WEBVTT - #29 From Matchmaker to Marriage 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.240 Hell I Suck Good Dating with the Angel and I 0:00:04.320 --> 0:00:09.000 Heart Radio Podcast. Hello everyone, thank you for joining me 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.280 and my friends here on this week's episode of Help 0:00:11.320 --> 0:00:13.760 I Suck at Dating. Uh, same as last week, got 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:18.560 Vanessa and Jared in studio. Here he very special episode. 0:00:18.600 --> 0:00:20.280 I say that every time, but this time I really 0:00:20.320 --> 0:00:22.880 really mean this one's a really special episode. Of course 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:25.280 Market Eastern. Here, we're gonna be joined in studio by 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:26.920 two of my very close friends. We'll get to that 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:29.480 a little bit later, but very first, we have an 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:32.200 elite matchmaker. We've had some matchmakers on before, but never 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:35.479 a proclaimed elite matchmaker, which is exciting. Uh. She goes 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:37.960 by the name Timmy Pickle and I think she's on 0:00:37.960 --> 0:00:40.760 the phone right now, Timmy, are you there all right? 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:42.479 Thank you so much for calling and so so for 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:45.360 the listeners out there. Tammy is the VP from Elite 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:48.159 Connections and Tammy, do you mind just telling us a 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:50.440 little bit more about you. I I could give the rundown, 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:51.880 but I'm sure that you can say it a little 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:54.680 bit better than than we can. Yeah. So we have 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:58.920 a massmaking agency my mom started almost twenty five years ago. 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:02.880 And meet everyone, screen everyone whore They are who they 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:05.399 say they are. Run background searches on all of our 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:08.320 clients and we just try to make the best matches 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:10.839 for them. We don't do any kind of blind dating, 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:13.600 so our clients are always seeing each other's information of 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:16.399 proving to meet each other, and it's real private and 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:19.200 we just send select members to each other. We don't 0:01:19.200 --> 0:01:22.679 have a database where anyone would be so privacy or concerned. 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:25.279 They're coming to us, you know, they're looking for higher 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:28.880 caliber professionals and serious about finding the right person settling 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:31.040 down that type of person that's coming to us. Well, 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:33.000 so tell us about that. And just so you know 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:36.240 you're joined here with me, Jared and Vanessa. Hi, Dammy, Hi, 0:01:36.400 --> 0:01:38.880 Hi everybody. Thanks for having me. Yeah, of course, of course. 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:40.560 So so tell us a little bit more about what 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:43.600 makes I guess the the eliteness of the matchmaking that 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:46.760 you're working with. So, you know, we we do work 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:49.200 for more of a professional somebody that wants to find 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:51.120 the right person. They want us to do all that 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:53.520 screening for them, so they don't want to kind of 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:56.160 go the online route, or maybe they did and it 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:58.200 didn't work for them, and they just want to meet 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:01.360 a better quality individual. That we've met in screen and 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:04.160 we know who they are and they're not being deceitful 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:08.880 or lying about what they're looking for or who they are. Um. 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:12.000 You know so many online sites and you can be 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:14.040 anyone you want to be. You could be married, you 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:16.520 could be lying about what you do or where you 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:19.760 live or anything about yourself. So that you know there 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:21.480 are people that are coming to us, they do tend 0:02:21.520 --> 0:02:25.320 to be more serious. They are investing in a matchmaker 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:27.720 and they really want us to do the vetting and 0:02:27.800 --> 0:02:31.840 screening for them. So there's no like requirement for an 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:34.639 income bracket or something like that that would require them 0:02:34.800 --> 0:02:38.480 to meet a certain threshold in order to be working 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:42.400 with you. I guess that's not necessarily UM, but you 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:45.880 know they are investing in a company with us. They 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:48.800 are investing a certain amount of money, and you know 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:52.280 we don't work for free, so you know they are 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:56.040 investing in us searching and recruiting and finding them appropriate matches. 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:58.919 So then you know fees depending on length of time, 0:02:58.960 --> 0:03:01.400 type of membership, where were searching, they would start at 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:03.480 nine thousand and go up from there. So it's not 0:03:03.639 --> 0:03:06.480 everyone that wants to invest in a company like ours. 