WEBVTT - Introducing Jennifer Lopez... Affleck? 0:00:05.000 --> 0:00:07.400 I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:09.800 and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:14.840 I'm a body positive Patican. I'm Caroline Bermudez, but I 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:18.560 was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama, 0:00:18.600 --> 0:00:22.720 and a worker. B this is life. I love how 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:24.880 Honey just shows up and says I look good with 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:29.240 no makeup on. You guys right now, you don't even 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:32.640 want to see this girl right now. You know what's crazy. 0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:34.520 We both have the fuzzies right here on the sides 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:36.599 of right here, right oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, right 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:40.120 here this Monday morning. In our defense, yes well it 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:43.159 is a Monday, you know, but we are recording this 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:45.800 on a Monday because the news just broke. Now, you 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:48.040 guys are going to hear this on Friday, obviously, because 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:50.559 we dropped new episodes on Friday, but we could not 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:53.360 hold back with the news that broke over the weekend. 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:55.520 By the time you guys hear this, we may have 0:00:55.600 --> 0:00:58.680 more details, but we're gonna spill all the tea on 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:03.960 the wedding. The stopped the World benefit is official. I 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:06.280 don't know how you felt about it, Honey, but I 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:08.400 want to hear what your reaction was when you found 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:10.520 out that they got married in Vegas. I was like, 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:18.400 Las Vegas, I'm like why. I was kind of disappointed. 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:20.959 I don't know why. I was expecting some very tale 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:25.080 situation from these two after they linked up a second time. Okay, Honey, 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:27.600 I promise you. I swear to you. You know there 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:29.960 are some shows that do this where it's like, oh, 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:32.320 I'm going to take this position and you take the 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:35.680 other position, and we'll we'll be opposing even though we 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.800 both think the same way. I swear to you, honey, 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:41.319 and I could not be further apart on this subject 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:47.960 right now, because the minute I saw Vegas, I thought, yes, 0:01:48.720 --> 0:01:53.240 it's the only thing she hasn't done. It was too 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:56.680 dusty for her. Man, she's like a queen. But she 0:01:56.760 --> 0:01:59.560 looked like she was ready to make her first holy communion. 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:02.320 I mean she looked like she was, like, seriously eight 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:05.200 years old. Look at how virginal and like beautiful and 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:07.880 pure she looks. I'm telling not that, no, and I'm 0:02:07.920 --> 0:02:11.440 not dragging her. I'm actually giving that virginal. No. I'm sorry, 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:14.079 it's just virginal and Jennifer Lopus together kind of made 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:16.000 me chuckle. I love her and I adore her, but 0:02:16.840 --> 0:02:18.960 you know it's crazy. My husband was like, she made 0:02:19.000 --> 0:02:21.440 waiting where white. I'm like, unless you get married when 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:23.320 your fourteen, I don't think nobody should be wearing white. 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:26.920 But whatever, Oh my gosh, I went there. No, but 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:28.800 for real. That's why I said, it's like, this is 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:30.960 in no way, shape or form. And I promise you, 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:33.799 because you know how I feel about j Lo I 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:39.440 would never drag my girl. But I thought, absolutely, yes, 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:44.440 this is this is the move because she's done the 0:02:44.560 --> 0:02:47.080 big wedding, right, like we know that she's done the 0:02:47.080 --> 0:02:49.760 big wedding that was orchestrated, that had like six wedding 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:52.959 planners and like you know, everything under the sun with 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:55.320 Mark Anthony. And then she had like, oh no, it 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:58.720 was Mark Anthony, the backyard wedding. I think Chris Judd 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:02.320 was the big wedding. Right here we go. Chris Judd, 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:06.280 I think was the big wedding. And then yes, and 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:09.120 then I think Mark Anthony was like the backyard wedding 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:12.320 where we got the helicopter photos of them. Remember that, 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:14.760 I like that dress, that was my favorite dress, beautiful, 0:03:14.840 --> 0:03:18.839 gorgeous dress. But now I feel like this was a 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:21.679 move that only j Lo could do. I love how 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:24.760 Ben was like about about it, like he didn't even care. 