1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: My mother in law stole something priceless. I'm getting her arrested. 2 00:00:04,360 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: Update three divorce just because I found the thought of 3 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:10,200 Speaker 1: it humorous. I will be referring to my wife as 4 00:00:10,240 --> 00:00:13,119 Speaker 1: wifey a lot from now on. Also, I know I 5 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: seem like I'm posting too fast, but remember this originally 6 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:18,120 Speaker 1: started around ten days ago, So all of this has 7 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:21,239 Speaker 1: happened just in the span of ten days, and we 8 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:26,120 Speaker 1: have way more parts in episodes left to go, and 9 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:28,920 Speaker 1: I've not wasted time in getting this divorce started. I 10 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 1: also apologize for the length of the post because I 11 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 1: just could not keep it short. It didn't really take 12 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:36,959 Speaker 1: me long to find and hire a divorce lawyer and 13 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: she's mean. Yes, my lawyer is a woman. Congratulations. Oh wow, 14 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:45,199 Speaker 1: what a feminist. 15 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:49,199 Speaker 2: Iye, fighting the party of cheroche. One divorce lawyer at 16 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:49,600 Speaker 2: a time. 17 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 3: And she seems pretty good at her job. You know, 18 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 3: she's pretty great. Gotta be red flag. I see why 19 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 3: you wife tables turn here. 20 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:06,560 Speaker 1: She asked me a couple of times if I was 21 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:08,399 Speaker 1: really sure I wanted to do this, but once I 22 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:11,680 Speaker 1: explained my full story to her and showed some evidence, 23 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: she agreed with me and said, when I said I 24 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,960 Speaker 1: wanted to start it asap, so she got the ball rolling. 25 00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 3: Oh this divorce is going to cost me, but I 26 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:21,520 Speaker 3: don't care. 27 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:24,839 Speaker 1: I will rebuild my savings later as a free man. 28 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: I didn't even want to rent the house I'm currently 29 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: living in any ways. Wifey is the one who pushed 30 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: me for that. Yeah, I've been happy staying in our 31 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:35,320 Speaker 1: old apartment we used to share until we could have 32 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 1: actually afforded to just buy a house together. Can't argue 33 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 1: with that logic, but that's obviously never happening. I'll be 34 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:44,680 Speaker 1: paying a lot less for an apartment once we separate. 35 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 4: Now. 36 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 1: Before coming home, Wifey spent some time at a cheap 37 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 1: motel when she bailed her mother out of jail, and 38 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 1: she even threatened to call the police on me when 39 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: I went to see her there. I changed the locks 40 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: with my landlord's permission while Wifey was still away, and 41 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: said a text saying that I had done so. But 42 00:02:02,880 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: I guess she'd not bothered to look since she never responded, 43 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:12,200 Speaker 1: so upon her returning home, she started pounding on the 44 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 1: door and screamed at me to let her in. I 45 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:17,359 Speaker 1: just watched her through the doorbell cam and let her 46 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: keep it up for a while before she finally got 47 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: her phone to call me. I was already walking home 48 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 1: from having had dinner with my best friend when she 49 00:02:26,919 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 1: called me, and I pointed out the text that she 50 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:30,520 Speaker 1: had not even bothered to read. 51 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:32,840 Speaker 3: When I got home to let her in. She was 52 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:37,160 Speaker 3: puffy cheeked, teary eyed, and read with a bit of 53 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 3: cat butt face. Now I had a new key ready 54 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 3: for her getting back to me. 55 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:45,919 Speaker 4: Sorry, we're going back to it. 56 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 3: So so op did plan to give her a key, 57 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:51,560 Speaker 3: it seems, and I told her that if she gave 58 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:52,240 Speaker 3: a copy. 59 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:54,799 Speaker 1: To a mother again, I'd be notifying her landlord. And 60 00:02:54,840 --> 00:02:57,360 Speaker 1: they were already very angry that she'd given her mother 61 00:02:57,440 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: a key to begin with. Not sure what the landlord 62 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:01,799 Speaker 1: could have done, but it was enough to make Wifey 63 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: comply for the moment. Plus I'm not going to be 64 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 1: living here much longer anyways. 65 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 4: Uh. 66 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: My mother in law still believes she did absolutely nothing wrong, 67 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:14,359 Speaker 1: and she is playing victim to Wifey every chance she gets. 68 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 1: She's not allowed She's not allowed over anymore for obvious reasons. 69 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: And I've been repeatedly called a monster by her and 70 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:26,239 Speaker 1: by Wifey. I've never been more glad that my mother 71 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: in law has no friends, ouch, because then she'd be 72 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: telling them all her confluted versions of the story to 73 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 1: paint me as a villain. 74 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 3: I just know it is she telling her flat cats. 75 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 3: Though while it. 76 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 2: Very mud it, I guess like a cat butt face 77 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 2: is like one step removed from a duck face. 78 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 4: Duck face does face. 79 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 3: Someone said it in chat. It's a it's a sour face. 80 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 4: Oh yeah yeah. 81 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: Anyways, so she told old how much my key collection 82 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 1: she was told how much my key collection is roughly worth, 83 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: and what kind of felony charges she could now be facing. 