WEBVTT - How Men Think with Peter Weber 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:03.880 We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:08.400 is How Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. What's 0:00:08.440 --> 0:00:11.959 going on? Everyone, I'm Peter Webber. You may know me 0:00:12.440 --> 0:00:15.600 as the Bachelor, but I'm also a pilot and I'm 0:00:15.640 --> 0:00:19.400 super happy to be guest hosting How Men Think. I'm 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:22.760 going to attempt to answer all your questions and solve 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:27.880 the fascinating question of just how men think. But first, 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:32.120 this is eleven questions with Peter Webber. Let's get into 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:35.919 it first. One, what are you known for? Tell us 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:40.960 about yourself? Well, I I like to think of myself 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:45.040 first and foremost as commercial airline palette. I fly for 0:00:45.159 --> 0:00:48.360 United Airlines. It's my passion, very very blessed to be 0:00:48.360 --> 0:00:50.839 able to do what I do. Um, I think publicly 0:00:50.840 --> 0:00:53.599 a little bit more. I've been known for being on 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:58.160 the Bachelor and taking that leap of faith. UM, kind 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:03.480 of sharing my whole relationship life with the world. Um. 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:09.679 But I let's see, just come from um kind of 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:13.319 growing up. I uh kind of always been a lot 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:14.960 of people don't believe me when I say this. Are 0:01:14.959 --> 0:01:17.040 they kind of find shocking. But I've always been kind 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:20.720 of a shy person, and UM, I just growing up 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:22.440 through high school and all that that was that was 0:01:22.520 --> 0:01:24.319 kind of my personality was it was kind of quiet, 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:27.240 um I think, you know, going on the show, people 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:28.959 always ask well, how did you do that then? And 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:30.920 you know, I don't, you know, see it with that 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:33.440 doesn't really match for me. It was always kind of 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:35.640 it was an opportunity to kind of push myself. I'm 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:39.479 always someone that likes to, um, make myself a little uncomfortable. 0:01:39.560 --> 0:01:42.160 I think that's a good way for um, you know, 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:44.959 a good way to allow us to grow as as individuals. 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:47.160 And you know, definitely was an experience that uh that 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:50.360 allowed me to do just that. Um. But yeah, I 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:52.520 like to think of myself now is um you know, 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:55.400 just a fun loving person. I like to always you know, 0:01:56.040 --> 0:01:58.520 see the bright things in life. You know, it's such 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:01.120 a beautiful life, and you know, it's easy to kind 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:03.000 of get distracted sometimes, but I'm someone that likes to 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:05.880 focus on on all the beautiful things that we have 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:09.640 to be thankful for. And um, who are you in 0:02:09.720 --> 0:02:12.520 your personal life? All right? Well, I guess I kind 0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:15.000 of touched on that a little bit with the previous question, 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:20.639 but I am. I saw a quote from I think 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:24.280 it was I think it was Denzel Washington, and I 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:28.000 definitely related with it, and it was along the lines 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:32.120 of I am an introvert and I'm also an extrovert, 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:35.760 and I definitely have both of those qualities. I'm someone 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:39.160 that you know, I love to um, you know, be 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:41.840 you know, with the energy and having a good time 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:44.880 and taking advantage of you know, whatever asked or whatever, 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:48.280 you know. Part of life. I'm in at that moment 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:52.480 um always about a good time. Definitely can could be 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:56.360 described as you know, bringing a lot of energy, um, 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:57.920 you know to the party, that kind of thing. But 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:02.720 I also am someone that I crave my alone time. 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:06.919 I definitely need that. I think it's especially with work. 