1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:03,880 Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 2 00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: is How Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. What's 3 00:00:08,440 --> 00:00:11,959 Speaker 1: going on? Everyone, I'm Peter Webber. You may know me 4 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 1: as the Bachelor, but I'm also a pilot and I'm 5 00:00:15,640 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 1: super happy to be guest hosting How Men Think. I'm 6 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:22,760 Speaker 1: going to attempt to answer all your questions and solve 7 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:27,880 Speaker 1: the fascinating question of just how men think. But first, 8 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: this is eleven questions with Peter Webber. Let's get into 9 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:35,919 Speaker 1: it first. One, what are you known for? Tell us 10 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 1: about yourself? Well, I I like to think of myself 11 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 1: first and foremost as commercial airline palette. I fly for 12 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: United Airlines. It's my passion, very very blessed to be 13 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,839 Speaker 1: able to do what I do. Um, I think publicly 14 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:53,599 Speaker 1: a little bit more. I've been known for being on 15 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: the Bachelor and taking that leap of faith. UM, kind 16 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 1: of sharing my whole relationship life with the world. Um. 17 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:09,679 Speaker 1: But I let's see, just come from um kind of 18 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:13,319 Speaker 1: growing up. I uh kind of always been a lot 19 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:14,960 Speaker 1: of people don't believe me when I say this. Are 20 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 1: they kind of find shocking. But I've always been kind 21 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 1: of a shy person, and UM, I just growing up 22 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 1: through high school and all that that was that was 23 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:24,319 Speaker 1: kind of my personality was it was kind of quiet, 24 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: um I think, you know, going on the show, people 25 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:28,959 Speaker 1: always ask well, how did you do that then? And 26 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 1: you know, I don't, you know, see it with that 27 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: doesn't really match for me. It was always kind of 28 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: it was an opportunity to kind of push myself. I'm 29 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:39,479 Speaker 1: always someone that likes to, um, make myself a little uncomfortable. 30 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 1: I think that's a good way for um, you know, 31 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:44,959 Speaker 1: a good way to allow us to grow as as individuals. 32 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: And you know, definitely was an experience that uh that 33 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 1: allowed me to do just that. Um. But yeah, I 34 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 1: like to think of myself now is um you know, 35 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: just a fun loving person. I like to always you know, 36 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 1: see the bright things in life. You know, it's such 37 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 1: a beautiful life, and you know, it's easy to kind 38 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: of get distracted sometimes, but I'm someone that likes to 39 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: focus on on all the beautiful things that we have 40 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 1: to be thankful for. And um, who are you in 41 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: your personal life? All right? Well, I guess I kind 42 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 1: of touched on that a little bit with the previous question, 43 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:20,639 Speaker 1: but I am. I saw a quote from I think 44 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 1: it was I think it was Denzel Washington, and I 45 00:02:24,320 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 1: definitely related with it, and it was along the lines 46 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:32,120 Speaker 1: of I am an introvert and I'm also an extrovert, 47 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 1: and I definitely have both of those qualities. I'm someone 48 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,160 Speaker 1: that you know, I love to um, you know, be 49 00:02:39,720 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: you know, with the energy and having a good time 50 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 1: and taking advantage of you know, whatever asked or whatever, 51 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 1: you know. Part of life. I'm in at that moment 52 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 1: um always about a good time. Definitely can could be 53 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:56,360 Speaker 1: described as you know, bringing a lot of energy, um, 54 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:57,920 Speaker 1: you know to the party, that kind of thing. But 55 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: I also am someone that I crave my alone time. 56 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:06,919 Speaker 1: I definitely need that. I think it's especially with work. 57 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 1: You know, when I'm flying, it's so nice for me 58 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 1: to kind of get that balance of you know, going 59 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:13,800 Speaker 1: away on a trip for three or four days and 60 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 1: just allowing myself to kind of just be, you know, 61 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 1: in my own head and um and just you know, 62 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 1: think a lot and kind of decompressed. I think that 63 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 1: yin and yang, if you will, is definitely really important 64 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 1: in life. And that's definitely the kind of person that 65 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 1: I am. But um that being said, I'm always up 66 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:34,080 Speaker 1: for that adventure. I'm always up to make the most 67 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 1: of it. So three shows you are binge watching? So 68 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 1: to be completely honest, I actually I'm not a big 69 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: TV watcher. Um. I I think I think I've actually 70 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 1: only finished three or four shows in my entire life. Um. 71 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:57,120 Speaker 1: Recently though it's kind of relevant with recent shows. Was 72 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 1: that new Kevin Hart Show is kind of a limited 73 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 1: series true story? That was I really enjoyed that, watched that, 74 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: you know, start to finish, just binge the whole thing. Um. 75 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 1: And that's kind of for me to do because I 76 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 1: really don't watch too much TV. I think some of 77 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 1: the other shows I finished Breaking Bad, Back in the Day, 78 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: Friday Night Lights, Californication, and that is about it for me. 79 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:23,599 Speaker 1: I'm a big sports guy, so I'll always I'll always 80 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:27,279 Speaker 1: choose to watch a game over over TV shows. Um. 81 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:31,120 Speaker 1: But that's just me. What is your favorite food? Alright? 