84 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: We might be throwing mom and in prison, though my 85 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: collection has returned fully intact, so she may get the 86 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: charges lessened. I like to hope that she gets a 87 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 1: decent punishment at least, but I'm not really counting on 88 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 1: the system to. 89 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 3: Throw the book at a manipulator like her. 90 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:28,119 Speaker 1: As I said in my previous post, weiss Vi also 91 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:30,920 Speaker 1: paid my mother's bail and what she owed to the 92 00:04:30,960 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: pawn shop with the money out of our joint bank account, 93 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 1: and then smugly told me that she wouldn't be putting 94 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:39,839 Speaker 1: the money back. Basically, that was a terrible power move 95 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: and her only way to try and put all the 96 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:44,719 Speaker 1: cost on me. I've since removed everything I've had in 97 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:47,279 Speaker 1: the account and stopped any future payments so she can't 98 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:50,279 Speaker 1: spend any more of my money too, and I've changed 99 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:53,680 Speaker 1: my passwords on pretty much everything. WiFi flipped the heck 100 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 1: out on me for it once she finally checked the 101 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 1: account a couple of days ago, because that meant what 102 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 1: she's paid for mother laws, bail and reimbursing the pawn 103 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 1: shop was all in. 104 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:09,040 Speaker 3: Her own money only, thank god, which means. 105 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: And I don't know if I fully understood this before, 106 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:12,840 Speaker 1: because they had it half and half. 107 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:17,840 Speaker 3: Opie took out all the money to reimburse himself, not 108 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 3: just like he took his money and the money she stole. Yeah, yeah, 109 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:25,040 Speaker 3: and now there was no more access to my funds 110 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:27,679 Speaker 3: to supplement her own with. I just ignored her tantrum 111 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 3: and went into the home office to watch anime on 112 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 3: my computer. 113 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:36,039 Speaker 1: And she banged and she banged on the door for 114 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 1: a while while demanding I talked to her. I stayed 115 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 1: quiet and just put on my headphones. 116 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 3: Oo. 117 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 1: WiFi had repeatedly demanded that I drop all charges against 118 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 1: her mother, and even said that if I really loved her, 119 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 1: I wouldn't I would not only stop all of this, 120 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: I would cover the costs too. 121 00:05:53,080 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 4: Good thing, I don't love you anymore. 122 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 3: When I kept refusing, she moved into the spare bedroom. 123 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 3: She tried to kick me out of the master bedroom 124 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 3: at first, but I made it clear I'm not giving 125 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 3: up the master bedroom when she's the one at fault 126 00:06:06,920 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 3: real quick. Just like having to live with this woman 127 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 3: now after all of this has gone down is. 128 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 2: I could not imagine, should not imagine that would suck 129 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 2: so much. I would just want to be bundled up 130 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:23,799 Speaker 2: outside with all my friends around a nice open fire, 131 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 2: all your cats, all my cats, beating those flat cats 132 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:27,599 Speaker 2: as few. 133 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 3: Oh god. 134 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 1: She tried to start taking my stuff out, but I 135 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: blocked her while pointing my finger at her face and 136 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:38,159 Speaker 1: said no, no, like I was talking to a dog. 137 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 1: She ended up crying and saying I was demeaning her, 138 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: but I didn't care. 139 00:06:44,960 --> 00:06:47,720 Speaker 2: I feel like we're getting into some territory where I'm like, 140 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:50,920 Speaker 2: is op the hero that we thought we had? 141 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:55,400 Speaker 5: Yeah, that last series we read remember that which one? 142 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 4: Oh? 143 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:59,320 Speaker 6: It was the guy was divorcing his wife because she 144 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:02,039 Speaker 6: cheated on him, and then it turns out he was 145 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:03,880 Speaker 6: the butthole because he was like yes, he was like, 146 00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:06,039 Speaker 6: it was the one you mean, Dakota read yeah, yeah. 147 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 6: He literally like she cheated. But by the end of 148 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:11,760 Speaker 6: the story we were like, cheat on this man again. 149 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 6: Please bro deserved it. But then, for some more deception 150 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 6: on her part, she admitted to me, out of pure spite, 151 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 6: that until this mess had started, she had been planning 152 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:25,119 Speaker 6: on letting her mother come live with us full time 153 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 6: because of the state of her hoarder house. She boasted 154 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 6: that she was just going to move her in while 155 00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 6: I was at work. I told her we were. 156 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:35,040 Speaker 1: Supposed to be equal partners before this all happened, and 157 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 1: I was sick of her unilateral decision making. And as 158 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 1: long as I'm paying fifty percent of the lease, her 159 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: mother would not be living here. 160 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 3: Could fifty of the mother live there? That's the question. 161 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 3: What we're gonna say? 162 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:51,920 Speaker 6: No, say it all right, all right, she's overweight, she 163 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:53,720 Speaker 6: could lose a lot of weight, thus half of her 164 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 6: could live there. 165 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 3: Never said she was overweight. Actually maybe they did say 166 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 3: that act my previous statement. 167 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 1: And if she tried, I'd throw all of her mother's 168 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 1: stuff out immediately, Wifey looked like she wanted to explode 169 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: and stormed off to have a drink and a loud 170 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 1: phone call with her mother in the kitchen. 171 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 3: They deserve each other. 172 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 1: I just started removing her stuff from the master bedroom 173 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 1: and left it on the other room for her. I've 174 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:20,559 Speaker 1: put a new lock on the door to the master 175 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: bedroom too. I had Wifey served her divorce papers at 176 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: her job, which she said really embarrassed her in front 177 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 1: of all. 178 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 3: Of her colleagues. Come on, man, like you don't need 179 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:34,080 Speaker 3: to do you don't need to do that. Just handed 180 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:35,439 Speaker 3: to her at it when she gets home. 181 00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 4: Like the whole like I pointed at her like a dog. 182 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, and like serving divorce papers at work, like don't 183 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 2: need it. You're you're making me question whether you're really 184 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:48,960 Speaker 2: the good guy. 185 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:50,439 Speaker 4: You don't need to do that. 186 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:52,319 Speaker 2: You don't need to you know, when when they go low, 187 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:55,120 Speaker 2: you go hi, so we know that you're the good guy. 188 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 3: Or to we go so low we go so so 189 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 3: da deep we go down down down. 190 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 4: I don't know, I think not. 191 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: And she flipped out on me again once she got home. 192 00:09:09,160 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 1: Apparently she didn't take my threats of divorce seriously until 193 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 1: the papers were actually in her hands. She said I 194 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:17,720 Speaker 1: couldn't do this, but I told her I was done. 195 00:09:17,920 --> 00:09:20,839 Speaker 1: She made it more than clear where she stands. I 196 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 1: told her, I learned a rather interesting phrase online. When 197 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: people show you who they really are. 198 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 2: Believe them, believe them. I've heard that phrase about that phrase. 