1 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:06,760 Speaker 1: Welcome everyone to this edition of Amy and TJ. It 2 00:00:06,800 --> 00:00:11,520 Speaker 1: is Saturday, September twenty seventh, and I happened to be 3 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:17,120 Speaker 1: reading this amazing buzz feed article TJ. And the headline 4 00:00:17,200 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: was one sentence that can change your life. 5 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 2: Oh, you fell for the clickbait? You fell for it? 6 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 1: I did. But then, yes, they were really really good. 7 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: I think there were thirty three of them, and I 8 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:33,919 Speaker 1: read every one of them, and I was I think 9 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 1: I was reading them aloud to you, and I think 10 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:40,440 Speaker 1: I was annoying you kind of like no, yes, And 11 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 1: I said, you know what, you know what. I'm going 12 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: to stop because I can see you're not in the 13 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 1: mood for this. But this is going to be a 14 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:48,559 Speaker 1: great podcast because I yes, because I actually wanted to 15 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:51,519 Speaker 1: get your take. First of all, do you think one 16 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:56,840 Speaker 1: sentence like hearing one thought can actually change someone's life? 17 00:00:56,960 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 2: Of course again absolutely again changes the life all the time. 18 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:05,119 Speaker 2: One thought, one statement like you know I do? 19 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: Will you marry me? Yeah? 20 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:09,400 Speaker 2: They could change everything. You're fired. 21 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 1: Okay, Yes, those are very practical, actionable. These are more 22 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:18,960 Speaker 1: thought provoking, but they just get you thinking about all 23 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 1: the ways that we trip ourselves up. So anyway, I 24 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 1: picked seven of them that I thought were the best, 25 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: or the ones at least that spoke to me the most. 26 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:31,199 Speaker 2: What's the title again of the article seven? 27 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 1: One sentence that can change your lientence that. 28 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 2: Can change your life? 29 00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 3: So am I going to agree that each of these 30 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 3: sentences might change my life? 31 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 1: I'm curious to get your take. We can see how 32 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: we both read or perceive, or just how we react 33 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: to them. But this first one I really liked, and 34 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: I think you will too. 35 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 2: Where these coming from? Just random? 36 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: Yes, brandom people wrote in and gay and some of 37 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 1: them had experiences attached to them, but they were really 38 00:01:57,080 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 1: cool in thought provoking. Here's the first one. Everyone you 39 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: meet knows something that you don't. 40 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, I certainly agree with that. It's not something we 41 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 3: keep in mind. I don't think too often we run 42 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:17,079 Speaker 3: into people, let's just say, even lower on the totem pole, 43 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 3: we don't give people that we think are beneath us 44 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 3: in a professional manner, in a socioeconomic manner, or a 45 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 3: matter of public status. 46 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:27,519 Speaker 2: You can't. 47 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 3: You don't have anything to teach me, And we dismiss 48 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:34,480 Speaker 3: those people too often. Man, I learned stuff from college 49 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:39,120 Speaker 3: kids I met this weekend. Listening to them. So, yeah, 50 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 3: that's something we need to keep in mind. Take with you, 51 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 3: and that should be practiced. You shouldn't have to keep 52 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 3: that in mind. 53 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 1: I never thought about this, but how life changing is 54 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 1: it if instead of being judgmental or dismissive, you're curious 55 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:54,960 Speaker 1: because you want to learn from somebody, no matter how old, 56 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 1: how young, whether you think you are more educated and 57 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 1: there you know, just have nothing to give you in 58 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 1: terms of intellect. If you actually flip that and always 59 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: considered when someone came up to you, even someone who's 60 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 1: annoying you, you could put this into practice for all 61 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:16,239 Speaker 1: sorts of different people you meet that you might maybe 62 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: have a negative initial reaction to. If you just tell yourself, 63 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:24,520 Speaker 1: I they know something I don't. Everyone you meet knows 64 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:28,239 Speaker 1: something that you don't. It just puts perspective into place. 