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Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, here we go. Am I the a

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Speaker 2: It's a good question.

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Speaker 1: This comes from quick Mood ten seventy seven, who says

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Speaker 1: I know is on Reddit, but still I don't want

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Speaker 1: this post on my man thirty eight female. I'm married

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Speaker 1: We are both married, except that I was a widow

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Speaker 1: and he was divorced. I was twenty one when I

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Speaker 1: my daughter was a few months old when she lost

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Speaker 1: her father. And for my husband and for my husband,

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Speaker 1: he was divorced when the kids were young. My husband

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Speaker 1: is an art professor and a sculptor. I met him

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Speaker 1: when he was an expat in my country contracted for

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Speaker 2: For a year when I met him.

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Speaker 1: I will have to skip a lot of details about

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Speaker 1: to read. Anyway, we got married nine years ago and

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Speaker 1: we have always been a happy family. We have always

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna get un whoa time to switch to switch.

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Speaker 3: It up up?

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Speaker 1: Okay, for some background regarding my family, I have two

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Speaker 1: me than an older sibling. When our father passed away,

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Speaker 1: he divided inheritance in form of company shares that he

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Speaker 1: took responsibility to run properties in cash. Despite my middle

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Speaker 1: brother and me being adults, we have always depended on

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Speaker 1: accountant that handles our affairs, and no expense has ever

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Speaker 1: been questioned, including all the expenses related to my step children.

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Speaker 1: My brother is very kind hearted man, but he believes

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Speaker 1: blood ties are more important than any other tie. He

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Speaker 1: importance of putting family above anything and anyone else. That

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Speaker 1: the kids grew up to be in like a mini

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Speaker 1: clan in terms of their loyalty to each other. My

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Speaker 1: brother discussed with me before that our family sponsorship commitment

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Speaker 1: to my step children ends with them graduating university. So

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Speaker 1: really quick, just to stop there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I need a TLDR.

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Speaker 2: Yes, So it's going on. Basically, OPI.

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Speaker 1: Is has this like family inheritance passed down to her

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Speaker 1: older brother. Yes, so our older brothers like running this company,

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Speaker 1: and there's like basically this big golden goose within the family,

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Speaker 1: Opie's blood family because the brother running it is like, Hey,

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Speaker 1: I want to I want to take care of you

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Speaker 1: and your family, but like keep it within the bloodline,

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Speaker 1: and I'm down for it to contribute to your children

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Speaker 1: and step children up until graduating university, once they graduate university.

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Speaker 1: I basically it's it's what I'm getting here, is I

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Speaker 1: want the once the inheritance like passes down. I wanted

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Speaker 1: to pass down to your blood children, not to your

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm getting out of this. Mmmm, That's what

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Speaker 2: I'm getting out of this.

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Speaker 3: I mean, he has a right to do it, but.

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Speaker 1: And it's it's a little bit confusing, but it seems

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Speaker 2: Weird is like, no, no, no, I'm.

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Speaker 3: Just wondering if if OP adopted a child, would he

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Speaker 3: maintain that same energy?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, which feels like because like you could say, like

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Speaker 1: let's say let's say Op he had like a a

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Speaker 1: then it's like, oh, is that stepchild gonna get or

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Speaker 1: like six months or is that stephot going to get

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Speaker 1: the same as the you know, biological children.

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Speaker 2: I think it's more fair yeah, in that case.

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Speaker 3: But if it's like a long term like I can

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Speaker 3: how old for these kids and how long have they been?

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Speaker 2: That's a great question. I think nine years. I believe

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Speaker 1: I also am like I think that Op has shares

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Speaker 2: That she has? Or is she or is she like deflecting?

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Speaker 2: Is she maye deflecting me?

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Speaker 1: Like, oh, well, the brother, you know, the brother likes

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so maybe it's not really an issue.

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Speaker 4: And I don't know, I don't know, you know what

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Speaker 4: I do know what we got to extra thirty minutes

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Speaker 4: because of Kristin fole hats thirty gifted membershipber wow wow.

