1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: All right, welcome to episode nine. It's a Sunday at 2 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: about noon, and Amy's here, and so I wanted to 3 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:09,840 Speaker 1: talk to her a bit, and so what happened was, 4 00:00:11,520 --> 00:00:13,039 Speaker 1: you're not on the air, nor are you going to 5 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: be on the air as we cut. This is January seven, 6 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:17,680 Speaker 1: And just a quick backstory in case you don't listen 7 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:19,600 Speaker 1: to the radio show and only listen to the podcast. 8 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: Amy's been my co host for how many years? Um, 9 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: going on twelve we'll just say twelve years. Okay, it's fair, 10 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: it's coming up soon. About seven years ago, Amy said, hey, 11 00:00:30,040 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 1: we're trying to have a baby. About five years ago 12 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:35,520 Speaker 1: they said hey we're adopting from Haiti. About two weeks 13 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:39,600 Speaker 1: ago they finally got their kids after five years, and 14 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 1: so Amy had Christmas break and then she got the 15 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 1: kids in Miller Christ's break, and she's taking time off 16 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 1: from the show, whatever that means. And so she's here 17 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:52,199 Speaker 1: because as much as I can say, hey, don't you 18 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: you're good not doing the show. You do have clients 19 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 1: stuff that you're cutting once a week or some responsibilities. 20 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: Yeah for now at least. Yeah, with that comment, I 21 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:04,560 Speaker 1: thought we'd sit down for a second and then talk 22 00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 1: to Amy about our life. Let me talk about sleep 23 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: number real quick. This bobbycast brought to you by Sleep Number. 24 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 1: So New Year's resolution is one thing. Maybe now you're 25 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 1: already over your news resolution and that's probably are you 26 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 1: over yours? Yet? You have any time? Br mom, whether 27 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 1: you want to get to the gym more? Are you 28 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:23,120 Speaker 1: getting to the gym at all? Yeah? We joined the 29 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: y because the kids get to go or eating something. 30 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk about that in a second, So don't 31 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:31,399 Speaker 1: forget that. Or there's one thing that you can do 32 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: is sleep better. Most Americans get less than the recommended 33 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: seven to eight hours sleep at night. If that's you, 34 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: then how about a sleep number. I have a sleep number. 35 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 1: It lets you choose your ideal comfort and support on 36 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 1: each side. It's the perfect bed for couples. Their newest 37 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 1: beds are so smart they actually sense every move and 38 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: automatically adjust so that you're sleeping comfortably throughout the night. 39 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 1: And so my sleep number setting is thirty. My i 40 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 1: Q score last night was in the nineties. Don't miss 41 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 1: the best bed for couples is the lowest price of 42 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: the season coming down and say four hundred to seven 43 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: hundred dollars on the most popular sleep number mattresses. You'll 44 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:03,800 Speaker 1: only find sleep Number at sleep number dot Com and 45 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: sleep numbers stores nationwide. You call eight hundred next bed 46 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: or anyone you do, tell them that I sent you. 47 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: So you're over there. You're on your phone right now. 48 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:14,360 Speaker 1: I was taking notes and then I wanted to go 49 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:17,639 Speaker 1: check check a text message. But yeah, so okay, I 50 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:19,359 Speaker 1: want to talk about texting. I'll talk about the why, 51 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 1: and then I want to talk about the coke story. 52 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: That's the three things I do want to get to 53 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:24,560 Speaker 1: in this. So it's the first time that you know, 54 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:29,640 Speaker 1: I've spent any time just us together. Yea and a 55 00:02:29,720 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: month basically, Well, I mean, yeah, you've come by the house. 56 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:34,639 Speaker 1: But yeah, but when I come to the house, yeah, 57 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: it's just like everybody. I get what you're saying. Just us. Yeah, 58 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:41,519 Speaker 1: we haven't spent any time just talking about this. I 59 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: went to I've been to your house a couple of times, 60 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: but there's a lot of kids. It's different. Oh yeah, 61 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: it's different. Yeah, but I love it. I love it. 62 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 1: I love like the dizziness. Our house used to be 63 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 1: so quiet. It's boring. It used to be quite boring. 64 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:56,600 Speaker 1: It used to be normal, and that was my normal. 65 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: I like my new normal. What was the first thing 66 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 1: I was going to ask her about? Why no one 67 00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 1: before that? Oh? The texting. So I texted you yesterday 68 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:06,040 Speaker 1: on a Saturday at like three pm. I gotta response 69 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 1: to like nine pm, Like I just sent the text. 70 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: So is your life much more waye from your phone 71 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: than it used to be? Yes? Because I may not 72 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: even have my phone or it's dead because kids YouTube, 73 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: it's an app, they are on it. It's a it's 74 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: a treat. But sometimes they take it and the battery 75 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 1: runs low and I don't know it, and then it 76 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: dies and then I don't have a charger, and then 77 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: we just deal with that when we find a charger. 78 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 1: It's one of those things. Not a priority. Crazy, I know, 79 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: because like I like my phone, but now yeah, now 80 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: it's just different. Your life changes and you just deal 81 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: with handing your phone over, especially if it's gonna I'm 82 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 1: not saying we use it. We definitely still use it 83 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 1: as a treat, but it is crazy how it will 84 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: change a situation. And we monitor what they're going to 85 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 1: be watching. But it's I'm like, yeah, heck, yeah, you 86 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 1: can have it for five minutes. But if you have 87 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: a ten year old and a seven year old and 88 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 1: they both want the phone, how do you good about not? 89 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 1: The older one normally gets it because she's more responsible 90 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: and she knows how to look things up and she 91 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 1: can control it, and she'll share with him and show 92 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 1: him what they're watching. So and they'll each put a 93 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: little ear button and it's fine. He's he types in 94 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: things and it's gibberish. She can actually type in what 95 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 1: they need to go see. And I trust her and 96 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: I'm there with them too, but he doesn't need to 97 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:22,919 Speaker 1: be in control of the phone. Do they share? Well, 98 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:25,839 Speaker 1: they do, but I think that's the product of coming 99 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:28,720 Speaker 1: from an orphanage where you're constantly sharing. Nothing's your own. 100 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: So we're blessed in that department. Although there is some 101 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:34,560 Speaker 1: territorial things I'm starting to see happen with like oh 102 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:37,400 Speaker 1: that was that's that's mine. They're learning like this is mine, 103 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: But that's just I think the nature of children. So 104 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: they're learning this is mine in a much later time 105 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:45,320 Speaker 1: because things are actually there's now which they weren't when 106 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 1: they were in the orphanage. And I'm sure just as 107 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 1: in innate thing, kids are like that. I'm sure at 108 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:53,680 Speaker 1: the orphanage is like this is mine, but but Nanny's 109 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: probably corrected them right away, like, nope, that's not yours. 