65 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 1: You are not the end all be all, and you 66 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 1: don't know everything, and we still all have so much 67 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 1: to learn from one another. 68 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 3: Even a child can teach you plenting. And now I'm 69 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 3: just talking about all the new slang on TikTok. I 70 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 3: mean every kids people have different experiences. I yes, always listen, 71 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 3: always pay attention, and always appreciate that you are going 72 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 3: to walk away from somebody better and smarter because of 73 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 3: something they. 74 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: Gave you if you were open to it. That's the 75 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 1: big if. All right, So I love that everyone you 76 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 1: meet knows something that you don't. All right, here's this 77 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 1: is so me. Oh, I love this. A coworker once 78 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 1: told me. Nobody on their deathbed says I wish I 79 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: had worked more. Ain't that perspective if you can consider 80 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 1: that when you're trying to plan your day or figure 81 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: out how you're spending your time. And it's not about 82 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:27,279 Speaker 1: being lazy or unmotivated or justifying being unemployed because you 83 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: don't feel like it. But this is to the people 84 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 1: who work their asses off to the point that they 85 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: forget to enjoy their life. And I think so many 86 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:38,719 Speaker 1: of us fall into this. I can tell you this. 87 00:04:38,920 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: Before cancer, I proudly and repeatedly bragged about the vacation 88 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 1: days that I didn't take because I thought that meant 89 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:56,839 Speaker 1: I was a hard worker and that that should be applauded. 90 00:04:57,080 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 1: And it should, But not to the extent in which 91 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 1: you sacrifice things that you'll never get back. 92 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 3: Does anyone even now in their current life think man 93 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 3: whereshd I work more. It doesn't seem like any of ours. 94 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:13,599 Speaker 3: I mean, obviously we get the point being made on 95 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 3: the deathbed, the regrets and always it's the thing you're 96 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 3: always harping on. Nobody ever regrets the things they did. 97 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 3: They regret the things they didn't do, same kind of 98 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:29,719 Speaker 3: deathbed idea. But I I don't know. I guess I did. 99 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:30,440 Speaker 2: It, and we guess. 100 00:05:30,480 --> 00:05:33,920 Speaker 3: Our industry is pretty unique in that way that it 101 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 3: is as a bad honor that you worked sixteen hours. 102 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 2: It's insanity, it's it's it's. 103 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:43,840 Speaker 3: Unhealthy, and that's why your chest feels that way, and 104 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 3: that's why your marriage is where it is, right, that's 105 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 3: but yeah, it's at what point do you do that? 106 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 3: And sometimes people will tell you have to wait till 107 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 3: you get to a certain place or status in life 108 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 3: that you. 109 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 2: Can take a break. 110 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 3: Maybe that's reasonable, but it's still something to carry around, 111 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:03,359 Speaker 3: even it's not a hard rule. At whatever age you are, 112 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 3: that's got to be in the back. 113 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 2: Of your mind. 114 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,040 Speaker 1: And you don't know what age you get to be. 115 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 1: No one knows how old we're going to be when 116 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:13,000 Speaker 1: our health deteriorates, when we aren't able to travel anymore. 