1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. Scrubbing In. 3 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:19,239 Speaker 1: Today is the eve of Tanya Is and Raquel is 4 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: a book released, The Sunshine Mine. It's a day before 5 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: Where are the zomies? Where? Oh yeah, yeah I love 6 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:31,640 Speaker 1: that Where Yeah. I was gonna ask, like, where's your head? 7 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 1: I've never released a book, so I don't know what 8 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:36,360 Speaker 1: this is, what you're experiencing. My head isn't a million 9 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: different places right now. So let me just preface this 10 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:41,680 Speaker 1: by saying, like this weekend, I wanted to do my normal, 11 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 1: you know, like before big things. I want to work out, 12 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: and I want to sleep and I want to go 13 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: into a sauna and like do all that stuff. I 14 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: did none of that this weekend, And well, you know, 15 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: I look at it a sign of maturity because I 16 00:00:56,840 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: did a deep dive cleansing of my apartment robbing and 17 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:05,679 Speaker 1: I went, oh, here she goes, You're gonna blow you away. Sorry, 18 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: it's gone, okay, okay, um. We did like a deep 19 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,039 Speaker 1: dive deep clean of my apartment and like went in 20 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:15,959 Speaker 1: like and gutted everything, like went through my kitchen and 21 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:20,959 Speaker 1: all my clothes and like just really it was exhausted, everything, 22 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: every room, everything. Yeah, the full weekend was dedicated to that. 23 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:28,960 Speaker 1: So but I feel very accomplished. So that what I'm 24 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 1: saying now, going into this week with everything coming up, 25 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:35,759 Speaker 1: I feel excited. Um. I also feel a little bit 26 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:39,399 Speaker 1: nervous because everybody that's read the book so far has 27 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 1: been a friend of mine, you know, Like, so even 28 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:43,279 Speaker 1: if they hate it, they're gonna be like, it's great. 29 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 1: But now that it's out, what if somebody doesn't like 30 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: it and then they message me and they're like, I 31 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 1: don't like this, And then you say, I'm sorry, but 32 00:01:51,880 --> 00:01:54,840 Speaker 1: thank you for supporting me, thank you for the twenty 33 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 1: four nine. And I mean, you can't control how people 34 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: perceive certain things. So if anything, it's like, hey, thank 35 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 1: you for giving me a shot, and maybe you like 36 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 1: the next one. Yeah, And it's a devotional it's not 37 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:09,920 Speaker 1: like it's a story and like they didn't like the 38 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,080 Speaker 1: story or they didn't like the ending or something. I 39 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: think it's I think you've described very well what it 40 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:16,080 Speaker 1: is and people are gonna like it for what it is. 41 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:19,079 Speaker 1: Thank you so much, I think. So I have I 42 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:22,280 Speaker 1: have high hopes that it's gonna and I truly feel 43 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: like it's gonna do really big things for people that 44 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,080 Speaker 1: are struggling in different areas. So I'm excited about that. 45 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 1: So like the excitedness over comes over Trump's over overpowers 46 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:42,679 Speaker 1: over powers any other feelings they are a little bit there. 47 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:44,919 Speaker 1: I mean, I think with anything, when you put your 48 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:48,760 Speaker 1: heart into something and it's vulnerable, there's always that of 49 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: the voice in your head that's like, what what if 50 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: the negative? You know? But um, I even in the group, 51 00:02:57,400 --> 00:03:00,160 Speaker 1: there were people who were like, I'm not like just 52 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 1: and I don't really have any interest to read the book. 53 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 1: I want to read it could for someone like is 54 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: there anyone? And I thought that is so cool because 55 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:11,800 Speaker 1: like even if maybe they don't resonate with it or 56 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 1: have any interest in a devotional they want to support 57 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 1: you and like do it for someone else, which is 58 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: really special, I really really special. I saw that Haley 59 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,240 Speaker 1: goes this will be the first God book I've ever read. 60 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 1: I literally was like, I wish I could have I 61 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 1: wish she could have said that six months ago and 62 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: I could slap it on as an endorsement for the book, 63 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 1: because that is so freaking funny. Yeah, I was like, well, 64 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:37,120 Speaker 1: this will be great, a great start, I think, you know, 65 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 1: you know Toni and Raquel and you know, um, so 66 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: I thought that was cute and she was like she 67 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 1: was like looking down at it, and she was like 68 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: I said it so casually, and I was like what, 69 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: Like I did I hear you right? Just like yeah, 70 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 1: so good. You know, it's funny because Riquel is the 71 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 1: perfect person to partner with because she really like, she 72 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 1: knows the Bible, She's had a relationship, she grew up 73 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: in church, so she this is this is like who 74 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: she is at her core, and um, anytime I was struggling, 75 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 1: especially at the beginning stages of my career, like if 76 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: I was dealing with bullying or anything like that, I 77 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:17,160 Speaker 1: would always go go to her and she would come 78 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:19,400 Speaker 1: back with a scripture that would always make me feel 79 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: at peace. So in a sense, the book is kind 80 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:23,840 Speaker 1: of like that, like my you know, she had stories too, 81 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: but like storytelling, but also just kind of these verses 82 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: that are going to make you feel encourage, encouraged and 83 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:34,599 Speaker 1: that peace hopefully. Yeah. Well, I your book signing is 84 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: tonight at the Grove, So if I don't know when 85 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:38,600 Speaker 1: this is going to come out. But if it's out 86 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:42,919 Speaker 1: before then seven pm, seven pm at the Grove, Baby Grow. 87 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 1: It's a big deal. Like I think sometimes, especially you, 88 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: of all my friends, You're always doing such like crazy, big, 89 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 1: like cool exciting things, so I almost feel sometimes I 90 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: get jaded of like, oh, like you know, Tanya's hosting 91 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 1: Harry's Style, you know, like I'm like, well, of course 92 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 1: she is. But this one feels really cool because it's yours, 93 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:08,599 Speaker 1: it's mine, and it's a book, like I think so too. 94 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 1: And I think because it's been so long in the making, 95 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:12,719 Speaker 1: you know, like I've been talking about I've been talking 96 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:15,800 Speaker 1: about and it's like here now, it just feels very weird. 97 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:18,160 Speaker 1: I know. So Robbie's coming, my parents are gonna come up, 98 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:20,480 Speaker 1: you all my friends are gonna be there, and they're 99 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:23,040 Speaker 1: just gonna stay the whole time. I kind of I 100 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: don't really know people are going to show up, Like 101 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:29,600 Speaker 1: we'll just continue going around on the line, maybe bring 102 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:36,000 Speaker 1: some outfit changes, different hairstyles. Yeah. Um, well, it's very excited. 