1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:14,080 Speaker 1: If you're a human, you qualify you're a hypocrite. What's up, everybody, 2 00:00:14,120 --> 00:00:16,599 Speaker 1: Welcome back to the podcast. Thanks for being here. My 3 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: name is Granger and this is episode two twenty four. 4 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: If you've been here for a long time and you've 5 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: seen this podcast evolve over the years, welcome back. If 6 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: you're brand new, I'm glad you made it. What we 7 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: do here is we answer your questions. You could email 8 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:34,920 Speaker 1: me podcast at grangersmith dot com. Just walk through it casual, 9 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:37,920 Speaker 1: like we're sitting at dinner, like we're sitting around a campfire, 10 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:40,520 Speaker 1: like we're riding in a truck. You asked me a question, 11 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:42,680 Speaker 1: I don't have any notes in front of me, and 12 00:00:42,720 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: we just kind of walk through it like two friends. 13 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:49,879 Speaker 1: First question here comes from Katie says, Hey, Granger, I've 14 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 1: loved your book and gained so much wisdom and perspective 15 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: from reading it. I'm reaching out because, similar to y'all, 16 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 1: we've had challenges conceiving. We're so grateful to have two beautiful, 17 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:05,920 Speaker 1: healthy daughters who were conceived easily. We always wanted a 18 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 1: third child, but it has not been possible, even with 19 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:14,200 Speaker 1: initial interventions. I U I. We are now faced with 20 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: the choice of moving into IVF or making peace without 21 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: a third child. I'm really struggling with this decision and 22 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:24,759 Speaker 1: feel as if a third child is not God's will 23 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: for us. Therefore, if we pursue IVF, are we going 24 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: against God's will. It's this all a lesson to be 25 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:35,000 Speaker 1: grateful for the incredible gifts we've already been given versus 26 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:38,520 Speaker 1: wanting more. I would love your perspective in how to 27 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: think about and pray about this big decision. I've loved 28 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 1: watching your story unfold in the past year, and it's 29 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:48,000 Speaker 1: so inspiring to see you embrace your god giving purpose. 30 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: Thank you, Katie Hey, Katie Hey, thanks for your question. 31 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 1: Thanks for emailing. It's a great one. I love the 32 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 1: way you're thinking through these things. And partly what I 33 00:01:56,840 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 1: do on this podcast is is not to tell people 34 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: I'm right. That's not my goal. My goal is to 35 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:11,920 Speaker 1: to help people think through a logical question with a 36 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: biblical worldview. Really, like, if that was a subtitle, this 37 00:02:16,080 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: podcast would be helping people like you think through common 38 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 1: problems with a biblical worldview, right, And it's so it's not. 39 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: It's not helping you get the answer right. There's a 40 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 1: difference between helping you get the answer and just helping 41 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: you with the starting point of thinking through it. That's 42 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 1: all that I hope to provide. I hope to be 43 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: that kind of encouragement because otherwise I'm not always right. 44 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 1: You know, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna sit here 45 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: and tell you here's the right answer, but I gonna 46 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 1: tell you I could tell you here's how we should 47 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: be thinking about this. So first of all, I don't 48 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to over spiritualize anything in life. If 49 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:00,800 Speaker 1: you've heard me before, I think think we should always 50 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:06,640 Speaker 1: have caution in over spiritualizing, meaning I don't want to 51 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:09,320 Speaker 1: look at this and go God is trying to tell 52 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 1: me an answer about a third child. He's sending me 53 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:14,919 Speaker 1: a message in a bottle. But I'm not quite sure 54 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:18,959 Speaker 1: how to how to decipher this foreign language that God 55 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 1: has now sent me. It's like, no, he didn't send 56 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 1: you a magic language that you need to decipher that 57 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 1: came through the clouds or the bottle in the ocean, 58 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:33,840 Speaker 1: or there's like billboards and you're seeing certain letters and 59 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: if you add up the letters, subtract them with the 60 00:03:37,160 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 1: dream that you had last night, plus your husband just 61 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 1: now had a revelation at work from his boss who 62 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 1: says his favorite movie is this. And if you take 63 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: that title and the middle word in that title is this, 64 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: and guess how long the movie is. It's one hour 65 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: and twenty one minutes long. All this comes together and 66 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 1: says God is trying to tell us. It's like, come on, y'all. 67 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 1: I mean, let's not do this. It's not biblical. And 68 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: then it's just not logical. It's not rational. Do you 69 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 1: think God Creator would give you some kind of morse 70 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 1: code that you need to set out and decipher like 71 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:16,280 Speaker 1: you're living in the movie National Treasure. No, it's just so, 72 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:19,880 Speaker 1: that's what I mean. I overdid that whole thing. But 73 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 1: I just don't want us to overspiritualize, because then that 74 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: is just not Christianity. God is a God who speaks, 75 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 1: and he's a God who speaks clearly and definitively, and 76 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:35,719 Speaker 1: he speaks through his son and his ever living, breathing 77 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,920 Speaker 1: Word of God. The Bible right in the beginning he 78 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 1: spoke through the prophets, and in the last days he 79 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 1: spoke through the Sun. That's what the Bible says, the 80 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 1: son Jesus. So we know what God's intentions are through 81 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 1: reading the Bible, and we can't make that too complicated. 82 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: So with all I said, what I just said, let's 83 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: take that and then pour that on top of this question. Right, 84 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: Your question is there's a couple of them. Are we 85 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:13,880 Speaker 1: going against God's will to pursue IVF. Let's start with 86 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: that one. You said, we're now faced with the choice 87 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 1: moving into IVF or making peace without a third child. 88 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 1: In fact, let's start there, because that's not your final option. 