Speaker 1: I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
Speaker 1: and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
Speaker 1: I'm a body positive Patican. I'm Caroline Bermudez, but I
Speaker 1: was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
Speaker 1: and a worker. B this is life. I love how
Speaker 1: Honey just shows up and says I look good with
Speaker 1: no makeup on. You guys right now, you don't even
Speaker 1: want to see this girl right now. You know what's crazy.
Speaker 1: We both have the fuzzies right here on the sides
Speaker 1: of right here, right oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, right
Speaker 1: here this Monday morning. In our defense, yes well it
Speaker 1: is a Monday, you know, but we are recording this
Speaker 1: on a Monday because the news just broke. Now, you
Speaker 1: guys are going to hear this on Friday, obviously, because
Speaker 1: we dropped new episodes on Friday, but we could not
Speaker 1: hold back with the news that broke over the weekend.
Speaker 1: By the time you guys hear this, we may have
Speaker 1: more details, but we're gonna spill all the tea on
Speaker 1: the wedding. The stopped the World benefit is official. I
Speaker 1: don't know how you felt about it, Honey, but I
Speaker 1: want to hear what your reaction was when you found
Speaker 1: out that they got married in Vegas. I was like,
Speaker 1: Las Vegas, I'm like why. I was kind of disappointed.
Speaker 1: I don't know why. I was expecting some very tale
Speaker 1: situation from these two after they linked up a second time. Okay, Honey,
Speaker 1: I promise you. I swear to you. You know there
Speaker 1: are some shows that do this where it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm going to take this position and you take the
Speaker 1: other position, and we'll we'll be opposing even though we
Speaker 1: both think the same way. I swear to you, honey,
Speaker 1: and I could not be further apart on this subject
Speaker 1: right now, because the minute I saw Vegas, I thought, yes,
Speaker 1: it's the only thing she hasn't done. It was too
Speaker 1: dusty for her. Man, she's like a queen. But she
Speaker 1: looked like she was ready to make her first holy communion.
Speaker 1: I mean she looked like she was, like, seriously eight
Speaker 1: years old. Look at how virginal and like beautiful and
Speaker 1: pure she looks. I'm telling not that, no, and I'm
Speaker 1: not dragging her. I'm actually giving that virginal. No. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: it's just virginal and Jennifer Lopus together kind of made
Speaker 1: me chuckle. I love her and I adore her, but
Speaker 1: you know it's crazy. My husband was like, she made
Speaker 1: waiting where white. I'm like, unless you get married when
Speaker 1: your fourteen, I don't think nobody should be wearing white.
Speaker 1: But whatever, Oh my gosh, I went there. No, but
Speaker 1: for real. That's why I said, it's like, this is
Speaker 1: in no way, shape or form. And I promise you,
Speaker 1: because you know how I feel about j Lo I
Speaker 1: would never drag my girl. But I thought, absolutely, yes,
Speaker 1: this is this is the move because she's done the
Speaker 1: big wedding, right, like we know that she's done the
Speaker 1: big wedding that was orchestrated, that had like six wedding
Speaker 1: planners and like you know, everything under the sun with
Speaker 1: Mark Anthony. And then she had like, oh no, it
Speaker 1: was Mark Anthony, the backyard wedding. I think Chris Judd
Speaker 1: was the big wedding. Right here we go. Chris Judd,
Speaker 1: I think was the big wedding. And then yes, and
Speaker 1: then I think Mark Anthony was like the backyard wedding
Speaker 1: where we got the helicopter photos of them. Remember that,
Speaker 1: I like that dress, that was my favorite dress, beautiful,
Speaker 1: gorgeous dress. But now I feel like this was a
Speaker 1: move that only j Lo could do. I love how
Speaker 1: Ben was like about about it, like he didn't even care.
Speaker 1: He was just like, yeah, I'll bring out a white
Speaker 1: tuxedo jacket because I have a couple of those in
Speaker 1: my closet. You know. I just think all of it
Speaker 1: was just so amazing. And the fact that she announced
Speaker 1: it on her site. I thought that she like really
Speaker 1: owns this one. I don't know, what do you think, honey,
Speaker 1: You know, I guess the no frills wedding is cute
Speaker 1: when you're young, you know, like Britney Spears teenager type
Speaker 1: of thing. I guess, But I don't know. I just
Speaker 1: expected so much more from them, Like it's like, finally
Speaker 1: they got back together. They're gonna do it. This is
Speaker 1: gonna be some fairy tale wedding. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: expected different. When I saw that picture of him in
Speaker 1: the bathroom, I was like, I don't like this at all. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's right. I hope you used purell after because you know,
Speaker 1: those bathrooms are very trafficked, especially in Vegas. They got
Speaker 1: lots of people coming in and out those doors. They
Speaker 1: waited twenty years, Carolina for this a long time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's almost like maybe that was part of it.
