WEBVTT - Telli Swift & Sliding Into DMs

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<v Speaker 1>I'm bad bitches. I hope you had the merriest of

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<v Speaker 1>merry Christmases. I hope you had a fantastic New Year.

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<v Speaker 1>We're just going into it, Jess. How was your New Year?

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<v Speaker 2>Hello?

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<v Speaker 3>It was good.

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<v Speaker 2>Kyle and I were to bed by eight thirty.

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<v Speaker 1>You didn't even make it into the New Year.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I mean I made it into the new year

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<v Speaker 2>the next morning. I said Happy twenty twenty two the

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<v Speaker 2>next morning. But that's about it.

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<v Speaker 1>How is yours? Because I saw it? You went out.

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<v Speaker 1>We did well out. I mean we went to Jackson Britney's.

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<v Speaker 1>We arrived at five so that the babies could play

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<v Speaker 1>more like sex, so the babies could play. Hartford is

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<v Speaker 1>like fully mobile, walking all over the place. Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so cute though, because it was like Brittany

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<v Speaker 1>was going to get ready and she was like, who's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna watch Cruise while I'm getting ready? Because Jackson was

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get the food all organized, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>like everyone was helping with everyone's kid. And then Stocy

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<v Speaker 1>tore her tights, so she was changing her tights and

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<v Speaker 1>Bo was trying to help Jack's and Bo was like, la, la,

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<v Speaker 1>can you grab hart Ferd She's like playing in the

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<v Speaker 1>dog's water dish.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like really really cute and fun. And we

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<v Speaker 1>did make it to midnight. We left Jackson Brittany's before midnight.

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<v Speaker 1>Ocean was dead a sleep by eight o'clock, but I

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<v Speaker 1>had to wake her up to transport her back home,

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<v Speaker 1>and she made it until midnight.

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<v Speaker 2>She did, so you made it to midnight here at

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<v Speaker 2>the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I was like walking up the stairs to put

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<v Speaker 1>Ocean to bed.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so exciting.

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<v Speaker 1>We looked at hers and I said, Happy New Year.

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<v Speaker 2>My love, that's so cute.

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<v Speaker 1>So cute.

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<v Speaker 2>Do the babies because I saw a video on your

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram which was hilarious. But when you sit the babies

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<v Speaker 2>next to each other, do they like play together?

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<v Speaker 1>They do? Oh okay, it's more like fighting over the toy,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like Cruise ripped Ocean's head. That's what I saw,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, hilarious. But you know, the I'm

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<v Speaker 1>telling you what, Cruise is the chillest baby in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Like when we were leaving at like eleven thirty, Cruise

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<v Speaker 1>was still awake, really doesn't fuss, like he's full on

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<v Speaker 1>super baby.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, like still awake hadn't napped, was just

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<v Speaker 2>up with the adults.

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<v Speaker 1>He was wanting to be a part of all of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's cute. It was cute. I love that. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like ocean. If I kept her up, would be screaming,

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<v Speaker 1>bloody murder right right. She has no patience, no tolerance.

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<v Speaker 1>When it's time for bed, she lets you know. But

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<v Speaker 1>also its.

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<v Speaker 2>Same, same, same my reaction to me too.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was just like I had a fantastic holiday

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<v Speaker 1>and I slid in to a man's DM for the

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<v Speaker 1>first time since I was like twenty three.

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<v Speaker 2>Stop it, Yes, I did.

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on?

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<v Speaker 2>How did that feel?

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<v Speaker 3>How did that feel?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? It felt strange because I don't slide in

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<v Speaker 1>the DM like I slid in the DM when I

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<v Speaker 1>was like drinking right and like young. But I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>slid in the DM, and I don't even know if

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<v Speaker 1>I have game anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm sure you do. How much can you

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<v Speaker 2>tell us about what made you do that? And then

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<v Speaker 2>how it's going?

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<v Speaker 1>So the great thing about it is I'm obviously just

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<v Speaker 1>in this zone of like I got my baby, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to work really hard and create an empire for

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<v Speaker 1>the give them Lailah brand. So my expectations are very low.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm just looking to like sit and have a

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<v Speaker 1>conversation and like, like I said, I don't have any

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<v Speaker 1>expectations with it, but it went well, like my DM

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<v Speaker 1>cherry and just talking to a man. Yeah, who's not

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<v Speaker 1>my previous relationship. It's just like this is fun and

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<v Speaker 1>obviously I have a little bit game left if like

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<v Speaker 1>there's communication happening.

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<v Speaker 2>So you got a response?

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<v Speaker 1>I got a response?

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<v Speaker 3>Huge.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be honest, jess what my first DM, the initial

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<v Speaker 1>one was just emojis and not even anything sexy, like,

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<v Speaker 1>not even anything hot.

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<v Speaker 2>That's funny, That's how do you respond to that? Do

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<v Speaker 2>you just like it or something?

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<v Speaker 4>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>He did? He responded, We like sparked a conversation. But

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what does one say in someone's DM?

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, for my listeners, my people, let me

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<v Speaker 1>know please call in to one eight six six la

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<v Speaker 1>la pad and let me know how to get game back. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and like what should an initial DM be like? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's different. It's like, are you looking for

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship? Are you looking for a booty call? Because

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<v Speaker 1>it's very different. What are you looking for with this

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<v Speaker 1>initial DM?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Who the fuck knows.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, that's huge. I that's how Kyle and I.

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<v Speaker 2>It was on Facebook. So that's embarrassing because it was

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<v Speaker 2>years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait before ig No, it was on Instagram even come

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<v Speaker 1>to be a long time ago, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, It wasn't before Instagram, but it was when Facebook.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like actually six years ago. It was when

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<v Speaker 2>Facebook was still active.

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<v Speaker 1>Kind of Facebook classier than Instagram, No, I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think Facebook is like more ancient, Like like

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<v Speaker 2>I if I'm in a DM my aunt or uncle

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<v Speaker 2>or like grandma, I use Facebook. If you slid in

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<v Speaker 2>someone's Facebook dms, now, I feel like they'd be like,

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<v Speaker 2>they'd not they if they saw it, they wouldn't respond

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<v Speaker 2>because that's just like, what are you eighty years old?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that messenger?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so I actually just discovered that that existed and

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<v Speaker 1>I downloaded. I was like what is this? And I

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<v Speaker 1>downloaded and I had so many messages messages from the

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<v Speaker 1>Facebook Messenger, and I was like, what is it?

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<v Speaker 3>What is this?

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<v Speaker 4>Even?

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<v Speaker 3>Dude?

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<v Speaker 1>Like what I don't I don't know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thirty one and I act like I'm ninety as

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<v Speaker 1>if I like just arrived on Earth, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>what is all this that's changed? It's like, while I

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<v Speaker 1>You've been a part of this for a long time. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>where have I been though? I know, watching housewives? Obviously

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<v Speaker 1>watching Housewives.

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<v Speaker 2>Well congrats, because this this is a story that we

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<v Speaker 2>will we will check in on.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>It has less to do with the dude and more

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<v Speaker 1>to do with the fact that I repopped my DM

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<v Speaker 1>cherry and I think that is something to celebrate. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>about to pop some Starla non alcoholic wine after this podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell yes, maybe during Lisa, why don't you get on that. Mom,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm being serious, I get off your ass. I'm just kidding,

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<v Speaker 1>but really, Okay, So before we get this pop in,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to remind everybody that my soon to be empire,

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<v Speaker 1>Give Them Lala is going on tour. That's what's up.

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<v Speaker 1>Give them Lalla. The brand new tour. Tickets are available now.

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<v Speaker 1>Just slide onto my Instagram page, click the link, or

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<v Speaker 1>your tickets. We are kicking off the tour in Irvine, California.

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<v Speaker 1>We're then going to Fort Lauderdale, Clearwater, Orlando, Atlanta. I

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<v Speaker 1>call it Hotlanta. Yes, yes, baby, Nashville, New Orleans, Houston, Austin,

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<v Speaker 1>and we will wrap it up in Dallas, Texas. And

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait, Like, let me know what you would

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<v Speaker 1>like to see, because this is a night where like

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<v Speaker 1>we're vibing, this is like a hangout, so it's about y'all. Really,

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<v Speaker 1>I agree that where we go. I agree. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>see that some people think you agree with me too much?

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<v Speaker 2>You guys, lala, let me just tell you something. You

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<v Speaker 2>are the most inspirational woman.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I was joking there, but I actually do think

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<v Speaker 2>you are.

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<v Speaker 3>Here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>What type of person is Like, I'm going to get

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<v Speaker 1>me an assistant who disagrees with me all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not on the same page, and she most of

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<v Speaker 1>the time thinks I'm a piece of shit.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I know, I know, and you know it's

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<v Speaker 2>funny too. I'm I'm a words of affirmation person, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's very important to all my words of affirmation people

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<v Speaker 2>out there. Your love language, if that's how you show

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<v Speaker 2>it is to be genuine with it and your words

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<v Speaker 2>are real, because if you're words of affirmation person and

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<v Speaker 2>you just say things that are false, then you're just

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<v Speaker 2>a liar, So I never do that, and the things

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<v Speaker 2>I say to you are genuine and real. But I

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<v Speaker 2>do understand, I mean, just because of what some family

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<v Speaker 2>and friends of said to me that it can get

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<v Speaker 2>a little obnoxious and annoying. And I hear you people,

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<v Speaker 2>and I might tone it down.

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<v Speaker 1>Just a little in all fairness. You started co hosting

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast with me in the I want to say

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<v Speaker 1>it should have been the darkest time of my life, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I actually think it was like a very bright time

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<v Speaker 1>in my life. But you started co hosting with me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I needed to hear what you were saying, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like when someone's down in the dumps, not the time

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<v Speaker 1>to be disagreeing with me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah you know, yeah, of course put.

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<v Speaker 1>On your kiss ass hat and start to smooch it.

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<v Speaker 2>And I saw it, I need it, and like, to

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<v Speaker 2>my credit to now kiss my own ass. I saw

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<v Speaker 2>Lalla go through a lot and the things I were

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<v Speaker 2>saying all very true. But I do understand when I,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you take a step back. The listeners did

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<v Speaker 2>not see a lot of that. The listeners did not

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<v Speaker 2>know a lot of what was going on. So I

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<v Speaker 2>was saying things and complimenting you and I think, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>they still don't know a lot that's going on, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's that's for reasons of you know, your choice. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think I was compl amending you and saying a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of things that I felt and I believed, where

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<v Speaker 2>maybe some people would think, what is going on? Why

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<v Speaker 2>she like praising her twenty four to seven whatever? But anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>I still let me. Let me, let me set this straight.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't disagree with anything I said. Everything I said

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<v Speaker 2>it was genuine, but I do I can take a

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<v Speaker 2>step back and say and see how it could be

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<v Speaker 2>a little obnoxious and I'm gonna tone it down.

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<v Speaker 1>But I but I love you, Lala, I love you too,

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<v Speaker 1>jess And Jessica does disagree with me. The only difference

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<v Speaker 1>is her disagreement is not vocal, like I'll present something

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<v Speaker 1>that I think, like if if the listener is gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be in the room when you disagree, it's the facial

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<v Speaker 1>expression where I'm like, just thinks this is stupid.

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<v Speaker 2>Or I've been like I like to disagree in a

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<v Speaker 2>way where I present another solution.

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<v Speaker 1>So there it is, yes, And that's why that was

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<v Speaker 1>another reason why I hired you, oh during your interview,

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<v Speaker 1>because you talked about solutions, solutions.

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<v Speaker 2>If I hear you say something, if Lala says something

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<v Speaker 2>to me and I don't agree, I'm not like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>that's dumb. And to feedback, I'm gonna say, Okay, I

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<v Speaker 2>hear you, but what about And I just think that's

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<v Speaker 2>the most constructive you guys, That's just how I live

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<v Speaker 2>my life. I do it with my boyfriend, I do

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<v Speaker 2>with my parents, my family, and that's just how I live.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm thirty and I feel good living that way.

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<v Speaker 1>You should. You're a good person, good to your core,

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<v Speaker 1>and I am honored to have you in my world.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get some voicemails to rolland.

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<v Speaker 5>Hi, La La. This is Bet me from a small

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<v Speaker 5>town in southern Illinois. My question for you today is

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<v Speaker 5>are you writing another book? I write your first one.

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<v Speaker 5>I write it in two days. I keep it next

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<v Speaker 5>to my nineteen.

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<v Speaker 6>Just in case I every evening with them.

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<v Speaker 5>I can go back to certain pages I have marked

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<v Speaker 5>down and after everything you're currently going through, saying a

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<v Speaker 5>strong mama and being the beautiful person that you are

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<v Speaker 5>in the inspiration you are to everybody, if you would

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<v Speaker 5>be writing another book sometimes soon and kind of your journey,

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<v Speaker 5>your new journey of life. So I love you and

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<v Speaker 5>thank you for just giving everybody inspiration and being you know,

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<v Speaker 5>the best mom to ocean.

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<v Speaker 7>It's so inspiring.

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<v Speaker 5>You're so strong, and just know it does not go

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<v Speaker 5>on notice.

