Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
Speaker 1: is How Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. What's
Speaker 1: going on? Everyone, I'm Peter Webber. You may know me
Speaker 1: as the Bachelor, but I'm also a pilot and I'm
Speaker 1: super happy to be guest hosting How Men Think. I'm
Speaker 1: going to attempt to answer all your questions and solve
Speaker 1: the fascinating question of just how men think. But first,
Speaker 1: this is eleven questions with Peter Webber. Let's get into
Speaker 1: it first. One, what are you known for? Tell us
Speaker 1: about yourself? Well, I I like to think of myself
Speaker 1: first and foremost as commercial airline palette. I fly for
Speaker 1: United Airlines. It's my passion, very very blessed to be
Speaker 1: able to do what I do. Um, I think publicly
Speaker 1: a little bit more. I've been known for being on
Speaker 1: the Bachelor and taking that leap of faith. UM, kind
Speaker 1: of sharing my whole relationship life with the world. Um.
Speaker 1: But I let's see, just come from um kind of
Speaker 1: growing up. I uh kind of always been a lot
Speaker 1: of people don't believe me when I say this. Are
Speaker 1: they kind of find shocking. But I've always been kind
Speaker 1: of a shy person, and UM, I just growing up
Speaker 1: through high school and all that that was that was
Speaker 1: kind of my personality was it was kind of quiet,
Speaker 1: um I think, you know, going on the show, people
Speaker 1: always ask well, how did you do that then? And
Speaker 1: you know, I don't, you know, see it with that
Speaker 1: doesn't really match for me. It was always kind of
Speaker 1: it was an opportunity to kind of push myself. I'm
Speaker 1: always someone that likes to, um, make myself a little uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: I think that's a good way for um, you know,
Speaker 1: a good way to allow us to grow as as individuals.
Speaker 1: And you know, definitely was an experience that uh that
Speaker 1: allowed me to do just that. Um. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: like to think of myself now is um you know,
Speaker 1: just a fun loving person. I like to always you know,
Speaker 1: see the bright things in life. You know, it's such
Speaker 1: a beautiful life, and you know, it's easy to kind
Speaker 1: of get distracted sometimes, but I'm someone that likes to
Speaker 1: focus on on all the beautiful things that we have
Speaker 1: to be thankful for. And um, who are you in
Speaker 1: your personal life? All right? Well, I guess I kind
Speaker 1: of touched on that a little bit with the previous question,
Speaker 1: but I am. I saw a quote from I think
Speaker 1: it was I think it was Denzel Washington, and I
Speaker 1: definitely related with it, and it was along the lines
Speaker 1: of I am an introvert and I'm also an extrovert,
Speaker 1: and I definitely have both of those qualities. I'm someone
Speaker 1: that you know, I love to um, you know, be
Speaker 1: you know, with the energy and having a good time
Speaker 1: and taking advantage of you know, whatever asked or whatever,
Speaker 1: you know. Part of life. I'm in at that moment
Speaker 1: um always about a good time. Definitely can could be
Speaker 1: described as you know, bringing a lot of energy, um,
Speaker 1: you know to the party, that kind of thing. But
Speaker 1: I also am someone that I crave my alone time.
Speaker 1: I definitely need that. I think it's especially with work.
Speaker 1: You know, when I'm flying, it's so nice for me
Speaker 1: to kind of get that balance of you know, going
Speaker 1: away on a trip for three or four days and
Speaker 1: just allowing myself to kind of just be, you know,
Speaker 1: in my own head and um and just you know,
Speaker 1: think a lot and kind of decompressed. I think that
Speaker 1: yin and yang, if you will, is definitely really important
Speaker 1: in life. And that's definitely the kind of person that
Speaker 1: I am. But um that being said, I'm always up
Speaker 1: for that adventure. I'm always up to make the most
Speaker 1: of it. So three shows you are binge watching? So
Speaker 1: to be completely honest, I actually I'm not a big
Speaker 1: TV watcher. Um. I I think I think I've actually
Speaker 1: only finished three or four shows in my entire life. Um.