103 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:39,159 Speaker 1: I'm very proud of you, very excited for you. Thank you. Um. 104 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 1: And then I'm getting my period later this week. High 105 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:47,719 Speaker 1: mother Nature can bring it back low, she'll humble you quick. Yeah, 106 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: don't get too high in mighty on the sunshine mind, 107 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 1: because your period, aunt flow is coming to town. I 108 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:57,760 Speaker 1: think we're sinked. I think I'm going to also start 109 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:01,400 Speaker 1: my period this week. Nothing makes you happier. It makes 110 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 1: me happier than that. I don't know how it happened either. 111 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:05,839 Speaker 1: I mean we've always been a couple of days off. Yeah, 112 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 1: we might still be. My cycle is pretty strong. Twenty 113 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: seven days okay, just right on the market. Right on 114 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:14,160 Speaker 1: the market. Yeah, mine's kind of like maybe a couple 115 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 1: of days off here and there. Yeah, or twenty eight 116 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:19,040 Speaker 1: one of the two. Alright, Well, we'll see you. I mean, 117 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:22,680 Speaker 1: here's to hoping. Here's to hoping, even though you'll be 118 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 1: gone on Good Morning America, A Good Morning America. I 119 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 1: don't have a pre interview this week. I'm like, I 120 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 1: can't believe I have a pre interview, meaning like the 121 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 1: producers of Good Morning America. You're gonna call me any 122 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: question that's like official, that's like a big deal. You 123 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 1: only get pre interviews for like really big I know, 124 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:45,800 Speaker 1: very exciting. Oh my gosh. Right before we started the podcast, 125 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 1: Tonya was like, what did you ask about Oh, she goes, 126 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:50,120 Speaker 1: I can't believe you were in the same room with 127 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:52,839 Speaker 1: Alex Earl and you didn't say hi. It seems so 128 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 1: wrong because why because I'm obsessed with her. I we 129 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: should have run the podcast, but I feel like we 130 00:06:58,200 --> 00:06:59,720 Speaker 1: gotta get in, you know what I mean, Like we 131 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:03,440 Speaker 1: havent DM her. Well. She had said like she went 132 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: through a breakup and kind of did like a live 133 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 1: about it, and she was like, if I can go 134 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: and call her daddy, I'll talk about the breakup. So 135 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 1: I think her she's really shooting for the top. Girl. 136 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 1: You know what Choice awards exactly, and you know what, mhm, 137 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: there's plenty to go around. Why don't she have to 138 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 1: limit herself to one podcast? I don't think she did. 139 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: I think she was just saying, like, I'll talk about 140 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:34,640 Speaker 1: my breakup, and if I get to go and call 141 00:07:34,640 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 1: her daddy, why not scrubbing in. It's a perfect place 142 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: to talk about your breakup. We can put you back 143 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: together again. Girl. I don't know she I don't know 144 00:07:42,280 --> 00:07:44,960 Speaker 1: she knows about us. Well, if he would have gone 145 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 1: up here at the party, she would have This is true. 146 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 1: I think that I was thinking about that this morning. 147 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 1: Like our podcast has been consistent for almost six years. Yeah, 148 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:01,080 Speaker 1: this year will be six years, you know what? Not 149 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 1: a lot? How to like that? What again? Like that? 150 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 1: Not a lot? Not a lot or like that? Right, 151 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 1: Like we've had the longevity consistencies. We are the Quaker 152 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 1: Oats of the podcast. Yeah, I don't know if that 153 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: will draw people to us, but that's great, Twayne of 154 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: podcasts keep going. Okay, I was just thinking, I see 155 00:08:35,800 --> 00:08:38,240 Speaker 1: what these other podcasts do as far as like how 156 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 1: they're always like looking to do new things to promote 157 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:44,720 Speaker 1: the podcast, whether it's like new really cute, like cool merch, 158 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 1: like they're like cool, you know, like vibes, Yeah, their vibes. 159 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:50,839 Speaker 1: And I'm like, I think we've got to really like 160 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: increase our coolness because I feel like we're really like nice, 161 00:08:55,880 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: but I don't know we're like cool. But I think 162 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:01,320 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna throw the out there, I'm not cool. 163 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 1: You're the cool one, so you're gonna have to like, no, 164 00:09:06,160 --> 00:09:09,560 Speaker 1: not cool, And like I don't think I don't know 165 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:13,719 Speaker 1: that anyone is cool with the air quotes, but I 166 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 1: don't think they did. They're like doing cool things so 167 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 1: like as a podcast because like into like you're you 168 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: literally have a book coming out, like you're doing really 169 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,480 Speaker 1: cool things. But like as the podcast, it's like, how 170 00:09:26,520 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 1: do we be nice and also elevating because I don't. 171 00:09:32,240 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: I don't want to just be cool like I don't. 172 00:09:33,920 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to get people to think that we're 173 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:40,679 Speaker 1: like something We're not right, because that would be But 174 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:44,560 Speaker 1: it's like, how do we elevate our brand as a podcast, 175 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: Like how do we have people wearing merg being on TikTok, 176 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 1: posting our clips on TikTok, just things like that, I'm 177 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: ready for it, I'm down. I'm just not cool myself. 178 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: So I need your help on how to be cool. 179 00:09:58,760 --> 00:10:00,679 Speaker 1: Like that green screen TikTok, I didn't that was all 180 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 1: you and that was fire, absolute fire. It's just a 181 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 1: last content over there. So that I was thinking about 182 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 1: I've done on TikTok since I joined in twenty I 183 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: think we need Hanna to like really help us because 184 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:18,200 Speaker 1: it was like really cool. Yeah I'm not. She's so 185 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 1: cool and it's like effortless, Like she posts a photo 186 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:23,679 Speaker 1: of her meal and it like I'm like, how it's 187 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 1: just like a photo of her plate. But you know what, 188 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:27,959 Speaker 1: I realized what and I think we need to come 189 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:32,400 Speaker 1: to consensus as a family here no more Zoom interviews. 190 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:38,600 Speaker 1: I did J podcast last week and it was such 191 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:42,600 Speaker 1: a great conversation, Like it was so fun and it 192 00:10:42,679 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: was so great, and I was like, you get and 193 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:47,520 Speaker 1: we'd just done K t L A like we did 194 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 1: K in the morning and then we did JS podcast 195 00:10:49,920 --> 00:10:52,720 Speaker 1: after and KTL was on Zoom and it was just 196 00:10:52,800 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: it's just such a different energy. It's completely different vibe. 197 00:10:57,080 --> 00:10:59,600 Speaker 1: And I was like, you know what, we should have 198 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 1: all of our podcast guests be in studio. It is 199 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 1: totally different. So here's are your thoughts. Well, I'm one 200 00:11:07,880 --> 00:11:10,400 Speaker 1: thousand percent on the same page as you. I think 201 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 1: having face to face time and in person connection you 202 00:11:14,480 --> 00:11:16,920 Speaker 1: can't match that over a screen. It's just the facts, 203 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 1: Like even our energy with the four of us when 204 00:11:19,160 --> 00:11:22,640 Speaker 1: we're not marked today, but um like typically when we're 205 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 1: all in the room together, it's been a different energy 206 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 1: for the podcast. So I feel like, here's a butt 207 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 1: coming here. There's however, Okay, if we have a guess 