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Speaker 1: Am I the whole for passing out during a family

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Speaker 1: gathering meant to introduce our new baby?

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Speaker 2: Did you pass out because the baby was so ugly

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Speaker 2: that you just couldn't stand being conscious?

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Speaker 3: Dang well?

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Speaker 4: This comes from the NUS.

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Speaker 1: This comes from Okay resident twenty one to twenty, who says,

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Speaker 1: so recently, I twenty seven female, had a beautiful baby

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Speaker 1: girl with my husband, twenty nine male. She's my pride

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Speaker 1: and joy. I love her more than I love myself.

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Speaker 2: Love yourself more, Opie.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, come on now, loves but taking care of her

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Speaker 1: has taken its toll on me. My husband promised to work,

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Speaker 1: would be fifty to fifty when we agreed we wanted children,

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Speaker 1: But I don't feel that's being reflected by his actions

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Speaker 1: this past month. It's gotten to the point where I

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Speaker 1: can't even ask him to wash her up without him

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Speaker 1: saying something along the lines of my paternity leave is short.

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Speaker 1: I want to make the most of it by relaxing

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Speaker 1: a bit.

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Speaker 2: I'll help you later.

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Speaker 3: I help you later.

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Speaker 2: What if OPI wants to relax but.

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Speaker 1: I don't have a lot of time time, Well, I'm

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Speaker 1: going to help you more when I'm working full time again.

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Speaker 3: And I've spent a bunch of other time on other stuff. That. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that makes zero sense a lot, and I get it.

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Speaker 1: His paternity leave is only six weeks while mine is

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Speaker 1: sixteen weeks. But my nether regions hurt like a bee

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Speaker 1: for a better part of two weeks after the birth.

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Speaker 2: Wait, why does it hurt?

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Speaker 4: Sam?

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Speaker 3: Do we have to have the talk?

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Speaker 2: That's what I imagined the husband's ask you, like, what what.

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Speaker 3: I feel like? If he saw anything he would understand?

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Speaker 2: Maybe he was.

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Speaker 5: A question later about your guys' thoughts on attorney leave

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Speaker 5: with the company.

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Speaker 3: What that looks like? Interesting? Is you got something to

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Speaker 3: tell us? Riley?

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Speaker 5: I'm just saying, if one of us were to get pregnant,

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Speaker 5: would we get time off?

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Speaker 4: You're planning on getting pregnant soon, but what if?

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Speaker 5: What if my partner gets pregnant and I'm helping her out?

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Speaker 5: How's that gonna look?

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Speaker 2: As long as you live stream it, I think we're okay.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, we had.

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Speaker 5: A thing earlier about someone wasn't allowed into a delivery

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Speaker 5: room and I was like, so you wouldn't have Sam

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Speaker 5: to the living room and they were like, Sam would

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Speaker 5: tried to live stream it for Sophia.

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Speaker 3: If Sofia was I.

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Speaker 2: Would try to live I would try to live stream

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Speaker 2: Sophia's birth.

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Speaker 3: That's what one caught.

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Speaker 2: Someone inta think that little of me, then they think

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Speaker 2: I would try to live stream by are we.

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Speaker 1: Gonna leave the birth unmonetized? Like what are we talking

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Speaker 1: about here?

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Speaker 2: That is true?

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Speaker 4: Uh dj Khala did that.

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Speaker 1: He not live streams, but he snapchatted like storied so

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Speaker 1: frequently that it was basically a live stream of his

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Speaker 1: own child, another one, another one. And all he could

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Speaker 1: do for me was occasionally burper. And it's like the minimum.

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Speaker 4: That's the barest of it. I feel like that's the

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Speaker 4: funnest part.

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Speaker 3: You're just like.

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Speaker 2: Making babies burp, so fun fire.

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Speaker 1: Now, my baby has gotten into a phase where she

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to sleep. She'll sleep for an hour, but

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Speaker 1: when she's up and back to crying, and I have

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Speaker 1: to get up and try to soothe her. It's been

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Speaker 1: happening for a week now, and I've gotten so little

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Speaker 2: Broth, is Opie's husband not helping at all? Is he

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Speaker 2: just sleeping?

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Speaker 1: He's just burping? The baby's today, yes only, yes, a joke.

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Speaker 1: Saturday was the month of the anniversary of my daughter's birth,

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Speaker 1: so I decided, wait, it was a month okay, So

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Speaker 1: it was like turn one month old the month anniversary

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Speaker 1: of the birth.

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Speaker 3: That's a funny way of saying.

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Speaker 2: One month old the month anniversary of the birth is

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Speaker 4: Mean a birthday is an anniversary.

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Speaker 2: Technically it is, but you don't say a one month

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Speaker 2: anniversary for birth six month anniversary and anna means year

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Speaker 2: in Latin. I believe, Yeah, you're right, You're right, Am

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Speaker 2: I right? And yole? OPI is an anniversary. This would

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Speaker 2: be a month aiversary.

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Speaker 3: OPI is an expert in motherhood, not literature, that's all.

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Speaker 3: I'm okay.

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Speaker 1: Not big Latin. Okay, big Latiniday. Your mouth day.

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Speaker 2: Nailed it, some pretty solid big Latin right there.

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Speaker 4: That was That was gobbledygook.

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Speaker 2: I understood what we were.

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Speaker 1: It was straight gibberish. So I decided to gather both

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Speaker 1: sides of the family to meet her. They hadn't met

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Speaker 1: her prior because A I wanted to rest as much

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Speaker 1: shouldn't be taking babies out and about when they're fresh

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Speaker 4: It's true.

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Speaker 1: So we had this gathering at my mother's house and

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Speaker 1: all was well. Everyone was cooling over our baby.