89 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:29,159 Speaker 1: That's not where the book closes. Because you've said you've 90 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 1: said nothing about adoption, And I think adoption is a 91 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: beautiful thing. In fact, I think it's something that all 92 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 1: of us should consider. I think it's a calling that 93 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: all of us should be praying through and praying for. 94 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 1: Don't close the door to all the children in your 95 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: family just because it's not biologically possible. We should always 96 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: be praying and thinking and asking, saying, God, if there's 97 00:05:56,360 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: another baby in this world that needs our house. Lord, 98 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 1: opened my heart to that, open my eyes to that. 99 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 1: I am your servant on this or that's all I am. Lord. 100 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:10,400 Speaker 1: Let me be your servant. Let me be available to 101 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: you God, to serve you to your needs. If there 102 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:19,159 Speaker 1: is another baby out there, we'll take it right. I 103 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 1: want that to be part of this discussion. I want 104 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:24,080 Speaker 1: that to be part of your question, and I hope 105 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:25,479 Speaker 1: that it is, and that's why I said it that way. 106 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 1: So then we move on to the second part of 107 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 1: the question. If we pursue IVF, are we going against 108 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: God's will? That's a complicated question from a dad who's 109 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 1: been through IVF. The decision that Amber and I made 110 00:06:41,400 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 1: according to God's will. Once again, we can understand his 111 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: will by reading the Bible, and it's not hard. There 112 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:54,360 Speaker 1: are many dangers and evils in IVF, and part of 113 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 1: it is. One of the things is the fact that 114 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:05,360 Speaker 1: you have all these embryo leftover ethically, morally, biblically, what 115 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 1: do we do with the extra embryos that are made 116 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:15,200 Speaker 1: Lord willing? That's something you have to wrestle with. Now. 117 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: IVF is science. God is science, so that like science, 118 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 1: does not go against God. He's the creator. He made science, 119 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 1: like science exists because God exists. We can't. We have 120 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:33,040 Speaker 1: to reconcile that we can't go well, these two things, 121 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: this is science and this is God, so they don't 122 00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:40,960 Speaker 1: go together. That's absolute garbage. God is science. God created science, 123 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 1: just like he created art in music and mathematics. You know, 124 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: he is a creator. He is the great intelligent designer. 125 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 1: Of course he is science. So so in a way 126 00:07:54,720 --> 00:08:00,400 Speaker 1: God is behind IVF listen, long story. But in my 127 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 1: book Like a River, the way that this, the way 128 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:08,840 Speaker 1: I had a better understanding about this idea is in 129 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:12,480 Speaker 1: terms of gardening, right, And Lincoln asked me, he said, Dad, 130 00:08:13,440 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 1: does God make all the trees and man makes some 131 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 1: of the trees. And he's thinking, because we plant trees, 132 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: like we go to the nursery, right, and we buy 133 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: a seed, or we buy a tree and we plant it, 134 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: and then there's the wild trees that live in the forest. 135 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: And in his mind at the time when he said 136 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:33,480 Speaker 1: it was like seven years old, six years old. So 137 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 1: it's like he's thinking, God makes those wild ones in 138 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 1: the forest. But then there's also the ones that man 139 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:41,560 Speaker 1: makes out of seed. And I had to correct him 140 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:45,000 Speaker 1: in that and say, no, buddy, God makes all the trees. 141 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: Sometimes man plants the seed, right, So that's the difference. 142 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:55,680 Speaker 1: God makes all the trees. It's the same thing with babies. 143 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:58,679 Speaker 1: And through the new technology, the new science of IVF, 144 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 1: God makes all the babies. God ordains all the babies. 145 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:07,440 Speaker 1: There is no baby born without the hand of God 146 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:10,439 Speaker 1: all over it. And there's no baby that's not born 147 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:14,439 Speaker 1: without the hand over that from God. God either allows 148 00:09:14,440 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 1: it or he doesn't. He ordains it, or he doesn't. 149 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: He wills it, or he doesn't, including IVF, including all 150 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:26,200 Speaker 1: of science, because that's who he is. But in the 151 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 1: case of IVF, God makes all the babies. But sometimes 152 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: man plants the seed. That's the case with IVF, and 153 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:38,160 Speaker 1: that's the case with buying a tree at a nursery, 154 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:42,120 Speaker 1: or buying a seed of a vegetable of a tomato 155 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:46,640 Speaker 1: plant at the nursery instead of the wild one grilling. Okay, 156 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:50,200 Speaker 1: so you have to reconcile that. You have to pray 157 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:52,960 Speaker 1: through that. What are the evils that come with that? 158 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: What are the evils? And one of the things is 159 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: too many embryos? Are you willing? This is this is 160 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,320 Speaker 1: the decision Amber and I had to make. Are we 161 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 1: willing to implant all of the embryos so that none 162 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:11,199 Speaker 1: go to waste, none go to science or another family 163 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 1: or research or the trash. Ambers said, I will take 164 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:23,240 Speaker 1: all of the embryos it just so happens we were 165 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 1: only left in the end with one another, just clear 166 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:32,040 Speaker 1: distinct piece of evidence of God's providence. We were only 167 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:35,320 Speaker 1: left with one in the end, and it ended up 168 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:40,080 Speaker 1: being our baby, Maverick. Are you willing to reconcile that? 169 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:48,280 Speaker 1: And then the last part of this says, is this 170 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 1: all a lesson to be grateful for the incredible gifts 171 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 1: were already given versus wanting more? Once again, this goes 172 00:10:56,040 --> 00:11:01,400 Speaker 1: back to overspiritualizing a fundamental biblical concept. So you're wondering, 173 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 1: is this God? Is God showing me through this spiritual 174 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 1: story that He's created around me that this is really 175 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:18,199 Speaker 1: all of this really is a setup so that I 176 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:21,480 Speaker 1: will just be grateful for what I've already been given 177 00:11:21,520 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 1: instead of wanting more. Maybe that's what God's doing. It's like, 178 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:32,880 Speaker 1: hold up, pause, take a break. Here's where Katie. I'm 179 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:35,360 Speaker 1: not at all blaming you, but this is where like 180 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:41,840 Speaker 1: strange nominal Christianity starts creeping in the idea. Think about this, 181 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 1: Let me rephrase it for you, let me say it 182 00:11:45,520 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 1: in another way. God sees all the things that happened 183 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:58,679 Speaker 1: in your life, and sometimes rarely he intervenes with something 184 00:11:59,160 --> 00:12:01,839 Speaker 1: that is supposed to make you grateful for what you've 185 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:07,160 Speaker 1: been given and not wanting more. Or are we always 186 00:12:07,400 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 1: supposed to understand that reality when we read through the Bible, 187 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 1: when we read through the teachings of the Gospels, do 188 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 1: we not always get that feeling from Jesus that he's 189 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 1: trying to tell us be grateful now, don't worry about tomorrow. 