208 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 1: that we are like shooting for the stars for Patrick 209 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 1: Dempsey in studio, but if he is in Maine, Okay, 210 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 1: let's say he's in Maine and he's willing to do it, 211 00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:47,240 Speaker 1: but he's in Maine. We go to Maine. What are 212 00:11:47,280 --> 00:12:00,720 Speaker 1: you talking about, like Mark Wahlberg, Yeah, we went exactly that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 213 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:03,439 Speaker 1: we went to like where elseo we go? We went 214 00:12:03,480 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 1: to San Francisco for the what team was that Giants? Yeah, 215 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 1: we can go to Maine for Patrick Dempsey. Okay, so 216 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 1: you're saying we only do interviews in person no matter 217 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:17,920 Speaker 1: what the scenario is, and we say, I'm just floating 218 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 1: it to the team. I'm just I'm with you a 219 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 1: thousand percent. I am so tired of Zoom interviews as 220 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: a producer, but also as a podcast listener. Yes, as 221 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: my dog listen to podcast and I hear a guests 222 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:33,000 Speaker 1: coming on and they're on Zoom a little bit of spirit, 223 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 1: it's not as exciting. So I'm with you a thousand percent. 224 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 1: We need to get all of our producers on board. 225 00:12:40,120 --> 00:12:44,880 Speaker 1: But I'm with you, I'm with you. I'm one percent 226 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:50,800 Speaker 1: in tune with you and what you're saying. So I 227 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: think that's just a conversation we have within internal and 228 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:57,839 Speaker 1: internal combo with the team. Yeah, because you know, like, 229 00:12:57,880 --> 00:12:59,679 Speaker 1: let's think about who do we have last week Candice 230 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: Killing She lives in Nashville. We may have had to 231 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 1: wait on her a bit when she came to l A, right, 232 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:09,040 Speaker 1: but it would have been worth it totally. I agree. 233 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 1: I think maybe if there's a guess that we really 234 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 1: want and there's someone who could potentially come to l A. 235 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 1: We floated to, hey, will you be in l A 236 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:18,080 Speaker 1: anytime soon? Yes? Would you like to? And I'm fine 237 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:20,360 Speaker 1: doing multiple interviews in a day if we need to have. 238 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:21,840 Speaker 1: We used to do it all the time where we 239 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: have to guess yeah, just confirming with correct and head nods. 240 00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:32,120 Speaker 1: She's okay, cool, I'm down. I like it. That's cool. 241 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:36,359 Speaker 1: That is cool, that is cool, and that is forward. 242 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:40,079 Speaker 1: We are not in the COVID era anymore. Actually, I 243 00:13:40,160 --> 00:13:42,800 Speaker 1: want to shout out a little bit still. I mean, 244 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 1: it's around, but I did um. We had a scrubbing 245 00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 1: and listener DM me and she said that she spent 246 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 1: the last six months like binging the entire podcast from 247 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:54,240 Speaker 1: the beginning, and so I did like a little what 248 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:57,200 Speaker 1: is R and D research with her and I was 249 00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 1: asking her questions like what was your favorite part, what 250 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 1: are your favorite episodes? Which era did you not like 251 00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:08,160 Speaker 1: And she said the COVID quarantine era, but everything was 252 00:14:08,200 --> 00:14:10,960 Speaker 1: on zoom. Yeah, no one liked that era. Like that 253 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 1: was a tough time forever the zoom. The zoom has 254 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 1: lingered on from the COVID era, and the zoom cannot 255 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:23,960 Speaker 1: linger anymore. We need to put a hard stop now. 256 00:14:24,000 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 1: I was gonna say, um a cough, drop in our 257 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 1: mouth and cure boy. If I had to guess a 258 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:36,600 Speaker 1: thousand words, not even made the list. I was like, 259 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:40,520 Speaker 1: I thought I had a brain like glitch and I 260 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:44,040 Speaker 1: had missed half of the sentence. I literally was questioning 261 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:47,280 Speaker 1: myself like I was like, drop, I'm on a weird 262 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:49,800 Speaker 1: energy right now because I don't think I slept well 263 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 1: last night because I'm like excited and all the anticipation 264 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 1: of the week. So I think I'm a little like tired. 265 00:14:57,200 --> 00:14:58,960 Speaker 1: But I have been to a lot of adrenaline. I 266 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:03,480 Speaker 1: also didn't sleep we all because we had I had, 267 00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:06,600 Speaker 1: I woke up. I'm in a depressive stay right now. Okay, 268 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:11,720 Speaker 1: so yesterday I think I was doing I should read 269 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:14,800 Speaker 1: my book, an Instagram live or something. This is a 270 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 1: different depressive so you'll understand. I think I was doing 271 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:20,000 Speaker 1: Instagram live and I'm gonna text. Yeah. I got a 272 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:22,400 Speaker 1: text and it kind of opened and it was John 273 00:15:22,480 --> 00:15:27,520 Speaker 1: Danielle's husband, and I, because I had seen it opened, 274 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 1: I didn't read the text, but then it wasn't like 275 00:15:30,440 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: not a notification anymore. So I kind of forgot about 276 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:37,120 Speaker 1: it because I kept doing the live. So this morning 277 00:15:37,760 --> 00:15:39,320 Speaker 1: I wake up and I'm like, just going through my 278 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:42,640 Speaker 1: text froom yesterday and I read his text and he's like, Hey, 279 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:45,920 Speaker 1: I know it's last minute, but um, tonight is Harry 280 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:48,080 Speaker 1: Styles last night at the Forum. Um, if you and 281 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 1: Haley want to go, I have two tickets. I'll take 282 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 1: care of your parking. Oh my heart sank. You don't understand. 283 00:15:56,480 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 1: I have been and last night was his best outfit 284 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:02,280 Speaker 1: of the whole. Then I texted on and I'm like, 285 00:16:02,720 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 1: I cannot believe I missed this text message, Like I 286 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:07,680 Speaker 1: I'm going to be thinking about this for a very 287 00:16:07,760 --> 00:16:09,720 Speaker 1: long time. And he's like, oh, it's okay, like he'll 288 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 1: be back at some point, and I'm like and so 289 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:15,880 Speaker 1: then I go on TikTok and see his outfit and 290 00:16:15,920 --> 00:16:17,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, I just saw his outfit and I've gone 291 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 1: into a deep, dark, depressive state. He just didn't like 292 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:24,480 Speaker 1: laughing about cheese. I wonder who those tickets went to. 293 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:28,120 Speaker 1: I hope they enjoyed it, whoever it was. But um, 294 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:30,120 Speaker 1: I was gonna say, as we had like a game 295 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:33,840 Speaker 1: night last night, and I don't know what I ate. 296 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:39,120 Speaker 1: It was either chicken or charcuterie. Is that it char charcuterie? 297 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 1: Is it called cured meat? It grosses me out saying okay, 298 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:46,720 Speaker 1: like salamis and delicious. I know, But I got so 299 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:49,080 Speaker 1: sick from something last night. I was like fighting, throwing 300 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 1: up all night. So I slept horribly. Um. And so 301 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 1: I think I'm off meat for a minute, because that's 302 00:16:53,920 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 1: what I have to do. I have to give myself 303 00:16:55,920 --> 00:17:02,520 Speaker 1: a break. So I'm vegetarian for so much. But welcome 304 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 1: to the vegetarian club, thank you so much, just until 305 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:10,040 Speaker 1: I recover. Um. So that's a little bit about me 306 00:17:10,080 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 1: and when I went through the past twenty four hours. Okay. Um. Also, 307 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 1: I had a moment this weekend where I really got 308 00:17:19,320 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 1: in tune with my feelings and my emotions. Oh yeah, 309 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:23,920 Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about it because are you okay? 310 00:17:24,160 --> 00:17:25,920 Speaker 1: I'm fine, But we're gonna take a break and we'll 311 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:28,000 Speaker 1: be back we'll talk about it when we come back 312 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:48,639 Speaker 1: from this break. All right, we're back. So before the break, 313 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:52,000 Speaker 1: we're talking about being in touch with your emotions. Tanya 314 00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:54,399 Speaker 1: has really been checking in. She feels like I'm unwell. 