117 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: When we have a sudden illness, when there is an accident, 118 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: you just don't know, so you can't just take it 119 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 1: for granted. Oh I'll do it in ten years. I'll 120 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: do it when I've got this much money, or when 121 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: I'm established here. I always say this too, I've never 122 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: regretted a vacation like, oh I wish I hadn't taken 123 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: that vacation. Maybe I've regretted who I've vacationed with, but 124 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:36,080 Speaker 1: I certainly am not regretted taking a vacation. I mean, 125 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:37,920 Speaker 1: I'm kidding when I say that, but you know what 126 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: I mean. No, but here once again, I just loved 127 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:47,400 Speaker 1: this life changing sentence. A coworker once told me, nobody 128 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 1: on their deathbed says I wish I had worked more. 129 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 1: All right, I think I think you're going to I 130 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 1: think you're gonna like this one. You might say, EU, 131 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: but I think you're gonna get it because you've said 132 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 1: something similar to me as this sentence. When people drive 133 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 1: like assholes, tell yourself that maybe they just need to 134 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 1: poop very badly. 135 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 3: Yes, Uh, in some way, form or fashion, this is 136 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 3: just a matter of giving people a break. Give everybody 137 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 3: a little grace because you do not know what they're 138 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:25,960 Speaker 3: going through. You might not get good service from that waiter, 139 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:27,560 Speaker 3: and you know what, they might have just found out 140 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 3: that there that lump actually is cancer. 141 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 2: Just give everybody a. 142 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 3: Beat, no matter how mean and nasty of a human 143 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:39,320 Speaker 3: being they seem to be. We all have bad moments, 144 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 3: and I bet you anything you can explain away your 145 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 3: bad moment because what had a bad day, got bad news, 146 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 3: didn't get enough rest. 147 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 2: I got it right. 148 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:49,960 Speaker 3: You can excuse yourself. Well, stop judging everybody else by 149 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 3: their worst actions and judging yourself your best intentions, and 150 00:07:53,920 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 3: give people a freaking break. 151 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: I know, you know. It just reminded me, babe, when 152 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:02,600 Speaker 1: I when I I just got word the day before 153 00:08:02,640 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving that I was going to have to go through 154 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: six rounds of chemo. I was devastated. I had been crying. 155 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 1: I walk on a train and my friend was trying 156 00:08:10,360 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 1: to figure out what train I was on. I had 157 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 1: accidentally wandered into the no talking or the quiet train, 158 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 1: and all I was doing I had like once to 159 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: say what train I was on, and this guy yelled 160 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: at me, go shit and started screaming at me. And 161 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 1: it was the day and I literally lost it, and 162 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:31,000 Speaker 1: I thought to myself, never underestimate what someone might be 163 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 1: going through, And that personally happened to me, and I 164 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 1: do try to remember that. What I also loved about 165 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 1: this sentence was that it did put humor into it. 166 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: So if you're angry, if you tell yourself that, you'll 167 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 1: actually start laughing. So not only might you feel compassion, 168 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:51,920 Speaker 1: but you'll also get the humor of it too. So yes, 169 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:55,840 Speaker 1: once again, for you, when people drive like assholes, tell 170 00:08:55,880 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 1: yourself that maybe they just need to poop very badly. 171 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:02,439 Speaker 3: Some fun with this before somebody will do. And I'll say, 172 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 3: you know what, give him a break, he has to 173 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 3: wear that shirt. Whatever you have to tell yourself. 174 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:08,200 Speaker 1: Yep. 175 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 2: Just give people a beat. 176 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:11,960 Speaker 1: Yep. Even if it means laughing a little, it is. 177 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 2: Oh. 178 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: And it also it frees you of resentment and anger 179 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:19,080 Speaker 1: that only eats you up inside. That person doesn't even 180 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:22,680 Speaker 1: know you're mad, so you're only harming yourself. Yes, okay, 181 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:26,520 Speaker 1: that which kind of leads me to the next life 182 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 1: changing sentence. How about if you always just ask yourself 183 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: this when you're feeling all those negative feelings, here's the sentence, 184 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:41,200 Speaker 1: Can you do anything? About it. Does that speak to you? 185 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 2: Uh, there's a tattoo on my arm and says surrender. Yes, 186 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:45,439 Speaker 2: that speaks to me. 187 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 3: I thought surrender was shorter than the sentence you read, 188 00:09:47,760 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 3: so that's why I went, it's not really. 