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Speaker 1: Welcome to season two of the Good Stuff.

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Speaker 2: I'm Ashley Shick, and I'm joined by my husband and

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Speaker 2: co host, Jacob Shick, a third generation combat marine and

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Speaker 2: CEO of One Tribe Foundation.

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Speaker 3: Ashley also comes from a family rich in military history,

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Speaker 3: and we've dedicated our lives to One Tribe's mission, serving veterans,

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Speaker 3: first responders, and their families.

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Speaker 4: We're coming to you from Dallas, so welcome to.

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Speaker 2: Texas and joining us all season long from Los Angeles, California,

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Speaker 2: is our West Coast long haired friend and producer of

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Speaker 2: The Good Stuff, Nick Cassolini.

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Speaker 5: We are in for a treat today because Ashley is

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Speaker 5: taking us to the One Tribe Women's lunch.

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Speaker 1: You don't get to come inside, but I mean I'll

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Speaker 1: tell you about it.

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Speaker 6: We get to look creepy from the outside of its period.

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Speaker 1: Through the windows.

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Speaker 4: You do, I'm not going.

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Speaker 5: Just a quick heads up. This show can explore some

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Speaker 5: heavy subject matter, including talks of suicide, so listener discretion

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Speaker 5: is advised.

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Speaker 1: We couldn't be happier You're here again.

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Speaker 4: Welcome to the Good Stuff.

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Speaker 3: See today we are hosting the One Tribe Women's gathering,

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Speaker 3: and obviously, Nick, you and I are not going to partake.

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Speaker 5: I'm so sad about it too. Of course, I just

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Speaker 5: want to hang out with the girls, you know, that's

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Speaker 3: I'm not shocked by that, however, Comma, I think it's

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Speaker 3: really important for every culture to have subcultures and yeah,

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Speaker 3: community or another way to say it is communities that

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Speaker 3: have subcommunities. I think it's a way to strengthen individuals,

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Speaker 3: which ultimately collectively strengthened the community.

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Speaker 4: For example, it's.

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Speaker 3: Like a military model. A military will have a battalion,

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Speaker 3: and then within that battalion you have companies. Within the companies,

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Speaker 3: you have platoons. Within the platoons, you have squads. Within

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Speaker 3: the squads, you have fire teams. Right, but you're all

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Speaker 3: connected to the same ultimate team. Right, So it's the

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Speaker 3: same mindset.

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Speaker 5: Right, but this time it'll just be like Ashley and

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Speaker 5: a bunch of wonderful women enjoying Fahidas.

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Speaker 1: That's right. Today it's the ladies.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, we founded one tribe women about a year

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Speaker 2: ago actually, and we've grown to two hundred strong nationwide.

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Speaker 2: But essentially, the whole idea is that a lot of

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Speaker 2: times female veterans, first responders, law enforcement officers as well

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Speaker 2: as the wives sometimes widows, sisters, mothers, daughters of those

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Speaker 2: who serve can be in a predominantly male world. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: for me personally, you know, I've got three boys. I've

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Speaker 2: got my husband and my two little bubba's and so

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Speaker 2: it's I've got a sweatshirt that says me and the

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Speaker 2: boys because you know, and that's good for me, because

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Speaker 2: I love sports and I love being outside with them,

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Speaker 2: and I love all the things that we do. But

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Speaker 2: the sisterhood is important. It's important for you to connect

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Speaker 2: with other women and on a regular basis and have

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Speaker 2: that sisterhood in that time to just get together and

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Speaker 2: be girlfriends. And so we started the One Tribe Women group,

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Speaker 2: like I stated, and it's really taken off. It's a

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Speaker 2: lot of fun. We get together once a month, whether

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Speaker 2: month we did bingo, which was I haven't played bingo

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Speaker 2: I think since my great groodmother way back in the day.

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Speaker 1: It was hilarious. It was a lot of fun.

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Speaker 2: You know. Over Christmas we did an ornament exchange and

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Speaker 2: lot of fun. But it is it's girly time together.

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Speaker 2: And it is funny though, because as a tribe, we

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Speaker 2: always do so much together. We have so many events

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Speaker 2: And so when Tiffany and MirOS and myself decided to

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Speaker 2: for our first One Tribe Women lunch and you know,

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Speaker 2: were like, where're we all going. We were like, we're

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Speaker 2: going our One Tribe Women lunch and they're like, we

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Speaker 2: aren't invited, and no, you're not invited.

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Speaker 1: It's One Tribe Women. This is for the ladies.

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Speaker 2: And of course they were so hilarious and gracious, but

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Speaker 1: You know, you know, we're all supposed to be one.