199 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 1: And she's clearly shown me who she really is, and 200 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: it's not the woman that I fell in love with. 201 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 1: That woman disappeared and got replaced with an entitled mommy's 202 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:44,080 Speaker 1: girl who refuses to act her age right after we 203 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:47,200 Speaker 1: got married, which makes it pretty obvious that she did 204 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: it intentionally. 205 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 3: At this point, I don't think she ever loved me, 206 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:53,439 Speaker 3: just my wallet. 207 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:57,320 Speaker 5: Dang, she tacked my money. 208 00:09:59,000 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 3: Need. 209 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 1: But I can't stay married to a woman who conned 210 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:05,079 Speaker 1: me into marrying her. Then she started screaming at me 211 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:09,559 Speaker 1: that she wasn't a gold digger. Relevant, so I asked 212 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:11,599 Speaker 1: her if she'd been inclined to stay married to me, 213 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:14,200 Speaker 1: if I had done all the same things to her. 214 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 1: She tried to deny it at first, then looked around 215 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 1: like she was trying to find a better answer. Then 216 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: she just gaslit to deflect, as usual. But I had. 217 00:10:23,600 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 3: None of it. 218 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 1: I told her right then and there that I am 219 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 1: not renewing the lease on the house with her because 220 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 1: I don't want to live with a petulant woman child 221 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:34,800 Speaker 1: I can't trust. And if she wants to keep the house, 222 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:36,760 Speaker 1: she can go ahead and start a new lease and 223 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:40,320 Speaker 1: move her mother in once I'm gone. Finally, that's when 224 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 1: real water work started. She said I was destroying our family, 225 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:50,280 Speaker 1: and so I said, what family. 226 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 3: You're nothing to me. You're lower than an Oh you 227 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:58,559 Speaker 3: are you are less than a flattened cat. You are 228 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:02,720 Speaker 3: a not cat. That means you don't exist. Your particles 229 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 3: are nothing. 230 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 4: Your Schrodinger's cat. 231 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 1: Your Schrodinger's cat. I don't see you. Who are you, 232 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 1: John Cena. 233 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:12,040 Speaker 3: I'll be gone with you. 234 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:15,679 Speaker 4: Damn, damn. 235 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:16,520 Speaker 3: That's tough. 236 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 1: And I pointed out that we don't have kids, and 237 00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:21,600 Speaker 1: her mother is more important to her than me. 238 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:27,920 Speaker 3: We have no family. Then I just walked away. She 239 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 3: loudly cried in the living room for hours, but I 240 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 3: just ignored her. 241 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 1: Now she's giving me the hardcore, silent treatment and we 242 00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:36,280 Speaker 1: won't even look me in the eyes. 243 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:38,839 Speaker 3: I'm actually enjoying. 244 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 5: It, oh gosh. 245 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:44,360 Speaker 3: Which seems to make her even angrier as an added bonus. 246 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:48,120 Speaker 3: I warned my current landlord about Wifey wanting to move 247 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:51,600 Speaker 3: her mother in the house. I gave him all the 248 00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:53,960 Speaker 3: details that I had about mother in law, the state 249 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 3: of her hoarder house, and how much of a deceptive 250 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 3: mommy's girl that Wifey is. And I warned him if 251 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:01,320 Speaker 3: he let my my mother in law live in any 252 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:04,680 Speaker 3: property he owns, she would turn it into a utter disaster. 253 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 3: He thanks me for telling him and is now not 254 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:09,360 Speaker 3: going to let Wifey renew the lease on her own. 255 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:13,840 Speaker 3: If she tries, he'll be advertising the property soon. Wifey 256 00:12:13,960 --> 00:12:16,960 Speaker 3: has no idea yet and likely would have only just 257 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:20,400 Speaker 3: barely been able to afford the house with her mother's help. Anyways, 258 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:21,160 Speaker 3: one more thing. 259 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:24,559 Speaker 1: Yesterday someone warned me to take my name off the 260 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 1: joint bank account entirely so I would not be on 261 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: the hook for any overdraft. I took that to heart 262 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 1: and went to the bank to get it done. It 263 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 1: only took a few minutes to do, and the bank 264 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:36,000 Speaker 1: is ten minutes. 265 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 3: Away by car. 266 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:39,199 Speaker 1: All good now, I've been working from home lately, so 267 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:42,360 Speaker 1: I had time. All statements from the account were already 268 00:12:42,400 --> 00:12:44,880 Speaker 1: printed and given to my lawyer too, so I can 269 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 1: wash my hands of it. 270 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:47,040 Speaker 4: At it. 271 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:49,080 Speaker 1: I don't know if it's the same rules everywhere, but 272 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:50,880 Speaker 1: the bank had no problem moving my name from the 273 00:12:50,880 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 1: account as a co signer when I pushed for it. 274 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:54,360 Speaker 1: There were no debts in the account and I had 275 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:55,840 Speaker 1: plenty more than the minimum balance. 