Speaker 1: I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
Speaker 1: and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
Speaker 1: I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but I
Speaker 1: was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
Speaker 1: and a worker being. This is life in English, Carolina.
Speaker 1: You know what time it is about It's about time
Speaker 1: we start planning these summer trips. I knew you were
Speaker 1: gonna talk about it, the vacation. I am dying. But
Speaker 1: guess what stops me, Carolina, but having to book the
Speaker 1: vacation for our household. Why don't we talk about vacation
Speaker 1: in which significant other? Because that's the only person I
Speaker 1: actually vacation with. Well, Okay, so here's the thing. I
Speaker 1: wanted to talk about vacationing without your significant other because
Speaker 1: oh without Well no, So I'm going to tell you
Speaker 1: about the struggle that I have because I have a
Speaker 1: friend who goes on these trips. Okay, has an incredible marriage,
Speaker 1: three children, is like stay at home mom, and she
Speaker 1: swears that these vacations give her life. But I told her,
Speaker 1: after the pandemic, I blame everything on the pandemic. I
Speaker 1: have never witnessed this type of codependency like I have
Speaker 1: ever in my life, like on my husband. Before, I
Speaker 1: was full lose, fancy free. I could get on a plane,
Speaker 1: I could do whatever, no stress. But now even just
Speaker 1: the thought of it, I'm not sure I can vacation
Speaker 1: without my husband. Mark. And I know you and Noony
Speaker 1: go out all the time. You know, it's crazy because
Speaker 1: I've traveled without him, I traveled with him. We've never
Speaker 1: had a real issue about traveling separately. I do know
Speaker 1: some women that will not allow their husband or their
Speaker 1: boyfriend to travel without them. They don't trust them about
Speaker 1: guy's chip. That is absolutely a no no in some household.
Speaker 1: I'm not opposed to it. I even let Noony go
Speaker 1: to Japan for like two we one time stop. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but they actually say it's good for you, and it's
Speaker 1: good for your mental and it's good for your health
Speaker 1: traveling without your significant other. Wait, Japan is on like
Speaker 1: my bucket list, though, I really need to talk to
Speaker 1: Noony about his trip to Japan because the boys and
Speaker 1: I want to go so bad. I've heard it is
Speaker 1: beyond dope, like it is super like just everything will
Speaker 1: blow your mind. I've heard it's clean, I heard, it's safe.
Speaker 1: I really want to go to Japan, so I have
Speaker 1: like travel envyon I do call you boy, I haven't gone,
Speaker 1: and he tells me all the time the one place
Speaker 1: I want to take you to is Japan. But I
Speaker 1: don't know why. It just feels like so far away.
Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm like hesitant on doing. It's
Speaker 1: like I feel like I need two weeks to go
Speaker 1: there and fully submerge myself in it. So I guess
Speaker 1: if I'm in between jobs at one point, maybe I'll
Speaker 1: take two weeks to get to know Japan. But isn't
Speaker 1: that a shame that that's what we have to rely
Speaker 1: on is in order to live our lives? Like I
Speaker 1: feel like now, more than ever, I've been paying more
Speaker 1: attention to just be in the moment, just treasure this,
Speaker 1: you know, perish what is happening right now. There are
Speaker 1: so many things that have happened as of late that
Speaker 1: make me think that way, And that's the reason why
Speaker 1: I don't want to stop. I don't know. I'm having
Speaker 1: a really hard time with saying no to things that
Speaker 1: I know will be great for my mental health and
Speaker 1: for my spiritual health. Seriously, in the big, big picture
Speaker 1: of life. I don't ever want to say, well, I
Speaker 1: couldn't do that because you know I was working. But
Speaker 1: that's the hamster wheel that we're on, that's what we
Speaker 1: all are living in. That is me Like I still
Speaker 1: work mostly remote, Carolina, and I will not leave my
Speaker 1: workspace all day. And I know people, I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: my my lashes done during lunch and I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: my toes done with my computer on my lap. I
Speaker 1: gotta change my ways, Carolina, because people aut here living
Speaker 1: the best remote life. And I am like you and
Speaker 1: I both because if I'm not doing something for the kids,
Speaker 1: I'm doing something for work. If I'm not doing something
Speaker 1: for work, I'm doing another type of project. So I
Speaker 1: feel the same way. But let's talk about it. Vacationing
Speaker 1: without your significant other. I was very inspired by my
Speaker 1: friend who has a very full life, and she was
Speaker 1: giving me, giving me the reasoning behind it. She was saying,
Speaker 1: as a woman, you need to fill your cup, and
Speaker 1: you can't fill your cup all the time when you're
Speaker 1: surrounded by the same people. And I said, well, no,
Speaker 1: I understand that vacationing without kids is different than vacationing
Speaker 1: with your significant other. I get that, but I said,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I went to Nashville. Honey, this is
Speaker 1: so embarrassing. After you know, once things were good with
Speaker 1: the pandemic, you would have thought I would have been ready, ready, Okay,
Speaker 1: the streets were not ready for this. Mother. I planned,
Speaker 1: I had my outfits. Honey, when I tell you how
Speaker 1: embarrassing this is. So we get to the airport. It's
Speaker 1: Mimosa's Girls Weekend. Yeah, everybody's super excited. We go. We
Speaker 1: have this great plan. We're gonna stay at the Virgin
Speaker 1: Hotel in Nashville. I've never been in Nashville. This is
Speaker 1: gonna be an experience. The drinks are flowing. We get there,
Speaker 1: we go to lunch, we have some more drinks. Your
Speaker 1: girl had a panic attack at ten o'clock at night,
Speaker 1: where in the middle of the streets, I all of
Speaker 1: a sudden started like hyperventilating, and I could laugh about
Speaker 1: it now. I don't know what it was, but somebody
Speaker 1: mentioned my husband, and all of a sudden, my tears start.