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Speaker 1: So it was it was funny.

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Speaker 2: But then they actually, through this started their monthly Guy's

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Speaker 2: Poker Nights, which is really cool. So that's just the

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Speaker 2: the same idea, same concept. It's the camaraderie amongst you know,

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Speaker 5: Feels of course, and of course all each of them

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Speaker 5: special dude that gets invited. They don't care if it's

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Speaker 5: everyone cubs. I just want to cub. Well.

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Speaker 2: I mentioned where where we're headed today and it's as

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Speaker 2: spars as in Grapevine and I've never been there, but everybody,

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, I love a spar Then they started

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Speaker 2: listening all these specific items off the menu that they

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Speaker 6: It's like, bro, you're still not getting the invite.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'll bring you leftovers.

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Speaker 6: That's hilarious.

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Speaker 3: Another aspect that the One Tribe Woman group has is

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Speaker 3: loses the husband, boyfriend, dad, men in their life, Like

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Speaker 3: they're able to come in and have this support network

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Speaker 3: that's built in and they know that they can go

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Speaker 3: and it's these are other women that know me, care

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Speaker 3: So again, it's just strengthening the overall community through subcommunity. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you know, there's again there's a lot of science behind it.

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Speaker 3: There's a reason that we do it, and there's a

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Speaker 5: I can imagine too, if you're a part of this

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Speaker 5: father is a veteran and that's how you're you know,

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Speaker 5: that's why you're a part of that community is through

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Speaker 5: your father. And then if your father passes, it can feel.

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Speaker 4: Like maybe that link with the community.

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Speaker 1: Is now gone absolutely.

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Speaker 2: And between this and our watch program, we are the

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Speaker 2: Children of Heroes program. You know, we aim to make

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Speaker 2: sure the individuals that have been in this community are

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Speaker 2: still very much involved in this community. That's that's part

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Speaker 2: of the wrapping our arms around them and keeping them involved. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but we talk about everything. I mean, we talk about

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Speaker 2: everything to laundry detergent, you know, because a lot of

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Speaker 2: us are the laundry warriors in our household. And we

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Speaker 1: The best smelling lodge for deturchit.

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Speaker 2: I'm grateful because I found a good one.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Right, you came together in your time of need, you

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Speaker 3: Support see, And that's what I think listeners need to

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Speaker 3: understand is it doesn't have to be a well thought out,

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Speaker 3: well constructed, planned orchestra of self help. Yeah, right right,

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Speaker 3: like it doesn't have to be that. If you have

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Speaker 3: an idea about a thing, do the thing. It's going

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Speaker 3: to evolve on its own.

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 1: You're still not invited.

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Speaker 4: I never wanted to go.

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Speaker 1: He was not one of the ones saying, you know,

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Speaker 1: it's one tribe.

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Speaker 2: Jake was like, go, I mean, I think there's some

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Speaker 2: days that he's like, don't you everyone tribe women lunch today.

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Speaker 2: But for all of our lucky listeners today, even though

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Speaker 2: you two aren't invited, I am going to be taking

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Speaker 6: You to the ladies.

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Speaker 5: Welcome back to the good stuff. All right, Ashley, are

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Speaker 5: you ready to take us to lunch?

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Speaker 1: Let's go.

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Speaker 8: What they're doing because they're doing something with all the

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Speaker 9: Grand opening, Yeah, with fireworks starting at seven pm?

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Speaker 5: Or who you are recording?

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Speaker 10: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Did you did that?

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Speaker 1: Christ Say? Inspell your name for me?

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Speaker 9: MESO m I r O s l A v A

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Speaker 1: You go buy mirrors. Yeah, I saw your pin again

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Speaker 1: last night.

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Speaker 8: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 1: Oh it's okay.

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Speaker 9: I put my name so I make sure it comes

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Speaker 9: back to me glad, but you can use it.

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Speaker 2: I forget.

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Speaker 9: And this is how I know if people take him

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Speaker 7: I'm so young that the doctors don't believe that cancer excusing,

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Speaker 1: Oh, it's just some five roses.

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Speaker 9: So we went to At that time, I was living

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Speaker 10: And see doctors over there, and they chose five roses medication.

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Speaker 9: But by the time we lived on my second ultra sound,

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Speaker 1: So they I talked to him.

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Speaker 2: If you had to describe it to someone that's never

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Speaker 9: It's like a time with friends, like going out to

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Speaker 9: and we're all just friends right away. It's important to

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Speaker 7: My husband does that all the time.

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Speaker 5: Bill.

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Speaker 7: I'm like, all right, you picked the movie tonight, and

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Speaker 7: that I have no interesting, no desire watching, and he's

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Speaker 7: on his phone. I'm like, are you watching this movie?