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:08.640 You know, when I'm flying, it's so nice for me 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:11.560 to kind of get that balance of you know, going 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:13.800 away on a trip for three or four days and 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:16.960 just allowing myself to kind of just be, you know, 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:20.160 in my own head and um and just you know, 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:22.880 think a lot and kind of decompressed. I think that 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:25.840 yin and yang, if you will, is definitely really important 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:28.560 in life. And that's definitely the kind of person that 0:03:28.720 --> 0:03:31.760 I am. But um that being said, I'm always up 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:34.080 for that adventure. I'm always up to make the most 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:40.000 of it. So three shows you are binge watching? So 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:43.240 to be completely honest, I actually I'm not a big 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:47.800 TV watcher. Um. I I think I think I've actually 0:03:47.880 --> 0:03:52.840 only finished three or four shows in my entire life. Um. 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:57.120 Recently though it's kind of relevant with recent shows. Was 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:59.240 that new Kevin Hart Show is kind of a limited 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:04.480 series true story? That was I really enjoyed that, watched that, 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:07.240 you know, start to finish, just binge the whole thing. Um. 0:04:07.280 --> 0:04:08.480 And that's kind of for me to do because I 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:10.920 really don't watch too much TV. I think some of 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:15.280 the other shows I finished Breaking Bad, Back in the Day, 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:20.839 Friday Night Lights, Californication, and that is about it for me. 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:23.599 I'm a big sports guy, so I'll always I'll always 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:27.279 choose to watch a game over over TV shows. Um. 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:31.120 But that's just me. What is your favorite food? Alright? 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:34.680 This one is easy. It is definitely my mom's cooking. 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:38.760 My mom's Cuban so she makes excellent Cuban food. And 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:42.600 I would say specific meal is, uh usually do this 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:46.160 around Christmas time, but it's when she makes shown asado, 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:50.279 which is like kind of a pork and uh black 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:54.920 beans rice. Um. Yuka, which is just a delicious kind 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:59.960 of root. Um you know plantings. UM. That Cuban dish 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:03.440 is definitely my go to bestead at bollow Mia. It's 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:06.279 like a good little skirt steak too with onions, you 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:09.039 know vinegar that's delicious as well, So definitely Cuban food. 0:05:09.440 --> 0:05:13.720 Tell us about your career. So yeah, I am an 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:16.600 airline pilot. I fly for United Airlines. It's always been 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:18.880 to my childhood dream since I was a little kid. 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:21.560 I grew up with my dad being a pilot for United, 0:05:21.560 --> 0:05:23.839 he still flies, you know for us, and uh my 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:25.720 mom when she was a flight center for United. So 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:28.799 it was always in my blood and you know, definitely 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:32.880 took me. Wasn't the straightest route to get to the 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:36.280 dream of flying with United. UM, you know, went through 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:40.279 a couple of different airlines before, but UM finally made 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:43.680 it this past year. Um in may have one, and 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:46.560 uh it's amazing. I fly the seven thirty seven base 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:50.360 out of Newark and UM LaGuardia. Those two airports fly 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:53.760 a lot of domestic flying right now, but I am 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:56.400 going to move to a new airplane, the seven eighties 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:59.880 seven shortly, which will be flying all the international routes 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:03.200 doing a lot of Europe, which I'm very very excited for, um, 0:06:03.520 --> 0:06:07.239 some Asia stuff, So it'll be a nice change. And UM, 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:10.000 I love what I do. UM could not be happier 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:12.320 And I feel very blessed to be able to say that. 