190 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:28,559 Speaker 1: When we hear the teachings of the apostle Paul, when 191 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 1: he says I have learned to be content in all situations, 192 00:12:34,080 --> 00:12:37,440 Speaker 1: he said all situations. Not I have learned to be 193 00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 1: content because of this one time. God gave me this 194 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:42,520 Speaker 1: scenario that played out, and that all he wanted me 195 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 1: to see was how to be content. No, he says, 196 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: all situations. So that's just a given, Katie, that you 197 00:12:50,520 --> 00:12:52,560 Speaker 1: should be grateful for the gifts that you've already been 198 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:55,800 Speaker 1: given in versus wanting more all the time. That's the 199 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:58,960 Speaker 1: essence of being a Christian. So take that as just 200 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: a big unbreather, a thought that's difficult to grasp, but 201 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:06,160 Speaker 1: you have to lean into that, not because of some 202 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: magical situation that's popped into your life. You could use 203 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:13,920 Speaker 1: these situations absolutely but fundamentally that just should always be 204 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: taken in the background. Be grateful for what I have now, 205 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:19,520 Speaker 1: whether it's fifty children or one child, or if you 206 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,280 Speaker 1: lose the last one you got, be grateful for what 207 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 1: you have, not because of a certain scenario, but because 208 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 1: that's what you're called to be as a believer. I 209 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:35,280 Speaker 1: think I think I have run this question pretty much 210 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:39,680 Speaker 1: into the ground, and I hope that that's helpful for you, Katie. 211 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:43,120 Speaker 1: I still remember whenever I started grangersmith dot com, whenever 212 00:13:43,120 --> 00:13:48,079 Speaker 1: that website was brand new. That was twenty six years ago. 213 00:13:49,640 --> 00:13:52,199 Speaker 1: Can you even believe that it's been so long? And 214 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:55,679 Speaker 1: I had maybe an online store, I don't know. I 215 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:58,760 Speaker 1: don't know how I possibly sold it anything. I don't 216 00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 1: know why anyone would care. But I did have a 217 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:05,760 Speaker 1: few T shirts and some CDs in my apartment kitchen, 218 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:09,560 Speaker 1: and then either me or my mom would mail those out. 219 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:11,839 Speaker 1: Sometimes I would say, hey, Mom, there's there's a T 220 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 1: shirt that sold last week. Now that really that is 221 00:14:15,440 --> 00:14:18,880 Speaker 1: the ancestor of EE dot com. Really, I mean that's 222 00:14:18,920 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: where EE Apparel started. I know we say that it 223 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:25,200 Speaker 1: was founded in twenty eleven, but really, if you go 224 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 1: back to when I was a country artist. It goes 225 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 1: all the way back to like two thousand and two. 226 00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:32,520 Speaker 1: I would say that the number one way that we 227 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 1: started managing orders in an efficient way when we started 228 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: gaining popularity around the country was with Shopify. Because we 229 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 1: didn't know coming from those old days, we didn't know 230 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:48,520 Speaker 1: how to sell e commerce and how to take orders 231 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:51,160 Speaker 1: and how to do that efficiently. But that's where Shopify 232 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:53,520 Speaker 1: came in and changed the game for us. 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Sign up for a 257 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:17,200 Speaker 1: one dollar per month trial period at shopify dot com 258 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 1: slash Granger all lowercase. Go to shopify dot com slash 259 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 1: granger right now to grow your business no matter what 260 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:29,960 Speaker 1: stage you're in Shopify dot Com slash Granger. Next question 261 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:32,360 Speaker 1: comes from anonymous. It says, Hey, Grainger, I have a 262 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:36,960 Speaker 1: situation I need advice on regarding my church and pastor's son. 263 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:40,080 Speaker 1: The pastor's son preaches a sermon every now and then. 264 00:16:40,520 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 1: I work with him and notice he makes perverted and 265 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:48,200 Speaker 1: cruel jokes as well as racist remarks. I have a 266 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 1: feeling he's a product of raising. I have a feeling 267 00:16:52,240 --> 00:16:55,400 Speaker 1: he's a product of his raising, and that his father, 268 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:58,520 Speaker 1: the pastor, may be the same way. The son's last sermon, 269 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:01,880 Speaker 1: he spoke on acting way at church and another way 270 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:04,960 Speaker 1: at work. He also spoke on how he confronted someone 271 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:08,600 Speaker 1: we work with about them acting one way at church 272 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 1: and another way at work, and he told the guy 273 00:17:10,840 --> 00:17:14,760 Speaker 1: that he was going to hell. I found that hypocritical, 274 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:18,320 Speaker 1: and I don't know how to go about it. Do 275 00:17:18,359 --> 00:17:20,480 Speaker 1: you believe I have the right to hold him accountable 276 00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:25,600 Speaker 1: for this and bring it to his attention concerning considering 277 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:28,680 Speaker 1: I'm a part of the church. Also, do you recommend 278 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:32,359 Speaker 1: visiting new churches or staying at my current church? All right, Anonymous, 279 00:17:32,440 --> 00:17:36,120 Speaker 1: thanks for the email. A lot of stuff regarding this 280 00:17:36,160 --> 00:17:40,680 Speaker 1: is serious stuff, and I don't know the whole story, 281 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:44,479 Speaker 1: and I don't know you, which creates a problem for me. 282 00:17:44,560 --> 00:17:47,880 Speaker 1: Since I don't know you, and I wish I did, 283 00:17:48,800 --> 00:17:52,480 Speaker 1: it makes it more difficult for me to step into 284 00:17:52,520 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 1: this situation right off the bat boom. First thing we 285 00:17:56,680 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 1: need to understand is, first of all, there's hypocrites in 286 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 1: the church. You should know that. But there's hypocrites everywhere, 287 00:18:08,359 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 1: in every business and every organization, and if you're a human, 288 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:15,760 Speaker 1: you qualify you're a hypocrite. The only difference should be 289 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:18,399 Speaker 1: in the church. The only difference is in the Church, 290 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:25,000 Speaker 1: we know we're hypocrites because we know we're sinners. So 291 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 1: that's the difference in hypocrites in the Church and hypocrites 292 00:18:27,720 --> 00:18:30,640 Speaker 1: in the world. Hypocrites in the Church at least will 293 00:18:30,680 --> 00:18:37,200 Speaker 1: admit I'm a hypocrite, and we welcome all hypocrites to 294 00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:41,600 Speaker 1: join us on a Sunday morning. You need to understand too, 295 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 1: that when we judge like this in the Bible, people constantly, 296 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:50,359 Speaker 1: out of context will throw out don't judge, don't judge, 297 00:18:50,359 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 1: don't judge. But what we need to understand is what 298 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:55,520 Speaker 1: the Bible's saying when it says don't judge, is don't judge, 299 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:58,840 Speaker 1: or you will be judged by the same measure that 300 00:18:58,880 --> 00:19:03,000 Speaker 1: you're judging, which makes judging. It's actually good. It's a 301 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:09,400 Speaker 1: good thing to correct and rebuke from scripture patiently, right 302 00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:14,760 Speaker 1: in love. But