1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:03,440 Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, we gotta for you, straw buletta. 2 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: Thanks now. Subject variety is the spice of life, right, 3 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:12,200 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I met a guy that I thought 4 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: would be the man of my dreams when we first met. 5 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:17,440 Speaker 1: He's a man of God and he would be a 6 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 1: great father and husband to the right woman. But that 7 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 1: woman is not me. I have a very high sex 8 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: drive and this guy can't keep up, so I lost 9 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,320 Speaker 1: interest in him and we broke up. He still takes 10 00:00:30,360 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 1: me out and very nice dates, and he visits me 11 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:35,279 Speaker 1: in my family every week and hopes that we might 12 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: get back together. In the meantime. I'm not another guy, 13 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: and he's willing and able to fulfill my sexual needs, 14 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: but that is about it. I would not consider him 15 00:00:45,760 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: as boyfriend material. He's more of a side piece type 16 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:51,440 Speaker 1: of guy. I was honest with my main guy and 17 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 1: told him about my side piece. The main guy says 18 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 1: he loves me, but for us to continue to date, 19 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 1: I have to let the side yes go. So here's 20 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:04,679 Speaker 1: my big issue. To be honest, I actually enjoy having 21 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:08,479 Speaker 1: two guys no one um uh, one that I can 22 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,399 Speaker 1: go out on dates with and the other one that 23 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:15,559 Speaker 1: I can just have wild sex with whenever I want. Yes, 24 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:17,960 Speaker 1: I want my cake and eat it too. I don't 25 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,400 Speaker 1: want to lose my main guy or the side piece, 26 00:01:20,440 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: so I'm trying to figure out how to make it work. 27 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 1: Men do it, so why can't I? Until I am 28 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: really ready to settle down? Variety is a spice of life, right, 29 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,759 Speaker 1: So what should I do? Hey, you're single? Right? Listen? 30 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 1: Who am I to judge? Okay? Do you boo? Uh? 31 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: No one has ever said that men are the only 32 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:42,039 Speaker 1: ones who can't be players. Men and women, Yes, women 33 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:45,480 Speaker 1: do it every single day. The difference here is though, 34 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: that you told you're you know, you're a so called 35 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: main guy about your side piece. That usually doesn't happen. 36 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,480 Speaker 1: Guys usually don't tell, They just lie, you know, and 37 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 1: asked about cheating and stuff. So, um, you know, that's 38 00:01:57,480 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: a little different for you to just be so transparent 39 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:03,240 Speaker 1: and about it. I'm shocked that you're your guy is 40 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: still hanging in there with you, quite frankly, knowing all 41 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: of this. Um, but he did give you an ultimatum, 42 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:12,679 Speaker 1: you know, choose the other guy or him. So I mean, 43 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,799 Speaker 1: you do what you want. It's your life, Um, you're 44 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:18,359 Speaker 1: you're you're single. You know you've heard the saying it's 45 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 1: a double standard. Women can't do what men doing all that, Um, 46 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: it's your life. I'm not judging you on this one. 47 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: I'm really not Do what you do. Whatever you want 48 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 1: to do and see how it works out for you. 49 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 1: If it's going so far, so good, then keep doing it. 50 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: You're probably young anyway. You didn't get give your age, 51 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 1: do you, boo? Steve. Yeah, well I'm judge because you 52 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: wrote in here. You must want to be judged. So 53 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: this is strawberry Letta. We judge, We give our opinions 54 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: on it, whether you like it or not. If you 55 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: didn't want it, you wouldn't have wrote in Now. If 56 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: you're gonna just do you do you boot, then what's 57 00:02:55,840 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: the damn Letta folk? Just gonna do you boo? But 58 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: that ain't what's going on. You really got a little 59 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 1: situation here. Let me walk you through it. Lady. I 60 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 1: thought it be you met this man. You thought he 61 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:12,640 Speaker 1: was a guy your dreams man and God be a 62 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:15,079 Speaker 1: great father and husband to the right woman. But that 63 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:17,800 Speaker 1: woman's not me, because see you got this high sex driving. 