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:19.520 What's your biggest fear in life? I'd say wasting it? Um. 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:25.000 I I'm someone that I always always want to make 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:28.160 the most of life. Um. You know, I think it 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:32.360 just is such a precious thing. And you know, time specifically, 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:35.400 It's sure you guys have heard before. You know, people 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:37.400 say that in the time is the most valuable commodity. 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:39.240 We all have the exact you know, in a day, 0:06:39.320 --> 0:06:42.159 the exact same amount of time. Doesn't matter how rich 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:45.320 how poor you are. Everyone has the exact amount of 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:49.360 hours and what you choose to do with those hours. Um. 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:52.359 And so for me, just you know, broad view of 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:55.239 it all, my biggest stary be to waste that time. 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:57.800 And uh, I try to make it a point every 0:06:57.880 --> 0:07:00.680 day to not allow myself like that's ever happened. What's 0:07:00.720 --> 0:07:05.000 your biggest pet peeve? Biggest pet peeve is when people 0:07:06.240 --> 0:07:09.760 bill out or cancel last minute. That is always something 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:14.080 that I I it just I can't stand um. You know, 0:07:14.120 --> 0:07:17.360 I try, and you know, obviously everyone's human and I'm 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:19.320 sure I've done that, you know, plenty of times in 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:21.320 my life. Not saying I don't, but I would say 0:07:21.320 --> 0:07:24.120 when people, yeah, kind of build out on plans, um, 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:28.080 don't stick to commitments. Which let's see what makes you 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:30.920 the most happy? What makes me the most happy? I 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:36.840 would say I'm happiest when I am at a point 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:41.440 where I am just extremely content with where I'm at, 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:46.600 meaning that you know, they're really there's obviously always gonna 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:48.800 be stress in life, and you know, day to day 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:51.360 stress and that kind of thing, but you know, it's 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:53.400 it's such a great feeling when you're just at a 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:56.360 place where everything just kind of is going well. You're 0:07:56.400 --> 0:08:02.000 not you're not You're able to stay present very easy, um, 0:08:02.000 --> 0:08:05.080 and you're not necessarily looking forward, you know, looking to 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:08.480 forward in the future. You're just enjoying the moment where 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:11.920 you're at, you know, acknowledging all this stuff maybe you've 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:14.520 done to get to that point and just really appreciating 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:17.520 it and being grateful and showing that gratitude. I think 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:20.920 those are the moments in life where, um, I just 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:25.360 I feel happiest, and I always strive to to get 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:28.520 to that point. Always show gratitude, and whether that's you know, career, 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:31.440 whether that's your your love life, whether you know, relationship 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:35.679 with your friends, um, whatever, it is just not allowing 0:08:35.720 --> 0:08:38.600 any of the distractions that we all go We all 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:43.160 you know, struggle with not allowing those two overtake your 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:47.840 frame of mind. And that's what I'm happiest. What is 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:54.720 your ideal Saturday morning? My ideal Saturday morning is definitely 0:08:54.720 --> 0:09:00.160 waking up cuddling with my best friend, my dog Trip, Um. 