82 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: This one is easy. It is definitely my mom's cooking. 83 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: My mom's Cuban so she makes excellent Cuban food. And 84 00:04:38,920 --> 00:04:42,600 Speaker 1: I would say specific meal is, uh usually do this 85 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:46,160 Speaker 1: around Christmas time, but it's when she makes shown asado, 86 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:50,279 Speaker 1: which is like kind of a pork and uh black 87 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 1: beans rice. Um. Yuka, which is just a delicious kind 88 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 1: of root. Um you know plantings. UM. That Cuban dish 89 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: is definitely my go to bestead at bollow Mia. It's 90 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:06,279 Speaker 1: like a good little skirt steak too with onions, you 91 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:09,039 Speaker 1: know vinegar that's delicious as well, So definitely Cuban food. 92 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:13,720 Speaker 1: Tell us about your career. So yeah, I am an 93 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:16,600 Speaker 1: airline pilot. I fly for United Airlines. It's always been 94 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:18,880 Speaker 1: to my childhood dream since I was a little kid. 95 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 1: I grew up with my dad being a pilot for United, 96 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:23,839 Speaker 1: he still flies, you know for us, and uh my 97 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:25,720 Speaker 1: mom when she was a flight center for United. So 98 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:28,799 Speaker 1: it was always in my blood and you know, definitely 99 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: took me. Wasn't the straightest route to get to the 100 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 1: dream of flying with United. UM, you know, went through 101 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:40,279 Speaker 1: a couple of different airlines before, but UM finally made 102 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 1: it this past year. Um in may have one, and 103 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:46,560 Speaker 1: uh it's amazing. I fly the seven thirty seven base 104 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:50,360 Speaker 1: out of Newark and UM LaGuardia. Those two airports fly 105 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 1: a lot of domestic flying right now, but I am 106 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 1: going to move to a new airplane, the seven eighties 107 00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: seven shortly, which will be flying all the international routes 108 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: doing a lot of Europe, which I'm very very excited for, um, 109 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:07,239 Speaker 1: some Asia stuff, So it'll be a nice change. And UM, 110 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: I love what I do. UM could not be happier 111 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: And I feel very blessed to be able to say that. 112 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 1: What's your biggest fear in life? I'd say wasting it? Um. 113 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 1: I I'm someone that I always always want to make 114 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:28,160 Speaker 1: the most of life. Um. You know, I think it 115 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:32,360 Speaker 1: just is such a precious thing. And you know, time specifically, 116 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 1: It's sure you guys have heard before. You know, people 117 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: say that in the time is the most valuable commodity. 118 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 1: We all have the exact you know, in a day, 119 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:42,159 Speaker 1: the exact same amount of time. Doesn't matter how rich 120 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: how poor you are. Everyone has the exact amount of 121 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:49,360 Speaker 1: hours and what you choose to do with those hours. Um. 122 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:52,359 Speaker 1: And so for me, just you know, broad view of 123 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:55,239 Speaker 1: it all, my biggest stary be to waste that time. 124 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: And uh, I try to make it a point every 125 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: day to not allow myself like that's ever happened. What's 126 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: your biggest pet peeve? Biggest pet peeve is when people 127 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: bill out or cancel last minute. That is always something 128 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: that I I it just I can't stand um. You know, 129 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: I try, and you know, obviously everyone's human and I'm 130 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 1: sure I've done that, you know, plenty of times in 131 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 1: my life. Not saying I don't, but I would say 132 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 1: when people, yeah, kind of build out on plans, um, 133 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: don't stick to commitments. Which let's see what makes you 134 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 1: the most happy? What makes me the most happy? I 135 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:36,840 Speaker 1: would say I'm happiest when I am at a point 136 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:41,440 Speaker 1: where I am just extremely content with where I'm at, 137 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 1: meaning that you know, they're really there's obviously always gonna 138 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:48,800 Speaker 1: be stress in life, and you know, day to day 139 00:07:48,840 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 1: stress and that kind of thing, but you know, it's 140 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:53,400 Speaker 1: it's such a great feeling when you're just at a 141 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:56,360 Speaker 1: place where everything just kind of is going well. You're 142 00:07:56,400 --> 00:08:02,000 Speaker 1: not you're not You're able to stay present very easy, um, 143 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: