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Speaker 1: What up guys. Happy Wednesday, and welcome to another episode

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Speaker 1: of Dear Cheek Ease. It's my new weekly episode where

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Speaker 1: I get a chance to connect with listeners. It's seriously

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Speaker 1: my favorite part of the week. I love hearing from

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Speaker 1: you guys and guiding you through some of the issues

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Speaker 1: and challenges that you're facing. Just a reminder to all

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Speaker 1: my listeners that these are my thoughts and opinions on

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Speaker 1: the questions that are being submitted. I encourage everyone to

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Speaker 1: seek help from a professional if you're suffering an issue

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Speaker 1: or hardship that requires immediate attention. Okay, so let's hop

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Speaker 1: right into the first question. This one is from Celeste

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Speaker 1: or Celeste Hi cheeks. My question for you is do

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Speaker 1: you ever struggle with not crossing the line between mothering

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Speaker 1: your siblings and trying to keep that sister role. I

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Speaker 1: love my siblings so much. There's also five of us.

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Speaker 1: We love and respect one another, and we have such

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Speaker 1: a tight bond. But I've always taken care of everyone

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Speaker 1: and their needs before mine. I simply and genuinely want

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Speaker 1: to have a sister relationship with them, not a motherly one,

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Speaker 1: but I've played that role for so long that I

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Speaker 1: almost don't know how to separate the two. Any advice, Well, Celeste,

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Speaker 1: your Celeste them. I totally understand. As you know, it

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Speaker 1: sounds like I am. I'm the oldest of five, so yes,

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Speaker 1: I have suffered with not crossing that line. I think

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Speaker 1: it's just inevitable, especially if you're the oldest, If you're

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Speaker 1: always the one to care for your siblings, it's hard

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Speaker 1: not to want to be that mother and take care

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Speaker 1: of them and make sure they're okay all the time.

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Speaker 1: But we cannot forget about ourselves. It took me a

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Speaker 1: long time to understand that, and it took my sister

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Speaker 1: Jennica to tell me that she needed a sister, not

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Speaker 1: a mother, that she needed to figure things out on

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Speaker 1: her own and all of that, and I didn't understand.

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Speaker 1: It hurt my feelings so much, but I thank God

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Speaker 1: for that all the time because it really gave me

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Speaker 1: the freedom to live my own life as well, and

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Speaker 1: respect their boundaries and respect there authenticity and who they

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Speaker 1: want to become, and that they're gonna make mistakes and

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Speaker 1: let them sometimes they have to fall. I know I

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Speaker 1: have to fall sometimes to learn, So it's not like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: well I'm gonna forget about you for the rest of

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Speaker 1: my life. No, it's okay. I'm here arm's length the

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Speaker 1: way I love you from afar not too far, you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean. But I love you. I'm here,

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Speaker 1: and if you fall, and if you need me to

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Speaker 1: help you get up, I will. It's a lot easier

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Speaker 1: saip than done, for sure, but it's possible. I think

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Speaker 1: that just telling yourself, hey, I want to be that

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Speaker 1: sister and not that mother. They have a mother already.

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Speaker 1: If they need advice, I will be here. I will

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Speaker 1: give them the best that I can in every way.

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Speaker 1: But it's don't freaget about yourself, for sure. Don't forget

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Speaker 1: about yourself. It's important because if you don't take care

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Speaker 1: of yourself and your needs and your mental health, then

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Speaker 1: how are you going to help them. So it's a

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Speaker 1: process and it's going to take some time, but you

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Speaker 1: got this. And it's not leaving them and abandoning them.

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Speaker 1: That's not what you're doing. You're just giving them their

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Speaker 1: space to grow and their space to fly, and their

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Speaker 1: space to just evolve and become who they're meant to become.

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Speaker 1: So thank you for your question, and I hope I

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Speaker 1: helped alrighty. Our next question comes from Kelly. Hi chick eas.

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Speaker 1: First of all, congratulations on all your money successes. I'm

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Speaker 1: a big fan of yours. I appreciate how much you

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Speaker 1: shall respect for yourself and the message that you bring.

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Speaker 1: But my question is, I lost my mother at a

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Speaker 1: pretty young age. I was twelve, and I find it

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Speaker 1: difficult to keep her memory alive for myself and for

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Speaker 1: my kids. Do you have any wreck mendations as to

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Speaker 1: like how you keep your mom's spirit alive, not necessarily

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Speaker 1: like the public persona that your mother had, but the

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Speaker 1: personal one. Thank you, love and respect, Kelly, thank you,

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Speaker 1: thank you for your question. Um. Look, it's gonna be

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Speaker 1: ten years since since I lost my mom, and I

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Speaker 1: sometimes get that fear of, oh my gosh, am I

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Speaker 1: going to forget her? Sometimes I get so busy with

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Speaker 1: I mean, Like it just happens. It's never going to

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Speaker 1: heal completely that wound. And I always say this, it

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Speaker 1: will never be easy. It'll get easier, and it's just

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Speaker 1: because that's how life is. We get older. You lost

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Speaker 1: your mom at twelve years old, and I'm really sorry

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Speaker 1: about that because you were so young. And I think

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Speaker 1: it doesn't matter how old we are, We're always going

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Speaker 1: to need our parents. And what I do personally is

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Speaker 1: I have pictures of my mom everywhere. I have a

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Speaker 1: few tattoos I represent my mom. You know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: I want telling you to go get a tattoo, but

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Speaker 1: I'm just telling you what I've done that helps me.