110 00:04:57,279 --> 00:05:02,400 Speaker 1: It's everybody's everything, from your underwear to your everything. I 111 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 1: think the only thing they had to themselves there was 112 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,119 Speaker 1: probably like a toothbrush, and they knew it was theirs. 113 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: Where did they keep the toothbrush in the orphanage? It 114 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:11,480 Speaker 1: was just theirs um in a little cubby. I learned 115 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:14,279 Speaker 1: that for my because I never saw them brush their teeth, 116 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:16,159 Speaker 1: but it would always happen at night, in the dark, 117 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 1: when we were already gone, and because you really didn't 118 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:23,600 Speaker 1: stay I didn't stay there at night, uh, at the orphanage. 119 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: So my daughter has told me a lot about what 120 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 1: goes on there at night, and how they slept and 121 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: where they slept. And I always thought she slept in 122 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:35,760 Speaker 1: her own bunk bed, which I knew the numbers added 123 00:05:35,839 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: up of the girls that were in a room, I'm 124 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,479 Speaker 1: pretty sure there was enough beds. But because we're dealing 125 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: with a thing of they've never slept in their own room. 126 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:44,720 Speaker 1: Here I am creating this these adorable little rooms. I 127 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: can't wait for them to come home. To and they 128 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 1: come home and they're scared because they've never slept alone 129 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: in their entire life. So even if you grew up 130 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:58,880 Speaker 1: in Haiti and you're in the poverty level and you're 131 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 1: not in an orphanage, you're in a very small, tiny 132 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: house situation where it could be a one room, you 133 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 1: know situation. So families all share a room anyway. So 134 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 1: even though my daughter has a life from one to 135 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:15,000 Speaker 1: five with her mom, they probably all slept in the 136 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,359 Speaker 1: same room no matter what. Then when she was at 137 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 1: the orphanage life, she lived with her mom from one 138 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: to five years old and then went to the orphanage 139 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:28,520 Speaker 1: after age and then came to you now, so she's 140 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:32,840 Speaker 1: never slept alone. And so i'm I have a lot 141 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 1: of our nights are spent with them, reading, praying, the 142 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 1: typical parent type stuff, but trying to just get them 143 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:41,919 Speaker 1: to bed and get them comfortable and get them acclimated 144 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: to you don't have to be scared. You can sleep alone, 145 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:47,160 Speaker 1: and we just have to be as patient with that 146 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:49,560 Speaker 1: as possible. But that's when we do a lot of talking, 147 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 1: and I love it, and she shares a lot with 148 00:06:51,480 --> 00:06:54,719 Speaker 1: me about what her knights would like, and she actually 149 00:06:54,760 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: shared a bunk. They slept face to face with one 150 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:02,080 Speaker 1: of her best friends at the orphanage, and I never 151 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: knew all this time, I never knew they slept in 152 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:06,719 Speaker 1: the same because the numbers didn't add up. I thought 153 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: they did. But so that makes me think, Okay, we 154 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: got to go revisit the orphanage and maybe throw a 155 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: few extra bunk beds in there because it's a little 156 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:15,920 Speaker 1: twin bed and I know there's room in there for more. 157 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: So we just got to work that out so each 158 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 1: kid can have their own privacy. Did the kids want 159 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 1: their own privacy though? That's what I mean. She could 160 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: have her No, they'd all still be in the same 161 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 1: room and in a bunk right next to each other. 162 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 1: But I see how she sleeps, and she wants to 163 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:31,239 Speaker 1: roll and kick and spread out. And when you're sharing 164 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 1: a tiny little bunk bed with someone, they could at 165 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 1: least maybe if they want. I want to look in 166 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 1: to make it sure we figure out them having their 167 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 1: own bed um, and then maybe that could help. But 168 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: this is a it's a crash orphanage situation. All these 169 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 1: kids eventually are going to be going into homes, And 170 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 1: also makes me want to think of better ways we 171 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 1: can equip children in these types of situations to prepare 172 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:54,840 Speaker 1: them for life in other countries where we live differently, 173 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: And what can we do so that it isn't so terrifying, 174 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: because eventually all those children are going to go be 175 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:07,120 Speaker 1: somewhere else, and maybe there's something we can start doing 176 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 1: to make it not such a shock. How have your 177 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 1: kids adapted to their own bedrooms? They love their rooms, 178 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:19,080 Speaker 1: but it's mainly at night, but it's they don't They're 179 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:20,960 Speaker 1: not They don't want to be in there by themselves. 180 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 1: The lights go down, they turn the lights off. She 181 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: will only if I'm in the room, and then I 182 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: have to either sneak out or I stay the whole time. 183 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:33,439 Speaker 1: You just sleep in there with the lights off off, 184 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 1: And if I leave the room, all the lights come on, 185 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 1: every single one. So if you leave the room, she 186 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 1: sleeps the lights on and she feels comfortableep on the 187 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 1: lights on. I don't, well, I don't, I haven't. I 188 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:44,320 Speaker 1: don't leave. If I have to leave to go do something, 189 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,719 Speaker 1: she turns on all the lights. I don't leave her. Um, 190 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 1: do you sleep with her every night? Right now? We are? 191 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 1: Right now? I've got to figure out the best and 192 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:55,800 Speaker 1: talk to some people, and I want to do what's best. 193 00:08:55,840 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: But right now that's working for us, and she feels again. 194 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:01,960 Speaker 1: I think I said this on the show that your 195 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 1: podcast listeners might be different, but I want to create 196 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 1: the safest environment possible for them, especially because she's ten. Um, 197 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 1: and not without giving away too much because also she's ten, Like, 198 00:09:14,960 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: she has a story. This is her story. I don't 199 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 1: want to put too much of her life out there 200 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 1: because she might want to be like, whoa mom, that 201 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 1: was my story? Why are you about telling it? But um, 202 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:29,960 Speaker 1: she's been through a lot. But they're a lot most 203 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: motorphans have. He is seven cognitively not quite seven. He's 204 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:39,080 Speaker 1: living the good life. He sleeps with a lamp on, 205 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 1: but my husband will read two books to him that's 206 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:43,760 Speaker 1: the max. And my husband's like peace out and he's 207 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 1: like bye, so you tomorrow, and he goes to bed. 208 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 1: He goes to sleep. He keeps a lamp on and 209 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:51,040 Speaker 1: we have noisemakers in each room because they're not used 210 00:09:51,040 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 1: to things being quiet, so they have sound because it's 211 00:09:55,040 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 1: the orphanage, like nothing's quiet, and he will sleep. Um, 212 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: we do have issues with him. He's totally this is 213 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 1: probably his story too, But it's fine. I mean, parents 214 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:09,800 Speaker 1: can relate. He's totally potty trained. But we're having an 215 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:12,560 Speaker 1: issue like every night he won't he won't get up 216 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:14,560 Speaker 1: because I think he might be too scared. He won't 217 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 1: get up to his restroom, like scared because he's in 218 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: an unfamiliar environment, which is your house. Well yes, and 219 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:22,199 Speaker 1: then he's by himself and he doesn't know like if 220 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:23,959 Speaker 1: they needed to get up, he could always take a 221 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: buddy with him because they he shared a room with 222 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:28,839 Speaker 1: fifteen other kids, or there was a nanny there, and 223 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:30,360 Speaker 1: they could get up and take him to the bathroom. 