Speaker 1: Maybe the build up was so strong that they were like,
Speaker 1: you know what, there's nothing that can top this love.
Speaker 1: There's nothing that can top our love for each other.
Speaker 1: Like they both have all the money in the world,
Speaker 1: they both have everything at their disposal, Like if they
Speaker 1: wanted any flower, if they wanted any type of wedding
Speaker 1: plan or any type of dress, like, they could have it.
Speaker 1: So maybe this was their way of saying, like, it
Speaker 1: truly is about the love. Now, I will say this,
Speaker 1: I do not believe that this was spontaneous. What are
Speaker 1: your thoughts on that. I don't know. It's just like,
Speaker 1: I don't know why. I feel like they just grabbed
Speaker 1: the family was like, let's go to Vegas and of
Speaker 1: course hair and makeup people, come on, let's go, let's
Speaker 1: go to Vegas and let's get married. Yeah, don't think
Speaker 1: that j Loo moves that way. I think that everything
Speaker 1: in her life is orchestrated. I think everything in her
Speaker 1: life is planned to the second. So for me, I
Speaker 1: don't believe it was as spontaneous as they like for
Speaker 1: us to believe. I think that maybe they had it
Speaker 1: in their head Okay, this is gonna be the weekend
Speaker 1: and we're not going to tell anybody that kind of thing.
Speaker 1: But I absolutely do not believe that they did not
Speaker 1: tip anybody off prior to it. What makes it good
Speaker 1: about this is the fact that they were able to
Speaker 1: control the narrative. Nothing got leaked. She shared her pictures
Speaker 1: on her own newsletter, like they controlled how this got out,
Speaker 1: and they control how it looked. So I guess that part.
Speaker 1: Kudos to them that part. But then also, um, I
Speaker 1: think we're glossing over the big headline, and the big
Speaker 1: headline is that she signed it Mrs Jennifer Lynn Affleck.
Speaker 1: She is no longer j Lo Honey, she's bugging her soul.
Speaker 1: She didn't even hypheny. I peeped that there was a
Speaker 1: name change, but I assumed there was Lopez Affleck. No. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, did you see something. I
Speaker 1: saw that she wrote Jennifer Lynn Affleck, And in my mind,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, did she go for it? Is she really
Speaker 1: going to do the thing like that I did? Because
Speaker 1: if she is going to do it, she's in for
Speaker 1: a headache. So let's discuss. Let's talk about it. Carolina
Speaker 1: from Experience did you change your last name to Nooni's
Speaker 1: last name. You know what. The only place where I hyphenated,
Speaker 1: which is German Martinez, was on my way to my
Speaker 1: wedding license. I don't know if that means I changed
Speaker 1: my name legally. What do you What do you say, Carolina?
Speaker 1: I did not You did not know, because do you
Speaker 1: see these khanas that I have, these grays that I
Speaker 1: have in my hair. This is all from changing my
Speaker 1: name eleven years ago. This ship doesn't stop when you
Speaker 1: change your name officially. You have to get a new
Speaker 1: Social Security card, you gotta change your license, you gotta
Speaker 1: get your name changed on your health cards. You've got
Speaker 1: to get your name changed on every single credit card,
Speaker 1: your miles. I lost so many Delta sky miles because
Speaker 1: I went from Bermudez to grow the miles. Girl, you
Speaker 1: will never get them back, and I was so pissed. Carolina.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question. Rewind a little bit. Okay,
Speaker 1: when did you come to the decision of I'm going
Speaker 1: to change my name? Like how did did did Mark
Speaker 1: pressure you to do that? Or did your family say
Speaker 1: you gotta change your name because they're Latinos and you
Speaker 1: know Latinos love doing that. Yeah, you know what. I
Speaker 1: don't think there was really any pressure from anyone. I
Speaker 1: think it was all self inflicted. I think that I
Speaker 1: am a product of some really old school Latino parents.
Speaker 1: That that is the assumption that when you get married,
Speaker 1: you change your name, you take on your husband's name,
Speaker 1: and so from the very beginning, I went through the
Speaker 1: process and the paperwork. But it's never ending. When I
Speaker 1: tell you, it is a chore. There are websites, there
Speaker 1: are businesses that have been created. Carolina. At least you
Speaker 1: got an alias. Now you know you want to do
Speaker 1: a scam as name? Oh yeah, you know what. Actually
Speaker 1: that is true. I should use that more to my advantage.
