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Speaker 1: And as we switch gears, time now for today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: If you do need advice and relationships on dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: reading your letter just hap Just like that, we could

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Speaker 1: be reading your letter just like Buckle up, hold on tight.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here it is the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter subject. My mind is on the other side of town.

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Speaker 1: And you were right when you said it earlier. Jay,

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Speaker 1: we go, Steve. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a fifty

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Speaker 1: He got caught most of the time, and I would

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Speaker 1: Am I crazy for caring about his feelings? Whose feelings?

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