Speaker 1: I was like, I need to go home. I can't
Speaker 1: do this. I need to be with my man. I
Speaker 1: need to be with my family, and yes there were
Speaker 1: drinks involved, so I definitely think that had something to
Speaker 1: do with it. I was just going to ask you that,
Speaker 1: did you feel like guilt at that moment? Like what
Speaker 1: am I doing? I have a husband, I have children?
Speaker 1: Like why am I here? Well, it wasn't even that
Speaker 1: I was doing anything crazy or solation. I think it
Speaker 1: was just that reality, like, wait a minute, what am
Speaker 1: I doing? We're still in a pandemic. Why did who
Speaker 1: do I think? I am going to these bars where
Speaker 1: there are well, really people were still wearing masks and
Speaker 1: I was still wearing a mask, and then I'm out
Speaker 1: in these ours and these people were not wearing masks
Speaker 1: at all, and I was It was the first time
Speaker 1: that I was ever in an environment where there were
Speaker 1: more than you know, five to ten people, I guess,
Speaker 1: and I think that that's when it really hit me.
Speaker 1: So here I am talking a big game, swearing that
Speaker 1: this is the best thing, that this is what I
Speaker 1: needed after home schooling and being home and working remote
Speaker 1: and all this stuff. Your girl had a panic attack
Speaker 1: at ten o'clock at night. They had to take me
Speaker 1: back to the hotel, put my ass to bed. They
Speaker 1: were saying, they went out actually, which I loved. I said,
Speaker 1: I'm so glad that I did not ruin the night
Speaker 1: for the rest of you guys. They ended up going
Speaker 1: back out into like two o'clock in the morning and
Speaker 1: having a grand old time. You know. But I think
Speaker 1: that when you travel with somebody, you have that comfort,
Speaker 1: you have that sense of home with you all the time.
Speaker 1: So when you don't have it and it's ripped away,
Speaker 1: it's it's an adjustment. I wouldn't say that I wouldn't
Speaker 1: do it again, but I would actually be more hesitant
Speaker 1: to do it now, only because of what happened to
Speaker 1: me on this one trip. Yeah, oh totally, I'm not
Speaker 1: even like I'm serious. And that was and then after
Speaker 1: it was so embarrassing because they were like, oh, you
Speaker 1: were just drunk, and I said, no, girls like that
Speaker 1: was a full blown panic attack. But it also taught
Speaker 1: me something. It made me realize how attached I am
Speaker 1: to my husband and that maybe I do need to
Speaker 1: make a little bit more space for myself and for
Speaker 1: my friends, because isn't that really what a full life
Speaker 1: is all about. It is And you know, they say
Speaker 1: traveling is good for the soul, and I feel like
Speaker 1: it just makes you, you know, your way your significant
Speaker 1: others elsewhere. It makes you gain like a new sense
Speaker 1: of appreciation. You're like thinking, You're like, where is he?
Speaker 1: What is he doing? Is he okay? You know I
Speaker 1: love him. I hope he's now I'll get cheating on me,
Speaker 1: you know, all that good stuff. I worry about that.
Speaker 1: I was like, how many days we're gonna be gone?
Speaker 1: This man gonna be texting all his excess? Do you
Speaker 1: really worry about that? Sometimes I'm just like, oh, stop it,
Speaker 1: get out of here. Do you let yourself go to
Speaker 1: that place? Um? Sometimes it just gives like I don't know,
Speaker 1: it gives like ample opportunity. You know. It's I think like,
Speaker 1: even though they say it takes five minutes to cheat,
Speaker 1: but if you know your spouse is going to be
Speaker 1: Let's say I went to Spain for like a week
Speaker 1: with Bella and another friend. For those seven days, he
Speaker 1: knew I was on the other side of the world, right,
Speaker 1: he could have re sparked the whole relationship with somebody
Speaker 1: and be like, oh my life, my wife is gone.