and you're not necessarily looking forward, you know, looking to 144 00:08:05,320 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: forward in the future. You're just enjoying the moment where 145 00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 1: you're at, you know, acknowledging all this stuff maybe you've 146 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 1: done to get to that point and just really appreciating 147 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 1: it and being grateful and showing that gratitude. I think 148 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 1: those are the moments in life where, um, I just 149 00:08:21,040 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 1: I feel happiest, and I always strive to to get 150 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 1: to that point. Always show gratitude, and whether that's you know, career, 151 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: whether that's your your love life, whether you know, relationship 152 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:35,679 Speaker 1: with your friends, um, whatever, it is just not allowing 153 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:38,600 Speaker 1: any of the distractions that we all go We all 154 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 1: you know, struggle with not allowing those two overtake your 155 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:47,840 Speaker 1: frame of mind. And that's what I'm happiest. What is 156 00:08:47,840 --> 00:08:54,720 Speaker 1: your ideal Saturday morning? My ideal Saturday morning is definitely 157 00:08:54,720 --> 00:09:00,160 Speaker 1: waking up cuddling with my best friend, my dog Trip, Um. 158 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:06,079 Speaker 1: I love morning cuddles with him, and just uh, taking 159 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:08,559 Speaker 1: it easy. Um, you know, going out. I've got a 160 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 1: lot of living here in New York City, got a 161 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:12,720 Speaker 1: lot of great uh you know, breakfast diners, going out 162 00:09:12,720 --> 00:09:14,439 Speaker 1: with my best friends. We've got a group of four 163 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: of us and um, you gotta go to Spot John's 164 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 1: down the street, Um, grabbing breakfast with each other, catching 165 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:23,439 Speaker 1: up from you know, maybe the week or and we 166 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:25,400 Speaker 1: had a great night the night before and just you know, 167 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 1: rehashing it, reliving it all and uh yeah, just enjoying it, 168 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: taking it easy. Are you more of an athlete or 169 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:38,679 Speaker 1: the arm chair quarterback? Definitely more of the athlete. I 170 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: just kind of always been that way my entire life. Um, 171 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:46,080 Speaker 1: I uh, I always be don't believe obviously, actions speak 172 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: louder than words, and um yeah, I just like to 173 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:54,080 Speaker 1: back my talk up. I guess with my actions and 174 00:09:54,200 --> 00:10:01,000 Speaker 1: UM enjoy doing it. What keeps you motivated? I think 175 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:03,520 Speaker 1: a little bit of this goes back to kind of 176 00:10:03,559 --> 00:10:06,560 Speaker 1: the biggest fear in life and you know, in wasting it, 177 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:09,360 Speaker 1: wasting our time. I think that is probably like the 178 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: biggest fire under me is um not allowing myself to 179 00:10:15,520 --> 00:10:20,520 Speaker 1: to waste any time. And UM always you know, try to, 180 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 1: like I said earlier, to find things to to make 181 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 1: you a little uncomfortable, because that's that's good for us, 182 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:32,200 Speaker 1: you know, I believe, and helps keep me motivated and 183 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: always looking um for for what's next. Alright, guys, Well 184 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:41,080 Speaker 1: that was eleven questions with me Peter Weber. Next going 185 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: to be thrown it out to you guys for some 186 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: live callins answer any relationship questions you guys may have. 187 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 1: I'll try to give you guys my best advice. But 188 00:10:50,559 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 1: first let's take a quick break mat you what's going on, 189 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: how's it going? Good? Good? Just chilling Hopefully I can 190 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 1: answer some questions here, give some advice. Absolutely, I'm looking 191 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:17,240 Speaker 1: through some advice. Peter so Um So, I recently got 192 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:20,200 Speaker 1: out of a three relationship UM. Following my breakup, I 193 00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 1: moved to Nashville, Tennessee. I've just been working on my career. 194 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:27,120 Speaker 1: I'm working on rediscovering myself and my independence. But I 195 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:29,760 Speaker 1: still have a lot of unanswered questions about the breakup 196 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,560 Speaker 1: and about our relationships. So my question for you is, 197 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:35,120 Speaker 1: as a man who's been in a long term relationship, 198 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 1: can the person you're in a relationship with really give 199 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:41,200 Speaker 1: you closure or as closure as something you ultimately give yourself. 200 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: That is a great question, and I think so many 201 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: everyone can relate to that. UM. Everyone's been there where 202 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:58,240 Speaker 1: a certain relationship obviously meant so much to you in 203 00:11:58,280 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 1: that moment, especially it was longer term UM. And you 204 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:07,079 Speaker 1: know me personally, I've I've struggled with that as well. 205 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 1: I've I've been at a point where I felt like 206 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:13,479 Speaker 1: I didn't have that closure that I maybe hope for. UM. 207 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:16,480 Speaker 1: I wasn't exactly content with where I was there UM 208 00:12:16,480 --> 00:12:22,000 Speaker 1: with that person. And I think ultimately, UM, obviously time helps, 209 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 1: time heals all wounds, I truly believe. But that comes 210 00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 1: ultimately from you, and it's you taking that time to reflect, 211 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:32,840 Speaker 1: to feel all those feelings. I think a lot of 212 00:12:32,880 --> 00:12:36,439 Speaker 1: times people try to suppress that, and especially men sometimes 213 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:39,080 Speaker 1: you know, it's not the manly thing to really express 214 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:41,439 Speaker 1: your feelings your emotions. But I think that's the healthiest 215 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:44,920 Speaker 1: thing you can do, is really allow yourself to feel everything. 