64 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 1: He just couldn't keep up with you. So you broke 65 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 1: up with the dude because he can't bring it airytime 66 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 1: you want it. Okay, Well, if you're gonna break up, 67 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:30,440 Speaker 1: you obviously ain't in love. So you know, Mike, we're 68 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:32,639 Speaker 1: gonna break up for something. Hell, it's either to add 69 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 1: him money, so you know, So you broke up with him, 70 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:40,640 Speaker 1: so damn. But here goes your problem. He didn't want 71 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 1: to drop it at that, so he kept coming back, 72 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 1: taking you out on wonderful dates. He visited you and 73 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 1: your family every week and hope so that we can 74 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 1: get back together. Now. He got feelings for you that 75 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 1: you ain't got for him. But in the meantime, you'dn't 76 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:58,640 Speaker 1: met another man willing to fulfill your sexual needs. But 77 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:02,600 Speaker 1: that's about it. In all words, you didn't met somebody 78 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: that's just bringing it. Come on frying that bacon, flipping 79 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: thedn't pancakes, bacon your beans, grilling you can't fish. Come 80 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:31,800 Speaker 1: on now, cleaning your chidling. Oh you remember you gott 81 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: a man. It is shocking your coin. Come on now. Yeah, 82 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:43,360 Speaker 1: he isn't here doing nothing. He peeling that potato. That's 83 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 1: what he's doing. That's what he's doing. You know what 84 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: he yeah, Yeah, that's what he's doing. He's a brothel. 85 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 1: You just put it in. He did get your juice back. 86 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 1: He ain't no man of God. He ain't no great father, 87 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:10,039 Speaker 1: ain't no good husband with Lord, have mercy. Whenever you wanted, 88 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: he got it for you. But it ain't got nothing 89 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:18,359 Speaker 1: else here, Barbie, cue you. But he ain't got money 90 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:24,039 Speaker 1: for charcoal and light of flu. Come on, now, he'll 91 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,719 Speaker 1: peel a potato, but you got to buy the sack. 92 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:32,800 Speaker 1: Come on now, I'm just I'm just telling it like 93 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: it is. Now, I'm honest with your main guy, and 94 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:45,799 Speaker 1: you told him about your side piece. Your main guys stupid, yep, weak, 95 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 1: lacking self confidence. He loves me, but for us to 96 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 1: continue to date, this is what your main guy said. 97 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 1: He loves me, but for y'all to continent in you 98 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: to date, I have to let the side piece go. 99 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 1: Then you said, So here's my big issue. I actually 100 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:11,480 Speaker 1: enjoy having two guys, one that I can go out 101 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 1: with on dates and other ones that I could just 102 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:17,160 Speaker 1: have wild sex with whatever I want. Yes, I want 103 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 1: my cake and eat it too. Everybody everybody won't take 104 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: cake and eat it too. Hell, I want my check 105 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:33,239 Speaker 1: and don't pay taxes. Amen? Can I get Amen? Amen? Hell, 106 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 1: I want to go to work and get paid three 107 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:43,239 Speaker 1: times when I'm making now hallelujah. Hell, I wish gas 108 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:50,360 Speaker 1: was free. Amen. You know what I'm saying. I wish 109 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: they had ice water in hell. Come on, and the 110 00:06:56,440 --> 00:07:02,200 Speaker 1: list goes on and on it. Don't nobody give a damn. 111 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:04,599 Speaker 1: But you want to have your cake and eat it too. 112 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:08,960 Speaker 1: This life you don't get to have your cake and 113 00:07:09,279 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 1: eat it too. And when we come back, I'm gonna 114 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:17,120 Speaker 1: put the nail in this coffin because it's one in there. 115 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 1: You in a coffin. I'm just gonna gonna put the 116 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 1: nail in it for you when we come back. Simple 117 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:25,679 Speaker 1: woman met where she thought was a man of her dreams. 118 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 1: Turns out she like wild sex all the time. He 119 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: can't keep up. She got mad, broke up with him, 120 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 1: but the man still coming around, trying to put the 121 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: relationship back together, gonna week kids with her families and everything, 122 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: but she just ain't having it. In the meantime, she'd 123 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: have met a side piece a thriller in Manila. She'd 124 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: met somebody who is designed like a shock is died, 125 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: designed to hunt in the water. He a killer, he 126 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 1: a trained killer. But all he can do is have sex. 127 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: He can't buy no room to have it sex. He 128 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:11,680 Speaker 1: ain't got the money for a bad room sex. He 129 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 1: can't pay the rent on the place to have a sex. 130 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 1: He can't wine and dine you to make you feel 131 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 1: good before you have sex. All he do is come 132 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:33,200 Speaker 1: in there with some sex. That's all he is. Jiggalow. Yeah, 133 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 1: so now you have a decision to make you stupid. 134 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:41,959 Speaker 1: Aston told your main guy that you got the side piece. 135 00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 1: He didn't told you he loved you. Still want to date, 136 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:49,680 Speaker 1: but you gotta let the side piece go. Then, to 137 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:52,640 Speaker 1: be honest, I actually like having two guys to go 138 00:08:52,640 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: out on date with and one that I can just 139 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: have wild sexual whenever I want to. Then she said, yes, 140 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:03,559 Speaker 1: I want my k get into everybody to do everybody do. Hell, 141 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:11,559 Speaker 1: I want the chilene without having to cleaner you. No, 142 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:14,200 Speaker 1: I was just fitting into this to this thing I'm doing. 