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Speaker 1: Hi, guys, Welcome to this week's episode of Cheeky's in

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Speaker 1: Chill Benilos Alos. Guys, today we're going to be talking

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Speaker 1: about feminism. What is feminism, What does it mean to

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Speaker 1: be a feminist? Am I a feminist? We're going to

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Speaker 1: cover all that and more today, So let's get started, okay.

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Speaker 1: So let me start off by saying that this particular

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Speaker 1: episode was inspired by an anonymous listener okay, who asked

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Speaker 1: me about my stance on feminism because she had heard

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Speaker 1: me say that I'm not a feminist in a previous episode,

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Speaker 1: and I wanted to address that a little bit because

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Speaker 1: I thought that feminism meant something completely different, and I

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Speaker 1: don't know if I'm alone in this, so let's talk

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Speaker 1: about it. I used to think that feminism was like

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Speaker 1: hating men, rejecting marriage, rejecting family even and in a

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Speaker 1: way wanting women to like overpower men in a way.

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Speaker 1: I just had it all wrong, because that's not what

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Speaker 1: feminism means. And I felt like, Okay, if I was

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Speaker 1: misinterpreting it because of things I had heard out in

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Speaker 1: the world on social media, then I'm sure I'm not

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Speaker 1: the only one. So I was like, that's not me,

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Speaker 1: that's not who I am. I do believe in marriage.

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Speaker 1: I was scared to get remarried for a long time,

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Speaker 1: but I do believe in marriage. And I don't necessarily

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Speaker 1: want to level up on a man or think I'm

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Speaker 1: better than a man, or I can do it better

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Speaker 1: than a man. No, So that's why I was like, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm not a feminist, but I guess I am. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you why, because the truth about being a

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Speaker 1: feminist is that it's about equality, about being able to

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Speaker 1: be seen with respect as a human being and not

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Speaker 1: necessarily because of us not having a penis straight up,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, we are seen as

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Speaker 1: human beings and capable equality. I'm all about equality all

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Speaker 1: the way around. And that is what feminism at its

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Speaker 1: core is all about equality. It's a belief that women

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Speaker 1: deserve the same rights, the same respect, the safety opportunities

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Speaker 1: as men. Okay, straight up. And then on the other hand,

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Speaker 1: there are people men that feel that because we are women,

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Speaker 1: we shouldn't be able to do this or that, and

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Speaker 1: blah blah blah, and that's a completely different subject. And

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Speaker 1: we're gonna go ahead and just put that to the

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Speaker 1: side for now. And just speaking about my personal life.

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Speaker 1: Especially in my industry. In my genre, we've talked about

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Speaker 1: it plenty of times, it is dominantly men and there's

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Speaker 1: a lot of you know, machismo in regional Mexican music,

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Speaker 1: and I feel that as women, we fight and have

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Speaker 1: to work a lot harder because we are women. And

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Speaker 1: it's seen as if you shouldn't see this type of

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Speaker 1: music because it's for men. No why I can sing gorrilos.

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Speaker 1: I can talk about whatever I want to talk about

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Speaker 1: in my music. Also, even men doing certain things on

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Speaker 1: stage is okay, but when a woman does it or

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Speaker 1: dresses a little too provocative, it's seen not in a

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Speaker 1: good way, even by other women, especially by other women

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Speaker 1: actually where it's like, oh my gosh, she dresses to ranci.

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Speaker 1: But then a guy can go on stage and just

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Speaker 1: grab his balls like on stage and be like yeah,

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Speaker 1: and they love it, you know what I mean, Like,

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Speaker 1: why can't I go up there and grab my boobs

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Speaker 1: and say hell yeah, I'm my tits And you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, Like to me, it's like that's what

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Speaker 1: I mean, Like, it's just it has to just be equal.

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Speaker 1: And again I think it's also our culture guys, we've

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Speaker 1: been taught that we have to act a certain way

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Speaker 1: to be respected as women, and I agree to a

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Speaker 1: certain extent, but it shouldn't be that difficult for a woman,

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Speaker 1: and I feel like in a lot of areas it

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Speaker 1: does it have to be so difficult? Why can't we

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Speaker 1: just be seen and respected, especially when we voice our opinion?