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Speaker 7: Because if you're on your phone on Facebook, then I'm

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Speaker 7: going to change the movie because I have no desire

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Speaker 7: to watch it. But you want me to see next

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Speaker 7: to you, you know.

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Speaker 1: When I'm out with people, my phone has always put away.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But when I'm home, I feel like it's always

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Speaker 3: Steve's watching, but he wants me to sit next to him.

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Speaker 7: I'm like, i feel like I'm held hostage.

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Speaker 1: Say in spell your name for me. The hardest question

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask.

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Speaker 10: Susan Allen, what is your title?

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Speaker 1: What do you do?

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Speaker 10: Well?

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Speaker 1: There's lots of things.

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Speaker 10: So I do work for Mister Restore, which is a

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Speaker 2: We all know and love Michael Carnell and keep his

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Speaker 10: Well?

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Speaker 5: Oh, that looks good.

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Speaker 2: And if you are a woman marine, I am in

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Speaker 1: Why is the work that One Tribe Foundation does? Why

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Speaker 7: Veterans don't get the same. Veterans have problems when they

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Speaker 6: So love, I love being.

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Speaker 8: From Okay, all right, so let'spill your name for me.

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Speaker 1: I got the first question.

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Speaker 7: Right, but I have I'm going to Nationals.

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Speaker 5: Have my way lived to con.

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Speaker 8: It's just fun to sit back and just listen to

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Speaker 1: Belly laughs for sure. Yes, it's just it's just a

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Speaker 2: Agreed with us being in this man's world, if you will,

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Speaker 2: Because we predominantly are always around men.

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Speaker 1: Why is it important.

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Speaker 8: It's important to be vulnerable with other women? You know,

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Speaker 8: it's it's hard to do. I think there's a lot

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Speaker 1: It's a gym, agreed, It's it's like a. It's soul

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Speaker 8: And I think, if anything, we learn stuff from each other, right,

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Speaker 8: And you know, you get all these little nuggets of

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Speaker 9: Dis No, you didn't making fun of it, like making jokes.

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Speaker 9: That really got me making my own jokes. Yes, you

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Speaker 1: They thought it was too dark, and I'm like, no dark.

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Speaker 2: Why is it important to have the female camaraderie.

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Speaker 9: Because although you know, you spend time with your husband

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Speaker 9: It just makes you realize you have people that are

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Speaker 4: How was the women's luncheon today, bab.

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Speaker 2: We had a great group. It was a very lively group.

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Speaker 2: You never I mean sometimes we have introverts come. Sometimes

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Speaker 5: I did walk into the restaurant towards the end and

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Speaker 6: I was like, those are the late that's them.

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Speaker 1: They're right there. Put us right by the door. We

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Speaker 2: It's just it's a highlight of my month because you

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Speaker 6: Damn good for him, God Bless And.

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Speaker 2: We had Asparza's.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, you get to go to the as Sparsa's.

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Speaker 6: Everyone was like, oh, I come here every Friday.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we walk in and Tiffany and Mudros and I

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Speaker 2: I looked at Tiffany, I said, how did you even

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Speaker 4: But I have no doubt about that.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, we talked about I mean everything from debian

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Speaker 4: Did you imagine today it would never.

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Speaker 6: Be they do they think they were good classes?

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Speaker 2: veteran back in the seventies. They said that they almost

445
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Speaker 2: felt like they were kind of in this flight attendant role,

446
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Speaker 2: like you you're meant to look beauty full. You're kind

447
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:04,199
Speaker 2: of like our poster children for this new genre of

448
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Speaker 2: military member. And they didn't do workouts, they didn't do

449
00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 2: obstacle courses, they didn't do push ups, they didn't do anything.

450
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Speaker 2: The only thing Debbie had to do two PFTs a year,

451
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Speaker 2: and they were running a mile and she remembers when

452
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Speaker 2: they bumped it from a mile to a mile and

453
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Speaker 2: a half and they all thought they were gonna die,

454
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Speaker 2: and then Michelle like chimes in and talks about her

455
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Speaker 2: experience where she had to do push ups when she

456
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Speaker 2: went back in the military, and she was like crying.

457
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Speaker 1: She was like, this is so hard.