216 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: And um, don't rush it, don't push it. But I 217 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: think ultimately that closure will come from you and you'll 218 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:53,559 Speaker 1: get to that point and you'll realize ultimately why it 219 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:55,200 Speaker 1: didn't work or else you would have been there, you know, 220 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:58,080 Speaker 1: still with that person, and um, that's the best way 221 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 1: to ultimately move on and be ready to get results 222 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:02,840 Speaker 1: to that next person that you know deserves you and 223 00:13:02,880 --> 00:13:06,600 Speaker 1: you deserve them. No, I love that. Agree, that's awesome. 224 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:08,800 Speaker 1: So yeah, all all the best. What are you doing 225 00:13:08,840 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 1: in Nashville. I'm a singer down here. It's a perfect 226 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 1: place to be. Yeah, just chase and enjoy and starting 227 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 1: a new adventure. So it's a great time. I'm sure. 228 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:20,760 Speaker 1: I'm sure breakups and all I have a lot of 229 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:24,280 Speaker 1: great motivation for song. So absolutely, thank you, Peter, of course, 230 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:30,280 Speaker 1: all right. Goodbye, Hi Peter. How are you Erica? I'm good. 231 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: How are you doing good? So my question is a 232 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 1: kind of a double question. So, Um, I've been dating 233 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 1: somebody new for the last year and I just don't 234 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:43,440 Speaker 1: really get along with his friends as much as I 235 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 1: have in past relationships. They're just kind of not my people. UM, 236 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:53,719 Speaker 1: And my question is like, how as a girlfriend do I, 237 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 1: I don't know, get in with the friends. Does that 238 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 1: make sense, like find a way to connect in and 239 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:02,360 Speaker 1: I don't know, like build a relationship with them when 240 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:05,680 Speaker 1: we haven't been able to for the last year. Yeah, 241 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 1: great question. I I think for sure, you know, it 242 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 1: is extremely important to you know that there's maybe people 243 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:16,160 Speaker 1: that will you know, have different trains of thought with this, 244 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 1: but I think that's pretty crucial to eventually established and 245 00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:23,240 Speaker 1: have a connection, you know, with the friends of your 246 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 1: significant other. Um, if you want that relationship to ultimately 247 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:31,480 Speaker 1: succeed long term. I think you know that's it's if 248 00:14:31,480 --> 00:14:34,680 Speaker 1: you don't do that, UM, that's always going to kind 249 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:36,520 Speaker 1: of in hip you guys from fully getting to that 250 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:39,320 Speaker 1: that ultimate level. In my opinion, UM, you know, at 251 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 1: the end of the day, your friends are your significant 252 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 1: other is going to be confiding in you know, his 253 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:47,720 Speaker 1: friends for advice and um, you know, getting you know, 254 00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 1: just guy advice and guide talk. Um you know with 255 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:52,360 Speaker 1: certain you know, moments of your relationship when they come up. 256 00:14:52,680 --> 00:14:54,360 Speaker 1: And so I think that's great that you're putting such 257 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 1: an effort to um to create that relationship and definitely 258 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:01,520 Speaker 1: don't give up. I would say, um, you know, just 259 00:15:01,720 --> 00:15:05,200 Speaker 1: making showing you know, your person, your significant other, the 260 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:07,960 Speaker 1: effort you are putting in trying to plant things, uh, 261 00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 1: you know, fun group outings, maybe maybe some double triple 262 00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:14,760 Speaker 1: dates just group dates with maybe some of your single friends. 263 00:15:14,760 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 1: And I don't know if you know, if if he 264 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 1: had uh you know, some single friends trying to create 265 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 1: a fun group environment, UM that won't go on seeing 266 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 1: to him or his friends. They'll really appreciate that, um, 267 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:29,720 Speaker 1: you know, really doing something that they really enjoy and uh, 268 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:32,600 Speaker 1: and just putting that effort out that will just go 269 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 1: such a long way. And if you consistently do that, UM, 270 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:39,000 Speaker 1: I think you know, that relationship will start to grow 271 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:41,200 Speaker 1: and and you guys will become closer and that's ultimately 272 00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:44,240 Speaker 1: best I think. When Yeah, I like what advice the 273 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:46,920 Speaker 1: triple date, that's really good idea. It takes the pressure off. 274 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:51,760 Speaker 1: And the second half of the question is, um, like, 275 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:54,600 Speaker 1: do guys care as much as girls care to be 276 00:15:54,720 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 1: friends with your significant others best friends? Like, is that 277 00:15:57,680 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 1: a big priority for guys like to be really close 278 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:06,320 Speaker 1: with their significant others friends? You know? For me in 279 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: my past relationships, I