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:06.079 I love morning cuddles with him, and just uh, taking 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:08.559 it easy. Um, you know, going out. I've got a 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:10.080 lot of living here in New York City, got a 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:12.720 lot of great uh you know, breakfast diners, going out 0:09:12.720 --> 0:09:14.439 with my best friends. We've got a group of four 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:17.840 of us and um, you gotta go to Spot John's 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:21.320 down the street, Um, grabbing breakfast with each other, catching 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:23.439 up from you know, maybe the week or and we 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:25.400 had a great night the night before and just you know, 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:29.920 rehashing it, reliving it all and uh yeah, just enjoying it, 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:34.120 taking it easy. Are you more of an athlete or 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:38.679 the arm chair quarterback? Definitely more of the athlete. I 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:43.160 just kind of always been that way my entire life. Um, 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:46.080 I uh, I always be don't believe obviously, actions speak 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:49.480 louder than words, and um yeah, I just like to 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:54.080 back my talk up. I guess with my actions and 0:09:54.200 --> 0:10:01.000 UM enjoy doing it. What keeps you motivated? I think 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.520 a little bit of this goes back to kind of 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:06.560 the biggest fear in life and you know, in wasting it, 0:10:06.679 --> 0:10:09.360 wasting our time. I think that is probably like the 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:15.520 biggest fire under me is um not allowing myself to 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:20.520 to waste any time. And UM always you know, try to, 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:23.880 like I said earlier, to find things to to make 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:28.400 you a little uncomfortable, because that's that's good for us, 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:32.200 you know, I believe, and helps keep me motivated and 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:37.600 always looking um for for what's next. Alright, guys, Well 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:41.080 that was eleven questions with me Peter Weber. Next going 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:43.560 to be thrown it out to you guys for some 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:48.120 live callins answer any relationship questions you guys may have. 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:50.480 I'll try to give you guys my best advice. But 0:10:50.559 --> 0:11:02.480 first let's take a quick break mat you what's going on, 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:07.600 how's it going? Good? Good? Just chilling Hopefully I can 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:11.640 answer some questions here, give some advice. Absolutely, I'm looking 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:17.240 through some advice. Peter so Um So, I recently got 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:20.200 out of a three relationship UM. Following my breakup, I 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:22.679 moved to Nashville, Tennessee. I've just been working on my career. 0:11:23.360 --> 0:11:27.120 I'm working on rediscovering myself and my independence. But I 0:11:27.120 --> 0:11:29.760 still have a lot of unanswered questions about the breakup 0:11:30.200 --> 0:11:32.560 and about our relationships. So my question for you is, 0:11:33.160 --> 0:11:35.120 as a man who's been in a long term relationship, 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:37.800 can the person you're in a relationship with really give 0:11:37.840 --> 0:11:41.200 you closure or as closure as something you ultimately give yourself. 0:11:44.000 --> 0:11:47.640 That is a great question, and I think so many 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:52.280 everyone can relate to that. UM. Everyone's been there where 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:58.240 a certain relationship obviously meant so much to you in 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:03.800 that moment, especially it was longer term UM. And you 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:07.079 know me personally, I've I've struggled with that as well. 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:09.640 I've I've been at a point where I felt like 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:13.479 I didn't have that closure that I maybe hope for. UM. 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:16.480 I wasn't exactly content with where I was there UM 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:22.000 with that person. And I think ultimately, UM, obviously time helps, 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:25.480 time heals all wounds, I truly believe. But that comes 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:30.640 ultimately from you, and it's you taking that time to reflect, 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:32.840 to feel all those feelings. I think a lot of 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:36.439 times people try to suppress that, and especially men sometimes 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:39.080 you know, it's not the manly thing to really express 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:41.439 your feelings your emotions. But I think that's the healthiest 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:44.920 thing you can do, is really allow yourself to feel everything. 