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Speaker 4: There was food. People are catching up pitchin boy.

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Speaker 3: Dude, we need to get you.

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Speaker 1: A like superhero costume costume for Pigeon Boy and your

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Speaker 1: side like Robin Woods. Yeah, and then and then it's

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Speaker 1: just a giant like pigeon in the sky.

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Speaker 3: Dude.

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Speaker 2: That would be great.

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Speaker 1: That's what I would eat. The Pigeon Call. That is

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Speaker 1: a great spinoff series.

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Speaker 2: Pigeon Boy, Pigeon Boy, Pigeon Boy does whatever pigeons does does. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it is a pigeon do.

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Speaker 3: Pigeon Boy.

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Speaker 1: Damn, you just you just find trash to eat it,

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Speaker 2: You just you just you just's my superpower. I don't

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Speaker 2: buy superpowers. They don't have to eat real food. I

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Speaker 2: just can eat trash fine, And you just run around

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Speaker 2: on like just me normal. Maybe I have a pigeon bro.

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Speaker 2: I eat trash.

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Speaker 1: You just eat fries out of people's hands, like you

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Speaker 2: Just that would be kind of sick.

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Speaker 4: I would watch that serious.

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Speaker 1: But everything was nice, but I had gotten three hours

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Speaker 1: I was starting to feel the effects of it. My god,

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Speaker 1: I was feeling lightheaded and clammy, but I didn't want

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. Wow.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't down for long, but I had fallen over,

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Speaker 1: concerned that I was fine and that I was just

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Speaker 2: You're getting enough sleep, honey.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: God, the fifteen minutes that I burnt that baby, he

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Speaker 1: It's fifteen minutes a week. That's what the doctors say,

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Speaker 1: micro sleeping. It's all the rage.

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Speaker 2: There is something called the Uberman's sleep schedule, where you

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Speaker 2: sleep what.

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Speaker 1: It's every twenty minutes every hour a couple of hours.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, every two hours, every four hours. Yeah. I love

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Speaker 2: how we've all looked at this independently. Yeah, twenty minutes

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Speaker 2: every four hours for a total like two hours of sleep.

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Speaker 4: I considered it back in the day but hell no.

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Speaker 1: They gave me some desert and my aunt made to

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Speaker 1: over at me until they left, but it's whatever. What

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Speaker 1: bothered me is my husband's reaction. When he got home.

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Speaker 1: He started going off on me about how I made

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Speaker 1: him look bad and like he wasn't taking care of me.

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Speaker 2: You are just you're making yourself look bad. Yes, by

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Speaker 2: not taking care of your wife.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe it looks bad because what you're doing is bad.

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Speaker 1: I was confused on how that f me passing out

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Speaker 1: made him look bad, but he refused to explain himself

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Speaker 2: That is crazy that she is literally collapsing from sleep exhaustion. Yes,

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Speaker 2: and he's like, but what about me?

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Speaker 3: What about me?

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Speaker 4: I need to be murdered sometimes too?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, can you think me?

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Speaker 1: I was still feeling bad, so I decided to leave

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Speaker 1: seems to have taken that as a sign that I

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Speaker 2: Your feelings are dumb, Yes, your feelings are dumb. This

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Speaker 2: is her husband? This is true?

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Speaker 3: Is he?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole here? And there is a

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Speaker 1: very short update. So I've tried talking with him, but

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Speaker 1: I usually wait longer, but I'm just too tired to

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Speaker 4: You guys are right.

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Speaker 1: I do need help with this, and he's made it

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Speaker 1: very clear he's not ready to help me yet. So

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go to my mom's place. I am

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Speaker 1: currently packing. I am so done. We have some relevant

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Speaker 1: comments and a big update. Well, let's think you quick.

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Speaker 3: This off right here?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Do you what do we think she means by

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Speaker 2: I am so done?

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Speaker 1: I mean it sounds like she's done with the relationship.

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Speaker 1: Divorce done like capital devo. I think it might be

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Speaker 1: a divorce, No way, it might be. I mean this

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Speaker 1: man is a booty hat ye like? Is he?

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Speaker 3: I don't know? Man?

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Speaker 5: Like if you pass out in front of a bunch

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Speaker 5: of people and your significant other frowns at you instead

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Speaker 5: of helping you up, but.

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Speaker 3: They really like you, but they didn't respect you.

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Speaker 2: I mean, Eric, we're taking there must be a reason

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Speaker 2: that they are married and have a child together. So

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Speaker 2: I'm assuming, like there must be like a reason that

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Speaker 2: they're together, right, But this man is like, I'm I'm

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Speaker 2: struggling to see what this reason is because he is

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Speaker 2: completely unhelpful. He's making it all about him. He's not

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Speaker 2: really caring about his wife or his baby, which is

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Speaker 2: even the most aft up part.

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Speaker 4: He's hot, he's hot.

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Speaker 2: He's hot.

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Speaker 3: He's hot, he's hot, and he's packing.

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Speaker 2: He's hot, and he wants to leave, so he.

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Speaker 4: Wants to leave.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to understand what you're saying.

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Speaker 2: What does packing mean packing?

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Speaker 4: He's got that Badonka Donk Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Donk is hot, he's hot, he's packing.

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Speaker 3: It's the only thing he has to give to the relationship.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and the spark was that he's hot in packing

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Speaker 2: Or conspiracy theory. He's on red pill and he's like

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Speaker 1: where's my stake? And whiskey? Where is it? Put the

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Speaker 4: Come to me? Now that's a little too good. There's husband?

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Speaker 1: I'm just a great actor. I'm just I'm just a

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Speaker 3: Scene and we're back.

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Speaker 1: So this comes from Sophie Mall who says, not the

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Speaker 4: I mean literally just straight.