Speaker 1: Recently though it's kind of relevant with recent shows. Was
Speaker 1: that new Kevin Hart Show is kind of a limited
Speaker 1: series true story? That was I really enjoyed that, watched that,
Speaker 1: you know, start to finish, just binge the whole thing. Um.
Speaker 1: And that's kind of for me to do because I
Speaker 1: really don't watch too much TV. I think some of
Speaker 1: the other shows I finished Breaking Bad, Back in the Day,
Speaker 1: Friday Night Lights, Californication, and that is about it for me.
Speaker 1: I'm a big sports guy, so I'll always I'll always
Speaker 1: choose to watch a game over over TV shows. Um.
Speaker 1: But that's just me. What is your favorite food? Alright?
Speaker 1: This one is easy. It is definitely my mom's cooking.
Speaker 1: My mom's Cuban so she makes excellent Cuban food. And
Speaker 1: I would say specific meal is, uh usually do this
Speaker 1: around Christmas time, but it's when she makes shown asado,
Speaker 1: which is like kind of a pork and uh black
Speaker 1: beans rice. Um. Yuka, which is just a delicious kind
Speaker 1: of root. Um you know plantings. UM. That Cuban dish
Speaker 1: is definitely my go to bestead at bollow Mia. It's
Speaker 1: like a good little skirt steak too with onions, you
Speaker 1: know vinegar that's delicious as well, So definitely Cuban food.
Speaker 1: Tell us about your career. So yeah, I am an
Speaker 1: airline pilot. I fly for United Airlines. It's always been
Speaker 1: to my childhood dream since I was a little kid.
Speaker 1: I grew up with my dad being a pilot for United,
Speaker 1: he still flies, you know for us, and uh my
Speaker 1: mom when she was a flight center for United. So
Speaker 1: it was always in my blood and you know, definitely
Speaker 1: took me. Wasn't the straightest route to get to the
Speaker 1: dream of flying with United. UM, you know, went through
Speaker 1: a couple of different airlines before, but UM finally made
Speaker 1: it this past year. Um in may have one, and
Speaker 1: uh it's amazing. I fly the seven thirty seven base
Speaker 1: out of Newark and UM LaGuardia. Those two airports fly
Speaker 1: a lot of domestic flying right now, but I am
Speaker 1: going to move to a new airplane, the seven eighties
Speaker 1: seven shortly, which will be flying all the international routes
Speaker 1: doing a lot of Europe, which I'm very very excited for, um,
Speaker 1: some Asia stuff, So it'll be a nice change. And UM,
Speaker 1: I love what I do. UM could not be happier
Speaker 1: And I feel very blessed to be able to say that.
Speaker 1: What's your biggest fear in life? I'd say wasting it? Um.
Speaker 1: I I'm someone that I always always want to make
Speaker 1: the most of life. Um. You know, I think it
Speaker 1: just is such a precious thing. And you know, time specifically,
Speaker 1: It's sure you guys have heard before. You know, people
Speaker 1: say that in the time is the most valuable commodity.
Speaker 1: We all have the exact you know, in a day,
Speaker 1: the exact same amount of time. Doesn't matter how rich
Speaker 1: how poor you are. Everyone has the exact amount of
Speaker 1: hours and what you choose to do with those hours. Um.
Speaker 1: And so for me, just you know, broad view of
Speaker 1: it all, my biggest stary be to waste that time.