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:47.640 And um, don't rush it, don't push it. But I 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:50.400 think ultimately that closure will come from you and you'll 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:53.559 get to that point and you'll realize ultimately why it 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:55.200 didn't work or else you would have been there, you know, 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:58.080 still with that person, and um, that's the best way 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:00.400 to ultimately move on and be ready to get results 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:02.840 to that next person that you know deserves you and 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:06.600 you deserve them. No, I love that. Agree, that's awesome. 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:08.800 So yeah, all all the best. What are you doing 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:12.880 in Nashville. I'm a singer down here. It's a perfect 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:15.600 place to be. Yeah, just chase and enjoy and starting 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:18.840 a new adventure. So it's a great time. I'm sure. 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:20.760 I'm sure breakups and all I have a lot of 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:24.280 great motivation for song. So absolutely, thank you, Peter, of course, 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:30.280 all right. Goodbye, Hi Peter. How are you Erica? I'm good. 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:33.240 How are you doing good? So my question is a 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:36.680 kind of a double question. So, Um, I've been dating 0:13:36.720 --> 0:13:40.960 somebody new for the last year and I just don't 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.440 really get along with his friends as much as I 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:48.920 have in past relationships. They're just kind of not my people. UM, 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:53.719 And my question is like, how as a girlfriend do I, 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:55.800 I don't know, get in with the friends. Does that 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.040 make sense, like find a way to connect in and 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:02.360 I don't know, like build a relationship with them when 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:05.680 we haven't been able to for the last year. Yeah, 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:11.360 great question. I I think for sure, you know, it 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:14.240 is extremely important to you know that there's maybe people 0:14:14.280 --> 0:14:16.160 that will you know, have different trains of thought with this, 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:21.200 but I think that's pretty crucial to eventually established and 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:23.240 have a connection, you know, with the friends of your 0:14:23.280 --> 0:14:28.280 significant other. Um, if you want that relationship to ultimately 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:31.480 succeed long term. I think you know that's it's if 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:34.680 you don't do that, UM, that's always going to kind 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:36.520 of in hip you guys from fully getting to that 0:14:36.680 --> 0:14:39.320 that ultimate level. In my opinion, UM, you know, at 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:42.360 the end of the day, your friends are your significant 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:45.040 other is going to be confiding in you know, his 0:14:45.160 --> 0:14:47.720 friends for advice and um, you know, getting you know, 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:49.880 just guy advice and guide talk. Um you know with 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:52.360 certain you know, moments of your relationship when they come up. 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:54.360 And so I think that's great that you're putting such 0:14:54.360 --> 0:14:58.240 an effort to um to create that relationship and definitely 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:01.520 don't give up. I would say, um, you know, just 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:05.200 making showing you know, your person, your significant other, the 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:07.960 effort you are putting in trying to plant things, uh, 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:11.840 you know, fun group outings, maybe maybe some double triple 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:14.760 dates just group dates with maybe some of your single friends. 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:16.640 And I don't know if you know, if if he 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:19.320 had uh you know, some single friends trying to create 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:22.840 a fun group environment, UM that won't go on seeing 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:26.880 to him or his friends. They'll really appreciate that, um, 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:29.720 you know, really doing something that they really enjoy and uh, 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:32.600 and just putting that effort out that will just go 0:15:32.800 --> 0:15:36.160 such a long way. And if you consistently do that, UM, 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:39.000 I think you know, that relationship will start to grow 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:41.200 and and you guys will become closer and that's ultimately 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:44.240 best I think. When Yeah, I like what advice the 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:46.920 triple date, that's really good idea. It takes the pressure off. 