189 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: A sentence if it's just one word. 190 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:52,480 Speaker 2: It's but it was just you see this is what 191 00:09:52,520 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 2: I mean. You don't listen. 192 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 3: You didn't hear me finish my statement here? Oh my good, 193 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 3: see what I deal with? 194 00:09:57,400 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 2: Folks? 195 00:10:00,320 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 3: Oh christ on sale. But yes, to that point, it's 196 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 3: that moment I find that I am upset about something 197 00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 3: that's happening, and as soon as I realize there is 198 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:17,200 Speaker 3: not a thing in the world I can do about 199 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:21,000 Speaker 3: what's happening. Now I am the idiot for being upset 200 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:23,559 Speaker 3: about it. Why put myself through the ect. We're all 201 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:24,960 Speaker 3: gonna be in the I'm gonna be in the same 202 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:28,200 Speaker 3: spot no matter whether I'm crying or whether I'm dancing. 203 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 3: So I'll go dance. 204 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:33,040 Speaker 1: You know, I have seen you have that recognition in 205 00:10:33,080 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 1: that moment where you're like, and I've actually been surprised, 206 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:39,599 Speaker 1: like wow, you're kind of handling this really well, and 207 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 1: you're like, what can I do about it? Like I've 208 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:44,720 Speaker 1: actually heard you say yes a version of this sentence 209 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:46,760 Speaker 1: many many, many times when things. 210 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:48,360 Speaker 3: Go wrong, and the only time you usually see me 211 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 3: upset is when somebody screws my plan up, and then 212 00:10:53,559 --> 00:10:56,760 Speaker 3: I'm mad at myself, like why did I even trust 213 00:10:57,040 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 3: this person? 214 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:03,320 Speaker 2: So I'm said, I screwed up in that moment. 215 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 3: But no, I understand when you know what flights, flight delays, 216 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:11,360 Speaker 3: flight can't those things? Oh, how frustrating. Nothing in the 217 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 3: world I can do. Why am I going to sweat it? 218 00:11:13,360 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: I feel like when I'm in a cab or an 219 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:18,040 Speaker 1: uber and I'm stuck in traffic and I know I'm 220 00:11:18,040 --> 00:11:21,280 Speaker 1: gonna be late. That is the most stress. I feel 221 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 1: so much stress. And then you that is when you 222 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 1: have to say, ain't nothing I can do about it? 223 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:30,400 Speaker 1: So yes, can you do anything about it? If you 224 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 1: can just ask yourself that in the moment where you're 225 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:37,080 Speaker 1: feeling your blood just boiling, that is going to give 226 00:11:37,120 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: you peace, because either you can or you can't, And 227 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:42,200 Speaker 1: then you have to get to the place of peace, 228 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:47,200 Speaker 1: which is called acceptance or surrender. As TJ's tattoo says, 229 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:51,920 Speaker 1: I I'm gonna I'm gonna see because I read the 230 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 1: explanation behind it. I don't know how you're gonna feel 231 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 1: about this next supposed life changing sentence, but I really 232 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:01,920 Speaker 1: appreciated it. I think you're gonnah, you're gonna get it. 233 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:07,720 Speaker 1: All sun and no rain makes a desert. 234 00:12:08,480 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 3: I think I've heard something along these lines before. I 235 00:12:13,760 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 3: guess it's just a caution. Every tale about you don't 236 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 3: there's something necessary. There's another side that's necessary, and not 237 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:25,640 Speaker 3: just this thing that right, we love some sun and 238 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:27,840 Speaker 3: we seem to not want a rain cloud ever, right, 239 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:31,560 Speaker 3: don't we want to go through life never see another storm. 240 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:36,120 Speaker 1: It's not gonna work exactly well. And yes, that's one interpretation. 