276 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:58,280 Speaker 3: The bank lately likely did tell wife. Whether or not 277 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:00,120 Speaker 3: she knows I did it, it does not matter her 278 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 3: as she's currently not even talking to me. 279 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:05,040 Speaker 1: And at number two, I've noticed a few comments pointing 280 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:08,200 Speaker 1: out how it was completely unnecessary. I pointed out that 281 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:10,760 Speaker 1: my lawyer is a woman. Looking back on it, I 282 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 1: did write that like a complete jerk, right, or is 283 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:16,040 Speaker 1: he a self aware king? 284 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:17,360 Speaker 5: Remove red flag? 285 00:13:17,480 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 3: You know what was the other one? Oh? Him just 286 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:21,960 Speaker 3: treating her like a dog. 287 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:24,120 Speaker 5: And you said, Anime, you were like red flag Anime. 288 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:26,720 Speaker 4: I was like, mate, mabe, wait what, he's not a 289 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 4: red flag. 290 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:30,440 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, if he's locking himself in his office 291 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:32,959 Speaker 1: and playing some man, we don't we didn't get what. 292 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:37,680 Speaker 2: Specifically locking himself in his office and playing you know, 293 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 2: a nice documentary. 294 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:44,119 Speaker 4: About buffaloes or truffle picks. 295 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:45,440 Speaker 3: Then we know exactly what it's about. 296 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:48,199 Speaker 2: I also wanted to watch the documentary about truffle pigs, 297 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 2: the truffle Hunter. Oh yeah, no response, I got, I got, 298 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:55,200 Speaker 2: I got recommended it. Yeah, and I really like like 299 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:59,080 Speaker 2: the slice of life documentaries of like foreign countries. In 300 00:13:59,120 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 2: the countries is the story like rich, it's rich. Really 301 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:07,840 Speaker 2: it's stinky. It's stinky, it's flat with guys a truffle 302 00:14:08,360 --> 00:14:10,440 Speaker 2: Oh what maybe? 303 00:14:10,440 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 3: Wait? What was this documentary about again? Oink oincink. 304 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 1: Well, looking back on it, I did write that like 305 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:21,160 Speaker 1: a complete jerk. I was rather excited in the moment 306 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:23,640 Speaker 1: about it. No, that's not an excuse, I acknowledge that. 307 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:26,520 Speaker 1: But how quickly this lawyer helped me just made. 308 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 3: Me so happy. 309 00:14:27,520 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 1: I'll make sure to not sound like such an idiot 310 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:32,480 Speaker 1: when speaking on her again. By the way, if you 311 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 1: never want to look like an idiot, you can talk 312 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:37,960 Speaker 1: her profile every weekend, have three pm PSD on YouTube, 313 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:39,320 Speaker 1: on Facebook and. 314 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,600 Speaker 3: Join our lives could be live right now, well. 315 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 4: Probably are, probably are, but app her profile. 316 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, we are almost at the end of 317 00:14:49,320 --> 00:14:53,920 Speaker 1: part one of this saga. We have more epis saga. 318 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:58,040 Speaker 1: It is thick, it is juicy. Let's break down before 319 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:02,720 Speaker 1: we get into this final part. Here one has Opie 320 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:06,960 Speaker 1: done everything right? Like, is there any any big MISTI. 321 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:08,920 Speaker 4: I mean besides calling his ex wife soon to be 322 00:15:08,960 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 4: ex wife a doll? Truly? 323 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 2: I think there's there have been some choice actions like 324 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:21,520 Speaker 2: submitting the divorce papers at her work. Yep, you know 325 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 2: that don't don't sit completely right with me? Yes, But overall, 326 00:15:27,360 --> 00:15:30,360 Speaker 2: like he tried to have the conversation, she was not down. 327 00:15:32,320 --> 00:15:35,200 Speaker 2: He tried to put up boundaries, mother in law did 328 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 2: not respect it. I think I think he's generally, I 329 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:41,120 Speaker 2: think he's like, you know, ninety percent doing that. 330 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, big picture, he needs to get out of a 331 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,880 Speaker 1: marriage where his wife you know, doesn't really care what 332 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:48,320 Speaker 1: happens to him, and get as far away from the 333 00:15:48,360 --> 00:15:53,600 Speaker 1: evil mother in law as possible. We also have part 334 00:15:53,600 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: two in episode two coming up. Do you think we 335 00:15:57,240 --> 00:16:01,960 Speaker 1: go hard on uh suing the mother in law or 336 00:16:02,120 --> 00:16:06,160 Speaker 1: taking her to court because it's said earlier we might 337 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:07,680 Speaker 1: be able to press felony charges. 338 00:16:10,320 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 3: Do we lock her up and throw away the key 339 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 3: like she did to OPI. 340 00:16:14,360 --> 00:16:19,960 Speaker 2: If she could strike again, then yes, Again, it's all like, 341 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 2: do you think she'll strike again? 342 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:25,000 Speaker 1: If so, lock her up? Well, now that they can't 343 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:27,840 Speaker 1: use OPI as a piggy bank anymore? Is mother in 344 00:16:27,880 --> 00:16:31,240 Speaker 1: law gonna say, okay, now you you didn't. 345 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 3: Give you the money. 346 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 1: Now you're you're making me do this to your uses. 347 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:36,640 Speaker 3: The crowbar breakbar? 348 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:40,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, potentially, because now she's like, hey, desperate, you should 349 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 2: have just given me all the money I needed, but 350 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 2: instead you decided to divorce and pull all your money aside? 351 00:16:46,160 --> 00:16:46,800 Speaker 3: How dare you? 352 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 2: And maybe she mother in law trains her daughter in 353 00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:53,760 Speaker 2: her crowbar techniques and now they're you know, bond up, 354 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 2: quiding across town, stealing everyone's skeleton keys. 355 00:16:57,840 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 4: Wow, we might lock his safe. 356 00:16:59,600 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 3: We might have to throw them both in prison. 357 00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 4: We had to throw them both? 358 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:03,080 Speaker 3: Is that what we're saying? 359 00:17:03,280 --> 00:17:05,560 Speaker 2: I don't know, maybe like the stocks, you know, like 360 00:17:05,760 --> 00:17:09,200 Speaker 2: I'm I feel like, uh, you know those medieval things 361 00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:11,720 Speaker 2: or they're like in the thing and then everyone's throwing 362 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 2: tomatoes at them, and. 363 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:15,399 Speaker 5: They're like, you know, oh yeah, the thing in your bedroom? 364 00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 4: How do you know about that? How do you how 365 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:20,320 Speaker 4: do you know about it? 366 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:22,080 Speaker 3: Like yourself? 367 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:26,240 Speaker 4: How do you know about my my stocks? 