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<v Speaker 4>So love you, Bye, Bethany.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to hug you. That was so sweet. And

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<v Speaker 1>I love when people say that they read my book fast,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm like, I want to be like, because it's

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<v Speaker 1>that good. But obviously you're not reading Shakespeare pretty easy reading,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. But I love that people are enjoying it.

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<v Speaker 1>I love even more that me being honest about my

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<v Speaker 1>journey in life so far has been inspiring to people.

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<v Speaker 1>That was the whole goal of the book. I think

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<v Speaker 1>becoming a national bestseller was just like the cherry on top.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think it is very important that I write

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<v Speaker 1>another book. And spoiler alert, I've already started, so yes,

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<v Speaker 1>there will be another book coming. I feel I say

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<v Speaker 1>this all the time. I feel like I've lived a

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<v Speaker 1>hundred lifetimes since I wrote that book, and I became

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<v Speaker 1>a mother, and anyone who is a mom knows the

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<v Speaker 1>second you find out that you're pregnant and you feel

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<v Speaker 1>that first kick in just all of those monumental moments

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<v Speaker 1>during pregnancy to having them, you become a different human being,

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<v Speaker 1>and your goal in life and what you want to

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<v Speaker 1>see in the world changes. You know, you're much more woke,

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<v Speaker 1>is what the cool kids say. I'm woke.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, there are certain chapters in that book

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<v Speaker 1>that I want to expand deeper on them. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>this wasn't a book where I said, yeah, let's give

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<v Speaker 1>the people a thousand pages to read of give them Lalla. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it was what were these moments that were very defining

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<v Speaker 1>And now looking back, there were so many moments that

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<v Speaker 1>were inside of moments that I shared in the first book,

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<v Speaker 1>Give Them Lalla, that I think need to be spoken about.

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<v Speaker 1>I just there's something that's that's tugging on me to

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<v Speaker 1>share a little bit deeper. When something like what I've

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<v Speaker 1>been through happens and your blinders are taking off and

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<v Speaker 1>you're open to this brand new world and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the independence and just being a woman. You know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not the twenty six year old girl that I was

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<v Speaker 1>or twenty three twenty four when I was on Vanderbumbrules.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm a grown woman and you change, and like

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<v Speaker 1>I've said before. I reserve the right to change, and

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<v Speaker 1>I reserve the right to go back and say, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I said. Then there's more to it, and

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<v Speaker 1>the control is now gone, and I'm going to share

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<v Speaker 1>maybe the parts that weren't so great that I can

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<v Speaker 1>now share. Oh you know. Yeah, yeah, I'm excited for that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think people will enjoy it. So yes, Bethany, I

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<v Speaker 1>hope long winded answer, and I love you too, Bethany.

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<v Speaker 1>Do we have another one?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes? We do.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's rule it.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi, Lala, my name is Ellen. I'm from Michigan. I

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<v Speaker 4>just recently lost my dad two months ago to liver cancer.

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<v Speaker 4>He went to the hospital and then wellin two weeks,

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<v Speaker 4>I knew that he was going to pass away, which

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<v Speaker 4>was a shock to me. I've been thinking about how

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<v Speaker 4>strong you are with losing your dad, and I just

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<v Speaker 4>want some tips and advice to help me day by day.

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<v Speaker 4>I know that I will never get over it, but

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<v Speaker 4>I just want to get a little bit stronger. You stay,

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<v Speaker 4>so I know that you could give me some great

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<v Speaker 4>advice and that would be really awesome. I'm a huge fan.

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<v Speaker 4>So much love to you in ocean. Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Ellen. First of all, I am so beyond sorry for

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<v Speaker 1>your loss. It is heartbreaking. I'm sitting here. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's been four years since my dad passed away, and

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<v Speaker 1>it does not get easier. Like time. They say time

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<v Speaker 1>heals all wounds. I think it allows us to cope

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit better each day, but there moments still

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<v Speaker 1>that I'll sit in my bed and just completely break down, sobbing,

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<v Speaker 1>and it feels like he passed away yesterday. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's very important when you suffer a traumatic loss

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<v Speaker 1>like that to surround yourself with people who allow you

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<v Speaker 1>to go through the emotional rollercoaster. Because you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>feel angry, you're going to feel enraged, you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>feel so sad that you can't get off the floor,

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<v Speaker 1>and you need to allow yourself those moments and be

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<v Speaker 1>around people who allow you to have those moments. Because

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<v Speaker 1>to try and sit here and say I'm gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>strong through this, no, you just need to be a

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<v Speaker 1>person who's suffering a loss right now. You don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to be strong. That's gonna come with time, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and Ellen, your dad will make sure of that. There

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<v Speaker 1>were days and I turned to alcohol. That's when my

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<v Speaker 1>addiction was like heavy heavy duty. After I lost my dad,

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<v Speaker 1>it was bottle of champagne next to my bed, going

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<v Speaker 1>to bed with it and waking up to it. Like

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I was relying on. And if I could

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<v Speaker 1>give anyone advice, it would be to steer clear of

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<v Speaker 1>any substance like alcohol during a time of grieving, because

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<v Speaker 1>it prolongs all of the process that is absolutely necessary

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<v Speaker 1>for you to go through in order to be that

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<v Speaker 1>strong person. It just it doesn't allow you to be

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<v Speaker 1>in your right frame of mind to go through all

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<v Speaker 1>of the emotions. It doesn't. It masks it. Then you

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<v Speaker 1>wake up like I did six months later, and you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>how does it feel like I've made no emotional progress

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<v Speaker 1>because I didn't allow myself to. I was too busy

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<v Speaker 1>diving into the bottle every chance I got. But try

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<v Speaker 1>to remain in your right frame of mind, because every

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<v Speaker 1>single day you're going to go through the waves of

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<v Speaker 1>it all. But there will be a day where you're like, Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>my coping mechanism is on point. It's just how we're built,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. I think I don't know what your higher

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<v Speaker 1>power is, Ellen, I don't know what a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>our listener's higher power is mine happens to be God,

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<v Speaker 1>so we'll stick with that for now. I think God

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<v Speaker 1>put it in us to deal with the loss of

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<v Speaker 1>a parent because it's the circle of life. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think he put it in us to deal with the

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<v Speaker 1>loss of a child. I think that is something where

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<v Speaker 1>it's you're throwing me off, this is going against the

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<v Speaker 1>circle of life. But just know like you have it

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<v Speaker 1>in you to cope with this, you know. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that that was that that was of some

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<v Speaker 1>sort of help to you. And you're going to see

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<v Speaker 1>little things that remind you of him and not even

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<v Speaker 1>remind you, but it's like, oh my gosh, my dad

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<v Speaker 1>is like here with me right now. You're gonna feel him.

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<v Speaker 1>When I lost my dad, it was so strange what happened,

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<v Speaker 1>what started happening to me. You know, it was like

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<v Speaker 1>I got sober, I'm blessed with this beautiful baby. These

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<v Speaker 1>little things where I'm like, my dad is doing some

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<v Speaker 1>mad work up there. Yeah, you know, like he's getting

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<v Speaker 1>no rest, just completely slaying the game on my behalf.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, for real, No things even happen now where

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I'll just say just from habit, like someone

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<v Speaker 2>up there is watching you and you're like, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's my.

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<v Speaker 1>Dad, my dad obviously, Yeah, you know, my dad is

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<v Speaker 1>doing mad work. He's got a lot of shit on

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<v Speaker 1>his back right now. Yeah, but he's a champion, just

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<v Speaker 1>like Ellen's dad. So I hope that brought you a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit of peace and comfort, and I love you

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<v Speaker 1>so so much.

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<v Speaker 8>Hey, La La, I was just calling to see if

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<v Speaker 8>on that one podcast when you had the psychic on,

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<v Speaker 8>he definitely seemed to know what was going on in

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<v Speaker 8>your life and repeatedly kept asking or telling you rather

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<v Speaker 8>that you would be okay on your own and that

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<v Speaker 8>you are strong. Do you now believe that he knew

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<v Speaker 8>what was going on with he who shall not be

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<v Speaker 8>named and yourself, and that he was trying to really

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<v Speaker 8>signal to you that you would be fine. Thanks. You

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<v Speaker 8>can't wait to hear your answer.

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<v Speaker 1>Who you know? I go back to that podcast often

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<v Speaker 1>because he absolutely knew. I mean, Chris Medina is beyond gifted,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. I think there are some people out there

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<v Speaker 1>that they say that they're, you know, these gifted individuals.

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<v Speaker 1>I believe that there truly are people out there that

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<v Speaker 1>are gifted like Chris Medina, and I was beyond honored

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<v Speaker 1>to have him come and beyond the podcast, and what

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<v Speaker 1>happened after that podcast is something people don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>thought Chris Medina was definitely holding back on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>When the podcast was over, Chris gave me a hug.

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<v Speaker 1>He whispered in my ear to have a private session

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<v Speaker 1>with you. Immediately, obviously talk to Jess. Let's do it yesterday.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So we did a private session and what he said

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<v Speaker 1>was profound, and everything he said that was going to

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<v Speaker 1>happen actually happened. So he didn't get into details, but

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<v Speaker 1>he told me to watch out for certain times like dates,

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<v Speaker 1>and everything he told me to look for actually happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I thought that maybe like me and he who

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<v Speaker 1>we shall not name, would just kind of part ways

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<v Speaker 1>call it a day.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>At that point in time, I just felt like this

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<v Speaker 1>ain't gonna work. I wanted to do everything to try

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<v Speaker 1>and make it work because I had ocean, but I

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<v Speaker 1>definitely didn't think an actual life changing event would happen

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<v Speaker 1>where there was no other choice but to get out.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So, yes, I think back on that Chris Medina session

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. I think back on the podcast, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think about our solo zoom that we did where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, holy shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, do you think you'd eventually like to have him

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<v Speaker 2>on again?

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to have him on again because, like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, I think he's gifted and I think he

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<v Speaker 1>offers me comfort. I like knowing that I'm on the

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<v Speaker 1>right path. Like I don't want to know. I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to know I'm on the right path, right, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to make sure that the moves that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>making in life to further my career or being a

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<v Speaker 1>good mama, that I'm doing everything correctly. Now, obviously things

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<v Speaker 1>come up, but I feel like he knows, like what

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<v Speaker 1>your fate is, yeah, you know, he knows the outcome.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's when I say trust in the universe. That's

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<v Speaker 1>how I feel when I talk to Chris Medina. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like I trust in him, Yeah, because I just think

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<v Speaker 1>he's one of those souls that is extremely gifted in

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<v Speaker 1>a universe that we can't even comprehend.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree, all right, Last, but not least.

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<v Speaker 9>Hey, l La, this is Aaron from Alberta, Canada.

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<v Speaker 7>I just got two palettes from Give them All a Beauty,

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<v Speaker 7>the Baby Palette and the Pretty Palette and your mass

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<v Speaker 7>Scara in the mail yesterday and I.

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<v Speaker 9>Am so impressed with the product. Oh my god, the mascara.

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<v Speaker 9>I just spent like eighty five dollars on a mascara

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<v Speaker 9>at Sephora from Alidglass. I think, and your mascara, I

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<v Speaker 9>am not just making this up or exaggerating works better.

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<v Speaker 9>I love it. And I'm a clout owner of.

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<v Speaker 6>Many gifferent Lala products across all your companies. So my

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<v Speaker 6>question today is what would be like three dudes and

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<v Speaker 6>three don'ts that you would give to any woman who's

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<v Speaker 6>looking to start thrown company or business or a little

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<v Speaker 6>side project online or anything like that. What's your best

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<v Speaker 6>advice to women.

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<v Speaker 7>Looking to get into business with something they love.

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<v Speaker 9>Sending love to you an.

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<v Speaker 7>Ocean and hot happy holiday season, and.

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<v Speaker 9>I wish you an absolutely blessed new year.

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<v Speaker 4>Love you Laala.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks ooh Aaron. First of all, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for supporting the give them Lalla brand. I'm so happy

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<v Speaker 1>that you enjoy my products. I try my best to

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<v Speaker 1>create things that I love that other people are going

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<v Speaker 1>to love just as much, and also respecting how hard

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<v Speaker 1>people work, so I'm not trying to put something out

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<v Speaker 1>that's eighty four dollars in a last scare. Then I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to take off at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>like are you out of your mind? Like we work

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<v Speaker 1>hard and I'm trying to have a good product.

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<v Speaker 2>With a healthy cost, right, healthy cost, healthy cost. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I love a healthy cost.

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<v Speaker 1>Love a healthy cost, which is like forty two bucks

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<v Speaker 1>for a pallet that's going to last you forever. Nine

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<v Speaker 1>shades just saying you can shop my brand and give

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<v Speaker 1>them la la dot com. But I think that my

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<v Speaker 1>three dues and three don'ts. I definitely don't think anyone

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<v Speaker 1>should ever over extend themselves financially. Be smart with that.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're thinking of creating your brand, even just a

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<v Speaker 1>side hustle, come up with figures that make sense that

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<v Speaker 1>let's just say your your company doesn't do what you

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<v Speaker 1>thought it was going to do. That you don't sit

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<v Speaker 1>there and go, oh my gosh, I dumped my life's

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<v Speaker 1>savings into this thinking that it was going to work.