315 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:57,719 Speaker 1: I don't really feel unwell because Becca is like posting 316 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:01,680 Speaker 1: stuff on Instagram about journaling in her face hitting the sun, 317 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:05,359 Speaker 1: and I was like, are you good right now? You know? 318 00:18:06,320 --> 00:18:10,520 Speaker 1: I think that I feel What do we say? I 319 00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:15,280 Speaker 1: don't feel like I'm a mojo? Remember how you still like? Okay, 320 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:18,640 Speaker 1: So I think I've lost your mojo, lost some mojo 321 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 1: and I feel it. It's like sometimes I feel like 322 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:26,200 Speaker 1: I have things that I need to share with someone, 323 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:28,720 Speaker 1: but I'm always like, oh, what if I don't even 324 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:30,840 Speaker 1: know what reaction I want from someone if I were 325 00:18:30,880 --> 00:18:32,760 Speaker 1: to tell like a person like a friend or someone. 326 00:18:33,359 --> 00:18:35,600 Speaker 1: So I just hold it inside because I'm like, well, 327 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 1: I can't be disappointed in a reaction that I don't 328 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:41,840 Speaker 1: even know what I'm expecting if I don't tell anybody. 329 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:45,240 Speaker 1: Going deep, No, I'm just saying like, if you don't 330 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:47,639 Speaker 1: tell anyone, then you're not gonna get about You're just 331 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:50,919 Speaker 1: like yeah, I'm fine, Like okay, yeah, Because I'm like whatever, 332 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 1: I'm just processing in my mind. But then I was. 333 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 1: I went to the park and I got my favorite sandwich, 334 00:18:58,040 --> 00:18:59,879 Speaker 1: went to the park and I brought my journal with 335 00:19:00,440 --> 00:19:03,600 Speaker 1: Haley's always Haley loves journaling, like she journals almost every night. 336 00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:05,640 Speaker 1: She's always like, you should just write your thoughts down. 337 00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:07,200 Speaker 1: It feels so good to just like get it out 338 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:09,200 Speaker 1: and write it down on paper. I'm always like, no, 339 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:12,520 Speaker 1: I'm good, I don't want to. But I did it, 340 00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:15,119 Speaker 1: and I felt so much better. And I realized this 341 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 1: because there's no reaction. You're just getting out the thoughts, 342 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:23,000 Speaker 1: but you don't have to worry or expect a reaction 343 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:26,359 Speaker 1: from anyone. And I felt so much better. I literally 344 00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:29,000 Speaker 1: felt like my headspace was like clear. So do you 345 00:19:29,040 --> 00:19:31,280 Speaker 1: want to share what you wrote in that journal? Well, 346 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:36,000 Speaker 1: I just wrote down like things that like things that 347 00:19:36,280 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 1: I want to work on as a person, in like 348 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:41,400 Speaker 1: as an individual and in a relationship, and then work 349 00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 1: like dreams. Um. I think just being like like feeling 350 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 1: secure in a relationship because I've always felt secure because 351 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:55,080 Speaker 1: I've always felt like I kind of had the I 352 00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 1: think when you're not in love, you feel secure, right, yeah, 353 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:00,879 Speaker 1: like you have the upper hand. Yeah, like when you 354 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:03,960 Speaker 1: give your heart to under a relationship or to a person, 355 00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:07,720 Speaker 1: you kind of lose some of that like control or 356 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:11,280 Speaker 1: power because you're I mean, you just have to trust 357 00:20:11,320 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: that they're going to take care of it, right. So 358 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 1: I think, Um, with Hailey, you know, she's like about 359 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:20,600 Speaker 1: to go on tour and like she's gonna be really 360 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:22,359 Speaker 1: busy for the next few months. I get like really 361 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:23,920 Speaker 1: in my head and I have this voice it's like 362 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:27,639 Speaker 1: you got to protect yourself, and it's like she's not 363 00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:33,320 Speaker 1: she's she's just leaving Physically, She's very communicative, she's great 364 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 1: when when she's on tour, like she has a really 365 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,920 Speaker 1: good job. But I think I get my head where 366 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, you're you don't have control over this situation, 367 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:43,679 Speaker 1: so you don't really have control over any situation, over anything. 368 00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:46,080 Speaker 1: So I think I was just writing those thoughts still, 369 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,359 Speaker 1: you know, you don't have to have control over everything 370 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:54,000 Speaker 1: to just like be secure preach sister. But yeah, I 371 00:20:54,080 --> 00:20:56,920 Speaker 1: think the best way to tie it into the podcast 372 00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:59,879 Speaker 1: is I feel like I've lost my mojo, but I 373 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:02,919 Speaker 1: get it back. I think I just kind of felt like, blah, blah, 374 00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:06,239 Speaker 1: I hate that blah, feeling Amy Sugarman. I remember one 375 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,040 Speaker 1: time we were walking and she called it the feeling, 376 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:10,960 Speaker 1: and I was like, that's a perfect description, because I 377 00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:15,080 Speaker 1: hate the feeling. And you can't escape the feeling. You 378 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:16,879 Speaker 1: just have to sit with the feeling and try to 379 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 1: do things that make you feel better forget the feeling. 380 00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:23,680 Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I just feel distracted from the feelings. But 381 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:25,399 Speaker 1: you know, sometimes it's going to just sit in it. 382 00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:28,040 Speaker 1: I think I've done a lot of sitting in it, 383 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:30,720 Speaker 1: and I was ready to like not be sitting in anymore. 384 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 1: You know what I found this weekend? Yeah, your love word. 385 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, I found that obviously, But um, I 386 00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:40,480 Speaker 1: for some reason, I couldn't remember when I did the 387 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 1: calling in the one work book. Oh yeah, so you 388 00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:46,639 Speaker 1: have a physical book, but all the journaling and all 389 00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:48,879 Speaker 1: the homework and stuff. I didn't like a separate journal. 390 00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:52,159 Speaker 1: And I haven't been able to find the journal. And 391 00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:54,639 Speaker 1: this weekend when Rob and I were going through my apartment, 392 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:58,840 Speaker 1: like we were going through every bin, everything and like whatever, 393 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:03,040 Speaker 1: and I found my, uh my journal that I did 394 00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:05,600 Speaker 1: all that work in. Please let me read, I know 395 00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:08,879 Speaker 1: I was thinking about. I didn't go through it. I 396 00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:11,359 Speaker 1: didn't read it. Or anything, because time was of the essence. 397 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:13,919 Speaker 1: But I know exactly where it is now in my apartments, 398 00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:15,920 Speaker 1: in this bin, and there's not much in there anymore, 399 00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:18,920 Speaker 1: and I feel like I should grab it and take 400 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:21,000 Speaker 1: some photos and maybe like read a little bit of it. 401 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:24,560 Speaker 1: Can we do a second where you read excerpts, because 402 00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:27,280 Speaker 1: I want to compare, like a little bit, like what 403 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 1: was I like, what kind of mindset was I in 404 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:37,720 Speaker 1: at that time? Manic manically searching for the one? Yeah, 405 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:39,800 Speaker 1: like I don't know, I have no idea what to 406 00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:42,840 Speaker 1: expect reading back that stuff. No, I feel I would 407 00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:45,480 Speaker 1: just like to hear you read it where it was 408 00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:50,800 Speaker 1: kind of like seeing what came to fruition now. Yeah, 409 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,760 Speaker 1: I'd be so curious to know. I have a question. 