224 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: And so for him, he's like, uh, I think he's 225 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 1: just like I don't want to get up, so he 226 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:36,839 Speaker 1: just goes. So we're like we have like three sets 227 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: of sheets now on heavy rotation. How about their friends 228 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 1: back of the orphanage. Do they miss them? Yeah? They do. 229 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:48,679 Speaker 1: They do. They miss Haiti, And I don't blame them. 230 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:51,840 Speaker 1: They missed their friends, they missed their life. Like I know, 231 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 1: it's so hard. Things I didn't think about. I just 232 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 1: was so excited to get them here. I didn't Kara 233 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:58,400 Speaker 1: was going to do whatever it took to get them 234 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:01,240 Speaker 1: here because I know we're going to offer them a 235 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:04,200 Speaker 1: better life, and I know eventually will get there and 236 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:06,920 Speaker 1: it will be better. But right now I hurt for 237 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:11,840 Speaker 1: them because we've literally ripped them from everything that they know, 238 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:20,240 Speaker 1: and it's I'm agrieve that because I know that they 239 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:29,840 Speaker 1: are excited. I know that they're confused, sad, they're like 240 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:33,440 Speaker 1: all the things. If you could just be all the things, 241 00:11:33,520 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 1: that's them, because there's so many highs and there's so 242 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:40,079 Speaker 1: many loves, and then you start to feel selfish, you 243 00:11:40,160 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 1: being me, my husband, because you were trying to do 244 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:48,559 Speaker 1: everything you could to rescue them from this horrible situation 245 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:52,840 Speaker 1: that is an orphanage. But to them, that's what they know. 246 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 1: So we want them to acclimate here, which they will eventually, 247 00:11:57,559 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 1: and then when they grow up and they go back 248 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:01,920 Speaker 1: and see the see the difference and be like, wow, okay, 249 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:06,320 Speaker 1: this is I have America or wherever a lot of 250 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:08,800 Speaker 1: the kids go to, either Canada, France, whatever. In our situation, 251 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:11,679 Speaker 1: like I have been given an opportunity and I'm going 252 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 1: to be given love, and you know the type of 253 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 1: love I never would have gotten at an orphanage, and 254 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:21,960 Speaker 1: a type of opportunity and education I would have never gotten. 255 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:24,600 Speaker 1: So I have to focus on that, like the future 256 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 1: of that, because sometimes when I focus on the now, 257 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:32,679 Speaker 1: I know that, gosh, they probably just want to go back, 258 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking it's so great here, But to them, 259 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 1: life was great. They don't know any different. They didn't 260 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:42,080 Speaker 1: know any different. So the fact that they, you know, 261 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:45,360 Speaker 1: have their cute little ug boots like she doesn't care. 262 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:48,599 Speaker 1: You know, I didn't have ugs, so I was like 263 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:52,559 Speaker 1: thirty five, like your tin, you've got hugs? What about 264 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:55,120 Speaker 1: things like you got a membership at the y. Yeah, 265 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:58,160 Speaker 1: you're you're all at the wine now. Yeah, we're like family. 266 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:01,200 Speaker 1: The why they think that's or they don't know what 267 00:13:01,200 --> 00:13:05,360 Speaker 1: they think it's cool. They like contraptions and exercise equipment 268 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:07,920 Speaker 1: and balls and they see a gym. Well sometimes driving 269 00:13:07,920 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 1: around Haiti they have outdoor gyms sort of like Venice 270 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 1: Beach but not they haven't outdoor gyms and Haiti that's 271 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: what they have. What they Yeah, they have real like 272 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:18,880 Speaker 1: nice gyms up in like the wealthier part, but the 273 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:21,360 Speaker 1: part of town they grew up in and they never 274 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 1: started leaving the worphanisition list that was with us anyways. 275 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 1: But you drive around and and yes there's outdoor gyms. 276 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 1: I don't know their government decided maybe it would be 277 00:13:29,679 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: a good way for patients to go burn OFFFS team. 278 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 1: So there's outdoors. They see it. So they've seen that. 279 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:37,840 Speaker 1: So we go to the gym. We were trying to 280 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:40,120 Speaker 1: explain to them that's what it is, so they get it. 281 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 1: But um, they know that we get to work out. 282 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 1: And you know what's so amazing the why. I mean, 283 00:13:45,160 --> 00:13:47,280 Speaker 1: you're paying for membership, so you're paying for this as 284 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: part of your thing. But they let you drop your 285 00:13:50,320 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: kids off for two hours if you need to. We 286 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 1: haven't done the full two hours yet, but as long 287 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 1: as you're there, you don't even have to be working out. 288 00:13:57,679 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 1: And the woman straight up told me this. She said, look, 289 00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:01,360 Speaker 1: I'm just going to tell you the truth. If you 290 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 1: just need to come here and get some work done, 291 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:05,320 Speaker 1: bring your computer, if you just need to like sit 292 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:07,560 Speaker 1: on that couch and stare at the wall and talk 293 00:14:07,640 --> 00:14:09,960 Speaker 1: to no one, drop your kids off, or if you 294 00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 1: want to go run ten miles, go run to miles. 295 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:15,400 Speaker 1: Whatever you need, we're here for you. And you just 296 00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:18,840 Speaker 1: drop them off and the caregivers have an amazing and 297 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: then we're in Nashville, So Vanderbilts here and their student 298 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:24,680 Speaker 1: volunteers and Vanderbilt when schools in session that come and 299 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 1: tutor the kids. Like this is amazing, sign me up. 300 00:14:29,160 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 1: That was when we were getting the tour of like 301 00:14:30,560 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 1: if we should sign up? And I was like, yes, 302 00:14:33,480 --> 00:14:36,720 Speaker 1: did they like it? Meaning go there? The people that 303 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:39,400 Speaker 1: they are watched? Buy are they fun? Is the room? 304 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: They're fun? They draw, they make pictures, they have a wei, 305 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 1: they have ping pong and pool, they have all the 306 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 1: things and they then they have the tutor session rooms 307 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:51,840 Speaker 1: to which they you know, they need to be learning. 