Speaker 1: I don't do it enough. Honey. Actually, thank you for
Speaker 1: bringing that to my attention. I'm choking. Don't take no
Speaker 1: no criminal advice from me. But you was open off
Speaker 1: your man and you was like, I'm changing my name.
Speaker 1: You really loved him and you was really excited to
Speaker 1: do this. I know I felt. I felt so hard
Speaker 1: for it. Hu I'm telling you, he he really rocked
Speaker 1: my world. So here's here's what happened. I said, I
Speaker 1: built my name professionally as Carolina Bermudez and that was
Speaker 1: never going to change. So everything else though, as far
Speaker 1: as like and we didn't have kids obviously when we
Speaker 1: got married, so I said, I would like for us
Speaker 1: to be a family unit. When I go and pick
Speaker 1: up my kids, I want them to see that, you know,
Speaker 1: I am their mother. And by the way, if you
Speaker 1: have not changed your name, I'm actually giving you credit
Speaker 1: because I think I'm the biggest dummy on the planet
Speaker 1: for doing this. It has made my life a living hell.
Speaker 1: I'm not even kidding you. So I think that because
Speaker 1: I adopted the idea that I was going to take
Speaker 1: on my husband's last name, it made it, I guess,
Speaker 1: easier for me because then I said, Okay, I still
Speaker 1: get to keep my identity. I still get to keep
Speaker 1: Carolina Bermuda's professionally public but privately, I am, you know,
Speaker 1: taking my husband's last name. So you basically didn't No,
Speaker 1: I didn't you know where I did do it on
Speaker 1: What's app For some reason, I hyphenated it. Girl. You know,
Speaker 1: my mom came to me. Why, she said, how dare
Speaker 1: you put a man's last name? Why wouldn't you put
Speaker 1: your mother's last name? You know, like my mom's last
Speaker 1: You know how Hispanic families used dad's name and then
Speaker 1: mom's last name. My mom, My mom was offended when
Speaker 1: I hyphenated with my husband's last name on WhatsApp. I
Speaker 1: think it's still there just to bother her, because I'm like,
Speaker 1: how dare you tell me what to do with my husband?
Speaker 1: It's not a life in Spanglish episode. If we don't
Speaker 1: get under honey's mother's skin, that's that's that's a fact.
Speaker 1: Thanks for That's the only place where I publicly kind
Speaker 1: of like and I got some ship behind it. So
Speaker 1: never again, never again. Well, it'll be interesting to see
Speaker 1: if she really does adopt the aff like last name,
Speaker 1: because I think that there's a lot that goes to that.
Speaker 1: But I also, because you know, I'm a thinker, I
Speaker 1: was thinking to myself, as far as Hollywood goes, this
Speaker 1: is a power move right here because Ben Affleck, if
Speaker 1: you think about it, in his past, you know Oscar, winner,
Speaker 1: Golden Globe, you know, winner nominee, all these other accolades
Speaker 1: and things. He is also a very prolific screenwriter and
Speaker 1: he's got all these projects. Maybe maybe as if, as
Speaker 1: if she doesn't need the power move, but this could
Speaker 1: be the little that she needs to get her to
Speaker 1: that spot in Hollywood. How much bigger does this woman
Speaker 1: want to be? This woman was waiting for Elon Musk
Speaker 1: up in the moon when you went up there at
Speaker 1: this world already she really is. But that's why I
Speaker 1: was thinking about it. I'm like, why, Jennifer Lopez, of
Speaker 1: all people, do you think she would take on his
Speaker 1: last name, especially for somebody has established as she is,
Speaker 1: especially as for somebody who's such an icon in our community,
Speaker 1: you know, for her to do that, I feel like
Speaker 1: that is really her gesture to him that she's all his,
Speaker 1: because she never took on Mark Anthony's last name. I
Speaker 1: don't even know that man's last name. I think it's
Speaker 1: like I think, no, I think that's his middle names.
Speaker 1: That's what it is, Moonie, that's what it is. The
Speaker 1: little girl is called Emmy Moonis, and the boys moonist
Speaker 1: being So. Yeah, she definitely did not take those last
Speaker 1: last night, Ohani Noamoco, Chris Judd much Oh my gosh. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So it will be that. I mean he is still
Speaker 1: living off of that. But yes, maybe Carolina, maybe maybe
Speaker 1: this is to prove to us, to the world and
Speaker 1: to Ben that this is it, this is her final
Speaker 1: stop when it comes to marriages, like I'm going to
Speaker 1: change my name. So yeah, see how serious I am?