yeah, I always have. I've been 280 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:13,000 Speaker 1: very close with my significantly. I'm someone that I'm always 281 00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:14,520 Speaker 1: you know. I like to do a lot of trips, 282 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:16,920 Speaker 1: a lot of fun kind of like outings, and it's 283 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 1: it's obviously great to have that alone time that's super necessary, 284 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:21,200 Speaker 1: but it's so fun too when you have a big 285 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 1: group that you can share all those memories with. Um I, personally, yeah, 286 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:29,040 Speaker 1: I've always made that a priority. Um So from my 287 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 1: from my perspective, yes, good to know. Thank you, I 288 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: appreciate it, of course. Yeah, take care, Hannah. What's up? Okay? 289 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:41,480 Speaker 1: So this is kind of a funny situation. And I 290 00:16:41,520 --> 00:16:45,400 Speaker 1: was dating this guy and one of our co workers, 291 00:16:45,440 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 1: who knew that I was dating a different guy, would 292 00:16:48,680 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 1: come up to me and say, your wife material I 293 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:55,800 Speaker 1: want to marry you. I'm dating another guy. He has 294 00:16:55,840 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 1: a girlfriend, but constantly comes up to me and says this. 295 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:02,080 Speaker 1: So I'm just wondering what type of perspective you have 296 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:06,480 Speaker 1: on this for someone who clearly is going through something 297 00:17:06,520 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 1: in his own relationship but just always says these weird 298 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:14,520 Speaker 1: comments to me. Lets make sure I'm falling. So another 299 00:17:14,560 --> 00:17:18,560 Speaker 1: guy makes comments to you, but he's he's dating a guy. 300 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:23,480 Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no, he's sorry, he's dating a 301 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:26,919 Speaker 1: different girl. And I was dating a different guy. But 302 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:28,680 Speaker 1: he would come up to me and be like, you're 303 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:31,800 Speaker 1: my wife. I have this girlfriend, but you're my wife, 304 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:34,479 Speaker 1: your wife material, And I just think that's so weird. 305 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 1: But I don't know if it's supposed I mean, it 306 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:39,239 Speaker 1: didn't matter because I was dating a different guy, but 307 00:17:39,720 --> 00:17:41,440 Speaker 1: I wasn't sure if it's supposed to be a compliment. 308 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:43,800 Speaker 1: It's just such a weird thing, and it's one of 309 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:48,040 Speaker 1: any Has there ever been any like connection or any 310 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:50,240 Speaker 1: kind of spark between the two of you at work? 311 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:55,640 Speaker 1: I mean, there's definitely flirtation, but it's almost like to 312 00:17:55,720 --> 00:17:59,480 Speaker 1: get something out of me, like some comments like oh, yeah, 313 00:17:59,520 --> 00:18:01,560 Speaker 1: you're my spend. That's such a weird thing to say 314 00:18:01,560 --> 00:18:04,800 Speaker 1: to me. But definitely, I mean, yeah, a little aggressive, 315 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:09,920 Speaker 1: especially with with him being in another relationship. I think, uh, 316 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:13,400 Speaker 1: maybe in the workplace it allows a certain type of um, 317 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:16,000 Speaker 1: maybe a different level of comfort to kind of come 318 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:18,800 Speaker 1: out between two people. Just because you guys spend so 319 00:18:18,880 --> 00:18:21,959 Speaker 1: much time together. You it's you have a unique relationship 320 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:26,439 Speaker 1: with each other. Um. And yeah, I don't I don't know. 321 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:29,480 Speaker 1: I uh, I can't say I've ever done that when 322 00:18:29,480 --> 00:18:33,200 Speaker 1: I when I've been in a relationship to another girl. Um, 323 00:18:33,200 --> 00:18:35,680 Speaker 1: maybe he's fishing a little bit. Maybe he's curious to 324 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 1: see how you know, serious you are in your relationship. 325 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:40,879 Speaker 1: Maybe there are some underlying feelings that he does have 326 00:18:41,040 --> 00:18:43,520 Speaker 1: and um, you know, I hate to say it, but 327 00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:46,399 Speaker 1: you know, for his current relationship, but he would be 328 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 1: willing to end that for you, I guess if if um, 329 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 1: he got the right vibe or feel from you. Um. 330 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:55,000 Speaker 1: But I would say, maybe it's just a little bit 331 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 1: of fishing on his end and you know, trying to 332 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:02,280 Speaker 1: be flirty and and keep that going. Um. Yeah, And 333 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:03,840 Speaker 1: I think he was just probably looking for how you 334 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:07,480 Speaker 1: responded to that. Yeah. It's definitely a weird situation too, 335 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:11,600 Speaker 1: because in the workplace you want things to be more comfortable, 336 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:15,680 Speaker 1: but at the same time, people cross that line that's true, 337 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:18,160 Speaker 1: and so that that almost like makes me believe that 338 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 1: he would be like, he probably is pretty seriously into you, 339 00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:26,600 Speaker 1: because you don't do that in a workplace and kind 340 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 1: of make it, you know, take the chance of making 341 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:32,360 Speaker 1: extremely awkward, um if something were not to work out. 342 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:35,760 Speaker 1: So yeah, that leads me to believe that he probably 343 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 1: has some serious interest in you and he wants to 344 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:40,919 Speaker 1: see kind of how you're going to respond. Well, also, 345 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:42,640 Speaker 1: it's like, why would you want to be with someone 346 00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:46,639 Speaker 1: that's doing that in their current relationship? Very true, That's 347 00:19:46,800 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 1: that's a huge talent science. That's in my opinion, kind 348 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:54,359 Speaker 1: of a red flag. Um so yeah, a couple of 349 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:57,600 Speaker 1: trains of thought with that. But I don't know, I'm curious, 350 00:19:57,600 --> 00:20:00,000 Speaker 1: are you Are you still with your your current relationship? 