410 00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:58,800 Speaker 1: Do you still write in your Dear Future Husband? I 411 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,879 Speaker 1: haven't written it and a very long time because that 412 00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,320 Speaker 1: journal is also at my apartment, which I am not 413 00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:07,680 Speaker 1: at much. So the answer to your question is no, 414 00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:11,399 Speaker 1: I'm not. But I'm not like antie it. I just 415 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,720 Speaker 1: it's not near me, so I'm not thinking about it 416 00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,359 Speaker 1: and I'm not like going on bad dates. You know, 417 00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,200 Speaker 1: when did you When did you stop writing in that? 418 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:23,200 Speaker 1: I'd say probably maybe a year into dating Robbie. Okay, 419 00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:28,320 Speaker 1: I'd like some excerpts from that too, please. I found 420 00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,080 Speaker 1: like the I found that the our first night that 421 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:33,639 Speaker 1: we uh that we met, and I took a picture 422 00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:37,240 Speaker 1: of it because it was like, I met this guy 423 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,600 Speaker 1: and I didn't want to go on the date, but 424 00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:47,720 Speaker 1: Sierra said I had too, so you went. We do 425 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:51,000 Speaker 1: have Sierrara think, Yeah, it is crazy, you know when 426 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 1: I think when you think about it, like we all 427 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:56,920 Speaker 1: started off as strangers. And I've been really in this 428 00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:59,720 Speaker 1: process of trying to be um grateful for the season 429 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,960 Speaker 1: of why that I'm in because I'm always so rushing 430 00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:05,040 Speaker 1: and ready to get to the next season of my life, 431 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 1: and so I've been like really just like focused on 432 00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,359 Speaker 1: that theme right now. And I'm like, it's so crazy 433 00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:13,359 Speaker 1: because I vividly remember the night that I met Robbie. 434 00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,359 Speaker 1: Did I ever in a million years think that this 435 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:19,160 Speaker 1: dude unhinge was going to be the love of my life? 436 00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:22,239 Speaker 1: Like no, and then just you meet him and then 437 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,360 Speaker 1: it's like boof, and everybody always says, you know, like, um, 438 00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:28,440 Speaker 1: I always I feel like at that time I was 439 00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: doing a lot of work stuff. It was people's choice Awards, 440 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:31,879 Speaker 1: and I was going to New York and back and 441 00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:33,040 Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I don't have time, 442 00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:34,880 Speaker 1: and then it's the holidays and don't I can't date 443 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:36,240 Speaker 1: right now. So I was going to start back on 444 00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:39,240 Speaker 1: the apps in January. This is your sign if you're 445 00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:40,919 Speaker 1: listening to this and you're saying, I just gotta wait 446 00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:48,360 Speaker 1: till I finish this big project. Wait not wait not Well, 447 00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,640 Speaker 1: I think you can always find an excuse to put 448 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,240 Speaker 1: things off for other things you have going on, because 449 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:55,440 Speaker 1: like putting yourself out there to date is kind of 450 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,840 Speaker 1: a vulnerable, scary thing for I think a lot of people, 451 00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,520 Speaker 1: most people, So you can always make an excuse like 452 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:03,119 Speaker 1: I have too much going on for work, I have 453 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,920 Speaker 1: too much things going on to like put my time 454 00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:09,800 Speaker 1: and energy into this. But I just gotta do it. Yeah, 455 00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:12,399 Speaker 1: because like around Thanksgiving, it's like Thanksgiving and then the 456 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:14,720 Speaker 1: holidays and the New Year, so it's kind of then 457 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 1: what Valentine's Day, St Patrick's Day, Tony's favorite, So there's 458 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:22,639 Speaker 1: never really a good time. So this is just the 459 00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:26,760 Speaker 1: sign if anybody's out there, go for it. Take the 460 00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:31,200 Speaker 1: cough drop, take the cough drop. Wait not wait, not wait, 461 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: not Haley and I have watched started watching Chris this 462 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,879 Speaker 1: season of The Bachelor Crystals, the one that I was like, 463 00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:41,440 Speaker 1: oh wow. We watched the first episode, like the Limo entrances, 464 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:46,960 Speaker 1: and it is just crazy, Like even seeing myself, I 465 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:50,359 Speaker 1: was like, who is that Robbie and I we are 466 00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:56,400 Speaker 1: you watching? Who? Amazon? Amazon? Prime Video? Yeah? Prime video? Okay, okay, 467 00:25:56,400 --> 00:26:00,600 Speaker 1: should we watch it too? Yeah? That's fun. I'm not 468 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:02,840 Speaker 1: really into anything right now. We finished Bad Sisters and 469 00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:05,120 Speaker 1: we're back, we're dabbling back into the recruit, but I'm 470 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:08,320 Speaker 1: not you know, well, it was interesting because Haley was like, 471 00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:11,280 Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know that, Like I remember 472 00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:13,440 Speaker 1: she was like I remember watching this and thinking you 473 00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:15,920 Speaker 1: were like like that you popped off the screen, Like 474 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,680 Speaker 1: I remember thinking that, But I just didn't know her, 475 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:20,760 Speaker 1: and like, even watching it now, I just feel like 476 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:26,080 Speaker 1: she just seems so like young and shy. You Yeah, 477 00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:27,880 Speaker 1: And I was like, well I think that was kind 478 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 1: of like the edit I got anyway, So yeah, um, 479 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:35,119 Speaker 1: but yeah, that should be interesting. Nothing happened in that 480 00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:37,000 Speaker 1: first episode, like we didn't kiss or anything, so we'll 481 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:39,880 Speaker 1: see how that goes. Yeah, we'll watch it. That's fun. Yeah, 482 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:44,600 Speaker 1: that's fun. Yeah, whenever. Yeah, so we're gonna we'll see 483 00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:49,119 Speaker 1: how consistent we are with that. But oh wow, the 484 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:51,840 Speaker 1: drama of him looking at the road. But you know, 485 00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:56,320 Speaker 1: like ever since the seasons I was on, we we've 486 00:26:56,359 --> 00:26:58,320 Speaker 1: watched The Bachelor. Like Haley and I we watched The 487 00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:01,119 Speaker 1: Bachelor watching this season. We weren't going to because we 488 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:02,800 Speaker 1: didn't really have any interest, but we watched it the 489 00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:04,800 Speaker 1: other night and we were like, it's good. I'm fine 490 00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:08,760 Speaker 1: with it. Like Chris was such a great Bachelor, like 491 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:11,919 Speaker 1: taking me out of Like the show just felt different. 492 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,480 Speaker 1: I guess that's what it is. Like the show felt different. 