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:10.600 It's somebody that is making you know, typically you know 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:14.160 six figures and up. Um. But we we you know, 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:16.480 work for all different types of people. Can I ask 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.760 you what the split of men and women using you 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:21.239 as a services is it is? Do you typically see 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:25.560 more men kind of needing your service more than the women? Uh? 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:30.200 Pretty much even split fifty fifty. Um. Uh. You know, 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:33.079 we have tens of thousands of clients in our database 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:35.640 and it's pretty split down the middle. So do you 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:38.360 have numbers on your success rate like how many people 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:39.920 will join it and then how many people end up 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:42.520 in a relationship because of this company? Yeah, so we 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:46.120 came up with eight out of ten which find someone 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:49.400 that are in a committed relations six months or longer. 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:56.040 It's really well, Tammy, have a question for you. I 0:03:56.080 --> 0:03:58.240 actually went online and I checked out the questionnaire, which 0:03:58.240 --> 0:03:59.960 I loved. It was simple or straight to the point. 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:02.040 I want to know what do you what do you 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:07.720 feel makes two people compatible? Um? You know, interest, hobbies, UM. 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:11.040 Some things are very important to someone. So if let's say, 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:13.880 religion is very important, or they were wanting to have 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:18.520 children is very important. Um. Or somebody you know grew 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:21.760 up and they're very interested in the golf a lot, 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:24.720 or they're interested in certain hobbies or sports. You know, 0:04:24.839 --> 0:04:28.760 somebody that really into something. I think it's good for 0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:32.400 the other person to also be interested in at least 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:35.560 to have something a few things in common, especially if 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:39.640 something is kind of deal breaker, like a religious preference. 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:41.760 You know, it's very important with their family and they 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:45.200 want somebody the same. Um, somebody really wants to have 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:49.360 kids that you know, those are very deal breaker situations 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:52.320 that are going to be important. But I think something 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:57.800 to have something in common with someone that UM like sporty, active, 0:04:57.960 --> 0:05:00.799 they like going out, they like being outdoorsy and versus 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:04.080 UM kind of homebody, you know, they don't like going out. 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:07.360 You know, something has to be a good fit for 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:10.000 a good connection. When when someone new comes to you 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:11.720 and they said that they're looking for a connection for 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:13.800 a relationship, what are the first three things that they 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:17.040 typically say that they're looking for in a significant other UM, 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:22.240 guy or girl. Mmm, you know what? What somebody may 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:25.480 look like a type that they have in their head 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:29.000 UM aids parameter. I usually hear you know I want 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:33.240 this to this. UM. Location is usually big, especially in 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:35.760 l A. People don't want to date too far. Topic 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:39.000 is too hard, it's too it's hard enough to you know, 0:05:39.200 --> 0:05:41.800 be able to see the person within, you know, twenty 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:45.360 minutes versus hours of getting together. Um, so those are 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:48.960 probably big things that I would hear. So when you 0:05:49.000 --> 0:05:51.719 first meet somebody, do you when you hear these people's preferences, 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:53.960 do you how like much do you take that into account? 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:56.200 Because obviously they're going to you for help because they're single, 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:58.400 So how much do you take that into account versus Okay, 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.880 this is what I think is best for you, right, So, um, 0:06:02.000 --> 0:06:04.320 you know, they are coming to us and they need 0:06:04.400 --> 0:06:06.520 to take our expertise. So if I have somebody in 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:09.120 mind that might be a bit out of their age 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:12.800 parameter or their location parameter, I will let them know 0:06:12.960 --> 0:06:15.039 I think this person is great. I've met them personally. 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:16.560 I think that you would be good fit for this 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:19.520 reason and this reason, and you should be open minded 0:06:19.600 --> 0:06:22.160 meet them. See what happens. So they are hiring us, 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:25.560 and you know I would want them to take, um, 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:27.680 somebody that we had in mind for them and we 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:29.200 thought it was going to be a good match. I 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:31.680 would want them to meet them, but we also don't 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:34.120 want to force matches on anyone. We want both people 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:36.000 to be excited, and that's why we're always going to 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:38.680 show pictures and profiles, and we want both people to 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:41.800 say yes, and they're interested and they're attracted and all 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:43.880 of those things. And do you imagine one person with 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:46.920 multiple people or is it one on one? Yeah? Just 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:49.360 one on one. UM, see how it goes to that 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:52.040 person and then we could work up something else after that. 