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:26.720 He was just like, yeah, I'll bring out a white 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:28.760 tuxedo jacket because I have a couple of those in 0:03:28.800 --> 0:03:31.880 my closet. You know. I just think all of it 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:35.400 was just so amazing. And the fact that she announced 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:38.960 it on her site. I thought that she like really 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:41.360 owns this one. I don't know, what do you think, honey, 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:44.520 You know, I guess the no frills wedding is cute 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:48.120 when you're young, you know, like Britney Spears teenager type 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:49.800 of thing. I guess, But I don't know. I just 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:52.920 expected so much more from them, Like it's like, finally 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:54.880 they got back together. They're gonna do it. This is 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:57.400 gonna be some fairy tale wedding. I don't know. I 0:03:57.440 --> 0:03:59.240 expected different. When I saw that picture of him in 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:02.480 the bathroom, I was like, I don't like this at all. Yeah, 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:04.840 that's right. I hope you used purell after because you know, 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:09.160 those bathrooms are very trafficked, especially in Vegas. They got 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:11.200 lots of people coming in and out those doors. They 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:15.240 waited twenty years, Carolina for this a long time. Yeah, 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:17.440 and it's almost like maybe that was part of it. 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:20.240 Maybe the build up was so strong that they were like, 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:22.360 you know what, there's nothing that can top this love. 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:25.279 There's nothing that can top our love for each other. 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:27.680 Like they both have all the money in the world, 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:31.120 they both have everything at their disposal, Like if they 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:35.440 wanted any flower, if they wanted any type of wedding 0:04:35.480 --> 0:04:37.680 plan or any type of dress, like, they could have it. 0:04:38.120 --> 0:04:40.479 So maybe this was their way of saying, like, it 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:45.120 truly is about the love. Now, I will say this, 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:49.680 I do not believe that this was spontaneous. What are 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:51.599 your thoughts on that. I don't know. It's just like, 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:53.119 I don't know why. I feel like they just grabbed 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:55.040 the family was like, let's go to Vegas and of 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.800 course hair and makeup people, come on, let's go, let's 0:04:57.800 --> 0:05:00.520 go to Vegas and let's get married. Yeah, don't think 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:02.960 that j Loo moves that way. I think that everything 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:06.200 in her life is orchestrated. I think everything in her 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:09.960 life is planned to the second. So for me, I 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:13.360 don't believe it was as spontaneous as they like for 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:15.680 us to believe. I think that maybe they had it 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:17.600 in their head Okay, this is gonna be the weekend 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:19.840 and we're not going to tell anybody that kind of thing. 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:22.880 But I absolutely do not believe that they did not 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:26.520 tip anybody off prior to it. What makes it good 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:28.200 about this is the fact that they were able to 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:32.080 control the narrative. Nothing got leaked. She shared her pictures 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:35.680 on her own newsletter, like they controlled how this got out, 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:38.200 and they control how it looked. So I guess that part. 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:41.960 Kudos to them that part. But then also, um, I 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:44.960 think we're glossing over the big headline, and the big 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:50.560 headline is that she signed it Mrs Jennifer Lynn Affleck. 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:55.159 She is no longer j Lo Honey, she's bugging her soul. 0:05:55.520 --> 0:05:58.200 She didn't even hypheny. I peeped that there was a 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:02.279 name change, but I assumed there was Lopez Affleck. No. Well, 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:03.919 I mean, I don't know, did you see something. I 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:06.920 saw that she wrote Jennifer Lynn Affleck, And in my mind, 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:09.360 I'm thinking, did she go for it? Is she really 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:11.799 going to do the thing like that I did? Because 0:06:11.839 --> 0:06:14.000 if she is going to do it, she's in for 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:17.960 a headache. So let's discuss. Let's talk about it. Carolina 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:22.040 from Experience did you change your last name to Nooni's 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:25.000 last name. You know what. The only place where I hyphenated, 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:28.039 which is German Martinez, was on my way to my 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.120 wedding license. I don't know if that means I changed 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:32.920 my name legally. What do you What do you say, Carolina? 