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:51.760 And the second half of the question is, um, like, 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:54.600 do guys care as much as girls care to be 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:57.640 friends with your significant others best friends? Like, is that 0:15:57.680 --> 0:16:00.560 a big priority for guys like to be really close 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:06.320 with their significant others friends? You know? For me in 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:09.640 my past relationships, I yeah, I always have. I've been 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:13.000 very close with my significantly. I'm someone that I'm always 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:14.520 you know. I like to do a lot of trips, 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.920 a lot of fun kind of like outings, and it's 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:19.600 it's obviously great to have that alone time that's super necessary, 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:21.200 but it's so fun too when you have a big 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:25.840 group that you can share all those memories with. Um I, personally, yeah, 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:29.040 I've always made that a priority. Um So from my 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:32.440 from my perspective, yes, good to know. Thank you, I 0:16:32.440 --> 0:16:37.440 appreciate it, of course. Yeah, take care, Hannah. What's up? Okay? 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:41.480 So this is kind of a funny situation. And I 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:45.400 was dating this guy and one of our co workers, 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:48.680 who knew that I was dating a different guy, would 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:52.720 come up to me and say, your wife material I 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.800 want to marry you. I'm dating another guy. He has 0:16:55.840 --> 0:16:58.920 a girlfriend, but constantly comes up to me and says this. 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:02.080 So I'm just wondering what type of perspective you have 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:06.480 on this for someone who clearly is going through something 0:17:06.520 --> 0:17:09.240 in his own relationship but just always says these weird 0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:14.520 comments to me. Lets make sure I'm falling. So another 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:18.560 guy makes comments to you, but he's he's dating a guy. 0:17:19.359 --> 0:17:23.480 No no, no, no, no, he's sorry, he's dating a 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:26.919 different girl. And I was dating a different guy. But 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:28.680 he would come up to me and be like, you're 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:31.800 my wife. I have this girlfriend, but you're my wife, 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:34.479 your wife material, And I just think that's so weird. 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:37.320 But I don't know if it's supposed I mean, it 0:17:37.359 --> 0:17:39.239 didn't matter because I was dating a different guy, but 0:17:39.720 --> 0:17:41.440 I wasn't sure if it's supposed to be a compliment. 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:43.800 It's just such a weird thing, and it's one of 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:48.040 any Has there ever been any like connection or any 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:50.240 kind of spark between the two of you at work? 0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:55.640 I mean, there's definitely flirtation, but it's almost like to 0:17:55.720 --> 0:17:59.480 get something out of me, like some comments like oh, yeah, 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:01.560 you're my spend. That's such a weird thing to say 0:18:01.560 --> 0:18:04.800 to me. But definitely, I mean, yeah, a little aggressive, 0:18:05.400 --> 0:18:09.920 especially with with him being in another relationship. I think, uh, 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:13.400 maybe in the workplace it allows a certain type of um, 0:18:13.400 --> 0:18:16.000 maybe a different level of comfort to kind of come 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:18.800 out between two people. Just because you guys spend so 0:18:18.880 --> 0:18:21.959 much time together. You it's you have a unique relationship 0:18:22.000 --> 0:18:26.439 with each other. Um. And yeah, I don't I don't know. 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:29.480 I uh, I can't say I've ever done that when 0:18:29.480 --> 0:18:33.200 I when I've been in a relationship to another girl. Um, 0:18:33.200 --> 0:18:35.680 maybe he's fishing a little bit. Maybe he's curious to 0:18:35.720 --> 0:18:38.560 see how you know, serious you are in your relationship. 