351 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 1: It all right with your in your current relationship? Well 352 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 1: that's that's another story. We broke up and then got 353 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:11,120 Speaker 1: back together. So okay, yeah, maybe some some right fishing, 354 00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:15,439 Speaker 1: but yeah, maybe he was picking up on that and um, 355 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:18,879 Speaker 1: he thought he'd shoot a shot. But if you're happy, 356 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:21,720 Speaker 1: you know, with where you're at, um, you know, don't 357 00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:26,720 Speaker 1: mess that up. Yeah, thanks of course, Yeah, all the 358 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:31,680 Speaker 1: best to you. Thank you, what's up, Alexa? I sorry, 359 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:34,280 Speaker 1: my dog is crazy. You got your pup? I got 360 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: my pups taking a nap right now. But what a cutie? 361 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:42,120 Speaker 1: Thank you? All right, what do we have? So my 362 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:46,120 Speaker 1: question is what do you think? Um, most guys think 363 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: if they're dating a girl that's bisexual. Interesting question. I've 364 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:59,800 Speaker 1: never been asked that. UM. I would say, I think 365 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 1: all going to depend on the guy's level of confidence 366 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:09,879 Speaker 1: in himself and you know, ultimately confidence in you know, 367 00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:14,480 Speaker 1: the relationship that he has with that girl. UM. Obviously 368 00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 1: that's throwing some you know, that's that's some different variables 369 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:22,360 Speaker 1: into the equation that maybe you're not traditional. But UM, 370 00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:25,200 Speaker 1: I think it's all about communication in that regard. And 371 00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 1: if there was, um a desire maybe for some type 372 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:32,120 Speaker 1: of like open relationship or something, then that obviously has 373 00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:34,960 Speaker 1: to be discussed and communicated and and agreed upon from 374 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 1: both sides. UM. But I think ultimately you just gotta 375 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:41,399 Speaker 1: be truthful and honest, and you can't if that's a 376 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:44,160 Speaker 1: part of you, that's that's you, and you can't hide that, 377 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:47,199 Speaker 1: and um, that needs to come out and your partner 378 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,679 Speaker 1: needs to you know, be able to accept that. And 379 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: if not, that's not your person um and yeah, like 380 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:56,920 Speaker 1: I said, I think it's just communication is the absolutely 381 00:21:56,960 --> 00:22:02,240 Speaker 1: utmost key in that kind of situation. Hey, thank you, Yeah, 382 00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:07,639 Speaker 1: of course. Hey Danielle, I'll be doing good. Are you? 383 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:13,240 Speaker 1: I'm good. I'm good. Nice to meet you. Yeah you too. 384 00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:18,120 Speaker 1: What's going on? Nothing. I'm in Chicago, so it's freezing 385 00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:21,800 Speaker 1: here today. It's like three degrees so I'm bundled up inside. 386 00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:24,560 Speaker 1: Oh wow. Yeah, I'm in New York, so you beat us. 387 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,200 Speaker 1: It's a it's pretty cool here too. It's like I 388 00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:29,600 Speaker 1: think it's in the teens. Yeah, I mean it's pretty miserable. 389 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:31,520 Speaker 1: I'm right by the lake too, so you get all 390 00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:36,040 Speaker 1: the wind and everything. Winter is officially here. Yes, that 391 00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:39,200 Speaker 1: is true, which was funny because like two weeks ago 392 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 1: it was sixty five and sunny, and I thought the 393 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:45,760 Speaker 1: winter is gonna be really mild. It's gonna be so great. 394 00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:48,879 Speaker 1: And now I'm like, yep, now I'm booking tickets to 395 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:53,440 Speaker 1: Miami because I need to escape. I hear you, alrighty, 396 00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:56,240 Speaker 1: what question do you have? So I was wondering what 397 00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:59,440 Speaker 1: the phrase. If he wanted to, he would It's kind 398 00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 1: of different, is like, I'm only twenty three and um, 399 00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:05,840 Speaker 1: I feel like right now men are in a weird 400 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 1: transition phase from like coming out of college and going 401 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:11,960 Speaker 1: into the real world and getting a job and everything. 402 00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:14,919 Speaker 1: So with that phrase, if he wanted to, he would 403 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,240 Speaker 1: at my age being kind of younger. Do you think 404 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:22,840 Speaker 1: it's an accurate statement still? And are there exceptions kind 405 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:26,639 Speaker 1: of that? I do? I I think you know that 406 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:31,400 Speaker 1: that phrases is, in my opinion, accurate regardless of what 407 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:34,040 Speaker 1: what age you know a man is or um, you know, 408 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,280 Speaker 1: what part of his life he's in. He may you know, 409 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:40,359 Speaker 1: his that part of his life may may influence how 410 00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 1: he acts upon it and his actions. But I think 411 00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 1: ultimately um for men. You know, I have a lot 412 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:48,960 Speaker 1: of friends that are girls. They kind of asked that 413 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,280 Speaker 1: question and they're curious about why isn't this