Speaker 1: And uh, I try to make it a point every
Speaker 1: day to not allow myself like that's ever happened. What's
Speaker 1: your biggest pet peeve? Biggest pet peeve is when people
Speaker 1: bill out or cancel last minute. That is always something
Speaker 1: that I I it just I can't stand um. You know,
Speaker 1: I try, and you know, obviously everyone's human and I'm
Speaker 1: sure I've done that, you know, plenty of times in
Speaker 1: my life. Not saying I don't, but I would say
Speaker 1: when people, yeah, kind of build out on plans, um,
Speaker 1: don't stick to commitments. Which let's see what makes you
Speaker 1: the most happy? What makes me the most happy? I
Speaker 1: would say I'm happiest when I am at a point
Speaker 1: where I am just extremely content with where I'm at,
Speaker 1: meaning that you know, they're really there's obviously always gonna
Speaker 1: be stress in life, and you know, day to day
Speaker 1: stress and that kind of thing, but you know, it's
Speaker 1: it's such a great feeling when you're just at a
Speaker 1: place where everything just kind of is going well. You're
Speaker 1: not you're not You're able to stay present very easy, um,
Speaker 1: and you're not necessarily looking forward, you know, looking to
Speaker 1: forward in the future. You're just enjoying the moment where
Speaker 1: you're at, you know, acknowledging all this stuff maybe you've
Speaker 1: done to get to that point and just really appreciating
Speaker 1: it and being grateful and showing that gratitude. I think
Speaker 1: those are the moments in life where, um, I just
Speaker 1: I feel happiest, and I always strive to to get
Speaker 1: to that point. Always show gratitude, and whether that's you know, career,
Speaker 1: whether that's your your love life, whether you know, relationship
Speaker 1: with your friends, um, whatever, it is just not allowing
Speaker 1: any of the distractions that we all go We all
Speaker 1: you know, struggle with not allowing those two overtake your
Speaker 1: frame of mind. And that's what I'm happiest. What is
Speaker 1: your ideal Saturday morning? My ideal Saturday morning is definitely
Speaker 1: waking up cuddling with my best friend, my dog Trip, Um.
Speaker 1: I love morning cuddles with him, and just uh, taking
Speaker 1: it easy. Um, you know, going out. I've got a
Speaker 1: lot of living here in New York City, got a
Speaker 1: lot of great uh you know, breakfast diners, going out
Speaker 1: with my best friends. We've got a group of four
Speaker 1: of us and um, you gotta go to Spot John's
Speaker 1: down the street, Um, grabbing breakfast with each other, catching
Speaker 1: up from you know, maybe the week or and we
Speaker 1: had a great night the night before and just you know,
Speaker 1: rehashing it, reliving it all and uh yeah, just enjoying it,
Speaker 1: taking it easy. Are you more of an athlete or
Speaker 1: the arm chair quarterback? Definitely more of the athlete. I
Speaker 1: just kind of always been that way my entire life. Um,
Speaker 1: I uh, I always be don't believe obviously, actions speak
Speaker 1: louder than words, and um yeah, I just like to
Speaker 1: back my talk up. I guess with my actions and
Speaker 1: UM enjoy doing it. What keeps you motivated? I think
Speaker 1: a little bit of this goes back to kind of
Speaker 1: the biggest fear in life and you know, in wasting it,
Speaker 1: wasting our time. I think that is probably like the
Speaker 1: biggest fire under me is um not allowing myself to
Speaker 1: to waste any time. And UM always you know, try to,
Speaker 1: like I said earlier, to find things to to make
Speaker 1: you a little uncomfortable, because that's that's good for us,
Speaker 1: you know, I believe, and helps keep me motivated and
Speaker 1: always looking um for for what's next. Alright, guys, Well
Speaker 1: that was eleven questions with me Peter Weber. Next going
Speaker 1: to be thrown it out to you guys for some
Speaker 1: live callins answer any relationship questions you guys may have.
Speaker 1: I'll try to give you guys my best advice. But
Speaker 1: first let's take a quick break mat you what's going on,
Speaker 1: how's it going? Good? Good? Just chilling Hopefully I can
Speaker 1: answer some questions here, give some advice. Absolutely, I'm looking
Speaker 1: through some advice. Peter so Um So, I recently got
Speaker 1: out of a three relationship UM. Following my breakup, I
Speaker 1: moved to Nashville, Tennessee. I've just been working on my career.
Speaker 1: I'm working on rediscovering myself and my independence. But I
Speaker 1: still have a lot of unanswered questions about the breakup
Speaker 1: and about our relationships. So my question for you is,
Speaker 1: as a man who's been in a long term relationship,
Speaker 1: can the person you're in a relationship with really give
Speaker 1: you closure or as closure as something you ultimately give yourself.
Speaker 1: That is a great question, and I think so many
Speaker 1: everyone can relate to that. UM. Everyone's been there where
Speaker 1: a certain relationship obviously meant so much to you in
Speaker 1: that moment, especially it was longer term UM. And you
Speaker 1: know me personally, I've I've struggled with that as well.
