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Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter, subject show business Isn't for everyone.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a fifty year old devoted wife

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Speaker 1: with a big problem. I've been married to a great

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Speaker 1: solid careers, but he has always had a big dream.

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Speaker 1: He wants to be a big Broadway actor. My husband

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Speaker 1: into some big auditions, but each time he was rejected.

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Speaker 1: The most he's achieved is some unpaid adult roles. In

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Speaker 1: his life. I love him, but it's the truth. Our

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Speaker 1: friends and family have sat through too many bad productions

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Speaker 1: and local plays, and I simply can't do it anymore.

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Speaker 1: We constantly have to lie and tell him he's good,

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Speaker 1: and we know that we are giving him false encouragement.

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Speaker 1: My biggest problem is now that our kids are in college,

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Speaker 1: he has come up with a crazy idea of moving

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Speaker 1: it's not going to happen without crushing his spirit. What

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Speaker 1: hopes most likely will never be a reality. Steve, you're

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Speaker 1: to make it. He can't upgroup my life with a delusion.

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Speaker 1: Please help? Well? Does he have any talent at all? Nothing? Nothing?

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Speaker 1: Because on one hand, you definitely need to stop lying

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Speaker 1: to him, you and all your friends, and you all

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Speaker 1: have to tell him the truth. If you really love

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Speaker 1: because you know he's going to be crushed to know

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Speaker 1: good thing, no matter how many rejections he's gotten, because

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Speaker 1: I mean, actors say this all the time about the

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Speaker 1: to deal with a lot of rejections. And no, I

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Speaker 1: don't think that you should uproot your life, but I

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Speaker 1: good chance for him, you know, give him a chance

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Speaker 1: to pursue his dream. You know, pick a date, uh,

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Speaker 1: set up some auditions, send out some videotapes, video auditions,

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Speaker 1: But I would encourage him to keep taking those classes

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Speaker 1: that's what That's what he is. He's always had a

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Speaker 1: But that's why he always getting That's why he got

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Speaker 1: To put it plainly, he can't act word for damn.

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Speaker 1: I said this two letters, two sentences in. He can't

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Speaker 1: So if somebody had a gun on him and said,

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Speaker 1: but it's the truth, and the truth will set you free,

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Speaker 1: Your ass ain't nothing but a tree. Now, he didn't

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Speaker 1: came up with some crazy idea of moving in New York.

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Speaker 1: You know how much he costs live in New York.

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Speaker 1: You don't fit to high his old ass, and he

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you the rest of it. How about you

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Speaker 1: don't want to kill his dream? Ain't no damn dream?

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Speaker 1: subject is show business isn't for everyone. It isn't for everyone,

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Speaker 1: back with part two at twenty three after right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letters. Subject show business Isn't for everyone. Fifty old

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Speaker 1: man been married to this fifty year old dude. Fifty

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Speaker 1: three years, kids and went off to college. He'd been

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Speaker 1: trying to make it as an actor all this time.

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Speaker 1: He can't. He hadn't been auditions. He always get rejected,

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Speaker 1: get to rejected. He just he can't act. You know.

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Speaker 1: He hadn't been in some unpaid adult roles in a

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Speaker 1: local children's theater. We all know what that means. He

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Speaker 1: can't act. Word for damn. He can't saying word for damn.

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Speaker 1: He's a good provider, but other than that. He's not

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Speaker 1: worth for damn. Now, let's just speak clear. Wow, friends

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Speaker 1: and families and sect do too many bad productions and

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Speaker 1: plays where he he's selling tickets to it. Everybody in

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Speaker 1: the plane gotta sell fifteen tickets. Yeah, that's probably what

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Speaker 1: because oh, he do want to be a big Broadway actor.

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Speaker 1: Now I was just saying it was somebody I know.

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Speaker 1: He auditioned for a lot of commercial he took acting classes,

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Speaker 1: it wasn't time because Tommy ass can act. But at

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Speaker 1: you know, it said he can't act, and that's Tommy

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Speaker 1: has no professoral experience. He just thinks he needs to

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Speaker 1: know how to tell him it's not gonna happen without

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Speaker 1: We have gotten soon for y'all mess around and he

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Speaker 1: Now listen to me. First of all, here's the truth.

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Speaker 1: This is not a dream that you're crushing. This is

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Speaker 1: his delusion. He's delusion. He's not dreaming. This is a delusion.

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Speaker 1: don't come true. They don't sixteen years old, I dreamed

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Speaker 1: of Michelle Pierce. It's always about because then people can

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Speaker 1: him getting me now. I dreamed of Michelle Pierce at sixteen. Okay,

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Speaker 1: what happened? Michelle Pierce been married twice to everybody, but

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Speaker 1: Michelle Pierce came to one of my shows in Columbus,

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Speaker 1: I knew she was lying. I like somebody else, have

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Speaker 1: you mean like someone else? What you back over him? No,

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Speaker 1: if you throw a rock in a pack of dogs,

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Speaker 1: the one that holler is the one you hit Junior. No,

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Speaker 1: he's not attractive. Jay knows he's not attractive. See that.

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Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not getting this last. This show that

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Speaker 1: I'm not getting in this. So now, y'all, I'm with you.

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Speaker 1: Agree with you. Yeah, all dreams don't come true. I

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Speaker 1: want to be handsome. Now, if y'all, if you don't

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Speaker 1: your friends need to sit down. It's really not your friends.

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Speaker 1: Don't include your friends. You have to sit down as

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Speaker 1: the wife and go, honey, listen, urry, Steve. You can't

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