308 00:14:51,840 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 1: And then they're getting to interact with other kids that 309 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:57,760 Speaker 1: are in there, which is crucial because when you're immersed 310 00:14:58,480 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 1: with people that are speaking another language, you're forced to 311 00:15:02,640 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 1: do that too. And it's going to help them with 312 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:07,320 Speaker 1: their English a lot. How is the English coming with 313 00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:11,640 Speaker 1: the kids? Good? She good, But it's just gonna take 314 00:15:11,680 --> 00:15:13,800 Speaker 1: more time. I see that. I just try to again, 315 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 1: we try to do day by day. Um, some days 316 00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 1: we are more progressive than others. But I just know 317 00:15:21,320 --> 00:15:24,800 Speaker 1: within a year. We met with the Haitian pastor yesterday 318 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 1: and he told us that in about a year they're 319 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:30,360 Speaker 1: they're not even gonna want to speak Real. All they're 320 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:32,960 Speaker 1: going to want to do is speak English really in 321 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 1: a year, in a year because they're they're gonna love it, 322 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:37,320 Speaker 1: and all their friends are gonna be doing it, and 323 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 1: they don't want to be different. And he said, just wait, 324 00:15:42,120 --> 00:15:44,760 Speaker 1: it'll be fine, it'll work itself out. I mean not 325 00:15:44,840 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 1: that we we don't want them to abandon Creal by 326 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:49,440 Speaker 1: any means. But it is hard sometimes when I know 327 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:51,520 Speaker 1: she knows what we're saying, and I know she can 328 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 1: speak it more with me than she does, but she's 329 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 1: holding out just because it's and it's a comfortable thing. 330 00:15:56,960 --> 00:16:00,440 Speaker 1: It's all about being comfortable. So and do you know 331 00:16:00,520 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 1: what I learned about the Haitian culture, which I've been 332 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:04,240 Speaker 1: going to Haiti for five years. I had no idea. 333 00:16:04,600 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 1: So it is a sign of disrespect for children to 334 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:09,920 Speaker 1: look at an adult in the eyes when they're talking 335 00:16:09,960 --> 00:16:12,880 Speaker 1: to them. If an adult is talking to them, children 336 00:16:12,920 --> 00:16:16,640 Speaker 1: are to look down. And that's something that happened at first, 337 00:16:16,640 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 1: and you thought, you're they I've even done it in Haiti. 338 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 1: I've corrected them in Haiti, but nobody, all my Haitian 339 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:26,000 Speaker 1: friends and all the people's and all the things i've 340 00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 1: I've never been told this, but the Haitian pastor yesterday 341 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: told us that because he was speaking to her and 342 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:34,880 Speaker 1: she was speaking down and it wasn't phazing him. He 343 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 1: was like, no problem. And then she started fidgeting with 344 00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:40,920 Speaker 1: something because I was like, pay attention, look up, he's 345 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 1: speaking to you. And then he pulled me in my 346 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:44,800 Speaker 1: husband aside. He said, I need to share with you 347 00:16:44,840 --> 00:16:46,600 Speaker 1: something about Haitian culture that I don't know that you're 348 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:49,000 Speaker 1: aware of. But in our culture, it is a sign 349 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 1: of disrespect to look up when an adult is talking. 350 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:53,560 Speaker 1: So now that they're here in America and it's a 351 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 1: sign of disrespect to do that, and Americans are telling 352 00:16:57,480 --> 00:17:01,360 Speaker 1: them look up when someone speaking. He said, you watch 353 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:05,480 Speaker 1: them transition from looking down to suddenly fidgeting because they 354 00:17:05,520 --> 00:17:07,479 Speaker 1: don't know what's right and what's wrong. Am I supposed 355 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:09,439 Speaker 1: to look down? Am I supposed to look up? So 356 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:11,480 Speaker 1: maybe if I play with this while they talk to me, 357 00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 1: I won't be doing something wrong. I'll be that's the 358 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 1: middle for them, the middle for them. And I've totally 359 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:21,159 Speaker 1: noticed that happening, and even when we're doing disciplinary things. 360 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:24,959 Speaker 1: Before I had this wonderful meeting with this very knowledgeable pastor. 361 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:29,360 Speaker 1: During disciplinary moments, I'm why I am talking to you? 362 00:17:29,440 --> 00:17:31,399 Speaker 1: Why are you not looking at me? And now I 363 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:35,720 Speaker 1: know they were straight up respecting me, and let's see, 364 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 1: I was just confusing them. But they'll eventually, he said, 365 00:17:38,560 --> 00:17:41,119 Speaker 1: with that too, they'll learn and then they'll start showing 366 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:43,040 Speaker 1: respect and look you at looking you in the eye, 367 00:17:43,040 --> 00:17:45,159 Speaker 1: and they'll get the difference and they'll stop figeting. But 368 00:17:45,359 --> 00:17:48,399 Speaker 1: I thought that was cool. I was like, Okay, learning 369 00:17:48,440 --> 00:17:51,119 Speaker 1: as we go. I'll talking about life luck for one second. 370 00:17:51,119 --> 00:17:53,240 Speaker 1: And so what you don't want to do is hop 371 00:17:53,359 --> 00:17:58,119 Speaker 1: on an internet that isn't secure. Your husband talked about 372 00:17:58,160 --> 00:18:02,080 Speaker 1: this even to me. Yeah, he's really really more so 373 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 1: than I thought because I'm kind of into it, but 374 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:07,040 Speaker 1: he's really into it. He bought me for Christmas um 375 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:10,120 Speaker 1: a VP A server. Yeah. It's like it's like you're 376 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:14,160 Speaker 1: at your house in Japan. Yeah, one or four people 377 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 1: have experienced identity theft, and if you're only monitoring your credit, 378 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:19,840 Speaker 1: you can still have your identity stolen. Thieves can sell 379 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:22,760 Speaker 1: your information and get a payday loane your name or 380 00:18:23,240 --> 00:18:24,920 Speaker 1: it's more than just your credit, but it still watches 381 00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:27,000 Speaker 1: your credit too. But that's why I have life Flock. 382 00:18:27,040 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 1: I've had it for years. LifeLock get texts a wide 383 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:31,800 Speaker 1: range of identity threats. If you have a problem, a 384 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:34,680 Speaker 1: US based restoration specialists will work with your fix it. 385 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:37,840 Speaker 1: No one can prevent all identity theft or monitor all 386 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:41,040 Speaker 1: transactions all the time, but life flock is Therefore you 387 00:18:41,119 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: joined now and get ten percent off with the promo 388 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:47,160 Speaker 1: code bones. Type in bones to life flock dot com 389 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:50,439 Speaker 1: and use the promo code bones. So there's that. Do 390 00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:53,919 Speaker 1: you have You had time to miss work at all? None? 391 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:57,520 Speaker 1: You know what's going on. I haven't even listened. That's 392 00:18:57,520 --> 00:18:59,760 Speaker 1: a lie because I listened the day. I listened the 393 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:02,639 Speaker 1: day first day I came on. So I've done like 394 00:19:02,680 --> 00:19:05,720 Speaker 1: a couple of phone calls. The very first one. I 395 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:09,280 Speaker 1: felt really nervous when I was talking to you, and 396 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 1: I didn't know how it came across. So I finally 397 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:13,520 Speaker 1: got to go back the next day and listen to 398 00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:16,399 Speaker 1: that podcast and end up listening to more. So I 399 00:19:16,440 --> 00:19:18,399 Speaker 1: know a little bit of what's going on, but that's it. 400 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:21,440 Speaker 1: So that's the only listening I've done. And I did 401 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:23,680 Speaker 1: notice when I was on air with you, I said 402 00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:26,720 Speaker 1: like a million times, so I'm working on that. I 403 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:28,639 Speaker 1: don't know if you have noticed, well you've said it 404 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: a lot today because I'm turning it out of my vocabulary. 405 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:37,640 Speaker 1: So I noticed when other people say it. I've been 406 00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 1: so intentional. Even with I was slower with my speaking 407 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:46,400 Speaker 1: because I was trying to avoiding, like okay, okay, I'll 408 00:19:46,440 --> 00:19:47,719 Speaker 1: see if I can go the rest of the podcast 409 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:50,680 Speaker 1: to do no. I mean no, no, it's any It's 410 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:52,960 Speaker 1: hard to cut completely, but it is annoying when you 411 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,479 Speaker 1: told me it's an issue, and I fixed it for 412 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 1: a few years and now it's back. And then when 413 00:19:57,600 --> 00:20:02,320 Speaker 1: I heard myself on the phone with you, I was like, 414 00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:07,200 Speaker 1: that's bad. So I need to stop using it period. 