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<v Speaker 1>I also think that your brand should feed itself. Come

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<v Speaker 1>up with your initial investment. I think the business should

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<v Speaker 1>should pay for itself, you know, to sit here and

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<v Speaker 1>keep dumping your own money to try and get it

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<v Speaker 1>off the ground. I think taking a pause and saying,

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<v Speaker 1>what are we doing that is making us not be

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<v Speaker 1>able to number one recoup our investment and number two

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<v Speaker 1>make a profit. Is it something that just isn't working.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe the market's oversaturated. Maybe you need to come up

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<v Speaker 1>with something that is a little bit more original, which

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<v Speaker 1>is very hard these days. I mean there's a million

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<v Speaker 1>and one beauty brands. What is going to make your special?

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<v Speaker 1>So don't overextend yourself financially. The second, let your business

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<v Speaker 1>feed itself. And three, sit down and really think about

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<v Speaker 1>what is going to separate your business from everyone else's.

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<v Speaker 1>Do the research, Does the product already exist? If it does,

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<v Speaker 1>what makes yours special? So those are kind of three

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<v Speaker 1>do's and don'ts, But those would be my top Those

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<v Speaker 1>are great. Yeah Lisa agrees, so well, if Lisa agrees,

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<v Speaker 1>then we're good. I love those voicemails. Remember please call

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<v Speaker 1>me to leave all of your comments and questions at

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<v Speaker 1>one Eat sixty six. La La Pod my guest coming up,

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<v Speaker 1>is not only stunning, she is inspiring. She's a business

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<v Speaker 1>woman and I cannot wait to deep dive into her

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<v Speaker 1>life and who she is and how she came to

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<v Speaker 1>be this incredible woman, mother, wife, just everything under the sun.

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<v Speaker 1>So when we come back, we have Telly Swift. We

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<v Speaker 1>are back, and I am so excited because we have

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<v Speaker 1>Telly Swift and I'm a fan of yours. Hi, Telly, Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>how are you? We're good? Thank you for joining us

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<v Speaker 1>on today's podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>It's my pleasure.

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<v Speaker 1>You're amazing. So I first have to ask you, where

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<v Speaker 1>did you get the nickname Kelly, because obviously my name

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<v Speaker 1>is not really La La, and people are always like,

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<v Speaker 1>what is this nickname that you've created for yourself? How

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<v Speaker 1>did you get this nickname Kelly?

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<v Speaker 10>So it was back, I guess in like the seventh grade.

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<v Speaker 10>I went to school in Japan. I went to high

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<v Speaker 10>school and middle school in Japan, so I guess playing basketball.

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<v Speaker 3>It just it's stuck.

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<v Speaker 10>They called me Telly, and it just it's stuck with

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<v Speaker 10>me since seventh or eighth grade, I want to say.

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<v Speaker 10>So it's been Telly every ever since. And the only

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<v Speaker 10>people that really call me by my.

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<v Speaker 3>Government name, which is Chintel, is like my man, my dad,

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<v Speaker 3>my brother, and my mom, and that's it. Everyone else

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<v Speaker 3>calls me Telly.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean my mom, I always know people call me

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<v Speaker 1>Lauren instead of Lauren. So my mama is the only

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<v Speaker 1>one that calls me by my government name as well,

0:28:40.840 --> 0:28:42.680
<v Speaker 1>and everyone gets so confused, They're like, who is this

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<v Speaker 1>Lauren that you're talking about? So love the nickname, love

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<v Speaker 1>the backstory you. Why did you move to Japan? I

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<v Speaker 1>know you're from the Philippines.

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<v Speaker 10>Yes, I was born in the Philippines. My father was military,

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<v Speaker 10>so we moved like every three years, and then my

0:28:58.520 --> 0:29:01.959
<v Speaker 10>ex husband was stationed in Japan too, so I was

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<v Speaker 10>there a little bit longer than I probably should have been.

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<v Speaker 3>But I love Japan. It's a beautiful country.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that story. My mother lived in Japan as

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<v Speaker 1>well because her father was in the army, and she

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely loved it as well. So you you were married

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<v Speaker 1>once before. And by the way, you and your man

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<v Speaker 1>are so cute, and I love how right or die

0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:25.120
<v Speaker 1>you are for each other.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you. Yeah, that's my baby. He is he's amazing,

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<v Speaker 3>he's well.

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<v Speaker 10>In total, we have eight kids, so wow, there's yeah,

0:29:34.880 --> 0:29:38.680
<v Speaker 10>we have a household of children. So now that I'm

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<v Speaker 10>in my room in like my alone time space, I'm like, yes,

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<v Speaker 10>alone time.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. So you're married. For those who live

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<v Speaker 1>under a rock and don't know who you are, which

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<v Speaker 1>I know most of my listeners do know who you are.

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<v Speaker 1>You are married to Deontay Wilder and how did you

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<v Speaker 1>two come to be? And this power couple.

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<v Speaker 10>So we actually met at Lax Airport, so crazy I

0:30:05.520 --> 0:30:08.920
<v Speaker 10>was coming from. I had like an infection in my

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<v Speaker 10>leg and so I was in the hospital for like

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<v Speaker 10>two weeks on like rotating antibiotics and medicine. And the

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<v Speaker 10>reason why I say that backstory is because when we

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<v Speaker 10>met at the airport, I saw one of my girlfriends

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<v Speaker 10>and I was like, hey girl, I'm alive, you know,

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<v Speaker 10>and I just completely stopped talking to him, so like

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<v Speaker 10>I was thinking he was gonna wait, and he left,

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<v Speaker 10>So I was like, wait, where did he go? We

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<v Speaker 10>were having such a good conversation and leave it to Instagram,

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<v Speaker 10>you know, on the Explorer page. One of his his managers'

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<v Speaker 10>sons I knew, and I guess that's how he came

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<v Speaker 10>on my Explorer page. And then we were dming each

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<v Speaker 10>other and then coming to find out he's from Alabama

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<v Speaker 10>and my dad's from Alabama. So that's kind of how

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<v Speaker 10>I ended up going to Alabama earlier because I had

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<v Speaker 10>a family reunion and the rest was history. And we've

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<v Speaker 10>been together there going on seven years now.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, seven years, that is a very long time. And

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<v Speaker 1>I have to say, Okay, so you met each other

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<v Speaker 1>at LAX did so you slid in his DM?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes? So what happened was he was on my Explore

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<v Speaker 3>page and I was like, wait, that's the guy from Alabama.

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<v Speaker 3>And the conversation that we had at the airport was

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<v Speaker 3>so short, and I kind of felt bad that I

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<v Speaker 3>like just left and was talking to my friend. And

0:31:25.680 --> 0:31:28.200
<v Speaker 3>he always tells people I was so rude, but I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, but you didn't know that.

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<v Speaker 10>I was like coming from the hospital, you know. I

0:31:32.120 --> 0:31:33.680
<v Speaker 10>was just in the airport and he didn't know who

0:31:33.760 --> 0:31:36.080
<v Speaker 10>I was, and I didn't know who he was. So

0:31:36.120 --> 0:31:38.320
<v Speaker 10>our encounter was so quick, and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 10>we were having such a good conversation about like Alabama

0:31:41.200 --> 0:31:45.040
<v Speaker 10>and my father being from Alabama, and I just completely left.

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<v Speaker 10>But I was so excited to see my friend and

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<v Speaker 10>so excited to still have my leg I was like, girl,

0:31:49.720 --> 0:31:51.680
<v Speaker 10>I'm alive. I'm here kicking now.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably that made I'm sure you more intriguing to him

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<v Speaker 1>because he's an athlete, and I'm sure you know, girls

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<v Speaker 1>sit there and would blow off their their girlfriend to

0:32:05.640 --> 0:32:07.880
<v Speaker 1>talk to this dude. And he was probably like, this

0:32:07.920 --> 0:32:10.800
<v Speaker 1>girl didn't give me the time of day. There's intrigue there.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 10>I wouldn't know if I called it intrigue. He probably

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<v Speaker 10>was like, she's a bitch.

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<v Speaker 3>Can I curse?

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<v Speaker 10>He's probably like, she's a bitch. She just left, you know,

0:32:21.480 --> 0:32:23.760
<v Speaker 10>And I was like, I didn't. Every time we have

0:32:23.840 --> 0:32:26.600
<v Speaker 10>this conversation, I'm like, I did not mean to just leave.

0:32:26.680 --> 0:32:29.360
<v Speaker 10>I was just so excited to like see my girl

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<v Speaker 10>and still have my leg and not have one leg right, like, girl,

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<v Speaker 10>I am kicking with two leggs.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm good, you know.

0:32:37.040 --> 0:32:40.080
<v Speaker 10>And he was gone, so I'm like, okay, I get it.

0:32:40.160 --> 0:32:41.920
<v Speaker 10>He had to catch his flight. I had to catch

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<v Speaker 10>my flight too.

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<v Speaker 1>It was meant to be. You guys were meant to

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<v Speaker 1>be together. The fact that he popped up on an

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<v Speaker 1>Explore page where there's like millions upon millions.

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<v Speaker 3>Crazy, and the fact that his.

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<v Speaker 10>Manager's son I knew from La and it just it

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<v Speaker 10>was just like two and two together. It was crazy

0:32:59.720 --> 0:33:04.000
<v Speaker 10>and like we got matching tattoos. Day two of being together.

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<v Speaker 10>It was it's intense, Like our relationship was just so quick,

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<v Speaker 10>so fast, that I was like, Okay, you know when

0:33:11.160 --> 0:33:13.720
<v Speaker 10>you have quick relationships, you don't think they're gonna last

0:33:13.760 --> 0:33:15.560
<v Speaker 10>because they're so quick fast.

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<v Speaker 3>And here we are seven years later.

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<v Speaker 10>Eight kids in, so we're definitely on the move to

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<v Speaker 10>up and up.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all were written in the stars. I have to ask you.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm newly single right and sliding in the DM.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm new to you know, I don't know if I

0:33:34.160 --> 0:33:37.240
<v Speaker 1>have game anymore? Who knows? That's still up in the air.

0:33:38.480 --> 0:33:41.480
<v Speaker 1>What did you say to him? What was like the

0:33:41.640 --> 0:33:45.760
<v Speaker 1>game move? I mean, already you had an authentic encounter already,

0:33:45.840 --> 0:33:49.000
<v Speaker 1>so maybe that switched the way you would have slid

0:33:49.040 --> 0:33:51.000
<v Speaker 1>in the DM? But what did you say? Give me

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<v Speaker 1>some pointers?

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<v Speaker 3>Girl?

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<v Speaker 10>I actually was like, I'm I'm really funny, or I

0:33:55.880 --> 0:33:58.480
<v Speaker 10>think I am. I guess I try to be at least,

0:33:58.800 --> 0:34:01.959
<v Speaker 10>and I just said, hey, Bama. Like we never finished

0:34:01.960 --> 0:34:04.800
<v Speaker 10>our conversation because I didn't we never exchange names.

0:34:04.840 --> 0:34:06.840
<v Speaker 3>It was like, hey, where are you going? Where are

0:34:06.840 --> 0:34:07.280
<v Speaker 3>you from?

0:34:07.400 --> 0:34:11.520
<v Speaker 10>And then he was like I'm going to Alabama and

0:34:11.560 --> 0:34:13.640
<v Speaker 10>where are you going? And I was like, well, I'm

0:34:13.640 --> 0:34:15.640
<v Speaker 10>going back to Jersey at the time, I lived in Jersey,

0:34:15.680 --> 0:34:20.520
<v Speaker 10>so our conversation was so like short, and I like,

0:34:20.560 --> 0:34:22.760
<v Speaker 10>I said, I saw my girl. And when I slid

0:34:22.760 --> 0:34:24.799
<v Speaker 10>in his DMS, I was like, you know, his name

0:34:24.840 --> 0:34:28.400
<v Speaker 10>on Instagram was Bronze Bomber, So I was like, hey, Bama, like,

0:34:28.440 --> 0:34:28.759
<v Speaker 10>I know.

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<v Speaker 3>Your name is not Bronze Bomber.

0:34:30.400 --> 0:34:34.799
<v Speaker 10>So you know, like it was just a short, a

0:34:34.880 --> 0:34:37.560
<v Speaker 10>short conversation in person that I was like, I didn't

0:34:37.560 --> 0:34:40.400
<v Speaker 10>know how to approach him, you know, in the DMS

0:34:40.520 --> 0:34:43.279
<v Speaker 10>because it was just so short of.

0:34:43.160 --> 0:34:45.520
<v Speaker 3>Our conversation and he was just like, oh my gosh,

0:34:45.520 --> 0:34:46.759
<v Speaker 3>Like I was thinking about.

