WEBVTT - “MY MOM OWES ME $40k” 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:04.840 Hello everybody, it's Lyle. Welcome to the Therapy Gecko podcast. 0:00:05.800 --> 0:00:08.039 Just really quick before we get into the episode, want 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:11.400 to remind everybody the tickets are currently on sale right 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:16.160 now at Therapy Gecko tour dot com for my upcoming 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:20.040 tour across America and a few cities in Canada. And 0:00:20.079 --> 0:00:24.320 we actually just added a show in a couple weeks 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:29.600 in Tokyo, Japan. So if you happen to be in Tokyo, 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:33.360 Japan on March twenty second, and you want to come 0:00:33.400 --> 0:00:36.479 to a live show, you can go to therapy geckotour 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:40.279 dot com and get tickets to that show. 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We just added that show. 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:29.280 It's in a couple of weeks, and I would love 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:36.759 to see some of the Tokyo Gecko listeners out there. Anyway, 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:42.199 Thanks for listening. Let's get into the episode. Hello, Hello, 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:43.080 what's up? 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:47.280 Oh my god, I'll holy shit. How you going? 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:52.280 How am I going? I'm going good man. You're from Australia, 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:54.400 from the accent and thew you go. 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:56.800 Yeah. 0:01:56.840 --> 0:01:59.960 I just wanted to say a couple of months ago, 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.880 my girlfriend messaged you on Instagram and asked you for 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:05.560 a birthday wish, and you sent a really nice message. 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:07.080 Oh what did I say that? 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:07.640 Out of breath? 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:10.320 I'm freaking out. I don't know you said your classic thing. 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:11.840 We're like, I hope you guys end up in the 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:14.120 Kingdom of Heaven together. I know you don't believe in 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:15.680 that Christianity, but I don't. 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:20.040 Know the Kingdom. I believe vaguely in a version of 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:23.440 the Kingdom of Heaven. Wait, this was a couple of 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:23.960 months ago. 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:27.520 Uh, yeah in October last year. 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:29.800 Oh cool, cool, cool. 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:31.799 You said you were like on the subway or something. 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:34.000 I mean, I never thought you'd get a response, and 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:36.520 she surprised me with it, which was crazy. I'm going 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:39.239 to save but no, it was really cool, dude. 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:42.520 I'm really I'm not that clouded up anymore. I'm just 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:47.840 like on the subway, just like us. Maybe I'm stoned, 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:51.320 and I'm like sometimes I'm stoned. Like I look at Instagram, right, 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:53.800 sometimes I'm stoned and I'll see like a message and 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:55.560 it's like, can you wish me a happy birthday? And 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:58.280 I'm just like, why the fuck wouldn't I do? Like, 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:00.520 why just do it? Why not? Why am I so? 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.560 Why am I being so precious about this? Let's just 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:05.560 do it? And so I do it? 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:07.720 I mean, yeah, you're a real fucking human being, you know, 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:09.120 you know, a cryan, not a. 0:03:11.000 --> 0:03:12.640 I appreciate you that. I appreciate it. 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:15.480 There, what's your what's your name? You told me already? 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:18.480 Finn again, Finn Finn. 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:25.000 Yeah, yeah, dude, I've been listening for like years. When 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:26.760 I when you came to Australia, I think it was 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:32.200 like twenty twenty three, Yeah, something like that. Yeah, dude, 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:33.840 I had been listening for like a year and a 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:35.960 bit and I was so mad. I was like, you 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:39.120 came about like just before I turned eighteen, so I 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:43.880 couldn't go. So I'm subscribed to all of the all 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:46.200 of the notifications. If you ever come back, I'll be 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:49.040 first one in line, hopefully cool. 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:51.840 I could see myself doing another Australia run at some point, 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:54.800 we'll see. It was all it's dude, that's that's the toughest. 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:57.800 Have you been to the States? 