368 00:17:26,640 --> 00:17:27,600 Speaker 5: You left it out one day? 369 00:17:27,680 --> 00:17:31,119 Speaker 2: Yeah, well I was showing Riley the other day about it. 370 00:17:31,200 --> 00:17:33,720 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, we put them in. We put 371 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:35,639 Speaker 4: them in, all right. 372 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:39,320 Speaker 3: But guys, we have some relevant comments this part. 373 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:39,720 Speaker 6: Oh. 374 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:42,160 Speaker 2: I just I just like love the idea of throwing 375 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:45,719 Speaker 2: tomatoes at like the people that are wrong doers. I 376 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:47,520 Speaker 2: just I feel like we should bring that back. 377 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:51,040 Speaker 1: You're like juicy things, like juicy thing really at me? 378 00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:52,320 Speaker 4: Right right right? 379 00:17:52,640 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 2: Ripe little something you just thrown in my face? Yeah, 380 00:17:56,920 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 2: Riley stocks in Sam's bedroom stuff. To be clear that 381 00:18:01,119 --> 00:18:05,159 Speaker 2: you confirmed it. That was a joke that John, I 382 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:07,720 Speaker 2: feel believed. 383 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 1: That. That sounds like you're trying to get out of it. 384 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 1: But you know what to help you out here, here's 385 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 1: some relevant coming. It's a close out of this episode. 386 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 1: So Isi Lucas says, one additional action you might want 387 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:25,600 Speaker 1: to take to freeze your credit with the credit reporting agencies. 388 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:28,160 Speaker 1: Don't leave an opportunity for your credit to be damaged 389 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:33,040 Speaker 1: by others' actions. No you want to, says, yes, do this. 390 00:18:33,359 --> 00:18:36,919 Speaker 1: Before my ex wife declared bankruptcy, she reopened a shared 391 00:18:36,960 --> 00:18:39,840 Speaker 1: account that I had that I had closed even before 392 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:43,160 Speaker 1: the divorce and charged five thousand dollars to it. Once 393 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:47,720 Speaker 1: she declared bankruptcy, that all fell on me. I got 394 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:49,720 Speaker 1: out from under it with a simple three hundred and 395 00:18:49,760 --> 00:18:53,080 Speaker 1: fifty dollars lawyer visit, thanks partially to a clause in 396 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:56,400 Speaker 1: our specific divorce papers, where it states that neither party 397 00:18:56,560 --> 00:19:00,560 Speaker 1: can cause the other for the neither o their party 398 00:19:00,560 --> 00:19:03,040 Speaker 1: can use the other for the purpose of obtaining credit 399 00:19:03,119 --> 00:19:05,560 Speaker 1: or loans. But I found out about the five thousand 400 00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:07,680 Speaker 1: dollars less than a month before I was taking the 401 00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:10,520 Speaker 1: kids on a trip to Disney, our first vacation ever, 402 00:19:10,840 --> 00:19:13,080 Speaker 1: which I was finally able to afford because I had 403 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 1: paid off all of my debts. Her timing was impeccable. 404 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:18,159 Speaker 1: I'm still angry about it fifteen years later, So lockdown 405 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:25,600 Speaker 1: your credit. It is good advice. Dang updates. Let me 406 00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 1: be clear on some details. I've been told many times 407 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:32,000 Speaker 1: that I'm condescending, twisting things, acting like a d bag, 408 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:35,400 Speaker 1: et cetera. Well, apart from how hot blooded I get 409 00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:37,720 Speaker 1: from all this, I'll tell you about the crap I've 410 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:40,840 Speaker 1: dealt with before coming to Reddit. My wife used to 411 00:19:40,880 --> 00:19:43,159 Speaker 1: act very different around me the three years that we 412 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:45,879 Speaker 1: worked together before that we got married. She was kind, 413 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:48,960 Speaker 1: regularly scolded her mother if she did anything bad, and 414 00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,639 Speaker 1: didn't expect me to help her mother with anything either. 415 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 4: I just thustellus. 416 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 2: Ja Sam would get a fart candle to blame his 417 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:03,520 Speaker 2: farts on the candle. 418 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: I mean, that's not outside of the realm of you 419 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:14,280 Speaker 1: know what, I knowing could happened. 420 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:20,119 Speaker 3: For a second. I'm not even gonna lie for a second. 421 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:23,760 Speaker 1: I thought the comment was going to be like, where 422 00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:26,840 Speaker 1: do I get Sam's Sam's farkndle? 423 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:35,960 Speaker 2: Sorry I thought I heard some Sorry sorry, Oh, nice try, 424 00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:37,959 Speaker 2: Riley trying to cover up your own farts. 425 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:39,560 Speaker 4: Nice try. 426 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 1: But oh and she didn't expect me to help her 427 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:45,240 Speaker 1: mother with anything either. She acted like she was perfect 428 00:20:45,240 --> 00:20:47,560 Speaker 1: around me. Her mother was a lot kinder and more 429 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:51,280 Speaker 1: apologetic towards me. Before I married her daughter. She was, 430 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:53,320 Speaker 1: believe it or not, kind of a sweet lady apart 431 00:20:53,359 --> 00:20:55,880 Speaker 1: from being a hoarder. I used to be very sympathetic 432 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:58,439 Speaker 1: towards her and I hope that she'd get better. But 433 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 1: things only got worse after saying my vows. As soon 434 00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 1: as we were back from the honeymoon. My wife and 435 00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 1: mother in law were very different. Things became very their 436 00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:09,439 Speaker 1: way or the highway, and I was treated like the 437 00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:12,280 Speaker 1: bad guy by her and her mother for even having 438 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:15,320 Speaker 1: a different opinion on something. They regularly ganged up on 439 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:18,879 Speaker 1: me whoa when they wanted to make me wrong about things. 440 00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 1: Wife he became a total brat and was acting like 441 00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:25,160 Speaker 1: a rebellious teenager at home. Our bedroom life became pretty 442 00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:28,399 Speaker 1: much dead too, in part because I get migraines, but 443 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 1: also because she was never in the mood. We hadn't 444 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:34,040 Speaker 1: been intimate in four months before I posted, am I 445 00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 1: the a hole here? I have a bit of a 446 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:38,919 Speaker 1: low drive, so it didn't bother me too much. But 447 00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:42,119 Speaker 1: she'd rarely initiated unless she did have something to be 448 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 1: happy about. Wife he remained her other self outside in 449 00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,720 Speaker 1: front of people. She took off her mask at home 450 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:50,840 Speaker 1: once she had trapped me in our marriage. I've already 451 00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 1: explained the smug brady attitude that she had towards me 452 00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 1: when she used our shared bank account to pay her 453 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:59,479 Speaker 1: mother's bail and reimbursed upon chop and then acted like 454 00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:01,399 Speaker 1: that money it would be out of my half of 455 00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:04,480 Speaker 1: the account, or about her smug attitude when admitting that 456 00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:06,560 