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Speaker 1: Look at that back to back twenty and ten for

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Speaker 1: a total of thirty. Let's freaking let's go Kristin. Chris

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Speaker 1: Tinfoil hass Tinfoil has been going off lately, going crazy with.

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Speaker 2: The gifted numbers.

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Speaker 4: You get a membership, you get a membership, you get

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Speaker 3: Supra of memberships.

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Speaker 2: That is freaking right. So Christin foil hat, big salute

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Speaker 2: to you.

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Speaker 1: Excited for all the new little sillies coming in. By

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Speaker 1: the way, we said this earlier, but there's a little

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Speaker 1: something coming Monday.

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Speaker 3: It's coming saying can I see your arm, Sophie.

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Speaker 2: I won't tell them. They have to wait till my day.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, you do you want to tell you

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Speaker 3: I twisted See, I'm not gonna do it no matter,

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Speaker 3: no matter what you do.

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Speaker 2: I it's wait till Monday.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't matter if you twist his arm. It doesn't

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Speaker 3: matter if you play jazz music.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 3: When it's equivalent to Chinese water torture.

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Speaker 2: As we know, yeah, or Tokyo drift.

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Speaker 1: He loves us, Oh my gosh, and we played Tokyo

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Speaker 1: Drift this morning. I won't tell you till monday. I

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Speaker 1: want to tell you, so just wait. Just keep your

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Speaker 1: memberships for now. That's all I'm saying, Wait wait till monday.

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Speaker 1: But we don't have to wait to get into this

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Speaker 3: No, we don't.

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Speaker 1: Fast forward to when our predicaments started. My oldest stepchild

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Speaker 3: What it's like when I turned seventeen, I want my

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Speaker 2: Okay, well in the country.

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Speaker 1: Well, if we got some contact here. The turning seventeen

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Speaker 1: property is a tradition that's started by my father when

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Speaker 3: No, you don't get a car, you get a house.

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Speaker 3: You get a property that may or may not have

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Speaker 3: I would give my child a house.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, can we pull that? Uh, give the U. I'm

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Speaker 2: also of like, give the kid house enough.

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Speaker 3: This might be somewhat controversial to some people. I don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh I have a thousand like.

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Speaker 3: When they turn sixteen and to get their driver's license.

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Speaker 3: I'm not giving my child a new car.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's you can.

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Speaker 1: You can find a perfectly safe car that is not

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Why would I give a sixteen year old who doesn't

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Speaker 3: that they might damage it?

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Speaker 1: Get an old, safe, old clunker? Yeah, safe, safe, old Conker.

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Speaker 3: Safe costs. Also, I just don't I think like teaching

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Speaker 3: you know, be responsible, responsible with money.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, absolutely, you.

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Speaker 3: Don't need a brand new Tessie.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 1: So far, we got seventy percent of people saying over

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Speaker 3: Don't give the child a house. If you give a

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Speaker 2: You know, you know that classic saying.

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Speaker 3: Guys, that classic children's book.

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Speaker 1: I can't escape that classic saying, because it's so classic

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Speaker 1: in every classic right, so classic, But so is this story.

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Speaker 1: The turning seventeen property is a tradition that was started

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Speaker 1: when my father. Started by my father when we were

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Speaker 1: to study. My father pushed us to study abroad to

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Speaker 1: find independence from family care. Let me encourage your independence

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Speaker 1: by buying you a house and making you dependent on that.

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Speaker 2: There we go.

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Speaker 1: My own brother carried out the same tradition with his

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Speaker 1: and he had always given my daughter special treatment because

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Speaker 1: to remember this baby was is still biologically related to op.

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Speaker 2: And the uncle and everything.

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Speaker 1: I discussed with my husband our son's expectation of conceivn

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Speaker 1: an unreasonable expectation. He still feels very hurt that this

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Speaker 1: whole issue will create discrepancies in our family. He that

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Speaker 1: has never been there. I explained that getting the same

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Speaker 1: latest gadgets, trips and lifestyle is something different than getting

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Speaker 1: an inheritance. This, yeah, this is an interesting one. I

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Speaker 1: feel like it is a little a little tricky, you know,

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Speaker 1: house for university.