493 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,200 Speaker 1: I haven't watched a single second of his season, but 494 00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:19,920 Speaker 1: I met him a couple of times. He's always been cool. 495 00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:23,080 Speaker 1: I don't know, he's just well, I don't know. Even 496 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:24,680 Speaker 1: Haley was saying, she was like, I feel like he's 497 00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:27,880 Speaker 1: just very himself, Like he doesn't feel like he's trying 498 00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:31,560 Speaker 1: to be the Bachelor. And every time we were watching, 499 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:34,080 Speaker 1: like the Limo entrances, and he looked at every girl 500 00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:36,960 Speaker 1: in the eye and was like so personal and genuine, 501 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,399 Speaker 1: there wasn't that, Like I don't know, there was just 502 00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:43,080 Speaker 1: something different about how it is now. Interesting um, we're 503 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:47,440 Speaker 1: going to watch that. Maybe not tonight because of the one, 504 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:50,520 Speaker 1: so I could do it tomor night. Okay, should this 505 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,639 Speaker 1: be an assignment for the scrubbers? Maybe they should. As 506 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,280 Speaker 1: you have to buy it though, I feel you have 507 00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,640 Speaker 1: to buy it because I was trying to do I think, 508 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:02,280 Speaker 1: like TikTok, this is like forever ago, and I think 509 00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:03,720 Speaker 1: I just was like, oh, you can buy the season. 510 00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:05,040 Speaker 1: So I just bought it. But I don't know if 511 00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:11,639 Speaker 1: people cared that much by it. I'll and I have 512 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:15,040 Speaker 1: the same birthday. I just want to do Remember six, 513 00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:16,800 Speaker 1: he's six years older than me, but we have the 514 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,120 Speaker 1: same birthday. Are you a scorpioio? I didn't even realize. 515 00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:23,119 Speaker 1: I didn't really know anything about zodiac signs, so I 516 00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:26,360 Speaker 1: didn't even know that dogs a scorpio. I mean she's 517 00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:29,600 Speaker 1: a water sign. Yeah. Can you relax? You got two 518 00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,840 Speaker 1: scorpios sitting right here. Scorpios and I are good good Matt, 519 00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 1: like good friends. Yeah, that's why I am Sunny connect 520 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:40,960 Speaker 1: Sunny doesn't seem scorpio vibes. Yes, she is. She seems 521 00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 1: like a leo. She gives you no, she's like, gives 522 00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 1: you no attention. She tries to make you want her. 523 00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:49,479 Speaker 1: She's very Scorpia. We really can apply the zodiac traits 524 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:52,280 Speaker 1: to animals too. You can do whatever you want. That 525 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,800 Speaker 1: as humanity, we're accepting that we can do whatever we want. Yeah, 526 00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 1: this is my world. You're just visiting in. You know. 527 00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:04,280 Speaker 1: I think Phoebe's a Virgo. I don't know much about virgo's. 528 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 1: I don't really they're very organized. If you've never seen 529 00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:12,840 Speaker 1: Phoebe Tillie eat dinner, let me tell you. She's come 530 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:14,920 Speaker 1: over and she's had some of Sunday's dinner before, and 531 00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:17,800 Speaker 1: she's not a fan of carrots any vegetables. She takes 532 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 1: it out. Okay, my dog's food is mashed up like 533 00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:24,560 Speaker 1: it looks like if you took mashed potatoes and everything 534 00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:26,480 Speaker 1: and literally cut it up into very tiny pieces and 535 00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 1: mashed all together, like it literally just a giant mashed potato. 536 00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:33,480 Speaker 1: Phoebe Tilli eats Sunday's food and you will see a 537 00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:36,760 Speaker 1: little pile of carrots that she has taken out of 538 00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,120 Speaker 1: the food and put on the floor next to the bowl. 539 00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:41,520 Speaker 1: And I'm like, that is some skill that she can 540 00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:44,920 Speaker 1: even get the carrots away from the rest of the meal, 541 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:50,000 Speaker 1: Like that is skill. Isn't that the most me thing 542 00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:52,040 Speaker 1: that she takes out the veget She did it with 543 00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:54,320 Speaker 1: her food, with the celery, she just puts it off 544 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,520 Speaker 1: to the side. So it's so funny because when my 545 00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:00,720 Speaker 1: dog eats, she just it's like she inhales it. There's 546 00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:02,560 Speaker 1: not I don't even think she realized what she's doing. 547 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:05,040 Speaker 1: It's like she just drop the hungry girl. Don't she 548 00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:10,200 Speaker 1: might be underfed? We're not sure. Um, I don't know. 549 00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:12,400 Speaker 1: I think we need to take a break and then 550 00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:16,400 Speaker 1: come back with emails. Does that feel Does that feel right? Yeah? 551 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:37,480 Speaker 1: During the break, Tanya has discovered that the Jonas brothers 552 00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:40,400 Speaker 1: have been giving their Hollywood star on the Walkome Walk 553 00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:43,560 Speaker 1: of Fame. Congratulations to the Joe bros. They finally got 554 00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:47,200 Speaker 1: their star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. But I mean, 555 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:49,200 Speaker 1: we're doing this in real time, and the speeches are 556 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:50,960 Speaker 1: going on and I can't seem to find on the 557 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:53,920 Speaker 1: internet who gave their speeches. And but you don't feel 558 00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:56,240 Speaker 1: happy that you weren't included. I mean, I feel like 559 00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,320 Speaker 1: that was an oversight. You know, maybe they were like, 560 00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:03,840 Speaker 1: she's got a lot going on. Oh yeah, yeah, it 561 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:07,680 Speaker 1: feels like a missed opportunity. You know, I agree. I 562 00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 1: that's a missed opportunity. Like me going to the Harry 563 00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,920 Speaker 1: Styles concert was a missed opportunity. You know, I'll be 564 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:17,320 Speaker 1: thinking about for years to come. Congrats to you guys. 565 00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:24,040 Speaker 1: Congrats Joe Bros. Kevin and Joe and Nick. That's them, 566 00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:31,240 Speaker 1: the brothers Jonas. Moving on, Moving on to emails, Mark 567 00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:34,320 Speaker 1: take it away, Well, thank you very much, Becca. This 568 00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:36,680 Speaker 1: is from Patrese. She says, how do you know what 569 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,600 Speaker 1: It's time to tell the brutal, honest truth and move 570 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,640 Speaker 1: on from a friendship. Nicole and I have been friends 571 00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:44,280 Speaker 1: for over twenty years. We've met his kids in the 572 00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:47,400 Speaker 1: soccer field, grew up in school together. It became travel buddies, 573 00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:52,040 Speaker 1: became roommates who slammed beers together. Throughout our twenties. Last 574 00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:53,880 Speaker 1: three or four years, there has been a struggle as 575 00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:55,960 Speaker 1: our lives have grown in opposite directions. We were in 576 00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,400 Speaker 1: our early thirties. I have a great career, I got married. 577 00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:00,880 Speaker 1: I'm looking to start a family. The coals bounced from 578 00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:03,080 Speaker 1: job the job. She can't figure out her passion. She 579 00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:05,600 Speaker 1: has had any luck in the love department. I've done 580 00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:07,600 Speaker 1: everything I can to listen and be supportive and try 581 00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 1: to give advice. But she's going through these struggles and 582 00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:12,360 Speaker 1: her depression and anxiety have taken over. It has become 583 00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:14,720 Speaker 1: hard to spend time with her. As we're changing as people, 584 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,280 Speaker 1: She's become very opinionated. Are you ineditive? And I know 585 00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:19,760 Speaker 1: it all. It's been frustrating to deal with over the years. 586 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:21,160 Speaker 1: I try to ignore it and let it go, but 587 00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:24,200 Speaker 1: I found myself starting to argue back. One time, we 588 00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:27,200 Speaker 1: even spent thirty minutes arguing about Taylor Swift, who I 589 00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:30,320 Speaker 1: could care less about. Sorry, girls, just because I'm sick 590 00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:32,280 Speaker 1: of her always thinking that it's her way or no way. 591 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:34,960 Speaker 1: I'm tired of feeling anxious about what she's gonna do 592 00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,400 Speaker 1: or say next. What do I do? Do I tell 593 00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:39,120 Speaker 1: her the truth of how I feel. How do you 594 00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:41,720 Speaker 1: tell someone you don't like the personality? And is it 595 00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:46,120 Speaker 1: time to let this friendship go? Well, it's not so 596 00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:50,360 Speaker 1: much her personality, it's her character different. Well, I think 597 00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:52,840 Speaker 1: real hard, But I also think when you're going through 598 00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:56,840 Speaker 1: stuff like dealing with depression and anxiety, you're not yourself. 