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Speaker 2: It was like that they'd gotten through boot camp prior

459
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Speaker 2: to that, right, and so it was really interesting to

460
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Speaker 2: hear their perspectives of their time in the military and

461
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Speaker 2: then kind of compare it. Of course, that rolled into

462
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Speaker 2: a conversation about today's military and because some of them

463
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Speaker 2: have children or grandchildren that are serving now. And from

464
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Speaker 2: there the conversation snowballed over to dark humor, and we

465
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Speaker 2: talked about how being around this world and in this world,

466
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Speaker 2: a lot of times we share that dark humor. And

467
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Speaker 2: then who'sn't told funny but not funny? I don't think

468
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Speaker 2: it was supposed to be funny story, but about when

469
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Speaker 2: she thought she was in a place where she could

470
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Speaker 2: exercise dark humor, so she laughed at something that she

471
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Speaker 2: thought was a joke, but it wasn't a joke, and

472
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Speaker 2: then people had to apologize. Yeah, So, I mean, it's

473
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Speaker 2: like you never know what you're going to get at

474
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Speaker 2: one of these luncheons. But we have so much fun

475
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Speaker 2: and everybody feels comfortable and safe, and you know, I mean,

476
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Speaker 2: we talked about serious issues like breast cancer because Meros

477
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Speaker 2: is a survivor and so she was able to share

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Speaker 2: some of you know, her experiences in that. And then

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Speaker 2: we talked about different books that we're reading in different

480
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Speaker 2: movies that we've seen recently. And I found out that

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Speaker 2: the DD apparently allows you to have I always learned

482
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Speaker 2: something at these luncheons too, but I found out the

483
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Speaker 2: DD actually has some sort of almost public library book

484
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Speaker 2: rental program.

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Speaker 1: I haven't looked it up yet, but.

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Speaker 2: This is in my notes of things to do post

487
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Speaker 2: my One Tribe Woman luncheon this month. But you can

488
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Speaker 2: actually like rent books or check out books through the DoD,

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Speaker 2: which I thought was really fascinating because of course we

490
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Speaker 2: talked about the Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. Half

491
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 2: the table had read it and loved it, so we

492
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Speaker 2: kind of unpacked that a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Wait, civilians can do this or no military people?

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Speaker 1: Military people, That's what I thought.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because I I only ever went to the DoD

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Speaker 3: library as the.

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Speaker 1: Point, well, I was like, wait, we have been.

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Speaker 4: I didn't know that was a thing. I don't think

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Speaker 4: one Marina ever served with ever knew that was a thing.

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Speaker 2: Well, one of the ladies actually looked it up on

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Speaker 2: her little DoD library app while we were at lunch

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Speaker 2: and said that, oh, yeah, I can check that book out.

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Speaker 2: They let them I can check it out, but not

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Speaker 2: for three months because they're all checked out. And I

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Speaker 2: was like, yeah, that doesn't surprise me because it's a

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Speaker 2: great book. But I mean, we talked about everything from

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Speaker 2: makeup tips to working out, to intermittent fasting, to boobs

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Speaker 2: to you know, different types of lunches and recipes that

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's just shoot for the fences.

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Speaker 5: I walked in and the lady looked up to me,

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Speaker 5: she goes, we talked about the military and boobs.

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Speaker 6: It's cool, two very good subjects. Yeah, that's the best subject.

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Speaker 6: Matters pretty good.

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Speaker 3: In regards to the boob conversation, did that have more

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Speaker 3: to do with because of MirOS and fighting breast cancer

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Speaker 3: or did you just talk about boobs in general.

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Speaker 2: So we were talking about losing weight and one of

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Speaker 2: the ladies had an aunt that got a tummy tuck

519
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Speaker 2: and they took some of the fat from her tummy

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Speaker 2: tuck and put it in one of her breast augmentation

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Speaker 2: post breast cancer.

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Speaker 4: I only snickered because I had it reminded me of

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Speaker 4: a marine. Buddy said.

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Speaker 3: He was dating the chick who was going to get

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Speaker 3: a boob reduction, and he said he looked at me

526
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Speaker 3: and said, I mean, it's like slapping God.

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Speaker 1: There's that dark hair, dark humor.

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Speaker 4: But God bless that lady that had to go through that.

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Speaker 3: I mean, that's yeah, it's crazy what medically can be done.

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Speaker 4: I mean, we're talking about.

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Speaker 3: In this in this case as a result of breast

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Speaker 3: cancer obviously a very big killer of women, not only

533
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Speaker 3: in our country, all over the world. And you know,

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Speaker 3: I think about things like guys, I've known not only myself,

535
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Speaker 3: but I've had crazy operations to be able to improve

536
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Speaker 3: the quality of life. Yeah, removing toes from a foot

537
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Speaker 3: to put on a hand, right, you know, it's like

538
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Speaker 3: all kinds of crazy stuff. That's you would never think

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Speaker 3: that's a thing. Yeah, it's just insane that the advances

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Speaker 3: in medicine, hopefully we get to a point to where

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Speaker 3: cancer doesn't have the success rate it does.