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:54.800 But we really do like our clients to focus on 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:58.960 that one person versus meeting to three people at once. 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:03.120 You know, how can you really invest your time in 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:06.920 getting to know that person if it's split between multiple people. 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:08.480 And that's a good point too. I think the big 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:11.600 thing with modern dating apps is no one really holds 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:13.720 you accountable to date just one person. You kind of 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:15.800 have free range to date however many people you want. 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:18.080 But if you work with a matchmaker such as yourself, 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:21.200 you're only going to be introducing one person to to 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:23.640 another person at a time, and not you know multiple people, 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:25.640 which I think helps you focus on the relationship at hands. 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:29.000 I agree, right, I mean, how can you get to 0:07:29.080 --> 0:07:31.720 know someone and invest a hund percent of your time 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:35.000 if you're if you're seeing what else is out there 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:38.000 and you're dating around and you're you know, meeting multiple people. 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:41.440 So I mean somebody that's pretty serious, I would say 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:44.280 I would want to just focus on that one person 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:47.400 and see what happens. But, um, app dating and so 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:50.040 tricky because there's always somebody around the corner and you're 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:53.400 always talking with someone getting attention from somebody. So it's 0:07:53.760 --> 0:07:55.960 a turkey world out there with all the app dating 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.160 and online dating. So there's a lot of sparkly things 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:01.400 out there. Um, So do you have any um I 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:03.560 just had a quod question about is there a one 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:05.400 date minimum? Is there three date minimum? Like, say you 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:07.080 match somebody with somebody, is there like, oh you have 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:08.720 you have to hang out with them at least two 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:11.600 times before you move on to another person. I mean, 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:15.320 we always suggest if somebody is interested in a second 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:18.120 date and you're both you know, interested, and maybe one 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:20.480 was like I don't know, and then we'll come back 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:23.200 and we always get feedback from both people and we 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:26.120 can let them know, oh, she really liked you, she'd 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:28.120 love to see you again. So it kind of helps them, 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:31.239 um make a decision if they want to go forward 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:33.680 with it, because sometimes they may be like, well, she's 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:36.360 just being polite. I don't know if she's interested, and maybe, 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:40.000 you know, the sparks weren't flying, but we would if 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:42.360 if at least one person is interested, we would let 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:44.719 the other know. We think that you should focus on 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:47.559 getting to know that person, because how well can you 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:50.439 get to know someone after an hour dinner date. So 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:52.679 if somebody was interested, we say, give it another go. 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.160 But you know, there are those times where like, no, 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:58.960 I was not attracted. I We've had nothing in common. 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:00.880 I don't want to do that person against and we 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:04.920 wouldn't force We wouldn't force anything. Gotcha. I have a 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:07.160 question for you, Tammy, So what advice do you have 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:09.720 for a listener of this podcast that maybe isn't able 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:12.600 to afford a professional matchmakers such as yourself, that still 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:15.679 wants obviously put themselves out there. Yeah, I would say, 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:18.400 you know, do things out of the norm. Um. You know, 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.280 if you're just kind of focused on work and you 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:23.920 do the gym, then you you know, kind of go home. 