Speaker 1: she was planning to have her mother come live with 457 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:09,320 Speaker 1: us without asking if I thought that was even okay. 458 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:13,720 Speaker 3: I can't take it anymore. She's made unilateral decisions on 459 00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,800 Speaker 3: so much these past few years. Even giving mother in 460 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:21,600 Speaker 3: law a spare key was all her and that's what 461 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:25,240 Speaker 3: got my collection stolen. And before mother in law stole 462 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:27,520 Speaker 3: my collection, I just shut up and took the abuse 463 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:30,080 Speaker 3: from both, like the good little boy. They wanted me 464 00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:34,879 Speaker 3: to be the little man and my little navy uniform, 465 00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 3: my little sailor's uniform, good little mommy wifey boy. No 466 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:43,880 Speaker 3: more putting my big boy pants on. Now? 467 00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 1: Why why was I putting on my little sailor's outfit 468 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:52,000 Speaker 1: and going to mommy and me award shows? Because I 469 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:56,760 Speaker 1: thought I was in love like a freakin' fool. Oh buddy, 470 00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:01,560 Speaker 1: I was in deep of a marriage, but then people 471 00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,919 Speaker 1: here pulled me out like, oh, he should have. It 472 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,680 Speaker 1: feels like I'm married to a spoil teenager that wants 473 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,360 Speaker 1: me to talk to the hand even if I want 474 00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:13,159 Speaker 1: to have a frank conversation about anything unless we're in public. 475 00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:15,679 Speaker 1: I get that this behavior has been deeply ingrained into 476 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:17,760 Speaker 1: her by her mother, but she refused to get any 477 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,159 Speaker 1: sort of counseling. If she had agreed the counseling and 478 00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,679 Speaker 1: believed the counselor would have agreed with her, i'd know 479 00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:25,520 Speaker 1: she'd need help, but the way that she acts tells 480 00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:28,080 Speaker 1: me she knows exactly what she's doing and doesn't care. 481 00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:30,359 Speaker 1: I didn't even want the house we're living in, but 482 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:33,240 Speaker 1: WiFi made it her hill to die on. I wanted 483 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:34,879 Speaker 1: to save so we could actually buy a house in 484 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:37,239 Speaker 1: a few years instead, but she wanted to keep up 485 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:40,560 Speaker 1: with the Joneses, and distance from her mother wasn't a factor. 486 00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,480 Speaker 1: Our old department was actually closer to mother in law. 487 00:23:44,280 --> 00:23:47,560 Speaker 1: Wifey just really wanted the house and particularly said it 488 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 1: was happening, whether I liked it or not. Sure the 489 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:53,000 Speaker 1: extra space was nice, but I had to buy most 490 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:53,920 Speaker 1: of the new furniture. 491 00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 3: I'm miserable here. That's why I got so hot, freaking 492 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:03,560 Speaker 3: blooded blood oil and a niece hot, tubes of veins, 493 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:07,200 Speaker 3: of lumps, Oh. 494 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:09,680 Speaker 1: My lumps were bumping. And many here think I'm going 495 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,440 Speaker 1: score stirs, but I'm not. I could have actually done 496 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:15,000 Speaker 1: far worse. All I want is out of this house 497 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,159 Speaker 1: and out of this marriage. And I'm regretful that I 498 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 1: had to have my wife served at my job at 499 00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:22,639 Speaker 1: her job that went too far, But that's one of 500 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 1: the few things that I regret in the situation. And 501 00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 1: please don't blame that on my lawyer. That decision was 502 00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:29,800 Speaker 1: all me. I wanted some payback and I made a 503 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:31,959 Speaker 1: bad call. But I can't undo it now that it's 504 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:35,119 Speaker 1: already been done. Wifey is still giving me the silent treatment, 505 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:38,400 Speaker 1: and we've been acting completely indifferent towards each other. I'd 506 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 1: be completely fine if it stays this way until I 507 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:43,199 Speaker 1: can move out. By the way, if you wanted to 508 00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:46,920 Speaker 1: stay this way forever and literally have any nothing ever change. 509 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:50,280 Speaker 1: If you want to live like Peter pan Taper profile 510 00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:53,080 Speaker 1: any weekday at three pm PSD, and you will be 511 00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:54,040 Speaker 1: able to join us live. 512 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:55,480 Speaker 5: Do it right now, and you'll never get to go home. 513 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,159 Speaker 3: You'll literally never get to go home. You'll get to 514 00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:58,240 Speaker 3: be a young. 515 00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:06,639 Speaker 4: Boyfriend, stay young forever with our last boys. But Sam John, 516 00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:08,359 Speaker 4: do we. 517 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:12,080 Speaker 1: Think op he's redeemed himself. He regrets serving her at 518 00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: the job. He said the way he talked about the lawyer, 519 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,919 Speaker 1: the lawyer being a woman was crazy, and he's not 520 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 1: gonna do that again. He pretty much seems to have 521 00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:24,320 Speaker 1: addressed all of the grievances that we had with him. 522 00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:26,840 Speaker 4: He's just trying to get into our good graces. 523 00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:32,239 Speaker 3: Mmmm. Is he just trying to If we take that 524 00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:37,800 Speaker 3: ten steps further, is he just trying to have a 525 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:41,760 Speaker 3: army of people agreeing with him and the greatest show 526 00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,360 Speaker 3: on earth at that on his side. 527 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:48,520 Speaker 2: I think he is trying to change. I do think 528 00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:53,280 Speaker 2: he is trying to change, But I think it's just 529 00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,960 Speaker 2: I think there's I just have a little bit of suspicion. 530 00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think while he has addressed everything, 531 00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:01,399 Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not one hundre percent that he will 532 00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:04,520 Speaker 1: be good for the future. Yeah, so might be bad, 533 00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:05,800 Speaker 1: but he's been good for now. But he's been good 534 00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:08,360 Speaker 1: for now. But we do have some other relevant comments. 535 00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:11,440 Speaker 1: Proud Internet troll says Opie. I've been following this from 536 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:13,840 Speaker 1: the first post, and I feel terrible for you. It 537 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:16,359 Speaker 1: sounds like your wife wanted to secure a wallet instead 538 00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:18,640 Speaker 1: of a healthy marriage with you. People need to keep 539 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:21,560 Speaker 1: their parents out of their marriages. You will overcome this. 540 00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:24,200 Speaker 1: You will be stronger as well. I had my ex 541 00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,840 Speaker 1: husband served at work. He kept dodging the process for 542 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:28,720 Speaker 1: two weeks, so I had no options. 