Speaker 1: I've I've been at a point where I felt like
Speaker 1: I didn't have that closure that I maybe hope for. UM.
Speaker 1: I wasn't exactly content with where I was there UM
Speaker 1: with that person. And I think ultimately, UM, obviously time helps,
Speaker 1: time heals all wounds, I truly believe. But that comes
Speaker 1: ultimately from you, and it's you taking that time to reflect,
Speaker 1: to feel all those feelings. I think a lot of
Speaker 1: times people try to suppress that, and especially men sometimes
Speaker 1: you know, it's not the manly thing to really express
Speaker 1: your feelings your emotions. But I think that's the healthiest
Speaker 1: thing you can do, is really allow yourself to feel everything.
Speaker 1: And um, don't rush it, don't push it. But I
Speaker 1: think ultimately that closure will come from you and you'll
Speaker 1: get to that point and you'll realize ultimately why it
Speaker 1: didn't work or else you would have been there, you know,
Speaker 1: still with that person, and um, that's the best way
Speaker 1: to ultimately move on and be ready to get results
Speaker 1: to that next person that you know deserves you and
Speaker 1: you deserve them. No, I love that. Agree, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: So yeah, all all the best. What are you doing
Speaker 1: in Nashville. I'm a singer down here. It's a perfect
Speaker 1: place to be. Yeah, just chase and enjoy and starting
Speaker 1: a new adventure. So it's a great time. I'm sure.
Speaker 1: I'm sure breakups and all I have a lot of
Speaker 1: great motivation for song. So absolutely, thank you, Peter, of course,
Speaker 1: all right. Goodbye, Hi Peter. How are you Erica? I'm good.
Speaker 1: How are you doing good? So my question is a
Speaker 1: kind of a double question. So, Um, I've been dating
Speaker 1: somebody new for the last year and I just don't
Speaker 1: really get along with his friends as much as I
Speaker 1: have in past relationships. They're just kind of not my people. UM,
Speaker 1: And my question is like, how as a girlfriend do I,
Speaker 1: I don't know, get in with the friends. Does that
Speaker 1: make sense, like find a way to connect in and
Speaker 1: I don't know, like build a relationship with them when
Speaker 1: we haven't been able to for the last year. Yeah,
Speaker 1: great question. I I think for sure, you know, it
Speaker 1: is extremely important to you know that there's maybe people
Speaker 1: that will you know, have different trains of thought with this,
Speaker 1: but I think that's pretty crucial to eventually established and
Speaker 1: have a connection, you know, with the friends of your
Speaker 1: significant other. Um, if you want that relationship to ultimately
Speaker 1: succeed long term. I think you know that's it's if
Speaker 1: you don't do that, UM, that's always going to kind
Speaker 1: of in hip you guys from fully getting to that
Speaker 1: that ultimate level. In my opinion, UM, you know, at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, your friends are your significant
Speaker 1: other is going to be confiding in you know, his
Speaker 1: friends for advice and um, you know, getting you know,
Speaker 1: just guy advice and guide talk. Um you know with
Speaker 1: certain you know, moments of your relationship when they come up.
Speaker 1: And so I think that's great that you're putting such
Speaker 1: an effort to um to create that relationship and definitely
Speaker 1: don't give up. I would say, um, you know, just
Speaker 1: making showing you know, your person, your significant other, the
Speaker 1: effort you are putting in trying to plant things, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, fun group outings, maybe maybe some double triple
Speaker 1: dates just group dates with maybe some of your single friends.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if you know, if if he
Speaker 1: had uh you know, some single friends trying to create
Speaker 1: a fun group environment, UM that won't go on seeing
Speaker 1: to him or his friends. They'll really appreciate that, um,
Speaker 1: you know, really doing something that they really enjoy and uh,
Speaker 1: and just putting that effort out that will just go
Speaker 1: such a long way. And if you consistently do that, UM,
Speaker 1: I think you know, that relationship will start to grow
Speaker 1: and and you guys will become closer and that's ultimately
Speaker 1: best I think. When Yeah, I like what advice the
Speaker 1: triple date, that's really good idea. It takes the pressure off.