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:26.800 I would just say, try to find more things to 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:30.960 go to to meet other people. Um, go to charity events, 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:34.040 go to functions, go to sporting events, concerts, to you know, 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:36.719 try to do get together with with friends and do 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:39.640 different things where you're kind of getting out and into 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:42.839 the community and meeting people different ways. And you know, 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:46.600 also just kind of always going out you're very very best. 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:50.360 I mean, so many people they're they're you know, going 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:52.440 out and yoga clothes, with their hair in u fun 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:55.319 and and no makeup. You know, just always look your 0:09:55.440 --> 0:09:57.720 very very best because you never know when you could 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:00.440 run into that person and the guys are pointing at 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:05.280 me beautiful. No, I get it, you know. I like 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:09.240 to be comfortable as well. But you feel good when 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:11.920 you look good and you've put yourself together and you've 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:14.319 done your hair and makeup, and especially if you're single 0:10:14.400 --> 0:10:17.120 and you're out there, don't complain about never finding anybody, 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:19.160 because it could be you know, anywhere. It could be 0:10:19.240 --> 0:10:21.720 at the grocery store. So just you know, always try 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:24.000 to look your very best and you never know. I'll 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:26.079 be honest, I'm the opposite. I always basically look my 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:31.280 worst and it's exhausting. I did have a question about 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:34.719 the ages um when it comes to age. Do you 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:38.360 feel like age is just a number and it you know, 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:41.240 if there's an age gap, should women be dating older men? 0:10:41.480 --> 0:10:44.640 Should women be now dating younger men? What what's your 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:48.880 take on that? Um? You know, I I love for 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:51.559 people to be open minded with age, because you know, 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:53.559 somebody has this eighth in the head. I don't want 0:10:53.559 --> 0:10:56.079 to date. Let's let's say a forty year old woman comes. 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:57.800 I don't want to date over fifty. They have this 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:01.640 over fifties like tool old in their head. But so 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:04.760 many people take such good care themselves nowadays, and they're 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:07.000 so thin and active, and they they're healthy, and they 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:09.839 eat well and they work out and so and and 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:12.720 people age differently, So one fifth year old versus another, 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:14.480 you might be attracted to one and not the other. 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:19.079 So being open minded is great, um, But also you 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:22.760 know it is it is tricky because it's you know, um, 0:11:23.640 --> 0:11:25.839 you have this number in your head and you know, 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:28.880 to some most women give us like an eight to 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:32.319 ten year age wind window their age and older. Not 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:36.679 many women want to date younger than them. Um. And 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:39.079 the people that come to us is the same kind 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:42.319 of with men. They typically want to date you know, 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:47.719 their age and eight or so years younger, depending and 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:51.600 then um, you know, not many men want to date 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:54.559 that much older, maybe a couple of years but for 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:57.079 the most part, they're not wanting to date you know, 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:59.440 much older than them. But that's kind of what I see. 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:02.920 I agree with that, that makes a lot of sense. Well, Tammy, 0:12:02.960 --> 0:12:04.199 do you have do you have like a website or 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:05.800 Instagram maybe that we can plug real quick for the 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:07.760 listeners if they want to reach out to you and 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:12.599 maybe consult your services. Yeah, Lee connections um website is 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:16.240 lead connections dot com um and if you have any information, 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:19.160 you know, give us a call and or check us 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:22.599 out on our website. Instagram is also lead Connections and 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:26.040 the number would be eight nine two three zero zero. 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:27.800 There you go. If you're listening to this podcast and 0:12:27.800 --> 0:12:31.120 you're serious about getting matched up, check out Tammy. Check 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:33.360 it out, Tammy. I said one more question before you go, why, 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:35.880 just out of curiosity when you guys started the business, 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:38.520 why did you go after people that are of a 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:44.040 higher bracket income? Just it's it's very interesting dynamic. It's 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:48.839 not necessarily um that we only work for higher bracket income, 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:52.400 but because we do charge for our services, and when 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:55.120 we started twenty five years ago, our fees were much lower. 