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Speaker 2: Our understanding right now is they receive this up until.

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Speaker 1: Then, up until graduating university, which is like even more

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Speaker 1: than graduating high school. My husband responded that if he

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Speaker 1: had the means, he would get properties for his kids

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Speaker 1: and still claim it was gifted from my side of

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Speaker 1: the family to avoid his kids feeling like they didn't

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Speaker 1: belong to my side of the family after all these years.

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Speaker 1: I could still fund those properties from my personal accounts

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Speaker 1: to keep the peace. But there is a possibility of

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Speaker 1: my brother finding out, and I know this will upset

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Speaker 1: him as we had a previous agreement.

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Speaker 3: Oh so op, he's saying I could take money out

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Speaker 3: of like what you were saying, Yes, I could you

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Speaker 3: know your brother's business, Like, yeah, sure, it's your stuff.

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Speaker 3: You had an agreement that he wouldn't take it out

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Speaker 1: But well, so it also seems like the brother, because

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Speaker 1: the brother controls the business.

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Speaker 2: The brother is the one so far.

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Speaker 1: That has purchased the houses I believe through like uh

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Speaker 3: I don't like the tradition inherently, but I think that

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Speaker 3: The Yeah, what's going on with the poutine?

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Speaker 2: Guys? I love what he says?

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Speaker 1: Uh oh okay, So thanks for a two buck tip

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Speaker 2: Choose my supper, guys, poutine or breadsticks?

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Speaker 2: I had poutine in Canada.

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Speaker 3: Why do you say Openheimer?

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Speaker 2: Sorry, Chewy? Is that you?

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Speaker 2: Whoa twenty one times?

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Speaker 3: Just a lot of times.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Jeweye, I love you if that's you, buddy,

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Speaker 3: What's a tricky one?

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Speaker 2: What were we saying? We already asked, should they receive

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Speaker 3: Oh? Oh, should Ope give or create another.

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Speaker 1: So we've already we've already asked if the like tradition

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Speaker 1: They get to keep it as a vacation home later

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Speaker 1: If you buy a kid a house at seventeen, they're

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Speaker 2: But ultimately it seems like one hundred percent.

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Speaker 2: I met him. Yeah, her current husband's life.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. Because they've been in this family for

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Speaker 1: Like, the more likely scenario is they'll be much older

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Speaker 3: This is in a world where they've been a family

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Speaker 1: Yes, Also, Sarah B I totally forgot about Hicken money.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, what a great what a great meme

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Speaker 2: I would split the hat.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, Honestly, here we go, this is what I personally

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Speaker 2: With the idea of inheritance personally at all. Really, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: have we not talked about this?

445
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Speaker 1: I think we have, but me and me and Sam

446
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 1: have talked about this more, and honestly I have. I

447
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:09,720
Speaker 1: have like grown definitely closer to inheritance since like having

448
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:13,640
Speaker 1: all the conversations and seeing all the stories on this show.

449
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Speaker 2: But I like, I don't want inheritance from my parents.

450
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Speaker 1: I don't know, and and also I'm assuming now it's now,

451
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 1: by the way, very different scenario. If you like, if

452
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Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, one hundred years old, eighty years

453
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Speaker 1: old and passing away with like adult children versus like

454
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Speaker 1: only like yeah if I yeah exactly, yeah exactly, I have.

455
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Speaker 2: Another twenty years on me and I'm ninety you know.

456
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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah.

457
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Speaker 1: But like like if I'm if I'm like passing away

458
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Speaker 1: and my children are young, of course I'm getting I'm

459
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Speaker 1: like giving everything to my to my children and wife.

460
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Speaker 1: But yeah, so that way they're like taken care of.

461
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Speaker 2: But I don't know like it it.