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:00.960 No, I'm maybe going on New Years. I got some 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:04.400 family over there, and I think Texas. 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:07.160 That's the shittiest. I was up until six o'clock in 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:10.960 the morning for like a week after I got back 0:04:10.960 --> 0:04:13.800 from that. That's definitely the worst jet lag place to 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:17.880 go to. But I liked. I liked Australia. Australia is 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:22.640 like if you combined, dude, you know what's crazy is Australia. 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:27.000 It's like it's like Americans pretty much, but it's like 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:29.679 all the fucking way over there. I have no idea 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:32.800 how Australia came to be. I mean, I guess it's 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:35.200 I mean, I guess similar how to I guess you guys. 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:37.080 You guys have kind of a similar history of America 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:39.839 right where it's like, you know, a bunch of white 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:42.839 people came over and like fucking killed a bunch of people. 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:44.960 And now there's Australia. 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:45.960 Yeah. 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:46.120 No. 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.640 The crazy thing about Australia is they literally sent over 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:50.880 like mostly convicts, so we just got a bunch of 0:04:50.920 --> 0:04:53.680 like I think it was England's shitty convicts and then 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:55.480 you know we did the classic thing where we you know, 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:59.640 destroy millions of years of culture obviously because so white 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:03.599 people what we do best. But no, we're a bunch 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:06.360 of convicts. But now Australia is like pretty like pretty 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:10.039 molly cultural, like I went to high school and yeah, 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:12.799 like honestly, it's it's like a lot of like Asian 0:05:12.800 --> 0:05:16.360 because we're like technically like Australasia, so like a lot 0:05:16.400 --> 0:05:19.080 of Asian influence pretty much. I mean I grew up 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:23.040 in a Greek neighborhood, but like Greek Asian a lot 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:25.200 of Islanders because you know we're right, yeah, next to 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:28.120 New Zealand and all of that ship. 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:32.240 Yeah, well yeah, because you guys are really close to 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:34.920 like Thailand and Southeast Asia and all that ship. 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:39.240 Yeah, I mean We've got the Pacific Islanders, which is 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:42.480 like Fiji, Papua New Guinea right above us, and yeah, Thailand, 0:05:42.560 --> 0:05:47.200 and we're like, like, honestly, most of most most Australians 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:49.680 go to like a Bali in Indonesia. 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:51.400 For cheap holidays. So if you got there, you got 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:52.159 you go to Bali. 0:05:52.160 --> 0:05:54.920 It's in the middle of Indonesia. It's mostly Australians on 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:57.159 like holiday and ship, which is kind of funny. 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:01.359 So, Finn, you texted me and you said, I would 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:04.039 like to talk about how my mom owes me forty 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:08.240 grand but it's too focused on her new boyfriend to 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:10.479 talk to me about it. What does that mean? 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:16.320 All right, Well, shit. 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:17.280 I haven't. 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:20.839 I've only told my girlfriend and obviously my family about this. 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:24.800 So basically, a long time. 0:06:24.600 --> 0:06:27.760 Ago, like I would have been about five and I'm 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:34.880 nineteen now, my auntie passed away and she left me 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:40.760 and my brother a sizable like will whatever. And basically 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:44.599 my mom when I was about sixteen, proposed to me 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:48.080 and my brother like, look, you know, the rent, rent 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:50.839 and housing market over here is just fucked and she 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:54.920 was like, look, we probably are going to want to 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:56.720 use it for house and you know, me being sixteen, 0:06:56.800 --> 0:07:01.039 I was like, you know, go for it. You know, 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:04.400 I'd rather my mum take that money than you know, 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:08.640 not have a house, because I'm a normal human being anyway. Also, 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:12.080 lemon off, you're going to blow down. I'm speaking really absoletely. 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:14.960 Please, you're doing you're doing, You're doing perfectly fine. 