beware that what you're rebuking, what you're correcting, 303 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:18,480 Speaker 1: what you're judging, needs to be and demands to be 304 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:22,119 Speaker 1: judged and correct and rebuked back by the same measure 305 00:19:22,200 --> 00:19:24,640 Speaker 1: to what you're doing. So have you checked yourself? Here's 306 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:27,680 Speaker 1: my point, Anonymous. Have you checked yourself to see if 307 00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:29,560 Speaker 1: the speck that you're trying to get out of your 308 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: brother's eye is bigger than the log that you have 309 00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:36,200 Speaker 1: in your own eye. So we have to think about 310 00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:39,879 Speaker 1: look at yourself first, look in the mirror first, right, 311 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:44,919 Speaker 1: how you do it, Anonymous? Like, because that's why I hesitate, 312 00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:46,760 Speaker 1: because I don't know you. Are you just one of 313 00:19:46,800 --> 00:19:48,720 Speaker 1: those people that goes to church And it's like, man, 314 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:51,040 Speaker 1: that Pastor Son, And I don't like that Pastor Son. 315 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:53,840 Speaker 1: He just does this and that and says this and that, 316 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:56,040 Speaker 1: and he crewed jokes all the time. And I think 317 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:58,520 Speaker 1: it's a product of his raisin. And you know what, 318 00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:01,919 Speaker 1: I think he's probably racist. And you know what, I 319 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:05,320 Speaker 1: just don't. I think I should go somewhere else. And 320 00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:08,879 Speaker 1: And is that you, because there's a lot of that 321 00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:13,879 Speaker 1: or if I knew you, this would help, or you 322 00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:17,920 Speaker 1: just like sincerely crying for help, and like Granger, Hey, 323 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:25,160 Speaker 1: I've read first and second Timothy, I've read Titus, Hebrews, Acts, 324 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 1: all the places in the Bible that give us the 325 00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:33,719 Speaker 1: qualifications for an elder granger. I've gone through these. I 326 00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:35,359 Speaker 1: know what it takes to be an elder or a 327 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 1: pastor according to the Bible, not according to my own thoughts. 328 00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:43,720 Speaker 1: And this guy's not qualified. And so if that's you, 329 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:48,120 Speaker 1: and you're truly being faithful and sincere about this out 330 00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 1: of love, then I say, okay. If you have read first, 331 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:56,879 Speaker 1: second Timothy, Titus, Hebrews Action, and you know all the 332 00:20:56,920 --> 00:21:00,080 Speaker 1: qualifications of an elder, and then you go and and 333 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 1: then you sit down and you say, can I have 334 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,600 Speaker 1: lunch with your pastor? Or can I grab coffee with 335 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:09,480 Speaker 1: you and tell you some concerns I have? And if 336 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:14,119 Speaker 1: your argument is biblically grounded, not your personal opinion, and 337 00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:19,320 Speaker 1: you have evidence with it, then the pastor says, you're wrong. 338 00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:21,720 Speaker 1: This is my son. He's awesome, he's amazing, he's gonna preach. 339 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 1: And then you go, yes, sir, I just I would 340 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 1: like to let you know I'm gonna i'd be looking 341 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:32,199 Speaker 1: for another church. And it's it's this is the concern 342 00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 1: I have. And I hope that this is an encouragement 343 00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:37,760 Speaker 1: to you. From what I see. I don't mean to 344 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 1: be a burden on your pastor. But I hope that 345 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,919 Speaker 1: this can be an encouragement that what I see in 346 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:44,919 Speaker 1: scripture is not lining up with what I'm hearing on 347 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:48,240 Speaker 1: a Sunday morning. And if I'm wrong about that, which 348 00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:50,080 Speaker 1: I might be because I don't know a lot, But 349 00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:53,119 Speaker 1: if I'm wrong about that or about that, then I 350 00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 1: hope you can correct me. And I hope that I could. 351 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 1: I could come back and this could be my church home. 352 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:00,720 Speaker 1: But right now I think I'm gonna be looking around 353 00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:04,679 Speaker 1: for another church. So, Anonymous, I think that that's the 354 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:07,160 Speaker 1: way that you need to go about it, as opposed 355 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:10,280 Speaker 1: to just disappearing no one ever heard from you. Again, 356 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:12,600 Speaker 1: if your church is so big that you don't even 357 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 1: have the ability to sit with your pastor or have 358 00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:17,520 Speaker 1: coffee with him, then that's another problem. Your church is 359 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:22,240 Speaker 1: too big. The sheep should have access to the shepherd, right, 360 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,359 Speaker 1: What else? What else is going on going on in 361 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 1: this question? The the perverted, cruel jokes and racist remarks. 362 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:34,160 Speaker 1: If that's true, you're then you're absolutely right. I don't 363 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:38,520 Speaker 1: want to sit here and just throw stones and dogpile 364 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:40,600 Speaker 1: on this thing that I don't know anything about. I 365 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:43,720 Speaker 1: don't know what you're talking about with perverted, cruel, joke, 366 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:45,960 Speaker 1: racist remarks. I don't know what that means. I don't 367 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:48,840 Speaker 1: know what you're I don't know where you're coming from, 368 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,639 Speaker 1: so I can't I can't pile on that. But if 369 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:54,000 Speaker 1: it's true and that's that really is what's happening, then 370 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:58,159 Speaker 1: then you're absolutely right. The guy's not qualified. According to 371 00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:01,160 Speaker 1: first Timothy tewond Timothy Titus, he brief's acts, et cetera, 372 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:06,480 Speaker 1: then he's not qualified. And the last thing, here's the 373 00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:10,119 Speaker 1: last thing I want to say. You briefly mentioned in 374 00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:13,000 Speaker 1: this second paragraph here about he spoke in church about 375 00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:15,240 Speaker 1: acting one way at work and acting with one way 376 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:17,199 Speaker 1: at church. I don't know what you're talking about, and 377 00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:19,320 Speaker 1: I don't know what he's talking about, but I would 378 00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:24,520 Speaker 1: highly encourage you in everyone listening, to be in a 379 00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:30,680 Speaker 1: church that preaches expositionally, meaning the pastor. And I believe 380 00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,240 Speaker 1: I've said this previously in other episodes, but I'll say 381 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,600 Speaker 1: it in every episode because it's that important to find 382 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:41,640 Speaker 1: a church where your pastor preaches from the Bible, working 383 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: through it with some kind of system where he's working 384 00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:50,240 Speaker 1: through a book in the Bible. And this needs to 385 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:52,760 Speaker 1: be the majority of the teaching that happens at your 386 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:56,639 Speaker 1: church on a Sunday. Now there are exceptions to that, 387 00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: and there should be. There should be breaks in between 388 00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:05,359 Speaker 1: the books, brief topical messages. I understand that. But the 389 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,480 Speaker 1: majority of the teaching that comes from the pulpit on 390 00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:11,399 Speaker 1: a Sunday morning at any given church should be expositional. 