0:34:46.560 --> 0:34:49.480
<v Speaker 10>You on the plane and I sent my assistant to

0:34:49.520 --> 0:34:51.920
<v Speaker 10>go look for you, but you were gone. So like

0:34:51.960 --> 0:34:54.440
<v Speaker 10>the same feeling that I guess I had, he had

0:34:54.480 --> 0:34:57.360
<v Speaker 10>as well too. So it was I'm glad that it

0:34:57.560 --> 0:34:59.680
<v Speaker 10>ended up working out that way. And then two weeks

0:34:59.760 --> 0:35:03.279
<v Speaker 10>later I went to Alabama and I just came a

0:35:03.280 --> 0:35:07.640
<v Speaker 10>little bit earlier than my then our family reunion and

0:35:07.760 --> 0:35:08.920
<v Speaker 10>we just chilled.

0:35:08.600 --> 0:35:10.880
<v Speaker 1>Then and it was it was on and popping.

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<v Speaker 10>After that, Yeah, like maybe like three months or four

0:35:14.480 --> 0:35:17.000
<v Speaker 10>months after that, he had asked me to move to

0:35:17.040 --> 0:35:21.080
<v Speaker 10>Alabama from Jersey. And I waited until like at the time,

0:35:21.120 --> 0:35:24.399
<v Speaker 10>I was in a condo, I waited for that lease

0:35:24.520 --> 0:35:27.239
<v Speaker 10>to be done, and then I moved to Alabama. So

0:35:27.440 --> 0:35:29.680
<v Speaker 10>it was it was, like I said, our relationship was

0:35:29.760 --> 0:35:31.640
<v Speaker 10>so quick that I was like.

0:35:31.640 --> 0:35:35.000
<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, like is this true? Like can this

0:35:35.080 --> 0:35:36.040
<v Speaker 3>happen this fast?

0:35:36.080 --> 0:35:37.680
<v Speaker 10>And I was just like you know, in your head,

0:35:37.719 --> 0:35:41.280
<v Speaker 10>you're just you think that when a relationship goes fast,

0:35:41.360 --> 0:35:45.520
<v Speaker 10>like it's not gonna last because everything intense, intense, intense, intense.

0:35:45.680 --> 0:35:49.600
<v Speaker 10>Like I moved there maybe like I don't know, maybe

0:35:49.640 --> 0:35:54.160
<v Speaker 10>six months into our relationship, and yeah, because I was

0:35:54.600 --> 0:35:57.440
<v Speaker 10>I was nursing at the time, and I was.

0:35:57.520 --> 0:35:59.600
<v Speaker 1>So you had a young you had a young baby

0:35:59.640 --> 0:36:02.240
<v Speaker 1>then when you first met him, Yes.

0:36:02.239 --> 0:36:02.680
<v Speaker 3>I had.

0:36:02.800 --> 0:36:06.479
<v Speaker 10>He was I want to say, like seven or eight.

0:36:06.600 --> 0:36:10.880
<v Speaker 10>Now he's fifteen, so he was young. Yeah, he was

0:36:10.960 --> 0:36:15.120
<v Speaker 10>young at the time. And then he had kids as

0:36:15.160 --> 0:36:18.640
<v Speaker 10>well too when I met him. And then it wasn't

0:36:18.760 --> 0:36:22.240
<v Speaker 10>until I moved over there that like I started meeting

0:36:22.280 --> 0:36:24.920
<v Speaker 10>the kids and you know, realizing how many kids he

0:36:25.000 --> 0:36:27.160
<v Speaker 10>had because I only thought he had three kids, but

0:36:27.480 --> 0:36:31.680
<v Speaker 10>it ended up being much more than three. So yeah,

0:36:31.920 --> 0:36:35.080
<v Speaker 10>I mean, like it was it was definitely different moving

0:36:35.120 --> 0:36:38.280
<v Speaker 10>in with him than it was, like, you know, having

0:36:38.280 --> 0:36:41.040
<v Speaker 10>a long distance relationship. And the long distance to me

0:36:41.360 --> 0:36:45.600
<v Speaker 10>was was hard because I was working, like I said,

0:36:45.600 --> 0:36:48.560
<v Speaker 10>as a nurse, and I was doing twelve hour shifts

0:36:48.600 --> 0:36:51.160
<v Speaker 10>and then like I was working three or four days

0:36:51.160 --> 0:36:53.160
<v Speaker 10>a week twelve hour shifts, and then I would go

0:36:53.280 --> 0:36:56.279
<v Speaker 10>visit him for the weekend or whatever the case is.

0:36:56.280 --> 0:36:58.839
<v Speaker 10>So I was like with him and work and him

0:36:58.880 --> 0:37:00.560
<v Speaker 10>and work, and then I had a kid too, so

0:37:00.640 --> 0:37:03.640
<v Speaker 10>I was like exhausted. I was like, we got to

0:37:03.680 --> 0:37:07.279
<v Speaker 10>figure this out. Either you know, we can't see each

0:37:07.280 --> 0:37:09.319
<v Speaker 10>other so much, or we see each other once a

0:37:09.360 --> 0:37:12.319
<v Speaker 10>month instead of every other weekend, or whatever the key is.

0:37:12.360 --> 0:37:14.160
<v Speaker 3>But we got to figure it out. And he's like, well,

0:37:14.160 --> 0:37:16.400
<v Speaker 3>why don't you just come here? And I was like wait,

0:37:16.800 --> 0:37:17.600
<v Speaker 3>what like.

0:37:19.200 --> 0:37:22.560
<v Speaker 10>For that, and he's like no, you're good, Like we're

0:37:22.640 --> 0:37:25.520
<v Speaker 10>in mind you this is date, like I said, day two.

0:37:26.000 --> 0:37:27.919
<v Speaker 10>He was like, you're gonna be my wife. I'm gonna

0:37:27.960 --> 0:37:29.239
<v Speaker 10>be with you for the rest of my life. I'm

0:37:29.320 --> 0:37:32.080
<v Speaker 10>like okay, no, like how you know, and he's like

0:37:32.120 --> 0:37:34.680
<v Speaker 10>we're getting matching tattoos and I was like okay, and

0:37:34.719 --> 0:37:37.040
<v Speaker 10>he went first, so I was like, Okay, now I

0:37:37.120 --> 0:37:38.960
<v Speaker 10>have to go because like, no, you had to do it.

0:37:39.000 --> 0:37:41.319
<v Speaker 10>After that, I was like, I have to go now.

0:37:41.440 --> 0:37:44.200
<v Speaker 10>So we have matching tattoos that says love when we

0:37:44.280 --> 0:37:47.040
<v Speaker 10>hold hands. So I have the O OE and he

0:37:47.120 --> 0:37:47.759
<v Speaker 10>has the LV.

0:37:48.280 --> 0:37:53.160
<v Speaker 1>That is beyond amazing and adorable. And I'm anytime I

0:37:53.239 --> 0:37:56.680
<v Speaker 1>hear about couples that just have such a romantic, organic

0:37:56.760 --> 0:38:00.560
<v Speaker 1>love connection and you know, they they merge these families

0:38:00.560 --> 0:38:02.919
<v Speaker 1>together and they make it work. It's a beautiful thing.

0:38:03.120 --> 0:38:06.960
<v Speaker 1>And so you you were married before. How old were

0:38:07.000 --> 0:38:09.959
<v Speaker 1>you when you met Deontae?

0:38:10.080 --> 0:38:14.680
<v Speaker 10>I was, I'm thirty four now I turned thirty five

0:38:14.760 --> 0:38:16.560
<v Speaker 10>January twenty fourth.

0:38:16.600 --> 0:38:17.840
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, when is my birthday?

0:38:18.160 --> 0:38:25.160
<v Speaker 10>But I was I want to say twenty five twenty six.

0:38:25.480 --> 0:38:28.960
<v Speaker 1>So that's young. Yeah, that's young. And you were coming

0:38:29.160 --> 0:38:33.680
<v Speaker 1>you you had been married before. Were you ever afraid

0:38:34.400 --> 0:38:38.600
<v Speaker 1>of meeting someone new? I don't know if your previous

0:38:38.640 --> 0:38:42.040
<v Speaker 1>marriage was ugly, if you guys parted ways and it

0:38:42.120 --> 0:38:47.320
<v Speaker 1>was amicable, but were you afraid of getting into another relationship?

0:38:47.400 --> 0:38:49.680
<v Speaker 1>Like were you Did you have any battle wounds from

0:38:49.719 --> 0:38:51.520
<v Speaker 1>your previous marriage?

0:38:51.880 --> 0:38:52.120
<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

0:38:52.160 --> 0:38:56.719
<v Speaker 10>I think like all women, you know, we're strong, we're resilient.

0:38:57.400 --> 0:39:01.080
<v Speaker 10>And I feel like when it comes to moving on

0:39:01.560 --> 0:39:05.920
<v Speaker 10>and starting like a new relationship with someone else, I'm

0:39:05.920 --> 0:39:07.680
<v Speaker 10>gonna speak for women because I'm a woman.

0:39:08.120 --> 0:39:10.440
<v Speaker 3>I feel like it's like we don't let.

0:39:10.400 --> 0:39:13.680
<v Speaker 10>In so quickly, you know, hard for us to trust

0:39:13.680 --> 0:39:17.440
<v Speaker 10>coming from a relationship that didn't work or failed, and

0:39:18.239 --> 0:39:22.520
<v Speaker 10>you know, my relationship to my ex husband and did

0:39:23.400 --> 0:39:25.759
<v Speaker 10>in a sense where I feel like I was at

0:39:25.800 --> 0:39:29.400
<v Speaker 10>peace and okay with like us not being together anymore

0:39:29.400 --> 0:39:32.680
<v Speaker 10>because he was my high school sweetheart, So like I

0:39:32.760 --> 0:39:33.560
<v Speaker 10>was like at peace.

0:39:33.600 --> 0:39:36.080
<v Speaker 3>I was like, okay, you know it's time. We're ready.

0:39:36.120 --> 0:39:39.040
<v Speaker 10>We're both ready to like grow and you know, have

0:39:39.120 --> 0:39:43.800
<v Speaker 10>separate lives. And my son was two at the time,

0:39:44.800 --> 0:39:48.200
<v Speaker 10>and so like he really didn't know any better because

0:39:48.520 --> 0:39:54.280
<v Speaker 10>so young. So like it was to me that divorce

0:39:54.520 --> 0:39:57.480
<v Speaker 10>was more of like a clearing and like a peaceful moment.

0:39:58.000 --> 0:40:00.719
<v Speaker 10>And I didn't wait, Like I'm not I didn't wait.

0:40:01.000 --> 0:40:03.960
<v Speaker 10>I waited a long time before I like committed to

0:40:04.000 --> 0:40:06.799
<v Speaker 10>someone and introduced them to my son. And you know,

0:40:07.760 --> 0:40:10.520
<v Speaker 10>I waited a while, so it wasn't like I was

0:40:10.960 --> 0:40:14.399
<v Speaker 10>just in another relationship. As soon as I got out

0:40:14.400 --> 0:40:18.200
<v Speaker 10>of my marriage. It did take time for like me

0:40:18.360 --> 0:40:21.160
<v Speaker 10>to heal and like, you know, do I want to

0:40:21.160 --> 0:40:24.319
<v Speaker 10>do this relationship thing again now? Like dating, yes, like

0:40:24.360 --> 0:40:28.520
<v Speaker 10>I definitely dated, but like a serious, committed relationship. It

0:40:28.560 --> 0:40:31.600
<v Speaker 10>wasn't until I got with Deionte that I was like, Okay,

0:40:31.719 --> 0:40:35.319
<v Speaker 10>here's my son, you know, like, this is you know

0:40:35.400 --> 0:40:38.959
<v Speaker 10>who I come with. This is my you know, bonus.

0:40:39.000 --> 0:40:42.240
<v Speaker 10>And I have my brother as well too, So my brother.

0:40:42.640 --> 0:40:45.239
<v Speaker 10>I was like, all right, if I moved there, like,

0:40:45.320 --> 0:40:47.640
<v Speaker 10>I have my son and my brother, so I come

0:40:47.800 --> 0:40:48.880
<v Speaker 10>in a package deal.

0:40:48.760 --> 0:40:50.080
<v Speaker 1>The package deal totally.

0:40:50.320 --> 0:40:53.080
<v Speaker 10>So I was like, I'm not leaving my brother to

0:40:53.200 --> 0:40:55.800
<v Speaker 10>stay Jersey, so my brother's still with us.

0:40:56.480 --> 0:40:59.400
<v Speaker 1>That is really amazing because I feel, you know, I

0:40:59.719 --> 0:41:02.839
<v Speaker 1>come in the package deal now as well. I come

0:41:02.920 --> 0:41:06.920
<v Speaker 1>with some brothers, I come with my beautiful daughter. I

0:41:06.960 --> 0:41:10.319
<v Speaker 1>come with my mama. And if the person that I'm

0:41:10.320 --> 0:41:13.359
<v Speaker 1>with next can't accept that, then you can get to

0:41:13.400 --> 0:41:16.440
<v Speaker 1>move in because it's it's all of us or it's

0:41:16.640 --> 0:41:19.480
<v Speaker 1>none of us, right, And I've always wondered because I'm

0:41:19.760 --> 0:41:23.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm obviously very newly single. My daughter is only nine

0:41:23.320 --> 0:41:26.680
<v Speaker 1>months old. When do you know that it's the right

0:41:26.719 --> 0:41:30.160
<v Speaker 1>time to introduce your baby to someone like I feel

0:41:30.160 --> 0:41:33.800
<v Speaker 1>like she's such she's like a luxury to be around.