Speaker 1: Let's get this popping again. He could be in her
Speaker 1: house like five or six days in a row. If
Speaker 1: he wanted to Andy and then been like, Okay, this
Speaker 1: is not working and gone to pick me up at
Speaker 1: the airport. So yeah, in the back of my mind,
Speaker 1: I guess it is there. It's like, if I'm gone
Speaker 1: for a whole week, if this man got that itch,
Speaker 1: this is the time to go for it. Oh wow. See,
Speaker 1: First of all, you know I'm team Noony. I love him.
Speaker 1: I love you too. But I don't feel like he
Speaker 1: would ever ever ever at this. I really don't, but
Speaker 1: like for it would never know. No, I think he's
Speaker 1: smarter than that. But I guess from my perspective, I
Speaker 1: don't worry about Mark being alone. I will say this.
Speaker 1: So Mark has always enjoyed seeing me having fun, and
Speaker 1: I think that is a really beautiful thing. Whenever I'm out,
Speaker 1: whenever I'm with my girlfriends. If I face time him,
Speaker 1: he's not bothered. He actually giggles and he laughs and
Speaker 1: he's like, oh my gosh, what is this bit chop too?
Speaker 1: Now you know what I mean. So he is very
Speaker 1: much a supporter of me letting loose and having fun
Speaker 1: because he knows that I don't get to do it
Speaker 1: as much anymore. Well, we were planning this trip to
Speaker 1: New Orleans, which we just took back in April, and
Speaker 1: there was a lot of moving parts. I had to
Speaker 1: get somebody to come in to help take care of
Speaker 1: the kids, and it was just a lot. And so
Speaker 1: I looked at him at one point and I said, honey,
Speaker 1: I love you. If you want to do this, if
Speaker 1: you want to be with your friends, because it was
Speaker 1: all of his friends. I said, go have a good time.
Speaker 1: I trust you. I'll be here with the kids. It's
Speaker 1: not looking like we We just couldn't arrange for somebody
Speaker 1: to come and take care of the children. It was
Speaker 1: a mess. And he he looked at me and he said, no,
Speaker 1: it won't be the same without you. So there was
Speaker 1: never a question in my mind of and I don't
Speaker 1: want to say allowing him, because this isn't like ownership.
Speaker 1: But there was never an issue for me to allow
Speaker 1: him to go on his own because number one, I
Speaker 1: know who he is. Number Two, I know who his
Speaker 1: friends are. I know that if he was going to
Speaker 1: try to act messy, his friends would remind him in
Speaker 1: a second, what are you doing. So I think that
Speaker 1: there are a lot of layers to maybe taking these
Speaker 1: vacations without your significant other, you really have to evaluate
Speaker 1: where are we in our relationship, how am I feeling
Speaker 1: about my significant other? How do I feel like they
Speaker 1: will take care of the house while I'm away. There
Speaker 1: are just so many things that go into it. Some men,
Speaker 1: a Latino man, let's say, it might be like, so
Speaker 1: I know women that are married that there would never
Speaker 1: they would rather divorce them than let them take a
Speaker 1: girl's trip. So it has a lot to do, you know,
Speaker 1: with culture, trust and where your relationship stands. Because I
Speaker 1: know some women that would never ever ever let their
Speaker 1: husband take trips to certain countries. Ever, they'd rather just
Speaker 1: leave him. But I see Colombia hence beautiful women never
Speaker 1: And you know, my husband took a trip to Dominican
Speaker 1: Republic with a group of his friends. This was like
Speaker 1: ten years ago before we were married. And I remember thinking,
Speaker 1: this is not a good idea. These guys are gonna
Speaker 1: go out there, They're just gonna have fun, They're gonna
Speaker 1: go to strip clubs. This could be very bad from
Speaker 1: my relationship. And I remember when he came back, I
Speaker 1: kept trying to like go through his computer. I kept
Speaker 1: trying to go through his phone. I kept trying to
Speaker 1: see if he connected with someone, and you know when
Speaker 1: you go back to these countries. Let's say I'm Dominican.
Speaker 1: If you go back to this country and you're an
Speaker 1: American man, and you're an attractive American man, you're gonna
Speaker 1: meet a whole bunch of women that are gonna want
Speaker 1: to become pen pals with the hope that they might
Speaker 1: end up on nine. Like any girl to stress, be
Speaker 1: real when your man won't go to these countries and
Speaker 1: as latinas is how he had talked about who ordering
Speaker 1: the bottles. You know, different lifestyles. This is why I
Speaker 1: mean you work so well, Caroly, because I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: a stressed about the Domini Kanas taking my man, and
Speaker 1: you're like, Mark, go have fun. Your friends will check you.
Speaker 1: My friends will order the whole husband. That's a fact, Carolina.
Speaker 1: I like, I've always traveled. I've always traveled on my own.