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Speaker 1: Up swapping off our blocks or like blocks of Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Riley hasn't gone to the convenience store to restock recently.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't need to. You got Amazon. True.

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Speaker 1: You passing out made him look bad because it was

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I think it's like, maybe it's just a momentary

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Speaker 2: But OPI is not the a hole by any means,

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Speaker 1: Away Throwers ninety seven says he doesn't know what paternity

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's that's kind of a sub at op

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Speaker 2: Like you've married a Yeah, not only did you marry

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Speaker 3: Dude, Yeah, to fruition. Kind of a stray shot. I

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Speaker 1: Article Old fifty nine to eight says this deadbeat of

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Speaker 2: Is what it's supposed to be.

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Speaker 3: Full, that's exactly what you're supposed to do. He said.

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Speaker 1: for making him look bad. You know what else makes

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Speaker 1: Mike phone drop. Yeah, I think he is the A whole. Ope,

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Speaker 1: he is not the A hole. But what do you do?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think like if I was in her situation,

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Speaker 3: We need to get like a couple's counseling. All.

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Speaker 2: Don't know, he just eats the help right now, he's

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Speaker 2: like I don't. Yeah, Like if.

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Speaker 1: He's like I refuse, then do you then divorce?

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Speaker 2: Divorce? I think couple's counseling, then divorced. But how long

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Speaker 1: You know, I don't know they are for sure married,

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Speaker 1: they're young, they're young.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, twenty seven and twenty nine, Yeah, twenty seven and

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Speaker 2: I'm guessing, like maybe they've been together for two years,

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Speaker 2: you don't want to. You don't want to divorce right

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Speaker 1: No way, that's a big I would say like three

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Speaker 2: But I want to see what's in this update well.

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Speaker 1: And also, uh the judgment on the post not the

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Speaker 5: But before we get into the update, you need to

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, yeah, you need to update that. Not

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Speaker 1: Do it now immediately, but this update is one day later.

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Speaker 1: But don't wait a day watching you Hi, all your

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Speaker 1: comments are really helpful, so thank you. Yesterday, before I

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Speaker 1: could uber to my mom's house, my sister offered to

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Speaker 1: Here are some of the things he said, copied and pasted.

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Speaker 1: You can't just up and effing leave with my baby.

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Speaker 1: Come back now, please, let's talk about it. You're actually

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Speaker 1: so effing immature. What is wrong with you? We have

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Speaker 1: My god, why the heck did you leave? We can

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Speaker 1: a difficult little bee. Please just get I love how

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Speaker 1: it switches like I hate you, the words that it

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Speaker 3: Please please just Actually.

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Speaker 2: I feel like whenever we see these kinds of messages

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Speaker 3: You, but I love you and I need you.

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Speaker 1: Please just come back and we'll talk and sort this

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Speaker 1: come back. I missed my baby girl. You just can't

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Speaker 1: take her away. What if I call the police for kidnapping?

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Speaker 1: Would that teach you what you're doing is wrong. You

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this guy is off as wrong a million and

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Speaker 2: we have actually had we haven't. We haven't said what

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Speaker 2: But as we've said on this show many a time before,

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Speaker 4: Where were they? Where where were they?

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Speaker 2: Like? This is this is crazy behavior, insane, insane behavior.

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Speaker 2: I don't understand what the switch.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there has to has.

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Speaker 1: To have been some sign or or or something happened.

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Speaker 1: Like people people can develop severe mental illnesses like later

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Speaker 2: I guess, like like being with a child changes things, but.

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Speaker 3: It may it's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Well, I would screenshot, but it says this community doesn't

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Speaker 1: but I'm mad right now and this feels therapeutical. I

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Speaker 1: but for now she's on formula since my breast milk

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Speaker 3: Maybe I don't know what the reasons are.

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Speaker 4: Luckily, oh lack of sleep?

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Speaker 3: Right all right?

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Speaker 1: My sister said she wasn't as fussy as I described,

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Speaker 1: I mean, that makes sense, but that's crazy that or

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Speaker 3: Who knows. I'll wait for the doctor's opinion.

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Speaker 1: I'm not feeling one hundred percent, but I feel a

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Speaker 1: who showed concern. I think this will be the last update,

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Speaker 4: We do have some realman comments.

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Speaker 2: Is there not another update?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 4: What Clift anger?

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Speaker 2: Oh dude, man's going man's going crazy? Man? Oh dude,

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Speaker 2: I would like if there, I would be worry. I

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00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:58,119
Speaker 2: would be with texts like that. I would be worried

449
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Speaker 2: about having my kid in the same home as that

450
00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:05,800
Speaker 2: lunatic one percent. What are the relevant comments? Please tell

451
00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:06,880
Speaker 2: me there's more information here.

452
00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:09,800
Speaker 1: So Zombie Joe's basement says, I am so glad you

453
00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:11,960
Speaker 1: left and got some help and rest. You definitely need

454
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:14,360
Speaker 1: and deserve it. I still can't get over your husband's

455
00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:17,439
Speaker 1: mental gymnastics here. Hasn't been a parent, hasn't helped you

456
00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:19,639
Speaker 1: at all, and hasn't really spent any time caring for

457
00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:22,320
Speaker 1: his daughter, and only cares about what other people besides

458
00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:25,679
Speaker 1: you think, but misses his baby girl and wants you

459
00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:28,240
Speaker 1: to come back so we can get back to being happy.

460
00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 1: Sounds like the only person who was happy was him.

461
00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:33,240
Speaker 1: He got a six week vacation and didn't have to

462
00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:35,800
Speaker 1: lift a finger. Let me guess you were doing all

463
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,120
Speaker 1: the cooking and cleaning on top of caring for the baby.