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Speaker 1: On her birthday, we and happy birthday to her, doesn't matter.

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Speaker 1: I want to do that for the rest of my life,

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Speaker 1: even when I have kids, especially when I have kids.

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Speaker 1: So it's that it's going to the cemetery if you can.

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Speaker 1: If you haven't earned with her ashes, I'm not too

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Speaker 1: sure what the situation is, but I go when I

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Speaker 1: can to the cemetery and just little things like that,

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Speaker 1: and speaking to my nieces and nephews about her all

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Speaker 1: the time. Most of my nieces and my nephews actually

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Speaker 1: didn't meet my mom, but they know very well who

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Speaker 1: she is. But because we speak to them about her

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Speaker 1: all the time, they know La is in heaven and

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Speaker 1: she's taking care of us, and she's an angel in

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Speaker 1: our life. And I think when you do that it's

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Speaker 1: kind of just knowing like they're here but not here.

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Speaker 1: You know, they're angels, they're always with us. It just

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Speaker 1: helps me so much. And I have the blessing of

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Speaker 1: of having my mom recorded because of the reality show

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Speaker 1: that we did and everything. For me, it's so important

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Speaker 1: to try to like hear her voice and not her

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Speaker 1: singing voice, but her her voice, my mom's voice. You know,

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Speaker 1: hopefully you do have at least one video of your mommy,

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Speaker 1: but if not, that's my suggestion. Just have pictures of her,

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Speaker 1: have a picture of her in your car, speak to

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Speaker 1: her as much as you can. Sometimes in the car,

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Speaker 1: I'll be like, Mom, help me get to my destination safely,

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Speaker 1: and I'll listen to songs that I dedicate to her.

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I'm constantly doing my best

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Speaker 1: to have that communication with her because I truly believe

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Speaker 1: that she's here in the spirit world. Hopefully that helped.

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Speaker 1: I'm sending you a very, very big and tight hug. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so our last question is from Ruby. Let's listen to

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Speaker 1: her question. Now, Hi, chickies, how are you? My question

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Speaker 1: is what do you feel helps you stay grounded? Ruby?

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Speaker 1: What helps me stay grounded? Okay, So always remembering where

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Speaker 1: you come from, where you started, that personally helps me.

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Speaker 1: It's like we had humble beginnings with my mom. We

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Speaker 1: lived in a garage. Like it's just knowing and valuing

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Speaker 1: even that part of my life and what I have

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Speaker 1: now helps me every single day. My faith in God,

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Speaker 1: I think, just humbling myself before God and knowing that

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Speaker 1: there is a stronger force out there that's protecting me.

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Speaker 1: You know. That's why I choose to get on my

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Speaker 1: knees to pray, because it's kind of like, okay, mystery

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Speaker 1: amendando AliOS. I'm like putting myself in God's hands sometimes.

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Speaker 1: I mean I go as literal as walking barefoot on

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Speaker 1: my grass, you know, and I rubbed my feet and

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Speaker 1: I ground myself that way, or I rubbed my feet

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Speaker 1: together if there's no grass around, and it just kind

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Speaker 1: of just sets the intention of being grounded. But I think,

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Speaker 1: especially in like the world that I'm in and the

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Speaker 1: business that I'm in my career, I've seen it with

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Speaker 1: other people where yes, they become really big and very famous,

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Speaker 1: and they have all this popularity and all this fame,

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Speaker 1: and they forget their essence, like who they are and

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Speaker 1: what they're really meant to be here for. And that's

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Speaker 1: why every single day, even this podcast, it reminds me

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Speaker 1: that I'm just a human just like you guys, and

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Speaker 1: I'm going through my experiences and I have a bigger

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Speaker 1: mission than even myself, you know what I mean, on

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Speaker 1: this earth. So that grounds me as well, like knowing

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Speaker 1: that I have that responsibility that I choose to have

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Speaker 1: because I want to. I want to help. So a

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Speaker 1: lot of little things. Hopefully that helped Ruby and answered

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Speaker 1: your question. Thank you guys so much for submitting your questions.

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Speaker 1: I feel a lot closer to you all. I really

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Speaker 1: hope my advice helps. I know I've already mentioned this,

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Speaker 1: but I'm going to say it again. These are my

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Speaker 1: thoughts and opinions on the questions that are being submitted, Okay.

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Speaker 1: I encourage everyone to seek professional help if you're suffering

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Speaker 1: an issue or hardship that requires immediate attentions. I love

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Speaker 1: you all and I'll see you next week here on

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