462
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Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like it's uh, I feel

463
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Speaker 1: like it's very contextual.

464
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Speaker 2: I feel like it.

465
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Speaker 1: Depends on the scenarios that the children are in.

466
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Speaker 3: A bit.

467
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, like like I'm going to like assume

468
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Speaker 1: that my children are going to grow up very well

469
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Speaker 1: taken care of financially, and so I don't know, what

470
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Speaker 1: do you guys think.

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Speaker 4: I think it is contextual because yeah, and I've said

472
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Speaker 4: this before, in certain parts of life, they will be

473
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Speaker 4: going through certain things. Bless them with gifts and be

474
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Speaker 4: like hey, I think you need this. You're about to

475
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Speaker 4: get married, here's some money for a honeymoon, or like hey,

476
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Speaker 4: I know that this one sibling did this for them,

477
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Speaker 4: and do this for you, And it might not be

478
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Speaker 4: as much or might be more. But I think it's

479
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Speaker 4: your money. You can do what you want just.

480
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Speaker 1: And it doesn't seem like you're gonna have favorites, you know.

481
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 1: That's yeah, that's favor Yeah. And let me also to

482
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Speaker 1: add some context. So, like one thing I've talked about

483
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Speaker 1: with my partner is like, let's let's say I have

484
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Speaker 1: a kid who's like, uh like super into like nonprofits

485
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:20,359
Speaker 1: or like loves sculpting ice or something. Actually, you probably

486
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Speaker 1: make a lot of money as ice culture. I'm trying

487
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Speaker 1: to like think of like a a a job in

488
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Speaker 1: life that is like they're passionate about, but they like

489
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Speaker 1: make less money. While I would encourage them to like, hey,

490
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Speaker 1: you know, do do what you love, try to possible career.

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Speaker 2: I that's fire.

492
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Speaker 1: I would I would uh like cover their health insurance

493
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Speaker 1: and like do a supplemental salary probably for their entire

494
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Speaker 1: life and.

495
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Speaker 2: Let them pursue.

496
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Speaker 1: And now now I I would still be like, hey,

497
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Speaker 1: try to still you know, earn what you can and stuff.

498
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Speaker 1: But if it's one of those things where you could

499
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Speaker 1: let's say like probably reasonably earn only like twenty or

500
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Speaker 1: thirty grand a year, I would probably at least match

501
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Speaker 1: that if I could, yeah, and let them like be

502
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Speaker 1: financially comfortable.

503
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Speaker 2: That's that's a scenario that I would.

504
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 3: Like investing in their Yeah, because.

505
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Speaker 1: I think that like people should be able to do

506
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Speaker 1: what is their passions. But and I'm also afraid of, like,

507
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 1: you know, just when people get a lot of money

508
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 1: out of nowhere, that can like throw a lot of

509
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 1: people for a loop. So yeah, I don't know, what

510
00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 1: do you think so fair? We've heard it from Riley.

511
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I think that is kind of a

512
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 3: good thought of yours. I think having that money set

513
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 3: aside in the case that they need it, but not

514
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 3: necessarily being like you're going to get this money. Yeah, Yeah,

515
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 3: I think I think as long as like I think,

516
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:02,120
Speaker 3: if you have the money, you can be like I'm

517
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:05,679
Speaker 3: going to help you hit for school, and you know,

518
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 3: if you ever need me you invest in something or

519
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,960
Speaker 3: if you ever need help with money financially, I will

520
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 3: be there to support you. But I'm not going to

521
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 3: give you like an exorbitant amount of inheritance.

522
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think there's like a lot of ways to do

524
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Speaker 1: it that I don't think are I think there's a

525
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 1: lot of right ways, yeah, to do it.

526
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Speaker 3: There was a there's this one old guy, Bill Gates,

527
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Speaker 3: Bill Gates, I don't think he was am I thinking

528
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:28,640
Speaker 3: it might.

529
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 2: Make me think of Warren Buffett.