543 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:30,840 Speaker 3: Okay, that's a different story. That's a different story. That 544 00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 3: was the first time he tried to server. Yeah, I 545 00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:35,200 Speaker 3: also get migraines. Do you take anything for them? 546 00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:37,760 Speaker 1: I have one today, so I understand all about them, 547 00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:40,919 Speaker 1: Opie says, I have a regular mix of things that 548 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:45,479 Speaker 1: I take and prescribed, and prescriptions for the migraines depends 549 00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:47,959 Speaker 1: on how bad the migraine is. Lotos aspirin and caffeine 550 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:50,440 Speaker 1: can help a bit, but sometimes it get hit hard 551 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,200 Speaker 1: with the bad migraine out of nowhere. And my eyes 552 00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:56,560 Speaker 1: also are sensitive to the light because of it. Hey, 553 00:26:56,640 --> 00:27:00,280 Speaker 1: I and I'm sensitive to the story ending, because I'm 554 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:00,840 Speaker 1: gonna cry. 555 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:05,439 Speaker 2: I'm devastated, But John, don't be devastated too long, because 556 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,240 Speaker 2: we got a part two coming up, served hot and 557 00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,000 Speaker 2: fresh right to your ear hold. 558 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:11,680 Speaker 3: That is right. 559 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:15,119 Speaker 1: The iceberg is not done and it is explosive, like 560 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:18,119 Speaker 1: I said, So if you love us, make sure to 561 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:19,600 Speaker 1: subscribe We love you. 562 00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:22,160 Speaker 3: And see it tomorrow for part two. 563 00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:24,680 Speaker 4: For part two, this is an episode from. 564 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:27,960 Speaker 3: Deep within the Archives time for okop Rewam. 565 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,040 Speaker 1: I was shopping for rings but found my girlfriend was 566 00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:34,520 Speaker 1: dating me out of pity, but what happened next was 567 00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:35,440 Speaker 1: way worse. 568 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:36,960 Speaker 4: Pity is stronger than love. 569 00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:39,560 Speaker 1: So I've had a mega crush on my girlfriend ever 570 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 1: since the school days. We were in the same school, 571 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,679 Speaker 1: although she was one grade ahead of me. Now, my 572 00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:48,840 Speaker 1: crush was so big that everyone in my school knew. 573 00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 1: Like if I was anywhere near her people, they would 574 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,920 Speaker 1: give a mischievous smile to the both of us. 575 00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:56,879 Speaker 3: In short, it was impossible for her. 576 00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,680 Speaker 1: To not know about my crush, but I never had 577 00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:01,840 Speaker 1: the curve to ask her out. After school, we moved 578 00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:04,200 Speaker 1: to different parts of the world for our education, and 579 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:07,400 Speaker 1: even were sam they weren't even Facebook friends. Around three 580 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,440 Speaker 1: point five years ago, I was attending the birthday celebrations 581 00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:11,920 Speaker 1: of a friend when I saw. 582 00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,960 Speaker 4: Her again, Yo, was she looking fine? 583 00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:17,760 Speaker 1: It was her alright, She had become even more gorgeous 584 00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:21,399 Speaker 1: and bedeus so she got finer with time, like a 585 00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:24,000 Speaker 1: fine wine. So the friend whose birthday I was attending 586 00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:26,359 Speaker 1: was a mutual friend from our school, and he of 587 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:29,560 Speaker 1: course knew about my crush. There were two or three 588 00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,880 Speaker 1: mutual friends there that also knew, and they kept encouraging 589 00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:36,639 Speaker 1: me to go talk to her. I finally went up 590 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 1: to her with my heart in my mouth and had 591 00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:41,640 Speaker 1: some small talk with her. She of course recognized me 592 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:44,280 Speaker 1: from school and we had a nice talk and exchanged 593 00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:48,360 Speaker 1: numbers and socials who It was with great trepidation that 594 00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:51,080 Speaker 1: I did some light detective work to find out if 595 00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,880 Speaker 1: she was single or not. But to my great relief, 596 00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,120 Speaker 1: I didn't find the presence of any guys in her feed, 597 00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:59,640 Speaker 1: so my hopes went up a little bit. I reached 598 00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:02,360 Speaker 1: out to her to hang out, fully expecting her to 599 00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:03,240 Speaker 1: turn me down. 600 00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:04,640 Speaker 3: She accepted. 601 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,320 Speaker 1: We hung out and I found that we have a 602 00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:10,520 Speaker 1: lot in common, and we decided to have another meetup. 603 00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:14,000 Speaker 1: Things picked up from there, and eventually we became boyfriend 604 00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:20,600 Speaker 1: and girlfriend. She's everything I expected and more. Plus she's 605 00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:25,720 Speaker 1: extremely happy with our relationship. We've been discussing marriage. Last weekend, 606 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:29,479 Speaker 1: we hosted her bff and husband for a dinner at 607 00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:32,080 Speaker 1: her house. The BFF is someone who I've also known 608 00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,040 Speaker 1: since our school days, and she's a good friend of 609 00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:36,760 Speaker 1: mine too. After dinner, we were shooting a breeze and 610 00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:40,280 Speaker 1: accept me, everyone was pretty drunk as they were staying 611 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:41,160 Speaker 1: the night at our place. 612 00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:42,880 Speaker 4: Oh wait, are we getting to Sauceland. 613 00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:46,480 Speaker 1: So we were talking when her drunk bff suddenly turned 614 00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:49,920 Speaker 1: to my girlfriend and said, look how happy you are today. 615 00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 1: I feel some sense of pride looking at you too. 616 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,520 Speaker 1: But then she continued talking to my girlfriend and said, 617 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,640 Speaker 1: you didn't even want to give this guy a chance, 618 00:29:57,720 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 1: and only agreed when I pestered you to go on 619 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,120 Speaker 1: what a pity date with him? And your plan was 620 00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:04,480 Speaker 1: to just let him down easy after that date. 621 00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:05,640 Speaker 4: But instead you guys. 622 00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 1: Are sitting here talking about your future together, and it 623 00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,880 Speaker 1: makes me so happy I convince you to. 624 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:11,920 Speaker 3: Take a chance on him. 625 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,720 Speaker 1: Oh jeez, can you imagine if I stuck with the 626 00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 1: original plan. Her husband, by now realized the awkwardness and 627 00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:21,080 Speaker 1: led her away to sleep. I could see in my 628 00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:25,480 Speaker 1: girlfriend's face that she was visibly stressed, so we went 629 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:27,760 Speaker 1: to bed too, and when she came to bed after 630 00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:29,280 Speaker 1: changing clothes. 