241 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:39,719 Speaker 1: Another one that this person wrote in about was we 242 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 1: all want sunny skies, yes, but we all want to 243 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: be happy, right, to be sunny, to be bright. But 244 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:50,240 Speaker 1: sometimes you're gonna have to cry. Sometimes the rain is 245 00:12:50,280 --> 00:12:51,960 Speaker 1: gonna have to come. You're going to have to let 246 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:55,960 Speaker 1: that negativity, that emotion out in order to feel the sun, 247 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 1: to recognize the sun, to appreciate the sun. You have to, yes, 248 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 1: see the rain, but you have to let it out. 249 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:03,960 Speaker 1: So they were even making the point that the rain 250 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:09,679 Speaker 1: are tears. Do you ever cry? You cry of happiness. 251 00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:12,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't cry a lot anymore. I used to. 252 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:15,920 Speaker 1: That's good. 253 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm thinking about that. Yeah, I used to shed 254 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 3: many many tears. Yeah, I don't cry as much anymore. 255 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:27,880 Speaker 1: I see you cry when you're moved by other people's kindness, 256 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:33,720 Speaker 1: joy like generosity. You cry tears of joy and like 257 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:37,480 Speaker 1: you're moved emotionally, but not because you're sad or angry. 258 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 1: I don't see that. 259 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:39,959 Speaker 2: I've always been that guy. 260 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 3: I'm younger, I'm moved by things, yes, absolutely, and I 261 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:45,760 Speaker 3: will shed a tear. I did it plenty on television. 262 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:48,319 Speaker 3: No problem with that about it. Not trying to hide it, 263 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:49,200 Speaker 3: not a problem. 264 00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:52,240 Speaker 1: I have not cried that much very lately. I am 265 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:55,000 Speaker 1: a crier. But I did appreciate this that it gives 266 00:13:55,040 --> 00:13:58,200 Speaker 1: you at least you know. We do have to cleanse 267 00:13:58,240 --> 00:14:02,720 Speaker 1: ourselves of and however we do it, but sometimes tears 268 00:14:02,760 --> 00:14:06,040 Speaker 1: are a way out, and for a lot of us 269 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: who do tend to cry, I felt like this this 270 00:14:09,559 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 1: was permission and even acceptance that it's part of And 271 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:16,160 Speaker 1: if you don't, yeah, what do you have left? You 272 00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:19,280 Speaker 1: can't just have sunshine, you have to have the tears. 273 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 1: You have to have the dark times. So I liked 274 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:24,960 Speaker 1: that a lot. All right, when we come back the 275 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: last two life changing sentences, one is fowards, one is 276 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,760 Speaker 1: three words, and I think they are two of the 277 00:14:33,800 --> 00:14:38,400 Speaker 1: most powerful sentences that I heard on this entire list. 278 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 1: So stay tuned and welcome back to Amy and TJ, 279 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:55,920 Speaker 1: where we are discussing seven life changing sentences. This was 280 00:14:55,960 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 1: a BuzzFeed article I saw. There were I think as 281 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:02,560 Speaker 1: many as thirty three thirty four different sentences, but these 282 00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 1: were my seven favorite. And this next one, well, the 283 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 1: next two are very short and very simple, but pack 284 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:13,800 Speaker 1: a big punch. This one. The person who put this 285 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:16,680 Speaker 1: in or sent this in said that this changed his 286 00:15:16,840 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 1: relationship in like completely, in every way. He finally learned 287 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:27,800 Speaker 1: this sentence and meant it when he said it, and 288 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:32,320 Speaker 1: he said the response was life changing. You might be right. 289 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:37,800 Speaker 1: Instead of challenging or arguing or defending or all of 290 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:41,480 Speaker 1: the natural responses when someone says something that you don't 291 00:15:41,560 --> 00:15:44,920 Speaker 1: like or that you disagree with, he said, I've just 292 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:51,400 Speaker 1: learned that you might be right. And how it changes 293 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 1: a conversation, it changes a room, and it changes your life. 294 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:56,239 Speaker 1: It changes your perspective. 295 00:15:57,040 --> 00:15:58,880 Speaker 3: Okay, I haven't been using this in the right way. 296 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 3: I guess what you're talking about, and that is the 297 00:16:01,440 --> 00:16:04,200 Speaker 3: proper way to use such a thing. I often use 298 00:16:04,240 --> 00:16:07,320 Speaker 3: it to be dismissive because I don't want. 299 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:07,760 Speaker 2: To talk about it. 300 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:08,920 Speaker 1: You say it sarcastically. 