Speaker 1: And the second half of the question is, um, like,
Speaker 1: do guys care as much as girls care to be
Speaker 1: friends with your significant others best friends? Like, is that
Speaker 1: a big priority for guys like to be really close
Speaker 1: with their significant others friends? You know? For me in
Speaker 1: my past relationships, I yeah, I always have. I've been
Speaker 1: very close with my significantly. I'm someone that I'm always
Speaker 1: you know. I like to do a lot of trips,
Speaker 1: a lot of fun kind of like outings, and it's
Speaker 1: it's obviously great to have that alone time that's super necessary,
Speaker 1: but it's so fun too when you have a big
Speaker 1: group that you can share all those memories with. Um I, personally, yeah,
Speaker 1: I've always made that a priority. Um So from my
Speaker 1: from my perspective, yes, good to know. Thank you, I
Speaker 1: appreciate it, of course. Yeah, take care, Hannah. What's up? Okay?
Speaker 1: So this is kind of a funny situation. And I
Speaker 1: was dating this guy and one of our co workers,
Speaker 1: who knew that I was dating a different guy, would
Speaker 1: come up to me and say, your wife material I
Speaker 1: want to marry you. I'm dating another guy. He has
Speaker 1: a girlfriend, but constantly comes up to me and says this.
Speaker 1: So I'm just wondering what type of perspective you have
Speaker 1: on this for someone who clearly is going through something
Speaker 1: in his own relationship but just always says these weird
Speaker 1: comments to me. Lets make sure I'm falling. So another
Speaker 1: guy makes comments to you, but he's he's dating a guy.
Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no, he's sorry, he's dating a
Speaker 1: different girl. And I was dating a different guy. But
Speaker 1: he would come up to me and be like, you're
Speaker 1: my wife. I have this girlfriend, but you're my wife,
Speaker 1: your wife material, And I just think that's so weird.
Speaker 1: But I don't know if it's supposed I mean, it
Speaker 1: didn't matter because I was dating a different guy, but
Speaker 1: I wasn't sure if it's supposed to be a compliment.
Speaker 1: It's just such a weird thing, and it's one of
Speaker 1: any Has there ever been any like connection or any
Speaker 1: kind of spark between the two of you at work?
Speaker 1: I mean, there's definitely flirtation, but it's almost like to
Speaker 1: get something out of me, like some comments like oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're my spend. That's such a weird thing to say
Speaker 1: to me. But definitely, I mean, yeah, a little aggressive,
Speaker 1: especially with with him being in another relationship. I think, uh,
Speaker 1: maybe in the workplace it allows a certain type of um,
Speaker 1: maybe a different level of comfort to kind of come
Speaker 1: out between two people. Just because you guys spend so
Speaker 1: much time together. You it's you have a unique relationship
Speaker 1: with each other. Um. And yeah, I don't I don't know.
Speaker 1: I uh, I can't say I've ever done that when
Speaker 1: I when I've been in a relationship to another girl. Um,
Speaker 1: maybe he's fishing a little bit. Maybe he's curious to
Speaker 1: see how you know, serious you are in your relationship.
Speaker 1: Maybe there are some underlying feelings that he does have
Speaker 1: and um, you know, I hate to say it, but
Speaker 1: you know, for his current relationship, but he would be
Speaker 1: willing to end that for you, I guess if if um,
Speaker 1: he got the right vibe or feel from you. Um.
Speaker 1: But I would say, maybe it's just a little bit
Speaker 1: of fishing on his end and you know, trying to
Speaker 1: be flirty and and keep that going. Um. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: I think he was just probably looking for how you
Speaker 1: responded to that. Yeah. It's definitely a weird situation too,
Speaker 1: because in the workplace you want things to be more comfortable,
Speaker 1: but at the same time, people cross that line that's true,
Speaker 1: and so that that almost like makes me believe that
Speaker 1: he would be like, he probably is pretty seriously into you,
Speaker 1: because you don't do that in a workplace and kind
Speaker 1: of make it, you know, take the chance of making
Speaker 1: extremely awkward, um if something were not to work out.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that leads me to believe that he probably
Speaker 1: has some serious interest in you and he wants to
Speaker 1: see kind of how you're going to respond. Well, also,
Speaker 1: it's like, why would you want to be with someone
Speaker 1: that's doing that in their current relationship? Very true, That's
Speaker 1: that's a huge talent science. That's in my opinion, kind
Speaker 1: of a red flag. Um so yeah, a couple of
Speaker 1: trains of thought with that. But I don't know, I'm curious,
Speaker 1: are you Are you still with your your current relationship?