599 00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,280 Speaker 1: Like I don't think that that's who she is because 600 00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:01,960 Speaker 1: it sounds like the person that she is was someone 601 00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:05,600 Speaker 1: that Patrice liked being around at one point. I think 602 00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:07,840 Speaker 1: either way you're gonna lose, like you could lose this 603 00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,040 Speaker 1: friendship because you're either going to lose it in a 604 00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:13,440 Speaker 1: way that you quit responding and quit hanging out and 605 00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:18,760 Speaker 1: it just eventually ends with maybe no closure because I 606 00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:22,760 Speaker 1: think you're going to get tired of hearing and arguing 607 00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:26,160 Speaker 1: and all the things that you listed. UM. And then 608 00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 1: the other option is that you have an honest conversation 609 00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:31,200 Speaker 1: with her and say, I find I know that you're 610 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:33,120 Speaker 1: going through so much, and I'm trying to be supportive, 611 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:36,080 Speaker 1: but I feel like you're negative. I feel like you're argumentative. 612 00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:39,320 Speaker 1: It's hard to want to spend my time and energy 613 00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:44,960 Speaker 1: putting effort into this friendship when you know you're not 614 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:48,840 Speaker 1: um reciprocating or putting in the effort back. But she 615 00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:54,320 Speaker 1: isn't saying she's not participating or reciprocating. She's saying everything's 616 00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:58,680 Speaker 1: always her way or the highway, and she's like argumentative. Yeah, 617 00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:01,240 Speaker 1: I would just say I feel like everything every time 618 00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:04,840 Speaker 1: we talk it's an argument or it's only your opinion 619 00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:08,080 Speaker 1: is the only one that matters. Doing it where you're 620 00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:11,480 Speaker 1: not blaming her. You know, you can blame the relationship. 621 00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:14,200 Speaker 1: You can say is it me or we arguing constantly lately, 622 00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:15,960 Speaker 1: and maybe the other person is feeling it too, And 623 00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,279 Speaker 1: maybe that's a starting off point where you're not saying 624 00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:21,239 Speaker 1: you're argumentative, you're awful, I don't like being around you. 625 00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:23,439 Speaker 1: We could say what's going on with us? I feel 626 00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:25,120 Speaker 1: like we're arguing all the time. It's not like it 627 00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:27,120 Speaker 1: used to be. What's happening? And maybe there's a that's 628 00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:30,959 Speaker 1: a starting point to getting somewhere. That's great advice. Yeah, 629 00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:33,480 Speaker 1: I definitely feel like you have to talk it out 630 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:36,000 Speaker 1: and kind of try and figure it out if you can, 631 00:34:37,080 --> 00:34:39,360 Speaker 1: especially if you guys were so close. But also at 632 00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:43,400 Speaker 1: the same time, I think that sometimes if stuff is going, 633 00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,280 Speaker 1: if life is going not in like a positive direction 634 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:49,719 Speaker 1: for some people and it is with their friends, some 635 00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:52,839 Speaker 1: people tend to react in a very negative, bad way, 636 00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:54,920 Speaker 1: and I feel like that can really bring you down. 637 00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,160 Speaker 1: And so maybe you don't break up with her, but 638 00:34:57,239 --> 00:34:59,400 Speaker 1: maybe you distance yourself a little bit to to not 639 00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:03,719 Speaker 1: let it kind of get in the way of you know, 640 00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:06,440 Speaker 1: what's going on in your life, and give it a 641 00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:08,800 Speaker 1: little distance, a little space and then come back and 642 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:10,719 Speaker 1: kind of have the conversation and just say, you know, 643 00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:13,320 Speaker 1: we were getting things were getting really negative and and 644 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:15,720 Speaker 1: I want to just give it a little space before 645 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,120 Speaker 1: we communicated. So you're not giving up and breaking up 646 00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:20,920 Speaker 1: with her, but you're just giving yourself a little distance. 647 00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,279 Speaker 1: I also think sometimes people are in your life what's 648 00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:30,360 Speaker 1: the quote for season or yeah, And I think sometimes 649 00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:35,200 Speaker 1: we are evolving as people, like we hope to evolve 650 00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:39,000 Speaker 1: as people, right like and grow and change, and sometimes 651 00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:42,279 Speaker 1: it doesn't line up with the person who is in 652 00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:45,160 Speaker 1: your life at that season where you all really connected. 653 00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:48,440 Speaker 1: Sometimes you grow out of those friendships and relationships. So 654 00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:51,520 Speaker 1: I don't know. I think if you're if you want 655 00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:53,320 Speaker 1: to put an effort, I think you have a conversation 656 00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:55,279 Speaker 1: like Mark said, and just say like, what's going on, 657 00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:58,520 Speaker 1: Like this doesn't feel like our relationship and I feel 658 00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:00,960 Speaker 1: like we're arguing a lot, and approach it more from 659 00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:05,000 Speaker 1: a we standpoint, so that she might get defensive, but 660 00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:08,239 Speaker 1: at least you're not saying like you you you, or 661 00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:11,320 Speaker 1: you just say you know, I've grown, we've grown, and 662 00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:14,400 Speaker 1: we're we've grown in different directions and that's okay, that's okay, 663 00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:19,000 Speaker 1: you're going east, I'm going west. You're going north, I'm 664 00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:22,320 Speaker 1: going south. But you know what, we're all going in 665 00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:25,440 Speaker 1: a direction, as long as you're going in a direct, 666 00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:28,920 Speaker 1: as you're going in a direction, all right. This is 667 00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:31,480 Speaker 1: from an anonymous listener who says, I'm a long time listener, 668 00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:33,640 Speaker 1: first time emailers, So I really hope you can read 669 00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:37,000 Speaker 1: this email. My boyfriend of almost three years this proposing soon, 670 00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,440 Speaker 1: and I'm worried because I think I know when I've 671 00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:42,000 Speaker 1: told him. I wanted to be a surprise, but I 672 00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:43,880 Speaker 1: think he's so excited. These kind of brought it up, 673 00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,239 Speaker 1: but as slightly hinted as to when, at least I 674 00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:48,800 Speaker 1: think that's what he was doing. Do I just forget 675 00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:51,040 Speaker 1: the movie? Like ideal I had in my head that 676 00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:53,960 Speaker 1: I would be shocked during my proposal? Will I still be? 677 00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:57,040 Speaker 1: Since like I don't really know exactly what it's going 678 00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,640 Speaker 1: to be. I feel like nowadays maybe that doesn't even 679 00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:02,880 Speaker 1: happen that much. We're very open about getting married and engaged. 