she gets older.

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Speaker 1: Do I keep letting this go on for the sake

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Speaker 1: of her quote having a dad? Or should I set

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Speaker 1: boundaries now to protect her from disappointment later?

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Speaker 2: Wow, why don't you try to have a conversation with

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Speaker 2: the man and just inform him listen, you don't have

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Speaker 2: to have relationship with you. But I think it's really

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Speaker 2: important that you have a relationship with your daughter because

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Speaker 2: she needs to see an example of what a real

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Speaker 2: man's love can feel. Like and I want you to

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Speaker 2: be more present and more active as opposed to just

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Speaker 2: posting to give people the impression that you are a

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Speaker 2: great father and you make no financial contribution. Number one.

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Speaker 2: Number one. If that's his child, why is he not

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Speaker 2: making any financial contribution? That that's unacceptable.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's you know.

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Speaker 2: You don't you don't get to do that, man. You

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Speaker 2: don't get to make these babies and just walk off

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Speaker 2: with nothing. Now, if you're gonna be a trifling man

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Speaker 2: and you're gonna be a dad, you're gonna at least

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Speaker 2: get this check over here to this house.

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Speaker 1: Hello. That part regardless if you have a relationship with

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Speaker 1: the mom or not.

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Speaker 2: But you know, a man like that, it might even

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Speaker 2: be it might help if you him to pay child support,

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Speaker 2: take him a court, it might help because if he's

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Speaker 2: being trifling without making let's get some money coming out

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Speaker 2: of his pocket and that might change some things. I'm

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Speaker 2: sorry you're going through this, sister, but he putting it

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Speaker 2: on social media like he a good dad.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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Speaker 2: Come on, but don't, but don't don't talk down about

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Speaker 2: the father to the daughter. That serves no purpose.

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Speaker 1: It does not you're so right about.

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Speaker 2: That serves no purpose.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, we have time for another one. This

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Speaker 1: is LJ on Steve Harvey FM. LJ says, my girlfriend

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Speaker 1: and I have been together for about two years, and

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Speaker 1: overall it's been great, but she makes her living through

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Speaker 1: social media and has made it clear that she never

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Speaker 1: intends to make our relationship visible online. She says posting

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Speaker 1: about us could hurt her engagement and that people, especially men,

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Speaker 1: are less likely to interact if they know she's taken.

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Speaker 1: Because of that, she doesn't post about me, or if

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Speaker 1: I want to share a photo of us, I have

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Speaker 1: to run it by her first. I don't want to

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Speaker 1: control her or interfere with her job, but it makes

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Speaker 1: me feel like I'm being hidden or treated like something inconvenient.

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Speaker 1: I hope we might get married one day, but it's

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Speaker 1: hard to see how that's going to work. Am I

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Speaker 1: overthinking this? Or is it fair to want to be

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Speaker 1: acknowledged instead of feeling like a secret? Wow?

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Speaker 2: Well, normally this is something a woman would type, oh yeah, exactly,

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Speaker 2: but in this case it's being reversed, which is very

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Speaker 2: valid and real. You're very valid and real and feeling

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Speaker 2: what you feel it. Yeah, but now you're gonna marry

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Speaker 2: her when that's gonna happen though, And if she don't

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Speaker 2: want to post you as the boy for me, you

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Speaker 2: sure ain't f gonna get posted as the hook. Nope, Curlyn,

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Speaker 2: you a side piece, Thank you, thank you. You don't

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Speaker 2: know that. And see this engagement that she's concerned about

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Speaker 2: about the male view men, Yeah, yeah, See that's another

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Speaker 2: thing to be concerned about because she's more concerned about

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Speaker 2: their engagement with her on social media than your engagement

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Speaker 2: with her in real life. So that engagement with them

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Speaker 2: on social media probably will prohibit you from having an

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Speaker 2: engagement with her in real life. You are a side peace.

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Speaker 1: Great advice, Steve. Thank you. We'll have more of the

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