Speaker 1: And you don't keep dragging me talking about the modern
Speaker 1: day Elizabeth Tailor. I feel like that was it. I
Speaker 1: think that's the clincher, that she's trying to send the
Speaker 1: message to everybody that this is forever for j Lo.
Speaker 1: This is gonna be it. Now. Here's the thing. I
Speaker 1: want to bring this up because you know, I had
Speaker 1: to dive deep into this, which I haven't slept since
Speaker 1: I got the news. Gotta be honest with you, I'm
Speaker 1: super excited for her. One red flag that came to
Speaker 1: my attention. Why was her family the only ones in attendance?
Speaker 1: From what we know today, we know that her daughter
Speaker 1: and her son were the ones that we're taking pictures
Speaker 1: of them, and they were the witnesses. Was what a lupe?
Speaker 1: There was Mama there because you know Mama loves her
Speaker 1: some ben Affleck. She's the one that kept on telling
Speaker 1: her he was the one that got away. Where was
Speaker 1: Linda Lopez? Where was Linda? But Linda? I feel like
Speaker 1: in my sister where it has been actles children with
Speaker 1: them too what you want. Jennifer Garner there too. No,
Speaker 1: Jennifer Garner wants none of that. She wants none of
Speaker 1: this smoke. Um. Where's Matt Damon? Where's her bestie? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: those two are like twins right right. So from every
Speaker 1: account that I read, it was that only Jennifer's team
Speaker 1: and children were in attendance. I believe some people said
Speaker 1: that her mother was there. So then why was his
Speaker 1: family not included? Was it because they wanted to keep
Speaker 1: it under wraps. The more people that knew, the more
Speaker 1: that might get out. I don't know, So I'm just
Speaker 1: curious about that. Do you think that's a red flag
Speaker 1: that only his her family was invited? I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I think maybe he just decided, like which is good.
Speaker 1: I feel like it was a really spontaneous, last minute thing.
Speaker 1: Maybe his family wasn't available. Maybe they were all in
Speaker 1: Jennifer's house and where it wasn't Jennifer Jennifer's house hopped
Speaker 1: in the private jet because they were like last night,
Speaker 1: we we jumped on a plane and went to Vegas
Speaker 1: to get married. We stood online with some people and
Speaker 1: we just did it. Maybe it was super spontaneous and
Speaker 1: not orchestrated just to look like a simple way. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think there might be something to that because especially, yeah,
Speaker 1: we will get to it. Oh, no, we are going
Speaker 1: to get to the diets because I want them all.
Speaker 1: I want to know it all. And then also reportedly
Speaker 1: she used one of her dresses from a movie that
Speaker 1: she was in and then she had a zuhem raw
Speaker 1: original or something like that. And I only say it
Speaker 1: like that because I'm not, you know, in the fashion world,
Speaker 1: but I would guess that people in fashion would say
Speaker 1: it that way. I don't know. I feel like they're
Speaker 1: just trying to downplay it because he's forty nine, she's
Speaker 1: fifty two, and they're like, let's just chill out. Let's
Speaker 1: not make this big drama. Let's just get married and
Speaker 1: move on. Oh he got a jacket from his closet.
Speaker 1: I got an old dress. I don't know. I just
Speaker 1: don't feel like this is j Lo. Yeah, but you
Speaker 1: know what, it's not like when you're in your fifties,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have a bunch of Madrina's. You're gonna have
Speaker 1: a bunch of old Madrina's walking down the aisle that
Speaker 1: that I would hope not. How old are your brides
Speaker 1: and he's gonna be in their forties and their fifties.
Speaker 1: Hell no, that would just be you and Ben. Nobody else. Well,
Speaker 1: I don't care what anybody says. J Lo is about
Speaker 1: to be fifty three, I think, and you can verify
Speaker 1: this for me if I'm wrong. Is she's about to
Speaker 1: be fifty three. She's this woman looks twelve. The hairstyle,
Speaker 1: the makeup, everything was perfection. In my opinion. I thought
Speaker 1: she just looked so beautiful and and like I said,
Speaker 1: so pure and virginal and just like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: Like I want this to go great for her. I'm
Speaker 1: really really rooting for them me too. I want this
Speaker 1: to be here happily ever after. She definitely deserves it.
Speaker 1: She keeps trying, so you gotta give it to the woman.