guy doing 414 00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:54,520 Speaker 1: this or why isn't he doing that. If a guy 415 00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:56,240 Speaker 1: is into you and he's feeling you, and he's not 416 00:23:56,359 --> 00:24:00,400 Speaker 1: questioning it, and there's no doubts, believe me, he will 417 00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:02,359 Speaker 1: let you know that and he will not allow any 418 00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:06,040 Speaker 1: doubt to creep in. He will not be um flaky, 419 00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:09,440 Speaker 1: He will not be playing games um. If he knows 420 00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:13,760 Speaker 1: how he feels about you, Ah, that's a lock, and 421 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:16,520 Speaker 1: you're not gonna be curious. And I think, you know, unfortunately, 422 00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,200 Speaker 1: just you know, maybe it's some tough advice, but if 423 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:23,600 Speaker 1: you are doubting that UM, maybe he's doubting the relationship 424 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,200 Speaker 1: a little bit as well. And you know, I think 425 00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 1: everyone deserves that person that that doesn't allow that doubt 426 00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:32,080 Speaker 1: to creep in with the other. UM. And so you know, 427 00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,240 Speaker 1: I don't think anyone should ever settle until you find 428 00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 1: that UM. But like you said, you know, if you're 429 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,159 Speaker 1: you're still you're still growing, you're still kind of you know, 430 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:45,760 Speaker 1: maturing for sure, and UM, I get that. But I 431 00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 1: ultimately believe that a guy will never let you, um, 432 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:54,359 Speaker 1: doubt or be curious where he stands. Thank you, Yeah, 433 00:24:54,520 --> 00:25:00,439 Speaker 1: of course, stay warm? Yeah you do. Hey Caroline, how 434 00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,680 Speaker 1: you doing? I'm doing great? How are you doing? Very good? 435 00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,560 Speaker 1: Very good? You gotta pup with you? Yeah? Do you 436 00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:13,760 Speaker 1: hear her? Yeah, she's on the table right now. She's 437 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:17,840 Speaker 1: so cute. I just got her like almost a year ago. 438 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:21,439 Speaker 1: But I have a question, all right, I hopefully have 439 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:26,160 Speaker 1: an answer. Okay, UM, what would you say your biggest 440 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:32,439 Speaker 1: turnofs are for girls? I guess biggest turnoffs for girls. 441 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:40,919 Speaker 1: I would say for me, I I'm someone that I 442 00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:44,760 Speaker 1: the old The biggest thing I value in a relationship 443 00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:49,119 Speaker 1: is trust. I nothing comes ahead of that for me, 444 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,880 Speaker 1: and I think it's such a it's such a fragile 445 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 1: thing you kind of have to navigate, especially early in 446 00:25:55,320 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 1: the relationship, um of making a concentrated effort to established 447 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:03,240 Speaker 1: that trust with that person. And so I would say, 448 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:08,159 Speaker 1: you know, biggest turn offs are just confusing kind of 449 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:12,560 Speaker 1: UM signals that kind of come out in the beginning 450 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:16,679 Speaker 1: that makes you question that trust or um. Don't you know, 451 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:20,600 Speaker 1: things that don't allow your confidence to truly grow to 452 00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:23,240 Speaker 1: the it needs to be for that relationship to really 453 00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:29,480 Speaker 1: have a good Chancey, just being straightforward, very straightforward, very honest, upfront. UM, 454 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,879 Speaker 1: no one's perfect, and you know it's it's okay and 455 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:36,840 Speaker 1: own that and embrace it. UM, but don't sacrifice that 456 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:44,639 Speaker 1: initial that trust building aspect. Amazing. I love it for you. Alrighty, 457 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:58,040 Speaker 1: We'll have a good one you too, Thank you, Lisa. 458 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:01,560 Speaker 1: Are you doing good? How are you very good? Very good? 459 00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:04,080 Speaker 1: Thanks for coming on. Yeah, I'm I'm excited to talk 460 00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:07,399 Speaker 1: to you. Yeah, awesome. Where where we're coming from today? 461 00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:13,119 Speaker 1: I'm coming from St. Louis. St. Louis. All right, Um, 462 00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,440 Speaker 1: so my question is, what what do you think about 463 00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:22,760 Speaker 1: guys coming back into the picture after being away, like 464 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,720 Speaker 1: you know, you had something with them, it fizzled out, 465 00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:29,680 Speaker 1: But now they're coming back like from you know, from 466 00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:33,200 Speaker 1: ghosting almost for sure. So I'm not going to say 467 00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:37,360 Speaker 1: this definitively, but for the most part, I'd be very 468 00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:43,280 Speaker 1: skeptical of that situation. And I say that because, um, 469 00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 1: you know, I'm not saying that a second chance, second 470 00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:48,639 Speaker 1: chances can't work out ultimately in the end. Um, you know, 471 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,879 Speaker 1: sometimes that does happen. I know cases where that's happened. 