680 00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,879 Speaker 1: I helped choose the ring. I love him so much 681 00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:07,839 Speaker 1: and I want to be surprised, but I also don't 682 00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:09,920 Speaker 1: want to let him down that I figured out when 683 00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:15,359 Speaker 1: it will be m iem like a good problem to have. Yeah, 684 00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:19,720 Speaker 1: the Champagne problems for everything's going just how you wanted 685 00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:23,080 Speaker 1: to go itself. But I will say she she really 686 00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:26,480 Speaker 1: hit on something that is, like, um, something that I've 687 00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:28,239 Speaker 1: had to deal with a law in therapy, and that 688 00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:31,800 Speaker 1: is getting rid of that fairy tale expectation that you 689 00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:34,200 Speaker 1: have in your head of whatever it may be X 690 00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:38,400 Speaker 1: y Z. Because I had that fairy tale expectation in 691 00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:41,600 Speaker 1: my head for my whole life. You know, I thought 692 00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:43,279 Speaker 1: there was going to be a prince charming on a 693 00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:44,920 Speaker 1: white horse and he was gonna have the exact same 694 00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:46,719 Speaker 1: slipper that was going to fit my foot, and like 695 00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:52,040 Speaker 1: it was. It is this unrealistic expectation of how things 696 00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:55,040 Speaker 1: should be in life. Just isn't that way, do you 697 00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:58,000 Speaker 1: know what I mean? Life is not this unrealistic expectation 698 00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:01,000 Speaker 1: movie fairy tale. It is in so many ways and 699 00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:04,200 Speaker 1: it's bliss and it's amazing. But sometimes things life doesn't 700 00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:07,360 Speaker 1: always turn out the way that you expect. And I 701 00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:10,000 Speaker 1: think everybody in this room can agree to that in 702 00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:13,320 Speaker 1: every way, shape or form, whether it's career, whether it's friendships, 703 00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:16,680 Speaker 1: whether it's romantic relationships. You know, like They're all these 704 00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:18,759 Speaker 1: expectations that we have that we put in ourselves that 705 00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:22,440 Speaker 1: just are unrealistic, and so I think that coming to 706 00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:26,319 Speaker 1: terms with that reality is so beneficial for your mental health. 707 00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:28,680 Speaker 1: It's just like something that I wrapped my head around 708 00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:30,239 Speaker 1: a while, like a year or two ago, and I 709 00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:33,759 Speaker 1: was like, you know what, my journey and and it's 710 00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:35,600 Speaker 1: going to be a little different than I had imagined 711 00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:38,200 Speaker 1: for myself, but it's equally as amazing, and like the 712 00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,920 Speaker 1: challenges make it that much better in the long run. 713 00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:46,040 Speaker 1: So I'd say, just get rid of that expectation in 714 00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:49,760 Speaker 1: your head. I think when the moment happens, it sounds 715 00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:52,640 Speaker 1: like you've been anticipating it for a while. Now we've 716 00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:54,120 Speaker 1: been helped to pick out the ring, you're going to 717 00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:57,239 Speaker 1: just be so excited that you're engaged. And I'm in 718 00:38:57,280 --> 00:39:00,160 Speaker 1: the same boat as you, girl. I think you're going to, like, 719 00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:03,880 Speaker 1: I think all these things that you're like in your 720 00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:06,080 Speaker 1: head about are going to totally fly out the window, 721 00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:07,759 Speaker 1: and you're gonna be like, why did I even spend 722 00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:10,759 Speaker 1: my energy or time worrying about this. You're in a 723 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:15,200 Speaker 1: really good place to pick out the beautiful ring you 724 00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:18,400 Speaker 1: want with the man that you're like, even though I 725 00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,120 Speaker 1: don't know exactly when it's coming, Like I don't I 726 00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:24,520 Speaker 1: don't know how pinpointed the day or whatever, I feel 727 00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:28,719 Speaker 1: like it is coming and I don't feel like it's 728 00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:31,279 Speaker 1: ruined at all because I know that it's coming. Yeah, 729 00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:32,800 Speaker 1: you're just like ready for it to get here, so 730 00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:36,160 Speaker 1: ready for it. You know, nails are popping. She's ready 731 00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,560 Speaker 1: at any moment, just ready, you know, just living in 732 00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:43,800 Speaker 1: that state of ready. But already. I think, no matter what, 733 00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:45,440 Speaker 1: even if you do, even if she knows it's going 734 00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:50,080 Speaker 1: to happen Tuesday at seven pm on whatever, you're gonna 735 00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:55,919 Speaker 1: be anxiously awaiting, being excited and like, yeah, it's gonna 736 00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:58,279 Speaker 1: be gonna be fantastic. You'll pick out the ring. You 737 00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:01,080 Speaker 1: weren't going to be that excited surprised in the first place. 738 00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:02,920 Speaker 1: That's great, Just go with it, have a great time. 739 00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:05,400 Speaker 1: It's okay. Yeah, at least you're gonna like the ring. 740 00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:08,200 Speaker 1: I've talked to some friends who didn't necessarily like the 741 00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:10,279 Speaker 1: ring that they got proposed to with, So at least 742 00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,719 Speaker 1: you know you know what you're getting. At least you 743 00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:14,440 Speaker 1: know what you're getting when you're getting it. When you're 744 00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:17,279 Speaker 1: getting in. Oh, I was gonna ask you, this is 745 00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:21,160 Speaker 1: following up from something else. Did you like Bad Sisters? Yes, 746 00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:23,600 Speaker 1: it got a little snoozy in the middle, a little 747 00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:26,080 Speaker 1: bit like there was like an episode two were like interesting, 748 00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:30,880 Speaker 1: but I loved it the ending, Yes, unexpected. Is he 749 00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:33,600 Speaker 1: not the most infuriating character that you've in the world? 750 00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:39,359 Speaker 1: I cannot imagine has anyone else watched it? Very good, 751 00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:41,799 Speaker 1: very recommend Before we go, I did want to send 752 00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:44,880 Speaker 1: a big congratulations, a big scrubbing in congratulations to our 753 00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:53,320 Speaker 1: OSCAR nominated Sophia Carson. So congrats to her. Congrats to 754 00:40:53,400 --> 00:41:00,359 Speaker 1: her everyone. Tania's book, The Sunshine Mine comes out tomorrow. Um, 755 00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:05,360 Speaker 1: we're so proud of you. She sent me some of 756 00:41:05,440 --> 00:41:10,400 Speaker 1: her vision boards from over the years that predicted this moment. Now, 757 00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,680 Speaker 1: some of them are a stretch, but one of them 758 00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:17,040 Speaker 1: from so wait, you know what, that's three years ago now, 759 00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:21,799 Speaker 1: It said New York Times bestselling author Tanya at right 760 00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:23,760 Speaker 1: there on the vision board. You can't be any clearer 761 00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:25,879 Speaker 1: than that. And here we go. I know. I sent 762 00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:30,280 Speaker 1: him a couple of stretches because to share the stretches. 763 00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,880 Speaker 1: One was Carrie Bradshaw was on her vision board and 764 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:40,359 Speaker 1: Terry Bradshaw is an author. Yes, okay, whatever, right here. 765 00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:45,080 Speaker 1: One was the words sparkle and shine where it was 766 00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:47,760 Speaker 1: on the vision board and it is the sunshine mind 767 00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:54,720 Speaker 1: and seen the word light was on her vision board. 768 00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:59,239 Speaker 1: So really that was a direct work in the work 769 00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,840 Speaker 1: since twenties sixteen. You didn't know what it was, but 770 00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:05,080 Speaker 1: you knew the feeling light, the sparkle, the shine was 771 00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:08,040 Speaker 1: coming through Carrie Bradshaw Vibes, which is an author to 772 00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:10,759 Speaker 1: the New York Times best selling book The Sunshine Mine. 773 00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:13,160 Speaker 1: There we go, There we go. Yeah, those are some stretches, 774 00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:16,120 Speaker 1: but I appreciate that per at least you had like 775 00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:20,480 Speaker 1: a legit one. Yeah, yeah, yeah, thank you. Um that's 776 00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:22,960 Speaker 1: all for today, folks. We love you, We love you. 777 00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:26,120 Speaker 1: A great week, and we'll be back next Monday.