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, preach. I mean, we talked about being

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Speaker 2: fully present with our families, with ourselves, you know, because

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Speaker 2: sometimes the conversation does get deep. Sometimes it's very lighthearted

545
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 2: and very shallow on purpose by design. But we talked

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Speaker 2: about being fully present with ourselves and with our partners.

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Speaker 2: And if our husband says, I want to watch this

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Speaker 2: sci fi movie, don't sit down on the couch and

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00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:13,199
Speaker 2: start scrolling. But then if he starts scrolling and you

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Speaker 2: don't want to watch that sci fi movie, all bets

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Speaker 2: are off.

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Speaker 1: And so just a lot of great conversations like that.

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Speaker 2: You know, the camaraderie is great, the laughter is great,

554
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Speaker 2: and it's just it's yeah, it's nice to just go

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Speaker 2: and have that sisterhood and that that girl time, and

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Speaker 2: every single one of them, you know, at the end

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Speaker 2: of the lunch and like always we thank them, you know,

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Speaker 2: thank you for coming. They were like, thank you for

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Speaker 2: putting this on. It really means a lot to them

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Speaker 2: to be able to take a step away from their

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Speaker 2: busy lives, their busy families. And for some actually they've

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Speaker 2: voiced to me after the fact, you know, hey, I

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Speaker 2: my job is I work remotely from home, and so

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Speaker 2: I'm isolated and I don't ever get that human interaction

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Speaker 2: and I miss that.

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Speaker 1: So thank you for this.

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Speaker 2: So after the lunch, I actually also got to download

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Speaker 2: with Debbie Ablson and Susan Allen. They want to to

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Speaker 2: come see the new Tesla, and so I took them

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Speaker 2: to the new Tesla and they were like, I don't

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Speaker 2: know how you driving this thing. I would be so distracted.

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Speaker 2: And then they was just pushing buttons and show them

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Speaker 2: and they were like, no, this is too much technology

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Speaker 2: with me.

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Speaker 3: But I got to download it now too distracted?

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Speaker 4: Is the buttons or what?

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Speaker 2: Just Susan was like, do you watch Netflix while you're driving?

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Speaker 1: I'm like, no, Susan, I don't watch Netflix.

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Speaker 2: But she she was seeing something but she's like, well,

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Speaker 2: I mean the car drives itself. So I was like,

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Speaker 2: I mean true, but no I don't. I don't pop

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Speaker 2: on a movie and then sit in five o'clock traffic.

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Speaker 1: But no, they were haven't.

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Speaker 2: And then they were like does this come back? Then

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Speaker 2: I was like, no, that's the roof, that's the ceiling

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Speaker 2: of the car.

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Speaker 10: No.

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Speaker 2: It was really good to like catch up with them

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Speaker 2: because I missed the last one that Susan was at,

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Speaker 2: and so to get her take on you know, the

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Speaker 2: One Tribe women group and the luncheons because we always

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Speaker 2: want to improve it and do better, and so we've

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Speaker 2: got we don't just do lunches at different restaurants, you know,

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Speaker 2: we try to come up with fun activities and stuff

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Speaker 2: like that. And Debbie's been part of the group since

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Speaker 2: day one, and so it was good to kind of

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Speaker 2: touch base with her.

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Speaker 3: And this is proof positive we got to do more stuff,

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Speaker 3: you know, in particular because of what the one woman said.

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Speaker 3: You know, I work from home and I'm very isolated.

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Speaker 3: It's like, okay, well let's just think of other stuff.

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Speaker 3: We have the space, let's do it. And it didn't

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Speaker 3: even have to be at the office.

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Speaker 2: Well, like last month, we did bingo at the office

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Speaker 2: on a random Saturday morning and we had a blast.

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Speaker 2: Completely different group of women that could make it on

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Speaker 2: a Saturday morning versus a Thursday launch, and we had

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Speaker 2: an absolute blast.

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Speaker 1: I haven't been going forever, but.

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Speaker 3: Last time I played being I was single digits old.

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Speaker 3: Yeah with me me at a nursing home.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was so much fun.

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Speaker 2: And I mean we totally hmmed it up like we

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Speaker 2: can bang it out, like we were having so much fun.

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Speaker 2: It's just it's soul food. It always feels good to

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Speaker 2: go and do that and share that time.

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Speaker 5: And they capped it off with getting some very cute

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Speaker 5: photos taken by yours truly very cute.

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Speaker 3: I knew who's a great picture.

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Speaker 1: He didn't cut the feet off.

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