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:18.400 Yeah, Fastwood. 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:22.320 When I graduated high school, she well, I graduated high school, 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:25.200 I turned eighteen. I don't know if it's different in 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:28.240 Australia like I know in America. So I'm going off track. 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:30.400 In America, you're like twenty one to drink. I don't 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:32.520 know if you're eighteen, you're an adult in America. But 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:34.800 in Australia, when you're eighteen, you're like an adult. Like 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:39.360 you can drink, you can do all that stuff anyway, unimportant. 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:42.400 My mom's a teacher and when I turned eighteen, she 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:46.240 got a contract to go teach out in rural Australia. 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:49.040 Like it's an eleven hour drive from me and it's 0:07:49.080 --> 0:07:53.560 still in like the same state, which is weird. And yeah, 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:56.920 basically her and my little brother, my little brother's sixteen. 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:01.640 Shout out to him if he's listening, love you anyway, 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:05.480 and it was like, look, she was a single mother 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:09.520 a T shirt not you know, that's hard. And I 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:11.600 was like, look, if you need to go do that, 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:13.840 that's fine. I will take over the mortgage of the 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:18.200 current place with a couple of friends, the place that 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:22.640 she had used that forty grand to buy. Anyway, I'll 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:24.440 cut it short, I know, not trying to take up 0:08:24.440 --> 0:08:27.440 all your time. But yeah, she went out there. Things 0:08:27.520 --> 0:08:34.240 going great for her. She's dating this guy met through 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:37.920 the apps, as everyone does, and you know, she's a 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:41.160 single parent with my brother who's a bit troubled. 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:43.320 A lot of different ways. 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:47.440 But basically when she moved away, which was about which 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:50.040 was the end of twenty twenty four, for the first 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:53.360 six months, I would call her like, you know, most 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:55.480 weeks and we'd have like a thirty minute chat when 0:08:55.520 --> 0:09:00.640 I'm driving home from work. And then she started dating 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:04.280 the guy and I try to call her, but every 0:09:04.280 --> 0:09:07.600 time I've called her, it like goes through the voicemail 0:09:07.640 --> 0:09:10.000 and then I get angry, and then she tries to 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:11.720 call me back, and I'm like, oh, I'm a bit angry. 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:12.440 I won't pick up. 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:14.480 And then when she does pick up or I call 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:18.640 her back, she's like she'll talk for like five minutes max, 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:21.080 and then she's like, oh, I've got to go on 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:21.640 this trip. 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:22.200 Wait. 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:23.520 Oh no, she's like, oh, I'm busy. 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:25.920 Or I try to call her and she's like, sorry, 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:30.080 away on holiday because this guy's pretty pretty well off 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:32.760 and they go on a lot of like weekend trips. 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.880 And I think it's been a couple of months and 0:09:35.920 --> 0:09:40.480 I haven't talked to her about it, but I did 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:42.000 manage to get through to her one time, and I 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:44.240 was like, look, you know about that forty grand. 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:46.800 You know, I want to have. 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:49.600 A conversation about it, because it's obviously not no money, 0:09:49.920 --> 0:09:53.679 like I'm a I'm a university student, paying rent, you know, 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:55.280 all of that stuff. 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:57.160 It's you know, not not easy to do that. 0:09:58.800 --> 0:10:00.720 And I was like, look, if I could have some assistants, 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:03.280 that'd be great. I don't want I don't expect forty 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:05.439 grand in my bank account the next day because I'm 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:07.719 not an idiot, but you know, if we could work 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:10.800 something out. And that was about three months ago, and 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:15.439 I've gone through to her guess and both times she's like, look, 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:18.560 I just need another week. And kind of the reason 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:20.600 I wanted to talk to you was just because you know, 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:22.160 it's fucking it's the therapy, Get go. 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:23.160 I want to talk to the therapy. 