415 00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:10,000 Speaker 1: So I'm going to do that, I think. Just to 416 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:12,879 Speaker 1: be forthcoming about conversations Amy and I've had about the show, 417 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 1: was when you said, hey, we all knew, well, first 418 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:17,719 Speaker 1: of all, years ago, you were leaving the show when 419 00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:19,239 Speaker 1: you got the kids because they were gonna be much 420 00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:22,119 Speaker 1: much younger. It was pregnant if I was doing whatever 421 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:24,359 Speaker 1: Mom tought priority because they were gonna be in school 422 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 1: and they needed me, and it was known by me 423 00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:29,680 Speaker 1: you were gone and I always thought, when Amy gets 424 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:32,760 Speaker 1: her kids, she's leaving the show. Not in any bad way, 425 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:35,840 Speaker 1: but it just was part of the circle and the 426 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: cycle of the show. As they got older, you said, hey, 427 00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:41,119 Speaker 1: I'm I'm not leaving the show. This is probably two 428 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,560 Speaker 1: years ago, said I'm not leaving the show. They're old 429 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:45,080 Speaker 1: enough now they would come and they'll go to school. 430 00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:48,360 Speaker 1: And then this is a job where luckily I could 431 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:50,159 Speaker 1: do that go to school and it doesn't really can 432 00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: still pick them up from school every day. It's amazing, right, 433 00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:56,800 Speaker 1: And in the past month or saving on into your house, 434 00:20:56,840 --> 00:20:59,080 Speaker 1: I was like, hey, you just do you whatever, whatever 435 00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 1: it is. It's a little bit more demanding that I thought. 436 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,879 Speaker 1: I kind of thought, Oh, but again, because the night 437 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,520 Speaker 1: times are so hard for us and we wake up 438 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 1: so early, it's like, how much of this schedule, like 439 00:21:08,560 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 1: when do you? And so what some people might realize 440 00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,160 Speaker 1: about our show as we do prep during other times 441 00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:15,520 Speaker 1: during the day. It's not we just show up and 442 00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:19,639 Speaker 1: start talking. I mean, nothing's planned out necessarily, but but 443 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:22,960 Speaker 1: there is prep that we do. And I'm thinking, when 444 00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:25,879 Speaker 1: in the world would I do the prep? Maybe I 445 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 1: go to the y, you take them and do yeah, yeah, yeah, 446 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:31,160 Speaker 1: drop them off. I'd do my prep and then somehow 447 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:32,879 Speaker 1: I get sleep and then wake up and come in. 448 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:34,760 Speaker 1: I don't know, and then we leave at such a 449 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:37,480 Speaker 1: weird hour if my husband's traveling. But we've were trying 450 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,560 Speaker 1: to figure it out, like what will that look like 451 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:42,760 Speaker 1: and what's gonna take priority? And right now I just 452 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:44,639 Speaker 1: right now, I just don't know. And that's what I 453 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:45,840 Speaker 1: even say on the air because I want to be 454 00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 1: honest the listeners, like, we this is what I think 455 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: will happen. And January seven, right now at PM is 456 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 1: the time. From our conversations. I think you'll come back, 457 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:03,320 Speaker 1: but that you'll leave again. That's been my my solid bet. 458 00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:05,200 Speaker 1: You'll come back. You don't want to leave us hanging. 459 00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 1: This is your second family. I think you'll come back 460 00:22:10,359 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 1: because I thought for a while you wouldn't come back. 461 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:13,040 Speaker 1: And I said that to you. I said, hey, if 462 00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:15,359 Speaker 1: you don't want to come back, I get it. Yeah, 463 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 1: I said that to you in your house. I know, 464 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:21,800 Speaker 1: I know multiple times, because I think you were just either. 465 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:24,199 Speaker 1: I mean, you said a lot of different things, but 466 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:25,800 Speaker 1: that one you said, I think you just and I 467 00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: appreciate that you want to make sure that I know 468 00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:31,159 Speaker 1: that you're you get it. You're not any good to 469 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:36,360 Speaker 1: me unless you can be you don't know. Yeah, right now, 470 00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:41,359 Speaker 1: this is the first time we've ever worked sort of, yeah, 471 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 1: worked since I am a mom. Am I had the 472 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:48,080 Speaker 1: same You're actually not what You're still awesome, but no, 473 00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:49,879 Speaker 1: no, no no, just your perspective is a little different. No, 474 00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:54,280 Speaker 1: you've grown a lot in three weeks, which is crazy. 475 00:22:54,720 --> 00:23:01,359 Speaker 1: I don't know about mature. Yes, very you're a very stable, genius, Yes, younger, 476 00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:05,199 Speaker 1: all those. But I said that to you because I 477 00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 1: kind of expected you to not come back. So if 478 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:09,119 Speaker 1: I do come back, when am I leaving again? And 479 00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:11,040 Speaker 1: where am I going? No, No, I think this is 480 00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:12,600 Speaker 1: where I would put the order you. I think you'll 481 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:15,280 Speaker 1: come back. I do think you'll come back. I gave 482 00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:16,680 Speaker 1: it a one up five shot that you would never 483 00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,639 Speaker 1: come back. It's probably a little higher than that in 484 00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:21,080 Speaker 1: my mind, because you had already decided you were not 485 00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:22,800 Speaker 1: coming back, and you decided to come back all that. 486 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:24,800 Speaker 1: I said, you're not coming back one h five. I 487 00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 1: think you'll come back. But I think that you'll come 488 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:31,240 Speaker 1: and realize, you know, these kids are really important to me. 489 00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:34,040 Speaker 1: What you feel that now? And I don't feel like 490 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:37,240 Speaker 1: I'm doing my job as well as I should be, 491 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:40,600 Speaker 1: and that you'll say I need I'll give you six months, 492 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:43,479 Speaker 1: three months like that. That's my prediction on what you're 493 00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:48,000 Speaker 1: gonna do, and that's what I've even told other people. 494 00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:53,760 Speaker 1: But that's it. That that's what I feel will happen 495 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:58,480 Speaker 1: because you don't want to know. I don't, and I don't. 496 00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:00,359 Speaker 1: I don't like if someone else has to pick up 497 00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:03,400 Speaker 1: my slack and oh, it's been what do you gone? Amy? 498 00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:08,840 Speaker 1: The show sucks? First of all, I'm sure it doesn't. No, No, 499 00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:11,399 Speaker 1: we come back from break. I've already been. What are 500 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,879 Speaker 1: you trying to hear me? Okay, I've already been. Um, 501 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:17,040 Speaker 1: I came in. I wasn't sleeping right, I'm getting off 502 00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 1: this anxiety medicine. It's making my brain go crazy. And 503 00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,120 Speaker 1: then I come in. I don't have the main person 504 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:25,520 Speaker 1: I talked with, and so Eddie's not a real co host, 505 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,639 Speaker 1: Lunchbox is not a real conversational cohde. I don't have 506 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:32,399 Speaker 1: anybody to talk with, people to talk to occasionally. But 507 00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:35,120 Speaker 1: it's weird for me because I've been in this with 508 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:38,360 Speaker 1: you for twelve years and all of a sudden. I'm 509 00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 1: having to lean on people where their strength isn't what 510 00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:43,760 Speaker 1: I'm asking them to do, and they have other things 511 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:49,160 Speaker 1: are supposed to be doing, and so all those things combined, 512 00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:50,960 Speaker 1: it was a really rotten few shows. I said it 513 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:54,800 Speaker 1: on the air. The shows aren't good. I apologize. So 514 00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: I've been I've been using no, don't listen. I've been 515 00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:02,000 Speaker 1: using Morgan number two a little bit, Hillary the phone 516 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 1: screen a little bit. They're both fine, but they're so 517 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:09,360 Speaker 1: green because they don't know how to handle me. That's 518 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,240 Speaker 1: the one thing you do know, that's how to handle me. Yeah, 519 00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:15,320 Speaker 1: I don't know how I figured that out, but after 520 00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:19,439 Speaker 1: ten years or so, you just figure it out when 521 00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:21,000 Speaker 1: you're around crazy. This is for both of us. When 522 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:24,040 Speaker 1: you're on crazy long enough, you learn how to use 523 00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:27,879 Speaker 1: that crazy in a positive way. I use you're crazy, 524 00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:32,320 Speaker 1: you use mine. But that being said, I don't know 525 00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:34,199 Speaker 1: what I'm gonna do when you decide to leave. Okay, 526 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:36,520 Speaker 1: well I don't know what I'm doing, so don't but 527 00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 1: I'm telling me what's in my head. I don't know 528 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:40,240 Speaker 1: what I'm gonna do. I don't even know if I 529 00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,680 Speaker 1: want to do mornings anymore. When you're gone, yeah, you're 530 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:44,600 Speaker 1: just gonna do something else. Maybe, well, you do have 531 00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:48,520 Speaker 1: other things coming up. Absolutely I could see that, right, 532 00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:51,040 Speaker 1: And I don't know what I want to do. If 533 00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:53,840 Speaker 1: you leave, it's going to make me reconsider what I'm doing. 