Speaker 1: It all right with your in your current relationship? Well
Speaker 1: that's that's another story. We broke up and then got
Speaker 1: back together. So okay, yeah, maybe some some right fishing,
Speaker 1: but yeah, maybe he was picking up on that and um,
Speaker 1: he thought he'd shoot a shot. But if you're happy,
Speaker 1: you know, with where you're at, um, you know, don't
Speaker 1: mess that up. Yeah, thanks of course, Yeah, all the
Speaker 1: best to you. Thank you, what's up, Alexa? I sorry,
Speaker 1: my dog is crazy. You got your pup? I got
Speaker 1: my pups taking a nap right now. But what a cutie?
Speaker 1: Thank you? All right, what do we have? So my
Speaker 1: question is what do you think? Um, most guys think
Speaker 1: if they're dating a girl that's bisexual. Interesting question. I've
Speaker 1: never been asked that. UM. I would say, I think
Speaker 1: all going to depend on the guy's level of confidence
Speaker 1: in himself and you know, ultimately confidence in you know,
Speaker 1: the relationship that he has with that girl. UM. Obviously
Speaker 1: that's throwing some you know, that's that's some different variables
Speaker 1: into the equation that maybe you're not traditional. But UM,
Speaker 1: I think it's all about communication in that regard. And
Speaker 1: if there was, um a desire maybe for some type
Speaker 1: of like open relationship or something, then that obviously has
Speaker 1: to be discussed and communicated and and agreed upon from
Speaker 1: both sides. UM. But I think ultimately you just gotta
Speaker 1: be truthful and honest, and you can't if that's a
Speaker 1: part of you, that's that's you, and you can't hide that,
Speaker 1: and um, that needs to come out and your partner
Speaker 1: needs to you know, be able to accept that. And
Speaker 1: if not, that's not your person um and yeah, like
Speaker 1: I said, I think it's just communication is the absolutely
Speaker 1: utmost key in that kind of situation. Hey, thank you, Yeah,
Speaker 1: of course. Hey Danielle, I'll be doing good. Are you?
Speaker 1: I'm good. I'm good. Nice to meet you. Yeah you too.
Speaker 1: What's going on? Nothing. I'm in Chicago, so it's freezing
Speaker 1: here today. It's like three degrees so I'm bundled up inside.
Speaker 1: Oh wow. Yeah, I'm in New York, so you beat us.
Speaker 1: It's a it's pretty cool here too. It's like I
Speaker 1: think it's in the teens. Yeah, I mean it's pretty miserable.
Speaker 1: I'm right by the lake too, so you get all
Speaker 1: the wind and everything. Winter is officially here. Yes, that
Speaker 1: is true, which was funny because like two weeks ago
Speaker 1: it was sixty five and sunny, and I thought the
Speaker 1: winter is gonna be really mild. It's gonna be so great.
Speaker 1: And now I'm like, yep, now I'm booking tickets to
Speaker 1: Miami because I need to escape. I hear you, alrighty,
Speaker 1: what question do you have? So I was wondering what
Speaker 1: the phrase. If he wanted to, he would It's kind
Speaker 1: of different, is like, I'm only twenty three and um,
Speaker 1: I feel like right now men are in a weird
Speaker 1: transition phase from like coming out of college and going
Speaker 1: into the real world and getting a job and everything.