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Speaker 1: What is it? And I think it goes back to

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Speaker 1: like freaking centuries, guys, and how it's you know, men

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Speaker 1: are the ones that lead and women are the ones

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Speaker 1: that support the man. But it's like, dude, like we

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Speaker 1: bring life into this world, like women. Not a single

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Speaker 1: person would exist on the earth if it wasn't for

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Speaker 1: only women can do this is create life. So why

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Speaker 1: in the f are we not respected for that and

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Speaker 1: But the only reason I'm bringing this up is because

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Speaker 1: he said this specifically, that women are only good to

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Speaker 1: make babies, only good to make babies. That's it, And

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Speaker 1: he made it seem like, oh, that's nothing. Try it,

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Speaker 1: Like try making a kid, dude, Like try it? Like

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Speaker 1: how powerful is that? Like to be able to create life?

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Speaker 1: Can you do that? Man? So it's like, if we

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Speaker 1: things that men do? We create life? And that's why

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Speaker 1: I think that feminism got like such a bad rap,

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Speaker 1: because it's women actually speaking up like me and saying

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Speaker 1: what the f Like we're just supposed to just sit

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Speaker 1: here and just take it because you lead, or because

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Speaker 1: we were taught for centuries that men have the upper

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Speaker 1: because I love my husband, I respect men. I like,

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Speaker 1: it's not that. That's not what feminism is about. It's

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Speaker 1: like bashing men. No, it's just us standing up for

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Speaker 1: my god, so dramatic. It's so hard to work with her.

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Speaker 1: Women are viewed as difficult to work with because we're

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Speaker 1: too emotional or too opinionated. I've seen that in my industry.

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Speaker 1: It's like, oh, I don't like working with women. It's

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Speaker 1: just too difficult, Like they need that they need they're

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Speaker 1: too needy. She has too much of an attitude. I

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Speaker 1: like that. Can you please not do that? But if

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Speaker 1: your dressing room and like for your show and stuff.

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Speaker 1: That's what a writer is. But if we ask for

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Speaker 1: certain things on our writer, we're difficult. We ask for

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Speaker 1: too much. But a man can ask for tequila and

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Speaker 1: ask for even a woman on his writer. I need

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Speaker 1: a girl to be in my green room. But that's cool, right,

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Speaker 1: But imagine if a woman said, you know what, yeah,

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Speaker 1: business to handle. Oh my gosh, imagine it would just

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Speaker 1: be like, what a whore and the guy's not a whore?

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Speaker 1: Like I've always been so confused by that, And I'm like,

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Speaker 1: feel that as women like? You know, like in order

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Speaker 1: does ruffle my feathers a little bit because I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I've had to deal with this not only in my

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Speaker 1: I've battled a little bit more with the equality thing.

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Speaker 1: But my mom really went through it because it was

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Speaker 1: what psh. Like my mom was like the person that

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Speaker 1: broke those barriers and said if you I'm going to

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Speaker 1: I would always just be like grateful as an artist

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Speaker 1: because she really did break barriers, so it's a little

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Speaker 1: especially even like in the rap world for women as well.

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Speaker 1: and she was talking about you know, she would grab

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Speaker 1: examples that I've experienced. And again, the industry has been

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Speaker 1: But even for endorsements sponsorships, they do want to pay

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Speaker 1: men more. But if you really think about it, guys,

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Speaker 1: they're starting to like really realize that us the power

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Speaker 1: We all have the same power, we all come from

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Speaker 1: the same energy, but us women, we have something special

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Speaker 1: but even in the Bible. Guys, again, I don't I

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Speaker 1: haven't read the entire Bible, so like I can't speak

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Speaker 1: word for word, but Adam and Eve, like it was

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Speaker 1: and we suffer and all this stuff. Like I choose

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Speaker 1: to take that in a different way without being disrespectful

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Speaker 1: to the Bible because that was written so long ago

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Speaker 1: many different versions you can interpret however you want. And

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Speaker 1: then I'm not going to get too deep into that.

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Speaker 1: But even then, I feel like they have tried this

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