Speaker 1: My husband's never been one to be like, Na, you
Speaker 1: can't do a girl's trip. But I do know men
Speaker 1: that be like, hell, nah, you're going to men's trip.
Speaker 1: On an all girls trip. You're just gonna try to
Speaker 1: meet men and try to while out and be crazy,
Speaker 1: and some men equate women on vacation with you letting
Speaker 1: your looser side out, girls gone wild. Yeah, exactly, because
Speaker 1: you know what I've go on vacation. I wear different
Speaker 1: things that then I would wear New York. It's like,
Speaker 1: if something is a little see through, I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's okay, it doesn't matter if the base iss here
Speaker 1: for it. Exactly when I'm on vacation. When I'm home
Speaker 1: and in my local area, I'm very covered up, I
Speaker 1: very buttoned up. I would never girl, if my nipples
Speaker 1: got hard, I would be like, oh my god. When
Speaker 1: I girl, it is different. Who want to play beach volleyball?
Speaker 1: Don't worry about my my my bikini bottom going in
Speaker 1: my ask girl, I'm a serve and I'm like, no betaking,
Speaker 1: honey said, I said, come on, Mangha like whenever your home,
Speaker 1: you're like a little nun. And then after it's like
Speaker 1: when you out, you are wild and out letting them
Speaker 1: tats show. Baby, I'm here for it. No, you know
Speaker 1: where you know what's great? Carolina. I was off a
Speaker 1: Memorial Day weekend and that was the first time I
Speaker 1: ever wore a throng bathing suit and noone he didn't care.
Speaker 1: I thought, wait, first of all we must discuss. You
Speaker 1: were one of those like, well, but they're very popular
Speaker 1: right now. So you were showing them cheeks, girl, you
Speaker 1: would letting them cheeks out. I was in Miami and
Speaker 1: I felt so left out. Last time I went to
Speaker 1: Miami and like, wait, hold on, but the got the
Speaker 1: thong and the flag has got the thongs and the
Speaker 1: ball that's at the thong. What I So I went
Speaker 1: back home. I ordered me a couple and next time
Speaker 1: we went down the memorial that we get, I said, oh,
Speaker 1: look what I got, and you know what he said.
Speaker 1: He was like, don't worry about it where in Miami. Hence,
Speaker 1: when you're away and in different spaces, you act a
Speaker 1: little different. That was my thoughty moment, and I loved it.
Speaker 1: I need to bring out my inner thought. E honey,
Speaker 1: you have to help me bring her out because I'm
Speaker 1: always too concerned. And you're absolutely right. I went to Miami.
Speaker 1: I think it was back like in March or something,
Speaker 1: just this past year. You know, my parents lived there,
Speaker 1: and you are right at the beach. It is a
Speaker 1: free for all, and here I am in my granny
Speaker 1: bikini underwear, you know, or bikini bathing suit at full
Speaker 1: coverage because I've got two kids, and meanwhile there are
Speaker 1: women with kids wearing them thongs. They don't care. They're
Speaker 1: bending over picking up all of the sand toys, but
Speaker 1: not me. I'm here trying to be like super conservative.
Speaker 1: I need to let go of that. I need to
Speaker 1: shed that inner judgment of like what are people going
Speaker 1: to say to me, and just let loose. You know,
Speaker 1: it was cheeks everywhere, girl, I'm telling you, cheeks everywhere.
Speaker 1: It was like Donga Land. I swear to god. I
Speaker 1: was like, da, I am not gonna be the only
Speaker 1: one with the grandma bikini. I'm buying me a little
Speaker 1: throng situation. But I but I sat on my back,
Speaker 1: on my butt most of the time. I'm never gonna
Speaker 1: alle you. It's not like I was walking up and
Speaker 1: down the beach, you know, cheeks clapping and nothing. I
Speaker 1: was still very self conscious, but I went for it.
Speaker 1: That's the first Yeah, yeah, try it. Well, let's go
Speaker 1: back to Let's go back to the guys traveling on
Speaker 1: their own though, because I feel like you touched on
Speaker 1: something that is really interesting that never entered my mind.
Speaker 1: Locations that are restricted for your significant other to go to.
Speaker 1: So for example, UM, I will say this. I've I've
Speaker 1: discussed at length with Mark, my husband, how I feel
Speaker 1: about strip clubs. I am not here to shame anybody.
