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Speaker 3: This is the Reform Sports Project, a podcast about restoring

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Speaker 3: healthy balance and perspective in all areas of sports through

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Speaker 3: education and advocacy. Hi, this is Nick moncor from the

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Speaker 3: Reform Sports Podcast. Today, I'm speaking with Seth Davis, senior

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Speaker 3: writer for The Athletic covering college basketball and studio analysts

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Speaker 3: for CBS. Prior to joining The Athletic, Seth worked as

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Speaker 3: a writer for Sports Illustrator for twenty two years. The

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Speaker 3: author of six books, including New York Times bestseller Wooden,

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Speaker 3: A Coach's Life, Seth was recently inducted into the US

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Speaker 3: Basketball Writers' Associations Hall of Fame. Seth and I discussed

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Speaker 3: and now playing a sport in college significantly changes your

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Speaker 3: college experience. Seth Davis, Man, I can't thank you enough

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Speaker 3: for hopping on bro. This has been something I've been

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Speaker 3: looking forward to when we finally make the time. You're a

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Speaker 1: Well you're pretty busy too, but I appreciate your your

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Speaker 2: So I appreciate you chasing me down. I'm happy to

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Speaker 3: Well, I appreciate you, man. And we're talking youth sports,

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Speaker 3: athletic development, kind of everything in between. I know you're

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Speaker 3: and you know, I would love to start here, Seth.

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Speaker 1: gravitate towards towards that coach, and I'm very appreciative of

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Speaker 1: that coach.

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Speaker 3: You know, you made a great point where you're talking

441
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Speaker 3: about I know you're around a lot of high level athletes.

442
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Speaker 3: I've interviewed hundreds of folks and some of the highest

443
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Speaker 3: level coaches and athletes as well. And and you know,

444
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Speaker 3: sometimes there's genetics, man, there's there's God given ability. There

445
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Speaker 3: are there's certain things that some people possess and others don't.

446
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Speaker 3: But that doesn't mean kids can't extract families can't extract

447
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Speaker 3: such valuable things that can take them, you know, and

448
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Speaker 3: serve them throughout life. Which is why I have my

449
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Speaker 3: kids and want them to play sports and be a

450
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Speaker 3: part of things, to learn those things. And and as

451
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Speaker 3: a parent, I don't want to take away those teachable moments, right,

452
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Speaker 3: I mean, like you mentioned getting benched, like there's a

453
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Speaker 3: lot to be learned in that. You know, if my kids,

454
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Speaker 3: you know, frustrate, how come I'm not playing, like, go

455
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Speaker 3: talk to your coach, ask them, And of course you

456
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Speaker 3: would assume the coach is going to be willing to

457
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Speaker 3: have that conversation let the kid know what he needs

458
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Speaker 3: to do to get better. At the same time, as

459
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Speaker 3: a parent, how can I if the coach is being

460
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Speaker 3: communicative and having an open door policy and keep the

461
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Speaker 3: lines of communication open. What are things that I can do?

462
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Speaker 3: Is because a lot of people like to point the

463
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Speaker 3: finger at the coach too, This coach sucks my kids

464
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Speaker 3: not playing, YadA, YadA, YadA. I think you know, parents

465
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Speaker 3: can get a little overly emotional. Rightfully, so those are

466
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Speaker 3: our kids. But how can we be an ally to

467
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Speaker 3: the coach while still you know, it's it's hard at

468
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Speaker 3: times to keep the perspective of the long term right.

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Speaker 3: No one likes to see their kids struggling or be sad,

470
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Speaker 3: But isn't there so much value in that struggle for

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Speaker 3: the long term? And can you speak on maybe some

472
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Speaker 3: of your own personal experience as you know, maybe someone

473
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Speaker 3: who played sports in your own life and also as

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Speaker 3: a parent.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's a tremendous value in that, and

476
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Speaker 1: that's why I want my kid playing sports. You know,

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Speaker 1: I mentioned my son being a goalie, and two of

478
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Speaker 1: my three sons were goalies.

479
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Speaker 2: And when my middle one started, I said, look.

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Speaker 1: You want to be a goalie, great, you'll play goalie.

481
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Speaker 1: We'll get your trainers. Like I'm all in, I'll be supportive.

482
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Speaker 1: Don't play goalie unless you can handle being scored on,

483
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Speaker 1: because most kids.

484
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Speaker 2: Can't handle it.

485
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Speaker 1: And if you're gonna play goalie, you're gonna get scored

486
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Speaker 1: on a lot. And he's been a goalie all his life.

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Speaker 1: And he's an incredible kid.

488
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Speaker 2: I'm so proud of him. And he's tough.

489
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Speaker 1: He sticks right in there, you know, and it's built

490
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Speaker 1: his confidence. He's learned that, you know, failure is not

491
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Speaker 1: a destination. So there is great value in that. I mean,

492
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Speaker 1: what I would say is and I'm saying this, and

493
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Speaker 1: all do humility, like coaches love me because and my

494
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Speaker 1: wife I'll get for a lot of credit because we don't.