301 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:14,200 Speaker 3: I when someone especially wants to insult me or coming 302 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:16,680 Speaker 3: at me in some personal way, a challenge like that, 303 00:16:17,480 --> 00:16:20,280 Speaker 3: my be rain. What do you say after you insult 304 00:16:20,320 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 3: someone and they go, maybe you're right? 305 00:16:22,720 --> 00:16:23,200 Speaker 2: That kind of. 306 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:26,920 Speaker 1: Shuts This wasn't meant to be used in that fashion. 307 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 1: This person wrote in and said and actually said, when 308 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:35,960 Speaker 1: you really open your mind to that possibility, it a 309 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:38,840 Speaker 1: gives that other person piece, but it also gives you 310 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:42,440 Speaker 1: that same idea that maybe you still have something to learn. 311 00:16:42,840 --> 00:16:44,960 Speaker 3: To each his and her own. And if that's the 312 00:16:44,960 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 3: way you want to use it to change your life, 313 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 3: I'm giving you another way to use it to change 314 00:16:48,840 --> 00:16:53,160 Speaker 3: your life. When somebody is coming at you like as 315 00:16:53,240 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 3: passionate as all get out, mad as hell, calling you 316 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:58,240 Speaker 3: whatever kind of name, like the woman on. 317 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:01,360 Speaker 2: The plane, which one is that one? 318 00:17:01,400 --> 00:17:02,080 Speaker 1: Whose bag? 319 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:06,080 Speaker 3: Oh good lord, half Mercy American Airlines flight on the 320 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:08,680 Speaker 3: way to Fairvielle, Arkansas, on Thursday. Well, it was a 321 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:11,720 Speaker 3: six thirty flight lady sitting in one A. I hope 322 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:15,840 Speaker 3: your life gets better, ma'am. This was such an awful 323 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:17,840 Speaker 3: display of a human being. But I'm trying to give 324 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:20,720 Speaker 3: her grace. It's hard to do so when a woman 325 00:17:20,840 --> 00:17:26,719 Speaker 3: cared more about an air mess bag than being considerate 326 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 3: to every other passenger on a plane. True, and literally 327 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:35,639 Speaker 3: barked four seats away from me not to crush her bag, 328 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:40,119 Speaker 3: and I had to bark back, ma'am. Pipe down. Nobody 329 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:43,000 Speaker 3: is going to touch that bag. I assure you. Put 330 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:44,240 Speaker 3: a little base in the voice. 331 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:46,359 Speaker 2: Next thing I know, the flight attendant's coming back to 332 00:17:46,400 --> 00:17:48,120 Speaker 2: retrieve the bag. Right. 333 00:17:48,359 --> 00:17:50,879 Speaker 3: This is what we're talking about here with people. What 334 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:54,000 Speaker 3: I gave that woman was what she wanted, didn't I 335 00:17:55,160 --> 00:17:58,160 Speaker 3: not a problem, ma'am. Nobody is going to touch your bag. 336 00:17:58,440 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 3: And then she died away. She was a puppy the 337 00:18:01,880 --> 00:18:03,680 Speaker 3: rest of the time, and she was scared to look 338 00:18:03,800 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 3: up and all these things. 339 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:06,879 Speaker 1: She came over and said, I moved my bag, so 340 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:08,560 Speaker 1: you can put yours there now. But it was like 341 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:09,520 Speaker 1: twenty minutes later. 342 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:13,400 Speaker 2: Well, that is the same concept I'm saying with this phrase. 343 00:18:14,119 --> 00:18:16,960 Speaker 1: Maybe you're right, you know what you said when you 344 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 1: sat down and looked at me, you said, it's gotta 345 00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:23,200 Speaker 1: be tough, gotta be tough to be her, to be her. 346 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:26,399 Speaker 1: So it's one way. Again, I don't think it was 347 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:29,320 Speaker 1: meant in that tone, but you can use it how 348 00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:33,640 Speaker 1: you like. Apparently regardless, it's still a life changing sentence. 349 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:37,080 Speaker 1: You might be right, all right, this is one I 350 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:39,639 Speaker 1: think is really going to speak to you. You have 351 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:44,960 Speaker 1: I have had to learn this because I have. I 352 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:47,720 Speaker 1: was raised to be polite and to not want to offend, 353 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:53,919 Speaker 1: and so sometimes in doing so, you're not fully transparent. 354 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:57,000 Speaker 1: You're not being fully truthful because you're trying to be polite. 355 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:01,440 Speaker 1: So here is a life changing sentence. This is the last, 356 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:06,000 Speaker 1: and I think probably the best, most actionable life changing sentence. 