391 00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:16,720 Speaker 1: Meaning the pastor or the preacher is preaching through a book. 392 00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:23,000 Speaker 1: In the Bible, verse by verse, the context of the 393 00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:27,600 Speaker 1: original author is the context that the sermon should be. 394 00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:32,439 Speaker 1: So whatever the original author was writing about, whatever his 395 00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:36,320 Speaker 1: point was, that's the point of the pastor on the 396 00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:40,320 Speaker 1: Sunday morning, not the pastor's own point that he's trying 397 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:44,680 Speaker 1: to use the Bible to support. There's a big difference 398 00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:48,760 Speaker 1: in that there's a fine line that's actually a massive 399 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:51,480 Speaker 1: grand canyon if you don't see it right, Because a 400 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 1: lot of pastors will say, or excuse me, not pastors, 401 00:24:55,400 --> 00:25:00,119 Speaker 1: a lot of churchgoers will say, my church preaches from 402 00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:04,640 Speaker 1: the Bible. And to that I say, well amen. If 403 00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:06,760 Speaker 1: they didn't preach from the Bible, it wouldn't even be 404 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:11,959 Speaker 1: considered Christian, it would be a ted talk. So, of course, 405 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:15,720 Speaker 1: but that's not what I'm talking about. Your church preaches 406 00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:18,119 Speaker 1: from the Bible. I get it, of course, it's Christian. 407 00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:23,800 Speaker 1: What I'm talking about is preaching expositionally, is taking, say 408 00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:30,680 Speaker 1: the Book of Mark, and for the next thirty Sundays, 409 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:36,800 Speaker 1: twenty Sundays, even ten, even fifty whatever, we're going to 410 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:40,000 Speaker 1: be in the Book of Mark, starting with the beginning, 411 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:42,960 Speaker 1: and guess where we finish when the when the sermon 412 00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:47,080 Speaker 1: series is over at the end. We're working through systematically, 413 00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:49,919 Speaker 1: or it could be a part, but regardless, you're working 414 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,439 Speaker 1: verse by verse and your your point from the pulpit 415 00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:58,199 Speaker 1: is the point that Mark is making. Okay, then you 416 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:01,200 Speaker 1: can apply what Mark was teaching to his people in 417 00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:06,680 Speaker 1: that writing. You could apply that to the modern hearer. 418 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:11,560 Speaker 1: But that happens after you've looked through the lens of 419 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:15,880 Speaker 1: the Bible itself, as opposed to looking through a cultural 420 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:19,959 Speaker 1: lens with what we want to hear in our modern context, 421 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:24,480 Speaker 1: looking through that lens at the Bible. Instead, you're taking 422 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:28,800 Speaker 1: the Bible and looking through it at the culture. Does 423 00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 1: that make sense? That would be what I would say 424 00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:37,480 Speaker 1: is good grounded biblical teaching and a healthy church. Next 425 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,240 Speaker 1: question comes from Rolando says, Hey, Grangeer, I wanted to 426 00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:43,640 Speaker 1: ask what do you think about family businesses. I'm twenty four, 427 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,199 Speaker 1: I'm married, already have a son, my two brothers, and 428 00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:48,320 Speaker 1: I work with dad on his farm, and sometimes it 429 00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:51,040 Speaker 1: doesn't seem to work very well. What are your opinions 430 00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:54,679 Speaker 1: on families working together? Brother? I'm glad you asked it. 431 00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,960 Speaker 1: I have a different opinion than my dad. And my 432 00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:03,360 Speaker 1: brother had worked with his brother for many, many years, decades, 433 00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,880 Speaker 1: and he always told us, He's like, don't work with family. 434 00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:10,760 Speaker 1: It causes problems. You're gonna have problems working with family 435 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:15,000 Speaker 1: that you don't have working with other people. My brother, Tyler, 436 00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:18,399 Speaker 1: he kind of thinks the same thing, but I don't. 437 00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:22,080 Speaker 1: I think it's a blessing to work with family. Yes, 438 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:27,760 Speaker 1: it comes with problems, it comes with the risk. This 439 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:31,479 Speaker 1: is what my dad is the risk of families breaking up, 440 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:35,320 Speaker 1: separating because work made a rift in between them and 441 00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:37,960 Speaker 1: they caused it a big enough problem where now they 442 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,879 Speaker 1: don't even speak to each other or as. Another thing 443 00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:42,439 Speaker 1: my dad is worried about is that when you do 444 00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,440 Speaker 1: get together with all the families, like on Thanksgiving or Christmas, 445 00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:48,359 Speaker 1: you don't want to be around the guy, because you've 446 00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:50,320 Speaker 1: been around him Monday through Friday. Now here you are 447 00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:53,840 Speaker 1: spending the weekend. You know he worried about that stuff. 448 00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:57,359 Speaker 1: I don't. Once again, I think it's a blessing to 449 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,320 Speaker 1: work with family. I think it's such a privilege an 450 00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:03,359 Speaker 1: honor to be able to work with your siblings and 451 00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:05,960 Speaker 1: or your dad at the farm, like you're saying, and 452 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,680 Speaker 1: the alternative, And this is how I was. I made 453 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:13,760 Speaker 1: an argument to Tyler, my middle brother, about bringing Parker, 454 00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:18,239 Speaker 1: our youngest brother on when the first conversation came up, 455 00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,880 Speaker 1: that maybe Parker would work with us at Eeye Apparel, 456 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:23,760 Speaker 1: and Tyler was like, man, no, Parker needs to make 457 00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:25,520 Speaker 1: his own name for himself and do his own thing. 458 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,200 Speaker 1: And I was the guy who's like, no, I want 459 00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 1: him to work with us. And my argument was this, 460 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:32,280 Speaker 1: if he goes off and does his own thing, makes 461 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:36,600 Speaker 1: a name for himself, like you're saying, Tyler, then he'll 462 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:40,720 Speaker 1: get so involved in whatever hobbies and business and friends 463 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:44,240 Speaker 1: and church group that he has, and it probably moves 464 00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:47,320 Speaker 1: him out of our town. He'll get so involved in 465 00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:51,600 Speaker 1: that that we just won't see him besides holidays. Would 466 00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:55,400 Speaker 1: you rather see him only on holidays? And we love 467 00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:57,880 Speaker 1: him and we have a great time. Or see him 468 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:02,200 Speaker 1: every day Monday through at the office, and you have 469 00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,960 Speaker 1: some tough times every once in a while, but you're 470 00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:08,240 Speaker 1: living life together. You're growing up together, kids are growing 471 00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:11,480 Speaker 1: up together. You see their face, and you work through 472 00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:14,040 Speaker 1: life together. I said, that's my argument, that's what I 473 00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:17,640 Speaker 1: want with Parker. We ended up hiring Parker because Parker 474 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:20,040 Speaker 1: wanted to do it, and I don't regret it for 475 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:23,200 Speaker 1: one second, Orlando, I don't regret working with my two 476 00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:27,160 Speaker 1: brothers one second. You know, Ever since I was a kid, 477 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,560 Speaker 1: I've always written a song for a special occasion, whether 478 00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:34,719 Speaker 1: that was for my dad or for my mom or 479 00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:38,120 Speaker 1: for Amber. I've written songs for my brothers. I've wrote 480 00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:41,120 Speaker 1: a song for my alma mater, Texas A and M. 481 00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:44,280 Speaker 1: It seems like I just I don't have a lot 482 00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:47,760 Speaker 1: of talents, but that was my way to express myself, 483 00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:52,120 Speaker 1: writing songs and making that song a gift to someone else. 484 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:57,000 Speaker 1: And then I realized obviously that not everyone just picks 485 00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,680 Speaker 1: up a guitar and does that. But now it is 486 00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:04,040 Speaker 1: a able to anyone. 