495
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Speaker 1: And we've had some tough conversations with coaches. We don't

496
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Speaker 1: come at them about, hey, we need to do what's

497
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Speaker 1: best for my kid. Like I don't go to a

498
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Speaker 1: coach you need to do this, you need to do that.

499
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Speaker 1: I go to a coach saying I understand where you're

500
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Speaker 1: coming from, and you have my full support. You want

501
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Speaker 1: to bench him, you want to coach him up, you

502
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Speaker 1: want it. Whatever you want to say to him. Like

503
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Speaker 1: I said earlier, Nick, I just.

504
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Speaker 2: Asked that you communicate.

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Speaker 1: First of all, tell me what is the situation, Like,

506
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Speaker 1: are you going to cut them at the end of

507
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Speaker 1: the year.

508
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Speaker 2: Do we need to start finding another team. I understand

509
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Speaker 2: that that's the case. Just be honest with me. And

510
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Speaker 2: so that's really all that I ever ask.

511
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Speaker 1: And I find that when I've had these conversations with coaches,

512
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Speaker 1: and it takes a lot for me to want to.

513
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Speaker 2: Step in Nick, because I was like, Hey, you.

514
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Speaker 1: Got a problem with the to my son, you got

515
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Speaker 1: a problem with the coach, You go talk to the coach.

516
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Speaker 2: I'm not talking. I'm not playing for them. I don't care.

517
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Speaker 1: I got better things to do. I could be on

518
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Speaker 1: a beach right now, right, you go talk to him.

519
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Speaker 2: It takes a lot from me to reach out to coach.

520
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Speaker 2: I need to talk about the situation, and.

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Speaker 1: When I do, I have got and I don't want

522
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Speaker 1: to say on self of grandizing.

523
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Speaker 2: I'm just telling you the truth. Nick.

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Speaker 1: I have gotten many comments from coaches and teachers and

525
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Speaker 1: camp counselors because they go to summer camp thanking me

526
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Speaker 1: for my approach, because I'm not coming at them saying it's.

527
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Speaker 2: Your job to do it's best for my kid.

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Speaker 1: I've come at them saying, I know it's your job

529
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Speaker 1: to do it's best for you, and so let's talk

530
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Speaker 1: about what's best for everybody, and let's just, like I say,

531
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Speaker 1: be honest. And so we've generally had good experiences when

532
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Speaker 1: it's gotten to that level.

533
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Speaker 2: I want to pivot to.

534
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Speaker 1: Something about because I know what kind of coming to

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Speaker 1: the end of this. And I'm saying this as many

536
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Speaker 1: people as I can, because one thing that we haven't

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Speaker 1: talked about I know is a huge thing for you.

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Speaker 1: I see your social media presence is specialization. And so

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Speaker 1: to me, obviously this economic model for these clubs they

540
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Speaker 1: need twelve month commitments, and I understand that.

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Speaker 2: I understand that's a business. I understand that's overhead. You

542
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Speaker 2: got to hire people, you got to pay people, blah

543
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Speaker 2: blah blah.

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Speaker 1: But it is doing our kids a huge disservice. Look

545
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Speaker 1: at what's happening to these NBA players. They can't even

546
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Speaker 1: play a full season. They got to take off a

547
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Speaker 1: few games at a time because they've.

548
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Speaker 2: Spent their whole lives. Talk about Zach Edy at Purdue.

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Speaker 1: Here's a seven to four kid who moves well because

550
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Speaker 1: he's from Canada, and he didn't play basketball till he

551
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Speaker 1: was like fifteen years old. He played hockey, and he

552
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Speaker 1: played baseball. He was a baseball pager, and so he

553
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Speaker 1: played everything, and his parents wanted him to play everything.

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Speaker 1: So therefore, Nick, I propose, and I'm relying on you

555
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Speaker 1: to be the first to do this. I think there

556
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Speaker 1: is huge money to be made in the following club model. Ready,

557
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Speaker 1: this is a it's club sports it is now, but

558
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Speaker 1: instead of one sport, it's multi sport.

559
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Speaker 2: So we're going to have a group of whatever it.

560
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Speaker 1: Is, fifteen to twenty twelve year olds. We're going to

561
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Speaker 1: play soccer in the fall, we're going to play basketball

562
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Speaker 1: in the winter, and we're going to play baseball in

563
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Speaker 1: the spring. And for each season, we're gonna have coaches

564
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Speaker 1: who are coaching in that sport and we're going to

565
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Speaker 1: play those games, and we're gonna play in tournaments and

566
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Speaker 1: we're going to compete.

567
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Speaker 2: And then come winter time, we're.

568
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Speaker 1: Going to put away the soccer cleats and we're going

569
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Speaker 1: to bring out the sneakers and we're going to play

570
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Speaker 1: basketball and start a whole industry of multi sport clubs.

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Speaker 1: It could be two sports, it could be different combinations.

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Speaker 2: It could be tennis and golf. Whatever it is where

573
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Speaker 2: you say, if you.