Speaker 1: So with that phrase, if he wanted to, he would
Speaker 1: at my age being kind of younger. Do you think
Speaker 1: it's an accurate statement still? And are there exceptions kind
Speaker 1: of that? I do? I I think you know that
Speaker 1: that phrases is, in my opinion, accurate regardless of what
Speaker 1: what age you know a man is or um, you know,
Speaker 1: what part of his life he's in. He may you know,
Speaker 1: his that part of his life may may influence how
Speaker 1: he acts upon it and his actions. But I think
Speaker 1: ultimately um for men. You know, I have a lot
Speaker 1: of friends that are girls. They kind of asked that
Speaker 1: question and they're curious about why isn't this guy doing
Speaker 1: this or why isn't he doing that. If a guy
Speaker 1: is into you and he's feeling you, and he's not
Speaker 1: questioning it, and there's no doubts, believe me, he will
Speaker 1: let you know that and he will not allow any
Speaker 1: doubt to creep in. He will not be um flaky,
Speaker 1: He will not be playing games um. If he knows
Speaker 1: how he feels about you, Ah, that's a lock, and
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be curious. And I think, you know, unfortunately,
Speaker 1: just you know, maybe it's some tough advice, but if
Speaker 1: you are doubting that UM, maybe he's doubting the relationship
Speaker 1: a little bit as well. And you know, I think
Speaker 1: everyone deserves that person that that doesn't allow that doubt
Speaker 1: to creep in with the other. UM. And so you know,
Speaker 1: I don't think anyone should ever settle until you find
Speaker 1: that UM. But like you said, you know, if you're
Speaker 1: you're still you're still growing, you're still kind of you know,
Speaker 1: maturing for sure, and UM, I get that. But I
Speaker 1: ultimately believe that a guy will never let you, um,
Speaker 1: doubt or be curious where he stands. Thank you, Yeah,
Speaker 1: of course, stay warm? Yeah you do. Hey Caroline, how
Speaker 1: you doing? I'm doing great? How are you doing? Very good?
Speaker 1: Very good? You gotta pup with you? Yeah? Do you
Speaker 1: hear her? Yeah, she's on the table right now. She's
Speaker 1: so cute. I just got her like almost a year ago.
Speaker 1: But I have a question, all right, I hopefully have
Speaker 1: an answer. Okay, UM, what would you say your biggest
Speaker 1: turnofs are for girls? I guess biggest turnoffs for girls.
Speaker 1: I would say for me, I I'm someone that I
Speaker 1: the old The biggest thing I value in a relationship
Speaker 1: is trust. I nothing comes ahead of that for me,
Speaker 1: and I think it's such a it's such a fragile
Speaker 1: thing you kind of have to navigate, especially early in
Speaker 1: the relationship, um of making a concentrated effort to established
Speaker 1: that trust with that person. And so I would say,
Speaker 1: you know, biggest turn offs are just confusing kind of
Speaker 1: UM signals that kind of come out in the beginning
Speaker 1: that makes you question that trust or um. Don't you know,
Speaker 1: things that don't allow your confidence to truly grow to
Speaker 1: the it needs to be for that relationship to really
Speaker 1: have a good Chancey, just being straightforward, very straightforward, very honest, upfront. UM,
Speaker 1: no one's perfect, and you know it's it's okay and
Speaker 1: own that and embrace it. UM, but don't sacrifice that
Speaker 1: initial that trust building aspect. Amazing. I love it for you. Alrighty,
Speaker 1: We'll have a good one you too, Thank you, Lisa.
Speaker 1: Are you doing good? How are you very good? Very good?
Speaker 1: Thanks for coming on. Yeah, I'm I'm excited to talk
Speaker 1: to you. Yeah, awesome. Where where we're coming from today?
Speaker 1: I'm coming from St. Louis. St. Louis. All right, Um,
Speaker 1: so my question is, what what do you think about
Speaker 1: guys coming back into the picture after being away, like
Speaker 1: you know, you had something with them, it fizzled out,
Speaker 1: But now they're coming back like from you know, from
Speaker 1: ghosting almost for sure. So I'm not going to say
Speaker 1: this definitively, but for the most part, I'd be very
Speaker 1: skeptical of that situation. And I say that because, um,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not saying that a second chance, second
Speaker 1: chances can't work out ultimately in the end. Um, you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes that does happen. I know cases where that's happened.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you do. Uh, but I think a lot
Speaker 1: of the times what brings guys back is them seeing
Speaker 1: you a maybe have moved on you with someone else,
Speaker 1: you really enjoy your life and in a good place. Um.