Speaker 1: I think you gotta do what you gotta do. I
Speaker 1: just let him know. Look, it makes me uncomfort while
Speaker 1: thinking about you touching another woman. And I laid it
Speaker 1: out at the very beginning of our relationship. I said,
Speaker 1: I know you're going to be in situations where your
Speaker 1: friends are gonna go and you're going to be a
Speaker 1: part of the crowd. I'm not expecting you to be
Speaker 1: the guy who stays back at the hotel, because you're
Speaker 1: your own man, but I expect you to hold yourself
Speaker 1: to the standard that I think of you. Right, And
Speaker 1: Mark and I discussed it and he said, look, it's
Speaker 1: not my style, Like, it's not my vibe. Yes, well
Speaker 1: I go, I'll be the guy that has drinks, I'll
Speaker 1: hang out. He's like, but I'm not trying to get
Speaker 1: lap dances or you know, do anything of that nature,
Speaker 1: because he knows what it means to me. On the
Speaker 1: flip side, I also think that, like you mentioned, there
Speaker 1: are women that get wild out there that they order
Speaker 1: a stripper or they want to go to the clubs,
Speaker 1: or they want to flirt and dance and be you know,
Speaker 1: wild and crazy. I'm not putting myself in that position.
Speaker 1: So more often than not, whenever we're out. For example,
Speaker 1: when we were in Tennessee, a young guy came up
Speaker 1: to me, a little young Harry Styles look alike, and
Speaker 1: he came up you stopping kid out of here, A
Speaker 1: little a little young Harry Styles look like And he
Speaker 1: came up to me and I looked at me and
Speaker 1: I said, baby, how old are you? And he said
Speaker 1: I'm twenty six And I said, honey, I could have
Speaker 1: birthed you. And then I started talking about said what's
Speaker 1: your style? And then I started being his like mama
Speaker 1: wing woman. Instead of me getting all of that, you know,
Speaker 1: because some women really crave that attention or they want
Speaker 1: that feedback from a younger man and makes them feel
Speaker 1: like they still got it, I went the other direction.
Speaker 1: I said, Okay, let's see who at this bar could
Speaker 1: be your girlfriend. You need a younger woman. And we
Speaker 1: started talking. Do you know that this kid on Instagram
Speaker 1: still follows me a messages me. He is adorable? He
Speaker 1: was like his couga mentor youre like I got you
Speaker 1: don't care about it. Point these cool gas out. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you which one you're gonna go. Absolutely, I
Speaker 1: love that I became his marina and the club I
Speaker 1: was like looking for girls and I was like, hey, ladies,
Speaker 1: do you look at this man? He is adorable. What's
Speaker 1: your name? Where are you from? And I was just
Speaker 1: connecting him. I'm I became the connector. So I think
Speaker 1: that when you look at your relationship and when you
Speaker 1: value it and you respect it, you know, yes, was
Speaker 1: I flattered that this kid came up to me? Sure?
Speaker 1: I mean, who isn't I'm a mother of two that
Speaker 1: works from home. I barely get out. I'm always at Target,
Speaker 1: Like give me a break, you know, Like it's a
Speaker 1: good little ego snack. But it depends on what you
Speaker 1: do with it. From that point of course, you're not
Speaker 1: going to act on it. Some women might act on it, Carolyn.
Speaker 1: And you know, let's say you're in a marriage, sexless marriage,
Speaker 1: not getting much attention that girls trip boom, you're at
Speaker 1: the resort, You're in this dominicano over here serving you
Speaker 1: to drinks. Talk about you know what I'm saying. If
Speaker 1: you're missing that attention and you don't have that mental
Speaker 1: fortitude or maybe that connection with your husband, and you're
Speaker 1: just looking for something vast and quick. It might go down.
Speaker 1: It might go down, and not in the best way,
Speaker 1: if you know what I mean. Um, I always think
Speaker 1: that whenever I am away from my husband, though it
Speaker 1: gets me more excited to be with him, I think
Speaker 1: about that first night when I come back. Hey, hey,
Speaker 1: then it's all versacchi on the floor. And that's because
Speaker 1: you're you still you're still hot over your husband, you
Speaker 1: still love him, and you're like, when I get back,
Speaker 1: this man gonna get the ride of his life. But
Speaker 1: that's not that every relationship. So we gotta be careful
Speaker 1: with you know, those whole those separate vacations. You've got
Speaker 1: to make sure that your relationship isn't a good space
Speaker 1: and that one person is not itching they got that itch.
Speaker 1: You know. I'm saying, if you've gone more than a
Speaker 1: few months without having sex, you'll know how. I don't know, Carolyn.
Speaker 1: I know people. I know people married people that they're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: my marriage is sexless. Now at this point, we're just married,
Speaker 1: but we don't really have sex, and sex is not
Speaker 1: important to us. Look at Carolyna's face right now, honey, no,
Speaker 1: and you know what they're And again I'm not passing
Speaker 1: judgment because what you're saying is a reality. But I
Speaker 1: think that is such a vital and important part of
Speaker 1: a relationship. For me, it is the way that I
Speaker 1: connect on a physical level, but I definitely think that
Speaker 1: mentally it gives me that release where I need to
Speaker 1: feel my husband, if you know what I mean, I
Speaker 1: need to And so if you don't have that, if
Speaker 1: you're lacking, I guess I could see where it could
Speaker 1: take a wrong turn. I think that the difficulty comes
Speaker 1: from there are some people who love to travel, and
Speaker 1: there are some people who hate to travel. And if
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship like that and you're constantly the
Speaker 1: one that's going here, there, and everywhere, it's definitely going
Speaker 1: to cause some resentment in the relationship if it wasn't
Speaker 1: discussed prior or if it hasn't been a habit throughout
Speaker 1: the relationship. Because I know people too who were like,
Speaker 1: oh man, he never wanted to go out before. Now
Speaker 1: he wants to do A, B and C. And they're
Speaker 1: resentful because that was never really the pattern of their relationship.