0:18:38.600 --> 0:18:40.879 Maybe there are some underlying feelings that he does have 0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:43.520 and um, you know, I hate to say it, but 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:46.399 you know, for his current relationship, but he would be 0:18:46.520 --> 0:18:50.560 willing to end that for you, I guess if if um, 0:18:50.600 --> 0:18:53.320 he got the right vibe or feel from you. Um. 0:18:53.320 --> 0:18:55.000 But I would say, maybe it's just a little bit 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:58.600 of fishing on his end and you know, trying to 0:18:58.600 --> 0:19:02.280 be flirty and and keep that going. Um. Yeah, And 0:19:02.280 --> 0:19:03.840 I think he was just probably looking for how you 0:19:03.880 --> 0:19:07.480 responded to that. Yeah. It's definitely a weird situation too, 0:19:07.480 --> 0:19:11.600 because in the workplace you want things to be more comfortable, 0:19:11.640 --> 0:19:15.680 but at the same time, people cross that line that's true, 0:19:15.720 --> 0:19:18.160 and so that that almost like makes me believe that 0:19:19.480 --> 0:19:22.600 he would be like, he probably is pretty seriously into you, 0:19:23.240 --> 0:19:26.600 because you don't do that in a workplace and kind 0:19:26.600 --> 0:19:28.280 of make it, you know, take the chance of making 0:19:28.359 --> 0:19:32.360 extremely awkward, um if something were not to work out. 0:19:32.440 --> 0:19:35.760 So yeah, that leads me to believe that he probably 0:19:35.760 --> 0:19:38.320 has some serious interest in you and he wants to 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:40.919 see kind of how you're going to respond. Well, also, 0:19:41.000 --> 0:19:42.640 it's like, why would you want to be with someone 0:19:42.720 --> 0:19:46.639 that's doing that in their current relationship? Very true, That's 0:19:46.800 --> 0:19:49.359 that's a huge talent science. That's in my opinion, kind 0:19:49.400 --> 0:19:54.359 of a red flag. Um so yeah, a couple of 0:19:54.400 --> 0:19:57.600 trains of thought with that. But I don't know, I'm curious, 0:19:57.600 --> 0:20:00.000 are you Are you still with your your current relationship? 0:20:00.000 --> 0:20:02.600 It all right with your in your current relationship? Well 0:20:02.640 --> 0:20:06.000 that's that's another story. We broke up and then got 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:11.120 back together. So okay, yeah, maybe some some right fishing, 0:20:11.280 --> 0:20:15.439 but yeah, maybe he was picking up on that and um, 0:20:15.680 --> 0:20:18.879 he thought he'd shoot a shot. But if you're happy, 0:20:19.200 --> 0:20:21.720 you know, with where you're at, um, you know, don't 0:20:21.720 --> 0:20:26.720 mess that up. Yeah, thanks of course, Yeah, all the 0:20:26.720 --> 0:20:31.680 best to you. Thank you, what's up, Alexa? I sorry, 0:20:31.760 --> 0:20:34.280 my dog is crazy. You got your pup? I got 0:20:34.359 --> 0:20:37.520 my pups taking a nap right now. But what a cutie? 0:20:37.960 --> 0:20:42.120 Thank you? All right, what do we have? So my 0:20:42.320 --> 0:20:46.120 question is what do you think? Um, most guys think 0:20:46.400 --> 0:20:52.960 if they're dating a girl that's bisexual. Interesting question. I've 0:20:52.960 --> 0:20:59.800 never been asked that. UM. I would say, I think 0:21:00.000 --> 0:21:04.520 all going to depend on the guy's level of confidence 0:21:05.000 --> 0:21:09.879 in himself and you know, ultimately confidence in you know, 0:21:10.359 --> 0:21:14.480 the relationship that he has with that girl. UM. Obviously 0:21:14.520 --> 0:21:17.840 that's throwing some you know, that's that's some different variables 0:21:17.880 --> 0:21:22.360 into the equation that maybe you're not traditional. But UM, 0:21:22.400 --> 0:21:25.200 I think it's all about communication in that regard. And 0:21:25.359 --> 0:21:29.080 if there was, um a desire maybe for some type 0:21:29.119 --> 0:21:32.120 of like open relationship or something, then that obviously has 0:21:32.119 --> 0:21:34.960 to be discussed and communicated and and agreed upon from 0:21:34.960 --> 0:21:38.960 both sides. UM. But I think ultimately you just gotta 0:21:38.960 --> 0:21:41.399 be truthful and honest, and you can't if that's a 0:21:41.440 --> 0:21:44.160 part of you, that's that's you, and you can't hide that, 0:21:44.520 --> 0:21:47.199 and um, that needs to come out and your partner 0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:49.679 needs to you know, be able to accept that. And 0:21:49.680 --> 0:21:54.080 if not, that's not your person um and yeah, like 0:21:54.080 --> 0:21:56.920 I said, I think it's just communication is the absolutely 0:21:56.960 --> 0:22:02.240 utmost key in that kind of situation. Hey, thank you, Yeah, 0:22:02.280 --> 0:22:07.639 of course. Hey Danielle, I'll be doing good. Are you? 0:22:08.440 --> 0:22:13.240 I'm good. I'm good. Nice to meet you. Yeah you too. 0:22:13.800 --> 0:22:18.120 What's going on? Nothing. I'm in Chicago, so it's freezing 0:22:18.119 --> 0:22:21.800 here today. It's like three degrees so I'm bundled up inside. 0:22:22.320 --> 0:22:24.560 Oh wow. Yeah, I'm in New York, so you beat us. 0:22:24.600 --> 0:22:26.200 It's a it's pretty cool here too. It's like I 0:22:26.200 --> 0:22:29.600 think it's in the teens. Yeah, I mean it's pretty miserable. 0:22:29.680 --> 0:22:31.520 I'm right by the lake too, so you get all 0:22:31.520 --> 0:22:36.040 the wind and everything. Winter is officially here. Yes, that 0:22:36.200 --> 0:22:39.200 is true, which was funny because like two weeks ago 0:22:39.240 --> 0:22:43.320 it was sixty five and sunny, and I thought the 0:22:43.320 --> 0:22:45.760 winter is gonna be really mild. It's gonna be so great. 0:22:45.800 --> 0:22:48.879 And now I'm like, yep, now I'm booking tickets to 0:22:48.920 --> 0:22:53.440 Miami because I need to escape. I hear you, alrighty, 0:22:53.680 --> 0:22:56.240 what question do you have? So I was wondering what 0:22:56.320 --> 0:22:59.440 the phrase. If he wanted to, he would It's kind 0:22:59.440 --> 0:23:02.879 of different, is like, I'm only twenty three and um, 0:23:02.920 --> 0:23:05.840 I feel like right now men are in a weird 0:23:06.160 --> 0:23:09.320 transition phase from like coming out of college and going 0:23:09.359 --> 0:23:11.960