0:41:33.880 --> 0:41:35.560
<v Speaker 1>You know, you don't just get to meet her, even

0:41:35.600 --> 0:41:37.480
<v Speaker 1>though she's nine months, you won't remember who you are.

0:41:37.640 --> 0:41:40.400
<v Speaker 10>That's how I feel, too, Like you totally are like

0:41:40.480 --> 0:41:42.880
<v Speaker 10>my treasures. I'm a lioness when it comes to my

0:41:43.000 --> 0:41:45.399
<v Speaker 10>kids and if you don't get along with my kids.

0:41:45.400 --> 0:41:47.759
<v Speaker 3>And he's the same way too. Of course about the

0:41:47.840 --> 0:41:49.000
<v Speaker 3>kids how to swim.

0:41:48.800 --> 0:41:52.760
<v Speaker 10>During COVID, when COVID first started, and all the kids,

0:41:52.760 --> 0:41:55.080
<v Speaker 10>so all the kids down to the baby knows how

0:41:55.080 --> 0:41:58.720
<v Speaker 10>to swim. So it's it's just to me like kids,

0:41:58.760 --> 0:42:01.720
<v Speaker 10>Like you said, it's like a luxury, it's a bonus,

0:42:01.760 --> 0:42:05.920
<v Speaker 10>it's a treasure. And if I think there's like deal breakers,

0:42:06.000 --> 0:42:08.799
<v Speaker 10>right like I feel like if you can include me

0:42:08.880 --> 0:42:12.279
<v Speaker 10>and my family, deal breaker if you can if you

0:42:12.320 --> 0:42:15.879
<v Speaker 10>don't see your like my kid as your kid, or

0:42:15.960 --> 0:42:19.480
<v Speaker 10>like as you would treat them equally compared to your kids,

0:42:19.560 --> 0:42:20.560
<v Speaker 10>or if you don't have kids.

0:42:20.600 --> 0:42:23.200
<v Speaker 3>You know, that is a deal breaker to me too,

0:42:23.239 --> 0:42:23.680
<v Speaker 3>And he was.

0:42:23.960 --> 0:42:25.920
<v Speaker 10>That's kind of the reason why, or one of the

0:42:25.920 --> 0:42:29.440
<v Speaker 10>reasons why I fell in love with him is when

0:42:29.480 --> 0:42:32.400
<v Speaker 10>we came back from our family reunion. I ended up

0:42:32.440 --> 0:42:37.160
<v Speaker 10>coming back early, so there's no direct flights from where

0:42:37.200 --> 0:42:40.560
<v Speaker 10>my family is from Alabama, and it's closer to where

0:42:40.640 --> 0:42:44.560
<v Speaker 10>Deontay lived, So I ended up coming to Deonte's house

0:42:45.120 --> 0:42:48.080
<v Speaker 10>and I was like, Okay, the catch is I have my.

0:42:48.120 --> 0:42:51.319
<v Speaker 3>Brother and my son with me, you know. And this

0:42:51.360 --> 0:42:52.200
<v Speaker 3>is after like.

0:42:52.160 --> 0:42:55.400
<v Speaker 10>Meeting him for I don't know, maybe like a weekend

0:42:55.480 --> 0:42:55.920
<v Speaker 10>or something.

0:42:55.920 --> 0:42:58.480
<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, okay, well, I have X, Y and

0:42:58.640 --> 0:42:59.880
<v Speaker 3>Z here with me.

0:43:00.000 --> 0:43:01.839
<v Speaker 10>But I was already talking to him for like two

0:43:01.880 --> 0:43:03.960
<v Speaker 10>weeks on the phone, like you know that no you

0:43:04.000 --> 0:43:07.400
<v Speaker 10>hang up, you hang up type of situation. I was like, Okay,

0:43:07.440 --> 0:43:10.080
<v Speaker 10>he's cool enough to like, if he's cool enough to

0:43:10.120 --> 0:43:13.120
<v Speaker 10>have my brother and my son here, then you know

0:43:13.400 --> 0:43:16.360
<v Speaker 10>he's good in my book. So and this is like

0:43:16.520 --> 0:43:18.840
<v Speaker 10>literally just spending a weekend with him, which was a

0:43:18.880 --> 0:43:22.080
<v Speaker 10>great weekend, which we got matching tattoos. I'm like, all right,

0:43:22.840 --> 0:43:25.080
<v Speaker 10>you're with me, Like this is it? Like you know,

0:43:25.239 --> 0:43:28.680
<v Speaker 10>we have tattoos. Now you can't go anywhere. So I

0:43:28.719 --> 0:43:31.280
<v Speaker 10>brought him, I brought my He was like, yeah, no problem.

0:43:31.360 --> 0:43:33.160
<v Speaker 10>So I brought my son and my brother and my

0:43:33.320 --> 0:43:36.680
<v Speaker 10>son woke up in like literally the middle of the

0:43:36.800 --> 0:43:39.719
<v Speaker 10>night and he was like, mom, like looking for me

0:43:39.760 --> 0:43:41.560
<v Speaker 10>in the house and he was like, mom, where are you?

0:43:41.640 --> 0:43:45.520
<v Speaker 10>So he finally finds me and he was like he

0:43:45.560 --> 0:43:47.440
<v Speaker 10>could sleep in the bed with us. And I was

0:43:47.480 --> 0:43:50.400
<v Speaker 10>just like, oh, he's like you could sleep in I

0:43:50.440 --> 0:43:51.640
<v Speaker 10>was like, okay.

0:43:51.360 --> 0:43:53.200
<v Speaker 1>You win, you win the whole game.

0:43:53.560 --> 0:43:55.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was that was it. That was it for me.

0:43:56.160 --> 0:44:01.320
<v Speaker 10>But yeah, he's one like an exceptional, like amazing father.

0:44:01.560 --> 0:44:05.279
<v Speaker 10>So that's that's like my number one thing, Like you

0:44:05.360 --> 0:44:06.520
<v Speaker 10>have to love my kids.

0:44:06.560 --> 0:44:06.759
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:44:08.160 --> 0:44:12.200
<v Speaker 10>He's all about kids, and like he wants four more

0:44:12.280 --> 0:44:14.040
<v Speaker 10>kids and we already have eight. And I'm like, it's

0:44:14.040 --> 0:44:17.759
<v Speaker 10>not cheaper by the dozen, so't it's not coming up

0:44:17.760 --> 0:44:18.759
<v Speaker 10>with these numbers, sir.

0:44:19.840 --> 0:44:22.200
<v Speaker 1>I think that's really sweet though. You guys have two

0:44:22.280 --> 0:44:25.480
<v Speaker 1>kids together, No, we have one. You have one kid together.

0:44:26.040 --> 0:44:29.239
<v Speaker 3>Mine was before him and then his is before me

0:44:29.360 --> 0:44:29.960
<v Speaker 3>as well too.

0:44:30.120 --> 0:44:31.839
<v Speaker 1>And you're is it a boy?

0:44:32.000 --> 0:44:32.640
<v Speaker 3>We have a girl?

0:44:32.840 --> 0:44:34.759
<v Speaker 1>You have a little girl. And how old is she?

0:44:34.920 --> 0:44:35.440
<v Speaker 3>He's three?

0:44:35.600 --> 0:44:37.280
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, what a fun age.

0:44:37.600 --> 0:44:41.080
<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, so much fun and so much personality,

0:44:41.239 --> 0:44:44.520
<v Speaker 3>like oh yeah, oh my, she's in charge literally of

0:44:44.680 --> 0:44:46.759
<v Speaker 3>all the other kids, and she's like the baby and

0:44:46.800 --> 0:44:49.600
<v Speaker 3>she's like, no, guys, we're doing this. Everyone come over here.

0:44:50.080 --> 0:44:50.680
<v Speaker 1>I love it.

0:44:51.200 --> 0:44:53.560
<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, so much fun, so much fun.

0:44:53.719 --> 0:44:57.600
<v Speaker 1>So you you meet Deontaey and my my big thing

0:44:57.680 --> 0:45:00.759
<v Speaker 1>right now because of my breakup and just you know,

0:45:00.840 --> 0:45:04.240
<v Speaker 1>I got involved with my ex when I was twenty six,

0:45:04.280 --> 0:45:06.880
<v Speaker 1>which depending on where you where you're from, you know,

0:45:06.920 --> 0:45:09.960
<v Speaker 1>twenty six could be a grown ass woman. For me,

0:45:10.680 --> 0:45:13.720
<v Speaker 1>I was still trying to, you know, find my footing.

0:45:14.040 --> 0:45:17.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm thirty one now and just my eyes are open

0:45:17.160 --> 0:45:19.080
<v Speaker 1>to the world and what I want out of life.

0:45:20.440 --> 0:45:24.520
<v Speaker 1>You have built a lot for yourself. There are many

0:45:24.560 --> 0:45:29.080
<v Speaker 1>women that I find kind of fall into these relationships

0:45:29.120 --> 0:45:31.160
<v Speaker 1>and then at a certain point they look around and go,

0:45:31.680 --> 0:45:35.520
<v Speaker 1>I've been living my partner's dreams and none of my own.

0:45:35.719 --> 0:45:38.320
<v Speaker 10>Absolutely, you know what I feel like, a lot of women,

0:45:38.440 --> 0:45:40.600
<v Speaker 10>like you said, fall into that. And I did as

0:45:40.640 --> 0:45:43.560
<v Speaker 10>well too, you know, because I left where I was

0:45:43.600 --> 0:45:45.680
<v Speaker 10>from and came to where he was from, where I

0:45:45.760 --> 0:45:50.680
<v Speaker 10>knew nobody. My family in Alabama lives four hours away

0:45:50.680 --> 0:45:55.440
<v Speaker 10>from Deonte's house in Alabama at the time, so I

0:45:55.480 --> 0:45:58.399
<v Speaker 10>didn't know anyone where we lived. I didn't have any

0:45:58.440 --> 0:46:02.719
<v Speaker 10>friends and you know in Cali, he dressed differently than

0:46:02.760 --> 0:46:06.480
<v Speaker 10>they dress in Alabama. So it's just different, completely different.

0:46:06.719 --> 0:46:10.880
<v Speaker 10>You know, the accents different, the hospitality is different. So

0:46:10.920 --> 0:46:14.399
<v Speaker 10>it was just completely different for me and nursing out there.

0:46:14.560 --> 0:46:17.160
<v Speaker 10>The pay cut was like I don't know, like I

0:46:17.200 --> 0:46:19.600
<v Speaker 10>think it was like thirteen or fourteen dollars less an

0:46:19.640 --> 0:46:22.200
<v Speaker 10>hour than I was normally. I was like, there's no

0:46:22.320 --> 0:46:25.279
<v Speaker 10>way I'm going back into the medical field over here

0:46:25.320 --> 0:46:27.000
<v Speaker 10>because I'm not making any money and then I'm going

0:46:27.080 --> 0:46:29.440
<v Speaker 10>to be working twelve hour shifts and not feeling like

0:46:29.520 --> 0:46:32.040
<v Speaker 10>I'm getting paid what I deserve to get paid or

0:46:32.040 --> 0:46:35.520
<v Speaker 10>what I'm used to getting paid. So for years, it

0:46:35.600 --> 0:46:39.880
<v Speaker 10>wasn't until after I got pregnant with my daughter actually

0:46:40.400 --> 0:46:43.680
<v Speaker 10>that I like decided I wanted to focus back on

0:46:43.800 --> 0:46:47.640
<v Speaker 10>like my own path, you know, because that like he

0:46:47.880 --> 0:46:51.040
<v Speaker 10>was his career when I met him, his career was

0:46:51.120 --> 0:46:54.120
<v Speaker 10>like on the rise, you know, he he just became

0:46:54.120 --> 0:46:58.799
<v Speaker 10>a champion in his career was on the rise, like

0:46:59.160 --> 0:47:02.439
<v Speaker 10>you know, the entire your time that I've been with him.

0:47:02.560 --> 0:47:05.560
<v Speaker 10>So it wasn't until I got pregnant with my daughter

0:47:05.600 --> 0:47:07.760
<v Speaker 10>and I was like I can't just like sit here

0:47:07.880 --> 0:47:11.239
<v Speaker 10>and do nothing. So I got back into modeling. I

0:47:11.280 --> 0:47:13.160
<v Speaker 10>was modeling since I was three years old, and I

0:47:13.200 --> 0:47:15.880
<v Speaker 10>got back into modeling, and then I was like, you know,

0:47:16.200 --> 0:47:18.600
<v Speaker 10>if I'm not nursing anymore, I need to like open

0:47:18.680 --> 0:47:22.400
<v Speaker 10>up or start my own business. So I started making

0:47:22.480 --> 0:47:25.520
<v Speaker 10>jackets like custom vintage to one of one jackets. Then

0:47:25.560 --> 0:47:28.160
<v Speaker 10>I made masks at our name and Marcus. Then I

0:47:28.280 --> 0:47:30.520
<v Speaker 10>was like, okay, I want to give back now that

0:47:30.600 --> 0:47:33.400
<v Speaker 10>I'm in a position to be able to give back.