464
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:41,159
Speaker 1: From what he's texting you, he thinks he did nothing wrong.

465
00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 1: He is being deliberately obtuse to add instult to injury.

466
00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 1: He calls you a bee and threatens you with the cops. Lovely,

467
00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:50,679
Speaker 1: he is a real peach. I really want to know

468
00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:53,080
Speaker 1: what your mom has to say. Does she know he

469
00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 1: was mad at you for passing out? True a fishing

470
00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:59,640
Speaker 1: cupcake two four seven says, because it isn't about love,

471
00:21:59,880 --> 00:22:03,240
Speaker 1: about control and image. Please be strong. You have done

472
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:05,480
Speaker 1: a fabulous job doing what you need to do for

473
00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:06,359
Speaker 1: you and your baby.

474
00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:07,440
Speaker 3: Best wishes.

475
00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:11,840
Speaker 1: Black Guardian says, to be clear, kidnapping is not involved

476
00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:14,879
Speaker 1: until a custody arrangement is submitted to the court, either

477
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,600
Speaker 1: married parent is legally permitted to take their child for

478
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:21,359
Speaker 1: any reason, and then aggravating Pipe nine No Three says, dang,

479
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:24,520
Speaker 1: this dude is crazy. Hopefully the next update it'll be

480
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 1: ex husband. But there isn't another update because that is

481
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:31,439
Speaker 1: the end of the story. I'm pissed. I'm pissed. I

482
00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:33,560
Speaker 1: feel like we were just it was just getting good.

483
00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 1: When When when did the story happen? Hold on ago?

484
00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:38,120
Speaker 3: Wow?

485
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 2: Oh like a few days this was a few days ago.

486
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Speaker 3: Days ago?

487
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 2: Okay, So that's why there's not an update, because wait, click,

488
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:49,000
Speaker 2: I feel like we could get another update.

489
00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:52,919
Speaker 1: There might be four days ago, there is.

490
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Speaker 2: That's it.

491
00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:54,920
Speaker 3: That's all they've posted.

492
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Speaker 1: Gosh dang because there was there was one one update

493
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Speaker 1: one day later.

494
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:02,159
Speaker 3: Gosh dang it. Go.

495
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 4: I mean it's possible.

496
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 3: I feel like there'll probably be at least one more

497
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 3: update here, I hope.

498
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:11,919
Speaker 2: So this is Oh man, I'm I'm such a cliffhanger.

499
00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:12,960
Speaker 4: What do we predict?

500
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:13,720
Speaker 3: What happen.

501
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:19,160
Speaker 2: Thanks possible, he's acting a little crazy. I don't think

502
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:22,439
Speaker 2: it's I don't think it's quite divorce yet, but she

503
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 2: needs they need to have a conversation asap. Yeah, and like,

504
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:29,359
Speaker 2: is this a mental break? Like I don't like because

505
00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:35,000
Speaker 2: it's nothing like terrible, terrible has happened except these yeah messages,

506
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 2: like he's been negligent and then these messages are crazy

507
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,680
Speaker 2: and the threat is crazy. It's pretty bad. But I

508
00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 2: don't like if they've had a four or five year relationship,

509
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:49,920
Speaker 2: I feel like maybe it's just a break that he's

510
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,560
Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like maybe they could work

511
00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 2: something out. But if something doesn't change, if they have

512
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,919
Speaker 2: a conversation and a line and something doesn't change, divorce

513
00:23:58,960 --> 00:23:59,280
Speaker 2: for sure.

514
00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:03,359
Speaker 1: Yeahsp is nothing is going to change, and he's just

515
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:08,560
Speaker 1: he's changed for whatever reason to become this crazy man.

516
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:12,399
Speaker 1: So yeah, I would predict that he doesn't change. And

517
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 1: then OPI is like, yeah, I you know, I can't

518
00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 1: have this for for me and my child.

519
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 4: I think that uh, it.

520
00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:22,359
Speaker 1: Would be good for at some point, which would be

521
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 1: challenging of course with caring for the baby, but it

522
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,720
Speaker 1: could be good to meet with him away from the

523
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 1: baby and like a public leave the baby with your

524
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,160
Speaker 1: mom or leave the baby with the mom and sister

525
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 1: and just try to I guess, just have a sit

526
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 1: down and just like try to figure out what's going on,

527
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 1: even though.

528
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Speaker 3: It might I don't know that it'll actually like.

529
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, before you divorce, you should have that conversation to

530
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 2: see what just like just.

531
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,040
Speaker 3: To see what's going on, honestly, because I'm like, because.

532
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:50,760
Speaker 2: I'm confused, I don't know why, like all all of

533
00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 2: a sudden, this is why is this happening?

534
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,679
Speaker 1: And Opie did Granted it was one day later, so

535
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 1: that's not like not a lot of time to like

536
00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 1: sit and stew on it, but OPI didn't mention like

537
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 1: oh and now like thinking back, like I see these

538
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:06,120
Speaker 1: red flags and like whatever else or like add more context,

539
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 1: which oftentimes we do get. We're like, ah, okay, that

540
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,399
Speaker 1: makes sense. That's who this person was, and they just

541
00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 1: have the roast in and glasses and didn't see them

542
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 1: for who they were.

543
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I don't know, dude, I do not have Also.

544
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 2: Maybe they've just never had a challenge like this before

545
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 2: and so she hasn't had the opportunity to see him

546
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,160
Speaker 2: in a light where he's needed to help.

547
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, if they've had just like a super super smooth

548
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,680
Speaker 1: relationship and everything, now it's like okay, Like raising a

549
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:32,639
Speaker 1: child is hard.

550
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:34,400
Speaker 4: It is not easy, which is.