Speaker 1: She's hopeless, romantic, she wants to be a wife, and
Speaker 1: I really hope that this is the one for her.
Speaker 1: I still don't know about the name change situation though, Caroline.
Speaker 1: I'm still stuck at that. I am too. I think
Speaker 1: that is baffling. Maybe she's gonna pull a move like
Speaker 1: and we'll call it the Carolina. Maybe she's still professionally
Speaker 1: going to be Jennifer Lopez, but be hind the scenes,
Speaker 1: she's gonna be Mrs Affleck. And then there was a
Speaker 1: whole other discussion about did she change her name to
Speaker 1: Affleck because they might try to have a baby together
Speaker 1: or something like that. You know, I mean, could you imagine,
Speaker 1: because then she would have a baby Affleck. Then it
Speaker 1: would make sense when she goes to her parents teaching night, right,
Speaker 1: she want to make sure they know she's the mother.
Speaker 1: I'll just right exactly because when she walks in, they're
Speaker 1: gonna be like, I'm sorry, excuse me, who's mommy? Or
Speaker 1: who's your son or who's your daughter? Yeah? Yeah, because
Speaker 1: when Jayla walks in, they're gonna be asking her questions
Speaker 1: like that, be questioning the difference between the last names. Right,
Speaker 1: why are you Lopez? And why is your child Affleck?
Speaker 1: We need this clarified. But you know what, Carolina, there
Speaker 1: are alternatives, you know, to changing your name, like if
Speaker 1: you get married, Right, there's obviously the first one, which
Speaker 1: is keep your last name, right, Okay. You can also
Speaker 1: hypen it hypen it your name. Some people make their
Speaker 1: maiden name their middle name, so that you would still
Speaker 1: be that would be your new middle name. I don't
Speaker 1: know how that would work out. And of course there's
Speaker 1: you know, just change your name to your husband's last name.
Speaker 1: But there's also this is fairly new, you can create
Speaker 1: a new last name. There's like new more I guess
Speaker 1: progressive people that are just creating a whole new last name.
Speaker 1: Sometimes they mash up both their last names and find
Speaker 1: a new name that both of them can have that
Speaker 1: has no ties to either one of their families. That
Speaker 1: would devastate me. It's kind of man, we are so opposite, honey,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's fun though. That would be so
Speaker 1: fun though, to come up with a whole But then
Speaker 1: what happens that we both have to change our names legally,
Speaker 1: new passport, new social security course, And maybe it wouldn't
Speaker 1: be that fun. It just sounds fun. So, for example,
Speaker 1: if we were going to do a mashup of my
Speaker 1: last name and my husband's last name, Bermuda's Grossman, we
Speaker 1: could do Berman. Berman would be like a neutral I guess. Like,
Speaker 1: but see, my last name makes me so proud, and
Speaker 1: I feel like that's something that we you know, we've
Speaker 1: discussed on this podcast before, Like I am genuinely proud
Speaker 1: of my last name. I'm proud of what it's dance,
Speaker 1: for the hard work that my mom and dad put
Speaker 1: into creating our family, and and there's just something that
Speaker 1: was I did go through a morning period when I
Speaker 1: gave up my last name. It really was tough. And
Speaker 1: my husband even said to me because on my American
Speaker 1: Express it was still my maiden name. He was like,
Speaker 1: you're holding onto it, huh, And I said, yeah, I
Speaker 1: have a holding on to it. It's hard to give
Speaker 1: up all of your It's really kind of giving up
Speaker 1: your identity and everything that you knew and everything that
Speaker 1: you've been taught and you worked for. It's something that
Speaker 1: is so hard to explain, but once you give that up.