357 00:19:06,359 --> 00:19:17,600 Speaker 1: It's three words clear is kind? Yeah? 358 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:18,720 Speaker 2: What is it? 359 00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:24,120 Speaker 3: We're always usually trying to spare people's feelings, right, and 360 00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:28,680 Speaker 3: we oftentimes end up not being straight with them about 361 00:19:28,680 --> 00:19:31,520 Speaker 3: either how we feel or even about the job they're 362 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:33,720 Speaker 3: doing or how they're looking, or whatever it may be. 363 00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 3: I do this with you all the time, and it 364 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 3: absolutely drives me crazy, and it drives you crazy. I 365 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:43,000 Speaker 3: guess I'm so literal in how I communicate because I'm 366 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 3: trying to be clear and I expect the same level 367 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 3: of clarity back, and that's not reasonable, I have learned, 368 00:19:51,680 --> 00:19:57,040 Speaker 3: But I think it is a It is the nice 369 00:19:57,160 --> 00:19:58,160 Speaker 3: kind is the word they use. 370 00:19:58,240 --> 00:19:59,880 Speaker 1: It is clear, is kind. 371 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:02,320 Speaker 3: The thing to do is to look someone in the 372 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:05,120 Speaker 3: eye and be straight with them about whatever it may 373 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 3: be and leave no ambiguity. 374 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:10,240 Speaker 1: That is the hard thing to do. It is the 375 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 1: scary thing to do, but it is the right thing 376 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:17,040 Speaker 1: to do. And I agree with you, And it is 377 00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:21,920 Speaker 1: so fascinating to be with someone who that is one 378 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:26,160 Speaker 1: of your like that's a huge part of who you are. 379 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:28,959 Speaker 1: And actually it's hard sometimes to be on the receiving 380 00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:31,320 Speaker 1: end of it. But when you know it's true and 381 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 1: you know it comes from love, it actually it emboldens 382 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,480 Speaker 1: me to feel like if you're coming from the right 383 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:43,479 Speaker 1: place and you're saying it out of love, it is 384 00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:45,280 Speaker 1: the kind thing to do. But it is the hard 385 00:20:45,320 --> 00:20:48,720 Speaker 1: thing to do. And I've not been conditioned to communicate 386 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:51,840 Speaker 1: like that, and I certainly I don't think had the 387 00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:54,159 Speaker 1: confidence to communicate like that, but because I think it 388 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:57,159 Speaker 1: does take it takes confidence to know that you can 389 00:20:57,200 --> 00:20:59,960 Speaker 1: look somebody in the eye and say something really hard 390 00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:03,359 Speaker 1: but something they need to hear clear is kind And 391 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,480 Speaker 1: this comes like breaking up with someone. Oh my god, 392 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:09,800 Speaker 1: people are like trying. You know, we ghost people, right, 393 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 1: We break up with people on text because it's hard 394 00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:17,159 Speaker 1: to do the right thing. It's hard to be clear 395 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:20,480 Speaker 1: when clear is something you know they don't want to hear. 396 00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:23,600 Speaker 3: Just ask yourself, is it what you would want to hear? 397 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,080 Speaker 3: Don't you want people to be clear with you? Yeah, 398 00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:29,000 Speaker 3: that's a good one, but it is kind. It's the 399 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:31,159 Speaker 3: I don't know where that comes from. I don't know 400 00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:32,679 Speaker 3: if I've always been like that or just so you 401 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:34,119 Speaker 3: get to a certain point in a certain age. We 402 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:35,920 Speaker 3: just adults. We don't have time to mess around. We 403 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:38,000 Speaker 3: don't have time to wonder. We just when have a 404 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:41,240 Speaker 3: lot of time left on this earth. You could relatively say, so. 405 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:45,439 Speaker 1: It's just we waste so many people's time making people 406 00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 1: think something's going to happen that we know isn't. It's 407 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:51,840 Speaker 1: it's crazy. So anyway, for me, that really struck home. 408 00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:55,240 Speaker 1: I thought of you immediately, TJ, and then I just thought, wow, 409 00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 1: that might be the most life changing sentence of them all. 410 00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:02,480 Speaker 1: So anyway, we hope you enjoyed and again total credit 411 00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:04,680 Speaker 1: to BuzzFeed for putting this list together, but I just 412 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:06,159 Speaker 1: thought it was so cool. I wanted to share with 413 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:08,760 Speaker 1: all of you, and we want to thank you for 414 00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 1: listening to us. I'm ay Me Roboch alongside TJ. Holmes. 415 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:12,880 Speaker 1: We'll talk to you soon.