551
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:37,240
Speaker 2: Why you always get a dog before you have a baby.

552
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 3: Mm.

553
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:39,920
Speaker 1: Is that another Sam's Golden rule?

554
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude. I remember I was talking to this girl

555
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 2: or I was dating this girl, and she was like,

556
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 2: I would never get a dog, and I'm like, well,

557
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:51,159
Speaker 2: then how do you know if you're ready to have

558
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 2: a baby, And she's like, what do you mean? And like,

559
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 2: you got to you gotta do a test trial and

560
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,159
Speaker 2: something that dies within like five years before you have

561
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:03,479
Speaker 2: something that lives for like yeah, five years, you get

562
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 2: a big dog?

563
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 3: Oh great dang?

564
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, like like like been'll.

565
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:08,760
Speaker 1: Live for following five years though, do you want to

566
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:13,400
Speaker 1: bet great dane? Great danes lifespan is five years? Look

567
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:15,480
Speaker 1: up average lifespan of a Great Dane.

568
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 4: That's that's so sad. Due ship.

569
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 2: Eight to ten? Okay, eighty ten a lot of but

570
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 2: a lot of them are like eight to ten, with

571
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 2: some living only six or seven years.

572
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 4: Is it just because they're so fricking they're so huge?

573
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:31,480
Speaker 3: Look up?

574
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:35,479
Speaker 2: Look up? Tibetan mastiff. That makes me sad, Tibetan. Uh,

575
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:42,160
Speaker 2: I believe in you? Oh man, oh wow, okay, never mind.

576
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 3: Lifespan to tube maate dog.

577
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 1: That's what was correct suggested from Tibetan to tube mate.

578
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 2: Right, and I do love it. What's the shortest dog lifespan?

579
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Speaker 1: I mean zero average.

580
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 3: Dog?

581
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 2: The dog the Bordeaux mastef. Look at the Bordeaux Mastef.

582
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 1: Okay, say him just wants to find a dog that

583
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 1: will die. But that's what I'm saying, Like, if you if,

584
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 1: if you want.

585
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 4: So, would you get this Bordeaux? There's a ticking.

586
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 2: Time b because all right, let's let's say I'm like, okay, why.

587
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 3: Does it have to die?

588
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 2: Hear me out? Hear me out? All right. So I

589
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 2: think you're going great in your relationship and you're like,

590
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 2: I think I might want to have kids with this person.

591
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 2: What you do is you get a dog first to

592
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 2: see how can you guys take care of a dog

593
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 2: to gather I'm on board. Right, Let's say the relationship

594
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 2: erodes after two years and you're taking care of that dog.

595
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 2: You're saying you have to share joint custody of this

596
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:53,640
Speaker 2: thing for another ten years of someone that you don't

597
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 2: might not even like. But if it dies a year

598
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 2: or two after then it's fine.

599
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 1: But even if you had like a a four three

600
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 1: and a half four year relationship, which is a long relationship,

601
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 1: and then you leave, you still have at least like

602
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,159
Speaker 1: a one more year of having to figure out this.

603
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 2: Would you rather have one year or ten years?

604
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter because once you fatter, once you figure

605
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 1: it out, I mean, someone's gonna take the dog.

606
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:21,360
Speaker 4: You figure it out.

607
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:24,240
Speaker 2: Some people do joint custody of a dog. It's it

608
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 2: is way more complicated the longer the dog lives.

609
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 1: See I okay, I always assume that one person would

610
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 1: take ye. Honestly, I feel like that is probably the norm.

611
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 3: If I get a dog, I'm gonna be like, this

612
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 3: is my dog.

613
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 5: I'm paying for it, I'm paying for everything, and they

614
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 5: have no reason to take that dog.

615
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 2: That's not the situation. The situation is we're getting a

616
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 2: dog together to simulate whether or not we're gonna have

617
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 2: a baby.

618
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 4: You know what I wanta?

619
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 3: I agree with that.

620
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 4: If anyone has.

621
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:55,479
Speaker 1: A story, Uh so you get a Portio Mastiff Bordo

622
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 1: mass Stiff is the perfect related the baby test, you're

623
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 1: like planning for failure. Though, what do you mean you

624
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: are you're planning for failure, all right? As soon as

625
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 1: the dog dies, that's when you know you're ready to

626
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 1: have a kid.

627
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 5: Well, time out. Why kids the dog live because in

628
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,640
Speaker 5: this simulation you have a short amount of span time

629
00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 5: within five years, the kid will live to eighty. But

630
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 5: in this scenario, you want to average dogs live for

631
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 5: like fifteen years.

632
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:25,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a long time.

633
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 5: You want one that lives for five Okay, average person

634
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 5: lives for one hundred years. You want someone that lives

635
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 5: for thirty three. You want your kid to die at

636
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 5: thirty three. That's what this simulation is doing. No, no, no, no,

637
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:37,520
Speaker 5: that is what it's doing.

638
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 3: No. What it's what it's doing is it's.

639
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 2: Making sure that collateral damage is less if it doesn't

640
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 2: work out.

641
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 4: But which is planning for it? Was just like get

642
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 4: a regular.

643
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 2: Dog, because then it's a test.

644
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 3: I understand. It's a different pet. Not a dog. Get

645
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 3: like a durbbil or.

646
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 2: Something that's not enough, that's not hard enough. Okay, a

647
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 2: dog is a The dog is a dog is hard

648
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:06,440
Speaker 2: enough that it can actually simulate some of the things.

649
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 1: Of having a child. Yeah, it's like semi, it's like

650
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 1: semi there. Yeah, and a big dog. Third degree parenting.