Speaker 1: That level of human nature sometimes can can trigger guy like, shoot,
Speaker 1: did I make a mistake here? Did I? Um? You know,
Speaker 1: did I really make the right decision? Um? Like should I?
Speaker 1: Should I give it another shot? And ultimately that's not
Speaker 1: fair to you, you know, if if that if those
Speaker 1: are the reasons that that guy is trying to come back.
Speaker 1: You deserve so much better than that. Um, you know, now,
Speaker 1: if it's a guy that truly is you know, say
Speaker 1: it's it's his fault. You know, the relationship kind of
Speaker 1: didn't work out, and he's you know, shows remorse and
Speaker 1: really feels bad about that, and um, you can tell
Speaker 1: you know, I think everyone kind of has that intuition
Speaker 1: of you can tell someone's true intentions and trust those
Speaker 1: And if that's the case, you know, I don't see
Speaker 1: a problem giving that guy a second chance. But just
Speaker 1: be skeptical because I think there's some you know, other
Speaker 1: reasons that that I don't think you should, you know,
Speaker 1: put up with. I think I think that's really advice. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm very skeptical, and so I'll just I guess
Speaker 1: I'll just be weired. How long were you guys dating? Well,
Speaker 1: it was never like official official, but it was like
Speaker 1: kind of back and forth for almost a year. Okay.
Speaker 1: And why did it ultimately end? Um, he moved away
Speaker 1: for work and so you know, I thought we just
Speaker 1: discussed we didn't want to do long distance, and um,
Speaker 1: it just kind of you know, I just wanted to
Speaker 1: focus on myself and he wanted to focus on himself
Speaker 1: and now he is coming back from work, you know,
Speaker 1: moving back here and you know, reached out and started
Speaker 1: talking to me again. Well listen, I mean that kind
Speaker 1: of right there, that situation is something that I I
Speaker 1: would give you advice to, yeah, to dig into that
Speaker 1: and see kind of where you guys stand. Um, you
Speaker 1: know that makes sense, that's understandable. That's life. Life happens.
Speaker 1: And you know, maybe this is a cool fate type
Speaker 1: thing that's bringing you guys back together. Um, maybe you
Speaker 1: guys kind of needed that that time apart to kind
Speaker 1: of grow respectively and uh maybe this, you know, could work.
Speaker 1: So that kind of example, I would I would say,
Speaker 1: I give give him a chance. Okay, cool, thank you.
Speaker 1: I think that's the advice I needed. Awesome. Yeah, I hope,
Speaker 1: but I hope it works out for you guys. Thank you,
Speaker 1: all right, take care alright, guys, Well that was so
Speaker 1: much fun for me. I'm glad I could answer some questions.
Speaker 1: Hopefully hopefully you guys could take something from that. I
Speaker 1: know us men sometimes can be confusing creatures and uh,
Speaker 1: you know, fortunate is what it is. But um, I hope,
Speaker 1: I hope I can give you guys a different perspective. UM,
Speaker 1: super stoked I could do this and UM, yeah, if
Speaker 1: you guys want to follow me in any way, we
Speaker 1: do have uh I do a podcast here at my
Speaker 1: roommates Dustin Kendrick Bachelor's in the City and I just
Speaker 1: talk about you know, our everyday life, um, living in
Speaker 1: the city and do uh you know a lot of
Speaker 1: a lot of bachelor recaps. Obviously got to give that
Speaker 1: some love, UM, but we have a good time doing it.
Speaker 1: So if you guys want to check it out, give
Speaker 1: us a listen. And for other things going on, I
Speaker 1: have UM, I have a children's book that uh I
Speaker 1: released about a month ago, the Adventures of Pilot Pete,
Speaker 1: and UM just kind of focuses on my first love,
Speaker 1: Aviation and my whole story of of getting to the
Speaker 1: point of where I've gotten, you know, with my career,
Speaker 1: and it's meant to hopefully inspire you know, the younger
Speaker 1: generation and children. So do you guys have any kiddos
Speaker 1: out there, Um, definitely I recommend it for them. But
Speaker 1: it's been a joy. I wish you guys nothing but
Speaker 1: the best and much love and take care. This is
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