143 00:09:14,679 --> 00:09:16,600 Speaker 1: I don't really need childless no more. But when I 144 00:09:16,679 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: did though, Yeah, I'm vegan right now. Let's see how 145 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: long this is. Now here's a problem. I don't want 146 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: to lose my main guy or the side piece. So 147 00:09:31,960 --> 00:09:34,080 Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out how to make it work. 148 00:09:34,559 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: Here's where she wrong. Men do it, So why can't 149 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:43,880 Speaker 1: I Until I'm ready to settle down? Variety is the 150 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: spice of life, right, So what should I do? Well, 151 00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 1: here's a deal. Here's your whole problem. If you think 152 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 1: variety is a spice of life, but you said it 153 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: until you're ready to settle down, Well, you're not ready 154 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: to settle down. That's why you can't see the good 155 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 1: in the first man, because you're not ready to settle down. 156 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 1: All this is a waste of me in Sherley's time. 157 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 1: You're not ready to settle down. You want to have 158 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 1: multiple partners. Your only problem is when you get ready 159 00:10:16,040 --> 00:10:20,560 Speaker 1: to settle down, the best guy gonna be gone because 160 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: another woman is ready to settle down. And when she 161 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 1: meet him, he gonna be gone, and his loving gonna 162 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 1: be just enough, and he gonna get better at his 163 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 1: love in any way, he gonna get better at that. 164 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 1: He gonna learn how to you know, put it together. 165 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:38,679 Speaker 1: Really yeah, he can be taught, you know. Hold up, 166 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 1: let me let me just say that. A lot of 167 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:43,080 Speaker 1: times women, you know, when a man ain't a pleasing 168 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 1: to your own. Oh, let's just talk about it. Now. 169 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:53,720 Speaker 1: Maybe you ain't Hello, maybe you ain't all you think 170 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:57,200 Speaker 1: you he is. Well, let's just talk about it. Don't 171 00:10:57,200 --> 00:10:59,440 Speaker 1: be half for men that they never been like, you know, 172 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:02,959 Speaker 1: he ain't nothing. Well, maybe you two damn much when 173 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: she said that, that's the problem. You know, he's small. 174 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:13,439 Speaker 1: You ever thought that you was big? M No, that 175 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:18,320 Speaker 1: is about all right? All right, let me let me rephrase. Okay, 176 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: so now let's just talk about it. You know what 177 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 1: I'm saying, he might not be all that, but you 178 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 1: might not either. Hello, Hello, maybe you ain't that hot 179 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:37,480 Speaker 1: five cracker? You thank you all yea, thank you for 180 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:40,719 Speaker 1: saying that. Man. No, you're welcome, jay man. Some men 181 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 1: have been disappointed. Yes, thank you. Hell yeah, yeah, he 182 00:11:45,400 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 1: wasn't what I thought it was gonna be. What hell 183 00:11:47,559 --> 00:11:50,079 Speaker 1: when you took your clothes off, I wasn't all that, 184 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: you know, moved didn't buy this anyway. So now we 185 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:02,440 Speaker 1: so we so we both standing that offended. What you're 186 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:04,199 Speaker 1: looking at me like I ain't all that, and I'm 187 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 1: looking at you like you ain't all that. This is 188 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 1: not about you. This has nothing to do with you. Now, 189 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 1: this has to do with this letter, we could have, 190 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 1: but we could she could have this problem again. Yeah. 191 00:12:16,480 --> 00:12:18,679 Speaker 1: See so a lot of times when you blame it 192 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:21,679 Speaker 1: men for not being this. This guy she described in 193 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 1: the beginning to the letter, was a good many. Now 194 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, he don't have wild sex like 195 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: I want to. Maybe you too, damn wild she is. 196 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:40,320 Speaker 1: Everybody don't want to get whipped? Wait what it is 197 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 1: in the letter? It says I have a very high 198 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 1: sex drive. That's in the top of the letter being whipped. 199 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:52,440 Speaker 1: Then she says I can go on dates with other 200 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 1: ones that I can just she said, to be honest, 201 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:58,000 Speaker 1: I can actually enjoy having to guys one I can 202 00:12:58,000 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: go out on dates with and the other one that 203 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:04,559 Speaker 1: I could just had wild sex with. See. Wow, that's 204 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:09,360 Speaker 1: not standard. That's why it could be whipping or what 205 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:12,200 Speaker 1: else could it be? Every Man don't like hot wax. 206 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 1: Everybody love for yourself. I want everybody don't like getting 207 00:13:21,080 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 1: bit on the side and they stomach don't don't nipple 208 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 1: the side of my stomach. That ain't fun. Thank you. 209 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:31,800 Speaker 1: I said something. I don't like clothes fins and they 210 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 1: don't go there. Now that's wild. Yep, what you got 211 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 1: see you're on the side of their stomach is pretty wild. 212 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:50,320 Speaker 1: I don't like none of that, you know. I don't 213 00:13:50,320 --> 00:13:55,320 Speaker 1: want no feather on my but I don't like yourself 214 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:05,240 Speaker 1: feather O my bootis what. I don't want a feather 215 00:14:05,480 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 1: oh my booty. On that note, we have to go okay. 216 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:18,120 Speaker 1: You can email us or instagram us your thoughts on 217 00:14:18,280 --> 00:14:21,880 Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey f M coming up 218 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:26,520 Speaker 1: and learn from this letter? She too? Damn? Why do 219 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 1: you bow? Who cares? You're listening to the Steve Harvey 220 00:14:30,560 --> 00:14:31,160 Speaker 1: Morning Show.