530
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:33,399
Speaker 3: Warren Buffett. One of them didn't give their their kids

531
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Speaker 3: inheritance or something. Yeah, might be Warren Buffett.

532
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's just like going to charities and whatnot.

533
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, Warren Buffett.

534
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, which I think is like a pretty.

535
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:47,959
Speaker 1: Good That's what I'm saying is like, I think, I

536
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 1: like if they grow up under like, there's.

537
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 3: No way that they probably went to the best school

538
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 3: again that was paid for. You know, they had all

539
00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 3: these opportunities. There's no way that they're not set up.

540
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 1: Yes, like there's there's not enough opportunities to go and

541
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 1: be able to.

542
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 2: Get get after it, but get after it with.

543
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 1: Like a pretty a pretty big leg up and in

544
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 1: a good amount of privilege. So anyways, thanks for indulging

545
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 1: in that chat, guys. Good discussions. Also, we have some

546
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Speaker 1: donos I see Heidi Browning. Thanks fort a one buck

547
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 1: tip on the don't like the husband is giving vibes

548
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 1: of the husband who had an affair baby and the

549
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 1: baby mama died. He asked to tell the kids, Uh,

550
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: their half sibling was going to move in and did it.

551
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 1: Bless you, Oh goodness, thank you. This husband knew and

552
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 1: set his kids up for the expectation of getting the

553
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: money I'm trying to do you did you, guys? I'm

554
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm.

555
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 2: Fully wrapping my brain around that one. There was a.

556
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 1: The husband like saying that the husband was uh yeah,

557
00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit confused by that on it. Please

558
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 1: please explain more. I would love to respond to Thanks

559
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: pitch to General for the five buck tip on the

560
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 1: Dona link. Did someone say poutine? Uh, you came to

561
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 1: the right Canadian. To the right Canadian poutine is fries

562
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: with cheese, curds and gravy on top. It's like pizza

563
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 1: and you can add almost anything to it and change

564
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 1: it in any way you see fit. I recommend trying it,

565
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 1: but not the americanized version.

566
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 3: I am not a huge fan of gravy. I do

567
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:31,960
Speaker 3: you like fries?

568
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 2: So you're telling me you just hate Canadians?

569
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:36,080
Speaker 3: Yeah?

570
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:42,080
Speaker 1: Wow, it for you're first. That's like, that's like Canadians.

571
00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: What the American eagle is to America, poutine is to Canadians.

572
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 2: Remember that I thought pancakes syrup. Pancake syrup is big.

573
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 2: You know what?

574
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 1: You know what Pancake syrup is like the big pop hit,

575
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,800
Speaker 1: but like poutine. That's the Colt classic, the one the

576
00:30:57,840 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 1: real fans rock.

577
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 2: Oh you know what I'm saying?

578
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 4: What do they feel about kindness that I know?

579
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 3: I don't hate Canadians. I have a Canadian friend coming

580
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 3: in two weeks.

581
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 2: I love, I'm best friends.

582
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 3: I have a Canadian friend.

583
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 2: I'm clearly so the Canadian.

584
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:17,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't worry about it.

585
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 2: Come on now.

586
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 4: I had a season of life where it was every

587
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 4: new person was somehow related to Canada.

588
00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 2: It was weird. It was weird.

589
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 4: I don't know. It's gone now. I haven't seen a

590
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 4: Canadian since, but the solid year it was just, oh

591
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 4: I'm half Canadian. Oh I'm from Canada.

592
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 2: Oh I love. There's Riley's red flag era and his

593
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 2: Canadian flag era. Yeah yeah really really two different distinct eras,

594
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 2: but all flags.

595
00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 3: Angie Alis, thank you for the two buck tip. Someone

596
00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:45,360
Speaker 3: please make a worm scrunchy for our queen. That would

597
00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 3: be so cute, like a worm, like a It's like,

598
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 3: I want to break these because I feel like I'm

599
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 3: not gonna be able to do it. But imagine that

600
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 3: worm as a scrunchy.

601
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 4: Yes, make one for John two.