0:47:33.800 --> 0:47:38.200
<v Speaker 10>So I went to this academy for women for wags

0:47:38.239 --> 0:47:40.960
<v Speaker 10>and there was an association for the women of the

0:47:41.080 --> 0:47:44.359
<v Speaker 10>NFL and the of the NBA, and I was like, well,

0:47:44.400 --> 0:47:48.160
<v Speaker 10>where's one for boxing? So I created one for the

0:47:48.160 --> 0:47:51.400
<v Speaker 10>women of boxing. And then we've just done charity events,

0:47:51.480 --> 0:47:54.560
<v Speaker 10>you know, moving forward for whatever month is you know

0:47:54.880 --> 0:47:59.640
<v Speaker 10>is going on, whether it's breast cancer, autism, We've done

0:48:00.239 --> 0:48:05.600
<v Speaker 10>spina bifida because it's eldest daughter was born with spina bifida,

0:48:05.719 --> 0:48:08.239
<v Speaker 10>so for all his fights, I always do spin and biffida.

0:48:08.719 --> 0:48:12.120
<v Speaker 10>So it just like you know, continued on and for

0:48:12.160 --> 0:48:15.479
<v Speaker 10>four years I was talking about this fragrance, like making

0:48:15.480 --> 0:48:20.200
<v Speaker 10>a unisex fragrance and Deontae was like always pushing it back,

0:48:20.280 --> 0:48:22.879
<v Speaker 10>go well, wait till we have more kids, or wait

0:48:22.920 --> 0:48:25.520
<v Speaker 10>till after next fight. And I'm like, all right, sir,

0:48:25.600 --> 0:48:27.319
<v Speaker 10>it's been four years. What are we doing here?

0:48:27.640 --> 0:48:27.839
<v Speaker 3>Right?

0:48:28.280 --> 0:48:29.879
<v Speaker 10>He was like, okay, well, if you want to do it,

0:48:30.040 --> 0:48:32.520
<v Speaker 10>just go ahead and do it and just you know,

0:48:32.640 --> 0:48:33.600
<v Speaker 10>let me know when it's done.

0:48:33.640 --> 0:48:35.400
<v Speaker 3>So I was like, okay, So I did it.

0:48:35.440 --> 0:48:37.680
<v Speaker 10>And by the time, like I picked out the fonts,

0:48:37.719 --> 0:48:39.719
<v Speaker 10>I sent him the fonts and the name, and he

0:48:39.840 --> 0:48:41.520
<v Speaker 10>was just like, okay, what's this four And I was

0:48:41.560 --> 0:48:43.239
<v Speaker 10>like the fragrance. He's like, okay, when are we going

0:48:43.320 --> 0:48:45.759
<v Speaker 10>to like go test some smells out? And he was

0:48:45.800 --> 0:48:47.239
<v Speaker 10>I was like, it's done, you know.

0:48:47.320 --> 0:48:49.279
<v Speaker 1>And You're like you just told me to go take

0:48:49.280 --> 0:48:51.360
<v Speaker 1>the reins and do it and it's done already.

0:48:51.480 --> 0:48:51.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:48:51.680 --> 0:48:53.439
<v Speaker 10>But it took like it took a while. It took

0:48:53.480 --> 0:48:56.439
<v Speaker 10>like over a little bit over like almost a year

0:48:56.640 --> 0:49:00.120
<v Speaker 10>to produce. So he just like completely like thought, I

0:49:00.200 --> 0:49:02.640
<v Speaker 10>just stopped talking about it. And then when I brought

0:49:02.719 --> 0:49:05.600
<v Speaker 10>up the name, because the name is Dtelly. And when

0:49:05.640 --> 0:49:07.920
<v Speaker 10>I brought the name and I sent him the fonts,

0:49:07.920 --> 0:49:10.080
<v Speaker 10>I was like, which font do you like best? And

0:49:10.120 --> 0:49:12.200
<v Speaker 10>he like circled the one that he liked, which is

0:49:12.200 --> 0:49:15.319
<v Speaker 10>the same one that I liked, and he was like,

0:49:15.360 --> 0:49:17.200
<v Speaker 10>what's this for? And I was like the fragrance and

0:49:17.239 --> 0:49:19.680
<v Speaker 10>he was like ready to, like, you know, explore and

0:49:19.760 --> 0:49:20.760
<v Speaker 10>smell all the notes.

0:49:20.920 --> 0:49:22.520
<v Speaker 1>Did he love it though? Did he love it when

0:49:22.560 --> 0:49:23.480
<v Speaker 1>you presented the scent?

0:49:23.680 --> 0:49:24.719
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, he loves it.

0:49:24.800 --> 0:49:27.880
<v Speaker 10>He I put into because I knew, like, I know

0:49:27.920 --> 0:49:29.360
<v Speaker 10>what he likes it, I know what I like, So

0:49:29.400 --> 0:49:32.960
<v Speaker 10>I put into consideration both like what he wanted, what

0:49:33.040 --> 0:49:35.319
<v Speaker 10>I felt he would want in a fragrance, and what

0:49:35.400 --> 0:49:38.719
<v Speaker 10>I wanted in a fragrance. The bottle is've I gotta

0:49:38.760 --> 0:49:43.800
<v Speaker 10>send you one. The bottle is gold and red, and

0:49:44.200 --> 0:49:47.880
<v Speaker 10>his favorite color is like burgundy and gold. So I

0:49:48.000 --> 0:49:50.440
<v Speaker 10>was like, I put that into consideration. And then I

0:49:50.560 --> 0:49:52.880
<v Speaker 10>was like, I knew I wanted it to be unisex,

0:49:52.880 --> 0:49:54.719
<v Speaker 10>so I didn't want it to be too masculine or

0:49:54.760 --> 0:49:58.759
<v Speaker 10>too feminine. Right, smells completely different on a man than

0:49:58.800 --> 0:50:00.879
<v Speaker 10>on a woman. It smells more feminine on a woman.

0:50:01.000 --> 0:50:03.400
<v Speaker 10>And it took like forever to get down to the

0:50:03.520 --> 0:50:06.000
<v Speaker 10>scent that I was like, I like how that smells

0:50:06.040 --> 0:50:07.200
<v Speaker 10>on a man, and I like how it.

0:50:07.160 --> 0:50:10.799
<v Speaker 3>Smells on a woman. So it's it's I'm excited about it.

0:50:11.000 --> 0:50:14.440
<v Speaker 1>You are beyond inspiring because I think a lot of

0:50:14.800 --> 0:50:17.360
<v Speaker 1>a lot of women. Again, I'm very passionate about this

0:50:17.400 --> 0:50:20.959
<v Speaker 1>topic right now, and women having things that are their own,

0:50:21.640 --> 0:50:26.719
<v Speaker 1>and you know, having a job or a career or

0:50:26.840 --> 0:50:30.160
<v Speaker 1>something to give them funds for a rainy day. Your

0:50:30.239 --> 0:50:32.879
<v Speaker 1>rainy day may look very different from mine. You may

0:50:32.920 --> 0:50:34.920
<v Speaker 1>never have to use it. It could just be saved

0:50:35.000 --> 0:50:36.480
<v Speaker 1>money for one day you want to go buy a

0:50:36.520 --> 0:50:39.600
<v Speaker 1>Birken bag, you know, whatever it may be. But the

0:50:39.719 --> 0:50:43.319
<v Speaker 1>fact that you are in a relationship that you know

0:50:43.360 --> 0:50:45.759
<v Speaker 1>you were nursing before, so you've all you've always been

0:50:45.760 --> 0:50:48.719
<v Speaker 1>a hustler with a beautiful heart. It sounds like, and

0:50:49.560 --> 0:50:54.560
<v Speaker 1>you're also a mother, Like how do you balance? We

0:50:54.560 --> 0:50:57.160
<v Speaker 1>can all sit here and talk about you know, there's

0:50:57.239 --> 0:50:58.960
<v Speaker 1>not enough time in one day for you to be

0:50:59.080 --> 0:51:01.879
<v Speaker 1>a mom, go to the create a business, do all

0:51:01.920 --> 0:51:04.400
<v Speaker 1>of these things. How do you make it happen?

0:51:05.160 --> 0:51:07.720
<v Speaker 10>You know what I tell people all the time, like's

0:51:08.280 --> 0:51:11.200
<v Speaker 10>it takes a village. You know, I do have help.

0:51:11.600 --> 0:51:14.920
<v Speaker 10>I have a nanny that helps me with my daughter,

0:51:15.200 --> 0:51:18.920
<v Speaker 10>but I also have an amazing team of you know,

0:51:19.080 --> 0:51:24.520
<v Speaker 10>a manager and assistant publicist, like an amazing team that

0:51:24.600 --> 0:51:27.720
<v Speaker 10>helps me manage everything, because if it wasn't for them,

0:51:27.760 --> 0:51:29.759
<v Speaker 10>like my little notes in my phone, I'd be like,

0:51:29.800 --> 0:51:30.920
<v Speaker 10>oh my gosh, I forgot to do.

0:51:30.880 --> 0:51:31.799
<v Speaker 3>This, I forgot to do that.

0:51:32.480 --> 0:51:34.759
<v Speaker 10>So I have an amazing team of people that help me.

0:51:35.360 --> 0:51:38.200
<v Speaker 10>But outside of my team, when I'm by myself because

0:51:38.320 --> 0:51:43.400
<v Speaker 10>obviously you can't. You know, the job doesn't get done

0:51:43.760 --> 0:51:47.279
<v Speaker 10>unless you do it anyway, right, So I feel like

0:51:47.360 --> 0:51:49.960
<v Speaker 10>it's just just like Nike, you just do it, you know,

0:51:50.080 --> 0:51:52.640
<v Speaker 10>you just I mean, one day you have a kid,

0:51:52.680 --> 0:51:54.760
<v Speaker 10>and then you know you've never had a kid before,

0:51:54.880 --> 0:51:56.600
<v Speaker 10>you just learn how to be a mom, you know,

0:51:56.760 --> 0:52:00.279
<v Speaker 10>on the job. Feel like that's been my life. I've

0:52:00.320 --> 0:52:02.799
<v Speaker 10>always been like a fast learner and I've always been

0:52:02.880 --> 0:52:05.719
<v Speaker 10>a hustler and a go getter. So I had my

0:52:05.920 --> 0:52:09.120
<v Speaker 10>son at I was nineteen turning twenty when I had

0:52:09.160 --> 0:52:10.680
<v Speaker 10>my son, So I was still a baby and I

0:52:10.719 --> 0:52:14.279
<v Speaker 10>had a baby, and I just learned literally on the job,

0:52:14.360 --> 0:52:18.480
<v Speaker 10>you know, like breastfeeding was not really my cup of tea.

0:52:18.600 --> 0:52:21.440
<v Speaker 10>Like I felt like with like I don't know teeth,

0:52:21.480 --> 0:52:23.520
<v Speaker 10>I feel like because he was like biting my nipple

0:52:23.520 --> 0:52:25.720
<v Speaker 10>completely off. I was like, I can't do this similar,

0:52:27.000 --> 0:52:29.360
<v Speaker 10>you know, but no, like I said, you learn on

0:52:29.400 --> 0:52:32.200
<v Speaker 10>the job as far as like diapers and you know,

0:52:32.320 --> 0:52:35.080
<v Speaker 10>making sure the baby sleeps and like burping and all

0:52:35.080 --> 0:52:37.839
<v Speaker 10>that stuff. Like it was like a I was so

0:52:38.000 --> 0:52:42.439
<v Speaker 10>young and married and I was just like, all right,

0:52:43.320 --> 0:52:45.080
<v Speaker 10>I just have to learn to do this. And I

0:52:45.120 --> 0:52:47.920
<v Speaker 10>was the eldest of all my siblings. There's five of us.

0:52:48.280 --> 0:52:50.080
<v Speaker 10>I'm like, hold on, I said, five of us.

0:52:50.320 --> 0:52:51.760
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, right, count on the fingers.

0:52:52.120 --> 0:52:52.880
<v Speaker 3>I'm the eldest.

0:52:52.880 --> 0:52:55.680
<v Speaker 10>Then my brother he's twenty seven, and then I have

0:52:55.800 --> 0:52:58.920
<v Speaker 10>twin sisters that are eighteen, and then I have a

0:52:58.960 --> 0:53:02.399
<v Speaker 10>brother that six yeah.

0:53:02.480 --> 0:53:05.319
<v Speaker 3>Six. Wow, there's a lot of us.

0:53:05.400 --> 0:53:08.719
<v Speaker 10>So yeah, I'm the eldest, so I'm I had to

0:53:08.719 --> 0:53:11.920
<v Speaker 10>be the responsible one and you know, take care of others.

0:53:11.960 --> 0:53:14.720
<v Speaker 10>So for me, like having a kid was like watching

0:53:14.760 --> 0:53:18.200
<v Speaker 10>my siblings. But it's it's more of a like a

0:53:18.239 --> 0:53:22.040
<v Speaker 10>closer connection in bond, you know, you know as a

0:53:22.080 --> 0:53:25.200
<v Speaker 10>mother that you have when you have your child.