574
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Speaker 1: Come with our club, you're going to play multi sports.

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Speaker 2: What do you think can we get that gowner? Is

576
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Speaker 2: that two pie in the sky?

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Speaker 3: Seth. I'm gonna tell you, man, you're you're preaching to

578
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Speaker 3: the choir. And it's funny. Not only preaching to the choir.

579
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Speaker 3: You talked to him all the time. I talked to

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Speaker 3: Dabo Sweeney, Jim Calhoun, I mean, Tim Corbyn. I can't

581
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Speaker 3: tell you a coach doesn't love multi sport athletes. The

582
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Speaker 3: argument is that only the most elite athletes can be

583
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Speaker 3: good in every sport, so they have to see the kid.

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Speaker 3: That's what people who are against, you know, who are

585
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Speaker 3: pro specialization, will say, it's only the freaks who can

586
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Speaker 3: be good in every sport. And I'm like, that's not

587
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Speaker 3: the case.

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Speaker 1: But I've talked to doctor Dabos Sweeney a lot of

589
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Speaker 1: these football coaches.

590
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Speaker 2: Now, I will.

591
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Speaker 1: Say, at once you reach a certain age, I think

592
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Speaker 1: you know, sophomore, you know, I would say sophomore year.

593
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Speaker 2: Of high school. I agree with you're looking if you're

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Speaker 2: looking to be a D one athlete, Okay, now focus in.

595
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Speaker 1: But the point is that by that time your body

596
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Speaker 1: has developed so much better than all of the other

597
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Speaker 1: sophomores and juniors in high school. You know, I'm in

598
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Speaker 1: southern California and there's a huge volleyball presidence in our community,

599
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Speaker 1: and what these kids are doing to their bodies is

600
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Speaker 1: crazy and the injuries with it. But you know, it's like,

601
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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, you know all of this, So

602
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Speaker 1: I just think for a younger age, and you know what,

603
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Speaker 1: I think we underestimate parents.

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Speaker 2: I think a lot of parents are looking for that.

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Speaker 2: I think parents would like. In my case, the fact

606
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Speaker 2: is that there just.

607
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Speaker 1: Aren't enough wreck options for sports. And then also if

608
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Speaker 1: you want to be pretty good, like you know, my

609
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Speaker 1: kids would play you know, you know, flight one club soccer.

610
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Speaker 1: I mean they're okay, they're not they're not college but

611
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Speaker 1: you know, good high school varsity. But then they play

612
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Speaker 1: ayso and just dominate, which they love.

613
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Speaker 2: By the way. By all of this, in particularly love.

614
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Speaker 1: Showed up at the local rec league and you know,

615
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:46,120
Speaker 1: running circles around everybody, and that's great.

616
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Speaker 2: I love that for him, but at a certain level,

617
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Speaker 2: so you.

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Speaker 1: Know, I just think it's it's people like you getting

619
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Speaker 1: out there and explaining their parents like and again that's

620
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Speaker 1: the mentality of like at the age of nine, ten eleven,

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't.

622
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Speaker 2: Be thinking about total long term success in sports. You're

623
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Speaker 2: if you want your kid to.

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Speaker 1: Be a Division one athlete and he's ten years old,

625
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Speaker 1: and he's eleven years old, what you want most of

626
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 1: all is for that court or that field to be

627
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:17,360
Speaker 1: his happy place. You want him to go to practice

628
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:21,119
Speaker 1: with a smile on his face, seeing his friends, seeing whatever,

629
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Speaker 1: and running onto the field because.

630
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Speaker 2: He loves being there.

631
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Speaker 1: The competition and the drive and the skills and the

632
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,600
Speaker 1: strength and conditioning that can all come later.

633
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Speaker 2: But too often we go into early and.

634
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Speaker 1: It's not even at the end of the day there

635
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Speaker 1: because you will know, it's not even the physical toll,

636
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 1: it's the meth like they don't like it anymore, burned out.

637
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 1: How often do you see that, like he could have

638
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 1: been good, he's tires Sonker. Too much pressure, is too

639
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 1: much stress making the team every year, being yelled.

640
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 2: At how we're going to go to college. I'm like college,

641
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 2: I'm eleven. Yeah, you know, so we get you know,

642
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 2: it's parents do it out of love. I get that

643
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:54,600
Speaker 2: they want my best for their kids. I get that,

644
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,200
Speaker 2: but it's it gets very very much out of whack.

645
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Speaker 3: Seth. Where can people connect with I know you're on Twitter,

646
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 3: we're else. They want to find your stuff.

647
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 2: You know what.

648
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Speaker 1: My people want me to have a bear presence on Instagram.

649
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 1: My kids are all over me about TikTok. But I

650
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 1: guess I'm Analogum, I'm at Twitter. Seth Davis, hoops. That's

651
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:12,159
Speaker 1: where you and I found each other, and that's probably

652
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:13,199
Speaker 1: still the best way to find me.

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Speaker 3: I love it, man. Thank you for your time, brother.

654
00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 3: I appreciate, love your passion, love your work. Keep it up, man.

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