Speaker 1: So I don't know. I think a healthy balance is
Speaker 1: really kind of aren't we all looking for that? Here's
Speaker 1: what I think, Carolina. I'm an explorer, right. I love exploring.
Speaker 1: I love if I go to a certain country or
Speaker 1: a city, I want to see everything. My significant other
Speaker 1: not so much. He wants to lay by the beach.
Speaker 1: He wants to lay by the pool. Sometimes he wants
Speaker 1: to watch TV in the hotel room for three hours.
Speaker 1: So I have to wait, I have to like weigh out. Okay,
Speaker 1: what am I gonna want to do. I wanted to
Speaker 1: go to Spain. I'm gonna go with girls. They're not
Speaker 1: gonna have a problem being up at seven am talking
Speaker 1: about we're gonna go to an excursion. Him not so much.
Speaker 1: So you know what, I'll save him for Camcoon, where
Speaker 1: we'll do nothing but just veg out at this hotel.
Speaker 1: So I guess, you know, figuring out like which vacation
Speaker 1: alone is the best one to do. Honey, that is
Speaker 1: so smart And I really love that you brought that
Speaker 1: up because I would say this. I feel like we
Speaker 1: are again. And by the way, guys, please don't roll
Speaker 1: your eyes at me. I'm telling you we are not
Speaker 1: a perfect couple. We fight, we we it sounds like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this relationship is so perfect and it's steady.
Speaker 1: It really isn't all the time. But I will say this,
Speaker 1: like on on so many fundamental levels, Mark and I
Speaker 1: really click. So, for example, like what you just said,
Speaker 1: whenever we go somewhere we like to have, we'll say, Okay,
Speaker 1: we want to have the adventure, we want to do
Speaker 1: the fun things, we want to see the sites, but
Speaker 1: then again, we also want to relax and we want
Speaker 1: to have some downtime, so we make sure that there's
Speaker 1: a good mix or you know. The one thing that
Speaker 1: I will say, if you're thinking of traveling right now,
Speaker 1: the number one thing that I do before I even
Speaker 1: go anywhere is I look up the hashtag on Instagram
Speaker 1: of the city that I would be visiting, because there
Speaker 1: are so many gems and insider info that you can
Speaker 1: find on that one simple hashtag if you really do
Speaker 1: the research, and I go to a trip Advisor. I
Speaker 1: always go to trip Advisor to research the hotel that
Speaker 1: I'm going to stay out because there are really there
Speaker 1: are a ton of people who will provide really great
Speaker 1: feedback on that place that you're going to. So I
Speaker 1: think that having a plan is essential for me because
Speaker 1: I am a planner. That's like how I live my life.
Speaker 1: And then going based off of like what I've learned
Speaker 1: or what I've seen, And then I asked Mark, like, well,
Speaker 1: what do you want to do? What do you want
Speaker 1: to see? And then we kind of find that that
Speaker 1: mix of Okay, well you wanted to go here, we
Speaker 1: won't have enough time to go to the volcano, so
Speaker 1: let's do this instead. You gotta find ways to compromise.
Speaker 1: This fool wanted to take me volcano surfing. Honey, he
Speaker 1: wanted to take he wanted to take our kids volcano surfing.
Speaker 1: I said, no, you will not be taking my babies
Speaker 1: to the top of a volcano. No, thank you. Smrk G.