534 00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:59,280 Speaker 1: And I don't think it puts all the power at 535 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,680 Speaker 1: the pressure then no pressure at all, because eventually I 536 00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:03,719 Speaker 1: can't do mornings anyway. I'm just not gonna be able 537 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:05,399 Speaker 1: to do them. I'm gonna die. I'm gonna have a 538 00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:09,720 Speaker 1: family one day, hopefully in the next twenty years, six 539 00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:16,960 Speaker 1: whatever whatever one day. And so I don't want to 540 00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 1: wake up at dree in the morning. Yeah, me neither. 541 00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:24,199 Speaker 1: Let's figure that out. Well. The story I wanted to 542 00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:27,040 Speaker 1: talk about the coke story real quick, was that am 543 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,400 Speaker 1: I wonder to Amy's house and she was saying, yeah, 544 00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: we went to because some food. I think it was 545 00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 1: at a burger place, and the waitress came over almost 546 00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:36,879 Speaker 1: like would you like coke sprite? Uh, orange crush, and 547 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:38,600 Speaker 1: You're like no, no, no, no, no no. She was 548 00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:42,080 Speaker 1: so sweet and we were going to drink water. And 549 00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:45,240 Speaker 1: if they don't know that the restaurant has other options, 550 00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:48,520 Speaker 1: then we don't have to bring that up. But I 551 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: just had never it's something as a mom. Now that 552 00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:54,960 Speaker 1: I'm a mom, I noticed things differently. If a waitress 553 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,600 Speaker 1: had our server had come over and said that to us, 554 00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:00,520 Speaker 1: and we didn't have kids with us, I would a lot. Okay, yeah, 555 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,480 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna water because I can make my own 556 00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:06,960 Speaker 1: healthy choices for myself. Well, you give a seven ten 557 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,840 Speaker 1: year old options like that? They went, you know, the 558 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:13,920 Speaker 1: orange crash and the coke and the apple juice, all 559 00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:18,960 Speaker 1: of them, and you know all of them. So it 560 00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:21,320 Speaker 1: just I was like, oh my gosh. I wanted to 561 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 1: look arou and be like, you would get a much 562 00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:24,480 Speaker 1: bigger tip for me if you would just not give 563 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:26,280 Speaker 1: any of those options. Did you come over and be like, 564 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:27,840 Speaker 1: are you all ready to order? What would you like 565 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,959 Speaker 1: not get? Just come over and immediately tell them all 566 00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:35,160 Speaker 1: these amazing sugary concoctions that you can whip up for them. 567 00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:37,800 Speaker 1: Did you understand my logic though? When I said hey, 568 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,840 Speaker 1: I think she was actually going above and beyond it, 569 00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,640 Speaker 1: because most of the time with kids you have, they 570 00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:44,440 Speaker 1: know the environment they're in and they know what's offered 571 00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 1: at that environment. Most kids don't come from another country 572 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:49,040 Speaker 1: and all of a sudden there in a burger spot 573 00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:51,639 Speaker 1: where they have all these sodas. And if kids are 574 00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:54,560 Speaker 1: in that environment, they know what's there, and so most 575 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,399 Speaker 1: kids want the sugary stuff and are allowed the sugary stuff. 576 00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:58,760 Speaker 1: So if she comes in and bonds with the kids 577 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:01,120 Speaker 1: immediately she's doing her ab. I get it, like, yes, 578 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:02,800 Speaker 1: I got what you were saying. And I still get 579 00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:04,520 Speaker 1: just from me waiting tables, because I went right to 580 00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:07,680 Speaker 1: the kids. Somehow I still got my kids to drink water. 581 00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:11,240 Speaker 1: I convince them we just have water here. She does 582 00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:13,639 Speaker 1: not know what she's talking about, the funding water. But 583 00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: you can have an avocado. Avocados hunt yes, the waiters. 584 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:19,399 Speaker 1: I asked her, I said, do you have avocado? She 585 00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,040 Speaker 1: said yeah. I said, we'll take a home one please. 586 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 1: And it's like a place where you don't like get 587 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:25,800 Speaker 1: a whole avocado. Ever, I said, listen, trust me, I 588 00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:27,840 Speaker 1: need a whole avocado. You've got it up between them, 589 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,879 Speaker 1: they'll be fine. And they were all happy campers after that. 590 00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,760 Speaker 1: They just scoop the avocado and et it m at 591 00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,399 Speaker 1: the house. I just cut it right open down the 592 00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:38,040 Speaker 1: middle and they get a spoon and they eat it 593 00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:43,840 Speaker 1: right out, and it's amazing. All right, so we're nearing 594 00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:47,400 Speaker 1: the end of this. Give me the thing that you've 595 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 1: loved the most. Oh, the time my son tried to 596 00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:53,360 Speaker 1: poop in a urnal. Oh he didn't know. Yeah, I 597 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:58,000 Speaker 1: didn't know. You ever seen it? Just drunk? But yes, 598 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:03,000 Speaker 1: go ahead, never seen. So he's been to like our 599 00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:04,760 Speaker 1: home doesn't have a unal, and he's been to public 600 00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,680 Speaker 1: restrooms before, but mostly with me, I would say. And 601 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:09,840 Speaker 1: even if he goes to my husband, it's a men's 602 00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:12,680 Speaker 1: women's like situation where they they're just a toilet, not 603 00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:16,600 Speaker 1: a jurnal. And my husband took him in and there 604 00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:18,920 Speaker 1: was a funeral and he was fascinated by it and 605 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,480 Speaker 1: he could not wait to pep in it. So and 606 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:24,720 Speaker 1: my husband really tries to take him because my husband 607 00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,440 Speaker 1: doesn't trust me. He thinks when I take our sons 608 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:33,000 Speaker 1: into the women's But you know how, I've been guilty 609 00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:35,560 Speaker 1: of getting the toilet paper to teach him how to dab, 610 00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:39,160 Speaker 1: because it doesn't get clean, it doesn't get dry. I 611 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,800 Speaker 1: don't know why. Yeah, I don't know why men were 612 00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:44,040 Speaker 1: not taught to dab as boys. But my husband thinks 613 00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 1: that is crazy town. And you shake or do whatever 614 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:51,920 Speaker 1: you do. Men do not dab, so he barely. If 615 00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:54,800 Speaker 1: Stevenson our son, we'll find the same names. If he 616 00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:57,160 Speaker 1: has to go to the bathroom, he'll say bathroom and 617 00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:58,680 Speaker 1: I'll be like, I'll take you. And my husband's like, 618 00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,760 Speaker 1: I got this because he did not want me dabbing. 