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Best 522 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:56,720 Speaker 1: question comes from Samantha says, Hey, Granger, recently found your 523 00:31:56,760 --> 00:31:58,880 Speaker 1: podcast at the end of twenty twenty three. Loving it 524 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:02,160 Speaker 1: so far. I'm telling everyone about it. Thank you, Samantha, 525 00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:04,880 Speaker 1: she says. Let me start by saying that my husband 526 00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:07,520 Speaker 1: and I've been together nine years now. We have two 527 00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:10,680 Speaker 1: children under the age of four, and we're a Bible 528 00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:15,360 Speaker 1: believing Christian family who attend a Lutheran Church in Zanesville, 529 00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:18,600 Speaker 1: Ohio every Sunday. We're very involved in our church, me 530 00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:21,320 Speaker 1: being the director of our Sunday school, and my husband 531 00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 1: is a deacon. My question is how do I set 532 00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:29,280 Speaker 1: firm expectations in our marriage while remaining respectful. My husband 533 00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:33,960 Speaker 1: is a wonderful man, great provider, but not the family 534 00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:37,240 Speaker 1: man that I have always dreamed of marrying. I love 535 00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:40,280 Speaker 1: him very much, although I miss the mark each day. 536 00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:43,200 Speaker 1: My goal is to be a respectful wife so my 537 00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:45,719 Speaker 1: husband will in turn give me the love I desire. 538 00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:48,280 Speaker 1: We often get caught in the crazy cycle, and I'd 539 00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:52,600 Speaker 1: love nothing more than to improve our communication. Much love, 540 00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:58,720 Speaker 1: Samantha oh Man. Samantha, this is one of the rare 541 00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:03,360 Speaker 1: times when I a question and I just think, Ah, 542 00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:06,920 Speaker 1: You're gonna be just fine. It's like, if we build 543 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:12,440 Speaker 1: this scenario where we are in sitting around a campfire, 544 00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:15,280 Speaker 1: like I say all the time, it's like, ask me 545 00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:19,280 Speaker 1: a question, Like we're sitting around a campfire and the 546 00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:24,160 Speaker 1: embers are burning down and someone says, hey, Grandeur, kind 547 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,400 Speaker 1: of run something by you, and I'm like, yeah, what 548 00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:29,520 Speaker 1: you got? And then Samantha, it's you and you, this 549 00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:32,920 Speaker 1: is what you download on me. This is one of 550 00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:35,000 Speaker 1: those times around the campfire, I would let it go 551 00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:37,320 Speaker 1: silent for a second and I would be like, Samantha, 552 00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:44,800 Speaker 1: you're gonna be just fine with what you're saying. You 553 00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:49,080 Speaker 1: have two children under four, you've been together nine years. 554 00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:52,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna just I'm gonna totally guess that 555 00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:55,680 Speaker 1: you're thirty four. Right, it's just a random guess. I'm 556 00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:57,800 Speaker 1: gonna say you're thirty four years old. You got married 557 00:33:57,800 --> 00:34:03,760 Speaker 1: at twenty five, you start having babies in your late twenties, 558 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:10,520 Speaker 1: early thirties. Maybe I'm gonna say that. And this is 559 00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:14,319 Speaker 1: about the time, you know, like mid thirties, you look 560 00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:18,680 Speaker 1: back in your life and you go, I hope I 561 00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:23,200 Speaker 1: did everything right, you know, and you look at your 562 00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:30,080 Speaker 1: husband and you go, I kind of expected that my husband. 563 00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:32,520 Speaker 1: When I'm about thirty five years old, I kind of 564 00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:37,840 Speaker 1: expected my husband would be like doing more with the kids, 565 00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,720 Speaker 1: like I've kind of expected he'd be taking the boys fishing. 566 00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:45,480 Speaker 1: But he's just grinding it out at work right now. 567 00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:48,600 Speaker 1: And I think that that's probably a common thought at 568 00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:52,560 Speaker 1: your age, and it's probably a common thing. The husband 569 00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:57,000 Speaker 1: you married, who was the outdoorsman in Zanesville, Ohio is 570 00:34:57,040 --> 00:35:00,200 Speaker 1: now caught up because he's now thirty six. I'm just 571 00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:03,360 Speaker 1: totally guessing. So he's like thirty six and he's grinding 572 00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:05,560 Speaker 1: it out because he's he's like at the cusp of 573 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:08,360 Speaker 1: doing something in his company where he turns the corner 574 00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:13,160 Speaker 1: and provides much more for his family, much more stability, 575 00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:16,759 Speaker 1: That's what I mean. And if he doesn't, if he 576 00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:19,839 Speaker 1: feels like if he lacks in that area and goes 577 00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,839 Speaker 1: fishing with the kids, then he might be missing out 578 00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:26,160 Speaker 1: on stability in the future. And I'm not saying any 579 00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:29,439 Speaker 1: of this is right or wrong or even true. I'm 580 00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,719 Speaker 1: just saying that's a possible scenario to why you might 581 00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:35,320 Speaker 1: be thinking, maybe I thought I was going to marry 582 00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:39,919 Speaker 1: a bigger family man. And that's also why I'm saying, 583 00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:42,279 Speaker 1: I think this is probably a normal thought for you 584 00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:45,080 Speaker 1: to have a normal thing for your husband to be doing, 585 00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,279 Speaker 1: and I think the normal scenario for this to play 586 00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:49,920 Speaker 1: out with you having this kind of mentality saying, look, 587 00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:53,759 Speaker 1: I have a lot to work on myself. I just 588 00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:58,799 Speaker 1: I desire better communification and I want my goal each 589 00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:01,719 Speaker 1: days to be a respect wife so my husband can 590 00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:03,759 Speaker 1: give me the love that I desire. I think I'll 591 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:07,200 Speaker 1: just go, oh, somntha that is that is beautiful. You 592 00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:11,280 Speaker 1: wrote it beautiful. I think you're Your worries are normal 593 00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:14,399 Speaker 1: for thirty four or thirty thirty five years old, and 594 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:17,840 Speaker 1: you're above and beyond what I would hope that you 595 00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:21,439 Speaker 1: would be thinking in response to those worries. So you're 596 00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:26,560 Speaker 1: gonna be fine. Next question comes from Jesse Hey Graindream 597 00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:28,880 Speaker 1: from South Carolina. I'm a listener. Me and my girlfriend 598 00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:31,279 Speaker 1: enjoy listening to your podcast. It picks us both up 599 00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,040 Speaker 1: and opens our eyes to things we're blind to. Wow. 600 00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:38,359 Speaker 1: I'm concerned about a question that came up about a 601 00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:42,640 Speaker 1: young adult Bible study that left me uncomfortable to answer. 