Speaker 1: You've got to be in good standing which a spouse
Speaker 1: when you go look in you sit down there. Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I am crying right now. What do you
Speaker 1: do before you go on a vacation though? Have you
Speaker 1: ever done that? Do you look up the hashtag and
Speaker 1: look up the locations on Instagram? Because I feel like
Speaker 1: that has been the greatest resource for me lately. TikTok
Speaker 1: is amazing. Girl. You go on TikTok. These people are
Speaker 1: living near life and sharing it with us. There's so
Speaker 1: many visiting Panama. Boom boom, boom boom, and there are
Speaker 1: your ten things that you need to do. Social media
Speaker 1: is a great tool to use when you're traveling. I'd
Speaker 1: love it. Before it used to be like Expedia, those
Speaker 1: type of websites that I would look and but now
Speaker 1: it's like people around here, living in life and sharing
Speaker 1: it with us. So definitely I stopped. I stopped the
Speaker 1: hashtags see what's going on. But one thing I can
Speaker 1: tell you that Carolina, sometimes I'm disappointed. I'm like, yo,
Speaker 1: this ship looks so fire on Instagram or on TikTok,
Speaker 1: and then you get there and you can't even take
Speaker 1: a picture. It's like three people. I'm like, yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go here and I'm gonna take this amazing picture
Speaker 1: on this flower wall, and yeah, I'm gonna go and
Speaker 1: this walkway is amazing. I'm gonna do a video of
Speaker 1: me walking out. Girl. People trampling you to death to
Speaker 1: try to take the same picture. So don't always go
Speaker 1: off of what looks good on social media because you
Speaker 1: know what you saw it. But Sol did three hundred
Speaker 1: thousand other people, so it could turn into a mess
Speaker 1: if you go off of those social media hotspots. Very true,
Speaker 1: you don't need those butterfly wings in the background. Girl,
Speaker 1: you look fine, You're no, but it's true. I think
Speaker 1: that now more than ever, it's about show oating. I
Speaker 1: think people love to put up They went here, they
Speaker 1: went there, they went everywhere. I need to up my
Speaker 1: TikTok game, honey, because I am just so lost on it.
Speaker 1: Did I tell you? The other day I opened it
Speaker 1: up for the first time, and like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: four weeks it was wild. I had a talking dog,
Speaker 1: I had a a guy making leather wallets, and then
Speaker 1: I got some swingers up in there, Florida swingers. I
Speaker 1: was like, what, I did not look for this. I
Speaker 1: was not looking for the Florida swingers. It was like,
Speaker 1: what is happening that misread you? The algorithm had No.
Speaker 1: They don't even know me because I'm never on TikTok,
Speaker 1: So I think it was just throwing me a bunch
Speaker 1: of stuff, just trying to see what I would like
Speaker 1: or what I would keep on exploring. And I really
Speaker 1: need to curate my TikTok. But that's a great piece
Speaker 1: of advice for people. And you know what, I think
Speaker 1: that overall, if you think about it, maybe you're not
Speaker 1: in a relationship. Maybe you're that friend that the people
Speaker 1: in a relationship can rely on to motivate and say, hey,
Speaker 1: let's go, let's go to the wineries on Long Island.
Speaker 1: Let's just get out for a day trip or a
Speaker 1: weekend trip. Maybe you're the thing that your friend needs
Speaker 1: to motivate them to get out of that rut, because
Speaker 1: we all need that person to tell us that we've
Speaker 1: been there too long. You know, we need we need
Speaker 1: you to like that fire under our ass, Carolina, that
Speaker 1: is your home. Girl, Bella German. Okay, this woman has
Speaker 1: planned so much stuff for the past few years. She
Speaker 1: is the planner. She's the person that says, okay, can't
Speaker 1: get a pa Panama, Okay, no problem. Oh yeah, I'll
Speaker 1: think about it. Two days later, email itinerary the Panama
Speaker 1: flights to Panama, hotels to Panama. Like she is that person.
Speaker 1: And I appreciate her so much because I don't have
Speaker 1: the time or the desire to plan trips or plan outings.
Speaker 1: But this girl, when I go visit her, she's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: so We're gonna go to this farm, okay, and then
Speaker 1: we're gonna have brunch here, and then we're gonna have
Speaker 1: dinner here, and then there's gonna be food trucks here
Speaker 1: on Thursday. Shout out to that friend that is the
Speaker 1: planner and come up with all these great things that
Speaker 1: we can do together, because if you leave it up
Speaker 1: to me, we'll be doing the same thing over and
Speaker 1: over again. Those people matter. They have immense worth, I'll
Speaker 1: tell you that much. And that's my sister. I love her,
Speaker 1: and she's always, you know, putting things together. Even when
Speaker 1: we have family vacations. She's like, okay, so we have
Speaker 1: reservations at these five restaurants. When do you do you
Speaker 1: guys want to go? Should I cancel? She's our little
Speaker 1: planner and we love her and we appreciate her so
Speaker 1: much for that. Everybody needs a Bella. Everybody needs a
Speaker 1: Bella in their life. And now some of my friends
Speaker 1: have gotten into becoming travel advisors or travel agents, which
Speaker 1: is something that I feel like Bella could really do
Speaker 1: well with. I'm gonna send you this link um that
Speaker 1: my friend is doing after after we record this sounds
Speaker 1: exactly like what my friend just started doing. She's um,
Speaker 1: this is a different mom um. She has twins and
Speaker 1: she has a daughter, and she just started working again.