0:53:25.360 --> 0:53:26.000
<v Speaker 3>You know, it's like a.

0:53:27.600 --> 0:53:33.200
<v Speaker 10>Unconditional, innocent, pure love that it's so hard to explain

0:53:33.280 --> 0:53:37.000
<v Speaker 10>because you just it just happens, like literally, you know

0:53:37.120 --> 0:53:39.200
<v Speaker 10>as soon as you're pregnant and you feel like the

0:53:39.239 --> 0:53:40.000
<v Speaker 10>first kick and.

0:53:39.920 --> 0:53:41.960
<v Speaker 3>You're like, oh my gosh, I just love her or

0:53:42.040 --> 0:53:42.640
<v Speaker 3>him or.

0:53:42.719 --> 0:53:44.080
<v Speaker 1>You know, yes, I do know.

0:53:44.320 --> 0:53:48.359
<v Speaker 10>It's like undescribable. I can't even describe how it is

0:53:48.360 --> 0:53:50.479
<v Speaker 10>to have a kid. That's why I feel like kids

0:53:50.520 --> 0:53:55.200
<v Speaker 10>are blessings. And I'm good with the eighth that we have, though.

0:53:55.520 --> 0:53:58.440
<v Speaker 1>You're like, I'm good, I don't need four more, Deonta,

0:53:58.680 --> 0:54:03.120
<v Speaker 1>so we're rap it up. I one hundred percent. That's

0:54:03.160 --> 0:54:04.000
<v Speaker 1>a lot.

0:54:04.120 --> 0:54:05.240
<v Speaker 3>I mean a lot.

0:54:05.920 --> 0:54:08.279
<v Speaker 1>That's a lot like you guys. I mean I'm all

0:54:08.320 --> 0:54:11.480
<v Speaker 1>about like practicing to make the kid. That's always fun.

0:54:11.520 --> 0:54:15.080
<v Speaker 1>I encourage you and Deontay to continue doing that, but

0:54:15.320 --> 0:54:18.080
<v Speaker 1>we want to see everything else that you start coming

0:54:18.080 --> 0:54:20.120
<v Speaker 1>out with. So I want to take a quick break

0:54:20.120 --> 0:54:22.040
<v Speaker 1>and then I want to come back and talk to

0:54:22.080 --> 0:54:24.600
<v Speaker 1>you about a few more things. If that's okay, Absolutely,

0:54:24.880 --> 0:54:29.760
<v Speaker 1>we'll be right back with Telly Swift. We are back

0:54:30.280 --> 0:54:35.239
<v Speaker 1>with Telly Swift. So I definitely agree with you and

0:54:35.600 --> 0:54:38.040
<v Speaker 1>the kids being such a gift. And I feel like

0:54:38.080 --> 0:54:40.000
<v Speaker 1>if if you can be a mom, when you become

0:54:40.040 --> 0:54:44.680
<v Speaker 1>a mom, you become a superhero because they are the

0:54:44.800 --> 0:54:47.759
<v Speaker 1>whole reason for why you do what you do every

0:54:47.760 --> 0:54:51.920
<v Speaker 1>single day, every decision you make, every you know, business

0:54:52.000 --> 0:54:54.640
<v Speaker 1>venture that you go into. You know, I'm sure you

0:54:54.680 --> 0:54:56.880
<v Speaker 1>think about what you want to do, but ultimately it's like,

0:54:57.239 --> 0:55:00.520
<v Speaker 1>how do I set my kid up for years to come?

0:55:01.320 --> 0:55:05.320
<v Speaker 1>So I know that you were also on a reality

0:55:05.360 --> 0:55:10.120
<v Speaker 1>TV show? I do reality TV. It's very weird. It's

0:55:10.280 --> 0:55:13.120
<v Speaker 1>very strange. You sit there and you have to watch

0:55:13.160 --> 0:55:16.439
<v Speaker 1>things back and you're like, I remember that differently when

0:55:16.480 --> 0:55:19.600
<v Speaker 1>you did right you, I hold up, this looks a

0:55:19.640 --> 0:55:23.000
<v Speaker 1>little different from what I remember. Was there a reason

0:55:23.080 --> 0:55:25.320
<v Speaker 1>why you were like, yeah, this sounds fun, Like let's

0:55:25.360 --> 0:55:28.400
<v Speaker 1>do Wags Atlanta and you know, see what it's all about?

0:55:28.400 --> 0:55:31.040
<v Speaker 3>Like what was your experience like reality TV?

0:55:31.760 --> 0:55:33.439
<v Speaker 10>Like I said, I've been modeling since I was three

0:55:33.480 --> 0:55:38.040
<v Speaker 10>years old, and reality TV living in LA always came

0:55:38.320 --> 0:55:42.040
<v Speaker 10>to like my attention or always came on my table

0:55:42.120 --> 0:55:44.040
<v Speaker 10>of like, hey, do you want to do basketball?

0:55:44.080 --> 0:55:46.680
<v Speaker 3>Wise? Do you want to do love and hip hop?

0:55:46.719 --> 0:55:50.360
<v Speaker 10>I'm like, one, I'm not dating someone that was in basketball,

0:55:50.520 --> 0:55:52.640
<v Speaker 10>so basketball wives for me wouldn't have.

0:55:52.600 --> 0:55:54.240
<v Speaker 1>Work, right, that doesn't make sense.

0:55:54.440 --> 0:55:58.600
<v Speaker 10>I'm not like a performer. I don't do music. Or

0:55:58.680 --> 0:56:01.520
<v Speaker 10>I can't even dance, so I'm like, that doesn't work.

0:56:01.840 --> 0:56:04.680
<v Speaker 10>And then when Wags hit me up, I was already

0:56:04.680 --> 0:56:09.759
<v Speaker 10>with Deontae and I wanted more so outside of myself.

0:56:09.840 --> 0:56:13.120
<v Speaker 10>I wanted people to see him outside of his job,

0:56:13.160 --> 0:56:16.160
<v Speaker 10>which is a boxer, Like you know, people need to

0:56:16.239 --> 0:56:21.800
<v Speaker 10>see him outside of you know, being aggressive and beating

0:56:21.920 --> 0:56:24.040
<v Speaker 10>asked for a living. So I was just like, this

0:56:24.080 --> 0:56:27.360
<v Speaker 10>would be good for you and us as a couple,

0:56:27.880 --> 0:56:30.879
<v Speaker 10>you know, and so people could see like how much

0:56:30.920 --> 0:56:33.720
<v Speaker 10>of a father you are and what like you're funny

0:56:33.800 --> 0:56:36.919
<v Speaker 10>or goofy because people just see him like talking shit

0:56:37.000 --> 0:56:39.839
<v Speaker 10>and getting asked and I'm like, right, all of who

0:56:39.880 --> 0:56:43.640
<v Speaker 10>you are, you know. So I wanted people to see

0:56:43.719 --> 0:56:47.600
<v Speaker 10>like us as a couple, like our foundation, and him

0:56:47.800 --> 0:56:51.360
<v Speaker 10>more so like as an individual and not like a boxer.

0:56:51.520 --> 0:56:53.239
<v Speaker 1>Did you feel like you got that from the show?

0:56:53.480 --> 0:56:55.080
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know it's crazy.

0:56:55.120 --> 0:56:57.680
<v Speaker 10>He actually proposed to me on the show like that

0:56:57.800 --> 0:56:59.560
<v Speaker 10>was the finale of the show, and I ended up

0:56:59.560 --> 0:57:03.799
<v Speaker 10>getting press on the show. So like my whole storyline

0:57:03.800 --> 0:57:07.279
<v Speaker 10>from the beginning of like when the show aired initially,

0:57:07.320 --> 0:57:11.480
<v Speaker 10>like I had I wouldn't even call it beef, but

0:57:11.560 --> 0:57:15.080
<v Speaker 10>I had like I guess a misunderstanding with one of

0:57:15.120 --> 0:57:18.640
<v Speaker 10>the girls on the show, and that was completely gone.

0:57:18.720 --> 0:57:22.280
<v Speaker 10>That was completely gone, and my whole story was getting

0:57:22.320 --> 0:57:24.640
<v Speaker 10>the ring because I got pregnant before I wanted to

0:57:24.680 --> 0:57:27.600
<v Speaker 10>get pregnant, and that was the whole show. So it

0:57:27.680 --> 0:57:30.200
<v Speaker 10>was like completely when I got pregnant, and it was

0:57:30.240 --> 0:57:33.160
<v Speaker 10>crazy because he told them and I lost a baby

0:57:33.200 --> 0:57:35.080
<v Speaker 10>a year before that, Like, we lost the baby a

0:57:35.120 --> 0:57:35.680
<v Speaker 10>year before that.

0:57:35.800 --> 0:57:38.120
<v Speaker 1>So sorry, Taly, I'm so sorry.

0:57:38.480 --> 0:57:41.480
<v Speaker 10>Got a blessing in return, so I'm I'm happy with

0:57:41.520 --> 0:57:44.800
<v Speaker 10>my daughter now. But when we lost the baby, I

0:57:44.840 --> 0:57:47.360
<v Speaker 10>didn't want and I lost the baby like I want

0:57:47.360 --> 0:57:49.480
<v Speaker 10>to say, like three or four days before I found

0:57:49.480 --> 0:57:51.680
<v Speaker 10>out the sex, so it was like four I was

0:57:51.680 --> 0:57:54.600
<v Speaker 10>like almost I want to say, like a little over

0:57:54.680 --> 0:57:57.000
<v Speaker 10>four months or just getting to four months.

0:57:57.120 --> 0:58:00.960
<v Speaker 3>So I was already like showing visibly pregnant, and so

0:58:01.720 --> 0:58:03.160
<v Speaker 3>I didn't want to tell.

0:58:02.960 --> 0:58:05.520
<v Speaker 10>Like the producers, because you know, once you tell them something,

0:58:05.560 --> 0:58:07.200
<v Speaker 10>they're making a story out.

0:58:07.000 --> 0:58:07.680
<v Speaker 3>Of it, right.

0:58:07.720 --> 0:58:09.640
<v Speaker 10>I was like, I don't want to tell them yet,

0:58:09.720 --> 0:58:12.000
<v Speaker 10>because like what if something happens and then I have

0:58:12.120 --> 0:58:14.480
<v Speaker 10>to deal with all the people that's going to know that.

0:58:14.600 --> 0:58:17.600
<v Speaker 10>I was pregnant and then I lost another baby, and

0:58:17.640 --> 0:58:20.360
<v Speaker 10>I didn't want that to be like something that I

0:58:20.400 --> 0:58:23.480
<v Speaker 10>had to be traumatized and lived with again, you know.

0:58:23.560 --> 0:58:27.040
<v Speaker 10>And he was just so excited that I was pregnant

0:58:27.040 --> 0:58:29.400
<v Speaker 10>again that he just told the producers and I'm like,

0:58:29.440 --> 0:58:32.400
<v Speaker 10>oh my gosh, all right, like now I can't stress.

0:58:32.440 --> 0:58:35.960
<v Speaker 10>And you know, reality TV is stressful, Like they've been

0:58:36.000 --> 0:58:39.200
<v Speaker 10>inituations that you don't necessarily want to be in or

0:58:39.280 --> 0:58:43.960
<v Speaker 10>don't want to necessarily like face, I guess. And I

0:58:44.040 --> 0:58:47.520
<v Speaker 10>was just in situations that I really didn't care to

0:58:47.600 --> 0:58:50.040
<v Speaker 10>be in, you know, because I was pregnant, and I'm like,

0:58:50.080 --> 0:58:52.920
<v Speaker 10>I don't want to stress and lose this baby for

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<v Speaker 10>this conversation with a girl that I can care less about,

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<v Speaker 10>you know, yeah, I do. I just that part of

0:58:59.400 --> 0:59:02.320
<v Speaker 10>the reality I didn't care too much about because like

0:59:02.560 --> 0:59:05.840
<v Speaker 10>they pretty much have control over your likeliness, and like

0:59:06.240 --> 0:59:08.360
<v Speaker 10>who you are as a person or what you portray

0:59:08.400 --> 0:59:11.160
<v Speaker 10>on TV is not really who you are in real life.

0:59:11.160 --> 0:59:15.160
<v Speaker 10>Like reality TV is what they the producers, the you know,

0:59:15.240 --> 0:59:18.720
<v Speaker 10>the showrunners or whatever, what they want to what they

0:59:18.800 --> 0:59:21.600
<v Speaker 10>want to produce. So it's kind of like you don't

0:59:21.600 --> 0:59:24.640
<v Speaker 10>really have control over that so that's the hard part

0:59:24.680 --> 0:59:28.880
<v Speaker 10>about reality TV in a sense where you don't have control. Luckily,

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<v Speaker 10>with my situation, it was a little bit different because

0:59:31.800 --> 0:59:35.040
<v Speaker 10>I got pregnant, So yeah, my storyline was more so

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<v Speaker 10>like Okay, now that you're pregnant, you can't like just

0:59:39.200 --> 0:59:42.320
<v Speaker 10>be a girlfriend all your life, you know. So that

0:59:42.480 --> 0:59:43.800
<v Speaker 10>was kind of like, all right, well, what do you

0:59:43.840 --> 0:59:46.280
<v Speaker 10>want him to do? And I'm like, okay, here he

0:59:46.480 --> 0:59:48.920
<v Speaker 10>is like trying to buy me a bigger car SUV

0:59:49.160 --> 0:59:52.320
<v Speaker 10>and I'm like, okay, but when are we getting married? Like,

0:59:52.560 --> 0:59:54.960
<v Speaker 10>you know, I have a car, Like we have cars,

0:59:55.080 --> 0:59:57.360
<v Speaker 10>Like what are we doing car shopping? Like we don't

0:59:57.400 --> 1:00:01.960
<v Speaker 10>need cars, you know. So then that became my story

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<v Speaker 10>of like here we are going crib shopping, but where's

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<v Speaker 10>my ring? Like right here we are going, you know,

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<v Speaker 10>bracelet shopping, but where's my ring?