602 00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:49,400 Speaker 1: Here's the question, did God want Eve to sin? Wanted 603 00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:52,200 Speaker 1: to know your take on how to answer this. Thanks 604 00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:57,080 Speaker 1: in advance with much love, Jesse. Wow, that's a good one. Jesse, 605 00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:01,880 Speaker 1: I love I love thinking about these things. And I 606 00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:05,319 Speaker 1: said this at the beginning of the podcast, and it's 607 00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:12,480 Speaker 1: my true desire to not give you answers. Instead, my 608 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:19,959 Speaker 1: desire is to model poorly by the way, like I'm 609 00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:24,840 Speaker 1: trying my best, but to model thinking through difficult questions 610 00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:31,240 Speaker 1: with the Biblical worldview, and in order to first model 611 00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:37,320 Speaker 1: that in an encouraging way, to model thinking through things 612 00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:41,880 Speaker 1: difficult questions with the Biblical worldview starts with knowing the Bible. 613 00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:45,480 Speaker 1: It starts with reading the Bible. I love that you're 614 00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:48,960 Speaker 1: in a Bible study, and I hope that in addition 615 00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:52,320 Speaker 1: to that Bible study and everyone listening also has a 616 00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:58,120 Speaker 1: daily devotional plan just for themselves of reading through the Bible. 617 00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:03,400 Speaker 1: That is your day, Bailey, nourishment, and nothing could be 618 00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:09,439 Speaker 1: more important outside of prayer. That is your communication with God. 619 00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:15,400 Speaker 1: In fact, prayer is us talking, bringing things, expressing ourselves 620 00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:18,600 Speaker 1: to the Creator, and our time and the word reading 621 00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:22,600 Speaker 1: the Bible is the time when He speaks back. It's amazing, right, 622 00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:27,200 Speaker 1: It's amazing. So so then as you're doing that, and 623 00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,560 Speaker 1: then you come across a question like that happened in 624 00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:34,040 Speaker 1: the Bible study. Did God want Eve to sin? Well? 625 00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:38,680 Speaker 1: In order to answer that correctly, we would first need 626 00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:44,560 Speaker 1: to know what does God want? That's a question. Here's 627 00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:49,040 Speaker 1: another question, what does he not want? What does he love? 628 00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:55,480 Speaker 1: What does he hate? In order to know these kind 629 00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:59,200 Speaker 1: of questions, you need to know God. For example, I 630 00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,319 Speaker 1: know my little girl London, I've spent a lot of 631 00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,040 Speaker 1: time with her. She's twelve years old. I know a 632 00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:08,080 Speaker 1: lot about her, not because I've read about her or 633 00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:12,960 Speaker 1: because I've she has sent me letters. More so I 634 00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:18,080 Speaker 1: have spent time around her. I have absorbed so much 635 00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:21,279 Speaker 1: of her time, and I have absorbed her in a 636 00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:24,759 Speaker 1: way that I know her so that I don't need 637 00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:28,680 Speaker 1: her to tell me one specific thing. I know in 638 00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:32,240 Speaker 1: a general way what she loves and what she doesn't. 639 00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:36,920 Speaker 1: I don't have to go to a convenience store candy section, 640 00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:39,960 Speaker 1: and I don't have to see a new candy, for instance, 641 00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:43,640 Speaker 1: and go, you know what. I don't know if London 642 00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:48,560 Speaker 1: has specifically spoken about this specific thing before. Therefore I 643 00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:52,560 Speaker 1: do not know if she would want it. Instead, because 644 00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:56,120 Speaker 1: I know London so well, I can go to that 645 00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:58,040 Speaker 1: convenience store and see a brand new candy that she's 646 00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:01,520 Speaker 1: never spoken about and go, ah, she would want this 647 00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:07,799 Speaker 1: or she wouldn't want that. You get my point. So 648 00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:10,080 Speaker 1: then you can come to a question and go, did 649 00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:12,480 Speaker 1: God want Eve to sin? Well you can go God 650 00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:19,120 Speaker 1: doesn't want anyone to sin. God would never desire for 651 00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:27,000 Speaker 1: one of his creatures to sin. He hates sin, so 652 00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:31,239 Speaker 1: he would not want you to engage in anything that 653 00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:34,800 Speaker 1: he hates, including all the way back to the first 654 00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:43,520 Speaker 1: one Eve. But this is a large this is a 655 00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:49,759 Speaker 1: large issue that we have to address here. But God 656 00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:56,400 Speaker 1: is sovereign. God is all knowing or planning, working everything 657 00:40:56,680 --> 00:41:00,799 Speaker 1: for good and in his providence that's a big word 658 00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:06,360 Speaker 1: for in his control in the unfolding of his plan 659 00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:11,160 Speaker 1: in that plan, as we as revealed as he is 660 00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:15,120 Speaker 1: revealed of the Bible. In that plan, his plan was 661 00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:20,959 Speaker 1: to redeem a people back to himself. And we don't 662 00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:24,919 Speaker 1: know why, but in that plan of redemption required us 663 00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:28,600 Speaker 1: to fall because he wasn't going to redeem a people 664 00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:33,120 Speaker 1: that were not fallen. So we don't know exactly why 665 00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:37,719 Speaker 1: that falling was part of the plan so that he 666 00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:41,319 Speaker 1: could redeem us, but we do know that it is 667 00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:46,560 Speaker 1: the plan to redeem us from the fall. So because 668 00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:52,840 Speaker 1: of that, listen, this is just it's just just rational 669 00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:56,080 Speaker 1: knowledge here, right, it's just thinking through this, so we go. 670 00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:01,040 Speaker 1: So God's plan was to redeem us through his son, 671 00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:07,880 Speaker 1: whom he sent to earth as the perfect human, one human, 672 00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:12,560 Speaker 1: one hundred percent God, that he sent to earth to 673 00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:17,040 Speaker 1: the cross to die for sin, so that whoever looked 674 00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:22,000 Speaker 1: to him whoever believed in him would not perish, but 675 00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:26,319 Speaker 1: have eternal life. He would redeem them by becoming sin, 676 00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:33,160 Speaker 1: therefore defeating sin, defeating death for all who believed. That's 677 00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:35,600 Speaker 1: how we would defeat it. In order to do that, 678 00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:40,799 Speaker 1: rewind rewind. He needed Eve to sin, he needed Eve 679 00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:46,279 Speaker 1: to fall. So although he did not want Eve to sin, 680 00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:52,960 Speaker 1: he allowed it. He ordained it. The same you could 681 00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:57,840 Speaker 1: say for the Cross, you think he wanted his son 