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Speaker 1: Second date of date. Sometimes with a bad first date,

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Speaker 1: say that was it, That was where I messed everything up? Yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: For me, each date has about fourteen of those. Is

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Speaker 1: it when I did the full reenactment of the movie

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Speaker 1: Garden State? Was that it's you? Or was it when

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Speaker 1: my zipper got caught in the sushi conveyor belt? How

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Speaker 1: I still don't you know too much? Well? One of

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Speaker 1: our listeners says that she knows that she made a

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Speaker 1: That's why she's asking for our help. Her name's Jessica. Jessica,

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the show. Hey guys, Jica. Before you let

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Speaker 1: us know, I just want to say, sometimes it's good

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Speaker 1: to only have one giant bad thing go wrong, because

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Speaker 1: at least went wrong. Yeah. Did you have a sushi

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Speaker 1: conveyor belt incident too? There was no sushi involved. Good

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Speaker 1: tragedy avoided. What happened with this guy what's his name?

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Speaker 1: How I went out with Vince? Kay? Okay? And how

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Speaker 1: do you know Vince? How'd you guys meet? It was

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Speaker 1: online so it was kind of you know, like a

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Speaker 1: It was it was it was nice. We had a

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Speaker 1: really good vibe and all right, well we'll play a song,

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Speaker 1: we'll come back. We should hear more about it. Huh.

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Speaker 1: I mean were you were you shocked that it was

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Speaker 1: accidentally double booked myself that night, oh like with another

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Speaker 1: another date. Oh girl, Sosa why too in the same night.

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Speaker 1: I just figured we'd we'd eat and we're like, okay, thanks,

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Speaker 1: Because that's kind of been my experience. Was Vince aware

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Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, I'm so sorry, I gotta go.

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Speaker 1: And I then mote him some money for the like

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Speaker 1: gotten there. Yeah, but like you didn't let him like

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Speaker 1: which is feels it like business tripsactioning right. Yeah. And

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Speaker 1: And the thing is, I'm guessing the second date went

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Speaker 1: what happened with guy number two? Yeah? Guy number two

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Speaker 1: I don't know. If you tell him the truth, it

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Speaker 1: don't know. I don't want to date to leave me

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Speaker 1: for another day. Yeah, I mean nobody would. But do

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Speaker 1: we have to tell him that part? No, that's why

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Speaker 1: extra dance and the other guys could match up to Vince.

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Speaker 1: They were all rich and famous, that's right, and Vince

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Speaker 1: was better than all of them. We're gonna play a song,

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Speaker 1: get your second date up date. Okay, Jessica, all right,

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Speaker 1: all right, hold on second date. You know, the saying

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Speaker 1: is nice guys finished last. Yeah, but that's not always true.

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Speaker 1: Sorry for the low glow there, Jessica, but that is

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Speaker 1: what she did to a great dude that she was

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Speaker 1: know showed Yeah, any thing is Jeffrey. If you liked

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Speaker 1: Vince Moore, you would have booked his date second. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: him first. She went in with those low expectations, so Jessica,

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Speaker 1: I want you to know we are going to try

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Speaker 1: we have another phone call book with a possibly better

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Speaker 1: make this quick. Okay, all right, well really really please

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Speaker 1: if we can not tell him about the other date, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: so why did you leave? Then, I mean we're going

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Speaker 1: to have to tell him something family emergency, right like

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Speaker 1: He doesn't have to know those he fails. Yeah, okay, well,

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Speaker 1: what's the detail? Grandpa's sick? Like she said she didn't

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Speaker 1: what if he asks, like, oh my god, family emergency?

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Speaker 1: Is everyone? Okay? What do we say business? Okay? Talk

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Speaker 1: about my family? Yeah? All right, all right, we'll get defensive.

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Speaker 1: We're aggressive, vague aggressive. All right, We're ready. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: dial Vince's phone number, try and get your second date update.

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Speaker 1: Here we go, Hello, Hey, is this Vince? This is him?

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Speaker 1: Who's this Evans? My name is Jeff from a morning

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Speaker 1: radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. What's

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Speaker 1: up was awkward silence. I freaked out. Okay, we're all here,

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Speaker 1: what's going on. Great, it's a segment, yea, it is

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Speaker 1: an awkward segment that we do. It's called a second

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Speaker 1: date update. We're calling on behalf of one of our

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Speaker 1: listeners who went out on a date with you. Her

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Speaker 1: name's Jessica. Oh yeah, Jessica. Okay, she really liked you really. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: really have a choice family emergency. Um okay, yeah, I

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Speaker 1: and I had asked him, like, you know, why don't

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Speaker 1: That doesn't help trust is shoes. She wants to talk

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Speaker 1: whole thing. Yeah, don't you trust her now? She's right there? Jessica, Hi, awkward? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: how's it going, Jessica? Not great? I feel really bad

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Speaker 1: There's so much on both sides. Like I think you

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Speaker 1: I'm just too much. I'm not embarrassed at all what

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Speaker 1: canceled it, whatever you chose to do that that's totally fine.

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Speaker 1: You were set up. I know that's a little embarrassing,

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Speaker 1: You're already cutting it off now, I can totally appreciate that,

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Speaker 1: was like, cool, maybe Vince is still down, Maybe I

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Speaker 1: can fix this. You guys are both making it. That's

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Speaker 1: He was like, I'm sorry if I set you up

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Speaker 1: I told him I needed to go. I didn't owe

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Speaker 1: Jessica that his friend was hotter. Yeah, and it wasn't

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Speaker 1: at least learn an important life lesson from it all? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Online dating is a waste of time. Close. This show

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Speaker 1: is a waste of time. But you know, thanks for

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Speaker 1: playing Broke and Jeffrey in the morning. You know, sometimes

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Speaker 1: it up to a bad day. That was definitely this

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Speaker 1: like just marry her friend, marry his friend, go all

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Speaker 1: his face up on the altar. That's kind of weird

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Speaker 1: how specific you're thinking the ship sinking again. Get off

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Speaker 1: the ship, jeff I'm jumping overboard. Anyway. If you ever

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