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:36.920 I did not You did not know, because do you 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:39.120 see these khanas that I have, these grays that I 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:41.840 have in my hair. This is all from changing my 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:46.839 name eleven years ago. This ship doesn't stop when you 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:49.840 change your name officially. You have to get a new 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:54.200 Social Security card, you gotta change your license, you gotta 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:57.360 get your name changed on your health cards. You've got 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:00.680 to get your name changed on every single credit card, 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:04.920 your miles. I lost so many Delta sky miles because 0:07:04.960 --> 0:07:08.000 I went from Bermudez to grow the miles. Girl, you 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:10.800 will never get them back, and I was so pissed. Carolina. 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:13.760 Let me ask you a question. Rewind a little bit. Okay, 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:16.520 when did you come to the decision of I'm going 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:18.720 to change my name? Like how did did did Mark 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:21.040 pressure you to do that? Or did your family say 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:23.240 you gotta change your name because they're Latinos and you 0:07:23.280 --> 0:07:25.720 know Latinos love doing that. Yeah, you know what. I 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:28.520 don't think there was really any pressure from anyone. I 0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:31.360 think it was all self inflicted. I think that I 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:37.480 am a product of some really old school Latino parents. 0:07:37.520 --> 0:07:40.280 That that is the assumption that when you get married, 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:42.920 you change your name, you take on your husband's name, 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:47.320 and so from the very beginning, I went through the 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:51.680 process and the paperwork. But it's never ending. When I 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:54.760 tell you, it is a chore. There are websites, there 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:58.120 are businesses that have been created. Carolina. At least you 0:07:58.200 --> 0:07:59.760 got an alias. Now you know you want to do 0:07:59.840 --> 0:08:02.880 a scam as name? Oh yeah, you know what. Actually 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:05.160 that is true. I should use that more to my advantage. 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:07.400 I don't do it enough. Honey. Actually, thank you for 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:10.120 bringing that to my attention. I'm choking. Don't take no 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:12.800 no criminal advice from me. But you was open off 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:15.240 your man and you was like, I'm changing my name. 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:18.080 You really loved him and you was really excited to 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:20.840 do this. I know I felt. I felt so hard 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:24.280 for it. Hu I'm telling you, he he really rocked 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:28.360 my world. So here's here's what happened. I said, I 0:08:28.440 --> 0:08:32.080 built my name professionally as Carolina Bermudez and that was 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:35.360 never going to change. So everything else though, as far 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:37.560 as like and we didn't have kids obviously when we 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:40.080 got married, so I said, I would like for us 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:42.240 to be a family unit. When I go and pick 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:45.200 up my kids, I want them to see that, you know, 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:48.920 I am their mother. And by the way, if you 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:51.400 have not changed your name, I'm actually giving you credit 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:53.600 because I think I'm the biggest dummy on the planet 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:57.080 for doing this. It has made my life a living hell. 0:08:57.160 --> 0:09:00.439 I'm not even kidding you. So I think that because 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:03.240 I adopted the idea that I was going to take 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:06.960 on my husband's last name, it made it, I guess, 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:09.600 easier for me because then I said, Okay, I still 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:11.959 get to keep my identity. I still get to keep 0:09:12.200 --> 0:09:16.640 Carolina Bermuda's professionally public but privately, I am, you know, 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:20.120 taking my husband's last name. So you basically didn't No, 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:22.520 I didn't you know where I did do it on 0:09:22.640 --> 0:09:26.640 What's app For some reason, I hyphenated it. Girl. You know, 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:30.439 my mom came to me. Why, she said, how dare 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:33.679 you put a man's last name? Why wouldn't you put 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:36.760 your mother's last name? You know, like my mom's last 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:39.600 You know how Hispanic families used dad's name and then 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:43.199 mom's last name. My mom, My mom was offended when 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:45.560 I hyphenated with my husband's last name on WhatsApp. I 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:47.920 think it's still there just to bother her, because I'm like, 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:50.480 how dare you tell me what to do with my husband? 