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<v Speaker 3>So everything was like okay, but my ring? Okay, but

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<v Speaker 3>my ring.

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<v Speaker 10>But in reality, like in real life, we were already

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<v Speaker 10>talking about marriage way before I even got pregnant, So

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<v Speaker 10>the show kind of made it look like I was

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<v Speaker 10>just nagging about this ring that we already discussed years

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<v Speaker 10>before I even got pregnant. But it was kind of

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<v Speaker 10>like what they wanted to push.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, because reality TV, what will be the most

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<v Speaker 1>entertaining and what will give the audience a strong opinion

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<v Speaker 1>and reaction to this at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>even though it's quote unquote real things that are happening.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you're filming I don't know how long Wags

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<v Speaker 1>filmed for vander Pump Rules. Films for like four months,

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<v Speaker 1>every single day, eight hours a day sometimes, and then

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<v Speaker 1>you chop that down to an hour episode for however

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<v Speaker 1>many you see very little and that's that's hard. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure it was hard for you too. You're watching this

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<v Speaker 1>show and you're like, this is entertaining as fuck, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I dig it, but then people talking about you, you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even recognize the person that they're talking about, and.

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<v Speaker 10>It's me right now, one hundred and ten percent completely

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<v Speaker 10>get it. And like I said, when we started filming,

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<v Speaker 10>it was like the person that I was filming with

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<v Speaker 10>I didn't really care to film with, and they knew.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, so they had you two together all the time.

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<v Speaker 10>Then right, like, well, the person that like I was

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<v Speaker 10>cool with on the show, we were cool, so it

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<v Speaker 10>was kind of like me and her, But then you know,

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<v Speaker 10>the other girl that I wasn't cool with, she kind

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<v Speaker 10>of teamed up with someone and it was kind of

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<v Speaker 10>like a one of the girls came to like a

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<v Speaker 10>married man's house in like lingerie, and I was like, oh.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't get the memo.

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<v Speaker 10>I didn't know this is what we're doing, you know,

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<v Speaker 10>and there's married men in here, there's men in relationships

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<v Speaker 10>in here, Like why are you coming with your titties out?

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<v Speaker 3>Girl? Like this not cute or classy or do this?

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<v Speaker 3>You know?

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<v Speaker 10>So that started drama, and like all that was on

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<v Speaker 10>like the beginning, you know, episodes and stuff like that,

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<v Speaker 10>so it kind of like that kind of faded out,

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<v Speaker 10>and you know, then it became the story of like

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<v Speaker 10>what are you guys going to do with your relationship?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you guys going to be.

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<v Speaker 10>Together, you know, or are you guys just gonna have

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<v Speaker 10>a baby and you know be together.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you feel pressured from producers or did Deonta feel

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<v Speaker 1>any pressure?

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<v Speaker 10>I honestly feel like there was a lot of pressure

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<v Speaker 10>going on, but like Deonte and me are both people

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<v Speaker 10>that like aren't going to let people tell us what

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<v Speaker 10>to do. So it was kind of you know, there's

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<v Speaker 10>certain certain scenes in the episodes where, for example, like

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<v Speaker 10>they wanted me to take a pregnancy test, so I

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<v Speaker 10>was like, okay, cool, and they were like, all right,

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<v Speaker 10>this is how you know, you're going to present it

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<v Speaker 10>to him. I'm like, okay, what do I look like

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<v Speaker 10>just presenting him a stick in like our row, you

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<v Speaker 10>know what I'm saying in.

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<v Speaker 3>The house, like you know.

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<v Speaker 10>So I'm like, this isn't what I would typically do,

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<v Speaker 10>but it's kind of like, all right, well, We're going

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<v Speaker 10>to have to show that I'm pregnant somehow, some way.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>It was kind of like the way.

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<v Speaker 10>And even though we already knew I was pregnant, like

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<v Speaker 10>we had to kind of act surprised, you know, like,

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<v Speaker 10>oh my god, right, you're pregnant. We're pregnant, And you know,

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<v Speaker 10>he was more surprised than I was, because I was like,

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<v Speaker 10>I know, I'm pregnant, you know what, I'm sorry. So

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<v Speaker 10>it was it's like that type of stuff. Or like

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<v Speaker 10>for example, like the girl that I didn't get along with,

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<v Speaker 10>you know, they'd be like.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, you have a lunch date with someone, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>who is it?

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<v Speaker 10>Because you guys know, I don't want to film with

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<v Speaker 10>who I don't want to film with and then and

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<v Speaker 10>I'm like, okay, well, I'm just letting you know that

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<v Speaker 10>this is how I'm coming because I'm not about to

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<v Speaker 10>stress out because I'm pregnant, you know. Like there's certain

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<v Speaker 10>times that I was like, Okay, well, if you guys

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<v Speaker 10>are going to have a group filming situation and she's

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<v Speaker 10>going to be there, like, I don't want to argue today,

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<v Speaker 10>so I'd rather just not go.

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<v Speaker 1>So would you ever do it again? Would you ever

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<v Speaker 1>if if if someone came to you and said, we

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<v Speaker 1>want you on a reality show or do you think

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<v Speaker 1>you've had enough?

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<v Speaker 10>I would do it if I had control over like

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<v Speaker 10>I guess producing like uh producers on the show, where

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<v Speaker 10>I have control over what goes out, I would do that.

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<v Speaker 10>But as far as just like being a talent on

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<v Speaker 10>the show, I probably wouldn't do it again because it's

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<v Speaker 10>just unless it's like a positive like woman empowerment show,

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<v Speaker 10>then I would do that. Like I get that there

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<v Speaker 10>has to be some type of drama, but not drama

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<v Speaker 10>to the point where it breaks up families or like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 10>that type of drama.

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<v Speaker 1>It becomes a very a very negative space. If you

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<v Speaker 1>can't compartmentalize real life from real life. I guess you know,

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<v Speaker 1>unless you're you're filming, you put that hat on, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what the drill is, and then when you go

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<v Speaker 1>home you can separate the two. It can become a

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<v Speaker 1>very toxic environment. So I get it. And when you're

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<v Speaker 1>going toes with women all day and you know we're

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<v Speaker 1>all sitting here talking about how we're supposed to lift

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<v Speaker 1>each other up, but then I'm supposed to drag this

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<v Speaker 1>bitch right, it's kind of a mind fuck. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you you have a term that I've never heard before, fempowerist,

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<v Speaker 1>Like what does that mean for for listeners who have

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<v Speaker 1>never heard that before.

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<v Speaker 10>Initially, when I trademarked the word fem power is, I

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<v Speaker 10>wanted to create like an app for women to empower

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<v Speaker 10>women to just be like, you know, great and mentally

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<v Speaker 10>be great too. It's not just physically, because it had like,

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<v Speaker 10>well what I initially got it for, Like I wanted

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<v Speaker 10>to do fitness, fitness tips, dating tips, motivational daily quotes

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<v Speaker 10>just like every dud's and don'ts, and relationships or when

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<v Speaker 10>it like like you said, when is it okay to

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<v Speaker 10>present your kid? Or one is it okay to burb

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<v Speaker 10>or fart in front of a man or just you know,

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<v Speaker 10>like little I I would want, you know, coming out

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<v Speaker 10>of a marriage or a relationship or just being single,

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<v Speaker 10>you know, like things that you I feel like women

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<v Speaker 10>need to know coming into relationships or just being a woman.

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<v Speaker 10>Like you know, there's a lot of women that don't

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<v Speaker 10>know how to be lady like or don't have you know, etiquette,

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<v Speaker 10>and so it was kind of like one of those

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<v Speaker 10>type of situations. But the app developer that I had

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<v Speaker 10>it didn't work out, so that I have yet to do.

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<v Speaker 10>So I trademark the word, and you know, now I'm

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<v Speaker 10>kind of like, do I want to get into that

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<v Speaker 10>field of apps or more so because I love clothes

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<v Speaker 10>and fashion so much that I kind of want to

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<v Speaker 10>turn the fem powers brand into like an ath leisure

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<v Speaker 10>like where for women that extenuates like your curves and oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that, but I have a flat ass. Can

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<v Speaker 1>you do something that accentuates my flat ass too?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? The lifers and everything, girl, don't worry.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. I love it. I love the word fempowerist,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think it's amazing too. The app ideas obviously genius,

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<v Speaker 1>but to turn it into an as leisure line because

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<v Speaker 1>we're all out here wanting to like look like we

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<v Speaker 1>worked out or we really did work out and then

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<v Speaker 1>put it on with some heels and like go to

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<v Speaker 1>work at the clurb.

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<v Speaker 3>Well right exactly.

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<v Speaker 10>And I kind of wanted to be like, you know,

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<v Speaker 10>Tom would Tom Brown, Like it's like they have like sweats,

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<v Speaker 10>but you could still wear it out the club, or

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<v Speaker 10>you could still wear it to the airport and be

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<v Speaker 10>fashionable but still be comfy.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's kind of what I want.

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<v Speaker 10>But more so instead of fashion and comfy, I want

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<v Speaker 10>to add, like, you know, like a woman. So I

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<v Speaker 10>want to insinuate like you know, underboob or like butt

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<v Speaker 10>lift or like curbs, like you know, to where the

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<v Speaker 10>stitching like makes.

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<v Speaker 3>You look more curvy than you naturally are.

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<v Speaker 10>Or just like just to extenuate like just being a

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<v Speaker 10>woman and being powerful. And I kind of wanted to

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<v Speaker 10>go towards that as opposed to the app because I

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<v Speaker 10>feel like, you know, there's people that have apps, and

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<v Speaker 10>there's people that have athletes or where too, but like

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<v Speaker 10>I wanted to solely focus on like womenism and just

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<v Speaker 10>like being a strong, powerful woman.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that I love everything about what you just said,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think that you are incredibly inspiring from your

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<v Speaker 1>work ethic. Of course, I think it's important when a

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<v Speaker 1>woman is doing something great that we let them know

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<v Speaker 1>they're doing great. So I want you to tell our

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<v Speaker 1>listeners and me how we can get involved in your

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<v Speaker 1>Boxing Wags Association.

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<v Speaker 10>Yes, so Boxing Wags we have the women of boxing.

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<v Speaker 10>Like like I said, we do like all types of

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<v Speaker 10>different events. The last event I did, I collaborated with Cookies.

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<v Speaker 10>Cookies is a cannabis company and we had a toy

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<v Speaker 10>drive for the children and we donated toys to children

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<v Speaker 10>that were in need, so I collaborated with them. Before that,

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<v Speaker 10>I had an event in Vegas with Versace and Balenciaga,

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<v Speaker 10>so where we shop and the proceeds go to charity

1:09:10.080 --> 1:09:13.519
<v Speaker 10>of their choice. So we just collaborate with different walks

1:09:13.520 --> 1:09:16.679
<v Speaker 10>of people or different whatever is going on at the month.

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<v Speaker 10>Next event I probably because I have the Fragrance going

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<v Speaker 10>on right now, so it's like twenty million things twenty

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<v Speaker 10>million times.

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<v Speaker 3>But the next event will probably be I want to

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<v Speaker 3>I want fingers crossed to probably be around like March,

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<v Speaker 3>okay March or something like that.

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<v Speaker 10>But all all the events and information you can find

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<v Speaker 10>at Boxing Wags Association on Instagram and our website is

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<v Speaker 10>Boxingwagsassociation dot org. Everything that we do or have going

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<v Speaker 10>on is on both of those pages.

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<v Speaker 1>Amazing, dude, thank you so much for joining me on

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<v Speaker 1>Give Them Laala today. I'm sure you've inspired all of

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<v Speaker 1>my listeners as well. You look absolutely I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>try and get my get up like how you have yours.

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<v Speaker 3>Helpful girl, You're beautiful, You are amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, my love, and we'll keep in touch. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to try this fragrance. Where can people buy this?

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<v Speaker 10>Yes, so you can buy it at D Teley D

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<v Speaker 10>T E L l I Fragrances dot com and we

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<v Speaker 10>are going to be in store soon.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so excited.

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<v Speaker 10>We're going to be in Norstrums and Bloomingdale's in the

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<v Speaker 10>following month, so I'm super.

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<v Speaker 3>Excited for that. Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so proud of everything you have going on. It's

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<v Speaker 1>so grateful to have you. So go enjoy your day

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<v Speaker 1>and I hope to talk to you soon.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you.