651
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 2: Exactly, third degree parenting. So you get what I'm saying is,

652
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 2: when you're ready, when you're thinking about having a kid,

653
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 2: you get a Bordeau Mastiff. As soon as that dies,

654
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 2: you start rotting, dodging, and then you have a kid.

655
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 4: I think you just get whatever dog you want.

656
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 2: No, you get a Bordeau Mastiff. Anyways, what if the

657
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 2: I know I know people who have inherited dogs that

658
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 2: they weren't ready to take care of alone because they

659
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 2: got a dog together with their partner and it wasn't

660
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,040
Speaker 2: a Bordeaux Mastiff. So now they have that dog for

661
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 2: like fifteen years, are they ready to Can they take

662
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 2: care of three dogs?

663
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 1: You can always you can always adopt, adopt, adopt the

664
00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: dog out. Yeah, but then that's sad, my friends, more

665
00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 1: sad than dying.

666
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 3: Stop.

667
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 2: I don't know, at least when it's when it's dead,

668
00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 2: it's just dead. But if you give it away to

669
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Speaker 2: a shelter there.

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Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no no no no, you can

671
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Speaker 1: adopt it to another fantasy Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, adopted.

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Speaker 3: This dog was adopted out to him and he like

673
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Speaker 3: takes care of it.

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Speaker 1: My mom used to h we used to foster care

675
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Speaker 1: for dogs, and we would we would like we would

676
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Speaker 1: essentially low key like interview the family to like make

677
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Speaker 1: sure that they were like a good family. And all

678
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 1: the dogs you've ever adopted out like incredible, incredible families.

679
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Speaker 4: They are so well taken care of.

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Speaker 2: Eat ship.

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Speaker 1: I guess it's it's a fantastic idea. I love it,

682
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 1: and I'm actually like, oh, yeah, I should totally do that.

683
00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 1: But you don't have to get a dog. It's gonna

684
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Speaker 1: die like a baby. Better, it's better. I don't know, No,

685
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Speaker 1: I don't don't think okay, because it you you.

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Speaker 2: Yes, the thing that confuses merusting you were trusting someone

687
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Speaker 2: else to take care of your dog. You they could

688
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 2: they could be secret dog beaters and you don't even

689
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Speaker 2: know they could interview anyone could be anything exactly. So

690
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Speaker 2: trust yourself. Make sure you take care of a dog

691
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Speaker 2: till death. I would rather you own a dog. It's

692
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Speaker 2: till death do you part.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but but if you're optimizing it for it to

694
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Speaker 1: die as fast as pod.

695
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Speaker 2: Because it's a relationship test dog.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Oh you and animal music because you want your

697
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Speaker 3: dog to die. I don't want it to die.

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Speaker 1: It's going to die rose in a ferrari towards speeding,

699
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 1: towards death.

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Speaker 2: You get the biggest Bordeaux mast if possible.

701
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Speaker 3: Just some mute sam was a mutated freak of a dog.

702
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 1: It's just gonna dude, might as well just need it

703
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 1: chocolate too, Why dude, Yeah, why stop at Bordeaux mast if.

704
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Speaker 3: Let's find one with like.

705
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:47,920
Speaker 1: Wings or gills or some sort of like insane deformity.

706
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 3: This is just or.

707
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 4: Better yet better yet? What did you say?

708
00:32:58,600 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 2: Bees? Bees?

709
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's that's animal cool. Go to the go

710
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Speaker 1: to the here we go. This is this is yours.

711
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 1: This is the Samuel Donner dog parenting plan. You literally

712
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Speaker 1: go to like a VC a hospice and find a

713
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Speaker 1: dog that is on life support and you know there's

714
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: so many things that take care of Does it work?

715
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Speaker 1: That doesn't work because you know more things to take

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Speaker 1: care of them.

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Speaker 2: No, But you just see what it's like like a right,

718
00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 2: you're it simulates a baby because you're getting it when

719
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 2: it's a baby, and it's like, oh, it's seeing the

720
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Speaker 2: world for the first time, and you're gonna be seeing

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Speaker 2: what it's like like to see life through a baby's eyes,

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Speaker 2: except instead of human as a dog. I mean, it's

723
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Speaker 2: still your situation is Grandma's going to come live with us,

724
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Speaker 2: Like that's not like, yes, you're but.

725
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Speaker 3: That's still taking care of something.

726
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like it's not, but it's not taking care

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Speaker 2: of a young thing. It's like like if you were

728
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Speaker 2: thinking about there we go, that situation is great.

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Speaker 3: Is great.

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Speaker 2: If you're thinking about taking your grandma, you're like, I

731
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Speaker 2: don't know, like what it's going to be like adopt

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Speaker 2: a thirteen year old dog and see what that's like.

733
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's closer, but it's like it's way close.

734
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Speaker 1: General principle of like caring for something together is still there,

735
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Speaker 1: But yeah it is.

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Speaker 2: It's closer. It's closer.

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Speaker 1: It's a closer simulated experience, but I think you'll still

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Speaker 1: go through the fire of, like, you know, the challenge

739
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Speaker 1: of like having care for something, probably even more so, honestly,

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Speaker 1: I think one with a sick dog, because then you

741
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Speaker 1: have more things to take care of you.

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Speaker 2: If you adopt the kid at five, if you adopted

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Speaker 2: here at five, then you you take care of a

744
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 2: sick dog, like like from the foster system, and all right,

745
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Speaker 2: I gotta like help this kid through all the trauma

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Speaker 2: that it may have experienced.

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Speaker 5: If you want to learn more about Sam and his

748
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Speaker 5: theories with dogs and humans, check out another podcast.

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Speaker 3: Now we're gonna get back.

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Speaker 2: To the These are these are golden.

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Speaker 3: These are that one's been upgraded to platinum. We're reaching

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Speaker 3: a new level.