631 00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 3: She was already in tears. 632 00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,680 Speaker 1: She took my hand in hers and said, please don't 633 00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:35,080 Speaker 1: mind her friend's words. 634 00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:38,600 Speaker 3: I asked her if it's true. She admitted, yes, it was. 635 00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:41,760 Speaker 1: My girlfriend always knew that I had a massive crush 636 00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:43,720 Speaker 1: on her, so when I asked her out, she didn't 637 00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:46,240 Speaker 1: want to be mean by turning me down too harshly, 638 00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:48,840 Speaker 1: so she discussed it with her BFF, who was also 639 00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,560 Speaker 1: her roommate at the time, about the situation. The BFF 640 00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:53,400 Speaker 1: knew me, so she tried to convince her to give 641 00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:56,560 Speaker 1: me a chance, but my girlfriend was not convinced. Finally, 642 00:30:56,600 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 1: the BFF asked. 643 00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,360 Speaker 3: Her to go on just two or three dates with 644 00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:01,960 Speaker 3: me and then me down easy, and the girlfriend agreed. 645 00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,360 Speaker 3: But then she found out we really clicked together and 646 00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:07,120 Speaker 3: wanted to continue dating, and well here we are three 647 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,640 Speaker 3: years later. I hugged her and said, it's okay, don't 648 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:12,280 Speaker 3: worry about it too much, as it's water under the bridge, 649 00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:14,480 Speaker 3: But it's bothering me, and I think she has started 650 00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:17,160 Speaker 3: to catch on because she's been extra attentive and loving 651 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:18,480 Speaker 3: to me since the incident. 652 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:22,200 Speaker 2: Yo, man is complaining about her being extra attentive. 653 00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,200 Speaker 3: Oh, my girlfriend's too amazing. 654 00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:27,560 Speaker 1: On the one hand, I'm the guy who is literally 655 00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:30,240 Speaker 1: going to be engaged and eventually married to my crush, 656 00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:33,440 Speaker 1: and it's even better because our relationship is just how 657 00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,240 Speaker 1: I imagined it to be, only ten times better. But on 658 00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:37,960 Speaker 1: the other hand, it does thing a little to know 659 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,240 Speaker 1: that she only agreed to go out with me because 660 00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:43,320 Speaker 1: she pitied me. Please knock some sent into me before 661 00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:47,400 Speaker 1: I self sabotage this wonderful relationship. There's an update, so 662 00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,080 Speaker 1: I guess I should tell you what happened after I 663 00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:51,720 Speaker 1: made the post. The morning after, the BFF apologized for 664 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,640 Speaker 1: insensitive comments the night before. She said she got too 665 00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:57,040 Speaker 1: drunk and she just wanted to take credit for setting 666 00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:59,720 Speaker 1: us up and playing a game of Matchmaker, but being drunk, 667 00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:03,120 Speaker 1: sheted out some unnecessary things. I said, of course, you 668 00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:05,560 Speaker 1: don't have to apologize, as I have to thank her 669 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:07,240 Speaker 1: for getting me and my girlfriend to go on that 670 00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:09,640 Speaker 1: first date. After the BFF left, I went to my 671 00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:12,520 Speaker 1: girlfriend and shared my feelings and asked her why she 672 00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:14,480 Speaker 1: was hesitant on going out with me. She then took 673 00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,560 Speaker 1: my hands in hers and told me that it just 674 00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:19,000 Speaker 1: felt awkward to her. She had known me for years 675 00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,280 Speaker 1: and had known that I had a crush on her. 676 00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:22,960 Speaker 1: On top of that, I was younger than her, Her 677 00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,440 Speaker 1: friends from back home sometimes used to tease her by 678 00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:27,840 Speaker 1: talking up my name, and almost all of our mutual 679 00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:29,680 Speaker 1: friends know about my crush on her, So when I 680 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,920 Speaker 1: asked her out, she felt awkward because one I was 681 00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,240 Speaker 1: more into her than she was into me without going 682 00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:36,520 Speaker 1: on a single date, and two I had her on 683 00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:39,040 Speaker 1: a pedestal and she was certain that reality was never 684 00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:41,560 Speaker 1: going to meet my fantasy, so she wanted to avoid 685 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:43,600 Speaker 1: going through that. Although she thought I was a weirdo. 686 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,880 Speaker 1: She admitted it. Ella well, but after my BFF went 687 00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:48,800 Speaker 1: to bat for me, she decided to go out with 688 00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:50,960 Speaker 1: me and then let me down easy after two or 689 00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:54,760 Speaker 1: three dates. Then I asked, well, what changed after the 690 00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:57,160 Speaker 1: first date, and she said, well, you didn't give off 691 00:32:57,200 --> 00:32:59,600 Speaker 1: any weird vibes, and yes you were very happy and 692 00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:01,760 Speaker 1: nervous as a result, but I just didn't get any 693 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:04,200 Speaker 1: creepy vibes. You were just a guy with a crush 694 00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:07,920 Speaker 1: with whom I had insane chemistry even on the first day, 695 00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:10,560 Speaker 1: And now three years later, I think I have a 696 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 1: bigger crush on you than you've ever had on me. 697 00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,520 Speaker 1: After having this conversation, we went out to have some 698 00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:17,560 Speaker 1: dinner at the same restaurant we had our first date, 699 00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:19,760 Speaker 1: and even tried to order the same dish, but alas 700 00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,920 Speaker 1: they discontinued it. Then we decided to order something entirely new, 701 00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:25,640 Speaker 1: which we've both never had. Thank you everyone for reminding 702 00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:26,680 Speaker 1: me how lucky I am. 703 00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:27,440 Speaker 3: Lol. 704 00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:29,600 Speaker 1: If you thought this story is crazy, check out this 705 00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:32,520 Speaker 1: one where Op proposes but they say no.