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:58.040 But we have been around a very long time and 0:12:58.160 --> 0:13:00.480 we have a very large database in our really large 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:02.800 matchmaking team, and we work hard for all our clients. 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:05.959 So we do charge, um, you know, a bit for 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:08.800 our services. But we are working for somebody for six 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:11.480 months or longer, of course, Yeah, it's definite an investment. 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:14.280 It is an investment. But you know, for somebody that's 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:17.480 really serious and committed to finding the right person and 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:20.120 they don't want to stiff through a million different profiles online. 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:21.679 They don't have the time or they would never go 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:23.400 that route. They don't want to put themselves out there 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:26.280 like that. It just so happens that somebody that can 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:29.640 afford nine thousand or up is typically making you know, 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:31.960 six figures or more. I just didn't know if there's 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:34.599 any like staff behind. Maybe there's more singles within that 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:39.800 demographic than others. No, not necessarily. I mean we worked 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:44.319 for teachers, we work for you know, celebrities and and billionaires, 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:46.480 so I mean we we work for all different types 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:50.560 of people. Um, but but more so somebody that's really 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:54.199 invested and maybe kind of tried the online route and 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:56.320 didn't work for them, and they and they really are 0:13:56.400 --> 0:13:59.000 serious about finding somebody and they don't want to waste 0:13:59.040 --> 0:14:00.640 their time. So what would you say to the people 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:04.080 that would say that, uh, investing this much in finding 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:06.959 your soul mate is probably not worth the money that 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:11.920 they would pay in Wait, for example, like if somebody 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:13.880 was like, I just it's just too much money for 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:15.840 me to invest in trying to find a soul mate. 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:20.640 You know, it's not for everyone. Not everyone wants to 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:24.000 invest in this type of company, and that's perfectly fine. 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:26.240 So you know, maybe if they wanted to try the 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:30.040 online route UM, but you know, yes, it's not for everyone. 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:32.480 But we're pretty comfortable with other companies that have been 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:34.560 around as long as we have and and we do 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:36.800 work very hard for our clients. But yeah, it's not 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:38.840 for everyone. No. I love how personalized it is. I 0:14:38.920 --> 0:14:40.800 really that's my favorite part of this entire is that 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:42.600 you meet with them, talked to them, and really kind 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:44.560 of learn. And even on your website you say that 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:46.840 you become friends with everybody that invested in this company, 0:14:46.840 --> 0:14:49.520 which I really enjoy. And it definitely is not only investment, 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:52.480 but a friendship between UM the company and the individual. 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:56.680 And that's why it's nice to know everyone and then 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:59.440 try to uh put two people together that we think 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:01.160 would be a good fit. Of course, you're not going 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:03.600 to know until you sit down and there's a connection 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:06.360 and go from there. But it is it is nice 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:09.800 to feel like we have a large network of friends 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:11.840 and we just start trying to map our friends together. 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:13.600 But we're not going to get upset if you don't 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:16.360 like our friend, We'll just move on. Perfect, all right, Well, 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:18.160 Tammy pickle ladies and a gentleman making the world a 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:20.600 better place, one relationship at a time. Be sure to 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:23.440 check her out at www dot Elite connections dot com 0:15:23.520 --> 0:15:25.480 on the websites, and then Tammy your email I think 0:15:25.560 --> 0:15:28.960 is Tammy at Elite Connections dot com. Yeah, that's right. Perfect. Well, 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:30.520 thank you so much for calling it and joining us 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:32.160 and tell us a little bit more about what you 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:33.880 do at Elite Connections. We really appreciate it. Thank you 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:40.080 so much, Tammy. Have a good day. Yeah, nine's a lot. 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:42.760 I can't get pass that number. I literally took off 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:44.720 my your phones like what That's why I had to ask. 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:46.200 I was like, listen, this is not meant to be 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:49.080 for the everyday person, Like nobody's gonna I mean, not 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:50.760 a lot of people are gonna invest nine thousand dollars 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:52.440 or than six months to try to find their soul mate. 