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:23.480 Get go. 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:28.880 But also like it's becoming to a point with me 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:33.120 where my relationship with her is causing me a lot 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:36.760 of anger. And you know, I'm lucky to have an 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:39.000 amazing partner who I can talk to us about talk 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:46.880 about this with. But it's like, do I keep calling 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:52.520 her and keep getting angry and you know, feeling down 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:55.880 about my relationship with my mother? Just so with the 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:58.000 hope I can you know, have a good relationship one 0:10:58.040 --> 0:10:59.880 day and also get this forty grand back? Or is 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:03.680 it like it is causing a strain on me where 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:05.560 I just need to cut it off or take a 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:06.439 step back. 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:10.040 Or like you know, very very strongly worded email. 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:13.640 Okay, I'm trying to you know, forgive me. If you've 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:16.040 explained this, I'm trying to write my head around it. So, 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:21.840 your auntie passed away and left you and your sibling. 0:11:21.559 --> 0:11:24.960 Right, Yeah, me and my little brother. 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:28.679 You and your brother h forty grand collectively. 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:32.280 Forty grand each, so is about one hundred grand. But 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:35.719 you know we got twenty grand. You know you need 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:38.040 a laptop of school and your school bags and your 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:39.360 school fees and all that stuff. 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:43.800 So it was so legal, so legally, legally, legally, legally, 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:46.960 that forty grand is yours? Like what's the what's the 0:11:47.120 --> 0:11:50.440 legal standpoint on this? Right? Because if your mom like 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:55.240 what what's your mom doing? Is she like is she inte? 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:58.040 Is she stealing this money from you? Or is she 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:02.240 just like being too busy to give it to you? 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:05.040 Or like what's like, what's going on? Is why is she? 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:07.880 Why is it? Why? You said you were like, oh, 0:12:07.920 --> 0:12:09.480 I don't expect it to just appear in my bank 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:13.320 account instantly, And I'm like, wait, why she has it, 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:14.880 doesn't she? And it's yours? 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:17.599 Well she is? 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:19.800 Why why why shouldn't Why should it not appear your 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:20.800 bank account instantly? 0:12:22.800 --> 0:12:24.960 Well, it's I don't. 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:27.400 I definitely don't think she's the type of person to 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:29.920 be malicious about it, Like I don't. I don't think 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:32.320 she'd like hold it over my head or she would like, 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:35.520 you know, it's not a thing of oh I'm holding 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:37.680 this over your head or I'm like intentionally, I think 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:40.040 it is just a thing where she is like so 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:42.560 because she moved away, and you know, it has got 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:45.360 a whole new life now, and it's like she's so 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:49.160 deeply entrenched in her new life. And I've tried reaching 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:52.960 out obviously, all like it was cool. I can't drive 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:54.520 up there, but it's. 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:55.120 Like, I don't. 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:57.280 I don't think she's the type of person. I mean, 0:12:57.320 --> 0:12:59.520 she's my mom, she's my mom. I'd like to believe 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:02.880 that she's not. I mean, maybe she is, but it's like, 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:06.200 but the thing is, I think when I was sixteen, 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:10.520 she like I signed some type of papers. But the 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:12.520 thing is, I think there was an amendment in that 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:14.880 that she has to pay me back when I'm over eighteen. 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:21.200 Yeah. Probably, dude, I'm this is crazy. This is crazy. 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:26.240 This is like your mom. Okay, so dude, this is crazy. 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:30.920 Tell your mom to is your fucking money, tell her 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:33.120 to give her tell her that you she's got to 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:35.280 give you that money or else you have to come 0:13:35.320 --> 0:13:38.680 after her for it, because she can't just keep like 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:41.000 dodging you, dude. Like, like I think also also, I 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:46.080 think you're having this attitude about it that's very passive 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:48.800 because you don't want to stir the pot. But like 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:50.880 your mom's being kind of a dick. 