472 00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:55,480 Speaker 1: I'm sure you do. Uh, but I think a lot 473 00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:59,720 Speaker 1: of the times what brings guys back is them seeing 474 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:02,639 Speaker 1: you a maybe have moved on you with someone else, 475 00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:06,359 Speaker 1: you really enjoy your life and in a good place. Um. 476 00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:11,359 Speaker 1: That level of human nature sometimes can can trigger guy like, shoot, 477 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,480 Speaker 1: did I make a mistake here? Did I? Um? You know, 478 00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: did I really make the right decision? Um? Like should I? 479 00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:20,119 Speaker 1: Should I give it another shot? And ultimately that's not 480 00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:22,080 Speaker 1: fair to you, you know, if if that if those 481 00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:24,040 Speaker 1: are the reasons that that guy is trying to come back. 482 00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 1: You deserve so much better than that. Um, you know, now, 483 00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:30,040 Speaker 1: if it's a guy that truly is you know, say 484 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:32,920 Speaker 1: it's it's his fault. You know, the relationship kind of 485 00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,800 Speaker 1: didn't work out, and he's you know, shows remorse and 486 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:38,720 Speaker 1: really feels bad about that, and um, you can tell 487 00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:40,880 Speaker 1: you know, I think everyone kind of has that intuition 488 00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:45,720 Speaker 1: of you can tell someone's true intentions and trust those 489 00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 1: And if that's the case, you know, I don't see 490 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:50,200 Speaker 1: a problem giving that guy a second chance. But just 491 00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,480 Speaker 1: be skeptical because I think there's some you know, other 492 00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:56,200 Speaker 1: reasons that that I don't think you should, you know, 493 00:28:56,200 --> 00:29:00,520 Speaker 1: put up with. I think I think that's really advice. Yeah, 494 00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:03,560 Speaker 1: I'm I'm very skeptical, and so I'll just I guess 495 00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:07,200 Speaker 1: I'll just be weired. How long were you guys dating? Well, 496 00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:10,280 Speaker 1: it was never like official official, but it was like 497 00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:14,720 Speaker 1: kind of back and forth for almost a year. Okay. 498 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:19,040 Speaker 1: And why did it ultimately end? Um, he moved away 499 00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:22,200 Speaker 1: for work and so you know, I thought we just 500 00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:27,160 Speaker 1: discussed we didn't want to do long distance, and um, 501 00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:29,840 Speaker 1: it just kind of you know, I just wanted to 502 00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,280 Speaker 1: focus on myself and he wanted to focus on himself 503 00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:35,880 Speaker 1: and now he is coming back from work, you know, 504 00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:39,480 Speaker 1: moving back here and you know, reached out and started 505 00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 1: talking to me again. Well listen, I mean that kind 506 00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:46,040 Speaker 1: of right there, that situation is something that I I 507 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,800 Speaker 1: would give you advice to, yeah, to dig into that 508 00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:52,000 Speaker 1: and see kind of where you guys stand. Um, you 509 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:55,040 Speaker 1: know that makes sense, that's understandable. That's life. Life happens. 510 00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,040 Speaker 1: And you know, maybe this is a cool fate type 511 00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:00,920 Speaker 1: thing that's bringing you guys back together. Um, maybe you 512 00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:02,959 Speaker 1: guys kind of needed that that time apart to kind 513 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:06,480 Speaker 1: of grow respectively and uh maybe this, you know, could work. 514 00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:08,360 Speaker 1: So that kind of example, I would I would say, 515 00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: I give give him a chance. Okay, cool, thank you. 516 00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:16,400 Speaker 1: I think that's the advice I needed. Awesome. Yeah, I hope, 517 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:18,880 Speaker 1: but I hope it works out for you guys. Thank you, 518 00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,280 Speaker 1: all right, take care alright, guys, Well that was so 519 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 1: much fun for me. I'm glad I could answer some questions. 520 00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:29,239 Speaker 1: Hopefully hopefully you guys could take something from that. I 521 00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:34,120 Speaker 1: know us men sometimes can be confusing creatures and uh, 522 00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:37,920 Speaker 1: you know, fortunate is what it is. But um, I hope, 523 00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 1: I hope I can give you guys a different perspective. UM, 524 00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:45,360 Speaker 1: super stoked I could do this and UM, yeah, if 525 00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:48,880 Speaker 1: you guys want to follow me in any way, we 526 00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:51,000 Speaker 1: do have uh I do a podcast here at my 527 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:55,360 Speaker 1: roommates Dustin Kendrick Bachelor's in the City and I just 528 00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:58,760 Speaker 1: talk about you know, our everyday life, um, living in 529 00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:00,720 Speaker 1: the city and do uh you know a lot of 530 00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,000 Speaker 1: a lot of bachelor recaps. Obviously got to give that 531 00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:05,120 Speaker 1: some love, UM, but we have a good time doing it. 532 00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:07,240 Speaker 1: So if you guys want to check it out, give 533 00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:10,760 Speaker 1: us a listen. And for other things going on, I 534 00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:14,520 Speaker 1: have UM, I have a children's book that uh I 535 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:18,240 Speaker 1: released about a month ago, the Adventures of Pilot Pete, 536 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:20,520 Speaker 1: and UM just kind of focuses on my first love, 537 00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,120 Speaker 1: Aviation and my whole story of of getting to the 538 00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,200 Speaker 1: point of where I've gotten, you know, with my career, 539 00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:28,720 Speaker 1: and it's meant to hopefully inspire you know, the younger 540 00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:31,000 Speaker 1: generation and children. So do you guys have any kiddos 541 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:35,880 Speaker 1: out there, Um, definitely I recommend it for them. But 542 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,200 Speaker 1: it's been a joy. I wish you guys nothing but 543 00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 1: the best and much love and take care. 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