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:52.679 It's not a life in Spanglish episode. If we don't 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:56.040 get under honey's mother's skin, that's that's that's a fact. 0:09:56.080 --> 0:09:59.680 Thanks for That's the only place where I publicly kind 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:02.040 of like and I got some ship behind it. So 0:10:02.160 --> 0:10:05.760 never again, never again. Well, it'll be interesting to see 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:08.520 if she really does adopt the aff like last name, 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:11.400 because I think that there's a lot that goes to that. 0:10:11.480 --> 0:10:14.840 But I also, because you know, I'm a thinker, I 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:19.520 was thinking to myself, as far as Hollywood goes, this 0:10:19.640 --> 0:10:24.120 is a power move right here because Ben Affleck, if 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:27.280 you think about it, in his past, you know Oscar, winner, 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:33.520 Golden Globe, you know, winner nominee, all these other accolades 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:38.640 and things. He is also a very prolific screenwriter and 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:43.200 he's got all these projects. Maybe maybe as if, as 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:45.280 if she doesn't need the power move, but this could 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.800 be the little that she needs to get her to 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:56.760 that spot in Hollywood. How much bigger does this woman 0:10:56.800 --> 0:10:59.200 want to be? This woman was waiting for Elon Musk 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:01.400 up in the moon when you went up there at 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:05.200 this world already she really is. But that's why I 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:08.679 was thinking about it. I'm like, why, Jennifer Lopez, of 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:12.040 all people, do you think she would take on his 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:15.040 last name, especially for somebody has established as she is, 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:19.040 especially as for somebody who's such an icon in our community, 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:21.120 you know, for her to do that, I feel like 0:11:21.160 --> 0:11:25.880 that is really her gesture to him that she's all his, 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:28.080 because she never took on Mark Anthony's last name. I 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:30.000 don't even know that man's last name. I think it's 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:34.120 like I think, no, I think that's his middle names. 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:36.839 That's what it is, Moonie, that's what it is. The 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:40.600 little girl is called Emmy Moonis, and the boys moonist 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:43.760 being So. Yeah, she definitely did not take those last 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:51.400 last night, Ohani Noamoco, Chris Judd much Oh my gosh. Yeah, 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:54.040 So it will be that. I mean he is still 0:11:54.080 --> 0:11:57.320 living off of that. But yes, maybe Carolina, maybe maybe 0:11:57.360 --> 0:12:00.240 this is to prove to us, to the world and 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:03.320 to Ben that this is it, this is her final 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:05.839 stop when it comes to marriages, like I'm going to 0:12:06.040 --> 0:12:08.320 change my name. So yeah, see how serious I am? 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:10.800 And you don't keep dragging me talking about the modern 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.560 day Elizabeth Tailor. I feel like that was it. I 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:16.439 think that's the clincher, that she's trying to send the 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:20.760 message to everybody that this is forever for j Lo. 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:24.040 This is gonna be it. Now. Here's the thing. I 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.000 want to bring this up because you know, I had 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:28.679 to dive deep into this, which I haven't slept since 0:12:28.720 --> 0:12:30.200 I got the news. Gotta be honest with you, I'm 0:12:30.240 --> 0:12:35.160 super excited for her. One red flag that came to 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:42.040 my attention. Why was her family the only ones in attendance? 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:45.360 From what we know today, we know that her daughter 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:47.720 and her son were the ones that we're taking pictures 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:51.160 of them, and they were the witnesses. Was what a lupe? 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.960 There was Mama there because you know Mama loves her 0:12:54.000 --> 0:12:56.120 some ben Affleck. She's the one that kept on telling 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:57.920 her he was the one that got away. Where was 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:01.040 Linda Lopez? Where was Linda? But Linda? I feel like 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:03.559 in my sister where it has been actles children with 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:06.000 them too what you want. Jennifer Garner there too. No, 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:09.120 Jennifer Garner wants none of that. She wants none of 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:13.200 this smoke. Um. Where's Matt Damon? Where's her bestie? Oh? Yeah, 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:16.400 those two are like twins right right. So from every 0:13:16.440 --> 0:13:20.080 account that I read, it was that only Jennifer's team 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:23.920 and children were in attendance. I believe some people said 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:27.319 that her mother was there. So then why was his 0:13:27.440 --> 0:13:30.520 family not included? Was it because they wanted to keep 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:33.040 it under wraps. The more people that knew, the more 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:35.440 that might get out. I don't know, So I'm just 0:13:35.440 --> 0:13:38.320 curious about that. Do you think that's a red flag 0:13:38.400 --> 0:13:41.440 that only his her family was invited? I don't think so. 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:44.920 I think maybe he just decided, like which is good. 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:47.439 I feel like it was a really spontaneous, last minute thing. 