619 00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:04,920 Speaker 1: So he takes semi sees the urinal. My husband's like, yeah, 620 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,360 Speaker 1: my moment has arrived with my son. I'm going to 621 00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:10,000 Speaker 1: teach him how to use the urinal. So he like 622 00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:13,000 Speaker 1: does his thing. They don't dab, they shake whenever. My 623 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,240 Speaker 1: husband's like, high five depths, let's go wash our hands. 624 00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,440 Speaker 1: And then my husband's like, toilet which twilight example, my 625 00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:22,600 Speaker 1: husband's like, and I'm just letting you know. That's okay. Yeah, 626 00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:26,960 Speaker 1: So for example, what was I saying. I can't even say. 627 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,840 Speaker 1: I just wanted to point at it. And I'm not 628 00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:31,040 Speaker 1: gonna do it all the time, just the one time. 629 00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:32,400 Speaker 1: I just want to let you know because I don't 630 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:36,040 Speaker 1: notice that sometimes probably killed a good story though. So 631 00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:41,240 Speaker 1: my husband said, let's go wash our hands, and my 632 00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 1: son said toilette, which that is his I have to 633 00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,800 Speaker 1: go in Haitian and Haiti when you have to go 634 00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:51,160 Speaker 1: number two, you say toilet so He's like twilet toilette 635 00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 1: and my husband's thinking, oh man, okay, So he just 636 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:57,040 Speaker 1: drops his pants, it turns around on the urinal and 637 00:30:57,080 --> 00:31:10,760 Speaker 1: sits down. I mean, why wouldn't he why? So, yeah, 638 00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:13,240 Speaker 1: we learned the gay gotta teach them the difference between 639 00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:16,360 Speaker 1: a urinal and a toilet. And then we had to 640 00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:18,120 Speaker 1: take the n of the doctor and they had to 641 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:21,760 Speaker 1: pean a cup. Son got it down. Y'all are actually 642 00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,520 Speaker 1: lucky in that department. Pean a cup? You thought it 643 00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,360 Speaker 1: was amazing. It was like a game. How much of 644 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,800 Speaker 1: this is going to get in the clup? Like a 645 00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:30,920 Speaker 1: fun game. My daughter's like sitting on the toilet's she's 646 00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:33,160 Speaker 1: looking at me like I'm crazy. You want me to 647 00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,600 Speaker 1: pee in the cup? And she's looking at me. The 648 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:37,240 Speaker 1: logical thing would be for her to pee in the 649 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:39,000 Speaker 1: toilet and me take the cup and scoop her pe 650 00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:41,360 Speaker 1: out of the water. She kept trying to tell me 651 00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:43,920 Speaker 1: that's what we have to do, and I'm like, no, no, no, 652 00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:45,360 Speaker 1: you have to pe in the cup. It can't be 653 00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,400 Speaker 1: mixed in with any other things. So I look away 654 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:49,880 Speaker 1: to do something with my son, and I turned back 655 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,200 Speaker 1: around and she's not peeing on the toilet. She is, 656 00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:54,080 Speaker 1: she put the cup on the ground, she squatted over it, 657 00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:58,479 Speaker 1: and she's being the crowd, which actually makes more sense. However, 658 00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:01,800 Speaker 1: then Pete was like everywhere. The doctor was like knocking 659 00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:04,640 Speaker 1: on the door. Are y'all okay, I'm like gonna be out. 660 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:10,240 Speaker 1: Do you have any um mysol right then, which the 661 00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:13,440 Speaker 1: doctor doesn't know, probably doesn't listen to the podcast. So 662 00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:16,160 Speaker 1: we're fine. But I didn't have time to redo this 663 00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:19,040 Speaker 1: whole p in the cup thing. So I'm washing my 664 00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 1: son's hands and I look over and my daughter is 665 00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:26,560 Speaker 1: playing that game of switch back and forth between their cups. Yes, 666 00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:28,600 Speaker 1: the doctor got the people, both of them mixed together, 667 00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:31,680 Speaker 1: but they don't know it. Who doesn't know it, nobody 668 00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:37,400 Speaker 1: knows it. No, but they need to know what are 669 00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:41,960 Speaker 1: you doing? It's fine, it's fine. I mean, I'm confessing 670 00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:43,720 Speaker 1: right now, but it was one of those moments where 671 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:45,600 Speaker 1: I did not Maybe next time we go back, I'll 672 00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,160 Speaker 1: be like, you should probably have them. They're both going 673 00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:50,760 Speaker 1: to have everything. You're not gonna know which one has anything. 674 00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:52,360 Speaker 1: They don't have anything wrong with them. It's fine. They 675 00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:54,640 Speaker 1: already had the medical exams to for them to enter 676 00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:57,440 Speaker 1: the US so I don't think we're dealing with anything 677 00:32:57,480 --> 00:33:00,160 Speaker 1: that's wrong. We just needed this, these tests to be 678 00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:03,680 Speaker 1: done so they could go to school. And you don't 679 00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:07,600 Speaker 1: know how taxing it was to get the p in 680 00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:12,560 Speaker 1: the cups. So when I looked over and saw that 681 00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:16,880 Speaker 1: she was playing that game where you like it didn't matter, 682 00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:20,680 Speaker 1: I just said, you know what, Mom's gonna take those 683 00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:23,240 Speaker 1: and I put them in a little you know they 684 00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:24,960 Speaker 1: used to put in the window shelf, and they got 685 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:26,520 Speaker 1: their names, and I shut the door and I was like, 686 00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:30,160 Speaker 1: we're gonna act like this never happened. Carry on, and 687 00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:32,440 Speaker 1: we went out. We were at the doctor for over 688 00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:35,480 Speaker 1: two hours. Body I did not have time for that. 689 00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:40,120 Speaker 1: So I know, I know, I know, I'm a world ferret. 690 00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:43,120 Speaker 1: I know it's so bad. Now that I'm saying this 691 00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:44,560 Speaker 1: is the first time I said it out loud. Now 692 00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:48,160 Speaker 1: that I'm saying it out loud, I feel, I mean, 693 00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:51,240 Speaker 1: I feel, given that exact scenario, probably would have done 694 00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:54,040 Speaker 1: the same thing again, and so many other people would have. 695 00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:56,200 Speaker 1: And if they're saying they wouldn't, then they probably would. 696 00:33:56,480 --> 00:34:00,280 Speaker 1: They're gonna lie about it, but um, you know, we 697 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:02,280 Speaker 1: have to go. We had to get six shots each 698 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:04,640 Speaker 1: that that day and we have to go back and 699 00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:07,320 Speaker 1: get like six more. I just said, like, how would 700 00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:09,560 Speaker 1: they how do they take the shots? They called pickies. 701 00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:13,280 Speaker 1: They saw the needles and they've had shots in Haiti, 702 00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:15,600 Speaker 1: and they said no, picky, no Picky, no piky, no Picky, 703 00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,839 Speaker 1: no picky, Picky no no picky. They did not want 704 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:21,040 Speaker 1: the pickies. And then I don't know about I'm sure 705 00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:24,480 Speaker 1: the nurses here or the needles or whatever the situation is. 706 00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:27,920 Speaker 1: It's more gentle and better because once they got it, 707 00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,279 Speaker 1: they were fine. They're just their legs. They got them 708 00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,239 Speaker 1: in both of their legs and they're really sore and 709 00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:34,120 Speaker 1: tender and everything. Like if I go pick them up 710 00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:38,000 Speaker 1: or something, it's just like oh oh and I forget. 711 00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:42,360 Speaker 1: So they're fine. They did great, But that was just 712 00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:44,520 Speaker 1: that was a day of the day. I don't want 713 00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:46,880 Speaker 1: to do that again. I was like, that's you have 714 00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:48,520 Speaker 1: to do that stuff to your kids. Go to school 715 00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:50,399 Speaker 1: and you see all these kids in school, it means 716 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:55,120 Speaker 1: there's all these responsible parents like made that happen. So 717 00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:59,719 Speaker 1: like props because it's a lot to get your kids 718 00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:06,399 Speaker 1: in schoo It was a lot and two kids. Yeah, 719 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:09,640 Speaker 1: oh do I get why some parents don't forget it. 720 00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:17,000 Speaker 1: We'll figure it out later. It's a lot, yeah, and 721 00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:20,200 Speaker 1: if they're working parents, like right now, this is me 722 00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:24,239 Speaker 1: saying to you and our bosses and our company, thank you. 723 00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:28,640 Speaker 1: I was thinking if I had this going on and 724 00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:32,040 Speaker 1: a legit full time job and still trying to make appointments. 