Speaker 1: I did go through a period where I was like
Speaker 1: really sad, where I had to like cut up my
Speaker 1: old cards and you know, I had to go through
Speaker 1: the whole process. But I mean now I think that
Speaker 1: I'm very proud of my husband's last name. And I
Speaker 1: remind my kids all the time. Because kids are pretty terrible,
Speaker 1: they like to make fun of them because they're all grossman,
Speaker 1: you know, but I always tell them, I'm like, you'd
Speaker 1: be proud of your last name, Like that's our family,
Speaker 1: so I don't know how if I could ever give
Speaker 1: mine up entirely and his up. You know, I think
Speaker 1: that there's just so much more that goes into it. Now,
Speaker 1: let me ask, how do you feel about you know,
Speaker 1: let's say places where they don't know you before when
Speaker 1: you would get there, you make a reservation Carlina. As
Speaker 1: soon as you would get there, it was it was implied,
Speaker 1: associated and quite visible that you were Latina. Now that
Speaker 1: you have a last name like Grossman, do you feel
Speaker 1: any different? Like when you go place like do these
Speaker 1: people think I'm a white woman? Like? Doesn't make you
Speaker 1: feel any which way? Um? You know? Funny enough, I
Speaker 1: would say that that situation, I've encountered it where people
Speaker 1: are confused and there's generally there's genuine confusion on their
Speaker 1: face and they're like they look at me and they
Speaker 1: look at the name and they look at me and
Speaker 1: they say, Carolina, I'm sorry, what is it Grossman? And
Speaker 1: I say, yes, two ends at the end, by the way, please. Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's something that I guess there is that biased or
Speaker 1: that confusion there. But listen, there are plenty of um
Speaker 1: ha man a Jewish people. There's plenty of plenty of
Speaker 1: Latinos who are Jewish, and I have a bunch of
Speaker 1: friends who are Cuban. They like to call themselves Jubians.
Speaker 1: But I think that's cute. You've never heard Jubian. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Down in Miami, there's um one of my dear friends
Speaker 1: when I was working at Why One in Miami. She's
Speaker 1: Jewish and her family is Cuban, and there's a big,
Speaker 1: big community of um Jewish Cubans down there, and also
Speaker 1: of other you know, I have Mexican friends who are
Speaker 1: are Jewish and other countries. But um, yeah, I think
Speaker 1: that there's an assumption made when you see Carolina Grossman
Speaker 1: because they don't go with Carolina Carolina Carolina, and then
Speaker 1: I show up and they're like doing a double take.
Speaker 1: But um No, there's nothing that would ever make me
Speaker 1: go back and change it back to what my maiden
Speaker 1: name was, just because of you know, the family unit
Speaker 1: and what I wanted to create there. But Honey, I
Speaker 1: wanted to ask you is there. This brings up the
Speaker 1: whole subject of twenty years. They waited to be together
Speaker 1: right twenty years and it was a long time and
Speaker 1: they both had relationships, they had failed relationships, they had
Speaker 1: great long term relationships in between. But was there ever
Speaker 1: a person in your life that you think got away
Speaker 1: from you. I'm from me, but I know I got
Speaker 1: away from a lot of motherfuckers. Oh my gosh, why
Speaker 1: did you see my line? Yes, I don't look to that.
Speaker 1: I sometimes I still see exes and stuff and I see,
Speaker 1: don't judge me, But I'm like, God, I look better
Speaker 1: than that motherfucker's wife. You know what I'm saying, like,
Speaker 1: oh Jesus Christ. And I know it's like I know
Speaker 1: they must either hear of me, of seeing me and
Speaker 1: be like, oh damn, that could have been my wife.
Speaker 1: I know that in their mind, because you know what, Carolina,
Speaker 1: every serious relationship I had, it was either let's get married,
Speaker 1: let's move in. It was always like they wanted to
Speaker 1: get serious, but I was never really ready. I remember
Speaker 1: my my first serious relationship, when I was like sixteen.
Speaker 1: He went away to the Navy. He was like, I
Speaker 1: want to get back. We're gonna get married. I was
Speaker 1: gone right after that. Yeah, I dated a drug dealer,
Speaker 1: let's get married. A couple of months later he was
Speaker 1: in jail. So and then I can keep on forever.
Speaker 1: But every single relationship I had, you got locked up,
Speaker 1: won't let me out. They gave him a battle life,
Speaker 1: they gave her life. God bless his soul. He is
Speaker 1: still around. But I know that when they see me today,
Speaker 1: present day, they're like, damn, I should have locked that
Speaker 1: bitch down. M I think we are in the same
Speaker 1: boat because for me, there I have zero regrets about
Speaker 1: any of my old relationships. And also I have no
Speaker 1: ill will. I'm happy for you that you're living with
Speaker 1: your dusty old wife over in wherever no man's land.
Speaker 1: I wish you nothing but the best. I actually do
Speaker 1: not look up x's. UM. I will encounter x's whenever
Speaker 1: they reach out to me on social media, and then
Speaker 1: I do the thing where um, I'll click on the
Speaker 1: profile and then I'll be like, okay, scroll for a
Speaker 1: little bit. But I really do not actively seek out exs.