0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:49.360 Maybe his family wasn't available. Maybe they were all in 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:53.240 Jennifer's house and where it wasn't Jennifer Jennifer's house hopped 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.199 in the private jet because they were like last night, 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:57.000 we we jumped on a plane and went to Vegas 0:13:57.000 --> 0:13:59.280 to get married. We stood online with some people and 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:02.240 we just did it. Maybe it was super spontaneous and 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:05.480 not orchestrated just to look like a simple way. Yeah, 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:09.480 I think there might be something to that because especially, yeah, 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:11.080 we will get to it. Oh, no, we are going 0:14:11.120 --> 0:14:13.560 to get to the diets because I want them all. 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:16.480 I want to know it all. And then also reportedly 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:19.560 she used one of her dresses from a movie that 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:22.400 she was in and then she had a zuhem raw 0:14:22.960 --> 0:14:25.040 original or something like that. And I only say it 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:28.200 like that because I'm not, you know, in the fashion world, 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:30.320 but I would guess that people in fashion would say 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:31.800 it that way. I don't know. I feel like they're 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:34.360 just trying to downplay it because he's forty nine, she's 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:37.200 fifty two, and they're like, let's just chill out. Let's 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:39.360 not make this big drama. Let's just get married and 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:42.280 move on. Oh he got a jacket from his closet. 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:44.000 I got an old dress. I don't know. I just 0:14:44.040 --> 0:14:46.680 don't feel like this is j Lo. Yeah, but you 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:48.960 know what, it's not like when you're in your fifties, 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:50.920 you're gonna have a bunch of Madrina's. You're gonna have 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:55.240 a bunch of old Madrina's walking down the aisle that 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:57.880 that I would hope not. How old are your brides 0:14:57.880 --> 0:14:59.920 and he's gonna be in their forties and their fifties. 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:03.400 Hell no, that would just be you and Ben. Nobody else. Well, 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:06.560 I don't care what anybody says. J Lo is about 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:09.080 to be fifty three, I think, and you can verify 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:10.760 this for me if I'm wrong. Is she's about to 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:16.440 be fifty three. She's this woman looks twelve. The hairstyle, 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:23.160 the makeup, everything was perfection. In my opinion. I thought 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:27.120 she just looked so beautiful and and like I said, 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:30.800 so pure and virginal and just like, oh my gosh, 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:33.920 Like I want this to go great for her. I'm 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:36.360 really really rooting for them me too. I want this 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:39.120 to be here happily ever after. She definitely deserves it. 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:42.880 She keeps trying, so you gotta give it to the woman. 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:45.880 She's hopeless, romantic, she wants to be a wife, and 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:47.520 I really hope that this is the one for her. 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:50.880 I still don't know about the name change situation though, Caroline. 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:53.360 I'm still stuck at that. I am too. I think 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:55.800 that is baffling. Maybe she's gonna pull a move like 0:15:55.880 --> 0:15:58.520 and we'll call it the Carolina. Maybe she's still professionally 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:00.800 going to be Jennifer Lopez, but be hind the scenes, 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:04.680 she's gonna be Mrs Affleck. And then there was a 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:07.720 whole other discussion about did she change her name to 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:11.040 Affleck because they might try to have a baby together 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:14.280 or something like that. You know, I mean, could you imagine, 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:17.720 because then she would have a baby Affleck. Then it 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:20.360 would make sense when she goes to her parents teaching night, right, 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:22.280 she want to make sure they know she's the mother. 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:25.080 I'll just right exactly because when she walks in, they're 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.640 gonna be like, I'm sorry, excuse me, who's mommy? Or 0:16:27.680 --> 0:16:30.360 who's your son or who's your daughter? Yeah? Yeah, because 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:32.400 when Jayla walks in, they're gonna be asking her questions 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:34.840 like that, be questioning the difference between the last names. Right, 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:37.160 why are you Lopez? And why is your child Affleck? 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:40.600 We need this clarified. But you know what, Carolina, there 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:43.640 are alternatives, you know, to changing your name, like if 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:46.600 you get married, Right, there's obviously the first one, which 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:49.080 is keep your last name, right, Okay. You can also 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:52.440 hypen it hypen it your name. Some people make their 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:54.960 maiden name their middle name, so that you would still 0:16:55.000 --> 0:16:58.680 be that would be your new middle name. I don't 0:16:58.680 --> 0:17:01.160 know how that would work out. And of course there's 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:03.600 you know, just change your name to your husband's last name. 