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Speaker 1: ANYW, what do we got next? What's this platinum story

754
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Speaker 1: we got on the dogget to read?

755
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Speaker 2: Am I the ang hole for breaking up with my

756
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Speaker 2: boyfriend after he almost got into three altercations but nothing

757
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 2: actually happened.

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Speaker 4: Let's make it a fourth.

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Speaker 2: This comes from Gregory Toothface, and they say, my boyfriend,

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Speaker 2: twenty six male and I, twenty six female, were together

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Speaker 2: for six months. We just recently broke up because I

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Speaker 2: was uncomfortable with how he reacted in three different situations

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Speaker 2: with and around me. First, back in November, I ran

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Speaker 2: a marathon Let's go opepe and my boyfriend came to

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Speaker 2: cheer me on. Afterward, he drove me home. On our

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Speaker 2: way to his car, a random guy yelled at me

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Speaker 2: to get off the sidewalk so he could ride his

768
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Speaker 2: bike there. Weird, but I just moved to the side. Meanwhile,

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend went over to the guy, yelling at him

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Speaker 2: and ready to fight. I separated them and had to

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Speaker 2: pull my boyfriend away. I was pissed and scared about this,

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Speaker 2: but no fight had actually happened, just gone inversation. What

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Speaker 2: do you do with my girlfriend?

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Speaker 3: Then?

775
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Speaker 2: Last Friday night, my boyfriend came to watch my gym competition.

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Speaker 2: Damn marathon then jump.

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Speaker 4: A freaking athlete out here.

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Speaker 2: We drove separate cars and he had parked far away.

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Speaker 2: He insisted on walking to his car, even though I

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Speaker 2: wanted to give him a ride since it's a bad area.

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Speaker 2: When we met up at home, he said a homeless

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Speaker 2: woman had followed him to his car and said he

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Speaker 2: stole money from her.

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Speaker 4: What he stole money from the homeless woman?

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Speaker 2: He said? A homeless woman had followed him to his car,

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Speaker 2: and he said that he stole money from her. You

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Speaker 2: stole money from a homeless person? Edit? He said he didn't,

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Speaker 2: which I believe. That just makes me more confused.

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Speaker 3: Did you leave homeless people alone? Yeah, correety did. Uh.

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Speaker 2: She tried to reach into his car and he kicked

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Speaker 2: her away. When I was worried in shock by the

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Speaker 2: he said he only kicked her a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Barked.

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Speaker 2: Finally, on Saturday, we went for a jog in the

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Speaker 2: morning in my neighbor's big farm, where my family has

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Speaker 2: permission to run around the fields, always running. It's like

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Speaker 2: a four mile loop. A car appeared on the farm,

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Speaker 2: driving up the dirt path by the fields and headed

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Speaker 2: our way, and my boyfriend says under his breath, what

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Speaker 2: the e f is this guy up to? I got

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Speaker 2: mad at my boyfriend for trying to take charge, since

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Speaker 2: I was the more familiar person in this situation had

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Speaker 2: seen many cars there before. My boyfriend was mad and

804
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:41,399
Speaker 2: said not to start crap with him, and then ran

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Speaker 2: faster away from me the rest of the loop. Turns

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Speaker 2: out the car belonged to the owner of the farm,

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Speaker 2: and I beat the crap out of him and I

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Speaker 2: verified who I was. I was embarrassed to have brought

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Speaker 2: a guest without him knowing, and then to be fighting

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Speaker 2: with said guests when the farmer saw so. Then later

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Speaker 2: on Saturday, back at my house, right after the run,

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend said, if he's gonna always be the bad

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Speaker 2: guy in my eyes, then we're wasting our time together.

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Speaker 2: Maybe stop being the bad guy. Hey, come on, now,

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Speaker 2: we broke up the next day.

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Speaker 3: I see, I see what the issue is.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, what's the issue?

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Speaker 3: Riley? Right?

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Speaker 5: In all these scenarios, she's doing something physically, so she

820
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Speaker 5: needs to stop working out, so he'll stop doing this.

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Speaker 4: That's stop taking care of your health and it'll all

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Speaker 4: be good.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, that's the problem. I mean, running marathon, Jim, dude,

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Speaker 5: just stop doing that.

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Speaker 2: If you fight them before he fights them, problem solved.

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Speaker 3: Mm.

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Speaker 4: But you need to be athletic for that, so then

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Speaker 4: you need to stay in shape.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so keep running. You either stop running entirely or

830
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Speaker 2: keep running and then fight them before he fights exactly,

831
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Speaker 2: bing bang boom. I guess I'm feeling some guilt because

832
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 2: I'm worried I judged him too harshly and overreacted here.

833
00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 2: I didn't see any actual fighting. I was just worried

834
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Speaker 2: about the possibility of it. But am I justified in

835
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Speaker 2: feeling like it was possible that I would be in danger?

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Speaker 2: Some of this comes from knowing he's been in fights

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Speaker 2: before we met, and a few years ago he went

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Speaker 2: to jail for a particularly bad fight, so yeah, it's history.

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Speaker 2: I mean, come on, but even then he was acquitted

840
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Speaker 2: of his charges. That just means he had a good lawyer.