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:55.760 It seems also very artificial. Yeah, it's very business like, 0:15:55.960 --> 0:15:57.800 which is okay, like she's running a business and she's 0:15:57.800 --> 0:15:59.680 trying to find your soul mate. But having said that, 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:01.320 I can get past the fact that it does feel 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:03.480 very business like on a very emotional decision. Does it 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:05.760 feel business like? Because it's like, well, you have to 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:08.240 invest and then we're gonna sit down and negotiate about 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:09.600 what you like and when you don't like, and then 0:16:09.640 --> 0:16:11.000 when you go like, we're gonna match you up with 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:12.440 one person at a time, and if you don't like 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.160 that person, then we can move on. It's very just 0:16:14.400 --> 0:16:19.120 like um strategic. I don't I think it's like maybe 0:16:19.200 --> 0:16:22.040 if like, if you fit into that income bracket, then 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:24.920 that's the route that you would take. And there's other 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.240 different matchmaking websites that you can go on that are 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:30.560 a lot less. They're either free or cheaper, right. I 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:32.280 don't think it's more. I don't think I didn't see 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:34.400 it as a business. I'm not saying that as a 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:37.200 bad thing. I think sometimes that's needed because, like like 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:39.520 she said, when you go on in a dating app, 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:41.400 like there is a lot of options right, there's not 0:16:41.720 --> 0:16:43.680 You're not focused, right, You're just kind of like swiping 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:46.200 through it. It's more casual than anything else where. This 0:16:46.360 --> 0:16:50.480 is very uh focused and uh you know, on the 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:53.040 task at hand. I think for her demographic that she's 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:55.520 working with matching as well, it probably fits in well 0:16:55.560 --> 0:16:57.480 because the people that she's working with are going to 0:16:57.520 --> 0:17:00.040 be those more business minded, focus on great people and 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:02.200 they're like, all right, I spend eighty hours a week 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:04.640 on my job. I would like to have a very 0:17:04.720 --> 0:17:06.960 similar strategic approach to my relations right. And if you're 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:10.240 investing nine thousand dollars, you know that they want to 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:12.879 find a serious, committed relationship. So that's something that I 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:16.680 I'm thirty years old now and like I said last podcast, 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:26.760 yes I'm I'm dating someone. Yeah, who I am feeling good? 0:17:28.359 --> 0:17:36.680 Where are my jelly bean? I wanted to say. When 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.560 I turned thirty, I had Nick and I had just 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:41.320 broken up and I turned thirty and I was like, 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:43.040 oh my god, I want kids, I want a family, 0:17:43.119 --> 0:17:44.680 I want all that stuff. And then you start thinking 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:47.159 and calculating, Okay, it's gonna take me x amount of 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:49.119 time to find someone, and when I do find someone, 0:17:49.359 --> 0:17:51.080 it'll take me, You're to really get to know them, 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:52.359 and then I want to have kids, you know, and 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:54.200 then like, oh my god, by the time I want 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.640 to have a family, I'll probably be like thirty five, 0:17:56.760 --> 0:18:00.200 thirty six. And then I started thinking, well, I've never 0:18:00.280 --> 0:18:02.720 done any dating apps. Um, the only two apps I 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:05.639 have our Instagram and Facebook, which people do end up 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:09.800 meeting each other on those apps. But then I started thinking, Okay, well, 0:18:09.880 --> 0:18:13.359 what if I should be open to the idea of 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:18.399 going on the dating app, dating websites, matchmaking websites. So 0:18:18.760 --> 0:18:21.119 if I were in the position where I was single 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:25.040 and I wanted to find someone and find a real 0:18:25.119 --> 0:18:29.560 committed relationship, nine nine thousand dollars, that's a lot of money. 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:32.840 But I mean, you'll take it more seriously. Yeah, should 0:18:32.840 --> 0:18:35.360 definitely take it more seriously. Sorry, I was gonna say, 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:37.720 can I ask you as I don't think thirty years 0:18:37.760 --> 0:18:40.960 old is old by any starch, But do you kind 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:44.120 of notice yourself being willing to compromise on certain areas 0:18:44.119 --> 0:18:46.760 of a relationship because you know that you want to 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:48.200 have a family and kids and all that kind of stuff, 0:18:48.200 --> 0:18:50.119 so you're willing to give way a little bit more 0:18:50.160 --> 0:18:52.720 on certain things. That maybe you didn't before. Oh yeah, 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:54.879 I mean there's certain things that I know. I'm not 0:18:55.800 --> 0:18:59.240 ever willing to give up motherhood of um so, I 0:18:59.600 --> 0:19:03.399 I ink um because I'm the type of person that 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:06.000 doesn't know how to date multiple people at the same time. 0:19:06.080 --> 0:19:08.200 I just like, if I like you, that means I 0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:10.040 want I can see a potential future with you, and 0:19:10.119 --> 0:19:12.119 I want to date you seriously. So I'm not like, oh, 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:14.399 let's start off as friends and friends could end up 0:19:14.400 --> 0:19:17.360