Speaker 1: And she said, you know, I really love traveling. I
Speaker 1: love helping other people. And she has start did her
Speaker 1: own business and now everybody goes to her. She will
Speaker 1: plan excursions, she will seek out the best places to
Speaker 1: go and have brunch. She'll say, these are the three
Speaker 1: locations that you can go to. Whether you want Mediterranean,
Speaker 1: if you want tapas, if you want whatever. She'll she'll
Speaker 1: suggest a bunch of different things for you. She'll make
Speaker 1: the reservations. It sounds like Bella's already doing this and
Speaker 1: she doesn't even realize that she can be making a
Speaker 1: ton of money from it. Don't give her no idea,
Speaker 1: as Caroline did. She gonna watch start charging and then
Speaker 1: I'm gonna send you hadn't even let her like live
Speaker 1: her life, have her establish her business for other people.
Speaker 1: All right, I'll let her make some sad money real quick.
Speaker 1: So she loves doing it as it is over. If
Speaker 1: you bring up a great point though, because traveling can
Speaker 1: already be really daunting for a lot of people packing
Speaker 1: thinking of what and like I said, for me, it's
Speaker 1: arranging childcare, making sure that you're leaving everything. I had
Speaker 1: to leave uniforms, I had to leave snacks, I had
Speaker 1: to leave everything set for my sister, who again I
Speaker 1: mean we both have beautiful, amazing, gracious, lovely sisters. My
Speaker 1: sister flew in to come and take care of my kids. Yes,
Speaker 1: because we had nobody to take care of them when
Speaker 1: we went to New Orleans. So my sister took time
Speaker 1: off from work to come and fly and somewhere. She's
Speaker 1: from New Hampshire, so she went to She drove to Boston,
Speaker 1: left her car in Boston against bella next time, I
Speaker 1: need a dog sit here, so continue. So she went
Speaker 1: from New Hampshire, drove to Boston, left her car there,
Speaker 1: flew to New York. I went to go and pick
Speaker 1: her up. She stayed with my boys. Took a day
Speaker 1: off of work on Monday, so that we came back
Speaker 1: on Sunday night. And she was like, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to bounce on Sunday. She's like, look, I'll take Monday off.
Speaker 1: Just take me to the airport. But all of that
Speaker 1: coordinating can be so overwhelming for somebody that they need
Speaker 1: someone in their life to tell them, like Okay, I
Speaker 1: got you. You worry about taking care of home. I'll
Speaker 1: worry about telling you where we want to go, what
Speaker 1: you need to do, what you need to pack. And
Speaker 1: that to me is so a essential when you are
Speaker 1: trying to plan a get away for yourself. So, moms,
Speaker 1: if you're listening, and even if you're not a mom,
Speaker 1: like I said, whether you're the friend, or whether you're
Speaker 1: the burnt out mom, or whether you are the the
Speaker 1: auntie that can come and help out, we got to
Speaker 1: look out for each other because this is what life
Speaker 1: is about. It's experiencing, it's going to other places, it's
Speaker 1: about learning about other cultures and really just being in
Speaker 1: the moment. I will tell you this, I really wasn't
Speaker 1: looking forward to go into New Orleans because of the stress,
Speaker 1: and it turned out to be such an incredible trip.
Speaker 1: And we came back and I said to my husband,
Speaker 1: my heart is so full. My heart is so full
Speaker 1: because I saw you enjoying yourself. We did something together
Speaker 1: as a couple, and we made those memories and I
Speaker 1: will never ever regret that. I love that you guys
Speaker 1: did that trip together, and when you got home, it
Speaker 1: was just like the whole weekend I need some alone time. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, so listen. Tell us what your thoughts are.
Speaker 1: Do you go out like do you ever feel like
Speaker 1: you had some pushback from your significant other or are
Speaker 1: they totally like go? Do you be free? We would
Speaker 1: love to hear back from you guys, so make sure
Speaker 1: you hit us up on social media. I'm at the
Speaker 1: real Carolina, hit me on the d M. I am
Speaker 1: honey German. I want to hear the countries that are
Speaker 1: actually banned in Yo Crib from anybody traveling to us. Brazil.
Speaker 1: You mentioned Brazil nine Fance is so gorgeous. Are you
Speaker 1: watching it this season? Really quickly before we go, She's
Speaker 1: she's so nasty. Don't play about my brother, please my brother.
Speaker 1: Please don't just my blood when you cheat card and go.
Speaker 1: My brother is still gonna be here, so don't. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, wait, we gotta do a whole episode one
Speaker 1: fiance because this season is so wild. The guy from
Speaker 1: Ethiopia talking about how he might just get his green card.
Speaker 1: I was dying these people. I don't understand, Carolina. It
Speaker 1: was a language barrier. It was a language barrier. We're
Speaker 1: gonna talk about that. I felt so bad for him
Speaker 1: because I do agree with you. I think that just
Speaker 1: didn't know how to express himself and he didn't get
Speaker 1: the actual, like the realization of your saying the surfact. Okay,
Speaker 1: well we gotta go. We'll see they're cutting us off
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