Speaker 1: I've had a couple of exes that have encountered my
Speaker 1: social media and they've complimented like, oh, your kids are
Speaker 1: so beautiful. I always knew you were gonna be a
Speaker 1: great mother, like look at your life. UM, things like
Speaker 1: that where it's like, okay, well thank you, But then
Speaker 1: I did it, Like there's no conversation there, so for me,
Speaker 1: there was never really anyone that got away. You don't
Speaker 1: want to get caught up like talking reminiscent, trying to
Speaker 1: relive nothing like we're out here, we're married, good homes,
Speaker 1: you know, family career. You don't want to get champed
Speaker 1: up with an X that's obviously an ex for a reason,
Speaker 1: because I don't want to relive none of that either.
Speaker 1: I don't actively look up excess, but if they if
Speaker 1: I come across them, or if I see them, I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh God, he looks terrible. Oh Jesus Christ, I dodged
Speaker 1: that bullet. You know what's crazy, Carrely, when I had
Speaker 1: when I had my stroke, right, um, I didn't inventory
Speaker 1: of other potential husbands I could have had and how
Speaker 1: they would have reacted or how they would have treated me.
Speaker 1: I told my husband, I said, I went back and
Speaker 1: I thought about everyone I dated, and what if I
Speaker 1: would have married this guy he would have been a dick.
Speaker 1: What if I would have married this guy, he would
Speaker 1: have been in the streets. What if I would have
Speaker 1: married this guy, he would not have been able to
Speaker 1: help me with physical therapy. So I did a rundown,
Speaker 1: and in the end, I was like I chose the
Speaker 1: perfect man, not because I'm married to him, but that's
Speaker 1: the only time that I've actually given so much thought
Speaker 1: into all my exes. Well, you know, I am um
Speaker 1: the president of the Nooni fan club, and I really
Speaker 1: appreciate everything that he did to get you through that
Speaker 1: time because people don't may not know. And if you're
Speaker 1: just finding us, by the way, thank you, Um, but
Speaker 1: you may not know that. You know, Honey did suffer
Speaker 1: from a stroke in she has come back better than ever.
Speaker 1: And I do think that a lot of the credit,
Speaker 1: you know, is not only mentally that you did it
Speaker 1: mentally and physically you did the work, but that you
Speaker 1: had the support system of Noonie and your sister to
Speaker 1: guide you through all of those off times. And there
Speaker 1: are many people who are like tapping out. Nope, not
Speaker 1: for me, They don't want to deal. I know someone
Speaker 1: Carolina that's going through that right now. He suffered a
Speaker 1: stroke and his wife left him. She said, I'm not
Speaker 1: built for this, like I don't know what to do,
Speaker 1: like I don't know how to and he is devastated
Speaker 1: right now. Somebody I knew, and you know, it happened
Speaker 1: to him before it happened to me. And he's like,
Speaker 1: I'm going through it. I'm so messed up. My wife
Speaker 1: broke up with me. You know, marriage is something that um,
Speaker 1: not everybody takes seriously. But yo, when you marry somebody,
Speaker 1: you better be ready to you know, dug it out
Speaker 1: with them because ship is going to happen, and make
Speaker 1: sure you pick the right spouse. And we know when
Speaker 1: I tell people, like when I talk to my girlfriends
Speaker 1: that are still not married, I'm like, you better pick
Speaker 1: the right partner because life is gonna come at you hard. Shi.
Speaker 1: It is gonna happen, and if you don't pick the
Speaker 1: right partner, you're gonna be up ships creak with no paddle.
Speaker 1: That's the same. That's exactly the same. And I couldn't
Speaker 1: agree with you more on this point because that's a
Speaker 1: vowel right for better or for worse, in sickness and
Speaker 1: in health. And a lot of people like to write
Speaker 1: their own vows, and um, I truly believe I could
Speaker 1: have never you didn't write your own vows. No, girl,
Speaker 1: I've just repeated whatever the man said. Oh, I mean
Speaker 1: we did that too, But then I was like like
Speaker 1: crying through my vows, doing the ugly cry. Did I cry, yes,
Speaker 1: because I was just so emotional. I didn't I couldn't
Speaker 1: believe that it was happening. Um. I definitely think that
Speaker 1: that is something that people need to give a lot
Speaker 1: of thought because you could be riding high one day
Speaker 1: and the next day you are on the bottom, you know.
Speaker 1: And my my Abulita used to say, el mundo, el
Speaker 1: mundo seeing it you know, Um, I think that's how
Speaker 1: how you would say it. She's like, she would say.
Speaker 1: Dominicans use that too, they say, and yes, yes, and
Speaker 1: that's what she's used that saying too. And it's truly
Speaker 1: you never know where you're gonna have. You really don't.