682 00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:03,400 Speaker 1: to suffer. You think you wanted his son to die 683 00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:08,840 Speaker 1: the most horrific death. No, it would be blasphemy to 684 00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:15,759 Speaker 1: say God wanted his son to die. Instead, he allowed it, 685 00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:20,400 Speaker 1: He planned it, he ordained it as part of the plan. 686 00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:25,440 Speaker 1: He let it happen because it had to happen for 687 00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:33,919 Speaker 1: his plan of redemption. For you, That's how we think 688 00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:37,960 Speaker 1: through any kind of issue of what would God want 689 00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:43,919 Speaker 1: or not want? Next question comes from Danny. Hey Granger, 690 00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:46,160 Speaker 1: my name is Danny, I'm twenty three years old from Laredo, 691 00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:48,799 Speaker 1: and I wanted to start by saying I love your 692 00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:51,320 Speaker 1: music in your podcast, which I've listened to every single 693 00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:55,640 Speaker 1: episode and has helped me numerous times since I started listening. Bro, 694 00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,640 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Danny, I have two questions. My 695 00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:01,040 Speaker 1: first question is I want to pick up the guitar 696 00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:03,720 Speaker 1: again after not having not played it since high school. 697 00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,600 Speaker 1: I was wondering if you had any tips on how 698 00:44:05,600 --> 00:44:07,520 Speaker 1: to pick it up again quickly and get back to 699 00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:09,319 Speaker 1: the level I was at, and if there's any kind 700 00:44:09,320 --> 00:44:12,080 Speaker 1: of guitar recommendations you have that won't break the bank. 701 00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:15,040 Speaker 1: I would appreciate all those kind of ideas as well 702 00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:18,040 Speaker 1: as I sold my previous guitar. My second question is 703 00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:19,879 Speaker 1: do you think it's important I learned to read sheet 704 00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:22,279 Speaker 1: music again or should I just focus on getting better 705 00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:26,960 Speaker 1: at playing God bless you, Hey, Danny, nice lighthearted question 706 00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:29,879 Speaker 1: here after some heavy hitters. I appreciate it, buddy, thank 707 00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:32,879 Speaker 1: you for listening. And that's cool you're wanting to get 708 00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:35,360 Speaker 1: back in guitar, I've seen over the years. For me, 709 00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:38,440 Speaker 1: it's just like riding a bike. It shouldn't take you 710 00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:42,279 Speaker 1: very long. It's not something that just goes away and 711 00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:43,880 Speaker 1: you go man. I used to play guitar, but now 712 00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:47,080 Speaker 1: I've completely forgotten. It's going to come back quickly like 713 00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:51,320 Speaker 1: riding a bike. And I would recommend against sheet music. 714 00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:53,960 Speaker 1: I don't think that that's good for guitar players. I 715 00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:57,880 Speaker 1: think it could be used sparingly for piano players, but 716 00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:02,160 Speaker 1: I think relying on sheet music too much it curbs 717 00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:07,080 Speaker 1: your creativity and kind of hinders your ability to vamp 718 00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:10,920 Speaker 1: or change things up a little bit or adapt to 719 00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:14,200 Speaker 1: something that might be happening, especially if you're playing in 720 00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:22,520 Speaker 1: a band. Atmosphere, there is a fine line probably between 721 00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:27,400 Speaker 1: picking a guitar that is good enough to play but 722 00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:32,960 Speaker 1: won't break the bank. My suggestion is you can go 723 00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:36,359 Speaker 1: with a cheaper guitar if you put nylon strings on it, 724 00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:39,440 Speaker 1: and those are like classical guitar strings, and you can 725 00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,520 Speaker 1: get those at a guitar store. You can ask the 726 00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:44,080 Speaker 1: guy say, hey, want this guitar and I want nylon strings, 727 00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:45,800 Speaker 1: And the guy's gonna be like, oh, that guitar doesn't 728 00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:49,200 Speaker 1: is not supposed to have nylon strings, And you go, yeah, 729 00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:52,480 Speaker 1: but can I do it? And he's gonna go it's 730 00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:54,400 Speaker 1: not set up for that, and you go, yeah, but 731 00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:56,200 Speaker 1: can you just tie little tiny knots at the end 732 00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:57,840 Speaker 1: of the nylon and that way it holds it in 733 00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:00,480 Speaker 1: there and he'll look at you like your But what 734 00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:04,000 Speaker 1: it does is it saves your fingers from getting torn 735 00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:06,719 Speaker 1: up because those nylon strings are a lot softer than 736 00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:09,919 Speaker 1: the steel strings, and it's a good way to play 737 00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:12,880 Speaker 1: a lot to not have the pain of the steel 738 00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:17,040 Speaker 1: strings on your fingers, and that'll hopefully get you down 739 00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:19,719 Speaker 1: the road quicker. And then you could decide at that 740 00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:21,719 Speaker 1: point if you want to spend more money on a 741 00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:27,839 Speaker 1: higher end guitar. And when I say higher end, I'm 742 00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:30,280 Speaker 1: talking about the difference between a two hundred dollars guitar 743 00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:33,279 Speaker 1: and like a thousand dollars guitar. I'm not talking about 744 00:46:33,280 --> 00:46:36,360 Speaker 1: four or five six thousand dollars. Okay, that would be crazy. 745 00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:39,319 Speaker 1: I'm talking about you can get a really nice guitar 746 00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:41,680 Speaker 1: for about twelve hundred bucks. I'm not telling you to 747 00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:46,000 Speaker 1: do that, but I would go that direction eventually, not now. 748 00:46:46,800 --> 00:46:49,239 Speaker 1: At first. I would spend about four or to five 749 00:46:49,360 --> 00:46:53,439 Speaker 1: hundred and get you like a mid level Martin and 750 00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,040 Speaker 1: that's if that's too harsh on you, get nylon strings. 751 00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:01,799 Speaker 1: Last part, and I'll wrap this up. YouTube is a 752 00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:05,239 Speaker 1: great resource. I wouldn't spend money on lessons, definitely, not 753 00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:09,120 Speaker 1: in sheet music. I would do more YouTube. Get the basics, 754 00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:13,200 Speaker 1: and then use your ear, develop your ear, cultivate the 755 00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:18,080 Speaker 1: muscle for hearing what you hear on your favorite songs 756 00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:22,200 Speaker 1: and playing along with your favorite songs. That's the most 757 00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:24,320 Speaker 1: valuable thing you could do. It's kind of like a 758 00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:27,799 Speaker 1: language immersion learning a foreign language. It's better if you 759 00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:32,360 Speaker 1: completely immerse in that culture instead of just like doing 760 00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,440 Speaker 1: an app that teaches you how to speak another language. 761 00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:38,359 Speaker 1: That would be what an app to teach you how 762 00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:40,400 Speaker 1: to play guitar would be. Ultimately, you want to just 763 00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:42,520 Speaker 1: hear a song and play along with it, and you'll 764 00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:44,680 Speaker 1: get there eventually. That's all I got, y'all. Thank you 765 00:47:44,760 --> 00:47:47,359 Speaker 1: so much for listening. We love y'all. See you next Monday. EBI, 766 00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,799 Speaker 1: thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate 767 00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:53,000 Speaker 1: all of you guys. 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