841
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 2: A court of law decided he wasn't responsible for that

842
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Speaker 2: fight in the end. And I hate being the person

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00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 2: who lets someone's pass define them. Are these situations dangerous

844
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Speaker 2: enough for me to be worried about my safety? Or

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Speaker 2: did I overreact? And there is an edit and some

846
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Speaker 2: relevant comments. But do we think op overreacted? John Riley

847
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Speaker 2: comments hers, what do you think?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So there's like two things here. There's the safety

849
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 1: issue and then there's the like relationship expectation issue. Right,

850
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 1: so it's like even let's kind of like separate the

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00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:56,879
Speaker 1: safety part of it away for a second. Like if

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Speaker 1: you're like, hey, I don't like a person who's like

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Speaker 1: always us into confrontations and like that's not what I

854
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Speaker 1: want in a partner and in a relationship it like

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Speaker 1: trusses me out, then like, yeah, that's that's If you

856
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Speaker 1: don't want that in a relationship, then don't be in

857
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Speaker 1: a relationship that has that.

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Speaker 3: That's totally fine. So one I think she.

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Speaker 5: Should leave him, But the other thing, if she wanted

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Speaker 5: to be with him, he's get even harder into the

861
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Speaker 5: gym and come to a place where if he tries

862
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:23,400
Speaker 5: to fight other people, she can beat his ass and

863
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 5: tell him like, hey, stop that, and you can be

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Speaker 5: in control of this situation.

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Speaker 4: She just needs to be the whole exactly.

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Speaker 2: Actually, I wonder if that's a good thing. Like if

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Speaker 2: two people are about to get in a fight and

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Speaker 2: you pretend to beat up the purse your friend.

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Speaker 1: Like, is that like a fight, like a tactic to

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Speaker 1: the other persons, Like the two people just start fighting.

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Speaker 2: I guess like she's doing everything I wanted to do

872
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Speaker 2: that exactly.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you're not listening to me.

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00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:53,120
Speaker 1: And then I feel like, not, no, that would be

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Speaker 1: a good tactic.

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Speaker 3: Yet be possibly, I don't know.

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00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 2: That's also another good tactic. Just rip off your pants, Yes,

878
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 2: get naked, naked, get naked.

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Speaker 3: They don't know what to do.

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00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, this only this doesn't I don't think this works

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Speaker 2: universally for everyone.

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00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:09,200
Speaker 4: It does not only works for us.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, the big guy was coming after me, I'd probably

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Speaker 5: get so he would leave me alone.

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Speaker 2: There we go. I'm about it all right, But let's

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Speaker 2: get into this edit.

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Speaker 3: So.

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Speaker 2: I really appreciate everyone's comments. It has been so interesting

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Speaker 2: to read everyone's perspectives and similar experiences, and I appreciate

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00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 2: you for taking the time to consider the situation and

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00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:29,520
Speaker 2: provide input on it. Here is what I've taken away

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00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 2: from the comments. One, people have different ideas of what

893
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:37,399
Speaker 2: level of defense, confrontation, and conflict is acceptable in daily life. Bah.

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00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:40,799
Speaker 2: This then becomes a compatibility issue. This is what John

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00:41:40,920 --> 00:41:44,319
Speaker 2: was saying. Two. Escalating a strange situation into one with

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Speaker 2: a more heightened emotions and an increased potential for violence

897
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 2: is a form of aggressive behavior. Even if no violence occurs.

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00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 2: There are people who escalate and for people who de escalate,

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Speaker 2: and especially when leaving is a safe and valid option,

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Speaker 2: It's okay to leave if I feel unsafe, I can

901
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 2: trust my gut feeling and for I am not responsible

902
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:08,080
Speaker 2: for his choices. Also, I know the feedback paints my

903
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:11,359
Speaker 2: ex boyfriend in an overwhelmingly negative light, and for those

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Speaker 2: of you who agree with him, I acknowledge your I

905
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 2: acknowledge your perspective too. I feel validated and feeling unsafe,

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Speaker 2: but I recognize that some may feel perfectly fine in

907
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Speaker 2: these situations, which is exactly what we said. Let's freaking

908
00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 2: go boom. That is fine. I just personally don't want

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00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 2: to be in these situations. Again, and I hope my

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Speaker 2: ex boyfriend finds someone more compatible on this in the future.

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Speaker 2: I kind of feel like this too. Sometimes if like

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Speaker 2: a girl puts herself in dangerous situations, then I'm like,

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Speaker 2: stop doing that. Like that's like, don't don't go, don't

914
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Speaker 2: don't like be talking about you when.

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Speaker 4: You pick a fight, so that way your guy can

916
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Speaker 4: defend you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, dude, I don't want to have to always

918
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Speaker 2: do this. Yeah, but you know who is great for

919
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Speaker 2: that kind of girl? Who this guy? This guy is

920
00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:00,800
Speaker 2: great for that girl he's just looking for He's looking

921
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Speaker 2: for that. Yeah, that's right anyway, relevant Gobbins Birdie Seeker

922
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Speaker 2: one not overreacting at all. Dude has issues with control

923
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Speaker 2: and decision making. Either he matures in a hurry or

924
00:43:09,080 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 2: he's going to end up in trouble. And then OPI responds,

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Speaker 2: Also his friends are all like this too. They think

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Speaker 2: fights are just a normal part of life. The more

927
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Speaker 2: I saw that in his friends and in him, the

928
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Speaker 2: more uneasy I got. And then Grandma Ethel's Revenge says,

929
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Speaker 2: I mean, you said it yourself. This is a regular

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00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,439
Speaker 2: part of his life. If you keep him in your life,

931
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Speaker 2: it will now become a regular part of your.

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Speaker 3: Life, and that's where it ends.

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Speaker 2: Great advice from the comments, that's true, great advice from us.

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Speaker 1: And I think the way that like OPI was like

935
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Speaker 1: super level headed and like mature about like, hey, I

936
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Speaker 1: see what everyone else is saying. I hear you, but

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Speaker 1: this is how I personally feel. This is what I

938
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Speaker 1: pulled away from the comments, like super level headed, mature

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Speaker 1: way of going about it.

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Speaker 3: Agreed,