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:56.520 Yeah, I agree with you. 0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:59.200 I mean it comes from a thing where it's like 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:02.160 my little brother with her, and you know he he 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:05.960 doesn't live with my dad anymore, and it's like I'm 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:08.240 I'm also a bit worried, like I don't want to 0:14:08.280 --> 0:14:10.920 poke the bear because I'm afraid that it's gonna mess 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:14.679 with my relationship with him. And then also like at 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:16.200 the end of the day, I'm an adult and it's 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:18.880 my mom and we have separate lives. But also like 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:21.560 I kind of want to like go at it in 0:14:21.680 --> 0:14:24.240 like a funnel way where I funnel like from the 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:27.000 least aggressive way at the start, and then if I 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.840 don't get feedback, if I don't get anything back, then 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:31.600 I move up and I keep moving up. I do 0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:33.160 I get that money back. I don't want to just 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:35.040 go with it, you know, yeah, of course no. 0:14:35.120 --> 0:14:38.200 I get you. You're you don't want to send like 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:40.440 lawyers after your mom and shit, like how long have 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:42.480 you been asking her for this money? I mean, what 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:44.120 you're in nineteen, she should have given it to you, 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:44.840 like a year ago. 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:49.760 I think it would have been about six to eight 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:51.640 weeks ago. I know I said a month before, But 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:53.840 now that I actually use my fucking brain and have 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:57.680 calmed down a bit and then yeah, I've I gave 0:14:57.720 --> 0:14:59.640 her like three two weeks and I caught her back 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:02.240 and she's like, I need another week. And I caught 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.600 her back like I think last week and I was like, look, 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:06.480 what's going on? 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:10.560 What is going on meeting? I need another week to 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:10.880 do what. 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:12.920 I don't know. 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:16.000 The money was talking to her lawyers, but I don't know, 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:19.800 like I I mean, I'm like a dumb ass nineteen 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:21.520 year old, so I don't know, Like I mean, I 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:23.320 guess I could go speak to a lawyer about it. 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:24.920 I've heard you. 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:28.400 Give the I fucking speak to a lawyer and I guess, yeah. 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:33.200 Like well, so like, dude, what's your I'm having trouble 0:15:33.280 --> 0:15:36.560 understanding your relationship with your mom? Like so you're out 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:39.280 on your own and like your mom has her new 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.920 life with her new boyfriend, but your little brother is there. 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:48.360 Yeah, like the they're moved like eleven twelve hours away 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:50.960 from me, and you know, I'm back in where I 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:53.920 grew up to go to university and you know, with 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:57.480 my my girlfriend and all that stuff. And yeah, she's 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:01.120 basically moved out there. I think she contract originally for 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:02.960 two years, but I think she's going to extend it. 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:07.720 So basically I turned eighteen and she took my little 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:10.720 brother and moved away for a better paying job and 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:12.160 you know, it's cheaper to live in the country and 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:12.880 all that stuff. 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:16.640 What's your you said, You've been talking to your girlfriend 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:19.000 about this? What's she say? She probably knows? Does she 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:21.680 know your mom? 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:22.920 Yeah, yeah, she's met my mom. 