725 00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:35,759 Speaker 1: I feel like I know some of those people, and 726 00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:39,040 Speaker 1: you see in movies the people that have that struggle 727 00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:42,560 Speaker 1: and finding that balance. And man, I do not take 728 00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:45,399 Speaker 1: this time off for granted one bit. So thank you. 729 00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:53,839 Speaker 1: And I probably need to go call the doctor innocentence. 730 00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:56,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to go too far into this because 731 00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:59,800 Speaker 1: I'm run out of time. What what's the biggest challenge 732 00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:07,160 Speaker 1: for you you mm hmm. Trying to understand They're trying 733 00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:12,319 Speaker 1: to understand, trying to understand what they're processing and what 734 00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:16,240 Speaker 1: they're going through. I'm not going to, but I try, 735 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:24,640 Speaker 1: and that's hard. So um, that's trying to and and 736 00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:29,239 Speaker 1: be aware like constantly. Sometimes I have to try to 737 00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,239 Speaker 1: understand and then make sure I'm aware of that and 738 00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:35,440 Speaker 1: I may need to backstep. I may be going in 739 00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,239 Speaker 1: one direction that's not right and I have to recognize 740 00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:42,200 Speaker 1: that it's wrong and not be prideful or be anything 741 00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:47,719 Speaker 1: and just start over. And that's okay, way more than 742 00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:51,080 Speaker 1: one sentence. Something's never changed. Why what you did you 743 00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:53,960 Speaker 1: even say? No, one sentence, I didn't hear that. Can 744 00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:56,239 Speaker 1: say that one sentence you did? And then you kept going, 745 00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,239 Speaker 1: Yeah you did say that. One sentence you said, trying 746 00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:01,799 Speaker 1: to understand, try, and you took a beat. I thought, wow, 747 00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:07,000 Speaker 1: she's really changed, and the waterfall came out. I agree 748 00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,880 Speaker 1: it was better told as you elaborated and added to 749 00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:13,600 Speaker 1: it collaboration word sure, yeah, yeah, you elaborate on something. 750 00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:15,480 Speaker 1: You continue going on, are trying in the lunchbox and 751 00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:17,279 Speaker 1: now just saying words and hoping they didn't matter. No, 752 00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:20,479 Speaker 1: it felt right, but I knew, I you know, you're 753 00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,759 Speaker 1: you've now written like two books. So by the way, 754 00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:25,880 Speaker 1: I emailed you, and did you do you read your email? 755 00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:31,640 Speaker 1: Which email? Did you whatever you need? Just no? I 756 00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:32,920 Speaker 1: emailed you. I need you to be a part of 757 00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:34,680 Speaker 1: this book, and so I emailed you what I need 758 00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:38,239 Speaker 1: from you? Okay, So happy to do It's like a 759 00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:40,480 Speaker 1: lot of time, Just happy to do it. Can we 760 00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:45,880 Speaker 1: knock it out here while I'm here right now? Okay? 761 00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:47,920 Speaker 1: Having Yeah, the first time you've actually talked about a 762 00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:51,279 Speaker 1: lot of that. Yeah, good times. I mean I've heard 763 00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:54,160 Speaker 1: it pretty much all except the pooping in the in 764 00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:58,520 Speaker 1: the Yarnal story, which is pretty fantastic. Yeah, that's that. 765 00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:01,880 Speaker 1: That was not good. What's your how do you? What 766 00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:03,320 Speaker 1: do you think about me when you hear that? I 767 00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:06,080 Speaker 1: think she's a bad mom. No, I think what you're 768 00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:08,799 Speaker 1: experiencing is what a lot of parents experience, and that's 769 00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:10,839 Speaker 1: something that our show hasn't been able to take and 770 00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:14,200 Speaker 1: put out there. That's very relatable, and I think it's 771 00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:17,440 Speaker 1: gonna add a ton to the show if I come back. No, 772 00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:19,200 Speaker 1: you'll come back. Oh yeah, but then I'm gonna leave. 773 00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:21,200 Speaker 1: I think you'll come back. No, no, no, no, no, 774 00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,160 Speaker 1: not for five months. I think you'll come back. And 775 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,640 Speaker 1: after a few months ago, I just can't do this 776 00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:27,680 Speaker 1: with the same ability. So I'm gonna let you know 777 00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:29,880 Speaker 1: within a few months, I'm out for good. Out for good. 778 00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:33,080 Speaker 1: That's what I think is gonna happen. I don't know, 779 00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:35,239 Speaker 1: I'm crazy. I gotta listen to the show, though, We're 780 00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:37,080 Speaker 1: gonna see what's happening here and making a lot of 781 00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:41,040 Speaker 1: money though it is you're trying to like, no, no no, 782 00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:42,239 Speaker 1: I just saying I don't want to go. I just 783 00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:43,640 Speaker 1: want you to think about that. You're making a lot 784 00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:49,080 Speaker 1: of money. We started. Someone tweeted, oh, for sure, it's fine. 785 00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:51,160 Speaker 1: Amy came over and took less money because she was 786 00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:53,680 Speaker 1: doing sales at a granite shop. So when I say that, 787 00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:55,920 Speaker 1: you haven't understand the time. We were so young and 788 00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:58,080 Speaker 1: it was happening. I thought it was still amazing. I 789 00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:00,560 Speaker 1: remember telling my dad my first contractor and he looked 790 00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,400 Speaker 1: at me. He's like, it's great, honey, and he patted 791 00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:05,239 Speaker 1: me on the back. It was nothing, but I mean, 792 00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:09,359 Speaker 1: I thought it was amazing, but it really was like nothing. Ye, so, 793 00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:18,719 Speaker 1: but we'd get we break the twenties. Stop, should it 794 00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:22,480 Speaker 1: have been clearly? I got, Oh, I don't know. I 795 00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:25,520 Speaker 1: wasn't making much more than that. I was making fifty 796 00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,400 Speaker 1: five at the time, and I was spending all that 797 00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:29,279 Speaker 1: in the indication probably what I thought you made, and 798 00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:33,520 Speaker 1: I probably was well make so, which is good. But 799 00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:35,600 Speaker 1: I was taking half of it, putting it back into 800 00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:43,480 Speaker 1: the building. This show. No no no, no, no, no, no, no. No. Okay. Well, 801 00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:47,839 Speaker 1: it's good to see you, good to talk to you. Right, 802 00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:51,000 Speaker 1: I miss you. I mean I see you, I talked 803 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:52,880 Speaker 1: to you whatever, but this is different. We have a 804 00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:58,200 Speaker 1: different um. This is our other part of our relationship. Well, okay, 805 00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:01,359 Speaker 1: we'll leave it at there. Rewarding no on the air, 806 00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:02,839 Speaker 1: and he said, you know, I tell you I thought 807 00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,960 Speaker 1: all the charities of rewarding. That's nothing compared to me. 808 00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:08,480 Speaker 1: I was like, man made me feel terrible. Okay, Uh, 809 00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:10,640 Speaker 1: there we go. Okay, bye, that's it for us. We'll 810 00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:14,000 Speaker 1: see you next time. Episode what nineties six? Wow, I 811 00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,080 Speaker 1: was my first time on this podcast. I was episode 812 00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:20,560 Speaker 1: ten eighties. Six episodes later, you made it again. All right, 813 00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:20,960 Speaker 1: we're out.