Speaker 1: And now, honey, you know, I know you went through
Speaker 1: a stroke. But the only thing I can compare you
Speaker 1: know my situation too is you know, when I got
Speaker 1: my boobs done, Mark Grossman was there for me. He
Speaker 1: was there to support me. He was your can't he
Speaker 1: was there to support me, like the best sports bra
Speaker 1: out there on the market now. He was great. And
Speaker 1: even when I had my back surgery though for real,
Speaker 1: I know I'm being facetious about the boob job, but no, um, yeah,
Speaker 1: but he was he was there for you, right, It's
Speaker 1: just like you need somebody that's gonna be yo. Like,
Speaker 1: there's some people Carolina, I don't need to get to
Speaker 1: graphic that need somebody to wipe their asks, like their spouse.
Speaker 1: Like you're so sick. Let's say you have Let's very simple.
Speaker 1: You have a c section right after you get burned.
Speaker 1: Your spouse had. Your spouse has to be there. You're
Speaker 1: gonna need a lot of caring and support. And if
Speaker 1: you don't have the right spouse, imagine somebody talking about
Speaker 1: I'll be back, call your mom, call your sister, Like
Speaker 1: how devastating would that be? No, Mark mackam your lack cortext.
Speaker 1: He did me the favor because they had they give
Speaker 1: you these granny panties that are just like not the
Speaker 1: cutest and you're bleeding obviously because you just had a
Speaker 1: major surgery, and you can't bend over and get them
Speaker 1: from the shelf, or you can't exactly walk around the
Speaker 1: house immediately, you're in pain. You have a brand new baby.
Speaker 1: So I had to c sections, and I got to
Speaker 1: be honest, he was really incredible with the way that
Speaker 1: he supported me and that he was there for me.
Speaker 1: So you know, hopefully that that is so important it
Speaker 1: is like mandatory that you marry somebody you know, empathetic, loving,
Speaker 1: caring and who understands, you know, being there for you.
Speaker 1: Because I have a friend Carolina, she went through COVID
Speaker 1: and her significant other was just they put her in
Speaker 1: a room and they were like, well, we'll leave you
Speaker 1: food outside. You know, I'll be back. Like she just
Speaker 1: felt so devastated going through that, and he was just
Speaker 1: not supportive at all, Like he he kept living his
Speaker 1: life and she was just locked up in a room
Speaker 1: with COVID. So make sure you pick the right one. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I definitely think that it's a real testament to who
Speaker 1: you've married when you go through those times when you
Speaker 1: need that support. Are you looking to outside sources or
Speaker 1: other people for support or did you truly pick the
Speaker 1: right partner? And we are fortunate to say that we
Speaker 1: definitely did. I know I can say that wholeheartedly. But
Speaker 1: like you know, my only hope for j Lo is
Speaker 1: that Ben Affleck, if she needs to change her cotext,
Speaker 1: do her favorite change that for her. Ben. I'm sure
Speaker 1: she has people, but she wants you to do it.
Speaker 1: I think this is the one care leader. I really
Speaker 1: feel like she finally found her person again twenty years later.
Speaker 1: I hope so, I hope so too. I sure hope
Speaker 1: so so. Yeah, listen, we will stay on this. We
Speaker 1: will make sure that we give you guys all the
Speaker 1: late breaking news. But we had to stop down and
Speaker 1: give you guys a special Life in Spanglish wedding edition
Speaker 1: for the fourth time for j Lo. I know, I
Speaker 1: know there have been others, but this one is the one.
Speaker 1: We can feel it. We got a good feeling about it,
Speaker 1: and we're sending her nothing but good positive vibes and hopefully,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. They didn't have to do
Speaker 1: the money dance at their wedding. I didn't do the
Speaker 1: money dance either, because I felt like I was about
Speaker 1: to do it. But you know, we would throw down
Speaker 1: a couple of bills for you guys if you were
Speaker 1: doing the money dance j Lo and Ben. All I
Speaker 1: gotta say is yeah, totally exactly. You know what this
Speaker 1: should be it because you are not going to be
Speaker 1: out in these streets j Lo at six five trying
Speaker 1: to look for no man. Okay, don't be out there
Speaker 1: like Madonna. Don't get me started on Madonna's Instagram. Please
Speaker 1: stop Carolina let's nut touch the Madonna's topic, because this
Speaker 1: episode is rapping and we could go down a rabbit
Speaker 1: hole with that. We could, and Madonna's fans are wild.
Speaker 1: We do not even want to touch that. So listen.
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