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:27.880 She she kind of I mean, she obviously comforts me 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:29.560 for ust because it's a very emotional thing, you know, 0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:35.240 a relationship with your parents obviously, but she kind of 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:38.080 puts it in a thing that she knows my mom 0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:41.280 and she knows I should like trust it. But it 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:48.800 reaches a point like it's my girlfriend does reinforce that 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:50.600 it is my money, and at the end of the day, 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:52.440 you know, I've got to do what's right for myself 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:53.560 because you know, obviously. 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:53.840 I'm an adult. 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:57.000 I want to you know, get a nice place and 0:16:57.160 --> 0:17:00.480 have you know, fucking steak for dinner and whatever. But 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:03.400 she's kind of reinforcing like the same thing as you 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:06.399 where it's like, look, you need to like stand on 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:09.520 business per se and kind of you know, push forward 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:12.640 because you can't be pushed around and just like accept it, 0:17:12.920 --> 0:17:14.920 you know, but I think she mostly comes at a 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:17.960 thing from like companying me emotionally because you know, it 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:21.399 is pretty can be rough at times. 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:22.520 Mm hmm. 0:17:24.400 --> 0:17:27.080 No, I understand the roughness of the situation. But also 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:30.520 it's like, I don't know, Man, your mom's pissing me off. 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:35.520 Dide, you gotta fly down to Australia to talk to her, 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:36.720 you instead of dude. 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.680 Maybe dude, maybe your mom's pissing me off. Like I 0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:43.919 don't know, like, why is she being so like in inaccessible. 0:17:47.280 --> 0:17:51.360 She's she's she's also like, oh my god, this isn't 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:53.919 even like the thing, the main thing kind of like 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:55.680 just add something to the story real quick if you 0:17:55.720 --> 0:17:56.080 don't mind. 0:17:56.160 --> 0:17:58.600 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 0:17:58.680 --> 0:18:02.239 So she's teacher with a boyfriend and a kid, and 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:04.639 she's also doing an online degree to like be a 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:07.720 higher level of a teacher. Anyway, I give her my 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:11.280 Netflix account password, and every time I call her, she's like, oh, 0:18:11.320 --> 0:18:14.560 I'm busy with school or your brother or boyfriend or whatever, right, 0:18:15.080 --> 0:18:17.840 but I shoot you not. At least like two times 0:18:17.880 --> 0:18:20.280 a week she will message me and say, hey, can 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:22.320 you reset the Netflix because you know, you can't like 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:24.399 share a Netflix when someone's eleven hours where you have 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:27.480 to like reset the location of the household. So she'll like, 0:18:27.640 --> 0:18:30.360 I'll call her and she'll say she's busy and she's 0:18:30.400 --> 0:18:32.560 doing stuff. But then twice a week she has the 0:18:32.600 --> 0:18:34.840 time to like sit around on Netflix. And this will 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:36.119 be in the middle of a day when she's a 0:18:36.119 --> 0:18:38.400 whole day off to do her study, and she'd be like, oh, 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:40.720 can you reset the Netflix account. It's like, yeah, you 0:18:40.720 --> 0:18:42.760 can sit down and watch Netflix, but you can't fucking 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:44.800 speak to a lawyer or pick up the phone and 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:47.160 call me, which is just the fucking cherry on top 0:18:47.200 --> 0:18:47.639 that makes. 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:51.000 Ro bro Bro. What's your name. 0:18:50.880 --> 0:18:55.360 Again, Finn, Finn, Finn, Finn bro Finn. 0:18:56.480 --> 0:18:59.040 Let me ask you a question, Finn. 0:18:59.160 --> 0:19:01.240 Yeah, go go uh. 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:03.000 Okay, So your mam has owed you this money for 0:19:03.040 --> 0:19:04.680 at least eight weeks, correct. 0:19:06.200 --> 0:19:08.119 Eight weeks since I've brought it up about. 0:19:08.240 --> 0:19:10.159 Okay, and when was the last time she asked you 0:19:10.680 --> 0:19:12.320 to reset the Netflix? 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:18.320 If I put you on speaker, oh, opening the messages 0:19:18.400 --> 0:19:23.040 up right now, okaym. 0:19:27.000 --> 0:19:31.040 Uh Thursday this week she asked you on Thursday to 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:39.680 reset the Netflix. Yeah, what did Finn? Finn, Finn Finn, Yeah, 0:19:39.800 --> 0:19:41.679 what did you fucking say, what did you did you 0:19:41.720 --> 0:19:43.080 do it? Did you reset the Netflix? 0:19:44.720 --> 0:19:44.840 Uh? 0:19:46.640 --> 0:19:49.919 I just I think I left it on red. But 0:19:50.000 --> 0:19:52.240 I might have done it and just forgotten about it, 0:19:52.280 --> 0:19:57.240 but I didn't respond like, yeah, yeah, fucking. 0:19:57.240 --> 0:19:59.800 I, Finn, tell her to pay you the fucking forty 0:19:59.800 --> 0:20:02.040 th thousand dollars if she wants you to reset the net. 0:20:02.160 --> 0:20:03.359 Who pays for the Netflix? 0:20:05.040 --> 0:20:05.119 Me? 0:20:05.880 --> 0:20:15.359 You pay for the Netflix? Yeah, Finn, Fenn, Finn, Finn, 0:20:15.920 --> 0:20:20.639 kick your mom off of the Netflix account. Immediately kick 0:20:20.800 --> 0:20:25.760 your mom off of that Netflix account immediately. Dude, What 0:20:25.800 --> 0:20:29.320