602
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:58,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, I was just about to say I would

603
00:31:58,240 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 2: wear one.

604
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 4: We're like an orange scrunch you for Oh Johnny boy, real.

605
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 3: I'm doing something. I'm doing something.

606
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 2: Oh uh oh what do we got? Tea?

607
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 1: John is one hundred percent right about what they're about

608
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 1: off Okay.

609
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:21,280
Speaker 2: Uh oh wow, that works perfectly, bro.

610
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 1: I need to get my braiding skills up. Yeah, I

611
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 1: need to watch a YouTube video.

612
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 2: I need to say that I learned.

613
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 3: French braided French. I just looked up had a French

614
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 3: braid on YouTube?

615
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 2: You know what. I looked up, had a French braid.

616
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:34,719
Speaker 3: Uh.

617
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 1: While I was like I need to be driving here

618
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 1: for a morning meeting, and instead I was watching it,

619
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 1: and I was like, I know, I can't do anything

620
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:43,160
Speaker 1: about this right now.

621
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I can do nothing. I can't do nothing nothing.

622
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 3: You're to start. It's gonna be hard. You're gonna be like,

623
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:49,959
Speaker 3: I can't do this, keep at it.

624
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:50,520
Speaker 2: That's true.

625
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 3: You know what I was terrible. I didn't learn until

626
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 3: my freshman year of college.

627
00:32:56,560 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 2: I didn't learn until freshman year. I think if I

628
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 2: understand the concept.

629
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Speaker 3: I believe I could.

630
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Speaker 1: I started just kind of like three things.

631
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Speaker 3: It's well, you are you trying to regular braid or

632
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:11,160
Speaker 3: French braid?

633
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 2: I think French braid.

634
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:14,600
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, we'll get you there.

635
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 2: That one hard anyways.

636
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:18,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, regular braid is just three pieces. French braid is

637
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 3: take starting with three pieces and adding one continuously. What okay, okay,

638
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 3: imagine you have three Imagine you start with three strands.

639
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 3: You have three strands picked up, and then actually they

640
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 3: can do with my bangs. They got three strands here,

641
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 3: and you take your three strands and then you do

642
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 3: your your eye was all about to do a Dutch braid.

643
00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 3: You do your first braid, it's like a regular braid,

644
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 3: and then you pull we get backwards, and then you

645
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 3: pull another. You add it to those two outer ends.

646
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 3: Now you have three strands again, and then you do

647
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 3: your regular braid, and then you just keep doing that.

648
00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 3: You add another I can't.

649
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 2: It's okay, I've illustrated the concept. That makes sense. There

650
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 2: you have it, and there you have it. But you

651
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:10,600
Speaker 2: know what we have here?

652
00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 3: What do we have here?

653
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:13,840
Speaker 2: I think another story?

654
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:15,560
Speaker 4: Well, the end of the stream.

655
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Speaker 3: Wait, whoa I didn't even notice. That's too busy.

656
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Speaker 5: Brain, my good lord, golly goobers. Well, guys, it's been

657
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Speaker 5: a trip. It's been, it's been a trip. An incredible day, Samantha.

658
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Speaker 1: We got to shout you out first, celebrating three months

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Speaker 1: of membership, by the way, loving seeing like the two

660
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Speaker 1: three four month membership celebrations.

661
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Speaker 2: Freaking awesome. Keep them meals Monday, been sick today?

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Speaker 3: Oh no?

663
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Speaker 5: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Then I just got a phone call from my bank,

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Speaker 1: hopefully not for me, uh saying someone is using my

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Speaker 1: card to order food in Texas and California.

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Speaker 2: Like people, Come on, guys, this is.

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Speaker 3: Like the French all over again when they stole my money.

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, right right, Oh the French needs stop.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, stop French food stealing. Yeah, get out of my face, Samantha.

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Speaker 1: Those are some stinky people. And uh hope, yeah it

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Speaker 4: Waiting waiting, I think we need this twenty seconds because

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