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:07.000 But there's also this is fairly new, you can create 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.960 a new last name. There's like new more I guess 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:13.120 progressive people that are just creating a whole new last name. 0:17:13.359 --> 0:17:16.640 Sometimes they mash up both their last names and find 0:17:16.680 --> 0:17:18.600 a new name that both of them can have that 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:20.800 has no ties to either one of their families. That 0:17:20.880 --> 0:17:25.600 would devastate me. It's kind of man, we are so opposite, honey, 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:29.119 Oh my god, that's fun though. That would be so 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:31.360 fun though, to come up with a whole But then 0:17:31.440 --> 0:17:34.120 what happens that we both have to change our names legally, 0:17:34.480 --> 0:17:37.119 new passport, new social security course, And maybe it wouldn't 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:39.159 be that fun. It just sounds fun. So, for example, 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:40.800 if we were going to do a mashup of my 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:44.560 last name and my husband's last name, Bermuda's Grossman, we 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:49.760 could do Berman. Berman would be like a neutral I guess. Like, 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:52.199 but see, my last name makes me so proud, and 0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:53.920 I feel like that's something that we you know, we've 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:58.359 discussed on this podcast before, Like I am genuinely proud 0:17:58.359 --> 0:18:00.359 of my last name. I'm proud of what it's dance, 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:03.200 for the hard work that my mom and dad put 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:06.760 into creating our family, and and there's just something that 0:18:06.880 --> 0:18:11.120 was I did go through a morning period when I 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:14.040 gave up my last name. It really was tough. And 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:16.600 my husband even said to me because on my American 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:20.040 Express it was still my maiden name. He was like, 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:22.200 you're holding onto it, huh, And I said, yeah, I 0:18:22.280 --> 0:18:24.400 have a holding on to it. It's hard to give 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:26.919 up all of your It's really kind of giving up 0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:30.840 your identity and everything that you knew and everything that 0:18:30.880 --> 0:18:33.879 you've been taught and you worked for. It's something that 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:36.840 is so hard to explain, but once you give that up. 0:18:37.359 --> 0:18:39.199 I did go through a period where I was like 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:41.199 really sad, where I had to like cut up my 0:18:41.240 --> 0:18:44.360 old cards and you know, I had to go through 0:18:44.400 --> 0:18:47.439 the whole process. But I mean now I think that 0:18:47.480 --> 0:18:50.159 I'm very proud of my husband's last name. And I 0:18:50.200 --> 0:18:52.960 remind my kids all the time. Because kids are pretty terrible, 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:55.160 they like to make fun of them because they're all grossman, 0:18:55.320 --> 0:18:57.200 you know, but I always tell them, I'm like, you'd 0:18:57.200 --> 0:18:59.720 be proud of your last name, Like that's our family, 0:18:59.800 --> 0:19:02.720 so I don't know how if I could ever give 0:19:02.760 --> 0:19:05.760 mine up entirely and his up. You know, I think 0:19:05.760 --> 0:19:07.920 that there's just so much more that goes into it. Now, 0:19:08.040 --> 0:19:10.040 let me ask, how do you feel about you know, 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:12.600 let's say places where they don't know you before when 0:19:12.640 --> 0:19:15.840 you would get there, you make a reservation Carlina. As 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:18.119 soon as you would get there, it was it was implied, 0:19:18.200 --> 0:19:21.679 associated and quite visible that you were Latina. Now that 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:23.600 you have a last name like Grossman, do you feel 0:19:23.640 --> 0:19:25.479 any different? Like when you go place like do these 0:19:25.480 --> 0:19:28.000 people think I'm a white woman? Like? Doesn't make you 0:19:28.040 --> 0:19:31.320 feel any which way? Um? You know? Funny enough, I 0:19:31.359 --> 0:19:35.240 would say that that situation, I've encountered it where people 0:19:35.280 --> 0:19:39.440 are confused and there's generally there's genuine confusion on their 0:19:39.480 --> 0:19:41.960 face and they're like they look at me and they 0:19:42.000 --> 0:19:44.840 look at the name and they look at me and 0:19:44.880 --> 0:19:49.000 they say, Carolina, I'm sorry, what is it Grossman? And 0:19:49.000 --> 0:19:53.680 I say, yes, two ends at the end, by the way, please. Um. Yeah, 0:19:53.960 --> 0:19:56.560 it's something that I guess there is that biased or 0:19:56.600 --> 0:19:59.560 that confusion there. But listen, there are plenty of um 0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:02.359 ha man a Jewish people. There's plenty of plenty of 0:20:02.560 --> 0:20:04.440 Latinos who are Jewish, and I have a bunch of 0:20:04.440 --> 0:20:07.320 friends who are Cuban. They like to call themselves Jubians. 0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:10.920 But I think that's cute. You've never heard Jubian. Yeah. 0:20:11.080 --> 0:20:14.000 Down in Miami, there's um one of my dear friends 0:20:14.000 --> 0:20:17.120 when I was working at Why One in Miami. She's 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:21.040 Jewish and her family is Cuban, and there's a big, 0:20:21.080 --> 0:20:24.280 big community of um Jewish Cubans down there, and also 0:20:24.320 --> 0:20:26.560 of other you know, I have Mexican friends who are 0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:30.600